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Speaker 1: Misspelling with Tori Spelling and iHeartRadio Podcast. Okay, so my

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Speaker 1: friend and OMG co star Amy Sugarman is coming on

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Speaker 1: today to Misspelling. Super excited to talk to you about life,

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Speaker 1: give you an update.

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Speaker 2: How are you? How are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm good.

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Speaker 2: No, yeah, okay, before we talk about you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, sorry to Can we acknowledge that you're wearing pink

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Speaker 1: and I'm wearing green. We're ready for plan this and

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Speaker 1: we do a rewatch of nine two.

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Speaker 2: Can we also all goes in the shower three minutes ago? Okay,

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Speaker 2: before we talk about what everything we were going to

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Speaker 2: talk about today, can I ask you about all these

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Speaker 2: articles from last week about Kathleen Robertson. I mean, there

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Speaker 2: was a lot of lost, sick up as they say

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Speaker 2: about this incident or incidents. I don't know if it

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Speaker 2: was one time or multiple times on the set of

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Speaker 2: nine O two one.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, So, oh my gosh. So I saw it too,

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Speaker 1: just like everyone else, and I was like, oh MG,

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Speaker 1: like this is wild.

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Speaker 2: I didn't dig deep into all the articles, but I

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Speaker 2: did see the headlines talking about what happened during her

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Speaker 2: time on nine O two one oh, and I just

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Speaker 2: wondered if you've talked to her, do you know any like?

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Speaker 2: What was all that?

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Speaker 1: Right? So she did our friend Pete who does the

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Speaker 1: other nine O two one, Oh, okay, Yeah, I was wondering.

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Speaker 2: I got it.

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Speaker 1: He does another podcast called the Slice of Life, and

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Speaker 1: he interviewed her. So I saw all the press, Like

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Speaker 1: the press was blowing up right talking about.

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Speaker 2: What were the main headlines, cut.

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Speaker 1: Photos, polaroids from wardrobe that she found in the makeup trailer. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: during her time there, bullying that was so harsh that

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Speaker 1: she left. That's why she finally left in season seven.

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Speaker 3: WHOA.

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Speaker 2: I sort of assumed it was in the beginning. This

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Speaker 2: is one of the reasons she left the show.

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Speaker 1: Correct, That's what the article is saying. WHOA And I, honestly.

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Speaker 2: I thought it was not to be funny, but I

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Speaker 2: thought it was a bad story, not to.

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Speaker 1: Be fun to no. And I remember when you, me

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Speaker 1: and Jen were talking about it, saying, I said, you know,

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Speaker 1: she left on her own. She wanted to go out

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Speaker 1: and do other things. I didn't remember it being because

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Speaker 1: of bullying, but I know that it was intense what

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Speaker 1: she came into. What you know, any female came into

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Speaker 1: on that set. But the cut of Polaroids. I do know.

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Speaker 2: About whoa I do so.

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Speaker 1: She So she.

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Speaker 2: Just found them obviously hurt her feelings and probably was scary.

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Speaker 1: As you can imagine.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it would be. It seems like a horror movie.

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Speaker 3: It does.

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Speaker 1: And I think she handled it really well. And she says,

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Speaker 1: you know, I'm tough. I can get through it. But

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Speaker 1: it was a lot. It was the biggest show in

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Speaker 1: the world, and I was so excited to be a

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Speaker 1: part of it. She's a Canadian actress. She had come,

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Speaker 2: It was her first role for years at this point.

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Speaker 1: When the Polaroids were cut up.

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Speaker 2: No, when she left, you would think that she would

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Speaker 2: really had, you know, become a part of the group

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Speaker 2: that it was, wouldn't still be going on the bullying? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: No.

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Speaker 2: She even says that in the interview.

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Speaker 2: Wait, go back to this.

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Speaker 3: Photo the Polaroids. So I actually texted.

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Speaker 1: Her on a couple of nights ago and I said,

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Speaker 2: Around thirty thirty years later, she'd.

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Speaker 1: Be atsd from it. She said, you know, I've never

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Speaker 1: said it. I don't I don't want that out there, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Of course, of course, how does she know who did it?

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Speaker 2: Did the person admit it or she just thinks she knows?

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Speaker 1: Ah, there were the people in makeup, in hair, and

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Speaker 2: Okay, got it? And this was when she joined the cast.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's interesting timing because there was another story

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Speaker 3: Way, tell me about that because you mentioned that in

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't have any inform other than Kaylee

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Speaker 2: my question is why is it like that? Are people

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Speaker 2: I would think it would be fun when someone new

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Speaker 2: a set? Because you hear about it so much. Here's

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Speaker 1: Think, only because I've been through it. It was really

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Speaker 1: because you know, I was the new girl. It was

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Speaker 1: and I remember, definitely till this day. I remember who

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Speaker 2: So sorry to laugh at that, but you played the

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Speaker 2: you play the biggest nerd on the safe with the

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Speaker 2: bell that like, why would any girl be like you

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Speaker 1: So here's the thing, is that what it comes from,

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Speaker 1: I don't believe it's that. I don't know because I've

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Speaker 3: If it's I don't know if you feel threatened, or it's.

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Speaker 2: Just is it like, who is this person coming to

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Speaker 1: I don't I just know that I never wanted to

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Speaker 2: Was the part that I find so interesting is that

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Speaker 1: But I mean, I don't know how what did she say.

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Speaker 2: When you when you don't have to reveal the text,

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Speaker 2: But like, I wonder what made her just decide like

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Speaker 1: She's oh my god, look in my brain. I think

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Speaker 1: it's something that's always bothered her. And she's a mom now,

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Speaker 1: I mean, raising two strong men, but still she wants

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Speaker 1: She is a director now, you know, writer, director, producer

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Speaker 1: And I think she's just like I held this in

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Speaker 1: I just feel like she thought it was the right time,

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Speaker 1: but it is. It's interesting to me that she's always

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Speaker 2: I mean, I think you think about things. Yeah, I

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Speaker 2: can't remember something that happened in seventh grade that I'm

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Speaker 1: Oh, well, for sure, and then she had to repress

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Speaker 1: And also probably when she was younger, it probably felt

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Speaker 1: Didn't reveal who it was. We know who it was.

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Speaker 1: And she goes, no, I know, I know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, No, she does talk about your friendship in that

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Speaker 1: I guess at some point that people that mistreat people

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Speaker 2: And y'all were young. I mean, I know that's not

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Speaker 1: I mean, that wasn't my experience, but yes, I agree

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Speaker 3: I wish I had stood up for myself.

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Speaker 2: More, or what about others and my other cousiners because

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Speaker 2: don't know. I'm not speaking for you. I'm just asking

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Speaker 1: I was so like, I was so Donna, like the

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Speaker 1: but I it would have. I don't feel like I

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Speaker 2: Did they keep that kind of stuff from your dad

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure about that. I was because my dad

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Speaker 1: didn't ever with me want to get involved right with

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Speaker 2: was my react. No, not that I don't believe her.

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Speaker 2: I do, but it's like, no, what.

439
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Speaker 1: You know. So it's interesting because you know, fans of

440
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 1: the show that you know have for years been so

441
00:24:02,920 --> 00:24:05,640
Speaker 1: like you know, like Darren Martin is a super fan,

442
00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:10,920
Speaker 1: and you know there's so many others and they all

443
00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:15,400
Speaker 1: kind of know the jam too. Oh really because they

444
00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:19,760
Speaker 1: followed the show since way back through you know, they've

445
00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:21,959
Speaker 1: been to conventions with us, They've been you know, they

446
00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:25,040
Speaker 1: all for so many years. They've gotten to know all

447
00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:29,879
Speaker 1: of the cast that they know. And like, I would

448
00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:32,400
Speaker 1: never tell a fan and be like no, no, no, no,

449
00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:34,760
Speaker 1: like I want their dream to be alive, to be

450
00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:37,280
Speaker 1: like everyone was perfect and we were all best friends

451
00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:40,560
Speaker 1: and dah da dah, which from my perspective is true.

452
00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 2: But I know also everybody, I think about you and

453
00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:50,400
Speaker 2: Brian and Ian and Jenny and Gabrielle and Jason. Yeah,

454
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:53,280
Speaker 2: all do feel like you all get along with each other.

455
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:54,680
Speaker 1: We do really well.

456
00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:57,720
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, so it's for me. I'm like, that

457
00:24:57,800 --> 00:24:58,440
Speaker 2: can't be real.

458
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:00,359
Speaker 1: I know.

459
00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 2: Well, I guess some people when all the you always

460
00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:07,840
Speaker 2: hear actors we're all best friends.

461
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:13,720
Speaker 1: But no, you're not. Here's the thing in this industry,

462
00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:18,200
Speaker 1: I think we're scared to say who's not kind because

463
00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:20,720
Speaker 1: we're like, oh god, well, what if that affects if

464
00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:23,159
Speaker 1: my future? Like working?

465
00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:26,439
Speaker 3: Sure, you don't want to be the right way, like

466
00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:28,240
Speaker 3: everyone loves that person.

467
00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:30,879
Speaker 1: I call bullshit. They weren't nice, Like you don't want

468
00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 1: to be that person because I don't want, you know,

469
00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 1: I don't want to not work. Someone asked me about

470
00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:42,359
Speaker 1: an actor that's really big recently, and I kind of

471
00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:44,280
Speaker 1: got in the bandwagon and being like, well yeah, we

472
00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:47,159
Speaker 1: were like talking back and forth, Oh yeah, we know

473
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:49,000
Speaker 1: that he's not nice in it. And then I got

474
00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:51,800
Speaker 1: super nervous. I was like, whoa wait, like no one

475
00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:53,840
Speaker 1: else heard that, Like I don't want that to go anywhere,

476
00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:55,240
Speaker 1: Like I want to work.

477
00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 2: For that guy.

478
00:25:57,119 --> 00:26:01,120
Speaker 3: Right, it's like eight year Yeah, it's the old.

479
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:02,680
Speaker 2: If you don't have something nice to say, I don't

480
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:03,360
Speaker 2: say anything.

481
00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:05,880
Speaker 1: Yeah.

482
00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:08,879
Speaker 2: Oh boy ikes, Well, I know how to end this.

483
00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:14,919
Speaker 1: I know, I really do like the thought of people

484
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 1: saying this is this is the human that made me

485
00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:20,479
Speaker 1: feel bad for one reason or another, and that person

486
00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 1: going back and saying I'm sorry, but let me from

487
00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:25,719
Speaker 1: my perspective explain my life at the time, and then

488
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 1: them walking away being like it's done. That's a cool notion.

489
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:35,840
Speaker 1: You should make another podcast with that.

490
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 2: Well, I appreciate you telling everyone this, you know, just

491
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 2: your thoughts. It's interesting to hear and definitely makes me, like,

492
00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:50,199
Speaker 2: I don't know, it makes me want to be nice.

493
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:52,920
Speaker 2: I mean not everyone. I'm not nobody can be nice

494
00:26:52,960 --> 00:26:55,560
Speaker 2: all the time, especially in business. Sometimes you have to

495
00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:58,080
Speaker 2: be tough, but like it generally makes you want to

496
00:26:58,119 --> 00:26:58,639
Speaker 2: be nice.

497
00:26:59,119 --> 00:27:02,719
Speaker 1: Wait this about me, But do you think all of

498
00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:06,240
Speaker 1: that and me being like I'm the nice one that

499
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:09,159
Speaker 1: Dada has carried through so much in my life that

500
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:11,240
Speaker 1: you know, I'm a people pleaser. We're trying to work

501
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:14,480
Speaker 1: on this and like stand up for myself and take ownership.

502
00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 1: Do you think I went overboard being nice because of that? Yeah?

503
00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:23,359
Speaker 2: Of course. And I think it's tough because in business

504
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:28,920
Speaker 2: it's there's a fine line between being tough and being mean,

505
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:36,560
Speaker 2: and people can perceive toughness or accountability or you know,

506
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 2: expecting a lot from people as mean. Correct, So it's

507
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:42,439
Speaker 2: really tough.

508
00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 1: That's right, actually when you're young.

509
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:46,359
Speaker 2: Because like I had something this morning where I had

510
00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:54,760
Speaker 2: to write sort of a stern email and they'll think

511
00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:56,880
Speaker 2: I'm mean, but really I was like.

512
00:27:56,880 --> 00:27:57,960
Speaker 1: Hey, listen to me.

513
00:27:58,520 --> 00:28:04,120
Speaker 2: No, it was just like, hey, you know, like if

514
00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:06,639
Speaker 2: you're going to do that, that's okay, but you should

515
00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:10,639
Speaker 2: call me and explain why. And it was like, let's

516
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:13,840
Speaker 2: I would do the same for you. So they're gonna

517
00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:15,800
Speaker 2: think I mean, But really it was like, hey, I'm

518
00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:20,480
Speaker 2: just being you know, accountable for how I would be

519
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 2: and how you need to be. So I don't know,

520
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:24,680
Speaker 2: I think that's that's a whole conversation.

521
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:29,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a difference between you and others that I

522
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:36,280
Speaker 1: have experienced things with that Hey, if you're just showing

523
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:41,040
Speaker 1: up being accountable, I would rather them be perceived as

524
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:45,720
Speaker 1: tough than mean, totally. Yeah, but they're not willing to

525
00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 1: take accountability for that behavior as like oh I did

526
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:52,000
Speaker 1: say it that way or I did experience this because

527
00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:56,080
Speaker 1: of this, Like with you, you're completely honest about everything.

528
00:28:56,560 --> 00:29:00,560
Speaker 1: So even when like tough love with me, I know

529
00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 1: that it's because we're friends.

530
00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 3: So to say it like you feel it.

531
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 2: Which I do my best. I mean I have to

532
00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:13,800
Speaker 2: because when you're like running a thing, you have to

533
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 2: still have accountability and toughness and standards and expect a

534
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 2: lot of people. But then you have to give that

535
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 2: in return. And so I think, I think there's always

536
00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:27,239
Speaker 2: a way to do it. There's a way to do

537
00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 2: there's got to be a way to do both. You

538
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 2: do do it well.

539
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:34,760
Speaker 1: Because you're innately warm and you're likable.

540
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:37,440
Speaker 2: I try. I think I would just say, like say,

541
00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 2: say I was on the set, yeah, okay, yeah, it'd

542
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 2: be interesting to me if somebody just said, hey, it's

543
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:46,720
Speaker 2: hard for me with new people. I'm glad you're here,

544
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:50,080
Speaker 2: you know, give me some time to get to know you. Like,

545
00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:53,120
Speaker 2: sometimes it's better to just say that, because some people

546
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:56,040
Speaker 2: are not just going to be like extroverted and hugging

547
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 2: the new person, right. They might be like, I want

548
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 2: to get to know this person. But sometimes it's better

549
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:03,440
Speaker 2: to just be like, tell who you are in the truth,

550
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 2: because some people might be shy, so they might just

551
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 2: not be friends with the newcomer right away. Sure, sometimes

552
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 2: they might just say, hey, I like to read in

553
00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 2: my trailer, don't. I don't want you to take that personally.

554
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:20,560
Speaker 2: I don't. I'm making it up. I don't know what.

555
00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:23,560
Speaker 2: I don't know how to like. It's all kind of sucks.

556
00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 2: There's no way to like tie this up with a bow.

557
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:30,000
Speaker 2: So it's like, I guess thanks for telling us.

558
00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm gonna work on not people pleasing and

559
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:37,560
Speaker 1: being so I'm nice to the core, but I want

560
00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:41,040
Speaker 1: to develop that side of running my business and being

561
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:44,320
Speaker 1: tough and being just there are another.

562
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 3: Word for tough. Tough gets a bad rap.

563
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:50,720
Speaker 1: Let's redefine that word you said, accountable, which I like,

564
00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 1: but it's different, not just accountable.

565
00:30:56,880 --> 00:31:00,080
Speaker 2: I don't know, this is a whole I know. I

566
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:03,080
Speaker 2: think we should continue the conversation because it's like, especially

567
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:05,480
Speaker 2: for women, it's like, yes, people just be like she's

568
00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:07,040
Speaker 2: a mean beiald.

569
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:11,800
Speaker 1: Well, really it does go back to that that men.

570
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:15,120
Speaker 1: You know, men can be tough and they're like leaders.

571
00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:19,240
Speaker 1: Women are tough and and they're bitches and there's that

572
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:22,280
Speaker 1: old school thing. But I feel like true, we are

573
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:23,360
Speaker 1: starting to change.

574
00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:26,880
Speaker 2: But I mean, I think about it, every day. How

575
00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 2: do I convey this without being mean?

576
00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:30,560
Speaker 1: Right?

577
00:31:30,800 --> 00:31:33,080
Speaker 2: Sometimes I just go I'm not trying to be mean.

578
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 2: I don't know. Anyway, we'll talk more. We'll talk more

579
00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:39,000
Speaker 2: in the next episode. I like it.

580
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:40,120
Speaker 1: No, I like this too.

581
00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 2: There's definitely experts on this topic. Yes, yeah, we'll get

582
00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 2: someone better than.

583
00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:48,360
Speaker 1: You or me for sure.

584
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:51,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, we'll talk to you later. You're the best,

585
00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:52,200
Speaker 2: so