WEBVTT - Ep. 54 — Hot for Teacher 0:00:16.400 --> 0:00:20.480 All right, and we're back. We're back, We're back, We're back. 0:00:21.400 --> 0:00:22.080 I feel like. 0:00:24.960 --> 0:00:26.120 I felt a little half hearted. 0:00:26.160 --> 0:00:28.720 I'm like, I know, well, you know, first of all, 0:00:28.760 --> 0:00:31.440 I spent the morning, me and Supergirl cleaning the house. 0:00:31.480 --> 0:00:33.160 I thot, wait, I just woke up, but you already 0:00:33.200 --> 0:00:33.840 had a whole day. 0:00:34.479 --> 0:00:34.800 I know. 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:37.440 I woke up early, and I was like, I don't 0:00:37.440 --> 0:00:40.600 even know how I was able to convince Supergirl to 0:00:40.680 --> 0:00:45.519 clean without like her like, without any pushback. That was like, 0:00:45.640 --> 0:00:49.360 you know, because her father left early too, he's working overtime. 0:00:49.680 --> 0:00:51.159 So I woke up and I said, oh, you know 0:00:51.159 --> 0:00:52.400 what we should do. We should clean the house so 0:00:52.400 --> 0:00:53.560 it could be clean when he gets back. 0:00:54.000 --> 0:00:54.640 And she agreed. 0:00:54.680 --> 0:00:56.240 And I was like, who is this person? Because this 0:00:56.280 --> 0:01:00.000 is not the girl from yesterday. 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:02.480 Mercury is in retrograde. I don't actually know what that means, 0:01:02.920 --> 0:01:03.200 and me. 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:04.760 Either, it's just something about I don't know. 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:06.760 All my HOTEP friends are like, it just means that 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:09.080 communication is not going to be as clear. 0:01:09.280 --> 0:01:10.160 But she did the dishes. 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:14.160 She she She's like, can I do it the Supergirl way, 0:01:14.360 --> 0:01:16.559 which just meant filling all the cups of wood water 0:01:16.640 --> 0:01:18.800 and playing a game. I was like, well, let's do 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:20.320 it the regular way, because. 0:01:21.880 --> 0:01:24.080 Let's do it the way in which things get done. 0:01:24.240 --> 0:01:27.080 Exactly, I told because if you do it that way, 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:27.959 we're gonna run out of water. 0:01:28.000 --> 0:01:29.440 She said, people went out of water. I was like 0:01:29.520 --> 0:01:30.279 all the time. 0:01:30.680 --> 0:01:33.320 Oh god, I'm first world baby. 0:01:36.120 --> 0:01:38.040 So yeah, so I'm just like I am a little 0:01:38.040 --> 0:01:40.600 bit tired, but I'm excited because we had such an 0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:42.360 awesome dinner. 0:01:42.640 --> 0:01:46.000 Yes we did. Friday was our brand Ambition anniversary dinner, 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:48.960 and I was really impressed. All the girls showed up. 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:54.280 You never know when you make plans with six strangers. 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:55.360 I was surprised. 0:01:55.400 --> 0:01:59.200 I'm not surprised, but I was, I don't know, pleasantly, 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:01.760 just like a lay and we had such a good time. 0:02:01.800 --> 0:02:03.400 I was like, Wow, good. 0:02:03.200 --> 0:02:07.480 Food, good cat drinks, good company, good conversation. It was 0:02:07.600 --> 0:02:09.600 like the best. It was like what I wish all 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:12.440 networking events were, which is just small little groups, yeah, 0:02:12.440 --> 0:02:13.799 where you can really get to know each other. 0:02:14.639 --> 0:02:15.400 And now you did a. 0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:17.760 Really good job of keeping the conversation flowing, of asking 0:02:17.760 --> 0:02:19.680 everyone kind of like what they were up to. All 0:02:19.720 --> 0:02:22.520 the women were so amazing. I was like, what how 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:24.400 did we find this group of like awesome. 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:26.680 I mean we knew that, we knew our listeners would 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:30.079 be kind of dope, but so shout out to Maxine. 0:02:30.160 --> 0:02:33.080 She came all the way from North Carolina, well to 0:02:33.120 --> 0:02:37.680 New York, to New York from North Carolina. And we 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:41.720 had the twins Nasenga and Nazinga, who are amazing both 0:02:41.800 --> 0:02:45.520 like dope artists. One yeah, I think it was Nazinga 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:47.760 who was on Project Rumway. I have to I have 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:50.040 to go find that that she was on season thirteen. 0:02:50.680 --> 0:02:51.680 What's the lab? 0:02:52.160 --> 0:02:54.520 I'm not amazing? And then her sister Nasana, who's like 0:02:54.560 --> 0:02:57.120 a photographer and just got a big grant to work 0:02:57.160 --> 0:03:01.000 on a big art installation. And then we had Kristen 0:03:01.200 --> 0:03:04.040 who transitioned what was she doing before marketing at a 0:03:04.040 --> 0:03:07.760 financial firm and now she's a special education teacher. 0:03:08.240 --> 0:03:09.080 Yeah? 0:03:09.360 --> 0:03:09.840 Just whatn't I? 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:09.960 Oh? 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:12.679 And the miss Janelle who came all away from Long Island, 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:16.240 which is basically another state, even though it's not what. 0:03:16.200 --> 0:03:17.760 Did Janelle do? I know? She just had a baby 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:18.600 eighteen months ago. 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:22.880 Janelle works at a university okay, I think an administration. Yeah, 0:03:22.880 --> 0:03:26.040 and she just literally popped out a child and they 0:03:26.400 --> 0:03:29.040 made time found a center came to New York City 0:03:29.080 --> 0:03:32.520 from Long Island. Just I'm just so glad everyone got together. 0:03:32.560 --> 0:03:35.200 And then the other girls were from Brooklyn, like they 0:03:35.240 --> 0:03:36.640 really they went out of their way. We know what 0:03:36.680 --> 0:03:37.800 that subway system. 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:40.120 Is, Like, yeah, it was really awesome. And then my 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:42.400 friend I brought my best friend Linda, which is which 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:44.600 you know, was so hilarious that because you know, like 0:03:44.640 --> 0:03:46.920 we talk all the time, but you don't I don't 0:03:47.000 --> 0:03:49.720 remember half the stuff, you know, I say. And the 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:52.840 fact that the girls, because I had spoken about Linda 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:55.400 on the show, We're like, oh, yeah, we know you, Linda. 0:03:55.480 --> 0:03:57.680 And then I was like, oh my god. Linda was 0:03:57.720 --> 0:04:00.440 like y'all that was so awesome that they. 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:02.720 Knew me from the show. And I'm like, oh my god. 0:04:03.120 --> 0:04:05.920 Honestly, it blew my mind when we like, even when 0:04:05.960 --> 0:04:08.040 we talk, I don't think about people listening. I'm just 0:04:08.080 --> 0:04:10.320 talking to Mandy, I know. So for those of you 0:04:10.400 --> 0:04:12.400 who are kind of like, huh, we had it. 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:16.880 Was our one year anniversary dinner, yes, and it was magical. Yeah. 0:04:16.920 --> 0:04:21.200 So we invited some of our most avid listeners and 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:23.760 they came out and we had dinner on us. Oh 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:27.000 and we had the cutest cupcakes that Mandy ordered with 0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:27.760 our faces on. 0:04:27.960 --> 0:04:31.920 I love seeing your mother in law's reaction. 0:04:32.200 --> 0:04:35.760 Oh my gosh, isn't she She's so cute? Yeah, she's 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:37.599 you guys. If you guys don't you don't have to 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:39.839 follow me, but you have to go to my Instagram page. 0:04:40.000 --> 0:04:43.120 It's Mandy with an eye money and watch my mother 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:46.400 in law's reaction to the cupcakes with me and Tiffany's 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:48.839 faces on them. It was so you don't have to 0:04:48.839 --> 0:04:51.200 know it Spanish. It's pretty. It's pretty universal. 0:04:51.360 --> 0:04:55.560 Oh my god. Basically, oh my god, my goodness, she's 0:04:55.640 --> 0:04:58.440 so cute. Who's that my friend? You're like, how do 0:04:58.480 --> 0:04:59.239 you stay business? 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:02.760 What I didn't so the cupcakes had the logo which 0:05:02.800 --> 0:05:05.320 we took over a year ago, about a year old, 0:05:05.320 --> 0:05:07.560 of course, a year ago when my hair that was 0:05:07.600 --> 0:05:10.039 like maybe the last time I wore my hair kind 0:05:10.040 --> 0:05:13.960 of straight and before I went all curly all the time, 0:05:14.000 --> 0:05:16.479 big hair whatever. What I didn't show in that video 0:05:16.640 --> 0:05:20.159 is a minute fiance cut the camera. She said, oh, Mandy, 0:05:20.279 --> 0:05:22.400 put your hair back like this. It looks so nice. 0:05:23.360 --> 0:05:25.719 It's like, oh, only mother in lawsuit I. 0:05:25.839 --> 0:05:28.760 Know, no mother's parents too, because my parents always like 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:31.640 my dad's always like, you know, your mom's hair is 0:05:31.720 --> 0:05:33.600 so pretty and street, you should try that. 0:05:33.640 --> 0:05:37.240 I'm like daddy, Honestly, it's been like thirty years. It's 0:05:37.279 --> 0:05:38.479 too late. I know. 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:41.680 Like I had a prom literally two years out of 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:43.840 my thirty six years of life, I've had a I 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:45.400 had a proom for two years. 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:46.160 That was it. 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:48.160 I think I got it like right before I went 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:50.479 to college and my hair promptly fell out and I 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:52.080 was like, okay, never again. 0:05:52.680 --> 0:05:53.359 That was me. 0:05:55.000 --> 0:05:57.000 I lost it because I was watching I was listening 0:05:57.040 --> 0:05:59.880 to another round. Just shout out to another round. It 0:06:00.000 --> 0:06:02.800 it's just Tracy this week and she interviewed Ava Duverne. 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:06.440 That was the most brilliant combination ever. I was jealous 0:06:06.480 --> 0:06:08.240 because I'm not gonna lie and trying to get Miss 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:10.960 avon on our show. But it's gonna happen soon, it will. 0:06:11.160 --> 0:06:14.040 But she's sang the entire just for Me commercial, Like 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:17.200 it was pretty impressive. But yeah, if you ever had 0:06:17.240 --> 0:06:20.760 your scout burned and your edge is removed from your 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:23.520 head by Just for Me, then you don't know what 0:06:23.560 --> 0:06:25.480 life is. A. 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:28.920 Yes, I'm so glad that I'm pre free, but yeah, 0:06:29.040 --> 0:06:32.120 so all that can say that parents and parents. 0:06:31.880 --> 0:06:34.760 In law are judging, Yes, very judgy. 0:06:34.800 --> 0:06:38.080 Speaking of love and judge, I was gonna say, like, 0:06:38.160 --> 0:06:40.560 honestly so lovey. For those of you who don't know, 0:06:40.640 --> 0:06:42.760 she was a guest on our show, awesomely lovey. If 0:06:42.760 --> 0:06:44.320 you're not following her, you're not. 0:06:44.320 --> 0:06:47.960 Living she is like every week. I'm just so proud 0:06:48.000 --> 0:06:48.560 of her, Like. 0:06:48.760 --> 0:06:52.279 I'm glad you got in early? What Literally everywhere I 0:06:52.320 --> 0:06:55.919 go there, she is there on TV, She's on my 0:06:56.320 --> 0:06:58.320 webs She's on every web page I go to, or 0:06:58.360 --> 0:07:00.719 my social media feed. The book is blowing up. I 0:07:00.800 --> 0:07:03.200 got my book. I've been reading it. 0:07:03.200 --> 0:07:05.800 It's pretty funny, so I know, and you know it's 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:08.000 all crazy. I cannot find my kindle because I ordered 0:07:08.040 --> 0:07:11.440 it for Kindle. Oh yes, and I cannot find This 0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:13.520 is my third lost Kindle. If I lost it, I'm. 0:07:13.360 --> 0:07:15.400 Like, where you lost your whole entire kindle. 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:17.400 I always lose my dag on Kindle. 0:07:17.440 --> 0:07:19.040 But I'm like, it has to be here, it has 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:21.000 to be It's in the house somewhere, I hope somewhere. 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:23.000 I know we don't want homing device. 0:07:23.680 --> 0:07:25.200 I know I wonder if there is one, but I 0:07:25.320 --> 0:07:28.760 just it wouldn't be like, literally, it's called Tiffany's Third Kindle. 0:07:30.200 --> 0:07:33.040 The book is She's very She gets a little raunchy, 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:36.680 and I'm like, on, I'm on the train and I'm like, oh, okay, 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:39.559 we're going there, We're going right right there. At page 0:07:39.560 --> 0:07:43.520 twenty five. No, it's it's funny stuff. I was cracking up. 0:07:43.560 --> 0:07:45.400 But the title of the book, if you don't remember, 0:07:45.400 --> 0:07:47.760 it's I'm Judging You, the Do Better Manual. 0:07:48.120 --> 0:07:52.320 Yes, I can't wait, Yes, if I can only find 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:55.320 my kindle. But yeah, people love you said something that 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:57.640 I think was hilarious. That's what I love about her. 0:07:57.800 --> 0:07:59.480 She was like, honestly, I would hate to hate me 0:07:59.560 --> 0:08:00.760 right now because I'm everywhere. 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:03.840 Yeah, somebody made a meme of that. Do you ever 0:08:03.880 --> 0:08:04.480 think about that? 0:08:04.560 --> 0:08:07.240 Like, I don't really unless it like comes up of 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:10.080 people who are like mad at you or unhappy with 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:12.160 you or just you know, I don't really believe in haters. 0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:14.360 You know, people say like, oh, I've got haters. I 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:16.000 was like, do you really? You know? 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:18.880 There is a chapter, one of the chapters in her books. 0:08:18.960 --> 0:08:21.320 It's really funny because this is why I have a 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:23.720 column for teen Vogue that I do and my this 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:26.200 is my tenth column, and I've been wanting to write 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:27.960 this for a while, and I wrote the five types 0:08:27.960 --> 0:08:30.760 of friends that you should avoid a life avoid in life, 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:33.120 it should have been the five types of frenemies. And 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:35.760 then in Lovey's in the Big Like, very early on 0:08:35.800 --> 0:08:38.480 in her book, she talks about the friendship personalities of 0:08:38.520 --> 0:08:40.319 people who need to do better, that like are kind 0:08:40.320 --> 0:08:41.880 of toxic in our life, and it was it was 0:08:41.880 --> 0:08:43.760 funny that there was that overlap. But we both talk 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:47.440 about the friend who like kind of wants you to 0:08:47.520 --> 0:08:51.720 not do well, Like it's really overly competitive. And I 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:55.559 feel like, you know, it's not that these people like 0:08:55.559 --> 0:08:57.440 like they're not wishing for you to They're not like 0:08:57.640 --> 0:08:59.720 Tanya Harding they're gonna like whack you with the steel 0:08:59.760 --> 0:09:03.040 bar before. But it's I think it comes from a 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:07.040 place of like insecurity. Yes, and you could be you 0:09:07.360 --> 0:09:09.680 can get you can get upset at them or whatever, 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:12.480 you know, when they send that negative energy your way. 0:09:12.480 --> 0:09:14.560 But I just try and think of it. It's like, well, Okay, 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:17.480 they're a little insecure. It's very competitive right now. It's 0:09:17.480 --> 0:09:20.640 ever been more competitive because literally you can be everywhere. 0:09:20.640 --> 0:09:24.800 Because we didn't have social media, or Facebook or Instagram 0:09:24.880 --> 0:09:26.520 and all that kind of crap, you know, even a 0:09:26.559 --> 0:09:29.960 few years ago. So it's really hard to see your 0:09:30.360 --> 0:09:33.679 your peers doing amazing things and you may feel like 0:09:33.720 --> 0:09:35.600 a little you know, left behind. 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:40.120 No, it is, I mean, honestly, it is easy to 0:09:40.280 --> 0:09:42.080 get caught up. I mean to me, I found that 0:09:42.160 --> 0:09:46.400 the best cure for oh you know, I call it 0:09:46.440 --> 0:09:49.720 not not jealousy, but like, oh I wish I was 0:09:49.760 --> 0:09:51.840 doing better, you know what I mean, Like some I 0:09:51.920 --> 0:09:54.360 might look at someone and not be like, oh man, 0:09:54.960 --> 0:09:57.600 I want what she has, but instead it kind of 0:09:57.640 --> 0:09:58.400 makes me say. 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:01.280 Like, ah, like, what am I doing wrong? I gotta 0:10:01.320 --> 0:10:02.040 do better, you know. 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:04.439 And then but I've learned that well, one of the 0:10:04.480 --> 0:10:09.920 things I do is I like unfollowed folks that kind 0:10:09.920 --> 0:10:11.559 of put me in that mind frame, not because they 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:13.520 did anything wrong, but for whatever reason, it was a 0:10:13.559 --> 0:10:17.679 trigger for me to compare myself and then find myself lacking. 0:10:17.720 --> 0:10:20.880 I'm like, simply that's not healthy, you know. So then 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:22.720 I learned, I said, at first, I used to try 0:10:22.720 --> 0:10:26.400 to tough it out and say no, you're gonna follow them. 0:10:26.440 --> 0:10:28.640 And you know, when even when you feel like that, 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:30.760 you're gonna work through it. Then I realized that's not working, 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:34.439 so I would still were still friends, but I unfollowed 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:37.480 their notifications so that way I could just like live 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:39.200 and enjoy like what I'm doing. 0:10:39.600 --> 0:10:40.640 And I mean, I'm. 0:10:40.400 --> 0:10:42.840 Sure that's something, you know, that's definitely something I want 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:45.280 to work on on that side. But I'm not gonna 0:10:45.320 --> 0:10:47.079 throw myself in the fire. There's plenty of tests in 0:10:47.160 --> 0:10:50.200 life unfollow you know, you know, like this. 0:10:50.920 --> 0:10:53.720 Think you also you have to think of people as humans, 0:10:53.760 --> 0:10:56.040 Like I know how much I leave out. I'm not 0:10:56.080 --> 0:10:58.520 putting on Instagram that I just had to drop down 0:10:58.600 --> 0:11:01.720 drag out fight with my fiance or that you know, 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:03.960 I was rude to the guy at Dunkin Donuts because 0:11:04.000 --> 0:11:05.679 I was in a hurry and he got my order wrong. 0:11:06.240 --> 0:11:08.120 You know, like you don't show the worst part of 0:11:08.160 --> 0:11:09.959 yourself on social media. And I know I leave a 0:11:09.960 --> 0:11:12.280 lot of crap out, you know, all my you know, 0:11:12.320 --> 0:11:14.720 my flaws and stuff. And if I just remind myself 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:17.400 that there's you know, people have so many issues that 0:11:17.440 --> 0:11:19.400 you don't put on which I had a conversation with 0:11:19.440 --> 0:11:22.720 someone close to me and I know what's happening in 0:11:22.760 --> 0:11:24.439 her life right now, and you go to our social 0:11:24.440 --> 0:11:26.599 media feed, and you know, she had just this is 0:11:26.640 --> 0:11:30.720 a long, long time ago, a different friend she had 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:34.200 posted something, so I knew that day that she had 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:36.800 had a really bad breakup with the guy she was seeing. 0:11:37.200 --> 0:11:39.360 And the next day she posted these roses and she 0:11:39.480 --> 0:11:41.480 was like, I'm just so happy with life and like 0:11:41.559 --> 0:11:47.440 everything is fine, and I was like, yeah, you know, 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:50.480 I it makes me sad because I don't want you 0:11:50.520 --> 0:11:54.360 shouldn't feel like you have to put up a strong 0:11:54.400 --> 0:11:57.400 social media front, you know, to keep up whatever illusions. 0:11:57.440 --> 0:11:59.920 I mean, that's life now. And honestly, I find myself. 0:12:00.160 --> 0:12:02.760 I when I look at my social media feed, I 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:06.280 know when when things are hard because I go quiet. Yes, 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:09.320 you know, that's what I tend to do, not so 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:12.240 much like and even it's not even sometimes when things are. 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:15.800 Bad, when if I'm like really overwhelmed, like right now. 0:12:15.679 --> 0:12:18.040 I just was like, as I was cleaning, I said, okay, 0:12:18.440 --> 0:12:20.000 we have to do better like you're doing. 0:12:20.559 --> 0:12:23.120 There's so many amazing things and I'm trying. 0:12:22.960 --> 0:12:25.200 To do them all and this morning I realize you're 0:12:25.200 --> 0:12:29.559 not doing them well. And I've just been so and 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:31.280 it's not even like I'm overwhelmed because I'm like, things 0:12:31.320 --> 0:12:33.800 are good, so I can't even complain. But it's just that, 0:12:34.320 --> 0:12:36.000 like I was always cleaning the house. It hit me, 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:37.400 when's the last time you cleaned the house? 0:12:38.360 --> 0:12:38.600 You know? 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:41.640 And I thought, okay, and so I have not I 0:12:41.640 --> 0:12:43.960 mean I'm not usually, you know, like when when things 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:46.760 are kind of light and it's airy and whatever, I 0:12:46.840 --> 0:12:49.600 post a whole lot. And when I'm either overwhelmed or 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:53.240 just like not feeling good, you know, then I don't 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:53.760 post at all. 0:12:53.800 --> 0:12:56.120 I'm just kind of like silent. I'm just a silent watcher. 0:12:56.160 --> 0:12:58.959 But yeah, I just that. 0:12:58.920 --> 0:13:03.319 Picture of you elbow deep in the sink. I didn't 0:13:03.360 --> 0:13:04.480 let America know the truth. 0:13:04.720 --> 0:13:07.079 I know, right right, It's just that. 0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:11.240 Yeah, but I mean, social media does have you thinking that, like, 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:13.640 you know, everyone has this perfect and even though you 0:13:13.760 --> 0:13:16.440 know that that's not true, it's hard not to see. 0:13:16.480 --> 0:13:18.560 I was like, oh, this is what I wanted to say. So, 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:20.920 you know, did we talk about Nicole last week? 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:21.840 The teacher? 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:25.600 No, Nicole BITCHI who's not ex so Nicole Nicole Caine? 0:13:25.840 --> 0:13:26.679 Oh no, I don't know. 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:29.920 No, Okay, this is a perfect example of that. So 0:13:30.760 --> 0:13:33.120 have you heard of Nicole BITCHI? Like she had a website. 0:13:33.400 --> 0:13:35.319 No, okay, you haven't. 0:13:35.320 --> 0:13:37.480 Wow, So I mean maybe, but I never read it. 0:13:37.960 --> 0:13:39.800 No, no, I never read her website either. But Nicole 0:13:39.800 --> 0:13:43.600 Bitchi was like huge. She was a big celebrity gossiper, 0:13:43.679 --> 0:13:44.800 especially for brown folks. 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:46.160 That's not her real name isn't. 0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:47.839 No, her name is Nicole Caine. 0:13:48.679 --> 0:13:53.320 But Nicole Bitchy was was really it was indicative of 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:55.640 like the kind of step on the site, like gossip, 0:13:56.600 --> 0:13:56.800 you know. 0:13:57.160 --> 0:14:00.400 And so it did really well, I mean like really well. 0:14:00.440 --> 0:14:01.360 I mean she was all over. 0:14:01.480 --> 0:14:04.520 She was invited, she's a beautiful woman too, invited to 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:06.240 red carpets, all this kind of stuff. 0:14:06.360 --> 0:14:07.959 But this is a woman who was getting millions of 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:08.640 hits a month. 0:14:09.280 --> 0:14:12.720 And then last year she kind of and I think 0:14:12.760 --> 0:14:14.840 probably before last year, she had a change of heart 0:14:15.120 --> 0:14:16.800 and was like, what am I really doing? 0:14:17.440 --> 0:14:20.480 This is not contributing to society. So she shut down 0:14:20.520 --> 0:14:21.200 her wildly. 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:25.720 She was like the go to gossip site for black 0:14:25.760 --> 0:14:29.880 celebrities basically, and she shut it down last year and 0:14:30.000 --> 0:14:33.440 she re emerged this year with Exo Nicole, which was 0:14:33.480 --> 0:14:36.360 really supposed to be an empowerment website for women of color. 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:38.520 And I actually wrote a few articles, oh. 0:14:38.440 --> 0:14:41.160 That I've heard of. I've heard ex Nicole. 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:44.400 So it was formerly Nicole Bitchy. So she just did 0:14:44.440 --> 0:14:46.280 a video maybe like a week or so ago or 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:49.760 basically where she's like, I'm broke and darn and almost homeless. 0:14:50.080 --> 0:14:54.520 That she did not anticipate how hard the transition. 0:14:54.160 --> 0:14:58.400 Was going to be, and that you know that the. 0:14:58.400 --> 0:15:02.160 Readers, not that the readers don't want to hear good news, 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:05.280 but that's a different reader, Like. 0:15:05.320 --> 0:15:08.200 Yeah, they don't throw, they don't like I mean, people 0:15:08.280 --> 0:15:12.440 consume negative blogs like they do tabloids, like with the 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:16.440 with the fervor, like like a pac man, just chomping 0:15:16.520 --> 0:15:18.600 up those little bits. It's like gives them more energy 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:20.680 or something or fuels something in them. 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:23.560 Goodness, you don't want to hear good news. 0:15:23.560 --> 0:15:25.280 But it's like if I kept if I was coming 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:27.120 to you for gossip and I come back to your 0:15:27.120 --> 0:15:29.280 website and now it's all sunshine of lollipops. 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:30.240 I'm like, cause I. 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:32.160 Wondered why I wrote an article and it wasn't It 0:15:32.360 --> 0:15:36.200 was about credit Girl. The comments were vicious because her 0:15:36.400 --> 0:15:39.040 readers were so used to we're so used to being 0:15:39.160 --> 0:15:41.960 negative and mean. I'm like, what what is happening in 0:15:41.960 --> 0:15:44.920 these comments sections? And I just I didn't realize that, 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:49.000 like wow, it was just a culture that she had 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:53.080 created and she was trying to bring those people along, 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:55.560 but it was like they could not make the transition. 0:15:55.920 --> 0:15:57.560 And so she just talked about how. 0:15:57.840 --> 0:15:59.200 Because you go to her social media, this is a 0:15:59.200 --> 0:16:01.640 woman who travels all the world. I mean, like I said, 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:03.760 she's beautiful, and you would think everything was great. And 0:16:03.840 --> 0:16:06.200 I thought that her YouTube video and you guys get 0:16:06.200 --> 0:16:09.280 a chance just type in Nicole Caine, you know YouTube 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:11.560 or whatever. I think it's called I Am Nicole her 0:16:11.760 --> 0:16:14.400 YouTube channel, but she basically talks about that. You know, 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:17.880 she was putting up a front and being an entrepreneur's hard, 0:16:17.920 --> 0:16:20.440 and she didn't manage her money well. And maybe we 0:16:20.440 --> 0:16:22.200 could talk about that if we don't have a question 0:16:22.280 --> 0:16:25.040 about what does that look like when you have your 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:27.880 own business or you know you're making a transition, what 0:16:27.960 --> 0:16:30.280 money things can people do to put themselves in place 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:33.080 to not go through that, because I'm sure that she 0:16:33.280 --> 0:16:35.680 has seen a ton of money, but now it's no 0:16:35.800 --> 0:16:38.440 longer here. And she said when she first moved, her 0:16:38.440 --> 0:16:40.240 parents passed away when she was younger, and she moved 0:16:40.280 --> 0:16:42.160 in with her aunt eight years ago to try to 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:43.880 make her dream happen, and she had to call her 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:47.640 on again eight years later, after traveling the world and 0:16:47.720 --> 0:16:50.080 running the super successful site, and ask her is my 0:16:50.160 --> 0:16:53.480 room still available? And I thought, Wow, just a good 0:16:53.560 --> 0:16:57.440 lesson of social media, money, entrepreneurship all wrapped into one. 0:16:58.800 --> 0:16:58.920 Well. 0:16:58.920 --> 0:17:01.440 I hope she gets back on her Yeah, I think, 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:03.360 and I think she won. I we have good news 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:04.760 to win exactly. 0:17:04.920 --> 0:17:07.480 And plus two, I always think this that if the 0:17:07.480 --> 0:17:11.280 work you put in to get there, that that personality 0:17:11.320 --> 0:17:14.399 is still in you. You know that you you know 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:16.320 it wasn't easy to get where she got to, even 0:17:16.359 --> 0:17:19.800 though Nicole BITCHI might not have been, you know, helping society, 0:17:19.800 --> 0:17:22.640 but still you put that same hustle and effort back 0:17:22.680 --> 0:17:24.359 in to create your new reality. 0:17:24.480 --> 0:17:24.720 You know. 0:17:26.400 --> 0:17:28.040 When you first said, Nicole, I don't know if this 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:29.840 is actually the teacher's name, but there was. Did you 0:17:29.840 --> 0:17:31.640 see all the hot teacher debate last week? 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:33.040 Yes, what did you think? 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:35.080 Well, I wanted to hear what you think because you 0:17:35.119 --> 0:17:38.440 were a teacher. Yeah, so I don't know. This is 0:17:38.440 --> 0:17:40.240 how I found out from my friend Jess. You know, 0:17:40.280 --> 0:17:43.600