1 00:00:01,240 --> 00:00:05,359 Speaker 1: Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning Showy. 2 00:00:05,360 --> 00:00:07,320 Speaker 2: Now, Gandhi has sent this text me the other day 3 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:09,840 Speaker 2: and I asked her if it's okay if I read it, 4 00:00:09,920 --> 00:00:12,800 Speaker 2: and you're you're totally fine, okay, yes, right, okay, And 5 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:14,720 Speaker 2: I'm so happy that you're sharing this. 6 00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:15,720 Speaker 3: Thank you. 7 00:00:16,480 --> 00:00:20,239 Speaker 2: I think I'm hitting a little patch of depression and 8 00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:22,960 Speaker 2: I'm not totally sure what to do about it because 9 00:00:23,560 --> 00:00:25,279 Speaker 2: I think I know what's causing about it, but not 10 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:29,080 Speaker 2: one hundred percent sure, and it's not really fixable in 11 00:00:29,120 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 2: the near future, so I don't know. That's where I 12 00:00:32,159 --> 00:00:34,800 Speaker 2: am in life. And so we of course went through 13 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:37,680 Speaker 2: a brother sister conversation, yeah, back and forth, which you 14 00:00:37,720 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 2: know whatever, and it was a great meaningful conversation. And 15 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:43,839 Speaker 2: I think it's very important that as you listen to 16 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 2: us every day and we play your favorite songs, we 17 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:48,440 Speaker 2: send you around the world on beautiful cruise ships and 18 00:00:48,440 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 2: we laugh and cut up that you know, just like you, 19 00:00:52,479 --> 00:00:56,240 Speaker 2: we're human beings as well. And the fact that we 20 00:00:56,280 --> 00:00:58,320 Speaker 2: can actually talk about this because I think it could 21 00:00:58,360 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 2: be the most relatable topic we could ever talk about 22 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:03,320 Speaker 2: on this show with all these listeners. 23 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:04,240 Speaker 4: So thank you. 24 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 2: For allowing us to talk about it. 25 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:08,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure. So I mean, you guys all know 26 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 3: over so I'm going to do this without crying. That 27 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:12,560 Speaker 3: is my goal. If my voice shakes, I'm not crying. 28 00:01:12,880 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 2: You know what, If you cry, then just go with it. 29 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:15,560 Speaker 4: Baby, good that. 30 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:18,480 Speaker 3: I'm sick of crying. Okay, so we know that over summertime, 31 00:01:18,520 --> 00:01:21,320 Speaker 3: I went through some crap. I got really sick, got 32 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 3: over it. I felt really good. I was so excited. 33 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:25,920 Speaker 3: I'm still physically I'm doing well. My health is fine. 34 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:29,240 Speaker 3: But as we've talked about, I hit the after shock, 35 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 3: which is all of my hair falling out, and it 36 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:35,280 Speaker 3: is Jurassic like. I don't think you guys really understand 37 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 3: it because I hide it so much. But Diamond actually 38 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 3: kind of made it validated how bad it was because 39 00:01:41,760 --> 00:01:43,320 Speaker 3: she was helping me put in the fake hair and 40 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 3: she was like, wow, this is crazy. I didn't realize 41 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:49,840 Speaker 3: like it was so bad. So I thought, Okay, this 42 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 3: is silly to get so sad. You're just losing your 43 00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:54,000 Speaker 3: hair like it's not a big deal. But then I 44 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:56,760 Speaker 3: realized it was so much more than that. Because I'm 45 00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 3: starting to deal with I don't even know if I 46 00:01:58,280 --> 00:02:01,080 Speaker 3: would call it like the PTSD, but really realizing how 47 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:04,920 Speaker 3: bad it was over summer and how life is now 48 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:07,480 Speaker 3: just suddenly different in a way that I don't want 49 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:10,040 Speaker 3: it to be, because you know, my whole life, I've 50 00:02:10,040 --> 00:02:11,560 Speaker 3: always gone to the doctor and it's like, oh, there's 51 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:14,400 Speaker 3: no medical history of anything. Oh everything's fine, And now 52 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 3: there is. And now every little pain or pain, I'm like, 53 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 3: is that something that I need to worry about? And 54 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:23,240 Speaker 3: it's just like my life took this sudden turn that 55 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 3: I wasn't prepared for and now I'm dealing with it. 56 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:28,839 Speaker 3: And now it's of course the worst time for us, 57 00:02:28,919 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 3: where we see everybody and I just feel like I 58 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:34,240 Speaker 3: look like crap, which is so stupid. I feel like 59 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 3: to be complaining about this, but I'm not crying if 60 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:41,360 Speaker 3: it sounds like it, but yes, way I know. But 61 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:43,720 Speaker 3: you know, we see everybody, and we are face to 62 00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 3: facing with everybody, and we have concerts and I have 63 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:47,520 Speaker 3: this art show coming and I'm going to see all 64 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 3: of these people that I haven't seen in so long. 65 00:02:49,520 --> 00:02:51,679 Speaker 3: And I look in the mirror and I don't recognize 66 00:02:51,680 --> 00:02:55,800 Speaker 3: myself and it's just really hard. And I have so 67 00:02:56,120 --> 00:02:59,600 Speaker 3: much great stuff in my life I have an amazing life. 68 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:01,639 Speaker 3: I get to see all of you guys every day, 69 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:03,880 Speaker 3: and you guys make me laugh every day, and I 70 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:06,520 Speaker 3: just can't get over feeling sad about something that feels 71 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:09,639 Speaker 3: so stupid to me. And I don't know, it's just 72 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 3: a weird like I can't I'm not just gonna grow 73 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:13,880 Speaker 3: my hair back tomorrow. It's gonna take a really long time. 74 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:16,200 Speaker 3: It was so long for, you know, my whole life. 75 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:20,920 Speaker 3: And I realized I'm sort of I've always used my 76 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:25,360 Speaker 3: hair as a veil. I hide behind it for a 77 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:27,320 Speaker 3: lot of reasons, like I don't love my face. You know, 78 00:03:27,360 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 3: you can hide choby cheeks when you have a lot 79 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:31,520 Speaker 3: of hair, And now I can't do that anymore. And 80 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 3: it's just like highlighting a lot of crap that I 81 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:35,440 Speaker 3: wasn't ready for. 82 00:03:35,520 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 2: Well now, and some of the things we talked about, 83 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 2: including this, First of all, your feelings are very valid 84 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:46,560 Speaker 2: and they're not stupid. And if anyone, including yourself, is 85 00:03:46,600 --> 00:03:50,520 Speaker 2: going through a patch of depression or sadness, and someone says, oh, 86 00:03:50,560 --> 00:03:52,480 Speaker 2: you know what, your hair will grow back, You're fine. 87 00:03:52,600 --> 00:03:54,360 Speaker 2: Look how great you have it. You've got a great 88 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:57,120 Speaker 2: job and good friends. You know what, you mean, well, 89 00:03:57,160 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 2: when you say those things to someone that you love, 90 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 2: but that it's not gonna help anything. 91 00:04:01,880 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 4: No, you're minimalizing, you know, the end of. 92 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:06,720 Speaker 2: The at the end of the day, if you want 93 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:08,720 Speaker 2: to be sad about it, be sad about it, because 94 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:11,040 Speaker 2: you're validating what you're going through, and what you're going 95 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:14,360 Speaker 2: through is real and should not be swept under a rug. 96 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 2: You shouldn't say, well, look, you got a great job. 97 00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:20,280 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, you have beautiful friends, a great boyfriend. 98 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:22,640 Speaker 2: Of course you do, but that doesn't change the fact 99 00:04:22,680 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 2: that you're going with you're going what you're going through, 100 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 2: and what you're going through Gandhi goes far beyond what 101 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 2: your hair is doing to you. It's just your hair 102 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:33,080 Speaker 2: loss reminds you of the bigger picture of what you're 103 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:33,599 Speaker 2: living through. 104 00:04:33,839 --> 00:04:35,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, and you know. 105 00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:36,840 Speaker 2: You were very sick. 106 00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:37,960 Speaker 4: We were. 107 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:40,279 Speaker 2: God, I don't want to say it out loud, but 108 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:43,840 Speaker 2: I will. I we all thought that maybe you wouldn't return. 109 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's what I'm gathering when I talk to 110 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:48,880 Speaker 3: some of my doctors and stuff now, which I didn't 111 00:04:48,920 --> 00:04:49,839 Speaker 3: realize all the time. 112 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:52,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think because it was it was like 113 00:04:52,880 --> 00:04:56,279 Speaker 1: a mystery, like they couldn't figure it out. And I 114 00:04:56,320 --> 00:04:58,360 Speaker 1: think all of us here, I remember sitting here going 115 00:04:58,720 --> 00:04:59,800 Speaker 1: what is happening? Like? 116 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:00,520 Speaker 4: What is like? 117 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: We were like, what is happening? So for you have 118 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 1: gone through it to feel that way, and it's come 119 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:08,479 Speaker 1: back and come back in all different ways. It makes 120 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:09,200 Speaker 1: total sense. 121 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:12,839 Speaker 2: Well, you know our listeners are checking in. We love you, Gandhi. 122 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 2: This conversation is everything I need. And here's someone who 123 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:18,120 Speaker 2: really is paying attention. We love you, Danielle. You're gonna 124 00:05:18,120 --> 00:05:20,600 Speaker 2: be okay, Thank. 125 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:21,360 Speaker 4: You, Thank you so much. 126 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:22,600 Speaker 1: You will rebuild. 127 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:25,719 Speaker 3: I think that, like the hard part for me and 128 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:28,880 Speaker 3: all of this is, as we talk about so often, 129 00:05:30,080 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 3: I totally believe in practicing gratitude and being grateful for 130 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:35,559 Speaker 3: all of the things that you have. And I really 131 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 3: focus on all the good things I have, and there's 132 00:05:37,680 --> 00:05:40,120 Speaker 3: this part of me that just feels ungrateful to the 133 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:43,599 Speaker 3: universe right now because I got over it. I'm feeling good. 134 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:45,560 Speaker 3: There are people who are losing their hair and they 135 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:48,479 Speaker 3: have cancer and they're not feeling good and I just 136 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:51,440 Speaker 3: feel like an a hole being so bummed out about this. 137 00:05:51,520 --> 00:05:52,479 Speaker 4: But I can't get our shit. 138 00:05:52,920 --> 00:05:55,920 Speaker 2: You shouldn't, you shouldn't absolutely and. 139 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:59,200 Speaker 1: You went through a lot. Your body went Sorry, your 140 00:05:59,200 --> 00:06:01,919 Speaker 1: body went through so much. And this is actually part 141 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:04,200 Speaker 1: of what you went through because they told you that. 142 00:06:04,200 --> 00:06:08,039 Speaker 1: That's the reason that it's falling out. So you're still 143 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:10,600 Speaker 1: going through it. Yes, you've come through the other end, 144 00:06:11,440 --> 00:06:15,839 Speaker 1: you know, body wise and then health wise, but you're 145 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:18,840 Speaker 1: still feeling what you know parts of it, and so 146 00:06:18,960 --> 00:06:21,599 Speaker 1: it makes total sense that you're going to be feeling 147 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 1: this way. 148 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 3: Well, thanks, you guys are making me feel better. It 149 00:06:24,520 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 3: always makes me feel better coming in. 150 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:26,480 Speaker 4: We love you. 151 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:28,800 Speaker 2: But you know what the worst thing you could ever do? 152 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:30,960 Speaker 2: And GANI this is advice I've heard you give other people. 153 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 2: You cannot compare yourself to other people ever in life, 154 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 2: and that as far as wealth or job position, or 155 00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:41,480 Speaker 2: marriage position or relationships or body fat or whatever, you 156 00:06:41,760 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 2: cannot compare. And as you minimalize how you feel, minimalize 157 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:49,000 Speaker 2: yourself because you feel like you're an ant hole because 158 00:06:49,080 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 2: you you have it great. Don't do that you're comparing 159 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:55,040 Speaker 2: stop it. We love you, Nate, what's up? 160 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:55,560 Speaker 4: Well? 161 00:06:56,800 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 2: Can you turn them on. 162 00:06:57,800 --> 00:07:00,280 Speaker 4: As somebody that's gone through a couple of things like this? 163 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 4: And I know Froggy can speak about it too. When 164 00:07:02,720 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 4: you get discharged from the hospital. One of the things 165 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:08,680 Speaker 4: they say. And the doctors are great, the nurses are fantastic, 166 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:11,040 Speaker 4: but I think the one place they fall short is 167 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:15,000 Speaker 4: they say, hey, you might get a little depressed after 168 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:19,040 Speaker 4: having gone through all of this. As someone who has 169 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 4: been through an ocean of depression post hospital stays and 170 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 4: medical issues, I can tell you that this is all 171 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 4: normal and that what you're going through will get better. 172 00:07:33,720 --> 00:07:37,760 Speaker 4: But that is my one beef with the things that 173 00:07:37,800 --> 00:07:40,320 Speaker 4: people go through as far as what they battle with 174 00:07:40,360 --> 00:07:44,680 Speaker 4: their bodies, is you don't know how depressing it can 175 00:07:44,720 --> 00:07:48,360 Speaker 4: be until you actually go through it yourself. And I 176 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 4: know I had conversations with Froggy where it was like 177 00:07:55,000 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 4: I was talking to myself because it's just so hard 178 00:08:00,840 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 4: and you're doing it though you are one to zero. 179 00:08:05,280 --> 00:08:08,680 Speaker 4: You beat it. Yeah, and I hope you don't ever 180 00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:09,440 Speaker 4: have to do it again. 181 00:08:09,600 --> 00:08:10,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, me too. 182 00:08:10,760 --> 00:08:14,440 Speaker 4: But there's gonna be scars, and there's gonna be memories 183 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 4: and you're gonna remember things, and it's very very hard, 184 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:21,800 Speaker 4: but you're doing it now. 185 00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 3: I feel bad we're not checking on Nate and Froggy Moore. 186 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:28,200 Speaker 4: All. 187 00:08:28,440 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 2: We're all learning. We're all learning and we're moving forward, 188 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:32,400 Speaker 2: but we just wanted to stop down and have this conversation. 189 00:08:32,440 --> 00:08:34,640 Speaker 2: Because people are listening in and through the text, I 190 00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:36,960 Speaker 2: can see that majority of them are totally understanding it.