WEBVTT - Second Cup: Go see someone

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to go see someone often. It is not

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<v Speaker 1>that challenging to take a short trip to see a

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<v Speaker 1>friend or relative. Doing so can make life feel a

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<v Speaker 1>lot more fulfilling, So, especially as life gets busy, it

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<v Speaker 1>can be easy to default to whatever leisure activities are

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<v Speaker 1>right in front of us. We spend a Saturday shuttling

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<v Speaker 1>family members places or buying groceries and watching TV, and

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<v Speaker 1>there's nothing wrong with any of these things. But many

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<v Speaker 1>people claim they would love to spend more time with

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<v Speaker 1>friends or extended family members, and they just feel too

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<v Speaker 1>busy to do so. This is particularly true when many

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<v Speaker 1>friends and family members don't live in the same town.

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<v Speaker 1>But if someone lives within two hours of you by

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<v Speaker 1>car or by train, it would be quite possible to

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<v Speaker 1>visit for a few hours on the weekend without it

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<v Speaker 1>becoming a huge ordeal. If you live in one of

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<v Speaker 1>the markets that is serviced by a low cost airline,

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<v Speaker 1>you might even be able to fly to see someone.

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<v Speaker 1>You could stay overnight, but you might not even have to.

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<v Speaker 1>I have been thinking of this lately because I have

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<v Speaker 1>been taking a lot of speaking trips. Often for these,

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<v Speaker 1>I can fly in and out relatively quickly. I live

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<v Speaker 1>in the Philadelphia area, and I have been able to

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<v Speaker 1>fly in and out in one day to all sorts

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<v Speaker 1>of places, including Florida, Saint Louis, Chicago, Nashville, even Minneapolis.

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<v Speaker 1>Add in one night's stay somewhere, and I've been able

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<v Speaker 1>to get as far afield as Phoenix and places like that.

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<v Speaker 1>When I was flying down to Florida to visit someone

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<v Speaker 1>not that long ago, I found that Frontier Airlines was

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<v Speaker 1>offering tickets for as low as nineteen dollars. Now, since

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<v Speaker 1>I needed to bring a bag, I wound up paying more.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you were just going down for a few hours,

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<v Speaker 1>it could wind up being a fairly inexpensive day. In

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<v Speaker 1>early April, I took some off peak trains in and

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<v Speaker 1>out of New York and was able to see friends

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<v Speaker 1>there for not a whole lot of time and money.

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<v Speaker 1>Driving opens up possibilities too. If you know people who

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<v Speaker 1>live two hours away or so, that is very doable

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<v Speaker 1>to go for an early dinner on a weekend day

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<v Speaker 1>and come home afterwards. No need to pack bags. Of course,

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<v Speaker 1>it is always easier not to spend time in transit.

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<v Speaker 1>But the truth is that you will do something on

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<v Speaker 1>the weekend. If you spend a little bit of time

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about it and reach out to people you know

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<v Speaker 1>and want to see, it is quite possible that you

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<v Speaker 1>will be able to fit in something a little more

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<v Speaker 1>interesting than grocery shopping. Now, I know that everyone is

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<v Speaker 1>working hard, and everyone is working long. Often we get

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<v Speaker 1>to the weekend and we just want to relax. So

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<v Speaker 1>know that I am not talking about flying to Florida

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<v Speaker 1>every weekend. But what if you aim to go visit

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<v Speaker 1>someone every four to six weeks or so. That leaves

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<v Speaker 1>lots of weekends for local pursuits or relaxing, But you

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<v Speaker 1>would also be able to visit friends eight to thirteen

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<v Speaker 1>times over the course of the year. That is a

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<v Speaker 1>fair amount. It might help to think of people in

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<v Speaker 1>your life who you genuinely like but don't see as

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<v Speaker 1>often as you would want to, who lives relatively nearby.

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<v Speaker 1>You can look at your calendar for the next few

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<v Speaker 1>months and engineer a weekend day to be fairly free.

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<v Speaker 1>Reach out and let people know you would like to

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<v Speaker 1>come see them. People often won't invite someone who lives

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<v Speaker 1>far away, as they assume they won't be able to come.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you let it be known that you will come,

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<v Speaker 1>you can certainly come up with a good reason offer

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<v Speaker 1>to pick up something to eat on the way there.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you are willing to travel, people will often

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<v Speaker 1>be quite open to just having you. The good news

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<v Speaker 1>is that if you go visit a far flung friend

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<v Speaker 1>over the weekend, you won't get to Monday and think

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<v Speaker 1>where did the weekend go? You will have truly enjoyed

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<v Speaker 1>yourself and created some great memories. And it's only a day.

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<v Speaker 1>My guess is that you will still get to the

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<v Speaker 1>grocery shopping and you will feel more rejuvenated than if

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<v Speaker 1>you just sat around trying to do nothing. So why

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<v Speaker 1>not make a few plans. I'd love to hear how

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<v Speaker 1>it goes. You can reach me at Laura at Laura

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<v Speaker 1>vandercam dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening, and here's to making the most of our times.

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