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Speaker 1: Hello, scrubbers. It's Mark and Easton. Hello, and we did

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Speaker 1: something special because this is the one hundredth Scrubbing In

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Speaker 1: with Becca and Tanya podcast. And so what we've done

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Speaker 1: is there are giant balloons behind their chairs that's say

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Speaker 1: one zero zero, which is one hundred, and then we

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Speaker 1: have one hundred flowers, and we have one hundred carrots

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Speaker 1: and celery sticks, and then one hundred French fries. And

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Speaker 1: you understand that the fries are Rebecca and the celery

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Speaker 1: sticks and carrots are for Tanya.

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Speaker 2: Pains secretly counted by both Mark and myself.

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Speaker 1: Yes, is exactly one hundred. So we're going to bring

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Speaker 1: them in here now. They don't know that we've started

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Speaker 1: recording the show, and we'll leave all the microphones on

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Speaker 1: so you can hear their reaction to it. Okay, here

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Speaker 1: we go, come on.

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Speaker 3: Whoa one hundred? Whoa?

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Speaker 2: So one hundred episodes?

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Speaker 1: Holy well, you don't know is we're already recording. This

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Speaker 1: is all part of the podcast.

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Speaker 4: First of all, this is the best part is that

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Speaker 4: there's carrots and celery and then French.

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Speaker 1: Fries Rebecca, one hundred of each.

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Speaker 4: The wait, this is going to be my juice in

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Speaker 4: the morning.

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Speaker 1: Did you give your celarry juice today? Because that's perfect

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Speaker 1: if you did, didn't I drink?

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Speaker 4: It's wine?

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Speaker 1: All right? Headphones on? We are we're recording. This is

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Speaker 1: we're going. The show's on. You guys are snacking. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: Well here, we'll play the infro while you guys snack.

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Speaker 4: Scrubbing in Withy and Tanya Rap and iHeartRadio and People's

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Speaker 4: Choice Award nominated podcast.

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Speaker 1: Oh see what we did?

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Speaker 4: When did you do that?

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Speaker 1: It's an Eastern project.

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Speaker 4: Sky Dickery saved it from last year.

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Speaker 5: Oh, we're meeting my fries.

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Speaker 1: Well, congratulations on one hundred episodes.

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Speaker 6: Are getting Congratulations to everyonebody involved. The reason why this

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Speaker 6: show is what it is is because of every single

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Speaker 6: person in this room.

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Speaker 1: Well, thank you.

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Speaker 4: That's true and I can't see you. Someone move this.

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Speaker 4: But I also love roses with sans water.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it's not one hundred water drops, right, that's true.

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Speaker 4: That's true. That is so good. That is so nice.

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Speaker 4: Are there are a hundred roses?

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Speaker 1: There are a hundred ros Why.

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Speaker 4: Fancy?

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Speaker 1: And of course you should also think there's twenty three

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Speaker 1: ninety three people you should think in the Facebook.

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Speaker 4: That's they really need.

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Speaker 5: Are you looking at my fries?

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Speaker 4: I saw it and I glading where they came from.

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Speaker 1: Shake Shack. Yeah, thank you, shake Shack for the French fries.

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Speaker 1: They're all over the world. They're in like twenty states.

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Speaker 1: Go to shake Shack find one near you.

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Speaker 4: Wow. It feels good to be here, guys, it feels

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Speaker 4: really good.

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Speaker 6: We've already we've been out of the studio for a

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Speaker 6: few weeks now, a couple of weeks.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, And whilst I enjoy traveling, I do enjoy being

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Speaker 4: home with the fam and really just getting into.

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Speaker 1: It's been a while. You were in New York. Here

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Speaker 1: in San Francisco, finally your home and your home studio

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Speaker 1: with the big one hundred above you, the big one.

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Speaker 5: Did we know that it was one hundred?

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Speaker 6: I just like happened to go look at the app

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Speaker 6: and I saw one hundred episode and it happened to

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Speaker 6: be our friend's episode.

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Speaker 5: And I was like, that is so epic.

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Speaker 6: Did we know?

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Speaker 1: Well, Tory keeps track of these things. You say it

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Speaker 1: wasn't the Friends episode because you put up a teaser,

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Speaker 1: and I think that might.

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Speaker 5: It's the hundred.

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Speaker 1: I would trust on this one.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm gonna trust story. The teasers were when I

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Speaker 6: was sn's Tanya, So the dark days, there was a cloud,

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Speaker 6: you guys, there's like, okay, let's not put me Downlightful episodes, delightful.

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Speaker 5: I just had to, Like I was, I would look.

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Speaker 6: At Easton and Mark and Amy and be like, can

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Speaker 6: someone chime in with me? And like doing a monologue monologue,

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Speaker 6: I'd like waller Bridge.

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Speaker 4: Status, what like Phoebe waller Bridge status.

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Speaker 1: Beca Have you watched Fleabag?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 1: God, I loved it. I loved every second of that show.

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Speaker 4: I just finished season two and I'm so obsessed. I

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Speaker 4: want her as a guest on the Morning show. I've

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Speaker 4: been like begging for her to come in this week

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Speaker 4: because the Emmys are on Sunday, and I'm like, she's

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Speaker 4: gotta be in town because I don't know where she lives.

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Speaker 4: She doesn't have Instagram. Otherwise I'd be in her DM

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Speaker 4: faster than you could say DM.

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Speaker 1: If you don't know. Fleabag is the show on Amazon

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Speaker 1: Prime Video was originally a BBC show. There was a

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Speaker 1: season nineteen nineteen twenty sixteen that they just did a

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Speaker 1: second season and it's really phenomenal and everyone says, well,

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Speaker 1: it's not for everybody, and it's very divisive and you

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Speaker 4: The reason why I love it so much is because

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Speaker 4: I love her, Like I feel like she took like Lemons,

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Speaker 4: it was like started out as this like monologue, it's

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Speaker 4: that just like skyrocketed, and then she started writing. She

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Speaker 4: wrote the first season of Killing Eve and now she's

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Speaker 4: and she's so badass, and I'm obsessed with her and

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Speaker 4: I can't wait to talk about her. Like anytime that

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Speaker 4: they come to me for the Emmy's Cup for coverage,

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna be like where Phebe wuller Bridge. She's like

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Speaker 1: That's twelve episodes, the twenty five minutes long. You'll burn

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Speaker 6: Yeah, great, I've been looking for a new show to watch.

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Speaker 4: There you go.

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Speaker 6: I haven't seen you in a while too long. I

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Speaker 4: My last time I saw you. Well, that was. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 4: I don't like that. That was over a week ago. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: I was like, gone too, I saw you, and then

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Speaker 6: But I got to meet I got to meet someone

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Speaker 6: very special on at that birthday party.

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Speaker 4: She did, Oh, what.

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Speaker 1: Do we call him on this show?

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Speaker 6: I don't remember signor Butterfly? Yeah, so what did you

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Speaker 6: think they came? They came late because y'all had another

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Speaker 6: party to go to, Yes, and they brought in roses

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Speaker 6: and did y'all bring wine or something? No, just roses,

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Speaker 6: beautiful roses for Laura and signor really just worked the room.

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Speaker 5: Like everyone was.

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Speaker 6: Like, oh my gosh, Tanya's guy is so great.

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Speaker 4: He's so great.

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Speaker 6: Allie was like raving about him, and she rarely does

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Speaker 5: She was like, I was into him. He was so cute.

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Speaker 6: He was like so social and like comfortable around all

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Speaker 4: I know, and that's the thing, Like, so i'd This

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Speaker 4: even more because I could just kind of I mean

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Speaker 6: Well, we had a ping pong table set up and

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Speaker 6: I'm a very competitive ping pong player. And I was like, oh,

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Speaker 6: I was like, signor do.

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Speaker 5: You play ping pong?

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Speaker 6: And he was like, oh, Like I dabble a little bit,

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Speaker 6: I dabble. So I was like, all right, I'll get

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Speaker 6: to him later. I was undefeated, played him still undefeated.

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Speaker 6: And then towards the end of the night, Tany was like,

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Speaker 5: So he played again, he beats me, and.

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Speaker 5: It's not my nature. So he played again and he won.

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Speaker 6: So he comes into my party beats in my own game.

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Speaker 1: But aside from that, you liked him.

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Speaker 6: I thought he was wonderful, you know, and I liked

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Speaker 5: I was like the best friend and he was trying

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Speaker 3: He did.

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Speaker 6: He's very good job.

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Speaker 7: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I definitely think he felt like the importance a significance

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Speaker 1: Just so things are going well.

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Speaker 4: Things are going well.

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Speaker 1: But to clarify, you do not have a boyfriend.

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Speaker 4: I do not have a boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: But if someone asked you on a date, you would

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Speaker 4: I think I'm at that point.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, right, say, I thought you had to talk about that.

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Speaker 4: We didn't really have a talk, like he we didn't

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Speaker 4: really like come to that decision together. He kind of

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Speaker 4: I know, it's it's all kind of murky. But he

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Speaker 4: told me that he is intentionally dating me and only me.

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Speaker 4: I didn't like say it back. Why not, Well, because

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Speaker 4: the reason why we got on the subject was because

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Speaker 4: my coworker had tried to set me up with somebody

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Speaker 4: like it was just like a lot of a new

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Speaker 4: show whatever, back and forth, and so that's what kind

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Speaker 4: of prompted him to say that. And I didn't say

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Speaker 4: I think it kind of goes without saying.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so you're basically seeing each other exclusively.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: However, as we've learned in the Morning show, that does

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Speaker 1: not mean you're in a relationship, correct, which is bizarre

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Speaker 1: to me. Becky, do you understand that and do you

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Speaker 6: I'm just confused because I feel like that is like

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Speaker 6: that you're exclusively dating him.

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Speaker 4: No, I'm honestly not trying to play games, but I think.

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Speaker 1: Because you're falling. Okay, well what isn't right?

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Speaker 5: It's like a bachelor producer.

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Speaker 1: You're falling like pull and it's scary to fall. I

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Speaker 1: nice little TURNI phrase I just had there, it gets scary, Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I just don't know how into me he is?

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Speaker 6: But what makes you question how into you he is?

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Speaker 6: Did not get a vibe. I got a very strong

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Speaker 1: You know, right, you're not going to have a Halloween

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Speaker 4: Right, we haven't talked about Halloween at all.

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Speaker 4: Somebody from the Morning Show said if he dresses his

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Speaker 4: post alone, you need to be a bud light can

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Speaker 6: Was so cool. Oh my gosh, that is so funny.

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Speaker 4: Postone always has his bud light with him.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, or like scare him?

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Speaker 1: I don't know, hollyween's a scary time.

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Speaker 1: Why are you seeing him next?

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Speaker 4: I don't know. This week's really tricky because we're going

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Speaker 6: What about what about tonight, tomorrow or Wednesday?

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Speaker 4: I have a fitting a hair spraytam but.

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Speaker 5: He could come over and hang out at the house.

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Speaker 4: Nope, I'm like naked getting a spray Cam.

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Speaker 5: Well, no, but like maybe when you're like studying or whatever, Hey, can.

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Speaker 1: You study that?

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Speaker 6: Maybe?

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Speaker 1: I mean maybe, oh him doing like clash with you?

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Speaker 6: You get a kid.

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Speaker 1: That I would do that, Like I'll name the actor,

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Speaker 1: you tell me the show, Here we go, and that'd

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Speaker 1: And while we're talking about it, where can people see

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Speaker 4: I'm going to be online from the Red Carpet an

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Speaker 4: e and I'm very excited about it. The time what

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Speaker 4: I was just giving you a class?

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Speaker 1: No, enjoyed it.

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Speaker 4: We're so proud, thank you. I'm really excited and like

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Speaker 4: actually freaking out because that's, to me, is like a

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Speaker 1: It might be different times of different time zones, but

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Speaker 4: It's Live from the Red Carpet twenty teen Emmy Awards Special, Sunday,

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Speaker 4: September twenty second, from six pm ET three pm PT

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Speaker 1: Our time understood. But that's that's good. I feel like

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yes, it's a show leading right up to that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's really excited. Yeah, freaking out, But that's what

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Speaker 4: I'm saying. I don't think having him at my house

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Speaker 5: Well, that's why you gotta do flash guards and you

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Speaker 4: I have to earn any of this.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, things are going well. I think that's

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Speaker 4: Your guess is as good as mine.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I don't have dude brain and you're due too. Are

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Speaker 1: Amie and I and I always clarify that it was

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I've always said I was a big fan of having

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Speaker 6: We were married.

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Speaker 4: Did you guys have the conversation?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, But like we said, I love you before we

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Speaker 1: See that's the thing. I think, when it's right and

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Speaker 6: He may be all in right, But I told Tanya So,

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Speaker 5: I get that fear or that hesitation.

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Speaker 4: I guess we'll see.

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Speaker 5: And I know that like Robert and I aren't together anymore.

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Speaker 6: Don't love that.

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Speaker 4: Because you guys are no longer together.

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Speaker 6: So that happened later. I think in the beginning, I

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Speaker 5: And seeing other people, and I was like no, no, no,

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Speaker 6: But I do think at some point, if you're starting

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Speaker 1: All Right, Lisa Schwartz, we should get her in here.

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Speaker 1: She has a new book, thirty Life Crisis, Naviting Navigating

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Speaker 1: my thirties one drunk baby shower at a time. It

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Speaker 1: seems very applicable, Yes, relatable. Uh, she is coming up next,

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Speaker 1: we'll talk to him after. Lisa.

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Speaker 6: All right, So we have a very special guest today.

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Speaker 6: I talked to her a little bit outside before she

451
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Speaker 6: came into the studio.

452
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Speaker 5: But we have Lisia Lisa Schwartz here. Well, that was

453
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Speaker 5: a toe twister for me.

454
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Speaker 8: Yes, you did?

455
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Speaker 6: You have a new book?

456
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Speaker 3: I do.

457
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Speaker 4: Welcome to the studio.

458
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Speaker 8: Thank you for having me. This is awesome.

459
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Speaker 6: So we figured out we have met before because we

460
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Speaker 6: did a panel on E News together regarding The Bachelor.

461
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Speaker 8: Yes, and they called me a Bachelor what do they say?

462
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Speaker 1: A fan?

463
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Speaker 8: Super fan?

464
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Speaker 6: And I wanted to die.

465
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Speaker 8: I was so embarrassed.

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Speaker 6: That's so cute, is it?

467
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Speaker 3: Though?

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Speaker 6: The funny thing is when you said that, I literally

469
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Speaker 6: remember a moment, that moment when they introduced you and

470
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Speaker 6: we were like, oh, okay, I'm I'm a super fans.

471
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Speaker 7: I am because I was hosting, like, we had an

472
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Speaker 7: after show for a little while through the Bachelor called

473
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Speaker 7: will You Accept This Ride? Where I just like got

474
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Speaker 7: drunk in a limo and interviewed people from a Bachelor

475
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Speaker 7: And so I got into that world and then I'm

476
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Speaker 7: a super fan of guest.

477
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Speaker 8: But I do talk about The Bachelor a lot in

478
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Speaker 8: the book.

479
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Speaker 5: So do you watch it?

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Speaker 6: You are?

481
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Speaker 5: You do watch a show?

482
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Speaker 6: I do?

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Speaker 8: Okay, I'm a little behind on Paradise. There's just so

484
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Speaker 8: much of it.

485
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Speaker 7: Yeah, it's just so much. It's also like an hour

486
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Speaker 7: so dramatic. Right now, and I just am a little exhausted,

487
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Speaker 7: Can I be honest?

488
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Speaker 6: I was so excited about this season, and every week

489
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Speaker 6: I notice myself looking at the clock being like I

490
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Speaker 6: still have another hour and then I have tomorrow.

491
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Speaker 8: Still yeah that makes me feel better.

492
00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:12,119
Speaker 7: Okay, Yeah, it's just difficult to watch for some reason

493
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Speaker 7: this season.

494
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Speaker 4: I'm like not emotionally invested in any of them for

495
00:22:15,560 --> 00:22:18,119
Speaker 4: some reason, I know me, and it's like they're coupling up,

496
00:22:18,200 --> 00:22:20,880
Speaker 4: so I'm like happy that it's working, but yet I'm

497
00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:23,480
Speaker 4: not like emotionally invested in one single couple.

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Speaker 6: I have no I agree, but are we Are they

499
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Speaker 6: coupling up because that's what you have to do to

500
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Speaker 6: stay on the show, or are they coupling up.

501
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Speaker 4: Because really what it feels like because I don't feel

502
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Speaker 4: like love. I just like I'm like, they're all just

503
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Speaker 4: making out everywhere.

504
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Speaker 8: Well it's like a game right away, Like they hopped

505
00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:42,560
Speaker 8: in so hardcore, so fast. Yeah, they feel like super genuine.

506
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Speaker 6: But does anyone ever tell you look like Michelle Williams

507
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Speaker 6: all the time.

508
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Speaker 5: Yeah it's kind of crazy.

509
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Speaker 4: Actually yeah it is all the time.

510
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Speaker 8: I wish I had her career, but I'm just a bachelor.

511
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Speaker 4: Super fans, you should audition to be her stunt double kid.

512
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Speaker 7: Yeah and not no for real, I know, except I

513
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Speaker 7: can't do stunts. A WEENI scared of everything.

514
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Speaker 6: Maybe he's just.

515
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Speaker 8: Yeah, okay, I mean it were if all else fails.

516
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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, you've got a lot going on. It's

517
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Speaker 6: not like you're just sitting around at home.

518
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Speaker 8: Well yeah, trying to catch up on the Bachelor of Paradise.

519
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Speaker 6: So this book we were talking earlier, it's pretty much

520
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Speaker 6: every thirty year old's life right now.

521
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Speaker 4: It's called thirty Life Crisis.

522
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Speaker 6: It is.

523
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Speaker 7: It's all about things people never warned me about about

524
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Speaker 7: the thirties, Like you always heard about the quarter life crisis.

525
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Speaker 7: It's like the chicken soup for the quarter life crisis.

526
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Speaker 7: And my quarter life I was just like blackout, drunk,

527
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Speaker 7: having a great time.

528
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Speaker 6: Yeah.

529
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Speaker 8: And then I entered thirties and I was like, can I.

530
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Speaker 5: Cuss, that's just be yourself.

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Speaker 7: I was so like surprised by how difficult, Like half

532
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Speaker 7: my friends quickly got married and started having kids, half

533
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Speaker 7: of them were still partying, and I was like in

534
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Speaker 7: the middle, yeah, and it was it's been a mental mind.

535
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Speaker 6: Yeah, no, totally.

536
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Speaker 4: It's so interesting because it's like you have these friends,

537
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Speaker 4: Like I have friends that are in their thirties and

538
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Speaker 4: they're like married, having multiple children. And then I have

539
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Speaker 4: friends in their thirties that are still single, and then

540
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Speaker 4: some attack. It's like it's like a wide spectrum. And

541
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Speaker 4: then I have some friends that are super young. But

542
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Speaker 4: I'm like, I mean, I'm kind of friends with you

543
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Speaker 4: because I have to keep up in the you know

544
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Speaker 4: what I mean, I have to keep going out. I'm like,

545
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Speaker 4: do you know what I mean, I'm sick, right.

546
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Speaker 3: Yeah.

547
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Speaker 7: It's like, don't you find it kind of challenging because

548
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Speaker 7: there's all these I just read an article today that

549
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Speaker 7: drove me nuts about like it was like what people

550
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Speaker 7: when people think we should be married by and it

551
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Speaker 7: said twenty seven, And I was like, are you kidding?

552
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Speaker 7: At twenty seven, I was a mess, Like I can't

553
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Speaker 7: even imagine. I don't I the person I was dating

554
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Speaker 7: at age twenty seven would be a terrible partner for me.

555
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Speaker 7: That kind of stuff, though, like really starts to wear

556
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Speaker 7: and tear on you when society says you're supposed to

557
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Speaker 7: do it this certain way and you're like on a

558
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Speaker 7: whole different path.

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Speaker 4: I had like a moment I was coming back from

560
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Speaker 4: a baby shower in Texas and all of my girlfriends

561
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Speaker 4: from college, all my best friends are married and most

562
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Speaker 4: of them have had children at this point and still single,

563
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Speaker 4: and uh, we had her shower in Texas, and I

564
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Speaker 4: remember being on the plane back to LA and I

565
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:14,320
Speaker 4: was so, I'm not sad about my state of season

566
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Speaker 4: of life, but in that moment, this was a few

567
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Speaker 4: years ago, I was so sad, Like I will never

568
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Speaker 4: forget that plane ride because it was one of the

569
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Speaker 4: saddest plane ride I remember that. You really, I went

570
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Speaker 4: so dark because it was the same weekend that my

571
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Speaker 4: ex ex, the one that like gutted me, got married

572
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Speaker 4: as well. So it was just like this plethora of

573
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Speaker 4: emotion going through and like it is, it's it's such

574
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Speaker 4: a mind because you're just like constantly feeling like you

575
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Speaker 4: I don't feel this pressure, but then I feel the

576
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Speaker 4: pressure Like I don't think I'm out the place where

577
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Speaker 4: I need to, Like I don't I don't need to

578
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Speaker 4: be getting married right now, but I feel like I

579
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Speaker 4: need to getting married right now. So it's like this

580
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Speaker 4: weird thing in your head.

581
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Speaker 7: Yeah, absolutely, So I just want to remind people like

582
00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:56,600
Speaker 7: you're allowed to do it your own way. And I

583
00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 7: feel like more and more now that's happening. But this

584
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Speaker 7: is sciety standards still seem pretty like old school.

585
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Speaker 6: So well, it's funny because I do the same thing.

586
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:07,880
Speaker 6: I'm like, I'm like in a happy place. I don't

587
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:09,960
Speaker 6: feel this pressure to get married. I don't feel this

588
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:11,960
Speaker 6: pressure to have kids. And then we have like a

589
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:14,680
Speaker 6: very active Facebook group for the podcast, and I get

590
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:16,639
Speaker 6: on there and they like post a lot of their like,

591
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Speaker 6: you know, they post a lot of things that they

592
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Speaker 6: want advice on and it gets deep a lot of

593
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Speaker 6: the times, and I'll read some of them and I'm like,

594
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Speaker 6: should I be thinking about these too, I'd be freezing

595
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Speaker 6: my eggs.

596
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Speaker 8: Should be like, oh that conversation.

597
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Speaker 7: Oh every time I go to the doctor and they

598
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Speaker 7: tell me I should freeze my eggs and it it

599
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Speaker 7: takes me for a dark.

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Speaker 4: You go to my doctor, my doctor is like chillin.

601
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Speaker 4: She's like, you do not even need to like go

602
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Speaker 4: I was gonna go to a specialist to see just

603
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Speaker 4: because I think it's important. You don't have to be

604
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Speaker 4: like I'm gonna freeze my eggs. It's like, let's see

605
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Speaker 4: if I've got a lot of eggs to work with first,

606
00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 4: so you can go to a specialist. And my doctor

607
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 4: was like, you don't even need to go there right now.

608
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Speaker 7: Give me her infile or his mpile. She please, Yes, Yeah,

609
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Speaker 7: it just drives me to drink more.

610
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Speaker 8: So all my eggs are drunk.

611
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Speaker 6: I don't know, they're drunk, something around in the direction

612
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Speaker 6: they're going Outyeah.

613
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Speaker 4: But it's true, like I was reading on the back

614
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Speaker 4: of your book, or it says like gender revealed parties,

615
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:12,200
Speaker 4: that's an actual thing now, And it's like there's so

616
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Speaker 4: many things. I feel like I've gone to so many

617
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:18,480
Speaker 4: things for like weddings and bridle showers and bacherettes and

618
00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:22,560
Speaker 4: baby showers and gender reveals and like toe reveals and

619
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Speaker 4: like all of these.

620
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Speaker 8: But I don't know.

621
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Speaker 7: She's like, there's always something like how much money have

622
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Speaker 7: you spent a night?

623
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Speaker 6: It's insane.

624
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Speaker 8: They should pay us back, I really think so.

625
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:33,960
Speaker 7: Or the people that are not getting divorced and you

626
00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 7: like bought gifts for them, Like, I feel like you

627
00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 7: should get them back.

628
00:27:37,000 --> 00:27:37,680
Speaker 8: It's not fair.

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Speaker 5: Are you're you're currently in a relationship. I am, Yeah,

630
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Speaker 5: a healthy, happy, really happy healthy.

631
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Speaker 7: Which is funny because I wrote this book. It's been

632
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Speaker 7: like a two year process. So I went through a

633
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Speaker 7: breakup during the book, and like the book encompasses my

634
00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:53,680
Speaker 7: single life. But then like right after I finished, I

635
00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 7: met my boyfriend.

636
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Speaker 8: So now I have to re read my book and

637
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Speaker 8: ask me all these questions on Bumble.

638
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Speaker 4: We old fashioned, the old fashioned.

639
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Speaker 8: It's really like the way I don't know, I don't

640
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 8: go off that much, so it's like hard to make okay.

641
00:28:10,680 --> 00:28:12,119
Speaker 4: But this is actually good because a lot of our

642
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:15,240
Speaker 4: Facebook group are in like are in the dating apps,

643
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:16,920
Speaker 4: and they like don't know what to say or what's

644
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:17,720
Speaker 4: a good opening line?

645
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:18,919
Speaker 6: What did you use?

646
00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:22,159
Speaker 5: What was your pickup line? Because bumble girls go first.

647
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Speaker 6: You know what?

648
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:25,640
Speaker 8: I screenshot it, but I don't remember. I always try

649
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:27,880
Speaker 8: to like to make a joke, oh joke, Oh never

650
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:29,720
Speaker 8: a Hey, I'm not a Hay kind of girl.

651
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:33,040
Speaker 7: I have to, like, I like to take the bowl

652
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 7: by the horns and make a joke something personalized to

653
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Speaker 7: like their profile.

654
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:40,560
Speaker 8: Yeah, like if they can keep up with the wit,

655
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Speaker 8: then we're good.

656
00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 5: That's this girl.

657
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Speaker 8: Yeah, are you a Hay girl?

658
00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:46,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, she's like happy Saturday.

659
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Speaker 1: Mathry by the.

660
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Speaker 4: Way, Yeah, Matthew Perry, like.

661
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Speaker 8: Quack I saw Rayah.

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Speaker 6: Did he respond?

663
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Speaker 8: Okay? So I signed up for Riah for the first time.

664
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Speaker 8: This is like a long time ago.

665
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Speaker 7: He was the first person I matched with and I

666
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:07,720
Speaker 7: had a very bizarre conversation.

667
00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:11,680
Speaker 4: I wonder we should compare. No, I deleted it since

668
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Speaker 4: I don't think I did too. That is, if you

669
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Speaker 4: screenshot and I got no gotten flagged.

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Speaker 8: I was like, oh sorry, oh my god, that's hope

671
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Speaker 8: we will compare.

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Speaker 1: He never responded.

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Speaker 4: He no, I don't think I had. I didn't have

674
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:29,720
Speaker 4: any open dialogue with Matthew Perry.

675
00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:30,720
Speaker 1: Oh I've got.

676
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 8: Stories, but I won't say it.

677
00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 6: You guys have to happy Saturday?

678
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:34,080
Speaker 1: Did not?

679
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 6: Yeah?

680
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:36,040
Speaker 4: Did you ever meet him?

681
00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 6: Out of a bit? Oh?

682
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:36,760
Speaker 1: No?

683
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 4: No, no, no, just talking on the Yeah, okay.

684
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:39,240
Speaker 8: It got weird.

685
00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 1: Did you ever meet Josh Grobin on there?

686
00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:41,560
Speaker 3: No?

687
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 6: Did you? How did you go?

688
00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:45,000
Speaker 5: That was actually good?

689
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 4: That one pretty far.

690
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 1: I did because we all helped her with her responses,

691
00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:51,440
Speaker 1: correct with their responses, and then the second she was

692
00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 1: left on her own.

693
00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:55,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, we're like, asked my question like a Saturday, and

694
00:29:55,520 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 4: I was like, like, nobody's around me to help.

695
00:29:58,400 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 8: So did you just write happy Saturday?

696
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:02,800
Speaker 4: I was gonna just wait till Monday, like when I

697
00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:04,400
Speaker 4: got back to work and I could ask for help,

698
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 4: and I was like, you know what, I got this

699
00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:07,200
Speaker 4: modern woman.

700
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:09,400
Speaker 8: I could do this, you know, and then like literally

701
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 8: I sent it and just cricket, that's so funny.

702
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 4: You're so cute. It was so benign too, Like it

703
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:18,479
Speaker 4: wasn't an aggressive move. It wasn't like let's meet up

704
00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 4: or anything.

705
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:19,880
Speaker 8: He's missing out.

706
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 4: Thank you so much.

707
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 8: I think so too.

708
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:23,959
Speaker 5: You're like, hey, here's my number, what's yours?

709
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:26,040
Speaker 6: So weird he didn't respond.

710
00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:29,000
Speaker 4: What is your current address?

711
00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 6: That's weird.

712
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:31,800
Speaker 4: I didn't get her response.

713
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 6: So your advice to people in the dating apps is

714
00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:38,920
Speaker 6: just witty, funny, not don't take yourself too seriously.

715
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 7: Yeah, and be yourself because if it doesn't work, then

716
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 7: that's not the person for you. You know, like we're

717
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:46,400
Speaker 7: always trying to do it perfect, but like that doesn't work.

718
00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:49,320
Speaker 4: You know, Like, well that's the thing when ton be yourself,

719
00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:50,800
Speaker 4: because it's like if I were to open up with

720
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 4: a joke, I can't keep that up. I'm not a jokester. Well,

721
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:54,680
Speaker 4: that's what I was saying.

722
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:57,720
Speaker 6: The thing with Tanya is like we all collectively do

723
00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:00,560
Speaker 6: help her when she asked, or even when she doesn't ask.

724
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 6: But the whole thing is like, you have to be

725
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:06,120
Speaker 6: who you are because that's who they're going to be

726
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 6: dating eventually.

727
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:10,440
Speaker 4: You can't hide it for two Yeah, no, you really can't.

728
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:11,320
Speaker 8: It comes out right.

729
00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 1: If you're going on a date with Josh Groban, you

730
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 1: couldn't bring the whole staff along.

731
00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:15,800
Speaker 8: Could you imagine?

732
00:31:17,040 --> 00:31:17,840
Speaker 6: Could Actually.

733
00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:21,240
Speaker 4: We probably could have made that work somehow.

734
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:23,760
Speaker 8: That'd be a great podcast. He should do that. But

735
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:24,960
Speaker 8: I'm recovered dating.

736
00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:28,880
Speaker 6: On your book, there's a part that says, discovering that

737
00:31:28,960 --> 00:31:30,240
Speaker 6: your boyfriend likes boys.

738
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:33,760
Speaker 8: Oh, yeah, that's what you want to know. We all

739
00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:34,160
Speaker 8: want to know.

740
00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:35,000
Speaker 3: Uh.

741
00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 7: Yeah, I was in a very public relationship, which we

742
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:40,840
Speaker 7: were talking about for almost four.

743
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:42,760
Speaker 4: Years, meaning he's a public figure.

744
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 8: He is his name Shane Dawson. He's a huge YouTuber

745
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:48,080
Speaker 8: and that was my boyfriend for four years.

746
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:49,200
Speaker 1: Why do I know that?

747
00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:49,800
Speaker 7: Yeah?

748
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:52,240
Speaker 5: I talk about what do you do?

749
00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:58,080
Speaker 6: Yeah? But I only just started watching his like conspiracy

750
00:31:58,320 --> 00:31:59,160
Speaker 6: videos and all that.

751
00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:02,640
Speaker 8: Yeah, he wrote forward to the book, I took his

752
00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 8: virginity and then he came out of closet.

753
00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:07,440
Speaker 4: So think about what that did too.

754
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:08,480
Speaker 1: My mind.

755
00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:12,680
Speaker 8: So that's when therapy really kicked in strong.

756
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 1: Yeah.

757
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:17,840
Speaker 7: No, So we had a very public online relationship for

758
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:20,960
Speaker 7: four years. For four years, people loved us as a couple.

759
00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:23,760
Speaker 7: We had merchandise, we lived together, and it was all

760
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 7: very genuine. I mean really, we grew so much together,

761
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:31,680
Speaker 7: just as in our twenties. And I think I turned

762
00:32:31,720 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 7: thirty during that relationship. So and then things weren't going

763
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:39,720
Speaker 7: very well, just like normal relationships, and he was going

764
00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:43,280
Speaker 7: through a lot, and so we split. But we pretended

765
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 7: to have a relationship for a full year because we

766
00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:50,840
Speaker 7: weren't really done, Like we hadn't figured out really and

767
00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 7: we like just loved each other so much. And I

768
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 7: talked about this extensively in the book, But so we Yeah,

769
00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 7: we kind of faked a relationship for a year, which

770
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:02,200
Speaker 7: was devastating and horrible. But we wanted to process everything

771
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:05,520
Speaker 7: before we went public because we knew how that was

772
00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:05,920
Speaker 7: going to go.

773
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 8: And it was really scary.

774
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:08,880
Speaker 7: It was scary, and I hated that I had to

775
00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:12,600
Speaker 7: process what it would do to my social to my work.

776
00:33:13,320 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 4: Isn't that such an interesting element.

777
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 8: That It's not fair?

778
00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:21,520
Speaker 7: It was so much to process just the breakup and

779
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:23,160
Speaker 7: then oh my god, what is this going to do

780
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 7: to my YouTube channel? Which felt like a really selfish

781
00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 7: thing to have to think about, but it was also

782
00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 7: my life business. And then towards the end of that year,

783
00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:35,959
Speaker 7: he came out to me as bisexual, and so then

784
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:38,880
Speaker 7: I had to process that. And then he decided to

785
00:33:38,920 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 7: make a video and go public with everything, and that

786
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:44,480
Speaker 7: was difficult for me because there wasn't a lot of

787
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 7: warning that that was going to happen.

788
00:33:46,360 --> 00:33:48,760
Speaker 8: But in the end, it all worked out. But it's

789
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:52,680
Speaker 8: in the book very detailed. It's a lot.

790
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:54,560
Speaker 7: But now we're best friends and everything's great, and he's

791
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 7: engaged to a man who's lovely, and I've met someone

792
00:33:57,520 --> 00:33:58,200
Speaker 7: that's lovely, so.

793
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:02,040
Speaker 8: But at the time it was heavy, Oh my god.

794
00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:04,480
Speaker 6: Well, I on a much smaller scale, because I know,

795
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 6: like YouTube couples, it's like this insane fandom that people

796
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:14,200
Speaker 6: are obsessed. They're obsessed with you individually, but then together

797
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 6: it's like this powerhouse.

798
00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:18,280
Speaker 8: Don't you think that's the bad? It feels very similar

799
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:19,279
Speaker 8: to the Bachelor World.

800
00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 6: Yeah, and I remember, I mean, I still do feel

801
00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 6: like it is a smaller scale, But my last relationship

802
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:28,920
Speaker 6: was really public, and I remember processing knowing that it

803
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:33,359
Speaker 6: wasn't working and being like, am I gonna let people?

804
00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:36,480
Speaker 6: People are gonna be disappointed? Like what's gonna happen?

805
00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:37,400
Speaker 5: Are they gonna?

806
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 6: Are they gonna like still care about what I'm doing

807
00:34:40,680 --> 00:34:43,919
Speaker 6: without having a significant other to post about. And it's

808
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:46,239
Speaker 6: like weird because I remember actually having that thought, being

809
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:49,320
Speaker 6: like this is so weird that I'm even considering this

810
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:52,480
Speaker 6: when my heart is like in someone else's heart.

811
00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:55,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, is involved, but it is.

812
00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 6: It's a it's a pressure on there that's you already

813
00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:01,600
Speaker 6: feel this pressure. Then on top of that it's a heavy,

814
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:02,839
Speaker 6: heavy thing.

815
00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's wild. But it turned out okay. And like

816
00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:10,520
Speaker 7: our fans were so kind, like so kind and supportive

817
00:35:10,560 --> 00:35:13,319
Speaker 7: of both of us. So I worried for a whole

818
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:14,840
Speaker 7: year and it turned out okay.

819
00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:16,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, Like it's funny if you were to

820
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:19,840
Speaker 4: go back and when you guys realized that you the

821
00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:22,840
Speaker 4: relationship was over, do you wish she would have done differently?

822
00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:23,440
Speaker 6: No?

823
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:25,080
Speaker 8: I think we did us.

824
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:27,799
Speaker 7: I think we loved each other so much on such

825
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:30,120
Speaker 7: like a family level, which sounds kind of gross, but

826
00:35:30,320 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 7: like that we were just we we couldn't process how

827
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:36,560
Speaker 7: to split without splitting.

828
00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 6: Do you know what I mean.

829
00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:40,040
Speaker 7: Yeah, because we wanted to be in each other's lives.

830
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:42,719
Speaker 7: We knew that for a fact, but we needed to

831
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:45,319
Speaker 7: navigate how that would work. Yeah, And so I think

832
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:46,080
Speaker 7: it was just a time.

833
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 8: It just took time.

834
00:35:47,200 --> 00:35:51,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, And in hindsight, it didn't affect your YouTube like nothing.

835
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:53,840
Speaker 7: I mean, there's trolls out there that I remember, like

836
00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:56,080
Speaker 7: reading that night that he made the video, like oh,

837
00:35:56,200 --> 00:35:58,839
Speaker 7: there goes her, Like relative like now she's not gonna

838
00:35:58,840 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 7: be relevant anymore.

839
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:02,200
Speaker 8: And I just like, of course, like you're gonna get

840
00:36:02,600 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 8: of course, And he's always going to be more popular

841
00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:06,759
Speaker 8: because he's the king of YouTube and he's brilliant, you know.

842
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:08,800
Speaker 1: So I don't know.

843
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:12,839
Speaker 7: I'm still here. I'm still doing YouTube, So I guess

844
00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 7: I'm doing okay.

845
00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:17,440
Speaker 6: I think you're just fine with that. But I love

846
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:21,800
Speaker 6: that you're able to maintain a cordial like split. And

847
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:25,160
Speaker 6: then he's literally wrote the forward for your book. Yeah.

848
00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:27,640
Speaker 8: So it's kind of full circle and beautiful and wonderful

849
00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:29,799
Speaker 8: and it's life yeah wow.

850
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:32,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I are in a thriving relationship.

851
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:35,759
Speaker 7: And now I'm gonna thriving. And he loves women, just women,

852
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:40,000
Speaker 7: just so many times at the beginning.

853
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 8: Like not, it's totally cool if he like wants to experiment,

854
00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:46,680
Speaker 8: but I let me know now I can't do that again.

855
00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:47,120
Speaker 6: I know.

856
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:51,040
Speaker 4: I bet that's probably very traumatizing.

857
00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:54,720
Speaker 7: Yeah, it kind of made me feel like because obviously

858
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:59,799
Speaker 7: we were having some like issues in our sex life,

859
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:00,840
Speaker 7: and it made me.

860
00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:04,120
Speaker 8: Feel like am I underdesirable? Am I not sexy?

861
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:06,160
Speaker 7: And like it definitely did like a mental thing for

862
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:08,040
Speaker 7: me that I was quickly able to then be like,

863
00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:09,799
Speaker 7: oh no, this is a separate thing.

864
00:37:10,080 --> 00:37:10,279
Speaker 1: Yeah.

865
00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:13,279
Speaker 6: Yeah, I was gonna say, I almost going through those

866
00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:15,520
Speaker 6: feelings of wondering like am I not good enough?

867
00:37:15,560 --> 00:37:17,239
Speaker 5: Does he not find me attractive? And then having that

868
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:19,719
Speaker 5: realization of it's not me.

869
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:22,880
Speaker 8: Yeah, that's hard though, I know, but I.

870
00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:26,600
Speaker 4: Think we always take things like from our past relationships.

871
00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:28,560
Speaker 4: We bring them, like those insecurities and those things that

872
00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:31,960
Speaker 4: happen into our new relationships. Course it's like a given.

873
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 8: Yeah, it's so hard not to.

874
00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:36,120
Speaker 7: But it's if you can be self aware about it

875
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:39,920
Speaker 7: and actually have that conversation with your partner, then that

876
00:37:40,080 --> 00:37:42,799
Speaker 7: leads to like such a beautiful relationship because it's like, listen,

877
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:43,680
Speaker 7: this is what I'm going through.

878
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 8: These are my insecurities and that way.

879
00:37:46,080 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 7: Like if something comes up, he or she could be like,

880
00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 7: we've talked about this, that's just your insecurity, that's not

881
00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 7: the reality. So I think being open about those things

882
00:37:54,600 --> 00:37:57,080
Speaker 7: instead of trying to like shove them down right.

883
00:37:57,200 --> 00:38:00,239
Speaker 6: Yeah, does your boyfriend current boyfriend have any interest and

884
00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:01,960
Speaker 6: like being a part of what you do? Or is

885
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:03,759
Speaker 6: he does? Does he do his own thing?

886
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 7: And he's a comedian, He does stand up and he

887
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 7: teaches at the ground Leans. He's very funny, but he

888
00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 7: doesn't like want to have a YouTube channel, thank god,

889
00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:14,880
Speaker 7: but he'll be in mine like once.

890
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:16,400
Speaker 8: In a while, so he's like open to being a

891
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:19,760
Speaker 8: part of It's like the perfect you know version.

892
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:23,719
Speaker 7: Yeah, Like my prior boyfriend was like hated being on

893
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:25,600
Speaker 7: camera and was like mad every time I turned it on,

894
00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:26,759
Speaker 7: So that wasn't kind of work.

895
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:29,160
Speaker 8: This is a nice commonweah.

896
00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:31,759
Speaker 6: Yeah, you have to have someone who's like at least

897
00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 6: supports and like understands what you do, even if they

898
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:36,760
Speaker 6: don't like need to be a part of everything.

899
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:38,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, but they're willing to be if you need them

900
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Speaker 8: Little bit of their own life too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Wow, well is he from here?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 8: He's from New York.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, cute, so cute.

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Speaker 6: Tanya.

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Speaker 5: Tanya is in the well, she's dating right.

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Speaker 4: Now, dating. How is it going good? Really good?

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Speaker 3: See it?

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Speaker 8: Also change that totally totally your foot my boyfriend wore.

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Speaker 7: He's gonna be so mad that I told a story,

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Speaker 7: I tell him the book to he When I first

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Speaker 6: It under the bed.

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Speaker 1: We don't know, that's the thing. We don't know. Yes,

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Speaker 1: we lost without you.

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Speaker 6: Right, you know. I think is a great example of

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Speaker 6: really sensitive to sound like that are made with with

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Speaker 6: the mouth, like smacking noises, chewing misophobia. Yeah, I have it.

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Speaker 5: So I was with my significant other the other day

1036
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Speaker 5: and we were in the car and.

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Speaker 6: I got pretzel bites at them all yesterday, which is

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1040
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1041
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Speaker 6: went and got pretzel bites because that was going to

1042
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Speaker 6: help the problem. But it did make me feel great.

1043
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Speaker 6: I felt so much better. I was like whatever, yeah,

1044
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Speaker 6: because they were fresh, an.

1045
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:44,839
Speaker 1: We're in the car, like she smelled something.

1046
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Speaker 5: It's like fake.

1047
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:50,360
Speaker 4: Pretzel.

1048
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Speaker 1: Tried a pretzel bite, you would love it.

1049
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Speaker 5: It's fake to stain, I didn't eat one.

1050
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Speaker 1: It's not going to kill you.

1051
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, but like I would rather if I'm

1052
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Speaker 4: gonna eat, Like if if somebody was like, I need

1053
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Speaker 4: you to eat like a complex carb, I'd be like.

1054
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Speaker 6: No one's for this is just offering a fresh pretzel

1055
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:08,120
Speaker 6: bite and you're gonna love it, and you're gonna be like,

1056
00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:09,000
Speaker 6: this is delirious.

1057
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Speaker 1: And by the way, I probably was with you at

1058
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Speaker 1: one point, Yain, that's not interesting because I don't like

1059
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Speaker 1: big soft pretzels. Different.

1060
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Speaker 6: So it's a big and I'm holding up about to

1061
00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:21,920
Speaker 6: maybe an inch and a half of them to point

1062
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Speaker 6: her fingers, and they're perfectly buttered and perfectly salted, and

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Speaker 6: I literally watch her take them out and put them

1064
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Speaker 6: into the little so they were They're unparalleled.

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Speaker 5: So anyways, we're in the car and I hear this

1066
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Speaker 5: loowed chewing.

1067
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Speaker 6: It wasn't the mouth was closed, so it was just

1068
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Speaker 6: a pure chew chew, And I was about to lose

1069
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Speaker 6: my mind, and I was thinking I was like having

1070
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Speaker 6: to breathe through it and say anything. Yeah, I mean

1071
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Speaker 6: it was acknowledged, but like I didn't want to be me,

1072
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Speaker 6: you know, like it's some like it'd be different if

1073
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Speaker 6: if the mouth was open, but the mouth was closed,

1074
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Speaker 6: so like, what are you supposed to do? At that point,

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Speaker 6: I literally just sat and said after I acknowledge it.

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Speaker 4: I was like, well, how did you acknowledge it?

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Speaker 6: I was like that sun, that sound is overwhelming to me,

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Speaker 6: and we started laughing, and I thought it would get better,

1079
00:47:26,040 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 6: or maybe there would be a more gentle version of

1080
00:47:28,719 --> 00:47:32,360
Speaker 6: the chew, but it didn't get better. I called I

1081
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Speaker 6: was calling a nail salon, trying to make a point

1082
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Speaker 6: an appointment, and I couldn't fococus because of the chewing,

1083
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Speaker 6: And I was like, this is something that could end relationships?

1084
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Speaker 4: Isn't it weird? But like random things irk your pickle? Yes,

1085
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Speaker 4: it's so funny to me because I could care less.

1086
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Speaker 4: I don't think I would ever pick up on somebody's chewing,

1087
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Speaker 4: but I'm sure there's way other weird things that likerk.

1088
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Speaker 6: What do you pick up on?

1089
00:48:01,080 --> 00:48:03,520
Speaker 4: But I'm trying to think of like other things that

1090
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Speaker 4: annoy people, like they'll come, they'll come.

1091
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Speaker 3: I was.

1092
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Speaker 4: No snort.

1093
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Speaker 6: It could end relationship?

1094
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Speaker 4: That would that would be bad?

1095
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Speaker 3: Is it?

1096
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Speaker 4: How can you can you imitate? Come on? Give us,

1097
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Speaker 4: give us a actually the video play the audio.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever dated some of the snore?

1099
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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 1: And is it driven you crazy?

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Speaker 4: Crazy? Is I'm a light Like the tiniest thing can

1102
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Speaker 4: wake me up, Like if I'm sleeping in my shower,

1103
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Speaker 4: like just drips a little bit, I'll hear it and

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Speaker 4: I'll have to shut the door.

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Speaker 6: So it used to be like woud and like mouth

1106
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Speaker 6: open both it happened, and now it's more and this doesn't.

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Speaker 6: It was happening like consistently every night, and now it's

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Speaker 6: like it's you know, only certain times that's like, oh

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Speaker 6: you'ring not back or.

1110
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Speaker 5: Gave me PTSD.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, but then sometimes it's like that's gentle and it's

1112
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Speaker 6: like just like.

1113
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Speaker 4: A like me gentle one.

1114
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Speaker 6: I can't know.

1115
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Speaker 5: It's something like that.

1116
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Speaker 4: Okay, I can handle that.

1117
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Speaker 5: Yeah that's fine because I can sleep through that.

1118
00:49:21,600 --> 00:49:24,400
Speaker 4: But like that, do you snore?

1119
00:49:25,200 --> 00:49:28,680
Speaker 6: No? I only snore when I'm like exhausted. But like

1120
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:30,080
Speaker 6: I'm not a consistent snore.

1121
00:49:30,200 --> 00:49:30,600
Speaker 4: I won't.

1122
00:49:33,520 --> 00:49:36,360
Speaker 6: I feel like signor just sits up and watches your

1123
00:49:36,400 --> 00:49:38,920
Speaker 6: story is like what do I do? That's why I

1124
00:49:39,320 --> 00:49:41,360
Speaker 6: nast I have the conversation because.

1125
00:49:42,800 --> 00:49:46,120
Speaker 4: I don't know sure and I talk in my sleep.

1126
00:49:46,520 --> 00:49:48,840
Speaker 2: That's that's something else has been complaining about all. She

1127
00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:50,560
Speaker 2: wants me to get a sea pat machine to stop

1128
00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:53,200
Speaker 2: both of those major commitment.

1129
00:49:53,760 --> 00:49:54,160
Speaker 6: What is that?

1130
00:49:54,920 --> 00:49:57,759
Speaker 2: It's like it's for people have like sleep apnea, like

1131
00:49:57,800 --> 00:50:00,520
Speaker 2: where you're like you choke in your sleep pretty much,

1132
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:02,560
Speaker 2: and it helps like regulate your breathing, but it can

1133
00:50:02,600 --> 00:50:03,440
Speaker 2: help with like intensity.

1134
00:50:03,440 --> 00:50:05,000
Speaker 1: And it's like a Darth Vader mask. I mean it's

1135
00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 1: huge exactly. It's like it's like this big mask. There's

1136
00:50:07,719 --> 00:50:10,759
Speaker 1: like equipment you have to holler around with you. I

1137
00:50:10,760 --> 00:50:12,160
Speaker 1: don't want to take that if I.

1138
00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:16,600
Speaker 5: Don't have to nothing like the hanky panky, excuse me.

1139
00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:17,959
Speaker 1: We're gonna take off my mask?

1140
00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:23,000
Speaker 6: God?

1141
00:50:23,239 --> 00:50:26,480
Speaker 1: Should we get to these emails? Yes from anonymous?

1142
00:50:26,760 --> 00:50:26,880
Speaker 3: Uh?

1143
00:50:27,040 --> 00:50:29,280
Speaker 1: And they always says that's nice things in these emails.

1144
00:50:29,360 --> 00:50:31,200
Speaker 1: But they love the show and they feel like Tanya

1145
00:50:31,239 --> 00:50:33,440
Speaker 1: Becker are so true to themselves. She loves how honest

1146
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:34,960
Speaker 1: and raw you are when you open up and share

1147
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:37,600
Speaker 1: about your life. Anyway, she's asking for advice on how

1148
00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:40,680
Speaker 1: not to get advice from her friends. Sometimes her friends

1149
00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:42,959
Speaker 1: her opinions and advice about her relationship that she didn't

1150
00:50:42,960 --> 00:50:45,160
Speaker 1: ask for. And it's not always nice. One of my

1151
00:50:45,200 --> 00:50:47,440
Speaker 1: friends is always real stand auforship about my boyfriend. But

1152
00:50:47,480 --> 00:50:49,879
Speaker 1: it's not because of anything she did. He just isn't

1153
00:50:49,880 --> 00:50:52,600
Speaker 1: the type of guy she would date. My boyfriend's amazing.

1154
00:50:52,680 --> 00:50:54,800
Speaker 1: He treats me well. I never complain. How do I

1155
00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 1: get them to stop giving me their negative input?

1156
00:50:58,239 --> 00:51:01,520
Speaker 4: Stop being friends with them? Oh, I means dressed.

1157
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:05,000
Speaker 6: I mean.

1158
00:51:06,360 --> 00:51:08,960
Speaker 4: Everyone's going to give you an opinion, no matter what

1159
00:51:09,200 --> 00:51:10,960
Speaker 4: I feel like, in every aspect of your life. Like,

1160
00:51:11,080 --> 00:51:14,800
Speaker 4: everyone has an opinion about everything. That's what we're in

1161
00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:17,719
Speaker 4: the age of opinionisms.

1162
00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:17,160
Speaker 3: I know.

1163
00:51:17,239 --> 00:51:19,640
Speaker 1: But is there a way to stop them from sharing them?

1164
00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:21,080
Speaker 1: Because like, if you're.

1165
00:51:21,400 --> 00:51:24,960
Speaker 5: The thing is, unless I say, what's your opinion about this?

1166
00:51:25,480 --> 00:51:26,560
Speaker 5: Don't say it if it's not.

1167
00:51:26,680 --> 00:51:29,200
Speaker 1: Nice, similar, there's no way. Like somebody says, hell, yeah

1168
00:51:29,239 --> 00:51:32,880
Speaker 1: it's great meeting, Uh you know senior butterfly the other day,

1169
00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 1: Yeah it was great. Yeah, you need to buy the

1170
00:51:34,520 --> 00:51:37,800
Speaker 1: way you need to talk to him about his his beard.

1171
00:51:37,880 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 1: It just doesn't work or whatever. I don't think there's

1172
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:43,040
Speaker 1: no way for you to say I didn't ask you

1173
00:51:43,120 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 1: for your opinion without causing a real problem, right right,

1174
00:51:46,520 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 1: I would not like that. This is a dilemma. I

1175
00:51:48,080 --> 00:51:48,800
Speaker 1: don't know what you should do.

1176
00:51:48,960 --> 00:51:51,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, I like that I have.

1177
00:51:51,760 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 6: I feel like I've had to have this conversation or

1178
00:51:54,040 --> 00:51:57,560
Speaker 6: just like had it in general of being like, especially

1179
00:51:57,640 --> 00:51:59,719
Speaker 6: if he's a great guy and treats her well, i'd

1180
00:51:59,760 --> 00:52:02,319
Speaker 6: be if he was like, you know, come back, yes,

1181
00:52:02,440 --> 00:52:06,239
Speaker 6: come back. But I think she should say, Hey, I

1182
00:52:06,400 --> 00:52:08,799
Speaker 6: know that you love me and you want the best

1183
00:52:08,840 --> 00:52:10,920
Speaker 6: for me, but I'm really happy I'm with someone who

1184
00:52:11,000 --> 00:52:14,080
Speaker 6: treats me well, and your comments make me not want

1185
00:52:14,239 --> 00:52:17,279
Speaker 6: to be around you as much because I don't want

1186
00:52:17,280 --> 00:52:19,680
Speaker 6: to hear negative things about someone the person that I love.

1187
00:52:20,239 --> 00:52:21,920
Speaker 6: And I think you say you can say it in

1188
00:52:21,960 --> 00:52:25,120
Speaker 6: a very nice way, that's very respectful, But I think

1189
00:52:25,239 --> 00:52:27,480
Speaker 6: you owe it to yourself and to your significant other

1190
00:52:27,600 --> 00:52:30,680
Speaker 6: who's great to you, to stand up for yourself and

1191
00:52:30,760 --> 00:52:31,600
Speaker 6: your relationship.

1192
00:52:31,880 --> 00:52:34,040
Speaker 1: Is there anything to the fact that maybe he is

1193
00:52:34,120 --> 00:52:36,359
Speaker 1: a scumbag and she hasn't figured that out yet, Because

1194
00:52:36,400 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 1: your friends sometimes know best not.

1195
00:52:38,760 --> 00:52:41,799
Speaker 4: Always true, it could be a possibility or.

1196
00:52:41,800 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 1: Any reason for her to kind of open herself up

1197
00:52:43,520 --> 00:52:45,520
Speaker 1: to their opinions. Or is that just gonna sabotage what

1198
00:52:45,600 --> 00:52:46,279
Speaker 1: could be a good thing.

1199
00:52:46,520 --> 00:52:48,680
Speaker 6: I mean, I think yeah, take a look at your

1200
00:52:48,719 --> 00:52:52,080
Speaker 6: relationship and what she's saying and see if it rings true,

1201
00:52:52,160 --> 00:52:54,040
Speaker 6: if you really take a deep look. But if not,

1202
00:52:55,320 --> 00:52:58,680
Speaker 6: then I think you should just politely say buzz.

1203
00:52:58,480 --> 00:53:03,759
Speaker 4: Off, yeah, or just like not let it affect you.

1204
00:53:03,840 --> 00:53:05,759
Speaker 4: And I know that's really hard to say. It's a

1205
00:53:05,840 --> 00:53:07,000
Speaker 4: lot easier said than done.

1206
00:53:07,200 --> 00:53:09,640
Speaker 5: But it's going to affect their friendship though, Like she's

1207
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:11,080
Speaker 5: going to not want to hang out with her.

1208
00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:14,600
Speaker 4: Right right, But like, don't let it affect your relationship, That's.

1209
00:53:14,400 --> 00:53:14,799
Speaker 5: What I'm saying.

1210
00:53:14,800 --> 00:53:16,279
Speaker 6: But you don't want to lose your friend when you

1211
00:53:16,360 --> 00:53:18,719
Speaker 6: could just have a conversation and clear the air. At

1212
00:53:18,840 --> 00:53:20,800
Speaker 6: least give it that the chance, and then if it

1213
00:53:20,920 --> 00:53:22,960
Speaker 6: doesn't happen, then you maybe separate yourself.

1214
00:53:24,000 --> 00:53:26,000
Speaker 1: I found that whenever my parents didn't like a girl

1215
00:53:26,040 --> 00:53:28,279
Speaker 1: I was dating, they were always right in retrospect. But

1216
00:53:28,320 --> 00:53:33,160
Speaker 1: when you're in it, you fight it right. Anonymous says

1217
00:53:33,239 --> 00:53:35,160
Speaker 1: she loves the show. Listening to the podcast has made

1218
00:53:35,160 --> 00:53:37,839
Speaker 1: her feel better about herself. She's thirty two, single, noe kids.

1219
00:53:38,719 --> 00:53:41,000
Speaker 1: The majority of her friends are in relationships, married or

1220
00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:43,319
Speaker 1: have kids. I think this is something Tanya's mentioned before.

1221
00:53:44,040 --> 00:53:46,279
Speaker 1: I felt like I'm behind so many times, and then

1222
00:53:46,280 --> 00:53:48,640
Speaker 1: I'll never find someone listening to Tanya. I don't feel

1223
00:53:48,640 --> 00:53:50,160
Speaker 1: so alone, and I feel there is hope for me.

1224
00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:53,000
Speaker 1: My question is mainly for Tanya. I recently left the

1225
00:53:53,080 --> 00:53:54,759
Speaker 1: church I grew up in. Most people don't know why

1226
00:53:54,760 --> 00:53:56,920
Speaker 1: I left, including my family, because people make a big

1227
00:53:56,960 --> 00:53:59,040
Speaker 1: deal about leaving. I want to go to a more relaxed,

1228
00:53:59,120 --> 00:54:02,200
Speaker 1: non denominational church, one where I feel at home and welcome,

1229
00:54:02,560 --> 00:54:04,480
Speaker 1: but it's hard. I get nervous about how different it

1230
00:54:04,600 --> 00:54:06,160
Speaker 1: is from what I'm used to. I need to bring

1231
00:54:06,239 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 1: God into my life more, and I'm not sure how

1232
00:54:08,200 --> 00:54:09,560
Speaker 1: to go about it and need your advice.

1233
00:54:11,920 --> 00:54:15,320
Speaker 4: That's interesting because I did this exact same thing I

1234
00:54:15,440 --> 00:54:18,759
Speaker 4: wanted to go. I grew up in church, and it

1235
00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:25,759
Speaker 4: was in my adult life I got I like found

1236
00:54:25,800 --> 00:54:32,000
Speaker 4: God again in my adult years, and I wasn't getting

1237
00:54:32,160 --> 00:54:35,480
Speaker 4: from church, my traditional church that I had been going

1238
00:54:35,520 --> 00:54:37,960
Speaker 4: to what I get out of church now. And I

1239
00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:40,360
Speaker 4: think for me, it was like a hard conversation with

1240
00:54:40,440 --> 00:54:43,520
Speaker 4: my parents because it was like I was not like

1241
00:54:43,719 --> 00:54:46,960
Speaker 4: leaving what I grew up in. But I think it

1242
00:54:47,040 --> 00:54:49,919
Speaker 4: was hard for them to understand, Like I almost felt

1243
00:54:49,920 --> 00:54:51,799
Speaker 4: like I wasn't proud of my culture where I came from,

1244
00:54:51,840 --> 00:54:53,480
Speaker 4: and that's not the case at all. I'm very proud

1245
00:54:53,560 --> 00:54:56,560
Speaker 4: to be Serbian and and where where I came from,

1246
00:54:56,600 --> 00:54:58,919
Speaker 4: where my parents came from, and I will hold onto

1247
00:54:58,920 --> 00:55:01,200
Speaker 4: those traditions. But for me being a part of a

1248
00:55:01,320 --> 00:55:04,920
Speaker 4: church and being a part of a community now at

1249
00:55:04,920 --> 00:55:06,720
Speaker 4: this stage of my life where that I'm actually getting

1250
00:55:06,920 --> 00:55:10,759
Speaker 4: like it's like food for my soul and I'm doing

1251
00:55:10,880 --> 00:55:12,920
Speaker 4: life with people and I'm like, I just feel so

1252
00:55:13,080 --> 00:55:15,120
Speaker 4: encouraged and inspired by the people around me, and it's

1253
00:55:15,200 --> 00:55:18,239
Speaker 4: just really digestible. It's just a different feeling. And so

1254
00:55:18,280 --> 00:55:19,759
Speaker 4: I think you have to do what's best for you,

1255
00:55:20,160 --> 00:55:23,240
Speaker 4: you know, Like I think we spend our lives trying

1256
00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:30,520
Speaker 4: to make everybody around us happy or based on our decisions,

1257
00:55:30,520 --> 00:55:32,120
Speaker 4: and I think ultimately you have to do what feels

1258
00:55:32,200 --> 00:55:35,760
Speaker 4: right for you, no matter whose feelings it hurts.

1259
00:55:35,840 --> 00:55:38,400
Speaker 1: And how do you go about finding a church that

1260
00:55:38,520 --> 00:55:40,840
Speaker 1: works for you? Is it trial and error or is

1261
00:55:40,880 --> 00:55:42,319
Speaker 1: it recommendations? Is it yelp?

1262
00:55:42,800 --> 00:55:44,480
Speaker 4: I think it's trial and error. I went to a

1263
00:55:44,560 --> 00:55:47,359
Speaker 4: couple of churches really when I first started like going

1264
00:55:47,440 --> 00:55:50,160
Speaker 4: out here in la until I really like found my home.

1265
00:55:50,239 --> 00:55:52,239
Speaker 4: And I think it takes the process, so just give

1266
00:55:52,280 --> 00:55:54,080
Speaker 4: yourself some time for sure.

1267
00:55:54,840 --> 00:55:55,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's.

1268
00:55:58,160 --> 00:55:59,040
Speaker 5: To chime in on that.

1269
00:56:00,239 --> 00:56:01,279
Speaker 4: Are you not texting now?

1270
00:56:02,360 --> 00:56:05,000
Speaker 6: I'm leaving to go to town for a week today.

1271
00:56:05,000 --> 00:56:06,680
Speaker 6: I have a lot happening and I leave in like

1272
00:56:06,760 --> 00:56:07,480
Speaker 6: two hours.

1273
00:56:07,920 --> 00:56:09,440
Speaker 1: Well, my wife and I went through this when she

1274
00:56:09,600 --> 00:56:12,000
Speaker 1: first moved here in ninety eight. We did this. We

1275
00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:14,000
Speaker 1: jumped around church a church trying to find one that

1276
00:56:14,120 --> 00:56:16,200
Speaker 1: was comfortable. And it was a weird coincidence. Everyone we

1277
00:56:16,280 --> 00:56:19,000
Speaker 1: went to seemed to choose that day to tell everyone

1278
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:21,560
Speaker 1: how awful gay people were, and so then we immediately

1279
00:56:21,640 --> 00:56:24,000
Speaker 1: crossed that one off the list. But that was good.

1280
00:56:24,000 --> 00:56:25,880
Speaker 1: I'm glad they told us right up front where they

1281
00:56:25,880 --> 00:56:27,440
Speaker 1: stood on that, so we could move on to find

1282
00:56:27,440 --> 00:56:29,279
Speaker 1: another one in a great place in Van Nives that

1283
00:56:29,320 --> 00:56:31,440
Speaker 1: we just adored, and I thought of it a lot

1284
00:56:31,520 --> 00:56:33,640
Speaker 1: lately because we went there on nine to eleven because

1285
00:56:33,640 --> 00:56:36,279
Speaker 1: they called everybody together like, hey, we don't know what's

1286
00:56:36,320 --> 00:56:38,800
Speaker 1: happening or what to do, So everybody come on in

1287
00:56:38,920 --> 00:56:41,160
Speaker 1: and the pastor spoke and it was really lovely and

1288
00:56:41,360 --> 00:56:42,800
Speaker 1: we felt that sense of community.

1289
00:56:43,080 --> 00:56:44,479
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what it's about.

1290
00:56:45,040 --> 00:56:48,360
Speaker 6: Yeah, it is hard to like do like make the

1291
00:56:48,440 --> 00:56:50,600
Speaker 6: decision that you feel like people are going to be

1292
00:56:50,680 --> 00:56:51,400
Speaker 6: disappointed in.

1293
00:56:52,280 --> 00:56:54,520
Speaker 4: This is a really struggle for me and my parents.

1294
00:56:54,880 --> 00:56:58,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, feel that all right.

1295
00:56:58,080 --> 00:56:59,600
Speaker 1: Thank you to shake Shack. They sent over the one

1296
00:56:59,680 --> 00:57:03,720
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1297
00:57:04,200 --> 00:57:05,680
Speaker 5: There's like, how many of these?

1298
00:57:05,800 --> 00:57:07,520
Speaker 1: I know some gift cards. There's some bird.

1299
00:57:07,520 --> 00:57:08,560
Speaker 4: Hundred dollars gift cards.

1300
00:57:08,800 --> 00:57:10,399
Speaker 5: One hundred dollars worth of gift cards.

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00:57:10,480 --> 00:57:11,239
Speaker 6: Oh my god.

1302
00:57:12,600 --> 00:57:15,759
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1303
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1305
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Speaker 4: There's one of those.

1306
00:57:22,760 --> 00:57:25,080
Speaker 1: Hollywood, was this our best episode ever? Because it was

1307
00:57:25,120 --> 00:57:27,160
Speaker 1: the hundredth It was so good.

1308
00:57:32,200 --> 00:57:35,000
Speaker 4: I'm very concerned about my snoring. Now that's next on

1309
00:57:35,080 --> 00:57:36,440
Speaker 4: the you should you.

1310
00:57:36,560 --> 00:57:38,960
Speaker 1: Should do is hit record on voice memo when you

1311
00:57:39,040 --> 00:57:40,880
Speaker 1: go to sleep, and then check out the next morning.

1312
00:57:41,040 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 4: Creepy, we'll record the whole night.

1313
00:57:43,320 --> 00:57:45,200
Speaker 5: Well no, but yeah, but you would. You could just

1314
00:57:45,320 --> 00:57:47,320
Speaker 5: find where that you see the lines.

1315
00:57:47,120 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 4: Go up, So what do you record the full night

1316
00:57:49,200 --> 00:57:51,600
Speaker 4: or whatever? Your phone goes to sleep, but it stopped

1317
00:57:52,360 --> 00:57:52,840
Speaker 4: the whole.

1318
00:57:52,720 --> 00:57:54,560
Speaker 6: Cords I used to have a recording that was like

1319
00:57:54,720 --> 00:57:57,560
Speaker 6: for I don't even know how many minutes.

1320
00:57:57,560 --> 00:57:58,240
Speaker 1: Just by accident.

1321
00:57:58,400 --> 00:57:59,840
Speaker 4: Yeah wait, I might do that.

1322
00:58:00,000 --> 00:58:01,680
Speaker 6: Actually do it and then let's play it next week

1323
00:58:01,720 --> 00:58:04,640
Speaker 6: on the show How creepy If you saw the lime

1324
00:58:04,760 --> 00:58:08,640
Speaker 6: spike and you listen and it wasn't snoring like white noise, or.

1325
00:58:13,200 --> 00:58:13,840
Speaker 4: I'm going to do that.

1326
00:58:14,760 --> 00:58:16,200
Speaker 1: Oh oh, I want it before we go. There was

1327
00:58:16,240 --> 00:58:18,000
Speaker 1: something in the Facebook group I meant to mention because

1328
00:58:18,000 --> 00:58:20,200
Speaker 1: it was so incredible to see this. This is a

1329
00:58:20,480 --> 00:58:23,520
Speaker 1: week ago or so now. Amy Moore posted, Hey, uh,

1330
00:58:24,240 --> 00:58:26,240
Speaker 1: my kitten just came up and pete right in front

1331
00:58:26,240 --> 00:58:28,440
Speaker 1: of me. What the world's going on with that? Something's

1332
00:58:28,440 --> 00:58:30,000
Speaker 1: wrong with my cat? And then people are like, oh,

1333
00:58:30,080 --> 00:58:32,520
Speaker 1: maybe it's u TI. And then somebody said, h I

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Speaker 1: think you might be pregnant. She's like, no, what you're kidding.

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Speaker 1: We are trying. Jack takes a test. She's pregnant.

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Speaker 5: It's like it's like recognize it or something.

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Speaker 1: So but I just love that part of the scrubbing

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Speaker 1: and Facebook group. Somebody put that together and sure enough,

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Speaker 1: so congratulations Amy Moore, You're having a baby.

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Speaker 4: I also feel like I want to talk about because

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Speaker 4: we were. I feel like there was a lot of

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Speaker 4: things that we while we were like trying and stuff

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Speaker 4: that we didn't get to. I want to talk about

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Speaker 4: when life disappoints you.

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Speaker 1: Oh, big topic, turn it to you though next week

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Speaker 1: on the show, the life disappoints you.

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Speaker 4: But I want to talk about like doors closing, but

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Speaker 4: that's meaning that like other doors are going to open

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Speaker 4: for you.

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Speaker 1: Okay, And next week we're in Las Vegas, by the way,

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Speaker 1: for the next week that.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you don't want to talk about life disappointing you

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Speaker 6: in Vegas?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Wait, we have some guests on our shows in Vegas.

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Speaker 1: Huh, who's going on the show in Vegas?

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Speaker 6: Romo?

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Speaker 5: I feel like it's Taysha and Teddy Mellencamp.

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Speaker 1: There you go.

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Speaker 6: I've gotten to meet Pata.

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Speaker 5: I'm excited.

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Speaker 2: She's awesome. She and I are friends, close friends at

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Speaker 2: this point.

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Speaker 5: That makes me jealous. Easton French. Does she like fast food?

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Speaker 1: She does. She's a big raisin canes fan.

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Speaker 6: You're lucky these roses are between us. Well, thank y'all

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Speaker 6: so much for the beautiful fries flowers salaries.

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Speaker 5: Little so lol.

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Speaker 6: Thank everyone that listens for getting us to one hundredth episode.

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Speaker 6: That's really cool.

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Speaker 1: That's true. So many podcasts do not make it to

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Speaker 1: one hundred episodes, so that's awesome. Good job. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's something that we've produced in that.

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Speaker 5: Also, don't forget to vote for People's Choice Award.

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Speaker 4: Don't forget to vote for.

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Speaker 1: People's Choice online dot com.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we have swipe up links on like, I mean,

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Speaker 4: every Instagram that you could possibly find Becca's scrubbing in

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Speaker 4: my own.

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Speaker 1: We need to do it again, We need to two

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Speaker 1: p's just repeat. It's just repeat. It's a no such

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Speaker 1: thing as a two pet.

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Speaker 4: And also, if you guys are around this weekend and

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Speaker 4: you find yourself in front of the television on Sunday,

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Speaker 4: please tune in to Ease Live from the Red Carpet

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Speaker 4: from the Emmys three pm Pacific time.

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Speaker 1: So don't know what that means for your time them

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Speaker 1: they can figure it out from there.

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Speaker 4: But I'm freaking out time adept Well, sister

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Speaker 6: H