Speaker 1: Hey, fam I'm Jada Pinkett Smith and this is the
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Speaker 1: party Superstars, Hijada. What's up? Jada Da? Mr Clooney welcome
Speaker 1: method man. That was beautiful, precious gifts. It's an unforgettable celebration,
Speaker 1: Red Table Talk style in honor of your special day.
Speaker 1: Both bie just move on by. Just have to say
Speaker 1: you look, Oh my god, oh my gosh, this is amazing.
Speaker 1: This is so awesome you guys, beauty for the beauty.
Speaker 1: That tree looks so enchanted. It's just so beautiful. Happy day,
Speaker 1: Happy fifty birthday, Thank you birthday. Oh I hate even
Speaker 1: saying that I know your baby's fifty. That's crazy, that
Speaker 1: is that's crazy. Oh this is so beauty, isn't it beautiful?
Speaker 1: Are you get so special? You are special? And let
Speaker 1: me tell you look spectacular. Thank you. Okay, well, I
Speaker 1: have officially joined the fifty club. I have no idea
Speaker 1: what's going to unphone today, but I do know that
Speaker 1: gave me a willow. Have been conspiring with my Red
Speaker 1: Table team, and I was just told to just show
Speaker 1: up so happy. You are gonna turn the Red Table
Speaker 1: on you long in honor of your fifties. We have
Speaker 1: some beautiful people and friends coming to have some burning
Speaker 1: questions for you. That's gonna be fun. I can, let's go.
Speaker 1: Let's roll it, Jada. I'm talking to you from inside
Speaker 1: my closet, because outside my closet there are twins with
Speaker 1: plastic swords that are bashing each other in head and
Speaker 1: it just it didn't seem like an appropriate way to
Speaker 1: celebrate your birthday. Now, they tell me that you're turning fifty, which, uh,
Speaker 1: that's impossible because that would mean that I'm sixty, and
Speaker 1: that's not possible. So you're thirty nine, happy thirty nine,
Speaker 1: and I'm forty nine. I like it a lot better now.
Speaker 1: They asked me to ask you a question. I do
Speaker 1: have a question. I've been wanting to ask me for
Speaker 1: a long time, and it's pretty simple. Um, how do
Speaker 1: you put up with will? I mean, really, look, you're
Speaker 1: intelligent and talented and successful and beautiful, and you have
Speaker 1: all of these qualities that quite honestly, Will doesn't have
Speaker 1: and I want to know how, after all these years
Speaker 1: you do it? How do you do it? How do
Speaker 1: you do it? Anyway? Listen, happy birthday. I hope you
Speaker 1: have a great nine birthday and and stay safe and
Speaker 1: I hope to see you soon. Mr Clooney, the one
Speaker 1: and only my God. He looks great. He does he does?
Speaker 1: He looks great. No, I'm just saying it looks great.
Speaker 1: I think that what you really have to learn is
Speaker 1: how to have a friendship, you know, because really, how
Speaker 1: do you put up with anybody? How do you put
Speaker 1: up with you know, yourself, even yourself, you know. And
Speaker 1: once you learn how to put up with yourself, you
Speaker 1: really learn how to put up with all others. And
Speaker 1: I think for me, I had so much emotional maturity
Speaker 1: that I had to do. I really had to take
Speaker 1: the time to learn how to love myself. Because how
Speaker 1: we love ourselves is how we show people how to
Speaker 1: love us. I'm sorry, can we run that back? How
Speaker 1: we love ourselves is how we show people how to
Speaker 1: love us. Absolutely I had been weak in that area. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're going to go with another question. Let's roll it. Hi, Judah,
Speaker 1: Happy birthday, I'm so excited for you. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I just love you so much. Oka us all look good, woman,
Speaker 1: So I think of you as such a deeply, deeply
Speaker 1: courageous person. So my question for you is do you
Speaker 1: have any fears that you're looking to conquer in its
Speaker 1: next decade of your being on this planet? That's my question. Okay,
Speaker 1: happy birthday, Happy birthday. That's actually it's a good one, Carrie.
Speaker 1: So she's amazing. Um, fears to overcome. Sure, I have
Speaker 1: a lot of fears. Just the state of the world
Speaker 1: is so uncertain. So I'm really trying to work on
Speaker 1: my control issues and just let go. Do you think
Speaker 1: that letting go is like one of the biggest gifts
Speaker 1: of growing older? I do. It's the greatest gift. I
Speaker 1: swear that is the part that I've really been feeling
Speaker 1: at fifty. I just I'm not feeling the stress of
Speaker 1: being so worried about everything. Yeah, that's a process. These
Speaker 1: questions are amazing. Yeah, shall we do another Happy birthday? Jada.
Speaker 1: Thank you for leading, Thank you for showing us the way.
Speaker 1: Thank you for advocating and showing the world how much
Speaker 1: you care for us. Thank you for being Okay, my
Speaker 1: burning question for you. What is one place that you
Speaker 1: traveled in your lifetime that changed your world perspective, that
Speaker 1: changed you somehow? Um, I want to know. I love
Speaker 1: your mom. That's a great question too. With that smiling Vietnam,
Speaker 1: I went there by myself. I got an opportunity to
Speaker 1: meet one of my mentors, which is Tick, not hant Um.
Speaker 1: He was ill, you know, but I got to give
Speaker 1: him honor and be in his presence. It is a
Speaker 1: gorgeous place. The spiritual rejuvenation that I got there was
Speaker 1: I didn't want to leave, and you can really feel
Speaker 1: that energy there. It was such a magical experience. I
Speaker 1: need to go with you next time. Okay, who's next?
Speaker 1: What's our next question? Happy birthday, lovely, lovely, beautiful jad
Speaker 1: I'm adding my voice to your course of a murderous
Speaker 1: wishing you a happy birthday. I'm I'm happy forever. Here's
Speaker 1: my question. What has been the most difficult thing for you? Wow?
Speaker 1: That woman there, Okay, I can't wait to have her
Speaker 1: come because I know she's got some wisdom. I know
Speaker 1: she's got a angela. I love her. She is also
Speaker 1: I love you. It's good. Can we get some tissue? Shoot?
Speaker 1: Up overcomes so many difficult, many things. Can I tell
Speaker 1: you one of my favorites, tell me dealing with me
Speaker 1: and Jaden? We were not easy children. You actually were
Speaker 1: maybe Jaden was. It weren't difficult raising children don't care
Speaker 1: who they are. That's challenge, That's what I'm saying. I'm
Speaker 1: raising Being a mother is challenged because you sacrifice a lot.
Speaker 1: But I tell you what sacrificing for you, guys was sacred.
Speaker 1: There's a difference between sacrifices that actually empower your life
Speaker 1: versus sacrifice that steal life, that pulled away, pull breath
Speaker 1: out of your life. And I had to learn the
Speaker 1: difference between the two. Still doesn't make it easy. It
Speaker 1: doesn't make it easy at all, you know. But you
Speaker 1: guys have been the greatest gift of my life, the greatest.
Speaker 1: Maybe you guys have been an amazing treasure for me.
Speaker 1: That was you and Will's gift to each other. H
Speaker 1: m hmmmm. I guess I've been so loving and supportive.
Speaker 1: And you guys just see me, You and Trey and Jaden,
Speaker 1: all three of you see me. You really do. You're
Speaker 1: the toughest times. I would say being a mother wasn't
Speaker 1: easy but it was worth it. M hm. You know
Speaker 1: I would saying. Another challenge was smoothing out my thoughts
Speaker 1: around you know, the relationship with Sharia. That was a
Speaker 1: real process. You basically let me know I don't really
Speaker 1: appreciate your tone, and I was like, I ain't domatic,
Speaker 1: and you hung up on me. Girl. I called back,
Speaker 1: and I happened to say, quote, bitch, you living in
Speaker 1: a house I picked out. You said, it's my house. Now,
Speaker 1: who I love it when I think about our relationship. Now,
Speaker 1: there's a real sisterhood there. But it took I was
Speaker 1: going to say it took years. It was really a
Speaker 1: transformation for all of us, having a blended family and
Speaker 1: getting to a place where there was ease, there was
Speaker 1: ease with it, and having complete utter acceptance, you know,
Speaker 1: like Ly has acceptance for me and all my nonsense.
Speaker 1: I have acceptance for her and all her nonsense. There's
Speaker 1: a real beautiful sisterhood there. Some special people just wanted
Speaker 1: to send some birthday love, Hygiena. I just wanted to
Speaker 1: wish you eight happy birthday or as I call them,
Speaker 1: happy anniversary, have the best day ever. Sending you so
Speaker 1: much love, whether it's me, me or Ran whatever you
Speaker 1: wanna call me and Molly, what's up, Jada, it's the
Speaker 1: error here and I'm wishing you the happiest birthday. You
Speaker 1: are timeless, you are ageless, you are classic. You are
Speaker 1: the epitome of the ultimate woman. Sending you all the
Speaker 1: love and it's really awesome to have someone like you
Speaker 1: to call a friend. Congratulations to you on your success
Speaker 1: with the Red Table. Um, it was really fun to
Speaker 1: also be on the Red Table and talk to talk
Speaker 1: with you. I look forward to catching up and talking
Speaker 1: some more until then. Happy birthday, cec Hi Jada, Jimmy Kimmels,
Speaker 1: I really can't believe you're fifty years old. I should
Speaker 1: be like a hundred and eighty five by that measure.
Speaker 1: You really are a terrific person. I'm very fond of you,
Speaker 1: and I want to say that seriously. I am fifty three.
Speaker 1: I turned fifty uh three years. I've never been great
Speaker 1: at math, but it was I think it was about
Speaker 1: three years ago. And um, if there's one thing I've
Speaker 1: learned over my fifty three years on this planet Earth,
Speaker 1: it's that me eat yogurt. You know, the fruits on
Speaker 1: the bottom, but it really should be on the top.
Speaker 1: Happy birthday, Jada, that's hilarious. Oh my goodness, yogurt, Jimmy,
Speaker 1: I can't. I love Jimmy so much. How about that
Speaker 1: wallpaper where Sara was I couldn't get over it, Ryan wallpaper.
Speaker 1: And then Maria she she just looks like she has
Speaker 1: not aged one bit. She looks fantastic. Oh that's awesome. Okay,
Speaker 1: we have a fabulous at fifty. Who wants to welcome
Speaker 1: you to the club? Okay, Bethany Frankel, Hank, Beth, I'm
Speaker 1: so honored. What a special day. How does fifty feel
Speaker 1: for you? Fifty feels liberating. You just value time differently.
Speaker 1: You just want to only really do the things that
Speaker 1: are important that means something to you. Yeah, that's real talk.
Speaker 1: That's exactly how I'm feeling. And I get it now.
Speaker 1: I wasted too much time, I guess. Yeah, I'm just
Speaker 1: focusing on the relationships that are really important. I don't
Speaker 1: have time for all the little relationships that have had
Speaker 1: around before. That's interesting because it's sort of like in business,
Speaker 1: you decide how to build vertically or horizontally, whether you
Speaker 1: want to go deeper or what to go wider. So
Speaker 1: you're saying I'm going deeplyper vertically with these people that
Speaker 1: are my people. My circles kind of basically closed. That's
Speaker 1: how I feel. So I want to really nurture that
Speaker 1: and let those people know how much they mean to
Speaker 1: me and invest in that, versus spreading yourself so thin
Speaker 1: with superficiality. Yeah. Yeah, that's That's a great way to
Speaker 1: put it, Bethanie, because that's where I'm at instead of
Speaker 1: going what I'm definitely going deeper. You know. So you
Speaker 1: found love and got engaged at fifty, Bethany, tell us
Speaker 1: about your guy. Tell us about this whole fifty swag. Uh,
Speaker 1: Paul's incredible. Uh, it's great. And we've both been married
Speaker 1: before and we both have made mistakes, so we don't
Speaker 1: take it for granted. And we didn't walk in just
Speaker 1: thinking this has to be this lifelong, unrealistic fantasy rainbows, unicorns,
Speaker 1: love and flowers. So it's been a beautiful thing for
Speaker 1: me to work through a lot of my stuff from
Speaker 1: my childhood and my lack I've ever really seeing a
Speaker 1: positive relationships. It's great to be learning and be really
Speaker 1: involved in what it takes to be successful in a
Speaker 1: relationship when I've only been successful in business and philanthropy.
Speaker 1: I love that, Bethany. Let me tell you that sounds
Speaker 1: really adult and grown yess that comes with exactly know.
Speaker 1: Let's do a little fill in the blank game. One
Speaker 1: of your birthday wishes for fifty is to take a breath,
Speaker 1: take a second before I act and said you and
Speaker 1: just like think about it and digested. Years ago, I
Speaker 1: had a terrible situation that I was going through and
Speaker 1: the therapist at the time said, you see the email,
Speaker 1: you know, wait six hours to respond. So even in
Speaker 1: situations when you think if you waited six minutes to respond,
Speaker 1: it just means like not to get so activated because
Speaker 1: it could pass, not to be so reactive to everything.
Speaker 1: Just chill, just give it an That's a good one.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Bethany. And I just gotta say
Speaker 1: you are goals, Henny, were sure. Thank you. What a
Speaker 1: great experience. I have loved this. Congratulations on all your
Speaker 1: success and happy happy fifty year. Thank you. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: one of your besties wants to know, Hey, Boom, it's
Speaker 1: your best friend me. No, anyway, happy birthday. I love
Speaker 1: you so much. You are just one of the most
Speaker 1: genuine people I have ever met. You are a blessing
Speaker 1: in human form. You are my spiritual sacred sister. I
Speaker 1: am so blessed to know you. Congratulations on being fifty
Speaker 1: and the riving and being ageless. I want to ask you,
Speaker 1: because you're such an inspiration to so many, what genuinely
Speaker 1: inspires you? Lauren? Yes, Lauren and I we've been on
Speaker 1: a deep healing journey together. We have really connected on
Speaker 1: a deep spiritual plane. She's been working through some of
Speaker 1: her traumas and I've been doing the same. You guys
Speaker 1: have such a special relationship. I just love it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I just love it. She's a joy. She's a joy,
Speaker 1: is a joy, and she's she's special. Chance. What inspires you?
Speaker 1: Was her question? Lately, the Great Supreme. My journey to
Speaker 1: find a relationship with the Great Divine has been long,
Speaker 1: you know, and now that I found it, and really
Speaker 1: I found a gait that really works for me. That's
Speaker 1: where all my inspiration comes from. It has changed my
Speaker 1: life for the better. And it's just been a beautiful
Speaker 1: journey through and through. That's beautiful. Well, that was a
Speaker 1: really really good question. Who's next? Hi, Jada? I just
Speaker 1: wanted to say, happy birthday, my God. I hope I
Speaker 1: look like you, and I'm wise like you when I
Speaker 1: turn it fifty. My question is what would your advice
Speaker 1: be when it comes to parenting and raising children in
Speaker 1: the industry? M M, yeah, that's a good one, and
Speaker 1: I love the red what I read. I really tried
Speaker 1: to keep you guys in understanding that you're really privileged
Speaker 1: and that you've got to use your privilege to help
Speaker 1: people who are not. You guys started doing your charity
Speaker 1: work at a very young age, you know, three or
Speaker 1: four or five, six, seven, eight nine. I would physically
Speaker 1: take them to the orphanage so they could see not
Speaker 1: every child lives like you do. I think that really helped.
Speaker 1: You always made that very clear, which was very helpful.
Speaker 1: I wanted you guys to work early, and I thought
Speaker 1: that was a good idea because you guys understood early
Speaker 1: the value of money and things, you know, and you
Speaker 1: understood that it didn't just come out, and we understood
Speaker 1: that you work to get the thing. All right, you
Speaker 1: want a new game, you're gonna don't earn it. It
Speaker 1: wasn't just and you would always tell us, actually you
Speaker 1: and Dad both would tell us, um, this is this
Speaker 1: is our money, this is this is our house, not
Speaker 1: not not yet for you guys. You live here, you're here,
Speaker 1: you were inspiring us to create something for ourselves. Let's
Speaker 1: roll some more. Okay, Jada Pinkett, you are a rare
Speaker 1: black diamond, strong, beautiful and illuminating. I hope that your
Speaker 1: birthday is filled with love, laughter, joy. I do get
Speaker 1: a lot of pleasure out of Red Table Talk and
Speaker 1: every anything else that you do for the world. I
Speaker 1: love you, sister. Happy birthday, Like Queen today, I wish
Speaker 1: you the happiest birthday ever. This new chapter Red Table
Speaker 1: Talk is something that was so critical, so badly needed,
Speaker 1: and the most magnificent gift to the world. You as
Speaker 1: a mother those incredible gifted won't children, and you've just
Speaker 1: done an amazing job. You're a beautiful daughter, a beautiful wife,
Speaker 1: and just a gift to us. And may God grant
Speaker 1: you all of the peace and love and kisses and
Speaker 1: hugs that you can handle. I should have known you
Speaker 1: are a virgo. It's your birthday, fifty. My god, I
Speaker 1: can't believe that. I can't believe that in your thirty
Speaker 1: she's timeless and ageless and we love you so much.
Speaker 1: Happy birthday, Queen, Love you, Happy no mouth don't make
Speaker 1: My question is someone at the miniature is you Philip?
Speaker 1: That was like gosh yam. And Miss Tina she got
Speaker 1: a nerve that was beautiful from one mother to another. Dude,
Speaker 1: you've done a beautiful job as well. Absolutely, and Miss
Speaker 1: Octavia she is just a golden soul. Blackwere black Dad.
Speaker 1: That was luminous and shining. I just love her to death.
Speaker 1: We've had such good times together. Um and Stefans, I
Speaker 1: mean they got there and only Red Table Talk comments September.
Speaker 1: I just love you. We got more questions for you, honey,
Speaker 1: Let's hit that. Jada Pinkett Smith, what's happy fifty birthday?
Speaker 1: Congratulations on another year on this planet, and thank you
Speaker 1: so much for making our lives so much better with
Speaker 1: everything that you do. My question is you talk about
Speaker 1: how you and Will have to learn about inspiring each
Speaker 1: other's happiness but not being each other's happiness. So how
Speaker 1: do you know when you're expecting Will to make you happy?
Speaker 1: And how do you know when Will is adding to
Speaker 1: your happiness that you've already created. Yeah, that's that's a
Speaker 1: really question. Do you know it's Trevor. Trevor's gonna ask
Speaker 1: something real real. Yeah. So the idea of when you're
Speaker 1: expecting someone to phil your happy place and be your
Speaker 1: happy place versus you creating your happy place within, you
Speaker 1: have to be your cake. You're grateful when somebody wants
Speaker 1: to be you know the sing or the cherry on topic.
Speaker 1: But you got your cake because you're that that you
Speaker 1: are that and so when you you know when you're
Speaker 1: out of pocket, when you are looking for someone to
Speaker 1: bring you a sense of joy, when you have your
Speaker 1: own happiness within and you have more understanding that a
Speaker 1: nobody owes you anything and be that anything anyone decides
Speaker 1: to offer you is a gift. Miss Jadob Pickett, Miss Jacob,
Speaker 1: I want to tell you happy birthday, May you be
Speaker 1: blessed with more? Was the more knowledge is? So you
Speaker 1: already know what they say, Black don't crack. We always
Speaker 1: stay in text. But I got a question for you
Speaker 1: as you enter this new era, what you're gonna leave behind,
Speaker 1: what you're not tolerting, what's gonna be new for this
Speaker 1: new decade? Yeah, yeah, that's a good one. They love
Speaker 1: us a missing Oh my goodness, she said, think this
Speaker 1: year too. So what am I leaving behind and not tolerating?
Speaker 1: I'm just not tolerating nonsense from myself. When you don't
Speaker 1: tolerate nonsense from yourself, then you definitely nobody else, nobody else.
Speaker 1: So that's what I'm leaving behind. I just want to
Speaker 1: keep leveling up a lot of times, like when we
Speaker 1: want to play victim in our lives, and I think
Speaker 1: I spent a lot of my life playing victim, right,
Speaker 1: And yeah, people do things to you, there's no doubt
Speaker 1: about that, but you have the power to make the
Speaker 1: decision on how you're going to move through what is
Speaker 1: happening to you. You want to sit there and start
Speaker 1: pointing fingers at everybody all the time and stay in
Speaker 1: victim when now you're giving your power away. You stay
Speaker 1: on this merry go round or you did this to me,
Speaker 1: You did this to me, and you did and that's
Speaker 1: all you're doing all day long. It's always somebody else
Speaker 1: another situation, right, instead of what part did I play?
Speaker 1: I think the biggest change for me at fifty is
Speaker 1: like I had to really look at it all and
Speaker 1: take responsibility for every piece, because that's how you take
Speaker 1: your power back. I had to lay my whole life out,
Speaker 1: every bit of it. I had to look at every
Speaker 1: piece of pain, and I had to go what part
Speaker 1: did you play in that? Because at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, pretty much everything you bring into your life
Speaker 1: you invited it, ex suffered, people victimized when it comes
Speaker 1: to physical and physical you know, all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: You know, people that we decided to bring into our lives,
Speaker 1: circumstances that we decided to bring into our lives, how
Speaker 1: we decide to think about things we invited all I
Speaker 1: had to look at that and I had to start
Speaker 1: uninviting things. I had to take responsibility on how my
Speaker 1: unhealthiness brought in a lot of unhealthy dynamics. Instead of
Speaker 1: me paying attention on how to change other people, I
Speaker 1: started focusing on how to change myself. And that's when
Speaker 1: my life changed. That's when I got happy. Coming in
Speaker 1: hot another burdening question for you, Let's roll it, hey, Jada,
Speaker 1: that's right, milestone birthday. I'm right there with you, and
Speaker 1: I know you know you you get older, you realize
Speaker 1: what you just when you want to get impact on
Speaker 1: the world, like you want to make people better. You
Speaker 1: want to make the world better. And I got to say,
Speaker 1: you have more than done your share of that. So
Speaker 1: I'm proud of you. I'm happy for you, and I
Speaker 1: want to ask you, when you look back at your career,
Speaker 1: what is the one thing that you realize now that
Speaker 1: you wish you knew when you were younger. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: a good one. Michaels so funny. First of all, Michael,
Speaker 1: I gotta get him back on the golf course. I'm
Speaker 1: not competing with Michael, because Michael is a real deal athlete. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't want to turn that dragon, but he is
Speaker 1: fun to play golf with. I tell younger Jada to
Speaker 1: be a little bit more nice. I was very edgy.
Speaker 1: I really had a big chip on my shoulder. My
Speaker 1: attitude was like, I'm not the one that edging. This
Speaker 1: kept you safe because you didn't have people coming at
Speaker 1: you with the nons exactly. I think I was just
Speaker 1: really mean, definitely coming with that Baltimore Street. I'd never
Speaker 1: forget more in Baby, more Baby, and I love war.
Speaker 1: He was interested in me doing a certain project. He said,
Speaker 1: you know, Jada, it wouldn't hurt you just to to
Speaker 1: just to be a tag more kind, so sweet. He
Speaker 1: was trying to let me know then just you know,
Speaker 1: it's okay, you're doing down. Just a middle You're in
Speaker 1: l A. The one thing that I didn't realize until
Speaker 1: very recently was that you never wanted to be a star. No,
Speaker 1: I didn't. I never realized that because I would always
Speaker 1: be like, she doesn't participate, that she didn't not going out.
Speaker 1: He will had a hard time understanding that too. He
Speaker 1: would say, you don't want to be He was like,
Speaker 1: why don't you want to be the number one? Act
Speaker 1: like he thought I was crazy. I just wanted to
Speaker 1: do what I love and pay my bills doing I
Speaker 1: think I'm the same way with you. I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: I'm always you could be doing this, you could be
Speaker 1: doing that, and your damn, I'm good. Jada. I love
Speaker 1: you so much. From the bottom of my heart. I
Speaker 1: want to wish you the happiest fiftieth birthday. You're such
Speaker 1: an amazing spirit. Thank you for shining your light on
Speaker 1: all of us. Thank you for being a part of
Speaker 1: my journey and for inspiring me from the very beginning,
Speaker 1: and for making me want to live a happy and
Speaker 1: joyful life, not just a productive one. Happy birthday, it
Speaker 1: is light wishing you a very, very happy birthday. We
Speaker 1: have all been just rooting and waiting for you to
Speaker 1: get to the fifty club. So welcome, welcome, welcome. I'm
Speaker 1: just happy to be your sister in this thing called life.
Speaker 1: Have a one deerful, wonderful birthday celebration. Since we've done
Speaker 1: over thirty plus of these birthday things, I mean, like
Speaker 1: I wanted to say, happy birthday. I love you. We're
Speaker 1: maxed out. I can't love you anymore. It's been amazing
Speaker 1: watching you just be this magnificent freedom fighter, just bright
Speaker 1: light in the business, and it's just been incredible. And
Speaker 1: it's like you always think, like what where do you
Speaker 1: get Somebody just got everything and I said, ah, so
Speaker 1: I got you this. It's from the Wonder Woman collection.
Speaker 1: It's the only thing that you don't have right now.
Speaker 1: Enjoy those fitties. He was one of the first people
Speaker 1: I met when I came to l A. So he
Speaker 1: met me when I was eighteen. Yeah, that's my dude, Jada.
Speaker 1: So it's your birthday. We love you, we appreciate you.
Speaker 1: You are a treasure, and thank you just for all
Speaker 1: the light that you instill and everything that you do
Speaker 1: for everybody. My question for you is you said that
Speaker 1: everything changed when you turn forty, So what advice do
Speaker 1: you have for this woman who has just turned forty?
Speaker 1: Megan has turned forty. Wow, for me, forty was harder
Speaker 1: than I actually got depressed. I went through a bit
Speaker 1: of a depression and I got the stupid ass at too,
Speaker 1: that thing on my leg, the peace and Love sign.
Speaker 1: When you're turning forty. Don't make any drastic changes. Just
Speaker 1: sit with it for a minute. I just remember at
Speaker 1: forty feeling like what the hell right? I hit a wall.
Speaker 1: I was like, what do you want? And I didn't know.
Speaker 1: I couldn't answer the question. Make sure you can answer
Speaker 1: the question. That's the first step. Look at your life
Speaker 1: and look at what's happening, and see what you're happy with,
Speaker 1: and see what you're not happy with, see what needs change.
Speaker 1: Most of the time, you're gonna find that it's stuff
Speaker 1: that you have to change within yourself. And that's the
Speaker 1: most difficult part. You're gonna realize that the stuff that
Speaker 1: worked before you turn ford, it's not gonna work anymore.
Speaker 1: Be gentle, Yeah, I think there's more. Let's let's hit it.
Speaker 1: Jada Will jumped out of a helicopter on his fiftie.
Speaker 1: What's on your bucket list? What's gonna do. Happy birthday.
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, that's funny. Do you have a bucket list?
Speaker 1: That's a good question. I actually do, but it's it's
Speaker 1: not not physical. It's just not physical. Yeah, exactly. No,
Speaker 1: I get I'm not there with you, and I absolutely
Speaker 1: have a bucket list. I really want to learn how
Speaker 1: to love, but I know what it isn't Yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: And I'm just on the journey of really understanding what
Speaker 1: love is. So everything on your bucket list right now
Speaker 1: is just part of your spiritual journey in your path,
Speaker 1: right yeah, yeah, Okay. When we were talking about who
Speaker 1: turned fifty this year, my mom fell out the chair
Speaker 1: when you heard our next guest was on that list.
Speaker 1: He's a legend and making fifty look amazing and he
Speaker 1: is here massagement. Goodness, Oh my goodness. So in light
Speaker 1: of it being your fifties and fifty supposed to be
Speaker 1: the golden h I got you a gift to express that.
Speaker 1: Open it up, okay, talk about it. Yeah, okay, all right, Okay,
Speaker 1: you gotta you gotta put it right there, yes, man,
Speaker 1: So now you can just road through life care free
Speaker 1: when your skates man skate road. Happy birthday, queen. Actually wow,
Speaker 1: I feel like y'all just drank from the fountain of
Speaker 1: youth or whatever. I want to talk about. The transformation,
Speaker 1: it's a maturity and growth is when you look in
Speaker 1: the mirror and get tidy own b s. As soon
Speaker 1: as I have for you, it was like, what am
Speaker 1: I doing? You know? Things weren't going according to the
Speaker 1: way I felt they should. After going overseas in the
Speaker 1: same year about the fifth time, because uh, the money
Speaker 1: here was drying up for nineties artists, you know, I said,
Speaker 1: what else is there for me to do? What else
Speaker 1: can I do? Um, you know, for myself? So I
Speaker 1: decided to take things one step at the time. What
Speaker 1: can I improve on? What am I in control out? First?
Speaker 1: Control of my body? Yeah, let's do that. Yes, and no, lie,
Speaker 1: this is no cap whatsoever. But I've seen a picture
Speaker 1: again yea, bless you, sister, bless you my gosh. And
Speaker 1: I was like wow, yeah, yeah, than for real. And
Speaker 1: I was like, um, you know what, it's never too late.
Speaker 1: Before your transformation, you had insomnia and xiety. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1: The anxiety part of it was, well, if we're not
Speaker 1: getting enough sleep, and then you always worried about, um,
Speaker 1: you know where the next check is going to come from,
Speaker 1: especially when you're an entertainment business. You're creating your own jobs.
Speaker 1: At times, the insomnio was really kicking my butt at
Speaker 1: the time, and I had this membership at the gym,
Speaker 1: small clock in the morning. I was saying, the gym's open,
Speaker 1: Oh it is. We got the gym. Three days turned
Speaker 1: into four, four days turned into five, and I've been
Speaker 1: going at it since then. This for me was my
Speaker 1: saving grace. And I think, I'm I'm getting there, and
Speaker 1: you've grown so much. What would you say to your
Speaker 1: younger self now? I would look at my youngest self.
Speaker 1: I've grabbed myself by the ears. You're not saying you're
Speaker 1: good enough. Oh, there you go, you're good enough. Everybody
Speaker 1: to tell you, yeah, remember that, grab yourself by the
Speaker 1: ears right now? Good enough? Yeah, don't wait. And you've
Speaker 1: been married for how long I've been with her years?
Speaker 1: We got married in a one okay, yeah, so we're twenty.
Speaker 1: That's that's putting in. That's putting in work. It's work.
Speaker 1: And she would agree, I'm sure absolutely. What is your
Speaker 1: relationship advice? Oh? Man, um, respect this first and foremost. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's real respect? Is that it's essential. That's essentially going
Speaker 1: to come at it with the most light. One more.
Speaker 1: My birthday wish for fifty is I say more. Yes,
Speaker 1: thank you for coming. You're making fitting look good. I'm
Speaker 1: striving for perfection. Thank you, guys, any place anywhere. This
Speaker 1: was great. That was fun. I loved having him here
Speaker 1: because it's like we grew up together. I mean I
Speaker 1: watched him, he watched it me and then just to
Speaker 1: see where he is right now, I am. It's just
Speaker 1: like that. Oh, happy birthday, long time. I love you guys.
Speaker 1: Happy birthday. You can't have a party without a cake.
Speaker 1: You gotta have it. When they take to this beautiful
Speaker 1: good different, they are beauty, They're very beautiful. It is
Speaker 1: I'm really pretty. I think you should have a seat
Speaker 1: on your throne. Queen. Well, Mom, I'm gonna I'm gonna
Speaker 1: start by confessing my love and giving a speech to mom.
Speaker 1: Right now, I'm gonna kick it off. Um. Honestly, Mom,
Speaker 1: I just want to say thank you so much for
Speaker 1: the way that you raised us, in the choices that
Speaker 1: you made. I know that a lot of people may
Speaker 1: have said, hey, you know you shouldn't be doing this.
Speaker 1: Why are you're doing this like this, and you made
Speaker 1: those choices. You decided to raise us the way that
Speaker 1: you felt like you needed to, and it's really made
Speaker 1: me the person that I am today. You and Dad
Speaker 1: have always taught me like, oh, you have to build
Speaker 1: a team. You have to create a team. You were
Speaker 1: the first person on my team, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: You were the first person that was that was there
Speaker 1: for me in that in any type of capacity. I
Speaker 1: look back now and I see how difficult that that
Speaker 1: was for you. On this day, I just want to
Speaker 1: say thank you to you and everything. And you're just
Speaker 1: such a strong, amazing person. So it's beautiful. Listen, the
Speaker 1: road has not been easy. It has not been easy
Speaker 1: at all, and you have been a rock for me
Speaker 1: like my whole life, and you know, so much of
Speaker 1: who I am today is because of you. You were
Speaker 1: such a big force in molding me and all of us.
Speaker 1: It's an honor and a privilege and just a divine
Speaker 1: blessing to have somebody like you in my life and
Speaker 1: our lives. We just want to celebrate you, you know how.
Speaker 1: These kids are your greatest joy. You are mine and
Speaker 1: I'm so proud of you. I love you so much
Speaker 1: and I'm just grateful in honor of your special day.
Speaker 1: Our sister and seven time Grammy winner. It's beautiful. Tony
Speaker 1: Braxton's too happy, bastard chine a girl, it's your day,
Speaker 1: happy too. You mean the world man you are may
Speaker 1: I swear the only things that my That is soy baby, baby,
Speaker 1: baby Jane, happy baby two mm to every birthday, says,
Speaker 1: I love you, Oh day, welcome to the that was
Speaker 1: the best club, sess she looks so beautiful. Thank you.
Speaker 1: Oh you kept that under wrap. That's I couldn't come
Speaker 1: over the other day. Happy Birthdays. I love you. I
Speaker 1: love you too, Mommy. Was a special shout out to
Speaker 1: event designer extraordinaire Melissa Andre for creating this spectacular birthday setting.
Speaker 1: Thank you and Tim her pastry chef. You are an
Speaker 1: incredible artist. Yes, these cakes are masked of pieces and
Speaker 1: the gorgeous. To join the Red Table Talk family and
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