Speaker 1: Don't be jaded. It's a hard thing to say, and
Speaker 1: I say it because I'm saying it to myself in
Speaker 1: addition to saying it to you. But one of the
Speaker 1: things I find interesting is when people act like they've
Speaker 1: been there before. So I was at Paris Fashion Week
Speaker 1: and I couldn't believe I was there, And there were
Speaker 1: other people that I met that I know definitely hadn't
Speaker 1: been there before. And I guess to avoid imposter syndrome
Speaker 1: or maybe out of insecurity, people act like this is
Speaker 1: something that happens to them all the time. And I
Speaker 1: say this because I remember on The Apprentice, when we
Speaker 1: got on, it took a week to be sequestered, psychological testing,
Speaker 1: emotional testing. It was a brutal experience. It was such
Speaker 1: a process to get there, it was such a long
Speaker 1: contract to sign up, and then once we started filming,
Speaker 1: I was so excited. I couldn't believe we were there.
Speaker 1: I couldn't believe we got it. I couldn't believe this
Speaker 1: was my life. And I instantly heard people start turning,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you have no idea how much money
Speaker 1: they're gonna make off us, and like becoming entitled, like
Speaker 1: getting jaded, forgetting that two weeks ago you were an
Speaker 1: unknown and we all were still unknowns after that show,
Speaker 1: it didn't really do anything, but like everyone thought they
Speaker 1: were going to be a known, and so everybody was
Speaker 1: acting like they had just been there before. And I
Speaker 1: remember distinctly being like, oh my god, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I'm wanting to talk to anyone who would be excited
Speaker 1: by the moment, and there was really no one to
Speaker 1: talk to. And I found this with Paris Fashion Week
Speaker 1: in ways, some people were super excited and in the
Speaker 1: moment about it, but some people are like, wait, now
Speaker 1: I've done this before. No, this is nothing, and then
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter. How But like you found out through
Speaker 1: other means that people really were nervous, and maybe it's
Speaker 1: like manifesting that you've been there before and you can
Speaker 1: handle it. I guess there are many different ways, but
Speaker 1: I just think that, like I wrote this in my book,
Speaker 1: a place of yes, to celebrate, to not be jaded,
Speaker 1: like even sometimes not getting excited about something and sometimes
Speaker 1: people say it's because it might not happen, but like
Speaker 1: get excited. If it doesn't happen, you might be let down.
Speaker 1: You're gonna be let down anyway. Not getting excited about
Speaker 1: something and it not going well doesn't mean you take
Speaker 1: away the original excitement. Let's say you're really excited about
Speaker 1: something and then you bomb. At least you had the
Speaker 1: excitement versus the dullness and then the bombing. You know,
Speaker 1: you don't want to make a fool yourself and act
Speaker 1: like you're a supermodel like I have, And then I guess,
Speaker 1: maybe not be a supermodel, but why not? I just
Speaker 1: feel like, be, don't be jaded, be in the moment,
Speaker 1: celebrate like That's one thing I've passed on to my daughter.
Speaker 1: We get excited about everything. We get excited about every
Speaker 1: bowl of ramen, we make, about every vegetable picking season
Speaker 1: we go through, about every time we go to the
Speaker 1: same place we go every single year to pick ornaments,
Speaker 1: to decorate the tree. Whatever. It is. Like I brought
Speaker 1: a group of people to Paris for fashion Week that
Speaker 1: was going to be excited like we were, like all
Speaker 1: of us couldn't believe our lives, and everybody was acting
Speaker 1: like they couldn't believe their lives, and as a result,
Speaker 1: everyone else wanted to be around us because it was
Speaker 1: contagious because we did not act like we belonged, and
Speaker 1: I've been to Paris multiple times. I've literally jabby Teo
Speaker 1: Mo Matt. I lived in France. I am cultured. I've
Speaker 1: stated rooms that are twenty thousand square feet and cost
Speaker 1: probably ten thousand dollars a night. I don't care. I'm
Speaker 1: excited by everything that I do, whether it's a Lifetime
Speaker 1: movie in the trailer in Abbotsford, Canada, like I make
Speaker 1: a meal out of everything. Now I can be bitchy
Speaker 1: about something, it doesn't matter. I could get a frozen
Speaker 1: yogurt and they don't put enough sprinkles on it, and
Speaker 1: I'm in a bitchy mood inside because I'm just annoyed.
Speaker 1: But like that's just that's not really like being jaded.
Speaker 1: That's just something ridiculous and me sweating the small stuff.
Speaker 1: But like I treat everything with the same level of importance.
Speaker 1: So if I'm in a Lifetime movie in that moment
Speaker 1: and Abbotsford, like in a little crappy hotel room, but
Speaker 1: like it's clean and it has a little bathtub, which
Speaker 1: I'm excited about. It has laundry in the room and
Speaker 1: has an ice maker. I'm excited I'm leading in a movie.
Speaker 1: I go there for Lauri Al asks me, out of
Speaker 1: fifty people in twenty eight countries to come in and
Speaker 1: do fashion Week. You gotta fucking bet your believe. I'm
Speaker 1: to tell anybodyho will listen how excited I am. And
Speaker 1: there are other people that like act like they're not excited,
Speaker 1: and I'll be like, yeah, no, I've done this a
Speaker 1: million times. Guess what, no one's done what that was
Speaker 1: a million times? No one. I mean maybe like Naomi
Speaker 1: Campbell and like Christy Turlington, like maybe back in their day,
Speaker 1: but even models who were major models were freaking out
Speaker 1: at the backstage of the situation that Loreal created. And
Speaker 1: I just noticed certain people being jaded, being like wanting
Speaker 1: to like flex in front of me and like make
Speaker 1: me be the person that's like the new fawn dough
Speaker 1: trying to get its footing. When I've been all over
Speaker 1: the world, like I have been on the cover of
Speaker 1: Forbes magazine, I know a lot of people with big
Speaker 1: boats and sports teams and billionaire Like I've seen shit
Speaker 1: in my life. Okay, I still get excited in Abbotsford.
Speaker 1: I still get excited with the billionaires at the sports games.
Speaker 1: I still get excited if I eat a Ramen. That's
Speaker 1: ninety nine cents that I was smart enough to bring
Speaker 1: on an airplane. I got hot water for it. I
Speaker 1: feel like I'm the fucking richest person in the world,
Speaker 1: sitting in coach going to do relief work. Like, I
Speaker 1: don't believe in being jaded. I don't like, we have
Speaker 1: to get excited. We have to get excited, and I'll
Speaker 1: check myself. Sometimes it'll be like the nineteenth photo shoot
Speaker 1: or the Appearance or something, and you're flying somewhere and
Speaker 1: you're exhausted and you feel gross, and then you're just like,
Speaker 1: but wait a minute, Like someone's paying me to get
Speaker 1: on an airplane to go somewhere, and they want to
Speaker 1: listen to me speak. And a lot of this happens
Speaker 1: when you're unhappy. Jaded people are often unhappy because they're
Speaker 1: just miserable inside. And when you're happy, you're happy about
Speaker 1: most things. You're just excited about most things. And I'm
Speaker 1: excited about most things. And here's the thing, I don't
Speaker 1: If I'm not going to be excited about it, I
Speaker 1: don't do it. That's why I gave up my partnership
Speaker 1: with Mark Burnett's company. Love Mark Burnett, but I wasn't
Speaker 1: happy in the production deal. I didn't want to do it.
Speaker 1: That's why I gave up my business at HSN Lovely people.
Speaker 1: I don't want to do it like. That's why I
Speaker 1: walked away from the reality television The Housewives like that.
Speaker 1: I did not want to do like because if I
Speaker 1: can't be happy doing it, I shouldn't do it. And
Speaker 1: not everybody has that luxury because people have to work
Speaker 1: for a paycheck. And I get that. And there are
Speaker 1: things in life that listen when I'm going after being
Speaker 1: in Paris Fashion Week and I'm getting I've just gotten
Speaker 1: home and I'm exhausted. I'm getting on a plane to
Speaker 1: go see my warehouse because it's the second most significant
Speaker 1: disaster hurricane disaster in US history, mainland history, which I
Speaker 1: think is creeping up to be number one. I am
Speaker 1: not I don't want to be getting on a plane
Speaker 1: and feeling gross in a warehouse in two hundred degree weather.
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter, Like that doesn't matter. It's like you
Speaker 1: don't think about whether you want it or not. There's
Speaker 1: no being jaded. You're just going there, that's it. And
Speaker 1: you would never be jaded, and you would never say
Speaker 1: anything negative because you're thinking by people who are dying,
Speaker 1: and you wouldn't care if you were sitting in coach
Speaker 1: and eating Ramen three meals a day. Like you just
Speaker 1: shift for different things. So I'm gonna give disclaimers about
Speaker 1: certain things, but just overall, like I don't do it.
Speaker 1: If I can't be positive in doing it anymore, I
Speaker 1: don't want to. And I hate myself when I'm miserable,
Speaker 1: and I hate myself when I'm cranky. It's like, give
Speaker 1: yourself a fucking time out, go take a nap. If
Speaker 1: you have that luxury, I realize there are jobs that
Speaker 1: you must do, and you've got to have multiple jobs,
Speaker 1: and you got to pay for your kids, and it
Speaker 1: feels like it's never gonna end. And trust me, I've
Speaker 1: done that for many years. I got the insufficient funds notices,
Speaker 1: I bounced the checks. I did the things when I
Speaker 1: was young I really didn't want to do, but still
Speaker 1: underneath I still wanted, Like I didn't want to do them,
Speaker 1: but I just always worked hard, thinking there's a means
Speaker 1: to an end. It didn't matter what job. From when
Speaker 1: I was a kid working at the bakery, delivering the
Speaker 1: newspaper is like doing any kind of job, like I've
Speaker 1: always been a worker, and I mean gritty disgusting jobs,
Speaker 1: like I have done a lot of gritty disgusting jobs.
Speaker 1: Like I've just been you know, and I've been everything.
Speaker 1: I've been a cocktail waitress, I've been a hostess, I've
Speaker 1: been an actual waitress. I've you know, I've done it all.
Speaker 1: As a kid, I shovel driveways, like I just always
Speaker 1: like to work. And I know this is like going
Speaker 1: off in different tangents, but it's still surrounded by like,
Speaker 1: don't be jaded do it or don't find a way
Speaker 1: to be positive, even if it's the worst job in
Speaker 1: the world. You should. Maybe there's a way to not
Speaker 1: be jaded and say, like, I'm lucky I actually have
Speaker 1: a job. There are people that don't have a job.
Speaker 1: I'm lucky if I can pay my rent. There are
Speaker 1: people that can't pay their rent. I'm lucky if I
Speaker 1: can eat, you know. I mean, take it all the
Speaker 1: way down, and believe me, I do not think I'm
Speaker 1: in the same position because I'm not. I'm a fortunate,
Speaker 1: wealthy white woman in America. I am also self made,
Speaker 1: but I was given opportunities that other people are not
Speaker 1: so it's going to be harder to not be jaded
Speaker 1: if you're in a different situation than I am, and
Speaker 1: I really do realize that. But if you're in a
Speaker 1: situation that you know is positive, that you know is
Speaker 1: you know, rare air, where you feel like you're fortunate,
Speaker 1: find a way to find the yes, find the happy,
Speaker 1: because we really did find it in France. And when
Speaker 1: people around you are not finding the happy and not
Speaker 1: finding the positive, you got to eliminate them. You gotta
Speaker 1: or walk away, stay away from them, even if it's
Speaker 1: your family. Nothing's worse than you come home and you
Speaker 1: have a great thing. You want to announce, something's happening
Speaker 1: for you. You got a job promotion, you're going somewhere,
Speaker 1: a friend's inviting you, you're going on a great date,
Speaker 1: you look good, you lost five pounds, whatever your thing is,
Speaker 1: and someone in your family is slightly negative, Oh that's nice.
Speaker 1: Oh great. Either you're thriving so much the stick of
Speaker 1: hearing about it, or they're just so God's inn miserable,
Speaker 1: or you're so narcissistic and into yourself that you're just
Speaker 1: talking about yourself. Maybe they're gonna make it like that.
Speaker 1: You should know the difference. You know, you got to
Speaker 1: pass the mic. You know it can't be all about you.
Speaker 1: But if you're being genuinely positive and you are fair
Speaker 1: and you're dealing with someone else who's unhappy and negative,
Speaker 1: you've got a cup bait or say the fuck away
Speaker 1: from them, because that shit is contagious and jaded. People
Speaker 1: will bring your ass down and you can feel it.
Speaker 1: Stay away. I did something the other day on social
Speaker 1: media about how like people will be like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I can't believe she's eating like that on the internet.
Speaker 1: Whitney Cummings I spoke. I went to Whitney Cummings Beacon
Speaker 1: Show and she was talking to me about how it's
Speaker 1: like people just like are watching me on social media
Speaker 1: and I'm eating food and the seafood boil, and it
Speaker 1: went viral and I almost got canceled, and it was
Speaker 1: international news and really desperate loser podcasters talking about it
Speaker 1: as if it was news, and like, what is she doing?
Speaker 1: What am I doing? I was eating in a fucking
Speaker 1: hotel room. And the way that I want to eat
Speaker 1: in my fucking hotel room. Why because it's my body,
Speaker 1: my choice, my hotel room, Okay, And so don't watch
Speaker 1: like if you don't like it and you're gonna make
Speaker 1: it an international incident, don't watch it. I'm doing if
Speaker 1: my followers and people who stop by. If you don't
Speaker 1: like black licorice, don't eat it. If you don't like
Speaker 1: chopped liver or sauteed liver and onions or cilantro or
Speaker 1: cape or anchovies or sardines, don't eat it. But don't
Speaker 1: go mock people who eat it. So I'm in a
Speaker 1: hotel room on my account, living my own life, talking
Speaker 1: about food or every day cottage cheese, bagels, cream cheese.
Speaker 1: People want to criticize. Okay, those are the same losers
Speaker 1: that want to criticize when you're perfect and filtered. However
Speaker 1: do you want it? However do you want it? How
Speaker 1: do you want it? You want me to be perfect
Speaker 1: and produced or you want to stop buy over here?
Speaker 1: Like you just walked into me and one of my
Speaker 1: best friends in college eating like Gavones at a restaurant
Speaker 1: with our hands because because we had two margarita's, weren't
Speaker 1: thinking give me one margarita. I'm my open. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't like the bullshit. People are full of shit. You
Speaker 1: want me to filter myself and produce this content. And
Speaker 1: do I have Martha Stewart and Ina Garden come to
Speaker 1: my hotel room and curate the Guide to Eating Seafood
Speaker 1: in an elegant manner over fret tae two thousand thread
Speaker 1: count sheets. Or you want me to be the fucking
Speaker 1: pig animal that I am that had like multiple cocktails
Speaker 1: in my room and ate some seafood because I was
Speaker 1: hungry and craving it, had been off a plane and
Speaker 1: wanted the goddamn salt with the old bay fuck off?
Speaker 1: How about that? I don't like it? And you know
Speaker 1: what else, it matters how you feel? Another bag of bullshit?
Speaker 1: Was I go, I'm worth it. I go to lorel
Speaker 1: I go walk a fashion joe. Do it how you
Speaker 1: want it? They say, I go, I wear the highest
Speaker 1: shoes I can find. I was having fun. I was happy.
Speaker 1: Everyone who knows me knows I was happy. You were happy?
Speaker 1: She got to she was having fun? Oh, so hold on,
Speaker 1: is it really like the Kim Kardashian Guide of Fashion.
Speaker 1: You lace up your waists so you're in pain and
Speaker 1: you can look like you have a twenty eighteen inch waist,
Speaker 1: but you're miserable, like and she can do that. Congrats
Speaker 1: lose forty pounds in two weeks to get into the
Speaker 1: marriln Min Road dress. Live your life, do your thing. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's fine, but over here, I want to be happy.
Speaker 1: I want to smile. So if I decide to do
Speaker 1: cartwheels and skip, use a pogo stick and be a
Speaker 1: giraffe going down the thing, if I'm happy, I'm worth it.
Speaker 1: What is isn't worth? Self worth? Are we gonna define
Speaker 1: bout what other people think? And the reason I'm saying
Speaker 1: all this is what matters is how you feel and
Speaker 1: then someone wants to damp or how you feel. You
Speaker 1: felt good about it? What's worse than you felt good
Speaker 1: about the out that other people didn't like? Tough, tough shit.
Speaker 1: I liked it, I felt good in it. No one's
Speaker 1: gonna change your opinion because of what they think. A
Speaker 1: they could be miserable. You may not like acid wash,
Speaker 1: Baggy mc hammer pants or a ladin pants, but guess what,
Speaker 1: in three years, someone's gonna tell you like them, then
Speaker 1: you're gonna like them. I could make the giraffe walk in.
Speaker 1: Did everybody always like the heroine? She cape moss look
Speaker 1: No did everyone always like the bodacious Betty Boop Jessica
Speaker 1: Robert Merril Monroe look? No? Did everyone always like the
Speaker 1: long extensions, big ass Kardashian look. No, even they didn't
Speaker 1: like it, they changed it. They went onto the skinny
Speaker 1: waiste and slightly large ass look. And then that became like,
Speaker 1: what are you gonna go at the tides? Who the fuck?
Speaker 1: Who decides what anything is? Do? What the fuck you
Speaker 1: want and what you think matters is what matters. And
Speaker 1: I teach out to my daughter, commit to the bit.
Speaker 1: Cameron Diaz in my best friend's wedding san karaoke. She sucked,
Speaker 1: but you know what she committed. She committed to the bit.
Speaker 1: Commit to the bit. They go with you, are you
Speaker 1: fucking kidding me? You're gonna tell me? You then like
Speaker 1: the way I walk because I marched, fuck off my shoes,
Speaker 1: my body, my choice, my larel. They called me, not you,
Speaker 1: you bitches. They didn't call you, So when they fucking
Speaker 1: call you, you walk out. You want you be a kangaroo,
Speaker 1: You do jumping jacks, you walk like a poser, supermodel,
Speaker 1: do whatever the fuck you want. But my supermodel ass
Speaker 1: got up there and got more impressions than anybody who
Speaker 1: actually knows how to do a supermodel walk, so fuck
Speaker 1: off matters, is what I think. What to the top
Speaker 1: after follows that to the top after