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Speaker 1: Whether it's December twenty fourth or fifth, or December twenty sixth,

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Speaker 1: or New Year's Eve or New Year's morning, the sun

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Speaker 1: will rise all right back on the podcast. Welcome everybody,

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Speaker 1: favorite guest.

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Speaker 2: Ever you say that to everybody?

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Speaker 1: I don't have any guests on here? Can you tell

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Speaker 1: my voices bad?

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Speaker 2: I kind of like it.

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Speaker 1: It's on the It's on the way back up. Yesterday,

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Speaker 1: I've been hitting it hard doing a lot of radio,

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Speaker 1: and on top of that, I got into all this

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Speaker 1: allergy stuff as I was traveling to wherever I was,

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Speaker 1: Florida and then Kentucky. And as I'm traveling and doing

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Speaker 1: more and more radio, my voice was just like declining.

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Speaker 1: And so I was trying to load up all these

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Speaker 1: Chrismus after midnights and I was like, oh good, after midnight.

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Speaker 1: I was like, Jeed, gummit, welcome after dad, gomm stop

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Speaker 1: it rewind it, welcome to after midnight.

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Speaker 3: I'm bring dude. It was. It was crushing me, but

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Speaker 3: I got it. I got it.

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Speaker 1: And and now what you hear now is on the

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Speaker 1: it's on It's on the way up.

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Speaker 2: You were saying yesterday how you were coughing a lot,

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Speaker 2: and in all the years that we've been married, and

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Speaker 2: all your years of touring and doing music, you like,

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Speaker 2: never coughed. He would purposely make himself not cough. I

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Speaker 2: don't know how he did it, but you would do

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Speaker 2: all these kinds of tricks to make yourself not cough

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Speaker 2: because you didn't want it to mess up your voice.

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Speaker 1: So, yeah, it's interesting because I don't care as much

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Speaker 1: about my voice. I preached twice this week, and uh,

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Speaker 1: the first time I preached, you know, I didn't have

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Speaker 1: much of a voice at all, but it was fine.

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Speaker 1: I get to still get the point across. I couldn't sing. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: So thankfully I don't have to worry about that anymore. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we answer your questions on this podcast.

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Speaker 3: That's what we do.

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Speaker 1: And I have a limited number of guests each week,

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Speaker 1: and this is my favorite one, my wife Amber. If

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Speaker 1: you want your question answered, email Granger at Excuse Me

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Speaker 1: podcast at grangersmith dot com. Not only is my voice

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Speaker 1: going out, but so is my brain podcast at grangersmith

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Speaker 1: dot com.

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Speaker 2: You're not busy or anything. You don't have a lot

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Speaker 2: on your plate at all.

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Speaker 1: I have so much on my plate, but I love

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Speaker 1: it all. No, I know you do I love it.

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Speaker 2: That's why we have to give you grace for your

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Speaker 2: brain not working one hundred percent all the time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think the messages went well this week too, even

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Speaker 1: though my brain was it's not great. I think I

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Speaker 3: Well over well.

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Speaker 2: I can't wait to see them. I always read them.

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Speaker 2: He always sends them to me to read. But a

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Speaker 2: lot of the times I can't be there in person

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Speaker 2: with you, so I can't. I always like to wait

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Speaker 2: and watch the videos whenever they come out.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's go.

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Speaker 1: First question comes from Olivia. It says, Hey, Granger, just

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Speaker 1: wanted to start off by saying that I really love

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Speaker 1: your podcast and your music. You really inspire me with

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Speaker 1: everything that you've ever done. I'm seventeen, I'm a Mennonite girl,

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Speaker 1: In a Minnite church, and I was always taught modesty

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Speaker 1: I'm a firm believer, and I hope that you don't

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Speaker 1: I know that modesty is something that's very important, but

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Speaker 1: Marv is a Marv is a dear, dear brother, and

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Speaker 3: You met Marv?

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Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, great family, and so because of my lack

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Speaker 1: So it's what I'm saying is he didn't like leave

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Speaker 1: He emailed the podcast, and I emailed him back, and

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Speaker 1: What's happening here is this is a beautiful thing because

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Speaker 1: I think what both of us, both of us are

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Speaker 1: Not a matter of you earning any extra favor with God.

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Speaker 1: I think it's a great conversation to have with girls

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Speaker 1: Depend Salvation is not dependent upon this. And that's just

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Speaker 2: is with the Lord now, and when we are in

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Speaker 2: Christ we go from life to life. There is there

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Speaker 2: is no death. And I think you're doing everything that

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Speaker 2: you need to be doing by reading your word, continually praying,

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Speaker 2: and just be patient and know that God is working

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Speaker 2: even when you don't feel it, and even when you

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Speaker 2: don't see it. Just because you don't feel him doesn't

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Speaker 2: mean that that he's not there, that he's not moving,

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Speaker 2: that he's not working. So don't be so hard on yourself.

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Speaker 2: Give yourself grace.

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 2: It's like you said, if this was five years from

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Speaker 2: now or ten years from now, I would say something different.

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Speaker 2: But this is still really fresh and everyone is still

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Speaker 2: hurting and still grieving. So I would just tell you

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Speaker 2: to continue to I don't know if you're plugged into

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Speaker 2: a local church, but if you're feeling lonely, I would

453
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Speaker 2: say to get plugged into a local church and have

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Speaker 2: the body of believers surround you and walk with you

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Speaker 2: through this grief and just continue to be in your word,

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Speaker 2: like you say that you're doing right now.

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Speaker 3: I don't think I have anything to add to that

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Speaker 3: as well.

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Speaker 2: Does she ask any other questions or just she feels stuck.

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Speaker 1: She feels stuck, and like you said, it's very normal. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I hear you. The thing I'll tell you too, Anna,

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Speaker 1: is that it's been one year now. You should see

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Speaker 1: in this year two a significant improvement. Yeah, Because what's

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Speaker 1: part of what's making this tough is your family. Your

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Speaker 1: family's hurting so much, and so when you start to

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Speaker 1: your spirits starting to lift a little bit, you're starting

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Speaker 1: to feel a little bit better, and then you go

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Speaker 1: to your aunt's house and everyone's crying.

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Speaker 3: It's like.

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Speaker 1: It reminds you of the reality that you're in. That

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Speaker 1: we live in a fallen world where there is death

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Speaker 1: and mortality very evident to us. And so I think

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Speaker 1: that's part of what's going on is it's not just

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Speaker 1: you because you said, I'm in shock and my family

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Speaker 1: is hurting so much.

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Speaker 3: I just can't believe he's gone.

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Speaker 1: And there's also gonna be a lot more of this

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Speaker 1: coming up in your life, not just your uncle, It's

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Speaker 1: coming to everyone. You're doing the right things, You're seeking

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Speaker 1: the right counsel. But that use this also as a

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Speaker 1: it's a good magnifier that there is an end on

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Speaker 1: this earth for everyone. What are you gonna do with that?

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Speaker 1: What are you gonna do with the time you have now?

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Speaker 1: Who are you gonna tell the gospel to now before

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Speaker 1: their time is up, before a sudden heart attack hits

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Speaker 1: like it did my dad.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and think about the time that we're coming into,

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Speaker 2: you know, the Christmas season, the Advent season. This is

489
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Speaker 2: the perfect time. You just shared the gospel like this

490
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Speaker 2: is what God came to do, was to save us

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Speaker 2: and to bring us into right relationship with Him and

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Speaker 2: for us to someday be on the new Heaven and

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Speaker 2: the new Earth. This gives us hope. You can grieve

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Speaker 2: with hope. If you're in your Bible, you should be

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Speaker 2: able to be grieving with hope. And I would say

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Speaker 2: it looks it's going to be a year. I guess

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Speaker 2: right now at December to December, I would say, go

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Speaker 2: out and do something special in remembrance of him on

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Speaker 2: that day. That's what we try to do for River

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Speaker 2: or Granger's dad, is just to remember them in a

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Speaker 2: special way and go do something for somebody else. When

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Speaker 2: you take the focus off of yourself and go help

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Speaker 2: somebody else, it helps to give you purpose through that pain.

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Speaker 3: That's great.

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Speaker 1: Best question comes from Jay and it says, hey, Grangdeer

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Speaker 1: recently discovered your podcast and your music and has changed

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Speaker 1: my life. I'm seventeen, my name is Jay. Just wanted

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Speaker 1: us to get your opinion on tattoos. I know you

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Speaker 1: have some, but my dad thinks that it mars your

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Speaker 1: body and God created in a specific way and to

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Speaker 1: change it permanently is against his will.

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Speaker 3: I want you.

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Speaker 1: I want to get one myself when I turn of age.

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Speaker 1: But what about tattoos of God or Christ? If they

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Speaker 1: show someone's love for God? If they show someone's love

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Speaker 1: for God, is it bad to have Any thoughts on

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Speaker 1: this would be much appreciated. Also, could you tell me

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Speaker 1: what the meaning of the barbarier tattoo on your arm?

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Speaker 1: And why you say you say us all the way around.

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Speaker 1: Thanks love you man and everything you're doing.

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Speaker 3: Thank you Jay.

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Speaker 1: The first thing is that barboarer tattoos fake. It's from

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Speaker 1: a sharpie.

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Speaker 2: We used to draw it on before every show, and

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Speaker 2: now you just kind of you just didn't care anymore.

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Speaker 1: It's part of the it's part of the humor of

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Speaker 1: Earl when we first created him that he would that

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Speaker 1: It's like, there's a you think of getting a barbarer

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Speaker 1: two tattoo would hurt because it goes kind of under

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Speaker 1: the armpit, goes all the way around, and so there

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Speaker 1: would be guys according to Earl. In my mind, Earle

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Speaker 1: would think that maybe a city boy would get a

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Speaker 1: tattoo of a barbed wire, but he would stop right

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Speaker 1: under the armpit where it actually hurt. And so Earle saying,

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Speaker 1: mine goes all the way around, because I don't care

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Speaker 1: about the pain.

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Speaker 3: Of course it goes all the way around.

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Speaker 1: It's like Earl is always having an argument with himself

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Speaker 1: to a hypothetical city boy accusation, like does it go

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Speaker 1: all the way around, Earl, even where it hurts in

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Speaker 1: the soft part of your armpit.

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Speaker 3: Of course it goes all the way around.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm doing after midnight, and I'm Earl

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Speaker 1: when I have this voice, it's very difficult.

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Speaker 3: I'm earld devil's chine. It doesn't do it. It doesn't

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Speaker 3: do it.

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Speaker 1: Jay, let me jump in on your question here, and

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Speaker 1: Amber could jump in as well. This is interesting. I'm

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Speaker 1: not sure if ant Man put these together on purpose

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Speaker 1: for a little theme. But now we're talking about head coverings,

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Speaker 1: extramarital sex, and now Tatto who's This is the episode

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Speaker 1: of obedience for sure, and obedience versus legalism moralism. So

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Speaker 1: let me dissect your question.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 1: The first thing I want to say is your dad

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Speaker 1: thinks that it mars your body, and God created it

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Speaker 1: the body in a specific way, and to change it

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Speaker 1: permanently is against his will.

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Speaker 2: Half truth.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's interesting God's will as we pray, like Jesus

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Speaker 1: taught us, your will be done on earth as it

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Speaker 1: is in heaven, meaning your will is.

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Speaker 3: Going to be done.

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Speaker 1: We pray for it to be done, and we praise

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Speaker 1: you that it will be done. There is nothing changing that.

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Speaker 1: So to say that you change your body is against

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Speaker 1: or going against his will. That's a harsh way of

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Speaker 1: saying it to say, it would be better to say,

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Speaker 1: does it displease him? Marring my does marring my body

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Speaker 1: displease a Holy God? I think that would be a

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Speaker 1: better way to say it. And once again here we go,

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Speaker 1: similar to head coverings. This is going to be something

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Speaker 1: that you are going to You can go to Leviticus

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Speaker 1: for this, but you're not gonna see much more after

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Speaker 1: that in the New Testament. You're gonna need to stick

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Speaker 1: with your sanctification. You need You're gonna need to stick

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Speaker 1: with what you you are feeling as you are going

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Speaker 1: through your own quiet time. If I was going to

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Speaker 1: give you an opinion, I would say, brother, don't don't

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Speaker 1: get any That would be my what my ask to you.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't do it now. If I was going to

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Speaker 1: start all over as a reborn Christian, I wouldn't do it.

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Speaker 3: Not because of legalism, not because of waralism. But why

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Speaker 3: would I risk that? Why would I risk displeasing God?

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Speaker 3: What are your thoughts?

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Speaker 2: It's like you said, it's was spoken about in Leviticus

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Speaker 2: and not really in the New Testament, And so back

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Speaker 2: then it was seen, as you know, the pagan kind

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Speaker 2: of people would tattoo their body and mar their body

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Speaker 2: up with their gods, and so it was. It was forbidden,

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Speaker 2: and it's not.

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Speaker 1: And I'll just jump in to it. In addition to that,

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Speaker 1: the levitical laws, the Mosaic law itself was a separation

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Speaker 1: be holy. They wanted God wanted the Israelites his people

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Speaker 1: to be holy. To better define what that means. It means,

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Speaker 1: be separate. Don't be like the world. We're gonna set you.

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Speaker 1: I want to set you apart. Don't be like them.

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Speaker 1: Don't eat what they eat, don't wear what they wear,

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Speaker 1: don't worship the way they worship. Don't tattoo your bodies

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Speaker 1: like they tattooed their bodies. You are holy just like

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Speaker 1: I am holy. I want you to be holy. Set apart.

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Speaker 1: And there are certain things that they're doing that mark them,

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Speaker 1: like those men they have long hair, those women that

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Speaker 1: have short hair. There's certain things they're doing that setting

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Speaker 1: it's making them worldly. Don't do those things. We are

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Speaker 1: now outside of that covenant. We are now part of

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Speaker 1: the new covenant. That crisis fulfilled the law, all of it,

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Speaker 1: every dot and iota of it, so we don't look

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Speaker 1: at it as breaking a law. When it comes to

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Speaker 1: the ceremonial slash civil laws of the time. We do

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Speaker 1: absolutely still respect and keep and live by the moral

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Speaker 1: version of the law, and so keep that in mind

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Speaker 1: when you're thinking about all of the many rules and.

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Speaker 3: Lividic gets go ahead.

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Speaker 2: And I don't think getting a tattoo now would be sin. Obviously,

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Speaker 2: if you're putting some sort of sorcery type thing on

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Speaker 2: your body, then yes, But I don't think getting across

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Speaker 2: on your body would be seen as sin. If you're

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Speaker 2: doing something that reminds you of your love for the Lord,

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Speaker 2: I don't think, based on the New Testament, that would

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Speaker 2: be sin. Like Granger said, Jesus came to fulfill the law,

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Speaker 2: were not held under that law anymore. But I do

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Speaker 2: think if you're wrestling with it and thinking about it

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Speaker 2: and you're not quite at peace about it, just wait,

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Speaker 2: just don't do it yet. I will tell you every

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Speaker 2: tattoo that I've gotten I regret. You know, I wasn't

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Speaker 2: a Christian. They don't mean anything. They're just ridiculous, and

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Speaker 2: they're on my body now unless I get them removed forever.

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Speaker 2: But I also did get across when I got baptized

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Speaker 2: and I got a little lightning bolt for river, and

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Speaker 2: I don't think that was sin in doing that. I

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Speaker 2: think you should, like Granger said, listen to your own

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Speaker 2: conviction about it. You're going through your own sanctification process.

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Speaker 2: But I don't think like your dad said, it's against

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Speaker 2: God's will. However, I will say, are our bodies are

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Speaker 2: a temple of the Holy Spirit, and so that could

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Speaker 2: be something that you're wrestling with as well. So listen

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Speaker 2: to your own conviction about that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why I wouldn't do it.

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Speaker 2: Just don't do it. Yeah, if you're if you're not ready,

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Speaker 2: and you're not.

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Speaker 1: If you decide to do it, don't get it. You said,

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Speaker 1: what about tattoos of God or Christ?

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Speaker 3: Don't do that. Do not get a tattoo of Christ on.

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Speaker 2: You like a I think I don't think you meant

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Speaker 2: like a photo of Jesus.

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Speaker 3: I think he did.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I was thinking like a cross or something.

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Speaker 1: Don't do that. That would be breaking a commandment as well.

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Speaker 1: Show today is brought to you, guys by better help

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Speaker 1: with all of these deep topics that we get into.

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Speaker 3: I've said this many times.

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Speaker 1: I'm not a therapist, but sometimes the questions I get

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Speaker 1: on this podcast require some kind of therapy in terms

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Speaker 1: of feeling better. Certainly, when Amber and I went through

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Speaker 1: our most traumatic experience, therapy was very helpful. Now you

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Speaker 1: might be thinking, well, that's good for you, Granger, but

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Speaker 2: People always think that Christmas is such a joyful time,

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Speaker 2: and it is because we have what Christ did for

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Speaker 2: us and we look forward, you know, to remembering his

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Speaker 2: birth and what he came to do. And we look

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Speaker 2: forward to his return. But for most it's the most

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Speaker 2: wonderful time of the year, or some other people it's not.

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00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:03,240
Speaker 2: They're sad and lonely or grieving.

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Speaker 1: What do you tell someone that's looking at this holiday

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Speaker 1: season right now and they were missing somebody at their

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Speaker 1: at the dinner table, or maybe they were alone. Actually

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Speaker 1: I can't imagine. There's all kinds of scenarios. Maybe a

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Speaker 1: widow that lost her husband and this is the first

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Speaker 1: Christmas she has a house alone to herself.

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Speaker 3: How do you speak to that?

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Speaker 2: I would say, if they're listening to this the next day,

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Speaker 2: I would say, congratulations, you made it through that day,

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Speaker 2: and I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry that you had

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Speaker 2: to go through that. But the sun rose again, and

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Speaker 2: you know, like the scripture says, weeping may terry for

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Speaker 2: the night, but joy comes in the morning. And I

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Speaker 2: pray that with God's God gives you new morning mercies

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Speaker 2: every single day, and that you can wake up to

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Speaker 2: this new day and know I made it through yesterday,

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Speaker 2: I did it. I can do it again, and just

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Speaker 2: keep putting one foot in front of the other.

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Speaker 1: The movie Castaway Tom Hanks not a Christian movie, but

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Speaker 1: do you remember at the very end when he's talking

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Speaker 1: to Kelly and he's explaining that he almost killed himself

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Speaker 1: on that island after three years. I think the story.

722
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Speaker 1: I love that movie, and he's talking about it and

723
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Speaker 1: he was getting ready to give up, and he was like, but.

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Speaker 3: The sun still rises. And one day the tide brought

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Speaker 3: me a sail. It was a port of body.

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Speaker 1: And I say that to anyone too, that I think

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Speaker 1: that's beautiful that you said that the sun still rises.

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Speaker 1: And the only way to know that it does is

729
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Speaker 1: to get up the next morning and open your curtains

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Speaker 1: and make your bed, and brush your teeth and put

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Speaker 1: on some clothes and look out at the sky. And God,

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Speaker 1: you were consistently putting us with a new day. The

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Speaker 1: earth rotated again, and there's the sun so consistent, never

734
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Speaker 1: misses morning, never misses. Yeah, that sounds so trite, so

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Speaker 1: stupid almost to say it that way. But if we

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Speaker 1: think about God, one of the most beautiful things about

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Speaker 1: God's creation is the consistency that he put us in.

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Speaker 1: We could rely that tomorrow. We know tomorrow the sun

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Speaker 1: will come up, and there is so much peace.

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Speaker 3: In that consistency.

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Speaker 1: Whether it's December twenty fourth or fifth, or December twenty sixth,

742
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Speaker 1: or New Year's Eve or New Year's morning.

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Speaker 3: The sun will rise.

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Speaker 1: Until he commands that it doesn't. He has it in

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Speaker 1: a loop right now. He has earth in a loop

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Speaker 1: until he tells it to stop. That is a crazy thought.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. And so also to that point, are you right

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Speaker 2: with the Lord? Because it's going to come like a

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Speaker 2: thief in the night when he tells it to stop.

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Speaker 2: So are you right? Are you right with Jesus? Did

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Speaker 2: you listen to the gospel that Granger just shared? Do

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Speaker 2: you know where you're going when that sun doesn't come

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Speaker 2: up again?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And to the to the people that are in a

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Speaker 1: community that are missing someone that maybe this is a

757
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Speaker 1: really hard holiday season. They maybe they took a vacation

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Speaker 1: from Christmas and left the house and they're off somewhere

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Speaker 1: else right now. And maybe listening to this podcast, Amber

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Speaker 1: and I could both tell you that Christmas will be

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Speaker 1: what it used to be again. You have a tendency

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Speaker 1: sometimes to think, well, not only did I lose my

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Speaker 1: loved one, but I also lost Christmas.

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Speaker 3: I also lost Thanksgiving.

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Speaker 1: And because I lost my loved one, now I also

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Speaker 1: don't get to celebrate my favorite holiday, and that now

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Speaker 1: my childhood's gone. So not only did I lose my

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Speaker 1: loved one, but I have erased the joy of my childhood.

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Speaker 1: What now we have a tendency like our brain starts

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Speaker 1: doing weird.

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Speaker 3: Tricks like that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you have to kind of put put

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Speaker 1: our feelings on top of the authority of what we

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Speaker 1: know and go.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, no no no.

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Speaker 1: The sun will rise. Well, we will move forward. We

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Speaker 1: will have a normal Christmas again. We will feel joy

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Speaker 1: on Christmas morning again.

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Speaker 3: That's a promise.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we still have a question left on this episode.

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Speaker 3: We should ask it from Biff. I love that name.

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Speaker 3: If yes, you know I love back to the future.

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Speaker 1: Hey, Granger, been listening to the pod for a long

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Speaker 1: time and I really do enjoy what I've heard. So

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Speaker 1: my wife and I are in a hard place in

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Speaker 1: our lives. We've decided to separate and go back to

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Speaker 1: just dating each other to hopefully get back to a

788
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Speaker 1: happy life with each other. I've put everything in God's hands.

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Speaker 1: I pray about it every day. I'm scared to death

790
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Speaker 1: my wife is going to want to divorce me in

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Speaker 1: the end. Our pastor has told us we need to

792
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Speaker 1: talk to other people. My wife is definitely doing that,

793
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Speaker 1: but I can't bring myself to it. I love her

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Speaker 1: so much. I'm working on myself, trying to be better

795
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Speaker 1: for myself and my wife. We've spent the weekend together

796
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Speaker 1: and I got extremely jealous of her talking to another guy.

797
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:23,080
Speaker 1: She says that he's just a friend, and he told

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Speaker 1: me to look at who she chose to spend the

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Speaker 1: weekend with, but Granger, It's hard. I got so jealous

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Speaker 1: when we ended up fighting about it. Some advice is

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Speaker 1: greatly appreciated. Sincerely, A Western a West Texas A West.

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Speaker 3: Texan named Biff.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Biff Man, thank you for emailing. I'm so sorry

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Speaker 1: that you're going through this. I see this play out

805
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Speaker 1: with people often.

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Speaker 3: You're not alone.

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Speaker 1: Say that first I see this play out, and where

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Speaker 1: I see the mistakes happening is win, Biff. You cannot

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Speaker 1: hold back your anger? Are your jealousy? Are your obsessiveness?

810
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Speaker 1: Are your neediness? Not saying you have it, but I'm

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Speaker 1: saying that's where I see this go wrong. From the

812
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Speaker 1: guy's perspective, I'm sure you've talked to a lot of girls,

813
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Speaker 1: but when I see this happening to a guy. I

814
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Speaker 1: have two or three in my life right now. One

815
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:36,440
Speaker 1: of them just kind of divorce and they cannot bring themselves,

816
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Speaker 1: they cannot humble themselves and squash their pride enough to

817
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Speaker 1: say stop it, Biff, don't say don't say anything about

818
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Speaker 1: that guy.

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Speaker 3: Don't sit that's stupid.

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Speaker 1: Don't do it. Don't do it. And you did, and

821
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Speaker 1: you did, and you just tore down another layer of

822
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Speaker 1: anything that you had built. Two steps back, one step forward.

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Speaker 1: I'm what I'm not saying is it's your fault. I'm

824
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Speaker 1: not saying she's in the right and you're messing this

825
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Speaker 1: all up. I'm just saying, from my perspective, pride is

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Speaker 1: a huge enemy in this situation. I also think churches

827
00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:16,879
Speaker 1: fail couples. A lot of bad churches out there. Not

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Speaker 1: saying you're in a bad church, I'm just saying I

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Speaker 1: think you probably are.

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Speaker 2: Un must thing you're in a bad church. I'm just

831
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Speaker 2: saying I think you probably are.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I'm not saying I'm sure of it. I'm saying

833
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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure of it because all I get out

834
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Speaker 1: of this is our pastor told us we need to

835
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Speaker 1: talk to other people.

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Speaker 3: What kind of advice is that? Pastor?

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Speaker 1: If a church was operating correctly biblically, if it was

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Speaker 1: acting soundly like it's supposed to, we.

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Speaker 3: Wouldn't need AA.

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Speaker 1: We wouldn't need extramarital counseling, we wouldn't need grief share.

841
00:44:56,400 --> 00:44:59,319
Speaker 1: Those things are great, but we wouldn't need them. We

842
00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:01,880
Speaker 1: could use them, but we wouldn't need them because the

843
00:45:01,960 --> 00:45:05,600
Speaker 1: church would provide the need for the sheep. The pastor,

844
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Speaker 1: the shepherd provides for the sheep, and he doesn't say

845
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Speaker 1: you need to talk to other people. Hey, pastor, if

846
00:45:11,480 --> 00:45:14,719
Speaker 1: you're listening, this guy Biff might have just said that wrong.

847
00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:16,720
Speaker 1: And maybe that's not Maybe there's more to the story

848
00:45:16,719 --> 00:45:21,200
Speaker 1: that probably is. Look if whenever you got married and

849
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Speaker 1: you said your vows, there was something probably in your

850
00:45:23,480 --> 00:45:25,960
Speaker 1: vows that said something about for better or for worse,

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Speaker 1: for richer or for poorer, for insickness and health. Love,

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00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:38,279
Speaker 1: A true love for your spouse will persist past the

853
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Speaker 1: time when you stop benefiting from it. Think about that.

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00:45:42,880 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 3: Let me say it again.

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00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:51,520
Speaker 1: A true love for your spouse will persist longer than

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00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:57,279
Speaker 1: the time when you stop benefiting from it. Man, that

857
00:45:57,480 --> 00:46:02,240
Speaker 1: is an epidemic in this country when people stop getting

858
00:46:02,400 --> 00:46:06,920
Speaker 1: when they stop benefiting from the marriage. They think I'm out,

859
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:10,359
Speaker 1: or we gotta separate, or we gotta we gotta try

860
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:14,480
Speaker 1: something new, we gotta date somebody else. I'm no longer happy.

861
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Speaker 1: I'm not happy, me me, me, I'm not getting what

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00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:17,200
Speaker 1: I want.

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00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 3: And you're like, hey, did you not say for better

864
00:46:21,160 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 3: or for worse? This is worse. It's not.

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Speaker 1: I will marry you for better. When you stop benefiting.

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00:46:31,760 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 1: You should keep loving selflesslie, you should stop. You should suppress,

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Speaker 1: work to suppress the jealousy, work to suppress these feelings

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Speaker 1: of anger. That Biff, I'm pretty sure you got. I

869
00:46:44,280 --> 00:46:46,680
Speaker 1: love you, brother, and I'm so glad you emailed. But

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Speaker 1: if I was talking to you on text, this is

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Speaker 1: how I would talk to you, and this is how

872
00:46:50,760 --> 00:46:52,520
Speaker 1: we talk to these other guys. I'm like, listen to me.

873
00:46:52,840 --> 00:46:56,000
Speaker 1: Stop being so stubborn. Get your hard head out of this.

874
00:46:57,400 --> 00:46:59,960
Speaker 3: Okay, okay.

875
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:03,359
Speaker 2: These questions are hard because we don't know the whole

876
00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 2: gist of your marriage. We don't know what's gone on

877
00:47:05,200 --> 00:47:07,640
Speaker 2: in your marriage to cause this conflict, to cause you

878
00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:09,880
Speaker 2: guys to be in this space. So, first of all,

879
00:47:09,880 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 2: I wanted to say I was glad you were walking

880
00:47:11,280 --> 00:47:12,920
Speaker 2: through it. With a pastor. But then for them to

881
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 2: say you should talk to other people, I don't know

882
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:17,680
Speaker 2: if they meant counseling or other couples or that's kind

883
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:21,360
Speaker 2: of vague. I would also say it's good that you

884
00:47:21,400 --> 00:47:23,279
Speaker 2: guys are trying to date each other again. You know,

885
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:24,960
Speaker 2: I think a lot of couples they get into this

886
00:47:25,080 --> 00:47:27,800
Speaker 2: rut where they don't date each other. They get busy

887
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:29,520
Speaker 2: with work or busy with kids, and they kind of

888
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:31,759
Speaker 2: their husband or wife go on the back burner. So

889
00:47:32,280 --> 00:47:35,000
Speaker 2: you have to be intentional and make time and date

890
00:47:35,040 --> 00:47:36,680
Speaker 2: each other, which is great that you'll are doing that.

891
00:47:37,400 --> 00:47:39,399
Speaker 2: The whole thing about talking to another guy, I don't

892
00:47:39,400 --> 00:47:41,839
Speaker 2: know if that was through text or Facebook or if

893
00:47:41,840 --> 00:47:45,600
Speaker 2: that was in person. So while I agree with Granger

894
00:47:45,600 --> 00:47:48,400
Speaker 2: and saying you should swallow your pride and you should

895
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:52,000
Speaker 2: try to you know, the verse in Corinthian says love

896
00:47:52,080 --> 00:47:54,960
Speaker 2: is not jealous, you have to try to try to

897
00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:57,520
Speaker 2: swallow that. I also think that coming from a woman,

898
00:47:58,160 --> 00:48:00,160
Speaker 2: if there was something that I knew would make my

899
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:02,719
Speaker 2: husband jealous, I would try everything in my power not

900
00:48:02,800 --> 00:48:05,680
Speaker 2: to do it. So I'm not saying you can't ever

901
00:48:05,760 --> 00:48:07,920
Speaker 2: like say hello to somebody and be kind and cordial.

902
00:48:07,960 --> 00:48:10,160
Speaker 2: But if there's something that I know is gonna upset Granger,

903
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 2: if he was really didn't want me to talk to

904
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:14,800
Speaker 2: another guy because he thought I was flirting, I wouldn't

905
00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:15,120
Speaker 2: do it.

906
00:48:15,680 --> 00:48:17,319
Speaker 3: I'm not speaking for her. I'm just speaking for.

907
00:48:17,239 --> 00:48:19,120
Speaker 2: Biff, right, r right. He asked the question, So I

908
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:22,400
Speaker 2: was just speaking for a woman's perspective. So yeah, I

909
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:26,040
Speaker 2: don't know she's triggering him, Yeah, she's triggering. I would

910
00:48:26,080 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 2: just say, continue to seek wise counsel, continue to date

911
00:48:30,680 --> 00:48:33,520
Speaker 2: each other, and try to get back to that place

912
00:48:33,520 --> 00:48:35,120
Speaker 2: that you were. Like Granger said, I saw something the

913
00:48:35,160 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 2: other day that said, your marriage doesn't have to end,

914
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 2: but this version of your marriage can end. Like you,

915
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:44,239
Speaker 2: guys can stop this right now. You don't have to

916
00:48:44,560 --> 00:48:45,840
Speaker 2: you don't have to get a divorce, you don't have

917
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:48,160
Speaker 2: to be separated. You can just say, look, we're gonna

918
00:48:48,160 --> 00:48:49,680
Speaker 2: stop this right now. We're gonna choose each other. We're

919
00:48:49,719 --> 00:48:52,319
Speaker 2: going to date each other. We're going to see what

920
00:48:52,480 --> 00:48:54,239
Speaker 2: makes the other person upset. We're not going to do that.

921
00:48:54,280 --> 00:48:57,279
Speaker 2: We're going to pour into each other. And another thing

922
00:48:57,480 --> 00:49:00,719
Speaker 2: is I think it was John Hybrid that said the

923
00:49:00,719 --> 00:49:02,839
Speaker 2: best version that you can the best thing you can

924
00:49:02,880 --> 00:49:05,840
Speaker 2: do for your husband and your wife is to devote

925
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 2: time to your holiness. If you are seeking yourself to

926
00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:12,600
Speaker 2: be holy, you will do everything that the Bible says

927
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:14,200
Speaker 2: to honor your husband or your wife. So, if you

928
00:49:14,200 --> 00:49:16,719
Speaker 2: guys are both chasing after Christ, you're gonna love each other.

929
00:49:16,760 --> 00:49:18,480
Speaker 2: You're gonna choose each other. You're gonna have that first

930
00:49:18,520 --> 00:49:21,719
Speaker 2: Corinthian's love. So I would say, work on your walk

931
00:49:21,760 --> 00:49:22,239
Speaker 2: with the Lord.

932
00:49:22,320 --> 00:49:24,800
Speaker 3: And if that's so good, that's so good.

933
00:49:25,320 --> 00:49:27,600
Speaker 1: You know you can't say that, If you can't say

934
00:49:27,719 --> 00:49:29,840
Speaker 1: I've put everything in God's hands.

935
00:49:30,200 --> 00:49:33,120
Speaker 3: Oh, pray about it every day. I'm scared to death.

936
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:34,759
Speaker 2: I was gonna say. I was gonna say that too.

937
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 2: I've heard so many people say, I'm just giving it

938
00:49:37,200 --> 00:49:38,480
Speaker 2: to God. I'm just giving it up. I'm just gonna

939
00:49:38,520 --> 00:49:42,000
Speaker 2: let him do. Okay, Yes, we want to surrender everything

940
00:49:42,040 --> 00:49:44,520
Speaker 2: to God. But that's not a that's not passive.

941
00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:44,839
Speaker 3: Yeah.

942
00:49:44,920 --> 00:49:47,960
Speaker 2: Still, it's active, it's active faith. You're still going to

943
00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:51,919
Speaker 2: do things to work closer to your to your loved

944
00:49:51,920 --> 00:49:54,440
Speaker 2: one too, to choose them, to leave little notes for

945
00:49:54,480 --> 00:49:57,480
Speaker 2: them like you have to choose to do things to

946
00:49:57,520 --> 00:49:58,920
Speaker 2: show your love for them. You can't just say, oh,

947
00:49:58,920 --> 00:50:00,160
Speaker 2: I'm just giving up. I'm just giving it to God

948
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:02,400
Speaker 2: and praying he's gonna do a miracle. Like no, you

949
00:50:02,440 --> 00:50:03,920
Speaker 2: have to be active in your relationship.

950
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Speaker 3: So good. Thanks, love it.

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Speaker 1: That's all I got, y'all. We'll see you next episode.

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Speaker 1: Merry Christmas, Merry Christmasy. Thanks for joining me on the

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