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Speaker 1: Hey everybody, welcome to the newest episode of Two Cool Moms.

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Speaker 1: I'm Joe Gatto, I'm Steve Burn, and we are your

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Speaker 1: two cool moms here to help you with your life's

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Speaker 1: tilemmas and just you know, chat for the next thirty

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Speaker 1: to forty five to one hour depending.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. By the way, I love the smell of coffee.

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Speaker 1: Smells great good.

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Speaker 2: I don't drink coffee, but I love the smell.

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Speaker 1: But you just had a banger hot cocoa.

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Speaker 2: I had a hot coco like a third grader. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: on a cold winter day, and I loved it.

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Speaker 1: You do the tease?

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Speaker 2: Do you drink tea every now and then? I love?

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Speaker 2: What's a hot beverage?

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Speaker 1: Would you hop? Average of choice? I know, iced tea,

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Speaker 1: hot chocolate, hot coco, yeah, you go cocos or.

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Speaker 2: Tequila, A hot one.

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Speaker 1: You have to do like a hot toddy.

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Speaker 2: Never, no, you're done.

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Speaker 1: A chocolate New Mexican. You put the kill on the

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Speaker 1: hot chocolate.

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Speaker 2: Chocolate e Mexican.

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Speaker 1: Put it your kill on the hot chocolate. You know.

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Speaker 2: That was like it sounds like a d H for

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Speaker 2: the Mets.

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Speaker 1: That was a That was a baseball reference that I

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Speaker 2: Wow, we're back.

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Speaker 1: I did H when you were younger. Do you have

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Speaker 1: to like eleven eight stand or whatever? Of course, so

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Speaker 1: I did a hot cocoa stand once, me and Jason

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Speaker 2: That's tough too.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, we were outside for like twelve minutes and

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Speaker 1: my father came back from work and he's like, we're free,

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Speaker 1: Like we make a hot coco stand. He's like, first

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Speaker 1: cult coco getting sawt It was so because my mom

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Speaker 1: was like, that's good, you'd be entrepreneurs. Goh, yes, now

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Speaker 1: she helped us make it. And my dad gets someone's like,

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Speaker 2: Just right to the fact, right in fact.

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Speaker 1: There's no there was no sidewalk. It was covered in snow.

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Speaker 1: I remember, and I remember across the street one of

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Speaker 2: I'm like you want to but that's did you ever

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Speaker 1: Yeah? That was the that was the way to make them.

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Speaker 1: When guys coming with the plow. Do you remember that?

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Speaker 2: Do you see and pre plow?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? When people do the Hong Kong Did you ever

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Speaker 2: Oh really you never got that? No? Yeah, we just

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I did. We used to someone I got the

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Speaker 1: So, the first year I'm living there, no snow. The

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Speaker 1: So I was like, right, I had to figure out.

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Speaker 1: I got a phone call from the old owner. He's

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Speaker 1: and there go boom. He just came in and did

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Speaker 1: it haunted my house? Possibly? We just talked about this yesterday.

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Speaker 1: Did you really Two of my dogs are starting to

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Speaker 1: nothing's at Really, my dogs, are you serious? I swear Tartoofo, Napoleon,

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Speaker 1: I've got a Blair bitch in my house. I use

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Speaker 2: So the dogs know something's up, not all of them,

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Speaker 2: But they don't bar. No other dog barks in, not

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Speaker 2: Have you ever had a haunted experience?

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Speaker 2: Multiple, First was the scariest one.

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure. But I my father had passed away

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Speaker 2: I was thinking the eighth song, Oh Philadelphia, He's sorry.

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Speaker 1: I wish I could hugg my dad one more time.

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Speaker 1: I'm getting filled up thinking about it. And I hugged

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Speaker 1: Cool.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, see, I don't think those things are coincidence.

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Speaker 2: Isn't it great that that happened and you didn't round

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, that I think that is. I don't

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Speaker 2: know you you hear about those stories, right, and so

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Speaker 2: sweet and I it's interesting. My uncle passed away, and

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Speaker 2: I think it was my grandmother's and then my uncle

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Speaker 2: She came back and the clock stopped at two forty five.

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Speaker 2: She went to wind it and it snapped, so the

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Speaker 2: forty five.

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Speaker 1: That's pretty interesting, pretty wild. She broke the fucking clock.

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Speaker 2: She broke the clock.

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Speaker 1: That bitch. Bitch broke the clock, broke them and tried

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Speaker 1: to be like, oh, that's what he died. She moved

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, you guys don't worry what happened? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Thennis acorn fell up. Oh that's pretty sick too.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, pretty wild that that the exact time that he

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Speaker 2: D am I in the won't know? You?

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Speaker 1: I know? I I think about that all the time,

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Speaker 1: And then what about Jesse was justice your wife's situation?

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Speaker 1: So but I lost my parents early, right, so my

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Speaker 2: it's amazing you lost both your parents at an early

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Speaker 1: Years, were murdered by pastry. My father chokes. My father

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Speaker 1: But then you always think. I always about the funny

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Speaker 2: A moment, that was such an awesome story. Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: But it's like that is because your dad's alive. You

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Speaker 1: But my stead, that's again to bring it up, Steve,

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Speaker 2: But that's such a cool memory and that's such a

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Speaker 2: good dad thing. But that's also dude, that's such a

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Speaker 2: youth thing. That's totally where you get it from. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I mean, I know you've told multiple stories about your

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I definitely got my dad's dad is that's you, dude.

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Speaker 2: I could see you doing that in a heartbeat. You

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Speaker 2: do it every day in the air, you do whatever.

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Speaker 2: Where we go, everywhere we go, Yeah, everywhere we go.

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Speaker 2: Oh there's a door, it won't know it works, but

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Speaker 1: Favorite thing is walking into an unlocked door, pretending it's locked.

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Speaker 3: My favorite game, kicking it and then and then the

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Speaker 2: Who remember Niagara Falls?

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Speaker 2: There was the I mean, it's the most ridiculous. It's

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Speaker 2: Clearly against the wall, like a twelve by fourteen foot sticker,

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Speaker 3: This and he runs it ran it was It wasn't

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Speaker 2: Yes, and you ran into it like remember when Doctor Evil,

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Speaker 1: You you you, then I got a complaint.

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Speaker 2: You got up and you always act amazed.

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Speaker 2: What is this? It doesn't work?

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Speaker 1: Oh you crumble?

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Speaker 2: Do what?

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Speaker 1: You get tears whenever I look at you two when

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Speaker 1: we're on the road together and I go watch this,

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Speaker 2: It was hilarious and just everybody's faces. And the thing

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Speaker 2: now is though, like it takes people three seconds to

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Speaker 1: You know what. I do a new thing now which

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Speaker 1: take a picture of me while I'm jumping on three

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Speaker 1: and I'll jump on two.

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Speaker 3: You know stupid photos when you jump and freeze on two.

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Speaker 3: I'll go one two and I'll jump I'll did you

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Speaker 3: get it?

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 1: No, just wait for three and I'll jump on three.

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Speaker 1: It's so fun. I highly recommend it to friends.

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Speaker 2: That should be your new show. Watch this, Watch this.

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Speaker 2: That's a great idea.

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Speaker 1: Watch this. That's a fun idea. Maybe'll maybe I'll develop

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Speaker 1: that out. You should do it? Would you watch this?

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Speaker 2: Y'all?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? That's what I want to watch.

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Speaker 2: This joke.

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Speaker 1: That's my that's my equivalent of hold my beer.

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Speaker 1: That is so you yeah, do you think that, uh?

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Speaker 1: Do you think that Jess has moments that with with

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Speaker 2: I think she's more practical, right, Like she's going to

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Speaker 2: Can do this, she can do that. I'm the one

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Speaker 2: that's like, let's get the car and let's just go

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Speaker 2: let's go. You know, usually it's stuff that involves spending money.

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Speaker 2: She's like, oh god, but she's a lot a lot

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Speaker 1: But she goes along for the ride, which I love.

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Speaker 2: She goes along for the ride.

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Speaker 1: Phil in the moment like all.

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Speaker 2: Right, let's do it, you know kind of yeah, even

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Speaker 2: if it's Hawaii, she's like, all right, we shouldn't be

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Speaker 2: doing this, let's go, but aloha. Yeah, she's she's a

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Speaker 2: lot more. Yeah, she's a thinker, she's a planner, whereas

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Speaker 2: I'm just like fuck it.

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 2: I remember there were times, like my daughter was in

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Speaker 2: the Disney season pass and it's like, it's a beautiful

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Speaker 1: Fuck it.

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Speaker 2: She's like, where are you going. I'm like, I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: go get live. I'm gonna take her to Disney. She's like, wait, what, Mike,

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Speaker 2: We're just gonna go to Disney today. She's like, but

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Speaker 2: one day you're gonna you're gonna realize how much you're

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Speaker 2: taking this for granted. You're gonna love it. And when

442
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Speaker 2: we moved to Nashville, about a year into Nashville, she goes,

443
00:19:08,760 --> 00:19:10,800
Speaker 2: she said it from the back of the car. She goes, Dad,

444
00:19:10,840 --> 00:19:13,000
Speaker 2: I go, yeah, she goes, I miss all those times

445
00:19:13,080 --> 00:19:15,640
Speaker 2: she took this. You're right. And I was like, you're right.

446
00:19:15,800 --> 00:19:18,280
Speaker 1: Told you I told you, Yeah, you can remember. That's

447
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448
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Speaker 2: I'll tell you another thing. Your mom is wrong. I

449
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Speaker 1: That's it, right on the branch. Let's do it all right.

462
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Speaker 4: This comes from Katie. Hey, Mommy's I'm twenty four and

463
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Speaker 4: recently got engage back in October and Halloween night. Any

464
00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:05,399
Speaker 4: advice on planning a ceremony or wedding. I've been married

465
00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:07,800
Speaker 4: before and was always extremely hesitant when it came to

466
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Speaker 4: the idea of getting married again. This time, I really

467
00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:12,440
Speaker 4: want to make it as simple as possible and enjoy

468
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Speaker 4: the day rather than stress. How can I make the

469
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Speaker 4: best of a small celebration?

470
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Speaker 2: Who was good with this?

471
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Speaker 1: Yeah? Just do it first of all, I mean, yeah,

472
00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:23,480
Speaker 1: take his dreaming of a big wedding away, because you

473
00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:25,719
Speaker 1: already did it with you know, you already struck out,

474
00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:27,439
Speaker 1: So he's got to bear that brunt. He can have

475
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Speaker 1: a big fun one.

476
00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:30,720
Speaker 2: He already knows that your body was used and abused

477
00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:33,399
Speaker 2: by another man, and he got what he wanted, and

478
00:20:33,440 --> 00:20:35,879
Speaker 2: he left, and he left, he ravaged your body. He

479
00:20:35,920 --> 00:20:36,880
Speaker 2: did everything he wanted.

480
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Speaker 1: Was just start over. Okay, that's great, I wanted that

481
00:20:45,640 --> 00:20:46,160
Speaker 1: was very fun.

482
00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:49,880
Speaker 2: She got engaged on Devil's Night.

483
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Speaker 1: That's great. Well, here's what I would say about this

484
00:20:52,160 --> 00:20:54,120
Speaker 1: about that intimate one. This you're gonna be able to see,

485
00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:55,880
Speaker 1: which is cool. You're gonna have two different experiences because

486
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Speaker 1: you probably have the big, gaudy wedding, which we all do,

487
00:20:58,000 --> 00:21:01,040
Speaker 1: right or most people do, and and you realize that

488
00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:03,200
Speaker 1: it's not worth it. It's really just good to have

489
00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:05,199
Speaker 1: a nice collection of people that matter in your life.

490
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Speaker 1: So what I would say with the smaller ceremony, you

491
00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:10,320
Speaker 1: do get to capitalize on time spent with your guests.

492
00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:12,440
Speaker 1: You get to make memories and have fun with your

493
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Speaker 1: friends and family at a smaller scale as opposed to

494
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Speaker 1: working the room with a big, big wedding. Yeah, all

495
00:21:18,280 --> 00:21:20,639
Speaker 1: that stuff. So I will say that's the first thing

496
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Speaker 1: that I was going to bring you new joy with

497
00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:25,159
Speaker 1: that and your husband is to have some memories of

498
00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:29,120
Speaker 1: spending time with your guests and actually partying with them

499
00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:30,960
Speaker 1: instead of being at a party. I think that's the

500
00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:32,840
Speaker 1: biggest difference between a big wedding and a little wedding.

501
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:35,040
Speaker 1: You party with your guests or you're at a party.

502
00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:37,200
Speaker 1: At the big wedding, you know, it's like a little different.

503
00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:39,399
Speaker 1: So I would say that's the number one thing, the

504
00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:42,159
Speaker 1: number two thing that's great about a smaller one is

505
00:21:42,200 --> 00:21:44,760
Speaker 1: that you could really pay attention to some of the

506
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Speaker 1: details in a different way, and you can make it

507
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Speaker 1: feel very much your own. Like I remember, like I

508
00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:53,120
Speaker 1: left photography and we found this thing at the last

509
00:21:53,160 --> 00:21:55,760
Speaker 1: minute about putting up a polaroid wall where we would

510
00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:58,320
Speaker 1: just have everybody, you know, snap a picture and then

511
00:21:58,560 --> 00:22:00,720
Speaker 1: put up, you know, write a little note on the

512
00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:02,760
Speaker 1: back of the polar and I thought that was really cool. Yeah,

513
00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:04,160
Speaker 1: so you could take your time to find some that's

514
00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:06,280
Speaker 1: really about you and that that could be really cool

515
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,360
Speaker 1: to add those little details which kind of get lost

516
00:22:08,359 --> 00:22:10,120
Speaker 1: at a big wedding because you're like, I can't order

517
00:22:10,119 --> 00:22:12,560
Speaker 1: one hundred and seventy of these things or whatever it is. Yeah,

518
00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:14,280
Speaker 1: so I think that's another thing that I'll help. And

519
00:22:14,280 --> 00:22:16,720
Speaker 1: then also the food, you could dive in a little

520
00:22:16,720 --> 00:22:17,960
Speaker 1: bit better. With the food, you don't even have to

521
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:21,000
Speaker 1: do the penne alavaka for four hundred people. Well you did,

522
00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:23,560
Speaker 1: you try to do like an artisanal linguini.

523
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Speaker 2: For the DeMar But the meal, by the way, is

524
00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:28,080
Speaker 2: that much better because it's so much more intimated percent

525
00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:30,120
Speaker 2: as well, Yeah, you just enjoy it more.

526
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Speaker 1: Yeah, what are your thoughts?

527
00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:35,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would echo a lot of your sentiments, and

528
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:39,200
Speaker 2: I think, like there's I think any couple that has

529
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:42,720
Speaker 2: got married or will get married, you also romanticize like

530
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:46,320
Speaker 2: that Vegas. Well, yeah, that's something I kind of wish, Yeah,

531
00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:49,879
Speaker 2: we had done that. Yeah, to just go with like

532
00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:52,600
Speaker 2: a handful of your best pals go going to Vegas

533
00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:54,359
Speaker 2: and you don't even tell them and then you, you know,

534
00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:56,600
Speaker 2: Elvis marries you and then you just blow it out

535
00:22:56,600 --> 00:23:00,359
Speaker 2: that weekend like that, to me, in retrospect, sounds a

536
00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:02,000
Speaker 2: lot more fun because then you have all that money

537
00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:06,919
Speaker 2: for the vacation and your honeymoon or whatever. Speak and blackjack,

538
00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:10,439
Speaker 2: which you would do well at I would not do.

539
00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:13,320
Speaker 1: So yeah, I think that's cool. Yeah, so I would

540
00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:15,640
Speaker 1: embrace it. And it sounds like she's on the right path.

541
00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:17,880
Speaker 1: I feel like she's excited about this from the tone

542
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:20,240
Speaker 1: of it, So, yeah, excited about a smaller wedding. So yeah,

543
00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:23,320
Speaker 1: I would definitely embrace the differences and celebrate those. I mean,

544
00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:25,400
Speaker 1: you know, you do also have to the hardest part

545
00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:27,840
Speaker 1: about it is the guest list, Right, if you're committing

546
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:30,280
Speaker 1: to a small wedding, you're gonna you know, you have

547
00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 1: to cut off some people. Yeah, you know, I think

548
00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:35,440
Speaker 1: it was your wedding. Do you remember how many people

549
00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:36,040
Speaker 1: you had to yours?

550
00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:39,159
Speaker 2: I mean, Jess comes from a big family, so she

551
00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:43,399
Speaker 2: invited like like seventy five people. I think I'd like

552
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:47,440
Speaker 2: ten or twelve. Yeah, and like retrospect, I wish i'd

553
00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:50,159
Speaker 2: I had invited more. But then I also felt like

554
00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 2: all my friends are working, yeah, like you know comics, right.

555
00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:58,879
Speaker 2: I remember getting an invitation from Sebastian Menoscalco right to

556
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Speaker 2: go to his wedding, and he the invitation was a

557
00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:07,359
Speaker 2: It was an invitation, but there was also like a

558
00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:12,680
Speaker 2: People magazine with them on the cover, and I was like, oh,

559
00:24:12,680 --> 00:24:14,520
Speaker 2: that's kind of cool, Like they put it on. I

560
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:17,359
Speaker 2: was like, well, I'll read the People. No, the whole

561
00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:19,639
Speaker 2: I think I still have it in the closet somewhere.

562
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:24,120
Speaker 2: The whole People magazine was them. They had articles on them.

563
00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:27,480
Speaker 2: This is years ago ago, dude, So I mean it

564
00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:31,080
Speaker 2: was like her likes his likes. They're just like us.

565
00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 2: What does mom say about it? What is dad? Like?

566
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:37,920
Speaker 2: They had a full on, full blown People magazine And

567
00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:39,520
Speaker 2: it was one of those things where I was so

568
00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:42,480
Speaker 2: young I needed to pay my rent. Right, I was

569
00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:44,680
Speaker 2: like I can't go to this, and then I'm getting

570
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 2: all these messages.

571
00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:48,680
Speaker 1: Like this wedding.

572
00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:51,159
Speaker 2: I mean they have like their pictures in front of

573
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:53,480
Speaker 2: the Sebastian and I was like.

574
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 1: Well, that looks sick.

575
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 2: And I was like one of those regrets and I

576
00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:59,200
Speaker 2: couldn't do it. And then when I was getting hitched,

577
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,119
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I should have Sebastian. I'm just like,

578
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:04,960
Speaker 2: he's not gonna come, you know, he's you know, And

579
00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:06,639
Speaker 2: that was so stupid to me to assume. But I

580
00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 2: just I felt like it was more just in my

581
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:11,960
Speaker 2: own head, like oh, it's a burden. Yeah, yeah to

582
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:13,560
Speaker 2: some of my friends, and I felt like they'd rather

583
00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:15,720
Speaker 2: work than come to this, Like why would they? I

584
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 2: don't know. It was so selfish and stupid at me.

585
00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:19,760
Speaker 1: You want to give people the opportunity to say no.

586
00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:21,920
Speaker 1: I think it's a big problem with anything in life. Yeah,

587
00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:23,280
Speaker 1: you always put it on yourself, like, oh, I don't

588
00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:25,400
Speaker 1: want to burn people. Give if people don't want they

589
00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:27,320
Speaker 1: have give them the chance to say no if they

590
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:29,520
Speaker 1: don't want to come, because then you are taking away

591
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 1: the chance from them saying yeah, i'll tell you this.

592
00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:34,080
Speaker 2: My mom had cancer. She had breast cancer. She didn't

593
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Speaker 2: tell us.

594
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Speaker 1: Isn't that crazy at your wedding?

595
00:25:37,359 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, no, no, no no. I didn't want to

596
00:25:39,760 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 2: bring down the mood. No, at my wedding. She poked

597
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:46,960
Speaker 2: my stomach, goes, you'll fat. Literally, she poked my tummy.

598
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:50,920
Speaker 2: You're fat there, thanks mom. But I mean to your point, like,

599
00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:53,439
Speaker 2: my mom kept it from us for a while, and

600
00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:54,919
Speaker 2: my dad's like, all right, I got to tell him

601
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:57,760
Speaker 2: at some point, and he told us and he's like,

602
00:25:57,800 --> 00:25:59,440
Speaker 2: I don't want you to feel a burden or whatever.

603
00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 2: And I was all going on the road and they

604
00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:03,200
Speaker 2: was thinking of me like in that.

605
00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:07,800
Speaker 1: Regard, right, that's crazy. Yeah, your mom still alive. Right,

606
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:15,320
Speaker 1: next question, when you get our speaker, I love you.

607
00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:19,680
Speaker 1: You're fat fat. Okay, you're in a phonus fat son.

608
00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 1: She went, show fat.

609
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:33,160
Speaker 2: It's just me on a clearance rack.

610
00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 1: Some Bard shorts. Okay.

611
00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:41,680
Speaker 4: Kelly says, I get so lazy and tired in the winter.

612
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:43,879
Speaker 4: Any tips to keep the winter blues away.

613
00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:46,800
Speaker 1: That's a big thing for people. That's seasonal depression.

614
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:50,760
Speaker 2: Right, It's so easy to stay inside, it's so easy

615
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:53,640
Speaker 2: to be like comfort food. I totally get that. Yeah,

616
00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:56,080
Speaker 2: I mean I just went through the holidays. Yeah, I

617
00:26:56,200 --> 00:27:00,000
Speaker 2: lost so much weight for the special than the holiday

618
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:01,399
Speaker 2: is hit and I put it all back on.

619
00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:05,400
Speaker 1: Don't jump, junk it up, double up.

620
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:19,119
Speaker 2: So I do want more serving. Yeah, I literally ate

621
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:22,080
Speaker 2: like I have two assholes. Yeah, and I was like,

622
00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:23,639
Speaker 2: all right, you gotta get it back in shape. So

623
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:26,040
Speaker 2: I completely grew with you. I understand that. I think

624
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 2: it's just like force yourself to get out there. Even

625
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:31,200
Speaker 2: if you think it's cold. It's never that cold unless

626
00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 2: it's really cold.

627
00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:33,679
Speaker 1: Unless it's really cold. Yeah, you know, but even that,

628
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:36,879
Speaker 1: like jimsy indoor gyms aren't cold. Yeah, you know. You

629
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:40,080
Speaker 1: have to find destination stuff. Nor Northeast is like where

630
00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:43,679
Speaker 1: I live is annoyingly cold. And then the seasonal depression.

631
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:45,080
Speaker 1: The biggest part for me is the light and dark.

632
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:47,359
Speaker 1: It gets dark, so it's like pitch black out of

633
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:50,639
Speaker 1: four forty five. Yeah, it's insane. It's like, oh, I

634
00:27:50,680 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 1: hate that, you know, And you know, it's really interesting.

635
00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:54,560
Speaker 1: I see it of my dogs when I want them,

636
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:57,439
Speaker 1: when A're not busy barking to ghosts, they're walking outside

637
00:27:57,440 --> 00:27:59,200
Speaker 1: in the dark, Like my dogs be like, oh, they're

638
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:01,440
Speaker 1: like fall asleep the night at like five pm.

639
00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:05,160
Speaker 2: Aren't you related though that the dogs? Yeah, chill, which

640
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:06,640
Speaker 2: is nice, chill so much earlier.

641
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:09,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, that is cool. But I do feel like the

642
00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:11,320
Speaker 1: darkness is the biggest thing for me. The darken light

643
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:12,800
Speaker 1: thing is worse than the cold. Like I could live

644
00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:15,760
Speaker 1: with the cold like that it gets it's so depressing

645
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 1: when it's like all of a sudden, it's like, you look,

646
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 1: I still at five pm. I still have six hours

647
00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:22,399
Speaker 1: of my life to live in the pure dark, like

648
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:25,320
Speaker 1: I'm a fucking bat flapping around a cavern.

649
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:29,439
Speaker 2: You do that Alaska thing where it's like forty I

650
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:30,600
Speaker 2: went to Alaska in June.

651
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:32,720
Speaker 1: When I went there, it was the sun was setting

652
00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: at like ten pm or someone was crazy. I was

653
00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 1: like nine people or something like that.

654
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:36,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, but what time is it?

655
00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 1: Which was nuts?

656
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 2: What times it start? What times the day.

657
00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:41,960
Speaker 1: Started as like six to nine or something like that,

658
00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 1: six six am or so. Yeah, it so it was

659
00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:45,920
Speaker 1: kind of normal by last night there. I think it

660
00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:47,800
Speaker 1: would beginning of June. I think at the sunset like

661
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 1: eight thirty five. That's why it was just crazy pretty cool. Yeah,

662
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 1: it was really cool. It might even been later, I think.

663
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 2: But just consecutive days of night. Did you ever do that.

664
00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:59,280
Speaker 1: No, I mean I think that would be like super

665
00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:02,480
Speaker 1: unless I was and crime. If I was like a vigilante,

666
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:04,600
Speaker 1: I would want I wouldn't want to get executive.

667
00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:09,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, night fights, but a rose where your parents you know, Yeah, well.

668
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:17,760
Speaker 1: When my mother got taken down by my mother got killed.

669
00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 5: By the I think, uh, the best way to deal

670
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:25,480
Speaker 5: with it is I think the first thing is to

671
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:28,720
Speaker 5: really Bessie, my wife, really really affects her.

672
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: It's like because she was from California too, so she's

673
00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 1: used to all that warm and stuff. But I think

674
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:36,600
Speaker 1: a big thing is to know your triggers and realize

675
00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 1: what's coming and prep yourself for it. Like you get

676
00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 1: those Vitamin D lamps which really helped her. Like I had,

677
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 1: I was like this is bullshit, but I see how

678
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 1: it works on her.

679
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:45,840
Speaker 2: It's crazy.

680
00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:49,160
Speaker 1: Yeah. So they're like a basically just a lamp that

681
00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 1: just shoots out like UV light, and it like she

682
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 1: just like looks into this laight stares into this life

683
00:29:54,760 --> 00:29:57,160
Speaker 1: for a little bit and it's like recharges a battery

684
00:29:57,400 --> 00:30:04,959
Speaker 1: unlike your solar powered watch. So she like loves that.

685
00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:07,480
Speaker 2: That sounds exactly like something that would be on the

686
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:10,720
Speaker 2: back cover of the Sharper image. Remember that definitely like the.

687
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:13,640
Speaker 1: By the way that Sharper image has been has been,

688
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 1: you know, replaced with TikTok shop. TikTok shop is a

689
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:19,920
Speaker 1: scrolling Sharper image. Or what was the one in the

690
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:25,480
Speaker 1: airplane of the Brookston No, not Brookst The sky mall.

691
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:26,600
Speaker 1: Sky was the best.

692
00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:27,760
Speaker 2: I love sky mall.

693
00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:30,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I had a good friend of mine used

694
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:32,400
Speaker 1: to Christmas shop exclusively from the sky.

695
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 2: I get eight foot gargoyles from my garden.

696
00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:39,760
Speaker 1: Who doesn't want to garden? I love that?

697
00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:40,719
Speaker 2: Yes, please?

698
00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:45,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh man, the sky mall. That was a great

699
00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 1: thing to shop at. I'm a sucker for a good bargain.

700
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:49,640
Speaker 1: But I would say those UV light things help.

701
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:51,440
Speaker 2: UV lights that work.

702
00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:54,520
Speaker 1: And I think eating right is important to you.

703
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:58,000
Speaker 2: Gotta eat right, Yeah, you gotta eat right. But I

704
00:30:58,000 --> 00:30:59,680
Speaker 2: I love taking walks around my neighborhood.

705
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 1: Even you even do cold. You bundle up, I'll bundle up. Yeah,

706
00:31:02,760 --> 00:31:04,440
Speaker 1: you a penny from South Park.

707
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 2: I'm UPI's brother, bundle up and you force yourself to

708
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 2: get out there. And I've never I've never went out

709
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:15,040
Speaker 2: and taken a walk and came back and said I

710
00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 2: shouldn't have done.

711
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:18,360
Speaker 1: That, don't you think Sometimes you've set us like, fuck,

712
00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:21,600
Speaker 1: it's cold out there. Why did I do that? Yes, yes,

713
00:31:21,640 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 1: but you're also in Nashville, but cold to get in Nashville.

714
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 2: It doesn't get too cold. I mean there's nights where

715
00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:30,000
Speaker 2: it's gotten cold. But I also think it's frame of mind. Okay,

716
00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:32,440
Speaker 2: frame of mind. Oh God, I don't want to say it.

717
00:31:32,800 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 1: Come on.

718
00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 2: I was reading a book on the Endurance cap Shackleton.

719
00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:42,640
Speaker 1: Ernest.

720
00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:47,040
Speaker 2: This is one of the greatest stories in terms of

721
00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 2: like expedition ever and you could google it. Ernest Shackleton.

722
00:31:50,840 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 1: Okay, tell me what Ernie did.

723
00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:56,360
Speaker 2: They went down to the South Pole on a ship

724
00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:57,640
Speaker 2: called the Endurance.

725
00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 1: And they won one by one, one by one. There

726
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:03,479
Speaker 1: was twelve of them. What's that there's twelve of them.

727
00:32:03,520 --> 00:32:05,480
Speaker 1: You told me the story, right, Didn't they only eat seals?

728
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:08,920
Speaker 2: No, they survived I believe, like a year and a

729
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:13,200
Speaker 2: half in the Arctic by themselves. And he went from

730
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:17,200
Speaker 2: They were literally on an ice shelf and their ship

731
00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 2: got crushed and went down. They salvaged supplies, They went

732
00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 2: and took one of the smaller boats, found a place

733
00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:29,720
Speaker 2: they could lodge up, and then essentially went to another

734
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:32,040
Speaker 2: island to get help that wasn't there, and then they

735
00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:34,400
Speaker 2: had to catch the right current otherwise they would drift

736
00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:36,960
Speaker 2: out in the sea and die. And then that means

737
00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 2: the guy's marooned that the island would die. And they

738
00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:42,840
Speaker 2: hedged their bets and found this island. And not only

739
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:44,800
Speaker 2: did they got to the island, they had to hike

740
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 2: from one side of the island to the other and

741
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:50,680
Speaker 2: through mountainous terrain and get back in enough time to

742
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:53,360
Speaker 2: save those guys on the other side. And that side

743
00:32:53,440 --> 00:32:56,600
Speaker 2: it was crazy. It's crazy. It's absolutely crazy, and every

744
00:32:56,640 --> 00:32:59,320
Speaker 2: single member of his crew survived and it's only because

745
00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 2: of him. So my point is, there are nights where

746
00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:04,880
Speaker 2: I go out, I walk and it's like eighteen degrees.

747
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:09,880
Speaker 2: It's fifteen degrees, okay, But you think I swear to God.

748
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:15,160
Speaker 2: I do because because you're gonna I swear it again.

749
00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 2: But it's all frame of mind because those guys, like

750
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:27,760
Speaker 2: I'd seen like these pictures. Uh, there was a photographer

751
00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 2: that had filmed for a little bit, but they would

752
00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:35,000
Speaker 2: be outside in like twelve degrees working and sandwiching the

753
00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 2: ship in like short sleeved shirts or whatever, and then

754
00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:39,920
Speaker 2: at night it would get incredibly cold, and I was like,

755
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:42,760
Speaker 2: these guys did not have north face. They didn't have

756
00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:44,880
Speaker 2: any of it. They just had like the little bit

757
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:47,160
Speaker 2: of clothing they did and they survived. And I every

758
00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:49,400
Speaker 2: time out and it's super coold. I'm like, it's just

759
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 2: a frame of mind. Is is it really that cold? Mess? Shorts?

760
00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:58,520
Speaker 2: I wear boys shorts and I roller blade. I go,

761
00:33:58,640 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 2: this is for you, Ernest. And I looked at that

762
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:01,720
Speaker 2: north story and I point.

763
00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:04,680
Speaker 1: I walk out. I'm just triple fat, no goose.

764
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:16,440
Speaker 2: Don't you think there are times where you're doing things

765
00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 2: that are physical or mental and you know you can

766
00:34:21,760 --> 00:34:26,160
Speaker 2: supersede the circumstances with frame of mind. Do you ever

767
00:34:26,200 --> 00:34:26,719
Speaker 2: think that? Oh?

768
00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:28,600
Speaker 1: For sure, for sure. But I don't think about that

769
00:34:28,600 --> 00:34:30,239
Speaker 1: as most physical stuff because I don't do a lot

770
00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 1: of physical stuff right, Like I don't like, I don't

771
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:33,440
Speaker 1: go out a what But I think about like I'm

772
00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:35,719
Speaker 1: trying to problem solve or if i'm thinking right, work

773
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 1: through something like an issue that's coming through, Like I'm

774
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:43,120
Speaker 1: trying to think of an example of something. But okay,

775
00:34:43,200 --> 00:34:44,360
Speaker 1: let's say I have had like a big decision to

776
00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:46,120
Speaker 1: come through and you break it down with the process, right,

777
00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:48,080
Speaker 1: you know, I'll think of Gary Oldstein, who's like a

778
00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:49,759
Speaker 1: Do you ever hear the story of Gary olds They

779
00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 1: never read a book about him, So Gary Oldstein him?

780
00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:54,239
Speaker 2: And are you making? You're making?

781
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:58,000
Speaker 1: They were stuck in Pennsylvania. Okay, the car broke down.

782
00:34:58,600 --> 00:34:59,880
Speaker 2: You know I'm talking.

783
00:35:00,440 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 1: You got a story about Gary Altstein. Car broke down

784
00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:08,360
Speaker 1: in Pennsylvania. Okay, there's ten of them in the woods. Okay,

785
00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 1: Joe very a lost fimilarities to your's. Okay, they didn't know.

786
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:14,520
Speaker 1: They'd go up the mountain and down the mountain, and

787
00:35:14,800 --> 00:35:16,719
Speaker 1: six of the guys are waiting more on the other tree,

788
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 1: and they guess back and Gary Olsen didn't lose one man.

789
00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 1: And I think about it all, tak.

790
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:25,000
Speaker 2: This is the Donner Party. That's that's what you're telling about.

791
00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:27,319
Speaker 1: Okay, No, No, I do no, I do think. I

792
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:29,279
Speaker 1: do think about that a lot. I was making a

793
00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 1: joke there, but I do think about people who work

794
00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:33,920
Speaker 1: through I hate the saying it could be worse. I

795
00:35:33,960 --> 00:35:36,040
Speaker 1: do hate that saying. I do hate that because it's

796
00:35:36,040 --> 00:35:37,960
Speaker 1: always like you're comparing your misery to somebody else, which

797
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:42,160
Speaker 1: is never. Never, nobody's story is equal nobody's services equal, right,

798
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:43,520
Speaker 1: it could be worse. Of course, it could be worse,

799
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:45,279
Speaker 1: but also could be better. So which way you're picking

800
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:46,719
Speaker 1: it up from, like which way you're looking at? You know,

801
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:48,480
Speaker 1: it doesn't make any sense to us to say that

802
00:35:48,520 --> 00:35:50,239
Speaker 1: it could be worse, it could be better, you know,

803
00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 1: So it doesn't make any sense to me for that saying.

804
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:54,360
Speaker 1: But I will say I sometimes I think of, Okay,

805
00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:57,600
Speaker 1: this is my biggest problem. Okay, so how do we

806
00:35:57,680 --> 00:36:00,640
Speaker 1: solve this problem? People are out there solving way better problems,

807
00:36:01,280 --> 00:36:03,319
Speaker 1: So that's I could relate to it in that way,

808
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:04,240
Speaker 1: I would say.

809
00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 2: But could be better as the mindset that people are in.

810
00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 2: And that's why you say, well it could be worse

811
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:12,920
Speaker 2: because your present isn't where you want to be, because

812
00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 2: it should be where it's better. Yeah, but it's so

813
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:18,000
Speaker 2: when you're when you when it's not better, you're going,

814
00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 2: well it could be worse. No, I think medicating yourself

815
00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:22,000
Speaker 2: back to the present. No.

816
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:25,120
Speaker 1: I think people there are downgrading their their present. I

817
00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:26,879
Speaker 1: think it's downgraded and they say, well, it could be worse,

818
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:28,400
Speaker 1: that's what they're dealing with. But no, it could be

819
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 1: better if you work harder. See what I'm saying, like

820
00:36:31,520 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 1: you're almost to your other way. You know, you're saying

821
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:35,319
Speaker 1: it could be worse when people are like, you know,

822
00:36:35,360 --> 00:36:37,120
Speaker 1: oh I got this flat tire. Hey, it could be worse,

823
00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:40,000
Speaker 1: you know what, be like but like that in that situation. Yeah,

824
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:41,480
Speaker 1: but it's a lot of people are like, hey, you

825
00:36:41,520 --> 00:36:43,719
Speaker 1: know what, I only make this much, But it could

826
00:36:43,719 --> 00:36:45,440
Speaker 1: be worse. But yeah, it could also be better if

827
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:47,680
Speaker 1: you worked harder, you discipline yourself in a different way.

828
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:50,000
Speaker 1: So I think it depends on the way that you're

829
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:51,240
Speaker 1: the intention behind the saying.

830
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 2: I think that's that's probably what our listeners think when

831
00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:55,319
Speaker 2: they listen to Definitely.

832
00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:58,399
Speaker 1: It's definitely No. They think it is worse, it's getting worse,

833
00:36:58,440 --> 00:37:02,879
Speaker 1: It is worse, presents it was worse, could be better. Well,

834
00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:09,560
Speaker 1: it looks like we found our title gov's episode whatever number.

835
00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:13,840
Speaker 4: It is worse, all right, we have time for a

836
00:37:13,840 --> 00:37:14,439
Speaker 4: couple more.

837
00:37:14,840 --> 00:37:16,279
Speaker 1: Thank goodness.

838
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 2: That could be worse, yea, and also.

839
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:20,040
Speaker 1: Could be better.

840
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:30,279
Speaker 4: Charlie says, I'm turning forty in a few weeks and

841
00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:32,759
Speaker 4: my husband is ten years younger than I am. We're

842
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:35,200
Speaker 4: a gay couple interested in adopting in the future. But

843
00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:37,759
Speaker 4: my age is a concern for me. My idea was

844
00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:39,919
Speaker 4: to adopt an older kid and get some years back.

845
00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:42,040
Speaker 4: But my husband is interested in a baby.

846
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:44,719
Speaker 1: What should we do? Get both go one of each?

847
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:47,319
Speaker 1: How old is so?

848
00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:50,799
Speaker 4: Charlie's forty and his husband is ten years younger.

849
00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:52,319
Speaker 1: Than thirty forty and thirty. I did a quick math

850
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:55,640
Speaker 1: theft for I had my I mean I had my

851
00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:56,280
Speaker 1: second kid.

852
00:37:56,120 --> 00:37:58,440
Speaker 2: At forty, I was thirty, I was thirty.

853
00:37:58,760 --> 00:38:00,359
Speaker 1: I was thirty nine when I had my first one,

854
00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 1: and forty one and I had my second one.

855
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:02,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, thirty eight when I have my first.

856
00:38:02,960 --> 00:38:06,560
Speaker 1: So I think you get you get some time. I

857
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:08,160
Speaker 1: do see what the you know, if you want more,

858
00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 1: if you want to be there and be able to

859
00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:12,160
Speaker 1: establish a better future for the kid and have more

860
00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:14,719
Speaker 1: time to set them up when they're We just spoke

861
00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:17,040
Speaker 1: about how like you don't remember much before six or seven, right,

862
00:38:17,080 --> 00:38:18,799
Speaker 1: I think he's trying to cut that time out. If

863
00:38:18,840 --> 00:38:20,279
Speaker 1: you get a seven year old whatever, you're starting to

864
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:22,560
Speaker 1: make memories and bonding with the kid instantly, right, Yeah,

865
00:38:22,560 --> 00:38:24,520
Speaker 1: we're having more of an impact, should I say? And

866
00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:28,560
Speaker 1: they're long term life planned, you know, right, you had

867
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:32,879
Speaker 1: more different years. But then this benefits to both sides.

868
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:35,000
Speaker 1: I could see both sides of it. As far as

869
00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:36,560
Speaker 1: what you could do here, I mean, we can't answer

870
00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:41,759
Speaker 1: that for you. I would say, talk about it as

871
00:38:41,840 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 1: much as you can and see who's going to be

872
00:38:44,239 --> 00:38:48,000
Speaker 1: less unhappy with the kid, right, because somebody's going to

873
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 1: come out the way they want it to be.

874
00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:53,680
Speaker 2: Yeah. Look, I would think that age. I think he's

875
00:38:54,040 --> 00:38:57,760
Speaker 2: fixated on the fact that he feels older. Yeah, but again,

876
00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:00,640
Speaker 2: I think much of what we talk about frame of mind.

877
00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:04,080
Speaker 2: So I think you got to stop with that because.

878
00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:06,160
Speaker 1: Out you can live to ninety yeah, right, and then

879
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 1: you get fifty years with this kid.

880
00:39:07,719 --> 00:39:09,560
Speaker 2: Robert de Niro just had a kid at eighty one.

881
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, it's crazy.

882
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:12,960
Speaker 2: So did Pacino. I think Patina is the same thing.

883
00:39:13,120 --> 00:39:16,280
Speaker 2: So my only question between you guys is who's the bottom.

884
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:18,680
Speaker 1: That's a good question, I would say, maybe, but I

885
00:39:18,680 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 1: don't know it was one we should be asking.

886
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:23,759
Speaker 2: Okay, maybe we should try to brass tacks Chuck figure

887
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:24,560
Speaker 2: out talk to me.

888
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:27,960
Speaker 1: Yeah. I do think mortality is on the mind for sure,

889
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:30,000
Speaker 1: for Charlie or whoever the old one is. I think

890
00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 1: it was Charlie. But mortality is on the mind for

891
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:33,319
Speaker 1: the old one. But then again, you'd never know how

892
00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:37,000
Speaker 1: long it's gonna, you know, last. So whatever I think

893
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 1: is going to make the couple happiest after you communicated

894
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:41,319
Speaker 1: about it, I think that's a route to go that

895
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:41,840
Speaker 1: makes sense.

896
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:45,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, I also think, Uh, I don't know, I'm gonna

897
00:39:45,920 --> 00:39:50,400
Speaker 2: cut it before you say it was I was seriously

898
00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 2: like trying to answer this.

899
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:56,279
Speaker 1: Forget it all out. That's great. No, I know you're

900
00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:56,960
Speaker 1: gonna make a joke.

901
00:39:57,320 --> 00:39:58,919
Speaker 2: No, no, I wasn't.

902
00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:00,279
Speaker 1: Well, you should start doing that.

903
00:40:03,760 --> 00:40:06,520
Speaker 2: How many beads is he should? Steve?

904
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 1: We should name a full season called cutting Room Floor.

905
00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:12,600
Speaker 2: Oh a hundred percent starring Steve, all of it. I

906
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:13,839
Speaker 2: would love that, all of it.

907
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:15,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, i'd have to blur my face and you're one

908
00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:26,280
Speaker 1: of those voice like date line. Yeah, we just pixelated hover.

909
00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 1: I love you, buddy.

910
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 2: Yeah. I would say to Charles that age should not

911
00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:33,839
Speaker 2: be an issue at all. Obviously, it's what what makes

912
00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:36,239
Speaker 2: you happy. But please don't think you're too old too sure,

913
00:40:36,520 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 2: I mean that's ridiculous.

914
00:40:37,560 --> 00:40:37,759
Speaker 1: Yeah.

915
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:40,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, my dad had me when he was forty eight,

916
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 4: so oh will he's seventy now I'm twenty two.

917
00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:47,920
Speaker 1: Wow, there you go, there's your answer, there's your answers

918
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:49,440
Speaker 1: living and you're on mes.

919
00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:55,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're just just firstly off first, okay, last question.

920
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 4: Ali says, this one's really fun. My boyfriend and I

921
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:02,600
Speaker 4: are going into Joe's show at Foxwoods and bought meet

922
00:41:02,600 --> 00:41:06,960
Speaker 4: and greet tickets. What is something memorable we can bring

923
00:41:07,120 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 4: or do so that you remember us forever?

924
00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:12,799
Speaker 2: I'll tell you right now, take the picture and thank

925
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:15,719
Speaker 2: say thanks, and get the fuck out. I mean, honestly,

926
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:20,279
Speaker 2: does everything have to you mean so, I mean, we like,

927
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:23,880
Speaker 2: we shut up, just come in. If you just come in,

928
00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:26,279
Speaker 2: your polite and take the picture, he'll remember you because

929
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:27,400
Speaker 2: it never fucking happens.

930
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:30,560
Speaker 1: This is what Steve, this is what this is coming from.

931
00:41:30,600 --> 00:41:31,239
Speaker 2: We want to eat.

932
00:41:31,440 --> 00:41:33,160
Speaker 1: Steve has been on the road with me and we

933
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:35,680
Speaker 1: can't eat till after the meat and great right, and

934
00:41:35,880 --> 00:41:38,200
Speaker 1: Steve is always hungry and that I'll have my meat

935
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:39,759
Speaker 1: gred I'll He'll be like, how many of the meat

936
00:41:39,800 --> 00:41:41,239
Speaker 1: grid I'm like, you know, like one hundred and twenty,

937
00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:44,360
Speaker 1: be like, oh Jesus cried, and I will come back

938
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 1: to the green room and I'll just be sitting there

939
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:50,000
Speaker 1: like an angry kid, like I'll be cranking to talk

940
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:54,800
Speaker 1: to Jiggy ask about a stupid elephant, had stupid hat. Yeah,

941
00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:58,359
Speaker 1: so another ducks. So I said, uh I, I that's

942
00:41:58,360 --> 00:41:59,839
Speaker 1: coming from a place of I want to get out

943
00:41:59,840 --> 00:42:00,120
Speaker 1: of here.

944
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:02,600
Speaker 2: So I can so I can feed Stevie's no, no, no.

945
00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:05,279
Speaker 2: But but in all sincerity, I look, that's that's a

946
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:09,359
Speaker 2: you question for me. I've just seen so many people. Look,

947
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,359
Speaker 2: I totally get it right. It's like a meet and great,

948
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:14,279
Speaker 2: you finally get to meet somebody that you're you see

949
00:42:14,320 --> 00:42:16,920
Speaker 2: on TV all the time. You know. My thing is

950
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:19,719
Speaker 2: just like just be cool, just be cool, and you'll

951
00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 2: stand out.

952
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 1: It's it's the real moments. There is always to make

953
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 1: it For me. I love when somebody you know just

954
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:26,799
Speaker 1: you know, you have a real moment, you laugh about

955
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:28,719
Speaker 1: something and have a cool connection about things. You know.

956
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:32,040
Speaker 1: For me, it's not like that's that one. Hundreds of

957
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:33,719
Speaker 1: the time. Those of the people I remember, It'll be like,

958
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 1: you know, I met this really cool couple. I meant,

959
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:37,560
Speaker 1: you know, yeah, and there Mark and I will talk

960
00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 1: about it because Mark will be the back of the

961
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 1: meet and Greek too, and we'll you know, recap we're

962
00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 1: talking about do you remember them? And whatnot. I think,

963
00:42:43,360 --> 00:42:45,480
Speaker 1: I think just being real and being human because it's

964
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:47,719
Speaker 1: awkward for me as well, right, because it's a you know,

965
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:49,360
Speaker 1: it's a weird experience to just be in there and

966
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:51,239
Speaker 1: waiting down lot a line of people come to see

967
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:54,359
Speaker 1: you like it's a wedding reception. So but it's cool

968
00:42:54,360 --> 00:42:57,000
Speaker 1: when it's just like it's normalized because I'm pretty normal,

969
00:42:57,239 --> 00:42:59,399
Speaker 1: you know. And people always say that too, They're like, oh, well,

970
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 1: you know you don't you know what am I gonna like?

971
00:43:01,040 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 1: I'm standing here like, Hi, how are you? He's just

972
00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 1: saw me on stage, you know. And I actually like

973
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 1: to meet great a little bit more because I get

974
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:06,359
Speaker 1: to like talk.

975
00:43:06,440 --> 00:43:09,319
Speaker 2: But you disarm them with that, literally with that.

976
00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:11,640
Speaker 1: I also have candies I give people, can't you can't

977
00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:13,600
Speaker 1: And I'm snacking on those. Yeah, I see. I look

978
00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:16,160
Speaker 1: at Stephen Cordy's covered in chocolate, being like, are you done?

979
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:21,040
Speaker 2: He's amend joys my appetite ruling. But you do such

980
00:43:21,040 --> 00:43:23,879
Speaker 2: a great job of connecting with with your audience, and

981
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 2: you're really really giving and times I think your patient

982
00:43:28,239 --> 00:43:31,759
Speaker 2: too great patient, because there are there are some Look

983
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:34,279
Speaker 2: I'm not saying everybody is, but there are certainly those

984
00:43:34,320 --> 00:43:40,840
Speaker 2: people that feel they're owed something or entitled or overbearing,

985
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:43,360
Speaker 2: and you've always handled it with grace. I mean some

986
00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:45,560
Speaker 2: people are a little drunk, some people a little sauced.

987
00:43:45,760 --> 00:43:48,360
Speaker 2: It just you know, there's you see, you're seeing a

988
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 2: gauntlet of emotions coming at you every time, and you're

989
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:55,120
Speaker 2: you're a great safe cracker of like knowing. Okay, left r.

990
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:58,279
Speaker 1: Yeah for sure. But I would just say have fun

991
00:43:58,280 --> 00:44:00,000
Speaker 1: and be normal. I think I think that's the best

992
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:01,800
Speaker 1: to do. And if you wanted to bring me something,

993
00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:04,040
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I never shy away from baked good,

994
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 1: a baked good.

995
00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:05,919
Speaker 2: He loves a baked good.

996
00:44:06,120 --> 00:44:08,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love I love a hand drawn fan art.

997
00:44:08,400 --> 00:44:11,880
Speaker 1: I think those are always fun. Those are cool or

998
00:44:11,960 --> 00:44:13,640
Speaker 1: money just cash and an envelope.

999
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:18,040
Speaker 2: I like when when you're on when people make custom

1000
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:24,320
Speaker 2: T shirts, shirts you or something. Those those I find

1001
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:24,879
Speaker 2: very fun.

1002
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:27,439
Speaker 1: Love people love doing that and people, you know, people

1003
00:44:27,440 --> 00:44:29,640
Speaker 1: love putting my dogs on stuff. That's always so fun too. Yeah,

1004
00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:32,320
Speaker 1: I have all these pictures, like people will drum my dogs.

1005
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:32,680
Speaker 2: Right.

1006
00:44:32,719 --> 00:44:34,000
Speaker 1: This is the thing on our set right here is

1007
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:35,839
Speaker 1: from a fan that drew two of my favorite dogs,

1008
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:37,839
Speaker 1: be warning Biscotti and gave me a meet and greet,

1009
00:44:38,080 --> 00:44:40,680
Speaker 1: but uh yeah, I would just say I don't need anything.

1010
00:44:40,680 --> 00:44:41,640
Speaker 1: I just need you to have a good time to

1011
00:44:41,680 --> 00:44:42,400
Speaker 1: come out and left.

1012
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:44,879
Speaker 2: You know, it's so crazy. I mean, I know we're

1013
00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:46,759
Speaker 2: drawing to a close. But I had an experience for

1014
00:44:47,120 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 2: I was in Vegas and it was like a double whammy.

1015
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:52,440
Speaker 2: Some in Vegas doing the Kimmel Show and there's a

1016
00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:54,759
Speaker 2: young man with sunglasses on.

1017
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:56,320
Speaker 1: Right and.

1018
00:44:58,080 --> 00:44:59,960
Speaker 2: Kind of like needling him a bit because he's out

1019
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:02,839
Speaker 2: this mom and I eventually asked him. I'm like, are

1020
00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:05,279
Speaker 2: you are you visual impaired orre you?

1021
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:05,480
Speaker 1: You know?

1022
00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:07,600
Speaker 2: Are you just super cool? He's like, no, I'm actually

1023
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:10,160
Speaker 2: I'm legally blind. I can't see and I'm out here,

1024
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:12,680
Speaker 2: and I go, okay, well, by the end of my show,

1025
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:14,880
Speaker 2: you're gonna wish not only can you not see that

1026
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:18,279
Speaker 2: you couldn't hear. And the audience kind of groans and

1027
00:45:18,320 --> 00:45:23,440
Speaker 2: he laughs, he laughs hysterically, right, and I make a

1028
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:25,880
Speaker 2: few other kind of like blind jokes or whatever, and

1029
00:45:25,920 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 2: the audience is kind of groaning and he's dying laughing,

1030
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 2: and I come down to the audience, so I go,

1031
00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:34,480
Speaker 2: you guys don't get it, like he told me is

1032
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:37,520
Speaker 2: blind for a reason because he wants to be included.

1033
00:45:37,560 --> 00:45:40,120
Speaker 2: He wants to And that's the thing like I think

1034
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 2: people think, is like they hear these things and just

1035
00:45:43,239 --> 00:45:45,480
Speaker 2: like the Expirits are going a comedy show is so

1036
00:45:45,560 --> 00:45:48,879
Speaker 2: cathartic sometimes to people that he's going around.

1037
00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:50,080
Speaker 1: You're one of the crowd. You're one of the group.

1038
00:45:50,200 --> 00:45:52,400
Speaker 2: It's a pity party, right or oh my god, he

1039
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:55,360
Speaker 2: can't see. It's like, no, it's the opposite. He wants

1040
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:57,560
Speaker 2: to be shit on because this is his everyday life.

1041
00:45:57,920 --> 00:46:01,799
Speaker 2: And he literally was one and I said, I never

1042
00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:04,239
Speaker 2: asked to take pictures with the audience, but I took

1043
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:05,839
Speaker 2: a picture with him and his mom because there were

1044
00:46:05,960 --> 00:46:10,919
Speaker 2: such great sports, fantastic and literally right across from him

1045
00:46:11,239 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 2: was a young woman who was by herself, and I go, oh,

1046
00:46:15,080 --> 00:46:18,520
Speaker 2: what happened? You know, how awful is your personality or whatever?

1047
00:46:18,640 --> 00:46:21,080
Speaker 2: And so I pressed and I pressed, and she goes, well,

1048
00:46:21,280 --> 00:46:23,080
Speaker 2: i'll just tell you I'm a widower and this is

1049
00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:26,400
Speaker 2: like my first night out. I go, oh my, And

1050
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:29,440
Speaker 2: so the three of us ended up doing a shot together,

1051
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 2: the blind kid and this young lady, and then she

1052
00:46:32,400 --> 00:46:35,120
Speaker 2: became another focal point and it was one of those

1053
00:46:35,120 --> 00:46:37,840
Speaker 2: things where I never had a show like that where

1054
00:46:38,880 --> 00:46:44,120
Speaker 2: you have these two individuals that are like you, like

1055
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:47,160
Speaker 2: you see my show, where they're allowing me to kind

1056
00:46:47,160 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 2: of go to these vulnerable parts and expose it, but

1057
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:54,600
Speaker 2: also it bec cathartic. And she came up to me

1058
00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:57,800
Speaker 2: after this show and she's like, I needed this so bad.

1059
00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:00,239
Speaker 2: And it's one of those things where it's like you

1060
00:47:00,360 --> 00:47:03,840
Speaker 2: remember her forever. I literally will remember her forever, and

1061
00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:06,000
Speaker 2: I'll remember him forever, and I remember that show. And

1062
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:09,240
Speaker 2: it's countless shows have done right, but I will absolutely

1063
00:47:09,280 --> 00:47:12,279
Speaker 2: remember that show. So sometimes, like when somebody's like, hey,

1064
00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:14,759
Speaker 2: this is really cool to be here and meet you,

1065
00:47:15,520 --> 00:47:18,799
Speaker 2: sometimes it's the opposite. Sometimes it's like you hear what

1066
00:47:18,920 --> 00:47:22,200
Speaker 2: somebody is going through, what brought them to that intersection

1067
00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:24,960
Speaker 2: of light between you and them, And that to me

1068
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:27,720
Speaker 2: is like that's when it's like that, that's awesome.

1069
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, it gets cool for you to be that person.

1070
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:32,880
Speaker 2: It's really cool. Yeah, And you know this, like this

1071
00:47:32,960 --> 00:47:34,600
Speaker 2: is the sandbox I get to play in for an hour.

1072
00:47:34,719 --> 00:47:36,719
Speaker 2: This is gonna be the best. And I have your

1073
00:47:36,719 --> 00:47:38,520
Speaker 2: permission and you're on board, and you're gonna have a

1074
00:47:38,560 --> 00:47:41,959
Speaker 2: great time, and we ended up doing two or three

1075
00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:44,680
Speaker 2: shots together and she got sauced and then he got

1076
00:47:44,719 --> 00:47:47,480
Speaker 2: sauced and the mom was like the mom was just

1077
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:49,560
Speaker 2: like over the moon, like this is one and they

1078
00:47:49,560 --> 00:47:52,640
Speaker 2: were from Germany and oh wow, just visiting from Germany

1079
00:47:52,680 --> 00:47:58,520
Speaker 2: and it couldn't have been nicer. That's great, dude.

1080
00:47:58,840 --> 00:48:02,279
Speaker 1: Well that's it. I love us, I love you, I

1081
00:48:02,320 --> 00:48:04,200
Speaker 1: love us, I love us, I love the Cool Moms.

1082
00:48:04,200 --> 00:48:06,759
Speaker 1: I love what we've done here today. This is fantastic.

1083
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:08,440
Speaker 1: I mean, this episode could have been worse, could have

1084
00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:08,839
Speaker 1: been better.

1085
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Speaker 2: We give, we give, and all they do is take.

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Speaker 2: All you guys do, but you do.

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Speaker 1: Give us good questions. And speaking of which.

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Speaker 2: Reckon they give you some questions toogle moms Pod at

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Speaker 2: gmail dot com or on.

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Speaker 1: Instagram at too Cool Moms Pod. Please follow us there

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Speaker 1: and of course like review share all that stuff. Come

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Speaker 1: see us on the road. If you want to get

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Speaker 1: made fun of by Steve, you can get tickets.

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Speaker 2: To his shows Punch Up dot Live Steve Byrne.

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Speaker 1: And then if you want to meet me at mine,

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Speaker 1: come to Joe Gattoofficial dot com.

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Speaker 2: There we go, and Joe your constant tour. You you

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Speaker 2: just you're in the middle. I'm in the mix now.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah you too. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: My tour has not stopped since two thousand and ten.

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Speaker 1: Can't stop, won't stop, can't stop on and you're getting

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Speaker 1: hanging a kid, Hang in there, you're doing great.

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Speaker 2: One of these days.