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Speaker 1: Bud here all right, subject totally confused. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I've been dating this guy for the past couple of months.

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Speaker 1: We actually moved in with each other. He is married

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Speaker 1: and expecting a baby. His wife does not live in

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Speaker 1: the same state that we're in. At the beginning of

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Speaker 1: this relationship, we had discussed the what ifs, but we

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Speaker 1: decided to take it day by day. Well, we moved

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Speaker 1: in together and it's complicated. He flies out to see

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Speaker 1: his wife, and the wife wants to come to the

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Speaker 1: state that we're in, but he does not want that,

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Speaker 1: and neither do I. The problem that I have is

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Speaker 1: that we have gotten so close and he told me

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Speaker 1: that he loved me. I am starting to fall in

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Speaker 1: love with him, but I know that there is no

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Speaker 1: future in this relationship. This is the best relationship that

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Speaker 1: I have had. I am so confused. This is a

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Speaker 1: crazy letter. You you known a guy for two months

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Speaker 1: and you guys move in. You don't even love this guy? Uh,

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Speaker 1: if this nothing relationship is the best you've ever had,

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Speaker 1: then you've got to ask yourself, why why is this?

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Speaker 1: I mean, who are you? I just have to ask

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Speaker 1: you that. And don't you know that this is wrong. Well,

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Speaker 1: if you don't know this is because in the letter

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Speaker 1: it doesn't seem like you know that. This is just

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Speaker 1: not right. You don't move in with a married man.

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Speaker 1: You don't move in with any man after two months,

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Speaker 1: let alone a married man. Nothing good can come out

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Speaker 1: of this relationship. You're playing with a dangerous game, potentially

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Speaker 1: deadly game. Here. Uh, you are living in a house

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Speaker 1: with a married man. You said you're discussed the what ifs. Well,

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Speaker 1: here's what if for you. What if his wife decides

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Speaker 1: to surprise him one day and walk in on you? Guys?

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Speaker 1: All right, did you discuss that what if? I mean,

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Speaker 1: you haven't thought any of this out, have you? How

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Speaker 1: in the world did he get you to agree to

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Speaker 1: something like this, to move in with him after two

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Speaker 1: months and he's married. Um, I just have to just

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Speaker 1: say this to you. Pack up your bags immediately and

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Speaker 1: move out of this house. Pack up and get out,

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Speaker 1: all right? This is crazy. You cannot be stupid in

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Speaker 1: this situation. So I just wanted to clear up some

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Speaker 1: of the confusion for you. This is wrong, wrong, wrong,

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Speaker 1: and you could get killed, all right, I can tell

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Speaker 1: you by surprised Steve, Yeah, yes, yeah, You're so much

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Speaker 1: wrong this letter. First of all, you know, it started

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Speaker 1: off like we were gonna feel sorry for you because

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Speaker 1: you got caught up in another lying man who was

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Speaker 1: married and didn't tell you. But that's not the case.

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Speaker 1: You knew going in that the dude was married and

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Speaker 1: his wife was expecting and she lives in another state.

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Speaker 1: You went into this knowing, so there is no sorrness

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Speaker 1: for you. And I don't know what you expect me

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Speaker 1: or surely to tell you, but you let me say this.

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Speaker 1: His wife does not live in the same state that

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Speaker 1: we are in. At the beginning of this relationship, we

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Speaker 1: had discussed the what else, but we decided to take

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Speaker 1: it day by day. Okay, the what else? Okay, let

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Speaker 1: me ask you some after y'all discussed the what else?

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Speaker 1: What y'all say, because I'm trying to figure out how

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Speaker 1: you all discussed the what else? And then after discussing

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Speaker 1: all the what else, y'all went forward with this. Okay,

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Speaker 1: are you leaving your wife? Probably not? How long? How

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Speaker 1: many months is your wife expected? Does your wife know

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Speaker 1: about me? Probably not? Uh? Suppose I get pregnant. We'll

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Speaker 1: just take that day by day. What's gonna happen when

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Speaker 1: the baby's born. What are you gonna do as the

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Speaker 1: father and the husband? I don't know. I probably have

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Speaker 1: to move on back over there. They move in here?

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Speaker 1: What if? What if things get a little more supposed

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Speaker 1: I get pregnant? I don't know what? What? What else?

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Speaker 1: Was y'all two idiots discussing? And that made y'all go, okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, we didn't discuss every the what else? And

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Speaker 1: most of the what else in this is all wrong?

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Speaker 1: After you discussed all of the what else? What made

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Speaker 1: y'all move in together? I have to assume that we're

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Speaker 1: talking about two real life idiots here. I mean we

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Speaker 1: I'm just the only thing we got to be talking.

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Speaker 1: The two of you are just two of the most

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Speaker 1: airhead asked people that evidence sat down and had a

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Speaker 1: damn discussion, and and and and both of y'all so

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Speaker 1: stupid that you didn't know that the other one was stupid,

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Speaker 1: Because once you sit down and what if this situation not?

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Speaker 1: None of the what else is good? And and and

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Speaker 1: and it's and it's just crazy. You moved in with

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Speaker 1: a dude you ain't new but a couple of months.

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Speaker 1: It's one thing to have sex with a guy that

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Speaker 1: you ain't knew about a couple of months. You the

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Speaker 1: moody man who but he married and he's expecting a baby.

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Speaker 1: Who are you? It does don't make no damn sense.

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Speaker 1: This is got to be the most blatant form of

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Speaker 1: stupidity I've seen, other than that strawberry letter. When we

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Speaker 1: had that lady slept with her two damn son in

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Speaker 1: law's further than that one, and the one that took

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Speaker 1: slept with her dad after she found out he was

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Speaker 1: her dad. I mean, well, no, no, they was. They

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Speaker 1: were sleeping together before and then it wasn't a pregnancy

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Speaker 1: test of nothing to said, It was a dad. I

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Speaker 1: I that that one right here. This one hit him now,

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Speaker 1: I mean I didn't. I didn't really care about that

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Speaker 1: because let me just you know, once you find once

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Speaker 1: you take the paternity test, you find out is your

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Speaker 1: dadd and you still sleeping with him. Now, now both

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Speaker 1: of y'all, it's a sickness. Now, okay, see we off

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Speaker 1: into sickness. See we're in therapy. This ain't therapy right here.

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Speaker 1: This just two dumbass people then got together and done

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Speaker 1: just some dumbass mess. And now she wrote a dumb

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Speaker 1: ass letter like we posted, be all right with this?

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Speaker 1: Here goes and then and then okay, then he're gonna

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Speaker 1: the problem that I have. Okay, his wife wants to

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Speaker 1: come to the state win, but he does not want that,

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Speaker 1: and neither do I wasn't that wanted to what else?

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Speaker 1: But then guess what she said. The problem that I

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Speaker 1: have is that we have gotten so close and he

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Speaker 1: told me that he loved me. I'm starting to fall

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Speaker 1: in love with him. That ain't the problem. This, this

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Speaker 1: ain't the damn problem. This is the problem. This is

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Speaker 1: the problem. Who what? What? All the southern before now

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Speaker 1: the threat of heart wanting to come this all of

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Speaker 1: a sudden is the damn proth. It is the problem.

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's go to part two of your response

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Speaker 1: to today's strawberry letter. What you got right now? She's

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Speaker 1: been dating this guy for two months. They move in.

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Speaker 1: She knowingly moved in with this man who is married

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Speaker 1: and expecting the baby. His wife don't live in the

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Speaker 1: same state, and at the beginning of the relationship they

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Speaker 1: discussed the what else, but they decided to take it

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Speaker 1: day by day. Well that's stupid. What day by day?

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Speaker 1: You didn't think none of these days we're gonna go.

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Speaker 1: You don't think the wife was ever gonna want to visit.

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Speaker 1: You ain't think he was gonna have to do something

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Speaker 1: about that baby coming? What what? What if did y'all

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Speaker 1: discussed and decided, yeah, we should move on with this

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Speaker 1: ignorant relationship. Now the wife wants to come to the

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Speaker 1: state that we are in, but he does not not.

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Speaker 1: She don't want to come to the state and visit.

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Speaker 1: She want to move to the state. But now listen

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Speaker 1: to this, he does not want that, and neither do I.

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Speaker 1: How to give a damn what either one of y'all want.

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Speaker 1: You ain't the wife, and you ain't having the baby.

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Speaker 1: You the other chick. You the chick on the side.

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Speaker 1: You don't get no votes. I don't know why people

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Speaker 1: man all of a sudden think, thank you're gonna get

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Speaker 1: votes and rights up in here? They how this work?

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Speaker 1: He don't want that. The problem that I have is

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Speaker 1: that we have gotten so close that he told me

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Speaker 1: he loved me, and I'm starting to fall in love

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Speaker 1: with him. How the hell you to move in with

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Speaker 1: somebody you ain't in love with the first damn place.

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Speaker 1: But I know that there's no future in this relationship.

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Speaker 1: This is the best relationship that I have had. I

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Speaker 1: am so confused. Okay, Now, first of all, if this

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Speaker 1: is the best relationship you've ever had, you have to

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Speaker 1: redefine what a good relationship is and should be. All Right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: you know, we gotta get out of here. We gotta

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Speaker 1: go email us or or instagram us your thoughts on

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letter at my Girl. Sure. Uh, and don't

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Speaker 1: forget this. Coming Thursday, I will be doing the Strawberry

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