Speaker 1: Welcome to Stuff You Should Know, a production of My
Speaker 1: Heart Radios How Stuff Works. Hey, and welcome to the podcast.
Speaker 1: I'm Josh Clark. There's Charles Duby, Choke Bryant, there's Jerry
Speaker 1: over there, and this is Stuff You Should Know jerodcast. Jerry.
Speaker 1: Were you a what was your birth order? Oh, Jerry's
Speaker 1: a middle child, two of two or two of more.
Speaker 1: So you're the baby. You don't know this, did you? Sure? No?
Speaker 1: I know Jerry for like thirteen years, so have I? Well,
Speaker 1: not that long twelve years, So have I no comment?
Speaker 1: What am I? I don't know? That's right, I know what.
Speaker 1: I'm the baby? You know that. Yeah, I didn't ask
Speaker 1: what you were. I know you know what you are?
Speaker 1: What am I? This isn't quits not You're not gonna
Speaker 1: just yea. Yeah, I wasn't calling you out. I was
Speaker 1: calling you out in a humorous way. And I called
Speaker 1: you out. Um. It's hard not to look at this
Speaker 1: stuff through your own lens though, of your own family.
Speaker 1: You know, are you changing the subject? I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm getting on with it because as the youngest of three,
Speaker 1: and all of us have three distinct personalities, it's hard
Speaker 1: not to kind of like think about birth order and
Speaker 1: if that's a thing, and it may be and it
Speaker 1: may not be. Yeah, depends on which scientists you're asking.
Speaker 1: I tend to think like, there's just no way it
Speaker 1: doesn't have any effect. Now there, I think it definitely
Speaker 1: has an effect. But as we will see, it is
Speaker 1: one part of a huge pie that uh that indicates
Speaker 1: what kind of person and personality you might have. Well.
Speaker 1: Plus also it's devilishly tricky to to analyze, to study
Speaker 1: because of how big that pie is. Yeah, there's so
Speaker 1: much going on with your personality that to just pinpoint
Speaker 1: one thing, even a big thing like that where you're
Speaker 1: born in a family, um, it's just tough to pin down.
Speaker 1: So you're the youngest, right, good yess? Yes I am.
Speaker 1: I knew you were the youngest. I'm like, I wear
Speaker 1: that on my sleeve. I feel like I kind of
Speaker 1: do too a lot, I guess in some ways. But
Speaker 1: like I was reading this checklist for the youngest, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I guess. So let's let's let's do
Speaker 1: should we go over that that stuff first? Yeah? Totally
Speaker 1: all right. So this is like the sort of macro
Speaker 1: view of how a lot of people think of birth
Speaker 1: order pop psychology. Yeah, so if you were born into
Speaker 1: a family, there's basically four ways that you can be
Speaker 1: born in some sort of order. You can be the firstborn,
Speaker 1: you can be a middle child, or you can be
Speaker 1: the last born. And then if you're real out fire. Okay,
Speaker 1: you're right, So there's five oh god, don't even get
Speaker 1: me started. Um, okay, a multi um or you can
Speaker 1: be an only child too, and all of them have
Speaker 1: distinct personalities. Again according to pop psychology, but also according
Speaker 1: to every person who's ever been born into a family,
Speaker 1: especially and so with the first born um, the whole
Speaker 1: the whole theory of basically birth order, where where you're
Speaker 1: born into the family unit that you're born into, and
Speaker 1: what effect that has on your personality and how it develops.
Speaker 1: It all seems to come down to this idea that
Speaker 1: you are born into a family where there is a
Speaker 1: finite resource called parental attention, and then that is a
Speaker 1: pie that gets increasingly divided up into smaller and smaller
Speaker 1: pieces the more and more children that are born, because
Speaker 1: your parents can't possibly give five kids the same amount
Speaker 1: of attention that they could give an only child. It's
Speaker 1: just not possible. And so what dynamics are created in
Speaker 1: the personality of the kids born into that family depending
Speaker 1: on how many others are born and depending on where
Speaker 1: they fall in that birth order. That's kind of the
Speaker 1: premise of the whole thing. And over time people have said, well,
Speaker 1: this is what the first point is like, this is
Speaker 1: what the middle is like, this is what the baby's like. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and there were I mean a lot of this are
Speaker 1: these are generalizations, but they are generalizations. Like you said
Speaker 1: that kind of everyone who's ever been in a family
Speaker 1: can kind of say, yeah, that's kind of true. Um,
Speaker 1: you know when you have an only or your first kid,
Speaker 1: they this article references as that first sort of experiment.
Speaker 1: You don't know what you're doing yet. Um, you're probably
Speaker 1: going all in, depending on how lazy you are, how
Speaker 1: motivated you are as a parent with this, you know,
Speaker 1: being a super parent. And then if supposedly as you
Speaker 1: have more children you get it's not only is your
Speaker 1: is your attention divided? I think, but there's the notion
Speaker 1: that you also are like, you know what, a probably
Speaker 1: don't need to be as crazy with number two and
Speaker 1: number three, Um, leave them to their own devices. As
Speaker 1: a third kid, I'm not going to get into too
Speaker 1: many depressing details of my family growing up, but like
Speaker 1: by the time I was ten and eleven and my
Speaker 1: parents had other things going on, and I wasn't fair
Speaker 1: old kids on the side. Not exactly, Um, I wasn't
Speaker 1: fair old by any means, but I was. I did
Speaker 1: not have rules imposed on me like my brother and
Speaker 1: sister did. I did not have I was allowed to
Speaker 1: go to Panama City for spring break and they weren't.
Speaker 1: I was allowed to kind of do my own thing,
Speaker 1: and I was trustworthy, So that probably had a lot
Speaker 1: to do with it. If I would have been a
Speaker 1: real problem, they might have clamped down a little more,
Speaker 1: or maybe not. And they probably wouldn't have necessarily clamped down,
Speaker 1: like we need to give Chuck Way more attention and
Speaker 1: guidance than we have been. They would have probably been
Speaker 1: like crime and punishment. They would have been, like we're saying,
Speaker 1: in Chuck the rehab or whatever her you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, Let rehab take care of our reform school
Speaker 1: or something like that, because once you get X number
Speaker 1: of kids in, you're just so tired, so tired, and
Speaker 1: you're older too, Like when you're chasing a little kid
Speaker 1: around and like your forties or fifties. That's different than
Speaker 1: when you're chasing a little kid around in your mid twenties.
Speaker 1: I can't imagine a world of difference, you know. Um,
Speaker 1: So there's there's there. There's a lot of resources, not
Speaker 1: just you know, parents attention, but also their time, intellectual
Speaker 1: attention that they'll give a kid like and say, um,
Speaker 1: like hanging out, teaching the kid to read that kind
Speaker 1: of stuff. Um, and just attention in general, and also
Speaker 1: financial resources the families. Resources in general are a pie
Speaker 1: that must be divided among all financial, emotional, all that
Speaker 1: stuff instructive. Uh. So, generally speaking, firstborn's, people say, tend
Speaker 1: to be very conscientious and structured and reliable. Uh and
Speaker 1: high achieve high achiever. Yeah, because their parents are focusing
Speaker 1: like a laser on them. They know everything that kids
Speaker 1: got going on, maybe a little too much. Um. And
Speaker 1: the kid is responding to this by basically becoming a
Speaker 1: perfectionist and really wanting to be around their parents. Um
Speaker 1: and and um. Their parents friends sure very much mature
Speaker 1: because they're all of the people are most of the
Speaker 1: people are hanging out with our adults. Okay, so that's
Speaker 1: the firstborn typically, right, everybody knows it. Don't try to
Speaker 1: deny middles in general are people pleasing? Which is so
Speaker 1: my brother. Um, that's weird to me because when I
Speaker 1: think of middle children, I think of jam Brady, and
Speaker 1: jam Brady was not a people pleaser. She was just
Speaker 1: you know, a lump, like a lump with a cloud overhead,
Speaker 1: poor Jan. But that's true, Like I would not characterize
Speaker 1: Jan Brady as a people pleaser, would you know? Like
Speaker 1: she was gonna burn some thing down and eventually if
Speaker 1: the Brady bunchet stayed on the air long enough. Was
Speaker 1: also a blended family. So what was who was the
Speaker 1: It was Bobby and then Peter later, I guess you'd
Speaker 1: call it was he was he a people pleaser or
Speaker 1: just a Peter Jan more than Jan. But blended families
Speaker 1: do confound things. We'll get into that for sure. Um.
Speaker 1: But people pleasing, Uh, somewhat rebellious, which is not my
Speaker 1: brother at all. Um, large social circle, not really my
Speaker 1: brother and a peacemaker, totally my brother. He's the best,
Speaker 1: He's the best. Uh. And then the young things, younges,
Speaker 1: young uns like us, Um, most free spirited, fun loving, uncomplicated, manipulative.
Speaker 1: I've I've been called some of these things varying degrees,
Speaker 1: self centered, attention seeking and outgoing check and check. But
Speaker 1: on combined you and I and we're sort of like
Speaker 1: the proto youngest complicated. Though I'm like, I don't get that.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm I'm exquisitely complicated on the surface. You wouldn't
Speaker 1: think it, but I'm pretty complicated as we all know
Speaker 1: in this room. But that's the only one that I'm
Speaker 1: like that I question. Yeah. All the rest of them
Speaker 1: are like, yeah, that makes sense. Looks like the Chinese zodiac.
Speaker 1: You look at that menu and you're like, um, total
Speaker 1: dog yes, and movie guy pants sounds great right now.
Speaker 1: Only these no siblings. You are what they call almost
Speaker 1: like a super firstborn. All of the traits of the
Speaker 1: firstborn on steroids, very much perfectionists, very much more mature
Speaker 1: for your age, conscientious, diligent, prone to be leader, can
Speaker 1: leap over tall buildings. Uh. And then this is where
Speaker 1: it gets interesting, and this sort of starts to finally, everybody,
Speaker 1: this is where it starts to get interested. Well, this
Speaker 1: is where it gets in a little bit like how
Speaker 1: complicated it can get because there's so many factors that
Speaker 1: play like Um, what if you're in a blended family,
Speaker 1: because that kind of throws it all out of whack. Yeah,
Speaker 1: if you're born a firstborn and you your parents your
Speaker 1: your parents get divorce and your you go with your
Speaker 1: mom who gets remarried to a dude who has yes
Speaker 1: to a smashing cool architect for sure. Um, and he
Speaker 1: has a kid that's a little older than you. Greg's
Speaker 1: the firstborn. You're not the firstborn anymore. The best you
Speaker 1: can hope for is to form some sort of confederacy
Speaker 1: or alliance with Greg to rule the rest of the siblings.
Speaker 1: But you're not the head Hans show anymore. You're not
Speaker 1: in charge. That's a big deal. I can't imagine many
Speaker 1: more traumatic experiences, especially when that follows closely on the
Speaker 1: heels of your parents divorced or the death of like
Speaker 1: your other parents. Um, that's got to be one of
Speaker 1: the most traumatic things that kid can go through is
Speaker 1: to lose the they're identified perch in the family order. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and that's you were we were talking about, like the firstborn,
Speaker 1: like the baby of the family. If all of a
Speaker 1: sudden there's a younger, no good like I remember my
Speaker 1: parents for some reason talking about adopting a kid. I
Speaker 1: can't remember how old I was. I must have been
Speaker 1: about seven, and I remember breaking down and crying and
Speaker 1: just being like, you can't do this. You cannot bring
Speaker 1: in someone younger and cuter than me, And that happens.
Speaker 1: I'm seven, blended family, all of a sudden, you'd be
Speaker 1: a younger or God forbid of baby. Just forget about it.
Speaker 1: Can't compete with that. You gotta kill that baby. Well,
Speaker 1: that's what happened to when Brady Bunch started to lose ratings.
Speaker 1: Apparently your family was losing ratings. They brought in cousin Oliver,
Speaker 1: a new baby, and I don't think Bobby was very
Speaker 1: happy about that either. No, but just think about Janet
Speaker 1: all makes a little bit more sense. Like she was like,
Speaker 1: I'm the middle child, and then they brought in three
Speaker 1: more and she was like, I'm even more middle Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're deluded. The middle child is deluded. And if you
Speaker 1: have multiple middle children, forget about it. That's right. However,
Speaker 1: here's the thing with blended families. They say by about
Speaker 1: the age of five that a lot of your personality
Speaker 1: is set. So if you're older than five and all
Speaker 1: of a sudden, your family is blended. They say, it
Speaker 1: may not make that much of a difference. No, No No,
Speaker 1: that's where it's trouble. If you're younger than five and
Speaker 1: your your personality a little more plastic. If you were
Speaker 1: born a baby of the family and suddenly you're a firstborn,
Speaker 1: or you're not the or you're a middle kid, you'll
Speaker 1: adapt to that a lot better than you would if
Speaker 1: you're like older and you're you're more solid in your
Speaker 1: birth order. Yeah, I didn't mean not trouble. What I
Speaker 1: meant was like, if you're uh like twelve years old
Speaker 1: and the family blending happens, it's trouble, But it's it's
Speaker 1: not like your personality is like, all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: I'm the the youngest or you know what I mean. Like,
Speaker 1: you don't all of a sudden swap to a different
Speaker 1: birth order personality, I don't think, right. But if you're
Speaker 1: younger and it happens, you do right under the age
Speaker 1: of five, which goes to show that if this is
Speaker 1: the thing, and we'll talk about whether it is or
Speaker 1: not soon. Um, it has nothing to do with biology,
Speaker 1: has everything to do with with nurture, not nature, because
Speaker 1: a kid can adapt depending on When this happens, they
Speaker 1: can adapt to a change in birth order if they're
Speaker 1: young enough. That means it has nothing to do with biology.
Speaker 1: It's all the environment you're raised in, which is the
Speaker 1: most bone headedly obvious thing on the planet. And then
Speaker 1: before we take a break, they are also gap children.
Speaker 1: Um supposedly, if there's at least a five year gap
Speaker 1: between births, then it just sort of resets. That was
Speaker 1: like me and my oldest sister. She was thirteen years
Speaker 1: older than me. She was just like this older, cool person,
Speaker 1: but not like an old older sister, not at all
Speaker 1: overbearing for me. I guess a little bit or like
Speaker 1: a second mom kind of to an extent, because that
Speaker 1: does happen to if there's a big gap or a
Speaker 1: big family. Like I dated a girl in New Jersey
Speaker 1: that had there was like six or seven of them,
Speaker 1: and the by the time she came around, she was
Speaker 1: kind of fully being raised by her siblings, right, So,
Speaker 1: so what happens when there's enough of a gap a
Speaker 1: new family birth order forms. So like if you have
Speaker 1: an oldest and then there's multiple years, like say ten
Speaker 1: years between your oldest and your middle and then two
Speaker 1: years between your middle and your baby. The middle and
Speaker 1: the baby are going to form a firstborn and a
Speaker 1: last born type relationship. Yeah, the last born is always
Speaker 1: going to be the last born, yes, regardless of gap.
Speaker 1: But then twins, like you were saying, is one last
Speaker 1: confounding thing. The twins or triplets multiples as you call them. Um, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think so. Uh. They form their own family unit
Speaker 1: within the family too, with each other. And apparently no
Speaker 1: matter where they're born, twins never act like middle kids.
Speaker 1: They always act like the firstborn or the baby, but
Speaker 1: to one another. Right, and I think they generally come
Speaker 1: together to kill the parents basically, right, they hold hands,
Speaker 1: it's like an elevator of blood washes around them. Uh.
Speaker 1: And then finally with adoption, Um, they say that depending
Speaker 1: on when your child is adopted, the same kind of
Speaker 1: scenario scenario happens as in like with gapped and blended families. Whereas,
Speaker 1: if the kids young enough here so you will tailor
Speaker 1: there um, their their birth order to the family that
Speaker 1: they're adopted into. But if they're older, they'll be trouble.
Speaker 1: All right, that's a good overview. I think I think
Speaker 1: it was a great overview, Chuck, we're in front of it.
Speaker 1: We're gonna you do have that overview glow. We're gonna
Speaker 1: take a break and we're gonna talk about science right
Speaker 1: after this. Alright, Chuck, as promised, we're gonna talk about
Speaker 1: science because, like I said, this is so boneheaded and
Speaker 1: obvious that every single person who's ever been born into
Speaker 1: a family, everybody knows this stuff. But as far as
Speaker 1: science is concerned, this is not proven that birth order
Speaker 1: effects as they're called, actually exist. That science is saying,
Speaker 1: hold your cell, your role, everybody. We can't actually prove
Speaker 1: that what everybody knows is actually true. Um. Some some
Speaker 1: studies show that, yes, there is such thing as birth
Speaker 1: order effects. Other studies show that there is no birth
Speaker 1: order effect whatsoever. And then some studies suggest that if
Speaker 1: there are birth order effects, they're so small that they
Speaker 1: are basically a blip on your personality. That all the
Speaker 1: other factors that form your personality, things like the socioeconomic
Speaker 1: status of the family you're born into, your racial background,
Speaker 1: your um gender, all the other stuff. Um, that is
Speaker 1: what really forms your personality, not the order you're born
Speaker 1: into your family. That's kind of sciences position right now. Yeah,
Speaker 1: But what they all agree on is that it is
Speaker 1: therapy cash cow right that that that yes, it's a
Speaker 1: it's a good it's a useful framework to approach psychotherapy
Speaker 1: from it. That's where I want to talk about it.
Speaker 1: At the high hourly rates. See to me, I'm like,
Speaker 1: this is sure, this is exactly what forms your personality.
Speaker 1: But I get sciences position. I respect it. So if
Speaker 1: we go back in time to the early nineteen hundreds,
Speaker 1: there was a man named Alfred Adler. He was a
Speaker 1: part of He was a contemporary of Freud, and this
Speaker 1: is when all these dudes were getting together, uh to
Speaker 1: talk about all this stuff in this burgeoning science, and
Speaker 1: they all thought they were so cool and important and
Speaker 1: um he was one of the only ones among his
Speaker 1: peers though at the time, that was talking about birth
Speaker 1: order that early. And he went on to form what
Speaker 1: we know is uh Adlerian psychology or individual psychology, and
Speaker 1: it's basically a therapy based on um, how you perceive
Speaker 1: your own level of power in your family, at your workplace,
Speaker 1: in the world at large in general, like your perceived power,
Speaker 1: place of position or status. Right, yeah, And if he
Speaker 1: believed in birth order having a significant influence on your personality,
Speaker 1: then that in turn would influence how powerful you may
Speaker 1: or may not feel. Yeah, because the addler if if
Speaker 1: how you perceived your own power, not necessarily how powerful
Speaker 1: you were, but your own perception of power was the
Speaker 1: driving force of like what how you interact with the
Speaker 1: world your personality. Um birth order would make total sense
Speaker 1: because birth order, as everybody knows, is nothing but positions
Speaker 1: of superiority or inferiority. And it's it's as simple as that.
Speaker 1: Because when you're born and you're a little kid, and
Speaker 1: you're born into a family with an older sibling, they
Speaker 1: are a couple of steps ahead of you because they've
Speaker 1: already been through a bunch of stuff, so they're inherently
Speaker 1: superior to you. They can also beat you up on
Speaker 1: a very basic level. They can twist your arm behind
Speaker 1: your back until it feels like it's going to break,
Speaker 1: and how many times you say uncle, uncle, uncle, they
Speaker 1: won't stop until they're satisfied or protect you. Like my
Speaker 1: big brother did from his friends that were jerks to me.
Speaker 1: He wouldn't stand for it. No couples. We went at
Speaker 1: it too, you know, we were brothers, but he never
Speaker 1: picked on me. You know why, because you chuck and
Speaker 1: he's Scott right. Uh. In the eighties is when I
Speaker 1: mean there were always studies starting since Adler and freud Stein,
Speaker 1: but in the nineteen eighties is when it really blew up,
Speaker 1: thanks to um, the Big and cocaine, the Big Five
Speaker 1: personality trade the view of things, um, and that's when
Speaker 1: things in the eighties, that's when everybody was just like
Speaker 1: eating the stuff up. Yeah, because so the Big Five
Speaker 1: Personality inventory is We've talked about it before, but basically
Speaker 1: it is a a self reported measure that is actually valid.
Speaker 1: It actually works, like you can say this person is
Speaker 1: highly neurotic, or this person is extroverted, or um, well
Speaker 1: three others that I can't bring to mind right now.
Speaker 1: But these things are also kind of broken into subcategories,
Speaker 1: like these are big umbrella terms have more specific subcategories.
Speaker 1: But it's actually like valid, Like somebody who fills this
Speaker 1: survey out, it's going to be an accurate assessment of
Speaker 1: their personality. So if you have somebody's personality, that's huge, right.
Speaker 1: You can say, all right, um, if this person is neurotic,
Speaker 1: they're highly neurotic. Let's see what birth order they are, Oh,
Speaker 1: they're a middle child. Let's compare them to other middle
Speaker 1: children who filled out this personality survey scored high on neurosis,
Speaker 1: and all of a sudden, we can show if you're
Speaker 1: a middle child, you're far likelier to be highly neurotic
Speaker 1: under the Big Five personality inventory than the first born
Speaker 1: is right, boom bam, you just proved that birth order
Speaker 1: effects exist? Or did you? Yeah, they're like we can
Speaker 1: put people further into a box and label them um
Speaker 1: or did you? Because that is sort of the paradox
Speaker 1: that arrived that we arrive at, which is you pointed
Speaker 1: to it a little bit earlier. There are so many,
Speaker 1: so many influences that go into what makes you you that. Uh,
Speaker 1: it's hard to look at birth order as a mere
Speaker 1: small part of that. Yeah, so so like you can't
Speaker 1: account you can account for some of these and studying it.
Speaker 1: You know, there's a lot of studies over the years
Speaker 1: and they do their best, but you can't account for
Speaker 1: all of them. Well okay, so so we'll go back
Speaker 1: to that example. So you've you've just gone to your
Speaker 1: peers and said, look, I have just proven that idle
Speaker 1: children are highly neurotic compared to other children in birth orders. Right,
Speaker 1: then you're shaking your own fists around your your shoulders
Speaker 1: in triumph. And they said, well, wait a minute, wait
Speaker 1: a minute, um, did you control for socioeconomic background? And
Speaker 1: you go, uh no, I didn't. Well wait did you
Speaker 1: control for race? No? Did you control for gender? No?
Speaker 1: And so all of a sudden you realize there's all
Speaker 1: these different, um independent variables. What what what in this
Speaker 1: case would be confounding variables that might actually be the
Speaker 1: thing influencing it. It might be the fact that they
Speaker 1: are um uh feet women born into families of a
Speaker 1: low socioeconomic state that is driving neurosis, that that's actually
Speaker 1: the thing that is driving it, rather than birth order
Speaker 1: has nothing to do with being a middle child. That's
Speaker 1: just a fluke of coincidence. And like you said, there's
Speaker 1: so many confounding variables and so many things that make
Speaker 1: our personalities who we are that some people who are
Speaker 1: like birth order effects do not exist. Basically say that
Speaker 1: any birth order study that shows that they do exist
Speaker 1: has some confounding variable that that's the actual hidden thing
Speaker 1: that's driving it that you can't possibly control for everything
Speaker 1: to make a perfect, perfectly designed experiment too for birth order. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like when you start to think about, like if you
Speaker 1: were just to sit there and sort of jot down
Speaker 1: things as non scientists, just regular schmos like us, uh,
Speaker 1: and just jot down a list of what other factors
Speaker 1: might be at play. We could probably come up with
Speaker 1: a list of a hundred things between us. Let's start now.
Speaker 1: But that would like if I was studying the stuff
Speaker 1: and I started to make that list, I would just
Speaker 1: walk away and go into another line of study. I
Speaker 1: would be like, dude, I just you know where your
Speaker 1: parents married, where they divorced, When did they get divorced?
Speaker 1: Did you like hot dogs? You live with mom or dad?
Speaker 1: How far apart did they live? What could do? Were
Speaker 1: you suburban? Where you urban? Where did you live? In
Speaker 1: an excerpt, did you go up in the woods? Did
Speaker 1: you start work at twelve? Uh? For you like old timing,
Speaker 1: I started work at twelve. I guess I did too.
Speaker 1: I did a paper route. Yeah, how's a bus boy? Um?
Speaker 1: Oh wait? Was that where the guy put his foot
Speaker 1: into the what a criminal? I told you? That's a title? Max.
Speaker 1: Now that restaurant drove but not too long ago. J
Speaker 1: J's barbecue title Max. Now they're putting their foot on titles,
Speaker 1: just stomping on them. They got your money, your money,
Speaker 1: your real money. They're never gonna sponsor us. Now. Um,
Speaker 1: another few things that can confound these studies, um are
Speaker 1: things and and Ed helped us put this research together,
Speaker 1: things like demographic shifts. So he gave a great example
Speaker 1: of like the baby boom, if there's a big population
Speaker 1: bulge that also coincides with a lot of other stuff. Um.
Speaker 1: And the example he's was prevalence of cigarette smoking. Uh,
Speaker 1: there may be a false correlation there between being a
Speaker 1: firstborn and smoking, whereas if you were second born twelve
Speaker 1: years later. I guess that would fall outside that range
Speaker 1: though of gap child. Um, But that's even more confounding.
Speaker 1: The points still valid. Sure that, like there's just way
Speaker 1: more firstborns who smoked than second borns, But that's because
Speaker 1: smoking was more prevalent when there were a bunch of
Speaker 1: kids born who were all of the same cohort and
Speaker 1: all firstborns. Right, That's just one of the ways this
Speaker 1: thing can be confounded. Yeah, this one really speaks to me.
Speaker 1: Which is labeled as growth. When a birth order effect
Speaker 1: does appear, it is strongest when they subject is with
Speaker 1: their siblings, when you're a family reunion, it is so
Speaker 1: funny how that happens. I see myself do it. Like
Speaker 1: good example, I turned for a couple of weeks ago
Speaker 1: my family and my sister and her husband happened to
Speaker 1: be in town. Didn't come for that, but we were
Speaker 1: texting and I was like, hey, let's all you know,
Speaker 1: this is great, let's all go out to dinner. She's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I didn't want to. I just figured you wouldn't want
Speaker 1: to spend your birthday with your friend. You'd want to
Speaker 1: spend your birthday with your friends and not your family.
Speaker 1: And I saw Michelle when she got in town and
Speaker 1: she said the same thing in person. I was like, dude,
Speaker 1: I'm forty eight. It's like I'm not twenty two year
Speaker 1: old chuck burnout like I used to be. And she
Speaker 1: just sort of laughed. But that's a perfect example of how, like,
Speaker 1: no matter what happens in my life, I will always
Speaker 1: be the baby, and she will probably feel like she
Speaker 1: has to look out for me, which is a nice feeling. Um.
Speaker 1: I see Emily fall into patterns with her family. Uh, well,
Speaker 1: she is a She's an interesting case because she wasn't
Speaker 1: only and then has a half brother and a half sister.
Speaker 1: Her dad. Yeah, her dad went and had a son
Speaker 1: with another woman, and then her mom got married to
Speaker 1: her father in law, Steve, who already had a daughter. Um,
Speaker 1: so it's a sort of a weird mix. But I
Speaker 1: just mean in general, not even with siblings, you know,
Speaker 1: just in how their family dynamic is She's a different
Speaker 1: person when we go over there. Yeah, I think it happens.
Speaker 1: I think everybody is around their family. It's so strange. Um.
Speaker 1: So this is when it sort of started me down
Speaker 1: the path of like what is personality? Is it a
Speaker 1: is a personality trait? Is it this just? Is it
Speaker 1: repeated behaviors? Is it a set of behaviors? Like? Is
Speaker 1: that personality? Are you asking me? Yeah? I mean I
Speaker 1: don't even know, Like what is personality? We should do
Speaker 1: a show on that, Oh, we totally should. But from
Speaker 1: what I understand, just kind of briefly put it, personality
Speaker 1: is the kind of predictable way that you'll react to
Speaker 1: the world. Right. Is it easy for somebody to press
Speaker 1: your buttons? Um? Are you laid back? Are you? Like?
Speaker 1: Could somebody? However, if somebody were presented with that, and
Speaker 1: this is going terribly if somebody were presented with a uh,
Speaker 1: like an event in life. Okay, you could say Josh
Speaker 1: and probably respond to like that, that's a personality, right,
Speaker 1: But is that something inherent or is it birth order?
Speaker 1: Is it just a collection of learned behavior. I think
Speaker 1: it's a collection of learned and reinforced behaviors too. If
Speaker 1: you're told you're the baby of the family all the time,
Speaker 1: you're gonna act like the baby of the family. You're
Speaker 1: gonna act self centers, You're gonna act manipulative. It's reinforced.
Speaker 1: If you're told, um, you uh, you can do anything.
Speaker 1: You can you can go out and do anything. You
Speaker 1: can literally walk through walls because someone told you to.
Speaker 1: They reinforced that behavior. But I think that's a personality
Speaker 1: is and this is just me talking. I also believe
Speaker 1: in birth order effects, by the way, but I think
Speaker 1: that that is it's it's learned and reinforced, which means
Speaker 1: it can be unlearned. You can learn to be different. Yeah.
Speaker 1: At that same birthday dinner, I picked up the check
Speaker 1: for everyone and there was a bit of a not
Speaker 1: an argument, let me struggle. My mom and I were,
Speaker 1: you know, kind of off to the side with the
Speaker 1: people who worked there doing the credit card battle, and
Speaker 1: she she wasn't super happy and I should have just
Speaker 1: let her pay. But it's part of that thing, like
Speaker 1: I'm the baby of the family and I kind of
Speaker 1: just finally told a seck. Listen, mom, it's like it's
Speaker 1: my turn to pay. You know, I'm not the baby anymore.
Speaker 1: Like quit writing me a check for a hundred dollars
Speaker 1: on my birthday? Do you do you catch this? I
Speaker 1: mean I generally just put it in my kid's bank account.
Speaker 1: Oh that's a good thing. You know, we don't catch
Speaker 1: because also don't want to take away the joy that
Speaker 1: she gets from writing me that. That's not cool. It's
Speaker 1: like I don't need that from her, but like that's
Speaker 1: what brings her joy. Giving you money. It's complicated. So
Speaker 1: let me teach you a little a little trick. Okay,
Speaker 1: if you don't want to get into that tussle, if
Speaker 1: you just wanted to be done, sorry, it's too late.
Speaker 1: When you order, When you hand the menu back to
Speaker 1: the server, just have beholding your credit card with your
Speaker 1: thumb and give him a look. It's universal. They all know,
Speaker 1: and they'll take it and be like, and you got
Speaker 1: to first. Nobody else does that. They always wait and
Speaker 1: they pretend to go to the bathroom, like after everybody's done.
Speaker 1: It so obvious. You gotta start before the food even comes,
Speaker 1: before the drinks even come. You know what I did
Speaker 1: when we got to the restaurant. The very first thing
Speaker 1: I did was go up to the manager while everyone
Speaker 1: was being seated, said, listen, dude, my mom's going to
Speaker 1: try and pay, or one of these other chumps in
Speaker 1: my family is going to try and pay. It's like,
Speaker 1: I don't want any of them paying. It's like twelve people.
Speaker 1: I picked the place. I picked a nicer place. It's
Speaker 1: like I don't want to do that. And I was like, so,
Speaker 1: just here's my credit card. Please make sure that the
Speaker 1: server there's no battle. They didn't follow your orders. No,
Speaker 1: because my mom she tried to jump me later on
Speaker 1: the side and didn't realize I had already jumped her.
Speaker 1: So it should have been done, I know. But then
Speaker 1: we went over there. He was like, listen, man, your
Speaker 1: mom is over here now, like she's the mom. We
Speaker 1: generally side with the parents on this stuff. What place
Speaker 1: was this? It was just a restaurant. I demand to know.
Speaker 1: I'm mad. My move should have just trumped all moves
Speaker 1: because it was no, I agree, and that's what I
Speaker 1: basically said. And I was like, listen, man, I was like,
Speaker 1: there are factors at play here that I don't want
Speaker 1: to talk about. It's like just please, And my mom
Speaker 1: got a little mad and then that's I blame this manager.
Speaker 1: I think you should expose them. Well, I'm glad it
Speaker 1: all worked out in the end. Man, should we take
Speaker 1: a break? I thought we were right now, all right,
Speaker 1: we'll be back right after this. All right, we're back, Chuck.
Speaker 1: And like we said, we showed science is kind of
Speaker 1: like we're not quite sure about the birth order effect.
Speaker 1: That hasn't kept like a whole cottage field of psychology
Speaker 1: and continuing since the eighties basically NonStop. Like if you
Speaker 1: go look at birth birth order effects, there's it's very rare.
Speaker 1: You're going to run into anything that says like this
Speaker 1: is all b s. Most of it's like, yeah, this
Speaker 1: is true. Everybody knows it. Um. There have been some
Speaker 1: like prominent people in favor of like like let's say, yes,
Speaker 1: there is such thing as birth effects. And there was
Speaker 1: one guy in particular, um who made a big splash
Speaker 1: in with a book called Born to Rebel. Yeah, Frank Soloway,
Speaker 1: Frank J. Soloway, if you want to be fancy about it.
Speaker 1: And he got a MacArthur Genius grant to kind of
Speaker 1: study this and write about it, and he did. He
Speaker 1: wrote a book called Born to Rebel. It was about
Speaker 1: birth order, and the whole premise of the book was
Speaker 1: he looked at scientific revolutions throughout the ages. It's pretty interesting,
Speaker 1: identified which scientists were on which side of it, either
Speaker 1: in support of this revolutionary thinking or opposed to it,
Speaker 1: meaning that they were in favor of keeping the status quo,
Speaker 1: and then determined what birth order they had. And he
Speaker 1: found after this study, which is really that's a that's
Speaker 1: it was a big study he did. It was a
Speaker 1: pretty a lot of legwork, in a lot of research. Um,
Speaker 1: he determined that first borns are much more likely to
Speaker 1: support the status quo, whereas second borns are later borns
Speaker 1: he calls them are um much more likely to support
Speaker 1: revolutionary thinking. Yeah. And just one example, as far as
Speaker 1: uh he used Darwinism. He said later borns between eighteen
Speaker 1: fifty nine and eighteen seventy five were four point six
Speaker 1: times more likely than first borns two uh support Darwinism,
Speaker 1: yeah thinking, Yeah, yeah, so yeah, and that was one
Speaker 1: of many examples that I think there were um a
Speaker 1: hundred and twenty one historical events with sixty individuals either
Speaker 1: supporting or opposing him. So it was a big, big
Speaker 1: work for sure. Yeah. And one of his uh, I
Speaker 1: mean he he puts some reasoning behind it too, He's
Speaker 1: he was like, uh, if you're later born, you might
Speaker 1: have a hard time competing with your older who might
Speaker 1: have a tighter bond with the parents, maybe, And so
Speaker 1: that sort of symbolically forces you as to be almost
Speaker 1: an outsider within your own family, so you may be
Speaker 1: more prone to join up with an outsider opinion right
Speaker 1: to go look outside of the family union and all
Speaker 1: of the values and the ideas that it holds to
Speaker 1: to make your own mark in order to get attention
Speaker 1: or support or whatever from your parents. Whereas if you're firstborn,
Speaker 1: you just got the the easiest thing to do is
Speaker 1: to just fall in line with your parents and hence
Speaker 1: support the status quo. It makes sense, but um, born
Speaker 1: to a Belle was was torn apart by some scientists.
Speaker 1: Sure it is like this is just pure pop psychology tripe. Um.
Speaker 1: I think that's an unfair characterization of it like, the
Speaker 1: guy worked for basically twenty something years on this stuff,
Speaker 1: and in it was a very robust study. One of
Speaker 1: the pitfalls that he seemed to have run into, though,
Speaker 1: was he was analyzing historical figures um, which is really
Speaker 1: sticky stuff like like this. You can't analyze people even
Speaker 1: from afar, even if they're contemporary, let alone they've been
Speaker 1: dead for a couple of hundred years, So to base
Speaker 1: it on that is kind of is kind of difficult
Speaker 1: and tricky. But I just want to say he worked
Speaker 1: really hard on. Another part plucked from his research I
Speaker 1: thought was pretty interesting was the idea that part of
Speaker 1: this um less rebellious nature of a firstborn might be
Speaker 1: due to the long standing but now sort of antiquated
Speaker 1: practice of uh primogeniture, which is, the firstborn gets the inheritance,
Speaker 1: so they're more likely, just through thousands of years of this,
Speaker 1: more inclined to like not ruffle the feathers of the parents, right,
Speaker 1: And then the later borns who are like, I've got
Speaker 1: basically zero chance of inheriting the family titles in a state,
Speaker 1: I'll just go do my own thing. I don't have
Speaker 1: to fall in line. That makes sense as well, uh
Speaker 1: And the other interesting thing with that is another factor
Speaker 1: was the removal of a child from a family. He's
Speaker 1: found that a later born who was removed from the
Speaker 1: family and reared by a relative will end up behaving
Speaker 1: like a typical firstborn. And again I'm assuming if that's
Speaker 1: under the age of like five, but I wonder so
Speaker 1: I'm wondering if that just is supported by other research,
Speaker 1: or if all of the parenting magazine articles that mentioned
Speaker 1: that whole you know, the personality is tailored is really
Speaker 1: just citing that work. Because that's one of the big
Speaker 1: problems with pop psychology in general, is it's self reinforcing.
Speaker 1: One person says one thing and it gets picked up
Speaker 1: by a bunch of people and they're all pointing to
Speaker 1: the same thing. But since so many of them are pointing,
Speaker 1: there's so many of them out there doing the pointing,
Speaker 1: it seems like it's a very robust and like um,
Speaker 1: widespread body of work, when really it was just one
Speaker 1: study that said one thing that everybody's sighting. Well. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like in his case, he likes to site this Norwegian study.
Speaker 1: Uh it found a difference of two point three i
Speaker 1: Q points between first and second born children. UH sample
Speaker 1: size of two one subjects, it is big, but then
Speaker 1: you know, ed sort of brings up a good point
Speaker 1: like okay, maybe, but like is the two point three
Speaker 1: first of all i Q test or problematic for like
Speaker 1: a lot of reasons possibly bunk, But even if they're not,
Speaker 1: is a two point three IQ point difference even meaningful
Speaker 1: enough to be like, well look two points So no,
Speaker 1: it's it's not meaningful in that, like you know, that
Speaker 1: doesn't that's gonna lead to any like closed doors or
Speaker 1: open doors or anything. That's just such a narrow difference.
Speaker 1: But if that's like an average, and it's it is
Speaker 1: found across you know, first borns and later boards like
Speaker 1: like in a very large population like that, it is,
Speaker 1: it doesn't make you wonder like what what would that
Speaker 1: come from? It does raise more questions, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So, yeah, it's an insignificant difference as far
Speaker 1: as like actual intelligence goes, but it does suggest that
Speaker 1: there's something weird going on there that does have to
Speaker 1: do with birth order. Well, I guess that brings this
Speaker 1: to this really interesting thing that I had never heard
Speaker 1: of before. Had you heard of this fraternal birth order
Speaker 1: effect um, which is basically the idea, and a lot
Speaker 1: of studies have backed this up. Meta analysis of tons
Speaker 1: of studies have backed this up. The idea is that
Speaker 1: if you have multiple boys in your family, each successive
Speaker 1: boy that's born, and this is if it's just boys,
Speaker 1: has a higher chance of being gay. Right. I didn't
Speaker 1: think And when I first saw that was like, that
Speaker 1: can't be real, right, And then I did a lot
Speaker 1: more poking around. I was like, Wow, it is real.
Speaker 1: The statistics sort of bear it out. Yeah. If there's
Speaker 1: if there's a big um disagreement about whether actual just
Speaker 1: regular birth order effects exist, this one is much more
Speaker 1: supported by the data. This the fraternal birth order effect,
Speaker 1: and so much so that there is a sexologist, which
Speaker 1: if that were my field of study, I'd be like,
Speaker 1: call me sexologist Josh please. Um, I can't find his name?
Speaker 1: Is Ray something he said and I'm not sure what
Speaker 1: he was basing this on, but he said that, Um,
Speaker 1: there is a increase of thirty three percent in likelihood
Speaker 1: that you will be gay with each additional older brother
Speaker 1: you have. Now, so that means if you are born
Speaker 1: into a family and you're the youngest of four brothers,
Speaker 1: did this math, what does that mean? Because I know
Speaker 1: these people like family zero percent chance, I guess that
Speaker 1: that you are going to be um hetero, That that
Speaker 1: that you're a hundred percent chance going to be gay? Right, Well,
Speaker 1: how many it could be a hundred and six? It
Speaker 1: just going right, Yeah, I think that can't be right.
Speaker 1: Eventually you become so gay you pop out the other
Speaker 1: side and you're straight because you have like ten brothers. Well,
Speaker 1: I did see that meta analysis of multiple multiple studies
Speaker 1: indicated that between fifteen and of gay males oh their
Speaker 1: sexual orientation to this effect supposedly, okay, so so, and
Speaker 1: we should say there are some studies that have not
Speaker 1: found this. There was a big one that had There
Speaker 1: was like a survey of British young men that that
Speaker 1: surveyed like eleven thousand of them or whatever and did
Speaker 1: not find this. But so many studies have found it
Speaker 1: that science is like this, this actually might be a thing,
Speaker 1: and we're not quite sure what it is. And at
Speaker 1: first they explained it that the the more boys there are,
Speaker 1: the less social pressure there are for you to be
Speaker 1: like hetero and um and responsible for carrying on the
Speaker 1: family line, like after two three brothers, who are gonna
Speaker 1: you know, carry on the family line, go go crazy,
Speaker 1: go do what you want, and that that was the
Speaker 1: idea behind why it became likelier that you would be
Speaker 1: gay if you had more older brothers. There's a couple
Speaker 1: of things with that kind of suggests that like um
Speaker 1: being gay or not as a choice, or being straight
Speaker 1: or not as a choice rather than something biological whatever,
Speaker 1: that has kind of gone out the window. With another
Speaker 1: really surprising finding that has to do with handedness that
Speaker 1: really undermines that whole idea. Yeah, so this is so
Speaker 1: just mind blowing and interesting. So the increase and probability
Speaker 1: of a boy becoming gay is only only if that
Speaker 1: boy is right handed handed. Yep, so if you're left handed.
Speaker 1: Among left handed men, there was no statistical difference and
Speaker 1: the incidents of homosexuality even if you've got a thousand brothers.
Speaker 1: And the weird thing about that is that they've found
Speaker 1: if you are taking birth order out of the equation,
Speaker 1: if you are left handed, there's a slightly higher incidence
Speaker 1: of um being gay, just period, Yes, for for being
Speaker 1: left handed, and that's with um men and women apparently.
Speaker 1: UM So the idea that that not only does it
Speaker 1: not make you more likely to be gay, and as
Speaker 1: far as fraternal birth order is concerned, it actually negates
Speaker 1: the effects of fraternal birth order. It shows that that
Speaker 1: that social pressure from brothers doesn't have anything to do
Speaker 1: with it, because a right handed or a left handed
Speaker 1: kid is not going to be under any more or
Speaker 1: less social pressure from older brothers to be straight. Um,
Speaker 1: that makes zero sense whatsoever. And that would also suggests
Speaker 1: it's handedness that it has something to do with genetics too.
Speaker 1: If you're ambidexterous or you bisexual, I guess, so, where's
Speaker 1: that study that makes sense? So I did a little
Speaker 1: more digging in this, but I don't understand it at all.
Speaker 1: But more recently, as in just a couple of years ago,
Speaker 1: they think they found an actual um physiological biological explanation
Speaker 1: for that. If did you understand that? I don't know
Speaker 1: if they found it or if somebody made it up.
Speaker 1: And everybody's like I read a bunch of papers that
Speaker 1: said that, you know, they think this, maybe it okay,
Speaker 1: but I didn't get it. So what they what they
Speaker 1: think is that when a UM mom, when a mom
Speaker 1: carries a boy, her body has a reaction to the
Speaker 1: male male proteins, the stuff that makes him a male
Speaker 1: creates an allergic reaction of sorts in the mom, and
Speaker 1: the mom produces anybody's The first time the mom's body
Speaker 1: is totally caught off guard, has basically no effects whatsoever
Speaker 1: on the boy's development as a boy. As more and
Speaker 1: more boys are born, and just state in that same
Speaker 1: poor mom um, the antibodies get better and better at
Speaker 1: recognizing these proteins and can actually get to the point
Speaker 1: where they affect the expression of these proteins. And so
Speaker 1: what makes the boy straight from the basis of these
Speaker 1: proteins is actually affected, and they developed differently starting in
Speaker 1: the womb because the mom has developed anybody's too, basically
Speaker 1: male nous, which is the most mind boggling, amazing idea
Speaker 1: I've ever heard. That Glummery was so much better than
Speaker 1: the scientific paper summaries that I read today. Thank you,
Speaker 1: good John, Thank you you should do that. Thank I
Speaker 1: do for a living. I just did. Well, that's a
Speaker 1: good point. I thought this was interesting too. I mean,
Speaker 1: we've kind of gone over most of these birth order
Speaker 1: theories I think in general, but this one I don't
Speaker 1: think we super touched on, and I think it's really interesting.
Speaker 1: The confluence theory so This is sort of like resource
Speaker 1: delution of parents that we were talking about, like only
Speaker 1: so much emotional uh support or financial support to go around,
Speaker 1: But this takes it down to the sibling level, and
Speaker 1: it's sort of basically like if you were firstborn, uh,
Speaker 1: you are then have a degraded emotional environment and intellectual
Speaker 1: environment once you get a younger. So it's like playing
Speaker 1: tennis against better or worse competition. If you're the better
Speaker 1: tennis player, you're not gonna play as good against a
Speaker 1: lesser tennis player. And they're saying that that kind of
Speaker 1: happens with firstborns because they have to spend time with
Speaker 1: this dumb kid, this dumb baby. But the dumb baby
Speaker 1: gets a leg up exactly. That's when you play tennis
Speaker 1: against someone better than you. Eventually, that's called the tutor effect.
Speaker 1: They surpassed that firstborn, the student becomes the mass. That's right, exactly,
Speaker 1: and your skin turns to alabaster. Really interesting, is that? Sting?
Speaker 1: Well the police Okay, oh sure, I thought you were
Speaker 1: like a dream of the blue turtle Sting. No, I'm
Speaker 1: more of a nothing like the sun. Yes, synchronicity, that's
Speaker 1: good too. I'm still mad at them for that reunion
Speaker 1: to or oh yeah, they really phoned it in. You said, hey,
Speaker 1: I saw for some so I just thought of the
Speaker 1: Police and Stewart Copeland and which made me think of
Speaker 1: Less Claypool. Re members in that band with Less Claypool
Speaker 1: and Trey Anastasio. Yeah, it's called kill Me. No, it's
Speaker 1: three talented individuals. But then they made me think of
Speaker 1: Less Claypool, who was in a documentary I just saw
Speaker 1: on The Residents have seen it? No, the Residents were
Speaker 1: the mystery band right with that that, we're the big
Speaker 1: still are a mystery band, still going really Yeah, they're good, Um,
Speaker 1: but it's good. It's like it's it's an intellectual kind
Speaker 1: of like examination of of their history and everything. But
Speaker 1: it's really interesting. But Less Claypool's in it. Do you
Speaker 1: think when Less Claypool, Uh, fish guy what's his name?
Speaker 1: Trey and and Stewart Copeland and Stewart copelan you think
Speaker 1: when they got together to form that band, all they
Speaker 1: did was just sort of work out who's solos next.
Speaker 1: Probably it's like, I want to do the based solo first,
Speaker 1: and then we can go right into the guitar solo
Speaker 1: and then the drum solo and then the song's over.
Speaker 1: Hopefully the birth order of the three worked out so
Speaker 1: that it all. They were like, yes, this all makes
Speaker 1: sense to me. Man, there's nothing better than old videos
Speaker 1: of Stewart Copeland pitching fits. Oh did he? I always
Speaker 1: heard it was Sting that was the jerk to Stewart Copeland.
Speaker 1: Was Stewart Copeland the jerk? Well, Stewart Copeland was a
Speaker 1: hothead and Steyn was could poke his buttons. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: it's pretty fun. There's some Stewart. Don't feel bad for
Speaker 1: Stuart Cope. Man, he might be. I think he might
Speaker 1: be the best drummer I ever lived, everybody says Neil part.
Speaker 1: I don't know, man, Stewart Copeland was pretty good. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: and like crazy, uh like um doing his own thing,
Speaker 1: and he's from making what yeah, making Georgia, making Georgia. Wow,
Speaker 1: I didn't know that. This concludes this episode of stuff
Speaker 1: you should know. If you want the more about birth order,
Speaker 1: go talk to your family. We don't care. Since I
Speaker 1: said that's time for listener mail. Did you watch the
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