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Speaker 1: What's dev' slip service. I'm answer like, yee, I'm JJ Maguire,

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Speaker 1: I'm Jordie Jor, I'm Jazz and Brand, and I'm Devin

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Speaker 1: simooney Man. This is the perfect time of the year

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Speaker 1: for this because Devin Simone who is a match maker,

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Speaker 1: relationship expert, all of the things you know her from TV. Also,

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Speaker 1: we're so honored to have you here because this is

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Speaker 1: a stressful time for some people when it comes to

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Speaker 1: relationships and dating. So for clarity, who hear a single

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Speaker 1: okay two of.

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Speaker 2: Us, Yeah, we need help.

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Speaker 1: And Devin and we do want to say congratulations because

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Speaker 1: I know you've been married for how long now.

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Speaker 2: Like about a year and a half?

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Speaker 1: Okay, thank you?

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Speaker 2: Designed for myself.

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Speaker 1: You know, sometimes people try to discredit, like if you're

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Speaker 1: not married, they'd be like, oh, how are you offering?

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Speaker 1: You know, how is that for you? Because people tend to.

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Speaker 2: They do do that.

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Speaker 3: And I say, you know, no one can help you

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Speaker 3: get the ring better than I can, because I've got

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Speaker 3: it multiple times your house.

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Speaker 2: But I wanted it to be the right person.

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Speaker 3: So I waited to actually get married and walk down

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Speaker 3: the aisle with the right person. And I waited for

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Speaker 3: my perfect person. But I think you know they're they're

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Speaker 3: good dating experts and relationship experts who were just knowledgeable

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Speaker 3: because we geek out on it.

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Speaker 2: Like honestly, I.

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Speaker 3: Love learning why we connect with certain people, how it

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Speaker 3: changes every year. Like to me, that's just always been fascinating.

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Speaker 3: So don't rule someone out just because they're single. But look,

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Speaker 3: if they haven't been able to hold down a relationship

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Speaker 3: for like decades, I might side eye them and not

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Speaker 3: take their advice.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, well so Gigi you're single now, yes, still,

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Speaker 1: Gigi's been through a lot too, she's gotten a well.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she was engaged. We were engaged.

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Speaker 4: We did see the jeweler, but I never got the ring.

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Speaker 4: It only lasted sixty five days.

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Speaker 3: Okay, the relationship okay, so it was like fire, very

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Speaker 3: like Verry fat can happen.

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Speaker 2: It's just as fast as that ended.

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Speaker 1: What do you what are your thoughts about that, Devin?

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Speaker 1: If you think about somebody meeting someone, some people will

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Speaker 1: believe in love at first sight. Right, And like Gigi

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Speaker 1: got engaged very quickly, like three days she came like

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Speaker 1: I saw her, and then the next time I saw her,

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Speaker 1: she was engaged to somebody we'd never heard of. That

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Speaker 1: it was wild, But what do you think about that,

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Speaker 1: Like if someone comes to you like I met this person.

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Speaker 1: Three days later they're like, we're getting married.

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Speaker 3: I think it's it's totally fine to have all the

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Speaker 3: feelings but still take your time to actually move forward,

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Speaker 3: which obviously you did and you saw some things.

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Speaker 2: That ultimately you were like, yeah, I.

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Speaker 3: Say, of the sparks, because sparks can lead to fire damage,

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Speaker 3: Like people are looking for that, like.

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Speaker 2: Oh, we felt it right away.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but the slow burn is good too, Like that's

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Speaker 3: something that has longevity, so slow don't rule that out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's the lesson that I did learn.

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Speaker 4: It's like, okay, girl, that was cute and all, but

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Speaker 4: take your time because it wasn't clearly wasn't right.

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Speaker 2: This is a year ago.

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Speaker 1: And sometimes it's fun too, Like feeling like you just

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Speaker 1: got head over heels into something. Maybe you're also getting

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Speaker 1: over something else, and that can also get us to

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Speaker 1: feel like this is you know, it's like a replacement situation.

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Speaker 4: I'm enjoying being single for the most part, but I

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Speaker 2: Getting a little like bored.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I don't want to use the word lonely because

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Speaker 4: you know, ain't nobody going to me?

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Speaker 1: You can call someone.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but I'm bored, like I want you know, I

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Speaker 4: want like the field.

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Speaker 2: But do you are you bored?

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Speaker 3: Like you want to winter cuddle buddy, you know someone

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Speaker 3: that's just kind of like fun and that you to

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Speaker 3: I want something.

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Speaker 2: I want to I want to date with the purpose.

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Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, okay, yeah, I want to date with like

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Speaker 4: this is really going to probably end up in marriage. Okay,

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Speaker 4: So then say that, don't stand bored because even putting

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Speaker 2: Okay, already an I want three boyfriends a roster. I

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Speaker 5: Numbers, like, just to balance me out a little bit.

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Speaker 5: Because I was celibate for two years, so I wasn't dating.

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Speaker 5: I wasn't really doing anything for a while two years basically, And.

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Speaker 2: What led to that chort or like I was in.

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Speaker 5: A situationship and I felt like I kept finding myself

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Speaker 2: I've never really been that.

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Speaker 5: Thoughty, I like that word.

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Speaker 2: It has never really been my thing.

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Speaker 5: And so that's what I realized about myself, is that

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Speaker 2: Sometimes I could be a savage, but that's kind of

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Speaker 2: where I'm at now.

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Speaker 1: I want diverse, but with the same people.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to be out here Thoughty.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but you know, a little rotation. Yeah, And that's

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Speaker 3: And I think the best step is, like for anyone,

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Speaker 3: being clear about that. Something that so Tinder just did

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Speaker 3: versus say last year, where people are being clear about

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Speaker 3: what this is what I'm looking for, whether it's you know,

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Speaker 3: I kind of want a roster, I'm looking for something

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Speaker 3: long term, even if it's like I'm in a place

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Speaker 3: that I'm not quite sure. They're just being communicative about

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Speaker 2: Being clear? Yeah, it's like the first step.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because sometimes people used to always say things like, oh, well,

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Speaker 1: now I always felt like dating, if you really know

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Speaker 2: Job, that's what.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I tell you that. Yeah, it's like I gotta

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Speaker 1: work out, or you might go and get hired.

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Speaker 2: Yeah literally, or you might do hi, you might hire somebody.

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Speaker 2: Never been on a dating.

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Speaker 1: It, really I think you should try. I think you

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Speaker 2: I mean seeking arrangements, but they don't really count. That's

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Speaker 1: What about being intentional about that like, I just want

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Speaker 3: I mean again, be intentional, know yourself, know thyself, be true,

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Speaker 3: And then you can move to move in a direction

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Speaker 3: because you looking for intinctionality right now, since that's different

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Speaker 3: So it's also why it's important to kind of like

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Speaker 3: terms of what you want, that's totally okay too. But

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Speaker 3: fifty percent of new relationships they just we actually I

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Speaker 3: they found that fifty percent of relationships now begin online.

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Speaker 3: Like that it is, and people who are really imbursed

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Speaker 2: So online dating is the same thing.

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Speaker 3: Doesn't mean it has to only be that people are

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Speaker 2: Right to meet your husband online.

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Speaker 3: All the engagements came from online, So I'm just saying, well,

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Speaker 3: I never would have swiped on this now, like your

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Speaker 3: Can't be with your friends, but at least one maybe

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Speaker 3: what you're doing is you're filling in the blanks with

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Speaker 3: your photos, right, Like, there's only so much you can

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Speaker 3: like to try things and I like animals, show a

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Speaker 2: I'm really bad at bio.

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Speaker 3: Wait, it isn't anything at all. Hold on, let me

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Speaker 3: see she pulls that up. Let me see what's going.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So whilst he's looking at that. What's some advice

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Speaker 1: This year is wipe list in particular. Jordan and I

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Speaker 1: All right, So the years wipe is basically tender talking

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Speaker 3: But I never dated a Gemini before him and that

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Speaker 1: But you know, this Capricorn thing is still really.

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Speaker 3: Traveling with these Listen, this is just data, So this

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Speaker 3: That's probably why I'm glad you guys found a way

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Speaker 3: Let's see my interesting because I need it. I've lived

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Speaker 3: Well, so we crashed the know weren't invited to the wedding,

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00:21:01,200 --> 00:21:05,199
Speaker 3: but it was his like people he knew were working it,

442
00:21:05,320 --> 00:21:10,520
Speaker 3: like were the security for it. However, I was recognized

443
00:21:10,520 --> 00:21:11,639
Speaker 3: as not being on the guest list. I think I

444
00:21:11,680 --> 00:21:13,320
Speaker 3: got too close to the stage and then at a

445
00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:15,640
Speaker 3: s we had to dip out of the wedding before

446
00:21:15,680 --> 00:21:18,520
Speaker 3: it was like.

447
00:21:17,280 --> 00:21:19,919
Speaker 2: Wait a minute, I don't feel like I know this

448
00:21:20,760 --> 00:21:21,800
Speaker 2: not a hell of a performance.

449
00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:22,800
Speaker 1: It was great.

450
00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:25,080
Speaker 4: You no, but the whole travel, like the spontaneous travel

451
00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:26,480
Speaker 4: is definitely Gemini energy.

452
00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:28,760
Speaker 2: But that's what I wanted from one of my boyfriends.

453
00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 1: But what have you had, Jodie, Joe hasn't been your

454
00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:32,600
Speaker 1: most unique spontaneous date.

455
00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:33,520
Speaker 2: I don't know.

456
00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:37,440
Speaker 5: I think the bathhouse one is probably It's a unique

457
00:21:37,640 --> 00:21:39,640
Speaker 5: date I went on that I can think of clearly.

458
00:21:39,720 --> 00:21:43,440
Speaker 5: None of the other ones were noticeable because I don't

459
00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:44,040
Speaker 5: even remember.

460
00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:46,360
Speaker 2: But yeah, that was That.

461
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:48,639
Speaker 5: Was vibe because you're kind of really just literally stripped

462
00:21:48,680 --> 00:21:52,680
Speaker 5: down and just no makeup, just raw and like there's

463
00:21:52,680 --> 00:21:53,760
Speaker 5: no you're not allowed to have your.

464
00:21:53,640 --> 00:21:57,680
Speaker 2: Phone, so you really are just dialed in and it's

465
00:21:57,720 --> 00:22:01,679
Speaker 2: pretty intimate. Yeah, so that was That was good. It

466
00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:02,119
Speaker 2: was fun.

467
00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:05,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, what about you jazzy jazz Jazmine brand I.

468
00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:08,399
Speaker 2: Think salsa dancing. This guy was dating.

469
00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:11,280
Speaker 6: We were really Yeah, this guy, I was in my twenties.

470
00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:13,440
Speaker 6: This guy we went, he took me sausa dancing. He

471
00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:15,560
Speaker 6: was like a regular black dude too. It was fun.

472
00:22:15,720 --> 00:22:20,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, he was dance and it was fun.

473
00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:21,119
Speaker 2: It's different.

474
00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:24,280
Speaker 1: That's something that you would think of normally.

475
00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:28,119
Speaker 4: What about I don't know if this really counts as

476
00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:30,640
Speaker 4: a date, but I met a guy at the airport

477
00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:33,000
Speaker 4: and we ended up being on the same flight as

478
00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:36,800
Speaker 4: that was delayed, and we like had lunch while we.

479
00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:41,960
Speaker 3: Oh that's cute, as that's exactly it's like leaning into

480
00:22:42,600 --> 00:22:45,200
Speaker 3: the just kind of like we're here. It's it's literally

481
00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:47,600
Speaker 3: like the Hallmark movie that people say that they want

482
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:49,439
Speaker 3: or like the meet cute. It's like leaning into the

483
00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:52,520
Speaker 3: moment and just recognizing, like being spontaneous.

484
00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:54,520
Speaker 2: So that's exactly what that's cute.

485
00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:56,399
Speaker 1: It made it like a fun delay.

486
00:22:56,640 --> 00:22:59,119
Speaker 2: Yeah it was. Yeah, and we ended up going out

487
00:22:59,119 --> 00:22:59,359
Speaker 2: after that.

488
00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:03,040
Speaker 3: It didn't really go anywhere, but but that's like creating opportunity,

489
00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 3: that's exactly.

490
00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:04,160
Speaker 2: Yeah.

491
00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:08,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've got a few good ones. I remember one

492
00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:12,080
Speaker 1: guy took me horseback riding and to eat on the

493
00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:14,560
Speaker 1: beach in New Jersey, like on our first date, which

494
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:16,840
Speaker 1: was nice because it's not something I would have especially,

495
00:23:18,520 --> 00:23:21,439
Speaker 1: and they look like a restaurant on the beach and

496
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:23,639
Speaker 1: I was like, this is fun, cute, easy, and it was,

497
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:26,280
Speaker 1: you know, and then we saying duets the whole way

498
00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:27,720
Speaker 1: back from the beach in the car.

499
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:28,200
Speaker 2: It was.

500
00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:33,600
Speaker 1: That I want to ask, what would make you never

501
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:36,400
Speaker 1: go out with somebody again? Like the day was that

502
00:23:36,520 --> 00:23:37,840
Speaker 1: bad that you were like.

503
00:23:37,960 --> 00:23:41,520
Speaker 2: Needing rude to like the servertender.

504
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:47,600
Speaker 4: Rude or too frugal, too frugal, Yeah, like if you

505
00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:50,720
Speaker 4: were a bad tipper, But how do you know.

506
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:54,240
Speaker 1: Because you can't check the tip right like sometimes you could.

507
00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:57,840
Speaker 6: Sometimes I'm just hoping that he was a good tipper,

508
00:23:58,080 --> 00:23:58,720
Speaker 6: because it's hard.

509
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 1: And sometimes what I like to do if I'm not

510
00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 1: sure is when they walk away, I throw some cash

511
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:05,600
Speaker 1: on the table, just to leave a little extra just

512
00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:07,360
Speaker 1: in case, because I don't be knowing you don't cover

513
00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:10,280
Speaker 1: your fass. Yeah, and I also like tip really nice

514
00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:13,119
Speaker 1: and so I always like to do that just because

515
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,600
Speaker 1: or I like to say I'll leave the tip. That

516
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:17,560
Speaker 1: way I get to see the bill and lead the tip,

517
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:19,720
Speaker 1: and then I feel more comfortable. No, I like that.

518
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:21,360
Speaker 2: I like that i'll leave the tip.

519
00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:26,600
Speaker 3: I like that I'm not paying for anythingstand that fair fifty.

520
00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:28,840
Speaker 2: I'm leaving immediately. I'm not even sitting down.

521
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:33,080
Speaker 1: No, I'm not doing that. I'm actually saying, yeah, I

522
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:36,239
Speaker 1: don't fifty fifty. But I might be like, well, I'll

523
00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:39,200
Speaker 1: leave the tip just because I also like really over

524
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:42,320
Speaker 1: tip and so, and I don't know that everyone does that,

525
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:44,520
Speaker 1: and I think some people aren't also good at the math.

526
00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:46,160
Speaker 1: I know a lot of times it'll say it on there,

527
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,080
Speaker 1: but sometimes people don't be knowing, Like.

528
00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:51,080
Speaker 3: You're trying to do that real quick, and it's dark

529
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:57,160
Speaker 3: in their teeth and you're trying to right right. Yeah, Yeah,

530
00:24:57,240 --> 00:25:00,520
Speaker 3: I think anyone who's expecting for first dates, second date.

531
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 3: If you're looking if you asked the person out on

532
00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:06,240
Speaker 3: the date and then you're looking at them to go

533
00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:08,080
Speaker 3: into their wallet, that's a note for me.

534
00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:10,440
Speaker 1: But if you're a woman and you ask the guy out.

535
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 2: I still think he should be trying to.

536
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:17,360
Speaker 3: But I mean, I think you know, you can expect,

537
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:19,120
Speaker 3: and I think like, look after like the third day,

538
00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 3: I think it's and things are going well. I think

539
00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:22,520
Speaker 3: it's great for her to step up and be like,

540
00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 3: let me get this one. Let me whether it's pay

541
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 3: for the cabs, whether it's pay for the activity.

542
00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:28,760
Speaker 2: Because because it goes a long way.

543
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 3: Look, i'm gonna tell you how to get a roster,

544
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:32,400
Speaker 3: tell me and I'm gonna tell you how to get

545
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 3: it so that every ring that comes your way gets

546
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:35,600
Speaker 3: bigger each time.

547
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:38,960
Speaker 2: Oh right, Okay, part of that goes even.

548
00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:40,680
Speaker 3: Dudes with a ton of money, Dudes with a ton

549
00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,080
Speaker 3: of money but have self worth are going to be

550
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 3: looking for the woman who feels like she wants to

551
00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:47,920
Speaker 3: step up as a partner. So it doesn't mean they're

552
00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:50,760
Speaker 3: expecting her to be fifty to fifty, but they are

553
00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:54,800
Speaker 3: keeping like keeping tally of does she expect me to

554
00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:56,640
Speaker 3: do everything, and then you get one of two things.

555
00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:58,840
Speaker 3: The dude with self worth will leave or the dude

556
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:01,600
Speaker 3: who's looking for an imbalance to power will stay. And

557
00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:04,120
Speaker 3: you don't really want that, so you contributing on date three,

558
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 3: even if it's just like the cab fair, Like we know,

559
00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:08,000
Speaker 3: dinner's gonna cost any more than the cab fair, but

560
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:12,720
Speaker 3: it's showing that you're like appreciative, that you aren't looking

561
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:14,800
Speaker 3: to solely reliance when else and it just goes so

562
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:18,280
Speaker 3: far and like them than wanting to do ten more

563
00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:20,399
Speaker 3: because in their mind they're like, okay, cool, she's not

564
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 3: looking to just take advantage of me, like she genuinely likes.

565
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:26,520
Speaker 5: I feel like, I don't know if I'm ever going

566
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:29,840
Speaker 5: to get to the point where the date thing paying

567
00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:33,479
Speaker 5: for it. But I'm like no, no, no, yeah, I'm just

568
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:33,800
Speaker 5: more of.

569
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:34,280
Speaker 2: A gift giver.

570
00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:37,160
Speaker 5: So I show my appreciation if, like on the first date,

571
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:39,120
Speaker 5: you mentioned like a book or something like I'll bring

572
00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:41,880
Speaker 5: you the book, okay, or I've gotten men's like nice

573
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:46,120
Speaker 5: ties or things like that, I show gratitude, and I'm

574
00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:50,560
Speaker 5: like I was born on Christmas, so yes, naturally, but

575
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:53,760
Speaker 5: I don't know to me even friends wise, like if

576
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 5: I know I have more money than someone and we're

577
00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:59,360
Speaker 5: out to dinner, like I'm going to take care of it, right,

578
00:26:59,840 --> 00:27:03,720
Speaker 5: just know, just you don't like, well, I think it's

579
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 5: like a close relationships relationship. I know that reversed biology

580
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:12,440
Speaker 5: when earlier let's go ahead, you when you do a

581
00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:15,119
Speaker 5: little something small so they could do something bigger return.

582
00:27:15,240 --> 00:27:17,920
Speaker 6: And I was telling Angela I went on a date

583
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:19,880
Speaker 6: at one point with this guy that had a lot

584
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:22,720
Speaker 6: of money, and first we went to the movies and

585
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:24,440
Speaker 6: I was like, I'm gonna go get his drinks or whatever,

586
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 6: because I you know whatever he goes down, and so.

587
00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 2: We went to dinner.

588
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:31,159
Speaker 6: We did stuff after that, but he was like saying, like,

589
00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:34,000
Speaker 6: no girls ever got me drinks before and made him

590
00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:35,959
Speaker 6: do his caked up and he was like I just

591
00:27:36,359 --> 00:27:38,000
Speaker 6: I said, well what I said, I was thirsty, Like

592
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:39,240
Speaker 6: you know what am I to do? He's like, I

593
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:40,560
Speaker 6: was like, what do women do? He's like they wait

594
00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:42,399
Speaker 6: for me to give him a card or something, and

595
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:44,480
Speaker 6: he was like that's never happened to me, like and

596
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 6: I was just like, oh, it's.

597
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:46,600
Speaker 2: Like that was a big deal for him.

598
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:49,040
Speaker 6: Obviously he had it and we had dinner, and he

599
00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:51,280
Speaker 6: spent way more, but it was like a big deal

600
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 6: for him because I guess women.

601
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 3: They have a lot of exactly and I get it

602
00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:57,720
Speaker 3: to a little thing, and I get you have your

603
00:27:57,760 --> 00:27:59,760
Speaker 3: way of doing things, but be careful letting the way

604
00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:02,399
Speaker 3: that you been doing things keep you stuck from like

605
00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:07,800
Speaker 3: advancing to other things, because she's even corroborating.

606
00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:09,080
Speaker 2: Like do because that does not happen.

607
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:11,360
Speaker 3: And it may be a dude who's like even as

608
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:13,160
Speaker 3: thoughtful as the gift is, I don't need more stuff

609
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 3: in my apartment in order or like I don't need more,

610
00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:18,160
Speaker 3: but you just showing that like in that moment, Oh,

611
00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:21,119
Speaker 3: I got here a little early. I got us a

612
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:23,240
Speaker 3: round of drink, and you close out that tab, like

613
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:25,920
Speaker 3: just get the one round to drink and close it out.

614
00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 3: But just that I'm telling you creates a lifetime, can

615
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:33,720
Speaker 3: create a lifetime of investment where they're just like cool.

616
00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:34,479
Speaker 2: I do for her.

617
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:36,800
Speaker 3: I want to do for her because I feel like

618
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 3: she's not trying to use And.

619
00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 6: I also feel like it lets them know you got

620
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:44,040
Speaker 6: it too, like like I could take I got.

621
00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 3: This, and it takes away that balance of power thing

622
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:48,120
Speaker 3: right where it's like I don't have to spend it,

623
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 3: but I got it.

624
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:52,520
Speaker 1: Right right, So whatever other red flags for you guys, rudeness,

625
00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:55,280
Speaker 1: not tipping, what else? I had a guy on a

626
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 1: first date. He took me out and we went to

627
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:01,280
Speaker 1: a really nice best staurant. But then he wanted to

628
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 1: go do karaoke. But he could sing. For real, you

629
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:14,800
Speaker 1: don't like that, so it's like peppe, Yeah, well, first

630
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:18,960
Speaker 1: karaokees for people who can't sing that it's literally held

631
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 1: a rap song. So look, So he was up there

632
00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 1: and it was so funny because like we were in

633
00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 1: Koreatown and so where they have like a bunch of

634
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: karaoke places, and so people were like watching him perform.

635
00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:32,680
Speaker 1: I was like, so then he asked me to pick

636
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:37,040
Speaker 1: a song, so I made him do thong song because

637
00:29:37,040 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 1: I thought it would just be funny, and he was,

638
00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:46,600
Speaker 1: for real like she's got pup okay, yeah that way.

639
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:49,440
Speaker 1: So I was like irritated by that. But the thing

640
00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:52,480
Speaker 1: that I really didn't like was he had a he

641
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:55,520
Speaker 1: had like a nice car, and he was so pressed

642
00:29:55,520 --> 00:29:57,440
Speaker 1: about where he was going to park his car. Like

643
00:29:57,680 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 1: first he parked and then he was like walking around

644
00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:00,880
Speaker 1: the back of the car, like this car too close

645
00:30:00,920 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 1: to mine. I don't know, I don't want to the

646
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 1: car to a bigger spot. And I'll say this is ridiculous. Yeah,

647
00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 1: because the way I am in my car, I'm like,

648
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 1: it's gonna get sketched up. I mean yeah. That kind

649
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:15,520
Speaker 1: of made me feel I was just kind of irritated.

650
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:17,040
Speaker 1: And then he sent me a long email like why

651
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 1: are you not you know, because I didn't communicate email.

652
00:30:20,840 --> 00:30:21,800
Speaker 1: But it was only one day.

653
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 2: Okay, your voice.

654
00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:26,920
Speaker 6: Was crazy to me be like what did this say?

655
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:29,800
Speaker 2: I can't even read along, Like what did it say?

656
00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 1: I'd been like, jasmon, look at this? What did he said? Wow?

657
00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:37,840
Speaker 1: I had.

658
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:39,200
Speaker 2: I went on a date with a guy.

659
00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:43,520
Speaker 6: He was really frugal, which was unattractive, but also he

660
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:46,560
Speaker 6: would park his car and places that were legal. He

661
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 6: take a ticket out and put it on his.

662
00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:50,840
Speaker 1: That's a very New York things.

663
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:53,040
Speaker 2: I didn't like that. And then he was on your

664
00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 2: own time.

665
00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 6: And he went to the super fun super he went

666
00:30:58,000 --> 00:30:59,840
Speaker 6: to the super cheap gas station.

667
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 2: And it was a turn off to me, like wait, wait,

668
00:31:03,440 --> 00:31:05,840
Speaker 2: what do you mean? Like you know, okay, I live

669
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 2: in d C.

670
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 6: Like you know, like some of the you know, that

671
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 6: do you guys have gas stations you can only pay cash.

672
00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 6: This was like years ago, like like really cheat, he

673
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:13,680
Speaker 6: had a nice car. It was just and I was

674
00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:18,200
Speaker 6: just like, why are you going to this? It was

675
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:21,840
Speaker 6: kind of off brand sort of it bothered me. It

676
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 6: was a combination. And then also the last thing after that,

677
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 6: I was done, like I didn't want to talk anymore.

678
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 6: He kept texting me and then I wouldn't respond, and

679
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 6: then he sent me an unsolicited dick pic and I

680
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:34,320
Speaker 6: remember I remember it being all these clothes around in the.

681
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 1: Background like clean up. Yeah, it was just it.

682
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:44,280
Speaker 5: Was just a yeah, but it was so like you

683
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 5: don't whatt mean more?

684
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 2: Let me show you by dick.

685
00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:48,360
Speaker 1: Like feet in the picture as well.

686
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:49,000
Speaker 2: I don't remember.

687
00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:56,120
Speaker 3: It's gonna make you be like, okay, I must the

688
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 3: work for before I was like, did shave it was?

689
00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 2: It was? It was I'm not gonna lie. It was

690
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:01,200
Speaker 2: a decent dick.

691
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:10,720
Speaker 1: It was just take some close up. If you have

692
00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:14,240
Speaker 1: a really bad first date but you like the person, like,

693
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:16,480
Speaker 1: let's just say you kind of mess it up, like

694
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:19,760
Speaker 1: maybe you got messy, sloppy, drunk, embarrass yourself. Is there

695
00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 1: a way to recover what advice would you give for that,

696
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 1: Devin Simone, Let's just say I was drunk, I threw up,

697
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 1: I embarrassed myself, I cursed him out, but I still

698
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:31,440
Speaker 1: like him.

699
00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 3: I mean, i'd say if he was smart, he probably

700
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 3: be like no, and not because you're not amazing, but

701
00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 3: just this stage of where we are, that.

702
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 2: Is a big red flag. But if you really want

703
00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 2: to try it would.

704
00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:50,640
Speaker 3: Like whatever that other person's communication style is, because it's

705
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 3: different for different people. So like you, guys don't like

706
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 3: long text, Some people prefer text. Some people like a

707
00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:57,560
Speaker 3: voice note, some people like a phone call. So meet

708
00:32:57,640 --> 00:33:03,360
Speaker 3: them wherever they are are, not literally, but you know,

709
00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 3: send them the kind of communication that they like, and

710
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,440
Speaker 3: just say, look, I'd love to do over.

711
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,520
Speaker 2: I'm not I'm not usually like that one. I don't know.

712
00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 3: You can kind of make a joke if you want to,

713
00:33:12,600 --> 00:33:14,720
Speaker 3: like I heard the moon was purple yesterday and I

714
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 3: don't know, like, I am so sorry.

715
00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:16,720
Speaker 2: I would love to.

716
00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:26,440
Speaker 1: Take it's on brand.

717
00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 3: And then and then just be respectful of how long

718
00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 3: it takes them respond, whether or not they respond.

719
00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:34,600
Speaker 2: You know, whatever it is.

720
00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 1: And if they don't send a message, fuck you.

721
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:41,640
Speaker 2: Anyone. If they don't respond.

722
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 1: Dding I was wondering, can something survive that? I know

723
00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:52,320
Speaker 1: somebody that went on a date with somebody New Year's

724
00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:55,920
Speaker 1: Eve and then got so drunk that she ended up

725
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:57,480
Speaker 1: at his house and he's still lived with his mom

726
00:33:57,480 --> 00:33:59,560
Speaker 1: and she was shiitting and throwing up in the bathroom

727
00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:02,080
Speaker 1: and it's my I was like, is she okay?

728
00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:02,959
Speaker 3: Now?

729
00:34:03,040 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 1: He was to do that for her? I was like, dances,

730
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 1: you messed up?

731
00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:07,720
Speaker 2: But why was he living with his mom?

732
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:11,479
Speaker 1: We were younger and maybe like early twenties. It still

733
00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:13,080
Speaker 1: was kind of like, why are you still it? But

734
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:16,000
Speaker 1: you know New York? You know, yeah, yeah, that's New

735
00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:19,160
Speaker 1: York his mom. I guess she seemed nice if she was,

736
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 1: you know, checking on her yeaheah, Okay, you wake up?

737
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 1: Like where am I? What happened last night? All right?

738
00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 4: Now?

739
00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:31,280
Speaker 1: Another thing we want to talk about is what if

740
00:34:31,840 --> 00:34:36,400
Speaker 1: you meet somebody and or your friend meets somebody they're dating,

741
00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:40,480
Speaker 1: but that person did go out with you years ago.

742
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 1: Let's say it didn't go anywhere, but let's just say

743
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:47,879
Speaker 1: me and Jasmine, Right, Jasmine meets somebody, starts dating him,

744
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 1: and I'm like, ooh, I did like to him, yeah,

745
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 1: three years ago and you know, nothing really happened. Should

746
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:55,279
Speaker 1: I tell her?

747
00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:57,800
Speaker 3: I mean, that's your close friend. I think you should

748
00:34:57,800 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 3: be honest about it. Yeah, I think that you should

749
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:01,600
Speaker 3: tell your close friends.

750
00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 1: Would that make you feel weird? Jazzmin, Like, would you

751
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:04,719
Speaker 1: be like I can't go up?

752
00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:06,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, it would make me feel weird because then.

753
00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:07,760
Speaker 1: It kind of feels like I don't want to block

754
00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 1: what she has going.

755
00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:10,480
Speaker 2: But would you rather know or rather know?

756
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:12,080
Speaker 6: But I probably I wouldn't If I knew that, I

757
00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:13,600
Speaker 6: was like, oh, I don't want to talk to him

758
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 6: man like.

759
00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:17,160
Speaker 2: Right, but you don't want to like get further down

760
00:35:17,200 --> 00:35:17,680
Speaker 2: the line.

761
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:22,880
Speaker 3: I rather just forgetting the altar and you see your

762
00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:23,440
Speaker 3: photo or something.

763
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 2: It was like, well, you.

764
00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:27,680
Speaker 6: Know, I also feel like it depends on your relationship

765
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:29,759
Speaker 6: with Like if I wouldn't tell her because I don't know,

766
00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:32,839
Speaker 6: we're no, we're not close, I would I'll tell her.

767
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 3: I wasn't you know what I mean?

768
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:38,960
Speaker 6: If with someone I'm not close with, I would just

769
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:40,160
Speaker 6: buy my business.

770
00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:40,319
Speaker 2: You know what I mean?

771
00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:40,680
Speaker 1: Like m.

772
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:43,719
Speaker 4: But if there wasn't a date and there was just

773
00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 4: like some flirting in the d MS or him just

774
00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:47,279
Speaker 4: you know, trying to.

775
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 3: Like he didn't physically ever go out right, Yeah, if

776
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:53,480
Speaker 3: it had, if it had stopped, like I just feel

777
00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:56,520
Speaker 3: it out, I wouldn't necessarily be proactive in sharing that info.

778
00:35:56,640 --> 00:35:59,160
Speaker 3: But if it ever felt like it was relevant, or

779
00:35:59,239 --> 00:36:01,560
Speaker 3: if it was like in the last six months, you know,

780
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:05,080
Speaker 3: like hella recent versus like two years ago, he slid

781
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 3: in my DMS, like whatever else. I think it was

782
00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 3: two years ago, saything, unless it explicitly came up somehow,

783
00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:15,160
Speaker 3: But if it was like, oh, three weeks ago, he

784
00:36:15,200 --> 00:36:19,160
Speaker 3: had just been like, yeah, three weeks.

785
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:21,480
Speaker 5: Ago, that happened to me, my friend had slept with

786
00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:25,600
Speaker 5: this guy that I was talking to, but I met

787
00:36:25,680 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 5: him through her.

788
00:36:27,400 --> 00:36:29,920
Speaker 3: Okay, wait what happened for or like, what's the timeline

789
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:30,719
Speaker 3: of events?

790
00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:33,960
Speaker 5: So I actually I never knew Actually, so I think

791
00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 5: I ever told you. So she never told me when

792
00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:38,800
Speaker 5: it happened. I don't remember, but I know it happened,

793
00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:41,319
Speaker 5: and then we met and he was interested, and like,

794
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:43,839
Speaker 5: I hung out with him. But then I realized that

795
00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:46,799
Speaker 5: as more he became more interested that I was like,

796
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:49,799
Speaker 5: that bothered me more than it did when we were

797
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:50,719
Speaker 5: just meeting, you know what I mean.

798
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:53,600
Speaker 2: So I yeah, I had to cut that off.

799
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:55,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, but she was okay with you dating him.

800
00:36:55,680 --> 00:36:56,399
Speaker 2: Yeah she didn't care.

801
00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:59,360
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah that happens. I've definitely been like, yeah, you

802
00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:01,839
Speaker 1: could date to him like years ago. I don't care

803
00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:05,360
Speaker 1: at all, But I do think I would feel a

804
00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:07,960
Speaker 1: little weird about it if it was the other way around.

805
00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:08,919
Speaker 1: I don't want to date somebody.

806
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:11,400
Speaker 6: I don't want to date anybody that my friends left with.

807
00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:13,920
Speaker 6: Oh yes, it's just I don't care how long ago.

808
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:16,360
Speaker 6: I'm like, I'm cool, Like it's enough so I can pick.

809
00:37:16,239 --> 00:37:19,240
Speaker 1: A new one likes with MESSI.

810
00:37:22,840 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 5: Now.

811
00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:26,760
Speaker 1: It's also holiday season, and so things are a little different.

812
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 1: It feels like if you bring somebody home, you know,

813
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:31,719
Speaker 1: during this time, it feels like it's a lot more

814
00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 1: serious than at any other time. Like if I bring

815
00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 1: you home March eighth, it's way different than you know,

816
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:40,279
Speaker 1: Christmas Eve or something like that. All right, so let's

817
00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:43,240
Speaker 1: talk about some of that protocol as far as dealing

818
00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:46,320
Speaker 1: with family dating. When do you bring somebody home? Should

819
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:49,440
Speaker 1: you be offended if someone doesn't invite you? You know,

820
00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:52,560
Speaker 1: say you're spending the holiday by yourself, you recently started

821
00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:55,319
Speaker 1: dating somebody and they know you're alone, and they don't

822
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:58,719
Speaker 1: invite you. You know, what type of advice would you

823
00:37:58,760 --> 00:37:59,960
Speaker 1: give for people around this time.

824
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:02,360
Speaker 3: It's not fully a one size fits all, but I

825
00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:04,600
Speaker 3: would say generally, if you've been dating for less than

826
00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:07,759
Speaker 3: six months, don't be super in your fields. If they

827
00:38:07,760 --> 00:38:11,239
Speaker 3: don't invite you, particularly if they're really close to your family,

828
00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:13,080
Speaker 3: that's good. Now, if y'all been dating for five years

829
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:14,280
Speaker 3: and you note that's.

830
00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:24,759
Speaker 6: A problem, even bringing somebody else, that's the problem.

831
00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:26,880
Speaker 3: So not y'all bring a little junior in this. But

832
00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 3: if it's been six months or less, then you know

833
00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 3: it's okay. And if you look kind of go with

834
00:38:36,080 --> 00:38:39,480
Speaker 3: your gut with it. Just be respectful. If someone does

835
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:42,719
Speaker 3: invite you to the family, be respectful. Know your family well,

836
00:38:42,840 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 3: like do you really want to like exposure.

837
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:47,839
Speaker 2: Are y'all at a place.

838
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:51,480
Speaker 3: Now or because it's different per family, right, Like I

839
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 3: had gotten to a place where Avenge, I was like,

840
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:55,200
Speaker 3: I'm not bringing anyone home any like at this point,

841
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:58,400
Speaker 3: I'm from Kansas City. I'm not bringing anyone home unless

842
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:01,399
Speaker 3: I've planned to make like, unless I think I can

843
00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:03,719
Speaker 3: marry them, Like it just got to that point and

844
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 3: my family's accepting to anyone. Fortunately, because definitely we dated

845
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:13,480
Speaker 3: all types, but that just became sort of my like

846
00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:17,160
Speaker 3: my thing. And I do say that it's nice if

847
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:20,480
Speaker 3: you're not gonna bring them home, and particularly to the guys.

848
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:22,800
Speaker 3: For the women, if you know, for whatever reason she's

849
00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 3: by herself or going to kind of be with the

850
00:39:24,719 --> 00:39:28,120
Speaker 3: smaller group, if you want to plan something thoughtful for her.

851
00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:29,480
Speaker 3: So maybe you're not ready to bring her home to

852
00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:31,760
Speaker 3: the family, but maybe you send her flowers on Christmas

853
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:34,880
Speaker 3: Eve or just something so that she doesn't feel alone

854
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 3: or he doesn't feel because I know you like to

855
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:39,040
Speaker 3: give gifts, like just to kind of say, look, I

856
00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:42,440
Speaker 3: know we're not here and together, but I'm thinking of you.

857
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:43,640
Speaker 2: I think that's special.

858
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 3: Also, dating this type of the holidays, whether you meet

859
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:47,719
Speaker 3: family or not, is a really fun time to create

860
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:48,400
Speaker 3: your own tradition.

861
00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:50,680
Speaker 2: Who knows if you'll be together next year, that doesn't matter.

862
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 3: This kind of leans into that kismet thing that Tiny

863
00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:57,960
Speaker 3: was talking about, like in the moment, just like especially

864
00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:00,839
Speaker 3: like in New York. Maybe it's going to look at

865
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 3: the windows, or maybe it's a certain restaurant that you liked,

866
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:05,320
Speaker 3: and it doesn't have to be a holiday themed restaurant.

867
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:08,400
Speaker 3: It could just be whatever restaurant and maybe that's something

868
00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:10,960
Speaker 3: you start now and you create a fun memory and

869
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:13,160
Speaker 3: then next year, whether you meet family or not, you

870
00:40:13,200 --> 00:40:14,880
Speaker 3: know whatever you guys said, do you go back to

871
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 3: that restaurant and you go back and do that thing.

872
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 3: Holidays are really fun for creating your own little right,

873
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:20,279
Speaker 3: Like I.

874
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:22,960
Speaker 1: Went sledding one year. That was fun. Yeah, I don't

875
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:24,719
Speaker 1: nowhere exactly right.

876
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:27,840
Speaker 2: Been ice skating, I've been ice skating. I've never been

877
00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 2: Skatingpies of lip service. That's where we need to eat out.

878
00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 2: We need to find a black own something, slope something.

879
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 1: Now, what if your person you're dating gets you a

880
00:40:44,080 --> 00:40:45,120
Speaker 1: gift and you don't like it.

881
00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:49,759
Speaker 3: Oh, I got this necklace one time, and my best

882
00:40:49,760 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 3: friend knew I was getting, Like I didn't know, but

883
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:54,879
Speaker 3: he had like asked her or something, and I think

884
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 3: she tried to warn them, but by the time she

885
00:40:56,400 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 3: responded to his message, she'd already purchased it, because.

886
00:40:58,920 --> 00:40:59,800
Speaker 2: Like it took a while.

887
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:02,600
Speaker 3: Oh gosh. When I saw it and he put it

888
00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:04,400
Speaker 3: on my neck, I felt it. I felt like it

889
00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:05,279
Speaker 3: was burning.

890
00:41:05,440 --> 00:41:09,720
Speaker 1: And it was tried. It was burned.

891
00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:14,200
Speaker 2: And then I like went in my room and cried

892
00:41:14,320 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 2: or like, and then eventually I did.

893
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:18,759
Speaker 3: I was just like, and what's sad is he got

894
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 3: like roped in by the sales because he tried to

895
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:22,719
Speaker 3: explain what the two hearts meant, and I was like,

896
00:41:22,760 --> 00:41:24,319
Speaker 3: that's what they say on the like.

897
00:41:26,040 --> 00:41:28,400
Speaker 2: Jewelers, because yeah, yeah.

898
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 6: You're the expert. But I feel like you just got

899
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 6: to eat it sometimes just like okay, thank you, thank.

900
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:35,839
Speaker 2: You for me, and just so I used to do that.

901
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:36,520
Speaker 1: She cried.

902
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:38,600
Speaker 2: Though here's the thing, she's dramatic.

903
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:46,880
Speaker 3: It was burning and it was just like, let me

904
00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:49,000
Speaker 3: take it off once experts that I actually didn't like

905
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:50,719
Speaker 3: it because initially, when he gave it, I was like,

906
00:41:50,800 --> 00:41:52,040
Speaker 3: thank you, it's so sweet.

907
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:52,439
Speaker 2: Blah blah blah.

908
00:41:52,440 --> 00:41:55,760
Speaker 3: But if you've been together for a while, we want

909
00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:58,319
Speaker 3: to and my gift was great, then I got him.

910
00:41:58,400 --> 00:41:59,440
Speaker 2: It just hated.

911
00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 1: That's to that thought, listeners, because you feel like somebody

912
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:05,320
Speaker 1: should know you enough to know what you're gonna like for.

913
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:07,759
Speaker 2: A while, not initially, not yet if it's initially.

914
00:42:07,920 --> 00:42:10,840
Speaker 3: But I also think actually, even as uncomfortable, it feels

915
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:13,920
Speaker 3: like always be gracious and grateful, but it is actually

916
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 3: better to be honest because if you guys do enter

917
00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:19,160
Speaker 3: into a long term relationship. You're setting that standard and

918
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 3: you don't want him to think you like precious moment

919
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:22,680
Speaker 3: stalls because he got you one.

920
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:27,719
Speaker 2: Then and then years later he's you're pissed because you

921
00:42:27,719 --> 00:42:31,640
Speaker 2: got all because you I mean saying with like the

922
00:42:31,719 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 2: names in bed and likeah.

923
00:42:38,480 --> 00:42:40,279
Speaker 3: Also, you know, most guys will get comfortable, so they'll

924
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:45,880
Speaker 3: be like, oh, she liked this. Be honest, but be

925
00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:49,319
Speaker 3: gracious and recognize that they tried right. So you're just like, oh,

926
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:51,279
Speaker 3: my gosh, I really appreciate this so much.

927
00:42:51,960 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 2: I know you may not know this.

928
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:55,279
Speaker 3: It's the reason why earlier I mentioned I designed my

929
00:42:55,280 --> 00:42:58,400
Speaker 3: engagement ring, so getting engaged was a surprise, but the

930
00:42:58,400 --> 00:43:00,719
Speaker 3: reason I designed it was intentional because because my now

931
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:04,319
Speaker 3: husband knows me, and he knew fairly early on that

932
00:43:04,320 --> 00:43:06,239
Speaker 3: I'm pretty picky about the jewelry that I wear.

933
00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:07,960
Speaker 2: Hints the neckle. He wasn't the one who got me

934
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:09,239
Speaker 2: the necklace that, but.

935
00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:11,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, he knew that story and it just

936
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:12,640
Speaker 1: has enough.

937
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 3: So he was like, look, that's gonna be one of

938
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:22,279
Speaker 3: the biggest things I ever get.

939
00:43:22,360 --> 00:43:23,960
Speaker 2: I want it to be something you love.

940
00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 3: He's like, I want to surprise you, but he also

941
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:28,480
Speaker 3: knows I like to research things. So he was like, well,

942
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:32,359
Speaker 3: what if we did it this way? Would you want

943
00:43:32,360 --> 00:43:34,960
Speaker 3: to design your own? Like you picked the designer you

944
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:38,600
Speaker 3: you know, do whatever, And then he'd get the ring.

945
00:43:38,800 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 3: I wouldn't know when he got it. I wouldn't know

946
00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:42,279
Speaker 3: when it was done, and then he'd propose in his

947
00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:44,680
Speaker 3: own way, in his own time, in his own But

948
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:47,279
Speaker 3: that part of that happened. And it's the ring of

949
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:49,239
Speaker 3: my dreams and it's one of one and there's little

950
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 3: hidden details in it, like it's everything to me and

951
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:55,239
Speaker 3: I love it. I named her Betty after Betty White

952
00:43:55,239 --> 00:43:58,479
Speaker 3: Beau's like saying, you're ready white die. But it's because

953
00:43:58,520 --> 00:44:00,880
Speaker 3: I was honest from the jump. Whereas when I had

954
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 3: been proposed to you before, I didn't like the ring.

955
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:05,120
Speaker 1: How many times you been proposed to him?

956
00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:05,640
Speaker 2: Only three?

957
00:44:05,719 --> 00:44:08,400
Speaker 1: Okay, did you keep crazy? None of them?

958
00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:12,640
Speaker 3: Because that goes back to that showing like it goes

959
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:15,160
Speaker 3: back to paying for something on the third date. I

960
00:44:15,200 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 3: was never with you for the money. This spas I

961
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:20,840
Speaker 3: also got me. I can take care of me. And

962
00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 3: then also this is no longer mine because this relationship

963
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 3: is in mind like it's not what I want.

964
00:44:25,320 --> 00:44:28,480
Speaker 1: So like some of you're proposed to me once and

965
00:44:28,520 --> 00:44:31,000
Speaker 1: he he would tell me to just keep the ring

966
00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:33,480
Speaker 1: because I said no right away. He didn't want to die.

967
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:34,600
Speaker 1: I don't want it, did you?

968
00:44:34,680 --> 00:44:35,440
Speaker 2: I mean, did you keep it?

969
00:44:35,680 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 1: I don't know where it is at this point, but

970
00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:39,719
Speaker 1: it was a long time ago, but it was like

971
00:44:39,760 --> 00:44:40,520
Speaker 1: a surprise.

972
00:44:40,880 --> 00:44:41,800
Speaker 2: Yeah.

973
00:44:41,840 --> 00:44:45,319
Speaker 1: And I was like, I'll tell you this, and the

974
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:47,799
Speaker 1: manager of the restaurant was like, how did it go?

975
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:48,719
Speaker 1: He was like not good?

976
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:51,239
Speaker 2: Did you guys break up?

977
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:55,439
Speaker 1: Saying yeah, I never haven't seen him since home.

978
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:56,480
Speaker 2: Were you guys together before?

979
00:44:56,480 --> 00:45:01,040
Speaker 1: He Here's the thing, like I I was a lot younger,

980
00:45:01,040 --> 00:45:02,920
Speaker 1: and I don't even know why he did that. And

981
00:45:02,960 --> 00:45:04,640
Speaker 1: he told me he said his friend was like, yeah,

982
00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 1: you should just go for it. Like I was like,

983
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:11,400
Speaker 1: why would he tell you that? It was so embarrassing,

984
00:45:11,800 --> 00:45:14,200
Speaker 1: And then I was like here he was like, no,

985
00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:15,520
Speaker 1: keep it. I don't even want to see it.

986
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:18,920
Speaker 2: So you didn't even open the box.

987
00:45:18,880 --> 00:45:20,840
Speaker 1: Not had it. It was in the middle of the

988
00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:23,640
Speaker 1: dessert cake. And then it was at a Mexican restaurant

989
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:24,799
Speaker 1: and it said what.

990
00:45:26,760 --> 00:45:27,440
Speaker 2: Did you say?

991
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 4: So on the first of all, I didn't know what

992
00:45:29,200 --> 00:45:31,040
Speaker 4: the cake said because I said, well, you marry me

993
00:45:31,080 --> 00:45:33,759
Speaker 4: and his family it said well no because it was

994
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:35,040
Speaker 4: like in script.

995
00:45:34,800 --> 00:45:38,160
Speaker 1: And I was like, what's going on in here? And

996
00:45:38,160 --> 00:45:41,400
Speaker 1: it said would you if marry me? Because I don't know.

997
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:45,520
Speaker 1: They just wrote it wrong so many signs I literally know,

998
00:45:45,880 --> 00:45:48,120
Speaker 1: and so I was like, are you proposing to me?

999
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:52,759
Speaker 1: And he was like, oh my god. And it was.

1000
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:56,400
Speaker 1: And I was embarrassed because we're like at a nice restaurant.

1001
00:45:56,640 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 1: And it was funny because when we came in, they

1002
00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:00,759
Speaker 1: were like rose petals on the table, so I was like, wow,

1003
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:07,640
Speaker 1: they really go out all, you know. It was just

1004
00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:10,279
Speaker 1: like they think it was inside of like a thing.

1005
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:13,200
Speaker 1: And then they pulled the top. Yes, and there was

1006
00:46:13,200 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 1: a ring in the middle of the.

1007
00:46:15,640 --> 00:46:15,879
Speaker 2: Later.

1008
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:18,080
Speaker 1: No, I couldn't because I was so caught off guard.

1009
00:46:18,160 --> 00:46:20,920
Speaker 1: It wasn't like we had ever talked about this or

1010
00:46:20,960 --> 00:46:22,960
Speaker 1: anything was leading up to it. It just came out

1011
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:23,640
Speaker 1: of nowhere.

1012
00:46:23,360 --> 00:46:25,080
Speaker 3: Which is a good key. That is a good no

1013
00:46:25,280 --> 00:46:28,000
Speaker 3: and point proposals being a surprise.

1014
00:46:28,520 --> 00:46:30,239
Speaker 1: Didn't say yes and then say no, there's a.

1015
00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:31,200
Speaker 2: Whole bunch of people around.

1016
00:46:31,200 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 3: I would.

1017
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:32,440
Speaker 1: I didn't know these people.

1018
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:33,680
Speaker 6: That's that's a fact.

1019
00:46:33,719 --> 00:46:41,200
Speaker 3: And this is before social media, right, social media right now,

1020
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:42,840
Speaker 3: how was it?

1021
00:46:42,920 --> 00:46:45,960
Speaker 6: He was like, no, just think if somebody had their

1022
00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:49,319
Speaker 6: just all these people there thoughtful, but like I would

1023
00:46:49,360 --> 00:46:51,360
Speaker 6: say yes, and then I would say no later.

1024
00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:54,319
Speaker 2: But then that like makes it harder and stickier, and.

1025
00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 3: Like say no one for all these people, yes, oh

1026
00:46:57,800 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 3: my god, and then dip you know, hard it is

1027
00:47:00,680 --> 00:47:01,959
Speaker 3: to change our minds later.

1028
00:47:02,200 --> 00:47:04,840
Speaker 1: Okay, Like Devin Howard, was I for you did to

1029
00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:06,480
Speaker 1: break off your several.

1030
00:47:06,320 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 3: Cag not only two, only too?

1031
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:13,400
Speaker 4: You know?

1032
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:16,440
Speaker 3: It was it was hard and the second one that

1033
00:47:16,480 --> 00:47:18,040
Speaker 3: was working off we called off the wedding. Part of

1034
00:47:18,080 --> 00:47:20,680
Speaker 3: it was COVID related, like we the dress, the venue,

1035
00:47:21,200 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 3: the saved the dates. Well yeah, yeah, yeah, it was

1036
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 3: like literally we were supposed to get married the year

1037
00:47:28,320 --> 00:47:30,920
Speaker 3: of like the pandemic, and it had been booked the

1038
00:47:31,040 --> 00:47:35,520
Speaker 3: year before. And so that part was really because it

1039
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:37,880
Speaker 3: was like people I bought.

1040
00:47:37,640 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 1: Tickets tickets the pandemic.

1041
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:43,880
Speaker 3: Well one they waited too late to cancel, but they

1042
00:47:43,880 --> 00:47:45,799
Speaker 3: did take a couple of trips to Egypt and then

1043
00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:47,520
Speaker 3: that's how they got pregnant.

1044
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:51,400
Speaker 2: My nephew was born, my little Okay, so it but

1045
00:47:51,400 --> 00:47:53,000
Speaker 2: but yeah, like so that was hard.

1046
00:47:53,080 --> 00:47:55,880
Speaker 3: How did I look the one that gave the necklace,

1047
00:47:55,960 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 3: and I just was like we were kind of dragging

1048
00:47:58,080 --> 00:47:59,759
Speaker 3: our feet and planning. I think it just didn't sit

1049
00:47:59,840 --> 00:48:02,760
Speaker 3: right and and look also low key a lot of prayer,

1050
00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:06,000
Speaker 3: Like just in general, it's like we're humans. We're gonna

1051
00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:08,960
Speaker 3: do things that feel good. Sometimes don't feel good. Sometimes

1052
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:11,239
Speaker 3: I like to just do a blanket prayer of like

1053
00:48:11,520 --> 00:48:13,160
Speaker 3: save me from the things that aren't meant for me,

1054
00:48:13,480 --> 00:48:15,600
Speaker 3: like let me get all the blessings you have in

1055
00:48:15,640 --> 00:48:17,319
Speaker 3: store for me, and don't let me stand in my

1056
00:48:17,360 --> 00:48:19,800
Speaker 3: own way. And so it just kind of led to

1057
00:48:19,840 --> 00:48:22,200
Speaker 3: a conversation that I was like and I couldn't get

1058
00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:22,879
Speaker 3: the ring off fast.

1059
00:48:22,920 --> 00:48:27,040
Speaker 6: It was both times sort of like yeah, no, I

1060
00:48:27,120 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 6: was me and the guy I was engaged to. We're

1061
00:48:29,120 --> 00:48:32,000
Speaker 6: planning a destination wedding and we called it oft and

1062
00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:34,040
Speaker 6: some people already bought their tickets and stuff.

1063
00:48:34,120 --> 00:48:37,520
Speaker 3: Did they get their money? Like, I don't know, she said,

1064
00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:43,040
Speaker 3: I don't know. She's like, not my problem.

1065
00:48:43,440 --> 00:48:44,239
Speaker 2: I was lovely younger.

1066
00:48:44,760 --> 00:48:47,400
Speaker 1: I wasn't consider did you get gifts and stuff? Like

1067
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:50,680
Speaker 1: what happens to the gifts if we have registering at

1068
00:48:50,719 --> 00:48:58,000
Speaker 1: the wedding. Yeah, there's a bridal shower gifts shower.

1069
00:48:58,080 --> 00:49:00,239
Speaker 3: Yet my aunt did buy us this really nice hand

1070
00:49:00,320 --> 00:49:02,200
Speaker 3: and he actually loved that panting used it all the time.

1071
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:04,200
Speaker 3: And when we broke up, I took that pant, even

1072
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:10,880
Speaker 3: though pant and all the spices. I my aunt was like,

1073
00:49:11,040 --> 00:49:12,560
Speaker 3: let him keep the pant, I'll get you another one.

1074
00:49:12,600 --> 00:49:14,440
Speaker 3: I was like, no, it's the principal, and so I

1075
00:49:14,560 --> 00:49:16,319
Speaker 3: just took the pant. I still have never used it,

1076
00:49:16,360 --> 00:49:18,440
Speaker 3: but they don't make it anymore. So I'm glad that,

1077
00:49:19,120 --> 00:49:24,479
Speaker 3: thank you, because I really don't. But I thought there

1078
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:26,840
Speaker 3: too that because it's good not stick.

1079
00:49:27,000 --> 00:49:29,600
Speaker 1: Was it the necklace? Guy?

1080
00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:30,520
Speaker 2: Get engaged in?

1081
00:49:30,840 --> 00:49:31,040
Speaker 3: Guy?

1082
00:49:31,960 --> 00:49:33,000
Speaker 2: What did that ring look like?

1083
00:49:33,440 --> 00:49:36,040
Speaker 3: So that one was smaller and it was round with

1084
00:49:36,120 --> 00:49:37,840
Speaker 3: a simple band, and it wasn't me.

1085
00:49:37,960 --> 00:49:39,400
Speaker 2: It just wasn't me.

1086
00:49:40,000 --> 00:49:43,400
Speaker 3: Then the next one was an heirloom and it was emeralds.

1087
00:49:43,480 --> 00:49:46,640
Speaker 2: It was his grandmother's ring. That was bigger, more me.

1088
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:52,719
Speaker 3: And then this one I designed from scratch. It has

1089
00:49:52,760 --> 00:49:55,480
Speaker 3: our initials and Morse code and diamonds hidden in the band,

1090
00:49:55,800 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 3: and I picked the designer who I'm now friends with,

1091
00:49:57,680 --> 00:49:58,480
Speaker 3: so it's me.

1092
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:03,600
Speaker 1: So yeah, that was okay. You know, they always say,

1093
00:50:03,719 --> 00:50:06,800
Speaker 1: did you get engaged? On a holiday like during okay,

1094
00:50:06,840 --> 00:50:11,280
Speaker 1: because people always say, yeah, it's nothing right birthday.

1095
00:50:11,480 --> 00:50:12,239
Speaker 2: I think it's fine.

1096
00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:14,359
Speaker 3: My mother doesn't believe in that, but I think it's

1097
00:50:14,360 --> 00:50:18,160
Speaker 3: perfectly fine. You guys do what's special for the two

1098
00:50:18,200 --> 00:50:20,640
Speaker 3: of you, you know what I mean, Like, I don't

1099
00:50:20,680 --> 00:50:24,040
Speaker 3: think that that's yeah, okay, I think.

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00:50:23,920 --> 00:50:27,160
Speaker 1: It's for legal purposes. I think it's for legal purposes

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00:50:27,520 --> 00:50:30,280
Speaker 1: because no, because they do say, like if you give somebody,

1102
00:50:30,320 --> 00:50:32,319
Speaker 1: if you propose on a holiday, they get to keep

1103
00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:37,080
Speaker 1: it because because it's a gift, legally they can keep it.

1104
00:50:37,200 --> 00:50:39,880
Speaker 3: It's but I look state by state because I know

1105
00:50:39,960 --> 00:50:44,280
Speaker 3: some states regardless, it's considered a gift though on the premise.

1106
00:50:43,920 --> 00:50:44,880
Speaker 1: Of getting married.

1107
00:50:45,080 --> 00:50:47,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, and so if you don't get married, like in

1108
00:50:47,880 --> 00:50:50,239
Speaker 3: New York State, you have to give it back like

1109
00:50:50,320 --> 00:50:50,840
Speaker 3: it's yours.

1110
00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:53,640
Speaker 2: Once you're legally married, it's yours to keep married.

1111
00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:56,680
Speaker 1: Because I know they said Christmas, Valentine's Day, your birthday,

1112
00:50:56,760 --> 00:50:59,160
Speaker 1: They're like, it was a gift, and so I don't know,

1113
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:00,399
Speaker 1: so just something.

1114
00:51:01,120 --> 00:51:01,319
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1115
00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:04,439
Speaker 1: Now, another thing that people talk about is gift giving

1116
00:51:04,480 --> 00:51:08,120
Speaker 1: at different stages in a relationship. Some people feel like

1117
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:10,200
Speaker 1: I've heard guys say I don't want to go too

1118
00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:13,160
Speaker 1: big too early, because then the expectations are too high

1119
00:51:13,360 --> 00:51:16,320
Speaker 1: to keep on trying to like keep up, yeah, upstage

1120
00:51:16,320 --> 00:51:19,480
Speaker 1: what you did previously. So, Devin, what are your thoughts

1121
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:22,319
Speaker 1: as far as you know? Of course, we always want

1122
00:51:22,360 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 1: to give thoughtful gifts, but sometimes should we be raining

1123
00:51:25,160 --> 00:51:26,160
Speaker 1: it in earlier on?

1124
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:31,360
Speaker 3: I think if you're just leading with thoughtful, I do

1125
00:51:31,440 --> 00:51:33,720
Speaker 3: think it's smart to kind of look at the long term,

1126
00:51:33,760 --> 00:51:35,319
Speaker 3: which is like if I can see myself with this

1127
00:51:35,320 --> 00:51:37,799
Speaker 3: person for five years, Like can I sustain this? Because

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00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:39,120
Speaker 3: you don't want to love bomb, which is where you

1129
00:51:39,200 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 3: do it all up front and then you're left kind

1130
00:51:40,640 --> 00:51:42,560
Speaker 3: of like there's nothing else I can do. But I

1131
00:51:42,560 --> 00:51:44,960
Speaker 3: think leave it thoughtful. Know that thoughtful doesn't have to

1132
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:48,279
Speaker 3: be super expensive. It can be, but it doesn't have

1133
00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:51,480
Speaker 3: to be. And make sure you're not trying to overcompensate,

1134
00:51:51,520 --> 00:51:53,840
Speaker 3: because sometimes the people who come out really hot and strong,

1135
00:51:53,880 --> 00:51:57,520
Speaker 3: particularly guys, they're actually trying to like overcompensate for some

1136
00:51:57,640 --> 00:52:00,400
Speaker 3: other pops wear.

1137
00:52:02,400 --> 00:52:02,680
Speaker 1: Wearing.

1138
00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:04,520
Speaker 2: If you're doing it.

1139
00:52:04,440 --> 00:52:07,000
Speaker 3: Genuinely to see that person happy and like to just

1140
00:52:07,080 --> 00:52:10,480
Speaker 3: have joy, you're not You're not doing it to necessarily

1141
00:52:10,520 --> 00:52:12,160
Speaker 3: flex on everyone else you're literally just trying to put

1142
00:52:12,160 --> 00:52:14,080
Speaker 3: a smile on that other person's face. And I think

1143
00:52:14,360 --> 00:52:16,640
Speaker 3: if you lead with that intenctionality, like you'll be good

1144
00:52:16,680 --> 00:52:19,160
Speaker 3: every time. But that's also why being honest it's important

1145
00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:20,880
Speaker 3: because if they're trying to do that for you and

1146
00:52:20,920 --> 00:52:23,719
Speaker 3: they think you like this because you smiled at it,

1147
00:52:24,280 --> 00:52:26,200
Speaker 3: and you hate it, it's.

1148
00:52:26,080 --> 00:52:28,160
Speaker 2: Gonna be much harder to rein in over time.

1149
00:52:28,600 --> 00:52:30,839
Speaker 4: I had a guy give me the same thing three

1150
00:52:30,840 --> 00:52:32,680
Speaker 4: times in the row, and after the third one, I

1151
00:52:32,719 --> 00:52:34,160
Speaker 4: was like, Okay, I don't want this again.

1152
00:52:34,239 --> 00:52:35,840
Speaker 2: But it was a different like color.

1153
00:52:36,160 --> 00:52:39,560
Speaker 4: It was different colors, but it was the same gift birthday,

1154
00:52:39,719 --> 00:52:41,840
Speaker 4: just it was the first one was just because the

1155
00:52:41,880 --> 00:52:44,880
Speaker 4: second one was Valentine's but the same thing for my birthday.

1156
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:46,560
Speaker 2: I was like, I like this, but.

1157
00:52:46,560 --> 00:52:48,320
Speaker 1: Please give me a little work creative.

1158
00:52:48,600 --> 00:52:53,040
Speaker 2: It was those flowers on the box and I'm like, because.

1159
00:52:52,760 --> 00:53:00,319
Speaker 1: If it was like a different Rolex it in the market. Yeah,

1160
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:01,040
Speaker 1: And it was like.

1161
00:53:04,480 --> 00:53:06,600
Speaker 4: They got bigger and they were a different color, but

1162
00:53:06,640 --> 00:53:09,319
Speaker 4: it's like they last forever and I don't want to

1163
00:53:09,320 --> 00:53:09,720
Speaker 4: just throw.

1164
00:53:09,560 --> 00:53:14,880
Speaker 1: It away from you.

1165
00:53:15,200 --> 00:53:16,000
Speaker 2: I took it.

1166
00:53:16,920 --> 00:53:18,800
Speaker 4: I don't think he took it well though, because I

1167
00:53:18,920 --> 00:53:20,000
Speaker 4: never got another gift from him.

1168
00:53:20,320 --> 00:53:21,640
Speaker 1: That was the end of that. Well, at least you

1169
00:53:21,640 --> 00:53:26,480
Speaker 1: need to get more flowers in the now. Okay, let

1170
00:53:26,560 --> 00:53:28,560
Speaker 1: me ask you this. Let's just say it's Christmas time,

1171
00:53:29,320 --> 00:53:33,160
Speaker 1: and let's say you buy your significant other and amazing gift,

1172
00:53:33,200 --> 00:53:35,360
Speaker 1: but then find out right afterward that they were cheating

1173
00:53:35,360 --> 00:53:35,680
Speaker 1: on you.

1174
00:53:37,360 --> 00:53:39,640
Speaker 2: That happened to me? Did you do I got him

1175
00:53:39,640 --> 00:53:41,880
Speaker 2: a go pro for Christmas? What's that?

1176
00:53:41,880 --> 00:53:42,560
Speaker 1: That's the camera?

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00:53:42,800 --> 00:53:46,479
Speaker 5: Yeah, the little cameras and I never saw him again?

1178
00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:51,440
Speaker 3: Wait wait wait wait yeah, wait, okay, you got him

1179
00:53:51,480 --> 00:53:53,560
Speaker 3: a gift, my gift, and then did you find out

1180
00:53:53,560 --> 00:53:54,200
Speaker 3: he was cheating?

1181
00:53:54,280 --> 00:53:56,200
Speaker 2: Or like I found out? Maybe?

1182
00:53:56,760 --> 00:54:00,200
Speaker 5: So my birthday is Christmas, so right, you gotta would

1183
00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:04,160
Speaker 5: give your birthday birthday freaking little cat?

1184
00:54:04,480 --> 00:54:05,400
Speaker 2: No, please, I'll tell you.

1185
00:54:06,280 --> 00:54:07,839
Speaker 4: You got him the little thing that he could wear

1186
00:54:07,880 --> 00:54:09,880
Speaker 4: it up here and everything he got me that he

1187
00:54:09,960 --> 00:54:12,279
Speaker 4: got you that like you know what I mean with

1188
00:54:12,280 --> 00:54:14,759
Speaker 4: the little rim and everything, and then he got me

1189
00:54:14,800 --> 00:54:17,359
Speaker 4: like a little like bathroom body works that you buy

1190
00:54:17,360 --> 00:54:19,839
Speaker 4: your your elderly aunt at the you know what I'm

1191
00:54:19,880 --> 00:54:21,920
Speaker 4: talking about?

1192
00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:25,640
Speaker 1: Want to check out? Right, okay?

1193
00:54:25,719 --> 00:54:25,879
Speaker 3: Right?

1194
00:54:26,760 --> 00:54:30,360
Speaker 5: And he was like, okay, great, great, great, and then

1195
00:54:30,800 --> 00:54:32,839
Speaker 5: it was two years and he went out to dinner

1196
00:54:32,880 --> 00:54:36,680
Speaker 5: with someone else and like didn't wish me happy, like whatever,

1197
00:54:36,719 --> 00:54:38,040
Speaker 5: and I was like, what the fuck?

1198
00:54:38,680 --> 00:54:40,480
Speaker 2: And we broke up over the phone. I never saw

1199
00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:42,640
Speaker 2: it again. A couple. You guys, we were together on

1200
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:43,840
Speaker 2: and off for like eight years.

1201
00:54:44,320 --> 00:54:52,520
Speaker 1: Oh my god. Yeah, yeah, you see me right, and

1202
00:54:52,719 --> 00:54:55,279
Speaker 1: even worse if he was posting video from the GoPro like,

1203
00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:57,720
Speaker 1: oh yeah, was the next.

1204
00:54:59,440 --> 00:54:59,680
Speaker 6: Nerve.

1205
00:55:00,080 --> 00:55:03,600
Speaker 1: Wow, Listen, that's so funny because I dated a guy

1206
00:55:03,640 --> 00:55:08,200
Speaker 1: and I bought him a camcorder for his birthday and

1207
00:55:08,239 --> 00:55:09,880
Speaker 1: then we broke up soon after. But you know what

1208
00:55:09,920 --> 00:55:11,840
Speaker 1: I did. I didn't tell him. I knew he was cheating.

1209
00:55:11,880 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 1: I borrowed it back and then broke up. Oh, I like,

1210
00:55:18,160 --> 00:55:20,200
Speaker 1: I still have and that camp quarder is so old

1211
00:55:20,200 --> 00:55:22,520
Speaker 1: and I still have it. But if you see on

1212
00:55:22,600 --> 00:55:25,279
Speaker 1: any of my shaky videos from lip service that were

1213
00:55:25,280 --> 00:55:30,399
Speaker 1: in black and white back in the day, I was like, oh,

1214
00:55:30,560 --> 00:55:35,600
Speaker 1: and I strategically smart did not say anything until I said,

1215
00:55:35,600 --> 00:55:36,560
Speaker 1: can I borrow the camera?

1216
00:55:36,719 --> 00:55:38,920
Speaker 2: See? I would not have had the restraint. But that's good. Yes,

1217
00:55:39,160 --> 00:55:40,280
Speaker 2: I'm a capricorn.

1218
00:55:40,360 --> 00:55:41,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, I want to say one thing about Angela she

1219
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:43,080
Speaker 4: can definitely be strategic.

1220
00:55:43,280 --> 00:55:45,520
Speaker 3: That was I never gave a gift, and that happened.

1221
00:55:45,640 --> 00:55:47,400
Speaker 3: But a dude in college that we were dating, we

1222
00:55:47,440 --> 00:55:49,799
Speaker 3: actually lived together. At that point I found out he

1223
00:55:50,000 --> 00:55:52,680
Speaker 3: was cheating. This is back on AOL and a messenger

1224
00:55:52,760 --> 00:55:54,960
Speaker 3: like and that was a thing. So I figured out

1225
00:55:55,000 --> 00:55:57,040
Speaker 3: a software. This is gonna make me sound crazy, it's fine.

1226
00:55:57,600 --> 00:55:59,600
Speaker 3: I figured out a software thanks to my mother that

1227
00:55:59,719 --> 00:56:02,040
Speaker 3: you can and saw that would track all the messages

1228
00:56:02,080 --> 00:56:02,880
Speaker 3: that were happening.

1229
00:56:03,160 --> 00:56:04,880
Speaker 2: So I had done that when he was.

1230
00:56:04,840 --> 00:56:07,680
Speaker 3: Out of town because I suspected something, so he went

1231
00:56:07,719 --> 00:56:08,200
Speaker 3: to work.

1232
00:56:08,400 --> 00:56:10,200
Speaker 2: I opened the messages, saw.

1233
00:56:09,960 --> 00:56:12,960
Speaker 3: That he was having conversations when I had been out

1234
00:56:12,960 --> 00:56:15,320
Speaker 3: of town, like basically saying he was single.

1235
00:56:15,320 --> 00:56:16,680
Speaker 2: But we lived together.

1236
00:56:17,200 --> 00:56:21,240
Speaker 3: So that night when he was worked at the club

1237
00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:24,560
Speaker 3: again I was in college, but that's your first. I

1238
00:56:24,560 --> 00:56:27,960
Speaker 3: printed them all out. I got super cute, went to

1239
00:56:28,000 --> 00:56:31,760
Speaker 3: the club, told him he led, put him in an envelope,

1240
00:56:32,000 --> 00:56:34,520
Speaker 3: told him I had forgotten something in his car, so

1241
00:56:34,640 --> 00:56:37,040
Speaker 3: I asked to borrow his keys. I went and took

1242
00:56:37,080 --> 00:56:38,840
Speaker 3: his keys like I left the room. I took his

1243
00:56:38,920 --> 00:56:41,360
Speaker 3: house keys off the key ring so he wouldn't be

1244
00:56:41,400 --> 00:56:43,839
Speaker 3: able to get into the house. This gave him his

1245
00:56:43,920 --> 00:56:46,120
Speaker 3: key ring back, pretending that nothing.

1246
00:56:46,200 --> 00:56:47,279
Speaker 2: There was a lot of keys on it, so he

1247
00:56:47,320 --> 00:56:49,759
Speaker 2: didn't notice when I were handed.

1248
00:56:49,480 --> 00:56:51,160
Speaker 3: Him the envelope. He opened it there in the club.

1249
00:56:51,200 --> 00:56:52,680
Speaker 3: He freaked out and tried to deny it, but it

1250
00:56:52,719 --> 00:56:53,560
Speaker 3: was like right there.

1251
00:56:54,120 --> 00:56:55,200
Speaker 2: I left.

1252
00:56:56,120 --> 00:56:58,880
Speaker 3: I then went home that night, and he tried to

1253
00:56:58,880 --> 00:57:00,200
Speaker 3: get in the house and was sitting in his are

1254
00:57:00,239 --> 00:57:02,840
Speaker 3: crying to let me for me to let him into

1255
00:57:02,840 --> 00:57:03,839
Speaker 3: the house, and you get in the house, you had

1256
00:57:03,840 --> 00:57:04,680
Speaker 3: to go sleep at his parents house.

1257
00:57:04,680 --> 00:57:07,280
Speaker 2: I'm like, now you can explain to your parents why why.

1258
00:57:07,320 --> 00:57:09,680
Speaker 1: You're there for what you did.

1259
00:57:11,040 --> 00:57:12,400
Speaker 2: But we're friends now, it's fine.

1260
00:57:13,200 --> 00:57:17,160
Speaker 1: You became friends with people still after like like he's

1261
00:57:16,880 --> 00:57:19,400
Speaker 1: he was dumb, but like right, it's like you dropped

1262
00:57:19,400 --> 00:57:22,000
Speaker 1: the ball right, fumbled in for the rest of his

1263
00:57:22,120 --> 00:57:26,240
Speaker 1: life and you really like something satisfyingly evil about still

1264
00:57:26,280 --> 00:57:31,240
Speaker 1: being friends with somebody who wronged you. Yeah, because you're

1265
00:57:31,400 --> 00:57:35,240
Speaker 1: successful in doing well. It's kind of the kay, you know,

1266
00:57:35,480 --> 00:57:39,560
Speaker 1: but like like, hey, how goes it?

1267
00:57:40,080 --> 00:57:44,680
Speaker 2: Like goes it? So now you know, if Angel ever goes.

1268
00:57:47,200 --> 00:57:49,520
Speaker 1: Exactly exactly, I'd be like with.

1269
00:57:49,560 --> 00:57:51,760
Speaker 3: Him, you were both young and dunks. You're in college.

1270
00:57:51,840 --> 00:57:54,120
Speaker 3: I genuinely wish him like I care about him as

1271
00:57:54,120 --> 00:57:57,160
Speaker 3: a human. But yeah, I mean I know that, like.

1272
00:57:57,320 --> 00:57:59,840
Speaker 1: You were crying, and that he still watches literally.

1273
00:57:59,840 --> 00:58:03,000
Speaker 2: I'm fabulous, Like I know that, but I wish them

1274
00:58:03,000 --> 00:58:03,520
Speaker 2: alt person.

1275
00:58:03,680 --> 00:58:05,680
Speaker 3: But also I am quite proud that I held restraint

1276
00:58:05,720 --> 00:58:08,400
Speaker 3: and didn't like I played it cool and like he

1277
00:58:08,440 --> 00:58:09,440
Speaker 3: didn't know until he.

1278
00:58:09,480 --> 00:58:11,400
Speaker 2: Got home that he wasn't going to.

1279
00:58:11,400 --> 00:58:13,760
Speaker 1: Be and it's so hard to not burst.

1280
00:58:14,960 --> 00:58:16,800
Speaker 2: I'll be calling like, oh I can't.

1281
00:58:16,840 --> 00:58:19,080
Speaker 1: I found out my ex cheated on me on his

1282
00:58:19,200 --> 00:58:21,760
Speaker 1: birthday and he was on his way to my house

1283
00:58:21,800 --> 00:58:23,800
Speaker 1: to come get me. He left his Gmail open on

1284
00:58:23,800 --> 00:58:26,240
Speaker 1: my laptop and I was going to look up like

1285
00:58:26,280 --> 00:58:28,440
Speaker 1: the restaurant we were that I was taking him to

1286
00:58:28,920 --> 00:58:30,760
Speaker 1: and I and I was like, oh, his Gmail just

1287
00:58:30,800 --> 00:58:32,920
Speaker 1: popped up, and I was like should I look? And

1288
00:58:32,920 --> 00:58:34,800
Speaker 1: then I said, God said yeah, because he would have

1289
00:58:34,800 --> 00:58:40,760
Speaker 1: did that. Listen says I'm trying to show you something,

1290
00:58:41,360 --> 00:58:42,080
Speaker 1: and I've seen.

1291
00:58:41,880 --> 00:58:43,480
Speaker 2: A lot when the sign is fine.

1292
00:58:43,800 --> 00:58:45,960
Speaker 1: And then even after that, like he was on his

1293
00:58:46,000 --> 00:58:49,439
Speaker 1: way it was his literally his birthday, and I was like, man,

1294
00:58:50,440 --> 00:58:53,560
Speaker 1: do I say something today like it's his birthday? Wonder

1295
00:58:53,760 --> 00:58:56,160
Speaker 1: and then I was like, I tried not to. And

1296
00:58:56,200 --> 00:58:58,160
Speaker 1: then he called me. He was like, all right. I

1297
00:58:58,200 --> 00:58:59,720
Speaker 1: was like, I don't think I'm gonna be able to

1298
00:58:59,720 --> 00:59:01,479
Speaker 1: make it. He was like, what what happened? What's the matter?

1299
00:59:01,520 --> 00:59:03,560
Speaker 1: I was like, I just don't feel good. And then

1300
00:59:03,600 --> 00:59:07,680
Speaker 1: I just sent him all of the messages and and

1301
00:59:07,720 --> 00:59:12,040
Speaker 1: that was it. That was that, and that was on that,

1302
00:59:12,600 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 1: so you know, and now he's listening to Yeah, now

1303
00:59:15,160 --> 00:59:19,640
Speaker 1: he's like, oh my god, I'm telling that story. I've changed.

1304
00:59:20,720 --> 00:59:23,800
Speaker 1: But listen, Devin. I would love for you, and I

1305
00:59:23,840 --> 00:59:25,560
Speaker 1: know you're super busy. I know you have your own

1306
00:59:25,600 --> 00:59:30,160
Speaker 1: show with your own friends. Okay, but we did love

1307
00:59:30,240 --> 00:59:31,040
Speaker 1: having you up here.

1308
00:59:31,160 --> 00:59:33,760
Speaker 2: Thank you for having you. Guys are amazing and it

1309
00:59:33,800 --> 00:59:34,120
Speaker 2: was fun.

1310
00:59:34,160 --> 00:59:38,080
Speaker 1: You gave us such great, practical, reasonable information. But I'm

1311
00:59:38,080 --> 00:59:39,680
Speaker 1: so happy to know you're a little crazy too.

1312
00:59:39,880 --> 00:59:47,720
Speaker 2: Yeah. Do you know my family? You know, look, keep

1313
00:59:47,760 --> 00:59:49,480
Speaker 2: it being a little crazy.

1314
00:59:49,560 --> 00:59:52,960
Speaker 3: It's a little unpredictab. I think them being a smige

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Speaker 3: scared of you. Okay, I think it's healthy, just this

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Speaker 3: smidge and not like a violent way.

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Speaker 2: But just that I can't know if she's going to

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Speaker 2: go their way.

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Speaker 3: I think that's I think I like to keep my

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Speaker 3: husband on his toes. Okay, good, I tell you a

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Speaker 3: stun gun story. That's next time you work too.

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Speaker 1: No, but no, And I saw you the other night

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Speaker 1: at the Tender Year and Swipe event where you gave

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Speaker 1: us a lot of great statistics and numbers. But you

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01:00:21,200 --> 01:00:26,000
Speaker 1: know she's not just giving us practical advice. It's actually research, right,

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Speaker 1: So these are real things. So make sure you check

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01:00:27,880 --> 01:00:30,480
Speaker 1: out the Tender Year and Swipe report so you can

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01:00:30,520 --> 01:00:34,320
Speaker 1: see everything from the lingo to the cities people moving

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01:00:36,120 --> 01:00:41,080
Speaker 1: places to date to because that one was wrong. I

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Speaker 1: don't know who, but you know, there's not a lot

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Speaker 1: of capricorns, so I can understand why numbers wise that

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Speaker 1: didn't work out in our favor.

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Speaker 2: Whatever makes them feel. We support support.

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Speaker 1: You, but I do really appreciate you. I love what

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01:00:53,600 --> 01:00:56,200
Speaker 1: you do, and we've worked together years and years and

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01:00:56,240 --> 01:00:57,720
Speaker 1: years and years ago in the past, but I know

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01:00:57,760 --> 01:00:58,640
Speaker 1: we'll be doing a lot more.

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Speaker 2: So sure.

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Speaker 3: I love seeing you in and you guys are all

1340
01:01:01,160 --> 01:01:04,640
Speaker 3: amazing and this podcast is so fun, so yeah, definitely

1341
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Speaker 3: watching a fan.

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Speaker 1: And Jordan's once some definitely wants to work on like

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Speaker 1: her profile, so.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and any potentially men that you want to throw.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm available. Okay, we teach you the database. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: but you definitely should. We'll look at your we'll look

1347
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Speaker 3: at your profile. You definitely should be on Tinder. And

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Speaker 3: you travel a lot, don't you. You know Tinder has

1349
01:01:25,640 --> 01:01:29,360
Speaker 3: a passport feature. I'm just saying, and dating in America

1350
01:01:29,520 --> 01:01:31,960
Speaker 3: is not necessarily the same as it is in other

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Speaker 3: countries and cultures, like, so you set that passport feature

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01:01:37,280 --> 01:01:39,160
Speaker 3: to be at another country that you're in, which means,

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01:01:39,160 --> 01:01:41,240
Speaker 3: from the comfort of your couch, you can be swiping

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Speaker 3: and matching with quts in other areas like in Turkey.

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Speaker 4: Given show, just give them all And I'm gonna I'm

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Speaker 4: going to get on it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I am going to.

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01:01:58,320 --> 01:01:58,560
Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: In fact, this would be an amazing experiment for us

1360
01:02:01,120 --> 01:02:02,640
Speaker 1: to kind of track what's going on.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to do it.

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Speaker 3: I've never been on a dating I love it ever,

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01:02:06,720 --> 01:02:08,920
Speaker 3: I love it and look and just like, I just

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Speaker 3: want to preface it too, because like there's literally millions

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Speaker 3: of people on dating apps, right, like hundreds of millions

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01:02:13,480 --> 01:02:17,720
Speaker 3: of people. So just like there are thousands, thousands of restaurants,

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01:02:17,720 --> 01:02:19,400
Speaker 3: you're not gonna like them all. And that's okay, but

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Speaker 3: it doesn't mean eating is bad. Right, you don't go, oh,

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Speaker 3: I'm never eating again.

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Speaker 1: I don't.

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Speaker 2: Literally you you don't rule.

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Speaker 3: It out because you know there were a couple bad,

1373
01:02:34,120 --> 01:02:37,320
Speaker 3: so like just go in with that mindset though, but

1374
01:02:37,480 --> 01:02:39,600
Speaker 3: know that they're just like your favorite, Like there's some

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01:02:39,640 --> 01:02:41,600
Speaker 3: really good ones and there are still some really good

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Speaker 3: people that have a lot going for them that are.

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Speaker 1: On and if nothing else, you'll get some great females.

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01:02:47,080 --> 01:02:50,360
Speaker 1: And they say Chick fil A is.

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Speaker 3: The number one, number one. Yet don't go there, Please don't,

1380
01:02:56,840 --> 01:02:58,320
Speaker 3: don't don't go there.

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Speaker 1: I would be impressed. Okay, all right, all right, well

1382
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Speaker 1: thank you so long. I'm totally kidding.

1383
01:03:05,320 --> 01:03:07,320
Speaker 3: We already heard the things that made her mad, like

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01:03:07,320 --> 01:03:09,280
Speaker 3: a karaoke bar and singing thong song.

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01:03:09,120 --> 01:03:12,200
Speaker 1: Too well, I think like you sing and do karaoke,

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01:03:12,400 --> 01:03:14,560
Speaker 1: especially on our first day, that's so whacked. So if

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Speaker 1: we can't sing, then that's perfect.

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Speaker 6: You don't like people that can sing and do karaoke, period,

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Speaker 6: It doesn't matter for it's the first day, Like why that?

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01:03:22,920 --> 01:03:24,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, she just like it at all.

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01:03:24,120 --> 01:03:26,200
Speaker 1: Go get your deal, you know what I mean. I

1392
01:03:26,240 --> 01:03:26,800
Speaker 1: don't want to be.

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01:03:26,800 --> 01:03:27,240
Speaker 2: Part of that.

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Speaker 3: Get a deal Tomato, tomato being here and trying to

1395
01:03:40,320 --> 01:03:42,480
Speaker 3: like because it's like trying to show up, you know

1396
01:03:42,520 --> 01:03:43,120
Speaker 3: what I mean.

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01:03:47,960 --> 01:03:48,960
Speaker 1: Go sing on a cruise.

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01:03:49,080 --> 01:03:51,760
Speaker 2: Okay, Angela, all right, wedding singer.

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Speaker 1: But that's all I have to say. All right, but again, Devin,

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Speaker 1: Devin Samel, make sure you guys follow her great information.

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01:04:00,400 --> 01:04:01,600
Speaker 1: Can people contact you too?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, if you want to be If you want dating

1403
01:04:04,120 --> 01:04:06,840
Speaker 3: tips advice, you can hit me up on IG. You

1404
01:04:06,840 --> 01:04:08,680
Speaker 3: can go to my website devintimone dot com. If you

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01:04:08,680 --> 01:04:10,880
Speaker 3: want to be in a free matchmaking database, you can

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01:04:10,920 --> 01:04:13,120
Speaker 3: do that too. If you want me to look at

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01:04:13,160 --> 01:04:17,240
Speaker 3: your h profile photos and evaluate those if you if

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Speaker 3: I see your.

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Speaker 1: DM, I'll respond okay, we love that.

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Speaker 2: Yes, all right.

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Speaker 1: As lift service, you