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Speaker 1: Subject, am I afraid to want more? Good Morning Team.

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Speaker 1: I am recently divorced from my husband for about a year.

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Speaker 1: I was severely hurt during the process of my marriage.

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Speaker 1: I took a year off from dating to do a

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Speaker 1: lot of soul searching and to come to grips with

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Speaker 1: the fact that my failed marriage was my fault. Thanks

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Speaker 1: to you, Steve the advice. Thanks You're all off in it. Okay,

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Speaker 1: thanks to you, Steve. The advice that you've been giving

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Speaker 1: to your listeners made me realize it was my fault.

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Speaker 1: Now to the question. I've been dating a guy for

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Speaker 1: about three months. Right out the gate, we established ground

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Speaker 1: rules of the relationship. He said that he dates other

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Speaker 1: women and wanted to be totally honest with me about that.

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Speaker 1: I told him that I didn't have any expectations and

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Speaker 1: that I'm not seeking or looking for a relationship. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I know you're waiting on the problem. Since the ground

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Speaker 1: rules were set up front. What's the problem. Here's the problem.

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Speaker 1: How he wants more. He wants to cut out all

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Speaker 1: the women in his life to see only me, and

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Speaker 1: he wants me to do the same. I am totally

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Speaker 1: scared to commit myself to another man and to get

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Speaker 1: hurt in the end. Just give you a little background,

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Speaker 1: Just to give you a little background. On the surface,

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Speaker 1: he's perfect, treats me with the utmost respect and care.

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Speaker 1: Now I have not broken off the cookie. No, I

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Speaker 1: have not broken off the cookie because I didn't want

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Speaker 1: to confuse matters considering the ground rules. Please help me.

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Speaker 1: How do you know when it's the right time to

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Speaker 1: try love again? That's a lot going on in this letter.

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Speaker 1: But first of all, first of all, I just you know,

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Speaker 1: I can't really tell you when you personally are are

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Speaker 1: ready to move on and to love again, because I

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Speaker 1: don't know you personally. But I can tell you that

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Speaker 1: when you're happy inside, when you're happy with yourself, when

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Speaker 1: you're completely emotionally over your last relationship, when you have

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Speaker 1: stopped beating yourself up for as you say, causing your oars,

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Speaker 1: when you feel confident again, when you can look in

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Speaker 1: the mirror and you're happy with what you see. Those

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Speaker 1: are just some of the signs that you can tell

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Speaker 1: when you're ready to move on and and you know,

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Speaker 1: to love again, ready to let someone in your life.

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Speaker 1: But if you're still depressed, if you're bitter, if you're angry.

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Speaker 1: If you're afraid to trust, if you have not you know,

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Speaker 1: like looked inwardly to to learn from your your last relationship, UM,

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Speaker 1: then you're not ready to move on. Commitment to anything,

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Speaker 1: you know should be a totally conscious decision. It should

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Speaker 1: be well thought out and you know, if you haven't

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Speaker 1: done any of those things, then you're not ready. But UM,

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Speaker 1: you said you have searched. Also, I want to tell

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Speaker 1: you that, UM, you know, you talked a lot about

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Speaker 1: what he wants, what he wants, what he wants? You know,

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Speaker 1: what do you want? Do you know what you want?

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Speaker 1: Do you want him? You know he says he wants

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Speaker 1: only you. Now, Uh, you've got to decide if this

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Speaker 1: is right for you? Can you trust him? All those

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Speaker 1: things you gotta ask yourself before you get into a relationship.

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Speaker 1: And you know, let what happened uh be for happen

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Speaker 1: this time. So just do more, you know, UM, I

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Speaker 1: think uh inward searching. And then if you come out

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Speaker 1: n words, look inwards, got rid of a lot of

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Speaker 1: a sudden you're gonna go out and get another one? Did?

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Speaker 1: inside Yes. Oh, I thought you said do a lot

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Speaker 1: And you know you got to set new ground rules

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Speaker 1: if you do decide to get with him, because the

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Speaker 1: relationship is chant ames now a right. Part two of

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Speaker 1: your response to the letter Good Morning Team. I'm recently

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Speaker 1: divorced from my husband for about a year. I was

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Speaker 1: severely hurt during the process of my marriage. I took

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Speaker 1: a year off from dating to do a lot of

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Speaker 1: soul searching, and it comes to grips with the fact

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Speaker 1: that my failed marriage was my fault. Thanks to you, Steve.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how I got in this letter. The

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Speaker 1: advice you've been given to your listeners made me realize

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Speaker 1: it was my fault. Uh yeah, I really need to

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Speaker 1: be honest. I'm trying to find now to the question.

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Speaker 1: I've been dating the Gaff for about three months. Right

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Speaker 1: out the gate, we established the ground rules and relationship.

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Speaker 1: He said that he dates other women and wanted to

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Speaker 1: be totally honest with me about that. I told him

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Speaker 1: that I didn't have any expectations, and then I'm not

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Speaker 1: seeking or looking for a relationship. Okay, And now I

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Speaker 1: know you're waiting on the problem. Since the ground rules

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Speaker 1: was set up front, what's the problem. Here's the problem.

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Speaker 1: Now he wants more. He wants to cut out all

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Speaker 1: of the women in his life to see only me,

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Speaker 1: and he wants me to do the same. I'm totally

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Speaker 1: scared to commit myself to another man and to get

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Speaker 1: hurt in the end. Just give him a little just

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Speaker 1: give you a little background. On the surface. He's perfect,

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Speaker 1: treats me with ut most respecting care. No, I have

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Speaker 1: not broken off the cookie because I didn't want to

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Speaker 1: confuse matters considering the ground rules. Please help me. How

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Speaker 1: do you know when it's the right time to try

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Speaker 1: to love again? Well, really lated this letter right here,

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Speaker 1: and you have to write you don't even have a problem.

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Speaker 1: You don't even have a problem. Matter of fact, you

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Speaker 1: have a pretty good situation here. You've waited a year

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Speaker 1: from the divorce. That's plenty of time, more than adequate.

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Speaker 1: You're dating this guy for three months. You haven't broken

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Speaker 1: off in the cook any cookie. That's what you say, So, okay,

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Speaker 1: you haven't broken off in the cook any cookie. The

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Speaker 1: man told you up front that he wanted to be

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Speaker 1: honest with you. He dates other women, not a game

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Speaker 1: to change three months he wants to cut off all

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Speaker 1: other women and want you to do the same. Okay,

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Speaker 1: hold up, did I miss the just in there in

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Speaker 1: the ground rules that you say that you were gonna

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Speaker 1: be dating other people because you seem to be scared

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Speaker 1: you just dating one dude. Why I don't think you're

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Speaker 1: dating any other people. I think you're dating this one

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Speaker 1: dude and you're scared to date him. It's no way

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Speaker 1: you would add three or four people to your mix,

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Speaker 1: because you see, you're the scary type. So I can't

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Speaker 1: even imagine you're dating three four men because you ain't

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Speaker 1: breaking off no cooking. Hen what did you going out

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Speaker 1: to eat three four times a week for? Anyway? I

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Speaker 1: just don't see you as that type of lady. According

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Speaker 1: to this letter, you handled yourself and conducted yourself in

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Speaker 1: a perfect way. Now the guy says he wants more.

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Speaker 1: Let me help you with this statement. From a male standpoint,

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Speaker 1: here's a couple of reasons why A man says he

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Speaker 1: want more, well, because he does want more, probably from you.

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Speaker 1: So now what you have to decide and come to

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Speaker 1: the determination. Is he making this statement because you have

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Speaker 1: not broken off the cookie and he figures this is

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Speaker 1: what it's necessary to say in order to get to

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Speaker 1: the cookie, because we will do that. Now, we will

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Speaker 1: say whatever it is we think you need to hear

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Speaker 1: in order for us to get to the cookie. Now

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Speaker 1: is he saying it for that reason? Or is he

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Speaker 1: saying it because he's jealous that you're not available on

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Speaker 1: some of the dates and some other dude is dating

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Speaker 1: and he figured if he ain't getting the cookie, maybe

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Speaker 1: somebody else is getting the cookie. So now let me

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Speaker 1: step up. Well, ladies, let me help you to something

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Speaker 1: that is exactly how the game is played. You must

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Speaker 1: make a man think that you are worthy. You must

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Speaker 1: make him want to put aside all other women to

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Speaker 1: have you and only you. That's what all women really

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Speaker 1: won't know. It's easy to say in the beginning, I'm

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Speaker 1: not looking for any expectations. You're just trying to protect

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Speaker 1: yourself in cover in case something go wrong. Well, ain't

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Speaker 1: nothing went wrong. You just said to do this perfect.

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Speaker 1: Now you want to give up all other women and

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Speaker 1: just have you even though he ain't had you. Now,

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Speaker 1: all you got to do is figure out is that

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Speaker 1: is the having you sexual or is the having you spiritually?

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Speaker 1: Mentally and physically? He gonna he won't you physically? Please understand,

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Speaker 1: because in three months you've been kissing so hard, y'all

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Speaker 1: got hairline fractions on your You haven't actually rupted the

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Speaker 1: blood vessel in your bottle nipple something like that. You

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Speaker 1: his zipper, He's had to actually take his zipper home

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Speaker 1: and ice it. Please understand y'all being in that grinding

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Speaker 1: rolling on each other so hard you can't even believe

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Speaker 1: been like you two teenager in backseat the car down

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Speaker 1: at the river, or isn't propping off? Now, what I'm

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Speaker 1: just trying to tell you. For him to want to

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Speaker 1: give up all other women to just have her, all

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Speaker 1: you got to do is figure out simply does he

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Speaker 1: want you or he does he just want to have you?

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Speaker 1: And the way you huh wanted to figure that out? No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: no no. All the woman got to do is remain patient.

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Speaker 1: That's all a woman has to do is remain patient.

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Speaker 1: Keep going down the road you're going. I am telling

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Speaker 1: you when you meet the man that won't you, He

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Speaker 1: gonna won't you it and ain't nothing you can do

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Speaker 1: about it. You can't even stop him from wanting you.

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Speaker 1: You ain't got to beg him to call you, see

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Speaker 1: you nothing. He gonna be at you like a pack

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Speaker 1: of wolves on a reindeal. Please understand, that's how we are.

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Speaker 1: We are that way, like a pack of wolves on

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Speaker 1: a reindeer. Well, you gotta watch the Discovery Channel to

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Speaker 1: see the wolves chasing the Big Deal through the woods

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Speaker 1: and the helicopter feeling it that deal be running. He

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Speaker 1: throw herself off a cliff if he got to. Oh yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's better than being eaten by a pack of wolves.

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Speaker 1: Come on, fly, fly, let's go. Rudolph did it all right?

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Speaker 1: Let's get out of here, guys, Email or Instagram. That's

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Speaker 1: your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter. Please do it at

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Speaker 1: girl Shirley