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Speaker 1: This is the EDS with Eddie Judge and Edwin Aroyavi,

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Speaker 1: the husband's know best toucheese production.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to the Ed's podcast.

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Speaker 1: My name is Eddie Judge with my co host ed

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Speaker 1: How did we get roped into this?

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Speaker 2: Bro? I'm still trying to figure this out too, but hey,

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Speaker 2: here we are again. I'm excited to be here. Awesome.

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Speaker 1: Well for the new listeners that didn't get a chance

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Speaker 1: to listen to our first podcast, our goal with this

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Speaker 1: podcast is to provide you with some insight on the

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Speaker 1: male perspective of being married to these amazing, lovely, crazy

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Speaker 1: housewives of ours, but not just that. Also to talk

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Speaker 1: about relationship, marriage, fatherhood and stepfatherhood, men's health, business, and

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Speaker 1: much much more whatever whatever comes up today. However, we

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Speaker 1: have a lot of questions from our last podcast.

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Speaker 2: Can you believe that? Edwin? Yeah, we have a lot

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Speaker 2: of questions today, So I'm excited to go over. I

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Speaker 2: think we're gonna need like six hours for this one.

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Speaker 2: I know, by the way, the Tamra I ever listened

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Speaker 2: to the podcast, I don't think so.

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Speaker 1: She has been going one thousand miles an hour between

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Speaker 1: filming and the sixth podcasts that she and Teddy have

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Speaker 1: been doing. So I've asked her like six times and

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Speaker 1: I've finally given up.

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Speaker 2: But did Teddy listen to it? She did? She said

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Speaker 2: it was pretty good, so you know, of course, the

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Speaker 2: first thing I said right after that was hey, how many?

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Speaker 2: How many downloads? You know? And then she's like, dude,

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Speaker 2: you're not going to compete, right, which is funny hearing

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Speaker 2: them talk about that as well. But I'm just competitive

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Speaker 2: in that way. I don't know, are you competitive? I

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Speaker 2: just like to compete. I like to make things fun

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Speaker 2: I do, and I like to make them in a

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Speaker 1: But the funny thing is that I didn't get into

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Speaker 1: the competition mode until I saw your post, and that

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Speaker 1: led me to think about that. Their very first podcast,

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Speaker 1: and I think the very first podcast they did, they

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Speaker 1: got like fifty thousand downloads, right, so we beat them.

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Speaker 1: I think we beat them.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh wow, that's I think that's a big deal.

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Speaker 2: That's a big deal.

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I'm coming granted, we are piggybacking out.

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Speaker 1: Them now, so yeah, yeah, they did all the hard

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Speaker 1: work things, so you know it, we're taking it easy.

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Speaker 1: Anyways, So, like I said, I think we're going to

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Speaker 1: because you and I have so much to talk about.

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Speaker 1: But let's you know, I'm going to do my best

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Speaker 1: to condense it and give shorter answers, but I want

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Speaker 2: I think we can just do it. Yeah, I think

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Speaker 2: we could do that.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So first question is what is your family like

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Speaker 1: with two strong women as wives?

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Speaker 2: You want to lead the charge? Yeah, take a shot

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Speaker 2: at that one. You know, it's funny because Teddy and

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Speaker 2: I are both very strong minded, and what we've had

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Speaker 2: But you know, we we came to that communication, which

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Speaker 2: I think was was key.

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Speaker 1: That's one thing I've learned all my life that communication

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Speaker 1: is key for any aspect of your life friendships, business,

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Speaker 2: Mean there's something to be said about you know, strong

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Speaker 2: I think in life we as much as we probably

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Speaker 2: you know, because otherwise you'll just walk right over them. Right, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And again, it goes for everything in life. One thing

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Speaker 2: So speaking of that, what's your advice on a successful marriage?

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Speaker 1: Well, I always say that it's not the good times

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Speaker 2: But we haven't been tested that way. You know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I love that answer, because again, anyone can do

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Speaker 2: But really it's you know, your character will be revealed

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Speaker 2: What person do you become? And I think it's a great,

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Speaker 2: great point. I think my advice on a successful marriage is,

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Speaker 2: also letting your partner know that you As simple as

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Speaker 2: by actions. And I think it's a constant. You know,

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Speaker 1: How did you become the husbands you both are now?

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Speaker 2: Beta store and a VHS you know, like not a Blockbuster,

434
00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:07,960
Speaker 2: but back then they had like a bunch of video

435
00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:11,399
Speaker 2: stores all over the place, right, So as a kid,

436
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:15,360
Speaker 2: this is a funny story. As a kid, I used

437
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:18,040
Speaker 2: to watch these Radar movies all day long because no

438
00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:21,000
Speaker 2: one was basically seen. I didn't even know who Radar was, right.

439
00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:23,119
Speaker 2: So one of my favorite movies growing up as a

440
00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:28,679
Speaker 2: kid was called Tough Turf and Kyle Richard's sister was

441
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:32,119
Speaker 2: the main star of that, and she actually was my

442
00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:34,480
Speaker 2: first crush in many ways because it was the first

443
00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:37,119
Speaker 2: time I saw like a blonde and I was like,

444
00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:40,399
Speaker 2: this girl's hop and god knows how many times I

445
00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:43,800
Speaker 2: watched that movie. So it was kind of come full

446
00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:47,080
Speaker 2: circle moment. You know, I'm filming and I'm filming with O.

447
00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:50,040
Speaker 2: Why am I blanking on Kyle's sister's name. I remember

448
00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:56,040
Speaker 2: any there but Jim Jim Yes, And I'm like, oh shit,

449
00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:59,200
Speaker 2: here's Kim Richards. I used to watch you every day

450
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:02,720
Speaker 2: when I was eight years old. Tough honey. But anyway,

451
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 2: some movies were very influential to me, and I mean

452
00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:07,720
Speaker 2: that's what made me want to go to Beverly Hills.

453
00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:10,840
Speaker 2: I watched these movies and I was like, Man, this

454
00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:13,440
Speaker 2: isn't the way they look hunting them park, This isn't

455
00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:14,879
Speaker 2: the way it looks like in the movies. I need

456
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:16,760
Speaker 2: to go to the places where you know, these movies

457
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:19,879
Speaker 2: are being filmed and stuff that's hilarious.

458
00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:25,879
Speaker 1: I find this question to be a really good question. Personally,

459
00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:28,440
Speaker 1: I didn't have a father growing up as a young kid.

460
00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:33,920
Speaker 1: My role models were my grandmother and my aunt and

461
00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 1: some uncles. I think I had many role models throughout

462
00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 1: my life that helped me understand how a woman needs

463
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:43,960
Speaker 1: to be treated. You know. I don't know if it's

464
00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:47,240
Speaker 1: just my culture, but certain things that I picked up

465
00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 1: along the way, like when you're walking down the sidewalk

466
00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:53,200
Speaker 1: your woman walks on the inside of the curve or

467
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:58,200
Speaker 1: away from the street, obviously holding opening the door for her,

468
00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:00,600
Speaker 1: whether it's the car or going into the house or

469
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:05,920
Speaker 1: the restaurant, and just treating her with respect and love

470
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:12,280
Speaker 1: and admiration. Especially the relationships where you know that I

471
00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:15,200
Speaker 1: observe where both partners really adore each other.

472
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 2: That was very attractive to me.

473
00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:20,800
Speaker 1: And I admired Dad, And I always imagine myself being

474
00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:24,160
Speaker 1: the man that just puts his girl on a pedestal

475
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:28,359
Speaker 1: and loves her and treats her to as many things

476
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:32,080
Speaker 1: that can bring happiness to her. So I don't know

477
00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:34,439
Speaker 1: that I had one specific role model, But like you,

478
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:38,960
Speaker 1: I learned a lot from movies and sitcoms and TV shows.

479
00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:43,439
Speaker 1: There's so much to learn from those those TV shows

480
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 1: in our era, right And I say that because nowadays,

481
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:49,720
Speaker 1: I don't see any shows like that. I don't see

482
00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:54,720
Speaker 1: anything where the man really respects her, adores his wife everything,

483
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:58,920
Speaker 1: shoot him up, kill him. You know, it's different nowadays.

484
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:02,760
Speaker 1: I don't find movie like that, you know. So a question,

485
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:05,119
Speaker 1: does it ever bother you that your wife is on

486
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:09,200
Speaker 1: a reality TV show and she's a reality TV star

487
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:13,760
Speaker 1: and that your relationship is pretty much out there in public?

488
00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:18,520
Speaker 2: No, not at all. I think, you know. I think

489
00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:24,080
Speaker 2: the relationship that you know, we I guess because I

490
00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:29,639
Speaker 2: know so like, she's got very close friends, and I

491
00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:31,479
Speaker 2: know how much her friends love her. I know how

492
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:34,200
Speaker 2: much her family loves her. Pretty much, everyone I bring

493
00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:37,479
Speaker 2: around Teddy ends up falling in love with her. So

494
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:42,439
Speaker 2: because of that, I don't really care what people that

495
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:46,560
Speaker 2: don't know her say. I guess that helps me with that.

496
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:50,000
Speaker 2: As far as her being on TV, and you know,

497
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:54,400
Speaker 2: I always say that it's it's sort of perfect because

498
00:26:54,480 --> 00:27:00,280
Speaker 2: you you sort of get all the books of being

499
00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 2: on TV, but you don't have to deal with all

500
00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:05,680
Speaker 2: the crap that like an A lister has got to

501
00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 2: deal with, right, Like Teddy can go out and she'll

502
00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:12,879
Speaker 2: get recognized, but it'll be like by one to maybe

503
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:15,880
Speaker 2: three people, and you could still go on with your day.

504
00:27:16,480 --> 00:27:20,760
Speaker 2: It's not like you got freaking thirty fifty people coming

505
00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 2: at you screaming at you, where it's like you don't

506
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 2: have a life. You can't even leave your house, Like

507
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:30,119
Speaker 2: that would be tough, right, Yeah, So I think I

508
00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:32,679
Speaker 2: don't have what is for Tamra, But like for us,

509
00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:37,040
Speaker 2: it's kind of like the best. You have the perks

510
00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:39,960
Speaker 2: of being able to get to wherever you want to

511
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 2: get into, but you don't have to deal with the

512
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:47,080
Speaker 2: drama of being an A lister or you know, somebody

513
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 2: that's just super beyond famous. You know.

514
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, for me, in the beginning, it bothered me a

515
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 1: little bit because I grew up as a very private person.

516
00:27:56,359 --> 00:28:00,680
Speaker 1: My family is very private. We didn't really talk a

517
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:03,840
Speaker 1: lot about ourselves and where we came from. So you

518
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:07,320
Speaker 1: could only imagine, you know, if this was I don't know,

519
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:10,520
Speaker 1: thirty years ago and we're doing this podcast and you're

520
00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:13,159
Speaker 1: asking me about myself, I'd be like, oh, I had

521
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:13,879
Speaker 1: a great life.

522
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 2: You know, I wouldn't be.

523
00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:17,440
Speaker 1: Telling you that I crossed the border and I lived

524
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:20,679
Speaker 1: in a garage and you know, shit that happened to me.

525
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:25,159
Speaker 1: But in the beginning it was hard because I am

526
00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:29,640
Speaker 1: a private guy. At some point though, in my relationship

527
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:32,120
Speaker 1: with Tamra, I had to come to terms and I

528
00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 1: have to be a public bigger or a public person

529
00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:36,280
Speaker 1: by association.

530
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:39,400
Speaker 2: It's not that I earned it. You know.

531
00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 1: I'm not the star of or even a real cast

532
00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 1: member of this TV reality show. I always say, you know,

533
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:49,680
Speaker 1: when I run into people and public and they're like,

534
00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 1: oh my god, I love you, I love you, I'm like,

535
00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:54,920
Speaker 1: you know, I'm really not a star.

536
00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:57,920
Speaker 2: I'm just an extra. I'm just an extra on the show.

537
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:01,520
Speaker 1: You know. In fact, sometimes I'm just a seat filler.

538
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 1: My wife's the star of this family, you know. Yeah,

539
00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:09,720
Speaker 1: she's she's the best part of this this TV reality,

540
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 1: and she takes it so well. I Mean there's been

541
00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:17,200
Speaker 1: many times where, and this is just one example, where

542
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:20,640
Speaker 1: I would be going to the bathroom and she'd be

543
00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:23,440
Speaker 1: talking about, oh, let's film this. I'm like, no, no,

544
00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 1: you know some things are freaking sacred. You are not

545
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 1: going to film me going to the bathroom.

546
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I mean it's it's I think what makes

547
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 2: Tamer and Teddy's so special and a lot of obviously

548
00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 2: the housewives in general, is that, I mean it's effortless

549
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:41,560
Speaker 2: for them. They're so good at what they do. Like

550
00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:44,000
Speaker 2: like I have to prepare for stuff. Teddy can just

551
00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 2: wing it. She can just show up and start to Yeah.

552
00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:50,240
Speaker 2: I mean that's what makes them great. Like I've always

553
00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:52,960
Speaker 2: given the girls on the show so much credit because

554
00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 2: they have to be so witty, Like if you're not

555
00:29:55,520 --> 00:30:00,120
Speaker 2: quick on that show, you're gonna get crushed. Yeah. And me,

556
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 2: I'm like on a thirty second delay. That's why I

557
00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 2: just rather stay breaking quiet, Yeah, because I'm just not

558
00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:08,280
Speaker 2: saying that's going to come out of my mouth. Yeah,

559
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:10,680
Speaker 2: I won't be fast enough to even you know, by

560
00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:12,920
Speaker 2: the time I say my next phrase, I'm gonna get

561
00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 2: punched like five times or five times by the way,

562
00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:17,560
Speaker 2: So I'm just like, oh, let me just stay quiet,

563
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 2: let me eat my salad, Bundy.

564
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:30,120
Speaker 1: So how do you keep outside opinions from affecting your relationship?

565
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:32,920
Speaker 1: This is the next question, you know, the opinions that

566
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:36,680
Speaker 1: you see on social media, comments, blogs, and gossip articles,

567
00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:39,120
Speaker 1: because I'm sure your wife gets it. My wife gets

568
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 1: it a lot, and there's just people out there that

569
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:45,320
Speaker 1: I think it's twofold, right. One part of it is

570
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 1: because our wives are so popular and they're being so

571
00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 1: successful in this world of pop culture and reality TV,

572
00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:57,480
Speaker 1: they're going to be talked about, whether it's positive or negative.

573
00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:02,200
Speaker 1: And the other part is a lot of people they

574
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 1: just want to associate themselves with people that are on

575
00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:08,160
Speaker 1: top of the world, right, so they can do that

576
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 1: negatively or positively, and by way of posting a compliment

577
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:17,680
Speaker 1: on social media and getting a thank you or a heart,

578
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:19,880
Speaker 1: you know, thank you so much for the message, or

579
00:31:20,480 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 1: posting something so negative that it hurts their feelings, and

580
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:29,920
Speaker 1: it's like, why are you even following them? Why are

581
00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:33,840
Speaker 1: you even on this platform? If you don't like my wife,

582
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 1: if you don't like the women. I don't get it.

583
00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:38,360
Speaker 1: You know, what do you think?

584
00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:42,920
Speaker 2: No, same thing? I mean sometimes I at first I

585
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:44,720
Speaker 2: don't do it anymore, but I mean once in a

586
00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 2: while it comes at my face. I'll see it is I.

587
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:51,320
Speaker 2: I used to see the comments, and I would talk

588
00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:53,600
Speaker 2: about having discipline, like I had to have so much

589
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:56,680
Speaker 2: discipline not to get involved because I knew it would

590
00:31:56,680 --> 00:32:00,400
Speaker 2: just add more fuel to the fire. Is just going

591
00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:04,959
Speaker 2: to make them, you know, have more power. Right, So

592
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:06,960
Speaker 2: you know, the only way the way you can take

593
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 2: hour away from somebody is just show them that it

594
00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:13,880
Speaker 2: doesn't bother you, right, yea. So, but there's many times

595
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:15,520
Speaker 2: I wanted to comment, but I was like, nope, I

596
00:32:15,560 --> 00:32:17,600
Speaker 2: can't comment, because then then they're going to get what

597
00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:20,960
Speaker 2: they want, right. But yeah, it's it's definitely hurtful sometimes

598
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 2: to see those comments. But like I said earlier, as

599
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 2: long as you know that the truth and you know

600
00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:29,280
Speaker 2: their character and you know who they are, then it's

601
00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:33,880
Speaker 2: I would say, it's less painful. But sometimes it does

602
00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:35,680
Speaker 2: piss you off because you know they're not like that,

603
00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 2: and you're just like, man, are you that sad about

604
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:40,120
Speaker 2: your life that you just got to go on here

605
00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 2: and make a comment, But now I realize it's just

606
00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:44,800
Speaker 2: part of business, right, part of the business.

607
00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:52,240
Speaker 1: Has it ever affected your relationship with Teddy comments?

608
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 2: No, not at all, I think, if anything. You know,

609
00:32:56,880 --> 00:33:00,560
Speaker 2: obviously there's times where at the beginning the comments were

610
00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 2: her full tour, so it didn't affect our marriage. I mean,

611
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 2: I guess you could say affect her and I could

612
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:08,160
Speaker 2: see her sad about it, but I would you know,

613
00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:10,160
Speaker 2: that's when you got to be there for support and

614
00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:13,480
Speaker 2: stuff like that. I mean that. I mean again, I

615
00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 2: give these girls a lot of credit because part of

616
00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:18,239
Speaker 2: doing that job is they got to deal with a

617
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 2: lot of hate. You know, It's just it's what they

618
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:23,080
Speaker 2: signed up for. But it is part of the game.

619
00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:24,840
Speaker 2: I guess I don't buy you.

620
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 1: No, I don't think it had affected us necessarily, but

621
00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:32,120
Speaker 1: I do remember one of the artist things, or one

622
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 1: of the labor and test some things I should say

623
00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:38,480
Speaker 1: in the beginning was trying to guide her away from

624
00:33:38,520 --> 00:33:41,600
Speaker 1: the negative comments, because she would do something and post

625
00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:46,200
Speaker 1: something on social media, and half of the posts where oh,

626
00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 1: you're amazing and I love it, You're my favorite, good job,

627
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 1: and the other half were just nasty. And I would

628
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 1: notice because I was reading it, I would notice that

629
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:59,400
Speaker 1: she would respond to all the negatives and not say

630
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 1: anything to the positives. And I said, bab, you got

631
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:04,560
Speaker 1: to you got to balance it out, or for that matter,

632
00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:07,520
Speaker 1: stop responding to the negatives, because you're just giving them life.

633
00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:11,399
Speaker 1: You've given them exactly what they want. And it took

634
00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:13,719
Speaker 1: a couple of years for her to figure it out,

635
00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:17,280
Speaker 1: but she got to a point where, I mean, now,

636
00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 1: it only took almost nine years. But now we have

637
00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:24,440
Speaker 1: a person that helps us with the social media, and

638
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:27,680
Speaker 1: it's a very mature person that understands the ins and

639
00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:32,080
Speaker 1: outs of social media. So when something negative is posted,

640
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:35,359
Speaker 1: ultimately it doesn't affect him. I mean, it kind of does,

641
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:38,320
Speaker 1: because he likes us. He really cares about our best interests.

642
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:41,680
Speaker 1: But he knows that responding to that garbage is a

643
00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:42,360
Speaker 1: waste of time.

644
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:45,239
Speaker 2: It's just it's not what I love. The point you

645
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:48,040
Speaker 2: just made it just reminded me. You know, our first question,

646
00:34:48,080 --> 00:34:51,560
Speaker 2: what's what's advice on a successful marriage? And I think

647
00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:55,239
Speaker 2: so much of that is, you know, sometimes you tend

648
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:58,480
Speaker 2: to focus on what's the one thing that's bothering you

649
00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:02,279
Speaker 2: and not focus on the nine great things. Right, So

650
00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:03,920
Speaker 2: she could be a nine out of ten, and you

651
00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:06,640
Speaker 2: focus on the one thing that's bothering you instead of

652
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:09,640
Speaker 2: focusing on the nine things that she's great at. Right, So,

653
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:12,960
Speaker 2: again to your point, that's took us on the positive

654
00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:16,720
Speaker 2: and not pay too much attention to the negative, especially

655
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 2: when the positive is outweighing the negative by a landslide,

656
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:20,440
Speaker 2: you know.

657
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:23,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have one more thing to say about this

658
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:29,000
Speaker 1: social media thing, and it's it's full disclosure, because there's

659
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 1: been probably a handful of instances where I see a

660
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:40,080
Speaker 1: negative post on my social media and it gets to me.

661
00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:42,520
Speaker 1: It just happens to be a bad day and I'm

662
00:35:42,600 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 1: hungry and I'm tired, and I'm just like not in

663
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 1: the mood, and I will respond, and I try to

664
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:51,640
Speaker 1: be as articulate as possible. I don't sink down to

665
00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 1: their level. So I think I've responded to maybe two

666
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:59,279
Speaker 1: or three in my entire experience with social media, and

667
00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:04,799
Speaker 1: the best experience, in my opinion, has been responding to

668
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 1: one of these negative posts. And I have like a

669
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:10,960
Speaker 1: ten paragraph, like one hundred word response and then I

670
00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:12,960
Speaker 1: just deleted it because I know it's not going to

671
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:14,799
Speaker 1: go anywhere, but I feel good about it.

672
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:19,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, So Eddie talked to us about, you know,

673
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:21,880
Speaker 2: when you guys got engaged and married in front of

674
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 2: the cameras, whose idea was that? And did you ever

675
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:28,000
Speaker 2: think to keep that private? Because obviously you just said

676
00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:30,799
Speaker 2: you like to be private, but you know, there you go,

677
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:33,000
Speaker 2: having the marriage and in front of everybody.

678
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:35,720
Speaker 1: Well, whose idea was that? This is a great question.

679
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:39,600
Speaker 1: This is actually where we ended our show, our first podcast.

680
00:36:40,640 --> 00:36:43,839
Speaker 1: And this is definitely a long, lone story, but I'm

681
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 1: going to try to do my best to condense it

682
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:49,800
Speaker 1: because there's so much that happened. After about two years

683
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 1: into our relationship, we started talking marriage. I never thought

684
00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 1: about marriage, mostly because, like you explained it in our

685
00:36:57,200 --> 00:36:59,359
Speaker 1: first podcast, like I don't want to get married, maybe

686
00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:03,440
Speaker 1: she can just have my kid exactly. I was afraid

687
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:07,719
Speaker 1: to get married. However, I really loved her at the time.

688
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:11,440
Speaker 1: I still love her obviously today, but I just couldn't

689
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:15,239
Speaker 1: imagine my life without her. So in consideration to the

690
00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:18,279
Speaker 1: fact that she's been married, has four kids, and we

691
00:37:18,360 --> 00:37:20,840
Speaker 1: both you know, don't really see a value and spending

692
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 1: a ton of money on a wedding, we decided to

693
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:26,240
Speaker 1: do a small wedding, just a nice little beach wedding,

694
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:30,400
Speaker 1: you know, barefoot, closest family and friends invited and nothing,

695
00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 1: not a big deal, right. So that's that's the kind

696
00:37:33,640 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 1: of wedding we agreed to, and we were about to

697
00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 1: start organizing it and doing it, and then we started

698
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:42,960
Speaker 1: filming that season. It just happened to start filming, and

699
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:46,960
Speaker 1: then of course she brought it up to the production

700
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:48,680
Speaker 1: We're going to do this, you know, because every year

701
00:37:48,719 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 1: they asked what's going on in your life? And of

702
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:54,279
Speaker 1: course they love the idea, And unbeknownst to me, I

703
00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:56,359
Speaker 1: was approached by the head of production. I mean, I'm

704
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 1: talking to heads like the people that never come out

705
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:01,880
Speaker 1: of their office. Yeah, so I knew it was serious.

706
00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:04,480
Speaker 1: And they approached me about doing a wedding special. And

707
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 1: I initially said no. I just said no, I have

708
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:10,279
Speaker 1: to have something private in my life, you know, because

709
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:12,960
Speaker 1: everything else I do with with our life is public.

710
00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:20,279
Speaker 1: And and somehow, someway, we ended up agreeing to a

711
00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:24,279
Speaker 1: wedding special. I think part of it was that I

712
00:38:24,320 --> 00:38:26,440
Speaker 1: was actually going to get paid for this show this time.

713
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 2: Not a lot of money, but you know, anything is good.

714
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:34,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, and we agreed, and you know, one of my

715
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 1: favorite parts was my idea to present my bride with

716
00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:44,240
Speaker 1: an engagement ring in a shell that we discovered together

717
00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 1: while diving. And that was the idea. You know, I

718
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:48,400
Speaker 1: didn't know where it was going to happen, but that's

719
00:38:48,840 --> 00:38:52,759
Speaker 1: I wanted to come up with some interesting way of

720
00:38:54,520 --> 00:38:56,120
Speaker 1: asking her to marry me. I didn't want to just

721
00:38:56,120 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 1: get down on one knee and say, oh, that was

722
00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:04,280
Speaker 1: just so overplayed. That was my vision, but I didn't

723
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:06,360
Speaker 1: know exactly where it was going to happen. And it

724
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 1: wasn't until I asked, you know, I was asked, you know, okay,

725
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:12,279
Speaker 1: you got to you know, let's do this. What do

726
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:14,960
Speaker 1: you want to do? And it was then that I

727
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 1: figured out how I wanted to do it. I wanted

728
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:20,800
Speaker 1: to do it in Bora Bora, and I wanted to

729
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:23,799
Speaker 1: go to Bora Boras and die for shells and come

730
00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:26,120
Speaker 1: up and you know, exactly like it happened in our

731
00:39:26,160 --> 00:39:28,880
Speaker 1: wedding special. And I opened up the show and there's

732
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:33,040
Speaker 1: a beautiful ring inside, and production, you know, figured it out.

733
00:39:33,120 --> 00:39:37,040
Speaker 1: They figured out how to make it happen. And the

734
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:39,759
Speaker 1: funny thing is that I really only knew if Bora

735
00:39:39,840 --> 00:39:44,040
Speaker 1: Bora from the movie I think it was Jim Carrey's No. No,

736
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:48,800
Speaker 1: it was the movie couple's retreat, remember that, just say that.

737
00:39:49,280 --> 00:39:51,279
Speaker 1: I thought that is a beautiful place. That's where I

738
00:39:51,280 --> 00:39:53,760
Speaker 1: want to go ask her to marry me. And production

739
00:39:53,840 --> 00:39:56,960
Speaker 1: made it happen. It was the most incredible experience the

740
00:39:57,040 --> 00:39:59,839
Speaker 1: four seasons on the water. We stayed in a hut.

741
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 1: I jumped in the water naked every day. I think

742
00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:06,800
Speaker 1: we spent three days filming, had a nice romantic dinner

743
00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:10,839
Speaker 1: with the fire hard to shape fire surrounding us and

744
00:40:11,640 --> 00:40:14,960
Speaker 1: fire dancers, and on the beach just her and I.

745
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:16,400
Speaker 2: I mean, it doesn't get more.

746
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:19,319
Speaker 1: Romantic than that, right, I don't know how I could

747
00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:23,720
Speaker 1: have put something together like that myself. And the funny

748
00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:25,879
Speaker 1: thing is that she actually thought that was the time

749
00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:29,439
Speaker 1: I was going to ask her to marry me, but nope,

750
00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:30,200
Speaker 1: it didn't happen.

751
00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:34,279
Speaker 2: But you know, I think it's pretty cool though, that

752
00:40:34,920 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 2: you're always going to have that on video, right, Like, yes,

753
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:43,400
Speaker 2: that moment is captured and you guys be seventy eight

754
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:45,560
Speaker 2: years old and you could look at that again. And

755
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:48,560
Speaker 2: I think that's that's one of the brooks of coming

756
00:40:48,600 --> 00:40:51,760
Speaker 2: out on the show, Like for me with my kids,

757
00:40:52,320 --> 00:40:53,759
Speaker 2: like I'm able to I'm going to be able to

758
00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:55,960
Speaker 2: go back and see them at three years old and

759
00:40:56,040 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 2: two years old and running around, and that was kind

760
00:40:59,160 --> 00:41:00,760
Speaker 2: of cool. I mean, I wish they would have showed

761
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 2: more of all the filming that we did with the kids,

762
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:06,920
Speaker 2: because we filmed a ton with the kids, but you know,

763
00:41:07,080 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 2: ninety eight nine percent of it they don't show. I

764
00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:12,720
Speaker 2: wish they would have showed more. But it was still

765
00:41:12,800 --> 00:41:14,800
Speaker 2: nice to be able to go back I mean the

766
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:16,919
Speaker 2: way I look at it now, twenty thirty years from now,

767
00:41:17,320 --> 00:41:19,120
Speaker 2: be able to go back and just kind of relive

768
00:41:19,160 --> 00:41:22,400
Speaker 2: those moments, whether not just in your memory, like in

769
00:41:22,440 --> 00:41:25,799
Speaker 2: your mind, you could actually watch them. And what a

770
00:41:25,920 --> 00:41:29,560
Speaker 2: cool experience that now you can go back to and

771
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:33,560
Speaker 2: watch as many times as you want, you know.

772
00:41:32,480 --> 00:41:36,880
Speaker 1: Speaking of that, our kids, they filmed a lot before

773
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:38,640
Speaker 1: I was on the show because their dad was on

774
00:41:38,680 --> 00:41:42,080
Speaker 1: the show, and when they divorced, the dad wouldn't sign off,

775
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:44,360
Speaker 1: so the kids never got a chance to film and

776
00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 1: continue that journey. And I am looking forward to the

777
00:41:48,280 --> 00:41:50,439
Speaker 1: day where because the kids see it as a very

778
00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 1: negative experience because of what their dad did to them psychologically,

779
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:57,360
Speaker 1: they just don't want anything to do with it. But

780
00:41:57,440 --> 00:41:58,839
Speaker 1: I know there's going to be a day when they

781
00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:00,920
Speaker 1: grow up and they look back and they're going to

782
00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:02,840
Speaker 1: see themselves on TV and they're going to go, oh

783
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:05,640
Speaker 1: my god, that's me. That's how little I was, and

784
00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:10,399
Speaker 1: oh my god, that's what I look like. I wish

785
00:42:10,480 --> 00:42:11,840
Speaker 1: I had that kind of experience.

786
00:42:11,960 --> 00:42:15,200
Speaker 2: Right by the way, are you comfortable or uncomfortable in

787
00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:15,840
Speaker 2: the cameras?

788
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:19,799
Speaker 1: You know it's been over ten years now. I'm very

789
00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:22,640
Speaker 1: comfortable at this point, but like we talked in our

790
00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:27,439
Speaker 1: first episode, I was nerve wracking when there's a big

791
00:42:27,520 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 1: lens looking at you. It's just not very comfortable at all.

792
00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 1: So now you know, you can put a camera in

793
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:34,359
Speaker 1: front of us. We can be eating dinner, we can

794
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:37,040
Speaker 1: be walking, we can be driving. I have a pretty

795
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:41,240
Speaker 1: comfortable disposition about, you know, being on camera.

796
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:46,960
Speaker 2: Now cool. What about you? I still can't get used

797
00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:49,440
Speaker 2: to it. I mean it's I've gotten better at it,

798
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:52,239
Speaker 2: but I'm very camera shy. You know. A lot of

799
00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:55,840
Speaker 2: that is again I'm shy, timid. You know, when I

800
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:57,680
Speaker 2: was a little kid, fifteen years old, I would always

801
00:42:57,719 --> 00:42:59,880
Speaker 2: get you know, nervous. I think I said that on

802
00:42:59,920 --> 00:43:01,960
Speaker 2: the first podcast but I would start sweating that I

803
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:04,959
Speaker 2: talk about that. Yeah, And you know, now I believe

804
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 2: it or not. It happens to me less, but it

805
00:43:08,120 --> 00:43:11,360
Speaker 2: still happens to me. Like if I get nervous, I

806
00:43:11,400 --> 00:43:14,840
Speaker 2: didn't start sweating bad, Like I just start getting hot

807
00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:17,960
Speaker 2: and I feel red and then just start getting sweaty.

808
00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:20,880
Speaker 2: It actually happened to me during a red carpet event.

809
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:23,520
Speaker 2: Oh I forgot what I mean. This was I think

810
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:27,000
Speaker 2: year two, and you know, usually they don't ask me

811
00:43:27,000 --> 00:43:29,239
Speaker 2: any questions. I'm just kind of there holding Teddy's hand

812
00:43:29,280 --> 00:43:32,719
Speaker 2: and they're asking her questions, and someone just asked me

813
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:35,640
Speaker 2: a question out of left field, and I started stumbling

814
00:43:35,680 --> 00:43:39,359
Speaker 2: my words, and I started to get really nervous, and

815
00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:42,799
Speaker 2: I just felt myself getting hot and I was and

816
00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 2: then you know, when you're on the red carpet, there's

817
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,640
Speaker 2: like lights everywhere, and those lights get hot, especially if

818
00:43:47,680 --> 00:43:51,880
Speaker 2: you started getting nervous, Day're really really hot. And man,

819
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:55,440
Speaker 2: I knew the sweat was coming. So I made this

820
00:43:55,560 --> 00:43:58,839
Speaker 2: excuse of having to go to the restroom. And as

821
00:43:58,880 --> 00:44:01,640
Speaker 2: I'm speaking and I'm like, hey, I just I gotta

822
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:04,160
Speaker 2: go use the restaurant. I'm so sorry, and I ran

823
00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 2: out of that damn red carpet. I went around the

824
00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 2: corner and I just sat down there for five minutes,

825
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:13,920
Speaker 2: just sweating my ass off, And thank God that I

826
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:16,040
Speaker 2: left when I did, because if I wanted a left

827
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:18,000
Speaker 2: right at that moment, I would have been in the

828
00:44:18,040 --> 00:44:23,319
Speaker 2: red carpet, just drenched and sweat. So cameras sometimes do

829
00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:28,400
Speaker 2: scare me. So anyway, that's that's my story along those lines.

830
00:44:29,640 --> 00:44:32,600
Speaker 1: Part of the question is you know how comfortable or

831
00:44:32,719 --> 00:44:35,319
Speaker 1: uncomfortable are you in front of the camera, But are

832
00:44:35,360 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 1: there boundaries now that you said when it comes to filming,

833
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 1: is there something you're not willing to.

834
00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:47,640
Speaker 2: Do on cameras? So for me, like I I didn't

835
00:44:47,719 --> 00:44:51,839
Speaker 2: want to get into a fight on the show, right,

836
00:44:51,880 --> 00:44:54,080
Speaker 2: So I mean that was like, for instance, one time

837
00:44:54,160 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 2: where I knew there was a fight gonna happen with

838
00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:00,080
Speaker 2: one of the husbands, was going to get into it

839
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:03,040
Speaker 2: with my wife. I could just tell already it was

840
00:45:03,080 --> 00:45:07,200
Speaker 2: going to happen, and I saw my kids playing on

841
00:45:07,280 --> 00:45:09,680
Speaker 2: the other side, and I made the excuse of like

842
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 2: going to go play with the kids, right, because it

843
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:15,840
Speaker 2: just probably wouldn't have been a good moment if I

844
00:45:15,840 --> 00:45:18,920
Speaker 2: would have gotten involved and it's just like, hey, I

845
00:45:18,920 --> 00:45:21,120
Speaker 2: don't That's one thing I'm not willing to do is

846
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 2: get on a bite on TV or just say some

847
00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:28,359
Speaker 2: stuff that I'm going to feel bad about and definitely

848
00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:32,359
Speaker 2: never get into it with the women. There's obviously there's

849
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 2: the one episode where I was acting like I was

850
00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:39,600
Speaker 2: eating the salad when I think I forget the lady's name,

851
00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:45,600
Speaker 2: but she made Teddy cry and Sudden and Teddy starts

852
00:45:46,360 --> 00:45:49,640
Speaker 2: just crying and I'm eating my salad, and I'm like,

853
00:45:49,960 --> 00:45:52,280
Speaker 2: what am I supposed to do? If if I get involved,

854
00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:55,400
Speaker 2: I'm probably going to say something bad to Sudden and

855
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:58,240
Speaker 2: I'm going to look like a like a dick.

856
00:45:58,440 --> 00:45:58,640
Speaker 1: Right.

857
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:02,760
Speaker 2: If I don't get involved, I'm gonna look like the Woos,

858
00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:05,320
Speaker 2: because why aren't you helping your wife? Like all these

859
00:46:05,480 --> 00:46:07,719
Speaker 2: thoughts are coming in my head, like what do I do?

860
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:08,720
Speaker 2: Like just quick?

861
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:09,000
Speaker 1: Right?

862
00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:11,759
Speaker 2: Yeah? And then of course they settled on. I'm gonna

863
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:14,319
Speaker 2: act like I'm not hearing what's going on, and I'm

864
00:46:14,320 --> 00:46:19,040
Speaker 2: just gonna continue myself of a fly on the wall exactly,

865
00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:22,320
Speaker 2: even though like it's pretty obvious that my wife is crying.

866
00:46:22,360 --> 00:46:24,000
Speaker 2: I'm trying to like act like I don't want to

867
00:46:24,040 --> 00:46:28,640
Speaker 2: hear that she's crying. So but yeah, that's there's no

868
00:46:28,680 --> 00:46:30,239
Speaker 2: way I'm gonna fight with one of these ladies. First

869
00:46:30,239 --> 00:46:32,000
Speaker 2: of all, they would crush me with how witty they are.

870
00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:36,759
Speaker 2: Uh yeah, it's not even like it's no contest like

871
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 2: all of those girl especially the ones. I haven't seen

872
00:46:39,040 --> 00:46:42,160
Speaker 2: much of the other shows, but man, the girls from BH,

873
00:46:42,200 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 2: wow are they witty? Just quick.

874
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:49,960
Speaker 1: I had a similar experience. I think it was the

875
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:54,920
Speaker 1: second or third year. We were sitting I believe, in

876
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:59,040
Speaker 1: Vicki's backyard having a big dinner. The entire cast was there,

877
00:46:59,760 --> 00:47:03,440
Speaker 1: and you know, the funny thing is that in the beginning,

878
00:47:03,520 --> 00:47:07,640
Speaker 1: the first like hour, nobody fights because nobody wants to,

879
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:10,560
Speaker 1: you know, say anything. And then all of a sudden

880
00:47:11,080 --> 00:47:17,040
Speaker 1: it was Terry debrou and Heather and David Badoor and Shannon.

881
00:47:17,080 --> 00:47:19,560
Speaker 1: They were going at each other. And then that lasted

882
00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:21,560
Speaker 1: a little while, and then that ended, and then it

883
00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:24,759
Speaker 1: calmed down. Then the fights start going. Now you have

884
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 1: like four different fights going on at the same time,

885
00:47:27,680 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 1: and I'm just sitting there just trying to take it

886
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:33,760
Speaker 1: in and avoid it and not get eye contact and

887
00:47:33,800 --> 00:47:36,520
Speaker 1: not participate and not be a part of it and

888
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:40,680
Speaker 1: I think Retchen was on the show and Slade were

889
00:47:40,680 --> 00:47:43,440
Speaker 1: on the show at the time, and Gretchen started going

890
00:47:43,480 --> 00:47:45,880
Speaker 1: at my wife. My wife was defending herself and she

891
00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 1: was going back at Gretchen, and all of a sudden,

892
00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:52,400
Speaker 1: Gretchen's boyfriend, Slade, stands up and he starts, you know,

893
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:55,880
Speaker 1: pointing his finger at my wife and kind of a

894
00:47:56,000 --> 00:47:58,520
Speaker 1: verbally attacking my wife. And that's when I sat back

895
00:47:58,560 --> 00:48:00,879
Speaker 1: and I'm like, Okay, I have two options here.

896
00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:03,719
Speaker 2: I could reach over and beat the living.

897
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:05,440
Speaker 1: Shit out of this guy for talking to my wife

898
00:48:05,440 --> 00:48:08,600
Speaker 1: the way he's talking, but I will look like an asshole,

899
00:48:08,960 --> 00:48:13,000
Speaker 1: you know. Or I can just sit back and let

900
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:16,239
Speaker 1: my wife defend herself and because she she's pretty damn

901
00:48:16,239 --> 00:48:20,080
Speaker 1: good at it, and look like a little woozy because

902
00:48:20,120 --> 00:48:22,919
Speaker 1: I didn't come to the rescue, you know, I didn't

903
00:48:22,920 --> 00:48:25,359
Speaker 1: stand up for my wife. So I had to make

904
00:48:25,400 --> 00:48:27,520
Speaker 1: the hard decision to say, you know what, I don't

905
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 1: I don't want to be a part of this. I

906
00:48:29,080 --> 00:48:31,440
Speaker 1: am not a housewife. I'm not going to get into

907
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:35,319
Speaker 1: this show, so I'm just gonna back off. And of

908
00:48:35,360 --> 00:48:37,040
Speaker 1: course we got home that night and I told my

909
00:48:37,080 --> 00:48:39,439
Speaker 1: wife about it, and she's like, thank god you didn't

910
00:48:39,440 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 1: get involved, because this is that wouldn't have been good

911
00:48:42,040 --> 00:48:44,720
Speaker 1: for you. Wait till you see how Slade looks on TV.

912
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:47,359
Speaker 1: It turned out to be that it was the best

913
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:50,640
Speaker 1: decision I could make because I am not a housewife

914
00:48:50,680 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 1: and I'm not going to get into it with the housewife.

915
00:48:53,040 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 1: In fact, every single person, every single guy, I think

916
00:48:56,680 --> 00:48:59,439
Speaker 1: there's been about three of them that ever were cast

917
00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:05,840
Speaker 1: for the show, David being one of them, Bronwin's husband,

918
00:49:05,840 --> 00:49:08,319
Speaker 1: I don't remember his name, but there were a couple

919
00:49:08,320 --> 00:49:10,600
Speaker 1: of guys that reached out to me like, hey, you've

920
00:49:10,640 --> 00:49:13,520
Speaker 1: been on this show for a while, what should I expect?

921
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 1: I said, listen, just don't get into it with the women.

922
00:49:17,400 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 1: Don't become a housewife when the fights start, just don't

923
00:49:20,600 --> 00:49:24,240
Speaker 1: get involved walk away and oh Brooks was another one.

924
00:49:24,320 --> 00:49:28,000
Speaker 1: You know yep, And I said, okay, well I.

925
00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:31,200
Speaker 2: Told you so. You know, especially with the power of edit,

926
00:49:31,520 --> 00:49:33,279
Speaker 2: that if they really want to make you look bad,

927
00:49:33,320 --> 00:49:38,759
Speaker 2: they can't. I learned that is real. Yes.

928
00:49:41,040 --> 00:49:43,040
Speaker 1: So that leads to the next question, which is a

929
00:49:43,080 --> 00:49:47,400
Speaker 1: really good question. Have you ever regretted filming my stuplanswer

930
00:49:47,480 --> 00:49:49,880
Speaker 1: on that is no, Like I had a good time.

931
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:50,680
Speaker 1: You know.

932
00:49:50,719 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 2: It's funny. I would treat those times as a date

933
00:49:53,040 --> 00:49:57,000
Speaker 2: with the wife, and I always felt uncomfortable, Like I

934
00:49:57,120 --> 00:50:01,400
Speaker 2: never actually felt comfortable, but I think that like uncomfortable things.

935
00:50:01,400 --> 00:50:06,680
Speaker 2: So I I didn't mind it. I did. I guess

936
00:50:06,719 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 2: the only thing I might I would mind sometimes is

937
00:50:08,640 --> 00:50:11,480
Speaker 2: sometimes these things would last like three and a half hours,

938
00:50:11,520 --> 00:50:14,200
Speaker 2: just back and forth bickering, and I was just like, uh,

939
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:16,640
Speaker 2: but for the most part, I didn't mind it.

940
00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:18,960
Speaker 1: And then they only used like ten seconds of that, right,

941
00:50:19,160 --> 00:50:21,960
Speaker 1: exactly hours of labor and they take ten seconds of it.

942
00:50:22,239 --> 00:50:25,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's another reason. I just second year, I was like,

943
00:50:25,600 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 2: there's no point of talking, Like, unless I have a

944
00:50:28,160 --> 00:50:31,880
Speaker 2: killer SoundBite, I ain't coming out. Yeah, so let me

945
00:50:31,920 --> 00:50:34,920
Speaker 2: just take my chances. But if you say something wrong,

946
00:50:35,239 --> 00:50:37,920
Speaker 2: it'll come out all day, right, Yeah, but if you

947
00:50:38,040 --> 00:50:41,000
Speaker 2: say something bad, like so, the more you talk, the

948
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:44,040
Speaker 2: more opportunity you're going to have to say something stupid

949
00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:46,920
Speaker 2: that's just going to make you look dumb. So I

950
00:50:47,000 --> 00:50:50,799
Speaker 2: just thought to myself, Okay, I would just speak if

951
00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:53,640
Speaker 2: somebody asked me a question. Otherwise I don't really need

952
00:50:53,680 --> 00:50:56,400
Speaker 2: to get in any I don't need to get into.

953
00:50:56,239 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 1: It I think one of the most important questions that

954
00:51:00,800 --> 00:51:04,120
Speaker 1: people ask us have you ever regretted filming? And like you,

955
00:51:04,400 --> 00:51:09,279
Speaker 1: I don't like to regret much, right, But there was

956
00:51:09,320 --> 00:51:13,919
Speaker 1: this one time, and it was the very very very

957
00:51:14,239 --> 00:51:17,799
Speaker 1: first day that I've ever filmed with camera, the very

958
00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:20,240
Speaker 1: first day. It was supposed to be a nice romantic

959
00:51:20,280 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 1: dinner at my house. I was trying to impress Tamera

960
00:51:23,200 --> 00:51:26,239
Speaker 1: by cooking skills, smoke with my cooking skills. So I

961
00:51:26,280 --> 00:51:28,799
Speaker 1: made filet me on, lobster tail Brocolani, and a very

962
00:51:28,880 --> 00:51:31,839
Speaker 1: nice bottle of red wine. Well, the evening started with

963
00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:34,680
Speaker 1: you know, fifty plus people. You know how many people

964
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:36,600
Speaker 1: show up at your house to set up the filming.

965
00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:40,960
Speaker 1: And as soon as the crew brought in these large

966
00:51:41,040 --> 00:51:44,240
Speaker 1: movie production sized cameras, my wife says, I turn white.

967
00:51:44,880 --> 00:51:47,279
Speaker 1: I just spros. And I looked at her and I said,

968
00:51:47,320 --> 00:51:49,680
Speaker 1: I can't do this. I can't do this.

969
00:51:50,680 --> 00:51:52,400
Speaker 2: It's like I'm not going to go through it. This,

970
00:51:52,480 --> 00:51:54,960
Speaker 2: this is not going to be good. And she said,

971
00:51:55,080 --> 00:51:55,719
Speaker 2: so she ran.

972
00:51:55,840 --> 00:51:58,640
Speaker 1: She runs to the bar, comes back with the bottle

973
00:51:58,680 --> 00:52:01,120
Speaker 1: of her best liquid current j a very well known

974
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:04,879
Speaker 1: tool she used for many many years called Tequila Yes

975
00:52:05,560 --> 00:52:07,479
Speaker 1: and Now, tequila and I were not very good friends

976
00:52:07,520 --> 00:52:09,600
Speaker 1: because I just don't like to drink, but I had

977
00:52:09,640 --> 00:52:13,239
Speaker 1: no other option. Six shots later and a glass of

978
00:52:13,280 --> 00:52:16,279
Speaker 1: red wine, we finished dinner. They take her upstairs to

979
00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:20,120
Speaker 1: prepare for some romantic setting. And I'm thinking, we're just

980
00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:22,799
Speaker 1: gonna get in bed and we're gonna get romantic. I

981
00:52:22,800 --> 00:52:25,880
Speaker 1: don't know what to expect. Yeah, they keep me downstairs

982
00:52:25,960 --> 00:52:28,319
Speaker 1: to clean up the kitchen. While they're doing all that.

983
00:52:28,400 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 1: Five minutes later, I go up, I pour a glass

984
00:52:31,560 --> 00:52:34,160
Speaker 1: of wine, and I'm like, Okay, I'm ready for whatever

985
00:52:34,360 --> 00:52:38,640
Speaker 1: they're gonna throw at me. I walk into my bathroom

986
00:52:39,040 --> 00:52:43,120
Speaker 1: and there's my wife in the bathtub with bubble baths,

987
00:52:43,520 --> 00:52:46,200
Speaker 1: and the very first words that come out of my

988
00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 1: mouth are you're naked. And I could only visualize, you

989
00:52:51,680 --> 00:52:53,520
Speaker 1: know that movie with Jim Carrey in the mask where

990
00:52:53,560 --> 00:52:56,640
Speaker 1: his jaw drops to the ground. I visualize that happened

991
00:52:56,640 --> 00:52:59,320
Speaker 1: to me. And all I can think of is, there's

992
00:52:59,520 --> 00:53:03,920
Speaker 1: fifty people in this bathroom and you're naked in my bathtub.

993
00:53:04,120 --> 00:53:06,759
Speaker 1: How did you get in there without them seeing you?

994
00:53:06,880 --> 00:53:11,640
Speaker 2: Right? My head starts spinning. I freeze. The second question

995
00:53:12,680 --> 00:53:14,680
Speaker 2: was the second question that you asked yourself. Am I

996
00:53:14,680 --> 00:53:15,759
Speaker 2: supposed to get naked? Now?

997
00:53:16,280 --> 00:53:20,279
Speaker 1: Yes? That's when I froze. I'm like, I can't do this,

998
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:24,239
Speaker 1: this is not happening. There's not enough tequila. And sure enough,

999
00:53:24,239 --> 00:53:27,760
Speaker 1: the producer takes me downstairs and he says, hey, listen,

1000
00:53:27,880 --> 00:53:31,120
Speaker 1: you don't have to do this, but if you get

1001
00:53:31,200 --> 00:53:34,200
Speaker 1: into the tub, you know it'll be good for the viewers.

1002
00:53:34,760 --> 00:53:38,120
Speaker 1: You'll you may want to go in there with your

1003
00:53:38,120 --> 00:53:41,080
Speaker 1: clothes on. And I thought, okay, maybe I could do that.

1004
00:53:41,520 --> 00:53:44,000
Speaker 1: So he gives me another shot of tequila. Of course,

1005
00:53:44,000 --> 00:53:46,279
Speaker 1: and all I'm thinking in my head is I better

1006
00:53:46,320 --> 00:53:48,520
Speaker 1: do like a hundred push ups, pump up my chest,

1007
00:53:48,560 --> 00:53:49,480
Speaker 1: pump up my arms.

1008
00:53:49,600 --> 00:53:51,680
Speaker 2: I'll go in there. I'll pull my shirt off like

1009
00:53:51,719 --> 00:53:54,520
Speaker 2: a stripper. It would be the greatest shot ever.

1010
00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:57,680
Speaker 1: And sure enough, I go up there, I do some

1011
00:53:57,680 --> 00:54:00,760
Speaker 1: push ups, I take my shirt off slow. I look good,

1012
00:54:01,280 --> 00:54:03,640
Speaker 1: and then my wife says, were you going to keep

1013
00:54:03,640 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 1: your pants on? And without skipping a beat edwin, I

1014
00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:12,359
Speaker 1: didn't even know this was happening. I pulled my pants down,

1015
00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:14,640
Speaker 1: holding them down all the way to my ankles. And

1016
00:54:14,680 --> 00:54:17,279
Speaker 1: I'm very flexible, right, so I just bent over and

1017
00:54:17,360 --> 00:54:20,440
Speaker 1: I'm looking behind me, and there's a big ass camera

1018
00:54:20,560 --> 00:54:23,840
Speaker 1: in the shower behind me directly pointed out my asshole,

1019
00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:26,840
Speaker 1: and a camera to the right pointing at my junk.

1020
00:54:27,239 --> 00:54:29,120
Speaker 1: And all I can think of is I got to

1021
00:54:29,200 --> 00:54:32,680
Speaker 1: run into the as fast as I can so they

1022
00:54:32,719 --> 00:54:37,239
Speaker 1: don't see my chunk. So I jumped in. Next thing,

1023
00:54:37,239 --> 00:54:41,319
Speaker 1: I know, Huh you weren't cold, were you? Oh?

1024
00:54:41,320 --> 00:54:43,879
Speaker 2: It was very cold. I was very cold because after I.

1025
00:54:43,800 --> 00:54:47,239
Speaker 1: Got in the tub, I'm like, you dumb ass, you're

1026
00:54:47,239 --> 00:54:50,000
Speaker 1: thinking about your chats, You're thinking about your arms.

1027
00:54:50,239 --> 00:54:54,719
Speaker 2: Nobody cares about that. They want to see you're junk exactly.

1028
00:54:54,760 --> 00:54:58,000
Speaker 2: That think they'd be warm, not cold. And that's that

1029
00:54:58,120 --> 00:55:01,360
Speaker 2: was your first day of Filmary first, like where do

1030
00:55:01,440 --> 00:55:03,360
Speaker 2: you go from here? Exactly?

1031
00:55:04,280 --> 00:55:07,840
Speaker 1: And that's also the day I found out that there's

1032
00:55:07,920 --> 00:55:10,680
Speaker 1: definitely no chance of me becoming a porn start because

1033
00:55:10,680 --> 00:55:12,560
Speaker 1: I am not good naked on cameras.

1034
00:55:14,520 --> 00:55:19,040
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna happen. No Woody in the bathtub, I

1035
00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:20,399
Speaker 2: think I did.

1036
00:55:20,560 --> 00:55:23,000
Speaker 1: But I was comfortable then because there was bubbles everywhere,

1037
00:55:23,000 --> 00:55:26,239
Speaker 1: nobody can see him. And the last thing I remember is,

1038
00:55:27,120 --> 00:55:30,200
Speaker 1: you know, again, cameras are pointing and pointing at you.

1039
00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:33,279
Speaker 1: You should do something right. So I start getting hot

1040
00:55:33,320 --> 00:55:35,520
Speaker 1: and heavy kissing her, you know, getting on top of

1041
00:55:35,520 --> 00:55:37,719
Speaker 1: her in the bathtub, and all of a sudden it

1042
00:55:37,840 --> 00:55:41,680
Speaker 1: got really uncomfortable in there, and everybody split. Everybody just

1043
00:55:41,960 --> 00:55:43,600
Speaker 1: bailed out. It's like, okay, thank you so much, have

1044
00:55:43,640 --> 00:55:47,600
Speaker 1: a good night, We'll see you borrow. And then this

1045
00:55:47,920 --> 00:55:52,440
Speaker 1: morning was that we kept going and the next morning

1046
00:55:52,480 --> 00:55:55,960
Speaker 1: we both woke up with the massive headache, going, what

1047
00:55:56,160 --> 00:55:58,760
Speaker 1: the hell did we do last night?

1048
00:55:59,480 --> 00:56:01,879
Speaker 2: How are they going to edit that? How are they

1049
00:56:01,920 --> 00:56:02,800
Speaker 2: going to Oh.

1050
00:56:02,680 --> 00:56:06,440
Speaker 1: My god, we're going to look like idiots. And of course,

1051
00:56:06,840 --> 00:56:08,640
Speaker 1: in the back of my head I get this stuff.

1052
00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:10,799
Speaker 1: Maybe I can reach out to the editors and they

1053
00:56:10,800 --> 00:56:13,080
Speaker 1: can add a few pixels for me so that I

1054
00:56:13,080 --> 00:56:15,600
Speaker 1: can look like big John long dung or whatever.

1055
00:56:15,680 --> 00:56:17,840
Speaker 2: You know, give me some credit.

1056
00:56:18,719 --> 00:56:20,880
Speaker 1: And how did they edit you? By the way, it

1057
00:56:21,120 --> 00:56:25,360
Speaker 1: actually watch that now. In my opinion and even Tamer's opinion,

1058
00:56:25,480 --> 00:56:29,080
Speaker 1: it was very classy. They didn't show anything. They showed

1059
00:56:29,080 --> 00:56:30,960
Speaker 1: a little bit of skin, and I think they even

1060
00:56:31,680 --> 00:56:34,960
Speaker 1: had a blooper on the website where they showed a

1061
00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:37,920
Speaker 1: little bit of her nipple, But on the actual show

1062
00:56:38,239 --> 00:56:41,000
Speaker 1: that was on National TV, they didn't show any nipple,

1063
00:56:41,600 --> 00:56:45,000
Speaker 1: so that maybe it was strategic, you know, for the

1064
00:56:45,000 --> 00:56:48,200
Speaker 1: purposes of getting people to watch you know, hey, nipples,

1065
00:56:48,320 --> 00:56:53,000
Speaker 1: let's watch this. But I think it was classy. But

1066
00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:57,200
Speaker 1: the biggest concern edwin of anything, was how are the

1067
00:56:57,360 --> 00:57:01,279
Speaker 1: kids going to look at this? You know, how they yeah,

1068
00:57:01,320 --> 00:57:05,440
Speaker 1: how are they gonna react? Because remember it was at

1069
00:57:05,440 --> 00:57:08,000
Speaker 1: the time when you know, she had just gotten divorced

1070
00:57:08,280 --> 00:57:11,480
Speaker 1: and her husband was doing everything and in his power

1071
00:57:11,560 --> 00:57:15,200
Speaker 1: to hurt camera through the kids. So you know, he's

1072
00:57:15,200 --> 00:57:17,800
Speaker 1: gonna put this, show, this clip in front of their

1073
00:57:17,840 --> 00:57:20,600
Speaker 1: face and go, this is your mom, This is your

1074
00:57:20,640 --> 00:57:22,840
Speaker 1: mom doing porn. You know, this is the things that

1075
00:57:22,880 --> 00:57:27,520
Speaker 1: we were visually, and this is why we regretted doing it,

1076
00:57:27,800 --> 00:57:30,360
Speaker 1: you know, because this is this might hurt the kids

1077
00:57:30,400 --> 00:57:31,000
Speaker 1: in some way.

1078
00:57:32,000 --> 00:57:36,000
Speaker 2: But at the end, you know, we both talked to

1079
00:57:36,040 --> 00:57:37,640
Speaker 2: the kids about it. Did they ever see it?

1080
00:57:37,920 --> 00:57:41,640
Speaker 1: No, No, that's one thing we never talked about. I

1081
00:57:41,680 --> 00:57:44,520
Speaker 1: don't even know that they even brought it up. Her

1082
00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:49,880
Speaker 1: kids are really they don't any time, even kissing, they

1083
00:57:50,000 --> 00:57:53,760
Speaker 1: go like, ew, gross, you guys are kissing. You know,

1084
00:57:53,800 --> 00:57:59,560
Speaker 1: they're very anti anti loving, anti public, you know, display

1085
00:57:59,600 --> 00:58:03,520
Speaker 1: of which is the opposite of our culture, right. I mean,

1086
00:58:03,600 --> 00:58:06,760
Speaker 1: I do everything in my power to let my wife

1087
00:58:06,800 --> 00:58:09,200
Speaker 1: know that I love her and I appreciated her. And

1088
00:58:09,240 --> 00:58:11,480
Speaker 1: when we're in public, I hold her hand, when we

1089
00:58:11,480 --> 00:58:13,680
Speaker 1: stop at the light, I hug her. You know, this

1090
00:58:13,760 --> 00:58:16,680
Speaker 1: is just who I am. And the kids are completely

1091
00:58:17,320 --> 00:58:20,120
Speaker 1: like their dad. They just show no emotions. So I

1092
00:58:20,160 --> 00:58:23,080
Speaker 1: think it affected them, but we really don't know. We've

1093
00:58:23,200 --> 00:58:24,960
Speaker 1: never ever talked about it with them.

1094
00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:33,520
Speaker 2: Good story, man, that was a good, good fun story.

1095
00:58:36,480 --> 00:58:40,400
Speaker 1: Do you enjoy filming ninety percent of the time, I

1096
00:58:40,440 --> 00:58:43,400
Speaker 1: do not enjoy it. But in the beginning, there was

1097
00:58:43,440 --> 00:58:45,520
Speaker 1: this one moment that I remember, I'll never forget. It

1098
00:58:45,560 --> 00:58:49,160
Speaker 1: was a trip I planned for tamer and I. Again,

1099
00:58:49,720 --> 00:58:52,080
Speaker 1: it was a trip that was planning in advance to Spain.

1100
00:58:53,080 --> 00:58:55,960
Speaker 1: I've always wanted to see Spain, and it was a

1101
00:58:55,960 --> 00:58:58,959
Speaker 1: trip for her and I just alone, and she told

1102
00:58:58,960 --> 00:59:01,120
Speaker 1: the production this is what's happening in our life. And

1103
00:59:01,600 --> 00:59:05,440
Speaker 1: they ended up sending a producer, a audio engineer, and

1104
00:59:05,480 --> 00:59:08,800
Speaker 1: a camera person with us to follow us on this trip,

1105
00:59:09,480 --> 00:59:14,080
Speaker 1: and we not only got to film this amazing vacation together,

1106
00:59:14,760 --> 00:59:21,680
Speaker 1: but we got to experience the irks, if you will,

1107
00:59:21,800 --> 00:59:24,960
Speaker 1: of being on TV, all these upgrades, all these free,

1108
00:59:25,240 --> 00:59:32,160
Speaker 1: expensive amazing dinners, expensive amazing experiences. It really took our

1109
00:59:32,280 --> 00:59:35,640
Speaker 1: vacation and bumped it up a few notches because we

1110
00:59:35,640 --> 00:59:38,920
Speaker 1: were filming it, so it was it was awesome. It

1111
00:59:39,000 --> 00:59:42,120
Speaker 1: really really was a great experience, no drama, obviously, nobody

1112
00:59:42,200 --> 00:59:42,800
Speaker 1: was fighting.

1113
00:59:43,000 --> 00:59:44,120
Speaker 2: Her and I were in our.

1114
00:59:44,040 --> 00:59:47,400
Speaker 1: Best place and joining each other's company, and that was

1115
00:59:47,440 --> 00:59:51,760
Speaker 1: probably my favorite time other than you know, filming our proposal.

1116
00:59:51,880 --> 00:59:54,800
Speaker 1: That was the highlight of my life is filming the

1117
00:59:54,800 --> 00:59:57,640
Speaker 1: proposal and bora, bora.

1118
00:59:56,720 --> 00:59:58,600
Speaker 2: Isn't it? But you know it's so cool. I mean

1119
00:59:59,040 --> 01:00:00,920
Speaker 2: you talk about some of the perks, like when we

1120
01:00:00,920 --> 01:00:03,560
Speaker 2: were on the show, we got out to the inviterers

1121
01:00:03,600 --> 01:00:06,640
Speaker 2: to the Kentucky Derby, and I mean we had the

1122
01:00:06,680 --> 01:00:09,600
Speaker 2: red carpet rolled out, rolled out for us, so we

1123
01:00:09,680 --> 01:00:13,080
Speaker 2: hung out at all the cool parties. I mean I

1124
01:00:13,160 --> 01:00:18,000
Speaker 2: was hanging with Aaron Rodgers, you know, let's thee a

1125
01:00:18,080 --> 01:00:20,400
Speaker 2: couple of rockers. I'm blanket on their name right now,

1126
01:00:20,440 --> 01:00:23,640
Speaker 2: but just everywhere we went it was like right to

1127
01:00:23,680 --> 01:00:26,560
Speaker 2: the front, Like there's no way in how we would

1128
01:00:26,560 --> 01:00:28,960
Speaker 2: have gone in if it wasn't for for Teddy being

1129
01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:31,160
Speaker 2: on the show. At the time, and you know, you

1130
01:00:31,200 --> 01:00:33,040
Speaker 2: get to get that's some of the props. You get

1131
01:00:33,040 --> 01:00:35,680
Speaker 2: to hang out at some pretty cool places. Yeah, yeah,

1132
01:00:35,760 --> 01:00:41,480
Speaker 2: and I appreciate that tremendously. I last year, I think

1133
01:00:41,520 --> 01:00:44,120
Speaker 2: it was I had the opportunity for the very first

1134
01:00:44,120 --> 01:00:46,960
Speaker 2: time in my life ever to attend the Indy five

1135
01:00:47,040 --> 01:00:51,920
Speaker 2: hundred in Indianapolis, and it was all VIP. You know.

1136
01:00:52,120 --> 01:00:55,439
Speaker 1: I was sponsored by Good Ranchers Is it's a great

1137
01:00:55,480 --> 01:00:59,240
Speaker 1: company that sales meet online and it's produced by local ranchers,

1138
01:00:59,280 --> 01:01:02,800
Speaker 1: not imported from you know, outside of the United States.

1139
01:01:03,560 --> 01:01:05,000
Speaker 2: But the car they sponsored one.

1140
01:01:05,600 --> 01:01:09,320
Speaker 1: So I got to literally stand at the winner circle,

1141
01:01:09,920 --> 01:01:13,120
Speaker 1: touching this this trophy, standing next to the car, standing

1142
01:01:13,160 --> 01:01:15,080
Speaker 1: next to the winner and taking a picture because it

1143
01:01:15,160 --> 01:01:17,400
Speaker 1: was it was It was awesome. I mean, I don't

1144
01:01:17,400 --> 01:01:19,440
Speaker 1: think you could buy that experience.

1145
01:01:20,360 --> 01:01:23,200
Speaker 2: You got the most random fans that are like you

1146
01:01:23,320 --> 01:01:26,360
Speaker 2: got some pretty big people that are fans of the show,

1147
01:01:26,600 --> 01:01:29,960
Speaker 2: which I always find pretty interesting, like a listers that

1148
01:01:30,040 --> 01:01:32,720
Speaker 2: are fans of the show, which is yet cool.

1149
01:01:32,920 --> 01:01:36,600
Speaker 1: It was probably again in the beginning, Tarmra was invited

1150
01:01:36,640 --> 01:01:38,919
Speaker 1: to a gifting suite there in Beverly Hills.

1151
01:01:38,960 --> 01:01:43,120
Speaker 2: I think at the Beverly Hilton. Have you ever attended those? Yeah? Yeah,

1152
01:01:43,160 --> 01:01:46,160
Speaker 2: so it's pretty cool, right, yeah. And we're walking.

1153
01:01:45,800 --> 01:01:48,560
Speaker 1: In and out of you know, rooms or given us

1154
01:01:48,560 --> 01:01:51,240
Speaker 1: free stuff, and I'm like, why are you giving us

1155
01:01:51,240 --> 01:01:53,560
Speaker 1: free stuff? We can afford to buy this. It doesn't

1156
01:01:53,600 --> 01:01:55,800
Speaker 1: make any sense give it away to people that can't

1157
01:01:55,800 --> 01:01:58,439
Speaker 1: afford it. But uh, when you're a celebrity, you're always

1158
01:01:58,480 --> 01:02:00,120
Speaker 1: going to get free shit because you can promote it,

1159
01:02:00,680 --> 01:02:03,640
Speaker 1: exactly right. I didn't know that at the time. So

1160
01:02:03,680 --> 01:02:07,480
Speaker 1: there's this one moment where we're walking into another room

1161
01:02:08,160 --> 01:02:11,840
Speaker 1: and as we're walking in walking out comes Christina Aguilera

1162
01:02:12,320 --> 01:02:16,160
Speaker 1: and she loses her shit over camera and she's like,

1163
01:02:16,280 --> 01:02:16,760
Speaker 1: oh my.

1164
01:02:16,720 --> 01:02:18,560
Speaker 2: God, you're my favorite housewife.

1165
01:02:19,520 --> 01:02:21,760
Speaker 1: I'm just standing back, I'm looking at this. I'm like,

1166
01:02:22,640 --> 01:02:25,680
Speaker 1: you know, you're a big deal, Christina, What.

1167
01:02:25,760 --> 01:02:28,120
Speaker 2: Is happening right now? Exactly?

1168
01:02:28,200 --> 01:02:30,960
Speaker 1: And that was the first time I've ever ever experienced that.

1169
01:02:31,080 --> 01:02:34,000
Speaker 1: And you know, I love Christina. She's an amazing singer

1170
01:02:34,080 --> 01:02:37,160
Speaker 1: and artist. And my wife was even in shock herself.

1171
01:02:37,200 --> 01:02:40,320
Speaker 1: They took a picture and it was a pretty cool experience,

1172
01:02:40,400 --> 01:02:40,560
Speaker 1: you know.

1173
01:02:41,680 --> 01:02:43,040
Speaker 2: You know, I love that.

1174
01:02:43,120 --> 01:02:45,640
Speaker 1: It's probably because she's so down to earth, but there's

1175
01:02:45,680 --> 01:02:49,040
Speaker 1: so many A listers and people on TV that think

1176
01:02:49,080 --> 01:02:53,040
Speaker 1: their shit doesn't stink. Even on our show, there's people

1177
01:02:53,040 --> 01:02:55,240
Speaker 1: that have this reputation where they go in public and

1178
01:02:55,280 --> 01:02:56,600
Speaker 1: they're like, no, I don't want to take a picture

1179
01:02:56,600 --> 01:03:00,400
Speaker 1: with you, No, I don't have time. I absolutely buys

1180
01:03:00,440 --> 01:03:04,120
Speaker 1: those people. I can't stand those people. So I never

1181
01:03:04,280 --> 01:03:08,800
Speaker 1: ever have said no to a picture or anybody that

1182
01:03:08,840 --> 01:03:11,320
Speaker 1: approaches us. Even my wife is really good about it.

1183
01:03:11,360 --> 01:03:15,760
Speaker 1: She just yeah, yeah, it's part of reality, you know.

1184
01:03:15,840 --> 01:03:20,320
Speaker 1: The people really believe they know you, you know, And I

1185
01:03:20,360 --> 01:03:23,760
Speaker 1: think I think that's where the value is in this

1186
01:03:23,880 --> 01:03:30,080
Speaker 1: reality TV shows, Like they believe everything they see on TV. Yeah. So, Edwin,

1187
01:03:30,720 --> 01:03:33,200
Speaker 1: question for you, if if Teddy was to be cast

1188
01:03:33,360 --> 01:03:36,720
Speaker 1: for the Beverly Hills Housewife show again, would you go back?

1189
01:03:37,280 --> 01:03:38,959
Speaker 2: I would love to, And then I think she would

1190
01:03:38,960 --> 01:03:41,040
Speaker 2: crush it. This time around. I think she needs a

1191
01:03:41,080 --> 01:03:43,959
Speaker 2: lot more comfortable. I think people will get to see

1192
01:03:44,040 --> 01:03:47,800
Speaker 2: more of herself, you know. I think the first year

1193
01:03:48,000 --> 01:03:49,520
Speaker 2: it was a lot of herself. I think the second

1194
01:03:49,560 --> 01:03:51,120
Speaker 2: year she was probably a little more in her head

1195
01:03:51,200 --> 01:03:54,080
Speaker 2: about it. And then obviously the thirty years she was pregnant,

1196
01:03:54,240 --> 01:03:57,880
Speaker 2: so that changes a lot of things obviously, but I

1197
01:03:57,920 --> 01:04:00,680
Speaker 2: think this year she would know where she's that today

1198
01:04:01,440 --> 01:04:04,640
Speaker 2: she would absolutely crush it. So I would love to

1199
01:04:04,640 --> 01:04:08,120
Speaker 2: see her back in that. She would just be so

1200
01:04:08,240 --> 01:04:11,600
Speaker 2: good at it and people would get to see the

1201
01:04:11,720 --> 01:04:14,520
Speaker 2: real Teddy, you know, not the edit.

1202
01:04:14,560 --> 01:04:15,040
Speaker 1: The edit.

1203
01:04:15,160 --> 01:04:18,240
Speaker 2: I wasn't happy with the edit they gave her on

1204
01:04:18,280 --> 01:04:21,479
Speaker 2: the third year because there was so many cool things

1205
01:04:21,480 --> 01:04:23,880
Speaker 2: that we did and they just they had this edit

1206
01:04:24,160 --> 01:04:27,680
Speaker 2: of her being born just because that's what Sutton said, Yeah,

1207
01:04:27,720 --> 01:04:31,960
Speaker 2: and they there was scenes where she was not like

1208
01:04:32,080 --> 01:04:34,560
Speaker 2: she was nowhere near born, Like some of the stuff

1209
01:04:34,560 --> 01:04:38,280
Speaker 2: that she said was like would make you just die laughing,

1210
01:04:38,320 --> 01:04:41,240
Speaker 2: and they never showed that, and you know, that's the

1211
01:04:41,280 --> 01:04:45,720
Speaker 2: power of the edit. But I think now she goes back,

1212
01:04:46,240 --> 01:04:49,000
Speaker 2: she would she would crush that show. So I would

1213
01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:50,960
Speaker 2: I would love to see that, you know. I mean,

1214
01:04:51,200 --> 01:04:53,280
Speaker 2: I mean you're seeing it on the podcast right like

1215
01:04:53,360 --> 01:04:56,480
Speaker 2: she's she is who she is, Like, that's who I

1216
01:04:56,560 --> 01:04:58,760
Speaker 2: know is the person in the podcast.

1217
01:04:59,640 --> 01:05:03,680
Speaker 1: I have a in an addition to that question, what if

1218
01:05:04,120 --> 01:05:07,040
Speaker 1: she was cast for the Orange County show?

1219
01:05:07,720 --> 01:05:09,560
Speaker 2: What do you think about that? You know we have

1220
01:05:09,560 --> 01:05:12,200
Speaker 2: a house in OC as well. I know my daughter

1221
01:05:12,280 --> 01:05:14,760
Speaker 2: lives in OC My oldest daughter lives in OLC.

1222
01:05:14,840 --> 01:05:17,440
Speaker 1: So that means actually he's in the pod, would be

1223
01:05:17,520 --> 01:05:18,320
Speaker 1: doing it together.

1224
01:05:18,720 --> 01:05:21,000
Speaker 2: I actually don't mind c to tell you the truth,

1225
01:05:21,320 --> 01:05:25,560
Speaker 2: so you know, we'll see, just throwing that out there

1226
01:05:26,760 --> 01:05:27,040
Speaker 2: with you.

1227
01:05:27,120 --> 01:05:31,480
Speaker 1: So yeah, kind of fun, right, Yeah, I've learned that

1228
01:05:31,560 --> 01:05:34,440
Speaker 1: I can hang out with certain house husbands.

1229
01:05:34,720 --> 01:05:37,160
Speaker 2: We will. You know, David was one of.

1230
01:05:37,120 --> 01:05:43,760
Speaker 1: Them, maybe the only one, and we had a lot

1231
01:05:43,800 --> 01:05:46,320
Speaker 1: in common. He was in YPO, as you know, he's

1232
01:05:46,400 --> 01:05:49,520
Speaker 1: a great organization that just brings entrepreneurs together.

1233
01:05:50,360 --> 01:05:54,280
Speaker 2: He was a spartan and he's just just a cool guy.

1234
01:05:54,880 --> 01:05:57,800
Speaker 1: I really really enjoyed him, and we traveled to Vegas

1235
01:05:57,800 --> 01:06:01,040
Speaker 1: together to go through spart and races. I really enjoy him.

1236
01:06:01,600 --> 01:06:05,800
Speaker 1: If you could do a husband's of housewife show, what

1237
01:06:05,960 --> 01:06:08,320
Speaker 1: other husbands would you pick to be on with you?

1238
01:06:08,440 --> 01:06:10,600
Speaker 1: And obviously you and I would be on it, but

1239
01:06:10,680 --> 01:06:11,160
Speaker 1: who else?

1240
01:06:13,080 --> 01:06:16,919
Speaker 2: Maurice is a fun dude. Man. That guy is charismatic,

1241
01:06:16,960 --> 01:06:19,720
Speaker 2: He's he just you have a blast with that guy.

1242
01:06:20,880 --> 01:06:23,240
Speaker 2: So he definitely would be one.

1243
01:06:26,080 --> 01:06:26,240
Speaker 1: Man.

1244
01:06:26,400 --> 01:06:29,800
Speaker 2: You know, I'm so bad with the names of of

1245
01:06:29,920 --> 01:06:31,320
Speaker 2: but you know what I like. I love the Utah

1246
01:06:31,400 --> 01:06:33,840
Speaker 2: guys quite a bit. I think the guys are pretty cool.

1247
01:06:34,000 --> 01:06:36,080
Speaker 2: We've hung out with them a couple of times. I'm

1248
01:06:36,080 --> 01:06:39,040
Speaker 2: blanking on one of their names, Sean. I like Sean

1249
01:06:39,080 --> 01:06:41,439
Speaker 2: a lot, a lot too. I got to know him

1250
01:06:41,600 --> 01:06:45,640
Speaker 2: very well in San Francisco. Really cool guy, very down

1251
01:06:45,680 --> 01:06:49,760
Speaker 2: to earth, successful and doesn't let all that shake. Is

1252
01:06:49,800 --> 01:06:51,600
Speaker 2: really cool to hang out too. I mean those obviously

1253
01:06:51,720 --> 01:06:54,280
Speaker 2: hung out with those guys going the show. Yeah, both

1254
01:06:54,280 --> 01:06:56,240
Speaker 2: of those guys are fun.

1255
01:06:56,880 --> 01:07:00,600
Speaker 1: You know, did you hang out outside to filming with

1256
01:07:00,640 --> 01:07:02,320
Speaker 1: PK and.

1257
01:07:02,200 --> 01:07:05,160
Speaker 2: For you know, we were always supposed to. I was

1258
01:07:05,200 --> 01:07:07,520
Speaker 2: just so busy at the time, and you know, I'm

1259
01:07:07,560 --> 01:07:09,920
Speaker 2: sure he was busy, and I probably could have done

1260
01:07:09,960 --> 01:07:13,600
Speaker 2: a better effort of like going to some of the spots,

1261
01:07:13,640 --> 01:07:16,080
Speaker 2: you know, But at the time, I was just like

1262
01:07:16,160 --> 01:07:18,480
Speaker 2: so focused on work that I didn't really get a

1263
01:07:18,560 --> 01:07:21,120
Speaker 2: chance to hang out with him as much, but I

1264
01:07:21,160 --> 01:07:23,960
Speaker 2: totally could. He's He's a funny dude, both, I mean,

1265
01:07:24,000 --> 01:07:28,680
Speaker 2: both of them, very witty. Yeah, Charlie a choice.

1266
01:07:29,440 --> 01:07:35,000
Speaker 1: I've been fortunate enough to know Joe Gorgo since the startling.

1267
01:07:35,440 --> 01:07:38,360
Speaker 2: He's he sounds like a great guy too. The few

1268
01:07:38,400 --> 01:07:39,520
Speaker 2: times I've hung out with him.

1269
01:07:40,040 --> 01:07:45,800
Speaker 1: Super cool, He's definitely not shy camera and and business.

1270
01:07:46,000 --> 01:07:50,040
Speaker 1: Bravol Khan that we attended, you were there, I really

1271
01:07:50,080 --> 01:07:52,880
Speaker 1: got to know the guys and all the guys, well

1272
01:07:53,040 --> 01:07:57,200
Speaker 1: not all the guys Jersey housewives, but all the Joe's

1273
01:07:57,360 --> 01:07:59,560
Speaker 1: and and the guys that I hung out with are

1274
01:07:59,640 --> 01:08:03,280
Speaker 1: super super cool. I could totally do a show with them. Yeah,

1275
01:08:03,360 --> 01:08:05,760
Speaker 1: I mean we could just we had a great time

1276
01:08:05,800 --> 01:08:07,680
Speaker 1: together and they're so funny and so chill.

1277
01:08:08,400 --> 01:08:11,480
Speaker 2: I can see a show that. Yeah. Yeah, you know

1278
01:08:11,520 --> 01:08:14,200
Speaker 2: I've actually hung out with is the Vanderpub Rules guys.

1279
01:08:14,720 --> 01:08:17,479
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, those guys, I've hung out quite a bit.

1280
01:08:18,520 --> 01:08:23,320
Speaker 3: They're young, like they're they're like forty two. So I've

1281
01:08:23,360 --> 01:08:26,160
Speaker 3: hung out with Jack's before. You know, he's fun. We

1282
01:08:26,200 --> 01:08:27,639
Speaker 3: went to a couple you know.

1283
01:08:29,360 --> 01:08:33,320
Speaker 2: RAM games and oh cool bo Bo and i Bo

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Speaker 2: is a big Rams fan, so we hang out pretty

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Speaker 2: much at every Rams game. Uh yeah. And then you

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Speaker 2: know Teddy and STOSSI are pretty close. So I've hung

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Speaker 2: out with those guys, you know, quite a bit. I've actually,

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Speaker 2: I'll be hung out with those guys more than I have.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I did find it's difficult to hang

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Speaker 1: out with house husbands because even with David, we had

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Speaker 1: a situation one time where when they were getting when

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Speaker 1: he was finally divorcing Shannon, Shannon was manipulating the situation

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Speaker 1: and Tamra was, you know, defending Shannon and making you know,

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Speaker 1: bad comments about David, and David you know, reach out

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Speaker 1: to me. He's like, Bro, we can't be friends if

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Speaker 1: your wife's going to be talking shit on me. And

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Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, I get it, bro, you know this

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Speaker 1: is this is I can't control this. And I apologize

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Speaker 1: to him. And we didn't talk for probably six months,

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Speaker 1: but to date, you know, we always connect. We always

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Speaker 1: you know, on holidays, and he's just such a cool cat.

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Speaker 2: I really really like David. Maybe we can have him

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Speaker 2: on the podcast one day. Yeah we should.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you'll like him a lot, primarily because

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Speaker 1: not just because he's a house husband, but he could

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Speaker 1: but I don't know if he still is in White Po,

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Speaker 1: but he was in White Po when he was on

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Speaker 1: the show.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd love to meet him for sure. Awesome. Awesome,

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Speaker 2: Well that's our show, guys, that's our show. Awesome, Mark,

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Speaker 2: it's great catching up with you, Edwin. Always great catching

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Speaker 2: up with you. I mean this flew by. We could

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Speaker 2: keep going. But and to the audience great questions, we

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Speaker 2: didn't even get to all of them, so keep sending

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Speaker 2: these in and what We're having the blast doing this,

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Speaker 2: So thank you for your support and thank you for listening.

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Speaker 1: Write us ever, review, share it with your friends, and

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Speaker 1: help us get the word out there that you know

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Speaker 1: we're doing a podcast.

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Speaker 2: Thank you guys.