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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Because it's Christmas time, we're counting down the twelve first

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Speaker 2: day follow ups of Christmas has voted on by you. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you count down all the way to the number one

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Speaker 2: first date follow up that you voted on. Tasha is

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Speaker 2: on the phone today for a first date follow up,

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Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Jordan. So

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Speaker 2: in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get

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Speaker 2: her another date for first Tasha, how long has it

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Speaker 2: been since you heard from Jordan?

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Speaker 3: It's been nine days?

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Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, good amount of time. Yeah, So have you

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Speaker 1: been trying to get a hold of him? How have

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Speaker 1: you felt during that time?

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Speaker 3: Oh? Man, haven't you been so nervous? Like I actually

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Speaker 3: did reach out to him two days ago and he

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Speaker 3: didn't respond.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, let's talk about your date, like what could

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Speaker 1: have gone wrong? How was it?

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Speaker 3: I thought it was great, you know, like it was

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Speaker 3: a classic get to know you sing coffee in a bookstore,

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Speaker 3: and you know, with it, we just like kept hanging

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Speaker 3: out and we watched some people watching, you know, like

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Speaker 3: by the park, and he's really funny, low key, you know, Okay, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: and we had this moment where he brushed my hair

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Speaker 3: back while we were sitting on the bench, and well

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Speaker 3: things got a little romantic after that. I mean, it

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Speaker 3: just made me think he liked me and he was real,

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Speaker 3: like none of that like performative stuff you get on

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Speaker 3: the apps, and like I felt so seen. I don't know,

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Speaker 3: he even remembered the book I said I loved in

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Speaker 3: high school.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's cool that it's cool. So you felt like

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Speaker 1: he was vibing you too.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and his voice is so dreamy for I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I'm just like so into him, and I don't get it.

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Speaker 1: I thought he was into me too.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, why do you think he's ghosting you?

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Speaker 3: I can't really think of anything. I just feel like

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Speaker 3: maybe he found me too talkative, or he didn't like

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Speaker 3: my jokes, you know, like I mean I made this

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Speaker 3: like one political joke, but like it wasn't even a

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Speaker 3: joke that I made up, you know, I just like

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Speaker 3: Google jokes to talk about on dates.

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Speaker 2: And.

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Speaker 3: So you went political, Like I'm not even a political person,

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Speaker 3: Like I don't care about politics, you know, but maybe

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Speaker 3: he found what I said offensive.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean usually they say talking about politics on

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Speaker 2: a first date is a bad thing, a joke, But

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Speaker 2: you google jokes before you go on dates, and that's

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Speaker 2: the thing pard you don't know. I mean, I've never

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Speaker 2: done it before, but I think that's kind of cool. Actually,

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Speaker 2: I'm about to start. So you go to dates with

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Speaker 2: like a list of pre approved or pre googled jokes

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Speaker 2: to use. Yeah, that's cool. I think that. Like, actually,

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Speaker 2: if I were to go on a date with you,

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Speaker 2: I think that was dope. If you if you told

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Speaker 2: me that you googled their things, I'd be like, that's awesome,

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Speaker 2: that's effort, right, Yeah, yeah, I.

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Speaker 3: Mean I didn't tell him. I mean, you don't tell

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Speaker 3: the person you're on a date with that you googled

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Speaker 3: jokes or something. That's like months into the relationship. Then

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Speaker 3: you then you tell.

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Speaker 2: Them, right when they're like, she had all these jokes?

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Speaker 2: She doesn't, You're like, yeah, it's because I've been googling them.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, how was this mood after the political joke?

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Speaker 4: Then?

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Speaker 2: What did it change after that?

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Speaker 3: No? I mean I mean he laughed, you know, but

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Speaker 3: I don't know if it was like an awkward laugh.

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Speaker 1: Did you guys change the subject after that?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I mean honestly, the conversation just kept flowing naturally, like

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Speaker 3: and then we just liked made fun of people walking

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Speaker 3: by and and I don't know, I just I didn't

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Speaker 3: really think anything bad happened. So that's why I'm just

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Speaker 3: very confused. You know, he gave me a little kiss

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Speaker 3: on the cheek and and that was good.

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Speaker 1: Well, so how did it? How did you guys leave it?

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Speaker 1: Did you plan on seeing each other again? Or was

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Speaker 1: it just like, oh, this was fun. Thanks?

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, I mean I was like, okay, well I'll

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Speaker 3: see you, you know soon hopefully. And then that's kind

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Speaker 3: of like how we ended it. And then, like you know,

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Speaker 3: these days go by and I'm just like replaying the

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Speaker 3: date in my head over and over again, and I'm like, wait,

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Speaker 3: what did I do? Like, I don't get it. I

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Speaker 3: thought we were good. I wasn't being weird or anything

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Speaker 3: when I texted him two days ago, like I just

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Speaker 3: you know, sent him a playful text, and you know,

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Speaker 3: he didn't respond, so it's like, what's up.

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Speaker 2: Tasha is on the phone and she's getting ghosted. By

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Speaker 2: a dude named Jordan's. So we're gonna call him in

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Speaker 2: just a second and see if he'll tell us why

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Speaker 2: he's ghostinger and maybe get her another date. You still

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Speaker 2: want one, right, Tasha?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and maybe get her another date or she wants one,

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Speaker 2: which she said she does. But first, Tasha, let's get

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Speaker 2: a recap of your date real quick before we call him.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it was such a beautiful date. You know.

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Speaker 3: We went to a bookstore and a coffee shop and

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Speaker 3: then we like sat at the park and people watched

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Speaker 3: and it was it was literally like a movie, like

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Speaker 3: a romantic comedy movie, and I was the star and

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Speaker 3: he was a hero.

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Speaker 2: The only reason you can think of that he might

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Speaker 2: be ghosting you is because you made a political joke

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Speaker 2: on your date.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I don't care about politics.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, are you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Okay, here we go.

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Speaker 3: Hello.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm i seking to Jordan please. Uh hey, Jordan,

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Speaker 2: how are you? My name is Jewbel and I'm calling

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Speaker 2: from a radio show it's called the Jewbel Show. Hi.

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Speaker 1: I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 4: Wait is this a prank?

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Speaker 2: No, it's not. We're calling you today for a different reason,

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Speaker 2: though it's not a prank, okay. So we do a

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Speaker 2: segment on our show it's called the First Day follow Up.

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Speaker 2: That's where if you go out on a date with

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Speaker 2: somebody and then you end up ghosting them, that person

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Speaker 2: can ask us to get you on the phone and

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Speaker 2: ask why you're ghosting them. So we got an email

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Speaker 2: about you from someone that you've been out with but

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Speaker 2: aren't calling back. Oh wait, Tasha, Yes it is. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: she emailed us and she told us about your day.

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Speaker 2: She said she really liked you, but she's confused because

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Speaker 2: it's been nine days and you have responded to her.

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Speaker 4: I mean, she was great. The date was actually a

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Speaker 4: lot of fun and she made me laugh a lot.

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Speaker 4: She's actually really funny.

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Speaker 2: Do you mind telling us why you're not talking to

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Speaker 2: her though?

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Speaker 4: It's the glitter. What She had a lot of glitter

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Speaker 4: on her face, like like a lot of it, you know,

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Speaker 4: And I don't know. It's just by the time we

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Speaker 4: all over my clothes and my car and I could

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Speaker 4: never get it off and I can't. I know, I

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Speaker 4: know that sounds crazy, but I'm serious. It's just I

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Speaker 4: kept finding glitter on myself for days. It was like

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Speaker 4: I was dating a disco ball.

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Speaker 1: So what was eyeshadow?

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: She wore it in her hair, I guess her face.

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Speaker 4: I think it was on her hands, hat it was,

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Speaker 3: I don't know. It was everywhere.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I guess it was like I wore it

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Speaker 4: all day, kind of a clean streak.

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Speaker 3: Okay, wait, you ghosted me because its glitter?

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Speaker 2: Hey, Jordan, let's talk. So she's actually on the phone

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Speaker 2: listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 4: Oh my, this is embarrassing, Hi thoughtcha. Look, it's nothing personal.

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Speaker 4: I swear. I really did have a great day and

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Speaker 4: you were very pretty and hilarious. But I'm thinking about

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Speaker 4: messages and it just stressed me out and I can't

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Speaker 4: have glitter all over me, like I took a bath.

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Speaker 3: It's called sparkle, Jordan, and some of us like to shine.

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Speaker 4: Oh okay, okay, fine, but I don't like the sparkle,

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Speaker 4: and I kind of think that's like a little kid

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Speaker 4: things too.

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Speaker 3: Wow. No, okay, sparkle life, you know, and I'm a

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Speaker 3: sparkly girl, and I don't think there's anything wrong with him,

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Speaker 3: And I mean you've been strip clubs before, so I'm

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Speaker 3: sure you've had your you know, load of.

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Speaker 4: I knew what I was up for and what's actually

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Speaker 4: I don't really go to strip clubs like that because

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Speaker 4: this reason.

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Speaker 3: I'm the word sparkles.

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Speaker 4: That is what it is.

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Speaker 3: I mean, what's so bad about it? Like it just

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Speaker 3: makes your life a little bit more shiny. I mean,

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Speaker 3: I'll hope you clean it off.

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Speaker 4: It's impossible to clean up. I'm sorry. Well, the date

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Speaker 4: was great, but I just it was like it was

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Speaker 4: my head and my hair and oh my god.

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Speaker 1: If there was less Jordan, would you be down with that?

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Speaker 2: Jordan? Would you like another day with Tasha? Will pay

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Speaker 2: for it? If Tasha was willing to cut back on

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Speaker 2: the glitter a little.

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Speaker 4: Bit, if there's no glitter involved. Yeah, I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 4: it was a good date.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not sure about that because I am a

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Speaker 3: sparkly girl and I don't know if I even want

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Speaker 3: to live a life without glitter.

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Speaker 1: Wow, Okay, stand on your girl.

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Speaker 4: Okay. Well, I mean maybe we pick like somewhere less

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Speaker 4: glitter friendly, like a pool.

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Speaker 1: I feel like that would be worse, Jordan, And honestly,

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Speaker 1: you're swimming in it then, I mean I already was.

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Speaker 2: Just embrace it.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I'm not even sure anymore, Jordan, because I

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Speaker 3: thought we had something special and I can't believe you

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Speaker 3: ghosted me because I sparkle and I don't even know.

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Speaker 3: I don't even think I want another date with you.

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Speaker 3: I don't want you dimming my light.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, So does that a no, then, Tasha, you

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Speaker 2: don't want another day with Jordan?

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Speaker 3: Uh no, I will pass.

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Speaker 2: Okay. Well, at least you know now why he's ghosting

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Speaker 2: you and that he's probably not a good fit for you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm very disappointed about this, Jordan. O.

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Speaker 4: Hey, I'm sorry to disappoint you, but I'm sure there's

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Speaker 4: a lot of guys who would love to have your

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Speaker 4: sparkle all over them. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: There is. And his name is Nate, and I'm going

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Speaker 3: on a day with him actually tonight. So whatever, Okay,

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Speaker 3: you Wile's first date fall