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Speaker 1: Hi. I am Kate Hudson and my name is Oliver Hudson.

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Speaker 1: We wanted to do something that highlighted our relationship and

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Speaker 1: what it's like to be siblings. We are a sibling raivalry. No, no, sibling.

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Speaker 1: You don't do that with your mouth revelry. That's good, Oliver. Yes,

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Speaker 1: we're back together, excited about this. This is our first episode,

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Speaker 1: is not It is our first episode of the season,

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Speaker 1: first episode of the season. We've got a lot to

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Speaker 1: catch up on. Oh my god, years, years and well

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Speaker 1: at least months, I mean months. And I'm excited because

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Speaker 1: we've built up a great h set of episodes that

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Speaker 1: are coming your way. And now Allie and I get

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Speaker 1: to kind of reconnect as to why the fuck we

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Speaker 1: haven't been doing this. I know I thought you were out,

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Speaker 1: you know you did. I had dark moments. There's a

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Speaker 1: lot of pain. I'm not out drinking whiskey, smoking cigarettes.

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Speaker 1: That had nothing to do with me. You're right, don't

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Speaker 1: make that my issue. That is just your own, that's

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Speaker 1: your like happy place. No, but it was you know

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Speaker 1: what it was. You had to do what you had

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Speaker 1: to do. You were a working woman, a working mother,

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Speaker 1: dealing with so many things in Greece and Serbia. I

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Speaker 1: had it. It was good. It was fun for me though.

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Speaker 1: It was good cause I got to have Aaron on,

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Speaker 1: which was a blast. Yeah. I revealed a lot of

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Speaker 1: secrets about myself. I know, I heard. I still haven't

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Speaker 1: listened to me. Don't do it, don't listen. Part of

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Speaker 1: me feels like it's like I'm kind of like, I

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Speaker 1: don't know if I want to listen to the episode.

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Speaker 1: There's no there's no need going to listen. No, I

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Speaker 1: want to hear Aaron. She's so damn cute. I can't

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Speaker 1: stand it, Like I literally can't. I just want to

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Speaker 1: talk about Aaron for one second, because she's just like

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Speaker 1: the greatest human being who also has this like feisty

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Speaker 1: side that when it like shows itself, which is crazy.

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Speaker 1: Oh she can get she can get wild and crazy,

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Speaker 1: she can get white hot angry. Yeah yes, and then

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Speaker 1: like something can happen and there could be like a

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Speaker 1: little It's like a if you'd think she was a

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Speaker 1: scorpio because she has that like scorpio tail situation. But

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Speaker 1: I just did her chart and she actually has a

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Speaker 1: lot of fire in her chart and her north node

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Speaker 1: is in Leo and the north node is the direction

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Speaker 1: in which we want to go in life. Not so

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Speaker 1: cool with her north node being in Leo. Why, Leo's

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Speaker 1: like a handsome guys star and her you know, she's

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Speaker 1: her notes are glitterius. Right, is this that we're talking about? No,

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Speaker 1: her north node is not in Leo. Well, that's what

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Speaker 1: we call her clatoral regions. Your north node, the north

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, thank god. Our family is so crazy

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Speaker 1: and open and fine with these things. No. So anyway,

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Speaker 1: so what the north node means, the south note is

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Speaker 1: where you came in from into this as we birthed

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Speaker 1: into this world. The north note is where we're headed,

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Speaker 1: and it's where we where we should be working towards going.

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Speaker 1: They're the most interesting parts of our zodiac sides because

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Speaker 1: if you get really into it, you can get into

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Speaker 1: sort of past lives and stuff like that. If you're

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Speaker 1: into this. If you're not, you can just whatever. Fast forward.

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Speaker 1: But so her north notes is going into Leo, which

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Speaker 1: is there a lot of fire, and then she's got

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Speaker 1: all these other signs on fire. So she's it's going

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Speaker 1: to be these next couple of years are going to

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Speaker 1: kind of focus on is really important. Let's talk about Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I loved to my wife this morning. It was it

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Speaker 1: it was a thing that happened. We had these like

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Speaker 1: we did a side slide, so she was like on

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Speaker 1: her side, the Sunday slider. Yes, the side slide's good.

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Speaker 1: Everyone's comfortable. You can put your head on a pillow.

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Speaker 1: it's the one that you like, months will go by. Yes,

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Speaker 1: has this been the position we've done every for the

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Speaker 1: I've been caught in the side. It's like this tornado.

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Speaker 1: So we got to break out. Yeah, we gotta got

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Speaker 1: its lazy. It's like going on the same hike, right,

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Speaker 1: Sometimes you gotta go down the street. Sometimes you gotta like, like,

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Speaker 1: you know what, let's do the hike near Malley. Yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's a great analogy. It's going on the same hike. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: still get the workout. It's still nice. Yeah, exactly, just

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Speaker 1: not going to hike. But this episode is called side Slide. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm glad or Sunday Slider. Sunday Slider. Yes, we've been

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Speaker 1: gone for a long time. I know. So let's talk

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Speaker 1: about how our relationship has been in this last year. Well,

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Speaker 1: this show is bringing us back together. Yeah, we've been

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Speaker 1: you were away. Yeah in Europe, I mean it's not

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Speaker 1: and traveling feels and the anxiety that you have and

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Speaker 1: with travel and moving around. Like actually getting to Greece,

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Speaker 1: which is a place that I love that I've been

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Speaker 1: the Aegean, the beautiful, the magical, A G and c.

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Speaker 1: But but yeah, so it was sort of like all

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Speaker 1: I just I don't know, it was it was just

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Speaker 1: magical and it's great. Well I was in Colorado, Danny,

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Speaker 1: to go back to thing. I know. Well, let's not

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Speaker 1: let's talk about I don't want to talk about I've

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Speaker 1: already talked about it. Actually, I've already talked about it.

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Speaker 1: I have everybody listeners are caught up on my bullshit.

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Speaker 1: But if anyone's concerned, I'm feeling great. You know what

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Speaker 1: I was just thinking about when you were talking about

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Speaker 1: just make sure everything is there so you don't have to,

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Speaker 1: water and my depression, because once you're connecting these two

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Speaker 1: the lady bag Ollie. Let's talk about what we're looking

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Speaker 1: forward to this season that we're doing and why we're

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Speaker 1: we've like curated this year. Well this for this scheduling, okay,

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Speaker 1: is is us when we're fresh and vibrant and ready

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Speaker 1: to fucking party. You know, we were not. Are you

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Speaker 1: ready to fucking party? Off? I'm ready to party? Are you? Like?

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Speaker 1: I'm excited. I'm excited to be ready doing this with

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Speaker 1: it's low maintenance. I like low maintenance family. You think

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Speaker 1: you crying? No, I have like a thing in my eye. Yeah. Right,

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Speaker 1: there's nothing about the maintenance of our family that makes

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Speaker 1: like a couple's klonic room. But just for me and

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Speaker 1: People different. We're like, yeah, well some of us, some

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Speaker 1: of us dueling colonics. Well, it's great that you and

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Speaker 1: the time, like if you do this, you're gonna fucking

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Speaker 1: let me down. It's not about that. It's just about

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Speaker 1: the natural respect I think that they have yus. There's

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Speaker 1: a level of freedom that we give them. But when

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Speaker 1: not sort of becomes disrespected or something happens that might

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Speaker 1: sort of it. You know, they feel bad, They feel

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Speaker 1: bad that they put themselves in that situation because they

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Speaker 1: know they want they want to do better. Yeah, with

431
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Speaker 1: my kids, it's just about telling the goddamn truth. I mean,

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Speaker 1: that is it. If they tell me the truth when

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Speaker 1: I ask them, they're good, I wouldn't I'd tell a

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Speaker 1: wild like, I would never get angry at you if

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Speaker 1: you just tell me the truth. And then he said,

436
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Speaker 1: deb well, Dad, what do you expect me to, like,

437
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Speaker 1: come home from a friend's house and just tell you

438
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Speaker 1: my dad everything. I said, honestly, dude, no, I don't

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Speaker 1: even I don't expect that. I don't expect you to

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Speaker 1: come home and say, hey, I had a beer tonight,

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Speaker 1: or I had have shot at tequila or whatever. No,

442
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Speaker 1: but when I ask you, and I'm not going to

443
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Speaker 1: ask you every second, but when I do, just be

444
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Speaker 1: upfront and tell me the truth. I sometimes I think

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Speaker 1: my approach might be different because, like, I don't want

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Speaker 1: the kids like I think it's I think it's in

447
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Speaker 1: our nature to do things that our parents don't know about,

448
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Speaker 1: of course, but I think that the thing is is

449
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Speaker 1: that I think there does need to be a sense

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Speaker 1: of trust, meaning that that the things that they are

451
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Speaker 1: going to do aren't going to get in the way

452
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Speaker 1: of the things that they need to show up for,

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Speaker 1: right And if something you know, like I know this

454
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Speaker 1: sounds weird, but like, if you're dumb enough to get caught,

455
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Speaker 1: we got a problem. And that problem for me isn't

456
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Speaker 1: necessarily about transparency, but it's about trust, and it's about

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Speaker 1: and then it's about boundaries. And you know, like I

458
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Speaker 1: don't well now writers writers writers, now, yeah, that's a

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Speaker 1: totally different thing. So but but with you ments I

460
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Speaker 1: did right right Rid. But Rider, I mean, I feel

461
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Speaker 1: like I got really lucky with Rider. A Rider was

462
00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 1: you know, he was so easy. I don't know. I

463
00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:11,120
Speaker 1: think every parent deals with these things differently. Some some

464
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Speaker 1: you know, and like I remember growing up, like there

465
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Speaker 1: were kids we would go over to their house and

466
00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:19,720
Speaker 1: like you'd walk in, you'd think there was no parent there.

467
00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:22,719
Speaker 1: Like we would be everywhere. There'd be like bong hits,

468
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Speaker 1: Like people would be like, oh my god, like and

469
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Speaker 1: you're like, oh my god, there's a party. Who's parents

470
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 1: are at town? And then like a parent would walk

471
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Speaker 1: and be like guys, hey, like I just got back,

472
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Speaker 1: like you guys have fun today. And then they're like

473
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Speaker 1: go in their bedroom and you'd be like, what house

474
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Speaker 1: is like this? Yea, Like some friends that we grew

475
00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:43,600
Speaker 1: up with parents had didn't care about any of it.

476
00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:50,639
Speaker 1: Then others were like missus, mister strict. You know, kids

477
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Speaker 1: that couldn't need the house. They had to like you know,

478
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:55,920
Speaker 1: come in at a certain time. They did know exactly

479
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Speaker 1: to talk to them, like that parent would have to

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Speaker 1: talk to mom or pop to make sure someone was

481
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Speaker 1: at the you know what I mean. Our parents were

482
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Speaker 1: kind of in the middle middle. I try to be

483
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Speaker 1: in the middle. I always try to remember that I

484
00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:10,160
Speaker 1: was fucking fourteen years old. I try not to be hypocritical.

485
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:13,119
Speaker 1: I want to be a parent and also understanding at

486
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Speaker 1: the same time. You know, and I think about it,

487
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Speaker 1: when we were fourteen, we weren't doing anything different than

488
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Speaker 1: what the kids are doing now. Some of them, of course,

489
00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:23,920
Speaker 1: are way over the top, but I'm talking about specifically

490
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Speaker 1: my kids. At fourteen, you were doing what you were

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Speaker 1: doing at fourteen, I would be, well, well, fourteen, let

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Speaker 1: me see fourteen. I wasn't crazy at fourteen, No, I

493
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Speaker 1: mean I was. I got drunk. I got really drunk

494
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Speaker 1: at twelve, and I drank a huge bottle of Jack Daniels,

495
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Speaker 1: not understanding how much liquor to drink, and I remember

496
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Speaker 1: I was so sick. I was trying to crawl in

497
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Speaker 1: the dirt. I was like literally trying to dig into

498
00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:55,920
Speaker 1: the dirt and had alcohol poisoning and I slept in

499
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Speaker 1: my friend John's. Maybe that's why for the rest of

500
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Speaker 1: your life you've had that like weird hangover thing. Maybe

501
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Speaker 1: you destroyed your liver really young. Wow, because I didn't

502
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Speaker 1: drink that much. I'd say like fifteen, you know, sixteen

503
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 1: started smoking a little weed, just smoking cigarettes. So at

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Speaker 1: thirteen or fourteen, you know what I mean, it was

505
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Speaker 1: never it was never nuts. Yeah, it was just right

506
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Speaker 1: on track. I was like I was eighteen. Seventeen is

507
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Speaker 1: when it got out of control. You know. I was

508
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Speaker 1: literally at fourteen, I was like ready to have like

509
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Speaker 1: a little martini at the Carlisle Bar, like working on

510
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Speaker 1: my power point. We were ready. I was like ready

511
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Speaker 1: to have my own apartment in the in the city

512
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Speaker 1: right when we were down. Remember Dad was when we

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Speaker 1: were seeing him, it was like you like order like

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Speaker 1: a shabbilee at lunch. It was Dad's joke. It was

515
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Speaker 1: also so like weird because I didn't even understand what

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Speaker 1: he was talking about. All right. I remember that, like

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Speaker 1: she'll have a shabbie. It's like, is that like an insult?

518
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Speaker 1: You're a waiter. He loved insulting me our father. That's great,

519
00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:09,560
Speaker 1: didn't wonders for the way he showed love. Yeah, I

520
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Speaker 1: was eata means daughter and ordered chab. I was like

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Speaker 1: I was like four, No remember Dad said that we

522
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Speaker 1: were delivered by a stork. Yeah, saying I was adopted

523
00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:23,280
Speaker 1: and that and that the mean was our real fun.

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Speaker 1: That's so dark and like fucked up, but yeah, I

525
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Speaker 1: try to remember that I was that age and and

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Speaker 1: and parent accordingly. Any who, Uh, this is to kickoff

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Speaker 1: kickoff after the new season. I loved talking about our kids.

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Speaker 1: And we got a million not a million yet, like

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Speaker 1: nine hundred thousand amazing guests that will yeah, nine thousand.

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Speaker 1: We're booked out for the next hundred years. And uh yeah,

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Speaker 1: and I'm excited. I'm excited to share with you everything

532
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:04,880
Speaker 1: we've been putting together. And Allie and I are, We're

533
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Speaker 1: back in the saddle. We're and I'm riding a Buckskin.

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Speaker 1: What are you riding? Well, I mean that would be

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Speaker 1: usually what I ride. What do you mean I called it? Yeah,

536
00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 1: but I had a Buckskin. Yeah, but you're probably I

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Speaker 1: actually read, all right, a Palomino, but Bud was a Buckskin.

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Speaker 1: I know you got to be on Palomino because I

539
00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:26,960
Speaker 1: already called the buckskin. Okay, or you know what, maybe

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Speaker 1: I'll just be on a black Stallion. That's fine, bare

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Speaker 1: back hot love that didn't come out the way it

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Speaker 1: was meant to all right Right. Sibling Revelry is executive

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Speaker 1: produced by Kate Hudson and Oliver Hudson. Producer is Alison. President,

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Speaker 1: editor is Josh Wendish. Music by Mark Hudson aka Uncle Mark.

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