WEBVTT - Ep. 40: Secrets and The Hidden World of Whitetail Hunters

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<v Speaker 1>M as a human. I'm gonna share knowledge that's important

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<v Speaker 1>to me with another individual in order to bring them in.

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<v Speaker 1>I affirm you, I'm willing to kind of share my

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<v Speaker 1>lot with you. On this episode of the Burgrease Podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>we're exploring the secret world of white tail hunters. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to know why these rascals keep secrets, who they

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<v Speaker 1>share them with, but also who they're holding out on.

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<v Speaker 1>The answers might surprise you, and if you listen, you

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<v Speaker 1>just might learn something about the people you think are

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<v Speaker 1>your friends, but also yourself. You may be more slippery

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<v Speaker 1>than you think and not as pure in motivation as

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<v Speaker 1>you think. We're going to interrogate two hardened white tail

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<v Speaker 1>hunters and wring the truth out of them. We'll talk

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<v Speaker 1>with an anthropologist about deep human psychology and learn how

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<v Speaker 1>social media has changed how we distribute information. You're not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna want to miss this one without your son knowing.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever showed those pictures to someone that you

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<v Speaker 1>told him you weren't going to believe it or not? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>my name is Clay Nukelem and this is the bear

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<v Speaker 1>Grease Podcast where we'll explore things forgotten but relevant, search

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<v Speaker 1>for insight and unlikely places and where we'll tell the

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<v Speaker 1>story of Americans who lived their lives close to the

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<v Speaker 1>land presented by f HF gear, American made, purpose built

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<v Speaker 1>hunting and fishing gear that's designed to be as rugged

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<v Speaker 1>as the places we explore. I have a secret. This

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<v Speaker 1>secret has plagued me, causing me to consistently lose sleep

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<v Speaker 1>over the last two years. It's caused irrational excitement but

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<v Speaker 1>also grievous pain. I have exercised extreme caution in the

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<v Speaker 1>dissemination of information regarding this secret, and it might surprise

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<v Speaker 1>you who I've shared the information with and who it's

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<v Speaker 1>been withheld from. It's clear why people keep secrets, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's not so clear why people tell them, and oh

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<v Speaker 1>they do, and I'm in search of why. The choices

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<v Speaker 1>I've made about my secret have been more instinctual than conscious.

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<v Speaker 1>I've released information with strict stipulations, and every time I've

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<v Speaker 1>done it, I've wondered if my trust would be betrayed,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm certain that at times it has. Interestingly, my

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<v Speaker 1>secret didn't have to be shared for me to read

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<v Speaker 1>the potential reward of it. I didn't have to share

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<v Speaker 1>it with anyone, but some madness beyond conscious choice. Drove

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<v Speaker 1>my wandering lips to mumble. It drove my fingers to

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<v Speaker 1>type messages that had information that I wanted no one

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<v Speaker 1>to know about, or maybe I did want them to know.

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<v Speaker 1>While sitting thirty feet up in a walnut tree on

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<v Speaker 1>November one one, I had a peculiar revelation. This thing

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<v Speaker 1>that I was hiding was the thing I most wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to share with the world. It was an odd paradox,

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<v Speaker 1>a moment of internal confliction wrought with irony. I recognized

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<v Speaker 1>that I was being driven by leverages. I wasn't pushing,

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<v Speaker 1>perhaps a mechanism as old as mankind. If there's one

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<v Speaker 1>thing I've learned growing up in rural America, it's that

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<v Speaker 1>hunters have secrets. I've spent a lifetime trying to unravel

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<v Speaker 1>why some are so reckless and others are like a

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<v Speaker 1>sealed bank vault. I've also evaluated my own prepensive to

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<v Speaker 1>mumble things best left unspoken. But one thing is consistent.

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<v Speaker 1>Hunters love to talk, and if you listen, you'll learn

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<v Speaker 1>a lot. We're about to hear two exclusive expose interviews

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<v Speaker 1>with some men who have been hardened by decades of

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<v Speaker 1>immersion into the white tailed world. I want to know

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<v Speaker 1>why and how these accomplished white tail hunters keep and

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<v Speaker 1>distribute their secrets, and Ludi laude do they have them?

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<v Speaker 1>These men know every trick in the book and have

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<v Speaker 1>used them all. And because of the gravity of his conscience,

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<v Speaker 1>Mo Shepherd has put his reputation on the line. Here's Mo,

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<v Speaker 1>you better buckle up on your cellular phone. How many

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<v Speaker 1>pictures of white tailed deer do you have that our

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<v Speaker 1>secret that you would not show just a stranger? Several several?

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<v Speaker 1>How many you can you give me a number? I

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<v Speaker 1>probably dozen pictures probably that wouldn't show anybody unless they

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<v Speaker 1>was really close friends or something that I was, that

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<v Speaker 1>we were hunting together, and then I might still not

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<v Speaker 1>show them. So why wouldn't you show somebody? Like if

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<v Speaker 1>if you were just at Walmart down here and you

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<v Speaker 1>met a guy and he was a hunter, and you're like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>look at this, look at this picture, why wouldn't you

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<v Speaker 1>do that? But for starters, even if I didn't know

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<v Speaker 1>the guy very well, he might know somebody that knows

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<v Speaker 1>me very well, and he said the deer I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to hunt or was trying to hunt, or had been hunting,

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<v Speaker 1>and he says, Hey, I've seen a loo up there

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<v Speaker 1>to day, and he showed me a picture of his

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<v Speaker 1>marsh buckle. You know, I've been seeing his truck park

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<v Speaker 1>over there in such and suchs on this road out there,

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<v Speaker 1>on public land, on this national forest. That must be

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<v Speaker 1>where he's hunting at. You know. But phrases and stuff together,

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<v Speaker 1>they could crack you down. Okay, So from what you've said,

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<v Speaker 1>it's clear to me that you've thought this through multiple stages.

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<v Speaker 1>So how many times have you done that to someone else? Sah?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I know that if you know that people do this,

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<v Speaker 1>it's because you've done it. Yeah, that's why I said several, many,

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<v Speaker 1>if not most, of the things we do as humans

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<v Speaker 1>happen beyond the purview of our conscious choice. Part of

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<v Speaker 1>the reason we're still here on planet Earth is that

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<v Speaker 1>we've developed strategies for survival, and the foundation of all

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<v Speaker 1>of it is the acquisition of knowledge. Knowledge is the

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<v Speaker 1>vehicle by which we acquire the essential material things for survival,

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<v Speaker 1>like food, mates, skills, et cetera. We constantly use the

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<v Speaker 1>clues around us to gain knowledge, whether looking at how

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<v Speaker 1>crowded a restaurant parking lot is to determine how good

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<v Speaker 1>the food is, or noting that the same truck has

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<v Speaker 1>been parkinger a big, old wide oak ridge for three

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<v Speaker 1>days straight during deer season. We're hungry for knowledge. Much

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<v Speaker 1>of it is unconsciously filed away. Thomas Jefferson once wrote

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<v Speaker 1>knowledge is power, knowledge is safety, and knowledge is happiness.

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<v Speaker 1>Jefferson didn't create this idea, but he put words around

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<v Speaker 1>something very old. Humans want knowledge, and it's the key

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<v Speaker 1>to success. The way in which we distribute the knowledge

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<v Speaker 1>we have is as important as the gaining of knowledge

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<v Speaker 1>or information we don't have. We gain information and give

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<v Speaker 1>information at its foundational level. This is the architecture of

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<v Speaker 1>daily human life. The second white tail secret holder whose

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<v Speaker 1>conscience has become too heavy a burden to carry without

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<v Speaker 1>confession is Rusty Johnson. Here he is. How many bucks

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<v Speaker 1>on your cellular phone? Do you have pictures of on

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<v Speaker 1>your phone that you could not show me without breaking

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<v Speaker 1>your word to someone? Just an estimate, I'd say at

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<v Speaker 1>least a dozen, at least it doesn't okay? Now, are

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<v Speaker 1>these pictures that you have gotten that you have made

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<v Speaker 1>a vow that you're gonna show no one? Or are

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<v Speaker 1>these pictures that people have shared with you that you

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<v Speaker 1>have swore that you would not share. I would say

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<v Speaker 1>a combination of my own pictures and my son's pictures

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<v Speaker 1>without your son knowing. Have you ever shown those pictures

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<v Speaker 1>to someone that you told him you weren't going to

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<v Speaker 1>believe it or not? Yeah? Okay? But but I mean

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<v Speaker 1>it's like one or two people? Who do you share

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<v Speaker 1>white tails secrets with? Uh? Only two people? Really? I

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<v Speaker 1>mean who are so described the relationship you have with

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<v Speaker 1>These two people have to say their names. One is

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<v Speaker 1>my son, okay, and the other is a really good friend. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I know some intell about you. You have a

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<v Speaker 1>wider knit group of people that you hunt with. Are

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<v Speaker 1>you telling me that there are things between you and

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<v Speaker 1>your son that are not shared inside of that wider communities? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>And my dad, But my dad's kind of he's out

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<v Speaker 1>of this is important. See, if we were in a

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<v Speaker 1>criminal trial here, you would be held in contempt of

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<v Speaker 1>court if you had said you're working a lot. So

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<v Speaker 1>your dad is a part of this, he is, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So close knit family, m M. Very interesting. Dad's can

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<v Speaker 1>often be the vow busters of white tail secrets. But

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<v Speaker 1>I bet there's more to this. Here's Mosley. Okay, has

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<v Speaker 1>someone shared a deer picture with you that you swore

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<v Speaker 1>to secrecy that you'd never share, that you shared you

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<v Speaker 1>did share with someone? Tell the truth. I'm thinking it's

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<v Speaker 1>a long awkward pause, staring off into the distance. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think I have because I, okay, now this this,

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<v Speaker 1>I know how this goes down. I say i'd send

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<v Speaker 1>you a text, and I go, hey, I'm gonna send

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<v Speaker 1>you a picture and I don't want you to send

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<v Speaker 1>it to anyone ever. And then when you get home

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<v Speaker 1>you show it to your wife. I mean, you've already

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<v Speaker 1>done what you said you weren't gonna do. Or this

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<v Speaker 1>is the other way it happens. You end up showing

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<v Speaker 1>it to a guy in Illinois and you justify it

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<v Speaker 1>because you're like, this is totally irrelevant information to this guy.

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<v Speaker 1>He's not. So I'm gonna read I'm gonna ask you

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<v Speaker 1>the question again and give you a chance to be

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<v Speaker 1>honest with me. Okay, have you ever shared a photo

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<v Speaker 1>with someone that you said you never would? Yes? Or

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<v Speaker 1>And I told the person that showed me the photo

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<v Speaker 1>that would maybe one time, and he said the answer

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<v Speaker 1>had to be yes, yes one time? And it was

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<v Speaker 1>to my wife. Very interesting. Again, wives seem to have

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<v Speaker 1>some val busting capabilities too. Let's get deeper. Here's curly.

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<v Speaker 1>How how would you feel if you shared a picture

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<v Speaker 1>of a deer with someone and then you found out

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<v Speaker 1>that they had shared that picture with someone else if

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<v Speaker 1>I had asked them not to share it, I would

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<v Speaker 1>be disappointed. What level of disappointment would you go fist

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<v Speaker 1>fight them? Would you? The level of disappointment would be

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<v Speaker 1>that I would not send them anything else or sharing

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<v Speaker 1>you would? You would? They would lose that trust, They

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<v Speaker 1>would lose my trust. Yeah, wouldn't cost a friendship or nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>I would just definitely lose a great fist fought anybody

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<v Speaker 1>over a deer? Uh? No, way back. I did almost

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<v Speaker 1>get into a fist fight over a fishing spot. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>for yeah, way back though. So it bowled down to

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<v Speaker 1>I had some fish found, and I had a small

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<v Speaker 1>boat with a small motor, and they saw me fishing

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<v Speaker 1>in that spot, and we fished the bass fishing. We

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<v Speaker 1>fished bass tournaments, and so they knew where I had

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<v Speaker 1>I had those fish located. They had a bigger boat

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<v Speaker 1>with a bigger motor, and when we took off in

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<v Speaker 1>this particular tournament. They beat me to that spot. It's

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<v Speaker 1>anybody's lake, you know, it's a public lake. But still

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<v Speaker 1>I thought that was a very unsportsman like and when,

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<v Speaker 1>of course I was young back then. When I got

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<v Speaker 1>back to the way in, I let him know about it,

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<v Speaker 1>confronted him about it. I said, why did you go

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<v Speaker 1>to my, uh, fishing spot? I said, well, this is

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<v Speaker 1>anybody can go anywhere on this lake. It's a public lake.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, yes, but I found those fish. You saw

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<v Speaker 1>me fishing there, and you deliberately went to my spot,

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<v Speaker 1>and boy, they started bowing up, you know, and that

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<v Speaker 1>we didn't fight. We didn't fight, but we did have

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<v Speaker 1>some words, and uh, we didn't speak for a while.

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<v Speaker 1>When information is distributed like these guys saw Curly catching fish,

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<v Speaker 1>even if it's not a purpose, it's clear that Curly

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<v Speaker 1>had an expectation of how that knowledge would be handled,

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<v Speaker 1>and when it wasn't, he got upset. We're getting deeper,

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<v Speaker 1>here's Moseley. Have you ever had legitimate concern that showing

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<v Speaker 1>a picture to someone family members, friends, would have resulted

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<v Speaker 1>in them actually going to your hunting spot and hunting

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<v Speaker 1>I have made the mistake a few times of a

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<v Speaker 1>few people that I saw something big or sound, saw

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<v Speaker 1>some big sign, And a couple of instances I had

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<v Speaker 1>people to come back to a spot or I'd run

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<v Speaker 1>into them there and they never hunted there before. They

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<v Speaker 1>claimed it was just out of the blue that they

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<v Speaker 1>were there, but I feared it was because we discussed

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<v Speaker 1>it and they knew I was hunting in that area

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<v Speaker 1>or something. So okay, well let's turn the tables here.

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<v Speaker 1>How often has someone given you information that you capitalized

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<v Speaker 1>on later? Very little? Because I'll tell the truth. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>telling the truth very little that I've capitalized on most

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<v Speaker 1>of the time. That's just the way I am. If

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<v Speaker 1>if if they're a friend espasically of me or somebody

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<v Speaker 1>that I've hunted with before, whatever, then if they tell

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<v Speaker 1>me something, then I'll be straight up with him. I'll say,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm hunt that area once in a while,

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<v Speaker 1>but you know, if you're gonna keep hunting in there,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to go in there, you know. But

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<v Speaker 1>a total stranger that I've run across somewhere and heard

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<v Speaker 1>him talking about something, that's a different story, and I

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<v Speaker 1>have used that to my advantage especially. I've used it

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<v Speaker 1>three or four times I've heard people talking about turkeys,

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<v Speaker 1>hearing lots of turkeys, but they were so smart I

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't do nothing with them. Okay, So you've said to

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<v Speaker 1>me that if it's a friend that gives you information,

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna be real clearing up front with them. If

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<v Speaker 1>it's a stranger that gives you information, it's fair game,

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<v Speaker 1>fair game. Okay. Mo, that's a problem because there's there's

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<v Speaker 1>multiple layers of friendship. Okay, So there's there's there's people

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<v Speaker 1>that are in between stranger and friend, and so where

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<v Speaker 1>is that line for instance? Well, first off, let me

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<v Speaker 1>butt in on you here. First off, you have to

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<v Speaker 1>be your own judge on what much information you let

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<v Speaker 1>loose when it's somebody that's okay, we're putting personal responsibility

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<v Speaker 1>on the person information out. Okay, give me a categorization

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<v Speaker 1>of friends. Where does a fan like a direct family

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<v Speaker 1>member fit on this? Family members are different from friends?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, so there's many stratifications. Now, wait a minute,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought family was inbounds for sharing secrets and responsibly

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<v Speaker 1>handling their seek grits. Not So it seems this is

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<v Speaker 1>a bit more nuanced than I originally thought. Here's curly

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<v Speaker 1>on why he keeps secrets. And I still haven't told

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<v Speaker 1>you my secret. So why do you think you are

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<v Speaker 1>so secretive about white? How's what caused my dad? Why?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I learned growing up hunting with him. He got

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<v Speaker 1>burnt a few times by some friends. He always taught

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<v Speaker 1>me to be he's secretive about everything. But he was

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<v Speaker 1>always really secretive about hunting and fishing. Really, so as

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<v Speaker 1>a boy, your dad told you he was like, man,

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<v Speaker 1>if you know where a deer is, you better keep

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<v Speaker 1>it tight lipped, absolutely from a young boy. Yes, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean we're we're talking like back in the eighties. Can

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<v Speaker 1>you go into any kind of detail without names of

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<v Speaker 1>what happened in those scenarios that branded your dad like this? Yeah. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>he had a friend that he had hunted with a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit, and uh, that friend went into a certain spot.

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<v Speaker 1>My dad had found a really good but we didn't

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<v Speaker 1>have game cameras back then. But I mean he had

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<v Speaker 1>found a good buck, seen this good buck, told this

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<v Speaker 1>friend about this spot, and the friend didn't say a

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<v Speaker 1>word to him and went in right behind his back

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<v Speaker 1>and went there and killed that buck. How did your

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<v Speaker 1>dad found out about it? Well, he saw the buck.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, the guy killed it and he brought it

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<v Speaker 1>back into town and everything and was bragging about it.

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<v Speaker 1>And of course, you know word of mouth. My dad

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<v Speaker 1>does not. He doesn't get mad about things like that.

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<v Speaker 1>But he just learned from He learned from it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it did not ruin the friendship or anything like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh really, Yeah, he's not one to get mad about stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>he said. He just like, he just said, He's like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>these interrogations should have us all thinking about ourselves. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you keep secrets? Do you share the secrets of others?

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<v Speaker 1>Be honest? How do you justify it when you do.

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<v Speaker 1>There's an ancient statue in the country of Turkey, which

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<v Speaker 1>is ironic because we know Turkey hunters are such liars,

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<v Speaker 1>called the Statue of Dodginess. It's believed to been created

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<v Speaker 1>in a year four twelve. It's a man standing beside

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<v Speaker 1>his dog and he's holding up a lamp and he

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<v Speaker 1>appears to be searching in the light cast by the lamp.

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<v Speaker 1>It said that he's looking for an honest man. This

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<v Speaker 1>is old stuff. It's clear that there are spectrums of

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<v Speaker 1>secret keepers. Some people are loose lipped and others have

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<v Speaker 1>tight lips. But one thanks for sure. We all have

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<v Speaker 1>a strategy for how we disseminate and use information. This

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<v Speaker 1>is deep human psychology and I continue to be fascinated

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<v Speaker 1>by the things that governed our lives beyond our conscious control.

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<v Speaker 1>Being aware of our actions and the way we make

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<v Speaker 1>decisions is important stuff. You all know. Dr Dan Route

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<v Speaker 1>from the Bear Grease Render. He's a professor of anthropology

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<v Speaker 1>at John Brown University. Strangely, he seems to know a

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<v Speaker 1>lot about secrets, and I want to get the details.

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<v Speaker 1>We've been talking about hunting secrets, but we'll need to

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<v Speaker 1>broaden our search criteria. Here's Dr Dan. Dr Dan, talk

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<v Speaker 1>to me about the general ideas of the dissemination of

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<v Speaker 1>knowledge amongst humans, which is like the most common We

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<v Speaker 1>do this every single day of our life, from the

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<v Speaker 1>time we wake up to the time we go to bed.

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<v Speaker 1>We are distributing information. Just make me informed about human

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<v Speaker 1>psychology and how we do that. Okay, So the gentleman

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<v Speaker 1>who really wrote the book on exchange, and so that's

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<v Speaker 1>what you're talking about. When we're talking about dissemination of knowledge.

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<v Speaker 1>People are sharing knowledge that they have, but they're not

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<v Speaker 1>broadcasting it near and far. Their selectively sharing information with others,

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<v Speaker 1>and then that is an exchange. They're hearing things back

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<v Speaker 1>and they're trading information in a sense that's called reciprocity.

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<v Speaker 1>So the woman who really wrote the book on literal

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<v Speaker 1>book and the name of the book, it's a French sociologist.

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<v Speaker 1>The name of the book is the gift. The whole

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<v Speaker 1>point of the entire book, Marcel Moss wrote it about

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<v Speaker 1>a hundred years ago, is that every gift has strings attached.

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<v Speaker 1>We every exchange has strings attached. I don't just give

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<v Speaker 1>you something for free. I want something back, even my

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<v Speaker 1>most well meaning thing, and certainly the thing that's been

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<v Speaker 1>shared the most among humans for millennia. Long before we

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<v Speaker 1>had money, long before we had products, long before we

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<v Speaker 1>had an economy, long before we had brands of clothing

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<v Speaker 1>or different things like that, was information. How do you

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<v Speaker 1>make this stone tool, how do you hunt this animal?

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<v Speaker 1>How do you engage in this agricultural activity of humanity?

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<v Speaker 1>Was knowledge? Knowledge is power. I mean, that's where we

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<v Speaker 1>get this this saying. And so when it comes to

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<v Speaker 1>the sharing of knowledge, it's always it's always a loaded exchange.

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<v Speaker 1>The currency of humans is knowledge. And we'll need to

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<v Speaker 1>remember that the term Reciprocity describes the exchange of knowledge,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's extremely important to know that knowledge is never free.

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<v Speaker 1>It always has strings attached. If you're like me, I

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<v Speaker 1>think you'll begin to see that this is true. Everything

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<v Speaker 1>has a string. As a human, I'm going to share

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<v Speaker 1>knowledge that's important to me and who I am or

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<v Speaker 1>who we are as a group with another individual or

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<v Speaker 1>another group in order to bring them in, in order

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<v Speaker 1>to say yes to them, I affirm you, I'm willing

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<v Speaker 1>to kind of share my lot with you. Whatever happens

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<v Speaker 1>to me happens to you. Whatever happens to you happens

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<v Speaker 1>to me. So we need to know the same stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>So so sharing information would be a very primitive act

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<v Speaker 1>of trying to old human relationship because because you wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>share information with your enemy, No, you would not. So

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<v Speaker 1>if I'm a hunter gatherer tribe and we have a

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<v Speaker 1>knowledge of how to make a certain type of arrowhead.

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<v Speaker 1>You've talked a lot about the Fulsome points or the

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<v Speaker 1>Clovis points. That information was over a thousand years disseminated

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<v Speaker 1>near and far. You can guarantee that as it was disseminated,

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<v Speaker 1>there are hunter gatherer bands that were in competition with

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<v Speaker 1>other bands, they would not be that quick to share

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<v Speaker 1>with them, or if they did share, they did it

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<v Speaker 1>for advantage, for security, for peace, for safety, because they

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<v Speaker 1>thought it would be better for them. You know, when

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<v Speaker 1>you think about humanity and kind of this idea of

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<v Speaker 1>a primitive human, it would make sense that there would

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<v Speaker 1>be kind of a deep psychology around how we distribute knowledge.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so close to us, though most of us, including myself,

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<v Speaker 1>have rarely really thought about it. To help understand it's

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<v Speaker 1>fundamental currency, it will help to get some deep history

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<v Speaker 1>on secret knowledge and how we've used it. Humans have

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<v Speaker 1>been keeping secrets and sharing secrets since the beginning. That's

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<v Speaker 1>certainly the case. No one would debate that. But really

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<v Speaker 1>in a kind of a historical written down literature, since

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<v Speaker 1>what when it really first hits the fan when it

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<v Speaker 1>comes to secret knowledge is in uh, something called gnosticism

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<v Speaker 1>in the Greco Roman world, and the word noses where

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<v Speaker 1>where we get gnosticism means secret knowledge, And so the

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<v Speaker 1>Greco Roman world for the first time humanity, at least

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<v Speaker 1>in the Roman you know, empire, a lot of them

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<v Speaker 1>have money and a lot of them have means, and

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<v Speaker 1>so they're not living day to day, and they're not

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<v Speaker 1>depending on practical, tangible activities to define themselves. So now

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<v Speaker 1>they're looking for a new way to have kind of

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<v Speaker 1>this home that's can system now theoretical knowledge home that

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<v Speaker 1>they share with other people who also know these secret facts.

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<v Speaker 1>And so all throughout the Roman Empire have these things

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<v Speaker 1>called mystery cults that creep up. Some of them were

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<v Speaker 1>religious and would offer what you know, we might call

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<v Speaker 1>a way of salvation. A lot of them were just

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<v Speaker 1>social clubs, like fraternal orders that have these secret rights

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<v Speaker 1>and passages, and not a lot of the fraternal orders

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<v Speaker 1>that exist today are kind of rooted from the world, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>came from this kind of Roman philosophy of a way

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<v Speaker 1>to have a sanctuary, a place of peace and security

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<v Speaker 1>and validation is to know something secret and share that

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<v Speaker 1>secret knowledge with others, select others, and so really it

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<v Speaker 1>goes far back and then today you can see them.

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<v Speaker 1>Humans haven't changed. We're still doing the same thing. People

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<v Speaker 1>love secret knowledge because me and the folks who know

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<v Speaker 1>what I know, we're in the end group and everybody

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<v Speaker 1>else is in the out group. And all of a sudden,

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<v Speaker 1>because I have a stable study in group, I can

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<v Speaker 1>take a deep breath and all the time we are

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<v Speaker 1>doing identity in this way. Someone who hunts like me,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, someone who maybe as a bow hunter, somebody

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<v Speaker 1>who watches their sense the way that I watch myself.

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<v Speaker 1>I hate to bring this up, you know, I'm thinking

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<v Speaker 1>this is an in group. Someone who who doesn't do that, well,

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<v Speaker 1>they're on the outgroup. And you stay and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you stay loyal to the what, the things that we

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<v Speaker 1>know and the things that we do, because that's who

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<v Speaker 1>we are. It's a powerful mechanism. And what you don't

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<v Speaker 1>do is share your knowledge, your secret knowledge, with anybody

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<v Speaker 1>you wouldn't want in your group. Now we're starting to

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<v Speaker 1>see the complexity of how we manage knowledge. Think about

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<v Speaker 1>that fuzzy feeling, the bond between you and someone else

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<v Speaker 1>when you share a juicy piece of information. It's very real.

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<v Speaker 1>But at a deeper level, we use secret knowledg edge

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<v Speaker 1>to build our personal identity. Our personal identity is who

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<v Speaker 1>we believe ourselves to be. So dr D are you

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<v Speaker 1>saying that me sharing a secret is more about me

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<v Speaker 1>than the person I'm sharing it with. It can be

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<v Speaker 1>so when you think about validation. If I'm in an

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<v Speaker 1>in group as a hunter, who is an established hunter,

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<v Speaker 1>and I know my trade and I know my skills.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna look around me and I want to add

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<v Speaker 1>members to my group, and there's gonna be people who

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<v Speaker 1>just have no question mark by their name. It's my children.

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<v Speaker 1>I without doubt I will share anything with them so

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<v Speaker 1>they could be in my group and be like me

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<v Speaker 1>and do what I do if they want to. But

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<v Speaker 1>then there are other folks who maybe there's no way

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<v Speaker 1>I would want them competing for the same resources in

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<v Speaker 1>the same way that I do, so, so in not

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<v Speaker 1>sharing my knowledge with them, I am invalid aiding their identity.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's a powerful, powerful statement. This is why knowledge

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<v Speaker 1>is power. For me to give that knowledge to someone,

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm saying I want you to be like me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I want to share even more than that, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to share identity with you. There it is. We

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<v Speaker 1>often share knowledge to validate others, but ultimately so that

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<v Speaker 1>they'll validate us. Whether it's family, a close friend, or

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<v Speaker 1>someone you want to be friends with. That reciprocity the

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<v Speaker 1>exchange of information signals and validates relationship. Why do you

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<v Speaker 1>want to share a trail camera picture of a buck

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<v Speaker 1>to someone that it's completely irrelevant to you want them

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<v Speaker 1>to thank your cool legit and then to know. Probably

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<v Speaker 1>this is as consistent as a gravity. Think about this.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you do when you see the best deer

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<v Speaker 1>hunter you know? You go and tell them about your

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<v Speaker 1>dear honey. You're signaling that you're the same. Remember when

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<v Speaker 1>I said dads can be val busters. It's because most

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<v Speaker 1>to us have a desire to show our dads that

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<v Speaker 1>were legit, and we want to share our lives with them.

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<v Speaker 1>We do this stuff all the time. This might explain

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<v Speaker 1>why on that cold November morning, I wanted so bad

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<v Speaker 1>to share my secret with the hunting world. The release

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<v Speaker 1>of that knowledge would have validated my personal identity. If

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<v Speaker 1>I would have told them my secret, they would have said,

0:27:24.160 --> 0:27:28.320
<v Speaker 1>oh man, that Clay is a real dear hunter. But

0:27:28.680 --> 0:27:31.960
<v Speaker 1>I still haven't told you what my secret is. I

0:27:32.040 --> 0:27:42.760
<v Speaker 1>may not talk to me about how dissemination of knowledge

0:27:43.160 --> 0:27:46.480
<v Speaker 1>is a request for relationship. In that relationship as a

0:27:46.520 --> 0:27:50.960
<v Speaker 1>string attached, which is this personal identity that I'm after. Absolutely,

0:27:51.320 --> 0:27:55.920
<v Speaker 1>identity construction is something that every human engages in almost

0:27:55.960 --> 0:27:59.679
<v Speaker 1>every conscious minute of their day, and even their subconscious

0:27:59.800 --> 0:28:01.560
<v Speaker 1>We know it or not, Whether we know it or not,

0:28:01.680 --> 0:28:05.600
<v Speaker 1>we are constantly constructing identity, and we're constantly asking for

0:28:05.640 --> 0:28:10.160
<v Speaker 1>a secure, socially accepted identity. Even the people that say

0:28:10.200 --> 0:28:14.040
<v Speaker 1>they're loners and they don't need anybody there, that's their identity.

0:28:14.160 --> 0:28:18.080
<v Speaker 1>That is there, people that are extroverted and involved in

0:28:18.160 --> 0:28:21.560
<v Speaker 1>social groups, and that's their identity. There's no there's not

0:28:21.640 --> 0:28:24.159
<v Speaker 1>a human on the planet that is exempt from this.

0:28:24.240 --> 0:28:27.720
<v Speaker 1>Even even a hermit living on a desert island. He

0:28:27.880 --> 0:28:30.960
<v Speaker 1>is in pursuit of identity. He is in pursuit of

0:28:31.000 --> 0:28:35.119
<v Speaker 1>an identity, and he's forming it socially. Even if he's

0:28:35.160 --> 0:28:39.280
<v Speaker 1>forming it by being antisocial, it's still social. Is still

0:28:39.320 --> 0:28:42.480
<v Speaker 1>in antisocial, it's still a social identity. And so when

0:28:42.480 --> 0:28:46.200
<v Speaker 1>you look at identity formation. J Walter is a British

0:28:46.520 --> 0:28:49.640
<v Speaker 1>sociologist and one of the main points that he's long

0:28:49.680 --> 0:28:51.800
<v Speaker 1>since dead, but one of his main points is that

0:28:52.200 --> 0:28:55.840
<v Speaker 1>as he was watching individualism really kind of gain its

0:28:55.920 --> 0:28:59.400
<v Speaker 1>stride and and just hit its pace. One of his

0:28:59.480 --> 0:29:03.600
<v Speaker 1>main point is that we are incapable of assigning our

0:29:03.680 --> 0:29:07.160
<v Speaker 1>own identities. We try all day long, but it just

0:29:07.320 --> 0:29:11.920
<v Speaker 1>leaves us insufficient. And what we need, every single one

0:29:11.960 --> 0:29:16.360
<v Speaker 1>of us, to some extent, needs external validation. And so

0:29:16.480 --> 0:29:20.120
<v Speaker 1>we talk about the dissemination of information, hunting secrets in

0:29:20.160 --> 0:29:23.200
<v Speaker 1>this case, and we're relating that to identity. I am

0:29:23.360 --> 0:29:28.600
<v Speaker 1>sharing information with you in no small part because I

0:29:28.680 --> 0:29:33.080
<v Speaker 1>want you to validate me. I either want you to

0:29:33.120 --> 0:29:35.880
<v Speaker 1>look at that photo and say, boy, Daniel, you are

0:29:35.960 --> 0:29:39.360
<v Speaker 1>awesome or you did it, or I want you to

0:29:39.440 --> 0:29:42.760
<v Speaker 1>turn around and share your photo of your big buck

0:29:43.080 --> 0:29:46.440
<v Speaker 1>with me. And it says to me, we value each other.

0:29:46.560 --> 0:29:50.160
<v Speaker 1>We look at each other, if not as equals, as

0:29:50.360 --> 0:29:54.560
<v Speaker 1>worthy of being in the same in group. There's no

0:29:54.640 --> 0:29:58.000
<v Speaker 1>rejection between you and I if we're sharing that knowledge,

0:29:58.400 --> 0:30:01.080
<v Speaker 1>but if we're kind of playing our cards close, then

0:30:01.480 --> 0:30:04.160
<v Speaker 1>either you or I one of us does not validate

0:30:04.240 --> 0:30:09.360
<v Speaker 1>the other, and that's an assault on my socially accepted identity.

0:30:09.560 --> 0:30:13.120
<v Speaker 1>So people are always ferreting out and hunting as it were,

0:30:13.440 --> 0:30:16.960
<v Speaker 1>for these in groups that they can fit in. There's

0:30:16.960 --> 0:30:20.360
<v Speaker 1>not a person on the planet that I think could

0:30:20.480 --> 0:30:24.840
<v Speaker 1>wouldn't see that in themselves if they really looked at it,

0:30:24.880 --> 0:30:27.960
<v Speaker 1>because it's so true when you really think about why

0:30:28.080 --> 0:30:29.760
<v Speaker 1>you do what you do. So I asked some of

0:30:29.760 --> 0:30:32.160
<v Speaker 1>these guys that I interviewed, I said, why do you

0:30:32.200 --> 0:30:35.040
<v Speaker 1>share a picture with these people that you're close to.

0:30:35.320 --> 0:30:37.720
<v Speaker 1>And I was kind of surprised because some of them

0:30:37.760 --> 0:30:42.760
<v Speaker 1>weren't really able to articulate why. But when we builed

0:30:42.760 --> 0:30:46.320
<v Speaker 1>it down, it was clear they're not sharing information with

0:30:46.400 --> 0:30:49.320
<v Speaker 1>someone that they don't want to be friends with. They're

0:30:49.360 --> 0:30:52.360
<v Speaker 1>not sharing information with their enemy, They're not sharing information

0:30:52.640 --> 0:30:56.480
<v Speaker 1>with someone that they don't perceive as kind of equal

0:30:56.520 --> 0:31:00.080
<v Speaker 1>to themselves. And they, oh, man, we're all we're all

0:31:00.120 --> 0:31:03.560
<v Speaker 1>looking for validation from people in some ways, you know,

0:31:03.680 --> 0:31:07.040
<v Speaker 1>trying to receive validation from someone else. You can quickly

0:31:07.080 --> 0:31:09.800
<v Speaker 1>go down that road and see that that is not healthy,

0:31:09.840 --> 0:31:12.120
<v Speaker 1>but they're parts of that that are very healthy. Sure,

0:31:12.360 --> 0:31:16.800
<v Speaker 1>we are designed to live inside of community. We are,

0:31:17.320 --> 0:31:20.440
<v Speaker 1>I mean, we're designed for relationship. And and Dan, I

0:31:20.840 --> 0:31:22.560
<v Speaker 1>say this all the time, and I go back to

0:31:22.600 --> 0:31:26.120
<v Speaker 1>it all the time. I think much of hunting, as

0:31:26.160 --> 0:31:29.080
<v Speaker 1>would be much of any other kind of activity we

0:31:29.160 --> 0:31:33.000
<v Speaker 1>engage with that involves other people, is really fueled by relationship.

0:31:33.240 --> 0:31:34.920
<v Speaker 1>So and I think one of the things that makes

0:31:35.000 --> 0:31:40.560
<v Speaker 1>hunting in particular so powerful relationally is it's practical, it's tangible,

0:31:40.720 --> 0:31:43.600
<v Speaker 1>it's out in the world. You can't learn it off

0:31:43.640 --> 0:31:46.680
<v Speaker 1>a video. You really need to be with someone who

0:31:46.800 --> 0:31:48.800
<v Speaker 1>is an expert who has done it. You need to

0:31:48.840 --> 0:31:52.160
<v Speaker 1>watch what they do. And this is what humans have

0:31:52.320 --> 0:31:57.719
<v Speaker 1>been doing forever. It's a powerful interaction that as humans

0:31:58.000 --> 0:32:02.160
<v Speaker 1>we just don't normally get because well, think about the

0:32:02.200 --> 0:32:03.959
<v Speaker 1>way that a lot of humans right now, a lot

0:32:04.000 --> 0:32:07.720
<v Speaker 1>of us do. Identity is digitally. So if if the

0:32:07.760 --> 0:32:11.000
<v Speaker 1>need for validation is so huge and we all need

0:32:11.040 --> 0:32:14.080
<v Speaker 1>it so deeply, and you would think all of these

0:32:14.120 --> 0:32:17.240
<v Speaker 1>folks who have huge social media presence and they have

0:32:17.280 --> 0:32:19.360
<v Speaker 1>all these followers, and they have all these likes, you

0:32:19.360 --> 0:32:22.440
<v Speaker 1>would think, man, good night, they've got validation off the charts.

0:32:22.720 --> 0:32:25.840
<v Speaker 1>Yet study after study after study. You know, doesn't matter

0:32:25.880 --> 0:32:29.160
<v Speaker 1>if it's a psychologist, a psychiatrist, a counselor whoever did

0:32:29.160 --> 0:32:34.760
<v Speaker 1>the study. Social scientists, psychologist, doesn't matter. Mental health decreases,

0:32:35.160 --> 0:32:39.440
<v Speaker 1>while there's a correlation between mental health and yeah, you're

0:32:39.440 --> 0:32:44.280
<v Speaker 1>in trouble. But that's true because so the longer you

0:32:44.400 --> 0:32:49.760
<v Speaker 1>get pseudo validation from an impersonal source, the lower your

0:32:49.800 --> 0:32:54.240
<v Speaker 1>mental health goes. The more validation you get from a

0:32:54.360 --> 0:32:58.960
<v Speaker 1>real life, real human being who cares about you by

0:32:59.000 --> 0:33:02.800
<v Speaker 1>sharing information with you, they're validating you. They're caring for you.

0:33:03.080 --> 0:33:07.600
<v Speaker 1>The more stable and robust your identity is because it's

0:33:07.640 --> 0:33:12.680
<v Speaker 1>not exclusively yours is shared, and that's the myth of

0:33:12.720 --> 0:33:16.040
<v Speaker 1>the rugged individual. We were not always bringing it back

0:33:16.080 --> 0:33:20.200
<v Speaker 1>to the We were not made to have identity in

0:33:20.240 --> 0:33:26.200
<v Speaker 1>and of ourselves. We need it validated externally. This is

0:33:26.240 --> 0:33:29.480
<v Speaker 1>fascinating stuff. And when we swoop back down to our

0:33:29.520 --> 0:33:33.000
<v Speaker 1>specific topic, which is how we share hunting secrets, it

0:33:33.080 --> 0:33:39.560
<v Speaker 1>even gets more interesting. When you are engaging in trading

0:33:39.680 --> 0:33:44.760
<v Speaker 1>hunting information, you just stepped into the shoes or sandals

0:33:44.840 --> 0:33:50.960
<v Speaker 1>or moccasin's crocs, crocs, brint reefs of humans for millennia.

0:33:51.680 --> 0:33:53.960
<v Speaker 1>Whereas when we swipe our credit card, when I get

0:33:53.960 --> 0:33:56.960
<v Speaker 1>out on my phone, I'm doing something that humanity has

0:33:56.960 --> 0:33:59.240
<v Speaker 1>done for all of five minutes. But as a hunter,

0:33:59.520 --> 0:34:02.800
<v Speaker 1>when I'm engaging and sharing hunting secrets or even just

0:34:02.880 --> 0:34:04.880
<v Speaker 1>hunting knowledge, how do you shoot a bow? When I

0:34:04.960 --> 0:34:07.240
<v Speaker 1>teach my son how to shoot a bow? I mean,

0:34:07.320 --> 0:34:11.640
<v Speaker 1>that's an ancient transaction. It almost doesn't get more ancient

0:34:11.719 --> 0:34:15.480
<v Speaker 1>than that. It just really doesn't. And because as a people,

0:34:15.880 --> 0:34:19.919
<v Speaker 1>we are provided thanks to you know, major supermarkets and

0:34:20.120 --> 0:34:22.640
<v Speaker 1>the supply chain, where most of us are not connected

0:34:22.680 --> 0:34:25.400
<v Speaker 1>to farming. Most of us are not connected to agriculture.

0:34:25.560 --> 0:34:29.120
<v Speaker 1>As hunters, we are connected to an activity that human

0:34:29.360 --> 0:34:32.600
<v Speaker 1>kind has been engaged with from the beginning, all the

0:34:32.640 --> 0:34:36.120
<v Speaker 1>way back. That's a fascinating thought because there's got to

0:34:36.200 --> 0:34:42.040
<v Speaker 1>be in as much DNA and data that our minds, spirits,

0:34:42.120 --> 0:34:45.000
<v Speaker 1>bodies operate off of that is not controlled by us.

0:34:45.440 --> 0:34:48.520
<v Speaker 1>It's got I've got to believe that something triggers inside

0:34:48.520 --> 0:34:51.879
<v Speaker 1>of the human when something really primitive is done, it's

0:34:51.880 --> 0:34:53.600
<v Speaker 1>got to trigger something. I think kind of like a

0:34:53.760 --> 0:34:54.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if you want to call it on

0:34:54.840 --> 0:34:58.719
<v Speaker 1>a soul level or a deep cognitive level, when you

0:34:59.000 --> 0:35:03.279
<v Speaker 1>share something that's tangible, practical, that came to you at

0:35:03.280 --> 0:35:05.160
<v Speaker 1>a cost, and you share it in a way where

0:35:05.200 --> 0:35:07.560
<v Speaker 1>you have to live it out in front of me.

0:35:07.800 --> 0:35:09.560
<v Speaker 1>You know. I remember the first time I was in

0:35:09.600 --> 0:35:12.719
<v Speaker 1>a tree stand. I was with you and you had

0:35:12.760 --> 0:35:17.440
<v Speaker 1>me shoot at a stump. Yeah yeah, And I shot

0:35:17.440 --> 0:35:20.960
<v Speaker 1>at a stump and you shared with me a way

0:35:21.000 --> 0:35:25.720
<v Speaker 1>of being that I could emulate and do. That hits

0:35:26.000 --> 0:35:29.640
<v Speaker 1>a person on a profound level. Most of our our

0:35:29.760 --> 0:35:32.480
<v Speaker 1>interactions that exchanges on a day to day basis do

0:35:32.600 --> 0:35:36.920
<v Speaker 1>not do that because they're so impersonal and they're so abstract,

0:35:38.120 --> 0:35:41.719
<v Speaker 1>and I think because deep down, you're showing me a

0:35:41.760 --> 0:35:45.920
<v Speaker 1>way to be, Whereas in every other transaction, I'm trying

0:35:45.960 --> 0:35:51.640
<v Speaker 1>to essentially purchase an identity, I'm trying to gain an identity,

0:35:51.719 --> 0:35:54.680
<v Speaker 1>or trying to learn about something else, just merely like

0:35:54.800 --> 0:35:58.719
<v Speaker 1>up here my mind theoretically, But when I now, when

0:35:58.760 --> 0:36:01.759
<v Speaker 1>I go out into the wood, I'm looking at a

0:36:01.800 --> 0:36:03.879
<v Speaker 1>new plot of land, and I'm trying to figure out

0:36:03.920 --> 0:36:06.600
<v Speaker 1>what's the best white oakre red oak to be around.

0:36:06.760 --> 0:36:09.600
<v Speaker 1>And I find myself thinking, if Clay were here, what

0:36:09.680 --> 0:36:12.480
<v Speaker 1>would he think and what would he do? I'm emulating you.

0:36:12.640 --> 0:36:15.400
<v Speaker 1>I'd be looking for those acres, but looking for acres

0:36:15.719 --> 0:36:18.640
<v Speaker 1>um you know, And that's a powerful way. I think.

0:36:18.719 --> 0:36:22.520
<v Speaker 1>One of the myths of the rugged individualist is I

0:36:22.560 --> 0:36:28.360
<v Speaker 1>can create and select an identity for myself. So much

0:36:28.360 --> 0:36:32.399
<v Speaker 1>of the modern exchange of knowledge is impersonal and abstract.

0:36:32.880 --> 0:36:35.719
<v Speaker 1>Think of the simple example of buying a banana. We've

0:36:35.760 --> 0:36:39.520
<v Speaker 1>basically assigned abstract value to a note of tender, a

0:36:39.560 --> 0:36:43.480
<v Speaker 1>dollar bill, and we trade that material object for the

0:36:43.560 --> 0:36:46.640
<v Speaker 1>knowledge that it takes to farm, the work and the

0:36:46.680 --> 0:36:51.560
<v Speaker 1>delivery of that banana to a grocery store. Money depersonalizes

0:36:51.600 --> 0:36:54.680
<v Speaker 1>the exchange of knowledge and takes the relationship right out

0:36:54.680 --> 0:36:56.680
<v Speaker 1>of it. We don't have to go to the farm

0:36:56.800 --> 0:37:00.359
<v Speaker 1>and meet the farmer to get bananas. This idea leads

0:37:00.440 --> 0:37:03.959
<v Speaker 1>us to and it's connected to why we can't get

0:37:04.040 --> 0:37:08.480
<v Speaker 1>healthy personal identity from things that can be bought with money.

0:37:09.000 --> 0:37:14.239
<v Speaker 1>True and healthy identity comes from relationships. That's a mic

0:37:14.320 --> 0:37:19.040
<v Speaker 1>drop moment. I want to step back into my conversation

0:37:19.120 --> 0:37:22.600
<v Speaker 1>with Rusty Johnson. He'll lead us into a discussion about

0:37:22.600 --> 0:37:25.360
<v Speaker 1>social media, how we use it, how it's changed the

0:37:25.400 --> 0:37:30.440
<v Speaker 1>way we share information and knowledge and receive validation. Here's

0:37:30.800 --> 0:37:34.600
<v Speaker 1>Rusty and I think we got him trapped. And I

0:37:34.719 --> 0:37:38.800
<v Speaker 1>still haven't told you my secret. So you are very

0:37:38.840 --> 0:37:43.040
<v Speaker 1>tight with the information that you would portray. But sir,

0:37:43.239 --> 0:37:46.280
<v Speaker 1>you have an Instagram page where you guys post pictures

0:37:46.320 --> 0:37:51.840
<v Speaker 1>of alive dear all the time. Justify this for uh,

0:37:52.080 --> 0:37:56.839
<v Speaker 1>That's that's a tough one out there. I'll just put

0:37:56.840 --> 0:38:00.239
<v Speaker 1>it this way. We we don't post everything, but we

0:38:00.239 --> 0:38:02.120
<v Speaker 1>we do post a lot. Have you ever thought about

0:38:02.200 --> 0:38:07.280
<v Speaker 1>putting like a disclaimer on the tagline of your Instagram

0:38:07.320 --> 0:38:09.520
<v Speaker 1>page that we post a lot of deer, but not

0:38:09.560 --> 0:38:14.560
<v Speaker 1>all of them. But you this Instagram page, though, clearly

0:38:14.600 --> 0:38:17.919
<v Speaker 1>shows that you have a deep desire to share these

0:38:17.960 --> 0:38:21.160
<v Speaker 1>deer with people. Though, I mean, would you agree further

0:38:21.400 --> 0:38:27.120
<v Speaker 1>viewing the pleasure? But what I found is that usually

0:38:27.160 --> 0:38:29.719
<v Speaker 1>the thing that we're trying to guard the most is

0:38:29.760 --> 0:38:32.120
<v Speaker 1>actually the thing we want to talk about the post.

0:38:32.280 --> 0:38:36.239
<v Speaker 1>Would you agree with that? The secret pictures that you

0:38:36.280 --> 0:38:39.799
<v Speaker 1>have on your phone, the dozen secret pictures, are those

0:38:39.880 --> 0:38:42.799
<v Speaker 1>not the photos that you want to show me right now?

0:38:43.080 --> 0:38:47.960
<v Speaker 1>I would like to Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, I

0:38:48.000 --> 0:38:51.600
<v Speaker 1>mean I like to see people have enjoyment through what

0:38:51.640 --> 0:38:54.399
<v Speaker 1>we post on our Instagram and Facebook page. So it's

0:38:54.400 --> 0:38:59.280
<v Speaker 1>about them. Are you sure about that? No? Social media

0:38:59.360 --> 0:39:02.040
<v Speaker 1>has und audibly affected the way we share knowledge and

0:39:02.080 --> 0:39:07.239
<v Speaker 1>build identity. It's unprecedented in human history. Here's Dr Dan

0:39:07.360 --> 0:39:11.040
<v Speaker 1>and I exploring this topic. If we're talking about secrets,

0:39:11.160 --> 0:39:14.560
<v Speaker 1>we're talking about the dissemination of knowledge, some of it

0:39:14.680 --> 0:39:18.560
<v Speaker 1>intimate knowledge. Man, Only in the last fifteen years have

0:39:18.800 --> 0:39:22.720
<v Speaker 1>we had at our fingertips the ability to communicate with people.

0:39:23.040 --> 0:39:26.920
<v Speaker 1>How do you think social media is scrambling the human brain? Oh?

0:39:26.960 --> 0:39:29.960
<v Speaker 1>My goodness, So I think what social media one of

0:39:30.000 --> 0:39:33.160
<v Speaker 1>the positive things about social media is you don't have

0:39:33.200 --> 0:39:35.600
<v Speaker 1>to say goodbye to as many people, so we can

0:39:35.600 --> 0:39:40.040
<v Speaker 1>clean we can keep acquaintances and people in our lives

0:39:40.280 --> 0:39:43.680
<v Speaker 1>that normally, apart from the Internet and connectivity, we would

0:39:43.680 --> 0:39:47.799
<v Speaker 1>lose touch with humans. Not only were we not made

0:39:47.840 --> 0:39:50.000
<v Speaker 1>to be alone, you know, like we said, even the

0:39:50.080 --> 0:39:52.000
<v Speaker 1>kind of the monk who's on an island by himself

0:39:52.080 --> 0:39:55.920
<v Speaker 1>is still creating a socially constructed identity. We also weren't

0:39:55.920 --> 0:39:58.239
<v Speaker 1>made to stay in touch with everybody we've ever known.

0:39:58.320 --> 0:40:02.000
<v Speaker 1>Every This is new man. Okay, if you think about

0:40:02.000 --> 0:40:05.240
<v Speaker 1>it like this. Humans used to be full time hunters,

0:40:05.520 --> 0:40:09.279
<v Speaker 1>so we file the way hunting info. Now we have

0:40:09.400 --> 0:40:13.280
<v Speaker 1>less hunting info, but more like a rolodex of people

0:40:13.360 --> 0:40:15.919
<v Speaker 1>because we keep up with these people. So maybe there's

0:40:15.960 --> 0:40:20.840
<v Speaker 1>a correlation between having smaller Instagram followings and being better hunters.

0:40:21.239 --> 0:40:23.000
<v Speaker 1>Do you see what I'm saying? I do have because

0:40:23.000 --> 0:40:30.160
<v Speaker 1>there's space in a man's brain especially. This is nonsense.

0:40:30.239 --> 0:40:33.880
<v Speaker 1>This is nonsense. But so the more people you are

0:40:33.920 --> 0:40:38.680
<v Speaker 1>connected to doesn't necessarily result in the more actual validation

0:40:38.840 --> 0:40:43.040
<v Speaker 1>you can get. You don't necessarily need more pseudo relationships.

0:40:43.440 --> 0:40:47.759
<v Speaker 1>You need a healthy number of real solid relationships. And

0:40:47.840 --> 0:40:49.759
<v Speaker 1>so if one of the kind of the crazy things

0:40:49.760 --> 0:40:52.840
<v Speaker 1>that social media does to us is it's just this compounding,

0:40:52.960 --> 0:40:55.920
<v Speaker 1>ever growing as you go to college and then you

0:40:55.920 --> 0:40:57.880
<v Speaker 1>moved to another city, and you moved to another city,

0:40:58.040 --> 0:41:00.439
<v Speaker 1>you can keep up with everybody another thing sing that's

0:41:00.840 --> 0:41:03.800
<v Speaker 1>like me and the kids are TikTok oh, TikTok in it,

0:41:04.160 --> 0:41:07.600
<v Speaker 1>you know. So another thing that social media does is

0:41:07.640 --> 0:41:13.239
<v Speaker 1>it gives you the illusion of validation or invalidation. If

0:41:13.280 --> 0:41:16.960
<v Speaker 1>I post something, I'm either getting a false positive feedback

0:41:17.000 --> 0:41:19.320
<v Speaker 1>loop if a ton of people like it but maybe

0:41:19.400 --> 0:41:21.360
<v Speaker 1>there's no value in it. But there's no value in it,

0:41:21.480 --> 0:41:25.640
<v Speaker 1>or I get a negative feedback loop because nobody likes it,

0:41:25.760 --> 0:41:29.560
<v Speaker 1>and either way I lose if I'm going to social

0:41:29.560 --> 0:41:32.440
<v Speaker 1>media for validation. But the problem is is my brain

0:41:32.800 --> 0:41:35.920
<v Speaker 1>when I pull up Facebook or Instagram, I'm not thinking

0:41:36.120 --> 0:41:38.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to social media. I think I'm interacting with

0:41:38.960 --> 0:41:42.240
<v Speaker 1>people because I'm looking at people, I'm seeing people's names,

0:41:42.280 --> 0:41:44.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm seeing their faces, I'm remembering times that we were

0:41:44.960 --> 0:41:48.080
<v Speaker 1>connected together. And because I'm wired as a human to

0:41:48.280 --> 0:41:52.399
<v Speaker 1>construct identity and share it with others, I think I'm

0:41:52.480 --> 0:41:56.000
<v Speaker 1>interacting with people but I'm not, and so I'm bound

0:41:56.000 --> 0:41:59.880
<v Speaker 1>to fail unless I'm approaching social media from a secure places.

0:41:59.880 --> 0:42:02.319
<v Speaker 1>It cause us to fail in it's it's where do

0:42:02.360 --> 0:42:06.279
<v Speaker 1>we see the breakdown of a human inside of a

0:42:06.320 --> 0:42:10.040
<v Speaker 1>false leaning up on this for their validation. So you're

0:42:10.040 --> 0:42:13.480
<v Speaker 1>gonna have people who or they begin to orient larger

0:42:13.560 --> 0:42:17.920
<v Speaker 1>and larger chunks of their days around their online presence

0:42:18.280 --> 0:42:22.800
<v Speaker 1>or chunks of their finances, chunks of their resources, chunks

0:42:22.840 --> 0:42:27.200
<v Speaker 1>of their time. Means fewer personal resources to give to

0:42:27.360 --> 0:42:34.080
<v Speaker 1>actual people who can return actual validation, and then depression anxiety.

0:42:35.080 --> 0:42:38.560
<v Speaker 1>So basically, a human has this allotted amount of energy

0:42:38.600 --> 0:42:43.040
<v Speaker 1>to spend on relationship finite. And if we start leaning

0:42:43.239 --> 0:42:46.280
<v Speaker 1>so heavy into social media that we're expending this into

0:42:46.320 --> 0:42:50.000
<v Speaker 1>this like false thing, then we neglect. And this is

0:42:50.040 --> 0:42:53.640
<v Speaker 1>maybe where the functional aspect is we neglect? Could we

0:42:53.719 --> 0:42:56.640
<v Speaker 1>neglect the real relationships that we have? Absolutely? I mean

0:42:56.680 --> 0:42:58.279
<v Speaker 1>this is you go, my family went out to eat

0:42:58.360 --> 0:43:00.880
<v Speaker 1>last night at a restaurant. You look around the restaurant.

0:43:01.000 --> 0:43:04.920
<v Speaker 1>Everybody's on their phones. Because what happens is is relating

0:43:04.960 --> 0:43:10.359
<v Speaker 1>with real people. They're looking at you. So think about it.

0:43:10.400 --> 0:43:13.440
<v Speaker 1>If what happens if I share a hunting secret with

0:43:13.480 --> 0:43:17.759
<v Speaker 1>you and you don't reciprocate. That's scary. That affects who

0:43:17.840 --> 0:43:20.560
<v Speaker 1>I am and my value and worth as an individual.

0:43:20.840 --> 0:43:25.720
<v Speaker 1>But the cost, the short term cost of going online

0:43:25.719 --> 0:43:29.120
<v Speaker 1>and looking at Facebook, is nothing but setting across from

0:43:29.120 --> 0:43:32.480
<v Speaker 1>a real individual and not just opening up my hunting

0:43:32.480 --> 0:43:35.880
<v Speaker 1>knowledge secrets, but opening up who I am as a person.

0:43:36.680 --> 0:43:39.719
<v Speaker 1>Now you're talking things of real value and worth, and

0:43:39.760 --> 0:43:43.279
<v Speaker 1>so now you're talking about real risk. And so it's

0:43:43.360 --> 0:43:49.400
<v Speaker 1>supposedly kind of I'll do quotations around this finger. Supposedly

0:43:49.640 --> 0:43:53.319
<v Speaker 1>safer for me to go to social media to be

0:43:53.520 --> 0:43:57.239
<v Speaker 1>validated than it is for me to turn actually go

0:43:57.360 --> 0:44:00.720
<v Speaker 1>and be a real thing in front of a real person.

0:44:01.040 --> 0:44:03.200
<v Speaker 1>And one of the things that hunting forces you to

0:44:03.239 --> 0:44:05.520
<v Speaker 1>do is just that you have to go out in

0:44:05.560 --> 0:44:09.319
<v Speaker 1>the woods together do it, and do it together. I

0:44:09.400 --> 0:44:13.000
<v Speaker 1>listened just yesterday to a podcast about the metaverse, which

0:44:13.239 --> 0:44:17.080
<v Speaker 1>essentially is this idea that started a long time ago

0:44:17.520 --> 0:44:21.560
<v Speaker 1>about how humans could one day live in a digital world.

0:44:21.719 --> 0:44:24.520
<v Speaker 1>It was like a sci fi section of a book

0:44:24.920 --> 0:44:27.800
<v Speaker 1>from some you know in the eighties or nineties. There's

0:44:27.880 --> 0:44:31.600
<v Speaker 1>now with these video games and a bunch of different stuff.

0:44:31.800 --> 0:44:36.160
<v Speaker 1>They're big groups really trying to build out commerce inside

0:44:36.200 --> 0:44:39.719
<v Speaker 1>of the metaverse where I mean it's happening. It's like

0:44:39.960 --> 0:44:44.200
<v Speaker 1>I think Microsoft just bought an online game for like

0:44:44.320 --> 0:44:48.720
<v Speaker 1>seventy billion dollars, and it's because they see the market

0:44:49.000 --> 0:44:52.960
<v Speaker 1>going to this digital market, which man just like every

0:44:52.960 --> 0:44:56.480
<v Speaker 1>single thing that we see happen in life, it's like

0:44:56.560 --> 0:45:00.000
<v Speaker 1>everything is going to a facade of what it appear

0:45:00.040 --> 0:45:02.840
<v Speaker 1>years to be. Everything is propped up by a veneer

0:45:03.320 --> 0:45:05.160
<v Speaker 1>of what it seems like it is, but when you

0:45:05.200 --> 0:45:08.240
<v Speaker 1>tap into it, it's not that. And that is also

0:45:08.280 --> 0:45:11.400
<v Speaker 1>the nature of humanity in a lot of ways. Facades

0:45:11.640 --> 0:45:16.920
<v Speaker 1>make us. A really good facade makes you feel supposedly safe,

0:45:17.160 --> 0:45:20.719
<v Speaker 1>secure and validated, but on the inside you're still not.

0:45:21.200 --> 0:45:26.160
<v Speaker 1>So most of the things that we modern contemporary humans

0:45:26.600 --> 0:45:30.080
<v Speaker 1>with a certain amount of wealth that we can expend,

0:45:30.600 --> 0:45:33.960
<v Speaker 1>most of the things that we are purchasing our a facade.

0:45:34.160 --> 0:45:36.920
<v Speaker 1>Think about even in the hunting community, all the gear,

0:45:37.200 --> 0:45:40.240
<v Speaker 1>all the stuff. I can have, all this amazing gear,

0:45:40.520 --> 0:45:43.440
<v Speaker 1>but if I don't relate with another hunter who's willing

0:45:43.480 --> 0:45:46.839
<v Speaker 1>to validate me, is share with me his wisdom and

0:45:46.880 --> 0:45:49.200
<v Speaker 1>me the same, I'll never be a good hunter. I've

0:45:49.239 --> 0:45:53.279
<v Speaker 1>just purchased another facade, and so you know, meta, they're

0:45:53.440 --> 0:45:58.440
<v Speaker 1>betting on humanity's propensity to go after facades. And I'm

0:45:58.480 --> 0:46:00.680
<v Speaker 1>not like, I'm not at all. I mean want Instagram.

0:46:00.760 --> 0:46:03.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't want social media, of course, but as humans,

0:46:03.600 --> 0:46:07.400
<v Speaker 1>we have to understand our tendency to do identity and

0:46:07.560 --> 0:46:12.480
<v Speaker 1>counter productive ways. Yeah, the idea with social media is

0:46:12.480 --> 0:46:14.560
<v Speaker 1>that you almost have to be on it in some

0:46:14.600 --> 0:46:18.520
<v Speaker 1>ways to be relevant, of course, And that's dumb to say,

0:46:18.600 --> 0:46:21.040
<v Speaker 1>because you don't have to have social media to survive

0:46:21.080 --> 0:46:24.080
<v Speaker 1>in today's world. Most people do, and it's just got

0:46:24.080 --> 0:46:26.920
<v Speaker 1>to be handled in a balanced way, you know. And

0:46:26.960 --> 0:46:31.200
<v Speaker 1>I think when we understand how the mind works, how

0:46:31.640 --> 0:46:34.200
<v Speaker 1>we are on a constant search for identity, that it

0:46:34.440 --> 0:46:38.000
<v Speaker 1>that that knowledge can give us tools to know how

0:46:38.000 --> 0:46:40.480
<v Speaker 1>to manage stuff. And I know for sure, inside of

0:46:40.480 --> 0:46:41.960
<v Speaker 1>my life, because I mean I do a lot of

0:46:41.960 --> 0:46:44.839
<v Speaker 1>stuff on social media part of my job, I work

0:46:45.120 --> 0:46:49.080
<v Speaker 1>extra hard to make sure that the real human relationships

0:46:49.080 --> 0:46:53.480
<v Speaker 1>in my life are dialed up and dialed in, because yeah,

0:46:53.640 --> 0:46:55.880
<v Speaker 1>it's just like, you know, you just don't want to

0:46:55.880 --> 0:47:03.600
<v Speaker 1>be the guy that is a facade. Fascinating stuff, and

0:47:03.640 --> 0:47:06.799
<v Speaker 1>we've just scratched the surface of it. As we come

0:47:06.840 --> 0:47:09.400
<v Speaker 1>to a close, I want to summarize what we've learned

0:47:09.400 --> 0:47:13.280
<v Speaker 1>and get back to our original question. Why do whitetail

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<v Speaker 1>hunters keep secrets? Why do you think we're so finicky

0:47:16.760 --> 0:47:20.799
<v Speaker 1>about the way that we distribute white tail hunting secrets?

0:47:20.800 --> 0:47:23.279
<v Speaker 1>Several things, I don't want you in my spot. I

0:47:23.280 --> 0:47:26.719
<v Speaker 1>don't want you. It's a it's a competition for a

0:47:26.760 --> 0:47:29.920
<v Speaker 1>limited resource, so you're not going to share it with everybody.

0:47:30.280 --> 0:47:33.680
<v Speaker 1>I think. Another thing is a fundamental insecurity. I'm not

0:47:33.800 --> 0:47:37.240
<v Speaker 1>just gonna I'm not gonna just share my important knowledge

0:47:37.239 --> 0:47:40.719
<v Speaker 1>with anybody, because again, what if they don't reciprocate well

0:47:40.840 --> 0:47:45.240
<v Speaker 1>in a fundamental insecurity on the like, I'm hiding because

0:47:45.360 --> 0:47:48.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm afraid it's gonna be taken from me. Yeah,

0:47:48.880 --> 0:47:52.600
<v Speaker 1>people are just insecure. We are insecure. Just like someone

0:47:52.760 --> 0:47:55.600
<v Speaker 1>is gonna go on Pinterest. You know, my my wife

0:47:55.680 --> 0:47:58.520
<v Speaker 1>might get on Pinterest and select certain things to be

0:47:58.600 --> 0:48:02.000
<v Speaker 1>on her Pinterest page. She's gonna select the things that

0:48:02.160 --> 0:48:05.880
<v Speaker 1>she feels like reflects who she is. If I go

0:48:05.960 --> 0:48:08.399
<v Speaker 1>to Lows or home Depot and pick out new light

0:48:08.480 --> 0:48:10.640
<v Speaker 1>fixtures for a home and do that, I'm not just

0:48:10.680 --> 0:48:13.239
<v Speaker 1>gonna pick out random ones. I'm gonna pick out the

0:48:13.239 --> 0:48:16.160
<v Speaker 1>ones that I feel like reflect who I am. Same

0:48:16.200 --> 0:48:19.080
<v Speaker 1>way when it comes to choosing who I share information with,

0:48:19.280 --> 0:48:23.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna share information with people who I feel like

0:48:23.320 --> 0:48:27.400
<v Speaker 1>are sufficiently like me or people that I want to

0:48:27.480 --> 0:48:30.680
<v Speaker 1>be like. And so that's a very finicky kind of

0:48:30.719 --> 0:48:34.399
<v Speaker 1>particular process. I don't just share with anybody. You've made

0:48:34.440 --> 0:48:37.360
<v Speaker 1>a lot of jokes about how someone says acorn or acorn.

0:48:37.480 --> 0:48:39.960
<v Speaker 1>You know, we have all these kind of ear markers

0:48:40.160 --> 0:48:47.000
<v Speaker 1>a joke, You're an idiot. We have all these these

0:48:47.000 --> 0:48:49.960
<v Speaker 1>earmarks of who is in and who is out, and

0:48:50.120 --> 0:48:53.600
<v Speaker 1>so much of human thinking is in group out group thinking.

0:48:54.120 --> 0:48:55.759
<v Speaker 1>You know, you think you look at our nation and

0:48:55.800 --> 0:48:58.960
<v Speaker 1>how polarized it is, and fairly quickly I can tell

0:48:59.000 --> 0:49:01.680
<v Speaker 1>who is in whatever my supposed in that sphere of

0:49:01.680 --> 0:49:04.719
<v Speaker 1>influence in group is and who is out, and that's

0:49:04.719 --> 0:49:07.160
<v Speaker 1>where information goes or with the out group, that is

0:49:07.239 --> 0:49:11.839
<v Speaker 1>not where information goes. In closing, I want to tell

0:49:11.880 --> 0:49:15.680
<v Speaker 1>you just a little bit about my secret in I

0:49:15.680 --> 0:49:18.600
<v Speaker 1>had a big deer on camera. For me, it was

0:49:18.640 --> 0:49:21.480
<v Speaker 1>like a once in a decade type deer hundred and

0:49:21.480 --> 0:49:25.360
<v Speaker 1>fifty engineer after a bullet malfunction on my muzzle loader

0:49:25.400 --> 0:49:29.920
<v Speaker 1>and amidst the deer lived in one he grew a

0:49:30.000 --> 0:49:33.400
<v Speaker 1>lot and turned into a once in a lifetime deer.

0:49:33.560 --> 0:49:37.000
<v Speaker 1>The prior season, my strategy had been locked box lips,

0:49:37.360 --> 0:49:41.359
<v Speaker 1>especially with neighboring landowners that had access to this deer.

0:49:41.800 --> 0:49:45.600
<v Speaker 1>But later in the season I adopted a different strategy

0:49:45.760 --> 0:49:49.560
<v Speaker 1>of openness. I made an unusual move. I decided to

0:49:49.680 --> 0:49:53.200
<v Speaker 1>coop information with the other people that I knew were

0:49:53.280 --> 0:49:56.799
<v Speaker 1>after him. I agreed to share all the info. I

0:49:56.880 --> 0:50:01.200
<v Speaker 1>had no secrets. It was risky and went against everything

0:50:01.280 --> 0:50:04.520
<v Speaker 1>I'd ever done. I chose to share all my trail

0:50:04.640 --> 0:50:07.640
<v Speaker 1>campics within a few hours of getting them with the

0:50:07.719 --> 0:50:12.359
<v Speaker 1>other guys that were hunting this deer. Why and I

0:50:12.400 --> 0:50:15.640
<v Speaker 1>didn't ask for anything in return, But if I'm being honest,

0:50:15.840 --> 0:50:19.319
<v Speaker 1>I imagined that I would get stuff in return. I

0:50:19.400 --> 0:50:22.480
<v Speaker 1>was willing to be the first to release information. I

0:50:22.560 --> 0:50:27.440
<v Speaker 1>was desperate, but my motives were probably far from altruistic.

0:50:27.840 --> 0:50:30.799
<v Speaker 1>I knew that they would give me information that I

0:50:30.920 --> 0:50:34.480
<v Speaker 1>needed as well, but it seemed kind of fair. The

0:50:34.520 --> 0:50:38.719
<v Speaker 1>results of the experiment were entirely positive, though none of

0:50:38.800 --> 0:50:42.400
<v Speaker 1>us killed the buck, I shared valuable information that helped

0:50:42.400 --> 0:50:46.160
<v Speaker 1>the other landowners, and in turn, they shared info with me.

0:50:46.640 --> 0:50:48.640
<v Speaker 1>At the end of the day, the release of that

0:50:48.800 --> 0:50:52.400
<v Speaker 1>secret information did exactly what Dr Dan said it would do.

0:50:52.920 --> 0:50:57.160
<v Speaker 1>It built trust and relationship between myself and these guys

0:50:57.400 --> 0:51:00.760
<v Speaker 1>that I don't think will go away anytime soon. Sadly,

0:51:01.040 --> 0:51:04.480
<v Speaker 1>we believe the Buck to be dead. Who else did

0:51:04.520 --> 0:51:07.560
<v Speaker 1>I share these secret pictures with? You might ask, I

0:51:07.600 --> 0:51:17.120
<v Speaker 1>can't tell you. That's a secret. I've learned a lot

0:51:17.160 --> 0:51:20.319
<v Speaker 1>about myself by talking with Mosley, Curly and Dr Dan.

0:51:20.560 --> 0:51:24.320
<v Speaker 1>I continue to be amazed at the undeniable magnetic attraction

0:51:24.400 --> 0:51:27.680
<v Speaker 1>for humans to build personal identity. You do it even

0:51:27.760 --> 0:51:30.320
<v Speaker 1>if you don't think you are like an emerald headed

0:51:30.320 --> 0:51:33.440
<v Speaker 1>Ballard duck going to the acorns and rice. We just

0:51:33.560 --> 0:51:37.120
<v Speaker 1>can't help it. These secrets we keep and release are

0:51:37.160 --> 0:51:41.879
<v Speaker 1>important components of relationship and identity building. Keeping secrets also

0:51:41.920 --> 0:51:44.520
<v Speaker 1>has some really functional aspects to them, like we don't

0:51:44.520 --> 0:51:47.480
<v Speaker 1>want a bunch of hillbillies piling into our spots, But

0:51:47.600 --> 0:51:51.080
<v Speaker 1>it's deeper. The quickest way to offend someone is to

0:51:51.239 --> 0:51:56.680
<v Speaker 1>invalidate their perceived personal identity. Fist fights, murders, wars, and

0:51:56.880 --> 0:52:01.320
<v Speaker 1>unbridled wrath have been released by people because of infractions

0:52:01.360 --> 0:52:04.640
<v Speaker 1>on their identity. We spend our whole lives building it,

0:52:04.880 --> 0:52:08.720
<v Speaker 1>and appealing to someone's personal identity is also the quickest

0:52:08.760 --> 0:52:12.520
<v Speaker 1>way to someone's heart and to engender their trust. Obviously,

0:52:12.560 --> 0:52:16.919
<v Speaker 1>this can be done in healthy and unhealthy ways, genuine

0:52:16.960 --> 0:52:20.040
<v Speaker 1>and non genuine ways, But in the end, we want

0:52:20.080 --> 0:52:22.200
<v Speaker 1>to be surrounded by people who view us as we

0:52:22.239 --> 0:52:25.960
<v Speaker 1>believe ourselves to be and hopefully who we actually are.

0:52:26.760 --> 0:52:29.640
<v Speaker 1>Humans are designed to live in close orbit with people,

0:52:29.920 --> 0:52:33.800
<v Speaker 1>and these people around this build our identity. It's grounding

0:52:33.840 --> 0:52:36.920
<v Speaker 1>to me to realize that people's perception of us is

0:52:36.960 --> 0:52:40.080
<v Speaker 1>far less important than the meat of the matter, which

0:52:40.080 --> 0:52:43.680
<v Speaker 1>is who we actually are. Better to be thought and idiot,

0:52:43.680 --> 0:52:46.680
<v Speaker 1>but be intelligent than to be thought intelligent and be

0:52:46.719 --> 0:52:51.120
<v Speaker 1>an idiot. In the world that's increasingly digital and impersonal,

0:52:51.480 --> 0:52:55.200
<v Speaker 1>it's easier than ever to live behind the facade, knowing

0:52:55.239 --> 0:52:59.600
<v Speaker 1>that external possessions give the illusion of identity, and that

0:52:59.680 --> 0:53:02.880
<v Speaker 1>that's a really old trick. I'm hoping that all this

0:53:03.080 --> 0:53:06.480
<v Speaker 1>talk will help me focus on actual character and actual

0:53:06.560 --> 0:53:10.640
<v Speaker 1>substance who I am when nobody's watching. I'm a big

0:53:10.680 --> 0:53:15.680
<v Speaker 1>fan of that kind of talk, but talk is cheap anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>Next season, when you get a picture of a big

0:53:18.400 --> 0:53:21.600
<v Speaker 1>buck or a big bear, keep track of who you

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<v Speaker 1>share it with and how you manage your own secrets,

0:53:25.080 --> 0:53:30.799
<v Speaker 1>and you just might learn something about yourself. Thanks so

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<v Speaker 1>much for listening to bear Grease. Hey, check out Meat

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<v Speaker 1>even share it with your grandma who knows she might

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<v Speaker 1>section of Dan Rupe ringing the Truth out of Me

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<v Speaker 1>Clay nucom How many photos do you have on your

0:54:06.600 --> 0:54:12.880
<v Speaker 1>phone that no one else has seen? Secret photos? Secret photos?

0:54:12.920 --> 0:54:16.960
<v Speaker 1>These photos would be a combination that are mine that

0:54:17.040 --> 0:54:20.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't share, but also photos that people have sent

0:54:20.640 --> 0:54:23.200
<v Speaker 1>me that I've vowed to not show. And I would

0:54:23.239 --> 0:54:25.200
<v Speaker 1>say that at any given time, if you were to

0:54:25.239 --> 0:54:27.959
<v Speaker 1>scroll through my saved pictures on my phone, there would

0:54:27.960 --> 0:54:31.799
<v Speaker 1>be three to six pictures of white tailed deer that

0:54:32.000 --> 0:54:36.879
<v Speaker 1>have some semblance of a vow made to someone else

0:54:36.960 --> 0:54:39.360
<v Speaker 1>or to myself that I wasn't that I wouldn't share

0:54:39.360 --> 0:54:43.240
<v Speaker 1>freely with anybody. There's there's different variations of this, because

0:54:43.440 --> 0:54:46.359
<v Speaker 1>there's some pictures that I would share with Joe on

0:54:46.400 --> 0:54:48.680
<v Speaker 1>the street if I was walking down the street and

0:54:48.719 --> 0:54:51.480
<v Speaker 1>he had a camo hat and we stopped together, and

0:54:51.520 --> 0:54:53.399
<v Speaker 1>I'll be like, man, you a deer hunter, and I'll

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<v Speaker 1>be like, look at the stair I got a picture of.

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<v Speaker 1>But they're also there's three to six that that would

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<v Speaker 1>never happen to know, here's a question for you. Let's

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<v Speaker 1>say somebody shares with you they're inside info. Maybe it's

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<v Speaker 1>a picture from the trail camp. Oh yeah, your mr

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<v Speaker 1>go to. My question is can you be trusted? Hey?

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<v Speaker 1>That is a very real question that every one of

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<v Speaker 1>us wager on our friend all the time. And so

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<v Speaker 1>you're asking me, I'm not if I'm trustworthy? Yeah, this

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<v Speaker 1>is a it's a yes or no. You've not answered,

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<v Speaker 1>but the answer the answer is yes. I if you

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<v Speaker 1>sent me a picture that you specifically asked me not

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<v Speaker 1>to share with anyone, I would I would honor that. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it sounds to me like one you're trying to convince

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<v Speaker 1>yourself that you're trustworthy to what if I sent you

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<v Speaker 1>a photo and I didn't explicitly say, hey, Clay, keep

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<v Speaker 1>this one to yourself, but you knew you knew I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't want this going every Okay, then it's it's sort

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<v Speaker 1>of off the table if you don't if you give

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<v Speaker 1>me information that does not come with specific instructions, then

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<v Speaker 1>it's off the table. Now. Granted, I I'm not stupid,

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<v Speaker 1>and if somebody's sharing information with me, like, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>typically act inside of like a code of honor, which

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna go like put that on Instagram and say,

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<v Speaker 1>Jim said, this picture of this buck you got on

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<v Speaker 1>his lease. But if you sent me a picture and

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<v Speaker 1>you don't say don't share this with someone, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>compelled by that picture, I'm compelled by something about it,

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<v Speaker 1>the size of the buck, where it was, at the

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<v Speaker 1>time it was, at what it was doing. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll show that to Bill on the street. So that's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>What I think what's disturbing to me is even when

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<v Speaker 1>you said I would say don't share this one with anybody,

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<v Speaker 1>you said typically you would act within a code of

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<v Speaker 1>well listen, so there is there are therefore instances where

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<v Speaker 1>you would betray my trust? Okay, regardless of the situation.

0:56:51.280 --> 0:56:53.759
<v Speaker 1>I guess what we're talking about is how to the

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<v Speaker 1>letter of the law that someone is gonna be I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think we're talking about someone. I think we're talking

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<v Speaker 1>about you and what you're made. Listen, you send me

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<v Speaker 1>a picture of your big buck that and you say, Clay,

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<v Speaker 1>don't share this with anybody? Can I show it to

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<v Speaker 1>my wife? Is your wife? Anybody she is? So I've

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<v Speaker 1>broken your trust? Can I show it to my dad?

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<v Speaker 1>Who will not know where that information came from? Will

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<v Speaker 1>not I mean, has no connection. Don't you don't you

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<v Speaker 1>understand that this is how the floodgates get open. It's

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<v Speaker 1>exactly how they get open, Dan, And that is exactly

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<v Speaker 1>why that I've been burned. I have been burned by people.

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<v Speaker 1>And what I because this is what I've learned, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>is it's not me that you have to worry about.

0:57:36.800 --> 0:57:40.080
<v Speaker 1>It's the person I share it with. So I get

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<v Speaker 1>your picture and I'm just sharing this with you because

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<v Speaker 1>I have grown. Okay, I have grown. I get a

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<v Speaker 1>picture from you this jot buck, and I go, man, oh,

0:57:51.080 --> 0:57:53.520
<v Speaker 1>Gary Nuclem, He's not gonna go in there and kill

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<v Speaker 1>that dear. He's not gonna it doesn't matter. And so

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<v Speaker 1>I go, look at this picture that Bill sent me.

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<v Speaker 1>I've swore to Bill that I wasn't gonna show anybody.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a made up scenario. This is never hap

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<v Speaker 1>purely hypothetical. I showed it to Gary and again, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not the one you have to worry about, because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna go on your spot. I'm not gonna tell

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<v Speaker 1>the information to someone that would use that information to

0:58:16.480 --> 0:58:18.960
<v Speaker 1>capitalize on your spot. But you know who doesn't have

0:58:19.040 --> 0:58:24.360
<v Speaker 1>loyalty to Billy, Gary Nuco Now it doesn't have any

0:58:24.360 --> 0:58:27.160
<v Speaker 1>loyalty to Bill, doesn't know Bill, you know Gary. The

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<v Speaker 1>next day goes man, I saw a picture of a

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<v Speaker 1>big buck that came out of bleepity bleep management area

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<v Speaker 1>just yesterday. And he tells that to pick someone and bam,

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<v Speaker 1>the thing just you've lost it all. So that's where

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<v Speaker 1>people aren't trustworthy is the trusted person that they tell

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<v Speaker 1>Because my trusted person isn't your trusted person. You can

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<v Speaker 1>see what I'm saying. Yeah, And so I have started

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<v Speaker 1>to when I share deep secrets for other people, like say,

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<v Speaker 1>don't share this with anybody, not even your dad, not

0:58:59.160 --> 0:59:02.360
<v Speaker 1>even your brother. You know, can you keep this secret?

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<v Speaker 1>So one of the things about being in a relationship

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<v Speaker 1>with you that's challenging is you are actually dividing families.

0:59:11.000 --> 0:59:14.160
<v Speaker 1>I mean, you are keeping people from communicating with their

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<v Speaker 1>own family members. I mean, didn't tell there