WEBVTT - Advice Letter (I'm Leaving, But Should I Be Quiet About It?) 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:05.520 Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. Um, you are tuned 0:00:05.559 --> 0:00:08.240 into the Vitamin D with Dawn Day podcast. And guess what, 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:12.000 I'm Dawn Day, your host here to get too excited 0:00:12.000 --> 0:00:14.080 about your life so that you can live life on 0:00:14.280 --> 0:00:18.760 purpose and for purpose. So welcome back now, Um, this 0:00:18.840 --> 0:00:21.000 is your first time tuning in. I would like to 0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:24.280 say welcome to you too, Vitamin D. It's a pun 0:00:24.360 --> 0:00:26.759 off my name. You know my name is dahn Um 0:00:26.800 --> 0:00:29.560 and you know how you get Vitamin D from the sun, right, Well, 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:32.159 I'm here to shed light into your life. 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I don't 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:57.360 know what to do. They were talking about letting me 0:03:57.480 --> 0:03:58.960 and a lot of the stuff go on the next 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:01.240 few months. I was kind of in shocked when I 0:04:01.240 --> 0:04:03.480 saw them. I was going through just the leading what 0:04:03.640 --> 0:04:06.840 looked like mostly junk of this guy uses his work 0:04:06.880 --> 0:04:09.120 email to sign up for a lot, and then I 0:04:09.160 --> 0:04:12.160 came across some emails that are like downsizing staff and 0:04:12.520 --> 0:04:15.840 getting rid of the fat. It was almost disgusting the 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:18.359 discard they had showed for the people who work for 0:04:18.520 --> 0:04:21.800 and with them. I'm at a loss. I don't really 0:04:21.800 --> 0:04:25.680 care about this job. I'm an executive assistant making middling pay, 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:28.000 and I have kind of been looking for an out. 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:32.440 This at least gives me a deadline. But that's not everyone. 0:04:33.080 --> 0:04:35.679 I'm twenty three, I can start over, but some people 0:04:35.720 --> 0:04:38.640 have been here ten fifteen years. I definitely feel in 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:41.040 my soul that I should tell them. But here's my issue. 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:44.760 Among the folks getting fired is a particular brow nos 0:04:44.839 --> 0:04:46.880 er who wouldn't believe me if I told her the 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:50.040 sky was blue. She always kind of thought I was 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:52.159 aiming to take her spot. But I didn't even want 0:04:52.200 --> 0:04:54.840 to be here for another year. Let along move up. 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:57.719 I worry that if I tell her then she'll tip 0:04:57.720 --> 0:05:00.400 off the bosses, But I also know that I can't 0:05:00.400 --> 0:05:03.240 expect to tell everyone else and it not get back 0:05:03.240 --> 0:05:06.560 around to her. If that happens, then they might just 0:05:06.680 --> 0:05:08.680 let me go before I have the chance to get 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:11.240 my things in order, find a new job, or maybe 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:14.360 plan to move back home. How should I handle this? 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:22.680 Who chall you need to mind your business because right 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:26.640 now you're doing a little way too much. But guess what, 0:05:26.720 --> 0:05:29.200 You're not the only one I to have came across 0:05:29.279 --> 0:05:32.359 emails from my boss that wasn't in the pleasant way. 0:05:32.880 --> 0:05:34.880 And I'm sitting here saying all this in front of Jeremiah. 0:05:34.960 --> 0:05:38.400 Don't be going with you. He shakes his head. But 0:05:38.600 --> 0:05:41.120 let's let's delve into this letter. So the first thing 0:05:41.160 --> 0:05:44.400 I wanted to say is that, um, mind your own business. 0:05:44.960 --> 0:05:49.320 And I say that in the most um positive way. 0:05:50.000 --> 0:05:54.839 You know, you came across an email that talked about 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:57.360 letting you go that was not even sent to you. 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:00.719 So let's dissect the letter. You said, Hey, so I 0:06:00.760 --> 0:06:03.440 found out that my job is fled planning to fire me. 0:06:04.120 --> 0:06:06.359 You went on to say, I don't really care about 0:06:06.400 --> 0:06:09.880 this job. You're an executive system middling pay. You don't 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:12.640 care because you say that you're twenty three. Now you're 0:06:12.680 --> 0:06:14.800 feeling this conviction that you should tell them, But you 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:17.799 have an issue. There's someone in your office who feels 0:06:17.800 --> 0:06:19.560 as though you have been trying to take their position 0:06:19.600 --> 0:06:22.040 over the years, and you worry that if you were 0:06:22.040 --> 0:06:23.479 to say something that they're going to go ahead and 0:06:23.480 --> 0:06:25.760 tell the bosses or flip the coin that if you 0:06:26.080 --> 0:06:28.120 tell enough, people will get back to her or him 0:06:28.160 --> 0:06:31.039 whomever it is you said her, um, and then they're 0:06:31.040 --> 0:06:33.840 gonna find out if it's you. Now. The reason why 0:06:33.920 --> 0:06:35.680 you're concerned is that you said you have a chance 0:06:35.720 --> 0:06:37.080 to get your things in order to find a new 0:06:37.200 --> 0:06:41.160 job or maybe a plan to move back home. Um. 0:06:41.360 --> 0:06:45.039 Like I said, you're doing way too much because you 0:06:45.080 --> 0:06:48.360 know things happened to take in a matority way, and 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:50.880 it's no shade. It just happens when you live a 0:06:50.880 --> 0:06:52.960 little longer and people you just always say this to me, 0:06:53.000 --> 0:06:55.680 I will just live a little longer. You'll learn. Um. 0:06:55.839 --> 0:06:57.960 You have to realize that even if you did plan 0:06:58.080 --> 0:07:02.640 on leaving already, you have to leave with grace. You 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:04.640 have to leave with a stand up character. Just because 0:07:04.640 --> 0:07:07.400 you're leaving this job. Everybody knows somebody, They say, what 0:07:07.400 --> 0:07:11.480 does it? Your net work is your net worth, So 0:07:11.600 --> 0:07:13.880 somebody knows somebody. And you don't want to leave on 0:07:13.920 --> 0:07:16.040 bad terms. You don't want it to come out there 0:07:16.080 --> 0:07:18.120 that you're snooping around the email. Take it as a 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:21.320 blessing that you got the heads up. Now when I 0:07:21.360 --> 0:07:23.640 talk about there's a level of maturity here that needs 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:26.760 to to to be applied, is because there are boundaries. Yes, 0:07:26.800 --> 0:07:29.000 you got the blessing of knowing what was in the email. 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:31.600 And I use blessing loosely because then it dictates your 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:33.400 life because if you weren't happy with your job in 0:07:33.440 --> 0:07:37.760 the first place, Bro, ma'am, you should have been out. 0:07:38.520 --> 0:07:41.720 What are you waiting on? Why are you staying stagnant? 0:07:41.720 --> 0:07:44.320 That's oftentimes that I think it's a problem or become 0:07:44.360 --> 0:07:47.000 an issue with people who are not living their authentic life, 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:49.000 who are not living their best life, or feel like 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:50.840 as though if they don't have a purpose, it's because 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:53.640 they're waiting for somebody else to give them permission to 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:56.120 fly and not realizing that birds are meant to fly 0:07:56.160 --> 0:08:01.840 because that's why they got wings. Okay, so you said, hey, 0:08:01.880 --> 0:08:03.800 you're thinking yourself. You want to do every your body 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:07.480 else a favor of telling them heads up? But what 0:08:07.560 --> 0:08:09.200 does that look like and what kind of commotion what 0:08:09.280 --> 0:08:12.040 kind of turmoil does that that breed? You're in a 0:08:12.120 --> 0:08:15.200 situation of your boss thought highly of YouTube let you 0:08:15.280 --> 0:08:18.600 in on the emails. Just because you are going to 0:08:18.760 --> 0:08:20.680 let go does not mean that it is sometimes to 0:08:20.960 --> 0:08:23.320 vindictive vendetta. I don't even know if that makes sense. 0:08:23.400 --> 0:08:25.240 But it's not like as a ploy to come take 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:28.200 you out. It's just about what's happening in the company. 0:08:28.520 --> 0:08:30.880 And as the term is as disgusting as you said, 0:08:30.880 --> 0:08:34.760 it may sound trimming the fact the access. Now, if 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:36.280 you want to do this and apply this to the 0:08:36.320 --> 0:08:38.440 correct way, perhaps you need to figure out how to 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:40.360 make yourself more valuable. But guess what, that's not an 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:42.480 option for you because you already planned to leave. But 0:08:42.559 --> 0:08:45.719 for everybody else it may seem like the right thing 0:08:45.760 --> 0:08:47.559 to do. But there's a thing where you just need 0:08:47.600 --> 0:08:51.200 to mind your business. Now. Like I said before my 0:08:51.360 --> 0:08:55.360 time coming up, I too came across emails were it 0:08:55.480 --> 0:08:59.520 wasn't necessarily spoken positively about me, and I pride myself 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:01.760 on the way at work. I probably myself on my 0:09:01.800 --> 0:09:04.080 work athlete because that's my name, and when you're talking 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:06.600 about my dreams, I don't play. And there was talk 0:09:07.040 --> 0:09:08.840 just saying that I got distracted, and it was mainly 0:09:08.880 --> 0:09:11.600 because I thinkured because I was excelling and not everybody 0:09:11.640 --> 0:09:14.199 can take the shine. And I don't mean to sound raggedocious, 0:09:14.280 --> 0:09:16.480 but you could not make a complaint on my work. 0:09:16.720 --> 0:09:20.040 I was doing things to inforstrate relationships, raising money, creating 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:23.600 opportunities as an intern, and while you were employed, I 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:25.680 was only a couple of years younger than you, and 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:27.560 I had people up there talking about, oh, she leans, 0:09:27.600 --> 0:09:29.240 she too good for this. Oh little does she know? 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:31.439 We behind all the tricks, and I'm thinking I'm showing 0:09:31.520 --> 0:09:34.800 up being present. But one thing that I will say, 0:09:35.280 --> 0:09:37.600 whether it's at least in your situation, it wasn't like 0:09:37.640 --> 0:09:39.640 they were talking bad about you because of what could 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:42.520 seem like a hate oration or just negatively they're simply 0:09:42.520 --> 0:09:45.000 saying possibly because of budgets, they can't keep you for 0:09:45.080 --> 0:09:47.840 saying there. But even in my situation where I knew 0:09:47.920 --> 0:09:50.880 that it wasn't necessarily something positive, I had to make 0:09:50.880 --> 0:09:53.360 the right decision to move with character, because that's the 0:09:53.360 --> 0:09:55.559 stuff that will follow you like a shadow. It will 0:09:55.600 --> 0:09:57.440 be something that people can sniff on you before you 0:09:57.520 --> 0:09:59.439 can open your mouth. It will be an energy that 0:09:59.480 --> 0:10:01.240 people can at the moment did you walk in the room. 0:10:01.440 --> 0:10:02.719 It will be a wit for a smell that could 0:10:02.720 --> 0:10:04.800 come through an email before they even met you in person. 0:10:05.280 --> 0:10:07.880 Because people talk, and you have to realize that you 0:10:07.960 --> 0:10:10.400 have to take everything with great So yes, you might 0:10:10.400 --> 0:10:14.720 want to be Superman superwoman, but fall back as they say, 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:19.720 slow down, Jim Shoe, you're moving too fast now you 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:22.120 said that. You also don't want to say anything because 0:10:22.160 --> 0:10:24.600 you haven't gotten yourself in order, so you're so concerned 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:28.360 about everybody else. You don't even have your stuff together. 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:30.640 Thank God, like you said, you only twenty three, so 0:10:30.679 --> 0:10:32.800 maybe you got time the ways thank got you in 0:10:32.800 --> 0:10:35.000 a situation where an option of you is to move 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:40.360 back home. Other people ain't got the option. So you 0:10:40.440 --> 0:10:44.600 have time, you have more flexibility. So while you appear 0:10:44.640 --> 0:10:48.080 trying to just cause a fire because you're smelling smoke, 0:10:48.400 --> 0:10:50.959 you're not even realizing where that smoke is coming from. 0:10:51.240 --> 0:10:54.160 You're not even realizing where that smoke can blow so 0:10:54.280 --> 0:10:56.679 and I say that because you haven't even got your 0:10:56.720 --> 0:10:59.080 own stuff together. And that's another thing that we talked 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:01.920 about this podcast, how you are your greatest asset. If 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:03.800 you are not good to yourself, what can you do 0:11:03.840 --> 0:11:06.320 for someone else? So, now you're in the situation a 0:11:06.360 --> 0:11:08.320 bundle the confusion because you're trying to figure out and 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:11.400 rectify everybody else's likelihood of how they can do something, 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:13.920 and you haven't figured out. You keep being messy, you 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:15.760 keep looking at the emails. You didn't say you did 0:11:15.760 --> 0:11:18.000 it more than once, but I'm assuming that probably once 0:11:18.040 --> 0:11:20.560 you saw it, you're probably more attempted to go back 0:11:20.559 --> 0:11:22.560 in there. You're going to keep playing with fire. You 0:11:22.559 --> 0:11:25.679 will get burned, do you know what I'm saying. So 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:28.680 I think personally in this situation, you need to focus 0:11:28.720 --> 0:11:32.440 on you. I'm focusing on you is one Why are 0:11:32.480 --> 0:11:33.920 you on the job that you found you have no 0:11:34.000 --> 0:11:37.120 business and I know that you're only twenty three, but 0:11:37.200 --> 0:11:38.760 you kind of have to start getting into the habit 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:41.560 of making decisions about what do you want? Like see, 0:11:41.600 --> 0:11:43.560 like you said, the stakes aren't that high because you're young. 0:11:43.760 --> 0:11:45.160 You have an option to go back home. But what 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:48.439 happens when you create the habit of being in situations 0:11:48.440 --> 0:11:51.120 that you know that doesn't deserve you. See, like I 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:53.240 was saying in my situation when I had decided to 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:55.680 leave my internship, because I too had some of the 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:57.720 parts and emails, and just as I looked at how 0:11:57.760 --> 0:12:00.480 I've grown, my decision of leaving a job, job or 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:02.800 to blossom from a job, because I have to reevaluate 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:05.520 the soil. I mean, what am I planting in this 0:12:05.600 --> 0:12:08.120 soil on right now? That soil wasn't fertile, whether it 0:12:08.280 --> 0:12:10.880 because if somebody else is doing or because my placement 0:12:10.960 --> 0:12:13.800 wasn't there. So took in at your situation, your placement 0:12:13.840 --> 0:12:16.160 isn't there. Nothing that you you want to grow from, 0:12:16.320 --> 0:12:18.240 how you want to move forward with your life is 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:20.680 in this job. So I'm not really sure about what 0:12:20.840 --> 0:12:22.960 good can come of it, whether or not you up 0:12:22.960 --> 0:12:25.200 here blasting and tell anyone someone else and you don't 0:12:25.200 --> 0:12:28.480 even have your own stuff together, play your position in 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:31.800 mind your business. That's what I think is the best 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:36.400 way to go about this um because anything further of 0:12:36.480 --> 0:12:38.560 going to tell somebody else you can cross the lines. 0:12:38.880 --> 0:12:41.280 You don't know what the circumstances you don't know what 0:12:41.360 --> 0:12:43.600 that can bring out in somebody else that could cause 0:12:43.600 --> 0:12:46.520 a major confusion that could be rectified with something simple. 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:48.800 Just because somebody is letting go here doesn't mean that 0:12:48.840 --> 0:12:51.600 they're not going to be transferred into another opportunity. Just 0:12:51.640 --> 0:12:54.040 because they're releasing somebody from this position does not mean 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:56.120 that they're not in the talks of a higher position 0:12:56.120 --> 0:12:58.520 in the company or another department. And here you go, 0:12:58.840 --> 0:13:01.079 because you think you so being again bowl. You want 0:13:01.080 --> 0:13:03.439 to beat your chest to be captain save somebody with 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:05.959 your cape on and not realizing that you can cause 0:13:06.800 --> 0:13:10.200 a mass of confusion. And you need to get yourself 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:12.199 together and figure out what it is that you want. 0:13:12.559 --> 0:13:15.600 I've said it on previous episodes. How you do anything 0:13:15.720 --> 0:13:18.280 is how you'll do everything. Get in the mode of 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:21.439 understanding what serves you, because if it doesn't serve you, 0:13:21.640 --> 0:13:24.120 it doesn't deserve you. I know that this doesn't serve 0:13:24.160 --> 0:13:26.240 you because you had already said that you don't really 0:13:26.240 --> 0:13:28.800 care about this job. The thing that's striking me, and 0:13:28.840 --> 0:13:30.960 this is why I'm so passionate about it, is because 0:13:31.240 --> 0:13:35.160 time is our most valuable coin. One s spent, it's 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:38.440 going forever. You are wasting time and a job that 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:41.080 you don't want to be in. You're an executive assistant 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:43.920 making middling pay. Yes, money is important, the fact that 0:13:43.920 --> 0:13:46.680 it's meddling pay. I'm more concerned about the fact that 0:13:46.679 --> 0:13:49.400 that's not what you want to do. Now, you said 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:51.160 you want to look out for everybody else ten or 0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:53.400 fifteen years, where you gonna be at the next ten 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:57.280 or fifteen years. You're trying to save everybody else and 0:13:57.280 --> 0:13:59.640 you don't mind drowning. So what you're gonna lead them 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:03.600 to that on under I'm just saying, and I'm not 0:14:03.679 --> 0:14:05.800 trying to be shady or anything like that. And here 0:14:05.840 --> 0:14:07.920 you have a co worker who you say that's not 0:14:08.000 --> 0:14:10.160 in your corner, that can either do one or two things. 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:12.880 She'll tell the people off the bat what's going on, 0:14:13.080 --> 0:14:15.640 or you've already kind of summarized what can happen. On 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:17.880 the other end, everybody gets to talk, and of course, 0:14:17.920 --> 0:14:20.600 if Brown knows that she's probably friends with everyone else, 0:14:20.760 --> 0:14:22.800 it's gonna tell anywhere. So then you have to evaluate 0:14:22.840 --> 0:14:25.280 how do you win. That goes back to the first 0:14:25.280 --> 0:14:27.160 thing that I said, mind your business, and there's a 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:29.360 level of maturity that things to be done, because now 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:31.360 you need to look at all moving parts. Now. I'm 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:33.440 not taking this away from you because it's not like 0:14:33.480 --> 0:14:35.240 you just went ahead and you jumped at it, because 0:14:35.280 --> 0:14:37.600 you wrote in and you're asking. So I'm saying that 0:14:37.640 --> 0:14:39.960 you need to leave this along. But more importantly, you 0:14:40.000 --> 0:14:43.160 need to find out what you wanna do. And um, 0:14:43.280 --> 0:14:46.960 you know little Wayne said this, He said, real jeez, 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:53.040 move in silence like lasagna? Catch it? Are you gangster 0:14:53.080 --> 0:14:56.240 and all gangster? For your dreams? Gangster? About your play? Gangster? 0:14:56.280 --> 0:14:58.160 How you how you're gonna make your next movie your 0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:01.520 best move? You don't. I have to bring the alarm 0:15:01.640 --> 0:15:03.720 on this. You need to figure out what it is 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:05.560 that you want because of right now after value and 0:15:05.600 --> 0:15:07.920 it's a lose lose situation while you're trying to broadcast. 0:15:08.360 --> 0:15:10.880 You gotta understand what's the bread crumbs for you to 0:15:10.960 --> 0:15:14.040 lead you to your destiny. And thank god you are fortunate. 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:16.080 Thank god you got a glimpse, thank god that you 0:15:16.200 --> 0:15:18.360 got a heads up that you're about to be wading 0:15:18.440 --> 0:15:21.240 in the water by yourself. Now you've got a little 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:22.760 bit of a life raft, you got a little bit 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:25.280 of an extension to get to where you need to be. Now, 0:15:25.400 --> 0:15:27.880 how do you make your next move your best move. 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:31.000 If you're in a situation that you have a uh 0:15:30.840 --> 0:15:33.520 a finite time to decide what your next move is 0:15:33.520 --> 0:15:39.400 gonna be, take advantage of it. Do you hear me? Now? Me, 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:42.840 I'm a dreamer, so I may not always have all 0:15:42.880 --> 0:15:47.760 my moves calculated because I got my purpose and I 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:49.920 know what my vision is, so that allows me to 0:15:49.920 --> 0:15:52.280 have some free flexibility. So if I knew that I 0:15:52.320 --> 0:15:54.760 wasn't happy, whether it was tomorrow today, I know that 0:15:54.800 --> 0:15:57.200 greater is coming because if it's designed for the purpose 0:15:57.280 --> 0:15:59.440 I have my life, everything is working for my greater good. 0:15:59.840 --> 0:16:02.120 I may not understand that. That's just my spill on it, 0:16:02.360 --> 0:16:05.040 but I say to you, mind your business and um 0:16:05.240 --> 0:16:06.800 mature a little bit. You don't need to be going 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:09.240 out there disrupting everyone else's life. I know you want 0:16:09.240 --> 0:16:11.640 to help, but if you're in a situation, if you're 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:14.160 telling everybody and you can't even control of how it 0:16:14.200 --> 0:16:15.920 may get back to the wrong person, you have no 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:19.040 business talking. You don't have any credibility. Not one thing 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:22.880 you did not say is how long you've been here. Yeah, 0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:24.600 you just said that you didn't plan on being there 0:16:24.600 --> 0:16:27.600 for another year. And that you didn't want home Girl, 0:16:28.400 --> 0:16:30.200 Uh you want to stop it from home Girl to 0:16:30.200 --> 0:16:32.720 think that you were taking her position. So how many 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:34.760 people are gonna believe you in your credibility? I mean, 0:16:34.840 --> 0:16:37.160 you're twenty three years old. You just talked about the 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:39.280 fact that there are people that have been there ten 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:42.480 fifteen years, basically half your age, more than half of 0:16:42.480 --> 0:16:47.480 your life. And um, looking at you going about find 0:16:47.520 --> 0:16:49.760 information and on top of the fact, what you're gonna 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:51.320 telling them out? You found this out? What you're gonna 0:16:51.320 --> 0:16:53.360 say you went through the email? What what are you 0:16:53.400 --> 0:16:56.520 going to say? Hey, I was cleaning out emails and 0:16:56.520 --> 0:16:58.880 because I was nosing overstepping boundaries, I saw that we're 0:16:58.880 --> 0:17:01.600 all getting fired. What I don't know if I would 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:04.840 trust you. You got to move with integrity. Integrity is 0:17:04.920 --> 0:17:09.480 everything that's your character, integrity over everything else. So that's 0:17:09.480 --> 0:17:14.760 your answer. Minda business? Okay, But guess what. Thank you 0:17:14.760 --> 0:17:17.719 for writing in. I appreciate you, and I I'm not 0:17:18.160 --> 0:17:20.359 overlooking the fact that you had a good heart and 0:17:20.359 --> 0:17:22.919 your good intentions were to help people. But based on 0:17:23.000 --> 0:17:26.160 just life experience and just based on people, that's not 0:17:26.359 --> 0:17:29.120 something that you should handle. That's why you have certain 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:31.720 people that are managers, that are directors, that are vice 0:17:31.760 --> 0:17:35.399 presidents because they know how to relay information. We know 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:38.160 how information come across and people are losing their lives 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:41.119 about it. We just had a whole pandemic last year. 0:17:41.160 --> 0:17:42.760 Do you know how people were out of work? And 0:17:42.760 --> 0:17:44.399 here we're not, We're just stepping out of it. And 0:17:44.440 --> 0:17:47.359 here you go up here releasing news that people about 0:17:47.359 --> 0:17:51.200 to get fired, Like that's not cool because anything can change. 0:17:51.240 --> 0:17:52.520 I don't know about you, but I live in an 0:17:52.560 --> 0:17:55.240 impossible lifestyle. So what could have been on that document? 0:17:55.280 --> 0:17:58.160 Donna could be erased the next book. Anything is possible, 0:17:58.240 --> 0:18:04.160 So um, get out the business. Okay, all right? Uh 0:18:04.200 --> 0:18:06.880 so I want to welcome you that. If you have 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:09.119 some advice, or maybe if you want to comment on 0:18:09.119 --> 0:18:12.200 the letters, shoot an email Vitamin D at dawn day 0:18:12.320 --> 0:18:17.480 Speaks dot com. I'll welcome you. 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