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Speaker 1: Subject I'm leaving. But should I be quiet about it?
Speaker 1: Dear down. So I found out that my job is
Speaker 1: planning to fire me. My boss wanted me to clear
Speaker 1: out his emails and the dude didn't even take the
Speaker 1: time to archive or hide important company documents. I don't
Speaker 1: know what to do. They were talking about letting me
Speaker 1: and a lot of the stuff go on the next
Speaker 1: few months. I was kind of in shocked when I
Speaker 1: saw them. I was going through just the leading what
Speaker 1: looked like mostly junk of this guy uses his work
Speaker 1: email to sign up for a lot, and then I
Speaker 1: came across some emails that are like downsizing staff and
Speaker 1: getting rid of the fat. It was almost disgusting the
Speaker 1: discard they had showed for the people who work for
Speaker 1: and with them. I'm at a loss. I don't really
Speaker 1: care about this job. I'm an executive assistant making middling pay,
Speaker 1: and I have kind of been looking for an out.
Speaker 1: This at least gives me a deadline. But that's not everyone.
Speaker 1: I'm twenty three, I can start over, but some people
Speaker 1: have been here ten fifteen years. I definitely feel in
Speaker 1: my soul that I should tell them. But here's my issue.
Speaker 1: Among the folks getting fired is a particular brow nos
Speaker 1: er who wouldn't believe me if I told her the
Speaker 1: sky was blue. She always kind of thought I was
Speaker 1: aiming to take her spot. But I didn't even want
Speaker 1: to be here for another year. Let along move up.
Speaker 1: I worry that if I tell her then she'll tip
Speaker 1: off the bosses, But I also know that I can't
Speaker 1: expect to tell everyone else and it not get back
Speaker 1: around to her. If that happens, then they might just
Speaker 1: let me go before I have the chance to get
Speaker 1: my things in order, find a new job, or maybe
Speaker 1: plan to move back home. How should I handle this?
Speaker 1: Who chall you need to mind your business because right
Speaker 1: now you're doing a little way too much. But guess what,
Speaker 1: You're not the only one I to have came across
Speaker 1: emails from my boss that wasn't in the pleasant way.
Speaker 1: And I'm sitting here saying all this in front of Jeremiah.
Speaker 1: Don't be going with you. He shakes his head. But
Speaker 1: let's let's delve into this letter. So the first thing
Speaker 1: I wanted to say is that, um, mind your own business.
Speaker 1: And I say that in the most um positive way.
Speaker 1: You know, you came across an email that talked about
Speaker 1: letting you go that was not even sent to you.
Speaker 1: So let's dissect the letter. You said, Hey, so I
Speaker 1: found out that my job is fled planning to fire me.
Speaker 1: You went on to say, I don't really care about
Speaker 1: this job. You're an executive system middling pay. You don't
Speaker 1: care because you say that you're twenty three. Now you're
Speaker 1: feeling this conviction that you should tell them, But you
Speaker 1: have an issue. There's someone in your office who feels
Speaker 1: as though you have been trying to take their position
Speaker 1: over the years, and you worry that if you were
Speaker 1: to say something that they're going to go ahead and
Speaker 1: tell the bosses or flip the coin that if you
Speaker 1: tell enough, people will get back to her or him
Speaker 1: whomever it is you said her, um, and then they're
Speaker 1: gonna find out if it's you. Now. The reason why
Speaker 1: you're concerned is that you said you have a chance
Speaker 1: to get your things in order to find a new
Speaker 1: job or maybe a plan to move back home. Um.
Speaker 1: Like I said, you're doing way too much because you
Speaker 1: know things happened to take in a matority way, and
Speaker 1: it's no shade. It just happens when you live a
Speaker 1: little longer and people you just always say this to me,
Speaker 1: I will just live a little longer. You'll learn. Um.
Speaker 1: You have to realize that even if you did plan
Speaker 1: on leaving already, you have to leave with grace. You
Speaker 1: have to leave with a stand up character. Just because
Speaker 1: you're leaving this job. Everybody knows somebody, They say, what
Speaker 1: does it? Your net work is your net worth, So
Speaker 1: somebody knows somebody. And you don't want to leave on
Speaker 1: bad terms. You don't want it to come out there
Speaker 1: that you're snooping around the email. Take it as a
Speaker 1: blessing that you got the heads up. Now when I
Speaker 1: talk about there's a level of maturity here that needs
Speaker 1: to to to be applied, is because there are boundaries. Yes,
Speaker 1: you got the blessing of knowing what was in the email.
Speaker 1: And I use blessing loosely because then it dictates your
Speaker 1: life because if you weren't happy with your job in
Speaker 1: the first place, Bro, ma'am, you should have been out.
Speaker 1: What are you waiting on? Why are you staying stagnant?
Speaker 1: That's oftentimes that I think it's a problem or become
Speaker 1: an issue with people who are not living their authentic life,
Speaker 1: who are not living their best life, or feel like
Speaker 1: as though if they don't have a purpose, it's because
Speaker 1: they're waiting for somebody else to give them permission to
Speaker 1: fly and not realizing that birds are meant to fly
Speaker 1: because that's why they got wings. Okay, so you said, hey,
Speaker 1: you're thinking yourself. You want to do every your body
Speaker 1: else a favor of telling them heads up? But what
Speaker 1: does that look like and what kind of commotion what
Speaker 1: kind of turmoil does that that breed? You're in a
Speaker 1: situation of your boss thought highly of YouTube let you
Speaker 1: in on the emails. Just because you are going to
Speaker 1: let go does not mean that it is sometimes to
Speaker 1: vindictive vendetta. I don't even know if that makes sense.
Speaker 1: But it's not like as a ploy to come take
Speaker 1: you out. It's just about what's happening in the company.
Speaker 1: And as the term is as disgusting as you said,
Speaker 1: it may sound trimming the fact the access. Now, if
Speaker 1: you want to do this and apply this to the
Speaker 1: correct way, perhaps you need to figure out how to
Speaker 1: make yourself more valuable. But guess what, that's not an
Speaker 1: option for you because you already planned to leave. But
Speaker 1: for everybody else it may seem like the right thing
Speaker 1: to do. But there's a thing where you just need
Speaker 1: to mind your business. Now. Like I said before my
Speaker 1: time coming up, I too came across emails were it
Speaker 1: wasn't necessarily spoken positively about me, and I pride myself
Speaker 1: on the way at work. I probably myself on my
Speaker 1: work athlete because that's my name, and when you're talking
Speaker 1: about my dreams, I don't play. And there was talk
Speaker 1: just saying that I got distracted, and it was mainly
Speaker 1: because I thinkured because I was excelling and not everybody
Speaker 1: can take the shine. And I don't mean to sound raggedocious,
Speaker 1: but you could not make a complaint on my work.
Speaker 1: I was doing things to inforstrate relationships, raising money, creating
Speaker 1: opportunities as an intern, and while you were employed, I
Speaker 1: was only a couple of years younger than you, and
Speaker 1: I had people up there talking about, oh, she leans,
Speaker 1: she too good for this. Oh little does she know?
Speaker 1: We behind all the tricks, and I'm thinking I'm showing
Speaker 1: up being present. But one thing that I will say,
Speaker 1: whether it's at least in your situation, it wasn't like
Speaker 1: they were talking bad about you because of what could
Speaker 1: seem like a hate oration or just negatively they're simply
Speaker 1: saying possibly because of budgets, they can't keep you for
Speaker 1: saying there. But even in my situation where I knew
Speaker 1: that it wasn't necessarily something positive, I had to make
Speaker 1: the right decision to move with character, because that's the
Speaker 1: stuff that will follow you like a shadow. It will
Speaker 1: be something that people can sniff on you before you
Speaker 1: can open your mouth. It will be an energy that
Speaker 1: people can at the moment did you walk in the room.
Speaker 1: It will be a wit for a smell that could
Speaker 1: come through an email before they even met you in person.
Speaker 1: Because people talk, and you have to realize that you
Speaker 1: have to take everything with great So yes, you might
Speaker 1: want to be Superman superwoman, but fall back as they say,
Speaker 1: slow down, Jim Shoe, you're moving too fast now you
Speaker 1: said that. You also don't want to say anything because
Speaker 1: you haven't gotten yourself in order, so you're so concerned
Speaker 1: about everybody else. You don't even have your stuff together.
Speaker 1: Thank God, like you said, you only twenty three, so
Speaker 1: maybe you got time the ways thank got you in
Speaker 1: a situation where an option of you is to move
Speaker 1: back home. Other people ain't got the option. So you
Speaker 1: have time, you have more flexibility. So while you appear
Speaker 1: trying to just cause a fire because you're smelling smoke,
Speaker 1: you're not even realizing where that smoke is coming from.
Speaker 1: You're not even realizing where that smoke can blow so
Speaker 1: and I say that because you haven't even got your
Speaker 1: own stuff together. And that's another thing that we talked
Speaker 1: about this podcast, how you are your greatest asset. If
Speaker 1: you are not good to yourself, what can you do
Speaker 1: for someone else? So, now you're in the situation a
Speaker 1: bundle the confusion because you're trying to figure out and
Speaker 1: rectify everybody else's likelihood of how they can do something,
Speaker 1: and you haven't figured out. You keep being messy, you
Speaker 1: keep looking at the emails. You didn't say you did
Speaker 1: it more than once, but I'm assuming that probably once
Speaker 1: you saw it, you're probably more attempted to go back
Speaker 1: in there. You're going to keep playing with fire. You
Speaker 1: will get burned, do you know what I'm saying. So
Speaker 1: I think personally in this situation, you need to focus
Speaker 1: on you. I'm focusing on you is one Why are
Speaker 1: you on the job that you found you have no
Speaker 1: business and I know that you're only twenty three, but
Speaker 1: you kind of have to start getting into the habit
Speaker 1: of making decisions about what do you want? Like see,
Speaker 1: like you said, the stakes aren't that high because you're young.
Speaker 1: You have an option to go back home. But what
Speaker 1: happens when you create the habit of being in situations
Speaker 1: that you know that doesn't deserve you. See, like I
Speaker 1: was saying in my situation when I had decided to
Speaker 1: leave my internship, because I too had some of the
Speaker 1: parts and emails, and just as I looked at how
Speaker 1: I've grown, my decision of leaving a job, job or
Speaker 1: to blossom from a job, because I have to reevaluate
Speaker 1: the soil. I mean, what am I planting in this
Speaker 1: soil on right now? That soil wasn't fertile, whether it
Speaker 1: because if somebody else is doing or because my placement
Speaker 1: wasn't there. So took in at your situation, your placement
Speaker 1: isn't there. Nothing that you you want to grow from,
Speaker 1: how you want to move forward with your life is
Speaker 1: in this job. So I'm not really sure about what
Speaker 1: good can come of it, whether or not you up
Speaker 1: here blasting and tell anyone someone else and you don't
Speaker 1: even have your own stuff together, play your position in
Speaker 1: mind your business. That's what I think is the best
Speaker 1: way to go about this um because anything further of
Speaker 1: going to tell somebody else you can cross the lines.
Speaker 1: You don't know what the circumstances you don't know what
Speaker 1: that can bring out in somebody else that could cause
Speaker 1: a major confusion that could be rectified with something simple.
Speaker 1: Just because somebody is letting go here doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: they're not going to be transferred into another opportunity. Just
Speaker 1: because they're releasing somebody from this position does not mean
Speaker 1: that they're not in the talks of a higher position
Speaker 1: in the company or another department. And here you go,
Speaker 1: because you think you so being again bowl. You want
Speaker 1: to beat your chest to be captain save somebody with
Speaker 1: your cape on and not realizing that you can cause
Speaker 1: a mass of confusion. And you need to get yourself
Speaker 1: together and figure out what it is that you want.
Speaker 1: I've said it on previous episodes. How you do anything
Speaker 1: is how you'll do everything. Get in the mode of
Speaker 1: understanding what serves you, because if it doesn't serve you,
Speaker 1: it doesn't deserve you. I know that this doesn't serve
Speaker 1: you because you had already said that you don't really
Speaker 1: care about this job. The thing that's striking me, and
Speaker 1: this is why I'm so passionate about it, is because
Speaker 1: time is our most valuable coin. One s spent, it's
Speaker 1: going forever. You are wasting time and a job that
Speaker 1: you don't want to be in. You're an executive assistant
Speaker 1: making middling pay. Yes, money is important, the fact that
Speaker 1: it's meddling pay. I'm more concerned about the fact that
Speaker 1: that's not what you want to do. Now, you said
Speaker 1: you want to look out for everybody else ten or
Speaker 1: fifteen years, where you gonna be at the next ten
Speaker 1: or fifteen years. You're trying to save everybody else and
Speaker 1: you don't mind drowning. So what you're gonna lead them
Speaker 1: to that on under I'm just saying, and I'm not
Speaker 1: trying to be shady or anything like that. And here
Speaker 1: you have a co worker who you say that's not
Speaker 1: in your corner, that can either do one or two things.
Speaker 1: She'll tell the people off the bat what's going on,
Speaker 1: or you've already kind of summarized what can happen. On
Speaker 1: the other end, everybody gets to talk, and of course,
Speaker 1: if Brown knows that she's probably friends with everyone else,
Speaker 1: it's gonna tell anywhere. So then you have to evaluate
Speaker 1: how do you win. That goes back to the first
Speaker 1: thing that I said, mind your business, and there's a
Speaker 1: level of maturity that things to be done, because now
Speaker 1: you need to look at all moving parts. Now. I'm
Speaker 1: not taking this away from you because it's not like
Speaker 1: you just went ahead and you jumped at it, because
Speaker 1: you wrote in and you're asking. So I'm saying that
Speaker 1: you need to leave this along. But more importantly, you
Speaker 1: need to find out what you wanna do. And um,
Speaker 1: you know little Wayne said this, He said, real jeez,
Speaker 1: move in silence like lasagna? Catch it? Are you gangster
Speaker 1: and all gangster? For your dreams? Gangster? About your play? Gangster?
Speaker 1: How you how you're gonna make your next movie your
Speaker 1: best move? You don't. I have to bring the alarm
Speaker 1: on this. You need to figure out what it is
Speaker 1: that you want because of right now after value and
Speaker 1: it's a lose lose situation while you're trying to broadcast.
Speaker 1: You gotta understand what's the bread crumbs for you to
Speaker 1: lead you to your destiny. And thank god you are fortunate.
Speaker 1: Thank god you got a glimpse, thank god that you
Speaker 1: got a heads up that you're about to be wading
Speaker 1: in the water by yourself. Now you've got a little
Speaker 1: bit of a life raft, you got a little bit
Speaker 1: of an extension to get to where you need to be. Now,
Speaker 1: how do you make your next move your best move.
Speaker 1: If you're in a situation that you have a uh
Speaker 1: a finite time to decide what your next move is
Speaker 1: gonna be, take advantage of it. Do you hear me? Now? Me,
Speaker 1: I'm a dreamer, so I may not always have all
Speaker 1: my moves calculated because I got my purpose and I
Speaker 1: know what my vision is, so that allows me to
Speaker 1: have some free flexibility. So if I knew that I
Speaker 1: wasn't happy, whether it was tomorrow today, I know that
Speaker 1: greater is coming because if it's designed for the purpose
Speaker 1: I have my life, everything is working for my greater good.
Speaker 1: I may not understand that. That's just my spill on it,
Speaker 1: but I say to you, mind your business and um
Speaker 1: mature a little bit. You don't need to be going
Speaker 1: out there disrupting everyone else's life. I know you want
Speaker 1: to help, but if you're in a situation, if you're
Speaker 1: telling everybody and you can't even control of how it
Speaker 1: may get back to the wrong person, you have no
Speaker 1: business talking. You don't have any credibility. Not one thing
Speaker 1: you did not say is how long you've been here. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you just said that you didn't plan on being there
Speaker 1: for another year. And that you didn't want home Girl,
Speaker 1: Uh you want to stop it from home Girl to
Speaker 1: think that you were taking her position. So how many
Speaker 1: people are gonna believe you in your credibility? I mean,
Speaker 1: you're twenty three years old. You just talked about the
Speaker 1: fact that there are people that have been there ten
Speaker 1: fifteen years, basically half your age, more than half of
Speaker 1: your life. And um, looking at you going about find
Speaker 1: information and on top of the fact, what you're gonna
Speaker 1: telling them out? You found this out? What you're gonna
Speaker 1: say you went through the email? What what are you
Speaker 1: going to say? Hey, I was cleaning out emails and
Speaker 1: because I was nosing overstepping boundaries, I saw that we're
Speaker 1: all getting fired. What I don't know if I would
Speaker 1: trust you. You got to move with integrity. Integrity is
Speaker 1: everything that's your character, integrity over everything else. So that's
Speaker 1: your answer. Minda business? Okay, But guess what. Thank you
Speaker 1: for writing in. I appreciate you, and I I'm not
Speaker 1: overlooking the fact that you had a good heart and
Speaker 1: your good intentions were to help people. But based on
Speaker 1: just life experience and just based on people, that's not
Speaker 1: something that you should handle. That's why you have certain
Speaker 1: people that are managers, that are directors, that are vice
Speaker 1: presidents because they know how to relay information. We know
Speaker 1: how information come across and people are losing their lives
Speaker 1: about it. We just had a whole pandemic last year.
Speaker 1: Do you know how people were out of work? And
Speaker 1: here we're not, We're just stepping out of it. And
Speaker 1: here you go up here releasing news that people about
Speaker 1: to get fired, Like that's not cool because anything can change.
Speaker 1: I don't know about you, but I live in an
Speaker 1: impossible lifestyle. So what could have been on that document?
Speaker 1: Donna could be erased the next book. Anything is possible,
Speaker 1: So um, get out the business. Okay, all right? Uh
Speaker 1: so I want to welcome you that. If you have
Speaker 1: some advice, or maybe if you want to comment on
Speaker 1: the letters, shoot an email Vitamin D at dawn day
Speaker 1: Speaks dot com. I'll welcome you. Relationships, career, um, life.
Speaker 1: I don't know anything you wants to't light on. I'm
Speaker 1: here for it. I'm here for you, boo. And I
Speaker 1: don't think it was too harsh. Sometimes I can come
Speaker 1: off a little harsh, but again it's only so you
Speaker 1: can be better, That's it. So UM, go ahead and
Speaker 1: send them emails. I'll be on the lookout. Jeremiah will
Speaker 1: also and be on the lookout, and uh, we'd love
Speaker 1: to hear more. Also, I hope you've been checking out
Speaker 1: all the episodes. You know that we have our interviews,
Speaker 1: we have uh, our affirmations, we got our advice letters,
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