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Speaker 3: Hey, guys, welcome to another episode of horrorbo Decisions were

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Speaker 1: What's up, y'all, I'm weazy. Welcome back to another episode

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Speaker 1: of Horrible Decisions. We're here today with the very special guests.

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Speaker 3: from the ticker Talkers or the Instagram.

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Speaker 2: You guys may also just know her for making y'all

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Speaker 2: upset because y'all arguing about you.

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Speaker 1: Remember the videos I saw? It was when Jess Hilarious

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Speaker 1: made a video like really mad at trans.

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Speaker 2: Girls, which I didn't agree with that at all.

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Speaker 1: I was like, she was tripping and I loved just

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Speaker 1: but some responses I was like, is this too radical?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 1: And I remember yours was one of the videos that

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Speaker 1: I thought that on. And then you pulled up an

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Speaker 1: article about how gender is a colonialist.

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Speaker 4: Like they traced it back to Africa. It was just

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Speaker 4: a little J store article, yeah, where it was like

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Speaker 4: there was there were trans people, general conforming people before colonization.

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Speaker 4: And I was like, that's one of my favorite things

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Speaker 2: Don't tell us about it. I like to tell my

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Speaker 4: But in regards to that, it was just like for me,

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Speaker 4: I was like, which I said it in the video,

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Speaker 4: people are dying?

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Speaker 2: What are we arguing about? Like people are dying?

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Speaker 4: And I think when it comes to sis black women

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Speaker 4: being real like super transphobic, I'm like, we don't even really,

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Speaker 4: we're not even included in what they considered woman hit Anyways,

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Speaker 4: what do you mean by that? Like, for in White Supremacy,

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Speaker 4: she looked at Castor Semenya, who's a woman, but she's

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Speaker 4: getting her metal sagnoid because she has too much testosterone

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Speaker 4: in her body. Her like her natural testochinal levels are

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Speaker 4: medals away because she was winning. That happens so much

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I know, I know what you said, but

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Speaker 1: I was like, okay, wait, I just want to hear

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Speaker 1: you say it again.

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Speaker 2: Damn yeah, she's I think I know what you're talking about.

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Speaker 2: She's from South Africa.

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Speaker 4: It happened to another track and field for by something

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Speaker 2: Oh, I forgot the last thing that should be happening.

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Speaker 2: They don't want us to be great. So in that.

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Speaker 1: Particular video you were saying, because I remember that moment

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Speaker 1: in time when that video came out about Jess, and

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Speaker 1: a lot of people were just kind of like, she's right,

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Speaker 1: she's wrong.

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Speaker 2: I felt like she was wrong.

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Speaker 1: I also was in the side of feeling like, Jess,

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Speaker 1: is it transphobic? I know that that sounds ridiculous considering

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Speaker 1: what she said, but here's why I say that, I

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Speaker 1: don't think that people think necessarily this is a fucked

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Speaker 1: up word. It's used, but like a lotless for real

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Speaker 1: logically when we're talking about situations like this, Like the

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Speaker 1: there's really nothing at risk for you, right, And it

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Speaker 2: It's niggas.

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Speaker 1: Hear me, you got a nineteen keys, even though I

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Speaker 2: These women are trying to take it from you. It's

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Speaker 1: There should be no reason that women don't look at

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Speaker 2: To take my bitch. Never, never, never, never.

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Speaker 1: It is only women doing it to other women, and

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Speaker 1: m so. Transphobia is having or showing a dislike of,

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Speaker 1: I'm one of the I do believe that people that

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Speaker 1: I do find her to be transphobic.

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Speaker 3: I do find anyone who gets in front of their

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Speaker 3: do certain things to be hateful, to question like why

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Speaker 3: she doesn't seem in support of, or understanding of, or

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Speaker 1: And so I'm surprised not that that because like when

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Speaker 3: I'm no, I hated what she said, and if y'all

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Speaker 3: to be transphobic. The things that it wasn't one video.

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Speaker 3: She said multiple things about this community, so like first

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Speaker 2: But we do have a beautiful, beautiful.

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Speaker 3: Beautiful trans woman coming on in a future episode, so

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Speaker 3: maybe this is a conversation we had with her.

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Speaker 5: Uh.

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Speaker 3: Nonetheless, why I invited Christina also on this pod is

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Speaker 2: I'm like, does that mean young.

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Speaker 3: She's younger, and I mean I know that where we're at,

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Speaker 3: we're you know, we did we are learning non monogamy

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Speaker 3: right now, How do you tweet five years younger than us?

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Speaker 3: She's she is at the last part of millennia. She's

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Speaker 3: damn near GM because no offense, I'm listening here, like

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Speaker 3: I thought you were gonna be like three.

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Speaker 2: No, but I mean you don't know. You don't think

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Speaker 1: Okay, I think over twenty five with sexual choices, it's

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Speaker 1: kind of like, all right, you kind of learned a

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Speaker 3: You got some maturity there, like thirty right there. I mean,

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Speaker 3: hell yeah, it's thirty right there.

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Speaker 2: For you said I learned about her age, I was like, oh.

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Speaker 3: No, just just because like I feel, I even in

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Speaker 1: To be fair though, just that five years we have

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Speaker 1: years of millennial ideals and hearing about nominogamy, like we

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Speaker 1: Even remember the episode we had with be Simone where

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Speaker 3: Well no, and it wasn't even network we had to

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Speaker 3: It was a whole word that transvestite, was it? No,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but like for real, motherfuckers don't be knowing ship.

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Speaker 3: I tell my nigga that day, we can't be saying that.

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Speaker 4: There's been a lot of in the last five to

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Speaker 3: That change, what other terms have you learned or have

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Speaker 2: And I think all of us over the last time,

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Speaker 3: And you know what, well, while you over there, we

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Speaker 3: So we're just gonna go through something. I still don't

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Speaker 3: know why you made me the other day. It's a

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Speaker 3: But I don't think it's as bad as the F words.

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Speaker 3: I really didn't feel like that needs to be because

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Speaker 3: see that's so what you just said is literally the.

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Speaker 2: You don't want you you.

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Speaker 3: As long as you don't call somebody that, I don't

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Speaker 3: think it is bad to say. It's the same exact

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Speaker 2: It is.

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Speaker 3: If you call somebody that it's a problem, but they

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Speaker 4: You're not that it's reclamation, it's.

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Speaker 3: But it's well, we've had that conversation about nigga that

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Speaker 3: I had that form, I couldn't call her a butch bitch.

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Speaker 3: Butch bitch is not the D word, but bitch.

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Speaker 3: First off, according to your bleep this profile, you're straight.

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Speaker 1: So in a dating profile, would you write that your

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Speaker 4: M h, yeah, I probably would because it weeds them

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Speaker 2: Don't have to explain it.

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Speaker 4: I want off the gate when you meet me to

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Speaker 2: I feel like I'm weeding out creeps. O bro, I'm

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Speaker 2: telling you I've had I had bisexual in my profile

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Speaker 4: But now you know, off the top, like you don't

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Speaker 1: My sexuality to me is and I know this may

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Speaker 2: Is there like an option that's like, well this was

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Speaker 3: I don't think that was, but I wouldn't. I would

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Speaker 2: Okay. So he hits me up. He's in town. He's

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Speaker 3: So I'm like, well, I have a holiday party i'm

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Speaker 3: don't ask about sexuality and stuff. Yes, the person throwing

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Speaker 3: So I'm so, I'm all dressed up. He comes not

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Speaker 3: So I'm like, open bar, it's lit. He came a

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Speaker 1: Wait was this when you were that brown dress? That

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Speaker 3: Girl.

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Speaker 2: He did not dress up.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, which is why I have no pictures with him.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, not only that, as soon as the open bar ends,

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Speaker 1: Funny how we get I'm gonna tell you at a moment,

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Speaker 3: So I was already just like, okay, let me think

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Speaker 2: But this is not giving holiday party. It's giving.

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Speaker 3: Wait and when I say it's giving, I pause because

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Speaker 3: because mind you best dressed god an award. It turns

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Speaker 3: maybe it turned into a ball. It turned it turned

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Speaker 3: Then it turned into a battle. Then that's kind of fad.

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Speaker 2: Oh it's fun for us for a.

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Speaker 3: Very tall, very straight black man from the South. Mind you,

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Speaker 3: he's already saying how different New York is, and here

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Speaker 3: I go, bring it into a ball, right, So do

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Speaker 3: you know this? So I'm like, oh my god, mind you,

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Speaker 3: there's people there that are like fashion designers getting his

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Speaker 3: I know, they're just all like, so is he with

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Speaker 4: Like?

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Speaker 2: Is this or is this obey?

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Speaker 3: So I'm just like, oh my god, Okay, I'm in Brooklyn.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, She's like, oh, well, let's uh, let's do Bunton.

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Speaker 3: I said, Oh, that black owned bar Brooklyn. This is

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Speaker 2: By the way, I had people try to hit you

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Speaker 2: to come down that night too. Did they hit you?

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Speaker 5: See?

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Speaker 2: I was drunk by the time I saw you. Look

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Speaker 2: hold on, where you gonna put me on the wall? Dad?

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Speaker 3: What I want y'all to know, By the way, how

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Speaker 3: And I'm just like, I thought they.

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Speaker 3: Let me tell you, by the way, not only do

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Speaker 3: I bring him to this ball, I'm on Shrews that night.

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Speaker 3: He's never tried to get him to try him for

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Speaker 3: So now I'm like, oh, it's a group you get

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Speaker 2: On my friends.

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Speaker 3: I didn't realize it was gonna make it even more

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Speaker 3: I think, how.

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Speaker 2: Did you realize that? Because you are my friends and

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Speaker 3: They're like, so anyways to get into it. I start

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Speaker 3: this woman was sitting at the end of the bar.

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Speaker 3: I buy her around the shots, not knowing she likes me.

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Speaker 2: Find you.

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Speaker 3: The girl I met at the bar wants to come,

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Speaker 3: and she's like, can we both suck his dick.

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Speaker 2: I know we can, Okay, where's the advice portion? So

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Speaker 3: We finally go to leave, but by this time he's

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Speaker 2: I'm straight.

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Speaker 3: Happens to club, I'm the sight club. Nothing happens. So

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Speaker 3: he goes to sit down. We're making out, but the girl,

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Speaker 3: no literally, the club is closed. It's a fucking Wednesday

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Speaker 2: But we don't brought everybody from Buttons Club.

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Speaker 3: So we drank it, were talking another nigga passed out

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Speaker 2: We leave.

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Speaker 3: Next thing, you know, this girl is like, so can

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Speaker 3: we both suck a dick? So, because I'm drunk, I'm like, hey,

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Speaker 3: because at this one I was just like, you're drunk.

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Speaker 2: Do I even like him?

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Speaker 3: Wait?

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Speaker 2: What did he say? What did he say?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 2: He wasn't comfortable.

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Speaker 3: He didn't want people to watch he didn't know if

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Speaker 2: always give thank you because I always have visuals. Stories.

440
00:20:36,920 --> 00:20:39,120
Speaker 1: You'll want to shout out to y'all for every home mail.

441
00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:40,600
Speaker 1: Now you're sending photos of yourself.

442
00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:42,399
Speaker 2: We will always keep them private, but I need them

443
00:20:42,480 --> 00:20:43,280
Speaker 2: or I can't answer it.

444
00:20:43,720 --> 00:20:46,160
Speaker 3: Hold on, I'm gonna show you actually the free shots

445
00:20:46,200 --> 00:20:48,439
Speaker 3: that I set my friend because when I sent her,

446
00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:50,919
Speaker 3: she was like, oh, girl, that's why they was asking

447
00:20:50,920 --> 00:20:52,760
Speaker 3: if he was straight, and I was like, oh.

448
00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:54,639
Speaker 2: She was like, you'd be liking them a.

449
00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:57,040
Speaker 1: Little pretty niggas, And I was like, I can't wait

450
00:20:57,040 --> 00:20:58,080
Speaker 1: to see how like skinny is.

451
00:20:59,480 --> 00:21:01,440
Speaker 2: Huh, don't do that?

452
00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:06,160
Speaker 3: Is he Christina's or by the way, nah, I don't

453
00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:08,439
Speaker 3: send her all these pictures of all these niggas on

454
00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:09,160
Speaker 3: the dat and apps.

455
00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:11,240
Speaker 2: Oh.

456
00:21:11,280 --> 00:21:15,119
Speaker 3: Anyway, long story short, long story short, we end up

457
00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:17,280
Speaker 3: going home. I take them home at four o'clock in

458
00:21:17,280 --> 00:21:20,240
Speaker 3: the morning, and I was like, Okay, damn, you don't

459
00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:23,240
Speaker 3: been questioned about your sexuality all night, and I'm horny.

460
00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:26,200
Speaker 2: Let's ruk you ready we get all the way home.

461
00:21:27,760 --> 00:21:28,360
Speaker 2: Dick is hard.

462
00:21:28,400 --> 00:21:30,560
Speaker 3: I'm like, all right, let's go in the room. I

463
00:21:30,600 --> 00:21:33,000
Speaker 3: have the condom already, pulled it out, and then he.

464
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:33,480
Speaker 2: Puts it on.

465
00:21:34,760 --> 00:21:37,120
Speaker 3: As soon as he goes inside me with this condom,

466
00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:43,520
Speaker 3: then says, I don't really use these, and I rolled

467
00:21:43,560 --> 00:21:47,879
Speaker 3: over the thing. No, he just got soft and was

468
00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:49,680
Speaker 3: like and literally told me I don't really use these.

469
00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:56,200
Speaker 3: And one moment before I get y'all thoughts on this,

470
00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:59,800
Speaker 3: this is where I had to think in my head, Nigga,

471
00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:03,280
Speaker 3: you just got brought to a ball. I made out

472
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:04,960
Speaker 3: with two bitches in front of you. I brought you

473
00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:06,680
Speaker 3: to a sex club. It was gonna let another bitch.

474
00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:07,520
Speaker 3: I ain't gonna hold you.

475
00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:09,960
Speaker 2: At that point, I was just like, there ain't no

476
00:22:09,960 --> 00:22:17,399
Speaker 2: way you should trust me. It just I literally was like,

477
00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:21,440
Speaker 2: I was like, you trust this first night?

478
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:24,480
Speaker 3: After all of that, I didn't trust his move I

479
00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:27,320
Speaker 3: never I don't even want I ain't even gonna hold you.

480
00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:29,040
Speaker 2: I literally was.

481
00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:32,760
Speaker 3: Like, damn that bro, how do you how do you

482
00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:35,440
Speaker 3: trust this to after you just saw all this And

483
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:37,560
Speaker 3: I ain't even add the fact that I got another

484
00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:39,280
Speaker 3: nigga's number at the bar, but that was a that's

485
00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:42,000
Speaker 3: a whole other part of the story, and you were

486
00:22:42,040 --> 00:22:43,840
Speaker 3: just willing to be like you good, I'm good. I

487
00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:47,080
Speaker 3: don't really use condo crazy after you just got brought

488
00:22:47,119 --> 00:22:50,399
Speaker 3: into this type of night. I don't trust youzy, but

489
00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:54,160
Speaker 3: funk story short. She knows I have a date tonight

490
00:22:54,240 --> 00:22:55,680
Speaker 3: and I'm like, girl, I'm about to bring him to

491
00:22:55,720 --> 00:22:58,359
Speaker 3: me speed dating on stage. I don't know how to

492
00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:03,800
Speaker 3: not introduce people to my life style fairly early. What

493
00:23:04,119 --> 00:23:06,080
Speaker 3: need bitch you either, because you'd have had to force

494
00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:08,760
Speaker 3: somehow and you you not even six months?

495
00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:11,359
Speaker 2: I am look at you, bitch.

496
00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:19,680
Speaker 3: Probably she just at six months, that's me is introducing lifestyle. Sorry,

497
00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:22,800
Speaker 3: but here's what I think. Okay, I'm not saying that

498
00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:24,600
Speaker 3: that was he did want to see me again after

499
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:25,720
Speaker 3: By the way.

500
00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:28,679
Speaker 2: Of course he did yea naked please?

501
00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:33,159
Speaker 3: I like the first date is probably a now also,

502
00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:35,119
Speaker 3: actually can I take the sex out of it?

503
00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:35,440
Speaker 2: Yep?

504
00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 1: On my first date with this nigga, there were like

505
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:41,600
Speaker 1: friends that I kept running into that night and he

506
00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:43,119
Speaker 1: was like, damn, I just wanted to get to know you,

507
00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:44,840
Speaker 1: like he told me that later, And I actually think

508
00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:47,320
Speaker 1: it's really not good to have a first date where

509
00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:48,639
Speaker 1: you're just inviting a lot of energy.

510
00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 3: Well, let's be very if you want to go date.

511
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:56,960
Speaker 3: I invited him to a ball which I was already

512
00:23:56,960 --> 00:24:01,960
Speaker 3: going to and oh, okay, keeps on, go ahead.

513
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 1: And I like, seriously, though, I think that on a

514
00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 1: first date it's not necessarily the best thing to do

515
00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:09,600
Speaker 1: to invite people, or even if again it's a neighborhood bar,

516
00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:11,280
Speaker 1: like let's just say you're going to your favorite place.

517
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:14,479
Speaker 1: Sometimes even that's distracting. And that's a very New York thing,

518
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,280
Speaker 1: it is, right, it is. It's like, oh my god,

519
00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:17,440
Speaker 1: I know this great spot over here.

520
00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:18,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've got a lot of men do that.

521
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:20,919
Speaker 1: But then everybody starts talking to them and then and

522
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,639
Speaker 1: it's like it's just too much. So I prefer to

523
00:24:23,680 --> 00:24:25,359
Speaker 1: have just an experience where we're just talking to it

524
00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 1: and to know each other, because.

525
00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:29,080
Speaker 3: You know, how soon do you introduce people? I know

526
00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:30,399
Speaker 3: you let it be, how soon do you do?

527
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:33,080
Speaker 2: How soon do you do? I haven't I haven't done

528
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:35,320
Speaker 2: I don't think I have done that. Oh yet you

529
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:39,840
Speaker 2: know why that type of night.

530
00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was a wild night ower I mean, but

531
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:45,919
Speaker 4: I would not see myself doing it. And that's what

532
00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:48,200
Speaker 4: I'm saying. I would want to get to know some see,

533
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 4: because I wouldn't want someone to feel ucomfortable.

534
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:53,120
Speaker 2: I'd want to be able to like, also, I'm gonna

535
00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:53,639
Speaker 2: be with you.

536
00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:56,400
Speaker 1: Like I've done drugs people on a first day, right,

537
00:24:56,400 --> 00:25:00,320
Speaker 1: but they had the drug energy like if someone no.

538
00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:02,280
Speaker 1: Like I remember one of my first dates and he

539
00:25:02,359 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 1: was like, you know what, you look like a lot

540
00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 1: of fun and I feel like we should go to elsewhere.

541
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:07,119
Speaker 2: And I was like we should. He was like, and

542
00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:10,879
Speaker 2: we should do molly when we're there, and I was like, yeah, no,

543
00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:13,119
Speaker 2: I gotta find him because you know what's crazy to me.

544
00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:15,480
Speaker 2: I know his name, but I don't know his back.

545
00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:18,960
Speaker 2: I don't know his social hands. I knew him for

546
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:22,080
Speaker 2: three hours. Niggas is crazy. Yeah, I don't even know

547
00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:24,200
Speaker 2: drugs when no random nigga, oh rather.

548
00:25:24,160 --> 00:25:26,720
Speaker 3: Well, no, let me stop. I told this nigga do shrooms.

549
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:28,840
Speaker 3: I can't find it. I don't know social media right

550
00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:30,359
Speaker 3: off the top of my head right now. So I

551
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:31,840
Speaker 3: gotta find it later. I'm gonna show you all before

552
00:25:31,880 --> 00:25:35,520
Speaker 3: you cropping from a pick pet. So anyway, anyways, let's

553
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:37,399
Speaker 3: get I do want to skip vanilla shit because I

554
00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 3: want to get into our horrible decision and potentially our

555
00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:43,760
Speaker 3: whole mail. So let's skip right into our war derve. Okay, Christina,

556
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:46,960
Speaker 3: give us a sex tip please? Oh fuck yes, bitch

557
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:49,360
Speaker 3: completely well you be sex and so come on.

558
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:52,119
Speaker 2: What's your favorite thing that? What's people's favorite thing that

559
00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 2: you do? Everything that I do? Yeah, in the bit

560
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:59,040
Speaker 2: m I gave a really good ahead. Give us a

561
00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:04,280
Speaker 2: head too. Oh both, let's get a pussy. That's what

562
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:06,160
Speaker 2: niggas really need. Oh my god.

563
00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:13,159
Speaker 4: I I think taking your time. I don't like straight

564
00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:17,879
Speaker 4: up looking really fast. I feel like a nice taking

565
00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 4: her to people just try to like lick. And they

566
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 4: licked too much in the whole vova sometimes and it's

567
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:27,959
Speaker 4: like pointed, like that should be hurting, not pointed, no pointed,

568
00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:31,119
Speaker 4: as in like focused localized. I was like, I don't know,

569
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:33,440
Speaker 4: not the point because that's like that's too much. And

570
00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:35,359
Speaker 4: sometimes when they stuck the lady, it goes in your teeth.

571
00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 2: Have you you had a laby get stuck between your no, no, no, no,

572
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:42,240
Speaker 2: my lady gets stuck in someone else's wait wait wait

573
00:26:42,359 --> 00:26:44,920
Speaker 2: you wait wait wait wait.

574
00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 4: You did he have a gap like the inn, like

575
00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:51,959
Speaker 4: the little inner lay, not stuck but like it like

576
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:56,760
Speaker 4: no disrespect. I need to see it, not like the

577
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 4: in or what am I?

578
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:00,920
Speaker 2: You might have a different shut up down there.

579
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 4: I don't know when they try to like when they

580
00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:07,080
Speaker 4: try to suck it and it like and you're like, okay,

581
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:09,160
Speaker 4: this is turts that has never happened to you never.

582
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:13,720
Speaker 3: I really I want to join in on this with you,

583
00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:15,560
Speaker 3: and I can't, and I feel bad.

584
00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 2: I hate making someone feel left out. But bitch, this

585
00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:21,600
Speaker 2: is often not often no no, it's from someone is

586
00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:28,120
Speaker 2: too rough. But do they have guests between the teeth like.

587
00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:30,040
Speaker 4: I literally get stuck like a turk, like roastb It's

588
00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:32,000
Speaker 4: not getting stuck like a strong It's just like a

589
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:35,359
Speaker 4: It's like when someone suck like imagine was sucking on

590
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:36,560
Speaker 4: your neck or your loop too much?

591
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 2: Maybe you feel the teeth.

592
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:40,640
Speaker 3: They don't get stuck in it.

593
00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 4: I think maybe, okay, don't get stuck. That does sound crazy, now,

594
00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 4: you see how I saying. We're thinking, No, it's given.

595
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 3: It's given you gotta like, yo, your couchie getting stuck

596
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 3: like your couchie movie. I got a what a ring?

597
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 2: Stuck? Where not stuck stuck?

598
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 1: But I remember like she had rings around the hood,

599
00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:05,399
Speaker 1: and like it just pulled on my big teeth.

600
00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:10,280
Speaker 2: That sounds painful. I only ate one pussy that was pierced,

601
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 2: and it was a little cute, little glow in the dark.

602
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 1: I went so slow too. It was like, it's so terrifying.

603
00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 1: It's so hot to feel it in your mouth, but

604
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:21,119
Speaker 1: it's so terrifying. Oh yeah, and why do you have

605
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 1: a hoop?

606
00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:22,880
Speaker 2: Just do a bar? That's what I'm saying.

607
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 3: Who COUCHI had a bar with a little glowing and

608
00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:28,359
Speaker 3: that ball that's c It was cute. Well, let's get

609
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 3: into the warble decision, because this is where you're gonna

610
00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:33,760
Speaker 3: teach the audience something. But also, I guess you're so

611
00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:36,600
Speaker 3: grown now that you know. Let's go back deeper into

612
00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:39,560
Speaker 3: the twenties. So one of your favorite videos that I

613
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 3: saw you do you explain something called the formula to Hortum. Yeah,

614
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:47,200
Speaker 3: so were gonna talk about beyond Horse real quick.

615
00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:50,200
Speaker 1: Although Weezy is not, it's really holiday party plus Mandy

616
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:51,600
Speaker 1: that's the formula.

617
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:55,560
Speaker 2: Don't do that. I really was trying to be nice

618
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 2: that night and the end you had the fancy didn't

619
00:28:58,040 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 2: know it was gonna be. I didn't think you were

620
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 2: being not nice. I mean, I ain't gonna hold you.

621
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 2: My my homegirl called me out.

622
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:07,320
Speaker 3: She said, Mandy, you just didn't like the guy, because

623
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 3: if you really liked him, you wouldn't have invited all

624
00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:12,480
Speaker 3: those people. And I was like, you might have a point.

625
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 3: When you're on a date and you really like someone,

626
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:16,520
Speaker 3: it's just you and that person. You don't feel like

627
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:17,760
Speaker 3: you need a lot going on.

628
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 2: That's a good point.

629
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 1: I was like, bitch, read me. That was like me

630
00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 1: on acid, what I told you when we were doing Patreon.

631
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 1: I recently did acid for the first time with my

632
00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 1: Niggainst friends and I was like when we got home,

633
00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I must really like you, because

634
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 1: I wanted everyone to leave.

635
00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:34,360
Speaker 2: I literally was like.

636
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:36,440
Speaker 1: I can't take this energy. It was one friend that

637
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 1: I wanted around, like everybody gotta go.

638
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 3: You really like somebody, They got to go. Ooh go

639
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:43,800
Speaker 3: it's a position. Come on, let's oooh my favorite position.

640
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 3: It okay. This is if you're writing a dick. No,

641
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 3: it's actually not. No, you can do this with anything.

642
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 3: It's when with your you know, okay, you're on top,

643
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:56,680
Speaker 3: they're on the bottom. But you you like crab you

644
00:29:56,680 --> 00:29:57,600
Speaker 3: know when you crab walk.

645
00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:01,560
Speaker 4: Yes, you've ever been outside in your legs are your

646
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 4: feet are on the bed or whatever, but you put

647
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:06,160
Speaker 4: your hands behind you like a crab walk and you

648
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 4: ride like.

649
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:11,480
Speaker 2: Like a fucking bridge and a workout by look who

650
00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 2: does that?

651
00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 1: No, I believe her, But as someone that works out

652
00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 1: literally every day, I still don't know if I want

653
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:18,160
Speaker 1: to do it.

654
00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:21,280
Speaker 4: It's not entirely a bridge because sometimes their their legs

655
00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 4: or knees come up. It supports you and they can

656
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:26,160
Speaker 4: hold your hands like if you're oh no, they hold

657
00:30:26,160 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 4: your like ankles while they're like on the bed, if

658
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:29,959
Speaker 4: you're on the bed.

659
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:32,160
Speaker 2: I would have to show you, I promise you.

660
00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 3: I would like to see. I would like to see

661
00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:35,880
Speaker 3: it right now. Do it right here, y'all watching it

662
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:38,640
Speaker 3: on the YouTube. Let me see the little bullshit as

663
00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 3: all one. Okay, I'm gonna explain what's happne y'all. This

664
00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 3: is an audio experience, Okay, okay, okay, So she getting

665
00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 3: on the Okay, there we go and then you link

666
00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 3: back okay, and then you and then you go up

667
00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:57,200
Speaker 3: and down.

668
00:30:57,240 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 2: Let me see how you do this? Okay, do wait?

669
00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:10,240
Speaker 2: You lift your tor so okay?

670
00:31:11,360 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 3: Oh like that, you know, shout out to shout out

671
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:22,240
Speaker 3: to you. It'll be different when you get to your thirties. Ma'am,

672
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 3: I ain't gonna hold you.

673
00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:27,720
Speaker 2: What she saying. I hit that one time. The reason

674
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:31,080
Speaker 2: it's see what you're doing. The reason is not that bad.

675
00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:34,520
Speaker 1: Is because anytime you get to lean your body on something.

676
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 1: That's why I like riding in a chair. Yes, because

677
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:39,960
Speaker 1: you get to hold on. That's why when I work

678
00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:42,000
Speaker 1: on a nigga, I like to grab the wall. I

679
00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 1: need to hold up.

680
00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:44,160
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm not gonna lie.

681
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:47,720
Speaker 3: And this is why I'm non monogamous, because for the

682
00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 3: things I just don't want to do, someone else could do.

683
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:54,160
Speaker 2: It for you. Bro.

684
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 1: Why do you think The first time I squirted on

685
00:31:55,920 --> 00:31:58,840
Speaker 1: a dick was after I watched the Bitch Squirt.

686
00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:01,120
Speaker 2: I was like, oh this whe is gonna keep scirting

687
00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:01,320
Speaker 2: all night.

688
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:03,960
Speaker 3: The first time I ex got me a squirt after

689
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 3: he saw someone else make me squirk.

690
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:08,920
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it's like a compety shield. I got a

691
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:11,400
Speaker 1: motherfucking ego. Bro, I don't want nobody to do nothing

692
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:11,840
Speaker 1: better than me.

693
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:20,000
Speaker 2: Please don't. I'm a wow. Anyways, let's use it because

694
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 2: y'all you're right, you're right, you're right right.

695
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:25,520
Speaker 3: All right, Damn we have talked about trans and a

696
00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:27,440
Speaker 3: whole bunch of ship. They ain't on this motherfucking outline.

697
00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:30,360
Speaker 2: Whoa, I.

698
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:38,480
Speaker 3: Hey, who, Let's get into it. Formula to hortum. You

699
00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 3: have three phases of it? Can we get into it?

700
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:44,680
Speaker 3: For those listening? What is the first?

701
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 2: What? What? What? What's the first thing? In a? For me?

702
00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 2: The first first, little, the first this is not Pemda's

703
00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:55,280
Speaker 2: bro very there we go.

704
00:32:55,400 --> 00:33:00,960
Speaker 4: What's the first? Honestly I'm really think I kind of

705
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:03,720
Speaker 4: like just improved it. Okay, so I have to have

706
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 4: to go back to.

707
00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:08,040
Speaker 3: So the formula to hoortum starts at twenty to twenty three,

708
00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:10,320
Speaker 3: which you call what the Bambi legs?

709
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 2: Please explain this phase of horum.

710
00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:16,479
Speaker 4: I feel like that's the sage where your legs need

711
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 4: to be shaken like Bambie. But the THANX you're having

712
00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:21,440
Speaker 4: and he's seen in sex fun sex, right, but you're

713
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 4: also kind of like barely navigating adulthood.

714
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 2: You don't.

715
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:27,160
Speaker 4: I didn't think I was doing a twenty twenty three.

716
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 4: I mean I thought I did at the time. You

717
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 4: look back, No, you have no idea. So it's like

718
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:34,560
Speaker 4: you're literally kind of just new to figuring shit out.

719
00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:36,760
Speaker 4: You don't really know yourself fully, you know. I think

720
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:41,320
Speaker 4: what you're interested in, your horny, you're a DoPT for

721
00:33:41,360 --> 00:33:45,960
Speaker 4: the first time. Your freedom. You're not your apartment exactly.

722
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:47,800
Speaker 4: You might be going to school, you have a job.

723
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 4: You just meet a whole bunch of people when you're

724
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:50,800
Speaker 4: out there, and I think that's a good time to

725
00:33:50,920 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 4: like explore and go.

726
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:55,800
Speaker 2: So twenty to twenty three you have as one of

727
00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 2: the best times to explore it.

728
00:33:58,040 --> 00:33:59,800
Speaker 4: Yes, and I think it's like a several time to

729
00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:02,760
Speaker 4: make You're gonna make mistakes, but it's different when you're

730
00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:05,000
Speaker 4: twenty tween one making mistakes versus like when you're twenty

731
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:06,360
Speaker 4: nine or twenty eight.

732
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:08,040
Speaker 2: It was like, do you.

733
00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 3: Agree with with so you can't make mistakes? Somewhere you can,

734
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 3: but it's like, roup, I'll do it.

735
00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 2: I got to do it. I agree with her.

736
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 1: But I also think there's a few factors to the formula. Okay, okay,

737
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:21,640
Speaker 1: so I have a few friends that were either in

738
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:24,040
Speaker 1: school too long or in long term relationships and now

739
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:26,320
Speaker 1: they're fucking up in their thirties and it's kind of embarrassing.

740
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:29,560
Speaker 1: But I think it's what we're exposed to. I'm saying

741
00:34:29,680 --> 00:34:31,640
Speaker 1: you got to be exposed to a little more so

742
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:33,960
Speaker 1: for anyone listening, and Mandy and I actually got to

743
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:37,879
Speaker 1: meet a lot what I thought was younger for our

744
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:42,719
Speaker 1: meet and greets during our shows. I do think you

745
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:47,680
Speaker 1: kind of got a whole early, mainly because your boyfriend

746
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:50,000
Speaker 1: that ends up being your husband or your girlfriend that

747
00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:52,279
Speaker 1: ends up being your wife probably isn't the.

748
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:54,520
Speaker 2: One you meet at twenty twenty one. I know, it's

749
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 2: your life.

750
00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:59,600
Speaker 1: Okay, you might kill yourself, but just saying that's what

751
00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:01,399
Speaker 1: I was to do. Oh I love a good I'm

752
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:04,920
Speaker 1: my coilmins I may yeah yeah, out that's my favorite

753
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:06,480
Speaker 1: oaths so toxic.

754
00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 2: That was that was my.

755
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:13,799
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, that's I mean, And that's but that

756
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,680
Speaker 1: was who I lived in at twenty one twenty. But

757
00:35:16,719 --> 00:35:18,799
Speaker 1: what I'm saying is like everything feels like the end

758
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 1: of the world, and what's really the end of the

759
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 1: world is not learning yourself early enough. Because if you're

760
00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:27,800
Speaker 1: exploring your sexuality and trying to figure out your body

761
00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:29,879
Speaker 1: with that partner that might be the be all end all.

762
00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:31,120
Speaker 2: That's even worse.

763
00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:35,240
Speaker 1: You want to show up so that motherfucker is so mate,

764
00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:36,440
Speaker 1: No one had a sucking dick.

765
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:39,320
Speaker 2: Do you want to learn on a dick that the

766
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:40,000
Speaker 2: dick is supposed to be?

767
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:40,160
Speaker 4: Right?

768
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:43,280
Speaker 2: No? Right, you need to practice on all the bum niggas.

769
00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:45,560
Speaker 2: Trust me, we've all had a couple.

770
00:35:45,400 --> 00:35:48,279
Speaker 3: Practicing on all the bum niggas gives them maybe because

771
00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:49,480
Speaker 3: they don't deserve.

772
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 1: It, Like you know what I'm saying, Like the ones

773
00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:52,640
Speaker 1: that deserve the good head, they're not gonna come to

774
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:53,239
Speaker 1: later in life.

775
00:35:53,320 --> 00:35:56,279
Speaker 3: Men are just not good until they're thirty. I'm glad

776
00:35:56,280 --> 00:36:02,000
Speaker 3: I was partnicing all not even then. Shit, I didn't shit, Okay,

777
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:04,080
Speaker 3: next bathe, Do you remember the dick you practice on?

778
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 2: Because I do.

779
00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:08,120
Speaker 1: Do you just hid or just I'm like, no, no,

780
00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 1: just I remember the person that I was like literally

781
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:13,880
Speaker 1: practicing with. I mean even in my own brain, like

782
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 1: not even with that, like just literally thinking like is

783
00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 1: this good?

784
00:36:16,719 --> 00:36:18,560
Speaker 3: Like yeah, I made him put a pillow over her head.

785
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:22,640
Speaker 3: I remember that first time. I don't want him to

786
00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:26,360
Speaker 3: see me, okay, next basee. Next part of the formula

787
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:30,080
Speaker 3: is twenty four to twenty seven, which you call.

788
00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:32,880
Speaker 2: I forgot what did I rebirth? Okay? Rebirth?

789
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:36,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like your prefunc to cortex hits you.

790
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 4: I'm at that fucking stage. And that is the I

791
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:44,400
Speaker 4: know better No, like you you thought you knew yourself.

792
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:46,919
Speaker 4: You thought you were an adult twenty you're like twenty three,

793
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:48,960
Speaker 4: twenty fourteen five pates and you're like, I don't know

794
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:49,919
Speaker 4: any I don't know shit.

795
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:53,640
Speaker 2: That's why I act like that. That's that trauma. Oh

796
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 2: my god.

797
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:56,680
Speaker 4: And then it's like an unpacking of all of that.

798
00:36:57,080 --> 00:37:01,919
Speaker 4: So to me, it's kind of like a slow down

799
00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:03,879
Speaker 4: the hording. That's what happened to me. I slowed down.

800
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:05,919
Speaker 2: You slowed down between twenty four and twenty seven.

801
00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:07,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, And that was like the stage of like, let

802
00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:10,400
Speaker 4: me think of maybe some celibacy or assins, let me

803
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:13,720
Speaker 4: take like, let me take a break, breaks, like actual breaks.

804
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:16,440
Speaker 4: I'm not feeling really fulfilled, and you learn myself. I'm

805
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:18,600
Speaker 4: understanding why I do the things that I do, why

806
00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:20,920
Speaker 4: I made that mistake, why I'm out here telling people

807
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:22,799
Speaker 4: I'll give myself if you leave me, Like things like

808
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:24,280
Speaker 4: and shit like that.

809
00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:26,120
Speaker 2: That's a great example of twenty four to twenty seven.

810
00:37:26,239 --> 00:37:28,640
Speaker 2: That makes sense. Yeah, and then twenty eight plus you

811
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 2: put its intention, yes, because it's horring with intention, horing

812
00:37:32,680 --> 00:37:34,719
Speaker 2: with twenty eight plus. She added that right when she

813
00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 2: turned now what was horring? What it did? I did

814
00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:37,000
Speaker 2: add it? Yea.

815
00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:39,799
Speaker 3: I was said, yeah, ready, that's like I'm non monogamous

816
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 3: because I like WOCI and it.

817
00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:44,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, every people and does I like people to watch

818
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:45,719
Speaker 2: me and I like to watch yes.

819
00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 4: And love. I just my love feels more expansive. And

820
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:53,280
Speaker 4: it was for me my journey of like feeling polyamorous. Actually,

821
00:37:53,520 --> 00:37:55,160
Speaker 4: this podcast had it. When you were talking about the

822
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 4: five years, I felt like I was learning with y'all,

823
00:37:57,400 --> 00:37:58,439
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna hold you.

824
00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:01,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, we still learning, Like, oh you like all listening?

825
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:04,240
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, because I started listening years around my twenty

826
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:06,440
Speaker 4: three twenty four is when I started listening to If.

827
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,200
Speaker 2: Any of y'all are listening to this, and y'all, it's

828
00:38:08,239 --> 00:38:10,839
Speaker 2: twenty three baby, that's what we're talking about.

829
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:12,920
Speaker 1: That we just said that, like you should be explaining.

830
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:16,799
Speaker 1: Let me ask you, just because I'm interested. So lifestyle

831
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:19,319
Speaker 1: is it sex loves for you. Is it just maybe

832
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:22,720
Speaker 1: multi partner relationships and give us a wild story.

833
00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:25,440
Speaker 3: It's just what I want it is. We know you

834
00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:27,480
Speaker 3: know what a prefrontal courts It was the tea.

835
00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:33,640
Speaker 4: It's multi partner relationships for sure. And I enjoyed sex club.

836
00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:34,880
Speaker 4: I love I like sex parties.

837
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:35,399
Speaker 2: They're fun.

838
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 1: What role do you play in a sex party? Are

839
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:40,839
Speaker 1: you the girl that starts? Are you the one that's

840
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:43,000
Speaker 1: the unicorn? Are you the one that's bringing the people?

841
00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:43,239
Speaker 4: Like?

842
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:44,680
Speaker 2: Who are you with the sex party? Because we know

843
00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:47,640
Speaker 2: a Mendia is I want it? Could? Wait? Who am

844
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:51,480
Speaker 2: I the promoter? Now I'm not. I have not the promoter.

845
00:38:51,600 --> 00:38:53,640
Speaker 1: Your favorite thing to say is I bring everyone into

846
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:55,920
Speaker 1: sex slub because they want to experience it. I'm the

847
00:38:55,960 --> 00:38:58,320
Speaker 1: tour guide. Okay, better baby, once we get.

848
00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 3: In there, explore, I'm off to with my own ship.

849
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:03,440
Speaker 3: I just bring you there. That's it, because a lot

850
00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:04,680
Speaker 3: of people don't know how to find them.

851
00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, damn, okay.

852
00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:10,399
Speaker 4: Which I need to connect because I need But yes,

853
00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:13,319
Speaker 4: I could be all. I love bringing people. Ask any

854
00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:15,200
Speaker 4: of my friends. I'm always like, so we should I

855
00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:16,840
Speaker 4: want to host. To be honest, I can't wait to

856
00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 4: the point where I host one. I'm like, I want

857
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:21,439
Speaker 4: to bring people everyone that I know. We all trust

858
00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 4: each other. We could just like, why can't we all

859
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:28,799
Speaker 4: just be naked finely? We're friends. I like, I'm an

860
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:32,520
Speaker 4: exhibition as a voors. Okay, so first, yeah, I'm both,

861
00:39:32,560 --> 00:39:36,040
Speaker 4: but I am. And I learned that I was voyeurs

862
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:37,480
Speaker 4: the first time, not the first time. I had a

863
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:39,160
Speaker 4: three someome the first time, I had a three some

864
00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:42,440
Speaker 4: with a guy and a man and a woman. So

865
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 4: I had three sons with like just women. But then

866
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:46,080
Speaker 4: I had a three someome with like man and woman,

867
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:48,479
Speaker 4: and I like started spotting in between, like in the middle,

868
00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:50,840
Speaker 4: and I was like, oh fuck, I just gotta watch

869
00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:54,560
Speaker 4: the Worst the Worst man I was watching and I

870
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:57,000
Speaker 4: was like, actually, I could take a break.

871
00:39:57,080 --> 00:40:01,320
Speaker 2: I can do that myself. It's kind of Nicelive did

872
00:40:01,400 --> 00:40:04,359
Speaker 2: that threesome with a man a woman and positively, oh

873
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:06,799
Speaker 2: he did. Everyone had agree. Yeah, I was everyone was fine.

874
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:10,799
Speaker 2: They were everyone know each other. I knew him.

875
00:40:10,840 --> 00:40:13,000
Speaker 4: I had been fucking around with him casually. And I

876
00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:15,680
Speaker 4: was hanging with my homegirl one night. We're having a

877
00:40:15,680 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 4: wine night.

878
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:18,920
Speaker 2: You were hanging with your homegirl. Why do you do that?

879
00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:22,279
Speaker 3: I told you your friends is the one.

880
00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:24,040
Speaker 2: She's like, I was having a wine night.

881
00:40:26,719 --> 00:40:30,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, basically he was texting me. He texted me, oh god,

882
00:40:31,880 --> 00:40:34,640
Speaker 4: he was feeling more than I was feeling him. I

883
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:36,480
Speaker 4: don't want to be here anyways, he was feeling me

884
00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 4: more than I was feeling him. He texted me like,

885
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:38,919
Speaker 4: why is that police?

886
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:41,480
Speaker 2: He so good? I was like, here we go. So

887
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:42,279
Speaker 2: my friend takes the phone.

888
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:45,680
Speaker 4: She responds as me starts sexting with him, and then

889
00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:47,759
Speaker 4: he facetimes and he sees both of us, and I

890
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:49,200
Speaker 4: was like, yeah, she was sexting me the whole time.

891
00:40:51,120 --> 00:40:53,160
Speaker 4: Then he's like, oh, what are y'all doing. We're like

892
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 4: having a wine night. He's like, let me come over.

893
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 4: We're like, you can come over, you bring food. When

894
00:40:57,200 --> 00:41:00,200
Speaker 4: he hangs up, he didn't even bring the fuck.

895
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:02,839
Speaker 2: So you still gave him the koodo. You know why

896
00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 2: listen so y'all don't want to hear anything. Well, really,

897
00:41:09,880 --> 00:41:12,799
Speaker 2: she's in the midst. You know.

898
00:41:12,800 --> 00:41:14,160
Speaker 4: When he when he hung up, he was supposed to

899
00:41:14,160 --> 00:41:19,840
Speaker 4: bring tacos. I'll never say'll go. I'll never forget that.

900
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 4: I was really like, come on, bro, like we could

901
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 4: have some food app because we felt the vibes. He

902
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:25,440
Speaker 4: was like, we could eat out anyways. I'm still a

903
00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:27,879
Speaker 4: little salty that he didn't make no tacos. But when

904
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:31,840
Speaker 4: he before he came, me and her were like, you

905
00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:33,799
Speaker 4: feeling are you feeling vibe? I was like, I'm gonna

906
00:41:33,800 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 4: feeling this vibe. Let's see how it feels. I didn't

907
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:37,960
Speaker 4: feel no type of this was years ago. I didn't

908
00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 4: feel no type of like jealousy about this at all.

909
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:43,239
Speaker 4: And I kind of want to just let him out

910
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:44,399
Speaker 4: with my friend.

911
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:45,960
Speaker 2: Did you ever fuck your friend?

912
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:48,280
Speaker 4: No, that was the first time and her had fucked

913
00:41:48,280 --> 00:41:51,160
Speaker 4: and yeah, even we might have made out once. But like,

914
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:52,799
Speaker 4: I saw the same thing, and I wanted to, like

915
00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:55,719
Speaker 4: suck a dick with someone. I wanted to experience that

916
00:41:56,560 --> 00:41:58,400
Speaker 4: he really was just there for us to be clodnest.

917
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 4: That's what that, That's what been felt the bad. Me

918
00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 4: and her were like that you really want to do that.

919
00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 3: I love that this happened a few years ago, because

920
00:42:04,760 --> 00:42:06,839
Speaker 3: again I would have been like, and this is why

921
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:09,480
Speaker 3: these niggas don't think they gotta do anything. He got

922
00:42:09,520 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 3: a whole threeesome guy, his dick stuck by two women

923
00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:12,879
Speaker 3: and didn't even bring no food.

924
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:16,839
Speaker 2: Did y'all ever get another niggas together? Why you frame

925
00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:22,320
Speaker 2: it like that? I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I'm sorry because

926
00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:28,200
Speaker 2: this was years ago. This was during baby leg This honest,

927
00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:30,600
Speaker 2: y'all know I the broke dick from time to time.

928
00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:34,279
Speaker 2: That ship why sometimes you just.

929
00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:36,680
Speaker 1: Want to it's too much work. You should only be

930
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 1: requiring ship from niggas to have it.

931
00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 2: That's the truth. If you know what nigga pour a ship?

932
00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:45,680
Speaker 3: Why am I about to fucking be really upset that

933
00:42:45,719 --> 00:42:47,000
Speaker 3: you can't take me out to eat for?

934
00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 2: Why? I think? Don't talk?

935
00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:53,359
Speaker 3: Keep talking, get her eyes so keep keep keep going

936
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:54,000
Speaker 3: with this.

937
00:42:54,000 --> 00:42:56,520
Speaker 2: This is a clipping. We're hearing me out. This is

938
00:42:57,120 --> 00:42:59,760
Speaker 2: I'm serious? Which one? This one? Fine?

939
00:43:00,719 --> 00:43:03,520
Speaker 1: If you know when nigga has money and he's not

940
00:43:03,719 --> 00:43:05,720
Speaker 1: spending it on you, that's awful.

941
00:43:06,120 --> 00:43:08,600
Speaker 2: How could you have money be posting these cars and

942
00:43:08,640 --> 00:43:09,279
Speaker 2: doing all this shit.

943
00:43:09,360 --> 00:43:11,440
Speaker 3: I don't want to see one more bottle on fire

944
00:43:11,719 --> 00:43:14,560
Speaker 3: in your goddamn Instagram story. You better be taking me

945
00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:17,640
Speaker 3: to eat now. If but niggas broke as hell? They

946
00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:18,360
Speaker 3: always telling you.

947
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:21,040
Speaker 2: About how shit is rough? What the fuck do I

948
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:24,680
Speaker 2: need from you but your dick? That's it. I'm lying

949
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:27,720
Speaker 2: here a little bit. He needs to go get a job.

950
00:43:28,040 --> 00:43:30,799
Speaker 3: Okay, oh my god. And if you get a job,

951
00:43:30,840 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 3: you probably got a terrible one. If your dick is

952
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:35,120
Speaker 3: not a terrible job, there is no terrible job out there.

953
00:43:35,160 --> 00:43:39,560
Speaker 3: I don't believe, because you know what, somebody else was broke.

954
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 3: I want to be his Coretta, but you don't.

955
00:43:42,239 --> 00:43:45,440
Speaker 2: Okay, that note, you know what.

956
00:43:45,640 --> 00:43:47,359
Speaker 3: I wanted to play this clip before we got out

957
00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:48,799
Speaker 3: of here. We won't get to home mail. But I

958
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:51,239
Speaker 3: think that this is going to lead to a very

959
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:52,520
Speaker 3: thoughtful conversation.

960
00:43:52,800 --> 00:43:55,400
Speaker 2: Okay, I have a clip here here we.

961
00:43:55,400 --> 00:44:00,840
Speaker 5: Got Emotionally damaged people are always sexually promisky, all right, doctor,

962
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:06,560
Speaker 5: he emotionally traumatized people required constant validation from others. You

963
00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:10,080
Speaker 5: married to a woman who've been traumatized, abuse, abandonment, whatever.

964
00:44:11,280 --> 00:44:13,920
Speaker 5: When you're not around her for too many days, she

965
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:19,640
Speaker 5: has to entertain another man because her trauma dictates constant validation.

966
00:44:20,520 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 5: You have a date a woman who was crazy about you.

967
00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:27,920
Speaker 5: She absolutely loved you, so you thought it was really addiction.

968
00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:32,560
Speaker 5: When you finally let her go, when you finally got

969
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:35,240
Speaker 5: her to stop stalking you, she ended up with another

970
00:44:35,280 --> 00:44:38,359
Speaker 5: man like that, and he took it hit you said,

971
00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:42,720
Speaker 5: wait a minute, Oh, she was crazy about your presence

972
00:44:42,800 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 5: in her life, and the minute you distanced yourself from

973
00:44:46,680 --> 00:44:50,919
Speaker 5: her life, she found a replacement without a problem. Emotionally

974
00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:55,719
Speaker 5: damaged people are promiscuous because they cannot go without constant validation.

975
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:56,840
Speaker 2: What is he talking about?

976
00:44:57,320 --> 00:44:59,040
Speaker 3: I would love to know your thoughts, because I know

977
00:44:59,120 --> 00:45:01,040
Speaker 3: you've eat What did you talk about?

978
00:45:01,239 --> 00:45:02,719
Speaker 2: First and foremost?

979
00:45:03,080 --> 00:45:05,759
Speaker 4: I think one of my hot tastes is I think

980
00:45:05,840 --> 00:45:08,839
Speaker 4: hypersexuality and purity are two sides of the same coin.

981
00:45:09,680 --> 00:45:12,600
Speaker 4: I think we would talk about hyper sexual people because

982
00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:15,120
Speaker 4: that being permission is not hyper sexual, then you can't

983
00:45:15,120 --> 00:45:17,239
Speaker 4: control it being per sexual permissials, I don't I'm not

984
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:20,520
Speaker 4: listening to them. Same hypersexual Well you can't control it. Cool,

985
00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 4: But a lot of people don't talk about that. Purity also,

986
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:25,760
Speaker 4: I think comes from the same type of like trauma

987
00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:30,560
Speaker 4: and the same type of like oh, the emphasis on

988
00:45:30,640 --> 00:45:32,080
Speaker 4: how you're but how what do you do with your

989
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:34,120
Speaker 4: body and what your body looks like? And how valid?

990
00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:37,200
Speaker 4: How you get validation from people? People who are obsessed

991
00:45:37,200 --> 00:45:39,000
Speaker 4: with being pure. It's the same shit you're obsess with

992
00:45:39,000 --> 00:45:40,680
Speaker 4: your pussy, you're sess with you to dick, you're obsessed

993
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:43,080
Speaker 4: with how people view your sexuality, and you're obsessed with

994
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:47,120
Speaker 4: saving it for someone special and what that means and

995
00:45:47,160 --> 00:45:49,319
Speaker 4: what that proves. It's very similar to people who like

996
00:45:50,560 --> 00:45:52,440
Speaker 4: kind of because I had a point where I was

997
00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:55,040
Speaker 4: hypersexual and it was due to trauma. But I don't

998
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:58,359
Speaker 4: But you don't agree with him here, No, I think

999
00:45:58,360 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 4: I like how some want like sexual. I would consider

1000
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 4: myself pro rescuous just because I want to be like pleasure.

1001
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:06,359
Speaker 4: I think it's fun. I think sex is beautiful. I

1002
00:46:06,360 --> 00:46:10,000
Speaker 4: think it doesn't have to stem from what.

1003
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:13,040
Speaker 3: How do you draw the difference between hypersexuality and promiscuity,

1004
00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:15,680
Speaker 3: because we we had a whole episode, episode six about

1005
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:18,880
Speaker 3: the word promiscuous in Totat when we first started the

1006
00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:21,880
Speaker 3: pot So I would love to know how you differentiate too.

1007
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 4: For me, it's if I feel like I can't like

1008
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:28,720
Speaker 4: control it, like it's like an incessant thought or insessant desire,

1009
00:46:28,719 --> 00:46:31,960
Speaker 4: and that doesn't need hyper sexual Okay, Yeah, like it's

1010
00:46:31,960 --> 00:46:34,840
Speaker 4: something that is like a part, like kind of like

1011
00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 4: a problem, you know what I'm saying. Permis she was

1012
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:40,239
Speaker 4: just like I could go months without having sex, I

1013
00:46:40,239 --> 00:46:42,480
Speaker 4: could I could be having sex three times a week.

1014
00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:46,600
Speaker 4: Permiscus is my desire and and openness and being sensual,

1015
00:46:46,760 --> 00:46:49,120
Speaker 4: my love, love of being naked, my love. It's cold

1016
00:46:49,120 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 4: out and I'm always gonna have my titties or some

1017
00:46:50,719 --> 00:46:53,520
Speaker 4: cleaves out, like that's who I am.

1018
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:55,239
Speaker 2: So I feel like I.

1019
00:46:55,160 --> 00:46:57,879
Speaker 1: Do think hypersexuality and trauma can go hand in hand,

1020
00:46:57,880 --> 00:47:02,440
Speaker 1: though yeah I don't, yeah, but I don't necessarily think it.

1021
00:47:04,239 --> 00:47:06,400
Speaker 1: For example, like a lot of my friends that have

1022
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:13,400
Speaker 1: experienced trauma sexual trauma are kind of wildly into BDSM,

1023
00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:17,239
Speaker 1: but I realize it's because there's so much consent and

1024
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:18,560
Speaker 1: control that's brought back.

1025
00:47:19,320 --> 00:47:19,960
Speaker 2: So it's this.

1026
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 1: Safe way to experience dismantling your trauma. And I really

1027
00:47:26,080 --> 00:47:29,080
Speaker 1: think when people say it in a bad way, I mean,

1028
00:47:29,360 --> 00:47:31,320
Speaker 1: and let's be honest, like before we all understood what

1029
00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:33,840
Speaker 1: the ship was, right, you're like, whoa, these people are crazy,

1030
00:47:34,400 --> 00:47:38,239
Speaker 1: But it makes sense, like being bound, being tied the

1031
00:47:38,400 --> 00:47:41,760
Speaker 1: yes no, being able to have a safe word.

1032
00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:44,359
Speaker 2: There is so much control in that.

1033
00:47:45,520 --> 00:47:48,279
Speaker 1: I actually did some I don't want to say that

1034
00:47:48,400 --> 00:47:52,359
Speaker 1: our word, but that kind of play and like m hmm,

1035
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:54,399
Speaker 1: and we had a lot of fun, but like we

1036
00:47:54,440 --> 00:47:57,920
Speaker 1: made sure that no wasn't the safe word because that

1037
00:47:58,000 --> 00:48:00,200
Speaker 1: might be in the play, you know what I'm saying,

1038
00:48:00,680 --> 00:48:03,680
Speaker 1: And like literally, I remember there was one point where

1039
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:06,680
Speaker 1: like he was grabbing my wrists super hard, and I

1040
00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:09,720
Speaker 1: was like, I got really scared, but I was excited

1041
00:48:09,719 --> 00:48:11,320
Speaker 1: that I was scared, and it was just like damn,

1042
00:48:11,400 --> 00:48:13,839
Speaker 1: Like having that safe word is so important because like, yes,

1043
00:48:13,920 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 1: the no was.

1044
00:48:14,560 --> 00:48:15,520
Speaker 2: Part of the whole thing.

1045
00:48:15,920 --> 00:48:17,839
Speaker 1: So I think knowing that I could say my one word,

1046
00:48:17,880 --> 00:48:19,120
Speaker 1: I don't want to say why my safe word is,

1047
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:21,839
Speaker 1: but just say this one word and it's over, that's

1048
00:48:21,880 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 1: a lot of power.

1049
00:48:22,760 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 4: I think sex is healing, which is why I don't

1050
00:48:24,920 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 4: guess I think can come from trauma. But if hypersexuality

1051
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:31,319
Speaker 4: can come from trauma, why can't sexuality also heal?

1052
00:48:31,440 --> 00:48:34,319
Speaker 3: What if we take out the sets? What if we

1053
00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:37,319
Speaker 3: take out the fact that he's like as soon as

1054
00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:40,600
Speaker 3: you hop out, what about a serial dater, Like if

1055
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:42,960
Speaker 3: he's saying that you need the validation and the attention

1056
00:48:43,040 --> 00:48:46,480
Speaker 3: from someone else, What if even we take the whole

1057
00:48:47,280 --> 00:48:50,440
Speaker 3: vagina dick in vagina or vagina vagina whatever, What if

1058
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 3: we take penetration and sex out of it. He's also saying,

1059
00:48:53,760 --> 00:48:57,760
Speaker 3: which promiscuous could lead to just relationships with multiple people,

1060
00:48:58,040 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 3: with a lot of people, sexual relationships of course, But

1061
00:49:00,920 --> 00:49:02,560
Speaker 3: when you're dating a lot of people, or you jump

1062
00:49:02,600 --> 00:49:04,920
Speaker 3: from one relationship to the next, could that not be

1063
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:07,279
Speaker 3: seen as someone who is maybe doing that from a

1064
00:49:07,320 --> 00:49:09,400
Speaker 3: trauma response as well, because they need the validation of

1065
00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:12,920
Speaker 3: other people. Like when I heard him say that, a

1066
00:49:12,960 --> 00:49:16,799
Speaker 3: part of me actually was like, of course, at first,

1067
00:49:16,800 --> 00:49:19,279
Speaker 3: I don't want to really agree with much of what

1068
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:21,440
Speaker 3: doctor Umar has to say, right, because according to him,

1069
00:49:21,440 --> 00:49:25,319
Speaker 3: I shouldn't exist because I'm biracial. Right. I would love

1070
00:49:25,360 --> 00:49:27,879
Speaker 3: for him to sit here with it, but I go

1071
00:49:27,960 --> 00:49:30,479
Speaker 3: in with the bias to not really want to listen.

1072
00:49:30,520 --> 00:49:32,520
Speaker 3: But I listened to this a few times, and I

1073
00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:36,120
Speaker 3: was like, I found that even in my relationship, a

1074
00:49:36,160 --> 00:49:39,279
Speaker 3: part of feeling abandoned immediately by my ex when we

1075
00:49:39,320 --> 00:49:41,680
Speaker 3: would constantly break up was me going back to what

1076
00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:44,640
Speaker 3: was sayd whether it be twenty four to seven, whether

1077
00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:47,080
Speaker 3: it be other partners that I just had in the tuch.

1078
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:48,480
Speaker 2: In my rollo digs, you know what I mean.

1079
00:49:48,760 --> 00:49:51,920
Speaker 3: But I was like, damn, is this a part of

1080
00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:54,800
Speaker 3: And I couldn't sensually, I don't know what their trauma

1081
00:49:54,840 --> 00:49:57,520
Speaker 3: with my dad leaving me. I mean, to be honest,

1082
00:49:57,560 --> 00:49:59,839
Speaker 3: I listened to this and it got me to think

1083
00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:03,839
Speaker 3: it was the need in that relationship where I kept being,

1084
00:50:04,160 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 3: you know, feeling like I was being abandoned and going

1085
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Speaker 3: under someone else. Did that relate at all to maybe

1086
00:50:09,600 --> 00:50:12,480
Speaker 3: my dad not being around for certain times or things

1087
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:14,680
Speaker 3: like that? Like I do think that we want to

1088
00:50:14,920 --> 00:50:17,520
Speaker 3: not believe that our trauma exists in the way we

1089
00:50:18,040 --> 00:50:22,440
Speaker 3: now date or find partnerships or even have sex. But

1090
00:50:22,520 --> 00:50:24,319
Speaker 3: the more that I'm talking to people and the more

1091
00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:27,440
Speaker 3: I am looking into it, I'm questioning deeper things about

1092
00:50:27,440 --> 00:50:29,960
Speaker 3: myself too. And so I listened to this and where

1093
00:50:30,040 --> 00:50:32,360
Speaker 3: y'all are like, yeah, no, I think it leans to this,

1094
00:50:32,800 --> 00:50:33,640
Speaker 3: I found this to be.

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00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:38,040
Speaker 2: Actually I did actually agree with majority of what she's

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00:50:38,120 --> 00:50:38,480
Speaker 2: right about.

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Speaker 1: The purity though, because anyone that is like keeping their

1098
00:50:42,320 --> 00:50:45,200
Speaker 1: sexuality for something has been traumatized by something else.

1099
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:49,120
Speaker 2: It's their family saying oh my god, no, you're too fast.

1100
00:50:49,239 --> 00:50:50,000
Speaker 2: It's religion.

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00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:53,160
Speaker 1: I mean, don't get me wrong, Brianna is probably one

1102
00:50:53,160 --> 00:50:57,440
Speaker 1: of my best friends, but we've never deeply talked about

1103
00:50:57,440 --> 00:51:01,880
Speaker 1: trauma together. But the fact that she was atheist and

1104
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:07,600
Speaker 1: is literally given God her you know, sexuality and his celibate. Now,

1105
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:11,200
Speaker 1: there's no way you go from fucking and having fun

1106
00:51:11,239 --> 00:51:13,120
Speaker 1: and being a bartender to nothing.

1107
00:51:13,640 --> 00:51:16,759
Speaker 2: Something here in the middle to me had to be

1108
00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:19,920
Speaker 2: traumatic to make you feel that God is the answer.

1109
00:51:20,200 --> 00:51:21,799
Speaker 2: And it's not that I'm not saying I don't believe

1110
00:51:21,800 --> 00:51:23,719
Speaker 2: in God or anything, but I think when it's a

1111
00:51:23,800 --> 00:51:26,719
Speaker 2: complete one eighty, there has to be something in the

1112
00:51:26,719 --> 00:51:29,480
Speaker 2: middle of that. And I'm curious to know. And I

1113
00:51:29,480 --> 00:51:31,480
Speaker 2: could be wrong, right because.

1114
00:51:31,239 --> 00:51:33,960
Speaker 1: Her relationship to God is special and it doesn't necessarily

1115
00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:36,880
Speaker 1: mean that someone fucked her up. But I do wonder though,

1116
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:40,000
Speaker 1: the guilt and the shame that people feel around sex

1117
00:51:40,040 --> 00:51:41,120
Speaker 1: and that needing to be pure.

1118
00:51:41,960 --> 00:51:44,120
Speaker 2: What happened along the way? I had a true love

1119
00:51:44,120 --> 00:51:46,680
Speaker 2: weight ceremony in high school. What true love weight? Love

1120
00:51:46,719 --> 00:51:50,680
Speaker 2: wait ceremony? Like a ceremony? What is a true love weight?

1121
00:51:50,719 --> 00:51:55,400
Speaker 4: It was literally a church like youth group high school,

1122
00:51:55,480 --> 00:51:57,160
Speaker 4: and we all had a lose ceremony and we got

1123
00:51:57,239 --> 00:51:59,680
Speaker 4: rings to talk about we'll wait till marriage and now

1124
00:51:59,719 --> 00:52:02,240
Speaker 4: I'm polyamorous.

1125
00:52:02,960 --> 00:52:07,040
Speaker 2: What happened? So I never heard of that? What happened

1126
00:52:07,040 --> 00:52:08,760
Speaker 2: in the ceremony? Oh my god?

1127
00:52:09,239 --> 00:52:09,719
Speaker 3: This is new.

1128
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:12,040
Speaker 4: Still listening, I know, I'm trying to remember, trying to remember.

1129
00:52:13,440 --> 00:52:17,080
Speaker 4: I was like sixteen, okay, okay, eighteen sixteen. I was

1130
00:52:17,080 --> 00:52:20,080
Speaker 4: with my friends. We dressed up, and we were at

1131
00:52:20,880 --> 00:52:23,440
Speaker 4: what is dressing up? Like dresses? Like dresses?

1132
00:52:24,080 --> 00:52:24,680
Speaker 2: Were they white?

1133
00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:25,160
Speaker 4: No?

1134
00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:25,680
Speaker 2: They weren't.

1135
00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:31,000
Speaker 4: We can choose or wearing yeah, no, And we were

1136
00:52:31,040 --> 00:52:36,480
Speaker 4: pledging our faith. I'm not pledging our commitment to wait

1137
00:52:36,520 --> 00:52:38,640
Speaker 4: till marriage in front of God and in front of

1138
00:52:38,640 --> 00:52:42,480
Speaker 4: our family and our parents. And yeah, and then our

1139
00:52:42,640 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 4: parents were there.

1140
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:46,960
Speaker 2: Our parents gave us rings for it.

1141
00:52:47,560 --> 00:52:50,680
Speaker 4: Yes, So was you promising your parents not to basically

1142
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:52,640
Speaker 4: basically give me that?

1143
00:52:54,320 --> 00:52:56,080
Speaker 2: How does this serve? Oh my?

1144
00:52:56,239 --> 00:52:59,720
Speaker 4: And that's well, and that's why I say it comes

1145
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:03,040
Speaker 4: from pre that purity and so like, I agree, if

1146
00:53:03,040 --> 00:53:05,160
Speaker 4: you take the sex out of it, right, And I

1147
00:53:05,280 --> 00:53:07,080
Speaker 4: know it's a lot of the way that I move

1148
00:53:07,120 --> 00:53:08,200
Speaker 4: with sex comes from trauma.

1149
00:53:08,360 --> 00:53:11,240
Speaker 2: I still am working through that. But it's the emphasis

1150
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:13,280
Speaker 2: on that sex part and not the fact that purity

1151
00:53:13,360 --> 00:53:14,440
Speaker 2: is the same as.

1152
00:53:15,080 --> 00:53:16,480
Speaker 4: Like, if we're gonna talk about that, let's have the

1153
00:53:16,480 --> 00:53:18,280
Speaker 4: conversation about puberty, what purity?

1154
00:53:18,280 --> 00:53:20,520
Speaker 2: What do you think that tells me? At sixteen?

1155
00:53:21,160 --> 00:53:23,440
Speaker 4: Now I suck dick next the next year, right, or

1156
00:53:23,440 --> 00:53:25,680
Speaker 4: I have sex because I want to the following year.

1157
00:53:26,080 --> 00:53:28,680
Speaker 2: Now I feel like I've disappointed my dad. My mom gone.

1158
00:53:28,719 --> 00:53:32,040
Speaker 1: Now see they can't be you know what. My mom

1159
00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:33,960
Speaker 1: was the one who was handing me condoms and putting

1160
00:53:33,960 --> 00:53:36,320
Speaker 1: me on horse control and telling me to be open

1161
00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:38,680
Speaker 1: and like, tell her what I need, tell her if

1162
00:53:38,719 --> 00:53:41,040
Speaker 1: something goes wrong. She never wanted me to end up

1163
00:53:41,040 --> 00:53:42,759
Speaker 1: in a scary situation. She wanted me to be open.

1164
00:53:42,840 --> 00:53:45,200
Speaker 3: Right, you did a true love waste ceremony and we

1165
00:53:45,239 --> 00:53:46,640
Speaker 3: sitting next to each other, bitch.

1166
00:53:46,520 --> 00:53:50,080
Speaker 2: So they no, doctor Lumar's wrong. That's why the is

1167
00:53:50,200 --> 00:53:53,640
Speaker 2: no formula. You're born being a hoe. There's a formula

1168
00:53:53,680 --> 00:53:56,279
Speaker 2: to wartem. We just learned it. And that's where intent.

1169
00:53:56,400 --> 00:53:59,479
Speaker 4: I feel like the intentional aspects, Oh what I feel

1170
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:00,279
Speaker 4: like twenty I.

1171
00:54:00,280 --> 00:54:02,560
Speaker 3: Think that that should then be taught from the beginning.

1172
00:54:02,840 --> 00:54:06,279
Speaker 3: What like intent? If you don't have sex, what is

1173
00:54:06,280 --> 00:54:09,080
Speaker 3: the intent are you dating? Like the idea of dating

1174
00:54:09,080 --> 00:54:11,560
Speaker 3: even with intent? Like, I don't think that that's really

1175
00:54:11,560 --> 00:54:14,359
Speaker 3: put on because let's be very clear, not everyone could

1176
00:54:14,360 --> 00:54:16,920
Speaker 3: just become our husband's up there. Hell no, some of

1177
00:54:16,920 --> 00:54:19,440
Speaker 3: you are don't know ourselves. There has to be intent

1178
00:54:19,520 --> 00:54:21,560
Speaker 3: as to why am I dating this person? Can't It

1179
00:54:21,560 --> 00:54:23,480
Speaker 3: shouldn't be just to become a wife or just to

1180
00:54:23,520 --> 00:54:23,960
Speaker 3: be married.

1181
00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:26,200
Speaker 2: What is the intent? What do I want out of myself?

1182
00:54:26,840 --> 00:54:29,359
Speaker 4: Just all the things and this relationship? I don't When

1183
00:54:29,360 --> 00:54:31,520
Speaker 4: people are like, oh, you just want this person, I

1184
00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:35,440
Speaker 4: say yes, yes. Sometimes I have a friend who we

1185
00:54:35,520 --> 00:54:36,840
Speaker 4: like to go to a coffee shop. And sometimes I

1186
00:54:36,840 --> 00:54:38,719
Speaker 4: have a friend that we have Grace sixes together and

1187
00:54:38,760 --> 00:54:41,560
Speaker 4: that's fine. Why does that match? Sometimes I have people

1188
00:54:41,600 --> 00:54:43,960
Speaker 4: that I'm more romantic with. That's where I got to

1189
00:54:44,000 --> 00:54:46,279
Speaker 4: the polyamor thing. And it's like I have these different

1190
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:49,319
Speaker 4: types of relationships and when I allow myself to have them,

1191
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:50,280
Speaker 4: I feel really fulfilled.

1192
00:54:50,480 --> 00:55:01,560
Speaker 2: I don't understand the problem. People way to find you, yes, ma'am?

1193
00:55:01,880 --> 00:55:04,080
Speaker 2: Oh me, yeah, no, the firs behind you.

1194
00:55:04,480 --> 00:55:07,480
Speaker 4: I was like, I'm on Instagram at M I S

1195
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Speaker 4: S X t I N A B miss x Tina Brown.

1196
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Speaker 3: You would put Xtina now that I learned about your

1197
00:55:13,400 --> 00:55:18,200
Speaker 3: church is Extina. Yes, girl, that's why Christina Aguilera took

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Speaker 3: the Christis.

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Speaker 4: You ain't need a shorten user, miss cute find me

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00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:24,640
Speaker 4: all on Instagram and I have a lead stree where

1201
00:55:24,640 --> 00:55:25,680
Speaker 4: you can find ye everywhere else.

1202
00:55:25,800 --> 00:55:27,880
Speaker 2: I love that, y'all. She's on TikTok, she's everywhere.

1203
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