WEBVTT - Ane: Date My Polycule, First! 0:00:05.200 --> 0:00:09.520 Alida, you know how you've been learning lots of new 0:00:09.560 --> 0:00:12.520 words over the past two seasons of the podcast. 0:00:12.600 --> 0:00:13.720 It's a new word every week. 0:00:13.800 --> 0:00:18.480 I've learned grinder, boy, pussy, yes, and I had to 0:00:18.560 --> 0:00:22.239 learn about polyamory from the beginning of season one. 0:00:22.480 --> 0:00:25.320 Exactly. Yes, I hear you, Awida. 0:00:25.480 --> 0:00:28.560 I want to teach you another word that is really 0:00:28.560 --> 0:00:29.280 important for me. 0:00:29.920 --> 0:00:30.800 Well, what is it? 0:00:31.200 --> 0:00:34.160 The word today is compersion. 0:00:34.600 --> 0:00:36.199 It kind of sounds like a way to fix the 0:00:36.280 --> 0:00:39.080 kitchen sink, not really, so. 0:00:39.240 --> 0:00:45.920 Compersion is the word for feeling joy or contentment, for 0:00:46.240 --> 0:00:50.000 a partner's excitement, especially around them dating other people. Some 0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:53.600 people like to think of compersion as an antidote to jealousy. 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:55.040 Can you use it in a sentence? 0:00:55.120 --> 0:00:55.680 Absolutely? 0:00:55.760 --> 0:00:55.960 Yes. 0:00:56.080 --> 0:01:00.760 So when I see my partner meeting a new cutie 0:01:00.800 --> 0:01:04.760 and being excited about a new crush, I am always 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:08.560 happy to notice compersion in myself. That's same excitement. Like 0:01:08.600 --> 0:01:10.360 I see them excited and I'm like, oh, I'm excited 0:01:10.440 --> 0:01:11.280 for you in with you? 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:14.360 Wow? What does that have to do with today's episode? 0:01:14.400 --> 0:01:16.240 All right, So I'm gonna answer the episode and then 0:01:16.240 --> 0:01:18.119 I'm gonna give you a pitch. So check this out. 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:21.640 This is day My hourly, the first where our incredible 0:01:21.680 --> 0:01:26.720 AI Daily Leanna plays matchmaker for one lucky main dater. 0:01:26.880 --> 0:01:31.200 She's gonna sort through three stellar contestants before sending one 0:01:31.240 --> 0:01:33.200 of them off on a one on one date with 0:01:33.360 --> 0:01:37.840 our star dater. I am your host, Vico Ortiz, joined 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:41.319 by the hilarious AI Dai Leana Monte. 0:01:42.520 --> 0:01:44.480 You ready for my pitch out of the park? Do 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:45.200 it all right? 0:01:45.280 --> 0:01:48.560 So we learn about compersion today because I was thinking, 0:01:49.200 --> 0:01:50.280 what if. 0:01:51.320 --> 0:01:53.680 One of my partners comes on the podcast. 0:01:53.480 --> 0:01:59.240 Your partner Annie, the very one. Well, I have a 0:01:59.280 --> 0:02:00.000 lot of questions. 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:03.840 Now, well, I think Anna wants to join in on 0:02:03.920 --> 0:02:06.400 the fun and I can find joy in. 0:02:06.400 --> 0:02:08.679 Their joy some very very compression. 0:02:08.760 --> 0:02:10.359 We're talking about. 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:11.799 That compression we're talking about. 0:02:11.639 --> 0:02:14.000 If you really want to try it? Well, this is 0:02:14.040 --> 0:02:18.800 absolutely yes. No one deserves more love. Everyone does. Everyone does. 0:02:19.360 --> 0:02:20.960 Thank you so much for that. Should I go ahead 0:02:21.000 --> 0:02:22.720 and intro Annie? Oh please do? 0:02:22.919 --> 0:02:23.320 Let's go. 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:28.760 Today's main dat looking for a connection and being guided 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:33.200 by dear Abuilita is my partner Annie. Anna is back 0:02:33.320 --> 0:02:35.760 and forth from Puerto Rico and La but moving to 0:02:35.919 --> 0:02:40.799 La full time very very soon with their puppy it's. 0:02:40.680 --> 0:02:41.919 A very very in there. 0:02:42.040 --> 0:02:47.359 Yes, they are a sagitarious sun, cancer, rising, porest moon, 0:02:47.480 --> 0:02:54.519 and perhaps most intriguingly, Venus and Scorpio. While Scorpio Venuses 0:02:54.560 --> 0:02:59.320 have a reputation of being very intense and passionate, often 0:02:59.480 --> 0:03:03.160 secret of and possessive. Anna says they have found ways 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:08.000 to practice devotion even in polyamorous structures devotion. 0:03:08.520 --> 0:03:09.919 Well, lucky you, Vico. 0:03:09.680 --> 0:03:10.720 Oh yeah, lucky me. 0:03:11.120 --> 0:03:16.280 Indeed, Anna loves to move and dances vogue and ballroom. 0:03:16.639 --> 0:03:20.080 They process their emotions through movements, so their body is 0:03:20.080 --> 0:03:24.600 often the first point of understanding something they are experiencing. 0:03:24.240 --> 0:03:28.480 And they're attracted to big personalities. 0:03:27.840 --> 0:03:31.640 Exhibit A Exactly, That's what I'm talking about. 0:03:32.200 --> 0:03:35.800 So, Vicot, what connections is Anna looking for right now? 0:03:36.320 --> 0:03:38.119 Or should I just wait to ask them? 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:39.160 Yeah, let's just ask Anna. 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:40.240 Absolutely, let's do it. 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:47.480 All right, baby, come on in. Oh my god, Well, Anna, 0:03:47.840 --> 0:03:51.200 I am gonna actually take a true back seat in 0:03:51.240 --> 0:03:54.200 this episode. This is gonna be about you and you 0:03:54.520 --> 0:03:57.720 and Awilita. You know, I might have some idea of 0:03:57.840 --> 0:04:00.240 what type of people you're interested in, but I I 0:04:00.280 --> 0:04:03.280 really want Aita to have the full deep dive. 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:06.120 We are going to get into the nitty gritty of things. Annie, 0:04:06.160 --> 0:04:07.560 tell me, how are you today, my. 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:12.520 Love, Hiawatha, I'm good. I'm so excited to be here 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:13.200 with y'all. 0:04:14.320 --> 0:04:17.440 Now, let's talk a little bit about those that you 0:04:17.480 --> 0:04:20.560 are attracted to, and if you can just define for 0:04:20.640 --> 0:04:23.240 our elitea this word that has come up again in 0:04:23.279 --> 0:04:25.279 my dictionary, tea for tea. 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:29.600 I love that that's in your dictionary. 0:04:29.680 --> 0:04:31.560 What he thought, well, tea fort is like when the 0:04:31.640 --> 0:04:34.680 relationships are like two trans people loving on each other. 0:04:35.400 --> 0:04:38.839 And I am really here for a tea for tea connection. 0:04:39.920 --> 0:04:43.279 I'm really attracted to people who knows what they want 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:47.880 and kind of express it. And also I talk a lot, 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:51.239 so I kind of like people who can deep dive 0:04:51.839 --> 0:04:55.719 into like conversations about what they love and what they. 0:04:55.720 --> 0:04:57.680 Like so you can get to know what they are about. 0:04:57.920 --> 0:05:01.360 Yes, and I love seeing people be passionate and like 0:05:01.560 --> 0:05:04.400 do what they love to do in a very passionate way. 0:05:04.440 --> 0:05:05.440 That really turns me on. 0:05:05.800 --> 0:05:08.000 So, yeah, you're a passionate person. 0:05:08.160 --> 0:05:09.320 I am very passionate. 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:12.960 Now, how do you navigate polyamory and tell me about that? 0:05:13.080 --> 0:05:14.440 How did it start for you? 0:05:15.279 --> 0:05:17.279 I don't have like a point where I was like, oh, 0:05:17.360 --> 0:05:21.360 I'm polyamorous. I feel like I learned the languish while 0:05:21.360 --> 0:05:25.240 I was living life. But I've always felt the capacity 0:05:25.480 --> 0:05:28.680 to have romantic feelings for more than one person, and 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:32.520 that has always been my case. I didn't always know 0:05:32.640 --> 0:05:35.839 that what that was possible, or that it was called polyamory. 0:05:36.400 --> 0:05:39.840 So I think like maybe in my early twenties, when 0:05:39.880 --> 0:05:42.960 I started reading about it and other people started like 0:05:43.000 --> 0:05:45.880 making community out of it, that I was like, Oh, 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:47.080 this is possible. 0:05:47.160 --> 0:05:51.040 I'm not crazy, cute, There's a place for everyone. 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:52.680 Yes, absolutely, Yeah. 0:05:52.920 --> 0:05:55.800 So for me, it was more like of a realization 0:05:55.920 --> 0:05:59.920 that I was not alone, and I thankfully found guy 0:06:00.400 --> 0:06:03.440 and community to do it in a sustainable way. 0:06:03.880 --> 0:06:05.760 There's one more word. I want to know a little 0:06:05.800 --> 0:06:07.520 bit more about poly saturation. 0:06:07.720 --> 0:06:08.240 What is that. 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:13.960 Police Saturation is like when you have more connections that 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:18.600 you actually have capacity for and it's not sustainable to 0:06:18.640 --> 0:06:21.800 you and it can lead to burn out. 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:24.920 So what do you do at that point take a break? Well? 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:27.720 I try not to get to that point, Okay, but 0:06:27.800 --> 0:06:29.960 that was a learning curve because I did get to 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:32.599 that point at one point in my life and I 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:36.719 had to basically restructure my relationships around the capacity that 0:06:36.760 --> 0:06:41.280 I did have, and that led to breakups definitely. But 0:06:41.440 --> 0:06:44.680 right now I'm really being very intentional and like, that's 0:06:44.680 --> 0:06:45.960 why I haven't been dating. 0:06:46.040 --> 0:06:47.000 So this is fun. 0:06:47.200 --> 0:06:52.800 So hello, hello, thank you for coming in. Baby, I 0:06:52.839 --> 0:06:54.880 haven't been dating anyone new. 0:06:56.120 --> 0:06:57.600 Excuse me? Who am I? 0:06:57.839 --> 0:07:00.480 Then? Vico? 0:07:00.760 --> 0:07:03.720 This is so funny. Let's find out. How is it 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:05.840 that the two of you met? Come on you good? 0:07:05.920 --> 0:07:06.280 Jump in? 0:07:06.600 --> 0:07:08.560 Well, they slid into my DMS. 0:07:08.680 --> 0:07:12.679 First, I believe you had a partner when we first 0:07:12.760 --> 0:07:14.480 started talking over DMS? 0:07:14.720 --> 0:07:15.240 Did I did? 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:18.120 And then a little bit halfway through that you then 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:20.040 had a partner and also a boyfriend. 0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:21.520 Lockdown happened. 0:07:21.880 --> 0:07:25.440 I started to do a lot of performances online as 0:07:25.440 --> 0:07:28.080 a drag king, and one of them became really viral 0:07:28.120 --> 0:07:32.480 and Puerto Rico and a couple of folks reposted that video. 0:07:32.760 --> 0:07:35.320 And then Anna saw me in that video and was like. 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:38.320 Who's this cuty and started following me. 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:42.640 And I was around the same time listening to a 0:07:42.800 --> 0:07:46.040 band in Puerto Rico. It was like a folkloric type 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:50.160 of music around feminism and inclusivity. And Anna was in 0:07:50.240 --> 0:07:52.800 that band and I was listening to their music, and 0:07:52.920 --> 0:07:55.120 they had already been following me on Instagram, and in 0:07:55.120 --> 0:07:57.440 one of my posts on my stories, I'm like making 0:07:57.480 --> 0:07:59.720 breakfast and I have their music in the background, and 0:07:59.800 --> 0:08:03.480 they being like, hey, I'm in that band, and I'm like, 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:06.240 oh my gosh, and I follow them back and we 0:08:06.280 --> 0:08:08.880 started to have a bit of a flirty conversation for 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:12.240 about a year or so, all through dms on Instagram. 0:08:12.680 --> 0:08:16.240 And when we met, you had gone through a breakup, 0:08:16.520 --> 0:08:20.800 you were still with the boyfriend, and this is so interesting, 0:08:21.160 --> 0:08:24.720 and we had a really great and deep connection, and 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:26.640 I was like, I really like this person. I don't 0:08:26.720 --> 0:08:28.080 just want to have a fun weekend with them. I 0:08:28.080 --> 0:08:30.520 would like to keep exploring this and see where it 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:32.360 goes because they feel really good. 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:34.800 And then you know, here we are. 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:37.080 What is it that you want now? 0:08:37.559 --> 0:08:40.400 I'm not fixed in any type of connection right now. 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:44.120 I just know I have the capacity to have a 0:08:44.160 --> 0:08:48.120 friend or a date or like a boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:49.599 like the whole spectrum. 0:08:49.840 --> 0:08:52.320 What are your red flags? Things that you do not 0:08:52.480 --> 0:08:55.000 want to see in the person and you start a friendship. 0:08:54.559 --> 0:08:58.280 With I don't like when people are not curious or like, 0:08:58.520 --> 0:09:00.840 don't ask me questions like I like to talk, as 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:03.560 I said, and I ask a lot of questions, and 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:05.560 for me, it's a turn off with someone it's like 0:09:05.760 --> 0:09:08.840 talking about themselves but are not really interested in the 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:12.200 other person that they're talking to. Another red flag I 0:09:12.240 --> 0:09:16.960 think would be someone who is not present, are like 0:09:17.080 --> 0:09:19.880 always like distructed by everything, and they're not present in 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:20.319 the moment. 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:22.840 Intentionality definitely. 0:09:23.120 --> 0:09:28.720 So yeah, not being present and not being curious, I 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:31.600 think it lack of intentionality, so. 0:09:31.559 --> 0:09:32.560 They don't want to be there. 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:35.559 Yeah, well, so I like to feel that they want 0:09:35.559 --> 0:09:35.920 to meet me. 0:09:36.559 --> 0:09:37.240 Are you ready? 0:09:37.360 --> 0:09:38.120 I am ready? 0:09:38.480 --> 0:09:43.199 Are you already? Oh so ready? So so ready? All right, 0:09:43.240 --> 0:09:44.280 thank you Annie. 0:09:44.720 --> 0:09:45.560 Thank you, and more. 0:09:45.800 --> 0:09:49.400 We're going to bring three contestants for a Wilita to 0:09:49.440 --> 0:09:53.679 connect with on your behalf fingers crossed. By the end 0:09:53.760 --> 0:09:56.520 of this you have found someone you feel drawn too. 0:09:56.960 --> 0:09:58.720 I feel like this is the first episode where I 0:09:58.760 --> 0:10:00.640 am as excited as. 0:10:00.480 --> 0:10:01.480 The main date. 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:03.560 Conversion. 0:10:04.040 --> 0:10:07.400 Yes, absolutely, I'm very very start to meet these contestants. 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:11.520 Already, get to it. Yeah, more delays, listen. 0:10:11.640 --> 0:10:15.959 Now let's bring in our contestants. We'll be back after 0:10:16.000 --> 0:10:21.600 the break. Welcome back today, Mia. 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:29.160 Wani The first, okay, let's meet all of you. First up, 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:35.080 Saint Saint is interested in fire and air signs. To them, 0:10:35.200 --> 0:10:38.360 that signifies people who take up space, which is true, Yes, 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:39.599 to those big personalities. 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:42.720 Their red flags are monogamy, oh my gosh. 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:43.120 Yes. 0:10:43.480 --> 0:10:47.320 Other red flags are any type of reductionism and people 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:50.360 who don't like kids or animals. They are interested in 0:10:50.440 --> 0:10:55.120 fluid connections, especially physical connections, and not looking for heavy 0:10:55.160 --> 0:10:59.959 expectations from someone They love a hot mom and people 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:03.160 who are invested in community listen same. 0:11:03.559 --> 0:11:08.040 They are a sage, sun, venus and Mars with a 0:11:08.200 --> 0:11:13.839 scorpiostelium sprinkled in there. Oh my god, that hum Welcome, Welcome. 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:17.360 Saint Hot. Okay, we're going to get back to that 0:11:17.440 --> 0:11:18.439 one absolutely. 0:11:19.720 --> 0:11:23.760 Next up, we have a Chandler handler grew up in 0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:26.840 LA and took some years living in other places and 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:28.600 is now excited to be back. 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:29.480 In Los Angeles. 0:11:30.320 --> 0:11:33.520 Yes, they have been getting involved in community more, especially 0:11:33.600 --> 0:11:35.280 with other leather dykes. 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:37.560 And kink community hot. 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:42.560 Their green flags are communication, opened miners and people knowing 0:11:42.600 --> 0:11:43.960 their boundaries and limits. 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:45.320 Yes, that is so hot. 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:50.000 They are especially attracted to people that look like they could. 0:11:50.040 --> 0:11:54.319 Kill them a little bit hell, yeah, a little bit, 0:11:54.559 --> 0:11:57.520 just a little bit, just a little dangerous, yes. 0:11:57.360 --> 0:11:58.840 And then bring you back to life. 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:04.600 Hello Chandler, Hello, how's it going? So so good? I'm 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:06.520 gonna send with these bios las. 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:10.760 But not certainly Lee's show read last time show Wee 0:12:10.920 --> 0:12:14.400 was a contestants, we didn't get to hear their polly wisdom. 0:12:14.480 --> 0:12:16.880 And I'm very excited because this episode is all about that. 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:20.840 He believes informing relationships because they are life sustaining and 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:23.480 not because anyone feels obligated to another. 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:25.400 Yes, they love talking. 0:12:25.200 --> 0:12:27.880 About people's no skip albums and are attractive to folks 0:12:27.920 --> 0:12:30.560 who are into the earth. They want to hear about 0:12:30.559 --> 0:12:34.040 how you are preparing for the apocalypse, and they have 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:35.240 some skills that will. 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:39.000 Come in handy for it. Okay, noted, Welcome show Weird. 0:12:40.320 --> 0:12:44.360 Hello, Hello, Hello contestants. It's so nice to meet you all. 0:12:44.440 --> 0:12:47.439 What a treat. Absolutely is right. 0:12:47.440 --> 0:12:50.080 It is such a treat to have you all here today. 0:12:50.240 --> 0:12:54.080 So usually I wait until later in the episode to 0:12:54.160 --> 0:12:58.400 reveal some surprises, but this is a special episode, so 0:12:59.040 --> 0:13:00.320 I wanted to let you. 0:13:00.160 --> 0:13:02.920 In on a little secret about our main dat. 0:13:03.320 --> 0:13:06.120 But first, before I get into that, I wanted to 0:13:06.160 --> 0:13:08.920 add a little bit more definitions. 0:13:09.160 --> 0:13:11.640 Listen, my dictionary is a little bit out of control 0:13:11.679 --> 0:13:12.200 this morning. 0:13:12.600 --> 0:13:13.560 Okay, what is it? 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:14.960 Okay, this is an important one. 0:13:15.720 --> 0:13:20.760 So there is a word for someone's partner's partner. Does 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:23.600 any of you wise contestants want to provide that word 0:13:23.640 --> 0:13:23.880 for what? 0:13:24.000 --> 0:13:24.160 Eat? 0:13:24.160 --> 0:13:25.120 That's saying to go for it? 0:13:26.120 --> 0:13:30.080 Metamore beautiful, exactly a metamore. 0:13:30.240 --> 0:13:30.600 I love that. 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:34.000 Everybody was like, yes, we all know this. Everybody raised 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:35.880 their hands. I just saw saints first. And it's an 0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:41.040 important word today because actually I could be a metamor 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:45.280 to one of you after today's episode, because the main 0:13:45.360 --> 0:13:48.480 dat is my partner is my partner. 0:13:48.679 --> 0:13:50.720 I'm not going to say their names just yet, almost 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:52.199 like I was about to say it. 0:13:52.640 --> 0:13:52.880 I know. 0:13:52.920 --> 0:13:54.600 It's almost like if the episode is like date my 0:13:54.640 --> 0:13:57.840 public here first. But normally but not always, when you 0:13:57.880 --> 0:14:01.480 meet someone who's polyamorous, who has an salvage relationship, you 0:14:01.600 --> 0:14:04.360 meet that partner a ka the metamore a little bit 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:06.880 down the line. But in this case they get to 0:14:06.880 --> 0:14:09.800 meet me right off the bat. 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:12.600 You all are very brave today, but also you get 0:14:12.600 --> 0:14:13.199 to have fun. 0:14:13.360 --> 0:14:16.880 Yes, absolutely, it's gonna be a fun time. 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:19.680 So with that said, let's just go ahead and play 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:20.400 the first game. 0:14:20.480 --> 0:14:23.720 Let's do it beca Now enough with the definitions. Oh yes, 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:27.280 we're gonna We're gonna pull it off of dizzy rhine. Now, yeah, I. 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:28.040 Got you, I got you. 0:14:28.120 --> 0:14:30.760 We've been learning a lot of new words today, so 0:14:31.000 --> 0:14:34.600 we're gonna play a little bit of never have I Ever? 0:14:34.960 --> 0:14:38.400 I mean, it's a classic for a reason. So here's 0:14:38.520 --> 0:14:41.600 how we're gonna play. We're gonna list out something like this, 0:14:41.800 --> 0:14:44.240 never have I ever had sex at work? 0:14:44.520 --> 0:14:48.520 And if you have done so, you'll respond by telling 0:14:48.600 --> 0:14:51.160 us the story of what happened. 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:52.680 And make the stories juicy. 0:14:52.880 --> 0:14:56.440 Yes, we want that much. We want that juice. Well, 0:14:56.440 --> 0:14:58.760 with that, I know that was a really great example. 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:01.400 But here's the actual first. Never have I ever? 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:06.800 Never have I ever crossed state lines for a date? 0:15:07.320 --> 0:15:07.560 Show? 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:09.520 Eeet, did you cross state lines? 0:15:09.600 --> 0:15:10.000 I have? 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:12.120 But I feel like New York to New Jersey is 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:13.040 a joke, you know what I mean. 0:15:13.080 --> 0:15:17.200 It's basically like a question, Oh my gosh, amazing. Okay, 0:15:17.240 --> 0:15:17.920 I have another one. 0:15:18.240 --> 0:15:22.480 Never have I ever made an enemy out of someone's mom, 0:15:23.080 --> 0:15:25.120 family member, or sibling. 0:15:25.640 --> 0:15:29.040 Well, that's a rough one. Tandler what's your story. 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:32.120 It's less about like the fight itself and more about 0:15:32.240 --> 0:15:34.240 how she confronted me that I think is funny. But 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:37.880 I used to facilitate a class in college and one 0:15:37.920 --> 0:15:41.160 of the students had a disagreement with her facilitator of 0:15:41.200 --> 0:15:44.600 her class. Somehow her mom got my phone number, and 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:46.720 I was like, I was also a college radio DJ, 0:15:46.800 --> 0:15:48.840 so I'm like on air. I think it's like eleven 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:51.640 at night, and I get a phone call from like 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:54.040 a random number, so I'm like, who can this be? 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:56.600 So I pick it up and it's this woman who 0:15:56.680 --> 0:15:59.880 is yelling at me, and I'm like trying to DJ. 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:01.440 So then I'm just like, okay, I gotta find a 0:16:01.440 --> 0:16:03.480 ten minute song. So I put the ten minute song. 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:05.200 I'm like trying to like. 0:16:05.560 --> 0:16:06.520 Bring it back down. 0:16:07.520 --> 0:16:10.600 She was really angry, and I was like, what the 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:14.240 hell is happening here? I don't know your daughter, I 0:16:14.240 --> 0:16:15.320 don't know the conflict. 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:19.040 Oh that is wild? What about you saying? 0:16:19.480 --> 0:16:22.040 There was Once I was a he ate in a 0:16:22.080 --> 0:16:25.120 fifth grade class and one of my students, who later 0:16:25.200 --> 0:16:27.640 I came to understand, was closeted, but at the time 0:16:28.080 --> 0:16:32.560 tor raging homophobe was parents were super homophobic, and during 0:16:32.600 --> 0:16:34.480 school time I would talk to him about you know 0:16:34.480 --> 0:16:36.440 why you don't do stuff like that, you don't think 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:38.920 and say things like this, and it was clicking for 0:16:39.040 --> 0:16:41.680 him and he was changing over time. And at some 0:16:41.800 --> 0:16:44.120 point his mom told the school to tell me to 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:46.160 stop talking to him about queer people. 0:16:47.400 --> 0:16:48.800 And then she avoided me after that. 0:16:48.880 --> 0:16:51.360 She wouldn't say bye to me anymore, and had a 0:16:51.400 --> 0:16:52.160 lot of aggression. 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:54.800 She didn't even have the nerve to stand up and 0:16:54.840 --> 0:16:57.760 tell you herself, Wow. 0:16:58.280 --> 0:17:00.359 But our kid is gay. Son. 0:17:02.280 --> 0:17:03.440 I feel bad for the kid. 0:17:03.920 --> 0:17:05.720 No, I don't agree with that, and I will eat 0:17:05.800 --> 0:17:07.919 us take note. I will let us do not agree 0:17:07.960 --> 0:17:11.639 with that, and mama get out of the way. 0:17:11.800 --> 0:17:12.399 Next one. 0:17:13.000 --> 0:17:18.000 Never have I ever used the kitchen appliants or object 0:17:18.520 --> 0:17:19.240 doing sex. 0:17:20.160 --> 0:17:22.000 I've used you know, the thing that you have for 0:17:22.080 --> 0:17:24.840 a milk frother, you know, the like handheld ones. 0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:26.520 I use that. 0:17:26.800 --> 0:17:30.360 Yeah, I was having sex in the kitchen and as 0:17:30.359 --> 0:17:32.000 you do, love as I do. Yeah, And I have 0:17:32.080 --> 0:17:34.000 like a little section for you know, my little macho 0:17:34.080 --> 0:17:36.639 vibe whatever whatever, So you have all the little objects, yes, 0:17:36.680 --> 0:17:39.879 And then the person I was fucking grabbed the little 0:17:39.880 --> 0:17:42.160 floss and you sit on my chest on their chest. Yeah, 0:17:42.160 --> 0:17:44.960 because it's like kind of intense but like not painful. 0:17:45.560 --> 0:17:48.600 So yeah, it was great. It was great. 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:52.600 Oh my bumps are just standing up straight. 0:17:52.840 --> 0:17:55.360 That's brilliant. I'm taking notes on that one. 0:17:55.520 --> 0:17:56.760 Yes they are, Yes they are. 0:17:56.880 --> 0:17:58.760 I'm clearly looking at my father right now. 0:17:59.080 --> 0:18:01.960 I'm like, no family members to listen to this show, 0:18:03.000 --> 0:18:04.760 all right, Saint tell. 0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:12.359 Us there's a counter account account, yes, Chandler. Any creative 0:18:12.440 --> 0:18:16.360 usage of kitchen or objects, not really, I mean. 0:18:16.320 --> 0:18:19.040 The closest would probably be like nitrial gloves, which I 0:18:19.359 --> 0:18:22.320 I mean I use them for like multi purposes, absolutely 0:18:22.359 --> 0:18:26.240 great for safer sex practices and not LATEX. 0:18:25.840 --> 0:18:27.520 So correct correct correct? 0:18:27.880 --> 0:18:29.440 Oh, I love next one. 0:18:29.920 --> 0:18:33.000 Never have I ever dated a friend's partner, Go ahead 0:18:33.080 --> 0:18:33.280 to it. 0:18:33.800 --> 0:18:35.639 I would love for my friends to date my partner. 0:18:35.800 --> 0:18:37.760 I feel like I already know they're great. I already 0:18:37.760 --> 0:18:40.120 really appressed them. We already have this really great relationship. 0:18:40.280 --> 0:18:42.040 Like I want my friends to be happy. I know 0:18:42.119 --> 0:18:45.879 my partner is bomb, Like look at that, and like 0:18:45.960 --> 0:18:47.400 I have a lot of friends where I'm like, yeah, 0:18:47.440 --> 0:18:49.120 I would totally get with your partner. 0:18:49.400 --> 0:18:52.080 Yes, and I love you so yes. 0:18:52.160 --> 0:18:53.960 This is actually a really safe place for us to 0:18:53.960 --> 0:18:54.439 be intimate. 0:18:54.480 --> 0:18:57.240 So I love that. Yeah, I'm there with you. 0:18:57.320 --> 0:18:59.879 How about you, Saint, I'm more like should we. 0:19:00.480 --> 0:19:03.320 I have many friends, but we're all kind of like 0:19:03.400 --> 0:19:06.320 very playful with each other, very flirty with each other, 0:19:06.400 --> 0:19:09.000 and I like that a lot. But I've never formally 0:19:09.119 --> 0:19:11.400 dated a friends partner. 0:19:11.600 --> 0:19:13.159 M hmmm. The when I date. 0:19:13.080 --> 0:19:15.199 People are like when I'm interested in people, it's so 0:19:15.800 --> 0:19:18.639 very visceral and in the moment and like with me 0:19:18.760 --> 0:19:21.399 and this person that oftentimes it ends up being someone 0:19:21.600 --> 0:19:24.320