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Speaker 1: girl Jess.
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Speaker 1: So anyway, the first story somebody sent me this long
Speaker 1: ass excerpt this is. This is longer than a passage. Okay,
Speaker 1: this is like a chapter of a book. And y'all
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna have one of my producers read from me
Speaker 1: and then I'll fix the mess.
Speaker 2: Hey, Jess, I.
Speaker 3: Need some on relationship advice, as in, how do you
Speaker 3: get rid of someone who just won't let a relationship go.
Speaker 3: I'm completely over the father of my children. We've been
Speaker 3: together almost ten years and I was completely in love
Speaker 3: with that man and thought he was my best friend
Speaker 3: and soulmate. It must have been the sex because I
Speaker 3: was completely digmatized. He played me damn near the entire relationship,
Speaker 3: but I didn't find out until two years ago, and
Speaker 3: it's been a complete mess. I suspected him cheating and
Speaker 3: things fell off, but I never had proof or he
Speaker 3: made it seem like.
Speaker 2: I was crazy.
Speaker 3: Two years ago, I was eight months pregnant and engaged
Speaker 3: in him. I picked up his pants and his phone
Speaker 3: fell out his pocket unlocked. It's like God was basically
Speaker 3: telling me to see the truth. What was in the
Speaker 3: phone was way more than I ever expected, and he
Speaker 3: was complete slut, even fucking around with women I knew
Speaker 3: and saying the money as gifts while not helping with
Speaker 3: the household. To make it worse, he messed with women
Speaker 3: at the apartment complex we've lived at, even our most
Speaker 3: recent place.
Speaker 2: I'm so over his lives and bullshit.
Speaker 3: Last year, I was ready to get my own place,
Speaker 3: but he guilt tripped me and said it was best
Speaker 3: for the kids to stay together another year.
Speaker 2: Well, this year has been hell.
Speaker 3: He's so toxic and it still has drama with females
Speaker 3: coming to my door tells me I'm making things up.
Speaker 3: I can't deal with this. So recently I got my
Speaker 3: own place without him knowing. The lease is almost up,
Speaker 3: and I'm doing everything in my power to jumpstart this
Speaker 3: man into finding a place to live or even rehome
Speaker 3: him to another bitch for all I care, But he
Speaker 3: refuses to accept it and still makes it seem like
Speaker 3: we are going to be together. His family refuses to
Speaker 3: help and even encourages.
Speaker 2: Him to stay with me.
Speaker 3: I don't even know what to do to get rid
Speaker 3: of this man because he literally needs me for everything
Speaker 3: housing and transportation. Yes, he works, but rarely helps with
Speaker 3: household bills. I don't want the father of my kids
Speaker 3: on the street, and he still needs to watch the
Speaker 3: kids while I work, But I also don't want him
Speaker 3: laid up in my new apartment. Think he could say there,
Speaker 3: we don't have family that can help with the kids,
Speaker 3: so it's just us taking care of them.
Speaker 2: So we were basically stuck with each other. Any advice
Speaker 2: t'n be.
Speaker 3: Homing my baby daddy, and so don't fill in the
Speaker 3: blinks that you are not having sex at all and
Speaker 3: there's no chance to ever getting back together.
Speaker 1: Just big with everything. Y'all listen, I have but everything
Speaker 1: before I jump into our story. I got everything big
Speaker 1: for the first time, so it's gonna have my breath
Speaker 1: like real oniony, but the cream cheese and it.
Speaker 2: Is toasted with extra butter. Baby, thank you. That's all
Speaker 2: I gotta say. Now. I do not like calling my
Speaker 2: beautiful black woman clowns.
Speaker 1: But baby, i'd be lying if I say you as
Speaker 1: in lying, you are a clown. And sometimes we have
Speaker 1: to tell each other this so we can pick ourselves
Speaker 1: up and dust ourselves off and try again. Why are
Speaker 1: you worried about a man who don't give a damn
Speaker 1: about your feelings at the end of the day, being
Speaker 1: put out on a damn street.
Speaker 2: Oh, because he the father of my children.
Speaker 1: He didn't give a fuck that she was the mother
Speaker 1: of his kids when he was cheating on your ass
Speaker 1: for the past ten years. What you just found out
Speaker 1: about two years ago, all because his phone was slipped
Speaker 1: out the pocket.
Speaker 2: And you washing his clothes.
Speaker 1: What I believe if he ain't putting his hands on you,
Speaker 1: if he ain't got no gun to your head, if
Speaker 1: he is not holding your children hostage, if he ain't
Speaker 1: doing none of this car.
Speaker 2: You can leave his ass. Let him be on the
Speaker 2: fucking streets.
Speaker 1: Now, Listen, what he may do is go be with
Speaker 1: somebody else for the convenience of it. Because he seems
Speaker 1: to like being taken care of and his family raised
Speaker 1: them wrong.
Speaker 2: Don't give a fuck.
Speaker 1: Wud nobody say they raise them wrong because they're still
Speaker 1: encouraging his cheating ass to be with you. That's because
Speaker 1: you're taking care of him. You're not responsible for your
Speaker 1: children's father. You're responsible for the children just like he is.
Speaker 1: Leave his ass. Talk about oh, and don't there's no
Speaker 1: feeling the blanks. We're not sleeping together. We're not what
Speaker 1: happens when you want to date the fuck because I
Speaker 1: know he's still dating. He just probably ain't bringing the
Speaker 1: bitches around you. And also, if you're able to take
Speaker 1: care of him, then you should be able to take
Speaker 1: care of getting a babysit up for your kids.
Speaker 2: Why you gotta do anything? Look, I don't care. I
Speaker 2: do not care.
Speaker 1: I see mom's do it all the time, without their families,
Speaker 1: without friend groups, without support groups, all that. Like we
Speaker 1: do it women, We do it all. No discredit to men,
Speaker 1: because every man out there not like that. And we
Speaker 1: have a lot of heartworking dads. But women, come on, now,
Speaker 1: we do this shit. You feel sorry for him, yourse
Speaker 1: to have a soft spot for him. That's crazy. He
Speaker 1: didn't have not one fucking soft spot for you. You can't
Speaker 1: seem to shake them. You can't, girl, like I said,
Speaker 1: unless he beaten your ass up and down the house,
Speaker 1: or like I said, holding you hostage, gun to your head,
Speaker 1: all that you can walk the fuck out of his
Speaker 1: life period.
Speaker 2: Get a restraining order. Oh but then he can't see
Speaker 2: the kids.
Speaker 1: He wasn't worrying about that when he was with Denise,
Speaker 1: Vanessa and Rudy and Claire.
Speaker 2: He wasn't thinking about none of that.
Speaker 1: Girl. No, I think you have lost your everlast of mind.
Speaker 1: And I'm sorry for all my aggression, but sweetie, you
Speaker 1: can do better. And sometimes a lot of us women
Speaker 1: need to be told that by other women who are
Speaker 1: completely unbiased. Like I'm not your friend. I don't know you,
Speaker 1: never saw you a day in my life. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, So I don't know you. This is
Speaker 1: just like anonymous. You know, I'm hearing a story and
Speaker 1: I'm telling another woman what she could do, what she
Speaker 1: should do.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. You still love them? I
Speaker 2: know you do.
Speaker 1: You know I'm not saying that you are attracted so
Speaker 1: on or you don't you know what I'm saying, because
Speaker 1: all right, taking account me and my son's father, we
Speaker 1: are way past intimacy. We're not, you know, attracted to
Speaker 1: each other anymore. I haven't dated Rome since before our
Speaker 1: baby turn one year old. Like that's just how that is,
Speaker 1: you know. And I often say that we're like brother
Speaker 1: and sister. So I would give Rome the shirt off
Speaker 1: my back, yes I will, But I would not give
Speaker 1: him a place to stay in my house because I
Speaker 1: am in a relationship.
Speaker 2: I'm moving forward. That's just that's a no.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 2: There are still boundaries. That's why I'm telling you this.
Speaker 1: There are still boundaries that has to be set and
Speaker 1: have to be put between you and your baby daddy.
Speaker 1: What's wrong with him getting a fucking y'all? If he
Speaker 1: ain't got no record with even niggas with records, fuck
Speaker 1: a record. Even men with records are able to get jobs.
Speaker 1: He got to start from somewhere. You cannot carry him
Speaker 1: as one of your kids. That's just not what it is.
Speaker 1: That's not what it's supposed to be. But about what
Speaker 1: I was saying about Rome, Me and Rome are close enough. Well,
Speaker 1: I never want to see him on the street either,
Speaker 1: but he can't come into my house.
Speaker 2: He can't.
Speaker 1: And a man, a real man, would never let himself
Speaker 1: be on the fucking streets. You know, of course it's circumstantial.
Speaker 1: But if this nigga got all the sense and all
Speaker 1: the high mighty power to go cheat back to back
Speaker 1: like that and sending money to other bitches, this nigga
Speaker 1: was fucking with bitches and y'all complex where y'all live,
Speaker 1: and you worried about him being thrown out on the streets?
Speaker 1: Are you dumb? I'm sorry, Like, uh, we're not going
Speaker 1: for that. Sometimes we need tough love as women, and
Speaker 1: I'm here to give it. But I'm serious, like this man,
Speaker 1: this is not what love is supposed to be. This
Speaker 1: is not even what a friendship looks like. He don't
Speaker 1: respect you, says, why the fuck you sending money that
Speaker 1: you don't have or that you claim you don't have
Speaker 1: when it comes to me putting your ass out on
Speaker 1: other bitches to other bitches, like why what are we doing?
Speaker 1: What are we doing here? His priorities is all fucked up.
Speaker 1: It seemed like you were engaged to a kid. You
Speaker 1: had babies by baby a baby mindset ass Nigga, we're
Speaker 1: not doing that. We shouldn't do that in twenty twenty four.
Speaker 1: We shouldn't have never been doing it, like we shouldn't
Speaker 1: have been ever doing it. But it needs to stop now,
Speaker 1: So you need to get back in touch with me
Speaker 1: and update me.
Speaker 2: Sorry.
Speaker 1: Like I said, sorry for the tough love, but baby,
Speaker 1: we need to give it to each other because I
Speaker 1: would want somebody to talk to me like this if
Speaker 1: I was, you know, stuck in a situation like this,
Speaker 1: How the hell you stuck? No, that's some shit you
Speaker 1: speaking over yourself. You ain't stuck with him. No, his
Speaker 1: aad stuck. He's stuck in his own way, So get
Speaker 1: out of your way and push his ads to the side.
Speaker 1: Raise your kids, and when it's time for you to date,
Speaker 1: you go date shit.
Speaker 2: But check back in with me, boom.
Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and
Speaker 1: then we'll be right back.
Speaker 2: Next story.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have Tailor read again because I got finished
Speaker 1: the other hand of my bage wheel.
Speaker 2: Hey, Jess, I just needed some advice about my job.
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm very stuck, almost like I'm trapped
Speaker 3: at this job. I'm a carrier, so I kind of
Speaker 3: like FedEx or ups, but I'm actually an independent contractor,
Speaker 3: so I own my own vehicle, but I don't make
Speaker 3: my own hours or any of the cool stuff that
Speaker 3: you actually get owning your business. And I have been
Speaker 3: working here for almost three years. My uncles are the managers.
Speaker 3: The job itself is not bad, but I can't take
Speaker 3: all the arguments between the employees myself, included the vehicle issues,
Speaker 3: which I'm responsible for. Because I'm an independent contractor, I
Speaker 3: can never do any of my side stuff on a
Speaker 3: consistent schedule basis because I never know when I'm going
Speaker 3: to start in the day or when i will finish
Speaker 3: in the day. So I actually have a YouTube channel
Speaker 3: Tasha die Oh, But because I never know when I
Speaker 3: will start or finish, I can't dedicate as much as
Speaker 3: my time to my YouTube channel or my only fans.
Speaker 3: It's very frustrating because I have so many ideas for
Speaker 3: my YouTube channel and more than what I want to do.
Speaker 3: But by the time I finish work, I'm very tired
Speaker 3: because my job is very physical. Then on my days off,
Speaker 3: I had to tend to my family and any other
Speaker 3: things I couldn't get done during the week. And I
Speaker 3: also believe that part of my feelings stem from me
Speaker 3: knowing what I want to do and trying to take
Speaker 3: the steps to do that, but not having very many
Speaker 3: options because of where I live. I live in Rockford, Illinois,
Speaker 3: so there's not much going on here, but I am
Speaker 3: very interested in photography and videography. Also, I would like
Speaker 3: to take my YouTube channel and kind of make it
Speaker 3: a podcast, but there isn't very much business for that
Speaker 3: sort of thing around here. I just want to know
Speaker 3: if you had any advice that you could pass along
Speaker 3: to me, maybe how I can get my foot in
Speaker 3: the door. But also there's my job that I have now.
Speaker 3: I'm just in a tough spot because I just I
Speaker 3: get paid a lot of money. Well for me, it's
Speaker 3: a lot of money. If I got paid hourly, I
Speaker 3: would get paid between twenty three and twenty five dollars
Speaker 3: an hour. I don't actually have any real skills, so
Speaker 3: I can't just go somewhere and start out at that much.
Speaker 3: So that's why I'm having such a tough time, because
Speaker 3: I don't want to take a pay cut if I'm
Speaker 3: not going to be doing something that is helping towards
Speaker 3: my career goal.
Speaker 2: So I like how she saw it talking about I'm
Speaker 2: having all these problems, like with my job.
Speaker 1: It's not working out for me, Like you know, I
Speaker 1: feel like basically I'm a host to this job and
Speaker 1: I don't have time for my only fans. What girl, Listen,
Speaker 1: if I tell people all the time, if you're doing
Speaker 1: something that don't bring you joy, if you're doing something
Speaker 1: that doesn't seem passionate to you and it feels purposeless
Speaker 1: and you're not happy and you can manage financially, do
Speaker 1: what you want to do. It seems like you do
Speaker 1: have a passion for, you know, talking to people with
Speaker 1: communications so YouTube, being blogging and you said you have
Speaker 1: a podcast that you're starting and stuff like that. That girl,
Speaker 1: I'm not one to tell people quit jobs, because as
Speaker 1: hard as it is to get a goddamn job, and
Speaker 1: you sit in me here complaining about one, it's just
Speaker 1: ass backwards. However, if it's not bringing you joy in
Speaker 1: your stress and every day you find your peace disturbed, girl,
Speaker 1: quit the job and do what you are most passionate about.
Speaker 1: I see a whole lot of people that stream, you know,
Speaker 1: they're only fans and they make money off their YouTube
Speaker 1: and all that. But building a platform, I'm telling you, baby,
Speaker 1: it's not easy. So un let's Tasha dot Oh already
Speaker 1: got a lot of subscribers. You will not be making
Speaker 1: money like you was at your job.
Speaker 2: I think. I don't know if you pray.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you know if you are religious
Speaker 1: in any fashion or whatever.
Speaker 2: But I'm a Christian woman, and I pray.
Speaker 1: I pray every day every day of my life, you know,
Speaker 1: and certain things I pray for When I'm confused about
Speaker 1: certain things. I don't go to people for advice. That's
Speaker 1: why I'm happy that y'all come to me. But I
Speaker 1: don't go to people for advice because I don't like
Speaker 1: for people to tell me what to day.
Speaker 2: But go it.
Speaker 1: So I pray. So just pray on it fast, like
Speaker 1: do you know? That's my advice to you. You do
Speaker 1: make good money, all right, So I say, give yourself
Speaker 1: about another year there, stack your money, save it, you know,
Speaker 1: pay your bills. That mean you're gonna have to cut
Speaker 1: out all your extra expenses, you know, whether it's just
Speaker 1: leisure or just for pleasure. Cut all of that shit out,
Speaker 1: really grind, build that savings account up, and then you
Speaker 1: can invest into your business. Or why not stay at
Speaker 1: your job and use the money to invest into your
Speaker 1: blog and invest into your cause. Listen, I'm telling you
Speaker 1: you don't just gain a platform overnight. You need to invest.
Speaker 1: You need to I'm talking about get videographers. That comes
Speaker 1: with videographers and photographers and shit like you got to
Speaker 1: stand out these days. That is a very competitive space
Speaker 1: because who the hell don't got a podcast? Okay, Like
Speaker 1: when I say, I'm so sick up everybody fucking having
Speaker 1: a podcast, I ain't trying discourage you, but goddamn, what
Speaker 1: do you be talking about on here?
Speaker 2: But let me calm down.
Speaker 1: I think you should use the money that you have
Speaker 1: to invest in your business that you really want to develop,
Speaker 1: that you really want to get off the ground, and
Speaker 1: you want a catapult.
Speaker 2: That's what you want to do.
Speaker 1: But nothing happens overnight and you can't look at your
Speaker 1: career or something that you want to do is microwavable,
Speaker 1: that's so instant.
Speaker 2: You're not gonna be able to do that. You can't.
Speaker 1: I've been doing this shit for about not podcasting. I'm
Speaker 1: talking about, you know, being in the social Like this
Speaker 1: is my ninth year. Now you get what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I started this shit in twenty fourteen, so no, this
Speaker 1: is my tenth year. Like I started this ship when
Speaker 1: my son was two years old.
Speaker 2: You get what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And I done went through so many hardships, you know,
Speaker 1: like with trying to build a brand and marketing, it's
Speaker 1: a lot to go into it and just having a
Speaker 1: bunch of followers and a bunch of subscribers.
Speaker 2: You gotta work at that shit.
Speaker 1: That's why all those people that you see at the top,
Speaker 1: they didn't just blow up last night, you know, like
Speaker 1: ad Era, You remember Diarra and Ken they were doing
Speaker 1: this shit like a long time ago. You know, some
Speaker 1: of the biggest bloggers been in this shit for like
Speaker 1: what six seven years plus.
Speaker 2: So if you quit your job, you don't want them
Speaker 2: my fucking money.
Speaker 1: Now, you said that you like videography and photography, you
Speaker 1: need to start offering your services. That's gonna get you
Speaker 1: out there and start getting you booked and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: You know, do you own a camera? Do you own
Speaker 1: any equipment? That's why I'm saying That's why if you
Speaker 1: don't you need that job, because that shit gets expensive
Speaker 1: as well, cameras and like I said, lighting and all
Speaker 1: that shit, and even taking short classes like you know,
Speaker 1: like these seminars. Not all of them are scams, but
Speaker 1: some of them actually do teach you shit, you know,
Speaker 1: consultations or whatever. You know. My video guy does consultations.
Speaker 1: I loos work on Instagram. He does all my edits
Speaker 1: and that's the guy that you see that makes my
Speaker 1: video magic, my visual magic on my page and stuff.
Speaker 1: You really have to put yourself out there. But I
Speaker 1: wouldn't leave my job just yet. I get it, but try.
Speaker 2: Oh way.
Speaker 1: If you're an independent contractor, what you should do is
Speaker 1: you should be able to make your own schedule right
Speaker 1: or you should be able to at least work for
Speaker 1: these and take three for yourself to do your business.
Speaker 1: How old are you did she say how old she was?
Speaker 1: I'm guessing you're fairly young, but check back in with me.
Speaker 1: You know, I think it'll be wrong for you to
Speaker 1: walk away from your job now, especially since you make
Speaker 1: good money, Especially if you don't have any kids or anything.
Speaker 2: You really have nothing holding you back.
Speaker 1: Stack your money and invest in yourself, so when you
Speaker 1: finally leave your job, it can be for more than
Speaker 1: just the reason of or I got my own blog,
Speaker 1: I got No, I'm an entrepreneur. I'm a CEO of this, that,
Speaker 1: and the other. I make my own business. I mean,
Speaker 1: you know, I make my own money, and that'll be
Speaker 1: your success story. I used my nine to five to
Speaker 1: pay for my entrepreneurship period. All right, girl, So so
Speaker 1: make sure you update me on your progress, you know,
Speaker 1: just just let me know. But I do want to
Speaker 1: know how old you are as well. It does sound
Speaker 1: like you're fairly young, and that is the end of
Speaker 1: that story, looks.
Speaker 2: So we got one more.
Speaker 1: Hold up, Hold up, I know this shit getting good,
Speaker 1: but listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial.
Speaker 2: If you love me, you'll listen.
Speaker 1: Oh we got a voice note, Shaw, we got a
Speaker 1: voice note. Okay, here y'alls.
Speaker 4: Yeah. So my question was basically, being from Baltimore, I
Speaker 4: wanted to know, like, as a first generation in college student,
Speaker 4: I see a lot of myself and justin how she
Speaker 4: was able to put both theom on the map. So
Speaker 4: my question basically is how is just able to navigate
Speaker 4: her success and enjoy it while not letting survivors get
Speaker 4: to her, because coming out the city, it can feel like, Okay,
Speaker 4: I'm the only one that made it out, and that's
Speaker 4: something I'm going through right now.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So somebody asked me a similar question like this before
Speaker 1: when I did mister Jay Hills podcast.
Speaker 2: He's also a fellow Baltimorean, my brother.
Speaker 1: He is now in Atlanta doing his thing, bigger than
Speaker 1: ever and only growing bigger with his business. But he
Speaker 1: had asked me the same question, Actually, do I ever
Speaker 1: have survivor's guilt? Baby girl? Hell no, I'm sorry, there's
Speaker 1: no other way to put it. No, No, I don't.
Speaker 1: And then somebody else had asked me when I first
Speaker 1: listened to your voice, No, did I feel like that
Speaker 1: earlier on? You know, cause I've been in this game,
Speaker 1: in this business, in this industry or what you know
Speaker 1: so called for going on ten years now, you know,
Speaker 1: And so.
Speaker 2: Did I feel that way early on?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: I just knew I had to get the fuck out.
Speaker 1: I knew coming from where I grew up, I looked around.
Speaker 1: This is not where I need to be. This is
Speaker 1: not where I have to be for the rest of
Speaker 1: my life. This is not where I'm gonna be for
Speaker 1: the rest of my life. Fuck, No, I can't do it.
Speaker 1: So survivor's guilt absolutely not. What I like to see
Speaker 1: more success come out of Baltimore. Yes, is that my responsibility? No,
Speaker 1: I had to get to a point like that, you
Speaker 1: know where I said that and not felt bad for it.
Speaker 1: I used to feel bad for saying shit like that.
Speaker 1: Now I don't. Everybody is responsible for themselves. I try
Speaker 1: to help wherever I can. I give money, I give opportunities,
Speaker 1: and all of that. Now, whether or not people going
Speaker 1: to do what's right with the money and opportunities, that's
Speaker 1: on them. I have too much responsibility and too many
Speaker 1: things that's going on in my life that I need
Speaker 1: to focus on because I need to continue to grow
Speaker 1: my riches.
Speaker 2: I need to continue to raise my child.
Speaker 1: I need to continue I'm pregnant again, I have a family.
Speaker 1: I got other goals as well, not just to be
Speaker 1: successful financially. I have to build generational wealth. That's what
Speaker 1: I'm doing, and that takes a long time. I was
Speaker 1: just piggybacking off of what I said about the story,
Speaker 1: the previous story. No, it takes a long time to
Speaker 1: get where you really can say Okay, I'm comfortable. I'm
Speaker 1: still not comfortable where I am. I still got a
Speaker 1: lot of work today. So no, baby, I don't feel
Speaker 1: survivor's guilt. No, I don't, and I don't think you
Speaker 1: should either. You said your first generation college went to college.
Speaker 1: If anything, the people around you, your family, and your
Speaker 1: friends should feel motivated to see that anybody can do that.
Speaker 1: We got some of the smartest motherfuckers in Baltimore City.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you.
Speaker 1: We're smart, We're creative, We're an innovative city. We make
Speaker 1: gold out of dirt. Okay, we can do that. Shit,
Speaker 1: I've done it. So many people can do it, but
Speaker 1: a lot of us are in our own way.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. Then, a lot of people
Speaker 2: are afraid to.
Speaker 1: Explore new things because we get so accustomed to where
Speaker 1: where we come from and how we were raised. You
Speaker 1: get what I'm saying, And Nah, that's not the way.
Speaker 1: You gotta jump out there. You gotta step out there.
Speaker 1: And so don't feel guilty. They're supposed to feel pushed
Speaker 1: and motivated by what you do. And don't feel like
Speaker 1: you have the responsibility of taking care of everybody because
Speaker 1: you don't. You just the baby and you trying to
Speaker 1: find your way your damn self, and you've seen ambitious.
Speaker 1: That tells me something. You have some type of ambition.
Speaker 1: You can't teach that. So even if you tried to
Speaker 1: go back and gather four or five family members to
Speaker 1: do that, they gotta have your mindset.
Speaker 2: You had a mindset to say.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to school, I'm gonna get up out
Speaker 1: of Baltimore, I'm gonna do this, I'm a this, I'm this,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna at A B and C.
Speaker 2: And so I get all the way to Z and
Speaker 2: then I'm gonna start over. You get what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: That's your mindset. You're not stuck. You're not stuck, and
Speaker 1: you didn't want to be stuck. So if we get
Speaker 1: to get out of our own way, we won't actually
Speaker 1: ever have to blame a person for making it and
Speaker 1: not coming back to get us. How about you following me?
Speaker 1: How about you chase me? How about you follow your
Speaker 1: fucking dreams. I'm not gonna come back and get you.
Speaker 1: Because sometimes we go back and we don't make it
Speaker 1: the fuck back out where we were. It just is
Speaker 1: what it is, and that comes with the hate in
Speaker 1: the city to see somebody who actually made it be successfubl.
Speaker 2: So you know how it is in our city, You
Speaker 2: know how it is.
Speaker 1: I can't speak for other cities, but I imagine that shit
Speaker 1: is not only in Baltimore City, It's in any any
Speaker 1: urban city. You get what I'm saying. And it's always
Speaker 1: like that. A lot of people want to pull you
Speaker 1: back in. They scared to see you flourished. We want
Speaker 1: you to win, but don't win too much. You gotta
Speaker 1: take us with you. But what the fuck you doing
Speaker 1: while I'm grinding? What you're doing, while you waiting for
Speaker 1: me to come back and get you, You still sitting
Speaker 1: there chilling and shit, Nah, ain't no growth there.
Speaker 2: I can help.
Speaker 1: I love to help people who have potential, who want
Speaker 1: to do something.
Speaker 2: Maybe they don't know exactly what they want to do,
Speaker 2: but they got.
Speaker 1: Some type of some type of ambition where they can
Speaker 1: meet me halfway or just a little bit something that
Speaker 1: I can take and I can parachute that bitch. I
Speaker 1: can help you amplify what you are already thinking or
Speaker 1: with your ideas, then bring it to life and help
Speaker 1: that out for you.
Speaker 2: You know, so, I thank you for that question.
Speaker 1: Baby Girl, and that is the end of the Carefully
Speaker 1: Reckless episode. For today, I love you guys. I just
Speaker 1: want to give a big shout out to Atlanta. The
Speaker 1: second annual Black Effect Podcast Festival was so fun and
Speaker 1: I want to also give a shout out to Wallow
Speaker 1: and Gilly. They were funny, fucked. The engagement that they
Speaker 1: had with that audience was great. I want to give
Speaker 1: a shout out the Horrible Decisions. They also had a
Speaker 1: good show as well. And then they said, t I
Speaker 1: came through there and I wasn't even there, Talo, Why
Speaker 1: the fucking ex them to stay for me?
Speaker 2: You're as one finance man.
Speaker 1: Ha. All right, y'all, Well, make sure you tune into
Speaker 1: Carefully Reckless on the Black Effect podcast network as well
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