1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,159 Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Fully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: and The Black Effect. 3 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:16,800 Speaker 2: Oh Shit, be back on the air. 4 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:19,680 Speaker 1: Welcome back to get another Canfully Reckless episode with your 5 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:20,120 Speaker 1: girl Jess. 6 00:00:20,160 --> 00:00:21,120 Speaker 2: Hilarious. What I be doing. 7 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:22,760 Speaker 1: I be fixing mess and I'll be fixing it all 8 00:00:22,800 --> 00:00:25,479 Speaker 1: the time, and now not only on my podcast, which 9 00:00:25,640 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 1: drops every Wednesday on the Black Effect Podcast. Now, I 10 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:31,400 Speaker 1: don't gotta say all that anyway, I do it on 11 00:00:31,800 --> 00:00:33,919 Speaker 1: Breakfast Club Now every Thursday. 12 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:34,440 Speaker 2: So y'all can call up. 13 00:00:34,680 --> 00:00:37,200 Speaker 1: The number is one eight hundred and five eighty five, 14 00:00:37,479 --> 00:00:41,519 Speaker 1: one oh five one the j Infies line hit it up. 15 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:47,560 Speaker 1: So anyway, the first story somebody sent me this long 16 00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:50,920 Speaker 1: ass excerpt this is. This is longer than a passage. Okay, 17 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: this is like a chapter of a book. And y'all 18 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:56,520 Speaker 1: know pregnant jest do Now, I do all everything, So please, 19 00:00:56,560 --> 00:00:58,440 Speaker 1: I'm gonna have one of my producers read from me 20 00:00:58,520 --> 00:00:59,800 Speaker 1: and then I'll fix the mess. 21 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 2: Hey, Jess, I. 22 00:01:01,280 --> 00:01:04,240 Speaker 3: Need some on relationship advice, as in, how do you 23 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:07,040 Speaker 3: get rid of someone who just won't let a relationship go. 24 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:10,360 Speaker 3: I'm completely over the father of my children. We've been 25 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:13,480 Speaker 3: together almost ten years and I was completely in love 26 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:15,759 Speaker 3: with that man and thought he was my best friend 27 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:18,080 Speaker 3: and soulmate. It must have been the sex because I 28 00:01:18,120 --> 00:01:22,280 Speaker 3: was completely digmatized. He played me damn near the entire relationship, 29 00:01:22,680 --> 00:01:24,720 Speaker 3: but I didn't find out until two years ago, and 30 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:27,959 Speaker 3: it's been a complete mess. I suspected him cheating and 31 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:31,080 Speaker 3: things fell off, but I never had proof or he 32 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:32,000 Speaker 3: made it seem like. 33 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:32,760 Speaker 2: I was crazy. 34 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:36,040 Speaker 3: Two years ago, I was eight months pregnant and engaged 35 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:38,200 Speaker 3: in him. I picked up his pants and his phone 36 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:42,520 Speaker 3: fell out his pocket unlocked. It's like God was basically 37 00:01:42,560 --> 00:01:44,960 Speaker 3: telling me to see the truth. What was in the 38 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 3: phone was way more than I ever expected, and he 39 00:01:48,240 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 3: was complete slut, even fucking around with women I knew 40 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 3: and saying the money as gifts while not helping with 41 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:57,680 Speaker 3: the household. To make it worse, he messed with women 42 00:01:57,760 --> 00:02:01,080 Speaker 3: at the apartment complex we've lived at, even our most 43 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:01,880 Speaker 3: recent place. 44 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 2: I'm so over his lives and bullshit. 45 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 3: Last year, I was ready to get my own place, 46 00:02:06,520 --> 00:02:08,560 Speaker 3: but he guilt tripped me and said it was best 47 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:10,440 Speaker 3: for the kids to stay together another year. 48 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:12,800 Speaker 2: Well, this year has been hell. 49 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:16,400 Speaker 3: He's so toxic and it still has drama with females 50 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:19,800 Speaker 3: coming to my door tells me I'm making things up. 51 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:22,360 Speaker 3: I can't deal with this. So recently I got my 52 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 3: own place without him knowing. The lease is almost up, 53 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:27,680 Speaker 3: and I'm doing everything in my power to jumpstart this 54 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:30,480 Speaker 3: man into finding a place to live or even rehome 55 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:33,440 Speaker 3: him to another bitch for all I care, But he 56 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:35,679 Speaker 3: refuses to accept it and still makes it seem like 57 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:38,360 Speaker 3: we are going to be together. His family refuses to 58 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:40,280 Speaker 3: help and even encourages. 59 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:40,639 Speaker 2: Him to stay with me. 60 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:42,520 Speaker 3: I don't even know what to do to get rid 61 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:45,079 Speaker 3: of this man because he literally needs me for everything 62 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:49,240 Speaker 3: housing and transportation. Yes, he works, but rarely helps with 63 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:52,120 Speaker 3: household bills. I don't want the father of my kids 64 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 3: on the street, and he still needs to watch the 65 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 3: kids while I work, But I also don't want him 66 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:58,440 Speaker 3: laid up in my new apartment. Think he could say there, 67 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 3: we don't have family that can help with the kids, 68 00:03:01,040 --> 00:03:02,440 Speaker 3: so it's just us taking care of them. 69 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:05,280 Speaker 2: So we were basically stuck with each other. Any advice 70 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:05,960 Speaker 2: t'n be. 71 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 3: Homing my baby daddy, and so don't fill in the 72 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:11,880 Speaker 3: blinks that you are not having sex at all and 73 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:13,720 Speaker 3: there's no chance to ever getting back together. 74 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 1: Just big with everything. Y'all listen, I have but everything 75 00:03:17,320 --> 00:03:20,320 Speaker 1: before I jump into our story. I got everything big 76 00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:22,960 Speaker 1: for the first time, so it's gonna have my breath 77 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 1: like real oniony, but the cream cheese and it. 78 00:03:26,200 --> 00:03:31,080 Speaker 2: Is toasted with extra butter. Baby, thank you. That's all 79 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 2: I gotta say. Now. I do not like calling my 80 00:03:35,800 --> 00:03:37,160 Speaker 2: beautiful black woman clowns. 81 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:39,960 Speaker 1: But baby, i'd be lying if I say you as 82 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 1: in lying, you are a clown. And sometimes we have 83 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:44,840 Speaker 1: to tell each other this so we can pick ourselves 84 00:03:44,960 --> 00:03:48,120 Speaker 1: up and dust ourselves off and try again. Why are 85 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:52,480 Speaker 1: you worried about a man who don't give a damn 86 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:55,200 Speaker 1: about your feelings at the end of the day, being 87 00:03:55,240 --> 00:03:56,800 Speaker 1: put out on a damn street. 88 00:03:56,960 --> 00:03:58,400 Speaker 2: Oh, because he the father of my children. 89 00:03:58,480 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: He didn't give a fuck that she was the mother 90 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:02,000 Speaker 1: of his kids when he was cheating on your ass 91 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 1: for the past ten years. What you just found out 92 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 1: about two years ago, all because his phone was slipped 93 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 1: out the pocket. 94 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:08,440 Speaker 2: And you washing his clothes. 95 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 1: What I believe if he ain't putting his hands on you, 96 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:15,400 Speaker 1: if he ain't got no gun to your head, if 97 00:04:15,440 --> 00:04:19,040 Speaker 1: he is not holding your children hostage, if he ain't 98 00:04:19,120 --> 00:04:20,800 Speaker 1: doing none of this car. 99 00:04:20,920 --> 00:04:22,800 Speaker 2: You can leave his ass. Let him be on the 100 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:23,600 Speaker 2: fucking streets. 101 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:26,279 Speaker 1: Now, Listen, what he may do is go be with 102 00:04:26,360 --> 00:04:28,359 Speaker 1: somebody else for the convenience of it. Because he seems 103 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:30,600 Speaker 1: to like being taken care of and his family raised 104 00:04:30,600 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 1: them wrong. 105 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:31,520 Speaker 2: Don't give a fuck. 106 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:33,599 Speaker 1: Wud nobody say they raise them wrong because they're still 107 00:04:33,640 --> 00:04:36,719 Speaker 1: encouraging his cheating ass to be with you. That's because 108 00:04:36,839 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: you're taking care of him. You're not responsible for your 109 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:43,800 Speaker 1: children's father. You're responsible for the children just like he is. 110 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 1: Leave his ass. Talk about oh, and don't there's no 111 00:04:47,920 --> 00:04:50,680 Speaker 1: feeling the blanks. We're not sleeping together. We're not what 112 00:04:50,720 --> 00:04:52,800 Speaker 1: happens when you want to date the fuck because I 113 00:04:52,839 --> 00:04:55,240 Speaker 1: know he's still dating. He just probably ain't bringing the 114 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:58,279 Speaker 1: bitches around you. And also, if you're able to take 115 00:04:58,279 --> 00:05:00,400 Speaker 1: care of him, then you should be able to take 116 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:02,200 Speaker 1: care of getting a babysit up for your kids. 117 00:05:02,520 --> 00:05:04,480 Speaker 2: Why you gotta do anything? Look, I don't care. I 118 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 2: do not care. 119 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:07,880 Speaker 1: I see mom's do it all the time, without their families, 120 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:12,719 Speaker 1: without friend groups, without support groups, all that. Like we 121 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:15,720 Speaker 1: do it women, We do it all. No discredit to men, 122 00:05:15,720 --> 00:05:18,000 Speaker 1: because every man out there not like that. And we 123 00:05:18,120 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 1: have a lot of heartworking dads. But women, come on, now, 124 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:24,720 Speaker 1: we do this shit. You feel sorry for him, yourse 125 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:26,960 Speaker 1: to have a soft spot for him. That's crazy. He 126 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 1: didn't have not one fucking soft spot for you. You can't 127 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:31,719 Speaker 1: seem to shake them. You can't, girl, like I said, 128 00:05:31,800 --> 00:05:34,640 Speaker 1: unless he beaten your ass up and down the house, 129 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 1: or like I said, holding you hostage, gun to your head, 130 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:39,919 Speaker 1: all that you can walk the fuck out of his 131 00:05:40,040 --> 00:05:41,360 Speaker 1: life period. 132 00:05:41,960 --> 00:05:44,200 Speaker 2: Get a restraining order. Oh but then he can't see 133 00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:44,520 Speaker 2: the kids. 134 00:05:44,560 --> 00:05:46,520 Speaker 1: He wasn't worrying about that when he was with Denise, 135 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:48,599 Speaker 1: Vanessa and Rudy and Claire. 136 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 2: He wasn't thinking about none of that. 137 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: Girl. No, I think you have lost your everlast of mind. 138 00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 1: And I'm sorry for all my aggression, but sweetie, you 139 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 1: can do better. And sometimes a lot of us women 140 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 1: need to be told that by other women who are 141 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:07,120 Speaker 1: completely unbiased. Like I'm not your friend. I don't know you, 142 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 1: never saw you a day in my life. You know 143 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 1: what I'm saying, So I don't know you. This is 144 00:06:11,960 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 1: just like anonymous. You know, I'm hearing a story and 145 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,800 Speaker 1: I'm telling another woman what she could do, what she 146 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 1: should do. 147 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:21,240 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. You still love them? I 148 00:06:21,279 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 2: know you do. 149 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 1: You know I'm not saying that you are attracted so 150 00:06:23,800 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 1: on or you don't you know what I'm saying, because 151 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 1: all right, taking account me and my son's father, we 152 00:06:29,200 --> 00:06:33,240 Speaker 1: are way past intimacy. We're not, you know, attracted to 153 00:06:33,279 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 1: each other anymore. I haven't dated Rome since before our 154 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:38,560 Speaker 1: baby turn one year old. Like that's just how that is, 155 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:40,480 Speaker 1: you know. And I often say that we're like brother 156 00:06:40,560 --> 00:06:43,279 Speaker 1: and sister. So I would give Rome the shirt off 157 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:44,920 Speaker 1: my back, yes I will, But I would not give 158 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 1: him a place to stay in my house because I 159 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:48,120 Speaker 1: am in a relationship. 160 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 2: I'm moving forward. That's just that's a no. 161 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 4: No. 162 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:53,159 Speaker 2: There are still boundaries. That's why I'm telling you this. 163 00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 1: There are still boundaries that has to be set and 164 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:58,480 Speaker 1: have to be put between you and your baby daddy. 165 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:00,360 Speaker 1: What's wrong with him getting a fucking y'all? If he 166 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:03,039 Speaker 1: ain't got no record with even niggas with records, fuck 167 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 1: a record. Even men with records are able to get jobs. 168 00:07:06,279 --> 00:07:08,680 Speaker 1: He got to start from somewhere. You cannot carry him 169 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:10,840 Speaker 1: as one of your kids. That's just not what it is. 170 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:13,560 Speaker 1: That's not what it's supposed to be. But about what 171 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:16,720 Speaker 1: I was saying about Rome, Me and Rome are close enough. Well, 172 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:18,240 Speaker 1: I never want to see him on the street either, 173 00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:19,560 Speaker 1: but he can't come into my house. 174 00:07:20,440 --> 00:07:21,360 Speaker 2: He can't. 175 00:07:21,600 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 1: And a man, a real man, would never let himself 176 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 1: be on the fucking streets. You know, of course it's circumstantial. 177 00:07:29,280 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 1: But if this nigga got all the sense and all 178 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 1: the high mighty power to go cheat back to back 179 00:07:33,800 --> 00:07:37,720 Speaker 1: like that and sending money to other bitches, this nigga 180 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:40,680 Speaker 1: was fucking with bitches and y'all complex where y'all live, 181 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 1: and you worried about him being thrown out on the streets? 182 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:48,280 Speaker 1: Are you dumb? I'm sorry, Like, uh, we're not going 183 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 1: for that. Sometimes we need tough love as women, and 184 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 1: I'm here to give it. But I'm serious, like this man, 185 00:07:54,040 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 1: this is not what love is supposed to be. This 186 00:07:56,080 --> 00:07:58,240 Speaker 1: is not even what a friendship looks like. He don't 187 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:01,640 Speaker 1: respect you, says, why the fuck you sending money that 188 00:08:01,680 --> 00:08:04,080 Speaker 1: you don't have or that you claim you don't have 189 00:08:04,120 --> 00:08:05,800 Speaker 1: when it comes to me putting your ass out on 190 00:08:05,960 --> 00:08:08,360 Speaker 1: other bitches to other bitches, like why what are we doing? 191 00:08:08,440 --> 00:08:11,120 Speaker 1: What are we doing here? His priorities is all fucked up. 192 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:13,200 Speaker 1: It seemed like you were engaged to a kid. You 193 00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:17,040 Speaker 1: had babies by baby a baby mindset ass Nigga, we're 194 00:08:17,080 --> 00:08:20,040 Speaker 1: not doing that. We shouldn't do that in twenty twenty four. 195 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 1: We shouldn't have never been doing it, like we shouldn't 196 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:25,800 Speaker 1: have been ever doing it. But it needs to stop now, 197 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:28,080 Speaker 1: So you need to get back in touch with me 198 00:08:28,200 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 1: and update me. 199 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:29,560 Speaker 2: Sorry. 200 00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:31,360 Speaker 1: Like I said, sorry for the tough love, but baby, 201 00:08:31,360 --> 00:08:32,679 Speaker 1: we need to give it to each other because I 202 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:35,199 Speaker 1: would want somebody to talk to me like this if 203 00:08:35,240 --> 00:08:38,280 Speaker 1: I was, you know, stuck in a situation like this, 204 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:40,120 Speaker 1: How the hell you stuck? No, that's some shit you 205 00:08:40,200 --> 00:08:42,880 Speaker 1: speaking over yourself. You ain't stuck with him. No, his 206 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 1: aad stuck. He's stuck in his own way, So get 207 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: out of your way and push his ads to the side. 208 00:08:49,960 --> 00:08:52,600 Speaker 1: Raise your kids, and when it's time for you to date, 209 00:08:52,679 --> 00:08:53,800 Speaker 1: you go date shit. 210 00:08:54,640 --> 00:08:56,040 Speaker 2: But check back in with me, boom. 211 00:08:56,440 --> 00:08:58,800 Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and 212 00:08:58,840 --> 00:08:59,800 Speaker 1: then we'll be right back. 213 00:09:01,559 --> 00:09:02,160 Speaker 2: Next story. 214 00:09:03,080 --> 00:09:04,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna have Tailor read again because I got finished 215 00:09:04,800 --> 00:09:05,800 Speaker 1: the other hand of my bage wheel. 216 00:09:07,920 --> 00:09:10,760 Speaker 2: Hey, Jess, I just needed some advice about my job. 217 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:13,840 Speaker 3: I feel like I'm very stuck, almost like I'm trapped 218 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:16,679 Speaker 3: at this job. I'm a carrier, so I kind of 219 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:20,400 Speaker 3: like FedEx or ups, but I'm actually an independent contractor, 220 00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:22,959 Speaker 3: so I own my own vehicle, but I don't make 221 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 3: my own hours or any of the cool stuff that 222 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 3: you actually get owning your business. And I have been 223 00:09:27,400 --> 00:09:30,440 Speaker 3: working here for almost three years. My uncles are the managers. 224 00:09:30,480 --> 00:09:32,720 Speaker 3: The job itself is not bad, but I can't take 225 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:37,600 Speaker 3: all the arguments between the employees myself, included the vehicle issues, 226 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:41,680 Speaker 3: which I'm responsible for. Because I'm an independent contractor, I 227 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:44,160 Speaker 3: can never do any of my side stuff on a 228 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:47,240 Speaker 3: consistent schedule basis because I never know when I'm going 229 00:09:47,280 --> 00:09:49,280 Speaker 3: to start in the day or when i will finish 230 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:52,280 Speaker 3: in the day. So I actually have a YouTube channel 231 00:09:52,760 --> 00:09:55,960 Speaker 3: Tasha die Oh, But because I never know when I 232 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:58,200 Speaker 3: will start or finish, I can't dedicate as much as 233 00:09:58,200 --> 00:10:01,239 Speaker 3: my time to my YouTube channel or my only fans. 234 00:10:01,640 --> 00:10:04,000 Speaker 3: It's very frustrating because I have so many ideas for 235 00:10:04,040 --> 00:10:06,439 Speaker 3: my YouTube channel and more than what I want to do. 236 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:09,480 Speaker 3: But by the time I finish work, I'm very tired 237 00:10:09,520 --> 00:10:12,520 Speaker 3: because my job is very physical. Then on my days off, 238 00:10:12,520 --> 00:10:14,319 Speaker 3: I had to tend to my family and any other 239 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:16,800 Speaker 3: things I couldn't get done during the week. And I 240 00:10:16,800 --> 00:10:19,560 Speaker 3: also believe that part of my feelings stem from me 241 00:10:19,679 --> 00:10:22,320 Speaker 3: knowing what I want to do and trying to take 242 00:10:22,360 --> 00:10:24,720 Speaker 3: the steps to do that, but not having very many 243 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:28,400 Speaker 3: options because of where I live. I live in Rockford, Illinois, 244 00:10:28,600 --> 00:10:30,679 Speaker 3: so there's not much going on here, but I am 245 00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:34,319 Speaker 3: very interested in photography and videography. Also, I would like 246 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:36,560 Speaker 3: to take my YouTube channel and kind of make it 247 00:10:36,600 --> 00:10:39,840 Speaker 3: a podcast, but there isn't very much business for that 248 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:42,200 Speaker 3: sort of thing around here. I just want to know 249 00:10:42,240 --> 00:10:44,319 Speaker 3: if you had any advice that you could pass along 250 00:10:44,360 --> 00:10:46,840 Speaker 3: to me, maybe how I can get my foot in 251 00:10:46,920 --> 00:10:49,280 Speaker 3: the door. But also there's my job that I have now. 252 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:51,800 Speaker 3: I'm just in a tough spot because I just I 253 00:10:51,840 --> 00:10:53,920 Speaker 3: get paid a lot of money. Well for me, it's 254 00:10:53,920 --> 00:10:56,280 Speaker 3: a lot of money. If I got paid hourly, I 255 00:10:56,320 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 3: would get paid between twenty three and twenty five dollars 256 00:10:59,160 --> 00:11:01,680 Speaker 3: an hour. I don't actually have any real skills, so 257 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:04,600 Speaker 3: I can't just go somewhere and start out at that much. 258 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:07,120 Speaker 3: So that's why I'm having such a tough time, because 259 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:09,480 Speaker 3: I don't want to take a pay cut if I'm 260 00:11:09,559 --> 00:11:12,199 Speaker 3: not going to be doing something that is helping towards 261 00:11:12,480 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 3: my career goal. 262 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:16,680 Speaker 2: So I like how she saw it talking about I'm 263 00:11:16,720 --> 00:11:19,600 Speaker 2: having all these problems, like with my job. 264 00:11:20,160 --> 00:11:23,760 Speaker 1: It's not working out for me, Like you know, I 265 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:27,199 Speaker 1: feel like basically I'm a host to this job and 266 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:33,800 Speaker 1: I don't have time for my only fans. What girl, Listen, 267 00:11:34,640 --> 00:11:36,680 Speaker 1: if I tell people all the time, if you're doing 268 00:11:36,720 --> 00:11:39,120 Speaker 1: something that don't bring you joy, if you're doing something 269 00:11:39,160 --> 00:11:43,360 Speaker 1: that doesn't seem passionate to you and it feels purposeless 270 00:11:43,679 --> 00:11:47,880 Speaker 1: and you're not happy and you can manage financially, do 271 00:11:47,960 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 1: what you want to do. It seems like you do 272 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:53,360 Speaker 1: have a passion for, you know, talking to people with 273 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:56,599 Speaker 1: communications so YouTube, being blogging and you said you have 274 00:11:56,640 --> 00:12:01,240 Speaker 1: a podcast that you're starting and stuff like that. That girl, 275 00:12:01,960 --> 00:12:04,160 Speaker 1: I'm not one to tell people quit jobs, because as 276 00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:06,720 Speaker 1: hard as it is to get a goddamn job, and 277 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:09,120 Speaker 1: you sit in me here complaining about one, it's just 278 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: ass backwards. However, if it's not bringing you joy in 279 00:12:12,960 --> 00:12:17,439 Speaker 1: your stress and every day you find your peace disturbed, girl, 280 00:12:17,720 --> 00:12:22,600 Speaker 1: quit the job and do what you are most passionate about. 281 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:26,200 Speaker 1: I see a whole lot of people that stream, you know, 282 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:28,520 Speaker 1: they're only fans and they make money off their YouTube 283 00:12:28,559 --> 00:12:30,720 Speaker 1: and all that. But building a platform, I'm telling you, baby, 284 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:33,480 Speaker 1: it's not easy. So un let's Tasha dot Oh already 285 00:12:33,480 --> 00:12:36,280 Speaker 1: got a lot of subscribers. You will not be making 286 00:12:36,320 --> 00:12:37,760 Speaker 1: money like you was at your job. 287 00:12:37,840 --> 00:12:40,120 Speaker 2: I think. I don't know if you pray. 288 00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:43,880 Speaker 1: I don't know if you know if you are religious 289 00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:45,840 Speaker 1: in any fashion or whatever. 290 00:12:45,880 --> 00:12:48,160 Speaker 2: But I'm a Christian woman, and I pray. 291 00:12:48,240 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 1: I pray every day every day of my life, you know, 292 00:12:52,480 --> 00:12:55,600 Speaker 1: and certain things I pray for When I'm confused about 293 00:12:55,600 --> 00:12:58,000 Speaker 1: certain things. I don't go to people for advice. That's 294 00:12:58,000 --> 00:13:00,319 Speaker 1: why I'm happy that y'all come to me. But I 295 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:02,480 Speaker 1: don't go to people for advice because I don't like 296 00:13:02,480 --> 00:13:03,439 Speaker 1: for people to tell me what to day. 297 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:04,559 Speaker 2: But go it. 298 00:13:05,000 --> 00:13:09,040 Speaker 1: So I pray. So just pray on it fast, like 299 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:12,360 Speaker 1: do you know? That's my advice to you. You do 300 00:13:12,520 --> 00:13:16,120 Speaker 1: make good money, all right, So I say, give yourself 301 00:13:16,160 --> 00:13:20,280 Speaker 1: about another year there, stack your money, save it, you know, 302 00:13:20,320 --> 00:13:21,600 Speaker 1: pay your bills. That mean you're gonna have to cut 303 00:13:21,600 --> 00:13:23,560 Speaker 1: out all your extra expenses, you know, whether it's just 304 00:13:23,679 --> 00:13:26,400 Speaker 1: leisure or just for pleasure. Cut all of that shit out, 305 00:13:26,520 --> 00:13:29,640 Speaker 1: really grind, build that savings account up, and then you 306 00:13:29,679 --> 00:13:32,160 Speaker 1: can invest into your business. Or why not stay at 307 00:13:32,160 --> 00:13:39,280 Speaker 1: your job and use the money to invest into your 308 00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:42,520 Speaker 1: blog and invest into your cause. Listen, I'm telling you 309 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:46,720 Speaker 1: you don't just gain a platform overnight. You need to invest. 310 00:13:46,800 --> 00:13:49,240 Speaker 1: You need to I'm talking about get videographers. That comes 311 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:52,839 Speaker 1: with videographers and photographers and shit like you got to 312 00:13:52,880 --> 00:13:55,440 Speaker 1: stand out these days. That is a very competitive space 313 00:13:55,720 --> 00:13:58,680 Speaker 1: because who the hell don't got a podcast? Okay, Like 314 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:02,520 Speaker 1: when I say, I'm so sick up everybody fucking having 315 00:14:02,520 --> 00:14:06,440 Speaker 1: a podcast, I ain't trying discourage you, but goddamn, what 316 00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:07,520 Speaker 1: do you be talking about on here? 317 00:14:08,160 --> 00:14:11,880 Speaker 2: But let me calm down. 318 00:14:12,720 --> 00:14:14,920 Speaker 1: I think you should use the money that you have 319 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:19,200 Speaker 1: to invest in your business that you really want to develop, 320 00:14:19,280 --> 00:14:21,280 Speaker 1: that you really want to get off the ground, and 321 00:14:21,320 --> 00:14:22,640 Speaker 1: you want a catapult. 322 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:23,440 Speaker 2: That's what you want to do. 323 00:14:23,520 --> 00:14:26,720 Speaker 1: But nothing happens overnight and you can't look at your 324 00:14:26,720 --> 00:14:30,480 Speaker 1: career or something that you want to do is microwavable, 325 00:14:30,720 --> 00:14:31,640 Speaker 1: that's so instant. 326 00:14:31,880 --> 00:14:33,840 Speaker 2: You're not gonna be able to do that. You can't. 327 00:14:34,240 --> 00:14:37,920 Speaker 1: I've been doing this shit for about not podcasting. I'm 328 00:14:37,920 --> 00:14:42,880 Speaker 1: talking about, you know, being in the social Like this 329 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:44,800 Speaker 1: is my ninth year. Now you get what I'm saying. 330 00:14:44,840 --> 00:14:47,240 Speaker 1: I started this shit in twenty fourteen, so no, this 331 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:49,600 Speaker 1: is my tenth year. Like I started this ship when 332 00:14:49,760 --> 00:14:51,080 Speaker 1: my son was two years old. 333 00:14:51,360 --> 00:14:52,120 Speaker 2: You get what I'm saying. 334 00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:56,200 Speaker 1: And I done went through so many hardships, you know, 335 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:59,520 Speaker 1: like with trying to build a brand and marketing, it's 336 00:14:59,520 --> 00:15:00,920 Speaker 1: a lot to go into it and just having a 337 00:15:00,920 --> 00:15:02,520 Speaker 1: bunch of followers and a bunch of subscribers. 338 00:15:02,560 --> 00:15:03,640 Speaker 2: You gotta work at that shit. 339 00:15:03,840 --> 00:15:06,280 Speaker 1: That's why all those people that you see at the top, 340 00:15:06,520 --> 00:15:09,760 Speaker 1: they didn't just blow up last night, you know, like 341 00:15:09,800 --> 00:15:13,280 Speaker 1: ad Era, You remember Diarra and Ken they were doing 342 00:15:13,320 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 1: this shit like a long time ago. You know, some 343 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:19,080 Speaker 1: of the biggest bloggers been in this shit for like 344 00:15:19,120 --> 00:15:20,960 Speaker 1: what six seven years plus. 345 00:15:21,160 --> 00:15:23,400 Speaker 2: So if you quit your job, you don't want them 346 00:15:23,400 --> 00:15:24,040 Speaker 2: my fucking money. 347 00:15:24,560 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 1: Now, you said that you like videography and photography, you 348 00:15:27,680 --> 00:15:29,560 Speaker 1: need to start offering your services. That's gonna get you 349 00:15:29,600 --> 00:15:31,600 Speaker 1: out there and start getting you booked and stuff like that. 350 00:15:31,840 --> 00:15:33,960 Speaker 1: You know, do you own a camera? Do you own 351 00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:35,800 Speaker 1: any equipment? That's why I'm saying That's why if you 352 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 1: don't you need that job, because that shit gets expensive 353 00:15:38,840 --> 00:15:41,240 Speaker 1: as well, cameras and like I said, lighting and all 354 00:15:41,280 --> 00:15:44,240 Speaker 1: that shit, and even taking short classes like you know, 355 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:46,560 Speaker 1: like these seminars. Not all of them are scams, but 356 00:15:46,760 --> 00:15:49,200 Speaker 1: some of them actually do teach you shit, you know, 357 00:15:49,440 --> 00:15:53,040 Speaker 1: consultations or whatever. You know. My video guy does consultations. 358 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 1: I loos work on Instagram. He does all my edits 359 00:15:56,240 --> 00:15:57,680 Speaker 1: and that's the guy that you see that makes my 360 00:15:57,800 --> 00:16:01,720 Speaker 1: video magic, my visual magic on my page and stuff. 361 00:16:01,840 --> 00:16:03,760 Speaker 1: You really have to put yourself out there. But I 362 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:06,760 Speaker 1: wouldn't leave my job just yet. I get it, but try. 363 00:16:06,840 --> 00:16:07,120 Speaker 2: Oh way. 364 00:16:07,120 --> 00:16:09,800 Speaker 1: If you're an independent contractor, what you should do is 365 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:11,440 Speaker 1: you should be able to make your own schedule right 366 00:16:11,520 --> 00:16:13,200 Speaker 1: or you should be able to at least work for 367 00:16:13,320 --> 00:16:16,480 Speaker 1: these and take three for yourself to do your business. 368 00:16:16,880 --> 00:16:18,520 Speaker 1: How old are you did she say how old she was? 369 00:16:18,800 --> 00:16:21,240 Speaker 1: I'm guessing you're fairly young, but check back in with me. 370 00:16:21,440 --> 00:16:23,640 Speaker 1: You know, I think it'll be wrong for you to 371 00:16:23,640 --> 00:16:25,920 Speaker 1: walk away from your job now, especially since you make 372 00:16:25,960 --> 00:16:28,760 Speaker 1: good money, Especially if you don't have any kids or anything. 373 00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:30,400 Speaker 2: You really have nothing holding you back. 374 00:16:30,960 --> 00:16:33,480 Speaker 1: Stack your money and invest in yourself, so when you 375 00:16:33,520 --> 00:16:37,320 Speaker 1: finally leave your job, it can be for more than 376 00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:39,160 Speaker 1: just the reason of or I got my own blog, 377 00:16:39,200 --> 00:16:42,920 Speaker 1: I got No, I'm an entrepreneur. I'm a CEO of this, that, 378 00:16:43,000 --> 00:16:45,040 Speaker 1: and the other. I make my own business. I mean, 379 00:16:45,040 --> 00:16:47,560 Speaker 1: you know, I make my own money, and that'll be 380 00:16:47,560 --> 00:16:50,680 Speaker 1: your success story. I used my nine to five to 381 00:16:50,760 --> 00:16:58,960 Speaker 1: pay for my entrepreneurship period. All right, girl, So so 382 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:01,360 Speaker 1: make sure you update me on your progress, you know, 383 00:17:01,520 --> 00:17:02,800 Speaker 1: just just let me know. But I do want to 384 00:17:02,800 --> 00:17:05,280 Speaker 1: know how old you are as well. It does sound 385 00:17:05,280 --> 00:17:07,159 Speaker 1: like you're fairly young, and that is the end of 386 00:17:07,160 --> 00:17:07,800 Speaker 1: that story, looks. 387 00:17:07,800 --> 00:17:08,720 Speaker 2: So we got one more. 388 00:17:09,080 --> 00:17:11,000 Speaker 1: Hold up, Hold up, I know this shit getting good, 389 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 1: but listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. 390 00:17:13,359 --> 00:17:14,520 Speaker 2: If you love me, you'll listen. 391 00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:18,520 Speaker 1: Oh we got a voice note, Shaw, we got a 392 00:17:18,560 --> 00:17:20,320 Speaker 1: voice note. Okay, here y'alls. 393 00:17:20,920 --> 00:17:23,399 Speaker 4: Yeah. So my question was basically, being from Baltimore, I 394 00:17:23,400 --> 00:17:25,960 Speaker 4: wanted to know, like, as a first generation in college student, 395 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:27,520 Speaker 4: I see a lot of myself and justin how she 396 00:17:27,600 --> 00:17:29,560 Speaker 4: was able to put both theom on the map. So 397 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:32,400 Speaker 4: my question basically is how is just able to navigate 398 00:17:32,400 --> 00:17:36,240 Speaker 4: her success and enjoy it while not letting survivors get 399 00:17:36,320 --> 00:17:38,960 Speaker 4: to her, because coming out the city, it can feel like, Okay, 400 00:17:38,960 --> 00:17:40,400 Speaker 4: I'm the only one that made it out, and that's 401 00:17:40,400 --> 00:17:41,640 Speaker 4: something I'm going through right now. 402 00:17:41,920 --> 00:17:42,240 Speaker 2: Okay. 403 00:17:42,320 --> 00:17:44,440 Speaker 1: So somebody asked me a similar question like this before 404 00:17:44,520 --> 00:17:46,480 Speaker 1: when I did mister Jay Hills podcast. 405 00:17:46,520 --> 00:17:49,000 Speaker 2: He's also a fellow Baltimorean, my brother. 406 00:17:49,080 --> 00:17:52,880 Speaker 1: He is now in Atlanta doing his thing, bigger than 407 00:17:52,880 --> 00:17:55,919 Speaker 1: ever and only growing bigger with his business. But he 408 00:17:56,000 --> 00:17:59,679 Speaker 1: had asked me the same question, Actually, do I ever 409 00:17:59,760 --> 00:18:04,280 Speaker 1: have survivor's guilt? Baby girl? Hell no, I'm sorry, there's 410 00:18:04,320 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 1: no other way to put it. No, No, I don't. 411 00:18:07,440 --> 00:18:11,000 Speaker 1: And then somebody else had asked me when I first 412 00:18:11,080 --> 00:18:13,480 Speaker 1: listened to your voice, No, did I feel like that 413 00:18:13,720 --> 00:18:16,439 Speaker 1: earlier on? You know, cause I've been in this game, 414 00:18:16,600 --> 00:18:19,000 Speaker 1: in this business, in this industry or what you know 415 00:18:19,119 --> 00:18:23,760 Speaker 1: so called for going on ten years now, you know, 416 00:18:24,280 --> 00:18:24,800 Speaker 1: And so. 417 00:18:26,200 --> 00:18:27,479 Speaker 2: Did I feel that way early on? 418 00:18:27,640 --> 00:18:27,720 Speaker 4: No? 419 00:18:27,960 --> 00:18:29,520 Speaker 1: I just knew I had to get the fuck out. 420 00:18:29,560 --> 00:18:32,359 Speaker 1: I knew coming from where I grew up, I looked around. 421 00:18:32,520 --> 00:18:34,040 Speaker 1: This is not where I need to be. This is 422 00:18:34,080 --> 00:18:36,199 Speaker 1: not where I have to be for the rest of 423 00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:37,919 Speaker 1: my life. This is not where I'm gonna be for 424 00:18:37,960 --> 00:18:40,520 Speaker 1: the rest of my life. Fuck, No, I can't do it. 425 00:18:41,119 --> 00:18:45,680 Speaker 1: So survivor's guilt absolutely not. What I like to see 426 00:18:45,720 --> 00:18:49,520 Speaker 1: more success come out of Baltimore. Yes, is that my responsibility? No, 427 00:18:50,280 --> 00:18:52,439 Speaker 1: I had to get to a point like that, you 428 00:18:52,480 --> 00:18:56,760 Speaker 1: know where I said that and not felt bad for it. 429 00:18:56,840 --> 00:18:59,320 Speaker 1: I used to feel bad for saying shit like that. 430 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:03,119 Speaker 1: Now I don't. Everybody is responsible for themselves. I try 431 00:19:03,160 --> 00:19:06,760 Speaker 1: to help wherever I can. I give money, I give opportunities, 432 00:19:07,080 --> 00:19:09,560 Speaker 1: and all of that. Now, whether or not people going 433 00:19:09,640 --> 00:19:12,160 Speaker 1: to do what's right with the money and opportunities, that's 434 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:15,680 Speaker 1: on them. I have too much responsibility and too many 435 00:19:15,680 --> 00:19:17,320 Speaker 1: things that's going on in my life that I need 436 00:19:17,320 --> 00:19:19,720 Speaker 1: to focus on because I need to continue to grow 437 00:19:19,800 --> 00:19:20,280 Speaker 1: my riches. 438 00:19:20,520 --> 00:19:22,919 Speaker 2: I need to continue to raise my child. 439 00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:25,840 Speaker 1: I need to continue I'm pregnant again, I have a family. 440 00:19:25,880 --> 00:19:28,159 Speaker 1: I got other goals as well, not just to be 441 00:19:28,200 --> 00:19:32,000 Speaker 1: successful financially. I have to build generational wealth. That's what 442 00:19:32,040 --> 00:19:35,359 Speaker 1: I'm doing, and that takes a long time. I was 443 00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:38,520 Speaker 1: just piggybacking off of what I said about the story, 444 00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:42,560 Speaker 1: the previous story. No, it takes a long time to 445 00:19:42,560 --> 00:19:48,080 Speaker 1: get where you really can say Okay, I'm comfortable. I'm 446 00:19:48,160 --> 00:19:50,399 Speaker 1: still not comfortable where I am. I still got a 447 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:53,240 Speaker 1: lot of work today. So no, baby, I don't feel 448 00:19:53,680 --> 00:19:56,960 Speaker 1: survivor's guilt. No, I don't, and I don't think you 449 00:19:57,000 --> 00:20:00,720 Speaker 1: should either. You said your first generation college went to college. 450 00:20:01,119 --> 00:20:04,080 Speaker 1: If anything, the people around you, your family, and your 451 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:08,000 Speaker 1: friends should feel motivated to see that anybody can do that. 452 00:20:08,160 --> 00:20:10,639 Speaker 1: We got some of the smartest motherfuckers in Baltimore City. 453 00:20:10,920 --> 00:20:11,560 Speaker 2: Let me tell you. 454 00:20:11,840 --> 00:20:15,280 Speaker 1: We're smart, We're creative, We're an innovative city. We make 455 00:20:15,400 --> 00:20:18,600 Speaker 1: gold out of dirt. Okay, we can do that. Shit, 456 00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:21,800 Speaker 1: I've done it. So many people can do it, but 457 00:20:21,840 --> 00:20:23,439 Speaker 1: a lot of us are in our own way. 458 00:20:23,600 --> 00:20:24,960 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. Then, a lot of people 459 00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:25,679 Speaker 2: are afraid to. 460 00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:30,320 Speaker 1: Explore new things because we get so accustomed to where 461 00:20:30,600 --> 00:20:34,080 Speaker 1: where we come from and how we were raised. You 462 00:20:34,119 --> 00:20:37,800 Speaker 1: get what I'm saying, And Nah, that's not the way. 463 00:20:37,920 --> 00:20:39,960 Speaker 1: You gotta jump out there. You gotta step out there. 464 00:20:40,680 --> 00:20:44,399 Speaker 1: And so don't feel guilty. They're supposed to feel pushed 465 00:20:44,400 --> 00:20:47,239 Speaker 1: and motivated by what you do. And don't feel like 466 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:51,320 Speaker 1: you have the responsibility of taking care of everybody because 467 00:20:51,359 --> 00:20:53,200 Speaker 1: you don't. You just the baby and you trying to 468 00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:56,040 Speaker 1: find your way your damn self, and you've seen ambitious. 469 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,040 Speaker 1: That tells me something. You have some type of ambition. 470 00:20:58,760 --> 00:21:01,960 Speaker 1: You can't teach that. So even if you tried to 471 00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:04,600 Speaker 1: go back and gather four or five family members to 472 00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:06,560 Speaker 1: do that, they gotta have your mindset. 473 00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:08,360 Speaker 2: You had a mindset to say. 474 00:21:08,359 --> 00:21:10,479 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to school, I'm gonna get up out 475 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:13,119 Speaker 1: of Baltimore, I'm gonna do this, I'm a this, I'm this, 476 00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:14,440 Speaker 1: I'm gonna at A B and C. 477 00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:17,159 Speaker 2: And so I get all the way to Z and 478 00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:18,960 Speaker 2: then I'm gonna start over. You get what I'm saying. 479 00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:24,800 Speaker 1: That's your mindset. You're not stuck. You're not stuck, and 480 00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:26,920 Speaker 1: you didn't want to be stuck. So if we get 481 00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:29,800 Speaker 1: to get out of our own way, we won't actually 482 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:33,480 Speaker 1: ever have to blame a person for making it and 483 00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:36,040 Speaker 1: not coming back to get us. How about you following me? 484 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:37,880 Speaker 1: How about you chase me? How about you follow your 485 00:21:37,880 --> 00:21:40,359 Speaker 1: fucking dreams. I'm not gonna come back and get you. 486 00:21:40,520 --> 00:21:42,879 Speaker 1: Because sometimes we go back and we don't make it 487 00:21:42,920 --> 00:21:45,560 Speaker 1: the fuck back out where we were. It just is 488 00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:47,600 Speaker 1: what it is, and that comes with the hate in 489 00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:50,800 Speaker 1: the city to see somebody who actually made it be successfubl. 490 00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:53,119 Speaker 2: So you know how it is in our city, You 491 00:21:53,160 --> 00:21:53,800 Speaker 2: know how it is. 492 00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:56,480 Speaker 1: I can't speak for other cities, but I imagine that shit 493 00:21:56,600 --> 00:21:59,400 Speaker 1: is not only in Baltimore City, It's in any any 494 00:21:59,640 --> 00:22:02,240 Speaker 1: urban city. You get what I'm saying. And it's always 495 00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:04,280 Speaker 1: like that. A lot of people want to pull you 496 00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:06,360 Speaker 1: back in. They scared to see you flourished. We want 497 00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:08,399 Speaker 1: you to win, but don't win too much. You gotta 498 00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:10,400 Speaker 1: take us with you. But what the fuck you doing 499 00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:15,560 Speaker 1: while I'm grinding? What you're doing, while you waiting for 500 00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:17,639 Speaker 1: me to come back and get you, You still sitting 501 00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:20,320 Speaker 1: there chilling and shit, Nah, ain't no growth there. 502 00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:21,640 Speaker 2: I can help. 503 00:22:21,680 --> 00:22:24,720 Speaker 1: I love to help people who have potential, who want 504 00:22:24,760 --> 00:22:25,359 Speaker 1: to do something. 505 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:27,000 Speaker 2: Maybe they don't know exactly what they want to do, 506 00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:27,880 Speaker 2: but they got. 507 00:22:27,760 --> 00:22:31,320 Speaker 1: Some type of some type of ambition where they can 508 00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:34,240 Speaker 1: meet me halfway or just a little bit something that 509 00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:36,760 Speaker 1: I can take and I can parachute that bitch. I 510 00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:39,520 Speaker 1: can help you amplify what you are already thinking or 511 00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:42,040 Speaker 1: with your ideas, then bring it to life and help 512 00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:43,480 Speaker 1: that out for you. 513 00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:45,680 Speaker 2: You know, so, I thank you for that question. 514 00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:48,640 Speaker 1: Baby Girl, and that is the end of the Carefully 515 00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:51,119 Speaker 1: Reckless episode. For today, I love you guys. I just 516 00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:52,680 Speaker 1: want to give a big shout out to Atlanta. The 517 00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:56,520 Speaker 1: second annual Black Effect Podcast Festival was so fun and 518 00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:58,359 Speaker 1: I want to also give a shout out to Wallow 519 00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:01,440 Speaker 1: and Gilly. They were funny, fucked. The engagement that they 520 00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:03,800 Speaker 1: had with that audience was great. I want to give 521 00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:06,080 Speaker 1: a shout out the Horrible Decisions. They also had a 522 00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:09,760 Speaker 1: good show as well. And then they said, t I 523 00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:12,679 Speaker 1: came through there and I wasn't even there, Talo, Why 524 00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:13,960 Speaker 1: the fucking ex them to stay for me? 525 00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:16,560 Speaker 2: You're as one finance man. 526 00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:19,640 Speaker 1: Ha. All right, y'all, Well, make sure you tune into 527 00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:22,920 Speaker 1: Carefully Reckless on the Black Effect podcast network as well 528 00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:25,120 Speaker 1: as The Breakfast Club on Thursdays. Make sure you call 529 00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:27,359 Speaker 1: up and so I can fix your mask. 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