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Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make a horrible decisions. Hey, guys,

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Speaker 1: welcome to she forgot the name of the show. Another

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Speaker 1: episode of horrible decisions. I'm your girl, Mad d V

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Speaker 1: motherfucking Beach, and I'm sitting next to Hey, I'm sweezy,

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Speaker 1: and we are joining also that girl, Well, I'm that bitch.

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Speaker 1: You could be that girl. Um. And we are joined

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Speaker 1: today by someone who has been on our podcast. I

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Speaker 1: feel like at least once a year. You've been on

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Speaker 1: here about three two times, three times, three times our

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Speaker 1: live show, our live show, yes where we brought a

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Speaker 1: pussy puppet. I've been to friends. So that's why I talk.

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Speaker 1: My God, I'm done hearing about motherfucking France. We are

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Speaker 1: joined today by Michelle Hope, who is a sexpert and

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Speaker 1: everything else under the sun. And I would say and

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Speaker 1: act to best a sexpert. I was gonna say, activists

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Speaker 1: actually think that I think about It's good. I love that,

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Speaker 1: not that I don't think of sex right, but like,

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Speaker 1: if I had to pick something else right, activism would

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Speaker 1: be it. You know, I say activism because you talked

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Speaker 1: about sex. So like educationally, i'd be like, damn, bitch,

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Speaker 1: this bit smart, Like the way we read about it,

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Speaker 1: I don't. I mean I read Twitter. Yeah, sometimes and

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Speaker 1: sometimes you can get good information from there. You know

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Speaker 1: what else I don't really give credit to. You introduced

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Speaker 1: me to old Bay. Really didn't. I don't even know

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Speaker 1: if you realize that. I don't. I did not. We

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Speaker 1: were at a party together and you saw him, you

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Speaker 1: knew him, so you started talking to him and you

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Speaker 1: were sucking lit as fuck. And then I was like,

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Speaker 1: that's normal, Michelle. But so at first I thought Michelle

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Speaker 1: was like flirting with him, but then also he had

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Speaker 1: a friend there, and I was like, okay, so now

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Speaker 1: it's this nigga that she's flirting. We also can't get

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Speaker 1: the vibe because who does Michelle want to fuck? Probably

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Speaker 1: both at the same dayn time. No, I'm just who knows?

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Speaker 1: Who knows? That's but you know when you're just like

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Speaker 1: which one is my home girl? On? So then I

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Speaker 1: remember when he came back to get my number, I

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Speaker 1: was like, oh, are you and he was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: that's like we who I've been knowing her for years? Why?

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Speaker 1: I mean, did she like I was like, I don't know, nigga,

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out where I fit in. And

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Speaker 1: it's crazy because she has that connection to you. She

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Speaker 1: actually went on a date with my man before he

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Speaker 1: was my man. You slide. So we so we went

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Speaker 1: and we uh we were protesting together and Harlem. We

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Speaker 1: BLM movements and that was a beautiful one. Um in Harlem,

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Speaker 1: and he came and picked me up and they they

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Speaker 1: both like kind of was like I think I know

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Speaker 1: that person years ago. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, like a

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Speaker 1: low one and uh literally then um, he was like,

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Speaker 1: what's her name? And I started, I said, that's my friend.

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Speaker 1: She does this. She was on Breakfast Club a whole

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Speaker 1: bunch of times like she did this, So I'm sure

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Speaker 1: you know of her. And then he was like, I'm

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Speaker 1: pretty sure. I met her a red rooster and we

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Speaker 1: went on a date. I mean, I don't love two days,

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Speaker 1: so that actually makes me feel better. Yeah, I do

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Speaker 1: love a good date. I love a good date. I

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Speaker 1: love a good free drink, a good meal. I mean,

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Speaker 1: hold on, because I've taken man out and been like

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Speaker 1: I got it. Wait, how often do you do that.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I ain't nowt here bawling, shot Colin or nothing.

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Speaker 1: But I mean I've been I've been a quick two

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Speaker 1: put twenty or happy. What is that Applebee's? It's like

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Speaker 1: one of them. That's the only time I'm paying. And

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Speaker 1: it a fucking Friday, so I was stuck in an airport.

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Speaker 1: They're so bad, not me because the lounge just closed,

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Speaker 1: not me being a bitch. I wasn't a bit because

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Speaker 1: I was sitting at that Friday's like I don't even

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Speaker 1: And she was like, bitch, do you want a burger

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Speaker 1: and wings? So that's all we gotta eat you some wings.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you can't really fuck up Wayne. Nope, yes

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Speaker 1: do them boneless. Okay, I like them, are you kidding?

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Speaker 1: they're cut into dinosaur shapes. See anybody got time for that? Anyways,

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Speaker 1: I wanted to start off, of course, a little light,

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Speaker 1: Bet you know ready, um so ice spreaker time, We're

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Speaker 1: gonna do a quick flash run of would you rather? Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, um really feel free to jump in if

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Speaker 1: maybe you disagree with her answer, Um, would you rather

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Speaker 1: never use sex toys again? Or never use a microwave again?

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Speaker 1: Get rid of the microwave? Okay? And I think I

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Speaker 1: think that's easy, just because we all got of friars

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Speaker 1: and ship Now. I'm gonna be honest. I haven't had

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Speaker 1: even though it's a new building. Well, they don't come

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Speaker 1: there's a place to put the microwave. No really, yeah,

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Speaker 1: they don't most most apartments, some of them do before

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Speaker 1: your bedroom. Actually a very fair point. Do you have

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Speaker 1: So the next one is would you rather have sex

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Speaker 1: that only ever lasted three minutes or three hours? Do

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Speaker 1: What kind and every talking penetration? That mean dog? The

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Speaker 1: same way I told her when when she when you

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Speaker 1: give head, when you get head, that sex because it's

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Speaker 1: oral sex. I want three hours, bro, But what if

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Speaker 1: I'm a horny and I don't have that kind of time?

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Speaker 1: Because when you gotta a little into your motherfucking cow

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Speaker 1: rich of the microwaves like this, this is it and

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Speaker 1: keep it pushing. Here's the thing. No, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: oh done? See what the quickies? I always want more

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Speaker 1: when I go, like for the three hours, like a

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Speaker 1: up good for the week, Like I'd be good. I mean,

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Speaker 1: my pussy needs need a break too, but i'd be good.

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Speaker 1: I'd be feeling great. But if that's all you can get, no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: this is why I have loop on both sides of

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Speaker 1: my bed. Oh baby, And no drying is happening. If

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Speaker 1: or you're gonna use the loop what it is? You

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Speaker 1: know what I mean? Oh yeah, ain't no friction happening

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Speaker 1: in here, baby, not the bad kind of No. Okay, okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: I'll go to three hours. Um, last one? Would you

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Speaker 1: uh substance? Would you rather have? Would you rather never

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Speaker 1: have another cocktail again? Or never receive oral set? Which

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Speaker 1: I drink alcohol just because I get drunk fast doesn't

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Speaker 1: mean I don't drink. I just drink less than you.

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Speaker 1: I mean the kind of life I live. I guess

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Speaker 1: oral sex is out the door. I hate to say.

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Speaker 1: I'll get a toy that simulates it. There we go,

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Speaker 1: you go get the rose. What's your thoughts on the rose?

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Speaker 1: Have you used the rose? Um? I've used air pulse technology,

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Speaker 1: It's it's the sex thing is the rose. It's the

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Speaker 1: so this don't say who's from because they ain't pay

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Speaker 1: by the way, I have used all of them. Um,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I'll ever need this much love

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Speaker 1: even know it really did all that. And that's all

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Speaker 1: the toys. Toys, Yeah, cleaning instruction. I clean them, Um,

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Speaker 1: two niggas are talking about how they fun lson bitches

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Speaker 1: last night, how they were beating pussy and they already know.

423
00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:40,320
Speaker 1: Immediately look at these dudes like they're doing something wrong

424
00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:44,000
Speaker 1: because they're talking about sex the same way that I am. Again,

425
00:22:44,160 --> 00:22:47,000
Speaker 1: and this is also not pick me talk more than

426
00:22:47,119 --> 00:22:51,280
Speaker 1: this is like Devil's advocate. Because I do have very

427
00:22:51,359 --> 00:22:54,640
Speaker 1: intimate sex with my partner. Anyone in this room, I'm

428
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 1: gonna start crying first. I am that girl. I love

429
00:22:58,119 --> 00:23:00,520
Speaker 1: to be fuck slow kissed me and talked to me whatever.

430
00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 1: But depending on that moment, I don't know. And I

431
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:06,800
Speaker 1: think that when I'm having casual sex, I do like

432
00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:08,360
Speaker 1: to talk about in that way because that's the sex

433
00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:11,159
Speaker 1: I want. Right. So should we be looking at men

434
00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:13,760
Speaker 1: like they're fucked up for talking like this amongst other men?

435
00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:17,200
Speaker 1: Is it because it's making women look bad? Well, here's

436
00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:19,320
Speaker 1: my thing. I think we just need to be more

437
00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:22,080
Speaker 1: aware of our language I'm not saying you need to

438
00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:25,600
Speaker 1: fully stop. I just asked the question. I just presented

439
00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:28,920
Speaker 1: the question, why do we use this language? And we

440
00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:31,040
Speaker 1: have discovered here that we don't have any other words?

441
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:33,679
Speaker 1: Are we we don't have any other words? And then

442
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:35,800
Speaker 1: people wanted to be like, well, white people say it,

443
00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:40,080
Speaker 1: White people girls be like, uh, funck my brains out again.

444
00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 1: That is a woman choosing that language, and that's her consent. Whatever.

445
00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:46,359
Speaker 1: I am not shaming anybody for the language that they

446
00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:48,160
Speaker 1: use in the bedroom. I want to be very clear

447
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:51,479
Speaker 1: about that. I just posed the question to get us

448
00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:53,399
Speaker 1: to think about it because and now I'm going to

449
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:57,879
Speaker 1: give you some statistics. According to the FBI, in t

450
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:02,040
Speaker 1: at least four black women and girls were murdered every

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00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 1: single day. Additionally, for every Black woman who reports rape,

452
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:09,040
Speaker 1: at least fifteen do not one in four Black girls

453
00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:11,920
Speaker 1: will be sexually abused before eighteen. One in five black

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00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 1: women are survivors of way. Thirty percent of Black women

455
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:18,880
Speaker 1: experienced some form of contact sexual violence during a lifetime.

456
00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:22,680
Speaker 1: Forty sixty percent of Black women report being subjected to

457
00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:26,760
Speaker 1: coercive sexual content by the age of eighteen. Seventeen percent

458
00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:30,159
Speaker 1: of black women experienced sexual violence other than rape by

459
00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:32,600
Speaker 1: an intimate partner during their lifetime, and the statistics go

460
00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:36,000
Speaker 1: on and on and on and on. So I only

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00:24:36,720 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 1: presented that question to get us to stop and think

462
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:42,520
Speaker 1: for a moment where does it come from? Because it

463
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:45,280
Speaker 1: is all rooted in patriarchy, and the roots of patriarchy

464
00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:47,639
Speaker 1: is white supremacy. So what we have done is we

465
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 1: have not explored our own internalized racism and how we

466
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:53,359
Speaker 1: have processed that, and now we are just spewing it

467
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 1: back out onto our own communities, onto our the people

468
00:24:57,200 --> 00:25:00,200
Speaker 1: we love. And and there is currently a lot out

469
00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 1: of hate for black women, like I know that there

470
00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:06,399
Speaker 1: is a viral crypt talking about It's a wonderful day

471
00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:08,720
Speaker 1: to be a black woman. No, the funk, it's not.

472
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:13,119
Speaker 1: It's hard as a motherfucker. You got podcasters out here

473
00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:16,000
Speaker 1: talking about I don't ride the night train, blue, black,

474
00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 1: blue back. You know, it was very hard for me

475
00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:20,359
Speaker 1: to watch about that clip. And I don't want to

476
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:23,240
Speaker 1: talk about the news, but if I could think of

477
00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:31,080
Speaker 1: the most African looking face features, full lips, nose, skin tone,

478
00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:34,840
Speaker 1: and that was the most self hating thing I've ever heard,

479
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:37,320
Speaker 1: and all I could think of when I watched it

480
00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:41,040
Speaker 1: was right. Like the things that I hated about myself

481
00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:43,119
Speaker 1: the most were the things that I wanted to change

482
00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:44,920
Speaker 1: or would notice on other people. Right when I was

483
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 1: growing up, hated my hair right. I couldn't understand like

484
00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:50,119
Speaker 1: even people would ask me why you light skin, but

485
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 1: your hair is rough like that. I hated it. When

486
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:54,920
Speaker 1: I was growing up, I was obsessed with hair or

487
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:56,720
Speaker 1: not understanding the length of hair and things like that.

488
00:25:56,800 --> 00:25:58,240
Speaker 1: Took me a long time to love my hair and

489
00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:01,200
Speaker 1: wear protective styles. All like to think is someone's either

490
00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 1: made front of your skin, your nose, your lips. Honestly,

491
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:07,960
Speaker 1: and this has nothing to do niggas are gorgeous to me,

492
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:11,040
Speaker 1: Black women, black men. That nigga's ugly not because of

493
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:14,200
Speaker 1: his nose or lips. It's just him, the language he uses,

494
00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:17,560
Speaker 1: the way that he talks about any he's just so

495
00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:21,960
Speaker 1: small minded. You're watching him like he's not that hot.

496
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 1: I just think there's a lot of he's not even

497
00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:29,399
Speaker 1: conventionally attractive for like anything you would expect from a

498
00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:33,000
Speaker 1: Miami guy that over the top, change the way he dresses.

499
00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:35,000
Speaker 1: If I didn't look at his face, he'd still be ugly.

500
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:36,960
Speaker 1: So to watch him talking about black women this way

501
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:39,680
Speaker 1: was just wild. And so I say that to say,

502
00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:42,560
Speaker 1: like the self loathing thing, like, I do understand how

503
00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 1: that comes out. But in terms of bringing it back

504
00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:50,520
Speaker 1: to that clip, everything that you said about, you know,

505
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 1: black women being over sexualized in black men, I do

506
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:55,880
Speaker 1: agree with, and I think that that's something that we're

507
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:58,920
Speaker 1: all not super conscientious of. But I don't necessarily know

508
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 1: if in the context of talking about sex violently, if

509
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 1: I really think that we do it more than anyone else.

510
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 1: I've seen the most disgusting, painful to watch violent sex

511
00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 1: from on white point sites. Absolutely, you know what I'm saying,

512
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 1: ghetto gaggers ship, especially the way that it does the colonizers.

513
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:21,040
Speaker 1: They are violent, and that's like it's bad. So I

514
00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:24,800
Speaker 1: think sex in general has been super violent. But I

515
00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:27,240
Speaker 1: don't know. I like, I like just the posing of

516
00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 1: the question to just think beyond what you've been taught

517
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:33,800
Speaker 1: and to try, if you can, to just remove it.

518
00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 1: In terms of I'm just saying, like I'm not even

519
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:40,920
Speaker 1: saying again, people kept saying, why is she policing me

520
00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 1: in the bedroom? I don't give a ship what you

521
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:44,440
Speaker 1: choose to say in the bedroom, because I know I'd

522
00:27:44,440 --> 00:27:49,560
Speaker 1: be saying wild things, wild things, you know, all the things.

523
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 1: Choke me, spank me whatever, right, pull my hair right.

524
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 1: But I just think we have to be more conscious

525
00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:57,800
Speaker 1: because there are a lot of and this happens in

526
00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:01,440
Speaker 1: spaces where it goes viral and then young people are

527
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:05,879
Speaker 1: seeing and we're not providing them with any context, and

528
00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 1: we don't know our own history, we don't understand the

529
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:11,200
Speaker 1: VI and according to Florida, they trying to make it

530
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 1: where the kids ain't never gonna learn about. You can't say,

531
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:16,840
Speaker 1: you can't say nothing you're gonna be able to do.

532
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 1: Now they're doing this new thing called like transparency where

533
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:24,400
Speaker 1: they want teachers to turn in their syllabuses for approval

534
00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:27,680
Speaker 1: from parents. It's it's out of control. But what people

535
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:30,399
Speaker 1: have to understand is this is going to continue to

536
00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:33,359
Speaker 1: chip away at the right, the rights and opportunities for

537
00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:37,000
Speaker 1: people of color. I wanted to uh move forward just

538
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:39,520
Speaker 1: so that we can get to talking sex. That was

539
00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:42,320
Speaker 1: a good explanation though. That was a real watched that clipus.

540
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:45,040
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people didn't. I was like, damn,

541
00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:50,200
Speaker 1: they got me tripping sound ship bro man. Anyway, all right,

542
00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:54,240
Speaker 1: so why are we that you was talking with the

543
00:28:54,320 --> 00:29:01,200
Speaker 1: vagina tobit people also the ending an intimate act. You

544
00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:04,000
Speaker 1: act a lot when you're talking, like you have a

545
00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:08,040
Speaker 1: very like performing presence, and that's what made that clip

546
00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 1: so fun. I'm sorry that people said those things about you, though,

547
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 1: I'm sure that it happens interne um. All right, So

548
00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:17,640
Speaker 1: we're gonna get into our hord derve for this week,

549
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:20,840
Speaker 1: and we are giving you the hord Derve. So the

550
00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:23,720
Speaker 1: horde Derve is our sex tip of the week. And

551
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 1: I did want to. I did want you to. Really,

552
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 1: I'm glad you got the puppet out. So you have

553
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 1: a very funny meme on your page that says the

554
00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 1: clitterest is not a d J booth. Sorry it's not.

555
00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 1: So can you give some tips on interacting with the clip? Okay,

556
00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 1: so a couple of things. Um, First and foremost, the

557
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 1: most important way to interact with the clip is to

558
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:52,920
Speaker 1: talk to it. Wait arth Well, first of all, when

559
00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:54,840
Speaker 1: I say that, talk to the owner of the clip

560
00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:59,320
Speaker 1: out like what are you like? Question? What are you like?

561
00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:04,160
Speaker 1: What are you doing? What do you like? I like

562
00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 1: to be rebbed solved. I think my point is communication.

563
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:11,080
Speaker 1: I like, oh, look, two hands that seems this is

564
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:14,440
Speaker 1: a large but it is a big pussy. But you

565
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 1: want to like just you know, remember oh, actually, yeah,

566
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:22,040
Speaker 1: that's the because you're gonna sound because this is the

567
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:25,200
Speaker 1: So this is what the clip actually looks like. Right,

568
00:30:25,320 --> 00:30:28,720
Speaker 1: this is your and all of the all we see

569
00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 1: is this little to any tiny piece right here. It's

570
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 1: like the tip of the ice sperg. Okay, there's all

571
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:36,640
Speaker 1: this good stuff underneath, so we only see the tip

572
00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 1: and then this kind of sits in and under like

573
00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:43,400
Speaker 1: the laby. Okay, So I think the first thing you

574
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:45,000
Speaker 1: should do is you want to get the blood flow

575
00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:47,880
Speaker 1: to this region. So start with a massage on the

576
00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 1: inner thighs. Massage that kind of pubist mount, right. You

577
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:55,680
Speaker 1: don't want a massage that because that'll start that blood flow.

578
00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:59,080
Speaker 1: Then once the blood flow happens, the clip willing gorge

579
00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 1: and natural the hood will kind of retract a little

580
00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 1: um and so then all right now here, and then

581
00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:08,840
Speaker 1: I would say, like, you know, people want to just

582
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 1: be like man like you want I know, right, you

583
00:31:15,240 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 1: are really just caress and massage. By the way, By

584
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:20,280
Speaker 1: the way, guys, if y'all are just listening to the instruction,

585
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 1: if you go on over to YouTube type and Horrible

586
00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 1: Decisions podcast. You can see an actual she has a

587
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:29,520
Speaker 1: whole vagina in her hand and letting you know how

588
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:33,080
Speaker 1: to engorge the clip. I of course see this is

589
00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:35,120
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. The laby on aside, and don't forget

590
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: about that paraneum honey, that space between the google um yeah,

591
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:41,360
Speaker 1: the gaunch, the gooch, the whatever. It's the pus, the

592
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 1: hole and the anus. Yeah, so it's as but you

593
00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:48,360
Speaker 1: really and remember please remember this is what I meant

594
00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:51,560
Speaker 1: by d J booth. You know, turntables usually is pretty

595
00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:54,479
Speaker 1: much manufactured. It's all they saying. They're all pretty much

596
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:56,480
Speaker 1: the same. I DJ alone, but I don't want someone

597
00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 1: to DJ. This is what I'm saying. You should ask

598
00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:03,160
Speaker 1: me what I like? Know what you just you don't

599
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:04,600
Speaker 1: stumble in you guys who want you to know that.

600
00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 1: But I want you to take your time. I want

601
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:09,280
Speaker 1: you to talk to the person that owns the clitteress

602
00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:12,080
Speaker 1: and ask them what they like, because what Mandy Light

603
00:32:12,520 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 1: is it might not be what I like. And I'm

604
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:17,800
Speaker 1: not gonna lie. The one thing that I've really um,

605
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:20,280
Speaker 1: I'm not a fan of and maybe because this is

606
00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:22,520
Speaker 1: how I play with myself. I don't like a lot

607
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:25,480
Speaker 1: of pressure applied. And I've been with men who really

608
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 1: like try to like put push my clip back in

609
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 1: right and it don't. It's really hard. I get that.

610
00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:33,640
Speaker 1: I don't know, but I don't like a lot of pressure.

611
00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 1: Feel so much better to just be soft just more

612
00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 1: so much like a little more pressure. We have a

613
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 1: lot of nerves. There is eight thousand and the clitterest.

614
00:32:43,080 --> 00:32:45,880
Speaker 1: So you just want to make sure you're like you

615
00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:49,240
Speaker 1: just kind of you don't talk to the owner, asked

616
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 1: them what they like. Maybe even let's get real sexy.

617
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:56,000
Speaker 1: How about you show me how you with DJ yourself. Okay,

618
00:32:56,120 --> 00:33:00,160
Speaker 1: so this is my favorite thing, my entire vagina. Uh,

619
00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:02,320
Speaker 1: I'd like it to be touched. And I feel like

620
00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:04,680
Speaker 1: men just like want to open my pussy and they

621
00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:06,840
Speaker 1: just want to start like licking it or putting their

622
00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 1: fingers in it. Like dude, stop, take your fucking whole

623
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 1: face or mouth or your hands and like get the blood.

624
00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:16,840
Speaker 1: Especially if you got a beard, Oh my god, a

625
00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:21,240
Speaker 1: little put you and you've got a big nose, put

626
00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:23,040
Speaker 1: your nose in their motherfucker. You know what I'm saying.

627
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:25,320
Speaker 1: I wasn't getting fun of that last dude's nose. I

628
00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:27,120
Speaker 1: was just saying, I think he hates his own nose.

629
00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:28,920
Speaker 1: But what I would have done was put it right

630
00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 1: about that and ridden that not something to do with it,

631
00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:33,720
Speaker 1: and I smell good, Get all of it in there

632
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:37,040
Speaker 1: and question. I have a question real quickly. Yeah, so

633
00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:39,200
Speaker 1: I've been with women before, whore I've been really shy

634
00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:42,760
Speaker 1: about telling me what they'd like. Oh yeah, what is

635
00:33:43,000 --> 00:33:45,960
Speaker 1: a good way to have them open up comfortably and

636
00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:48,719
Speaker 1: with consent? Uh so, then you could help him out

637
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 1: in the bedroom? Multiple choice? There is that you know

638
00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 1: that I really I will I want I won't list,

639
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:55,719
Speaker 1: which we talked about the last time I was here,

640
00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:59,000
Speaker 1: as well as setting up a sex date. Um, so

641
00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:02,280
Speaker 1: that's where you go on a date. You can review

642
00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:04,840
Speaker 1: the will I will, I want I won't list. That's

643
00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:08,840
Speaker 1: kind of intense. I will I'll email it to you.

644
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:11,879
Speaker 1: It's kind of intense because it has all the different sex.

645
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:14,120
Speaker 1: Where are you going to you go to get to

646
00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:16,960
Speaker 1: your house, get a pizza and you know, a Bible,

647
00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:19,880
Speaker 1: wine and just But the whole goal is to not

648
00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:24,360
Speaker 1: actually have sex that night, because what happens is, remember

649
00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 1: your brain is the most important part. It gets you excited. Um,

650
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:30,880
Speaker 1: you know, you could do some texting and be like, hey,

651
00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:33,800
Speaker 1: could we talk about what you like? There are some

652
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 1: games where um, you would start a fantasy with one

653
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 1: sentence and and then you fold that over, and then

654
00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:41,920
Speaker 1: you give it to your partner and they write one

655
00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:46,080
Speaker 1: sentence and then they fall that over and then another

656
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:48,960
Speaker 1: sentence and then you read all these acts. Like you know,

657
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:51,160
Speaker 1: the prompt would be like you're on a beach, now

658
00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:53,800
Speaker 1: what's gonna happen? And then wheezy, you would write something

659
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:55,960
Speaker 1: down and then you would fold it and then Mandy,

660
00:34:56,120 --> 00:35:01,640
Speaker 1: you know I love doing much. That's terrible, that sounds awful,

661
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:06,240
Speaker 1: but yeah, it's really about creating opportunities to have conversations.

662
00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:10,360
Speaker 1: You could also say, um, you know, babe, I I

663
00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 1: caught a glimpse of this porno the other day and

664
00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:16,879
Speaker 1: I found myself really turned on. What do you born?

665
00:35:17,239 --> 00:35:20,080
Speaker 1: I blame porn all the time, like, and just be like, oh,

666
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 1: do you want to try this? These are ways to

667
00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:25,640
Speaker 1: start opening up lines of communication, because that's what we're

668
00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:27,480
Speaker 1: not doing because we're too busy out here talking about

669
00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 1: I want to beat up the plus mine. You guys

670
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:32,680
Speaker 1: only got three SIPs three words, it's like I want

671
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:35,759
Speaker 1: you to I was facing out so because I was

672
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:38,279
Speaker 1: really trying to think of like another word that I

673
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 1: was used instead of like he sucked me hard and

674
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:43,279
Speaker 1: I'm like, wow, like we made love. No, it was

675
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 1: really intimat I want someone to valprehend my ass' what word?

676
00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:58,960
Speaker 1: But I'm just saying, like, how can we get more creative? No,

677
00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:00,759
Speaker 1: I'm not. I don't get it. Well, they know I

678
00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 1: don't know what they just limited over here? Well no,

679
00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:07,799
Speaker 1: but that would be my advice, just trying to make

680
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:09,879
Speaker 1: up make a time when you guys just talk about

681
00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 1: sex or your fantasies but don't actually have it, because

682
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:13,920
Speaker 1: then you get kind of hot inside and you're like

683
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 1: if I can't even get it on, I love Uh

684
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 1: that we kind of led right into the horrible decisions.

685
00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:28,400
Speaker 1: So I hope that you guys have been taking notes. Um.

686
00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 1: I know we've talked about partners, but I literally wanted

687
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 1: to talk about talking sex specifically with you, because, um,

688
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:39,600
Speaker 1: we do it around strangers, we do it with friends, sometimes,

689
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:41,920
Speaker 1: we do it with family, um, and of course we

690
00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 1: do it with partners. And I wanted to kind of

691
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:46,839
Speaker 1: all of us share and discuss some of the most

692
00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:50,680
Speaker 1: uncomfortable sex conversations we've had with our friends, family and lovers,

693
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:54,040
Speaker 1: and kind of what even ed and hinted too was

694
00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:58,239
Speaker 1: getting over the uncomfortable phase of just talking sex with

695
00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:02,239
Speaker 1: those certain groups of people. Um So, I guess that's

696
00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 1: where we start with, like, do you guys, off the

697
00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:07,800
Speaker 1: top of your head, have a scenario or story about

698
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 1: just talking about sex with either a family member, a lover,

699
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:15,319
Speaker 1: or a friend. Um So, you know, my sex talk

700
00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:18,080
Speaker 1: growing up was my mom's a lesbian, get yours first

701
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 1: and get out many ship. So I mean that's work

702
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:26,719
Speaker 1: but very valid. And then I think when it comes

703
00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:29,800
Speaker 1: to like friends, the most awkward is when it's like

704
00:37:30,440 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: I'll get a text message and it's like, gir, I

705
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:34,160
Speaker 1: have this lump? Can you tell me what it is?

706
00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:38,280
Speaker 1: It's like, no, Beach, I can't. I'm not a clinic.

707
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:41,359
Speaker 1: I used to do that to uh Dr Kim at

708
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 1: least doctor No. But she called me and she was

709
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:47,920
Speaker 1: I think we had episode seventeen. She was on It's

710
00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:51,120
Speaker 1: crazy Remember Numbers. But she calls me and she's like, Gila,

711
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 1: I love you, Han, but like, you can't call me

712
00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:56,680
Speaker 1: with your Regina staff all the time. He's like, just

713
00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:58,799
Speaker 1: go to the doctor. And then when I found out

714
00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 1: it's a raise your bop and I spend three dollars. Bitch,

715
00:38:01,160 --> 00:38:03,719
Speaker 1: I this is why we need our friends. Yeah, and

716
00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 1: I think that's okay, But your friends don't have medical degrees.

717
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 1: That's why let's do web MD together. Just look at

718
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 1: this place. We actually at that point, you're pregnant, have AIDS,

719
00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:17,440
Speaker 1: or you're about to die. Those are all of the

720
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 1: way Those are all of the ways that web MD

721
00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:23,440
Speaker 1: normally ends. Um it's weird because I I'm everyone's go

722
00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 1: to with sex for my friends, um, and I hate it.

723
00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:32,360
Speaker 1: Like literally, I just walked my friend through having the

724
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 1: conversation with with like the guy she's dating now, um

725
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:40,239
Speaker 1: because I talked about it with welly. But the guy

726
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:44,000
Speaker 1: that she's with knocked her period on. But that was

727
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 1: his first time seeing period blood. So even he he

728
00:38:47,200 --> 00:38:53,719
Speaker 1: made the unawkwardness like, uh, what is it called announcement?

729
00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:55,480
Speaker 1: I guess I'm just gonna say announcement. But when he

730
00:38:55,560 --> 00:38:58,960
Speaker 1: got into the shower, he was like, yeah, like your membranes.

731
00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:01,439
Speaker 1: I saw your membranes. It was going down the drain,

732
00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:03,879
Speaker 1: but I they were blood clot Yeah, I mean, that's

733
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:08,560
Speaker 1: definitely the lining and that was that was his first time.

734
00:39:08,840 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 1: So she was like a membrane called membranes bro And

735
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:14,760
Speaker 1: I was like, might have had a sex sad class

736
00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:19,480
Speaker 1: sometime and and so literally he's a uterine lining. Well

737
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:23,359
Speaker 1: he's been like he's really into fingers in the butt,

738
00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:26,239
Speaker 1: but she's scared that when the finger comes out, there's

739
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:28,279
Speaker 1: gonna be shipped there. There probably will be. And so

740
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:30,640
Speaker 1: literally that's the conversation I had top where I was like,

741
00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 1: well you hadn't already seen membranes and blood clots and

742
00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:35,680
Speaker 1: literally did that bad? If you're gonna do booty sex,

743
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:38,239
Speaker 1: you gotta know there's gonna be pooped there even had

744
00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:42,399
Speaker 1: I said, there's some particles. So she said, so that's

745
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:44,920
Speaker 1: the conversation. And my advice to her was, will have

746
00:39:45,080 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 1: this conversation with him. Well before sex, they all are

747
00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:53,600
Speaker 1: just sucking, chilling or maybe not out all at lunch

748
00:39:53,640 --> 00:39:56,719
Speaker 1: but maybe grabbing drinks. I said, bring up, hey, what

749
00:39:56,840 --> 00:40:00,440
Speaker 1: would your how would you react if U ship just

750
00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 1: happened to be on your hand or situation? Right like,

751
00:40:04,760 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 1: how would you you know, think about that? And so

752
00:40:07,760 --> 00:40:10,239
Speaker 1: literally she's like, girl, we fell into the conversation, not

753
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 1: having sex, and she was like she laughed because she

754
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:14,520
Speaker 1: was like, it was so much easier than I thought

755
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:16,919
Speaker 1: it would be. Yeah, but we just openly talked about

756
00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:18,520
Speaker 1: the blood situation and then we brought it to a

757
00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:21,800
Speaker 1: shitty situation and she was like, I was so shocked

758
00:40:21,800 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 1: at how open he was to just talking about ship

759
00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:26,760
Speaker 1: and blood. Well that's a good keeper. That's a keeper.

760
00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:29,320
Speaker 1: A couple of things I think I do want to

761
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:32,319
Speaker 1: say is, first of all, practice in the mirror by

762
00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:36,399
Speaker 1: yourself if you're worried practicing what talking a conversation? Yeah,

763
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:38,440
Speaker 1: like talking if you don't have a friend that you

764
00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:41,680
Speaker 1: can trust, like you, Mandy or you. I sort of

765
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 1: I thought you were saying practice, but she's saying talk

766
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:46,839
Speaker 1: to yourself in a mirror, Like, because I thought you're

767
00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:50,480
Speaker 1: gonna say, see what comes out. Okay, that's not where

768
00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:53,160
Speaker 1: it was. So I think that's you know, practice with

769
00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:56,439
Speaker 1: your home girls, you know, and do some role play,

770
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 1: not sexual roleplay, but having the conversation, because a lot

771
00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:02,040
Speaker 1: of times it is easier than we think it's gonna be.

772
00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:05,080
Speaker 1: A lot just we have this mental block. So if

773
00:41:05,120 --> 00:41:08,480
Speaker 1: you totally but if you practice with a friend who

774
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:11,000
Speaker 1: gives you all the reactions like oh you nasty, how

775
00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 1: or whatever, then when you go and have it, it's

776
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:21,480
Speaker 1: not that bad. Also, I do want to say this,

777
00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 1: and I think this is important for us in this space.

778
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:28,959
Speaker 1: You have to set boundaries, right um, when it comes

779
00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:31,439
Speaker 1: to your friends always asking you for advice, or even

780
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:33,359
Speaker 1: for me when I go on podcast, when people want

781
00:41:33,400 --> 00:41:36,040
Speaker 1: to ask me about my personal sex life, I try

782
00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 1: very hard not to share, not because I'm approved, not

783
00:41:39,680 --> 00:41:42,799
Speaker 1: because I'm not having sex, but more because I need

784
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:47,200
Speaker 1: a little bit of my own person Like I don't

785
00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 1: need you to know what I like and what I

786
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:53,280
Speaker 1: don't like. Because I like sex. I think sex is great.

787
00:41:53,360 --> 00:41:56,400
Speaker 1: I love masturbation, I love being kinky. But how is

788
00:41:56,480 --> 00:42:00,800
Speaker 1: me telling you my detailed sex life gonna help it?

789
00:42:01,200 --> 00:42:02,840
Speaker 1: I really mean, we've helped a lot of people I

790
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 1: know you have. I don't want to discredit. First of all,

791
00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:08,560
Speaker 1: I'm not discrediting because I think this is your podcast

792
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:11,760
Speaker 1: and it's so beautiful that you're willing to and able

793
00:42:11,840 --> 00:42:14,440
Speaker 1: to be so open. I've been doing this for so

794
00:42:14,640 --> 00:42:17,719
Speaker 1: long and do it in so many different spaces that

795
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:21,080
Speaker 1: I really just try to hold back a little because

796
00:42:21,680 --> 00:42:24,839
Speaker 1: sex is my whole life, like I want, I want

797
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:29,440
Speaker 1: something that is not for myself, like just for me

798
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:32,359
Speaker 1: and my lovers. Can I ask you, do you think

799
00:42:32,960 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 1: that bringing comedy into sex in the bedroom helps? Because

800
00:42:37,520 --> 00:42:39,480
Speaker 1: I think that the way we talk about sex it

801
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 1: would be funny, this should be funny. Will not be

802
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:45,200
Speaker 1: telling back stories. I just I always laugh at it.

803
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:48,440
Speaker 1: So do you believe that that's a healthy approach as well?

804
00:42:49,200 --> 00:42:52,160
Speaker 1: We have to understand that for a lot of us,

805
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:57,480
Speaker 1: we've experienced trauma around all of these things. And you know,

806
00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:00,320
Speaker 1: while I think it's great that we give people advice

807
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:02,560
Speaker 1: and we're in this space and people trust us and

808
00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 1: tell us their stories and we are able to tell

809
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:09,400
Speaker 1: our stories, sometimes telling these stories can bring up trauma

810
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:13,120
Speaker 1: for ourselves. And then who do we run to? If

811
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:15,879
Speaker 1: if if the three of us, everybody else is looking

812
00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:18,880
Speaker 1: at to like be great and have all the answers

813
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:22,520
Speaker 1: when we are breaking down, who can we go to?

814
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:26,680
Speaker 1: And I think that that's important to like recognize, And

815
00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:30,200
Speaker 1: so I always encourage people like, you know, you can

816
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 1: talk about these things if you want to. Um, I

817
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:35,200
Speaker 1: try to be polite when I'm like, I don't need

818
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:38,399
Speaker 1: to tell you, like what vibrator I pulled out this morning, right, um.

819
00:43:38,600 --> 00:43:42,040
Speaker 1: But I try to just keep it some type of

820
00:43:42,160 --> 00:43:44,880
Speaker 1: humor in it. I try to let people walk away

821
00:43:45,080 --> 00:43:49,800
Speaker 1: feeling good, um, and feeling affirmed and knowing that they're normal.

822
00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 1: They're they're like sex is so different for everybody, and

823
00:43:53,360 --> 00:43:56,040
Speaker 1: there is no there is no weird. There is no

824
00:43:56,200 --> 00:44:00,120
Speaker 1: abnormal unless it's non consensual or and that's about it. Like,

825
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:02,520
Speaker 1: as long as what you're doing is consensual, I'm always

826
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 1: here to give advice. Now I do privately judge, and

827
00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 1: then sometimes I'll judge in your face, like the Tickle episode.

828
00:44:08,680 --> 00:44:10,759
Speaker 1: I don't think that Nigga is crazy weird, but I

829
00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:13,560
Speaker 1: was like, that's weird for me. And I'll tell you why.

830
00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:15,960
Speaker 1: There are certain types of sex out here, and I

831
00:44:16,040 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 1: mean weird. And I say weird with pleasure because I

832
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 1: love talking about some weird ship, whether it be the photographer,

833
00:44:21,719 --> 00:44:23,440
Speaker 1: which you all always laugh at me saying because he

834
00:44:23,680 --> 00:44:27,200
Speaker 1: is so normal, um, the A B D L, the

835
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:29,600
Speaker 1: diaper fetish like ship like that. Like when I hear

836
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:34,040
Speaker 1: about outlandish sex, I start to feel like, you know what, Damn,

837
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:36,680
Speaker 1: I'm vanilla. Should I even have this podcast? Because Nigga,

838
00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:38,440
Speaker 1: I've never fucking whipped out of diaper. But at the

839
00:44:38,480 --> 00:44:40,720
Speaker 1: same time, do I need to to have this degree?

840
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:44,080
Speaker 1: Like I love talking about those types of kinks that

841
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:46,960
Speaker 1: are all the way out there because that's really when

842
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:49,279
Speaker 1: you get to the nitty gritty of like, Okay, this

843
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:52,719
Speaker 1: is like real sex talk. We're not just crafting the

844
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:54,800
Speaker 1: surface of am I gonna have a threesome? Is he

845
00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:57,719
Speaker 1: gonna tie me up? Like? I love those conversations of

846
00:44:57,840 --> 00:45:00,840
Speaker 1: like that super alternative sex life because even this podcast

847
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:03,760
Speaker 1: has made me feel like sex club and swinging because

848
00:45:03,760 --> 00:45:06,480
Speaker 1: of your experiences, Like it's not that crazy I started,

849
00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:09,000
Speaker 1: and it never has been. It's also not as sexy

850
00:45:09,040 --> 00:45:12,600
Speaker 1: as you might think. I gotta take it. I gotta

851
00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:14,359
Speaker 1: take it and stuff w thing. I brought my friend

852
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:17,839
Speaker 1: who is well, she's super vanilla. I took her there

853
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 1: one night itself. You mean, well, no, we'll talk about um.

854
00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:26,200
Speaker 1: But I took her there and she enjoyed it because

855
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:27,520
Speaker 1: she actually thought it was going to be a lot

856
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:31,839
Speaker 1: more uh animalistic, And she when I brought her there,

857
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:34,239
Speaker 1: she just looked and she was like all the men

858
00:45:34,560 --> 00:45:36,920
Speaker 1: everything was so intimate way that the men were. You

859
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 1: always talk about how great it is you said, it

860
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:40,319
Speaker 1: cannot be so sexy. That's what I want to hear.

861
00:45:40,480 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 1: Why would you say something cannot be that Atlanta wasn't sexy.

862
00:45:43,239 --> 00:45:46,839
Speaker 1: I've definitely talked tell me what you mean about sex

863
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 1: club cannot be that sexy. I said, what I'm saying

864
00:45:49,200 --> 00:45:52,799
Speaker 1: is they're not always as sexy as we imagine. Tell

865
00:45:52,800 --> 00:46:01,160
Speaker 1: me what you mean, middle age, it's not. And I

866
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 1: was sure they had Confederate flags and they trus We

867
00:46:04,080 --> 00:46:09,160
Speaker 1: we romanticize this idea about how sexy it's gonna be

868
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:11,480
Speaker 1: and everybody's gonna be as good looking as me or

869
00:46:11,600 --> 00:46:14,560
Speaker 1: better looking than me, and oftentimes it is not. It

870
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:18,120
Speaker 1: is a lot of bodily fluids, you know, Um, it's

871
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:21,160
Speaker 1: it's it can awkward moments. Think about sex in general,

872
00:46:21,280 --> 00:46:24,760
Speaker 1: there's some awkward moments. So imagine doing it for funny people.

873
00:46:25,160 --> 00:46:27,759
Speaker 1: I have both experiences, right, like when it comes to

874
00:46:27,880 --> 00:46:29,840
Speaker 1: in a seb w um, you know, I got to

875
00:46:29,920 --> 00:46:32,520
Speaker 1: experience it and people got to watch it on sex cells,

876
00:46:32,560 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 1: like we got to take the camera through and see

877
00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 1: that people were hot there. But then I've also been

878
00:46:35,920 --> 00:46:38,719
Speaker 1: to sex clubs where I was like not impressed. Yeah,

879
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:43,480
Speaker 1: like I mainly because of how I thought that people looked.

880
00:46:43,760 --> 00:46:46,200
Speaker 1: And I don't feel bad for saying this because I

881
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:49,480
Speaker 1: don't care. I don't care. You are a person that

882
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:51,840
Speaker 1: thinks that you're not hot. You don't even want to

883
00:46:51,880 --> 00:46:53,600
Speaker 1: go on a sex club where you think it's gonna

884
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:55,640
Speaker 1: be some ugly motherfucker's that. I mean, it's weird because,

885
00:46:55,800 --> 00:46:59,560
Speaker 1: to be honest, like I've been in like those types

886
00:46:59,600 --> 00:47:03,280
Speaker 1: of room and spaces um, and to me, I realized

887
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:08,759
Speaker 1: how much, especially with women I the type that I

888
00:47:08,840 --> 00:47:11,719
Speaker 1: think I have when I'm in that space and I

889
00:47:11,800 --> 00:47:14,839
Speaker 1: get a vibe, I realized how much energy is more

890
00:47:14,920 --> 00:47:19,400
Speaker 1: important in those spaces. Um. Safety and just feeling free

891
00:47:19,480 --> 00:47:22,960
Speaker 1: with someone goes far beyond looks. So if you're in

892
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:25,480
Speaker 1: the right space, like I've been with women that I

893
00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:28,560
Speaker 1: probably wouldn't look at maybe walking down the street, but

894
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:31,200
Speaker 1: maybe because we just sat there and talked or petted

895
00:47:31,280 --> 00:47:34,480
Speaker 1: each other, it went further than I think it normally

896
00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:38,680
Speaker 1: would have went, Like walking in I've definitely I've had

897
00:47:38,760 --> 00:47:40,719
Speaker 1: your vibe before. Oh I want to, I want to.

898
00:47:41,560 --> 00:47:43,000
Speaker 1: I mean I've been to some other spaces that I

899
00:47:43,120 --> 00:47:46,360
Speaker 1: was like, oh wow, that's very hot. Oh it's I

900
00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:47,759
Speaker 1: gotta bring you to the spot for the for the

901
00:47:47,840 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 1: most part, I'm not that sex clubs to the one,

902
00:47:51,800 --> 00:47:56,000
Speaker 1: the one downstairs. Oh we'll talk, yes, the one downstairs. Wait,

903
00:47:56,080 --> 00:47:57,920
Speaker 1: it's not you have sex and sex stuff. Tell us

904
00:47:57,920 --> 00:48:00,840
Speaker 1: your sex club experience. I will not. All right, she

905
00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:06,120
Speaker 1: just said, I don't think you know what I'm saying

906
00:48:06,160 --> 00:48:09,560
Speaker 1: is I'm saying, share it. You will not one. I

907
00:48:09,640 --> 00:48:13,160
Speaker 1: don't know what I do there too, because you know,

908
00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:16,160
Speaker 1: I may go to be a vayer, I may go

909
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:21,080
Speaker 1: to participate. Um, but but that is a great example of,

910
00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:24,160
Speaker 1: like I think, wanting to be able to have that

911
00:48:24,920 --> 00:48:29,640
Speaker 1: experience and that moment to always relation whatever it was

912
00:48:29,760 --> 00:48:33,520
Speaker 1: I did, whether it was impact play, whether it was flogging,

913
00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:36,560
Speaker 1: whether it was being an a dominant position or a

914
00:48:36,600 --> 00:48:40,640
Speaker 1: submissive position. I think that you know, for me, that's

915
00:48:41,480 --> 00:48:44,319
Speaker 1: you know, those are memories I'll hold for myself when

916
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:48,759
Speaker 1: you talk about impact play, like, it's interesting because um,

917
00:48:49,200 --> 00:48:51,279
Speaker 1: Mandy talked about experience where she got tied up in

918
00:48:51,400 --> 00:48:53,759
Speaker 1: Orlando and it was super hot. Like that to me

919
00:48:54,000 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 1: is still engaging in a sex club. But people will

920
00:48:56,080 --> 00:48:58,440
Speaker 1: always say, like, do you fucking sex clubs? Things like that?

921
00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:01,920
Speaker 1: Like I like, I think that we forget about the

922
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:04,359
Speaker 1: other things you could. If you go to a sex club,

923
00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:07,760
Speaker 1: you are engaging in a sex club as a bowyer,

924
00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:10,080
Speaker 1: even if you don't touch anybody. And I'm not gonna

925
00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:11,520
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. There's a lot of times, and

926
00:49:11,560 --> 00:49:14,160
Speaker 1: me and my partner talked about it. He can count

927
00:49:15,120 --> 00:49:17,160
Speaker 1: all less than a hand how many times he's actually

928
00:49:17,200 --> 00:49:19,399
Speaker 1: even had sex or dealt with other people. Like when

929
00:49:19,440 --> 00:49:21,439
Speaker 1: we go ay, we like watching. When I bring my friends,

930
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 1: they like to watch. They don't too much like to

931
00:49:22,960 --> 00:49:26,320
Speaker 1: engage unless they're with their partner. But there's massages, like

932
00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:28,759
Speaker 1: I said, there's petting. When we was on Molly, which

933
00:49:28,840 --> 00:49:32,600
Speaker 1: we was all just petting each other. It was just arms, shoulders, legs.

934
00:49:32,719 --> 00:49:35,000
Speaker 1: No one had intercourse, no one even masturbated. It was

935
00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:38,719
Speaker 1: all just petting and laying and cuddling. Um, Like I said,

936
00:49:38,760 --> 00:49:41,640
Speaker 1: there's massaging there. And there are also a lot of

937
00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:43,840
Speaker 1: the sex toys, so you have the flogging, the whipping,

938
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:50,880
Speaker 1: the spanking. I mean no, I've definitely had a you know,

939
00:49:50,920 --> 00:49:54,920
Speaker 1: a good experience at end STUW. But overall, like I

940
00:49:54,960 --> 00:49:57,440
Speaker 1: don't know, maybe because I'm also picky too, I have

941
00:49:57,600 --> 00:49:59,560
Speaker 1: like when I go through drafts of sex it's because

942
00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:01,759
Speaker 1: I'm not key about dick, so I'm not shocked that

943
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:03,720
Speaker 1: I'll go to a place with thirty people and be like, Okay,

944
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:05,360
Speaker 1: now if I could walk up to a bar and

945
00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:08,239
Speaker 1: I'll find a nigga. The thing about the sex leave, though,

946
00:50:08,320 --> 00:50:10,040
Speaker 1: and I would encourage anyone to try it out to

947
00:50:10,080 --> 00:50:12,160
Speaker 1: go is just I think it's definitely a bucket listening

948
00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 1: to do. I would it's like one bucket less thing

949
00:50:15,760 --> 00:50:17,840
Speaker 1: to do. And also like the pressure of having sex

950
00:50:18,040 --> 00:50:20,319
Speaker 1: and people like thinking that you're not fucking doesn't really

951
00:50:20,400 --> 00:50:22,400
Speaker 1: exist like you think it does. Right, Um, do we

952
00:50:22,480 --> 00:50:26,840
Speaker 1: have a whole meal? Yes, we do. Help us Dr Michelle.

953
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:29,719
Speaker 1: So this one, of course is asking for tips. And

954
00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:31,839
Speaker 1: since we talked about the clips, since we talked about

955
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:36,800
Speaker 1: talking sex, this uh involves masturbation. So good afternoon, Wheezy

956
00:50:36,880 --> 00:50:38,799
Speaker 1: and Mandy. I hope this email finds you out. I'm

957
00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:41,440
Speaker 1: a twenty year old woman. I feel like Wheezy is

958
00:50:41,480 --> 00:50:43,839
Speaker 1: the older version of me besides the white boy face

959
00:50:43,920 --> 00:50:47,080
Speaker 1: and touching other cred Maybe one day, though, I recommend

960
00:50:47,120 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 1: that y'all get your genitals, especially if you have great

961
00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:54,319
Speaker 1: orgasms already, And I do want your opinion on genitals. Um,

962
00:50:54,719 --> 00:50:57,239
Speaker 1: it doesn't hurt, I promise, or maybe I'm unfazed by

963
00:50:57,280 --> 00:50:59,200
Speaker 1: pain now, But none of that has anything to do

964
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:02,200
Speaker 1: with my question. I can sunk myself pretty well, if

965
00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:04,360
Speaker 1: I must say so myself. But I am in search

966
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:08,240
Speaker 1: of new masturbating tips. I hear Wheezy got the activity

967
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:10,759
Speaker 1: down to a science. So any tips and tricks that

968
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:15,759
Speaker 1: are not commonly known best b EPs. And I gotta

969
00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:18,080
Speaker 1: read this ps because it's crazy. I don't want to

970
00:51:18,120 --> 00:51:20,120
Speaker 1: make y'all feel old, but y'all are close to my

971
00:51:20,200 --> 00:51:22,879
Speaker 1: mother's age, and so sometimes listening to y'all is weird.

972
00:51:23,200 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 1: Granted she had me at fourteen, but informative and all

973
00:51:27,239 --> 00:51:29,800
Speaker 1: around great show. Just say your mama, hope, but it's okay.

974
00:51:30,360 --> 00:51:35,600
Speaker 1: Well I'm gonna say nobody your mama. I'm gonna keep

975
00:51:35,600 --> 00:51:37,879
Speaker 1: it and shout up to your mama. Girl you Oh,

976
00:51:38,400 --> 00:51:40,120
Speaker 1: it's not a bad thing if we say her mama, Ho,

977
00:51:40,560 --> 00:51:44,680
Speaker 1: my mama ho wa wa yama. But I don't know

978
00:51:44,840 --> 00:51:47,560
Speaker 1: that grandmama. What the fun? Why are you going? Everybody?

979
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:53,239
Speaker 1: Mama sho mama? Why? Girl? Weird? This okay? So let

980
00:51:53,280 --> 00:51:55,839
Speaker 1: me because you know I'm away. We got to keep

981
00:51:55,840 --> 00:52:00,560
Speaker 1: it but okay, so here's my thing. MAYA vice would

982
00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:03,960
Speaker 1: be to start making masturbation a regular practice of self care.

983
00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:07,120
Speaker 1: That's not a trick or a stick a dildo on

984
00:52:07,160 --> 00:52:11,040
Speaker 1: the wall, But I think it's honoring yourself. Nice tip

985
00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:15,680
Speaker 1: and honoring yourself and honoring that intimate time with yourself.

986
00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:19,080
Speaker 1: That would be my That would be and light candles,

987
00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:21,600
Speaker 1: make sure your space is clean, put on some music,

988
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:24,920
Speaker 1: and do a little meditation before and really start visualizing

989
00:52:24,960 --> 00:52:27,160
Speaker 1: what kind of orgasms you want. And then also like

990
00:52:27,680 --> 00:52:30,320
Speaker 1: what orgasms have a lot of energy, so use that

991
00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:33,800
Speaker 1: energy to manifest thoughts that bring you a prosperity, prove

992
00:52:34,200 --> 00:52:36,879
Speaker 1: prosperity or love or whatever you want. That's that would

993
00:52:36,880 --> 00:52:40,000
Speaker 1: be my tip. I like that manifesting. Yeah, you know,

994
00:52:40,200 --> 00:52:42,640
Speaker 1: we talked about a we interviewed. I forgot her name.

995
00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:45,560
Speaker 1: Kristen's so lier maybe like she has a book which

996
00:52:45,680 --> 00:52:49,320
Speaker 1: is slts in something or something. Anyway, I read the

997
00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:50,919
Speaker 1: book like che We brought her on and she talked

998
00:52:50,920 --> 00:52:54,000
Speaker 1: about sex magic and I do that ship all the day.

999
00:52:54,520 --> 00:52:56,200
Speaker 1: I'm all for it. And I think that like when

1000
00:52:56,239 --> 00:52:59,800
Speaker 1: we almost take like trying to figure out the orgasm

1001
00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:02,120
Speaker 1: out of masturbation, like I can masturbate a long time

1002
00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:04,279
Speaker 1: just to enjoy touching myself, and I think that's what

1003
00:53:04,400 --> 00:53:07,600
Speaker 1: we all should do. Sometimes. That goal of and even

1004
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:10,600
Speaker 1: during sex, that goal of orgasm is a scary fucking

1005
00:53:10,680 --> 00:53:14,319
Speaker 1: place because now you're putting pressure on yourself, like it's

1006
00:53:14,360 --> 00:53:16,239
Speaker 1: just too much. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. It's

1007
00:53:16,280 --> 00:53:18,400
Speaker 1: like an end and start date. You're just like, no,

1008
00:53:18,719 --> 00:53:21,080
Speaker 1: you should create it as something that is for you

1009
00:53:21,880 --> 00:53:24,839
Speaker 1: and really honor it as a ritual, ritual of self care.

1010
00:53:25,160 --> 00:53:28,800
Speaker 1: I like that answer. I do like that answer. No,

1011
00:53:29,360 --> 00:53:37,120
Speaker 1: I'm probably going to have one that girl, Okay, party here, Yes,

1012
00:53:37,480 --> 00:53:40,440
Speaker 1: we'll talk about that. Yeah, all right, well, Michelle, thank

1013
00:53:40,480 --> 00:53:42,600
Speaker 1: you so very much for joining us. And where can

1014
00:53:42,960 --> 00:53:45,160
Speaker 1: people find you? I mean you can find me obviously

1015
00:53:45,239 --> 00:53:49,080
Speaker 1: on the social media at MH Expert on everything um

1016
00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:52,480
Speaker 1: and then my website at mate or not at www

1017
00:53:52,680 --> 00:53:54,839
Speaker 1: dot mh s expert. Stay tuned. I have some cool

1018
00:53:54,920 --> 00:53:57,879
Speaker 1: things in the pipeline, so you always got something cool

1019
00:53:57,920 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 1: on the pipeline. Yeah, so yeah, thanks for coming and

1020
00:54:01,719 --> 00:54:07,759
Speaker 1: explaining fucking having sex with Ava Ginta nicely. Fucking It's fine.

1021
00:54:08,000 --> 00:54:10,439
Speaker 1: It's the beat it up part. We're trying to learn

1022
00:54:10,480 --> 00:54:14,359
Speaker 1: new words for okay, caressing, well fucking ship. I gotta

1023
00:54:14,440 --> 00:54:16,200
Speaker 1: learn how to say the need to learn some more words.

1024
00:54:16,480 --> 00:54:19,600
Speaker 1: You know, reading is fundamental, damn it. But that song

1025
00:54:19,920 --> 00:54:24,960
Speaker 1: I'm doing, Oh I'm sorry, that's definitely the song that

1026
00:54:25,000 --> 00:54:29,600
Speaker 1: came to mind from me. Too terrible and what was down?

1027
00:54:29,880 --> 00:54:31,840
Speaker 1: Beat it down? But no, not beating? Why are you

1028
00:54:31,920 --> 00:54:36,719
Speaker 1: beating it? It's be not the direction of beating. She

1029
00:54:36,840 --> 00:54:39,080
Speaker 1: went from beating it up to beat the down up.

1030
00:54:41,719 --> 00:54:44,520
Speaker 1: But I'd like to give the confusion in Michelle's face.

1031
00:54:44,960 --> 00:54:47,000
Speaker 1: You know it is what it is. Guys. We hope

1032
00:54:47,040 --> 00:54:51,160
Speaker 1: you learned UH some good things tips and practices from

1033
00:54:51,360 --> 00:54:54,160
Speaker 1: this week's episode. Make sure you stay tuned. We are

1034
00:54:54,200 --> 00:54:56,200
Speaker 1: going to drop you, guys a five minute bonus clip

1035
00:54:56,960 --> 00:54:59,719
Speaker 1: after this from our patreon, so if you're all caught

1036
00:54:59,800 --> 00:55:01,719
Speaker 1: up and want to hear more episodes, we do drop

1037
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Speaker 1: one episode every week on our patreon this patreon dot

1038
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1039
00:55:12,880 --> 00:55:16,520
Speaker 1: then we also do once a month town halls, which

1040
00:55:16,560 --> 00:55:19,200
Speaker 1: are amazing. You get to join us on Zoom and

1041
00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:23,240
Speaker 1: we the this last month, UH did boost the Zoom account,

1042
00:55:23,320 --> 00:55:25,239
Speaker 1: so we now ship I think we had almost two

1043
00:55:25,320 --> 00:55:29,160
Speaker 1: hundred people in our last time, which was really really exciting,

1044
00:55:29,800 --> 00:55:32,200
Speaker 1: aside from the fact that someone started moaning and a

1045
00:55:32,280 --> 00:55:34,520
Speaker 1: dick was shown, and oh my god, this is why

1046
00:55:34,640 --> 00:55:36,320
Speaker 1: we have been trying to keep the ship down to

1047
00:55:37,800 --> 00:55:39,799
Speaker 1: the first time we go with the two hundred people,

1048
00:55:40,120 --> 00:55:43,759
Speaker 1: somebody show. I'm gonna tell you right now, I'm very

1049
00:55:43,840 --> 00:55:46,200
Speaker 1: involved in our Patreon community because we've had that ship

1050
00:55:46,320 --> 00:55:49,640
Speaker 1: almost I don't know, yes, I don't know any other

1051
00:55:49,680 --> 00:55:51,640
Speaker 1: podcast that I had this ship for five years, but

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Speaker 1: your email, I will hunt you down, track you down

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Speaker 1: munch people. There were kids on that ship. People will

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Speaker 1: has been yet another episode of four Decisions. Fight Me

1068
00:56:42,960 --> 00:56:48,120
Speaker 1: it's bonus, bitches, Welcome to another cinema episode. Alexa, shut

1069
00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:52,640
Speaker 1: your grass up, boom, that's how talk to her. I

1070
00:56:52,760 --> 00:56:55,520
Speaker 1: just got an election, God making me feel like the

1071
00:56:55,600 --> 00:56:57,960
Speaker 1: bitch is stalking me. Like I get worried about you.

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00:56:58,000 --> 00:57:02,200
Speaker 1: I've never that is my first Alexa. Really I don't

1073
00:57:02,239 --> 00:57:06,520
Speaker 1: like I have. Um it's weird because I have two

1074
00:57:06,600 --> 00:57:08,960
Speaker 1: in my house, a Syrian my bathroom, and then I

1075
00:57:09,040 --> 00:57:13,040
Speaker 1: got my man uh one for his car. But he's old,

1076
00:57:13,280 --> 00:57:15,560
Speaker 1: so he just feels like you don't want nobody watching him.

1077
00:57:15,560 --> 00:57:18,360
Speaker 1: And I'm just like, you're not a criminal. They That's

1078
00:57:18,400 --> 00:57:23,240
Speaker 1: how I just felt. But lambea scared me. Are about us?

1079
00:57:24,240 --> 00:57:26,600
Speaker 1: They just tell us the weather and play our tunes.

1080
00:57:26,920 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 1: That's all they do. Lamba made me unplug it. Um.

1081
00:57:31,880 --> 00:57:35,120
Speaker 1: I wanted to play some rent fires and fuck and

1082
00:57:35,720 --> 00:57:37,920
Speaker 1: I was like, Alexa played rent Fires and he was like,

1083
00:57:38,160 --> 00:57:41,640
Speaker 1: whoa wonderful that ship going on? Now you knew you

1084
00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 1: was gonna activate her as bro Alexa stop, Alexa stop nothing, Alexa,

1085
00:57:49,200 --> 00:57:57,840
Speaker 1: turn it off you already. That's why he said he

1086
00:57:57,880 --> 00:58:02,240
Speaker 1: didn't want her around because they hear every thing. Okay.

1087
00:58:03,400 --> 00:58:05,240
Speaker 1: I said, fine, okay, I'll turn it off. He was like,

1088
00:58:05,280 --> 00:58:08,480
Speaker 1: played on your phone. So then I started playing it

1089
00:58:08,480 --> 00:58:10,400
Speaker 1: on my phone, but I chrome casted to the TV

1090
00:58:11,480 --> 00:58:13,400
Speaker 1: and then he was like, I thought your TV had internet.

1091
00:58:13,440 --> 00:58:15,080
Speaker 1: Why are you putting ship up on the TV now?

1092
00:58:15,120 --> 00:58:17,040
Speaker 1: And it's talking like I don't like this ship and

1093
00:58:17,160 --> 00:58:20,480
Speaker 1: I was like, Nigga, what the fuck, Mandy, He's not

1094
00:58:20,760 --> 00:58:22,640
Speaker 1: even that old, Like this is how you know, even

1095
00:58:22,680 --> 00:58:25,680
Speaker 1: in the system too long, Like it's crazy, it's fun

1096
00:58:25,800 --> 00:58:29,560
Speaker 1: to me. Um. Also update, I told Old Bay two

1097
00:58:29,600 --> 00:58:31,800
Speaker 1: weeks ago. You guys probably heard me say that Lambeau

1098
00:58:31,840 --> 00:58:35,120
Speaker 1: is gonna get me a car. I called Old Bay

1099
00:58:35,240 --> 00:58:38,320
Speaker 1: right after the episode. I was like, you know Kodak black,

1100
00:58:38,320 --> 00:58:41,440
Speaker 1: because that's what you call him. He said, yeah, what's up.

1101
00:58:42,000 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 1: I was like, they niver want to get me a

1102
00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:46,400
Speaker 1: car and pay my rent. He just was silent, and

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00:58:46,440 --> 00:58:49,360
Speaker 1: I was like what he said? Okay, Gila, what do

1104
00:58:49,400 --> 00:58:51,000
Speaker 1: you want me to say? I was like, I just

1105
00:58:51,080 --> 00:58:52,840
Speaker 1: want you to tell me whether you think that's crazy.

1106
00:58:53,320 --> 00:58:56,960
Speaker 1: His answer to that was saying, I know you're gonna

1107
00:58:57,000 --> 00:59:00,040
Speaker 1: do what you want to do regardless. That's that's what

1108
00:59:00,200 --> 00:59:02,360
Speaker 1: that response was giving. Do you want me to pick

1109
00:59:02,400 --> 00:59:03,720
Speaker 1: you up in a nice car when you visit l

1110
00:59:03,760 --> 00:59:05,760
Speaker 1: A your web bad? That's really what it is. That's

1111
00:59:05,800 --> 00:59:11,080
Speaker 1: really like the real question. So how did you respond

1112
00:59:11,120 --> 00:59:12,640
Speaker 1: to that? Like if he said what do you want

1113
00:59:12,680 --> 00:59:15,320
Speaker 1: me to say? Like, what what type of response did

1114
00:59:15,360 --> 00:59:17,560
Speaker 1: you expect him to that? I was like, you know

1115
00:59:17,640 --> 00:59:19,080
Speaker 1: what kind of car I wanted? That car is like

1116
00:59:19,120 --> 00:59:22,360
Speaker 1: two thousands a month, Like is that really gonna drive

1117
00:59:22,400 --> 00:59:25,680
Speaker 1: you crazy? And he was just like, it's what you

1118
00:59:25,800 --> 00:59:31,160
Speaker 1: want to do, Gila. So it's giving I can't tell

1119
00:59:31,240 --> 00:59:34,120
Speaker 1: you what you do, well, it's given that, but also

1120
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Speaker 1: I can't tell you what to do, which I appreciate.

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00:59:37,600 --> 00:59:39,560
Speaker 1: But I also feel like if he called me like

1122
00:59:39,800 --> 00:59:41,800
Speaker 1: and was like, this bitch wants to fucking buy X,

1123
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Speaker 1: Y and Z for me, you know what I'm saying, Like,

1124
00:59:43,800 --> 00:59:49,720
Speaker 1: you would have a fucking fit. Yeah I would, um,

1125
00:59:50,560 --> 00:59:54,520
Speaker 1: but you know I ain't gonna lie. I feel like

1126
00:59:54,640 --> 00:59:56,600
Speaker 1: the worst of it all was saying that I accidentally

1127
00:59:56,640 --> 00:59:59,200
Speaker 1: sucked him we're all like that was the real fucking

1128
00:59:59,440 --> 01:00:02,520
Speaker 1: embarrassing thing to call my wish to be honest, Mandy,

1129
01:00:02,800 --> 01:00:07,920
Speaker 1: he was so appreciative that I said it without like

1130
01:00:08,520 --> 01:00:10,200
Speaker 1: trying to bullshit around it when I came home, you

1131
01:00:10,240 --> 01:00:11,840
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. And I feel like I would

1132
01:00:11,840 --> 01:00:13,040
Speaker 1: have been the same way. Like when I really thought

1133
01:00:13,080 --> 01:00:14,560
Speaker 1: about it, I thought that he was gonna be like, bitter,

1134
01:00:14,600 --> 01:00:16,040
Speaker 1: you out of your mind, But if he called me,

1135
01:00:16,160 --> 01:00:18,720
Speaker 1: was like, yo, I mean that's what I'm saying. Mistakes happened,

1136
01:00:18,840 --> 01:00:20,960
Speaker 1: But a nigga paying your rent and get you a car,

1137
01:00:21,320 --> 01:00:23,439
Speaker 1: that's more like a relationship, which is why I'm wanted

1138
01:00:23,440 --> 01:00:24,760
Speaker 1: because I don't want him to think he could just

1139
01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:28,680
Speaker 1: take the card of off beats bitch. If a nigga

1140
01:00:28,920 --> 01:00:31,880
Speaker 1: buys you a car your rent, he's not sucking. You

1141
01:00:31,920 --> 01:00:35,720
Speaker 1: would have condom ever, Okay, well that's who you can't

1142
01:00:35,760 --> 01:00:38,560
Speaker 1: do it, Damn. I wish I could just put the

1143
01:00:38,600 --> 01:00:41,320
Speaker 1: both of them like that, but um, you know, I

1144
01:00:41,400 --> 01:00:45,360
Speaker 1: mean it kind of sucks, but whatever. Anyway, Uh, yeah,

1145
01:00:45,440 --> 01:00:47,520
Speaker 1: that conversation was a little bit uncomfortable, and I think

1146
01:00:47,560 --> 01:00:51,720
Speaker 1: that also Lambeau like doesn't really like understand obey because

1147
01:00:51,760 --> 01:00:55,480
Speaker 1: he doesn't really. I just don't think he gets it,

1148
01:00:55,600 --> 01:00:58,800
Speaker 1: Like I think he thinks this is some relationship off

1149
01:00:58,840 --> 01:01:01,040
Speaker 1: of TV, or like he thinks it's not like a

1150
01:01:01,160 --> 01:01:04,440
Speaker 1: real thing, Like he doesn't really maybe understand the openness

1151
01:01:04,520 --> 01:01:06,480
Speaker 1: because he's very like if you might, bitch, you can't

1152
01:01:06,520 --> 01:01:09,360
Speaker 1: fund me, aboudy type of naggin. But I'm having fun

1153
01:01:09,440 --> 01:01:12,480
Speaker 1: with him right now and I don't want it to end.

1154
01:01:12,640 --> 01:01:14,520
Speaker 1: So who knows they could blow up in my face.

1155
01:01:14,960 --> 01:01:16,840
Speaker 1: One of his baby mamas could fly here and kill me.

1156
01:01:17,480 --> 01:01:20,480
Speaker 1: There's also that that's a big opportunity for that happened

1157
01:01:21,200 --> 01:01:23,600
Speaker 1: as them host damn show. One of them what was

1158
01:01:23,600 --> 01:01:25,520
Speaker 1: I gonna say? Hit him up and was like this

1159
01:01:25,680 --> 01:01:28,120
Speaker 1: bitch talking about you on her podcast and started like

1160
01:01:28,240 --> 01:01:30,440
Speaker 1: blowing up. She was like, who the funk else got

1161
01:01:30,520 --> 01:01:34,760
Speaker 1: a lamba and NIGGD. So I mean there's always that

1162
01:01:35,520 --> 01:01:39,440
Speaker 1: um you know, who knows. Hopefully they don't come get

1163
01:01:39,480 --> 01:01:44,600
Speaker 1: both of us. Bitch, I were gonna take this the

1164
01:01:45,080 --> 01:01:49,160
Speaker 1: car model, I thought about her, it's nothing that happens

1165
01:01:49,200 --> 01:01:50,960
Speaker 1: with you. They ain't coming for us, which they're coming

1166
01:01:51,040 --> 01:01:51,280
Speaker 1: for you.