WEBVTT - Christ Is In Me. I Am Enough. 0:00:01.560 --> 0:00:02.840 Hey, this is Stephen Ferdick. 0:00:02.840 --> 0:00:05.880 I'm the pastor of Elevation Church and this is our podcast. 0:00:05.920 --> 0:00:08.360 I wanted to thank you for joining us today. Hope 0:00:08.360 --> 0:00:10.719 this inspires you. Hope it builds your faith. 0:00:10.800 --> 0:00:12.880 Hope it gives your perspective to see God is moving 0:00:12.920 --> 0:00:13.440 in your life. 0:00:13.880 --> 0:00:14.720 Enjoy the message. 0:00:16.880 --> 0:00:21.440 Until my identity in Christ starts affecting how I interpret 0:00:21.520 --> 0:00:24.840 my life, I really still don't get it yet. And 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:28.760 if I see myself just as somebody that God loves, 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:32.800 because well, Jesus died on the cross, and there's a 0:00:32.840 --> 0:00:35.479 group insurance plan and I got in on it because 0:00:35.520 --> 0:00:38.519 I accepted Jesus, and now God kind of has to 0:00:38.600 --> 0:00:42.159 include me with all of my pre existing conditions, then 0:00:42.200 --> 0:00:44.760 I have missed the point of what it means to 0:00:44.800 --> 0:00:49.960 say that I am a masterpiece made by God. I am. 0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:53.280 In the Greek it literally says a poema, like a poem, 0:00:53.360 --> 0:00:54.240 like God's poem. 0:00:54.880 --> 0:00:58.200 And the idea that Christ is in me means more 0:00:58.280 --> 0:01:01.440 than just he died from two thousand years ago. That 0:01:01.720 --> 0:01:04.360 is huge. I'm not downplaying that at all. 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:07.920 I'm just saying that the fact of Christ being in 0:01:07.959 --> 0:01:11.960 you has to do more with your everyday life than 0:01:12.000 --> 0:01:12.680 you might think. 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:15.960 Because as long as we look at God as. 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:18.880 Being out there somewhere, you know, I'm throwing up a 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:22.000 prayer to the big man upstairs or man I'm looking 0:01:22.040 --> 0:01:24.240 for God to kind of come down and fix this 0:01:24.319 --> 0:01:28.640 situation and don't shift it to the internal. Then we're 0:01:28.640 --> 0:01:31.280 basically living our life with no agency. Right, We're living 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:35.080 our life if I understand my basic psychological terms correctly, 0:01:36.360 --> 0:01:40.080 we're living our lives at the mercy of our impulses, 0:01:40.280 --> 0:01:43.440 stimulus response, and no Christ in the middle to say, 0:01:43.440 --> 0:01:45.440 wait a minute, I'm a child of God. Wait a minute, 0:01:45.480 --> 0:01:47.600 I belong to God. I have faith, I have the 0:01:47.600 --> 0:01:51.320 grace of God. I get to appropriate God's power in 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:53.280 this situation as I surrender to him. 0:01:53.360 --> 0:01:55.520 Right, so good, so good. Yeah. 0:01:55.720 --> 0:01:57.520 The way I think about it is often a lot 0:01:57.520 --> 0:02:00.120 of the trouble we have in our mindset is go 0:02:00.200 --> 0:02:04.200 to identity first. And you know, in what I love 0:02:04.200 --> 0:02:06.640 about faith and religions of the world, it says, actually 0:02:07.520 --> 0:02:13.840 interpret things through the Word, interpret things through Him and 0:02:13.880 --> 0:02:16.320 what He intended, versus just how you feel and who 0:02:16.360 --> 0:02:19.280 you think you are. Because if I ran my entire 0:02:19.320 --> 0:02:21.880 life based on identity, who I think I am and 0:02:21.919 --> 0:02:24.800 how I'm feeling and how I identify in these groups 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:30.320 versus a higher moral ethic versus spiritual. 0:02:29.800 --> 0:02:31.720 Guidance, we'd be a hot mess. 0:02:31.760 --> 0:02:33.040 And I think that's one of the things we struggle 0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:34.200 with in the world right now. That's why we have 0:02:34.440 --> 0:02:36.280 I would say we have a selfie culture versus a 0:02:36.320 --> 0:02:39.200 service culture. We have a selfi culture because we're all 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:43.600 focused so much on identity and we're sometimes missing the 0:02:43.680 --> 0:02:47.480 higher calling, the higher service that if we interpreted life 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:52.440 in a different way through faith, through spirituality, we'd probably 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:56.560 act differently. And so it sounds like when I say, 0:02:56.800 --> 0:02:59.320 you know, mindset is interpretation that identity. Sometimes people would 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:01.160 think that's, oh, that's an negative thing because you're saying 0:03:01.200 --> 0:03:06.080 impulse and then self. But I'm often saying too, interpretation 0:03:06.760 --> 0:03:09.720 is connecting to a higher cause or higher moral ethic, 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:15.600 higher spirituality. And I'm within that. I am within like 0:03:15.680 --> 0:03:20.400 Christ is in me. I am part of this. This 0:03:20.480 --> 0:03:22.760 is a bigger thing than just me. And I think 0:03:22.760 --> 0:03:27.160 that's actually empowering because I can understand I'm enough because 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:31.040 I'm you know, He's in me, but I'm external too. 0:03:31.040 --> 0:03:33.320 Since you're already there, I think we should just dive on, 0:03:33.440 --> 0:03:36.680 download deeper into this because I know you wonder about 0:03:36.680 --> 0:03:43.760 this too, sometimes self esteem, like self worth, like I'm enough, 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:48.440 It's it's sometimes just so flip it right. And yet 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:52.240 I know me. I know the the dark parts of me. 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:52.880 I know. 0:03:54.480 --> 0:03:57.160 I know not only the mistakes I make, but the 0:03:57.240 --> 0:04:00.840 mistakes that I want to make that I hold myself 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:02.600 back from that are even worse than the ones that 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:05.800 I make. And knowing all of that about me, I 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:08.600 want shared with our church, and I share it a 0:04:08.680 --> 0:04:12.840 little bit in the book that accepting Jesus wasn't that 0:04:12.920 --> 0:04:15.640 hard for me? Like we have this phrase accepting Jesus 0:04:15.640 --> 0:04:17.840 as your Lord and say you're a receiving Christ. Well, 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:23.520 accepting him, I get forgiven, loved, get to go to Heaven. Great, 0:04:23.720 --> 0:04:27.320 sign me up. I'm accepting Jesus. He has the way 0:04:27.320 --> 0:04:29.480 that I should live, he has all wisdom, all power. 0:04:29.680 --> 0:04:34.000 I'm accepting Jesus. That took me, you know, just opening 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:39.600 my heart and accepting him. But accepting Stephen, that's a 0:04:39.600 --> 0:04:44.039 little harder. And I have a real passion to help 0:04:44.080 --> 0:04:46.080 you with this because I think it's possible for you 0:04:46.160 --> 0:04:49.680 to accept Jesus and not accept you. In fact, this 0:04:49.800 --> 0:04:52.120 mindset in the book goes with an action step they 0:04:52.200 --> 0:04:54.560 each do, and this action step. 0:04:54.360 --> 0:04:55.480 Is accept yourself. 0:04:55.960 --> 0:04:58.480 And I put it with a capital S, not because 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:00.680 your God and God is you and believe that. I 0:05:00.680 --> 0:05:04.680 believe that basically the self that God wants you to 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:10.839 accept is your spirit, which is made perfect and complete 0:05:10.839 --> 0:05:13.280 in Him, which is cleansed, and. 0:05:13.240 --> 0:05:16.120 Then it's covered up by all of this other stuff. 0:05:16.200 --> 0:05:20.240 So I want to know as you've studied it, because man, 0:05:20.279 --> 0:05:23.120 you've looked into this from every different angle and the 0:05:23.200 --> 0:05:26.880 terms that we throw around sometimes about self worth and 0:05:27.279 --> 0:05:32.039 self esteem and identity, sometimes it's a moving target. It's 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:34.880 not like I just either accept myself or I don't. 0:05:35.200 --> 0:05:36.840 It kind of depends on the time of day or 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:39.360 what just happened or what stimulus I just ran into. 0:05:39.960 --> 0:05:43.039 So talk to me about how that self worth, self 0:05:43.120 --> 0:05:45.240 esteem think can be a moving target for us. 0:05:45.640 --> 0:05:47.600 I think you nailed this in the book that this 0:05:48.160 --> 0:05:53.720 you know I Am enough comes back down to recognizing 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:56.920 that we are more than what limits us, and we 0:05:56.960 --> 0:05:58.600 are more than what's missing. As you say in the 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:00.760 first part of the chapter, you say, you know you're 0:06:00.800 --> 0:06:06.440 more than just what's missing. That sometimes the reason it 0:06:06.440 --> 0:06:09.599 feels like a moving target is because in every given situation, 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:12.200 we go, am I capable. 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:12.400 To handle this? 0:06:13.279 --> 0:06:15.080 That's at that moment, that's what we're saying. 0:06:15.400 --> 0:06:17.920 Am I enough? Am I capable of handling this? Then 0:06:17.960 --> 0:06:20.120 we say, oh, am I doing it right? 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:25.320 Am I perfect? And we consider perfect enough? And then 0:06:25.360 --> 0:06:27.719 we say do I have as much? Or am I 0:06:27.800 --> 0:06:30.599 as good as them? That makes me enough because I 0:06:30.640 --> 0:06:34.520 compare well? So we usually say am I capable? Am 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:36.520 I perfect? Am I comparing well? 0:06:37.120 --> 0:06:37.280 Well? 0:06:37.279 --> 0:06:39.640 Those are the three moving targets, and you're never going 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:41.159 to hit all three of them, so you're never going 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:44.200 to feel enough because if that's how you equate enough, 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:47.000 you're in trouble. So in all the psychology always comes 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:50.680 back down to definitions. Right, So what does it mean 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:55.160 for you to be enough? And that's what will start 0:06:55.160 --> 0:06:58.800 in coaching sometimes, what does it mean for you to 0:06:58.839 --> 0:06:59.160 be enough? 0:06:59.200 --> 0:07:01.760 Maybe you put that in the chain, Yeah, what does 0:07:01.760 --> 0:07:02.920 it mean enough? Yeah? 0:07:02.920 --> 0:07:05.040 Because most people say what does it mean to be enough? Well, 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:07.080 I got to be perfect. I got to be capable 0:07:07.080 --> 0:07:09.039 to handle all the complexity of this new business or 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:11.760 this new challenge or this new issue I'm facing, And 0:07:11.880 --> 0:07:15.120 oh yeah, I got to compare well next to my neighbor. Well, 0:07:15.160 --> 0:07:19.080 if that's what enough to you is, you're never going 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:22.080 to achieve it. You'll never get near it because those 0:07:22.120 --> 0:07:24.720 three things are always moving in every given new situation. 0:07:25.160 --> 0:07:27.440 So at some point, just like happiness in our life, 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:31.920 we discern what is happiness to me? And in this 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:34.480 case we have to say, well, what is enough to me? 0:07:35.240 --> 0:07:39.920 Is me being enough? Does that mean I'm confident? Does 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:42.960 it mean I feel capable? Does it mean I'm worthy? 0:07:43.440 --> 0:07:43.520 Like? 0:07:43.560 --> 0:07:44.280 What does it mean? 0:07:45.000 --> 0:07:47.480 And people often only explore that once they get to 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:50.800 the point where it feel like, oh wait, I am 0:07:50.840 --> 0:07:51.760 doing life kind of good. 0:07:52.640 --> 0:07:55.400 I am measuring up pretty well. With the Jones you 0:07:55.880 --> 0:07:58.120 taught something one time. I think it really fits with 0:07:58.160 --> 0:08:01.120 this mindset. I would love for you to hear this 0:08:02.720 --> 0:08:07.800 game changing teaching that Brendan has on integrating your wins. Now. 0:08:07.960 --> 0:08:10.840 I've shared some of this before, but I can't share 0:08:10.840 --> 0:08:13.720 it the way you do. And I realized that maybe 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:15.600 part of the reason I can't share it is because 0:08:16.520 --> 0:08:21.360 I'm scared sometimes to give myself any credit because it's like, no, 0:08:21.520 --> 0:08:23.800 it was all God. I like the joke that sometimes 0:08:23.840 --> 0:08:26.520 will tell a singer in church you know, wow, you 0:08:26.600 --> 0:08:28.960 really did great today's singing, and they'll go, no, it 0:08:29.000 --> 0:08:31.880 wasn't me, it was it was all God, to which 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:34.560 I always want to say, no, it wasn't all God. 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:38.600 It wasn't that good. If it was all it was good, 0:08:38.960 --> 0:08:43.600 you did good. And this idea of integrating your wins. 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:46.480 Talk about that because I think a lot of us 0:08:46.520 --> 0:08:48.600 are confused and we're like, well, I don't want to 0:08:48.640 --> 0:08:49.120 have pride. 0:08:49.120 --> 0:08:50.720 Well, no, you don't want to have pride. 0:08:50.800 --> 0:08:54.240 But this idea that I can never really feel good 0:08:54.280 --> 0:08:56.480 about what I did that doesn't please God either, So 0:08:56.920 --> 0:08:57.600 give this teaching. 0:08:57.640 --> 0:08:58.080 I love this. 0:08:58.280 --> 0:09:00.000 Yeah, it's kind of like, if you think about it, 0:09:00.440 --> 0:09:02.320 are you enough? It's kind of like a you know, 0:09:02.360 --> 0:09:04.480 like a gas tank a little bit. You know, it's 0:09:04.520 --> 0:09:07.520 either full or it's not. And for what most what's 0:09:07.520 --> 0:09:09.240 happening for most people on their journey of life is 0:09:09.240 --> 0:09:11.360 they depleted it over and over and over and over 0:09:11.600 --> 0:09:15.120 in terms of not giving themselves credit, and so they 0:09:15.160 --> 0:09:18.000 never integrate the win. Every time they screw something up, 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:21.480 they take such a huge chunk out of themselves. They're 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:25.280 just like demoralizing themselves. They're just like self hatred. They're 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:29.520 angry at themselves. They have guilt and shame, and every 0:09:29.559 --> 0:09:32.280 time something goes bad, it's just like they take something 0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:32.840 out of themselves. 0:09:32.880 --> 0:09:33.680 They drain the tank. 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:39.960 And people who finally feel more confident, more fulfilled, more capable, 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:42.840 more than enough, they're able to see all the times 0:09:43.040 --> 0:09:47.400 they did okay, they didn't screw up, they manage things well, 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:50.400 they became resilient, they bounced back, they were a good person, 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:54.480 they got the award, they did achieve something, they did 0:09:54.760 --> 0:09:57.000 feel good at the end of the day, and they 0:09:57.120 --> 0:09:59.640 integrate that into who they are. 0:10:00.600 --> 0:10:02.280 I am enough. 0:10:02.760 --> 0:10:05.920 I did these things, and they added up inside the character, 0:10:06.320 --> 0:10:09.200 they added up inside the strength. And there's a stacking 0:10:09.240 --> 0:10:13.120 that happens in our psychology after enough integrating of the wins. 0:10:13.160 --> 0:10:16.600 Because I work with athletes who've lost their confidence. They 0:10:16.640 --> 0:10:20.200 lost their like they're literally top of the game, you know, 0:10:20.280 --> 0:10:24.440 they're top five of the world, and they've lost their confidence. 0:10:24.440 --> 0:10:25.200 So they have me come in. 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:27.240 I'll just sit down with them talking for thirty minutes, 0:10:27.520 --> 0:10:29.920 and I'll realize they're telling me everything they have done wrong, 0:10:30.760 --> 0:10:34.400 lost that game, dropped that ball, sparked over here, got 0:10:34.400 --> 0:10:36.680 this fine? I mean, they're telling me everything that went wrong, 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:39.160 and they're not saying anything about what they're doing right, 0:10:39.760 --> 0:10:43.120 and so their self talk is always diminishing versus additive 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:47.679 or recognizing their strength. So integrating the mean integrating the 0:10:47.720 --> 0:10:50.520 win means what if at the end of each day, 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:52.520 you thought about the things you did do well, the 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:55.520 things that did turn out okay, the things that you 0:10:55.559 --> 0:10:58.360 were proud of, the character you showed, the patience you showed, 0:10:58.480 --> 0:11:00.480 the love that you showed, the resilience you show, and 0:11:00.520 --> 0:11:03.600 you said, oh, that's part of me, and you just 0:11:03.720 --> 0:11:09.200 kind of and you allowed yourself to take some peace 0:11:10.200 --> 0:11:13.200 in the goodness of who you were that day. And 0:11:13.240 --> 0:11:16.400 if day after day, year after a year, you allow 0:11:16.400 --> 0:11:19.280 yourself to take some peace in of the goodness that 0:11:19.320 --> 0:11:22.600 you did and the goodness that you are, suddenly one 0:11:22.640 --> 0:11:26.359 day you feel more full. Now you can feel more fulfilled, 0:11:26.880 --> 0:11:29.760 you can feel like you're enough because you're adding in 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:30.839 versus taking. 0:11:30.600 --> 0:11:31.360 Out all the time. 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:35.040 And most people have never integrated the good things they've 0:11:35.040 --> 0:11:37.840 done in their life into their identity, so they still 0:11:37.880 --> 0:11:40.240 feel deficient, like they were a fifteen year old kid 0:11:40.880 --> 0:11:43.880 who beats themselves up and doesn't think they fit in. 0:11:44.640 --> 0:11:46.319 But you're talking about a thirty or forty year old 0:11:46.360 --> 0:11:49.640 woman or a man who has not yet ever breathed 0:11:49.679 --> 0:11:52.520 in the good that they did, so their confidence is 0:11:52.559 --> 0:11:55.200 of a high schooler versus a thirty or forty or 0:11:55.200 --> 0:11:57.800 fifty year old person because they never integrated those winds. 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:01.480 I think of it, and that's such a beautiful picture, man, 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:05.920 And that practice alone would change your life. If you 0:12:06.040 --> 0:12:07.760 sat with God at the end of the day or 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:10.200 you're laying down, it doesn't have to be at a 0:12:10.200 --> 0:12:13.080 prayer bench, it can be. It doesn't have to be 0:12:13.160 --> 0:12:15.760 with the journal, it can be. But even if there 0:12:15.800 --> 0:12:18.520 was just some time for you to process with your 0:12:18.559 --> 0:12:22.360 heavenly father. I actually was thinking while you were talking 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:26.200 about the other night when Graham, my middle son, came 0:12:27.080 --> 0:12:30.720 to me right before I was falling asleep, and he 0:12:30.760 --> 0:12:34.760 had had a really good match a few hours earlier, 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:38.960 and he started asking me questions about the match, like 0:12:40.280 --> 0:12:43.800 when did you know I had it under control? And 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:45.680 did you think I wasn't going to come back from 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:49.760 that bad call? And I realized about third question what 0:12:49.800 --> 0:12:53.960 he was doing. He was processing with his father, what 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:57.680 had happened, the victory that he had won, the struggle 0:12:57.720 --> 0:12:59.960 that he went through, to get there, almost as if 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:02.040 to say to me, walk back. 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:04.880 Through this with me and help me feel my wind. 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:07.679 Nice and what a beautiful thing to pray to God, 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:11.720 like God, help me feel that wind, because you know, 0:13:11.800 --> 0:13:14.920 when you're going through it, you don't feel like enough ever, 0:13:15.080 --> 0:13:18.160 you feel like I'm stretched. If you have faith, you're 0:13:18.160 --> 0:13:19.960 always going to be in a place that makes you 0:13:20.040 --> 0:13:23.600 feel a little bit outside of your comfort zone. 0:13:24.280 --> 0:13:26.520 And so then what do you do? You get through it? 0:13:26.760 --> 0:13:30.400 You show up anyway, You show up messy, you show 0:13:30.480 --> 0:13:33.439 up scared, You show up with your hands shaking, your 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:36.680 mouth dry, not enough sleep, not enough. 0:13:36.480 --> 0:13:39.520 Resource, and you do it. But you didn't feel it 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:41.160 while you did it because you were doing it. 0:13:41.720 --> 0:13:45.360 So then when you fall asleep that night or at 0:13:45.400 --> 0:13:46.800 the end of the week, or however you do it, 0:13:47.640 --> 0:13:50.960 you sit with God. And that's important because I don't 0:13:50.960 --> 0:13:52.480 believe I'm sitting by myself going. 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:58.720 Wasn't I amazing how I worship me? I'm going God? 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:00.760 Wasn't that crazy? See how we did that? 0:14:00.800 --> 0:14:03.280 I mean I even started praying a prayer recently to 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:05.120 get into this Christ as in me, I am enough 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:08.880 mindset more in my heart that before I go to 0:14:09.000 --> 0:14:11.719 preach or to do something like this, or even if 0:14:11.720 --> 0:14:15.360 it's not a spiritual activity the way we qualify spirituality, 0:14:15.800 --> 0:14:20.440 I'll pray God at the end of this day, I 0:14:20.480 --> 0:14:23.000 want to feel good about the work that you and 0:14:23.040 --> 0:14:26.640 I did together. And what it helps me to do is, 0:14:26.680 --> 0:14:30.000 first of all, Christ is in me. He's working with me, 0:14:30.040 --> 0:14:32.160 and we're going to talk about that in a later mindset, 0:14:32.200 --> 0:14:35.280 how God is always working through us. But the big 0:14:35.320 --> 0:14:40.760 thing about it is that I'm not processing this. Not 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:44.400 only am I not processing only the defeats of the day, 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:49.920 but I'm integrating the victories, giving praise to God right 0:14:50.040 --> 0:14:52.520 and allowing him to solidify it in my heart. I 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:55.200 think that's a life changing practice. And I think it's 0:14:55.200 --> 0:14:58.600 different than just oh, be grateful, because a lot of 0:14:58.640 --> 0:15:00.640 people get hear this and say, yeah, I'm grateful for 0:15:00.680 --> 0:15:03.280 my blessings and all of this. No, you're saying something deeper. 0:15:03.320 --> 0:15:06.000 You're going have you taken the time for the blessings 0:15:06.000 --> 0:15:08.800 that God gave you and the victories that He gave 0:15:08.840 --> 0:15:11.400 you and really making that a part of yourself. 0:15:11.480 --> 0:15:14.760 Yes, future, Yeah, that's so huge. We see it in 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:18.600 winning teams all the time. Is like win after win 0:15:18.680 --> 0:15:20.640 after win after win, you know, if you get to 0:15:20.640 --> 0:15:23.000 hang out with them in the bus afterwards or whatever, 0:15:23.040 --> 0:15:25.880 you see as the season goes on, they actually talk 0:15:25.960 --> 0:15:28.240 more about the wins. They still got a job to do, 0:15:28.720 --> 0:15:31.640 but they want to debrief it like Graham did. And 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:33.640 I think a lot of people and they never debrief 0:15:33.720 --> 0:15:34.760 the good in their life. 0:15:35.760 --> 0:15:36.800 They bemoaned the bad. 0:15:38.040 --> 0:15:40.800 And so when you take a walk with your wife 0:15:40.840 --> 0:15:43.360 in the morning, if you would just talk about the 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:47.360 good things that are happening and give praise, It's so simple. 0:15:47.400 --> 0:15:48.680 We all know we should do it, but so few 0:15:48.680 --> 0:15:52.120 people actually verbalize it, and so more people you're around. 0:15:52.440 --> 0:15:55.120 If you can talk about the good, talk about the good, 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:58.200 talk about the good, give praise it suddenly you start 0:15:58.240 --> 0:16:03.200 to feel like life is a enough because sometimes you 0:16:03.240 --> 0:16:05.920 don't feel like enough, because you feel like life isn't enough, 0:16:06.680 --> 0:16:07.840 our house isn't big enough. 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:08.920 I'm not enough. 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:13.640 You know, the company's not doing well enough, so I'm 0:16:13.680 --> 0:16:17.800 not enough, and we equate these external things so often 0:16:17.840 --> 0:16:20.720 too am I enough? But if you can start giving 0:16:20.760 --> 0:16:23.960 glory and recognizing the good things, and I love what 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:27.880 you shared that you're doing it together, now you solve 0:16:27.920 --> 0:16:31.560 two problems it's not only do you feel enough because 0:16:31.600 --> 0:16:34.320 good things are happening, but you also don't feel alone anymore. 0:16:34.920 --> 0:16:38.480 What resonated with me and where I found my own 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:42.880 personal faith in my life was that I wasn't alone 0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:47.400 because I'd been a suicidal kid and had a car 0:16:47.440 --> 0:16:50.320 accident and had this really dramatic moment where I was 0:16:50.360 --> 0:16:53.840 standing on the hood of a car after escaping the 0:16:53.840 --> 0:16:58.080 car after we'd wrecked, and I was bleeding out and 0:16:58.120 --> 0:17:02.240 I thought I was going to die, and I realized 0:17:02.240 --> 0:17:05.119 I didn't want to die, and I happened to look 0:17:05.160 --> 0:17:06.919 up and there's a full moon that night, and that 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:11.480 was my moment of connection with God. And I remember 0:17:11.600 --> 0:17:17.360 feeling like I wasn't alone anymore. Amazing in one second. Yeah, 0:17:17.400 --> 0:17:19.919 And I think what I like about what you did 0:17:19.960 --> 0:17:23.520 in this chapter is you started. You didn't say it's 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:26.040 not a chapter says I'm enough. It says Christ's in me. 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:29.359 Christ is in me. Yeah, Christ is in me, So 0:17:29.760 --> 0:17:33.480 I'm enough. That's really powerful because it means we're not alone. 0:17:33.960 --> 0:17:35.639 And once you realize you're not alone and you're doing 0:17:35.680 --> 0:17:37.480 something together, like you said, and you can share in 0:17:37.480 --> 0:17:38.040 the glory of. 0:17:38.040 --> 0:17:41.160 It, that just feels different, different quality of life. Yeah, 0:17:41.160 --> 0:17:41.639 it does. 0:17:41.920 --> 0:17:44.600 It changes the way that you see your starting point 0:17:45.440 --> 0:17:48.280 if I'm always starting from not enough, trying to get 0:17:48.320 --> 0:17:52.400 to enough. Like you said, it's based in comparison. It's 0:17:52.440 --> 0:17:56.520 based in competency. And there was a third one competency. 0:17:56.560 --> 0:17:58.600 Am I competent? How do I compare to others? And 0:17:58.640 --> 0:18:01.320 there was one right per middle, Am I perfect? Well 0:18:01.400 --> 0:18:03.440 Jesus is perfect and he then me and he died 0:18:03.480 --> 0:18:06.199 for me, so he solves all of that, right, And 0:18:06.240 --> 0:18:09.040 then we move into this one specific section that I 0:18:09.080 --> 0:18:11.760 want to mention from this mindset, and I really think 0:18:11.800 --> 0:18:15.280 this is going to help you. It's a way of 0:18:15.320 --> 0:18:17.920 looking at life that comes from abundance. And so just 0:18:17.960 --> 0:18:22.320 put this in the comments right now. I'm coming from abundance, 0:18:24.000 --> 0:18:28.320 and for me, I'm coming from abundance means that God 0:18:28.440 --> 0:18:32.479 spoke and the world existed, and I exist from the 0:18:32.520 --> 0:18:36.200 same God who created the world. So if he did 0:18:36.240 --> 0:18:39.359 all of that and he did me, then as I 0:18:39.480 --> 0:18:42.680 do the new me, I know that I'm coming from abundance, 0:18:43.280 --> 0:18:45.800 meaning that God doesn't run out of patience for me. 0:18:45.880 --> 0:18:48.280 God doesn't run out of ideas, God doesn't run out 0:18:48.280 --> 0:18:50.320 of ways to provide God doesn't. 0:18:50.080 --> 0:18:51.320 Run out of strength to use me. 0:18:52.160 --> 0:18:54.520 So this fear of running out, I want to hit 0:18:54.600 --> 0:18:57.040 on it because I think at the heart of not 0:18:57.280 --> 0:18:59.240 enough is you got fomo if. 0:18:59.119 --> 0:18:59.879 You're missing out. 0:19:00.080 --> 0:19:04.080 I always talk about pharoh fear of running out, and 0:19:04.520 --> 0:19:06.639 I like to preach all the Bible passages. This is 0:19:06.680 --> 0:19:10.240 why we're good together because I have all these metaphors right, 0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:13.320 and I go crazy when their metaphors well. It can 0:19:13.320 --> 0:19:15.000 come to a point where we got to get beyond 0:19:15.040 --> 0:19:18.199 the metaphor into the mindset, into the mechanics of how 0:19:18.200 --> 0:19:20.560 to bring that into my life. And what I wonder 0:19:21.200 --> 0:19:25.440 is for the fear of running out, specifically the fear 0:19:25.480 --> 0:19:28.160 that not only am I not going to have enough money, 0:19:28.160 --> 0:19:29.840 but I'm not going to have enough people there to 0:19:29.840 --> 0:19:31.439 support me. I'm not going to have enough energy, so 0:19:31.440 --> 0:19:33.760 I don't commit to anything, and I start calculating all 0:19:33.800 --> 0:19:36.960 of that rather than realizing I'm coming from abundance. Get 0:19:37.040 --> 0:19:42.480 real practical about this coming from abundance mindset, and walk 0:19:42.560 --> 0:19:47.159 me through how you take somebody like me who scarcity Steve, 0:19:47.560 --> 0:19:49.880 you know, when I'm in my old self not doing 0:19:49.920 --> 0:19:53.760 the new me, get me from there to a coming 0:19:53.760 --> 0:19:56.840 from abundance. I come from God and He is enough 0:19:56.840 --> 0:19:59.359 for every need. Kind of walk me through that, coach 0:19:59.400 --> 0:19:59.960 me a little bit. 0:20:00.119 --> 0:20:03.720 Yeah, Well, the first question is always, have you ever 0:20:04.160 --> 0:20:07.320 not had enough? Have you ever been in a place 0:20:07.320 --> 0:20:08.280 where you didn't have enough? 0:20:08.359 --> 0:20:12.600 I'd like to say categorically no, but I've definitely had 0:20:12.680 --> 0:20:15.960 moments where I thought that the energy was going to 0:20:16.040 --> 0:20:18.199 be there for me and I felt like either I 0:20:18.280 --> 0:20:21.160 fell short or it failed me, or maybe I thought 0:20:21.200 --> 0:20:23.520 I was going to have the thing that I needed 0:20:23.520 --> 0:20:26.000 to say and I've fallen short. I don't know if 0:20:26.000 --> 0:20:28.040 that's the same as not having enough. I know there's 0:20:28.080 --> 0:20:30.840