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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Stephen Ferdick.

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Speaker 2: I'm the pastor of Elevation Church and this is our podcast.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to thank you for joining us today. Hope

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Speaker 1: this inspires you. Hope it builds your faith.

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Speaker 2: Hope it gives your perspective to see God is moving

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Speaker 2: in your life.

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Speaker 1: Enjoy the message.

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Speaker 2: Until my identity in Christ starts affecting how I interpret

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Speaker 2: my life, I really still don't get it yet. And

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Speaker 2: if I see myself just as somebody that God loves,

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Speaker 2: because well, Jesus died on the cross, and there's a

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Speaker 2: group insurance plan and I got in on it because

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Speaker 2: I accepted Jesus, and now God kind of has to

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Speaker 2: include me with all of my pre existing conditions, then

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Speaker 2: I have missed the point of what it means to

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Speaker 2: say that I am a masterpiece made by God. I am.

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Speaker 2: In the Greek it literally says a poema, like a poem,

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Speaker 2: like God's poem.

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Speaker 1: And the idea that Christ is in me means more

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Speaker 1: than just he died from two thousand years ago. That

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Speaker 1: is huge. I'm not downplaying that at all.

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Speaker 2: I'm just saying that the fact of Christ being in

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Speaker 2: you has to do more with your everyday life than

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Speaker 2: you might think.

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Speaker 1: Because as long as we look at God as.

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Speaker 2: Being out there somewhere, you know, I'm throwing up a

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Speaker 2: prayer to the big man upstairs or man I'm looking

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Speaker 2: for God to kind of come down and fix this

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Speaker 2: situation and don't shift it to the internal. Then we're

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Speaker 2: basically living our life with no agency. Right, We're living

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Speaker 2: our life if I understand my basic psychological terms correctly,

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Speaker 2: we're living our lives at the mercy of our impulses,

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Speaker 2: stimulus response, and no Christ in the middle to say,

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Speaker 2: wait a minute, I'm a child of God. Wait a minute,

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Speaker 2: I belong to God. I have faith, I have the

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Speaker 2: grace of God. I get to appropriate God's power in

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Speaker 2: this situation as I surrender to him.

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Speaker 1: Right, so good, so good. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: The way I think about it is often a lot

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Speaker 3: of the trouble we have in our mindset is go

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Speaker 3: to identity first. And you know, in what I love

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Speaker 3: about faith and religions of the world, it says, actually

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Speaker 3: interpret things through the Word, interpret things through Him and

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Speaker 3: what He intended, versus just how you feel and who

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Speaker 3: you think you are. Because if I ran my entire

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Speaker 3: life based on identity, who I think I am and

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Speaker 3: how I'm feeling and how I identify in these groups

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Speaker 3: versus a higher moral ethic versus spiritual.

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Speaker 1: Guidance, we'd be a hot mess.

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Speaker 3: And I think that's one of the things we struggle

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Speaker 3: with in the world right now. That's why we have

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Speaker 3: I would say we have a selfie culture versus a

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Speaker 3: service culture. We have a selfi culture because we're all

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Speaker 3: focused so much on identity and we're sometimes missing the

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Speaker 3: higher calling, the higher service that if we interpreted life

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Speaker 3: in a different way through faith, through spirituality, we'd probably

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Speaker 3: act differently. And so it sounds like when I say,

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Speaker 3: you know, mindset is interpretation that identity. Sometimes people would

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Speaker 3: think that's, oh, that's an negative thing because you're saying

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Speaker 3: impulse and then self. But I'm often saying too, interpretation

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Speaker 3: is connecting to a higher cause or higher moral ethic,

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Speaker 3: higher spirituality. And I'm within that. I am within like

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Speaker 3: Christ is in me. I am part of this. This

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Speaker 3: is a bigger thing than just me. And I think

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Speaker 3: that's actually empowering because I can understand I'm enough because

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Speaker 3: I'm you know, He's in me, but I'm external too.

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Speaker 2: Since you're already there, I think we should just dive on,

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Speaker 2: download deeper into this because I know you wonder about

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Speaker 2: this too, sometimes self esteem, like self worth, like I'm enough,

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Speaker 2: It's it's sometimes just so flip it right. And yet

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Speaker 2: I know me. I know the the dark parts of me.

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 2: I know not only the mistakes I make, but the

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Speaker 2: mistakes that I want to make that I hold myself

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Speaker 2: back from that are even worse than the ones that

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Speaker 2: I make. And knowing all of that about me, I

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Speaker 2: want shared with our church, and I share it a

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Speaker 2: little bit in the book that accepting Jesus wasn't that

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Speaker 2: hard for me? Like we have this phrase accepting Jesus

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Speaker 2: as your Lord and say you're a receiving Christ. Well,

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Speaker 2: accepting him, I get forgiven, loved, get to go to Heaven. Great,

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Speaker 2: sign me up. I'm accepting Jesus. He has the way

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Speaker 2: that I should live, he has all wisdom, all power.

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Speaker 2: I'm accepting Jesus. That took me, you know, just opening

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Speaker 2: my heart and accepting him. But accepting Stephen, that's a

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Speaker 2: little harder. And I have a real passion to help

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Speaker 2: to accept Jesus and not accept you. In fact, this

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Speaker 2: each do, and this action step.

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Speaker 1: Is accept yourself.

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Speaker 2: And I put it with a capital S, not because

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Speaker 2: your God and God is you and believe that. I

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Speaker 2: believe that basically the self that God wants you to

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Speaker 2: accept is your spirit, which is made perfect and complete

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Speaker 2: in Him, which is cleansed, and.

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Speaker 1: Then it's covered up by all of this other stuff.

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Speaker 2: So I want to know as you've studied it, because man,

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Speaker 2: you've looked into this from every different angle and the

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Speaker 2: terms that we throw around sometimes about self worth and

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Speaker 2: self esteem and identity, sometimes it's a moving target. It's

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Speaker 2: not like I just either accept myself or I don't.

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Speaker 2: It kind of depends on the time of day or

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Speaker 2: what just happened or what stimulus I just ran into.

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Speaker 2: So talk to me about how that self worth, self

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Speaker 2: esteem think can be a moving target for us.

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Speaker 3: I think you nailed this in the book that this

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Speaker 3: you know I Am enough comes back down to recognizing

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Speaker 3: that we are more than what limits us, and we

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Speaker 3: are more than what's missing. As you say in the

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Speaker 3: first part of the chapter, you say, you know you're

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Speaker 3: more than just what's missing. That sometimes the reason it

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Speaker 3: feels like a moving target is because in every given situation,

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Speaker 3: we go, am I capable.

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Speaker 1: To handle this?

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Speaker 3: That's at that moment, that's what we're saying.

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Speaker 1: Am I enough? Am I capable of handling this? Then

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Speaker 1: we say, oh, am I doing it right?

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Speaker 3: Am I perfect? And we consider perfect enough? And then

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Speaker 3: we say do I have as much? Or am I

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Speaker 3: as good as them? That makes me enough because I

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Speaker 3: compare well? So we usually say am I capable? Am

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Speaker 2: Well?

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Speaker 3: Those are the three moving targets, and you're never going

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Speaker 3: to hit all three of them, so you're never going

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Speaker 3: to feel enough because if that's how you equate enough,

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Speaker 3: you're in trouble. So in all the psychology always comes

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Speaker 3: back down to definitions. Right, So what does it mean

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Speaker 3: for you to be enough? And that's what will start

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Speaker 3: in coaching sometimes, what does it mean for you to

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Speaker 1: Maybe you put that in the chain, Yeah, what does

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Speaker 3: Because most people say what does it mean to be enough? Well,

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Speaker 3: I got to be perfect. I got to be capable

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Speaker 3: this new challenge or this new issue I'm facing, And

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Speaker 3: if that's what enough to you is, you're never going

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Speaker 3: to achieve it. You'll never get near it because those

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Speaker 3: three things are always moving in every given new situation.

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Speaker 3: So at some point, just like happiness in our life,

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Speaker 3: we discern what is happiness to me? And in this

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Speaker 3: case we have to say, well, what is enough to me?

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Speaker 3: Is me being enough? Does that mean I'm confident? Does

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Speaker 3: it mean I feel capable? Does it mean I'm worthy?

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 1: What does it mean?

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Speaker 3: And people often only explore that once they get to

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Speaker 3: the point where it feel like, oh wait, I am

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Speaker 3: doing life kind of good.

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Speaker 2: I am measuring up pretty well. With the Jones you

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Speaker 2: taught something one time. I think it really fits with

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Speaker 2: this mindset. I would love for you to hear this

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Speaker 2: game changing teaching that Brendan has on integrating your wins. Now.

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Speaker 2: I've shared some of this before, but I can't share

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Speaker 2: it the way you do. And I realized that maybe

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Speaker 2: I'm scared sometimes to give myself any credit because it's like, no,

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Speaker 2: it was all God. I like the joke that sometimes

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Speaker 2: will tell a singer in church you know, wow, you

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Speaker 2: really did great today's singing, and they'll go, no, it

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Speaker 2: wasn't me, it was it was all God, to which

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Speaker 2: I always want to say, no, it wasn't all God.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't that good. If it was all it was good,

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Speaker 1: you did good. And this idea of integrating your wins.

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Speaker 2: Talk about that because I think a lot of us

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Speaker 2: are confused and we're like, well, I don't want to

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Speaker 2: have pride.

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Speaker 1: Well, no, you don't want to have pride.

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Speaker 2: But this idea that I can never really feel good

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Speaker 2: about what I did that doesn't please God either, So

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Speaker 1: I love this.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's kind of like, if you think about it,

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Speaker 3: are you enough? It's kind of like a you know,

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Speaker 3: happening for most people on their journey of life is

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Speaker 3: they depleted it over and over and over and over

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Speaker 3: And people who finally feel more confident, more fulfilled, more capable,

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Speaker 1: I am enough.

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Speaker 3: I did these things, and they added up inside the character,

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Speaker 3: that happens in our psychology after enough integrating of the wins.

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Speaker 3: Because I work with athletes who've lost their confidence. They

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Speaker 1: So they have me come in.

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Speaker 3: I'll just sit down with them talking for thirty minutes,

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Speaker 3: and I'll realize they're telling me everything they have done wrong,

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Speaker 3: this fine? I mean, they're telling me everything that went wrong,

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Speaker 3: and they're not saying anything about what they're doing right,

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Speaker 3: and so their self talk is always diminishing versus additive

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Speaker 3: or recognizing their strength. So integrating the mean integrating the

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Speaker 3: win means what if at the end of each day,

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Speaker 3: ten years. So the question is, can you acknowledge that

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Speaker 3: there are scarcity in parts of our life, in the

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Speaker 3: is a mindset tric. It's hard for people to acknowledge

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Speaker 3: that scarcity is real, but it doesn't have to be

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