WEBVTT - The Text You’ve Been Scared to Send Party

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<v Speaker 1>Get your hairs together.

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<v Speaker 2>We're going to start to party and start the parties.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm ready to party the.

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<v Speaker 4>Elvis Duran after Party.

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<v Speaker 1>What a party? Are you ready for? The after Party podcast?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>So, isn't it wonderful picking up your phone and texting

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<v Speaker 1>someone you haven't talked to in such a long time,

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<v Speaker 1>And not for asking for a favor or whatever, it's

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<v Speaker 1>just you miss them. Can you think of someone right now?

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<v Speaker 1>Boom in your mind? You haven't talked to you in

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<v Speaker 1>a long time? Yes, yeah, and you didn't stop talking

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<v Speaker 1>because of a problem whatever. It's just that happens in life, right,

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's called growing up. Nina from across the river

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<v Speaker 1>in Hoboca, New Jersey. Hi, Nina, doing great. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>we were just talking about losing touch with people that

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<v Speaker 1>we were really really like in our lives and sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>it just naturally happens. You just go separate ways. Doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>mean you don't like each other. But anyway, we heard

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<v Speaker 1>that you actually lost touch with a good friend during

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<v Speaker 1>pandemic and you just reconnected with this old friend. Tell

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<v Speaker 1>us all about it.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah. So when I started my first job out of college,

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<v Speaker 4>I made friends with another girl who started the same

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<v Speaker 4>day as me. It was both of our first jobs,

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<v Speaker 4>and we just like hit it off right away. Maybe

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<v Speaker 4>could say we trauma bonded a little bit trying to

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<v Speaker 4>become adults together. And for a few years we were

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<v Speaker 4>just like the best of friends. And when the pandemic hit,

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<v Speaker 4>we went remote and probably like eight or nine months later,

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<v Speaker 4>she got a new job, I got a new job,

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<v Speaker 4>and yeah, there was no fight, nothing happened. We just

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<v Speaker 4>lost touch and I almost didn't even realize like how

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<v Speaker 4>much I really needed to turn my life or depended

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<v Speaker 4>on her until like life started to just get real

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<v Speaker 4>again as we've become adults and married, had relationships, and

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<v Speaker 4>because she got married earlier this year, and I decided

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<v Speaker 4>to just shoot her at test thank congratulations and how

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<v Speaker 4>happy I am for her having seen her younger single

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<v Speaker 4>days and knowing that she's in a more stable place

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<v Speaker 4>and all of that, and it just kicked off us

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<v Speaker 4>like talking again testing, and over the last three or

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<v Speaker 4>four months, we've ended up hanging out almost every single week.

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<v Speaker 4>We get dinner, a couple times a month, we hang out.

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<v Speaker 4>She's met my husband, I've met hers, and we didn't

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<v Speaker 4>know each other before, so it's like a whole new,

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<v Speaker 4>different relationship than what we have, but we kind of

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<v Speaker 4>just picked back up where we left off and it's

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<v Speaker 4>been really beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that. I love that even though you're still

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<v Speaker 1>the same people and you can pick up where you

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<v Speaker 1>left off, you are different people now. So you said,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a different relationship, but it's still a great relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>That's that's so trul there to think of her, What

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<v Speaker 1>was it that sparked that that moment that made you

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<v Speaker 1>reach out or you did reach out.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, she was getting married and you know, we we

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<v Speaker 4>were young and single together, and so I just wanted

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<v Speaker 4>to let her know how happening am that she found

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<v Speaker 4>her person that she you know, in this stage of

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<v Speaker 4>her life. It kind of panged something in my heart

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<v Speaker 4>that we weren't at each other's weddings and we were

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<v Speaker 4>so close for so long, and ultimately, the I think

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<v Speaker 4>is like we didn't have been at each other's weddings,

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<v Speaker 4>the relationship we have now still is great and so

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<v Speaker 4>it's it's nothing that I'm like sad about, which I

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<v Speaker 4>thought that I would be. But now it's been really

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<v Speaker 4>wonderful reconnecting getting to know her in this different way,

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<v Speaker 4>and we live close to each other, which is the

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<v Speaker 4>craziest part, which just life happened.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, that is great. Has this happened to anyone here?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it actually happened to me over Thanksgiving break. I

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<v Speaker 2>mean I did it. I was really good friends with somebody,

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<v Speaker 2>and then over the years we weren't as close anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>There kind of was a bit of a falling out.

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<v Speaker 2>But I was with two other friends who were also

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<v Speaker 2>close to him, and we just saw, hey, let's hit

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<v Speaker 2>him up and see what he's doing. And we ended

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<v Speaker 2>up hanging out with him and it was so fun.

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<v Speaker 2>We had such a good time, and I'm really glad

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<v Speaker 2>that we did it, and hopefully we can all stay

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<v Speaker 2>cool again.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that. And imagine how she felt, Nina, when

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<v Speaker 1>she heard you reaching out to her. Did she talk

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<v Speaker 1>about that too.

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<v Speaker 4>She said she wanted to and she thought about doing

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<v Speaker 4>it a few times over the years. I just did it.

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<v Speaker 4>I think maybe sometimes it feels a little bit desperate,

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<v Speaker 4>but it feels really nice to have that reconnection. It's

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<v Speaker 4>not desperate, it's that one person is always waiting for it.

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<v Speaker 1>At least. I love this conversation because I know each

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<v Speaker 1>and every one of you guys, on the show, are

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about that person? Yeah, yeah, Danielle, why don't you

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<v Speaker 1>do it after we're done with the show, go make

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<v Speaker 1>a phone call.

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<v Speaker 3>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>But I've tried to find her and I can't find

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<v Speaker 1>her anymore. Like she's not even on Facebook, Like no, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I know she's still around, thank goodness, but

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<v Speaker 4>I yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>What about you? Scary.

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<v Speaker 5>When I was a kid, I was running around the

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<v Speaker 5>pomp Star Cabana Club with jet Ski Bryan as kids,

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<v Speaker 5>and we were and then we lost touch for over

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<v Speaker 5>thirty years until I saw him at a bar and

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<v Speaker 5>Hoboken and I'm like, oh my god, we recognize each other.

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<v Speaker 1>This was during the pandemic.

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<v Speaker 5>And now we've been in during the pandemic.

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<v Speaker 1>Now we've been friends.

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<v Speaker 5>Hold on, Danielle, I'm trying to tie this up nicely.

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<v Speaker 5>We've been closer than we ever were as kids. We

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<v Speaker 5>are today for five years now, run and running strong.

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<v Speaker 5>We're like the closest and bestest of friends. We got

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<v Speaker 5>back together. It's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>It happened for a reason, you know what. I think

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes that separation for a while, it turns that relationship

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<v Speaker 1>into a different relationship. When you get back with each

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<v Speaker 1>other and it's a maturity. Maybe it's a more experience

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<v Speaker 1>in life. And what you were saying, You know, you

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<v Speaker 1>guys are married now, it's a you live a whole

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<v Speaker 1>different lives now, but you still have that commonality where

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<v Speaker 1>you can be friends exactly, and.

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<v Speaker 4>We guess to just like se our more mature selves together.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you guys see that quote? I think it's from

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<v Speaker 1>Eleanor Roosevelt. Many people will walk in and out of

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<v Speaker 1>your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in

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<v Speaker 1>your heart. And someone else said, I'm looking at for quotes.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people come into your life to teach you something,

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<v Speaker 1>some stay forever, and some are there just to pass through.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, you really shouldn't discout the people who

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<v Speaker 1>are just passing through because you did learn something from them.

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<v Speaker 1>They did leave a footprint on your heart. And that's life.

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<v Speaker 3>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not like you're abandoning these people. That's just the

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<v Speaker 1>way it is. Yeah, Nate, what's up? I'm having that

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<v Speaker 1>what do we call it? Ai psychosis?

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<v Speaker 3>Because I can't remember if the conversation that we had

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<v Speaker 3>or I saw was in this room or on Instagram,

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<v Speaker 3>but it was somebody giving the analogy of a train, right,

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<v Speaker 3>and you're on a train, and that is life. Some

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<v Speaker 3>people are on your train for one stop or two stops,

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<v Speaker 3>and then they get off. Some people are on the

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<v Speaker 3>train for the whole ride. Some people get on five

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<v Speaker 3>stops in and they're on for two stops.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's life. You want to push off the train,

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<v Speaker 1>exactly right.

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<v Speaker 3>But this is a great conversation because I know there's

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<v Speaker 3>several people in my life that I would love to

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<v Speaker 3>reconnect with, and I think you just have to take

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<v Speaker 3>that step and say, hey, let's catch up.

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<v Speaker 4>Do it ate?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And also, there's something beautiful about what else is

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<v Speaker 1>in that quote I just read. Some people are there

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<v Speaker 1>just to teach you a little something about you and

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<v Speaker 1>your life, and then they're meant to leave. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>okay too. It doesn't mean there's a problem, it's just

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<v Speaker 1>the way it is.

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<v Speaker 3>Here.

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<v Speaker 1>Go back to Nina. Let's let's tell her thank you

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<v Speaker 1>for this. Nina, Look, thank you so much for letting

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<v Speaker 1>us know about this. This is sparking a conversation with

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<v Speaker 1>not only us in the room, but everyone listening to

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<v Speaker 1>our show right now. It's great thanks to.

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<v Speaker 4>You, of course, Thank you so much. Everyone just sund attack.

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<v Speaker 4>I promise it's worth it.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, we'll talk to you in seven years. The

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<v Speaker 1>elvist Ran after party, mhmm