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Speaker 1: Get your hairs together.

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Speaker 2: We're going to start to party and start the parties.

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Speaker 3: I'm ready to party the.

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Speaker 4: Elvis Duran after Party.

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Speaker 1: What a party? Are you ready for? The after Party podcast?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: So, isn't it wonderful picking up your phone and texting

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Speaker 1: someone you haven't talked to in such a long time,

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Speaker 1: And not for asking for a favor or whatever, it's

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Speaker 1: just you miss them. Can you think of someone right now?

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Speaker 1: Boom in your mind? You haven't talked to you in

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Speaker 1: a long time? Yes, yeah, and you didn't stop talking

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Speaker 1: because of a problem whatever. It's just that happens in life, right,

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Speaker 1: It's it's called growing up. Nina from across the river

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Speaker 1: in Hoboca, New Jersey. Hi, Nina, doing great. You know,

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Speaker 1: we were just talking about losing touch with people that

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Speaker 1: we were really really like in our lives and sometimes

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Speaker 1: it just naturally happens. You just go separate ways. Doesn't

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Speaker 1: mean you don't like each other. But anyway, we heard

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Speaker 1: that you actually lost touch with a good friend during

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Speaker 1: pandemic and you just reconnected with this old friend. Tell

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Speaker 1: us all about it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. So when I started my first job out of college,

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Speaker 4: I made friends with another girl who started the same

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Speaker 4: day as me. It was both of our first jobs,

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Speaker 4: and we just like hit it off right away. Maybe

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Speaker 4: could say we trauma bonded a little bit trying to

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Speaker 4: become adults together. And for a few years we were

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Speaker 4: just like the best of friends. And when the pandemic hit,

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Speaker 4: we went remote and probably like eight or nine months later,

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Speaker 4: she got a new job, I got a new job,

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Speaker 4: and yeah, there was no fight, nothing happened. We just

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Speaker 4: lost touch and I almost didn't even realize like how

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Speaker 4: much I really needed to turn my life or depended

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Speaker 4: on her until like life started to just get real

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Speaker 4: again as we've become adults and married, had relationships, and

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Speaker 4: because she got married earlier this year, and I decided

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Speaker 4: to just shoot her at test thank congratulations and how

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Speaker 4: happy I am for her having seen her younger single

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Speaker 4: days and knowing that she's in a more stable place

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Speaker 4: and all of that, and it just kicked off us

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Speaker 4: like talking again testing, and over the last three or

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Speaker 4: four months, we've ended up hanging out almost every single week.

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Speaker 4: We get dinner, a couple times a month, we hang out.

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Speaker 4: She's met my husband, I've met hers, and we didn't

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Speaker 4: know each other before, so it's like a whole new,

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Speaker 4: different relationship than what we have, but we kind of

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Speaker 4: just picked back up where we left off and it's

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Speaker 4: been really beautiful.

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Speaker 1: I love that. I love that even though you're still

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Speaker 1: the same people and you can pick up where you

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Speaker 1: left off, you are different people now. So you said,

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Speaker 1: it's a different relationship, but it's still a great relationship.

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Speaker 1: That's that's so trul there to think of her, What

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Speaker 1: was it that sparked that that moment that made you

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Speaker 1: reach out or you did reach out.

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Speaker 4: Well, she was getting married and you know, we we

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Speaker 4: were young and single together, and so I just wanted

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Speaker 4: to let her know how happening am that she found

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Speaker 4: her person that she you know, in this stage of

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Speaker 4: her life. It kind of panged something in my heart

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Speaker 4: that we weren't at each other's weddings and we were

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Speaker 4: so close for so long, and ultimately, the I think

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Speaker 4: is like we didn't have been at each other's weddings,

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Speaker 4: the relationship we have now still is great and so

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Speaker 4: it's it's nothing that I'm like sad about, which I

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Speaker 4: thought that I would be. But now it's been really

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Speaker 4: wonderful reconnecting getting to know her in this different way,

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Speaker 4: and we live close to each other, which is the

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Speaker 4: craziest part, which just life happened.

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Speaker 1: Wow, that is great. Has this happened to anyone here?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it actually happened to me over Thanksgiving break. I

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Speaker 2: mean I did it. I was really good friends with somebody,

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Speaker 2: and then over the years we weren't as close anymore.

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Speaker 2: There kind of was a bit of a falling out.

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Speaker 2: But I was with two other friends who were also

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Speaker 2: close to him, and we just saw, hey, let's hit

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Speaker 2: up hanging out with him and it was so fun.

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Speaker 2: We had such a good time, and I'm really glad

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Speaker 2: that we did it, and hopefully we can all stay

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Speaker 2: cool again.

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Speaker 1: I love that. And imagine how she felt, Nina, when

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Speaker 1: she heard you reaching out to her. Did she talk

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Speaker 1: about that too.

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Speaker 4: She said she wanted to and she thought about doing

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Speaker 4: it a few times over the years. I just did it.

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Speaker 4: I think maybe sometimes it feels a little bit desperate,

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Speaker 4: but it feels really nice to have that reconnection. It's

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Speaker 4: not desperate, it's that one person is always waiting for it.

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Speaker 1: At least. I love this conversation because I know each

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Speaker 1: and every one of you guys, on the show, are

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Speaker 1: thinking about that person? Yeah, yeah, Danielle, why don't you

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Speaker 1: do it after we're done with the show, go make

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Speaker 1: a phone call.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 1: But I've tried to find her and I can't find

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Speaker 1: her anymore. Like she's not even on Facebook, Like no, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: so I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I know she's still around, thank goodness, but

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Speaker 4: I yeah.

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Speaker 1: What about you? Scary.

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Speaker 5: When I was a kid, I was running around the

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Speaker 5: pomp Star Cabana Club with jet Ski Bryan as kids,

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Speaker 5: and we were and then we lost touch for over

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Speaker 5: thirty years until I saw him at a bar and

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Speaker 5: Hoboken and I'm like, oh my god, we recognize each other.

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Speaker 1: This was during the pandemic.

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Speaker 5: And now we've been in during the pandemic.

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Speaker 1: Now we've been friends.

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Speaker 5: Hold on, Danielle, I'm trying to tie this up nicely.

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Speaker 5: We've been closer than we ever were as kids. We

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Speaker 5: are today for five years now, run and running strong.

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Speaker 5: We're like the closest and bestest of friends. We got

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Speaker 5: back together. It's crazy.

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Speaker 1: It happened for a reason, you know what. I think

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Speaker 1: sometimes that separation for a while, it turns that relationship

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Speaker 1: into a different relationship. When you get back with each

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Speaker 1: other and it's a maturity. Maybe it's a more experience

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Speaker 1: in life. And what you were saying, You know, you

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Speaker 1: guys are married now, it's a you live a whole

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Speaker 1: different lives now, but you still have that commonality where

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Speaker 1: you can be friends exactly, and.

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Speaker 4: We guess to just like se our more mature selves together.

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Speaker 1: Did you guys see that quote? I think it's from

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Speaker 1: Eleanor Roosevelt. Many people will walk in and out of

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Speaker 1: your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in

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Speaker 1: your heart. And someone else said, I'm looking at for quotes.

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Speaker 1: Some people come into your life to teach you something,

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Speaker 1: some stay forever, and some are there just to pass through.

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Speaker 1: And you know, you really shouldn't discout the people who

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Speaker 1: are just passing through because you did learn something from them.

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Speaker 1: They did leave a footprint on your heart. And that's life.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 1: It's not like you're abandoning these people. That's just the

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Speaker 1: way it is. Yeah, Nate, what's up? I'm having that

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Speaker 1: what do we call it? Ai psychosis?

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Speaker 3: Because I can't remember if the conversation that we had

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Speaker 3: or I saw was in this room or on Instagram,

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Speaker 3: but it was somebody giving the analogy of a train, right,

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Speaker 3: and you're on a train, and that is life. Some

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Speaker 3: people are on your train for one stop or two stops,

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Speaker 3: and then they get off. Some people are on the

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Speaker 3: train for the whole ride. Some people get on five

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Speaker 3: stops in and they're on for two stops.

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Speaker 1: But that's life. You want to push off the train,

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Speaker 1: exactly right.

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Speaker 3: But this is a great conversation because I know there's

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Speaker 3: several people in my life that I would love to

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Speaker 3: reconnect with, and I think you just have to take

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Speaker 3: that step and say, hey, let's catch up.

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Speaker 4: Do it ate?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And also, there's something beautiful about what else is

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Speaker 1: in that quote I just read. Some people are there

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Speaker 1: just to teach you a little something about you and

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Speaker 1: your life, and then they're meant to leave. And that's

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Speaker 1: okay too. It doesn't mean there's a problem, it's just

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Speaker 1: the way it is.

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Speaker 3: Here.

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Speaker 1: Go back to Nina. Let's let's tell her thank you

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Speaker 1: for this. Nina, Look, thank you so much for letting

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Speaker 1: us know about this. This is sparking a conversation with

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Speaker 1: not only us in the room, but everyone listening to

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Speaker 1: our show right now. It's great thanks to.

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Speaker 4: You, of course, Thank you so much. Everyone just sund attack.

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Speaker 4: I promise it's worth it.

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Speaker 1: All right, we'll talk to you in seven years. The

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Speaker 1: elvist Ran after party, mhmm