Speaker 1: Hey, the folks. In this episode, we are coming off
Speaker 1: one of the absolutely most exhausting and exciting weeks of
Speaker 1: our entire year, book ended by a couple of jingle
Speaker 1: balls and highlighted by family milestones and a dash of
Speaker 1: holiday anxiety. And with that, welcome to this episode of
Speaker 1: Amy and TJ Robes. It felt like we bet off
Speaker 1: more than we could chew at times over the past week.
Speaker 1: But if you realize it's all started. The first thing
Speaker 1: we put on our schedule months ago was December fourteenth.
Speaker 1: We circled that date many many months ago before all
Speaker 1: this other stuff started filling in.
Speaker 2: Yes, we had a wedding to go to that we
Speaker 2: were very excited about, and we thought, you know what,
Speaker 2: who doesn't love a holiday ish wedding? So we said
Speaker 2: yes right off the bat, and you're right, that was
Speaker 2: on on our list. And then wow, did our dayance
Speaker 2: card built up from jingle ball to jingle ball basically,
Speaker 2: so we also got word of those exciting iHeart events
Speaker 2: put those on our calendars as well. But then family
Speaker 2: kind of interfered a little bit with the first jingle
Speaker 2: Ball in La which actually was going to be a
Speaker 2: big anniversary.
Speaker 1: For us, was it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was going to be our one.
Speaker 2: Year anniversary of making our red carpet debut, so one
Speaker 2: in LA last year.
Speaker 3: We have a lot of them. You're right, but no,
Speaker 3: that was the first time after.
Speaker 2: Everything that had happened, we actually stepped out official as
Speaker 2: a couple on the red carpet in La at the
Speaker 2: iHeart jingle Ball.
Speaker 1: But it was the first time we stepped out and
Speaker 1: intentionally correct had our picture.
Speaker 2: Taken that we allowed photographers, Yes, smiling there we go, yes,
Speaker 2: to take our photographs.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so you know, I was excited.
Speaker 2: But then my parents let me know they were coming
Speaker 2: in town that very week. They extended their trip a
Speaker 2: little because my daughter Analise, who if you all are
Speaker 2: fans of the podcast hopefully heard her episode when she
Speaker 2: was heading off to study abroad in Spain, came back.
Speaker 2: So it just didn't make sense for me to go
Speaker 2: to LA. But then you got to bring oh my god,
Speaker 2: I got your.
Speaker 3: Favorite girl with you to LA instead of me.
Speaker 1: So yeah, essentially, folks, we go jingle ball to jingle Ball,
Speaker 1: all right, if you will. We just had these two
Speaker 1: major events, and in between we had a lot of
Speaker 1: life that was happening. So really what was to break
Speaker 1: it down? In a week week and a half time,
Speaker 1: Robot's parents were in town, Sabine and I took a
Speaker 1: twenty four hour trip to Los Angeles. Sabine. Oh, excuse me,
Speaker 1: Analise came home from college. We had a wedding to
Speaker 1: go to. We had an Arkansas razorback basketball game to
Speaker 1: go to at Madison Square Guarden. We had a second
Speaker 1: jingle Ball to go to. Did I miss anything in that.
Speaker 2: Yes, because then Ava, my oldest daughter, had a play.
Speaker 2: We actually got front row seats to an NYU play
Speaker 2: that she was starring in, also on the same day
Speaker 2: as the wedding and the day after the second jingle ball.
Speaker 1: So it was it was all exhausting, and there was
Speaker 1: a time, I guess I looked at you and said,
Speaker 1: have we agreed to do too much? And I was
Speaker 1: almost hoping something would get canceled or something would fall through,
Speaker 1: and nothing ever did. But it was exhausting, but it
Speaker 1: was fun. I'm glad after the fact now that we
Speaker 1: did all that we did.
Speaker 2: Well, there's nothing that I think we could have or
Speaker 2: should have said no to because it was all meaningful
Speaker 2: in different ways and we were.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 2: But and it was something that we actually enjoyed, even
Speaker 2: though we did not get a lot of sleep.
Speaker 3: According to our new aura rings, that's what they're called,
Speaker 3: right that we've been wearing.
Speaker 2: We I think we had a couple nights. You got
Speaker 2: less than three hours. I got less than four hours.
Speaker 2: But we made it through.
Speaker 4: Here we are.
Speaker 2: I mean, who doesn't do this during the holidays. I
Speaker 2: know you have joking holidays extend themselves. You're not only
Speaker 2: are you going to either it's a holiday party or
Speaker 2: a wedding, or a family obligation or some sort of
Speaker 2: celebration that is intellectually yes, sounds fun, but then an
Speaker 2: execution actually is exhausting.
Speaker 3: Everyone's doing these things. In addition to if you're.
Speaker 2: A parent, you're buying all of the Christmas lists up
Speaker 2: that your children have given you or that you are
Speaker 2: obligated to buy for other members of your family. So
Speaker 2: you're juggling the busiest social and maybe professional time of
Speaker 2: your life with also the busiest personal time in your life.
Speaker 3: When you're trying to heart.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're exhausting it. Just this is why I don't
Speaker 1: like the holidays.
Speaker 3: This is why I put thought mildly just now, I
Speaker 3: hate the holiday. That's what you say.
Speaker 1: I just this is this time, it just because, not
Speaker 1: just for what it's become. You go out there, you
Speaker 1: go to any mall, and it makes you feel good
Speaker 1: when you see the decorations, but you look at the faces,
Speaker 1: look at the looks on people's faces. For a whole
Speaker 1: variety of reasons. It's stress. It's sometimes it's stress over money,
Speaker 1: stress over time. And I get it, but it becomes
Speaker 1: too often from what I have seen and what I've experienced,
Speaker 1: is just you use the word obligation and I just
Speaker 1: sank in my seat a little further. It's just I
Speaker 1: gotta get this, I gotta get this, I gotta find
Speaker 1: this thing, I gotta save this money I got it's
Speaker 1: just exhausting.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're trying to create the map. I mean, I
Speaker 2: can speak for myself. I guess I'm and I think
Speaker 2: a lot of moms out there are trying to keep
Speaker 2: the magic alive for our kids at all costs, no
Speaker 2: matter how old they are, at the expense of perhaps
Speaker 2: our mental health. And yes, then you add with it
Speaker 2: all of the other fun night outs that this time
Speaker 2: of year usually brings about that ends up making you
Speaker 2: just fraid. I mean, yes, it's a lot, but I
Speaker 2: don't know. It's fun, it's life. It's a part of
Speaker 2: enjoying things to the maximum. Sometimes it comes at the
Speaker 2: expense of your.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't want to say mental health because that's not
Speaker 2: a good thing, but just overall fatigue.
Speaker 3: What like you're yeah, you're gonna be tired. But was
Speaker 3: it worth it? Was it fun? Did you enjoy yourself?
Speaker 1: Those are two different. Look the experience with the stuff
Speaker 1: we did the past week, that was all fun. It
Speaker 1: was a good time. It was exhausting. We chose that.
Speaker 1: I'm talking exceperate from that. I'm just talking about the
Speaker 1: holiday season and what comes with the stress of trying
Speaker 1: to get this gift and get that. And you, anybody
Speaker 1: will give you hell if you in any way suggest
Speaker 1: you don't like the holidays, and I don't. I absolutely
Speaker 1: do not like it. This will be the time of
Speaker 1: good cheer and all these things. I got the tree
Speaker 1: up here. It makes me happy when I walk in
Speaker 1: and see it. I have my favorite Christmas movie running
Speaker 1: twenty four hours a day in this home. I enjoy
Speaker 1: those things. Stepping out and seeing the other people's experience
Speaker 1: stepping out Sometimes and look, I should go volunin, I
Speaker 1: should go do something. I would I would have a
Speaker 1: better Christmas experience. But too often it's just I gotta
Speaker 1: get this, have a deadline to get this. Did I
Speaker 1: beat the cutoff to get it there by Christmas Day?
Speaker 1: All these things that I forget this family member too,
Speaker 1: I make sure all those things are just.
Speaker 2: We have had some new family I guess traditions now
Speaker 2: that we've been able to have this year that we
Speaker 2: haven't had in years past. It was kind of cool
Speaker 2: when my parents were in town. You guys had just
Speaker 2: come back from la There was an overlap and we
Speaker 2: had some gift exchanges happening. Was that at all awkward
Speaker 2: for you at this point?
Speaker 1: No? I mean I always like getting stuff, so that's
Speaker 1: just a me thing. But this is a real thing
Speaker 1: this and a lot of people can relate to you.
Speaker 1: You have new families and new blended families, new members
Speaker 1: of the family, and who do you get a gift for?
Speaker 1: And what is too much? And to make sure I
Speaker 1: get that person something because in case they get me something,
Speaker 1: and these and then opening gifts in front of each
Speaker 1: other is always a weird moment. Oh my goodness, mine
Speaker 1: is in a Tiffany box and is in a paper bag?
Speaker 1: I mean, do you want to all those things? And
Speaker 1: we have that anxiety going into this a certain degree.
Speaker 1: This Christmas we're going to it's gonna be a different,
Speaker 1: a first Christmas for us. Yeah, together you, me and
Speaker 1: Sabine and Alas and Ava will be waking up together
Speaker 1: on Christmas Day, exchanging gifts. Yes, it's it's new. It is. No,
Speaker 1: it is.
Speaker 2: And you're surrounded by girls once again, which I guess
Speaker 2: you're getting used to perhaps, or can one ever get
Speaker 2: used to that?
Speaker 1: Well? No, what is it? There is? You'll admit that
Speaker 1: there's a lot of emotion sometimes and trying to read
Speaker 1: everybody's and how you all play off each other. I
Speaker 1: have picked up on that a little bit. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: And it is not a matter of what I needed
Speaker 1: to hold time. I just need to stay silent. It's
Speaker 1: not like, Okay, they're doing this, so I should pick
Speaker 1: option B. No, the whole time, I just need to
Speaker 1: shut up and let y'all work it out.
Speaker 3: Is that your strategy to get through it?
Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah, I'm gonna be fine.
Speaker 2: Oh wow. Yeah, So this is going to be a
Speaker 2: lot of first and I'm excited about it.
Speaker 3: You are a little nervous about it or no.
Speaker 1: No, I mean you can't have would be a little anxious.
Speaker 1: You're opening gifts in front of each other, You're working
Speaker 1: up together on the most important of holidays to a
Speaker 1: lot of folks. So no, it's just it's brand new. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's brand new for everybody. So it's as much as
Speaker 1: we've already spent a holiday together. It's just Thanksgiving, not
Speaker 1: all of us, but most of us, and at least
Speaker 1: was the only one that wasn't there. But yeah, it's yeah,
Speaker 1: it's new.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Thanksgiving went really, really well. So I'm very very hopeful
Speaker 2: about this Christmas week. And I do think having gone
Speaker 2: through this busy week, we all kind of were in
Speaker 2: it together. We were in and out of each other's lives.
Speaker 2: You were, they're supporting Ava at her play. What'd you
Speaker 2: think of the play?
Speaker 1: By the way, I was worried that I didn't get it,
Speaker 1: and then afterwards everybody else said no, no, no, they were
Speaker 1: in the same boat. I was very nervous that I
Speaker 1: was a little too low brow well to understand the
Speaker 1: nuance of the play. But no, no, no, I was It
Speaker 1: was interesting and it's again knowing Ava as long as
Speaker 1: I've known her, to see her do her thing on
Speaker 1: a stage like that, it was it was fun.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so this was n YU play.
Speaker 2: I love what I've seen from n Yu and some
Speaker 2: of the productions i've seen Ava, and they're all student run.
Speaker 2: Their student written, their students acted, their student directed, their
Speaker 2: student lighted. So it's just really cool. You see everybody
Speaker 2: crafting or honing their crafts. And this one was called
Speaker 2: do you care that I'm like this? And yeah, it was.
Speaker 2: This was the first time you've you've seen her be
Speaker 2: in her band. We've seen a couple of her performances there,
Speaker 2: but this was her first play, so that was a
Speaker 2: that was a big deal and that was certainly fun
Speaker 2: and we that was was that the last tough thing
Speaker 2: we had to do from jingle Ball to jingle Ball
Speaker 2: in terms of where we were running around the city
Speaker 2: getting from place you started in La I don't know.
Speaker 1: We were exhausted, but I can't This was the best
Speaker 1: and it might have been the most meaningful week in
Speaker 1: our relationship. Yeah, just the blending of families, how easy
Speaker 1: it was. There were no introductions being made, it was
Speaker 1: just a natural flow to the family. It really might
Speaker 1: have been. We started with your parents coming to town
Speaker 1: and you know, just Sabine and I getting a chance
Speaker 1: to take that trip together. And it was a twenty
Speaker 1: four This is a eleven year old kid that I
Speaker 1: pulled out of school. You all know now, Yes, I
Speaker 1: pulled her out of school to go to a party
Speaker 1: in La A hundred percent did that. And just she
Speaker 1: and I got that time together and just the two
Speaker 1: of us and we were up under each other the
Speaker 1: tire trip. It was just, yeah, it's a memory. I
Speaker 1: think she's going to have the rest of her life.
Speaker 1: And it was just just a blast. So that was
Speaker 1: that was a really this jump start of and the
Speaker 1: highlight maybe even of the past week.
Speaker 2: Yeah. At one point when I texted you, I said,
Speaker 2: how's it going? You said, this has been the most
Speaker 2: fun I've ever had with Sabine. And that says a lot,
Speaker 2: because you always have a lot of fun with her.
Speaker 2: And the cool thing is when you were with Sabine
Speaker 2: and I was still waiting on Analyst to come back
Speaker 2: from Spain and Ava was doing her NYU thing, I
Speaker 2: actually had a rare couple of days with my parents,
Speaker 2: just the three of us, and I don't think we've
Speaker 2: had that since it might have it might have been
Speaker 2: decades since we had that much time together. So I
Speaker 2: thought it was kind of a we always hate being
Speaker 2: a part or at least i'll speak for myself, I
Speaker 2: hate being apart from you, and I hated not being
Speaker 2: an lay.
Speaker 1: Speak for me.
Speaker 3: But it was kind of cool because you got to
Speaker 3: have a very special.
Speaker 2: Twenty four hours, as you say, with Sabine, and I
Speaker 2: got that time with my parents too, that I think
Speaker 2: at a certain point sometimes we all take for granted,
Speaker 2: but we're usually surrounded by spouses or friends or children
Speaker 2: where you don't really get one on one time with people,
Speaker 2: or at least I find I don't anymore as much.
Speaker 2: So anytime you can have that and acknowledge it, it's
Speaker 2: a pretty cool thing. So in a weird way, as
Speaker 2: we started these very busy busy for this incredibly busy week,
Speaker 2: we kind of had a beat with just kind of
Speaker 2: a one on one in a fun way, but in
Speaker 2: a really meaningful way. So I thought that was pretty cool.
Speaker 2: We both had shared experiences.
Speaker 1: Your presence was still felt in La since you pretty
Speaker 1: much outfitted to be yes that jacket, that white leather
Speaker 1: jacket she wore on the red carpet, which he was
Speaker 1: very excited about, came courtesy of you. I had never
Speaker 1: been worn.
Speaker 3: No, I have never worn it.
Speaker 2: I thought it looked so cool, and then every time
Speaker 2: I put it on, I didn't feel like I was
Speaker 2: cool enough for it. So yeah, when Sabine needed something
Speaker 2: to make her outfit, saying, it just seemed like the
Speaker 2: right fit. And it looks so much better on her
Speaker 2: than it ever looked on me.
Speaker 1: She looked great out there. And the hair, oh my goodness,
Speaker 1: the hair situation out there. I wish you were here
Speaker 1: to tell the story yourself right now. But all poor thing,
Speaker 1: poor poor thing. They always allow for hair and makeup
Speaker 1: when we travel to these things, and I don't do
Speaker 1: hair or makeup, so I was letting Sabine have my time.
Speaker 1: She just wanted her hair pulled back. And she went
Speaker 1: into this room and these women, oh for too. The
Speaker 1: first two just couldn't do anything with her hair. They
Speaker 1: didn't know what to do. It just didn't work. And
Speaker 1: I sat there and just watched it play out.
Speaker 3: I handle it.
Speaker 1: She was a champ. She just sat there. She made
Speaker 1: a couple lives over at me. Because we both were
Speaker 1: kind of laughing internally knowing what was going on. Then
Speaker 1: the third lad, I wish I could give her credit
Speaker 1: the hair stylist. She hooked her up and it looks great.
Speaker 1: But that was a fun little moment with Sabine. And yes,
Speaker 1: she's a little girl with some crazy early hair. And
Speaker 1: there were seven white women in the room who had
Speaker 1: no idea what.
Speaker 3: They were like, I don't know what did you say?
Speaker 2: Hey, no, I just let it play out really and
Speaker 2: then eventually it all worked out.
Speaker 3: She looked fantastic.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah. But the third lady, the hairstyle, she was,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, she hooked it up. She was great. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: it looked great.
Speaker 2: So when we came back, or when you guys were
Speaker 2: back here in New York, before we went to the
Speaker 2: Jingle Ball, we also decided to bring in an old
Speaker 2: friend who he hadn't seen in a long time, and
Speaker 2: it was really wonderful to have her come and do
Speaker 2: hair for the three girls, me, Annalise and Sabine for
Speaker 2: the red carpet. But it was fun to find that
Speaker 2: moment to reconnect. And I know this time, this is
Speaker 2: the time of year where people start to remember who
Speaker 2: they want to reconnect with and that was a really
Speaker 2: fun one this week as well with Dora.
Speaker 3: She's amazing.
Speaker 1: We had some trip we've traveled internationally with her and
Speaker 1: it's yeah, it was good to have her in the room.
Speaker 1: It was fun to see you girls getting ready for
Speaker 1: the jingle Ball and look the both of that, I'm
Speaker 1: not sure which one I could say. I you know,
Speaker 1: we had a pretty good set up in Lallah because
Speaker 1: we had food and access to the bathroom. All that
Speaker 1: was easy, isn't that. Yeah, that's so that's key at
Speaker 1: any event like that, But the one here in La
Speaker 1: you know, in New York, and this is true as well.
Speaker 1: We we had to have a discussion with our kids
Speaker 1: right before we walked out on a red carpet. They
Speaker 1: didn't have to do it at all. They could have
Speaker 1: just kept it pushing, didn't have to be in front
Speaker 1: of a camera. And look, that was no small thing,
Speaker 1: and a discussion had to be had ahead of time.
Speaker 1: And I was still a little nervous about it, but
Speaker 1: being gave me the thumbs up in.
Speaker 2: The Okay, Yeah, it was the first time that we well,
Speaker 2: obviously it's only been a year since the two of
Speaker 2: us were on the red carpet.
Speaker 3: So for us to go on the red carpet.
Speaker 2: With one of our daughters a piece all together, the
Speaker 2: four of us standing there, that was a decision.
Speaker 3: Yes, that wasn't just happenstance.
Speaker 2: We talked to our daughters about it and everybody was
Speaker 2: okay with it, and so we went for it.
Speaker 3: But it is you know, yeah, though, that.
Speaker 2: Wasn't just something that we didn't give deep thought to
Speaker 2: before we walked down or walked out on that red carpet.
Speaker 1: And I gave Sabina every out but almost you sure?
Speaker 1: Are you sure? Because we don't have it and we
Speaker 1: could do this, and we could do that and get
Speaker 1: her that. And she was the one who, like we said,
Speaker 1: along all the entire part of our relationship, entirety of
Speaker 1: our relationship, we let them lead the way. That was
Speaker 1: no exception. I asked her what she wanted to do
Speaker 1: and what she was comfortable with, and she led the way.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And look, this has been a long road coming.
Speaker 2: So we've been together for more than two years, and
Speaker 2: this is this was our first Thanksgiving that we got
Speaker 2: to spend actually together. And this is going to be
Speaker 2: the first Christmas Eve and Christmas Morning we wake up together.
Speaker 3: But we did that for our daughters.
Speaker 2: We let them lead the way and we wanted them
Speaker 2: to be ready before any of this started. So yeah,
Speaker 2: you know, as we sorry, as we've been busy and
Speaker 2: crazy and frenetic, and we have the habit because we're
Speaker 2: working together all the time of still saying I miss you,
Speaker 2: like we can be together, but it's you get caught
Speaker 2: up in the busyness of the season. And so I'm
Speaker 2: really looking forward to recognizing how cool it is that
Speaker 2: we get to spend quiet time together, quiet time with
Speaker 2: our daughters for the first time since we've been together.
Speaker 2: And so this is really big, important month, and I'm
Speaker 2: trying to remember and not get lost in the craziness
Speaker 2: of it all, but really try to remember how grateful
Speaker 2: I am that we're at the place we're at.
Speaker 1: All right, folks, we'll stay with us here on this
Speaker 1: episode of Amy and TJ. When we come back, we'll
Speaker 1: tell you about a first for the two of us
Speaker 1: in our relationship, something called a coaching session. Also, we
Speaker 1: ended up in Madison Square Garden for a second time
Speaker 1: in a week, and I had an unexpected visit from
Speaker 1: a family member. Stay with us, Welcome back, everybody to
Speaker 1: this episode of Amy and TJ Robes. We were talking
Speaker 1: about the busy week we have had. We I don't
Speaker 1: know how this happened. We ended up in the middle
Speaker 1: of this busy, this exhausting week. It's a perfect time
Speaker 1: to work on our relationship. Yeah, because that's usually when
Speaker 1: it's best to talk about your emotions, is when you're
Speaker 1: dead tired. So this was good. I think great planning
Speaker 1: on your part. Yeah, well, I just we this thing.
Speaker 2: So we keep butting heads about. It's not what they say,
Speaker 2: it's not about communication, it's about comprehension. And I felt
Speaker 2: like we weren't comprehending one another.
Speaker 3: So I've been I've been listening to this I I'm
Speaker 3: not going to pick the bait.
Speaker 1: Can you take the butt? Can you give me something?
Speaker 2: But okay, I acknowledge that was funny and a wonderful
Speaker 2: attempted humor. But I'm reading this book or listening to
Speaker 2: this book called Secure Love, and it's all about knowing attachments.
Speaker 1: Here she goes, I've been reading this book.
Speaker 2: I felt like, So I said, I was hoping that
Speaker 2: you would also maybe listen to the book or read
Speaker 2: the book, or go to one coaching session with one
Speaker 2: of these designated therapists who are linked to this book
Speaker 2: and supposedly help you work.
Speaker 3: On better communications.
Speaker 2: So yes, you agreed, which was very sweet and I
Speaker 2: appreciated it, and we did one coaching session and I
Speaker 2: felt like I felt I felt like I had a
Speaker 2: little bit better of an understanding about how or what my.
Speaker 3: Strategy is going to be the next time we have conflict.
Speaker 2: So I felt like I definitely got to take away
Speaker 2: from it. It was a little it wasn't exactly what
Speaker 2: I was expecting.
Speaker 3: But you said you came out of it feeling neutral.
Speaker 3: Is that what you said to me?
Speaker 1: I think that nothing foul? Yeah, I mean I didn't.
Speaker 1: I have no no reaction to it at all. Nothing.
Speaker 1: There was no updown, no just but you were like,
Speaker 1: if you wanted to do it again, I would say, fine,
Speaker 1: go and do it that same person again. I was fine,
Speaker 1: I have no reaction.
Speaker 2: I So I felt like, at the very least, it
Speaker 2: was a little bit of a release and so far,
Speaker 2: so good, We're doing great.
Speaker 1: After the coaching session, yeah, it was just what I needed.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so that but anyway, I felt like, Okay, I
Speaker 2: thought that started the week off right.
Speaker 1: So that was the week off, right, Okay, you okay,
Speaker 1: that's what you got out of it. That's okay, good
Speaker 1: we is that the same? What was the day? Then
Speaker 1: we had to go in and we did podcast tapings
Speaker 1: on that Tuesday day, Yes, And then we had a
Speaker 1: Zoom meeting business call at six pm. And then the Arkansas.
Speaker 3: Razorbacks, Yes, played Michigan.
Speaker 1: And Madison Square Garden that night at nine pm.
Speaker 2: We got back after twelve midnight and you get up
Speaker 2: at three am and I get up at four am.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I don't even think we.
Speaker 2: Slept more than two and a half three hours that night.
Speaker 3: But they won and it was worth it.
Speaker 1: It was azing it.
Speaker 3: I mean, it was such a good game. It was fantastic.
Speaker 1: And thank you to Brian Rain, Sardine and Becca Bradley.
Speaker 1: Want to thank them for taking care of us with
Speaker 1: the tickets. Arkansas folks always take good care, so thank
Speaker 1: you all very much. But that was a really big
Speaker 1: deal to have the Razorbacks in town. So we weren't
Speaker 1: going to.
Speaker 3: Miss that game, yes, exactly.
Speaker 1: But I almost didn't make the meeting we had earlier.
Speaker 2: You were asleep on the couch at five fifty pm
Speaker 2: and I was like, babe, you know we've got this
Speaker 2: this zoom like in ten minutes.
Speaker 3: You're like, I'll be fine. I'm like, do you want
Speaker 3: me to get you an espresso?
Speaker 2: Should I go find you a five hour energy You're like,
Speaker 2: I'll be fine, I'll be fine, and like, yeah, you
Speaker 2: didn't say much in the meeting, but you were physically present.
Speaker 1: Correct, check what was my presence really needed? Yes, but
Speaker 1: I need to say anything.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, everyone always wants you to say something. But
Speaker 2: your eyes were open and you were present, so I
Speaker 2: guess technically you won.
Speaker 1: So we go through Wednesday and this was the This
Speaker 1: was another highlight of the week, and this was unexpected.
Speaker 1: I don't get to see family a lot because I
Speaker 1: don't go back home a lot. And even when I
Speaker 1: go back to the state of Arkansas, I end up
Speaker 1: in northwest Arkansas and the University of Arkansas instead of
Speaker 1: on the other side of the state.
Speaker 2: And your family is West Memphis versus Fayettel.
Speaker 1: Yeah, sorry, but I don't see family lot. So when
Speaker 1: my cousin, my baby cousin, and she was going to
Speaker 1: be in town US for a night for a conference,
Speaker 1: we had to go out and see her. That was
Speaker 1: on Thursday night. It was your first time meeting my
Speaker 1: baby cousin shar Day, who was who lives in Nashville.
Speaker 1: But she is my She's just such a sweetie.
Speaker 3: She was awesome.
Speaker 2: First of all, I knew she had to be special
Speaker 2: for you to agree on a very bitterly cold Thursday
Speaker 2: night to go to Times Square And you know what,
Speaker 2: I know it's festive if you're a tourist, but if
Speaker 2: you live here, that is not the place you go
Speaker 2: during the holiday season on a Thursday night. So I
Speaker 2: knew if you were like, we're going, that she had
Speaker 2: to be special.
Speaker 3: And you know what she was. I mean it was
Speaker 3: she is so sweet.
Speaker 2: Just her. You know, people say you can read energy,
Speaker 2: but she just had this beautiful, joyful energy about her.
Speaker 2: Sweet sweet sweet And I could see the family resemblance.
Speaker 2: I could see the family smile and laughter. I could
Speaker 2: see your sister and her a little bit like. It
Speaker 2: was really cool. And I always appreciate getting to know you.
Speaker 2: You more when I get to meet your family. It's
Speaker 2: just I love I love. Yeah, And she was awesome.
Speaker 1: That's my girl. You show me that picture of us
Speaker 1: and I'm like, yeah, the family resemblance.
Speaker 2: See it right, nuts, Yeah, I mean she absolutely could
Speaker 2: be your other sister.
Speaker 3: You guys look so much alike.
Speaker 1: I didn't realize I looked that much like somebody you
Speaker 1: do elso on Earth. And then we wrapped it up
Speaker 1: on Saturday. We had a wedding to go to before
Speaker 1: the play, before the play in Harlem. Yes, and you
Speaker 1: know what you've done, you have before. But I haven't
Speaker 1: been to a wedding in which they have to make
Speaker 1: an announcement that there has been a sighting of the bride. Yes,
Speaker 1: you're not making this up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so my I have been to a wedding of
Speaker 2: a dear, dear friend and she's listening. She knows who
Speaker 2: she is or her wedding started two hours after the
Speaker 2: time it was printed on the invitation, two hours, two hours.
Speaker 1: You don't want to say who it is.
Speaker 2: Everyone who knows me who's listening to is exactly the
Speaker 2: wedding I'm talking about, And I love you.
Speaker 1: The first name, du last name Nesca. Okay, that's who
Speaker 1: it was.
Speaker 3: Okay, So I thought I had seen it all.
Speaker 2: In fact, I even joked about it because we were
Speaker 2: running a little we got nervous because there was crazy
Speaker 2: traffic around my apartment and we thought, oh my god.
Speaker 1: I thought we were going to be l.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we gave ourselves forty five minutes we left.
Speaker 2: We left at twelve fifteen for a one pm wedding
Speaker 2: on the invitation, right, So we're stuck in traffic and
Speaker 2: TJ's like, we are going to be late.
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 2: You were looking at the clock and the uber and
Speaker 2: the clock and we made up time on the West
Speaker 2: Side Highway. You're like, okay, we're gonna have two minutes
Speaker 2: to spare. You ready to run like we are. We
Speaker 2: don't want to be late. We get there and we
Speaker 2: make it just fine with like what four or five
Speaker 2: minutes to spare. Okay, But when we walk in, there's
Speaker 2: like six other people there, and I'm thinking ret row
Speaker 2: because I had just told you about the wedding.
Speaker 3: I'd been to where yep I was.
Speaker 2: I too, thought I was going to be late, and
Speaker 2: realized that I was the only person there. So it
Speaker 2: was kind of history repeating itself.
Speaker 3: Yes, well but no.
Speaker 1: We go in, we get a glass champagne. Everything's fine,
Speaker 1: Everything is fine. Now, the time starts going by a
Speaker 1: little bit and the efficient stands up there and he
Speaker 1: actually makes an announcement and says there's been a sighting
Speaker 1: of the bride of the bride, and we're told she's
Speaker 1: two minutes out. Yeah, okay. Thirty minutes later, she still
Speaker 1: was still not a bride. Now. I wasn't worried about
Speaker 1: anything until the groom started mingling, keeping.
Speaker 2: The guests busy so as to not really recognize that
Speaker 2: the wedding hasn't started yet.
Speaker 1: Can I refresh your drink? It was talk about it.
Speaker 2: Where drims started getting passed around, which I had never
Speaker 2: seen happen while we're sitting.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I was like, okay, I actually.
Speaker 3: Was a little hungry. I'll take some arada and I did.
Speaker 3: I had some. Yeah, it felt Yeah, it was good.
Speaker 1: So the wedding does finally, I think an hour and
Speaker 1: ten minutes wait, and when it started again, we had
Speaker 1: allotted for this time, so it's not like we were
Speaker 1: running behind or anything. It was just funny. Yes, it
Speaker 1: was one of the funnier weddings I've ever attended.
Speaker 2: So beautiful bride she is. I I can go ahead
Speaker 2: and describe a white, blonde Jewish woman if it was
Speaker 2: a Jewish wedding marrying a black non Jewish man, right,
Speaker 2: but it was all taking place. Apparently this was the
Speaker 2: first Jewish wedding to ever take place at a Muslim
Speaker 2: center in Harlem.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's what they say.
Speaker 2: And so the bride and her she was flanked by
Speaker 2: her father and I can only guess maybe her stepfather.
Speaker 2: She had two men on either side of her, older
Speaker 2: gentleman fatherlike figures. But in order for them to walk
Speaker 2: down the aisle, they had to split and walk around
Speaker 2: a statue of Malcolm X. And it just wasn't lost
Speaker 2: on us how interesting this New York wedding was.
Speaker 1: You know what that that's a uniquely New York experience.
Speaker 3: Where else could that happen?
Speaker 1: They then again they're telling it, this is the first
Speaker 1: time a Jewish wedding has taking place in this center.
Speaker 1: It's the Malcolm X Spettish Baz. The Muslim center was
Speaker 1: one hundred and sixty fish. Yeah, that's where it's taking place.
Speaker 1: And they're a huge life size statue of him.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And to think that you have to walk around Malcolm
Speaker 1: X a Jewish woman to get up there to get married.
Speaker 3: It's just it was amazing.
Speaker 1: It's such a You're right, a New York experience.
Speaker 2: It really was, and the wedding was great, It was
Speaker 2: fantastic and it was so fun. But that those are
Speaker 2: the kind of moments where you couldn't I don't think
Speaker 2: you could write that into a script in a movie
Speaker 2: and people would believe it, they think, come on, but no,
Speaker 2: it was actually taking place, and it's one of the
Speaker 2: like New York is just a breeding ground for those
Speaker 2: types of yeah, of moments that you I don't think
Speaker 2: could exp to happen anywhere else.
Speaker 3: And it wasn't lost on us.
Speaker 1: Okay, you know, very totally forgot this mentioned what the
Speaker 1: nineteen twenties speak easy theme.
Speaker 2: Oh yes, so we're all dressed up like we were
Speaker 2: in the Gilded Age too, which added to.
Speaker 3: The ambiance and everything we were experiencing. It was like
Speaker 3: all these genres mashing up.
Speaker 1: That was funny because it took us. We didn't have time.
Speaker 1: We thought we'd have enough time to go back and
Speaker 1: change before going to Ava's play. So you and I
Speaker 1: show up looking like an American gangsta.
Speaker 4: And a flapper like twenties just but you know what
Speaker 4: for the theater groups like for the you know, the
Speaker 4: theatrical the NYU Thespian community.
Speaker 2: We weren't believe were we were fine? Like it was like, yeah, right,
Speaker 2: Like who doesn't want to dress like that?
Speaker 3: On Saturday night.
Speaker 1: The CAF that off. That is where I was sitting
Speaker 1: where after it was done in the lobby waiting on
Speaker 1: you all, and you came out from the restroom to
Speaker 1: get me and my mouth a drop because that's when
Speaker 1: we got the news about ABC News and remember that, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was weird. That was the last thing that happened
Speaker 1: us to cap off this week. You're like, you're not
Speaker 1: gonna believe this.
Speaker 3: Guess what this headline says.
Speaker 1: Isn't that amazing? I couldn't help but stop and to think, Wow,
Speaker 1: did we do that much damage?
Speaker 2: Uh?
Speaker 3: Sixty dollars the damage? I don't think so.
Speaker 2: And maybe perhaps just to explain what we're specifically referencing
Speaker 2: here is.
Speaker 1: Everybody knows that story.
Speaker 3: Well I know, but I feel like we should just
Speaker 3: at least acknowledge.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're talking about the fact that ABC decided or
Speaker 2: Disney decided to settle with Donald Trump, who sued ABC
Speaker 2: News and George Stephanopoulos for making the false.
Speaker 3: Assertion that Donald Trump had been found Was it legally
Speaker 3: liable for raping a woman instead of sexually assaulting her.
Speaker 2: So the word rape versus sexual assault, big legal distinction
Speaker 2: and a big fine if you want to call it.
Speaker 2: That at least is what ABC agreed to pay. And yeah,
Speaker 2: it's big news. And Trump's now well taking his win
Speaker 2: and suing a couple other news agencies.
Speaker 3: Let's see what happens with those lawsuits.
Speaker 2: But yeah, he is laid down the law about what
Speaker 2: he's going to accept and what he's not, and he
Speaker 2: follows through when he says he's going to do something gray.
Speaker 1: That's the last thing I remember about our night out
Speaker 1: that I say capped it all. If it wasn't some
Speaker 1: victory or anything, or don't wish ill of them or
Speaker 1: anything like that, but it's just a matter. I remember
Speaker 1: that was a stamp on in the evening for some reason.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and yeah, it is interesting.
Speaker 1: But again, those things make you think, and that always
Speaker 1: may always stop and think, wow, I did that, anything
Speaker 1: I did that costs them that much money?
Speaker 3: Apparently a distraction was just too costly.
Speaker 1: No, I just didn't. I just stopped and thought, you
Speaker 1: can't help. But sometimes think about those things, something like
Speaker 1: that comes up, and I was just I couldn't believe it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I couldn't believe it. So what a week we've had,
Speaker 1: and what a week we've got.
Speaker 3: But you don't have to take a deep side.
Speaker 1: I do.
Speaker 3: I got a couple of things to get I thought
Speaker 3: you said you were done.
Speaker 1: I'm not done.
Speaker 3: You're not done.
Speaker 1: You had a couple more.
Speaker 3: Things we have.
Speaker 2: I think a really fun week ahead of us where
Speaker 2: we can actually do a little relaxing too. I hope
Speaker 2: all of you listening can do the same, maybe wind
Speaker 2: down a little bit, maybe you have a few more
Speaker 2: things to get done. But once you do, just I
Speaker 2: don't know. I want to make sure I take the
Speaker 2: time to to soak it in and to just be
Speaker 2: and not We've just been doing so much, so let's
Speaker 2: just let's just all be for a little while.
Speaker 1: All right. But I appreciate that advice, will try to
Speaker 1: adhere to it. But to everybody out there, please enjoy
Speaker 1: and enjoy your families. I mean not to sound more
Speaker 1: of it, but really you just you never know, you
Speaker 1: never never know, so enjoy them, enjoy the time with
Speaker 1: them if you have it, so appreciate its always. I'm TJ.
Speaker 3: Holmes and I'm Amy Robot.
Speaker 2: Happy holidays, everybody,