WEBVTT - From Jingle Ball to Jingle Ball

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, the folks. In this episode, we are coming off

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<v Speaker 1>one of the absolutely most exhausting and exciting weeks of

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<v Speaker 1>our entire year, book ended by a couple of jingle

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<v Speaker 1>balls and highlighted by family milestones and a dash of

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<v Speaker 1>holiday anxiety. And with that, welcome to this episode of

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<v Speaker 1>Amy and TJ Robes. It felt like we bet off

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<v Speaker 1>more than we could chew at times over the past week.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you realize it's all started. The first thing

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<v Speaker 1>we put on our schedule months ago was December fourteenth.

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<v Speaker 1>We circled that date many many months ago before all

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<v Speaker 1>this other stuff started filling in.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, we had a wedding to go to that we

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<v Speaker 2>were very excited about, and we thought, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>who doesn't love a holiday ish wedding? So we said

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<v Speaker 2>yes right off the bat, and you're right, that was

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<v Speaker 2>on on our list. And then wow, did our dayance

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<v Speaker 2>card built up from jingle ball to jingle ball basically,

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<v Speaker 2>so we also got word of those exciting iHeart events

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<v Speaker 2>put those on our calendars as well. But then family

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<v Speaker 2>kind of interfered a little bit with the first jingle

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<v Speaker 2>Ball in La which actually was going to be a

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<v Speaker 2>big anniversary.

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<v Speaker 1>For us, was it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it was going to be our one.

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<v Speaker 2>Year anniversary of making our red carpet debut, so one

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<v Speaker 2>in LA last year.

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<v Speaker 3>We have a lot of them. You're right, but no,

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<v Speaker 3>that was the first time after.

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<v Speaker 2>Everything that had happened, we actually stepped out official as

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<v Speaker 2>a couple on the red carpet in La at the

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<v Speaker 2>iHeart jingle Ball.

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<v Speaker 1>But it was the first time we stepped out and

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<v Speaker 1>intentionally correct had our picture.

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<v Speaker 2>Taken that we allowed photographers, Yes, smiling there we go, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>to take our photographs.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so you know, I was excited.

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<v Speaker 2>But then my parents let me know they were coming

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<v Speaker 2>in town that very week. They extended their trip a

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<v Speaker 2>little because my daughter Analise, who if you all are

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<v Speaker 2>fans of the podcast hopefully heard her episode when she

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<v Speaker 2>was heading off to study abroad in Spain, came back.

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<v Speaker 2>So it just didn't make sense for me to go

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<v Speaker 2>to LA. But then you got to bring oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>I got your.

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<v Speaker 3>Favorite girl with you to LA instead of me.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, essentially, folks, we go jingle ball to jingle Ball,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, if you will. We just had these two

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<v Speaker 1>major events, and in between we had a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>life that was happening. So really what was to break

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<v Speaker 1>it down? In a week week and a half time,

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<v Speaker 1>Robot's parents were in town, Sabine and I took a

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<v Speaker 1>twenty four hour trip to Los Angeles. Sabine. Oh, excuse me,

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<v Speaker 1>Analise came home from college. We had a wedding to

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<v Speaker 1>go to. We had an Arkansas razorback basketball game to

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<v Speaker 1>go to at Madison Square Guarden. We had a second

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<v Speaker 1>jingle Ball to go to. Did I miss anything in that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, because then Ava, my oldest daughter, had a play.

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<v Speaker 2>We actually got front row seats to an NYU play

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<v Speaker 2>that she was starring in, also on the same day

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<v Speaker 2>as the wedding and the day after the second jingle ball.

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<v Speaker 1>So it was it was all exhausting, and there was

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<v Speaker 1>a time, I guess I looked at you and said,

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<v Speaker 1>have we agreed to do too much? And I was

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<v Speaker 1>almost hoping something would get canceled or something would fall through,

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<v Speaker 1>and nothing ever did. But it was exhausting, but it

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<v Speaker 1>was fun. I'm glad after the fact now that we

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<v Speaker 1>did all that we did.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, there's nothing that I think we could have or

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<v Speaker 2>should have said no to because it was all meaningful

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<v Speaker 2>in different ways and we were.

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<v Speaker 3>Right.

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<v Speaker 2>But and it was something that we actually enjoyed, even

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<v Speaker 2>though we did not get a lot of sleep.

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<v Speaker 3>According to our new aura rings, that's what they're called,

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<v Speaker 3>right that we've been wearing.

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<v Speaker 2>We I think we had a couple nights. You got

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<v Speaker 2>less than three hours. I got less than four hours.

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<v Speaker 2>But we made it through.

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<v Speaker 4>Here we are.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, who doesn't do this during the holidays. I

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<v Speaker 2>know you have joking holidays extend themselves. You're not only

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<v Speaker 2>are you going to either it's a holiday party or

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<v Speaker 2>a wedding, or a family obligation or some sort of

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<v Speaker 2>celebration that is intellectually yes, sounds fun, but then an

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<v Speaker 2>execution actually is exhausting.

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<v Speaker 3>Everyone's doing these things. In addition to if you're.

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<v Speaker 2>A parent, you're buying all of the Christmas lists up

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<v Speaker 2>that your children have given you or that you are

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<v Speaker 2>obligated to buy for other members of your family. So

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<v Speaker 2>you're juggling the busiest social and maybe professional time of

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<v Speaker 2>your life with also the busiest personal time in your life.

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<v Speaker 3>When you're trying to heart.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you're exhausting it. Just this is why I don't

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<v Speaker 1>like the holidays.

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<v Speaker 3>This is why I put thought mildly just now, I

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<v Speaker 3>hate the holiday. That's what you say.

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<v Speaker 1>I just this is this time, it just because, not

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<v Speaker 1>just for what it's become. You go out there, you

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<v Speaker 1>go to any mall, and it makes you feel good

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<v Speaker 1>when you see the decorations, but you look at the faces,

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<v Speaker 1>look at the looks on people's faces. For a whole

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<v Speaker 1>variety of reasons. It's stress. It's sometimes it's stress over money,

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<v Speaker 1>stress over time. And I get it, but it becomes

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<v Speaker 1>too often from what I have seen and what I've experienced,

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<v Speaker 1>is just you use the word obligation and I just

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<v Speaker 1>sank in my seat a little further. It's just I

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<v Speaker 1>gotta get this, I gotta get this, I gotta find

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<v Speaker 1>this thing, I gotta save this money I got it's

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<v Speaker 1>just exhausting.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you're trying to create the map. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 2>can speak for myself. I guess I'm and I think

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of moms out there are trying to keep

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<v Speaker 2>the magic alive for our kids at all costs, no

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<v Speaker 2>matter how old they are, at the expense of perhaps

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<v Speaker 2>our mental health. And yes, then you add with it

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<v Speaker 2>all of the other fun night outs that this time

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<v Speaker 2>of year usually brings about that ends up making you

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<v Speaker 2>just fraid. I mean, yes, it's a lot, but I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know. It's fun, it's life. It's a part of

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<v Speaker 2>enjoying things to the maximum. Sometimes it comes at the

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<v Speaker 2>expense of your.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to say mental health because that's not

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<v Speaker 2>a good thing, but just overall fatigue.

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<v Speaker 3>What like you're yeah, you're gonna be tired. But was

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<v Speaker 3>it worth it? Was it fun? Did you enjoy yourself?

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<v Speaker 1>Those are two different. Look the experience with the stuff

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<v Speaker 1>we did the past week, that was all fun. It

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<v Speaker 1>was a good time. It was exhausting. We chose that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking exceperate from that. I'm just talking about the

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<v Speaker 1>holiday season and what comes with the stress of trying

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<v Speaker 1>to get this gift and get that. And you, anybody

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<v Speaker 1>will give you hell if you in any way suggest

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<v Speaker 1>you don't like the holidays, and I don't. I absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>do not like it. This will be the time of

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<v Speaker 1>good cheer and all these things. I got the tree

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<v Speaker 1>up here. It makes me happy when I walk in

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<v Speaker 1>and see it. I have my favorite Christmas movie running

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<v Speaker 1>twenty four hours a day in this home. I enjoy

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<v Speaker 1>those things. Stepping out and seeing the other people's experience

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<v Speaker 1>stepping out Sometimes and look, I should go volunin, I

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<v Speaker 1>should go do something. I would I would have a

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<v Speaker 1>better Christmas experience. But too often it's just I gotta

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<v Speaker 1>get this, have a deadline to get this. Did I

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<v Speaker 1>beat the cutoff to get it there by Christmas Day?

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<v Speaker 1>All these things that I forget this family member too,

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<v Speaker 1>I make sure all those things are just.

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<v Speaker 2>We have had some new family I guess traditions now

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<v Speaker 2>that we've been able to have this year that we

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<v Speaker 2>haven't had in years past. It was kind of cool

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<v Speaker 2>when my parents were in town. You guys had just

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<v Speaker 2>come back from la There was an overlap and we

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<v Speaker 2>had some gift exchanges happening. Was that at all awkward

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<v Speaker 2>for you at this point?

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<v Speaker 1>No? I mean I always like getting stuff, so that's

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<v Speaker 1>just a me thing. But this is a real thing

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<v Speaker 1>this and a lot of people can relate to you.

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<v Speaker 1>You have new families and new blended families, new members

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<v Speaker 1>of the family, and who do you get a gift for?

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<v Speaker 1>And what is too much? And to make sure I

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<v Speaker 1>get that person something because in case they get me something,

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<v Speaker 1>and these and then opening gifts in front of each

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<v Speaker 1>other is always a weird moment. Oh my goodness, mine

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<v Speaker 1>is in a Tiffany box and is in a paper bag?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, do you want to all those things? And

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<v Speaker 1>we have that anxiety going into this a certain degree.

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<v Speaker 1>This Christmas we're going to it's gonna be a different,

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<v Speaker 1>a first Christmas for us. Yeah, together you, me and

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<v Speaker 1>Sabine and Alas and Ava will be waking up together

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<v Speaker 1>on Christmas Day, exchanging gifts. Yes, it's it's new. It is. No,

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<v Speaker 1>it is.

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<v Speaker 2>And you're surrounded by girls once again, which I guess

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<v Speaker 2>you're getting used to perhaps, or can one ever get

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<v Speaker 2>used to that?

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<v Speaker 1>Well? No, what is it? There is? You'll admit that

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<v Speaker 1>there's a lot of emotion sometimes and trying to read

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<v Speaker 1>everybody's and how you all play off each other. I

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<v Speaker 1>have picked up on that a little bit. Yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And it is not a matter of what I needed

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<v Speaker 1>to hold time. I just need to stay silent. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not like, Okay, they're doing this, so I should pick

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<v Speaker 1>option B. No, the whole time, I just need to

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<v Speaker 1>shut up and let y'all work it out.

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<v Speaker 3>Is that your strategy to get through it?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh? Yeah, I'm gonna be fine.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wow. Yeah, So this is going to be a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of first and I'm excited about it.

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<v Speaker 3>You are a little nervous about it or no.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I mean you can't have would be a little anxious.

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<v Speaker 1>You're opening gifts in front of each other, You're working

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<v Speaker 1>up together on the most important of holidays to a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of folks. So no, it's just it's brand new. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's brand new for everybody. So it's as much as

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<v Speaker 1>we've already spent a holiday together. It's just Thanksgiving, not

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<v Speaker 1>all of us, but most of us, and at least

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<v Speaker 1>was the only one that wasn't there. But yeah, it's yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's new.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Thanksgiving went really, really well. So I'm very very hopeful

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<v Speaker 2>about this Christmas week. And I do think having gone

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<v Speaker 2>through this busy week, we all kind of were in

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<v Speaker 2>it together. We were in and out of each other's lives.

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<v Speaker 2>You were, they're supporting Ava at her play. What'd you

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<v Speaker 2>think of the play?

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, I was worried that I didn't get it,

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<v Speaker 1>and then afterwards everybody else said no, no, no, they were

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<v Speaker 1>in the same boat. I was very nervous that I

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<v Speaker 1>was a little too low brow well to understand the

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<v Speaker 1>nuance of the play. But no, no, no, I was It

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<v Speaker 1>was interesting and it's again knowing Ava as long as

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<v Speaker 1>I've known her, to see her do her thing on

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<v Speaker 1>a stage like that, it was it was fun.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so this was n YU play.

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<v Speaker 2>I love what I've seen from n Yu and some

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<v Speaker 2>of the productions i've seen Ava, and they're all student run.

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<v Speaker 2>Their student written, their students acted, their student directed, their

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<v Speaker 2>student lighted. So it's just really cool. You see everybody

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<v Speaker 2>crafting or honing their crafts. And this one was called

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<v Speaker 2>do you care that I'm like this? And yeah, it was.

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<v Speaker 2>This was the first time you've you've seen her be

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<v Speaker 2>in her band. We've seen a couple of her performances there,

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<v Speaker 2>but this was her first play, so that was a

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<v Speaker 2>that was a big deal and that was certainly fun

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<v Speaker 2>and we that was was that the last tough thing

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<v Speaker 2>we had to do from jingle Ball to jingle Ball

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<v Speaker 2>in terms of where we were running around the city

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<v Speaker 2>getting from place you started in La I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>We were exhausted, but I can't This was the best

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<v Speaker 1>and it might have been the most meaningful week in

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<v Speaker 1>our relationship. Yeah, just the blending of families, how easy

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<v Speaker 1>it was. There were no introductions being made, it was

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<v Speaker 1>just a natural flow to the family. It really might

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<v Speaker 1>have been. We started with your parents coming to town

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, just Sabine and I getting a chance

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<v Speaker 1>to take that trip together. And it was a twenty

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<v Speaker 1>four This is a eleven year old kid that I

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<v Speaker 1>pulled out of school. You all know now, Yes, I

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<v Speaker 1>pulled her out of school to go to a party

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<v Speaker 1>in La A hundred percent did that. And just she

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<v Speaker 1>and I got that time together and just the two

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<v Speaker 1>of us and we were up under each other the

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<v Speaker 1>tire trip. It was just, yeah, it's a memory. I

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<v Speaker 1>think she's going to have the rest of her life.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was just just a blast. So that was

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<v Speaker 1>that was a really this jump start of and the

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<v Speaker 1>highlight maybe even of the past week.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. At one point when I texted you, I said,

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<v Speaker 2>how's it going? You said, this has been the most

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<v Speaker 2>fun I've ever had with Sabine. And that says a lot,

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<v Speaker 2>because you always have a lot of fun with her.

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<v Speaker 2>And the cool thing is when you were with Sabine

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<v Speaker 2>and I was still waiting on Analyst to come back

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<v Speaker 2>from Spain and Ava was doing her NYU thing, I

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<v Speaker 2>actually had a rare couple of days with my parents,

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<v Speaker 2>just the three of us, and I don't think we've

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<v Speaker 2>had that since it might have it might have been

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<v Speaker 2>decades since we had that much time together. So I

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<v Speaker 2>thought it was kind of a we always hate being

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<v Speaker 2>a part or at least i'll speak for myself, I

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<v Speaker 2>hate being apart from you, and I hated not being

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<v Speaker 2>an lay.

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<v Speaker 1>Speak for me.

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<v Speaker 3>But it was kind of cool because you got to

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<v Speaker 3>have a very special.

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<v Speaker 2>Twenty four hours, as you say, with Sabine, and I

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<v Speaker 2>got that time with my parents too, that I think

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<v Speaker 2>at a certain point sometimes we all take for granted,

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<v Speaker 2>but we're usually surrounded by spouses or friends or children

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<v Speaker 2>where you don't really get one on one time with people,

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<v Speaker 2>or at least I find I don't anymore as much.

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<v Speaker 2>So anytime you can have that and acknowledge it, it's

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<v Speaker 2>a pretty cool thing. So in a weird way, as

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<v Speaker 2>we started these very busy busy for this incredibly busy week,

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<v Speaker 2>we kind of had a beat with just kind of

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<v Speaker 2>a one on one in a fun way, but in

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<v Speaker 2>a really meaningful way. So I thought that was pretty cool.

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<v Speaker 2>We both had shared experiences.

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<v Speaker 1>Your presence was still felt in La since you pretty

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<v Speaker 1>much outfitted to be yes that jacket, that white leather

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<v Speaker 1>jacket she wore on the red carpet, which he was

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<v Speaker 1>very excited about, came courtesy of you. I had never

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<v Speaker 1>been worn.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I have never worn it.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought it looked so cool, and then every time

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<v Speaker 2>I put it on, I didn't feel like I was

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<v Speaker 2>cool enough for it. So yeah, when Sabine needed something

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<v Speaker 2>to make her outfit, saying, it just seemed like the

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<v Speaker 2>right fit. And it looks so much better on her

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<v Speaker 2>than it ever looked on me.

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<v Speaker 1>She looked great out there. And the hair, oh my goodness,

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<v Speaker 1>the hair situation out there. I wish you were here

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<v Speaker 1>to tell the story yourself right now. But all poor thing,

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<v Speaker 1>poor poor thing. They always allow for hair and makeup

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<v Speaker 1>when we travel to these things, and I don't do

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<v Speaker 1>hair or makeup, so I was letting Sabine have my time.

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<v Speaker 1>She just wanted her hair pulled back. And she went

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<v Speaker 1>into this room and these women, oh for too. The

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<v Speaker 1>first two just couldn't do anything with her hair. They

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know what to do. It just didn't work. And

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<v Speaker 1>I sat there and just watched it play out.

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<v Speaker 3>I handle it.

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<v Speaker 1>She was a champ. She just sat there. She made

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<v Speaker 1>a couple lives over at me. Because we both were

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<v Speaker 1>kind of laughing internally knowing what was going on. Then

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<v Speaker 1>the third lad, I wish I could give her credit

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<v Speaker 1>the hair stylist. She hooked her up and it looks great.

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<v Speaker 1>But that was a fun little moment with Sabine. And yes,

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<v Speaker 1>she's a little girl with some crazy early hair. And

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<v Speaker 1>there were seven white women in the room who had

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<v Speaker 1>no idea what.

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<v Speaker 3>They were like, I don't know what did you say?

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, no, I just let it play out really and

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<v Speaker 2>then eventually it all worked out.

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<v Speaker 3>She looked fantastic.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah. But the third lady, the hairstyle, she was,

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<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, she hooked it up. She was great. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it looked great.

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<v Speaker 2>So when we came back, or when you guys were

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<v Speaker 2>back here in New York, before we went to the

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<v Speaker 2>Jingle Ball, we also decided to bring in an old

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<v Speaker 2>friend who he hadn't seen in a long time, and

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<v Speaker 2>it was really wonderful to have her come and do

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<v Speaker 2>hair for the three girls, me, Annalise and Sabine for

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<v Speaker 2>the red carpet. But it was fun to find that

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<v Speaker 2>moment to reconnect. And I know this time, this is

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<v Speaker 2>the time of year where people start to remember who

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<v Speaker 2>they want to reconnect with and that was a really

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<v Speaker 2>fun one this week as well with Dora.

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<v Speaker 3>She's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>We had some trip we've traveled internationally with her and

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<v Speaker 1>it's yeah, it was good to have her in the room.

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<v Speaker 1>It was fun to see you girls getting ready for

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<v Speaker 1>the jingle Ball and look the both of that, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not sure which one I could say. I you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we had a pretty good set up in Lallah because

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<v Speaker 1>we had food and access to the bathroom. All that

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<v Speaker 1>was easy, isn't that. Yeah, that's so that's key at

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<v Speaker 1>any event like that, But the one here in La

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<v Speaker 1>you know, in New York, and this is true as well.

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<v Speaker 1>We we had to have a discussion with our kids

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<v Speaker 1>right before we walked out on a red carpet. They

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<v Speaker 1>didn't have to do it at all. They could have

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<v Speaker 1>just kept it pushing, didn't have to be in front

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<v Speaker 1>of a camera. And look, that was no small thing,

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<v Speaker 1>and a discussion had to be had ahead of time.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was still a little nervous about it, but

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<v Speaker 1>being gave me the thumbs up in.

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<v Speaker 2>The Okay, Yeah, it was the first time that we well,

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<v Speaker 2>obviously it's only been a year since the two of

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<v Speaker 2>us were on the red carpet.

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<v Speaker 3>So for us to go on the red carpet.

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<v Speaker 2>With one of our daughters a piece all together, the

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<v Speaker 2>four of us standing there, that was a decision.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, that wasn't just happenstance.

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<v Speaker 2>We talked to our daughters about it and everybody was

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<v Speaker 2>okay with it, and so we went for it.

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<v Speaker 3>But it is you know, yeah, though, that.

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<v Speaker 2>Wasn't just something that we didn't give deep thought to

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<v Speaker 2>before we walked down or walked out on that red carpet.

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<v Speaker 1>And I gave Sabina every out but almost you sure?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you sure? Because we don't have it and we

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<v Speaker 1>could do this, and we could do that and get

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<v Speaker 1>her that. And she was the one who, like we said,

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<v Speaker 1>along all the entire part of our relationship, entirety of

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<v Speaker 1>our relationship, we let them lead the way. That was

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<v Speaker 1>no exception. I asked her what she wanted to do

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<v Speaker 1>and what she was comfortable with, and she led the way.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And look, this has been a long road coming.

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<v Speaker 2>So we've been together for more than two years, and

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<v Speaker 2>this is this was our first Thanksgiving that we got

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<v Speaker 2>to spend actually together. And this is going to be

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<v Speaker 2>the first Christmas Eve and Christmas Morning we wake up together.

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<v Speaker 3>But we did that for our daughters.

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<v Speaker 2>We let them lead the way and we wanted them

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<v Speaker 2>to be ready before any of this started. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, as we sorry, as we've been busy and

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<v Speaker 2>crazy and frenetic, and we have the habit because we're

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<v Speaker 2>working together all the time of still saying I miss you,

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<v Speaker 2>like we can be together, but it's you get caught

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<v Speaker 2>up in the busyness of the season. And so I'm

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<v Speaker 2>really looking forward to recognizing how cool it is that

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<v Speaker 2>we get to spend quiet time together, quiet time with

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<v Speaker 2>our daughters for the first time since we've been together.

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<v Speaker 2>And so this is really big, important month, and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>trying to remember and not get lost in the craziness

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<v Speaker 2>of it all, but really try to remember how grateful

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<v Speaker 2>I am that we're at the place we're at.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, folks, we'll stay with us here on this

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<v Speaker 1>episode of Amy and TJ. When we come back, we'll

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<v Speaker 1>tell you about a first for the two of us

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<v Speaker 1>in our relationship, something called a coaching session. Also, we

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<v Speaker 1>ended up in Madison Square Garden for a second time

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<v Speaker 1>in a week, and I had an unexpected visit from

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<v Speaker 1>a family member. Stay with us, Welcome back, everybody to

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<v Speaker 1>this episode of Amy and TJ Robes. We were talking

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<v Speaker 1>about the busy week we have had. We I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know how this happened. We ended up in the middle

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<v Speaker 1>of this busy, this exhausting week. It's a perfect time

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<v Speaker 1>to work on our relationship. Yeah, because that's usually when

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<v Speaker 1>it's best to talk about your emotions, is when you're

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<v Speaker 1>dead tired. So this was good. I think great planning

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<v Speaker 1>on your part. Yeah, well, I just we this thing.

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<v Speaker 2>So we keep butting heads about. It's not what they say,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not about communication, it's about comprehension. And I felt

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<v Speaker 2>like we weren't comprehending one another.

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<v Speaker 3>So I've been I've been listening to this I I'm

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<v Speaker 3>not going to pick the bait.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you take the butt? Can you give me something?

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<v Speaker 2>But okay, I acknowledge that was funny and a wonderful

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<v Speaker 2>attempted humor. But I'm reading this book or listening to

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<v Speaker 2>this book called Secure Love, and it's all about knowing attachments.

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<v Speaker 1>Here she goes, I've been reading this book.

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<v Speaker 2>I felt like, So I said, I was hoping that

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<v Speaker 2>you would also maybe listen to the book or read

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<v Speaker 2>the book, or go to one coaching session with one

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<v Speaker 2>of these designated therapists who are linked to this book

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<v Speaker 2>and supposedly help you work.

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<v Speaker 3>On better communications.

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<v Speaker 2>So yes, you agreed, which was very sweet and I

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<v Speaker 2>appreciated it, and we did one coaching session and I

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<v Speaker 2>felt like I felt I felt like I had a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit better of an understanding about how or what my.

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<v Speaker 3>Strategy is going to be the next time we have conflict.

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<v Speaker 2>So I felt like I definitely got to take away

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<v Speaker 2>from it. It was a little it wasn't exactly what

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<v Speaker 2>I was expecting.

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<v Speaker 3>But you said you came out of it feeling neutral.

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<v Speaker 3>Is that what you said to me?

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<v Speaker 1>I think that nothing foul? Yeah, I mean I didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>I have no no reaction to it at all. Nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>There was no updown, no just but you were like,

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<v Speaker 1>if you wanted to do it again, I would say, fine,

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<v Speaker 1>go and do it that same person again. I was fine,

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<v Speaker 1>I have no reaction.

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<v Speaker 2>I So I felt like, at the very least, it

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<v Speaker 2>was a little bit of a release and so far,

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<v Speaker 2>so good, We're doing great.

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<v Speaker 1>After the coaching session, yeah, it was just what I needed.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so that but anyway, I felt like, Okay, I

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<v Speaker 2>thought that started the week off right.

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<v Speaker 1>So that was the week off, right, Okay, you okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what you got out of it. That's okay, good

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<v Speaker 1>we is that the same? What was the day? Then

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<v Speaker 1>we had to go in and we did podcast tapings

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<v Speaker 1>on that Tuesday day, Yes, And then we had a

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<v Speaker 1>Zoom meeting business call at six pm. And then the Arkansas.

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<v Speaker 3>Razorbacks, Yes, played Michigan.

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<v Speaker 1>And Madison Square Garden that night at nine pm.

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<v Speaker 2>We got back after twelve midnight and you get up

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<v Speaker 2>at three am and I get up at four am.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, I don't even think we.

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<v Speaker 2>Slept more than two and a half three hours that night.

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<v Speaker 3>But they won and it was worth it.

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<v Speaker 1>It was azing it.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, it was such a good game. It was fantastic.

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<v Speaker 1>And thank you to Brian Rain, Sardine and Becca Bradley.

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<v Speaker 1>Want to thank them for taking care of us with

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<v Speaker 1>the tickets. Arkansas folks always take good care, so thank

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<v Speaker 1>you all very much. But that was a really big

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<v Speaker 1>deal to have the Razorbacks in town. So we weren't

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<v Speaker 1>going to.

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<v Speaker 3>Miss that game, yes, exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>But I almost didn't make the meeting we had earlier.

0:22:56.320 --> 0:22:59.720
<v Speaker 2>You were asleep on the couch at five fifty pm

0:22:59.720 --> 0:23:02.120
<v Speaker 2>and I was like, babe, you know we've got this

0:23:02.119 --> 0:23:03.359
<v Speaker 2>this zoom like in ten minutes.

0:23:03.359 --> 0:23:04.640
<v Speaker 3>You're like, I'll be fine. I'm like, do you want

0:23:04.640 --> 0:23:05.840
<v Speaker 3>me to get you an espresso?

0:23:06.240 --> 0:23:08.879
<v Speaker 2>Should I go find you a five hour energy You're like,

0:23:08.880 --> 0:23:11.840
<v Speaker 2>I'll be fine, I'll be fine, and like, yeah, you

0:23:11.880 --> 0:23:14.800
<v Speaker 2>didn't say much in the meeting, but you were physically present.

0:23:14.880 --> 0:23:19.320
<v Speaker 1>Correct, check what was my presence really needed? Yes, but

0:23:19.520 --> 0:23:20.520
<v Speaker 1>I need to say anything.

0:23:20.560 --> 0:23:24.239
<v Speaker 2>Yes, yes, everyone always wants you to say something. But

0:23:24.320 --> 0:23:27.399
<v Speaker 2>your eyes were open and you were present, so I

0:23:27.400 --> 0:23:29.280
<v Speaker 2>guess technically you won.

0:23:30.080 --> 0:23:32.600
<v Speaker 1>So we go through Wednesday and this was the This

0:23:32.720 --> 0:23:34.800
<v Speaker 1>was another highlight of the week, and this was unexpected.

0:23:35.680 --> 0:23:37.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't get to see family a lot because I

0:23:37.520 --> 0:23:40.000
<v Speaker 1>don't go back home a lot. And even when I

0:23:40.040 --> 0:23:41.880
<v Speaker 1>go back to the state of Arkansas, I end up

0:23:42.200 --> 0:23:45.479
<v Speaker 1>in northwest Arkansas and the University of Arkansas instead of

0:23:45.720 --> 0:23:47.000
<v Speaker 1>on the other side of the state.

0:23:47.160 --> 0:23:50.640
<v Speaker 2>And your family is West Memphis versus Fayettel.

0:23:50.840 --> 0:23:55.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, sorry, but I don't see family lot. So when

0:23:55.680 --> 0:23:59.119
<v Speaker 1>my cousin, my baby cousin, and she was going to

0:23:59.160 --> 0:24:01.480
<v Speaker 1>be in town US for a night for a conference,

0:24:02.320 --> 0:24:03.840
<v Speaker 1>we had to go out and see her. That was

0:24:03.880 --> 0:24:06.080
<v Speaker 1>on Thursday night. It was your first time meeting my

0:24:06.720 --> 0:24:10.240
<v Speaker 1>baby cousin shar Day, who was who lives in Nashville.

0:24:10.240 --> 0:24:12.800
<v Speaker 1>But she is my She's just such a sweetie.

0:24:12.840 --> 0:24:14.280
<v Speaker 3>She was awesome.

0:24:14.320 --> 0:24:16.160
<v Speaker 2>First of all, I knew she had to be special

0:24:16.200 --> 0:24:20.359
<v Speaker 2>for you to agree on a very bitterly cold Thursday

0:24:20.440 --> 0:24:25.879
<v Speaker 2>night to go to Times Square And you know what,

0:24:26.040 --> 0:24:28.000
<v Speaker 2>I know it's festive if you're a tourist, but if

0:24:28.000 --> 0:24:30.080
<v Speaker 2>you live here, that is not the place you go

0:24:30.680 --> 0:24:34.600
<v Speaker 2>during the holiday season on a Thursday night. So I

0:24:34.760 --> 0:24:37.280
<v Speaker 2>knew if you were like, we're going, that she had

0:24:37.320 --> 0:24:37.840
<v Speaker 2>to be special.

0:24:37.880 --> 0:24:39.560
<v Speaker 3>And you know what she was. I mean it was

0:24:39.800 --> 0:24:41.320
<v Speaker 3>she is so sweet.

0:24:42.280 --> 0:24:45.440
<v Speaker 2>Just her. You know, people say you can read energy,

0:24:45.440 --> 0:24:48.560
<v Speaker 2>but she just had this beautiful, joyful energy about her.

0:24:48.760 --> 0:24:51.879
<v Speaker 2>Sweet sweet sweet And I could see the family resemblance.

0:24:51.920 --> 0:24:54.680
<v Speaker 2>I could see the family smile and laughter. I could

0:24:54.680 --> 0:24:56.560
<v Speaker 2>see your sister and her a little bit like. It

0:24:56.640 --> 0:25:00.080
<v Speaker 2>was really cool. And I always appreciate getting to know you.

0:25:00.080 --> 0:25:02.120
<v Speaker 2>You more when I get to meet your family. It's

0:25:02.240 --> 0:25:05.280
<v Speaker 2>just I love I love. Yeah, And she was awesome.

0:25:05.440 --> 0:25:07.879
<v Speaker 1>That's my girl. You show me that picture of us

0:25:07.880 --> 0:25:10.720
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, yeah, the family resemblance.

0:25:10.440 --> 0:25:13.120
<v Speaker 2>See it right, nuts, Yeah, I mean she absolutely could

0:25:13.119 --> 0:25:13.760
<v Speaker 2>be your other sister.

0:25:13.920 --> 0:25:15.360
<v Speaker 3>You guys look so much alike.

0:25:15.480 --> 0:25:19.040
<v Speaker 1>I didn't realize I looked that much like somebody you

0:25:19.119 --> 0:25:21.400
<v Speaker 1>do elso on Earth. And then we wrapped it up

0:25:21.600 --> 0:25:26.520
<v Speaker 1>on Saturday. We had a wedding to go to before

0:25:26.520 --> 0:25:31.800
<v Speaker 1>the play, before the play in Harlem. Yes, and you

0:25:31.840 --> 0:25:34.280
<v Speaker 1>know what you've done, you have before. But I haven't

0:25:34.440 --> 0:25:37.440
<v Speaker 1>been to a wedding in which they have to make

0:25:37.480 --> 0:25:42.000
<v Speaker 1>an announcement that there has been a sighting of the bride. Yes,

0:25:43.440 --> 0:25:44.520
<v Speaker 1>you're not making this up.

0:25:44.760 --> 0:25:47.760
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so my I have been to a wedding of

0:25:47.840 --> 0:25:50.760
<v Speaker 2>a dear, dear friend and she's listening. She knows who

0:25:50.800 --> 0:25:54.800
<v Speaker 2>she is or her wedding started two hours after the

0:25:54.880 --> 0:25:59.960
<v Speaker 2>time it was printed on the invitation, two hours, two hours.

0:26:00.280 --> 0:26:01.359
<v Speaker 1>You don't want to say who it is.

0:26:02.440 --> 0:26:05.879
<v Speaker 2>Everyone who knows me who's listening to is exactly the

0:26:05.880 --> 0:26:07.879
<v Speaker 2>wedding I'm talking about, And I love you.

0:26:08.280 --> 0:26:14.600
<v Speaker 1>The first name, du last name Nesca. Okay, that's who

0:26:14.680 --> 0:26:15.240
<v Speaker 1>it was.

0:26:16.000 --> 0:26:18.160
<v Speaker 3>Okay, So I thought I had seen it all.

0:26:18.200 --> 0:26:20.440
<v Speaker 2>In fact, I even joked about it because we were

0:26:20.920 --> 0:26:23.000
<v Speaker 2>running a little we got nervous because there was crazy

0:26:23.040 --> 0:26:27.200
<v Speaker 2>traffic around my apartment and we thought, oh my god.

0:26:27.040 --> 0:26:27.840
<v Speaker 1>I thought we were going to be l.

0:26:27.960 --> 0:26:30.320
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so we gave ourselves forty five minutes we left.

0:26:30.520 --> 0:26:32.840
<v Speaker 2>We left at twelve fifteen for a one pm wedding

0:26:32.960 --> 0:26:36.000
<v Speaker 2>on the invitation, right, So we're stuck in traffic and

0:26:36.040 --> 0:26:37.520
<v Speaker 2>TJ's like, we are going to be late.

0:26:37.560 --> 0:26:38.040
<v Speaker 3>Oh my god.

0:26:38.080 --> 0:26:39.760
<v Speaker 2>You were looking at the clock and the uber and

0:26:39.800 --> 0:26:41.560
<v Speaker 2>the clock and we made up time on the West

0:26:41.600 --> 0:26:44.600
<v Speaker 2>Side Highway. You're like, okay, we're gonna have two minutes

0:26:44.640 --> 0:26:46.960
<v Speaker 2>to spare. You ready to run like we are. We

0:26:47.040 --> 0:26:49.879
<v Speaker 2>don't want to be late. We get there and we

0:26:49.920 --> 0:26:51.880
<v Speaker 2>make it just fine with like what four or five

0:26:51.920 --> 0:26:54.520
<v Speaker 2>minutes to spare. Okay, But when we walk in, there's

0:26:54.600 --> 0:26:58.639
<v Speaker 2>like six other people there, and I'm thinking ret row

0:26:58.920 --> 0:27:01.320
<v Speaker 2>because I had just told you about the wedding.

0:27:01.040 --> 0:27:03.359
<v Speaker 3>I'd been to where yep I was.

0:27:04.040 --> 0:27:05.480
<v Speaker 2>I too, thought I was going to be late, and

0:27:05.520 --> 0:27:08.000
<v Speaker 2>realized that I was the only person there. So it

0:27:08.040 --> 0:27:09.560
<v Speaker 2>was kind of history repeating itself.

0:27:10.920 --> 0:27:12.480
<v Speaker 3>Yes, well but no.

0:27:12.720 --> 0:27:15.359
<v Speaker 1>We go in, we get a glass champagne. Everything's fine,

0:27:16.280 --> 0:27:19.480
<v Speaker 1>Everything is fine. Now, the time starts going by a

0:27:19.480 --> 0:27:23.040
<v Speaker 1>little bit and the efficient stands up there and he

0:27:23.080 --> 0:27:26.200
<v Speaker 1>actually makes an announcement and says there's been a sighting

0:27:26.400 --> 0:27:28.840
<v Speaker 1>of the bride of the bride, and we're told she's

0:27:28.880 --> 0:27:32.560
<v Speaker 1>two minutes out. Yeah, okay. Thirty minutes later, she still

0:27:32.600 --> 0:27:35.840
<v Speaker 1>was still not a bride. Now. I wasn't worried about

0:27:35.880 --> 0:27:42.080
<v Speaker 1>anything until the groom started mingling, keeping.

0:27:41.800 --> 0:27:45.720
<v Speaker 2>The guests busy so as to not really recognize that

0:27:45.760 --> 0:27:47.000
<v Speaker 2>the wedding hasn't started yet.

0:27:47.840 --> 0:27:50.560
<v Speaker 1>Can I refresh your drink? It was talk about it.

0:27:50.480 --> 0:27:52.760
<v Speaker 2>Where drims started getting passed around, which I had never

0:27:52.800 --> 0:27:54.800
<v Speaker 2>seen happen while we're sitting.

0:27:55.040 --> 0:27:56.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and I was like, okay, I actually.

0:27:56.520 --> 0:27:59.120
<v Speaker 3>Was a little hungry. I'll take some arada and I did.

0:27:59.240 --> 0:28:02.560
<v Speaker 3>I had some. Yeah, it felt Yeah, it was good.

0:28:03.000 --> 0:28:06.080
<v Speaker 1>So the wedding does finally, I think an hour and

0:28:06.400 --> 0:28:09.760
<v Speaker 1>ten minutes wait, and when it started again, we had

0:28:09.760 --> 0:28:11.600
<v Speaker 1>allotted for this time, so it's not like we were

0:28:11.640 --> 0:28:14.639
<v Speaker 1>running behind or anything. It was just funny. Yes, it

0:28:14.720 --> 0:28:17.000
<v Speaker 1>was one of the funnier weddings I've ever attended.

0:28:17.160 --> 0:28:22.880
<v Speaker 2>So beautiful bride she is. I I can go ahead

0:28:22.920 --> 0:28:27.520
<v Speaker 2>and describe a white, blonde Jewish woman if it was

0:28:27.560 --> 0:28:33.400
<v Speaker 2>a Jewish wedding marrying a black non Jewish man, right,

0:28:34.160 --> 0:28:36.919
<v Speaker 2>but it was all taking place. Apparently this was the

0:28:36.960 --> 0:28:41.240
<v Speaker 2>first Jewish wedding to ever take place at a Muslim

0:28:41.360 --> 0:28:43.120
<v Speaker 2>center in Harlem.

0:28:43.360 --> 0:28:44.600
<v Speaker 1>Yes, that's what they say.

0:28:44.760 --> 0:28:47.360
<v Speaker 2>And so the bride and her she was flanked by

0:28:47.360 --> 0:28:49.960
<v Speaker 2>her father and I can only guess maybe her stepfather.

0:28:50.080 --> 0:28:52.120
<v Speaker 2>She had two men on either side of her, older

0:28:52.160 --> 0:28:55.600
<v Speaker 2>gentleman fatherlike figures. But in order for them to walk

0:28:55.640 --> 0:28:58.200
<v Speaker 2>down the aisle, they had to split and walk around

0:28:58.440 --> 0:29:01.680
<v Speaker 2>a statue of Malcolm X. And it just wasn't lost

0:29:01.760 --> 0:29:05.120
<v Speaker 2>on us how interesting this New York wedding was.

0:29:05.360 --> 0:29:08.520
<v Speaker 1>You know what that that's a uniquely New York experience.

0:29:08.600 --> 0:29:09.880
<v Speaker 3>Where else could that happen?

0:29:10.000 --> 0:29:12.000
<v Speaker 1>They then again they're telling it, this is the first

0:29:12.000 --> 0:29:15.280
<v Speaker 1>time a Jewish wedding has taking place in this center.

0:29:15.320 --> 0:29:18.600
<v Speaker 1>It's the Malcolm X Spettish Baz. The Muslim center was

0:29:18.720 --> 0:29:22.680
<v Speaker 1>one hundred and sixty fish. Yeah, that's where it's taking place.

0:29:22.680 --> 0:29:25.480
<v Speaker 1>And they're a huge life size statue of him.

0:29:25.640 --> 0:29:26.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:29:26.040 --> 0:29:29.440
<v Speaker 1>And to think that you have to walk around Malcolm

0:29:29.720 --> 0:29:34.480
<v Speaker 1>X a Jewish woman to get up there to get married.

0:29:34.200 --> 0:29:35.800
<v Speaker 3>It's just it was amazing.

0:29:35.880 --> 0:29:38.080
<v Speaker 1>It's such a You're right, a New York experience.

0:29:38.160 --> 0:29:40.280
<v Speaker 2>It really was, and the wedding was great, It was

0:29:40.320 --> 0:29:43.080
<v Speaker 2>fantastic and it was so fun. But that those are

0:29:43.120 --> 0:29:45.640
<v Speaker 2>the kind of moments where you couldn't I don't think

0:29:45.680 --> 0:29:47.480
<v Speaker 2>you could write that into a script in a movie

0:29:47.520 --> 0:29:50.000
<v Speaker 2>and people would believe it, they think, come on, but no,

0:29:50.240 --> 0:29:52.640
<v Speaker 2>it was actually taking place, and it's one of the

0:29:52.840 --> 0:29:56.480
<v Speaker 2>like New York is just a breeding ground for those

0:29:56.520 --> 0:29:59.560
<v Speaker 2>types of yeah, of moments that you I don't think

0:29:59.560 --> 0:30:00.960
<v Speaker 2>could exp to happen anywhere else.

0:30:01.000 --> 0:30:02.360
<v Speaker 3>And it wasn't lost on us.

0:30:02.440 --> 0:30:06.080
<v Speaker 1>Okay, you know, very totally forgot this mentioned what the

0:30:06.200 --> 0:30:08.200
<v Speaker 1>nineteen twenties speak easy theme.

0:30:08.280 --> 0:30:12.560
<v Speaker 2>Oh yes, so we're all dressed up like we were

0:30:12.560 --> 0:30:14.480
<v Speaker 2>in the Gilded Age too, which added to.

0:30:14.440 --> 0:30:16.920
<v Speaker 3>The ambiance and everything we were experiencing. It was like

0:30:16.960 --> 0:30:18.800
<v Speaker 3>all these genres mashing up.

0:30:19.880 --> 0:30:23.520
<v Speaker 1>That was funny because it took us. We didn't have time.

0:30:23.600 --> 0:30:25.480
<v Speaker 1>We thought we'd have enough time to go back and

0:30:25.600 --> 0:30:29.440
<v Speaker 1>change before going to Ava's play. So you and I

0:30:29.640 --> 0:30:33.760
<v Speaker 1>show up looking like an American gangsta.

0:30:33.640 --> 0:30:39.160
<v Speaker 4>And a flapper like twenties just but you know what

0:30:39.240 --> 0:30:41.200
<v Speaker 4>for the theater groups like for the you know, the

0:30:41.200 --> 0:30:44.760
<v Speaker 4>theatrical the NYU Thespian community.

0:30:44.920 --> 0:30:48.600
<v Speaker 2>We weren't believe were we were fine? Like it was like, yeah, right,

0:30:48.720 --> 0:30:49.920
<v Speaker 2>Like who doesn't want to dress like that?

0:30:49.960 --> 0:30:50.880
<v Speaker 3>On Saturday night.

0:30:59.560 --> 0:31:01.640
<v Speaker 1>The CAF that off. That is where I was sitting

0:31:01.800 --> 0:31:03.960
<v Speaker 1>where after it was done in the lobby waiting on

0:31:04.000 --> 0:31:07.880
<v Speaker 1>you all, and you came out from the restroom to

0:31:07.920 --> 0:31:10.440
<v Speaker 1>get me and my mouth a drop because that's when

0:31:10.480 --> 0:31:15.720
<v Speaker 1>we got the news about ABC News and remember that, Yeah,

0:31:15.880 --> 0:31:19.040
<v Speaker 1>that was weird. That was the last thing that happened

0:31:19.240 --> 0:31:22.440
<v Speaker 1>us to cap off this week. You're like, you're not

0:31:22.480 --> 0:31:23.120
<v Speaker 1>gonna believe this.

0:31:23.200 --> 0:31:24.920
<v Speaker 3>Guess what this headline says.

0:31:25.160 --> 0:31:29.040
<v Speaker 1>Isn't that amazing? I couldn't help but stop and to think, Wow,

0:31:30.680 --> 0:31:32.120
<v Speaker 1>did we do that much damage?

0:31:33.040 --> 0:31:33.120
<v Speaker 2>Uh?

0:31:33.560 --> 0:31:36.440
<v Speaker 3>Sixty dollars the damage? I don't think so.

0:31:37.040 --> 0:31:40.280
<v Speaker 2>And maybe perhaps just to explain what we're specifically referencing

0:31:40.320 --> 0:31:40.960
<v Speaker 2>here is.

0:31:41.960 --> 0:31:43.040
<v Speaker 1>Everybody knows that story.

0:31:43.400 --> 0:31:44.800
<v Speaker 3>Well I know, but I feel like we should just

0:31:44.840 --> 0:31:45.640
<v Speaker 3>at least acknowledge.

0:31:45.720 --> 0:31:48.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we're talking about the fact that ABC decided or

0:31:48.600 --> 0:31:52.520
<v Speaker 2>Disney decided to settle with Donald Trump, who sued ABC

0:31:52.680 --> 0:31:57.680
<v Speaker 2>News and George Stephanopoulos for making the false.

0:31:57.640 --> 0:32:02.440
<v Speaker 3>Assertion that Donald Trump had been found Was it legally

0:32:02.560 --> 0:32:07.160
<v Speaker 3>liable for raping a woman instead of sexually assaulting her.

0:32:07.200 --> 0:32:10.920
<v Speaker 2>So the word rape versus sexual assault, big legal distinction

0:32:11.280 --> 0:32:15.120
<v Speaker 2>and a big fine if you want to call it.

0:32:15.160 --> 0:32:18.720
<v Speaker 2>That at least is what ABC agreed to pay. And yeah,

0:32:18.840 --> 0:32:22.360
<v Speaker 2>it's big news. And Trump's now well taking his win

0:32:22.480 --> 0:32:24.640
<v Speaker 2>and suing a couple other news agencies.

0:32:25.160 --> 0:32:27.880
<v Speaker 3>Let's see what happens with those lawsuits.

0:32:27.880 --> 0:32:30.320
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, he is laid down the law about what

0:32:30.360 --> 0:32:32.160
<v Speaker 2>he's going to accept and what he's not, and he

0:32:32.200 --> 0:32:34.760
<v Speaker 2>follows through when he says he's going to do something gray.

0:32:34.840 --> 0:32:37.120
<v Speaker 1>That's the last thing I remember about our night out

0:32:37.200 --> 0:32:39.920
<v Speaker 1>that I say capped it all. If it wasn't some

0:32:40.240 --> 0:32:43.680
<v Speaker 1>victory or anything, or don't wish ill of them or

0:32:43.760 --> 0:32:46.760
<v Speaker 1>anything like that, but it's just a matter. I remember

0:32:47.440 --> 0:32:49.680
<v Speaker 1>that was a stamp on in the evening for some reason.

0:32:50.040 --> 0:32:52.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and yeah, it is interesting.

0:32:54.200 --> 0:32:56.400
<v Speaker 1>But again, those things make you think, and that always

0:32:56.440 --> 0:33:00.920
<v Speaker 1>may always stop and think, wow, I did that, anything

0:33:00.960 --> 0:33:03.040
<v Speaker 1>I did that costs them that much money?

0:33:03.120 --> 0:33:06.320
<v Speaker 3>Apparently a distraction was just too costly.

0:33:06.400 --> 0:33:09.360
<v Speaker 1>No, I just didn't. I just stopped and thought, you

0:33:09.360 --> 0:33:11.680
<v Speaker 1>can't help. But sometimes think about those things, something like

0:33:11.720 --> 0:33:16.240
<v Speaker 1>that comes up, and I was just I couldn't believe it. Yeah,

0:33:16.400 --> 0:33:20.400
<v Speaker 1>I couldn't believe it. So what a week we've had,

0:33:20.440 --> 0:33:21.560
<v Speaker 1>and what a week we've got.

0:33:23.120 --> 0:33:25.200
<v Speaker 3>But you don't have to take a deep side.

0:33:25.320 --> 0:33:25.560
<v Speaker 1>I do.

0:33:25.640 --> 0:33:28.400
<v Speaker 3>I got a couple of things to get I thought

0:33:28.440 --> 0:33:29.320
<v Speaker 3>you said you were done.

0:33:29.720 --> 0:33:30.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm not done.

0:33:30.160 --> 0:33:30.640
<v Speaker 3>You're not done.

0:33:30.680 --> 0:33:31.480
<v Speaker 1>You had a couple more.

0:33:31.320 --> 0:33:32.120
<v Speaker 3>Things we have.

0:33:32.240 --> 0:33:34.880
<v Speaker 2>I think a really fun week ahead of us where

0:33:34.920 --> 0:33:37.160
<v Speaker 2>we can actually do a little relaxing too. I hope

0:33:37.800 --> 0:33:40.520
<v Speaker 2>all of you listening can do the same, maybe wind

0:33:40.840 --> 0:33:43.200
<v Speaker 2>down a little bit, maybe you have a few more

0:33:43.200 --> 0:33:45.640
<v Speaker 2>things to get done. But once you do, just I

0:33:45.680 --> 0:33:47.600
<v Speaker 2>don't know. I want to make sure I take the

0:33:47.680 --> 0:33:51.480
<v Speaker 2>time to to soak it in and to just be

0:33:51.960 --> 0:33:54.560
<v Speaker 2>and not We've just been doing so much, so let's

0:33:54.640 --> 0:33:57.680
<v Speaker 2>just let's just all be for a little while.

0:33:57.600 --> 0:34:00.480
<v Speaker 1>All right. But I appreciate that advice, will try to

0:34:00.520 --> 0:34:04.240
<v Speaker 1>adhere to it. But to everybody out there, please enjoy

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<v Speaker 1>and enjoy your families. I mean not to sound more

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<v Speaker 1>of it, but really you just you never know, you

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<v Speaker 1>never never know, so enjoy them, enjoy the time with

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<v Speaker 1>them if you have it, so appreciate its always. I'm TJ.

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<v Speaker 3>Holmes and I'm Amy Robot.

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<v Speaker 2>Happy holidays, everybody,