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Speaker 1: holiday anxiety. And with that, welcome to this episode of

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Speaker 1: Amy and TJ Robes. It felt like we bet off

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Speaker 1: But if you realize it's all started. The first thing

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Speaker 2: Yes, we had a wedding to go to that we

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Speaker 2: so we also got word of those exciting iHeart events

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Speaker 2: I mean, who doesn't do this during the holidays. I

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Speaker 1: this episode of Amy and TJ Robes. We were talking

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Speaker 2: So we keep butting heads about. It's not what they say,

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Speaker 3: So I've been I've been listening to this I I'm

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Speaker 1: Can you take the butt? Can you give me something?

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Speaker 2: But okay, I acknowledge that was funny and a wonderful

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Speaker 1: Here she goes, I've been reading this book.

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Speaker 2: I felt like, So I said, I was hoping that

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Speaker 3: On better communications.

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Speaker 2: So yes, you agreed, which was very sweet and I

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Speaker 3: Strategy is going to be the next time we have conflict.

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Speaker 2: So I felt like I definitely got to take away

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Speaker 3: But you said you came out of it feeling neutral.

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Speaker 3: Is that what you said to me?

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Speaker 1: I think that nothing foul? Yeah, I mean I didn't.

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Speaker 1: I have no no reaction to it at all. Nothing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so that but anyway, I felt like, Okay, I

440
00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:45,120
Speaker 2: thought that started the week off right.

441
00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:49,000
Speaker 1: So that was the week off, right, Okay, you okay,

442
00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:51,000
Speaker 1: that's what you got out of it. That's okay, good

443
00:21:52,040 --> 00:21:54,320
Speaker 1: we is that the same? What was the day? Then

444
00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:58,360
Speaker 1: we had to go in and we did podcast tapings

445
00:21:58,400 --> 00:22:02,000
Speaker 1: on that Tuesday day, Yes, And then we had a

446
00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:08,600
Speaker 1: Zoom meeting business call at six pm. And then the Arkansas.

447
00:22:08,040 --> 00:22:11,000
Speaker 3: Razorbacks, Yes, played Michigan.

448
00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:14,720
Speaker 1: And Madison Square Garden that night at nine pm.

449
00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:19,159
Speaker 2: We got back after twelve midnight and you get up

450
00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:21,400
Speaker 2: at three am and I get up at four am.

451
00:22:21,440 --> 00:22:25,720
Speaker 3: But yeah, I don't even think we.

452
00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:28,480
Speaker 2: Slept more than two and a half three hours that night.

453
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:30,600
Speaker 3: But they won and it was worth it.

454
00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:32,200
Speaker 1: It was azing it.

455
00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:35,639
Speaker 3: I mean, it was such a good game. It was fantastic.

456
00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:41,560
Speaker 1: And thank you to Brian Rain, Sardine and Becca Bradley.

457
00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:43,679
Speaker 1: Want to thank them for taking care of us with

458
00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:47,080
Speaker 1: the tickets. Arkansas folks always take good care, so thank

459
00:22:47,119 --> 00:22:48,960
Speaker 1: you all very much. But that was a really big

460
00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:51,160
Speaker 1: deal to have the Razorbacks in town. So we weren't

461
00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:51,399
Speaker 1: going to.

462
00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:53,040
Speaker 3: Miss that game, yes, exactly.

463
00:22:53,119 --> 00:22:56,159
Speaker 1: But I almost didn't make the meeting we had earlier.

464
00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:59,720
Speaker 2: You were asleep on the couch at five fifty pm

465
00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:02,120
Speaker 2: and I was like, babe, you know we've got this

466
00:23:02,119 --> 00:23:03,359
Speaker 2: this zoom like in ten minutes.

467
00:23:03,359 --> 00:23:04,640
Speaker 3: You're like, I'll be fine. I'm like, do you want

468
00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:05,840
Speaker 3: me to get you an espresso?

469
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,879
Speaker 2: Should I go find you a five hour energy You're like,

470
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:11,840
Speaker 2: I'll be fine, I'll be fine, and like, yeah, you

471
00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:14,800
Speaker 2: didn't say much in the meeting, but you were physically present.

472
00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:19,320
Speaker 1: Correct, check what was my presence really needed? Yes, but

473
00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:20,520
Speaker 1: I need to say anything.

474
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:24,239
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, everyone always wants you to say something. But

475
00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:27,399
Speaker 2: your eyes were open and you were present, so I

476
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:29,280
Speaker 2: guess technically you won.

477
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:32,600
Speaker 1: So we go through Wednesday and this was the This

478
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:34,800
Speaker 1: was another highlight of the week, and this was unexpected.

479
00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:37,480
Speaker 1: I don't get to see family a lot because I

480
00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:40,000
Speaker 1: don't go back home a lot. And even when I

481
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:41,880
Speaker 1: go back to the state of Arkansas, I end up

482
00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:45,479
Speaker 1: in northwest Arkansas and the University of Arkansas instead of

483
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:47,000
Speaker 1: on the other side of the state.

484
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:50,640
Speaker 2: And your family is West Memphis versus Fayettel.

485
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:55,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, sorry, but I don't see family lot. So when

486
00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:59,119
Speaker 1: my cousin, my baby cousin, and she was going to

487
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:01,480
Speaker 1: be in town US for a night for a conference,

488
00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:03,840
Speaker 1: we had to go out and see her. That was

489
00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:06,080
Speaker 1: on Thursday night. It was your first time meeting my

490
00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:10,240
Speaker 1: baby cousin shar Day, who was who lives in Nashville.

491
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:12,800
Speaker 1: But she is my She's just such a sweetie.

492
00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:14,280
Speaker 3: She was awesome.

493
00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:16,160
Speaker 2: First of all, I knew she had to be special

494
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:20,359
Speaker 2: for you to agree on a very bitterly cold Thursday

495
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:25,879
Speaker 2: night to go to Times Square And you know what,

496
00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:28,000
Speaker 2: I know it's festive if you're a tourist, but if

497
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:30,080
Speaker 2: you live here, that is not the place you go

498
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:34,600
Speaker 2: during the holiday season on a Thursday night. So I

499
00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:37,280
Speaker 2: knew if you were like, we're going, that she had

500
00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:37,840
Speaker 2: to be special.

501
00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 3: And you know what she was. I mean it was

502
00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:41,320
Speaker 3: she is so sweet.

503
00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:45,440
Speaker 2: Just her. You know, people say you can read energy,

504
00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 2: but she just had this beautiful, joyful energy about her.

505
00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:51,879
Speaker 2: Sweet sweet sweet And I could see the family resemblance.

506
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:54,680
Speaker 2: I could see the family smile and laughter. I could

507
00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:56,560
Speaker 2: see your sister and her a little bit like. It

508
00:24:56,640 --> 00:25:00,080
Speaker 2: was really cool. And I always appreciate getting to know you.

509
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:02,120
Speaker 2: You more when I get to meet your family. It's

510
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:05,280
Speaker 2: just I love I love. Yeah, And she was awesome.

511
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:07,879
Speaker 1: That's my girl. You show me that picture of us

512
00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:10,720
Speaker 1: and I'm like, yeah, the family resemblance.

513
00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:13,120
Speaker 2: See it right, nuts, Yeah, I mean she absolutely could

514
00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:13,760
Speaker 2: be your other sister.

515
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:15,360
Speaker 3: You guys look so much alike.

516
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 1: I didn't realize I looked that much like somebody you

517
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:21,400
Speaker 1: do elso on Earth. And then we wrapped it up

518
00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 1: on Saturday. We had a wedding to go to before

519
00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:31,800
Speaker 1: the play, before the play in Harlem. Yes, and you

520
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:34,280
Speaker 1: know what you've done, you have before. But I haven't

521
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:37,440
Speaker 1: been to a wedding in which they have to make

522
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:42,000
Speaker 1: an announcement that there has been a sighting of the bride. Yes,

523
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:44,520
Speaker 1: you're not making this up.

524
00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:47,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, so my I have been to a wedding of

525
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:50,760
Speaker 2: a dear, dear friend and she's listening. She knows who

526
00:25:50,800 --> 00:25:54,800
Speaker 2: she is or her wedding started two hours after the

527
00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:59,960
Speaker 2: time it was printed on the invitation, two hours, two hours.

528
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:01,359
Speaker 1: You don't want to say who it is.

529
00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:05,879
Speaker 2: Everyone who knows me who's listening to is exactly the

530
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:07,879
Speaker 2: wedding I'm talking about, And I love you.

531
00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:14,600
Speaker 1: The first name, du last name Nesca. Okay, that's who

532
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 1: it was.

533
00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:18,160
Speaker 3: Okay, So I thought I had seen it all.

534
00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:20,440
Speaker 2: In fact, I even joked about it because we were

535
00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 2: running a little we got nervous because there was crazy

536
00:26:23,040 --> 00:26:27,200
Speaker 2: traffic around my apartment and we thought, oh my god.

537
00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 1: I thought we were going to be l.

538
00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:30,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we gave ourselves forty five minutes we left.

539
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 2: We left at twelve fifteen for a one pm wedding

540
00:26:32,960 --> 00:26:36,000
Speaker 2: on the invitation, right, So we're stuck in traffic and

541
00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:37,520
Speaker 2: TJ's like, we are going to be late.

542
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 3: Oh my god.

543
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:39,760
Speaker 2: You were looking at the clock and the uber and

544
00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:41,560
Speaker 2: the clock and we made up time on the West

545
00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 2: Side Highway. You're like, okay, we're gonna have two minutes

546
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:46,960
Speaker 2: to spare. You ready to run like we are. We

547
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:49,879
Speaker 2: don't want to be late. We get there and we

548
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:51,880
Speaker 2: make it just fine with like what four or five

549
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:54,520
Speaker 2: minutes to spare. Okay, But when we walk in, there's

550
00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:58,639
Speaker 2: like six other people there, and I'm thinking ret row

551
00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 2: because I had just told you about the wedding.

552
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:03,359
Speaker 3: I'd been to where yep I was.

553
00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:05,480
Speaker 2: I too, thought I was going to be late, and

554
00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 2: realized that I was the only person there. So it

555
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:09,560
Speaker 2: was kind of history repeating itself.

556
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 3: Yes, well but no.

557
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:15,359
Speaker 1: We go in, we get a glass champagne. Everything's fine,

558
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:19,480
Speaker 1: Everything is fine. Now, the time starts going by a

559
00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:23,040
Speaker 1: little bit and the efficient stands up there and he

560
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:26,200
Speaker 1: actually makes an announcement and says there's been a sighting

561
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 1: of the bride of the bride, and we're told she's

562
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:32,560
Speaker 1: two minutes out. Yeah, okay. Thirty minutes later, she still

563
00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 1: was still not a bride. Now. I wasn't worried about

564
00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:42,080
Speaker 1: anything until the groom started mingling, keeping.

565
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 2: The guests busy so as to not really recognize that

566
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 2: the wedding hasn't started yet.

567
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 1: Can I refresh your drink? It was talk about it.

568
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:52,760
Speaker 2: Where drims started getting passed around, which I had never

569
00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:54,800
Speaker 2: seen happen while we're sitting.

570
00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:56,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I was like, okay, I actually.

571
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:59,120
Speaker 3: Was a little hungry. I'll take some arada and I did.

572
00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:02,560
Speaker 3: I had some. Yeah, it felt Yeah, it was good.

573
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:06,080
Speaker 1: So the wedding does finally, I think an hour and

574
00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:09,760
Speaker 1: ten minutes wait, and when it started again, we had

575
00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 1: allotted for this time, so it's not like we were

576
00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:14,639
Speaker 1: running behind or anything. It was just funny. Yes, it

577
00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:17,000
Speaker 1: was one of the funnier weddings I've ever attended.

578
00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:22,880
Speaker 2: So beautiful bride she is. I I can go ahead

579
00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:27,520
Speaker 2: and describe a white, blonde Jewish woman if it was

580
00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:33,400
Speaker 2: a Jewish wedding marrying a black non Jewish man, right,

581
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:36,919
Speaker 2: but it was all taking place. Apparently this was the

582
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:41,240
Speaker 2: first Jewish wedding to ever take place at a Muslim

583
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:43,120
Speaker 2: center in Harlem.

584
00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 1: Yes, that's what they say.

585
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:47,360
Speaker 2: And so the bride and her she was flanked by

586
00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:49,960
Speaker 2: her father and I can only guess maybe her stepfather.

587
00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 2: She had two men on either side of her, older

588
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:55,600
Speaker 2: gentleman fatherlike figures. But in order for them to walk

589
00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:58,200
Speaker 2: down the aisle, they had to split and walk around

590
00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:01,680
Speaker 2: a statue of Malcolm X. And it just wasn't lost

591
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 2: on us how interesting this New York wedding was.

592
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:08,520
Speaker 1: You know what that that's a uniquely New York experience.

593
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:09,880
Speaker 3: Where else could that happen?

594
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:12,000
Speaker 1: They then again they're telling it, this is the first

595
00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:15,280
Speaker 1: time a Jewish wedding has taking place in this center.

596
00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 1: It's the Malcolm X Spettish Baz. The Muslim center was

597
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 1: one hundred and sixty fish. Yeah, that's where it's taking place.

598
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:25,480
Speaker 1: And they're a huge life size statue of him.

599
00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:26,000
Speaker 3: Yeah.

600
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:29,440
Speaker 1: And to think that you have to walk around Malcolm

601
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 1: X a Jewish woman to get up there to get married.

602
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:35,800
Speaker 3: It's just it was amazing.

603
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:38,080
Speaker 1: It's such a You're right, a New York experience.

604
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 2: It really was, and the wedding was great, It was

605
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 2: fantastic and it was so fun. But that those are

606
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 2: the kind of moments where you couldn't I don't think

607
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:47,480
Speaker 2: you could write that into a script in a movie

608
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:50,000
Speaker 2: and people would believe it, they think, come on, but no,

609
00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 2: it was actually taking place, and it's one of the

610
00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:56,480
Speaker 2: like New York is just a breeding ground for those

611
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 2: types of yeah, of moments that you I don't think

612
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:00,960
Speaker 2: could exp to happen anywhere else.

613
00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 3: And it wasn't lost on us.

614
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 1: Okay, you know, very totally forgot this mentioned what the

615
00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:08,200
Speaker 1: nineteen twenties speak easy theme.

616
00:30:08,280 --> 00:30:12,560
Speaker 2: Oh yes, so we're all dressed up like we were

617
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:14,480
Speaker 2: in the Gilded Age too, which added to.

618
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 3: The ambiance and everything we were experiencing. It was like

619
00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 3: all these genres mashing up.

620
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 1: That was funny because it took us. We didn't have time.

621
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:25,480
Speaker 1: We thought we'd have enough time to go back and

622
00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 1: change before going to Ava's play. So you and I

623
00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:33,760
Speaker 1: show up looking like an American gangsta.

624
00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:39,160
Speaker 4: And a flapper like twenties just but you know what

625
00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 4: for the theater groups like for the you know, the

626
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:44,760
Speaker 4: theatrical the NYU Thespian community.

627
00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:48,600
Speaker 2: We weren't believe were we were fine? Like it was like, yeah, right,

628
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:49,920
Speaker 2: Like who doesn't want to dress like that?

629
00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 3: On Saturday night.

630
00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:01,640
Speaker 1: The CAF that off. That is where I was sitting

631
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:03,960
Speaker 1: where after it was done in the lobby waiting on

632
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 1: you all, and you came out from the restroom to

633
00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:10,440
Speaker 1: get me and my mouth a drop because that's when

634
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:15,720
Speaker 1: we got the news about ABC News and remember that, Yeah,

635
00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 1: that was weird. That was the last thing that happened

636
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 1: us to cap off this week. You're like, you're not

637
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 1: gonna believe this.

638
00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 3: Guess what this headline says.

639
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 1: Isn't that amazing? I couldn't help but stop and to think, Wow,

640
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 1: did we do that much damage?

641
00:31:33,040 --> 00:31:33,120
Speaker 2: Uh?

642
00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:36,440
Speaker 3: Sixty dollars the damage? I don't think so.

643
00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:40,280
Speaker 2: And maybe perhaps just to explain what we're specifically referencing

644
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:40,960
Speaker 2: here is.

645
00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 1: Everybody knows that story.

646
00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 3: Well I know, but I feel like we should just

647
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:45,640
Speaker 3: at least acknowledge.

648
00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're talking about the fact that ABC decided or

649
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 2: Disney decided to settle with Donald Trump, who sued ABC

650
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:57,680
Speaker 2: News and George Stephanopoulos for making the false.

651
00:31:57,640 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 3: Assertion that Donald Trump had been found Was it legally

652
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:07,160
Speaker 3: liable for raping a woman instead of sexually assaulting her.

653
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 2: So the word rape versus sexual assault, big legal distinction

654
00:32:11,280 --> 00:32:15,120
Speaker 2: and a big fine if you want to call it.

655
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:18,720
Speaker 2: That at least is what ABC agreed to pay. And yeah,

656
00:32:18,840 --> 00:32:22,360
Speaker 2: it's big news. And Trump's now well taking his win

657
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 2: and suing a couple other news agencies.

658
00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:27,880
Speaker 3: Let's see what happens with those lawsuits.

659
00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:30,320
Speaker 2: But yeah, he is laid down the law about what

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Speaker 2: he's going to accept and what he's not, and he

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Speaker 2: follows through when he says he's going to do something gray.

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Speaker 1: That's the last thing I remember about our night out

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Speaker 1: that I say capped it all. If it wasn't some

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Speaker 1: victory or anything, or don't wish ill of them or

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Speaker 1: anything like that, but it's just a matter. I remember

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Speaker 1: that was a stamp on in the evening for some reason.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and yeah, it is interesting.

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Speaker 1: But again, those things make you think, and that always

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Speaker 1: may always stop and think, wow, I did that, anything

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Speaker 1: I did that costs them that much money?

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Speaker 3: Apparently a distraction was just too costly.

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Speaker 1: No, I just didn't. I just stopped and thought, you

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Speaker 1: can't help. But sometimes think about those things, something like

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Speaker 1: that comes up, and I was just I couldn't believe it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I couldn't believe it. So what a week we've had,

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Speaker 1: and what a week we've got.

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Speaker 3: But you don't have to take a deep side.

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Speaker 1: I do.

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Speaker 3: I got a couple of things to get I thought

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Speaker 3: you said you were done.

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Speaker 1: I'm not done.

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Speaker 3: You're not done.

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Speaker 1: You had a couple more.

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Speaker 3: Things we have.

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Speaker 2: I think a really fun week ahead of us where

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Speaker 2: we can actually do a little relaxing too. I hope

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Speaker 2: all of you listening can do the same, maybe wind

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Speaker 2: down a little bit, maybe you have a few more

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Speaker 2: things to get done. But once you do, just I

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Speaker 2: don't know. I want to make sure I take the

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Speaker 2: time to to soak it in and to just be

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Speaker 2: and not We've just been doing so much, so let's

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Speaker 2: just let's just all be for a little while.

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Speaker 1: All right. But I appreciate that advice, will try to

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Speaker 1: adhere to it. But to everybody out there, please enjoy

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Speaker 1: and enjoy your families. I mean not to sound more

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Speaker 1: of it, but really you just you never know, you

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Speaker 1: never never know, so enjoy them, enjoy the time with

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Speaker 1: them if you have it, so appreciate its always. I'm TJ.

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Speaker 3: Holmes and I'm Amy Robot.

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Speaker 2: Happy holidays, everybody,