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Speaker 2: Bailey is on the phone today for our first date
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Shane.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call Shane and
Speaker 2: see if he tell us why he's ghosting her and
Speaker 2: maybe get her another date. But first, Bailey, how long
Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Shane?
Speaker 1: Probably, I don't know, maybe like a few days, maybe
Speaker 1: a week or so, Yeah, about a week, okay, And.
Speaker 3: Have you tried to get a hold of him in
Speaker 3: that time.
Speaker 1: I've tried texting him a few times. I've tried calling.
Speaker 1: We said we would meet at the dog park and nothing.
Speaker 3: Wait can I ask why the dog park?
Speaker 1: Yeah, we started running into each other there like a
Speaker 1: few times a week, and it would just kind of
Speaker 1: like be fun. We'd have we'd get into deep conversations
Speaker 1: obviously while our dogs were playing, because she also has
Speaker 1: the dog. But yeah, and then he eventually asked me
Speaker 1: if I wanted to get dinner, like just handing without
Speaker 1: the dogs. So we were always hanging out with the dogs,
Speaker 1: and yeah, I mean I was excited. I was happy.
Speaker 1: I was hoping that he would eventually ask, and he did.
Speaker 1: So we like went to this local Mexican spot in
Speaker 1: like his neighborhood. It's really nice. It's like really cute
Speaker 1: patio seating with like the best lights and all that,
Speaker 1: and it was a lot of fun. We the dinner
Speaker 1: lasted three hours. Yeah, it was really long. We just
Speaker 1: talked and talked and talked. We didn't even drink that
Speaker 1: much because we were just genuinely, you know, interested in
Speaker 1: talking and enjoying each other's company. And it went really well.
Speaker 2: One of those dates where you're on where the cervikes
Speaker 2: kind up like young guys right early, we haven't even
Speaker 2: looked at you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think were like this too much.
Speaker 3: Okay, Oh I love those moments. So when you can
Speaker 3: connect to somebody that you can talk to them for
Speaker 3: three hours, Yeah, it.
Speaker 1: Was fun and there was just the two of us.
Speaker 1: But yeah, so that was their dinner day. And then
Speaker 1: you know, at the end of the night we had
Speaker 1: we kissed and like he shamed really into it, and
Speaker 1: then he said he had to go, but we said
Speaker 1: we would do it again and we would see. So
Speaker 1: after that he said that we would do it again
Speaker 1: and we would meet up again at the dog park
Speaker 1: the next day, because both of us just go every
Speaker 1: day like at a routine. But the next day I
Speaker 1: went to the dog park and he wasn't there, so
Speaker 1: I texted him just to make sure he was okay.
Speaker 1: No answer. I texted again, I called, and that was it.
Speaker 3: That's like even worse than being ghosted, because like now
Speaker 3: you're also worried about this person's well being. We sure
Speaker 3: he's single, I mean, he said he was.
Speaker 2: Is there anything that happened on the date that maybe
Speaker 2: could be something or maybe it could be a reason
Speaker 2: that you're getting ghosted?
Speaker 1: I mean, like, so I have like the kind of
Speaker 1: teeth where food always gets stuck in your teeth. Like
Speaker 1: I don't know why that's the thing for me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I checked early. I checked earlier in the night, and
Speaker 1: like it was fine, and then like I got home
Speaker 1: and I checked again and I had like a giant
Speaker 1: piece of cilantro so oh oh God, Like I don't know,
Speaker 1: maybe he felt it, and I just want to die.
Speaker 1: I don't know. That's it.
Speaker 3: That's the only thing you can think of with something
Speaker 3: in your teeth, I get.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's literally the only thing I can think of.
Speaker 1: I'm like that. I don't even know if that's a
Speaker 1: reason to go someone after three hours of talking, you know.
Speaker 2: All right, Well, we'll play a song and then come
Speaker 2: back and call him and see if he'll tell us
Speaker 2: why is ghosting you, and maybe get to another date.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, all right, we'll play a song, come back
Speaker 3: and get your first Day follow up next.
Speaker 2: Right in the middle of today's first Day follow up,
Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Bailey is on the phone
Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Shane. So
Speaker 2: we're about to call him and see if he'll tell
Speaker 2: us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her another date.
Speaker 2: But first, Bailey, why don't you recap your date with
Speaker 2: Shane real quick?
Speaker 1: Yeah. So, Shane and I met at a dog park.
Speaker 1: We both have dogs, and we after a few days
Speaker 1: of hanging out at the dog park, we went to
Speaker 1: like a local Mexican restaurant. We had a lot of fun,
Speaker 1: and the dinner actually lasted three hours. We didn't even
Speaker 1: drink because we were so into talking to each other.
Speaker 1: It was wonderful. And then at the end we had
Speaker 1: a nice, beautiful, passionate kiss and We agreed that we'd
Speaker 1: meet the next day at the dog park. He didn't
Speaker 1: show up. I texted, I texted, I called nothing, so
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Okay, are you ready for us to call on?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Let's do it all right?
Speaker 4: Here we go.
Speaker 1: Hello, Hi, my.
Speaker 3: Sweet to Shane. Please this Shane, Shane. How are you?
Speaker 2: My name is Jewbeil and I'm calling from a radio
Speaker 2: show called The Jewbil Show.
Speaker 3: Hi, Shane, I'm Nina Elso on the show. Hi, and
Speaker 3: I'm Victoria Cool. How are you.
Speaker 4: I'm doing well?
Speaker 1: How are you?
Speaker 4: Folks?
Speaker 3: Great? Thank you for He sounds so scared. It's okay,
Speaker 3: don't be scared. Have you ever heard of the show before? Oh?
Speaker 2: I mean, of course. Okay, that's why I'm sort of
Speaker 2: Why are you calling me? If you've never heard the
Speaker 2: first day follow up? It's a segment of two on
Speaker 2: the show where somebody's getting ghosted. They can email us
Speaker 2: and then we call that person to see why they're
Speaker 2: ghosting them. And we got an email about you, Shane.
Speaker 4: Mm hmm.
Speaker 3: It's from Bailey.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 3: We talked to Bailey about your date.
Speaker 2: She said it was really great and she has no
Speaker 2: idea why she's being ghosted, So we're calling you to
Speaker 2: ask if you would tell us.
Speaker 5: Well, you could say, first all, I has nothing to
Speaker 5: do with her. She's amazing, and I said, I can't
Speaker 5: stop thinking about her. So there's nothing wrong with Bailey.
Speaker 5: The thing is that I am. I'm actually in a relationship,
Speaker 5: and in this relationship for three years. Actually it's pretty serious.
Speaker 5: I got it, have an engagement ring. Oh and to
Speaker 5: be clear, it's really messing with me right now.
Speaker 3: So why did you go out with Bailey in the
Speaker 3: first play? Shane?
Speaker 4: I probably, I definitely, I definitely should not have. But
Speaker 4: she was so cool.
Speaker 5: We were having so much front of the dog park.
Speaker 5: She's funny, she was just very natural, like very natural chemistry.
Speaker 5: And I guess I convinced myself that if I went
Speaker 5: on a date and you know, outside of the context
Speaker 5: of the dog park, maybe like maybe she wouldn't be
Speaker 5: as awesome and cool. Was very stupid, because it turns
Speaker 5: out that she is even cooler. I mean, we weren't
Speaker 5: even we shouldn't even drink.
Speaker 4: We just talked for three hours.
Speaker 3: Yeah that's what she said.
Speaker 5: So yeah, I mean, honestly, I just really messed up,
Speaker 5: and I shouldn't have done it. Also, I'm just reevaluating
Speaker 5: my entire situation, like if in my engage to the
Speaker 5: right person should be in this relationship, if I'm if
Speaker 5: I feel this way about this other person, or is
Speaker 5: it just like because it's so new as Shane.
Speaker 2: That's all good questions. And I bet somebody would like
Speaker 2: some to figure out some answers with you to That
Speaker 2: would be Bailey.
Speaker 3: She's actually on the phone talk to you.
Speaker 4: Right, Hey, Bailey, I'm really sorry.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm really confused on how or why you let.
Speaker 4: It get this far.
Speaker 5: Yeah, after the kiss, I was just like one of
Speaker 5: my thinking this.
Speaker 1: Is I'm confused, and I just don't know why you
Speaker 1: let it get respond. I just think that you probably
Speaker 1: should have told me you had a girlfriend when we
Speaker 1: were at the dogs park and not after we went
Speaker 1: to dinner for three hours. And I just don't know
Speaker 1: what you were thinking and how you could do this
Speaker 1: to two people.
Speaker 3: What was the plan, Sane, like just ghosting Bailey and
Speaker 3: then it would just go away.
Speaker 5: I was hoping that we would just get a vibe like, oh,
Speaker 5: we should just be friends, and then that would be
Speaker 5: easier to just, you know, from then on detached and
Speaker 5: just be dog parts friends and that is not what
Speaker 5: happened at all, obviously, and it was very stupid and
Speaker 5: irresponsible with me, and I hate myself, not that it's anybody's,
Speaker 5: you know, problem, except for my.
Speaker 4: Own, and I have to figure it out. But I
Speaker 4: just want to be clear, Like Bailey, I fell for you.
Speaker 4: I fell for you hard, and I can't.
Speaker 5: I still can't stop thinking about you, and that is
Speaker 5: that is my problem, and that is my fault. But
Speaker 5: I just want you to know that you didn't Obviously
Speaker 5: you didn't do anything wrong and in fact, you're great.
Speaker 1: Well it's my problem too because I'm stuck in this,
Speaker 1: and it's your girlfriend's problem too, she just doesn't know
Speaker 1: it yet. But I mean, obviously I'm I have strong
Speaker 1: feelings for you too. I'm just really upset and I
Speaker 1: just didn't. I don't know why you did this or
Speaker 1: what you want to do about all of this now
Speaker 1: that everybody's involved.
Speaker 3: Well, what do you want to do about this now, Bailey,
Speaker 3: that you have this information?
Speaker 1: I guess I just want him to man up and
Speaker 1: make a decision, like he's living with someone that for
Speaker 1: three years that he's about to propose to and he
Speaker 1: bought a ring, but he's telling me otherwise. So I
Speaker 1: think he just needs to leave his girlfriend because I
Speaker 1: think we're soulmates and I'm I think I'm the one,
Speaker 1: and that's what he kind of said over a three
Speaker 1: hour dinner, So I think he needs to do that.
Speaker 3: Shane, and she.
Speaker 4: Might be right.
Speaker 5: I have to figure this out, I mean, Bailey might
Speaker 5: you might be. That's why I'm so messed up, Like
Speaker 5: it would be a lot easier if I didn't feel
Speaker 5: that way. Obviously, I have to figure things out. I mean,
Speaker 5: like this person's really special to me, obviously about an
Speaker 5: engagement ring, and again, I just got to make sure
Speaker 5: I'm not just doing something because I'm feeling something all
Speaker 5: of a sudden, something new.
Speaker 3: So you both think that each other's soul mates.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm just kind of annoyed on him right now.
Speaker 5: I mean, I mean we talked about it on the date,
Speaker 5: you like, everything down to our birthday's lineup, you know,
Speaker 5: like we're compatible.
Speaker 4: Think we are like tool made. I just I don't
Speaker 4: know what to do. I mean, daily, what should I do?
Speaker 1: Well? When you can call her, like when we get
Speaker 1: off the phone now, you can just call her and
Speaker 1: tell her that it's over and you can come live
Speaker 1: with me.
Speaker 2: WHOA, Well, I guess I can ask the question now, Shane,
Speaker 2: would you like to go on another date with Bailey?
Speaker 5: We'll pay for it? Yeah, yeah, and that's the figure
Speaker 5: this out. But yes, yes, that's I think what I want.
Speaker 5: But I just want to be clear. So Bailey, you're saying, if.
Speaker 4: I call her and I and things right now, I
Speaker 4: can live with you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you call her and break it up? You
Speaker 1: can move in tonight if you want, and you can
Speaker 1: bring that ring that you got for her, because we're soulmates,
Speaker 1: so just bring the ring.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we'll have to figure out it the storic size,
Speaker 5: but yeah, what you know, I have to just talking
Speaker 5: about it right now. I'm feeling like so much weight
Speaker 5: off my shoulders. I think I think it's the right
Speaker 5: thing to do. I think your soulmates just where like
Speaker 5: what I gotta do.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, congratulations Bailey, you got another date and maybe
Speaker 2: a more fiance out of it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we'll pay.
Speaker 2: For a second date, but not the wedding that escalated
Speaker 2: really Yeah.
Speaker 1: All right, thanks guys, And Shane makes that phone, make
Speaker 1: that phone call, and yeah, I love.
Speaker 3: You, Oh, I love you.
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