Speaker 1: I am a Yamla. I had a baby daddy relationship.
Speaker 1: I spent time in a relationship with a married man.
Speaker 1: I had to learn the skills and tools required to
Speaker 1: make my relationships healthy, fulfilling and loving. Welcome to the
Speaker 1: Our Spot, a production of Shondaland Audio in partnership with iHeartRadio,
Speaker 1: Grind Rising and Welcome to the R Spot. You may
Speaker 1: have heard the recent interview I did with Jada Pinkett
Speaker 1: Smith about her new book Worthy Now. Whether you're a
Speaker 1: fan of Jada or not, whether you think she did
Speaker 1: will dirty or not, whether you love her hair or not,
Speaker 1: Jada offered some powerful insights about how her lack of
Speaker 1: self worth impacted her life and all her relationships, even
Speaker 1: when she was sitting on top of the world with
Speaker 1: a lot of money. And if you heard that interview,
Speaker 1: I pray you notice that I didn't go into the
Speaker 1: details of her story, her marriage, or to slap herd
Speaker 1: around the world. I focused on the elements of her
Speaker 1: healing journey, the journey to Worthy. Jada's story, like my
Speaker 1: story or your story, are our business, our unique individual business. However,
Speaker 1: what is common to all people is how our stories impact, enhance,
Speaker 1: or detract from a healthy sense of self worth. Though
Speaker 1: today I'm asking what is self worth? Where do you
Speaker 1: get it or learn it? Do you have a healthy
Speaker 1: sense of self worth? If so, how did you get it?
Speaker 1: And if not, why not? And to do that, I
Speaker 1: want to begin with a clear definition of self worth,
Speaker 1: because I'm not sure everybody has a clear definition or
Speaker 1: the same definition. So for the purposes of this exploration
Speaker 1: of the topic today, here is how I am defining
Speaker 1: self worth. Self worth is what you request, require and
Speaker 1: expect for yourself from others and of others as a
Speaker 1: function of how you see and hold yourself within yourself.
Speaker 1: That means what you request or ask for require in
Speaker 1: terms of boundaries and behaviors, and what you accept and
Speaker 1: accommodate first from yourself. I mean, where do you draw
Speaker 1: the line related to what you will and will not do,
Speaker 1: because that will determine what you expect from others and
Speaker 1: of others and the way they conduct themselves in your
Speaker 1: life and in your experience with them, and all of that.
Speaker 1: All of it. It's a function or reflection of how
Speaker 1: you see and hold yourself within your self. Now, I
Speaker 1: don't want to go into all of it right now,
Speaker 1: but it is your sense of self value that determines
Speaker 1: your self worth. And it is your self esteem that
Speaker 1: determines your self value, and it is your self love
Speaker 1: that determines your self esteem. And it's all of that
Speaker 1: self love, self esteem, self value, and self worth that
Speaker 1: determines and or deters what you experience in relationships. But
Speaker 1: today we're focusing on self worth. We're focusing on that part,
Speaker 1: and I'm sure those things will bring up or show
Speaker 1: up as the lack of the other things. Self worth,
Speaker 1: where do you get it or learn it? Do you
Speaker 1: have it? If so, how did you get it? If not,
Speaker 1: why not? Let's hear what the callers have to say
Speaker 1: about that today. Welcome beloved, Welcome to the R Spot.
Speaker 1: We're talking about self worth today. What is it? Do
Speaker 1: you have it? If so, how do you get it?
Speaker 1: And if not, why not? And what's your story?
Speaker 2: My story is that I have abundant issues, and not
Speaker 2: just from other people, like I'll abandon myself. So yeah,
Speaker 2: so that's where it starts. My childhood was teumatic, so
Speaker 2: I would like leave my body to stay faced. And
Speaker 2: what I'm finding now is that now that I know
Speaker 2: that I'll I leave my body I'm just now learning
Speaker 2: on this about myself. Before I just didn't I just
Speaker 2: wasn't person. I just didn't know what was going on
Speaker 2: at any given moment. I didn't know what I was doing.
Speaker 1: But now that I'm over, Wait a minute, Wait a minute,
Speaker 1: tell me what you mean. Tell me what that experience
Speaker 1: is When you say I leave my body, what does
Speaker 1: that mean?
Speaker 2: In that moment, I don't know what my physical body
Speaker 2: is doing. I could be staring off for the face.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't know it. I could be sharing. I wouldn't know.
Speaker 2: Like my I leave, like I'm not there.
Speaker 1: You go unconscious. Yes, I want to say to you
Speaker 1: that I think it's a powerful, powerful awareness that you
Speaker 1: know that you abandon yourself.
Speaker 2: I didn't know until I had children and I had
Speaker 2: to be.
Speaker 1: But I'm wondering now if it's just a habitual response
Speaker 1: to a trigger. So let me ask you this, when
Speaker 1: do you do that? What triggers you leaving your body?
Speaker 1: Is it certain?
Speaker 2: It could be anything, Yes, it could be certain people.
Speaker 2: It could be anxiety, it could be overthinking. Yeah, And
Speaker 2: it's almost like now that I heal the trauma, I
Speaker 2: somewhat heal the trauma. Is the what I did to
Speaker 2: keep myself safe is what I'm having an issue with.
Speaker 1: Hell, the fact that you leave your body to keep
Speaker 1: yourself safe. Why do you think that's a function of
Speaker 1: self work.
Speaker 2: I think it's a function of my self worth, because
Speaker 2: now that I'm realizing what it means like to stay
Speaker 2: present and getting a glint of a glimpse of my
Speaker 2: work when I'm present, I almost will put myself the
Speaker 2: situations because I believe that any relationship that I'm having
Speaker 2: is a reflection of me. So sometimes I have a
Speaker 2: hard time leading unhealthy relationships when I know that it's unhealthy,
Speaker 2: but because I think it's a reflection of me, I think, okay,
Speaker 2: well let me stay in it and fix it when
Speaker 2: it's probably not the life greater.
Speaker 1: No, it's not, and let me tell you why it's not.
Speaker 1: Because the same mind that took you into the relationship
Speaker 1: is the same mind you're trying to use to fix
Speaker 1: the relationship that's not going to turn out well for you.
Speaker 2: And it's not because it is my child's father. So
Speaker 2: now I'm like, we can move in together, but he
Speaker 2: wants to be with me, so I'm telling him now like, okay,
Speaker 2: let's stay together because there's certain things that you can
Speaker 2: teach them that I can't teach them. So I need
Speaker 2: your help, Like I need you to be a doub
Speaker 2: but I don't want you to focus on the relationship.
Speaker 2: But it's on the keys and I know that it's
Speaker 2: not gonna work out like that. I should be trusting myself,
Speaker 2: but I'm not. I think that's where I fight myself.
Speaker 2: It's like any.
Speaker 1: That's how you abandon yourself when you know something to
Speaker 1: be true and you dismiss it, diminish it, deny it
Speaker 1: because you don't have a healthy sense of self worth
Speaker 1: and you don't believe you can do it, so you'll
Speaker 1: sacrifice yourself and what's good for you in order to
Speaker 1: get it done for somebody else. Right now, what I
Speaker 1: want you to get is that is how you abandon yourself.
Speaker 1: Forget the shaken and not knowing where you are. That's
Speaker 1: one thing that's a reaction. The abandonment and the diminishing
Speaker 1: of your self worth comes from that secret, silent belief
Speaker 1: I can't do this.
Speaker 2: And you know what the other issue is. I heard
Speaker 2: another episode where you were saying, is it a part
Speaker 2: of you that still wants and is it between your toes.
Speaker 2: It's a small piece of one of him between my parents.
Speaker 2: I don't know what to do with it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, when it gets down there in between the toes,
Speaker 1: but before beloved, before you can even think of having
Speaker 1: a relationship with him or your children, You've got to
Speaker 1: grow that sense of worth. I am worthy. I value myself.
Speaker 1: I see myself bigger, grander than what I'm experiencing. You've
Speaker 1: got to grow those things because is it you, the
Speaker 1: authentic you, that wants him or is it that part
Speaker 1: of you that's down in between your toes that will
Speaker 1: accept what shows up and try to fix it.
Speaker 2: Definitely.
Speaker 1: So if I were to say, if I were to
Speaker 1: say to you at this time in my life, I
Speaker 1: do not have a healthy sense of self worth, what
Speaker 1: would you say to that? Is that true for you
Speaker 1: or not true for me? I? Okay, So let me
Speaker 1: hear you own that, because the first step toward healing
Speaker 1: is acknowledgement. So let me hear you own at this
Speaker 1: time in my life, I do not have a healthy
Speaker 1: sense of self worth. I want to hear you say
Speaker 1: that and own it.
Speaker 2: At this point in my life, I definitely do not
Speaker 2: have a healthy sense of and.
Speaker 1: That makes me feel I'm sad because.
Speaker 2: Or because I'm aware of it and I'm still choosing
Speaker 2: to abandons.
Speaker 1: Wow, you don't need me, You need to hang up
Speaker 1: and go on. But I want you to hear the
Speaker 1: power of that. And it's a simple flip you said,
Speaker 1: And that makes me feel sad because I'm aware of
Speaker 1: it and I'm still choosing it. But here's what I
Speaker 1: want you to get beloved. Every choice overrides and supersedes
Speaker 1: every other choice. So at any given moment, any moment
Speaker 1: can be the moment that you make another choice. We'll
Speaker 1: talk about that when we come back. Welcome back to
Speaker 1: the R spot. Let's pick up where we left off.
Speaker 1: So right now, your sense of worth you're developing, deepening, healing,
Speaker 1: your self worth hinges upon you making another choice moment
Speaker 1: by moment by moment by moment. It may mean that
Speaker 1: you have to take sometime get clear about what you
Speaker 1: really want, and get clear about whether you think you
Speaker 1: deserve it and whether you think you can have it,
Speaker 1: and then believe you can have it, ask for it,
Speaker 1: ask God's source, creator, universe, and then take one make
Speaker 1: one choice at a time that will get you to
Speaker 1: what you want.
Speaker 3: That's what I'll do.
Speaker 2: I'll make those choices. I go in and out of
Speaker 2: the continents, like I'll make a good choice that's good
Speaker 2: for myself and that that my highest selpe agrees would
Speaker 2: and appreciates, and then I'll go back on the choice.
Speaker 1: Like, oh, because you continue to surround yourself with the
Speaker 1: spiritual pollutants that make you think you can have it. So,
Speaker 1: just as it relates to your just as it relates
Speaker 1: to your child's father, your children's father, is that the
Speaker 1: relationship you want for yourself?
Speaker 2: Absolutely want?
Speaker 1: Okay, So here we are. I am not choosing to
Speaker 1: be in relationship with my children's father for me, but
Speaker 1: you are willing to have a co parenting relationship with
Speaker 1: him for the children. Is that accurate?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 1: But I hear the butt. I hear the butt.
Speaker 2: Because it's almost easier for me to do the do
Speaker 2: it the way that I do it because he's he's an alcoholic,
Speaker 2: so it's it's enough. So because he's alcoholic, it's almost
Speaker 2: easier to be nice to him. Because when I'm when
Speaker 2: I go that route and say I don't want to
Speaker 2: be to you. Let's let's do this, let's do that,
Speaker 2: Let's meet somewhere and meet up with the kids being aggressive.
Speaker 2: It's combative and and that triggers me, and that makes
Speaker 2: me the truth.
Speaker 1: So do you believe it can be different? No? There
Speaker 1: you are. That's it. You're never gonna live beyond your beliefs.
Speaker 1: So your work, my love, is building up first your
Speaker 1: sense of self. You can't have worth until you have
Speaker 1: a self. And right now your self is depleted or
Speaker 1: diminished or denied or whatever. You've got to build self.
Speaker 1: So I want to give you an assignment. Okay, If
Speaker 1: I give you an assignment, are you gonna do it?
Speaker 2: Absolutely?
Speaker 1: Okay. Yourself, my love, is the core, the essence, the
Speaker 1: truth of who you are. That's what your self is.
Speaker 1: So before you can have love or esteem or value
Speaker 1: or worth, you gotta build up yourself. And yourself has
Speaker 1: a name. And the name of yourself is I Am.
Speaker 1: That's your self's name. So let's say your what is
Speaker 1: your first name?
Speaker 3: My first name?
Speaker 1: Okay, I am Tiffany. Yeah, Tiffany is your name, but
Speaker 1: the I am is the self that Tiffany is. So
Speaker 1: here's your assignment. Every day for the next forty days,
Speaker 1: every day for the next forty days. Before he gets
Speaker 1: up and you have to get busy. I want you
Speaker 1: to get up and I want you to write forty
Speaker 1: times on a sheet of paper I am, and then
Speaker 1: I want you to put behind that I AM what
Speaker 1: it is that you want to be in your life. So,
Speaker 1: for example, I am clear, I am love, I am peace,
Speaker 1: I am power, I am joy, I am beauty, I
Speaker 1: am wealth, I am health, I am wisdom, I am power.
Speaker 1: All of those words forty times, forty sentences every day
Speaker 1: for forty days. Okay, So when you get up tomorrow,
Speaker 1: you're going to write forty I AM statements, and then
Speaker 1: the next day you write forty I AM statements. Now
Speaker 1: as you're writing, after you write them all down, I
Speaker 1: want you to go back and read the list and
Speaker 1: check off the ones you don't believe. Okay, So let's
Speaker 1: say you write I am power. When you go back
Speaker 1: and read, I don't believe I'm power. I don't believe
Speaker 1: I'm clarity. I don't believe I'm truth. I don't believe
Speaker 1: I'm wealthy. Because those are the things that you've got
Speaker 1: to build up. Those are the things that you have
Speaker 1: to build up so that you can grow your worth.
Speaker 1: Why don't you believe that your love why don't you
Speaker 1: believe that you're wealthy? Why don't you believe that? And
Speaker 1: you don't have to write it down. You can, you
Speaker 1: can write it down, But basically, I just want you
Speaker 1: to start thinking about it and bringing it to the
Speaker 1: surface because what I know to be true is once
Speaker 1: you start making those statements, God sources life, the universe
Speaker 1: is gonna bring you experiences where you get to practice
Speaker 1: being the things that you don't believe. So let's say
Speaker 1: you don't believe that your power. Life is going to
Speaker 1: bring you an experience where you're gonna have to stand
Speaker 1: in your power, ask for what you want, say no,
Speaker 1: and you're gonna do this for forty days. If you
Speaker 1: miss a day, start all over again. I don't care
Speaker 1: if it's day twenty two. You got to start the
Speaker 1: forty days all over because what we're trying to do
Speaker 1: is we're trying to get you reconnected, reacquainted, to get
Speaker 1: you to trust again your self.
Speaker 3: That's myself.
Speaker 1: Yes, you got it. Forty days, forty statements a day,
Speaker 1: Write them, then read them, check off what you don't believe,
Speaker 1: and then be on the lookout for that thing to
Speaker 1: show up in your life. Is after you do your
Speaker 1: forty days. I want you to write down what you
Speaker 1: want with yourself in place, your I am established. Then
Speaker 1: write down what you want, because what you're going for
Speaker 1: right now is what you know. When yourself is in place,
Speaker 1: right you, when yourself is in place and established, you
Speaker 1: can create what you really really desire.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, I will thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Thank you for calling, beloved. All right, bye bye. A
Speaker 1: healthy sense of self worth begins with the willingness to
Speaker 1: put you first in your life, you your needs, your desires.
Speaker 1: Because if you can't put you first in your life,
Speaker 1: if you don't enjoy your life, everything and everybody else
Speaker 1: will start there. Vote for you, put you first. Let's
Speaker 1: hear what my next caller has to say. Greetings and
Speaker 1: welcome to the R Spot. I am Amla and today
Speaker 1: we are diving head first into the issue, the topic,
Speaker 1: the challenge of self worth. So what do you bringing
Speaker 1: to the table today.
Speaker 3: I have done, in my opinions, a lot of work
Speaker 3: on myself men recovery. I've gone through all my steps.
Speaker 3: I'm in therapy, you know, I've done all the things.
Speaker 3: And I guess I was thinking I was gonna turn
Speaker 3: around and put my heels and have instant self worth.
Speaker 3: But I do affirm the prayer, you know, But enough
Speaker 3: for all that. My dilemma today is is it a
Speaker 3: way to act your act as if to bring forth
Speaker 3: the belief? Because I know that I get what I
Speaker 3: expect and believe, is it possible to act your way
Speaker 3: into that?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: Dog, that's a answer.
Speaker 1: No and goodbye. No. Next, let me let me start here,
Speaker 1: because I know you're a spiritual warrior, so let me
Speaker 1: start here. How do you define self worth? How do
Speaker 1: you define it?
Speaker 3: I define self work as what I feel about myself
Speaker 3: on the outside, manifesting itself in my actions and my behavior.
Speaker 3: The good person that I am. I want that to
Speaker 3: be reflected, you know, in my behavior and my choices.
Speaker 1: And it's not being reflected in your behavior.
Speaker 3: Oh, some of my choices probably could have.
Speaker 1: Been better, could have been. But when you made a
Speaker 1: poor choice or a decision, do you use that as
Speaker 1: your measuring tool for the next choice and decision? So
Speaker 1: let's say you know, you know that popcorn gives you gas,
Speaker 1: but you love popcorn. So do you choose to eat
Speaker 1: the popcorn and blow up the room? Or do you
Speaker 1: choose potato chips?
Speaker 3: Okay, are you using the baked potato chips?
Speaker 1: Okay? Yeah, so that says that you're choosing what you
Speaker 1: know about yourself to guide and govern your choices. But
Speaker 1: here's where I think you're falling off the wagon. You
Speaker 1: define self worth from the outside, not from the inside.
Speaker 1: You said that you you define self worth as what
Speaker 1: you see on the outside being a reflection of what
Speaker 1: is on the inside. Yeah, you did. So you're defining
Speaker 1: your worth based on external criteria as opposed to internal criteria,
Speaker 1: and worth begins within that. I don't think your issue
Speaker 1: is worth. I think your issue is value.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 1: How you see and hold yourself within yourself that determines
Speaker 1: what you do and how you do it. That's value.
Speaker 1: That's not worth. How you see and hold yourself within
Speaker 1: yourself that determines what you do and how you do it.
Speaker 1: You know, I value myself and I value my my dignity.
Speaker 1: I value my my eldership. So I'm not gonna I'm
Speaker 1: not going to get on the pole and the throng.
Speaker 1: I'm not right because I value myself too much to
Speaker 1: do that. I don't care. You couldn't pay me enough
Speaker 1: to get on a pole and a thong. And make
Speaker 1: everybody else blind when they see me. For y'all right,
Speaker 1: it would be too much for them. They are not worthy,
Speaker 1: they are not worthy of seeing me on the pole.
Speaker 1: So what I'm hearing you say is that there may
Speaker 1: be some tweaks you have to do in your value
Speaker 1: that will support you in constructing what you do and
Speaker 1: don't do, how you make your choices, how you move.
Speaker 1: We'll talk about that right after this break. Welcome back
Speaker 1: to the R spot. Let's get back to the conversation.
Speaker 1: Give me an example.
Speaker 3: I can give you a hot one.
Speaker 1: Okay, give me one.
Speaker 3: Oh. I sat around for years crushing on this guy,
Speaker 3: but I wouldn't say nothing because I thought that he
Speaker 3: was above me.
Speaker 1: Whoa I know, I know.
Speaker 3: And so then the opportunity came and I thought, this
Speaker 3: is it. I'm going God to hurt my prayers and
Speaker 3: I'm gonna go for it. And then when it was presented,
Speaker 3: it was not the same type of relationship that I walled. Well,
Speaker 3: he just wanted a physical relationship. I don't know why
Speaker 3: whispering because it's just for a million people gonna be
Speaker 3: listening to.
Speaker 1: That, right, you know.
Speaker 3: And I was. I was so disappointed, but I said,
Speaker 3: you know what, I'm gonna work with this. I'm gonna
Speaker 3: work with this. I'm gonna go out with him because
Speaker 3: once he's around me, he's going to be convinced. Even
Speaker 3: though I heard I heard your voice saying when they
Speaker 3: tell you believe I heard you. I said, you know what,
Speaker 3: that applies to everybody else because I felt like I
Speaker 3: knew better. But I said, if I knew better, and
Speaker 3: I didn't do better.
Speaker 1: Okay, So when it was all said and done, I
Speaker 1: heard you say you were disappointed in yourself. What else,
Speaker 1: when it was all said and done, you didn't get
Speaker 1: what you wanted, you would disappoint it.
Speaker 3: And I should have known better from the beginner.
Speaker 1: Nope, you're beating yourself up. Were you ashamed?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 3: Yeah, because me, I think. Did you feel guiltful or shame?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: Not just so shame because I just felt like, you know,
Speaker 3: I mentor a lot of women women, yes, there you
Speaker 3: know that would tell them not to do it.
Speaker 1: So here's where you went off the rail. Holding the
Speaker 1: belief that he was above you. And you said you
Speaker 1: sat around for years, so you held the belief that
Speaker 1: he was above you, which meant you were less than him,
Speaker 1: which means that you accepted less and you compromised your value,
Speaker 1: which diminish your worth. It is it's a value issue
Speaker 1: because remember I said value determines what you will do
Speaker 1: and what you won't do. So what you did was
Speaker 1: accepted less and compromised yourself and went into what you
Speaker 1: didn't want because his needs, wants, desires were greater than yours,
Speaker 1: all based upon the belief that he was above you.
Speaker 3: He was more valuable than me.
Speaker 1: Yes, And when you give something or someone more value
Speaker 1: than you believe, you are more value than you think.
Speaker 1: The way you hold yourself, you diminish your worth. So
Speaker 1: you're going to get less. You're not going to request
Speaker 1: what you want. You're not going to require what you
Speaker 1: want because you're less than and you're going to expect
Speaker 1: that person to hold their boundaries while you relax yours.
Speaker 1: What a powerful learning. What a powerful learning. And here's
Speaker 1: I want to say this to you. I want to
Speaker 1: say this to you because this is you know, for
Speaker 1: all teachers, mentors, you can't teach what you're not living.
Speaker 1: It won't be authentic, it won't be received. So you're
Speaker 1: teaching these young girls you know the truth that you
Speaker 1: know in and what they need to do, and then
Speaker 1: you turn around and act like a boo boo to
Speaker 1: fool right from up the street, right across the track,
Speaker 1: or somewhere right. So here's a universe saying to you, Okay,
Speaker 1: you want to teach, you want to mentor, you gotta
Speaker 1: have integrity and you got to be authentic. You can't
Speaker 1: have this thing going on in the back room. Can't
Speaker 1: do that. Can't do that because the universe is trusting
Speaker 1: you by putting young women's hearts and souls in your hand.
Speaker 1: You got to be in integrity and it's okay, you
Speaker 1: learn that lesson you. Okay, next, won't do that again.
Speaker 1: Won't do that again.
Speaker 3: I'm so glad I called me too.
Speaker 1: So remember your worth is what you requests require and
Speaker 1: the expect for yourself that grows from how you see
Speaker 1: yourself and hold yourself within yourself. That determines what you
Speaker 1: will and won't do. That's your value. So you got
Speaker 1: to focus in on value. This is not valuing myself.
Speaker 1: Me going into a physical relationship with somebody that I
Speaker 1: really want something more with. That's not valuing who I
Speaker 1: am and what I want. I'm not gonna do that.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do that now. I hope it was good,
Speaker 1: and I hope you know you had a few thrills
Speaker 1: and stuff, because it ain't nothing wrong with that either.
Speaker 1: Just don't buy the wedding dress in order the invitations
Speaker 1: because he ain't the one, right, don't beat yourself up.
Speaker 1: Nookie ain't never hurt nobody. Go on with yourself now.
Speaker 1: But if you're giving the nookie up expecting it to
Speaker 1: be more when you've already been told it ain't gonna
Speaker 1: be no more, then that's a problem.
Speaker 3: I get it. I receive it. I received it.
Speaker 1: So forgive yourself for being disappointed, forgive yourself for being ashamed,
Speaker 1: forgive yourself for diminishing your value, forgive yourself for diminishing
Speaker 1: your worth, and just go on next.
Speaker 3: But so so so so thank you, so thank you.
Speaker 1: Okay, and remember worth comes from the inside, not from
Speaker 1: the outside, not from the outside, bottom line. Okay, all right,
Speaker 1: all right, warrior deep bowel to you, thank you, thank you,
Speaker 1: my love, god bye. That was juicy, And like I said,
Speaker 1: a little nookie ain't never hurt nobody. A well. I
Speaker 1: don't know about you, but I got a lot out
Speaker 1: of today's show. Lots and lots and lots of things
Speaker 1: to think about, lots and lots to consider because just
Speaker 1: like you, just like Jada, just like every other person
Speaker 1: with a story, I too am growing in my sense
Speaker 1: of worth in the world and what I expect of
Speaker 1: myself and for myself and what I expect from others.
Speaker 1: You see, we got to know that worth grows from value.
Speaker 1: So if you've got a self value issue, if you're
Speaker 1: doing things that don't value your dreams or who you are,
Speaker 1: how you identify, if you're putting yourself in situations where
Speaker 1: you are being diminished or denied or whatever because you
Speaker 1: don't think you can get better, you're going to diminish
Speaker 1: your worth because you're not standing in your full value.
Speaker 1: So I hope you got something today that you can use.
Speaker 1: I hope that you are requiring, requesting, and expecting all
Speaker 1: that you deserve. I hope that you know something now
Speaker 1: that you didn't know when you tuned in. And until
Speaker 1: we meet again, stay in peace and not present. The
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