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<v Speaker 3>Hey, mandra, Hey, how's it going. It's going, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>just another week in our frigid tundra of a paradise.

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<v Speaker 3>Queen. Oh hey, we just talked about her. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>That was such like a game that she's not a queen,

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<v Speaker 3>but she's a No, she's not a princess, she's a.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna give you parcel use of your your black

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<v Speaker 1>and brown card back.

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<v Speaker 3>Li said, why are you always holding that over my head?

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<v Speaker 3>That's not fair. I can't calm here. This is a

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<v Speaker 3>safe space. I can't come.

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<v Speaker 2>Every day.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, just first of all, I just want

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<v Speaker 1>to for those of you who will be about Chinese

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<v Speaker 1>jump rope, thank.

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<v Speaker 2>You, because I was like, I'm not bucket.

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<v Speaker 1>I used to play that in outside of Side on

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<v Speaker 1>It out and so a bunch of y'all were like,

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<v Speaker 1>uh huh.

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<v Speaker 3>Was that last week's show? We got so much love

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<v Speaker 3>for last week's show. I think people really appreciated there

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<v Speaker 3>was some positive energy flowing last week. So if you

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<v Speaker 3>missed last week's episode, episode two fitty two, go check

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<v Speaker 3>it out. Go check it out. Stop what you're doing.

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<v Speaker 3>You can come back to this one later. It's cool.

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<v Speaker 3>Go ahead, go back to with some big news nuggets

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<v Speaker 3>on the last ones to go take sewed out. Also,

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<v Speaker 3>Chinese jump rope is a thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes it is.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Ah, So you want to just get get down with it.

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<v Speaker 2>Get down, mandra.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's get down. Let's get down. The socials and the

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<v Speaker 3>personal finance socials at least, were going like nuts a

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<v Speaker 3>few days ago when one David Ramsey, who I don't

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<v Speaker 3>even know what to call this man, personal finance guru

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<v Speaker 3>who just won't quit. Dave Ramsey was on Fox News

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<v Speaker 3>his home away from home, and went on a little

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<v Speaker 3>mini well. He was answering some questions about the stimulus

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<v Speaker 3>and even about some progressive legislation that's being pushed to

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<v Speaker 3>potentially free, relieve, or forgive cancel student loan debt so

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<v Speaker 3>in like a two and a half minute clip in

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<v Speaker 3>this Fox interview Dave he says a little something about

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<v Speaker 3>people who may need a stimulus check, and yeah, people

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<v Speaker 3>are peels.

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<v Speaker 1>So we're actually going to play it for you so

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<v Speaker 1>that way, because it's many pointed out that sometimes, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>people talk about clips and things and there you folks

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<v Speaker 1>who are listening have not gotten the chance to really listen.

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<v Speaker 1>It's only two minutes, but we want to play it

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<v Speaker 1>for you then discuss aka drag hm.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, let's discuss. Well I had I myself hadn't listened

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<v Speaker 3>to the clip. I had read some of the articles

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<v Speaker 3>that mentioned his quote, but yeah, I do feel like

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<v Speaker 3>if we're going to talk about it, let's listen to it.

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<v Speaker 3>And part of me is like, why I give this man,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, a bigger platform than he already has. But

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<v Speaker 3>you know, I even think some of our Brown Ambition

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<v Speaker 3>listeners are Dave Ramsey fans, and a lot of people

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<v Speaker 3>friends of mine have benefited from his his his empire

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<v Speaker 3>of financial wisdom and all of that, so people still

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<v Speaker 3>turn to him for advice. So I think it's worth

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<v Speaker 3>it's worth hearing him out and then we can talk

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<v Speaker 3>about sort of what he said. So let me get

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<v Speaker 3>my little clip up here and play it for y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, So here is Dave Ramsey on Fox News

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<v Speaker 3>last week talking about a couple different and personal finance

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<v Speaker 3>agenda items on the progressives list.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, to start with, we need to understand we got

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<v Speaker 4>one point seven trillion dollars in student loan debt. One

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<v Speaker 4>hundred and ninety two billion out of that not so much.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's do some ratios, folks.

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<v Speaker 4>If we're going to do math, we probably ought to

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<v Speaker 4>play math.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 4>On top of that, when you dig into it, the

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<v Speaker 4>whole idea that that student loans being forgiven is going

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<v Speaker 4>to stimulate the economy, That assumes that people were getting

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<v Speaker 4>ready to pay them off this year and instead would

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<v Speaker 4>use that same forty thousand dollars that they were getting

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<v Speaker 4>ready to pay off their student loan and stimulate.

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<v Speaker 2>The economy with it.

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<v Speaker 4>Again, that's economic hogwash, it's smoking mirrors. It's simply not

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<v Speaker 4>going to happen. Dave, I just think there's there's a

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<v Speaker 4>moral hazard doing this. You're absolutely, yes, signed a financial contract,

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<v Speaker 4>you have an obligation to pay that money back. Absolutely,

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<v Speaker 4>and listen, there's some situations where folks are hurting and

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<v Speaker 4>this thing has become it's gotten completely out of hand.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, there are people's lives who have been destroyed

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<v Speaker 4>by this. Somebody needs some relief somewhere. I'm fine with that,

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<v Speaker 4>But this has nothing to do with really helping people.

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<v Speaker 4>This is a political gimme by progressive simply trying to

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<v Speaker 4>buy votes. And we know that because when you go

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<v Speaker 4>from ten thousand in forgiveness to fifty thousand in forgiveness,

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<v Speaker 4>the people who benefit are not lower income people. The

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<v Speaker 4>vast majority of people that have an average income or

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<v Speaker 4>less have less than ten thousand dollars a student loan debt.

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<v Speaker 4>The vast majority of people who be blessed by moving

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<v Speaker 4>it from ten to fifty are high income earners. So again,

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<v Speaker 4>this is all political rhetoric, it's not reality.

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<v Speaker 2>You come from an interesting perspective.

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<v Speaker 4>You talk to Americans across the country every day in

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<v Speaker 4>your radio program, what do you believe is the right

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<v Speaker 4>number or the right answer for the next stimulus check? Well,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't believe in a stimulus check because if six

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<v Speaker 4>hundred dollars or fourteen hundred dollars changes your life, you.

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<v Speaker 2>Were pretty much screwed.

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<v Speaker 4>Already. You got other issues going on. You have a

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<v Speaker 4>career problem, you have a debt problem, you have a

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<v Speaker 4>relationship problem, you have a mental health problem. Something else

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<v Speaker 4>is going on. If six hundred dollars changes your life,

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<v Speaker 4>And that's not talking down to folks. I've been bankrupt,

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<v Speaker 4>I've been broken. I work with people every day who

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<v Speaker 4>are hurting. I love people. I want people to be

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<v Speaker 4>lifted up. But this is again, it is It is

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<v Speaker 4>just political rhetoric, and it's just throwing dollars out there.

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<v Speaker 2>It's peeing on a forest fire. It's absolutely ridiculous. So

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<v Speaker 2>can I start with a little shade real quick?

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<v Speaker 3>Take it away?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So the anchor said to Dave Ramsey, you talking

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<v Speaker 1>about the people in general who'd be.

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<v Speaker 2>Looking for assistance.

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<v Speaker 1>You signed a contract, you have a moral obligation to

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<v Speaker 1>pay what's owed. From Dave Ramsey dot com Dave's bankruptcy

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<v Speaker 1>story from his site. Did you know Dave Ramsey filed

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<v Speaker 1>for bankruptcy? I'm reading verbatim. He has He had earned

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<v Speaker 1>a networth of over one million dollars by the time

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<v Speaker 1>he was twenty six, But in September nineteen eighty eight,

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<v Speaker 1>it all came crushing down when the bank called the

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<v Speaker 1>notes of his loans, the contracts that he was morally

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<v Speaker 1>obligated to pay.

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<v Speaker 2>He was left totally broken and completely broken.

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<v Speaker 1>So this is also from the site Do you know

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<v Speaker 1>what does filing for bankruptcy means? When you go through

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<v Speaker 1>the process of filing for bankruptcy, you are telling the

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<v Speaker 1>courts you can't pay your debts set up through federal laws,

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<v Speaker 1>bankruptcy will cancel many of your debts so you can

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<v Speaker 1>start fresh. So Dave hypocrite Ramsey has filed for bankruptcy

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<v Speaker 1>and gotten to restart his millionaire life.

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<v Speaker 2>But you, oh, no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 1>You person who's like, how possibly am I going to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to feed my child, pay for my mortgage

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<v Speaker 1>and my rent during a historic worldwide pandemic.

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<v Speaker 2>Pooh pooh on you for asking for.

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<v Speaker 1>Assistance because you are morally obligated to pay for everything

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<v Speaker 1>that you've ever borrowed.

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<v Speaker 2>But not Dave Ramsey though, of course not him.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just wanted to start with that piece of

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<v Speaker 1>hypocritical shade this man, quite honestly, and I don't lose

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<v Speaker 1>hand much.

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<v Speaker 2>He's trash.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you feel better?

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<v Speaker 2>Actually, do commence? I'm gonna tagging win man, I've tagged

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<v Speaker 2>you into the ropes me.

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<v Speaker 3>And let me let me in, Let me in. Well,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if I've ever mentioned this. I just

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<v Speaker 3>went on Twitter to see if Dave, you know, try listen.

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<v Speaker 3>I tried to be a journalist sometimes see if the

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<v Speaker 3>man's come out and said anything in response to all this,

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<v Speaker 3>the the justified anger that people have towards this, the

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<v Speaker 3>statement that he made on Fox News. And I can't

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<v Speaker 3>even see his tweets because he blocked me. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know when, but I've been blocked by Jay Ramsey.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe it has been for years. I do know that

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<v Speaker 3>I was blacklisted by his people years ago when I

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<v Speaker 3>was at Business Insider because I he had been basically

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<v Speaker 3>talking about retirement and how you can expect like a

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<v Speaker 3>twelve percent return on your retirement anyway, and I wrote

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<v Speaker 3>an article talking about how that's a little too rosy

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<v Speaker 3>of a picture for the eye investor to anticipate seven

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<v Speaker 3>or sorry, twelve percent gains on their investment. Anyway. He

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<v Speaker 3>didn't like that, and like I got invited to a

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<v Speaker 3>Dave Ramsey thing and then disinvited. It was a whole

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<v Speaker 3>thing I guess I guess he's a little petty. Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>But you know, for me, I think I mean this

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<v Speaker 3>for me is is is a man who has benefited,

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<v Speaker 3>I think, from a certain rhetoric around you know, financial

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<v Speaker 3>advice that that uses shame against people and tries to

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<v Speaker 3>make them feel small for having problems at all. And

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think I think he is very much of

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<v Speaker 3>you know, an era of personal finance guru ship that

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<v Speaker 3>I think is ending now and I really feel like

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<v Speaker 3>the rise of a lot of more compassionate personal finance

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<v Speaker 3>advice and education and frankly, you know, of rise in

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<v Speaker 3>diverse voices in personal finance education, so that he's not

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<v Speaker 3>the only option for people, and so that we have

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<v Speaker 3>different perspectives, because look, this is a perspective of a

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<v Speaker 3>wealthy man who has who is privileged in so many ways,

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<v Speaker 3>and has been put on a pedestal bites so many

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<v Speaker 3>people for his personal finance tips, and frankly, like how

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<v Speaker 3>you know he's very far removed from the people that

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<v Speaker 3>he helps every day or so yes.

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<v Speaker 2>He's that day.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's make sure it's the double w the wealthy white man.

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<v Speaker 1>Now here's the thing that honestly also kind of pissed

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<v Speaker 1>me off, not even kind of just straight U piss

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<v Speaker 1>me off. Is that he mentioned that he doesn't think

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<v Speaker 1>that student loan forgiveness should be discussed going from ten

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<v Speaker 1>thousand dollars being forgiven up to fifty thousand. He's like, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>that's not going to help anybody, because this is what

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<v Speaker 1>he's saying, if you remember from the clip, because most

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<v Speaker 1>low income folks don't have fifty thousand dollars or more

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<v Speaker 1>of student loans to be forgiven. That's really going to

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<v Speaker 1>help folks who are not struggling. What he fails to,

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<v Speaker 1>either intentionally or unintentionally mentioned, is that this would significantly

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<v Speaker 1>help black student bars. But you know, Dave, God forbid

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<v Speaker 1>the blacks benefit other than what he's coming into your

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<v Speaker 1>church is telling y'all. Y'all ain't ish by his stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>So anyway, so according to am I business inside of

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<v Speaker 1>your old employer, I just want to kind of give

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<v Speaker 1>you some some stats. Right, So, according to a business insider,

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<v Speaker 1>eighty six point six percent of black student bars have

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<v Speaker 1>federal loans in comparison to fifty nine point nine percent

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<v Speaker 1>of white students. So black students are I mean eighty

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<v Speaker 1>six point six percent are borrowing federal loans. That's tremendous, right,

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<v Speaker 1>even well off black students carrying more student loans at

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<v Speaker 1>than anyone else. Right, the average black student graduate has

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<v Speaker 1>well over seventy four hundred dollars more student more in

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<v Speaker 1>student loan debt than they're white peers.

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<v Speaker 2>So not right.

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<v Speaker 1>So not that that they have under ten thousand, but

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<v Speaker 1>seventy four percent more debt. That's just crazy. So the

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<v Speaker 1>gap widens over time. After four years, black grats hold

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<v Speaker 1>almost twice as much in student loan debt as their

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<v Speaker 1>white counterparts at fifty three thousand dollars. So if federal

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<v Speaker 1>student loans could be forgiven up to fifty thousand dollars.

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<v Speaker 2>It would significantly help this community.

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<v Speaker 1>I just this is the same man that has said

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<v Speaker 1>I usally don't speak on him because quite honestly, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't care about Dave Ramsey.

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<v Speaker 2>I came about y'all, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>But this is the same man that has said that

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<v Speaker 1>money is not black or white, it's green. I just

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<v Speaker 1>the thought to say that. Tell that to the white

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<v Speaker 1>man that came to my house and said that my

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<v Speaker 1>house was worth thirty thousand dollars or less. There's another couple.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you see this other couple in California recently, Mandy. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>they had to have their white friend come in. They

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<v Speaker 1>got under appraise by over a half a million dollars

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<v Speaker 1>stolen from these people. They had to fight their bank,

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<v Speaker 1>ask their white friend come in, be my wife, put

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<v Speaker 1>up your white pictures, and their house was appraised at

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<v Speaker 1>five hundred something thousand dollars more five hundred thousand dollars

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<v Speaker 1>in wealth that was almost lost to this family if

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<v Speaker 1>they did not have a white friend. So money is

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<v Speaker 1>not black or white as green is the wealthy white

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<v Speaker 1>man perspective. And he's not dumb. Dave Ramsey's empire is

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<v Speaker 1>like worth over four hundred million dollars, quite honestly built

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<v Speaker 1>on the backs of black and brown people because we

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<v Speaker 1>allow him to spread his poisonous brand of financial education

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<v Speaker 1>into our community. Now here's the thing. Are some of

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<v Speaker 1>his principles sound? Yes, absolutely, some of his principles are sound,

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<v Speaker 1>But the lack of empathy, the lack of connection to

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<v Speaker 1>the community that truly needs service and help. You can

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<v Speaker 1>get that sound personal financial education from so many places,

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<v Speaker 1>from someone who actually.

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<v Speaker 2>Cares about your well being.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of the things that they I'm not even going

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<v Speaker 1>to share because some of them has been shared behind

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<v Speaker 1>the scenes. Some of the things that he's selling you

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<v Speaker 1>are unconscionable. Unconscionable. Steering you, guys, into insurance that is

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<v Speaker 1>not for your benefits, steering you into financial practice services

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<v Speaker 1>that line his pockets. Four hundred million dollars, this is

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<v Speaker 1>what he's made because he is so welcomed to our

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<v Speaker 1>black and round churches. You know how much of that

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<v Speaker 1>money has gone back into the community. Does he give

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<v Speaker 1>to the Negro College Fund? You se him at the

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<v Speaker 1>NAAC people cookout. Is he pouring into that community?

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<v Speaker 2>No, he is.

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<v Speaker 1>Milking this community and then telling you to kiss his

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<v Speaker 1>behind on the way out.

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<v Speaker 3>But that's just me and my tea. I appreciate the tea.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I feel like we need to balance this out.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's talk. Let's let's name some names that deserve some shine.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's name some names. So who in personal finance education

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<v Speaker 3>has got you excited? While I'm asking? I'm gonna go

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<v Speaker 3>because there was a really amazing Instagram post by a

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<v Speaker 3>financial educator. Ooh, I need to share. Her name is Anna,

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<v Speaker 3>but I'm thinking like investing Latina. What's her name is Julie.

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<v Speaker 2>I love her.

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<v Speaker 3>M she's amazing. Oh for news to Rob you got

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<v Speaker 3>on the show.

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<v Speaker 1>Katrina Washington, we love her. Lynette caw Finnie Cox, you.

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<v Speaker 2>Know we love her.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually, honestly, I really like David Bach. He's a

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<v Speaker 1>white man, a wealthy white man. But David Bach, he's

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<v Speaker 1>the first time I ever read a compassionate financial educator.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I read his book The Automatic Millionaire and Smart

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<v Speaker 1>Woman finished rich, but the tone was so compassionate.

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<v Speaker 2>I was shocked. And so he's another awesome one.

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<v Speaker 3>And I haven't thought about David back in a minute.

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<v Speaker 2>Who is he at? I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, he's got a bunch.

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<v Speaker 2>Of David balaktu is in like in Italy.

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<v Speaker 1>He just messaged me the other day congratulate me on

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<v Speaker 1>my on my magazine cover, my my money magazine cover.

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<v Speaker 1>I honestly, I've always really, really liked David Bach. There

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<v Speaker 1>are a bunch broke millennial that's Aaron.

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<v Speaker 2>She's awesome. Ramat obviously.

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<v Speaker 3>Just bread sing from minority mind.

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<v Speaker 2>You know we love to free just chrastic.

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<v Speaker 1>Journey to launch the investing Tutor. I think that's doctor.

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<v Speaker 3>Hans Popcorn Finance. Chris Browning runs Pipe Popcorn Finance. He's dope.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh here it is Anna. Let me get like the

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<v Speaker 3>harm Paine.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, there's also grow black girl. Is that her name Dasha?

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<v Speaker 1>She's awesome?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh Marcia Barnes Yes, from the Finance Bar.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep, love Marcia. Oh obviously Sandy. Yes, I am cheap.

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<v Speaker 1>She's awesome. She sused to have Tila also, I love

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<v Speaker 1>Tila at the Ivy Investor.

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<v Speaker 2>These are some investing folks. She's awesome of Courtney love it.

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<v Speaker 3>So this is Anna nij Conti. She's a CFP. I

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<v Speaker 3>hope I pronounced your name right. I'm sorry. I was

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<v Speaker 3>just so excited to share you. So. She actually posted

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<v Speaker 3>on Instagram this week a post from a former colleague.

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<v Speaker 3>So she's a certified financial planner. She used to work

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<v Speaker 3>for a big financial institution. And one of her white

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<v Speaker 3>colleagues posted on Twitter just like not even in response

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<v Speaker 3>to anything that she had done. She's she's gone since

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<v Speaker 3>gone out on her own and started to build her

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<v Speaker 3>brand as a financial educator. And he talks about I'm

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<v Speaker 3>going to try and summarize. She took some screenshots of

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<v Speaker 3>his post. And he's a CFP and he talks about

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<v Speaker 3>how he was young, inexperienced, and his job asked him

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<v Speaker 3>to train her in her job basically, and then what

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<v Speaker 3>he says is, had I not been clouded by my

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<v Speaker 3>own ambition, Anna and I never really connected and she

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<v Speaker 3>left not long after that request was made. If you

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<v Speaker 3>don't know Anna, you should know she's a black woman

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<v Speaker 3>and I am clearly a white man. Not that I'm

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<v Speaker 3>saying race was a direct factor, but there's no denying

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<v Speaker 3>in my mind that our skin color played a subconscious

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<v Speaker 3>role in my gender. My underqualified white ass being asked

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<v Speaker 3>to teach an incredibly intelligent black woman anything. Looking back,

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<v Speaker 3>I should have picked up on it then, but I didn't.

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<v Speaker 3>So this is Anna and you should definitely follow her

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<v Speaker 3>on Insta.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, Kelly will also.

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<v Speaker 1>Watch to other list of all these kids, Yes, writch

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<v Speaker 1>in regular that's another one too, And it's just such

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<v Speaker 1>a you know, it's funny you say that because there's

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<v Speaker 1>a woman.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to give too much information away, but

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<v Speaker 1>she's basically being pushed out of her corporate role, even

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<v Speaker 1>though she is dynamic. And I was about to list

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<v Speaker 1>some of the schools that she went to because she's

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<v Speaker 1>got her master, she's got her bachelor's but I think

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<v Speaker 1>I would give too much away. But I just heard

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<v Speaker 1>through the grapevine through a friend and they were just

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<v Speaker 1>sharing how like you know, and the company that she's

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<v Speaker 1>being pushed out of is known for pushing black women

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<v Speaker 1>out of high positions and power. I've known a handful

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<v Speaker 1>of people that I know personally that have been pushed

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<v Speaker 1>out once they got.

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<v Speaker 2>To a certain earning amount.

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<v Speaker 1>And so thankfully we were looking there's a role that's

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<v Speaker 1>open in our company where we can pay her something

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<v Speaker 1>not quite what she was making, but at least something comparable.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm hoping it'll be a fit. But it's just

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<v Speaker 1>really it's exhausting, y'o. Like I don't think people understand,

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<v Speaker 1>like if you are not black or brown and you're

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<v Speaker 1>listening and you're hearing the like, cause they're like, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like black and brown people, we go from rais

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<v Speaker 1>to exhaustion to just like a Because I just want

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<v Speaker 1>you to for a minute, pretend that you were playing

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<v Speaker 1>a game. Let's just say we were playing cards and

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<v Speaker 1>someone says, these are the rules for cards, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like you just have to match the two cards up,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're like okay, So you start to play, you

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<v Speaker 1>start to win, They're like, oh no, no, the cars

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<v Speaker 1>can't just pass by number. You also have to mass

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<v Speaker 1>by color. And you're like, oh, okay, but the person

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<v Speaker 1>before they dis match by number. No, yeah, yeah, those

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<v Speaker 1>are the rules. So you're like, okay, matching by number

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<v Speaker 1>by color? Oh no, no, no, you start to win. No, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not just by number by color. You also have

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<v Speaker 1>to match by suit. But you're like, no, but that's

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<v Speaker 1>the other person. That's not how to Yeah, but we

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<v Speaker 1>change the rules. Can you imagine playing a game that

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<v Speaker 1>just when you start to figure it out, they change

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<v Speaker 1>the rules and then blame you if you don't win, Like, well, girls,

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<v Speaker 1>you just knew how to play the game better.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, no, you keep changing the rules on purpose

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<v Speaker 2>so that I lose and then expect for me to

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<v Speaker 2>be happy with whatever little crumbs I've been able to

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<v Speaker 2>win with.

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<v Speaker 1>It is the level of gall and audacity. That's why

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<v Speaker 1>you couldn't pay me. I don't care if someone's atifty

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<v Speaker 1>will give you one hundred million dollars to join corporate

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<v Speaker 1>and to be mistreated in that way. I would never

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<v Speaker 1>only because because I've been offered. But I want the

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<v Speaker 1>reason why I I work do the budget, Nissa. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not just for myself, but to be able to create

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<v Speaker 1>a safe haven for women like me, to be able

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<v Speaker 1>to shine. Like we are on track to make twenty

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<v Speaker 1>million dollars this year. We pay our employees well, we

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<v Speaker 1>get bonuses when outside is open. We take them on

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<v Speaker 1>trips that are all expense paid. You know, you have

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<v Speaker 1>a baby, you get in a gift. You get married,

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<v Speaker 1>you get in a gift. You know, we have a

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<v Speaker 1>prayer channel in slack. You need prayer. You're getting prayed over. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to create a super safe environment because it's

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<v Speaker 1>trash out here in these streets. Like there are a

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<v Speaker 1>few places like Mandy's at now, like Ally who really try.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so funny their name is Ally because they really

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<v Speaker 1>try to be an Ally And I've seen it. And

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<v Speaker 1>you know, they're one of the few financial institutions that

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<v Speaker 1>I consent to work with when they've asked me, because

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<v Speaker 1>I see the way they navigate in this space. But

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<v Speaker 1>it's few and far in between, and it is a

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<v Speaker 1>level of like what they basically tell black people is

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<v Speaker 1>that one you're never going to make as much and

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<v Speaker 1>if something belongs to you, the value is always less.

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<v Speaker 1>If that is your home, it's worth this. If it's

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<v Speaker 1>someone else's home, it's worth something else. How do you

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<v Speaker 1>get ahead in that? Like, honestly, how does someone get

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<v Speaker 1>ahead like I just? I mean I have worked my

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<v Speaker 1>tail off and I have grown my net worth to

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<v Speaker 1>multiple seven figures, and someone can still come to my

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<v Speaker 1>house and say, yeah, no, it's not worth what you think.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, because you know black just like the level,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just infuriating. And I just some days I just

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<v Speaker 1>tap out. I'm just like I can another days, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I go back to the battle. But then you know,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all still give energy to people like Dr who I

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<v Speaker 1>honestly never mention because he's not worth He's not worth

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<v Speaker 1>the mention. If I share with you what he does

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<v Speaker 1>behind the scenes when he's connecting with these financial influencers

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<v Speaker 1>and on how he tries to.

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<v Speaker 2>Take advantage of them.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I don't get invited to his financial influencer summit,

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<v Speaker 1>and I know why because he knows damn well, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna let you take advantage of my brand. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>if I tell you of some of the stuff that

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<v Speaker 1>people have told me behind the scenes and ask me

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<v Speaker 1>not to share, but about what that looks like if

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<v Speaker 1>you partner with him, and I use partner as loosely

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<v Speaker 1>as possible, because it's really just a takeover.

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<v Speaker 2>It is it is. Where is the Christianity? I don't

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<v Speaker 2>see it.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I'm sure this is gonna get me super banned,

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<v Speaker 1>but I see I could care less because that's what

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<v Speaker 1>happened when you build your own shit. Because you know,

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<v Speaker 1>what can he do? Is he gonna tell who? You're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna tell dreamcatches to what not? Massuativity, no more try.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, I just it's just sickening and I'm over it.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just wish like he's already he's never not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be wealthy. But I just wish people would turn

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<v Speaker 1>their gaze away from him and lean into those people

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<v Speaker 1>who actually care about you. I'm not talking about me.

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<v Speaker 1>There are so many folks out there who actually care about.

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<v Speaker 2>You and your journey. And he ain't it.

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<v Speaker 3>He ain't it. And I will just say on the

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<v Speaker 3>talk of stimulus checks because this is an issue happening

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<v Speaker 3>right now, like Congress needs to pass in their stimulus bill.

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<v Speaker 3>The people are bleeding, and the idea that you know

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<v Speaker 3>the part of his quote where he says if you

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<v Speaker 3>don't you know, he doesn't believe in a stimulus check

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<v Speaker 3>because quote, if six hundred dollars or fourteen hundred dollars

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<v Speaker 3>changes your life, you were pretty much screwed already. You

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<v Speaker 3>got other issues going on. And he goes on to

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<v Speaker 3>list career issues, relationship, What about a pandemic that noone

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<v Speaker 3>could have predicted or prepared for, Like I anyone who's

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<v Speaker 3>ever written the word save three to six months for

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<v Speaker 3>an emergency fund? What help have we offered people? Like, honestly,

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<v Speaker 3>it's been nearly a year of this pandemic. So the

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<v Speaker 3>goll and the audacity to say that if this changes

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<v Speaker 3>your life, then you have other issues going on, You're right, dude,

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<v Speaker 3>Like there are huge, uncontrollable issues at stake here. Like

0:24:40.280 --> 0:24:43.280
<v Speaker 3>people's lives have been upended by this pandemic. And they

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<v Speaker 3>do need a band aid because they are bleeding and

0:24:45.760 --> 0:24:47.760
<v Speaker 3>they're hemorrhaging, and they need more than a band aid,

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<v Speaker 3>but they need something. And like if you if you

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<v Speaker 3>go to the hospital and like, let's say, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 3>you've got like you you're having seizures, and the reason

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<v Speaker 3>you know, they need to They need to find the

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<v Speaker 3>underlying cause. They're not going to like not treat you

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<v Speaker 3>for what you're going and presenting with today. They need

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<v Speaker 3>to find their root cause. But you need to help

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<v Speaker 3>people for what is going on now. And yes, there's

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<v Speaker 3>a larger conversation to be had about, you know what,

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<v Speaker 3>maybe you know all the issues that are going on

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<v Speaker 3>and why people are being hurt so badly by what's

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<v Speaker 3>happening in our country right now. But let's just help people,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, Let's not let's not have this glare of

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<v Speaker 3>superiority and condescension when people genuinely need help. That to

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<v Speaker 3>me is heartless, even though he says, you know, one

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<v Speaker 3>breath later, how he does care about people and wants

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<v Speaker 3>to lift them up. But do you really like, where's

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<v Speaker 3>the where's the empathy here?

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<v Speaker 2>People don't People who care about people don't talk like that.

0:25:39.320 --> 0:25:41.800
<v Speaker 2>People who who have taken advantage.

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<v Speaker 1>Of the system and use the federal government to get

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<v Speaker 1>their own debts wiped away don't look down at their

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<v Speaker 1>nose are other people and pretend they care. They cares

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<v Speaker 1>about his bank account, and he cares about you as

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<v Speaker 1>long as it continues to feed his bank account and

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<v Speaker 1>so I, yeah, that's not care doctor Green, my coach

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<v Speaker 1>said it beat she said, because I told her I

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<v Speaker 1>was worried about sharing that, like, oh, I want my

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<v Speaker 1>book to be a bestseller, you know, get good with money.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh, I want my book to be a

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<v Speaker 1>best seller. And she and I was worried that that

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<v Speaker 1>was arrogance, and she said, no, Tiffany, that's not arrogant.

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<v Speaker 1>It's okay to say I'd like to have a bestseller

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<v Speaker 1>plug get Goods money dot com, go ahead and pre order.

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<v Speaker 1>But she was like that arrogance is when you use

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<v Speaker 1>your bigness to make other people feel small. What you're here,

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<v Speaker 1>what you heard in that clip with him using his

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<v Speaker 1>bigness to make you feel small because it makes him

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<v Speaker 1>feel bigger. It's arrogance and it has no place in service,

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<v Speaker 1>in teaching, in financial education. It's arrogance, and it's nasty,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's not unexpected because it's the same man who

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<v Speaker 1>literally had a Christmas party and told waiters don't wear

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<v Speaker 1>a mask because God forbid, you should have a grammar

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<v Speaker 1>at home.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, forget about her. That's arrogance.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the same person who's like you know there

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<v Speaker 1>is no or doesn't really believe in Corona. Although because

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<v Speaker 1>I just don't understand how the whole world has said.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what, let's all pretend that there's this disease

0:27:07.119 --> 0:27:10.760
<v Speaker 1>that's like killing people. Okay, China you first, Okay, YouTube, Jamaica,

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<v Speaker 1>come on, Costa Rica.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't want to play the game.

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<v Speaker 1>The whole world like yo, it's arrogance and the only

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<v Speaker 1>way to come back arrogance is to ignore. And typically

0:27:20.960 --> 0:27:22.479
<v Speaker 1>I don't give them this much, and you never hear

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<v Speaker 1>me talk about dr but I just felt like it

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<v Speaker 1>had to be said. So hopefully you could tell your

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<v Speaker 1>grandma and them stop having this person in your church.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's on that and that's on.

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<v Speaker 1>Mary had a little lay. This is so that is

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<v Speaker 1>what it is to be black, right, Randy? That like

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<v Speaker 1>it could be something it's going down, but we don't

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<v Speaker 1>find a reason to laugh.

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<v Speaker 3>Now, Listen, Humor is the key to resilience. Okay, how

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<v Speaker 3>can you get through life without it? All right, well,

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<v Speaker 3>let's take a quick break and we will be back

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<v Speaker 3>are your you know, your financial friends, Okay, And we'll

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<v Speaker 3>tell you what we feel and what we have you know,

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<v Speaker 3>AKA so your cousin that is, yeah, to the guy

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<v Speaker 3>at the barbecue who's like you should get on those stock.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, let's kick things off, all right, y'all. Our

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<v Speaker 3>first question comes from Jane. So she has a question.

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<v Speaker 3>She wants to start her own business and she's wondering,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, should I, how should I financially prepare. So

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<v Speaker 3>let's get into Jane's question first. I'm going to start

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<v Speaker 3>with the second half of her question because it gives

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<v Speaker 3>some helpful context I think we should consider. So, Jane says,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm a single mother, forty years old with two children.

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<v Speaker 3>I have a mortgage, student loans, and a car loan.

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<v Speaker 3>I've saved a little over eight months of my noodle

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<v Speaker 3>budget in a high interest savings account, which I call

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<v Speaker 3>my emergency fund, and I have almost three hundred thousand

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<v Speaker 3>dollars in retirement. I don't want to deplete my emergency

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<v Speaker 3>savings in order to bridge the gap, but I'm not

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<v Speaker 3>really sure what else I could conceivably do given the

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<v Speaker 3>time horizon. All right, So backing up now, Jane is

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<v Speaker 3>about to quit her job and go into entrepreneurship. She

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<v Speaker 3>says she wants to do this in a year and

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<v Speaker 3>start her own business, but she's scared to death. She

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<v Speaker 3>wants to know one, doesn't make sense for me to

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<v Speaker 3>reduce my current four oh one K contribution, which is

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<v Speaker 3>currently set at fifteen percent per paycheck, to set aside

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<v Speaker 3>more money to help close that gap and income or

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<v Speaker 3>are there any other options we can recommend to increase

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<v Speaker 3>her savings or other actions she should be taking in

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<v Speaker 3>consideration of her what she calls appending leap into entrepreneurship. Ps.

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<v Speaker 3>I do not carry consumer.

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<v Speaker 2>Debt, Jane.

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<v Speaker 1>So first of all, girl, you out here slaying these

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<v Speaker 1>financial streets.

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<v Speaker 2>Can we give her a rind of applause?

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<v Speaker 3>Single mom, forty three hundred k in the bank, some

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<v Speaker 3>debt mortgage due to loans car loan, but no credit

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<v Speaker 3>card debt.

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<v Speaker 2>Girl, and eight months worth of savings.

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<v Speaker 1>So just I want you to just take a deep

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<v Speaker 1>breath in and say, I'm doing a damn thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>But then I asked, Jane, because I just you don't

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to know, do you have to quit your job?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what the pending you know, business is,

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<v Speaker 1>but I think people think that sometimes you have to

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<v Speaker 1>be like a pure entrepreneur, and that's not necessarily so

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<v Speaker 1>Like I before I started the Budjeaneste, I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>was pushed out because my school closed. But I was

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<v Speaker 1>doing budgetista stuff for about a year and a half

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<v Speaker 1>maybe two years, kind of really light while I was

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<v Speaker 1>still teaching, And I would do it in the morning,

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<v Speaker 1>I would do it at night. I would during during

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<v Speaker 1>nap time when the kids slept. Do you have to

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<v Speaker 1>make this like hardcore leap. That's my concern because it

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<v Speaker 1>can take a number of years it did for me

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<v Speaker 1>before you see a positive return on your investment.

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<v Speaker 2>And you have two children.

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<v Speaker 1>So that is my question, Like, is there a reason

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<v Speaker 1>why you can't say, I am going to you know,

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<v Speaker 1>stay at this job and start my new job or

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<v Speaker 1>my new business as a side hustle until it makes

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<v Speaker 1>enough for me to leave my main hustle at least

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<v Speaker 1>until it's making enough of what your noodle budget is.

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<v Speaker 1>And maybe we can explain with noodle budget, that's just when,

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<v Speaker 1>like you're if you had to eat ramen noodle's budget,

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<v Speaker 1>Like what's the what's the least expensive amount of money

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<v Speaker 1>you can live off of and still maintain health and

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<v Speaker 1>safety and your basic you know, your basic life needs.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's that Or Jane, if you are going to

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<v Speaker 1>make the leap, I would have some side hustles lined

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<v Speaker 1>up to make ends meet. Meaning so I didn't make

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<v Speaker 1>the leap from when I left teaching, you know, my

0:32:38.400 --> 0:32:44.240
<v Speaker 1>school closed, but I had babysitting jobs, tutoring jobs while I.

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<v Speaker 2>Was building budget Nista.

0:32:45.400 --> 0:32:47.960
<v Speaker 1>Because Budgetista did not make any money for the first

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<v Speaker 1>honestly almost three years. But I supplemented with unemployment and

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<v Speaker 1>tutoring and babysitting like crazy. So if you are going

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<v Speaker 1>to leave your job, do you have kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>side jobs you can do to make ends meet, because

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<v Speaker 1>you cannot unless your business is already making money.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, there's no way to know.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know how long it was going to take

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<v Speaker 1>for budget. He said to be in the black or

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<v Speaker 1>at least in a black enough for me to be

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<v Speaker 1>able to sustain myself. So that's just my only, not

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<v Speaker 1>my only, but those are some of my concerns, and

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<v Speaker 1>my suggestions is to have some side hustle jobs lined up.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you need the space and time to start

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<v Speaker 1>your business, you already know what your noodle budget is. Great,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe potentially stay at your job longer and don't leave

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<v Speaker 1>until your new business makes enough for you to.

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<v Speaker 2>At least cover your noodle budget.

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<v Speaker 1>Reducing fifteen percent is really great and aggressive toward retirement.

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<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't be mad if you said, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going.

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<v Speaker 1>To bring it down to ten percent and use that

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<v Speaker 1>extra five toward the business. I wouldn't be mad at

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<v Speaker 1>that because to me, starting a business is also an investment,

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<v Speaker 1>but you would still be saving a good amount or

0:33:51.560 --> 0:33:53.800
<v Speaker 1>investing a good amount toward retirement. I'm not mad at

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<v Speaker 1>that either.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think And the fact that she hasn't said

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, she's got three hundred k save for retirement.

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<v Speaker 3>As long as you're not touching that, you're still letting

0:34:01.880 --> 0:34:04.520
<v Speaker 3>that money sit there and grow. I mean, I do

0:34:04.560 --> 0:34:07.480
<v Speaker 3>feel like sometimes entrepreneurs, you'll hear them say they drain

0:34:07.560 --> 0:34:08.239
<v Speaker 3>their four one K.

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<v Speaker 2>I did doubtor that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you don't want to do that, Jane, So I think.

0:34:12.960 --> 0:34:15.680
<v Speaker 3>I mean, that's a really comfortable amount of money to

0:34:15.719 --> 0:34:17.960
<v Speaker 3>have saved by your fight just forty years old. So

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<v Speaker 3>I mean that's commendable. And I see how you did it,

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<v Speaker 3>saving fifteen percent so aggressively. I personally have done that.

0:34:23.800 --> 0:34:27.919
<v Speaker 3>I have scaled back my retirement contributions when we were

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<v Speaker 3>renovating the home and we wanted to pay out of

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<v Speaker 3>pocket versus take on debt. So and I you know,

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<v Speaker 3>they make it really easy to go in there, and

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<v Speaker 3>at least the retirement plans I've used, Yeah, make it

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<v Speaker 3>easy to kind of like go from fifteen to twelve

0:34:39.040 --> 0:34:41.520
<v Speaker 3>or eleven or whatever, just to give yourself a little

0:34:41.520 --> 0:34:44.080
<v Speaker 3>bit more cash flow. I think that's perfectly fine. I

0:34:44.120 --> 0:34:45.640
<v Speaker 3>don't know that you're ever going to hit like the

0:34:45.719 --> 0:34:48.120
<v Speaker 3>right number in terms of your savings to where you

0:34:48.160 --> 0:34:51.279
<v Speaker 3>feel like, okay, and today is the day I have

0:34:51.560 --> 0:34:54.080
<v Speaker 3>just enough to like quit my job and to start

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<v Speaker 3>this life as an entrepreneur. I agree with Tiffany. I

0:34:57.000 --> 0:34:59.680
<v Speaker 3>think there's a side hustle that you're talking about. You know,

0:34:59.760 --> 0:35:01.759
<v Speaker 3>do you? I think that there's a side hustle I

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<v Speaker 3>could have. I kind of feel like you're starting your

0:35:04.280 --> 0:35:07.040
<v Speaker 3>business as that side hustle, and you should be doing

0:35:07.040 --> 0:35:10.080
<v Speaker 3>that while you have the you know, the relative safety

0:35:10.400 --> 0:35:12.560
<v Speaker 3>and security of that full time job, you know, for

0:35:12.600 --> 0:35:15.160
<v Speaker 3>your benefits and for the for the income that you

0:35:15.239 --> 0:35:17.320
<v Speaker 3>have coming in. But you know, you can be working

0:35:17.360 --> 0:35:21.000
<v Speaker 3>toward that goal. But maybe don't be so strict about Okay,

0:35:21.120 --> 0:35:23.279
<v Speaker 3>I'm going to hit this amount of money and then

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<v Speaker 3>quit my job and I sort of have to have

0:35:25.480 --> 0:35:27.759
<v Speaker 3>I'm just gonna like leave and my money is the

0:35:27.840 --> 0:35:29.960
<v Speaker 3>only you know, security and safety and that I'm going

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<v Speaker 3>to have for a while. But yeah, I think that

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<v Speaker 3>you're in really good shape. I don't see anything wrong

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<v Speaker 3>with cutting back on the retirement yeah, just.

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<v Speaker 1>A mede and go for I mean, I know literally

0:35:42.480 --> 0:35:46.399
<v Speaker 1>a single mother right now who has two kids and

0:35:47.200 --> 0:35:52.719
<v Speaker 1>she is during uh during I was gonna say, panteing

0:35:53.840 --> 0:36:00.919
<v Speaker 1>during Panda rosa aka pandemic. She started a business. It's

0:36:00.960 --> 0:36:03.720
<v Speaker 1>looking like the businesses she's starting. If all goes well,

0:36:04.440 --> 0:36:06.960
<v Speaker 1>it'll probably makes six figures its first year. Now that's

0:36:07.000 --> 0:36:10.279
<v Speaker 1>not common, but it's possible. You would have to know

0:36:10.320 --> 0:36:13.680
<v Speaker 1>best based upon the business that you're going into. It

0:36:13.760 --> 0:36:16.560
<v Speaker 1>is possible to be in the black right away, but

0:36:16.640 --> 0:36:18.600
<v Speaker 1>most businesses are not, so you want to give yourself

0:36:18.640 --> 0:36:21.839
<v Speaker 1>space and time to not be. There's just so much

0:36:21.840 --> 0:36:24.160
<v Speaker 1>that goes into starting a business. I mean, don't get

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<v Speaker 1>me wrong, I would never choose anything else. I mean,

0:36:26.000 --> 0:36:28.799
<v Speaker 1>I'm so glad that I did it, but there is

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<v Speaker 1>a lot in the financials in the beginning. It's very

0:36:32.760 --> 0:36:36.200
<v Speaker 1>touch and go for most people. So being mindful of that.

0:36:36.280 --> 0:36:38.440
<v Speaker 1>So I just but I wish you well though, because

0:36:38.480 --> 0:36:41.920
<v Speaker 1>if the awesome part about having a business is that

0:36:41.960 --> 0:36:45.080
<v Speaker 1>you're earning possent, there is no cap to your earning potential,

0:36:45.800 --> 0:36:49.480
<v Speaker 1>like I could reasonably one day take home eight figures.

0:36:49.520 --> 0:36:51.759
<v Speaker 1>I mean, my business makes eight figures, but I'm talking

0:36:51.760 --> 0:36:56.840
<v Speaker 1>about take home Tiffany making eight figures. It's possible because

0:36:56.880 --> 0:36:58.520
<v Speaker 1>when you have a business, that's possible. I might sell

0:36:58.560 --> 0:37:01.480
<v Speaker 1>my company and somebody buyser for fifty million dollars and

0:37:01.520 --> 0:37:02.760
<v Speaker 1>my take home is ten million.

0:37:02.800 --> 0:37:05.320
<v Speaker 2>That's very, very, very possible. So that is one of

0:37:05.400 --> 0:37:06.080
<v Speaker 2>the benefits.

0:37:06.120 --> 0:37:11.400
<v Speaker 1>And although people think it's more freedom, it is, but isn't.

0:37:11.760 --> 0:37:15.840
<v Speaker 2>It's a lot more work. I work just about not.

0:37:16.200 --> 0:37:17.839
<v Speaker 1>I used to work seven days a week up until

0:37:17.840 --> 0:37:20.800
<v Speaker 1>maybe like a year ago. So now you know, I

0:37:21.200 --> 0:37:25.880
<v Speaker 1>do take my weekend semi off, but I work a lot.

0:37:26.520 --> 0:37:28.480
<v Speaker 1>But at least it's work that I've chosen.

0:37:28.840 --> 0:37:29.000
<v Speaker 3>You know.

0:37:29.000 --> 0:37:30.440
<v Speaker 2>I get to look and say, I don't want to

0:37:30.480 --> 0:37:30.719
<v Speaker 2>do that.

0:37:30.800 --> 0:37:32.520
<v Speaker 1>I do want to do this, so I know I

0:37:32.520 --> 0:37:35.640
<v Speaker 1>don't want to glamorize like entrepreneurship is hard.

0:37:36.120 --> 0:37:37.920
<v Speaker 2>It's hell. Every other week.

0:37:37.800 --> 0:37:40.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, so, you know what, Circle time seems real

0:37:40.360 --> 0:37:45.560
<v Speaker 1>cute right about now, ABCD because it's hard.

0:37:46.360 --> 0:37:49.319
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, it's hard, really really really hard, and

0:37:49.360 --> 0:37:51.920
<v Speaker 2>it's a lot of work. And I'm not gonna lie.

0:37:51.920 --> 0:37:54.719
<v Speaker 1>You have two kids, it's gonna be a lot of

0:37:54.719 --> 0:37:56.719
<v Speaker 1>time away from them, even if you're in the same house.

0:37:56.719 --> 0:37:58.319
<v Speaker 1>With them because you're going to be putting so much

0:37:58.360 --> 0:38:00.839
<v Speaker 1>work into the business, so just to prepare you for that,

0:38:00.880 --> 0:38:02.880
<v Speaker 1>and that's okay, But I just want you to just

0:38:03.080 --> 0:38:05.440
<v Speaker 1>know that I think people think that you know, be

0:38:05.520 --> 0:38:07.920
<v Speaker 1>an entrepreneur, like because you see those I'm sure you've

0:38:07.920 --> 0:38:10.279
<v Speaker 1>seen No Mandy like those ads where it's like, do

0:38:10.320 --> 0:38:12.800
<v Speaker 1>you want to be making money while on a private island?

0:38:13.360 --> 0:38:14.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's bs.

0:38:14.840 --> 0:38:17.440
<v Speaker 3>I think I've sufficiently blocked those from Instagram. I'm like,

0:38:17.440 --> 0:38:18.719
<v Speaker 3>don't ever should this again?

0:38:19.320 --> 0:38:21.719
<v Speaker 1>Yes, that's why you never see me like as a

0:38:21.719 --> 0:38:24.040
<v Speaker 1>budget these days, you see. I never say I'm going

0:38:24.120 --> 0:38:27.000
<v Speaker 1>to teach you how to be a millionaire, because I'm

0:38:27.000 --> 0:38:29.840
<v Speaker 1>not saying it's not possible for you to become a millionaire,

0:38:30.160 --> 0:38:32.360
<v Speaker 1>but the average person is likely not going to. But

0:38:32.400 --> 0:38:34.880
<v Speaker 1>what I can one hundred percent teach you is how

0:38:34.920 --> 0:38:38.120
<v Speaker 1>to have the financial fundamentals. I could teach you how

0:38:38.160 --> 0:38:41.600
<v Speaker 1>to budget and save and those things because the millionaire aspect,

0:38:41.680 --> 0:38:44.160
<v Speaker 1>one you might not need that much in order to

0:38:44.160 --> 0:38:47.319
<v Speaker 1>live the life that you so desire, and two you

0:38:47.400 --> 0:38:50.879
<v Speaker 1>might decide, like, for example, for myself, I've been really

0:38:50.920 --> 0:38:53.320
<v Speaker 1>evaluating that now that I've gotten to a certain place

0:38:53.880 --> 0:38:55.759
<v Speaker 1>I want to switch from media, I was saying. I

0:38:55.760 --> 0:38:58.160
<v Speaker 1>tweeted the other day, like I want to switch from

0:38:58.280 --> 0:39:02.279
<v Speaker 1>two thousand, two thousand to twenty twenty jay Z within

0:39:02.320 --> 0:39:03.200
<v Speaker 1>the next five years.

0:39:03.280 --> 0:39:05.080
<v Speaker 2>So two thousand jay Z was like the top of

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<v Speaker 2>the charts, like.

0:39:05.680 --> 0:39:08.560
<v Speaker 1>You know, hit song after hit song, and I remember

0:39:08.600 --> 0:39:10.759
<v Speaker 1>seeing an interview where he said, that's really stressful because

0:39:10.800 --> 0:39:12.640
<v Speaker 1>you always have to have the new hot ish, you know.

0:39:13.520 --> 0:39:16.680
<v Speaker 1>But twenty twenty jay Z, he's a lot more behind

0:39:16.760 --> 0:39:20.040
<v Speaker 1>the scenes. He doesn't have to perform, but he has

0:39:20.080 --> 0:39:23.319
<v Speaker 1>a lot more business interest and so that's that's the

0:39:23.360 --> 0:39:25.160
<v Speaker 1>move that I'm making within the next five years for

0:39:25.200 --> 0:39:29.000
<v Speaker 1>budget Neista is then you see less of Tiffany certainly

0:39:29.080 --> 0:39:32.640
<v Speaker 1>Budgetista a literature academy, you know, like Molly Moore get

0:39:32.680 --> 0:39:35.080
<v Speaker 1>it with money, all of my things, but less of

0:39:35.320 --> 0:39:38.520
<v Speaker 1>me as a personality and just me more so behind

0:39:38.520 --> 0:39:41.160
<v Speaker 1>the scenes, like making business happen because it's a lot

0:39:41.239 --> 0:39:43.319
<v Speaker 1>less pressure. I don't have to be the new hot

0:39:43.320 --> 0:39:46.160
<v Speaker 1>thing all the time. So just keeping that in mind too,

0:39:46.239 --> 0:39:49.239
<v Speaker 1>that it's a lot of pressure in the beginning. But

0:39:49.440 --> 0:39:51.600
<v Speaker 1>like I said, I would not literally never choose anything

0:39:51.600 --> 0:39:54.520
<v Speaker 1>else because it's afforded me the opportunity to do things

0:39:54.520 --> 0:39:57.600
<v Speaker 1>that I never would imagine, buying my house in cash,

0:39:57.600 --> 0:39:59.719
<v Speaker 1>paying off my parents' house in cash, paying off my

0:39:59.719 --> 0:40:02.560
<v Speaker 1>still a loan in cash, being able to support family

0:40:02.600 --> 0:40:05.000
<v Speaker 1>and friends when they were struggling. I mean support support

0:40:05.080 --> 0:40:07.480
<v Speaker 1>like I paid your rent for two year. Support, you know,

0:40:07.760 --> 0:40:10.360
<v Speaker 1>like being able to set aside for my nieces and

0:40:10.440 --> 0:40:12.600
<v Speaker 1>my nephew, making sure that college is on me, and

0:40:12.719 --> 0:40:13.759
<v Speaker 1>your first car it's on me.

0:40:13.880 --> 0:40:14.440
<v Speaker 2>We got it.

0:40:15.160 --> 0:40:18.359
<v Speaker 1>So you know, it's there's a lot of trade off,

0:40:18.440 --> 0:40:19.879
<v Speaker 1>but to me, it's worth it.

0:40:20.200 --> 0:40:21.879
<v Speaker 3>Remember that time he said you weren't ready to write

0:40:21.880 --> 0:40:23.239
<v Speaker 3>a book an entrepreneurs, I.

0:40:23.239 --> 0:40:26.520
<v Speaker 2>Said, I wasn't gonna do it, but we hear it.

0:40:26.600 --> 0:40:29.680
<v Speaker 1>Okay, But honestly, after get Going with Money, cha, I'm

0:40:29.680 --> 0:40:31.440
<v Speaker 1>not gonna lie. I gave my heart and soul to

0:40:31.480 --> 0:40:33.279
<v Speaker 1>that book. If y'all have not pre ordered it, don't

0:40:33.320 --> 0:40:35.600
<v Speaker 1>maybe strangle you. As hard as I work on Geko

0:40:35.680 --> 0:40:38.600
<v Speaker 1>with Money, gek Good with Money dot Com, you better

0:40:38.600 --> 0:40:39.240
<v Speaker 1>pre order.

0:40:39.040 --> 0:40:40.240
<v Speaker 2>It because I put so much effort.

0:40:40.280 --> 0:40:43.040
<v Speaker 1>Honestly, maybe one day we'll do an episode about like

0:40:43.080 --> 0:40:45.640
<v Speaker 1>what it is to like, you know, write a book, Mandy.

0:40:45.960 --> 0:40:47.600
<v Speaker 2>No one told me like.

0:40:47.560 --> 0:40:50.520
<v Speaker 1>It's one thing to write it. That part was hard, girl.

0:40:50.640 --> 0:40:53.480
<v Speaker 1>This marketing it and to kill me.

0:40:53.560 --> 0:40:56.080
<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh my god, it's so much worked. Though.

0:40:56.080 --> 0:40:58.960
<v Speaker 1>Even if you have like I'm under Penguin, you have

0:40:59.000 --> 0:41:03.000
<v Speaker 1>a major publisher, the level of work, it's literally like

0:41:03.120 --> 0:41:05.760
<v Speaker 1>I've got I've got like five full time jobs.

0:41:06.040 --> 0:41:09.800
<v Speaker 2>I'm the CEO of the Literature Academy. Okay. Then this book,

0:41:10.080 --> 0:41:12.040
<v Speaker 2>you know, the marketing, the marketing market for the next

0:41:12.080 --> 0:41:14.920
<v Speaker 2>month and a half. Okay. Then Molly Moore.

0:41:15.000 --> 0:41:16.560
<v Speaker 1>So I don't know if I told you, but my

0:41:16.560 --> 0:41:19.120
<v Speaker 1>my children's book, Molly Moore. I wrote a treatment for it,

0:41:19.120 --> 0:41:21.920
<v Speaker 1>and we have a couple of production companies that are

0:41:21.920 --> 0:41:26.880
<v Speaker 1>interested in turning into a children's show that you know, exciting.

0:41:26.440 --> 0:41:27.560
<v Speaker 2>But still work.

0:41:28.560 --> 0:41:28.799
<v Speaker 4>You know.

0:41:28.960 --> 0:41:31.200
<v Speaker 1>Then on top of all the behind the scenes, I

0:41:31.239 --> 0:41:33.319
<v Speaker 1>still got to get on and be like, hello, my

0:41:33.520 --> 0:41:36.880
<v Speaker 1>name is imagine this son, and here's five ways to

0:41:36.960 --> 0:41:41.239
<v Speaker 1>fix your credit. Carl, Like, there are days when I'm like,

0:41:41.239 --> 0:41:43.160
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if I'm coming or going, and so

0:41:43.640 --> 0:41:46.279
<v Speaker 1>it's it's it could be. I mean, thank god, I've

0:41:46.280 --> 0:41:50.040
<v Speaker 1>got the most patient husband, because I you know, it's

0:41:50.080 --> 0:41:53.120
<v Speaker 1>a lot, and so I'm looking to reduce the a

0:41:53.160 --> 0:41:58.040
<v Speaker 1>lotness of it all. And because I just that, you

0:41:58.040 --> 0:42:00.319
<v Speaker 1>won't see me write another book, like a major book

0:42:00.360 --> 0:42:02.000
<v Speaker 1>like this for a very long time. Although they've been

0:42:02.040 --> 0:42:03.640
<v Speaker 1>asking me, I'm like, Sis, if you don't get out

0:42:03.680 --> 0:42:05.560
<v Speaker 1>of my face, I'm not doing it. It's I mean,

0:42:05.680 --> 0:42:07.719
<v Speaker 1>I want to be married. You know, I'm still trying

0:42:07.760 --> 0:42:09.880
<v Speaker 1>to have this baby. You know, I got to have

0:42:09.920 --> 0:42:12.400
<v Speaker 1>to have soldier surgery like next week. It's something I

0:42:12.440 --> 0:42:14.200
<v Speaker 1>won't say it's light, but it's like the same day

0:42:14.560 --> 0:42:16.879
<v Speaker 1>surgery for like my shoulder that I pulled.

0:42:17.080 --> 0:42:18.080
<v Speaker 2>And like I got it.

0:42:18.120 --> 0:42:20.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, wait, okay, so I'll just see an end

0:42:20.640 --> 0:42:22.520
<v Speaker 1>of the day before I was like, no, after I'll

0:42:22.520 --> 0:42:25.719
<v Speaker 1>do you know, I'll do today's so after after can

0:42:25.760 --> 0:42:30.080
<v Speaker 1>you imagine? Like, no, Sis, it's entrepreneurship once you get

0:42:30.120 --> 0:42:31.640
<v Speaker 1>deep into it. It's not for the faint of heart,

0:42:31.800 --> 0:42:34.319
<v Speaker 1>like I hate when people make it seem it's super glamorous.

0:42:34.640 --> 0:42:34.839
<v Speaker 2>No.

0:42:35.160 --> 0:42:39.240
<v Speaker 1>Like I I'm tired half the time, and I definitely

0:42:39.320 --> 0:42:41.000
<v Speaker 1>work too much. I know that, but I honestly I

0:42:41.000 --> 0:42:43.480
<v Speaker 1>don't know how to not work too much because it's

0:42:43.480 --> 0:42:46.200
<v Speaker 1>got to get done. You know, there is no off

0:42:46.239 --> 0:42:48.120
<v Speaker 1>button if I don't make sure it's done.

0:42:48.280 --> 0:42:49.680
<v Speaker 2>And I have an amazing team.

0:42:49.719 --> 0:42:51.880
<v Speaker 1>When I say an amazing team, an amazing team, but

0:42:51.960 --> 0:42:55.359
<v Speaker 1>they still need to be led, you know. So like

0:42:55.600 --> 0:42:58.080
<v Speaker 1>at the end of the day, you know, I you know,

0:42:58.160 --> 0:43:00.920
<v Speaker 1>I put in. I put in the work that's required

0:43:00.960 --> 0:43:03.280
<v Speaker 1>for the level of success that I'm wanting. But lately

0:43:03.320 --> 0:43:05.560
<v Speaker 1>I've been asking myself, is this enough? And I'm like

0:43:05.600 --> 0:43:09.360
<v Speaker 1>almost basically like yeah, I mean, one hundred million sounds cute,

0:43:09.400 --> 0:43:10.360
<v Speaker 1>But I don't think I got.

0:43:10.200 --> 0:43:10.520
<v Speaker 3>That in me.

0:43:11.600 --> 0:43:12.759
<v Speaker 2>I don't think I got that in me.

0:43:13.320 --> 0:43:16.439
<v Speaker 1>I think, like, yo, between twenty and fifty million, I'm

0:43:16.480 --> 0:43:20.440
<v Speaker 1>good because I'm like, I want to actually have friends,

0:43:20.520 --> 0:43:22.160
<v Speaker 1>and I want to stay in love with my husband.

0:43:22.200 --> 0:43:25.160
<v Speaker 1>I want to have a baby, and so there's you know,

0:43:25.320 --> 0:43:27.239
<v Speaker 1>there's a lot that you give up when you when

0:43:27.280 --> 0:43:29.520
<v Speaker 1>you strike out on your own. It's not for everyone,

0:43:29.920 --> 0:43:32.480
<v Speaker 1>it's not and it's okay to have just a dope

0:43:32.560 --> 0:43:36.080
<v Speaker 1>job that you love. Honestly, I loved teaching preschool, and

0:43:36.120 --> 0:43:37.960
<v Speaker 1>I still would have retired on time if I taught

0:43:37.960 --> 0:43:40.760
<v Speaker 1>preschool because I was investing my money, I was saving,

0:43:40.800 --> 0:43:43.439
<v Speaker 1>I was living under my means. I had a condo. Then,

0:43:43.960 --> 0:43:47.319
<v Speaker 1>you know, like I loved teaching preschool. So don't feel

0:43:47.360 --> 0:43:50.000
<v Speaker 1>bad about, you know, not joining the entrepreneur rank because

0:43:50.440 --> 0:43:52.319
<v Speaker 1>a lot of parts of its sucky over here.

0:43:52.760 --> 0:43:55.319
<v Speaker 2>You know, there's a lot of benefits, but there's a

0:43:55.320 --> 0:43:56.080
<v Speaker 2>lot that sucks.

0:43:56.120 --> 0:44:00.160
<v Speaker 1>Like I definitely had less pressure when I taught pre school. Well,

0:44:00.200 --> 0:44:02.000
<v Speaker 1>I mean, like it was the babies, we got to

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<v Speaker 1>play at the park, seeing our ABC's eat snack and

0:44:05.880 --> 0:44:08.200
<v Speaker 1>I was done at three and you know, I got

0:44:08.200 --> 0:44:11.239
<v Speaker 1>my summers off. There's something to be said for having

0:44:11.280 --> 0:44:12.920
<v Speaker 1>a job that you like. So I'm definitely not here

0:44:13.000 --> 0:44:14.400
<v Speaker 1>to be like I'll be an entrepreneur.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, no, do.

0:44:15.680 --> 0:44:17.799
<v Speaker 1>What you think is right for you know that there's

0:44:17.840 --> 0:44:22.960
<v Speaker 1>benefits and there's there's benefits and detriments to to both sides.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, it's also levels. I mean, it's not like

0:44:25.760 --> 0:44:29.440
<v Speaker 3>it's either you know it's zero or you are like

0:44:29.480 --> 0:44:32.759
<v Speaker 3>at the budget needs to level of like multi businesses,

0:44:32.840 --> 0:44:35.560
<v Speaker 3>like an entrepreneur can mean so many different things. You know,

0:44:35.560 --> 0:44:39.280
<v Speaker 3>maybe it's starting your own bakery or starting your photography business.

0:44:39.480 --> 0:44:41.480
<v Speaker 3>I know a lot of great people who run their

0:44:41.480 --> 0:44:44.520
<v Speaker 3>shit and do their you know, do their small business

0:44:44.600 --> 0:44:47.400
<v Speaker 3>and they are you know, they have that balance that

0:44:47.440 --> 0:44:49.839
<v Speaker 3>they're looking for, and it gives them their freedom. I mean,

0:44:49.880 --> 0:44:52.200
<v Speaker 3>it's always the hustle, right, because you're always in charge

0:44:52.200 --> 0:44:56.399
<v Speaker 3>of your own destiny. But yeah, I think that transparency

0:44:56.480 --> 0:44:58.759
<v Speaker 3>is needed so that people can see. I mean I

0:44:59.760 --> 0:45:03.280
<v Speaker 3>have watched, you know, for so long you grow and build,

0:45:03.320 --> 0:45:05.600
<v Speaker 3>the budget needs to empire. I feel like I've had

0:45:06.440 --> 0:45:09.520
<v Speaker 3>a really good perspective of it's not been. It is

0:45:09.560 --> 0:45:11.640
<v Speaker 3>not sunshine and roses. But I think that just makes

0:45:11.680 --> 0:45:14.040
<v Speaker 3>it all the more impressive that you know you've built

0:45:14.040 --> 0:45:16.200
<v Speaker 3>what you've built and continued to build. Yeah, but what

0:45:16.320 --> 0:45:18.279
<v Speaker 3>is what what does Coach Green say about all this?

0:45:18.360 --> 0:45:20.399
<v Speaker 3>I kind of feel like this is a moment where

0:45:20.400 --> 0:45:23.239
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, maybe this is a coaching yes, Like.

0:45:23.360 --> 0:45:26.440
<v Speaker 1>No, honestly, well, she always asked me, like we'en not

0:45:27.160 --> 0:45:28.440
<v Speaker 1>for those of y' all who are just joining us.

0:45:28.440 --> 0:45:30.560
<v Speaker 1>Coach Green is my coach. She's a therapist, but she's

0:45:30.560 --> 0:45:32.719
<v Speaker 1>not my therapist, but she's a coach. She has a

0:45:32.760 --> 0:45:36.839
<v Speaker 1>coaching program, she's amazing as with cis the Locks, just

0:45:36.840 --> 0:45:40.879
<v Speaker 1>like mine. So she is always the reason why, quite

0:45:40.880 --> 0:45:45.240
<v Speaker 1>honestly and transparently, I hired Coach Green because I felt

0:45:45.239 --> 0:45:48.480
<v Speaker 1>out of touch with joy. I told her there was

0:45:48.520 --> 0:45:51.640
<v Speaker 1>a moment where I felt like I was at this

0:45:51.800 --> 0:45:55.439
<v Speaker 1>amazing restaurant and I know the ambiance was great.

0:45:55.480 --> 0:45:57.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm sure the food smells great, and it was like.

0:45:57.760 --> 0:46:01.000
<v Speaker 1>The five star food, and I could taste none of it,

0:46:01.080 --> 0:46:02.879
<v Speaker 1>I could hear none of it, I could smell none

0:46:02.920 --> 0:46:06.560
<v Speaker 1>of it. That I knew that my life was good,

0:46:07.040 --> 0:46:09.840
<v Speaker 1>but I couldn't feel that my life was good, and

0:46:09.880 --> 0:46:12.880
<v Speaker 1>it scared me. And it wasn't until I didn't even know.

0:46:13.000 --> 0:46:15.640
<v Speaker 1>It wasn't the joy part that scared me. It was

0:46:15.680 --> 0:46:19.120
<v Speaker 1>the fact that I also couldn't feel the sadness. Something

0:46:19.200 --> 0:46:22.360
<v Speaker 1>happened that was like genuinely sad and I was mentioning

0:46:22.360 --> 0:46:25.640
<v Speaker 1>it to a friend and she was like, wait what, Tiffany,

0:46:25.800 --> 0:46:29.799
<v Speaker 1>Like that's are you okay about it? And I was

0:46:29.840 --> 0:46:32.120
<v Speaker 1>like yeah, she's like you're talking about it like you're

0:46:32.200 --> 0:46:34.080
<v Speaker 1>just like, yeah, girl, they didn't have my cornflakes at

0:46:34.080 --> 0:46:37.200
<v Speaker 1>stop and shop, but you know there's always a shop, right,

0:46:37.719 --> 0:46:41.560
<v Speaker 1>And it was then that it clicked, like, Tiffany, you're

0:46:41.600 --> 0:46:45.239
<v Speaker 1>not feeling you know, like you're not feeling joy and

0:46:45.280 --> 0:46:48.360
<v Speaker 1>you're not feeling sadness. What happened it's almost like I

0:46:48.440 --> 0:46:50.840
<v Speaker 1>lost my tents of my sense of taste and smell

0:46:50.920 --> 0:46:53.200
<v Speaker 1>as related to my emotion. And if you know me,

0:46:53.520 --> 0:46:55.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm actually a pretty big cry baby. I'm somebody who

0:46:55.480 --> 0:46:58.080
<v Speaker 1>feels deeply. And then all of a sudden I stopped.

0:46:58.680 --> 0:47:01.600
<v Speaker 1>And so that's why I high doctor Green. I thought

0:47:01.600 --> 0:47:04.760
<v Speaker 1>I needed like I well, originally I hired Stephanie, my therapist,

0:47:04.880 --> 0:47:07.799
<v Speaker 1>the therapist coach that y'all done, like, uh and if

0:47:07.840 --> 0:47:08.240
<v Speaker 1>you need.

0:47:08.120 --> 0:47:11.320
<v Speaker 2>A therapist coach, not therapist coach, therapist finder? What was that?

0:47:11.440 --> 0:47:14.200
<v Speaker 1>Navvy psych? I can think it's like nav navsyke something

0:47:14.239 --> 0:47:17.400
<v Speaker 1>like that. Stephanie's amazing. So I met with her and

0:47:17.440 --> 0:47:19.360
<v Speaker 1>told her like, Okay, I think I need a therapist.

0:47:19.360 --> 0:47:20.880
<v Speaker 1>I have not had win a number of years. I

0:47:20.920 --> 0:47:24.520
<v Speaker 1>really need, you know, to help navigate and find a therapist.

0:47:24.520 --> 0:47:27.719
<v Speaker 1>It's navy psych nav I ps y h.

0:47:28.160 --> 0:47:29.680
<v Speaker 2>So Stephanie was.

0:47:29.640 --> 0:47:32.640
<v Speaker 1>The one who was like, honestly, Tiffany, from what I'm

0:47:32.680 --> 0:47:34.920
<v Speaker 1>hearing from you, you actually worked out of a lot

0:47:34.920 --> 0:47:38.520
<v Speaker 1>of your past issues. Because therapy typically is to help

0:47:38.560 --> 0:47:42.399
<v Speaker 1>you resolve your past things, and coaching is to help

0:47:42.440 --> 0:47:45.080
<v Speaker 1>you resolve your current and future things.

0:47:45.360 --> 0:47:46.799
<v Speaker 2>And she said it actually sounds like you might need

0:47:46.880 --> 0:47:47.439
<v Speaker 2>coaching more.

0:47:47.800 --> 0:47:49.480
<v Speaker 1>So she looks, she looked, she looked in and she

0:47:49.560 --> 0:47:52.080
<v Speaker 1>found doctor Green, who is a therapist, but she's based

0:47:52.120 --> 0:47:53.920
<v Speaker 1>in Georgia, so she actually can't be my therapist here

0:47:53.920 --> 0:47:56.160
<v Speaker 1>in Jersey, but she could be my coach. And she's

0:47:56.200 --> 0:47:58.680
<v Speaker 1>been amazing and we've just been working on it. And

0:47:58.719 --> 0:48:00.239
<v Speaker 1>I have to say, honestly, within the first it's been

0:48:00.280 --> 0:48:02.759
<v Speaker 1>a couple of months, I had been feeling not one

0:48:02.800 --> 0:48:05.080
<v Speaker 1>hundred percent, but I would say right now I'm a

0:48:05.239 --> 0:48:11.120
<v Speaker 1>seventy five percent of regaining that joy and like really

0:48:11.160 --> 0:48:14.239
<v Speaker 1>figuring out why is it that I was out of alignment.

0:48:14.800 --> 0:48:17.800
<v Speaker 1>It was not because of the joy component, but because

0:48:17.800 --> 0:48:20.520
<v Speaker 1>there was so much going on that I had there

0:48:20.640 --> 0:48:24.920
<v Speaker 1>was a defense mechanism of like not wanting to feel

0:48:25.160 --> 0:48:28.280
<v Speaker 1>the sadness, you know, So as a result of turning

0:48:28.320 --> 0:48:30.719
<v Speaker 1>that off, when you turn that off, you also turn

0:48:30.760 --> 0:48:33.480
<v Speaker 1>off your capacity to feel joy, you know, and not

0:48:33.520 --> 0:48:35.000
<v Speaker 1>really honestly, not the sadness of work.

0:48:35.040 --> 0:48:37.719
<v Speaker 2>Not the sadness I mean, because I've been struggling with

0:48:38.200 --> 0:48:42.360
<v Speaker 2>how do you know, I've been struggling.

0:48:41.880 --> 0:48:48.279
<v Speaker 5>With fortunity, and I'm really worried the might that never

0:48:48.320 --> 0:48:52.480
<v Speaker 5>have a baby, So I have not wanted to feel this.

0:48:55.680 --> 0:48:57.800
<v Speaker 2>Honestly, I have not even cried about it. I'm actually

0:48:57.920 --> 0:48:58.920
<v Speaker 2>surprise I'm crying now.

0:48:59.400 --> 0:49:01.480
<v Speaker 1>This is a test, submit to doctor Green that I'm

0:49:01.520 --> 0:49:04.360
<v Speaker 1>actually able to cry about it because I have not

0:49:04.440 --> 0:49:08.680
<v Speaker 1>allowed myself to because I don't want to feel it.

0:49:09.400 --> 0:49:12.759
<v Speaker 1>And as a result, though I have not been as

0:49:12.840 --> 0:49:16.319
<v Speaker 1>joyful because I have not wanted to be sad. So,

0:49:18.480 --> 0:49:24.000
<v Speaker 1>you know, it's hard, honestly, because like I can honestly say.

0:49:23.440 --> 0:49:24.760
<v Speaker 2>That I have a really good life.

0:49:24.760 --> 0:49:27.440
<v Speaker 1>For like me and Superman and my husband, we have

0:49:27.640 --> 0:49:30.560
<v Speaker 1>never been closer, like it's been really great. Like I

0:49:30.560 --> 0:49:32.480
<v Speaker 1>didn't grow up with like the best relationship with my

0:49:32.520 --> 0:49:34.080
<v Speaker 1>parents just because I was like I don't know, I

0:49:34.080 --> 0:49:36.720
<v Speaker 1>wasn't like some wild kid, but I was quote unquote

0:49:36.760 --> 0:49:38.680
<v Speaker 1>Nigerian wild. Like you know, I'm not getting the best

0:49:38.680 --> 0:49:43.560
<v Speaker 1>grades and so but you know, but we have such

0:49:43.560 --> 0:49:46.080
<v Speaker 1>a great relationship now, Like I've always had a good

0:49:46.160 --> 0:49:49.279
<v Speaker 1>relationship with my sisters. It's only even Brett closer now

0:49:49.320 --> 0:49:50.040
<v Speaker 1>than ever before.

0:49:51.040 --> 0:49:54.239
<v Speaker 2>Like so I have to say that, like other than that,

0:49:54.280 --> 0:49:55.359
<v Speaker 2>my life is really good.

0:49:55.360 --> 0:49:59.200
<v Speaker 1>So sometimes I feel guilty about feeling said about that

0:49:59.280 --> 0:50:01.440
<v Speaker 1>part you know the Denisa is doing well. I mean,

0:50:01.520 --> 0:50:03.239
<v Speaker 1>is it a lot of work at the Buzzanisa. Yeah,

0:50:03.280 --> 0:50:05.480
<v Speaker 1>But honestly, like, I've got an amazing team full of

0:50:05.520 --> 0:50:09.440
<v Speaker 1>black and brown women mostly who just are so supportive.

0:50:08.920 --> 0:50:11.239
<v Speaker 2>And loving and kind. I mean, I have a really

0:50:11.280 --> 0:50:13.320
<v Speaker 2>good life. But there's that part.

0:50:13.640 --> 0:50:15.480
<v Speaker 1>So I've not been wanted to feel bad because you

0:50:15.480 --> 0:50:16.880
<v Speaker 1>will hear me like I mean, if you listen to

0:50:16.880 --> 0:50:22.239
<v Speaker 1>a past like past podcast episodes, like when I'm talking

0:50:22.280 --> 0:50:25.000
<v Speaker 1>about fertility and how matter of fact I've sound, it's

0:50:25.040 --> 0:50:28.400
<v Speaker 1>because I wasn't allowing myself to feel the sadness and

0:50:28.440 --> 0:50:31.279
<v Speaker 1>the disappointment. So as a result, I have not been

0:50:31.280 --> 0:50:33.959
<v Speaker 1>able to feel the joy of what is already here,

0:50:34.239 --> 0:50:37.880
<v Speaker 1>and so that's why I hired doctor green Is so

0:50:38.560 --> 0:50:41.480
<v Speaker 1>I can feel again. But this part sucks because who

0:50:41.560 --> 0:50:42.799
<v Speaker 1>the hell wants to feel sad?

0:50:43.080 --> 0:50:44.120
<v Speaker 2>I don't, you know?

0:50:45.719 --> 0:50:48.200
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, but I mean I'm grateful for it either way,

0:50:48.320 --> 0:50:53.239
<v Speaker 1>because me actually crying now is good because it means

0:50:53.239 --> 0:50:55.440
<v Speaker 1>that she's actually like I can honestly say, Mandy, I mean,

0:50:56.120 --> 0:50:59.320
<v Speaker 1>I've had it's been almost three years. I've had probably

0:50:59.320 --> 0:51:02.719
<v Speaker 1>like ten different surgeries, fibert surgery, scar move surgery like

0:51:02.800 --> 0:51:06.879
<v Speaker 1>four different, I mean, and then I've had two miscarriages

0:51:07.200 --> 0:51:09.440
<v Speaker 1>and like at least five or six transfers that and

0:51:09.440 --> 0:51:11.160
<v Speaker 1>I have not worked transfers or when they put the

0:51:11.160 --> 0:51:13.239
<v Speaker 1>baby inside you and hope that girls, it has not

0:51:13.840 --> 0:51:17.120
<v Speaker 1>so like it's been a lot. And I can honestly say, Mandy,

0:51:17.280 --> 0:51:20.040
<v Speaker 1>in the three years, I've not cried, you know. So

0:51:20.280 --> 0:51:22.719
<v Speaker 1>the fact that I'm crying now means it's a testament

0:51:22.920 --> 0:51:26.000
<v Speaker 1>to doctor Green's work because it means that like I'm

0:51:26.040 --> 0:51:29.040
<v Speaker 1>allowing myself to feel again, which means that I can

0:51:29.080 --> 0:51:30.680
<v Speaker 1>also feel joy again.

0:51:30.800 --> 0:51:32.200
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, it's just.

0:51:32.680 --> 0:51:34.960
<v Speaker 1>I know, excuse me. It's like happy, happy, go lucky tippy.

0:51:35.000 --> 0:51:37.680
<v Speaker 1>And honestly, I am happy. But it's hard, you know,

0:51:37.719 --> 0:51:39.799
<v Speaker 1>because I see like my because you feel like.

0:51:39.840 --> 0:51:40.840
<v Speaker 2>Damn, what's wrong with me?

0:51:41.960 --> 0:51:44.960
<v Speaker 1>You know, like my mom has five kids, and honestly,

0:51:45.040 --> 0:51:47.520
<v Speaker 1>I just always just assumed they're like, well, girl, you know,

0:51:48.320 --> 0:51:50.279
<v Speaker 1>like of course you're going to be able to have kids, but.

0:51:50.560 --> 0:51:51.160
<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

0:51:51.320 --> 0:51:53.839
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm forty one now, so it's not like, oh,

0:51:53.880 --> 0:51:56.279
<v Speaker 1>well girl, yeah, like ten more years, I don't. I

0:51:56.360 --> 0:52:01.160
<v Speaker 1>don't I have one good embryo left, and if this

0:52:01.239 --> 0:52:01.719
<v Speaker 1>doesn't work.

0:52:01.760 --> 0:52:02.200
<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

0:52:02.719 --> 0:52:07.839
<v Speaker 3>So yeah, I'm having a hard time finding words to

0:52:07.880 --> 0:52:11.719
<v Speaker 3>say because I love you so much. I think I'm

0:52:11.760 --> 0:52:14.640
<v Speaker 3>just I'm proud, but I'm also you know, I think

0:52:14.680 --> 0:52:17.640
<v Speaker 3>it's poignant to talk about the pain and the joy.

0:52:17.760 --> 0:52:19.960
<v Speaker 3>And earlier we kind of joked about how we can

0:52:19.960 --> 0:52:21.560
<v Speaker 3>always find it like we always have a sense of

0:52:21.640 --> 0:52:24.759
<v Speaker 3>humor even when you know life is dragging you as

0:52:24.760 --> 0:52:27.319
<v Speaker 3>a black woman in this country. But I feel like

0:52:27.880 --> 0:52:31.520
<v Speaker 3>it's so true. Until you can allow yourself to know

0:52:31.560 --> 0:52:34.279
<v Speaker 3>what pain is, and to understand what pain is, I mean,

0:52:34.320 --> 0:52:36.719
<v Speaker 3>that opens you up to also understand what the joy

0:52:36.800 --> 0:52:41.200
<v Speaker 3>is like. And I mean, obviously have some mu should

0:52:41.200 --> 0:52:45.600
<v Speaker 3>be joyful and grateful about, but sitting with those feelings,

0:52:45.640 --> 0:52:49.080
<v Speaker 3>those uncomfortable feelings, is a muscle that a lot of

0:52:49.120 --> 0:52:51.719
<v Speaker 3>people don't know how to flex. And I do. I

0:52:51.760 --> 0:52:53.600
<v Speaker 3>feel like a lot of a lot, a lot a

0:52:53.640 --> 0:52:55.839
<v Speaker 3>lot of folks out there are in a moment where

0:52:55.840 --> 0:52:59.440
<v Speaker 3>they're avoiding that feeling. They're avoiding the thoughts or avoiding

0:52:59.480 --> 0:53:02.439
<v Speaker 3>the pain. And I think this pandemic honestly has has

0:53:02.640 --> 0:53:05.080
<v Speaker 3>removed some of those mechanisms that we would use to

0:53:05.800 --> 0:53:08.520
<v Speaker 3>you know, move on or stay, you know, be busy

0:53:09.000 --> 0:53:12.120
<v Speaker 3>or avoid certain feelings and things like that. And I'm

0:53:12.120 --> 0:53:14.280
<v Speaker 3>just really glad that it's led you in this direction

0:53:14.400 --> 0:53:17.800
<v Speaker 3>to get the coaching that is being so like fulfilling

0:53:17.840 --> 0:53:20.160
<v Speaker 3>in opening you up and I think letting you access

0:53:20.200 --> 0:53:25.319
<v Speaker 3>a different level of just hopefully joy and well, thank

0:53:25.320 --> 0:53:27.160
<v Speaker 3>you for sharing that. And I know you're not alone.

0:53:27.280 --> 0:53:29.840
<v Speaker 3>You have to know you're not alone, and it doesn't

0:53:29.840 --> 0:53:32.680
<v Speaker 3>make it easier in your struggle probably, but I know

0:53:32.760 --> 0:53:35.799
<v Speaker 3>that you sharing this is powerful, and you know, I

0:53:35.840 --> 0:53:38.480
<v Speaker 3>hope that people are listening and nodding their heads and

0:53:38.719 --> 0:53:41.560
<v Speaker 3>there is no shame. There is absolutely no shame in

0:53:41.600 --> 0:53:45.440
<v Speaker 3>what you're going through and you're not alone. And I

0:53:45.560 --> 0:53:48.400
<v Speaker 3>just virtual hug hu no.

0:53:48.520 --> 0:53:50.759
<v Speaker 1>I appreciate you, Mandy, And it has opened up the

0:53:50.880 --> 0:53:55.520
<v Speaker 1>joy because I've been feeling like way more Like I

0:53:55.600 --> 0:53:57.520
<v Speaker 1>was just looking at my husband Jill the other day

0:53:57.520 --> 0:53:58.080
<v Speaker 1>and I was just like.

0:53:58.000 --> 0:54:00.919
<v Speaker 2>Oh, man, I really really really love him.

0:54:01.360 --> 0:54:03.440
<v Speaker 1>And I mean I've always loved him obviously, but I

0:54:03.520 --> 0:54:08.200
<v Speaker 1>realized that feeling I was feeling was that flood of like, oh,

0:54:08.239 --> 0:54:11.560
<v Speaker 1>this is what you've been locked out of, this like

0:54:11.760 --> 0:54:15.360
<v Speaker 1>intense feeling of like joy of love for him because

0:54:15.400 --> 0:54:17.279
<v Speaker 1>I was not allowing myself to feel the other side.

0:54:17.280 --> 0:54:19.919
<v Speaker 1>So it just I mean, as much as it's hard

0:54:19.920 --> 0:54:22.200
<v Speaker 1>to feel this part, it also means I get the

0:54:22.200 --> 0:54:24.160
<v Speaker 1>other part. So for those of you who are listening,

0:54:24.200 --> 0:54:25.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm sure, like if you're anything like me, when I

0:54:25.760 --> 0:54:28.120
<v Speaker 1>hear somebody else crying, I'm like, well, I guess I'm crying, dude.

0:54:29.960 --> 0:54:31.239
<v Speaker 3>But now I have a cold, dead heart.

0:54:32.520 --> 0:54:35.480
<v Speaker 1>But I do hope that you know, and I share

0:54:35.520 --> 0:54:38.160
<v Speaker 1>that to be transparent because I want one you know

0:54:38.239 --> 0:54:39.799
<v Speaker 1>that I think it's important for you to see that

0:54:39.920 --> 0:54:42.080
<v Speaker 1>we're not perfect over here, you know, like it's not

0:54:42.719 --> 0:54:48.240
<v Speaker 1>you know, for yourself, right, Like I just was always

0:54:48.280 --> 0:54:50.080
<v Speaker 1>like so like I was appreciative when you shared how

0:54:50.080 --> 0:54:52.040
<v Speaker 1>hard it is when Rio came and you were like, yeah, I.

0:54:51.920 --> 0:54:53.600
<v Speaker 2>Think this it's too much.

0:54:53.800 --> 0:54:54.840
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that was the worst, you.

0:54:54.920 --> 0:54:56.320
<v Speaker 2>Know, that it was too much.

0:54:56.400 --> 0:54:58.480
<v Speaker 1>And I think that was really I think it's important

0:54:58.920 --> 0:55:04.160
<v Speaker 1>that women, especially share like the range of what it

0:55:04.360 --> 0:55:06.520
<v Speaker 1>looks like, you know, because you can look at Mandy

0:55:06.560 --> 0:55:09.759
<v Speaker 1>and being like, I mean, what you've done, like you know,

0:55:09.960 --> 0:55:14.080
<v Speaker 1>joining ally and like that's a huge position. That's that's huge,

0:55:14.560 --> 0:55:16.680
<v Speaker 1>especially at such a young age. But it doesn't mean

0:55:16.680 --> 0:55:19.520
<v Speaker 1>that Mandy doesn't have struggles. And what I've been able

0:55:19.600 --> 0:55:21.560
<v Speaker 1>to do at the as the budgetista, you've gotten to

0:55:21.560 --> 0:55:24.200
<v Speaker 1>see us both grow up if you've listened. But it

0:55:24.239 --> 0:55:27.160
<v Speaker 1>doesn't mean that I also don't have struggles. So whatever

0:55:27.280 --> 0:55:29.960
<v Speaker 1>is happening in your life, like it's just there's just

0:55:30.040 --> 0:55:32.759
<v Speaker 1>a range and hopefully you'll be able to feel the

0:55:32.800 --> 0:55:34.040
<v Speaker 1>fullness of that range.

0:55:34.200 --> 0:55:38.000
<v Speaker 3>So yeah, I think pain is power too. I think

0:55:38.040 --> 0:55:41.160
<v Speaker 3>it also makes you more empathetic. I don't know how,

0:55:41.880 --> 0:55:43.640
<v Speaker 3>And you know, I think about Biden being in the

0:55:43.640 --> 0:55:45.880
<v Speaker 3>White House and how much pain he's gone through personally

0:55:45.920 --> 0:55:48.880
<v Speaker 3>and how he's always shared that and his compassion and empathy,

0:55:48.960 --> 0:55:51.439
<v Speaker 3>and that's what we need more of. So I'm all

0:55:51.480 --> 0:55:53.960
<v Speaker 3>for it, I think. I mean not to be too corny,

0:55:54.040 --> 0:55:56.960
<v Speaker 3>but pain is the privilege in a way, because it

0:55:57.000 --> 0:55:59.280
<v Speaker 3>means that you're still here, you know, to be in pain,

0:55:59.360 --> 0:56:02.280
<v Speaker 3>to have the privilege of waking up each day regardless

0:56:02.320 --> 0:56:05.919
<v Speaker 3>of what's going on. You know, you you know, every

0:56:06.000 --> 0:56:07.640
<v Speaker 3>day we have a chance to be here and to

0:56:07.640 --> 0:56:09.600
<v Speaker 3>put our best foot forward. And some days are bad

0:56:09.640 --> 0:56:11.359
<v Speaker 3>and some days are good. But I think on the

0:56:11.400 --> 0:56:13.719
<v Speaker 3>worst days, when you're feeling your lowest. The one thing

0:56:13.760 --> 0:56:16.520
<v Speaker 3>that the mantra for me is that this is not forever.

0:56:16.800 --> 0:56:19.960
<v Speaker 3>You know, today, we'll you know, if we're a privileged

0:56:20.000 --> 0:56:22.719
<v Speaker 3>we'll have another day. And this feeling that I have

0:56:22.840 --> 0:56:26.080
<v Speaker 3>right now of hopelessness or stress or anxiety or pain,

0:56:26.640 --> 0:56:29.759
<v Speaker 3>it won't last forever. And there's you have to see

0:56:29.800 --> 0:56:31.759
<v Speaker 3>it and sit with it. But you can look at

0:56:31.800 --> 0:56:34.640
<v Speaker 3>it and sort of for me, let it pass, you know,

0:56:34.840 --> 0:56:37.600
<v Speaker 3>let it wave over you, and then you'll, you know,

0:56:37.760 --> 0:56:41.279
<v Speaker 3>hopefully hopefully get to a more joyful and happy place

0:56:41.320 --> 0:56:43.839
<v Speaker 3>and if that wave comes back, it will pass. But

0:56:43.880 --> 0:56:45.680
<v Speaker 3>it's not about ignoring it. It's just sort of like

0:56:45.760 --> 0:56:48.960
<v Speaker 3>writing it and letting it and letting the pain hit

0:56:49.000 --> 0:56:51.120
<v Speaker 3>you so that then you can really and you see

0:56:51.120 --> 0:56:52.440
<v Speaker 3>it every day in your work, you know, you can

0:56:52.480 --> 0:56:54.000
<v Speaker 3>look at people and what they're going through and you

0:56:54.280 --> 0:56:55.840
<v Speaker 3>can look in their eyes and maybe it's not the

0:56:55.840 --> 0:56:58.759
<v Speaker 3>same pain, the same struggle, but we're all just doing

0:56:58.760 --> 0:57:01.880
<v Speaker 3>our damn best. Yeah, I'll just doing the best we can,

0:57:02.440 --> 0:57:04.120
<v Speaker 3>and we got to be there for each other. We

0:57:04.239 --> 0:57:07.680
<v Speaker 3>have to, so paining joy you can share it here,

0:57:07.880 --> 0:57:10.880
<v Speaker 3>you know that. Yeah, I know a mandra and my

0:57:11.080 --> 0:57:15.480
<v Speaker 3>eyes suggest getting a ten dollars Strobe Light for just

0:57:15.520 --> 0:57:17.840
<v Speaker 3>any room in your house, because honestly, it's the best

0:57:17.840 --> 0:57:21.000
<v Speaker 3>ten dollars I've ever sent. And I don't care if

0:57:21.000 --> 0:57:23.000
<v Speaker 3>someone needs to take away my Amazon credit card, but

0:57:23.440 --> 0:57:26.360
<v Speaker 3>ten dollars. So much joy that's going on.

0:57:26.400 --> 0:57:29.320
<v Speaker 2>I'm laughing because you know Superman don't bought a stroke light.

0:57:29.240 --> 0:57:32.560
<v Speaker 3>Right he did? Okay? Yeah, but anything it means Superman

0:57:32.640 --> 0:57:35.040
<v Speaker 3>need to have a party, like a virtual Strobe light party.

0:57:35.080 --> 0:57:37.440
<v Speaker 3>It is, so it's the best. Yeah, put that stroke light.

0:57:38.120 --> 0:57:40.560
<v Speaker 3>He danced with a baby for like two hours on Friday.

0:57:40.560 --> 0:57:41.959
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna do it after the show.

0:57:42.760 --> 0:57:44.520
<v Speaker 1>Ya, we have these. He put it in the basement

0:57:44.600 --> 0:57:46.480
<v Speaker 1>is too, And there's one that is it is yours

0:57:46.520 --> 0:57:48.400
<v Speaker 1>like voice or noise activated.

0:57:47.960 --> 0:57:51.360
<v Speaker 3>Like if you clapa, Yes, of course he got one.

0:57:52.080 --> 0:57:54.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I swear, you know. It's so funny how

0:57:54.480 --> 0:57:56.360
<v Speaker 1>there are like patents in your life. I look at

0:57:56.400 --> 0:57:58.840
<v Speaker 1>the people that like I really connect and click with

0:57:58.920 --> 0:58:03.000
<v Speaker 1>the most, and how similar So many of my friends

0:58:03.080 --> 0:58:06.880
<v Speaker 1>are like you, like you Superman, my friend Rihanna, like

0:58:07.600 --> 0:58:12.120
<v Speaker 1>my friend Cabrel. There's so many similar personality traits, you know,

0:58:12.640 --> 0:58:14.720
<v Speaker 1>and like this, like you know, like what I love

0:58:14.760 --> 0:58:17.160
<v Speaker 1>so much about you, Mandy. Is that you because I'm

0:58:17.160 --> 0:58:19.680
<v Speaker 1>someone who's like this people pleaser, but I always feel

0:58:19.680 --> 0:58:21.560
<v Speaker 1>that you are just always so clear.

0:58:22.320 --> 0:58:25.080
<v Speaker 3>And concite people and firms.

0:58:25.760 --> 0:58:27.040
<v Speaker 1>I know you have your times, but you know what

0:58:27.040 --> 0:58:29.480
<v Speaker 1>I mean, like to me as a that I'm someone

0:58:29.520 --> 0:58:32.920
<v Speaker 1>who avoids confrontation and you're like, no, I'm okay with

0:58:33.240 --> 0:58:35.760
<v Speaker 1>you know, because I rather be said and done. And

0:58:36.120 --> 0:58:38.480
<v Speaker 1>when I look at Superman, my husband, I look at

0:58:38.520 --> 0:58:39.960
<v Speaker 1>my friend Rihanna, when I look at you, when I

0:58:39.960 --> 0:58:42.640
<v Speaker 1>look at Cabrell, I see that and I see that

0:58:42.760 --> 0:58:46.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm surrounding myself with like just these amazing people that

0:58:46.200 --> 0:58:47.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm better as a result of.

0:58:47.640 --> 0:58:49.200
<v Speaker 2>And so just the fact that you.

0:58:49.240 --> 0:58:51.160
<v Speaker 1>Have a stroke, like like Superman, I'm like, of course

0:58:51.200 --> 0:58:52.280
<v Speaker 1>Mandy does, because.

0:58:53.800 --> 0:58:54.520
<v Speaker 2>That is so.

0:58:56.040 --> 0:58:59.240
<v Speaker 3>Ten dollars you can have your own. The thing is

0:58:59.280 --> 0:59:01.640
<v Speaker 3>we've been going out of our homes to get everything

0:59:01.640 --> 0:59:03.240
<v Speaker 3>that we need. And I know, Tiffany you were saying

0:59:03.240 --> 0:59:04.520
<v Speaker 3>that you're like hitting a wall and you want to

0:59:04.560 --> 0:59:06.960
<v Speaker 3>be out there. I've never felt more like this is

0:59:07.000 --> 0:59:09.600
<v Speaker 3>all I need, everything I need in the entire world

0:59:09.800 --> 0:59:12.920
<v Speaker 3>in this house. If I can't get it Amazon, I

0:59:12.920 --> 0:59:15.520
<v Speaker 3>can see I've got the clothes, I got the booze,

0:59:15.680 --> 0:59:18.280
<v Speaker 3>I got good food. I have my cousin who I adore,

0:59:18.440 --> 0:59:19.920
<v Speaker 3>I have my us Like, I cannot wait for my.

0:59:21.680 --> 0:59:24.800
<v Speaker 1>What's it called it, my bike, my my peloton. I'm like,

0:59:25.240 --> 0:59:26.680
<v Speaker 1>I feel like that's going to just bring a little

0:59:26.720 --> 0:59:28.560
<v Speaker 1>extra juice in the house. So I can't wait for them.

0:59:28.600 --> 0:59:29.680
<v Speaker 3>Oh, you're gonna get a pelotone.

0:59:29.720 --> 0:59:30.160
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I told you.

0:59:30.200 --> 0:59:31.280
<v Speaker 2>I didn't tell you I'm gonna get it.

0:59:31.280 --> 0:59:33.480
<v Speaker 3>I thought you were thinking about it. I didn't know. Yes,

0:59:33.560 --> 0:59:34.760
<v Speaker 3>I was like, you know, I want to get there.

0:59:34.880 --> 0:59:36.560
<v Speaker 2>Yes, I'm gonna get a penalts because I'm like, you know,

0:59:36.640 --> 0:59:38.320
<v Speaker 2>I just love it.

0:59:38.360 --> 0:59:40.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm excited because I just feel like, you know, I

0:59:40.120 --> 0:59:42.640
<v Speaker 1>already use my treadmill fairly regularly, but I'm like, I

0:59:42.680 --> 0:59:45.120
<v Speaker 1>think it would just be fun to have like a

0:59:45.200 --> 0:59:46.880
<v Speaker 1>bike that will you know, where I can connect with

0:59:46.880 --> 0:59:47.320
<v Speaker 1>other people.

0:59:47.360 --> 0:59:49.320
<v Speaker 2>I've heard like the peloton groups are amazing.

0:59:49.880 --> 0:59:51.680
<v Speaker 3>Yes BGM Black Girl Magic.

0:59:51.960 --> 0:59:55.200
<v Speaker 1>Yes, I've heard that one. My friend Logan, my coworker.

0:59:55.200 --> 0:59:57.720
<v Speaker 3>The funniest group of black women in the entire country

0:59:58.000 --> 1:00:00.880
<v Speaker 3>in the Facebook group. I cannot these all these women

1:00:01.080 --> 1:00:01.600
<v Speaker 3>I love.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm excited about that. I know this was a

1:00:04.320 --> 1:00:06.040
<v Speaker 1>long question of segment.

1:00:08.200 --> 1:00:08.720
<v Speaker 2>That's good though.

1:00:08.760 --> 1:00:12.240
<v Speaker 1>I feel like that's a good like a question segment

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<v Speaker 1>and we can.

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<v Speaker 3>Right Jane, are you okay? That's your name? Did you

1:00:15.720 --> 1:00:16.720
<v Speaker 3>get everything you came for?

1:00:16.880 --> 1:00:20.880
<v Speaker 2>Jane James? Like that and a whole lot more and.

1:00:20.920 --> 1:00:25.000
<v Speaker 3>A whole now. I love it. Well, thank y'all again

1:00:25.080 --> 1:00:26.960
<v Speaker 3>for the question. That's that's it for our question segment.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's take a quick, quick, quick, little break and then

1:00:29.040 --> 1:00:30.720
<v Speaker 3>we'll come back and do a booster break.

1:00:31.440 --> 1:00:37.200
<v Speaker 2>And we're back with a boost or a break. Are

1:00:37.240 --> 1:00:39.680
<v Speaker 2>you going to boost? Managar, are you going to break?

1:00:40.000 --> 1:00:41.760
<v Speaker 3>I'm going to boost because I feel like we need

1:00:41.800 --> 1:00:46.120
<v Speaker 3>some yes, because well listen, I you know I could break.

1:00:46.120 --> 1:00:48.640
<v Speaker 3>There's plenty to break about, but boosting. I just said it, like,

1:00:49.160 --> 1:00:52.040
<v Speaker 3>I really feel like my home has become this sanctuary.

1:00:52.160 --> 1:00:57.840
<v Speaker 3>And I have made the basement a dark, dismal basement

1:00:57.880 --> 1:01:01.760
<v Speaker 3>with like storage and stuff. And I saw our household

1:01:01.800 --> 1:01:05.280
<v Speaker 3>going towards like the stuff accumulation track, and I'm like,

1:01:05.360 --> 1:01:07.720
<v Speaker 3>noop nipping that in the bud. So we did a

1:01:07.720 --> 1:01:11.600
<v Speaker 3>big basement cleanup and it is officially zen Den and

1:01:11.680 --> 1:01:14.640
<v Speaker 3>I am freaking stoked. And I'm so I'm like kind

1:01:14.680 --> 1:01:16.480
<v Speaker 3>of annoyed at myself that it took me a year

1:01:16.600 --> 1:01:18.800
<v Speaker 3>to claim the space for myself. But now that it's

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<v Speaker 3>now that I've done it, I'm like, why did I

1:01:20.600 --> 1:01:23.120
<v Speaker 3>do this sooner? I come down here during the day

1:01:23.160 --> 1:01:26.000
<v Speaker 3>to just sit in my nice cushy armchair and just

1:01:26.040 --> 1:01:29.000
<v Speaker 3>listen to music or turn on my strobe light and

1:01:29.080 --> 1:01:31.880
<v Speaker 3>just dance it out because I can. Because there's cause

1:01:31.920 --> 1:01:35.720
<v Speaker 3>you can, And like being in your thirties is the best,

1:01:35.840 --> 1:01:38.480
<v Speaker 3>like being professional, and just like I can do my

1:01:38.600 --> 1:01:40.720
<v Speaker 3>job and then I can play and have a good

1:01:40.720 --> 1:01:43.120
<v Speaker 3>time and I can do both things. And just I'm

1:01:43.160 --> 1:01:45.640
<v Speaker 3>trying to access little small moments of joy like that,

1:01:45.800 --> 1:01:48.400
<v Speaker 3>like let me just have some space for myself, spend

1:01:48.400 --> 1:01:50.640
<v Speaker 3>the money that I work so hard to spend on

1:01:50.720 --> 1:01:54.840
<v Speaker 3>something that feeds my soul and not stuff. But can

1:01:55.120 --> 1:01:57.040
<v Speaker 3>How could clearing out this basement and getting rid of

1:01:57.120 --> 1:01:59.760
<v Speaker 3>stuff and just giving me more space to breathe it

1:01:59.880 --> 1:02:03.200
<v Speaker 3>just has. It has made me immensely more happy this

1:02:03.280 --> 1:02:06.120
<v Speaker 3>past week, just having a door I can close and

1:02:06.200 --> 1:02:08.360
<v Speaker 3>come down here and get some work done. We painted

1:02:08.400 --> 1:02:11.360
<v Speaker 3>the walls and it wasn't that expensive. You know, maybe

1:02:11.520 --> 1:02:15.880
<v Speaker 3>I've spent one thousand dollars tops just for like furniture

1:02:16.120 --> 1:02:19.600
<v Speaker 3>and paint. And you know, we got a cool curtain

1:02:19.680 --> 1:02:21.600
<v Speaker 3>that just kind of covers up the two shelves I

1:02:21.600 --> 1:02:24.920
<v Speaker 3>allowed my husband to keep for storage. And you know,

1:02:25.000 --> 1:02:26.960
<v Speaker 3>we put a little bit of like flooring down, I

1:02:27.000 --> 1:02:30.080
<v Speaker 3>mean a rug. It wasn't crazy amounts of money. And

1:02:30.120 --> 1:02:33.360
<v Speaker 3>the time that my husband put into like installing outlets

1:02:33.400 --> 1:02:35.120
<v Speaker 3>for me so I can plug in my desk and

1:02:35.560 --> 1:02:37.600
<v Speaker 3>you know, I love him for that. But I'm very,

1:02:37.720 --> 1:02:39.400
<v Speaker 3>very happy with the Zenden and I'm gonna have to

1:02:39.480 --> 1:02:42.280
<v Speaker 3>do I'm gonna post on installater like the before night.

1:02:42.200 --> 1:02:43.680
<v Speaker 2>I was gonna say, I want to see.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, she's a work in progress, but she's mine and

1:02:47.720 --> 1:02:50.200
<v Speaker 3>I can't wait. I can't wait. I'm gonna do bookshelves

1:02:50.200 --> 1:02:51.680
<v Speaker 3>and like a little I want to I kind of

1:02:51.680 --> 1:02:53.160
<v Speaker 3>want to do like a little love seat. Maybe I

1:02:53.160 --> 1:02:54.960
<v Speaker 3>can just like take a nap, you know once in

1:02:54.960 --> 1:02:59.040
<v Speaker 3>a while. Yeah, I love it. I'm so so happy.

1:02:59.080 --> 1:03:01.640
<v Speaker 3>And you know, honestly, if I hadn't been banging around

1:03:01.680 --> 1:03:03.440
<v Speaker 3>my house the past year, just like banging my head

1:03:03.480 --> 1:03:06.080
<v Speaker 3>off the walls looking for you know, complaining about how

1:03:06.120 --> 1:03:08.000
<v Speaker 3>no one gives me any privacy and how I'm always

1:03:08.000 --> 1:03:10.640
<v Speaker 3>accessible to the baby and to my husband. Listen, no

1:03:10.640 --> 1:03:12.040
<v Speaker 3>one was going to fix that problem. I had to

1:03:12.080 --> 1:03:15.400
<v Speaker 3>just do it myself. So I am very happy.

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<v Speaker 1>Now good I am. I'm gonna do like a little

1:03:19.320 --> 1:03:21.360
<v Speaker 1>boosts and a bigger boost. So a little boost. I

1:03:21.440 --> 1:03:24.120
<v Speaker 1>bought a Ninja, one of those blenders.

1:03:24.160 --> 1:03:24.480
<v Speaker 2>Girls.

1:03:24.480 --> 1:03:25.480
<v Speaker 1>I was like, you know what, I need to eat

1:03:25.520 --> 1:03:28.920
<v Speaker 1>more vegetables, but sometimes I just don't feel like eating vegetables,

1:03:29.880 --> 1:03:30.160
<v Speaker 1>so I.

1:03:30.200 --> 1:03:32.960
<v Speaker 3>Just want to like suck them down. Yes, And I

1:03:33.000 --> 1:03:35.280
<v Speaker 3>was like so all that chewing.

1:03:35.480 --> 1:03:38.520
<v Speaker 2>Yes, So like Ninja has like this.

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<v Speaker 1>It's literally like it's like the the width of like

1:03:42.160 --> 1:03:43.400
<v Speaker 1>I guess, the palm of your hand.

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<v Speaker 2>It's really short.

1:03:44.280 --> 1:03:46.560
<v Speaker 1>It's literally just for blending like smoothies, but you can

1:03:46.560 --> 1:03:48.320
<v Speaker 1>make it like also I think like butter and like

1:03:48.960 --> 1:03:51.400
<v Speaker 1>I mean and like ice cream or whatever. Because it's

1:03:51.560 --> 1:03:53.480
<v Speaker 1>just this small little base and then you put the

1:03:53.520 --> 1:03:56.640
<v Speaker 1>cup on top. And because I don't like to clean

1:03:56.680 --> 1:03:58.760
<v Speaker 1>the big old blender because I was doing that before

1:03:58.880 --> 1:04:00.720
<v Speaker 1>and I just stopped making sweat of these as a result.

1:04:00.800 --> 1:04:03.360
<v Speaker 1>But this is literally just put the cup on top,

1:04:03.400 --> 1:04:05.920
<v Speaker 1>blend your stuff and it has been everything the whole house.

1:04:06.080 --> 1:04:08.680
<v Speaker 1>Supergirl has been so into it because we're trying to

1:04:08.680 --> 1:04:11.040
<v Speaker 1>get her to eat more vegetables, and so we told her, like,

1:04:11.080 --> 1:04:12.400
<v Speaker 1>at the very least, if you're not gonna eat them,

1:04:12.440 --> 1:04:14.880
<v Speaker 1>you have to drink them. So she makes a smoothie

1:04:14.880 --> 1:04:16.800
<v Speaker 1>for herself every day, and it's been loving it. I

1:04:16.840 --> 1:04:18.600
<v Speaker 1>have to say I love when I say I love it.

1:04:18.680 --> 1:04:20.760
<v Speaker 2>I love it. Amazon brought that to my house, so

1:04:20.800 --> 1:04:21.440
<v Speaker 2>that was joy.

1:04:22.200 --> 1:04:25.160
<v Speaker 1>Then we didn't really talk about but we could just say, hey,

1:04:25.680 --> 1:04:29.720
<v Speaker 1>Whitney right, youngest self made billionaire with bumble Bumble went

1:04:30.120 --> 1:04:32.520
<v Speaker 1>the ipode right.

1:04:32.400 --> 1:04:32.960
<v Speaker 2>Oh did you?

1:04:33.120 --> 1:04:34.160
<v Speaker 3>Was like Whitney who Houston?

1:04:34.280 --> 1:04:35.600
<v Speaker 2>No you did you buy any?

1:04:36.560 --> 1:04:39.720
<v Speaker 3>And I did not buy any bumble stock. I read

1:04:39.760 --> 1:04:41.680
<v Speaker 3>about it. Should I buy some bumble stock?

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<v Speaker 1>No?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean that's why I'm a terrible stock trader. I

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<v Speaker 3>just I read about it and I forget, like I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know, I need to set alerts for myself. No,

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<v Speaker 3>I did not buy any bumble.

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<v Speaker 1>But what I really love is that this is like

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<v Speaker 1>the comebacks story of all comeback story. So if you

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<v Speaker 1>don't know about bumble, so Bumble is like this social

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<v Speaker 1>dating app where women get to make the first move.

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<v Speaker 1>But I love about Bumble. It's like there's like you

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<v Speaker 1>can make like business connections. You could do Bumble best friend.

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<v Speaker 1>We could just look for friendship. But what happened was

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<v Speaker 1>that she was early I think she was one of

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<v Speaker 1>the co founders of Tender or an early executive of Tender.

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<v Speaker 1>I think she was like dating one of the.

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<v Speaker 3>Gods Tender, right, yeah, and they basic, yeah, she had

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<v Speaker 3>like it was a bad falling out, yeah, bad scandal.

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<v Speaker 1>And then they but they really kind of like shamed her,

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<v Speaker 1>like sexually shamed her, like in the in the in

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<v Speaker 1>the Silicon Valley streets. It was really ugly. Then she

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<v Speaker 1>went off to make Bumble. And now, I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know that there's any not that obviously she's not

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<v Speaker 1>doing this for payback because who cares about them? But

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<v Speaker 1>I just love the fact that, like like the Phoenix,

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<v Speaker 1>she writes from the ashes and created this amazing company

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<v Speaker 1>where it's safe for women, And so I just, yeah, Bumble,

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<v Speaker 1>she's a badass, and I love that she's like she's

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<v Speaker 1>a new mom.

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<v Speaker 2>She's thirty one years old.

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<v Speaker 1>Not to say if you're forty or fifty or sixty,

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<v Speaker 1>that's too late fifty to do anything amazing. But I

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<v Speaker 1>just love the fact that this is someone who was

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<v Speaker 1>counted out after she was pushed out of something that

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<v Speaker 1>she helped to make great, and they thought that they

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<v Speaker 1>had taken her greatness, but she took it with her

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<v Speaker 1>and Bumble is proof positive of that.

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<v Speaker 2>So Whitney Wolf, we salute to girl. So that's just awesome.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh fabulous. Well, I love I love hearing that context too,

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<v Speaker 3>of her her greater story all much. I got bumble?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, yeah, bumble. What's the new? Is that the

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<v Speaker 3>new dating? That's like a one that's the one where

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<v Speaker 3>women get to invite the man first, right, Okay, I

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<v Speaker 3>love bumble because my one of my good girlfriends, she

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<v Speaker 3>like used bumble to meet friends in the city, which

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<v Speaker 3>I thought was just a stroke of brilliance because yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>we're not all trying to hook up, and women love meeting.

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<v Speaker 3>Women like to make friends in connections. So I love it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>is your did your sister post about it? And your

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<v Speaker 3>secret and your secret stock?

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<v Speaker 1>Surprisingly, what's she's like. She's a lot more conservative than

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<v Speaker 1>people think she. She probably would say, let's wait and see,

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<v Speaker 1>she's not really huge on ip.

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<v Speaker 2>Well that's not true.

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<v Speaker 1>She's more into, like I don't know, I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>physical technology because she's an engineer.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, I'm gonna ask.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, Caroen, what you think about bombu because she

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<v Speaker 1>didn't mention it surprisingly.

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<v Speaker 3>Enough that to me is like, I mean, I like

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<v Speaker 3>to if I know something really deeply, I'll buy shares

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<v Speaker 3>or you know, something like that. But my little brother,

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<v Speaker 3>he cracked me up just a quick side. He'd texted me.

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<v Speaker 3>He's like, dang, Mandy, I invested in this weed company

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<v Speaker 3>that my friends were talking about. And I guess weed

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<v Speaker 3>stocks had a huge week last week because I don't

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<v Speaker 3>even remember why, some legislation or something like that. And

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<v Speaker 3>he made two thousand dollars I think in overnight. And

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<v Speaker 3>he's like, man, I made two thousand dollars. And I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, I need you to quickly. I was working

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<v Speaker 3>and I was busy, and I'm like, just google unrealized

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<v Speaker 3>gains right, and just just like just because because he's like,

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<v Speaker 3>I learned what a stock was today and I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>oh my.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it. Can you tell the people what unrealized

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<v Speaker 2>gains so that way they know, well.

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<v Speaker 3>When people say, oh, I made X amount of money

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<v Speaker 3>on a stock. That basically means, you know, I bought

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<v Speaker 3>it for one dollar and then at the end of

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<v Speaker 3>the day the stock was valued by Wall Street for

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<v Speaker 3>ten dollars and so I made you know, ten x

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<v Speaker 3>my one dollar. Cool, But did you make it like

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<v Speaker 3>it's in your bank? No, it's unrealized, which means until

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<v Speaker 3>you cash out sell the stock and then you know,

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<v Speaker 3>take that money and bank it, you haven't really realized it.

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<v Speaker 3>And then there's all we talked about it, you know

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<v Speaker 3>in a couple episodes ago when we're talking about game Stop.

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<v Speaker 3>But there is a there's a tax element, and not

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<v Speaker 3>to say that, of course, making money you're gonna pay

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<v Speaker 3>money because taxes, but doesn't mean that you shouldn't make

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<v Speaker 3>that money. It's amazing. You know, my brother made two

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<v Speaker 3>K and even if Uncle Sam takes forty percent, cool,

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<v Speaker 3>He's still made you know, a nice chunk of change

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<v Speaker 3>just by investing. But I just feel like all the yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>you just you should realize, you know, when you are trading,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, you don't really make that You don't really

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<v Speaker 3>make that money until you you know, cash it out,

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<v Speaker 3>and then even then it's about a long term you know,

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<v Speaker 3>it's a long term view for me. So yeah, maybe

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<v Speaker 3>Alex made two K on his weed stock on Tuesday

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<v Speaker 3>last week, but where is he going to be in

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<v Speaker 3>fifteen years? I don't know, you know, so it kind

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<v Speaker 3>of yeah, so you're investing, just just think about that.

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<v Speaker 3>And he and he's joking about not knowing about stocks.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, he may not know about like trading individual stocks,

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<v Speaker 3>but that man has had a four to one k

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<v Speaker 3>for a long time. Like he at least just got in,

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<v Speaker 3>opened his four one k, put his little ten percent

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<v Speaker 3>in and you know he's been cruising. So playing with

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<v Speaker 3>money in the stock market on top of that's gravy,

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<v Speaker 3>Like that's icing on the cake.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, And that's so. I just heard back from Carol.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll say, what do you think about Bumble?

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<v Speaker 2>She's liked I like them.

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<v Speaker 1>She did an episode on that podcast How I Built It.

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<v Speaker 1>She said all dating apps are going to continue to

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<v Speaker 1>do well now that everyone is stuck at home.

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<v Speaker 2>Look at her with her insight.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm not saying buy Bumble, but what I am

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<v Speaker 1>saying that it might actually if you are into investing.

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<v Speaker 1>That So that's the kind of insight you're looking for, Like, huh,

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<v Speaker 1>Now that we're home, more people are likely going to

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<v Speaker 1>be connecting online. Are there other stocks I might look

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<v Speaker 1>into of companies you know that would care two folks

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<v Speaker 1>who are looking for connection. That's how you really start

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<v Speaker 1>to choose stocks that you're looking for some sort of trend,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you will look at the companies financials to

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<v Speaker 1>back up that trend.

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<v Speaker 3>I love an ETF, and I think what I love

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<v Speaker 3>most about ETFs right now exchange traded funds is that

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<v Speaker 3>if there's a certain company that I'm a fan of,

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<v Speaker 3>there's probably an ETF that contains shares of that fun

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<v Speaker 3>I mean. And ETF is basically a fund that holds,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, different stocks from different companies, not a ton,

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<v Speaker 3>but you know the like the top the top holders,

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<v Speaker 3>and you know, the top the biggest part of an

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<v Speaker 3>ETF might be like ten companies. And like, I invested

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<v Speaker 3>in an ETF called the Arc Innovation ETF. This is

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<v Speaker 3>me personally just because I, you know, tech, big tech

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<v Speaker 3>companies like Zoom and Slack and Tesla and other companies

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<v Speaker 3>did like amazing to say the least this year, and

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<v Speaker 3>for me, instead of having to choose one stock, and

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<v Speaker 3>ETF made sense because you can trade them like stocks,

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<v Speaker 3>but you're actually buying pieces of several companies and it's

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<v Speaker 3>less work. So I am my baby cousin who I've

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<v Speaker 3>been kind of coaching lately. She's she loves cosmetics, and

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, yeah, I know, there's like a cosmetic

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<v Speaker 3>ETF out there, Like she's spending all her money at

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<v Speaker 3>Alta and whatever. And I'm like, where's it, where's it?

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<v Speaker 3>Where's an ETF? And like, what is the name of

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<v Speaker 3>the the parent company of all these brands And it's

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<v Speaker 3>like somehow it's Louis Bouton. I don't know, it's LM

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<v Speaker 3>v H. And I'm just looking through and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>this is a great you know, if you love a

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<v Speaker 3>certain like if you're into electronics, or you're into beauty

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<v Speaker 3>or you're into I don't know, energy, there's there's an

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<v Speaker 3>ETF for everybody. And I think that that's that's my

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<v Speaker 3>that's my you know, investing.

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<v Speaker 1>No, No, I agree, because I'm not a like individual. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I've done well just because I just did what Carol

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<v Speaker 1>told me. But I'm taking my money and I'm running.

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<v Speaker 1>But no, I am a ETF uh uh, you know

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<v Speaker 1>index fund fan myself because I'm I don't have time

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<v Speaker 1>to do the research. I much rather get a basket

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<v Speaker 1>of like of investments and then just kind of ride

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<v Speaker 1>that weave.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, exactly. And I think people criticize, you know, the

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<v Speaker 3>big indexes like SNP five hundred index funds, because well

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<v Speaker 3>they can criticize it because you're only ever going to

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<v Speaker 3>do as good as like the general market does, and

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<v Speaker 3>you won't get the big gains if like one sector

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<v Speaker 3>in that market particularly performs well. So if you invest

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<v Speaker 3>in a ETF that tracks a certain sector, like a

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<v Speaker 3>certain industry, then you're you're more likely to to ride

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<v Speaker 3>their high waves on top, you know, and outperform the

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<v Speaker 3>S and P. So that's just that's that's on that.

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<v Speaker 3>But I still, I still my my biggest holding is

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<v Speaker 3>that S and P index fund through Vanguard, and then

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<v Speaker 3>I have my additional brokerage account and that's where I

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<v Speaker 3>kind of pick and I pick little ETFs or I'll

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<v Speaker 3>you know, buy a stock there by a stock there,

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm not anybody got time for it not here. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 3>Today was a good one. Shall we call it a show?

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<v Speaker 3>We laughed, we cried, key, no.

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<v Speaker 1>We felt joy, sadness, everything in between. Anchor oh, we

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<v Speaker 1>had all the emotions.

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<v Speaker 3>So when you get your peloton, you're gonna have the

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<v Speaker 3>strobe light just like me. And then when they play

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<v Speaker 3>the music and the light is like the section.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't even realize.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, oh my gosh, wow, and that's the best.

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<v Speaker 2>But now I'm like, wait, that is going to be

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<v Speaker 2>such a vibe. Okay, that's fine.

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<v Speaker 3>Have your own little party down there. You got it,

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<v Speaker 3>and then you can we'll we'll have to work on

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<v Speaker 3>our leader board names. Well, of course she'll be the budgetesta.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm brown ambition on Pello. If you guys want to follow, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm excited. How long is it going to take for

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<v Speaker 3>your bike to get there?

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<v Speaker 1>Though, that's if you know forever I ordered it, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to say a few weeks ago and they basically

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<v Speaker 1>told me there was like a ninety day.

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<v Speaker 2>It was something too ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, I mean, but that's okay though, because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like committed to you know, I want to. I think,

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<v Speaker 1>if anything, pandemic has taught me that you have to

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<v Speaker 1>have things at home because you just don't know, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually like going outside and going for walks and

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<v Speaker 1>things like that. But if I'm not able to. I

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<v Speaker 1>like having something at home as well. And I love

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<v Speaker 1>the fact that Supergirl I hear her like on the

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<v Speaker 1>phone walking on the treadmill. So because she doesn't, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>she's fourteen, so there's no gym for her, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and so like, you know, like at school, like she

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<v Speaker 1>would normally get exercise because she would be walking to

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<v Speaker 1>class and walking up the steps and going to gym class.

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<v Speaker 1>And the fact that she's not getting that, we're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>we want her to stretch her legs. So she goes

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<v Speaker 1>on a treadmill, just off her own free will, just

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<v Speaker 1>to kind of like walk and like watch whatever show

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<v Speaker 1>she's totally into right now. And so there's it's just

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<v Speaker 1>nice to have exercise in the house if you're able.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, And there's a YouTube video for everything.

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<v Speaker 1>If you don't have machines, yes, if you have steps,

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<v Speaker 1>just walk up and down to math or your booty

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<v Speaker 1>will be lifted.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, sane, All right, darling, We'll go get some I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know, relax, I hope you can relax or are

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<v Speaker 3>you doing a nine pm Instagram?

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<v Speaker 4>Cool?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not. I'm about to make myself a smoothie.

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<v Speaker 3>My new ninja make a smoothie, hug your boo. All right,

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<v Speaker 3>thanks for opening up. I really I love you a

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<v Speaker 3>lot and thinking about you always, and I know everyone

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<v Speaker 3>who listens is to

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<v Speaker 1>All right, thank you, all right, Bye Tiv, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>bye bye