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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beca, Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcasts.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, We're scrubbing in and Tanya and.

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Speaker 3: I are together, back together.

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Speaker 2: Easton and Mark are on zoom, but they're here in

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Speaker 2: our hearts, but Tanya and I are face to face,

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Speaker 2: directly across from the table. She's basically running a studio

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Speaker 2: in her apartment.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna add engineer to my resume because I really

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Speaker 4: feel like I really came through on this. I'm not

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Speaker 4: gonna lie.

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Speaker 2: Do you remember the whole tearful breakdown of her technology

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Speaker 2: just short? When was that like a month ago? With

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Speaker 2: the live podcast, and here we are, A lot has changed,

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Speaker 2: A lot has changed, Yeah, feels good, a lot of growing.

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Speaker 2: Had a renewed sense of energy waking up knowing that

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Speaker 2: we were doing this together. To be honest, and I've

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Speaker 2: seen some comments in the Facebook group about the podcast,

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Speaker 2: like it hasn't been like the same or the energy

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Speaker 2: is low, which things have been hard, So like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm sure energy has been low and our spirits have

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Speaker 2: been low, but I just I honestly, if I'm just

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Speaker 2: being totally transparent, I did not want to do the

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Speaker 2: podcast the past few weeks, and it was like a struggle.

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Speaker 2: I didn't wake up. I can't remember the last time.

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Speaker 2: I can't remember a time since doing the podcast that

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Speaker 2: I wasn't like excited to record the podcast.

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Speaker 4: Same, No, like literally same, And.

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Speaker 3: It was kind of dark to not want.

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Speaker 4: It was so dark. I was like going through things

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Speaker 4: in my head, like what is this? And I think

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Speaker 4: it's hard, just because I think everybody's going through it

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Speaker 4: right now, you know, in just different ways. I know,

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Speaker 4: like we're both individually going through things like personally and

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Speaker 4: just the world is going through so much, and so

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Speaker 4: just really did it felt dark? And I remember you

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Speaker 4: would like and me the screenshots of everybody saying that

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Speaker 4: it felt off, and I was like, it totally makes

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Speaker 4: sense that that translates. And I guess it's a testament

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Speaker 4: to like how authentic we are, because like you can't

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Speaker 4: hide No, I couldn't couldn't hide it. But it's like

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Speaker 4: all that stuff. I kind of was like thinking. I

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Speaker 4: like it literally looks like a board, and we've now

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Speaker 4: kind of been quarantine. We're quarantine, like we've you know,

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Speaker 4: we're exposed to each other. We're both being super careful,

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Speaker 4: but we've been exposed to each other. So I was like,

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Speaker 4: why doesn't Becca come do the podcast from my apartment? Yeah,

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Speaker 4: East into the Rescue, and here we are one week later.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, it just I woke up excited to do

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Speaker 2: the podcast, which felt so good because I haven't felt

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Speaker 2: that excitement and it felt good, like Mark posting that

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Speaker 3: Totally doing it for the scrubbers, like it just was like.

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Speaker 4: Let's go, let's go, baby were back. I me too.

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Speaker 4: When I saw Mark's post, I was like, oh.

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Speaker 2: So basically this podcast is like a revamped version of ourselves,

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Speaker 2: Like I think like going just like Quarantine and then

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Speaker 2: the Black Lives Matter movement and wanting to keep that

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Speaker 2: talking about things that are important, but being kind of

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Speaker 2: an escape for all of you because I know we're

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Speaker 2: And I've been down and I just am like ready

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Speaker 2: to I'm just it feels good to be back.

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Speaker 4: No, I feel this totally same way. And I feel

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Speaker 4: like everybody keeps saying like twenty twenty is canceled, like

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Mark Easton, how's it going over?

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Speaker 1: We're fine. We're enjoying the booth, the rebirth, the vibrance

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Speaker 1: the tennis match.

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Speaker 4: We've had a couple of dates over the past two weeks.

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Speaker 2: Well, so okay, this so Tommy and I both kind

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Speaker 3: There was just like a just we were a tiff.

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Speaker 3: We were kind of a tiff, but I.

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Speaker 4: Wouldn't even call it a tiff. It was more like

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Speaker 3: Yeah, a standoff.

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Speaker 2: So I think we both got there was like stuff

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Speaker 3: But we were. The communication was totally off and so

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Speaker 2: We didn't really talk and then we had to do

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Speaker 4: Totally? It's just like, so, what's the thing that I

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Speaker 3: Like it's like they didn't know what right right something

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Speaker 2: reached out and was like, do you want to have dinner?

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Speaker 2: So we I came over had dinner. I think I

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Speaker 2: You really are like a vital part of my life.

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Speaker 2: And I was so sad about where are we like

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Speaker 4: And just no, but like I felt that. You know,

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Speaker 4: then I was like, everything that you're going through is

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Speaker 4: Like I was just like I need to just suck

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Speaker 3: And so I was like, I'm gonna like make.

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Speaker 2: She made me a flower arrange, but she made me

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Speaker 2: me so glazed salmon, a healthy salad.

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Speaker 3: I was like wow and wine. It was just good.

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Speaker 4: It was like called anti inflammatory.

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Speaker 1: I felt, So, did you drive through Jack in the

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Speaker 3: No? I wow, I do love jagging the box.

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Speaker 2: Now. I I've been like decently healthy, but this weekend

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Speaker 4: And it's kind of nuts because I, because of all

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Speaker 4: Well. It was like it was like a soft serve pie.

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Speaker 4: Been doing that to me my whole life, and I

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Speaker 2: Like you know, well, I've like pretty much cut out

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Speaker 2: get in and out or something, I'll have a doctor

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Speaker 2: pepper with it. But like in general, I pretty much

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Speaker 2: Last night, I was trying to say something about spinach

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Speaker 2: and I kept saying Spanish.

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Speaker 4: I I know it's no, it's brain fog. It causes

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Speaker 4: brain fog.

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Speaker 2: Seriously, and then Tania sends me this like diagram of

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Speaker 3: So then I was like really in my.

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Speaker 2: Head that I've like done permanent damage to myself. So

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Speaker 2: luckily I feel better today, but yeah, I went to

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Speaker 2: to Spanish when it come back came out.

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Speaker 4: Anyways, welcome to the Healthy Diet Club. It's a fun

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Speaker 4: place to be. Really, you'll thrive there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I don't think I'll thrive there, but I need to

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Speaker 2: have some more. I was doing pretty well and then

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Speaker 2: for some reason, I like was able to like rationalize

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Speaker 2: Cut half of it off. I'm fine keeping half of

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00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:07,240
Speaker 2: that way of thinking.

441
00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:09,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'd like to have your half on the other

442
00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:11,840
Speaker 4: fifty percent, But it's just like you also have to

443
00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:13,879
Speaker 4: think about it as like, this is your life, you

444
00:21:13,960 --> 00:21:15,960
Speaker 4: know what I mean, it's your life, so it's like,

445
00:21:15,960 --> 00:21:17,160
Speaker 4: what do you want to do with it?

446
00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:20,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I'd rather just, you know, be more on

447
00:21:20,920 --> 00:21:23,879
Speaker 2: the cautious side rather than laying in bed having anxiety

448
00:21:23,960 --> 00:21:24,480
Speaker 2: being like.

449
00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:28,680
Speaker 3: Why did I talk about that totally? So maybe maybe

450
00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:30,720
Speaker 3: I'll maybe I'll bring that up to my therapist.

451
00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:33,560
Speaker 4: Ask your therapist what she thinks.

452
00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:36,040
Speaker 2: That's been nice being able to be like having these

453
00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:41,639
Speaker 2: revelations with these moments of awareness and being likest about that.

454
00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:45,159
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's nice. That's actually really nice. I need one

455
00:21:45,200 --> 00:21:49,480
Speaker 4: of those. Oh, by the way, though, I do have

456
00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:52,600
Speaker 4: a really funny story about Red Star when we were

457
00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:54,719
Speaker 4: in Palm Springs. I didn't tell you about it because

458
00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:56,760
Speaker 4: I wanted to save it because so do you think it?

459
00:21:56,840 --> 00:21:58,800
Speaker 4: Becha would find it funny? Mark? You heard it?

460
00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,480
Speaker 1: Yes, I mean I think I think everyone will enjoy

461
00:22:01,480 --> 00:22:04,800
Speaker 1: that story. Okay, why don't we take a break and

462
00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:07,719
Speaker 1: come back with that story. We have questions from Scrubbers,

463
00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:09,359
Speaker 1: and I do have a game if we have time,

464
00:22:09,760 --> 00:22:10,600
Speaker 1: we love a game.

465
00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:12,000
Speaker 4: Bye bye for now.

466
00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:28,560
Speaker 3: Okay.

467
00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:32,639
Speaker 4: So I went to Palm Springs with Red Star because

468
00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:34,960
Speaker 4: I was on vacation from work last week. So I

469
00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:36,800
Speaker 4: took a few days, went to Palm Springs and actually,

470
00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:41,400
Speaker 4: like felt very safe at a hotel, like safer than

471
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:44,000
Speaker 4: some places I've gone, like some restaurants that I've gone to,

472
00:22:44,560 --> 00:22:47,639
Speaker 4: which is actually pretty cool. So we go to this

473
00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:51,480
Speaker 4: hotel and I don't know, like you know, I could

474
00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:55,680
Speaker 4: sleep completely naked like fully songs like you with Red Star?

475
00:22:55,880 --> 00:22:59,960
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah yeah, oh okay, even with him and uh

476
00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:06,920
Speaker 4: and I have no he wears he wears uh yeah,

477
00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:08,399
Speaker 4: he wears like underwearing a T shirt.

478
00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:12,640
Speaker 2: Yeah clothes, Yeah, we underwearing a T shirt too.

479
00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:14,439
Speaker 3: You guys are very.

480
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 4: Similar in more ways than one and so I, you know,

481
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,399
Speaker 4: that's just like been my thing for years. And so

482
00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:26,880
Speaker 4: we're uh sleeping in Palm Springs in this hotel. I

483
00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:28,400
Speaker 4: get up in the middle of the night. I start

484
00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:33,240
Speaker 4: feeling like super queasy, and I like run to the

485
00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:35,399
Speaker 4: bathroom and I'm like, oh my god, like I just

486
00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:39,479
Speaker 4: yack like yack, like there's no tomorrow. And I was like,

487
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:41,520
Speaker 4: did I drink to like my first I was like

488
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:43,879
Speaker 4: there's no way, like had like two glasses of wine

489
00:23:43,920 --> 00:23:45,320
Speaker 4: and like you know what I mean, Like there's no

490
00:23:45,359 --> 00:23:47,960
Speaker 4: way it was alcohol. But I was just like, oh

491
00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:49,960
Speaker 4: my gosh, so like and I was feeling like really

492
00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:52,480
Speaker 4: really weak, and I mind you, I'm completely butt naked,

493
00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:56,439
Speaker 4: like over the toilet. Just it's like not cute, not

494
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:59,600
Speaker 4: like the opposite of cute, right, And I have like

495
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:01,879
Speaker 4: like in my hair and like it was just gross.

496
00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 4: And so I was like I'll just like wash up

497
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 4: and like get back into bed and like it's fine.

498
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:08,679
Speaker 4: All of a sudden, I start yacking again, like so

499
00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:10,560
Speaker 4: so bad, and I was like starting to get like weak,

500
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:12,439
Speaker 4: and then I was like calling for him because I

501
00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:14,320
Speaker 4: was like this is like something's like not right.

502
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 3: I didn't even have the energy to like move.

503
00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:19,960
Speaker 4: So I literally like lay down on the bathroom floor

504
00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:25,120
Speaker 4: completely butt naked, okay, with vomit in my hair and

505
00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:29,040
Speaker 4: like things probably like just so gross, and I just

506
00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:31,440
Speaker 4: like couldn't move. I was so so weak, and I'm

507
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,840
Speaker 4: like calling his name and like he's not responding, and

508
00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:36,480
Speaker 4: I would just start crying because I was.

509
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:40,040
Speaker 3: Like I didn't know what was wrong with me.

510
00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:41,919
Speaker 4: So then I guess I just passed out, like I

511
00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:45,080
Speaker 4: fell asleep on the bathroom floor, and then I guess

512
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 4: he got up in the middle of the night and

513
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:48,880
Speaker 4: was like calling after me, like where are you? While

514
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 4: he comes to the bathroom, sees me like so.

515
00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:56,760
Speaker 2: Vulnerable, so vulnerable and like naked, and like he.

516
00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:59,000
Speaker 4: Starts freaking out because he doesn't know like what's going on,

517
00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:01,679
Speaker 4: and he's just like what's happening. I was like I

518
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 4: just keep throwing up, Like I was like literally throwing

519
00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:05,480
Speaker 4: up every thirty minutes. I think we think what was

520
00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:10,159
Speaker 4: food poisoning, but so mind you now I'm like butt naked, vomit,

521
00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:15,520
Speaker 4: toilet hair, gross, probably rolls in my stomach like just

522
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:20,160
Speaker 4: in bad positions, and he's like holding my hair back

523
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:23,280
Speaker 4: and just being so sweet, and I was like emotional.

524
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:26,720
Speaker 4: And then somehow he like got closed from my suitcase

525
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:28,200
Speaker 4: and tried to put clothes on you, but like wasn't

526
00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:30,679
Speaker 4: gonna happen. And so then somehow he like got me

527
00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:34,280
Speaker 4: into bed. This is where it gets worse. He got

528
00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:36,320
Speaker 4: me back into bed. He brought the trash can like

529
00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 4: over by my you know head. He was like timing,

530
00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:41,400
Speaker 4: like he would write down every time I vomited.

531
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:42,600
Speaker 3: To like make sure still vomiting.

532
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:44,399
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like it was like every twenty minutes, and then

533
00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:46,280
Speaker 4: it was like every forty five minutes, and he was

534
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:47,440
Speaker 4: like timing it just to make sure it was like

535
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:51,280
Speaker 4: getting further and further apart. But at this point, I'm

536
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:53,639
Speaker 4: like so weak, like I don't have anything in me,

537
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:55,159
Speaker 4: and like I keep waking up in the middle of

538
00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:57,160
Speaker 4: the night and just like heaving into this trash can.

539
00:25:57,240 --> 00:25:59,199
Speaker 4: He keeps like picking it up after I puke and

540
00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:01,879
Speaker 4: like wash it out for me. And then mind you,

541
00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:08,879
Speaker 4: I'm also like farting uncontrollably, Like I can't. I couldn't

542
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:12,440
Speaker 4: do anything. No, there's like no way, Like I'm yaking

543
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 4: and farting like in bed, and I was just so

544
00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:19,719
Speaker 4: mortified and like he could not have been any sweeter

545
00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:22,200
Speaker 4: about the whole, like holding my hair back and cleaning

546
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:26,240
Speaker 4: the trash can out and just like I was so mortified.

547
00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:28,760
Speaker 4: I was like, I'm never sleeping naked again, Like I

548
00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:33,439
Speaker 4: can't ever that can't ever have I'm like he was

549
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 4: so sweet about it that like, and I know it's fine,

550
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:38,000
Speaker 4: it doesn't matter, he doesn't care. He's just happy that

551
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:41,239
Speaker 4: I'm fine. But like the image of myself on that

552
00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:47,919
Speaker 4: bathroom floor, butt naked and like yacking, I'm like a

553
00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:49,320
Speaker 4: sight to have been seen.

554
00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 3: For sure. I have.

555
00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:56,800
Speaker 2: Not had that happened to me recently, but I've had

556
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:59,159
Speaker 2: it happen to me before where it wasn't that I

557
00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:01,840
Speaker 2: started out naked, but I got so hot in the

558
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 2: midst of like nausea that I took all my clothes

559
00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 2: off and just laid down. This was induced from alcohol, though.

560
00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:10,200
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh.

561
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:14,880
Speaker 2: PA somehow come in and was like, what the heck?

562
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 2: I was like, I did not realize. I mean, I

563
00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:21,399
Speaker 2: was probably just slurring my words. I was like, I

564
00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:24,679
Speaker 2: didn't know I drank this much. I mean, like, you

565
00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 2: know how I am about showering before bed. Yeah, I

566
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 2: have been so hammered and I still get home and

567
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:35,639
Speaker 2: like shower, wash my face, do my skin routine, brush

568
00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:39,120
Speaker 2: my teeth. I don't remember anything, but I remember being

569
00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:40,600
Speaker 2: on the floor being like, don't.

570
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 4: Come right, like curled over, Like I was like curled over.

571
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:46,320
Speaker 4: I was like this is not like please don't look

572
00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:48,560
Speaker 4: at like I kept being like, don't look over here.

573
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 3: I was before you said you were fart and I

574
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:54,080
Speaker 3: was gonna be like did you far wait?

575
00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 2: Are you a loud vomitter because like mine's aggressively loud,

576
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 2: like I could never throw up without someone in the

577
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:03,359
Speaker 2: room hearing me.

578
00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 4: You know, it's interesting because I think it was it

579
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:09,960
Speaker 4: was more like a I can't even explain it because

580
00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 4: it was like my body was like do it Like

581
00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:14,120
Speaker 4: it was like my stomach was like pushing it out

582
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:15,720
Speaker 4: of me like I didn't want to, you know what

583
00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:18,399
Speaker 4: I mean. It was like the craziest feeling, like I

584
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:20,879
Speaker 4: was like this is awful, and like the next day

585
00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:23,639
Speaker 4: in my throat like hurt, like I was like ow,

586
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:26,160
Speaker 4: Like yeah, it's.

587
00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:29,960
Speaker 2: So weird because based on your Instagram story from the weekend,

588
00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:32,080
Speaker 2: you would never know the trauma.

589
00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 4: I know, but do you know even this is like

590
00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:36,080
Speaker 4: the weird weirder thing is we woke up the next day,

591
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:38,520
Speaker 4: and he was expecting me just to be like done

592
00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:40,680
Speaker 4: for like laying in bed just like sick. The next

593
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 4: day and I like bounced back, like I woke up

594
00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:44,960
Speaker 4: and I was feeling totally fine, Like I was a

595
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:48,360
Speaker 4: little bit weak and dehydrated, but once we had breakfast,

596
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 4: I was like totally fine. It's so weird, That's what

597
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:53,520
Speaker 4: I don't know. I actually don't think I've had food

598
00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:56,400
Speaker 4: poison like that, and like ever.

599
00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 3: Maybe I know's I hate.

600
00:28:59,240 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 2: I have the only memory I have thrown up like

601
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:04,280
Speaker 2: that where it was. I was actually mortified because it

602
00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 2: was my first I think I've talked about this, my

603
00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 2: first trip with Robert, and this was before we were

604
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 2: even even like actually dating. We were just kind of

605
00:29:12,280 --> 00:29:14,160
Speaker 2: hanging out and I went with him and then Zach

606
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:16,760
Speaker 2: caltr and what happened.

607
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 3: We went to Vegas for the yeah, yeah, and I

608
00:29:20,240 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 3: got overheated at the pool.

609
00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 2: I was drinking, which I didn't drink a lot, and

610
00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:25,959
Speaker 2: it was so hot in Vegas, and I remember like

611
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:29,040
Speaker 2: slithering into the pool thinking like I'm going to pass out.

612
00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:30,760
Speaker 2: At least I'll be in the water and someone can

613
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:34,920
Speaker 2: grab me. And this girl from like US Weekly or

614
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:37,520
Speaker 2: magazine or someone was trying to do an interview with me,

615
00:29:38,040 --> 00:29:40,520
Speaker 2: and I was like slurring, I couldn't speak. And then

616
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:42,120
Speaker 2: we go back to the room and they stayed in

617
00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:43,880
Speaker 2: the room while I just vomited.

618
00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:46,400
Speaker 3: I was like, could y'all leave? I don't know you all?

619
00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:50,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, that would not be good. That would not be good.

620
00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 2: I was like, guys, this is not cool. Go back

621
00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:56,120
Speaker 2: to the pool and I'll be down never.

622
00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, I do it.

623
00:29:58,120 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 1: Yeah.

624
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 4: It was actually like the night, I'm like, it was

625
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:02,800
Speaker 4: unfortunate that that happened, but it was almost like it

626
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 4: happened in the middle of the night, so it didn't

627
00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:07,680
Speaker 4: really like disrupt the trip at all, because no, I

628
00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:08,560
Speaker 4: was fine the next day.

629
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 3: It was good to see how he responds to.

630
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:16,120
Speaker 4: You know. Yeah, And what's actually really funny is he

631
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:18,280
Speaker 4: kept saying he was like, you handled that like a champ.

632
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:20,600
Speaker 4: I can't get over that, Like you just really just

633
00:30:20,600 --> 00:30:22,360
Speaker 4: just I'm like, what am I supposed to do?

634
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 3: Like you feel free to fart?

635
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:29,600
Speaker 4: I'm so mortified, Like, and my farts aren't loud, Like

636
00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:31,440
Speaker 4: it wasn't like I was loud. It was just smelly,

637
00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:33,160
Speaker 4: which is even worse.

638
00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:37,320
Speaker 2: Wait, that night they were, Oh my god, I might

639
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:40,800
Speaker 2: rather sound me too, me too.

640
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:42,920
Speaker 4: It was awful, but I didn't have I didn't have

641
00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 4: the energy to hold it in. Like it was just

642
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 4: like there was no way I was holding them in.

643
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:49,640
Speaker 2: Okay, I never fart in front of nine five feet,

644
00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:55,640
Speaker 2: but one night I took an edible, but I took okay,

645
00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:59,080
Speaker 2: so I never. I like, the maxill take is five milligrams,

646
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:03,200
Speaker 2: and at worse I'm just like giggly, you know. But

647
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:06,120
Speaker 2: I took a different one than I I have never

648
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 2: taken before, and I took probably like seven I.

649
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:09,960
Speaker 3: Guess it was like half of something.

650
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:15,520
Speaker 2: And I have never felt so just like I couldn't

651
00:31:15,560 --> 00:31:17,360
Speaker 2: even like lift my arms.

652
00:31:17,040 --> 00:31:17,720
Speaker 3: Off the couch.

653
00:31:17,880 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 2: Scary, and I got really nauseous and I had I

654
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:24,640
Speaker 2: was like, I think I'm in a fart, but I

655
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 2: can't like solve it. I don't know what's gonna happen.

656
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 2: It's just gonna happen. And it happened, and nine to

657
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 2: five P was like, are you kidding?

658
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 3: What was that?

659
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:37,320
Speaker 2: And I was just like laughing, and I was like,

660
00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:40,360
Speaker 2: don't worry about it, not like it wasn't what you

661
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:46,840
Speaker 2: think it was. But that was unfortunately I was reminded

662
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:49,720
Speaker 2: the next morning and I was like, that did not happen.

663
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 3: I knew it happened, but I was trying to deny.

664
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 4: It's just the worst. I really am just like traumatized

665
00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:56,880
Speaker 4: from that experience.

666
00:31:57,880 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 1: It sucks, but it sounds like you both went up

667
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 1: in each other's estimation, Like he was so impressed with

668
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:06,520
Speaker 1: how you handled it and you were still imprisoned without

669
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 1: he handled it. It's all like a win win.

670
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:10,560
Speaker 3: You found respect for one another.

671
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:13,320
Speaker 4: It was it really took the relationship to an next level.

672
00:32:13,600 --> 00:32:16,880
Speaker 1: That's really true, very true. So you know what's funny

673
00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:19,160
Speaker 1: is a lot of these questions that the Scrubbers sent

674
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,720
Speaker 1: you guys have already answered in this episode, like a

675
00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 1: lot of people asking for an update on Red Star,

676
00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:28,600
Speaker 1: and we covered that and the thing you mentioned about

677
00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:30,880
Speaker 1: being so honest when you know your parents are listening.

678
00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 1: Here's one from Devin de Long Tanya, what's your biggest

679
00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:37,520
Speaker 1: takeaway from calling in the one? A lot of Scrubbers

680
00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:39,400
Speaker 1: are reading the book right now, but what was the

681
00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 1: biggest aha moment for you?

682
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:45,520
Speaker 4: There was so many, but the one that I really

683
00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 4: cling to was it helped me realize dating patterns that

684
00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 4: I had that related back to my childhood, which I

685
00:32:55,440 --> 00:33:00,840
Speaker 4: found wildly interesting, and like it goes back to like

686
00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 4: my parents' divorce and like things that happened with with that,

687
00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 4: and and my mom just like being a modern woman

688
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 4: and like wanting to you know, have her own thing

689
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:13,120
Speaker 4: and so. Uh. One of the patterns, this was like,

690
00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:15,120
Speaker 4: one of the two that I realized that I did

691
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:17,400
Speaker 4: a lot, was when I was newly dating somebody right

692
00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:19,440
Speaker 4: off the bat, it was like, we go on a

693
00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 4: date on my time because I have a job, I

694
00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:23,720
Speaker 4: need to go to a sleep Like it was very

695
00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:26,000
Speaker 4: much like I want you to see me as an equal,

696
00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:28,760
Speaker 4: and I was just like hammering that into people's heads

697
00:33:28,800 --> 00:33:30,480
Speaker 4: when it was just like I didn't need to be

698
00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 4: that way, you know what I mean.

699
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:36,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, that was a big pattern.

700
00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 4: And then the other pattern was I was dating people

701
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 4: that I could not what's the word. I was dating

702
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:47,640
Speaker 4: people that were either like emotionally or geographically undesirable, so

703
00:33:47,680 --> 00:33:50,000
Speaker 4: that I was protecting myself to not get you.

704
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 1: Didn't need the book for that. We were pointing that

705
00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:56,640
Speaker 1: out for you on a regular on this show.

706
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:01,200
Speaker 4: But I'd say, and those are like that was a

707
00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 4: huge kind of because I've never really you know, thought

708
00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:07,360
Speaker 4: about things in my dating life, like I'd never really

709
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:09,880
Speaker 4: taken a look inward and then looked back at like

710
00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:12,960
Speaker 4: growing up in my childhood and kind of had these

711
00:34:13,000 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 4: like big aha moments.

712
00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:17,319
Speaker 3: How old were you when your parents got divorced? Five?

713
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:19,920
Speaker 3: And how old are you when they go back together fifteen?

714
00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 4: Wow?

715
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:24,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean that alone, there's a lot. I mean,

716
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:25,080
Speaker 3: it's amazing.

717
00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 2: It's like such a great story that you really I've

718
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 2: never heard it before only in like movies.

719
00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:33,719
Speaker 4: Never I've never heard anybody that that has ever happened to.

720
00:34:34,120 --> 00:34:37,320
Speaker 3: Yeahly, So it's it's something that's so unique.

721
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:40,080
Speaker 2: And of course you would have things that you were

722
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 2: that probably you developed in that time without even meaning to.

723
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:47,240
Speaker 3: I would.

724
00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 4: Yeah.

725
00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:51,400
Speaker 1: Interesting, all right, question for Becca. This has to do

726
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:55,000
Speaker 1: with Olivia Court. Remember her. Yeah, Yeah, she was on

727
00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:57,400
Speaker 1: Almost Famous and she was talking about her time, you know,

728
00:34:57,400 --> 00:34:59,279
Speaker 1: because they replayed the season that she was on in

729
00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 1: the back Greatest Seasons of All Time and she had

730
00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 1: a hard time in the mansion. A lot of people

731
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:07,120
Speaker 1: were really naughty to her, and she mentioned that Becca

732
00:35:07,239 --> 00:35:09,040
Speaker 1: was one of the only people in the Bachelor Mansion

733
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:11,520
Speaker 1: that pulled her aside and truly cared about her, and

734
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:14,440
Speaker 1: Brooke mars Alek posted that she wanted to hear your

735
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:15,200
Speaker 1: side of that story.

736
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 3: That made me emotions.

737
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, that's really sad and like sweet.

738
00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:23,880
Speaker 2: It's like so vague and like that whole all of

739
00:35:23,920 --> 00:35:30,920
Speaker 2: that is so vague in my mind. She had, I guess,

740
00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:35,040
Speaker 2: like the edit, the villain edit, and so she was

741
00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:37,160
Speaker 2: kind of secluded in the sense that I felt like

742
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 2: the producers would like take her away for like the itms,

743
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 2: which are in the moment interviews.

744
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:48,520
Speaker 5: And oh my ims, I think that's what they're It's

745
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 5: just like the Lincoln that's so good, and so it

746
00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:55,759
Speaker 5: would be like we would all be together and she

747
00:35:55,800 --> 00:35:57,759
Speaker 5: would be separate, and then she'd come into the room

748
00:35:58,160 --> 00:36:00,560
Speaker 5: and like we want to be talking about her, But

749
00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:03,960
Speaker 5: she probably assumed that we were because there was like

750
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:06,560
Speaker 5: drama with some of the other girls, and so I

751
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 5: kind of just put this like awkward feeling, and so

752
00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:10,399
Speaker 5: I remember taking her apart.

753
00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 3: I think we were in.

754
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:17,480
Speaker 2: Mexico City, and I pulled her aside because I could

755
00:36:17,480 --> 00:36:19,560
Speaker 2: tell that she was struggling, and I didn't think it

756
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:21,440
Speaker 2: was fair that she was having such a hard time

757
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 2: because I didn't really understand what people didn't like about

758
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:29,320
Speaker 2: her so much other than that sometimes it was awkward

759
00:36:29,360 --> 00:36:30,960
Speaker 2: when you'd walk into her room. But I think she

760
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:33,440
Speaker 2: felt awkward because she thought we were talking about her,

761
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 2: that whoever was talking about her, and so then it

762
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:39,359
Speaker 2: was just kind of like there was this uncomfortable uncomfortability,

763
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:42,560
Speaker 2: and so I just pulled her aside and I was like, hey, like,

764
00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:44,759
Speaker 2: I just want you to walk into the room and

765
00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:47,640
Speaker 2: not think that we're like not everyone's against you, like

766
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 2: we all I want you to feel welcome, Like I

767
00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:51,840
Speaker 2: want you to feel apart if you want to be apart,

768
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:53,680
Speaker 2: Like I know, this is so uncomfortable.

769
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:55,840
Speaker 3: We're all dating the same guy. We all want to

770
00:36:55,880 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 3: be with.

771
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:57,520
Speaker 4: The same guy.

772
00:36:57,560 --> 00:36:59,440
Speaker 2: But like, I also don't want you to feel that

773
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:03,120
Speaker 2: you're going through this process alone, because it's it's really hard.

774
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:05,600
Speaker 2: This is a hard thing that we're all going through.

775
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:09,279
Speaker 2: And so we had this really great conversation there and

776
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:12,960
Speaker 2: I do remember that, and then I think we talked

777
00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:15,400
Speaker 2: in the mansion too. I remember like one of the

778
00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 2: first few days or like in the first week, we

779
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:19,759
Speaker 2: like had a nice talk in the in like the

780
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:22,840
Speaker 2: backyard where we talked about like our faith and like

781
00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:26,280
Speaker 2: our families and stuff. So I'm just happy that she's

782
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:29,040
Speaker 2: happy because do you remember at the wedding She was

783
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:31,719
Speaker 2: with us at the wedding, huh, And she mentioned that

784
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 2: it was awkward seeing Ben because she her memories of

785
00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:35,640
Speaker 2: what the Bachelor.

786
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:39,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, I remember that, but I didn't remember her like in.

787
00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 3: The on the show, so I didn't really know what

788
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:42,120
Speaker 3: she was talking about.

789
00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 2: I was just like, yeah, So it's it's so interesting

790
00:37:45,160 --> 00:37:47,879
Speaker 2: because I look back on that time with so much

791
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:51,960
Speaker 2: like great, so many great memories and like friendships, and

792
00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:55,880
Speaker 2: I think Ben is so wonderful. And I remember that

793
00:37:56,040 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 2: was at Ashley Dured's wedding, which was last year. So however,

794
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:00,640
Speaker 2: many years after we filmed, and she was like, it's

795
00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:03,359
Speaker 2: still I knew how much it still affected her. So

796
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:07,440
Speaker 2: I'm really happy she had that moment on the recap

797
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 2: and that everyone's like giving her like respect because she's

798
00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 2: an amazing she has her own podcast. She's an amazing podcast.

799
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:17,839
Speaker 2: So she's so smart, she's beautiful, and it's just cool

800
00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:20,799
Speaker 2: to see her getting like redemption in that way.

801
00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 4: That's nice.

802
00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:24,000
Speaker 3: Yeah.

803
00:38:24,160 --> 00:38:26,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I do recommend her episode of Almost Famous. It

804
00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:30,880
Speaker 1: was it was a good conversation and it got emotional. Tanya.

805
00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:32,920
Speaker 1: They want to know about your new radio show, and

806
00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:35,960
Speaker 1: it's actually we should have talked about this. Lynda Marie says,

807
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:37,879
Speaker 1: I'd love her tiny to talk about her new radio show,

808
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:40,080
Speaker 1: The Vibe. I'm loving it. I would love to hear

809
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 1: what it was like when she first heard she was

810
00:38:41,719 --> 00:38:43,239
Speaker 1: getting a new show on what it was like putting

811
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:43,840
Speaker 1: it all together.

812
00:38:45,200 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 4: It is actually pretty crazy because like I feel like,

813
00:38:48,239 --> 00:38:50,880
Speaker 4: especially on this podcast, I talked about how you know,

814
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:54,200
Speaker 4: people in this industry have said that like my personality

815
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:56,600
Speaker 4: is too much or I'm too much of a cartoon character,

816
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:58,880
Speaker 4: like I can only people can only handle me in doses.

817
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:01,800
Speaker 4: And so it's like all that kind of marks laughing

818
00:39:01,840 --> 00:39:06,160
Speaker 4: because you know it's true. Yeah, And so that puts,

819
00:39:06,239 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 4: you know, as confident as a person you are, That

820
00:39:08,840 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 4: puts a seed of doubt in you that like is

821
00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:13,560
Speaker 4: really really hard to shake. And that kind of comes

822
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 4: with my whole like imposter syndrome in that complex. And

823
00:39:17,520 --> 00:39:21,480
Speaker 4: so when they came to me with this, they were like,

824
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:23,759
Speaker 4: the show was kind of already created, that didn't have

825
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:26,040
Speaker 4: a name already, but the show was kind of already there.

826
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:29,439
Speaker 4: But I basically have like it's a four hour show

827
00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:33,040
Speaker 4: and it's syndicated like across the country, which is crazy.

828
00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:36,160
Speaker 4: It's like over one hundred and fifty on over one

829
00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:38,719
Speaker 4: hundred fifty stations like Saturdays and Sundays, so it's like

830
00:39:38,760 --> 00:39:42,879
Speaker 4: I have a weekend show, which is bizarre. And then

831
00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:46,120
Speaker 4: I basically have creative freedom over two of the four hours,

832
00:39:46,280 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 4: so my hours of the podcast hour, so I kind

833
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,560
Speaker 4: of like can talk about like if we, you know,

834
00:39:52,400 --> 00:39:54,040
Speaker 4: have a really good podcast, I can talk about what

835
00:39:54,080 --> 00:39:56,600
Speaker 4: we talked about and play that back. Or I can

836
00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:58,640
Speaker 4: talk about other podcasts that I listen to and play

837
00:39:58,640 --> 00:40:00,800
Speaker 4: back some of that. Or I can have other podcast

838
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 4: hosts on as guests, literally whatever I want for that hour.

839
00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:05,920
Speaker 4: And then I do like a new music hour where

840
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:09,000
Speaker 4: I play like all the new newest songs and like

841
00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:12,479
Speaker 4: my dream, like it really really is, so it's really cool.

842
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:14,439
Speaker 4: And then I hosted with this guy named EJ from

843
00:40:14,440 --> 00:40:17,400
Speaker 4: Los Angeles and we're kind of like new getting to

844
00:40:17,440 --> 00:40:19,080
Speaker 4: know each other. So that's been like kind of fun

845
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 4: because I've never done anything with somebody like, you know,

846
00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:23,560
Speaker 4: we'd met and we worked together, but like we've never

847
00:40:24,160 --> 00:40:26,359
Speaker 4: work together in a capacity like this, So that's been

848
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:31,320
Speaker 4: like really fun and because we're also very different too,

849
00:40:31,360 --> 00:40:34,799
Speaker 4: and so and he does like the Influencer Hour and

850
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:37,520
Speaker 4: we talk about like a lot of trending viral things

851
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:39,600
Speaker 4: and it's been really cool.

852
00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:41,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, and a challenge for sure.

853
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:46,280
Speaker 2: It's so I would assume that Easton and Mark Orgree

854
00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:49,399
Speaker 2: and everyone listening like so deserved for you to have

855
00:40:49,440 --> 00:40:55,120
Speaker 2: that like opportunity and like your own show that has

856
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:59,400
Speaker 2: like your voice and your decisions, because I think I

857
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 2: think on a certain level, a lot of us deal

858
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 2: with imposter syndrome. But you've named it, and it's you've

859
00:41:05,440 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 2: recognized it and have really pushed to get out of

860
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:10,239
Speaker 2: that headspace.

861
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:12,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's cool to see it, I know, and like

862
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:15,640
Speaker 4: as things. So I don't want to speak too soon,

863
00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:17,520
Speaker 4: but because I just want to like get on the

864
00:41:17,520 --> 00:41:19,640
Speaker 4: other side of this. But I had a very like

865
00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:23,920
Speaker 4: such a good conversation with somebody in my working world

866
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:27,280
Speaker 4: that was just like so liberating because for the first

867
00:41:27,280 --> 00:41:30,560
Speaker 4: time I was like saying things that I actually felt

868
00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:37,480
Speaker 4: and like I felt like respected and acknowledged, and it

869
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 4: was just like a really cool thing. You know.

870
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:43,920
Speaker 1: It's great validation for Tanya. I feel it feels to

871
00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:47,000
Speaker 1: me like sometimes the people that are involved directly with

872
00:41:47,040 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 1: the morning show on a regular basis, they're the ones

873
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:53,680
Speaker 1: that feed you all that stuff that we were mentioning

874
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 1: before the cartoon character the dose is that sort of thing.

875
00:41:56,719 --> 00:42:00,040
Speaker 1: But the higher echelon of iHeartRadio seems to get it

876
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 1: more with you totally, and that's interesting to me. It's

877
00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:04,879
Speaker 1: the people that are with you every day that seem

878
00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:07,560
Speaker 1: to second guess you, that people that hear you from

879
00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:09,600
Speaker 1: afar realize what they have with you.

880
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:12,399
Speaker 4: Yeah, And it was like kind of cool because I'm

881
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:14,359
Speaker 4: like having this, like you know, it's you know, because

882
00:42:14,400 --> 00:42:18,920
Speaker 4: it's another show, so there are like, you know, logistics

883
00:42:18,920 --> 00:42:20,319
Speaker 4: and things that you have to figure out in terms

884
00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 4: of like schedule and all that kind of stuff. And

885
00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:25,120
Speaker 4: I got to like actually say to somebody who's like,

886
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:26,719
Speaker 4: you know, an authority figure, I was like, you know,

887
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:28,640
Speaker 4: I'm just because he was saying, how you know, you've

888
00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:30,200
Speaker 4: built like a really strong brand, and I was like,

889
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:31,759
Speaker 4: you know, and a part of that brand is being

890
00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:34,600
Speaker 4: a modern woman and speaking up for what I want

891
00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:36,239
Speaker 4: and I feel like I deserve. And I was like,

892
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:37,920
Speaker 4: what the heck is happening?

893
00:42:39,080 --> 00:42:40,399
Speaker 3: Is this? Who is this?

894
00:42:40,640 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 4: And he was like you're right, You're right, and I

895
00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:44,839
Speaker 4: was like, oh my god, it was like just a

896
00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:47,799
Speaker 4: really cool conversation, Like I felt really like, it felt

897
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:48,520
Speaker 4: really really good.

898
00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:50,120
Speaker 1: That's a smart way of doing it, though, because that

899
00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 1: is part of your brand, and if they're going to

900
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:53,440
Speaker 1: mention your brand, then they've got to accept.

901
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:55,080
Speaker 3: All of it totally. Totally.

902
00:42:55,160 --> 00:43:01,960
Speaker 1: I love that Becca question for you. I'll find it here.

903
00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:03,799
Speaker 1: But they're asking about how therapy is going. They're asking

904
00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 1: if there was a specific incident or moment that put

905
00:43:07,719 --> 00:43:09,839
Speaker 1: that made you decide to go into therapy, and if

906
00:43:09,840 --> 00:43:12,360
Speaker 1: there's any takeaways that you can share with us.

907
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:15,520
Speaker 3: Therapy is going really well, Rachel.

908
00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:19,000
Speaker 1: By the way, Rachel Lynn synth this question.

909
00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:23,000
Speaker 3: Rachel, thank you for your question. I therapy is going

910
00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:23,600
Speaker 3: really well.

911
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 2: Like I said, it's been really nice to talk to

912
00:43:26,120 --> 00:43:30,120
Speaker 2: someone who really doesn't know anything about me except for

913
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:34,279
Speaker 2: what I tell her. So it's like, you know, she

914
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 2: asked me questions that challenge me and make me think,

915
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:40,560
Speaker 2: and she also is like, asked me questions and I

916
00:43:40,640 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 2: just ramble for a long time and then I'm like

917
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:45,080
Speaker 2: I stop.

918
00:43:45,239 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 4: You're like, what was the question?

919
00:43:46,320 --> 00:43:48,359
Speaker 3: Back on that? Any feedback there?

920
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:55,400
Speaker 2: But yeah, I honestly probably should have gone to a

921
00:43:55,520 --> 00:43:59,200
Speaker 2: therapist probably a while ago. I would imagine just I

922
00:43:59,200 --> 00:44:02,239
Speaker 2: think it's great for people to have it, just talk

923
00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:04,680
Speaker 2: to someone, and I've always said that about everyone else.

924
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:07,520
Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, it's therapy is so great. But I

925
00:44:07,560 --> 00:44:09,880
Speaker 2: was always so resistant to it because I thought, like,

926
00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:14,239
Speaker 2: I'm fine, Like I can handle my problems. I'm emotionally

927
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:16,480
Speaker 2: mature enough, I am like mentally stable.

928
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:18,960
Speaker 4: I'm going to pray about this, yeah, yeah, pray about it.

929
00:44:19,640 --> 00:44:24,400
Speaker 2: And I think with everything going on in this civil

930
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 2: rights movement, in this I've had some really difficult conversations

931
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:33,799
Speaker 2: with family and friends, and I realized that it was

932
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:38,640
Speaker 2: really taking a toll in my like mental state because

933
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 2: it was I was constantly thinking about it. I felt

934
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:44,040
Speaker 2: like I had talked to every I talked to people

935
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:47,520
Speaker 2: about it, my friends and like people that I trust

936
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:50,680
Speaker 2: and respect their opinion. But I just thought I needed

937
00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:55,280
Speaker 2: to do more because I wasn't.

938
00:44:56,239 --> 00:44:58,279
Speaker 3: I don't know, I was just in this weird I

939
00:44:58,320 --> 00:44:59,560
Speaker 3: don't really have anxiety.

940
00:44:59,680 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 2: I don't I don't get stressed out and dwell on

941
00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 2: things for long. I'm able to kind of process them

942
00:45:04,640 --> 00:45:06,400
Speaker 2: and then either store them in the back of my

943
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:09,279
Speaker 2: head and maybe it's all coming to the surface and

944
00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:11,960
Speaker 2: that's why I'm like, WHOA, I need to talk to someone.

945
00:45:12,040 --> 00:45:15,560
Speaker 2: But it's just been really good for me to have someone.

946
00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:18,319
Speaker 2: And like I said earlier, it's been nice knowing that

947
00:45:18,440 --> 00:45:21,719
Speaker 2: if something pops up and or if like ninety five

948
00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:24,759
Speaker 2: PM I have an argument or something happens and I

949
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:29,040
Speaker 2: have a moment of like aha, of awareness about something,

950
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:30,840
Speaker 2: I'm able to go, Okay, I'm going to bring that

951
00:45:30,920 --> 00:45:33,120
Speaker 2: up and talk about that and see if she has

952
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 2: any insight. And it's like she's a person, Like she's

953
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:39,759
Speaker 2: just a person. It's not like she's some likely you know,

954
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:45,440
Speaker 2: like spiritual god or anything. But she's you know, she's

955
00:45:45,520 --> 00:45:48,479
Speaker 2: studied to do what she does. And I just feel

956
00:45:48,520 --> 00:45:50,680
Speaker 2: it's been really helpful talking to a professional. But yeah,

957
00:45:50,719 --> 00:45:52,560
Speaker 2: I probably should have seen someone a long time ago.

958
00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:56,400
Speaker 4: And I feel like I have My sister is a

959
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:59,440
Speaker 4: psychologist and so she's like, you know, professional therapist and

960
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:01,799
Speaker 4: doesn't this And she's also my sister, so she like

961
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:03,960
Speaker 4: loves me unconditionally and loves me more than anything in

962
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:07,799
Speaker 4: the world. So I feel like there's you know, she

963
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:12,440
Speaker 4: can't really help me in that that like perspective, but

964
00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:14,080
Speaker 4: like I always feel like I go to her for

965
00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:16,560
Speaker 4: like really big things like that because I do, like

966
00:46:16,680 --> 00:46:19,480
Speaker 4: really value her. She always just kind of takes a

967
00:46:19,480 --> 00:46:22,320
Speaker 4: step back and like helps me see the big picture

968
00:46:22,760 --> 00:46:24,920
Speaker 4: instead of like my view on it. And it's like

969
00:46:25,040 --> 00:46:26,960
Speaker 4: so helpful and it's coming from like a place of

970
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:28,000
Speaker 4: love because it's my sister.

971
00:46:28,239 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 2: And I was gonna say, I feel like, even though

972
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:31,600
Speaker 2: you know her and choose your sister and she loves

973
00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:34,480
Speaker 2: you unconditionally, I feel like the conversations we've had, she

974
00:46:34,560 --> 00:46:38,719
Speaker 2: like challenges you and and it's not just like it

975
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:39,760
Speaker 2: says what you want.

976
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 3: To hear it like very much, not at all.

977
00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:44,760
Speaker 2: And that's the part I've had to accept as someone

978
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:48,239
Speaker 2: because I'm so confident in thinking I know what I

979
00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:51,400
Speaker 2: know and I know how to handle things, and someone

980
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:53,040
Speaker 2: being able to say, like what if you did it

981
00:46:53,080 --> 00:46:56,960
Speaker 2: this way? And it's gentle, but it's like maybe try

982
00:46:57,000 --> 00:46:59,280
Speaker 2: this instead, because whatever you're doing isn't working.

983
00:47:00,000 --> 00:47:03,160
Speaker 3: It's been good, Oh it's you, guys.

984
00:47:03,160 --> 00:47:08,200
Speaker 4: Growing up is so gnarly. It's so gnarly, Like I

985
00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 4: can't even like wrap my head around some things. Like

986
00:47:11,880 --> 00:47:14,080
Speaker 4: I read this book called Codependent No More.

987
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, truly.

988
00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:18,759
Speaker 4: And I'm like an independent woman like I N D

989
00:47:18,960 --> 00:47:21,520
Speaker 4: E P E and D E N T do you

990
00:47:21,600 --> 00:47:24,440
Speaker 4: know what I mean? And yet I'm reading this book

991
00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:26,319
Speaker 4: because a friend of mine suggested it, and I was like,

992
00:47:26,360 --> 00:47:28,680
Speaker 4: oh my gosh, like I totally see a lot of

993
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:31,120
Speaker 4: these characteristics in me, you know, like I'm a caretaker.

994
00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:34,840
Speaker 4: I'm like I'm a giver. I you know, you just

995
00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:39,000
Speaker 4: start to see these tendencies in you you. And then

996
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:41,120
Speaker 4: I was there was like certain chapters, it's weird because

997
00:47:41,120 --> 00:47:42,600
Speaker 4: it talks a lot it's like dealing with like an

998
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:47,440
Speaker 4: alcoholic spouse, which is not like not the case for me,

999
00:47:47,600 --> 00:47:49,759
Speaker 4: but the top. But you have to like kind of

1000
00:47:49,760 --> 00:47:52,560
Speaker 4: just put that in the back of your head because

1001
00:47:52,560 --> 00:47:55,360
Speaker 4: a lot of the takeaways are really really good and fascinating.

1002
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:57,400
Speaker 4: And there was a big chapter and it was like

1003
00:47:57,480 --> 00:47:59,840
Speaker 4: totally reminded me of like things about you, and it

1004
00:47:59,920 --> 00:48:02,520
Speaker 4: was just like the people that just kind of sweep

1005
00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:04,879
Speaker 4: things under the rug, they don't talk them through, blah

1006
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:06,640
Speaker 4: blah blah. And I was like, oh, this is I

1007
00:48:06,680 --> 00:48:08,320
Speaker 4: almost wanted to like just send you the chapter.

1008
00:48:08,880 --> 00:48:13,960
Speaker 2: I hate talking about things like I really hate addressing issue.

1009
00:48:13,560 --> 00:48:15,160
Speaker 4: And I love addressing them.

1010
00:48:15,040 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 2: And we just put it somewhere else and maybe deal

1011
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:20,400
Speaker 2: with it next time it comes up.

1012
00:48:20,440 --> 00:48:22,279
Speaker 3: And then it comes up again, and I still don't

1013
00:48:22,280 --> 00:48:22,840
Speaker 3: want to deal with it.

1014
00:48:22,880 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 4: But it's not even about being codependent on like a

1015
00:48:25,680 --> 00:48:29,279
Speaker 4: partner necessarily. It's like also being codependent on like there's

1016
00:48:29,280 --> 00:48:29,920
Speaker 4: approval and.

1017
00:48:32,280 --> 00:48:34,319
Speaker 3: I can't really just get it.

1018
00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:37,920
Speaker 1: Let's do a quick rapid fire and then we can

1019
00:48:37,960 --> 00:48:39,640
Speaker 1: get to the game and we'll get Easton and I

1020
00:48:39,719 --> 00:48:41,479
Speaker 1: involved in this one because this person I.

1021
00:48:41,400 --> 00:48:43,640
Speaker 2: Was gonna say, I saw a lot of comments about

1022
00:48:43,680 --> 00:48:47,319
Speaker 2: people wanting more involvement from you and Easton, So I mean, no,

1023
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 2: not putting all the pressure on y'all, but that is

1024
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:52,080
Speaker 2: some of the requests that we've seen.

1025
00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:53,799
Speaker 4: I don't know why we don't do a mantle.

1026
00:48:53,480 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 3: With you guys.

1027
00:48:54,480 --> 00:48:56,960
Speaker 1: I mean, feel free, that's fine, you can do that

1028
00:48:57,000 --> 00:48:59,440
Speaker 1: whatever you'd like to do. It is your podcast.

1029
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 6: We're here every.

1030
00:49:00,320 --> 00:49:03,359
Speaker 4: Week, and you know what we have reborn, so that's right.

1031
00:49:03,840 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 1: Whatever we want, so here, we'll get us involved in

1032
00:49:06,560 --> 00:49:08,719
Speaker 1: this as the rapid fire, and so each of us

1033
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:11,400
Speaker 1: can answer. It will go around the room. This is

1034
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:15,000
Speaker 1: from Sarah uh So. It's first Her theme is first

1035
00:49:15,040 --> 00:49:16,680
Speaker 1: and then it goes into favorites. But here we go,

1036
00:49:16,760 --> 00:49:20,799
Speaker 1: here we go. First kiss, Tanya. I think name and

1037
00:49:20,840 --> 00:49:22,720
Speaker 1: anything about that moment that's interesting.

1038
00:49:24,080 --> 00:49:27,040
Speaker 4: Ryan Compton he didn't remember it. It was so sad,

1039
00:49:27,080 --> 00:49:29,640
Speaker 4: But then I ended up dating him and we're friends now.

1040
00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 1: So cute Becca.

1041
00:49:32,520 --> 00:49:33,000
Speaker 4: I g yeah.

1042
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:38,040
Speaker 2: Tyler Taunton, he was We talked to him, we called yes,

1043
00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 2: it was in my driveway. It was you know, I

1044
00:49:42,239 --> 00:49:44,640
Speaker 2: remember he put his tongue in my mouth and I

1045
00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:48,640
Speaker 2: thought like, I literally felt like I just lost my virginity,

1046
00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:53,479
Speaker 2: so ambitious for our first kiss, aggressive, like I don't.

1047
00:49:53,719 --> 00:49:55,640
Speaker 2: He was gentle, he was like sweet, you know, he

1048
00:49:55,719 --> 00:49:58,799
Speaker 2: didn't like overdo it, but I just I was so

1049
00:49:58,920 --> 00:50:01,640
Speaker 2: pure and innocent, and I was like, what am I.

1050
00:50:01,600 --> 00:50:03,680
Speaker 3: Going to tell me? Do I tell my mom? I

1051
00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:08,920
Speaker 3: remember walking away being like I just did something so simple.

1052
00:50:12,280 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I.

1053
00:50:15,320 --> 00:50:16,440
Speaker 1: Know it's cute.

1054
00:50:18,160 --> 00:50:18,399
Speaker 3: Cut.

1055
00:50:18,719 --> 00:50:21,880
Speaker 7: Her name was Rebecca Campbell and we we kissed at

1056
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:25,200
Speaker 7: the Scott's Valley roller rink and it was memorable because

1057
00:50:25,400 --> 00:50:28,160
Speaker 7: right afterwards she said, there's something you should know about me.

1058
00:50:28,480 --> 00:50:30,200
Speaker 6: I'm on probation because I was.

1059
00:50:30,400 --> 00:50:35,080
Speaker 7: With marijuana, and wow, a thrill. I was with a criminal,

1060
00:50:35,120 --> 00:50:36,680
Speaker 7: and I got my first kiss.

1061
00:50:36,680 --> 00:50:37,520
Speaker 6: It was so exciting.

1062
00:50:40,000 --> 00:50:46,920
Speaker 2: I so picture you being at a roller rink.

1063
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:53,160
Speaker 1: Covid Tina Stegmann. I know that I had very I

1064
00:50:53,200 --> 00:50:55,640
Speaker 1: didn't know what I was doing, and so we were

1065
00:50:55,680 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 1: in a room full of people, a room full of

1066
00:50:57,160 --> 00:50:59,960
Speaker 1: couples who were also kissing. So I took that as

1067
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:05,440
Speaker 1: the opportunity, and I made this noise a lot because

1068
00:51:05,480 --> 00:51:07,680
Speaker 1: I had no clue what I was doing.

1069
00:51:08,360 --> 00:51:10,400
Speaker 4: You didn't you practice on like poster boards?

1070
00:51:10,719 --> 00:51:13,319
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't, first of all, no, But second

1071
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:15,000
Speaker 1: of all, I don't think that gives you great training.

1072
00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:16,800
Speaker 3: Yeah it doesn't.

1073
00:51:17,080 --> 00:51:19,480
Speaker 4: It did for me. I was like great out of

1074
00:51:19,520 --> 00:51:19,799
Speaker 4: the gate.

1075
00:51:19,920 --> 00:51:23,720
Speaker 3: I don't know. We should call what's his name? Ryan confidence.

1076
00:51:23,760 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 3: He didn't remember so clearly.

1077
00:51:25,400 --> 00:51:27,080
Speaker 4: I did a lot of kissing with him after that,

1078
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:28,240
Speaker 4: so he knows.

1079
00:51:28,440 --> 00:51:31,479
Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, all right, next one first drink.

1080
00:51:31,480 --> 00:51:32,560
Speaker 4: It wasn't like a one and done.

1081
00:51:32,600 --> 00:51:34,160
Speaker 3: How old was everyone during the first Oh?

1082
00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:35,520
Speaker 1: I was late, I was fifteen.

1083
00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:36,880
Speaker 3: I was sixteen?

1084
00:51:36,960 --> 00:51:39,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I was sixteen fifteen sixteen?

1085
00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:39,800
Speaker 6: I was fourteen?

1086
00:51:41,320 --> 00:51:49,200
Speaker 1: Playa uh first drink? Tanya seven years old?

1087
00:51:49,640 --> 00:51:52,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm like out of the birth canal.

1088
00:51:52,400 --> 00:51:52,719
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1089
00:51:52,760 --> 00:51:55,200
Speaker 4: It's weird for me because like in Serbia, there's no

1090
00:51:55,320 --> 00:51:59,000
Speaker 4: like legal age to drink, so I honestly, and I

1091
00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:01,600
Speaker 4: had older brothers, and so I feel like I was

1092
00:52:01,680 --> 00:52:06,400
Speaker 4: drinking very early. Maybe thirteen, oh yeah, smearing off ice, baby,

1093
00:52:06,480 --> 00:52:09,239
Speaker 4: throwing them back, that's right. I was thirteen. Wait, how

1094
00:52:09,239 --> 00:52:09,759
Speaker 4: old are you throw?

1095
00:52:09,840 --> 00:52:10,439
Speaker 1: Wait? Eighth grade?

1096
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:12,360
Speaker 4: Eighth grade? Yeah, probably eighth grade.

1097
00:52:13,040 --> 00:52:16,240
Speaker 2: I was literally, I think twenty two or twenty three.

1098
00:52:16,920 --> 00:52:17,200
Speaker 1: Wow.

1099
00:52:17,400 --> 00:52:20,360
Speaker 2: I had a this like really cheap wine that was

1100
00:52:20,400 --> 00:52:21,560
Speaker 2: almost like fruit juice.

1101
00:52:21,560 --> 00:52:23,120
Speaker 3: I can't think of what it's called right now.

1102
00:52:23,120 --> 00:52:24,200
Speaker 4: Froz yeah or whatever.

1103
00:52:24,239 --> 00:52:28,719
Speaker 2: That a box not no, but it was something similar, Yeah,

1104
00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:30,680
Speaker 2: mango flavor or something easty.

1105
00:52:31,440 --> 00:52:34,640
Speaker 6: I've never had alcohol ever.

1106
00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:36,160
Speaker 1: Wow, I can't even say that.

1107
00:52:36,840 --> 00:52:38,560
Speaker 6: Yeah, wow, I've never tried it.

1108
00:52:38,719 --> 00:52:42,160
Speaker 1: Uh Okay. I was a freshman in high school and

1109
00:52:42,200 --> 00:52:45,239
Speaker 1: I went to a guy's house for a sleepover, but

1110
00:52:45,280 --> 00:52:46,799
Speaker 1: it was actually a party he was having and there

1111
00:52:46,800 --> 00:52:48,320
Speaker 1: were tons of people there, and I tried beer and

1112
00:52:48,360 --> 00:52:50,839
Speaker 1: it was disgusting. And then somebody gave me a jack

1113
00:52:50,880 --> 00:52:52,879
Speaker 1: and coke and I drank enough of that to feel

1114
00:52:52,880 --> 00:52:54,560
Speaker 1: the effects and it scared the hell out of me.

1115
00:52:54,719 --> 00:52:56,640
Speaker 1: And then that's the most drunk I've ever been in

1116
00:52:56,680 --> 00:52:59,760
Speaker 1: my life, and I was just kind of barely buzzed.

1117
00:53:02,000 --> 00:53:05,960
Speaker 1: It's scared, Yeah, I could. The fact that I could

1118
00:53:06,040 --> 00:53:07,880
Speaker 1: feel it and I knew something was happening to me

1119
00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:08,840
Speaker 1: really scared me.

1120
00:53:09,000 --> 00:53:12,000
Speaker 4: I just like, you know, what's interesting is like there

1121
00:53:12,080 --> 00:53:15,040
Speaker 4: is something really weird about like when you get super

1122
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:18,560
Speaker 4: drunk and you don't like like blacking out is kind

1123
00:53:18,600 --> 00:53:20,359
Speaker 4: of frightening when you think about it.

1124
00:53:20,440 --> 00:53:24,319
Speaker 1: That's my worst nightmare, the idea of somebody the next

1125
00:53:24,400 --> 00:53:26,200
Speaker 1: day telling me what I did the night before.

1126
00:53:26,640 --> 00:53:31,360
Speaker 4: Never like there's nothing worse. Oh oh, I'm having PTSD,

1127
00:53:31,480 --> 00:53:33,760
Speaker 4: just like thinking about it. But like reading the text

1128
00:53:33,760 --> 00:53:35,120
Speaker 4: messages that you send, like.

1129
00:53:35,239 --> 00:53:39,479
Speaker 5: At like midnight, being like, hey, I don't love those, but.

1130
00:53:39,440 --> 00:53:41,440
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, you know how many I deleted and

1131
00:53:41,440 --> 00:53:43,600
Speaker 4: they only delete like on my end, like they don't

1132
00:53:43,640 --> 00:53:45,120
Speaker 4: like suck it back, but I'm like I just can't

1133
00:53:45,120 --> 00:53:45,360
Speaker 4: read it.

1134
00:53:45,360 --> 00:53:48,840
Speaker 3: I need it off my phone. I have deleted some messages.

1135
00:53:48,960 --> 00:53:52,719
Speaker 2: Sometimes I even just delete my part so that like,

1136
00:53:53,719 --> 00:53:54,480
Speaker 2: you know, yeah.

1137
00:53:54,320 --> 00:53:55,040
Speaker 3: You just can't.

1138
00:53:55,040 --> 00:53:56,839
Speaker 4: I can't go back and rehash what I've done.

1139
00:53:57,000 --> 00:54:00,359
Speaker 1: No uh Teanya first concert.

1140
00:54:02,160 --> 00:54:06,080
Speaker 4: Shakira uh In Inglewood. I think it was at the

1141
00:54:06,120 --> 00:54:12,520
Speaker 4: Forum actually, and it was really a Thrillakira and it

1142
00:54:12,560 --> 00:54:14,080
Speaker 4: was with my Shakira fan club.

1143
00:54:14,680 --> 00:54:17,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean obviously as you would expect.

1144
00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:23,359
Speaker 2: Mine was I think justin Timberlake and Christina Aguilera. That's

1145
00:54:23,400 --> 00:54:26,120
Speaker 2: the first like big one I can remember. I won

1146
00:54:26,200 --> 00:54:29,120
Speaker 2: tickets doing a lip sync contest at the local water park.

1147
00:54:29,920 --> 00:54:32,160
Speaker 1: Wow, what is your lip sync?

1148
00:54:33,400 --> 00:54:34,279
Speaker 3: You're the one that I wont.

1149
00:54:36,719 --> 00:54:39,279
Speaker 2: We competed against one girl. She was singing a little

1150
00:54:39,280 --> 00:54:39,759
Speaker 2: bow Wow.

1151
00:54:39,960 --> 00:54:42,720
Speaker 4: So we had to shoe in those two two people

1152
00:54:42,760 --> 00:54:47,719
Speaker 4: in the contest. Yeah, fifty to fifty chance.

1153
00:54:47,600 --> 00:54:48,319
Speaker 3: She was like eight.

1154
00:54:48,520 --> 00:54:49,840
Speaker 1: You should have called it a tie.

1155
00:54:52,680 --> 00:54:53,040
Speaker 3: You know what?

1156
00:54:53,080 --> 00:54:54,840
Speaker 4: Mark in life? There are winters, Okay.

1157
00:54:55,280 --> 00:54:55,799
Speaker 1: Right now.

1158
00:54:57,080 --> 00:54:59,239
Speaker 7: My first concert was in the year two thousand and

1159
00:54:59,280 --> 00:55:02,239
Speaker 7: It was a fest called BFD at the Sholine Amphitheater

1160
00:55:02,280 --> 00:55:05,239
Speaker 7: in Mountain View, California, and the headliners were blink On

1161
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:08,480
Speaker 7: eighty two and Stained and it was a lot of fun.

1162
00:55:08,640 --> 00:55:12,759
Speaker 3: Oh well, what is that it's like a rock Yeah.

1163
00:55:12,800 --> 00:55:14,399
Speaker 7: Yeah, they were They were like a try to remember

1164
00:55:14,440 --> 00:55:16,600
Speaker 7: what their big hit was, but they're not around anymore.

1165
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:18,960
Speaker 6: Uh and uh yeah, it was. It was a great time.

1166
00:55:21,400 --> 00:55:25,040
Speaker 1: Mine was Springsteen, Dane County Coliseum, February second and nine

1167
00:55:25,040 --> 00:55:26,479
Speaker 1: to eighty one, before any of you were born.

1168
00:55:27,760 --> 00:55:28,040
Speaker 3: Wow.

1169
00:55:29,360 --> 00:55:32,600
Speaker 1: And it also drastically affected my life because I'm a

1170
00:55:32,640 --> 00:55:34,720
Speaker 1: big fan of this day to the point that annoys

1171
00:55:34,760 --> 00:55:35,160
Speaker 1: my family.

1172
00:55:37,000 --> 00:55:38,840
Speaker 4: Oh, I was gonna say, didn't you get a photo

1173
00:55:38,920 --> 00:55:39,279
Speaker 4: with him?

1174
00:55:39,320 --> 00:55:42,680
Speaker 3: But that was I was staying Yeah, yeah, different different

1175
00:55:43,200 --> 00:55:44,800
Speaker 3: person sting.

1176
00:55:45,560 --> 00:55:47,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, Tanya, what was your first car?

1177
00:55:49,080 --> 00:55:53,319
Speaker 4: My first car was like an old I don't really

1178
00:55:53,320 --> 00:55:54,959
Speaker 4: know them. I'm not going with like models of cars,

1179
00:55:54,960 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 4: but it's like this old beat up like Mercedes, so

1180
00:55:58,239 --> 00:56:01,080
Speaker 4: like Legit so like Mercedes, but like it was like

1181
00:56:01,200 --> 00:56:04,880
Speaker 4: old school, you know what I mean. I think my

1182
00:56:04,960 --> 00:56:06,839
Speaker 4: mom had had it for I don't know how long,

1183
00:56:06,880 --> 00:56:10,840
Speaker 4: but named her Ginger, and I had like a bright,

1184
00:56:10,960 --> 00:56:15,400
Speaker 4: hot pink fuzzy steering wheel cover and right pink like

1185
00:56:15,480 --> 00:56:16,360
Speaker 4: dice in the mirror.

1186
00:56:17,120 --> 00:56:17,319
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1187
00:56:17,360 --> 00:56:19,520
Speaker 4: My mom went and got them for me from Walmart

1188
00:56:19,880 --> 00:56:21,560
Speaker 4: because I had to have hot pink, and I guess

1189
00:56:21,600 --> 00:56:23,040
Speaker 4: that was like the only place that sold it.

1190
00:56:23,280 --> 00:56:23,640
Speaker 6: Wow.

1191
00:56:23,719 --> 00:56:25,480
Speaker 4: And yeah, she was real cute.

1192
00:56:26,840 --> 00:56:31,240
Speaker 2: I had a two thousand and three black Nissonic Sterra

1193
00:56:31,440 --> 00:56:33,680
Speaker 2: and it had like a grill guard on the front

1194
00:56:33,800 --> 00:56:38,360
Speaker 2: because it was my cousin's and that grill guard honestly

1195
00:56:38,400 --> 00:56:40,960
Speaker 2: saved me so many like dents in the front of

1196
00:56:41,000 --> 00:56:43,480
Speaker 2: my car because like I'd go to the sonic parking

1197
00:56:43,520 --> 00:56:45,960
Speaker 2: lot and then I'd back up and I'd hit something.

1198
00:56:45,680 --> 00:56:47,200
Speaker 3: But it would just be my girl guard.

1199
00:56:47,800 --> 00:56:49,000
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1200
00:56:49,120 --> 00:56:50,600
Speaker 2: It was cute though. I mean, I had a great

1201
00:56:50,640 --> 00:56:53,239
Speaker 2: first car. I didn't drive tall, was like seventeen. I

1202
00:56:53,280 --> 00:56:54,000
Speaker 2: was scared, so.

1203
00:56:55,960 --> 00:56:57,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, mine was like, oh, it was like beat up,

1204
00:56:57,640 --> 00:56:59,200
Speaker 4: so I didn't even care when I hit things.

1205
00:57:00,440 --> 00:57:02,640
Speaker 3: Yikes, I've been in the car with you.

1206
00:57:02,719 --> 00:57:05,440
Speaker 4: Thus lost the hubcap here and there, but you know,

1207
00:57:05,719 --> 00:57:08,120
Speaker 4: it's all good. Its old car, so my parents didn't care.

1208
00:57:08,560 --> 00:57:11,160
Speaker 7: My first car was in nineteen ninety six as Susie Rodeo.

1209
00:57:11,320 --> 00:57:13,719
Speaker 7: It was green and I put an exhaust tip on

1210
00:57:13,840 --> 00:57:15,840
Speaker 7: the exhaust pipe so it was super loud.

1211
00:57:16,080 --> 00:57:16,960
Speaker 6: Oh and.

1212
00:57:18,280 --> 00:57:21,800
Speaker 7: I got pulled over for exhibition of speed and I

1213
00:57:21,840 --> 00:57:24,840
Speaker 7: didn't get a ticket because of privilege, and I was

1214
00:57:24,920 --> 00:57:28,520
Speaker 7: let go because my dad's a police officer, and they

1215
00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:31,400
Speaker 7: told me that, yeah, be on your very way, do

1216
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:33,880
Speaker 7: whatever you wish, mister white person. Enjoy your life.

1217
00:57:34,000 --> 00:57:39,400
Speaker 2: You were like, my dad's a bodybuilder and a police officer.

1218
00:57:39,680 --> 00:57:40,040
Speaker 3: Fio.

1219
00:57:40,520 --> 00:57:42,400
Speaker 6: You look at my last name. Don't mess with me

1220
00:57:42,440 --> 00:57:42,919
Speaker 6: in this town.

1221
00:57:43,320 --> 00:57:45,960
Speaker 1: And then is exhibition of speed different than speeding?

1222
00:57:46,280 --> 00:57:48,440
Speaker 7: Yes, exhibition of speed is you're not speeding, but you're

1223
00:57:48,440 --> 00:57:50,160
Speaker 7: making it look like you are. It's if you're like

1224
00:57:50,240 --> 00:57:52,560
Speaker 7: reving really high or like burning out your wheels.

1225
00:57:52,680 --> 00:57:53,360
Speaker 4: That's illegal.

1226
00:57:53,800 --> 00:57:55,920
Speaker 1: It's illegal. Yeah wow.

1227
00:57:56,280 --> 00:57:58,840
Speaker 7: Yeah, So everyone out there with the loud exhausts and

1228
00:57:59,520 --> 00:58:00,560
Speaker 7: burning out, Oh, don't do it.

1229
00:58:00,560 --> 00:58:01,280
Speaker 6: You'll get pulled over.

1230
00:58:04,040 --> 00:58:06,600
Speaker 1: All right. I had a My dad bought me a

1231
00:58:06,840 --> 00:58:11,880
Speaker 1: Renault les car. Uh. He bought it for fifty dollars,

1232
00:58:12,360 --> 00:58:15,120
Speaker 1: and honestly, I think he got ripped off because that's

1233
00:58:15,200 --> 00:58:17,840
Speaker 1: what garbage this car was. And I hated it my

1234
00:58:17,880 --> 00:58:20,360
Speaker 1: first I ended up they ended up getting my mom

1235
00:58:20,360 --> 00:58:21,960
Speaker 1: in your car, and then I got hers and it

1236
00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:23,920
Speaker 1: was a nineteen eighty Pontiac Phoenix and that was a

1237
00:58:23,920 --> 00:58:26,080
Speaker 1: sweet ride. Yeah.

1238
00:58:26,800 --> 00:58:29,080
Speaker 3: Wait, fifty dollars for working.

1239
00:58:28,840 --> 00:58:29,600
Speaker 4: A working car.

1240
00:58:29,720 --> 00:58:30,919
Speaker 1: Yes, it was a working car.

1241
00:58:31,600 --> 00:58:33,760
Speaker 3: That's actually crazy, terrifying.

1242
00:58:35,600 --> 00:58:37,560
Speaker 1: Hey, Tanya, what's your favorite sad song?

1243
00:58:39,080 --> 00:58:39,280
Speaker 4: Oh?

1244
00:58:39,360 --> 00:58:40,520
Speaker 6: My yeah, that's.

1245
00:58:40,400 --> 00:58:40,960
Speaker 1: A tough one.

1246
00:58:41,800 --> 00:58:43,520
Speaker 3: This is like a dream for me.

1247
00:58:46,040 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 4: I'm gonna go with just like my first instinct, which

1248
00:58:50,600 --> 00:58:58,240
Speaker 4: was John Mayer split Screen Sadness. Oh, I still like

1249
00:58:58,440 --> 00:59:01,760
Speaker 4: it's still I could just listen to it and just cry.

1250
00:59:01,920 --> 00:59:06,840
Speaker 2: And I I have two that come to mind that

1251
00:59:06,880 --> 00:59:12,800
Speaker 2: are like really sad, which are the scientists cold that's good?

1252
00:59:13,320 --> 00:59:16,080
Speaker 2: And Gravity by Sarah Browns.

1253
00:59:17,320 --> 00:59:17,960
Speaker 3: You know that one?

1254
00:59:18,080 --> 00:59:19,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, deep deep.

1255
00:59:20,760 --> 00:59:22,680
Speaker 3: I love sad songs too.

1256
00:59:22,720 --> 00:59:24,960
Speaker 4: Oh, I have I have an entire playlist. Hold on,

1257
00:59:25,000 --> 00:59:25,880
Speaker 4: let me just really quick.

1258
00:59:26,000 --> 00:59:27,240
Speaker 3: But like when I'm.

1259
00:59:27,120 --> 00:59:29,600
Speaker 2: In like a happy mood, I used to like to

1260
00:59:29,720 --> 00:59:32,000
Speaker 2: light a candle and sit in my dark apartment and

1261
00:59:32,080 --> 00:59:34,080
Speaker 2: just put sad music on and pretend that I was

1262
00:59:34,120 --> 00:59:35,040
Speaker 2: going through something.

1263
00:59:36,400 --> 00:59:39,000
Speaker 3: It might be too deep, though, it might be too real.

1264
00:59:39,760 --> 00:59:42,160
Speaker 4: I literally had like a look, I have a playlist.

1265
00:59:42,160 --> 00:59:45,760
Speaker 4: It's just called sad sad, and then I have it

1266
00:59:45,840 --> 00:59:51,720
Speaker 4: called Breakup Suck Breakup Suck Part two.

1267
00:59:50,800 --> 00:59:52,640
Speaker 3: Lewis Capaldi sad.

1268
00:59:52,760 --> 00:59:52,920
Speaker 1: You know.

1269
00:59:53,040 --> 00:59:56,840
Speaker 4: The first song on sad playlist is split Screen.

1270
00:59:56,680 --> 00:59:58,000
Speaker 3: Sadness by John Mayer.

1271
00:59:58,920 --> 00:59:59,240
Speaker 6: Wow.

1272
00:59:59,440 --> 01:00:03,360
Speaker 2: Those are like some breakup like uh like anthems though

1273
01:00:03,480 --> 01:00:04,280
Speaker 2: when You're gone.

1274
01:00:04,160 --> 01:00:11,040
Speaker 4: April lavine Wow, oh just for love, image and heat.

1275
01:00:14,880 --> 01:00:17,080
Speaker 4: This is just good? All right? Sorry, I continue.

1276
01:00:17,960 --> 01:00:20,480
Speaker 7: You know, I don't listen to sad songs and so

1277
01:00:21,160 --> 01:00:22,840
Speaker 7: that this is hard for me. But the first thing

1278
01:00:22,920 --> 01:00:25,160
Speaker 7: that comes to mind is stay Together for the Kids

1279
01:00:25,160 --> 01:00:28,680
Speaker 7: by Blank two You Love I lovel Went two And

1280
01:00:29,080 --> 01:00:32,200
Speaker 7: that song came out right when my parents were getting divorced,

1281
01:00:32,240 --> 01:00:34,360
Speaker 7: and it really affected me in a big way, and

1282
01:00:34,800 --> 01:00:37,000
Speaker 7: I'll listen to it now and feel very emotional.

1283
01:00:39,000 --> 01:00:41,600
Speaker 1: Mine is real obscure. It's called so much Mine by

1284
01:00:41,640 --> 01:00:44,960
Speaker 1: a band called The Story, and it's about your daughter's

1285
01:00:45,080 --> 01:00:49,240
Speaker 1: growing up and you were so much mine. But now

1286
01:00:49,280 --> 01:00:51,480
Speaker 1: I reach for you and I can't find you. And

1287
01:00:51,520 --> 01:00:54,200
Speaker 1: it used to make me cry before I had children,

1288
01:00:54,280 --> 01:00:55,600
Speaker 1: so now forget it.

1289
01:00:56,240 --> 01:00:58,120
Speaker 4: Oh my, I could not even imagine.

1290
01:00:58,200 --> 01:01:00,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's really powerful as.

1291
01:01:00,520 --> 01:01:03,560
Speaker 4: Being a girl, dad like so gnarly a girl.

1292
01:01:03,560 --> 01:01:05,680
Speaker 1: That's fantastic. It's the greatest thing in the world.

1293
01:01:06,600 --> 01:01:08,560
Speaker 4: I just feel like it's so because it's true. It's

1294
01:01:08,560 --> 01:01:11,280
Speaker 4: like you're totally theirs. And then like one there's like

1295
01:01:11,320 --> 01:01:14,640
Speaker 4: a day where it's just like, yes, you.

1296
01:01:15,080 --> 01:01:17,880
Speaker 1: Start to feel them becoming the stars of the show.

1297
01:01:18,840 --> 01:01:20,240
Speaker 1: You know what I mean by that, Like if this

1298
01:01:20,320 --> 01:01:22,960
Speaker 1: were a TV show, you know what I'm saying.

1299
01:01:23,120 --> 01:01:24,959
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, they.

1300
01:01:24,880 --> 01:01:28,240
Speaker 1: Are now the main characters and we are now peripheral characters.

1301
01:01:28,400 --> 01:01:30,040
Speaker 1: In this it's.

1302
01:01:29,880 --> 01:01:31,880
Speaker 4: Like, but it's like I feel like it's different with

1303
01:01:31,960 --> 01:01:35,760
Speaker 4: boys because boys are just like boys, you know, like man,

1304
01:01:38,800 --> 01:01:42,960
Speaker 4: just like like girls are just like emotional and attached

1305
01:01:43,000 --> 01:01:44,320
Speaker 4: and just like sweet.

1306
01:01:45,760 --> 01:01:48,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that behavior is taught for you know.

1307
01:01:48,440 --> 01:01:50,720
Speaker 4: That's true. That's true, all right.

1308
01:01:50,760 --> 01:01:58,800
Speaker 1: Next one, Tanya favorite city.

1309
01:01:55,880 --> 01:01:59,800
Speaker 4: Los Angeles. Baby, I'm just gonna go with it. Everybody

1310
01:01:59,800 --> 01:02:02,320
Speaker 4: talks crap on this city. I love the city. It

1311
01:02:02,320 --> 01:02:05,040
Speaker 4: has done, it has maybe some of the best friends

1312
01:02:05,040 --> 01:02:07,520
Speaker 4: I've made in my life. Is giving me opportunities I

1313
01:02:07,560 --> 01:02:14,320
Speaker 4: never would have imagined, and it's like so unique and cool.

1314
01:02:15,320 --> 01:02:17,320
Speaker 4: I love La.

1315
01:02:17,480 --> 01:02:23,160
Speaker 3: Can I say MAUI Yeah, with Mali, I just feel good.

1316
01:02:23,280 --> 01:02:23,440
Speaker 4: One.

1317
01:02:23,800 --> 01:02:29,200
Speaker 3: I love La too. But it does have its like eh, boys.

1318
01:02:28,520 --> 01:02:30,800
Speaker 4: No, it does not get out of here with your

1319
01:02:30,920 --> 01:02:31,520
Speaker 4: LA hate.

1320
01:02:31,640 --> 01:02:34,040
Speaker 2: No, I don't hate. I live here, so I love La.

1321
01:02:34,240 --> 01:02:37,520
Speaker 2: But there it's as a huge city. It comes with

1322
01:02:37,600 --> 01:02:41,720
Speaker 2: its like minor things here and there. But I love

1323
01:02:41,760 --> 01:02:46,520
Speaker 2: Hawaii in general and I feel like my best, most

1324
01:02:46,600 --> 01:02:48,800
Speaker 2: free self when I go that I can recharge.

1325
01:02:48,800 --> 01:02:50,240
Speaker 3: So it's probably my favorite place.

1326
01:02:50,480 --> 01:02:51,720
Speaker 4: That's a good one.

1327
01:02:51,840 --> 01:02:54,760
Speaker 7: I'm I'm with you, Italia. I love La so much.

1328
01:02:55,160 --> 01:02:56,600
Speaker 7: I've loved it since I was a little boy. I've

1329
01:02:56,600 --> 01:02:59,200
Speaker 7: always wanted to move here, and I've enjoyed every single

1330
01:02:59,200 --> 01:02:59,720
Speaker 7: second since.

1331
01:02:59,720 --> 01:03:00,000
Speaker 6: I I.

1332
01:03:02,080 --> 01:03:05,560
Speaker 1: Love that, Yeah, I I do. I also get defensive

1333
01:03:05,560 --> 01:03:08,480
Speaker 1: when people kind of, you know, crap on La, especially

1334
01:03:08,520 --> 01:03:10,200
Speaker 1: back where I come from. So I do get defensive

1335
01:03:10,200 --> 01:03:12,360
Speaker 1: because I do love LA. But I'm gonna go with Madison, Wisconsin,

1336
01:03:12,440 --> 01:03:14,720
Speaker 1: my hometown. It's just got a unique energy. It's just

1337
01:03:14,760 --> 01:03:17,400
Speaker 1: got its own vibe like I've never felt before. So

1338
01:03:17,400 --> 01:03:20,480
Speaker 1: I'm going with that. Yeah, all right, last one, Tanya,

1339
01:03:20,840 --> 01:03:26,960
Speaker 1: what is your favorite carnival Food's question? Well, it's all

1340
01:03:27,000 --> 01:03:32,480
Speaker 1: of us as you're all from Sarah. Thank you Sarah

1341
01:03:32,480 --> 01:03:33,280
Speaker 1: for the rapid fire.

1342
01:03:33,640 --> 01:03:34,760
Speaker 4: What's a carnival thing?

1343
01:03:35,680 --> 01:03:40,000
Speaker 3: Oh? My god, Like I'm a funnel yea cake is great?

1344
01:03:40,760 --> 01:03:45,240
Speaker 4: Oreos, Oh okay, I'll go with the I'll go with

1345
01:03:45,280 --> 01:03:45,960
Speaker 4: the fried Oreo.

1346
01:03:47,000 --> 01:03:47,760
Speaker 3: Have you had it?

1347
01:03:48,000 --> 01:03:51,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, thanks very much. I'm only picking from things I've had,

1348
01:03:52,200 --> 01:03:55,600
Speaker 4: which is not much. But I haven't had a deep ride.

1349
01:03:55,600 --> 01:03:58,120
Speaker 4: Oreo and I have had a funnel cake. I think

1350
01:03:58,160 --> 01:04:00,640
Speaker 4: that might be the extent of my carnival. So I'm

1351
01:04:00,680 --> 01:04:02,040
Speaker 4: gonna go with the deep right Orea.

1352
01:04:02,560 --> 01:04:05,920
Speaker 3: Mine is like a deep fried corn dog, and.

1353
01:04:07,080 --> 01:04:09,000
Speaker 4: Isn't it deep fried corn dorn?

1354
01:04:10,080 --> 01:04:13,720
Speaker 2: But there's something different about the fair corn dogs, like

1355
01:04:13,840 --> 01:04:15,160
Speaker 2: double fried or something.

1356
01:04:16,120 --> 01:04:19,520
Speaker 7: Oh Man, fair food is my favorite thing on the planet,

1357
01:04:20,280 --> 01:04:22,520
Speaker 7: and I always try to try the craziest stuff.

1358
01:04:22,560 --> 01:04:24,400
Speaker 6: But I got I gotta say the all star. It's

1359
01:04:24,400 --> 01:04:25,840
Speaker 6: deep fried oreos. They're so good.

1360
01:04:25,840 --> 01:04:28,479
Speaker 7: I get them every single time. I get like six

1361
01:04:28,520 --> 01:04:30,560
Speaker 7: of them when I go. They're so good.

1362
01:04:31,280 --> 01:04:34,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm going deep fried cheese. I'm a Wisconsin boy,

1363
01:04:34,440 --> 01:04:38,720
Speaker 1: so deep fried cheese. Mozzarella sticks are an example. And

1364
01:04:40,560 --> 01:04:44,040
Speaker 1: mozzarella sticks. I can do cheese curds from Wisconsin, which

1365
01:04:44,080 --> 01:04:46,960
Speaker 1: are deep fried cheddar cheese. Give me an issue that

1366
01:04:47,560 --> 01:04:50,080
Speaker 1: I'm I'm in the bathroom, leg on the floor naked

1367
01:04:51,240 --> 01:04:55,360
Speaker 1: until Red Star comes the rescue me. But the other one,

1368
01:04:55,480 --> 01:04:56,960
Speaker 1: mozzarella sticks, I'm way into.

1369
01:04:58,200 --> 01:05:01,800
Speaker 2: I think mozzarella sticks be my favorite, just period, of

1370
01:05:01,880 --> 01:05:06,240
Speaker 2: all of all foods. So honestly, Easton, have you had

1371
01:05:06,280 --> 01:05:07,560
Speaker 2: Sonics Moncerella.

1372
01:05:07,240 --> 01:05:10,120
Speaker 7: I have had Sonics Moncerella sticks. They're extremely good.

1373
01:05:13,520 --> 01:05:15,280
Speaker 1: All right, let's take a break and they'll play a game.

1374
01:05:15,320 --> 01:05:16,840
Speaker 1: You're ready, I have stakes and everything. I have it

1375
01:05:16,920 --> 01:05:17,560
Speaker 1: all planned out.

1376
01:05:18,440 --> 01:05:20,520
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, we'll be back.

1377
01:05:36,880 --> 01:05:39,560
Speaker 1: All right. Here's how I envision this going now. I

1378
01:05:39,600 --> 01:05:41,800
Speaker 1: asked each of you. You all got texts from me

1379
01:05:41,800 --> 01:05:44,080
Speaker 1: in the last week, asking me the artist you know

1380
01:05:44,160 --> 01:05:46,760
Speaker 1: the most about will reveal them.

1381
01:05:46,600 --> 01:05:48,880
Speaker 3: In a moment, such a disadvantage for me.

1382
01:05:49,680 --> 01:05:51,360
Speaker 4: No, and me too. I don't even remember who I

1383
01:05:51,360 --> 01:05:53,040
Speaker 4: send you. I think I'll give you a few options.

1384
01:05:53,080 --> 01:05:56,480
Speaker 3: You know everything about everyone that you're obsessed with.

1385
01:05:56,640 --> 01:05:59,000
Speaker 1: It's not about them as people. This is going to

1386
01:05:59,000 --> 01:05:59,960
Speaker 1: be about lyrics.

1387
01:06:00,880 --> 01:06:01,920
Speaker 4: Oh crap.

1388
01:06:02,240 --> 01:06:06,880
Speaker 1: Now, whoever does the worst will then have to put

1389
01:06:06,920 --> 01:06:11,800
Speaker 1: in earbuds in their phone, go on Spotify or whatever,

1390
01:06:12,440 --> 01:06:14,800
Speaker 1: and play a song only they can hear and sing

1391
01:06:14,920 --> 01:06:16,760
Speaker 1: us the first verse and chorus of a song.

1392
01:06:17,960 --> 01:06:20,160
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, But I just would like to preface this

1393
01:06:20,280 --> 01:06:22,520
Speaker 4: with had you said this would be about lyrics, I

1394
01:06:22,520 --> 01:06:24,200
Speaker 4: would have had a very different answer.

1395
01:06:24,320 --> 01:06:26,600
Speaker 3: That's why he didn't say, it's no advance.

1396
01:06:26,680 --> 01:06:29,200
Speaker 1: I told you the artist you know the most about.

1397
01:06:29,320 --> 01:06:30,320
Speaker 3: Who did you choose?

1398
01:06:30,960 --> 01:06:32,680
Speaker 4: Who did you choose? I would have chose John Mayer

1399
01:06:32,720 --> 01:06:34,960
Speaker 4: on the lyrics, Hello, had an entire club dedicated to you?

1400
01:06:35,040 --> 01:06:37,120
Speaker 1: Then good? Then I'm glad I didn't choose John Mayor

1401
01:06:37,120 --> 01:06:41,760
Speaker 1: because that would have been an unfair advantage. I'm Becca

1402
01:06:41,920 --> 01:06:53,200
Speaker 1: chose t Swizzle, Taylor Swift, Tanya chose Selena Gomez Easton

1403
01:06:53,280 --> 01:06:55,920
Speaker 1: of course, Hillary Duff, Hillary Duff.

1404
01:07:00,520 --> 01:07:06,000
Speaker 2: Tanya's regretting her decisions. But we love Selena Gomes, but

1405
01:07:06,760 --> 01:07:08,400
Speaker 2: regretting love love.

1406
01:07:08,520 --> 01:07:11,960
Speaker 4: But the lyrics aspect my crush, all it is.

1407
01:07:11,960 --> 01:07:14,560
Speaker 1: It's very simple. I'm going to name a lyric. You

1408
01:07:14,600 --> 01:07:18,240
Speaker 1: tell me what song it's from. Oh, very simple. Here

1409
01:07:18,280 --> 01:07:21,480
Speaker 1: we got go. Uh, we'll just keep the order we've

1410
01:07:21,520 --> 01:07:23,360
Speaker 1: been doing it in Tanya, you'll go first. And I

1411
01:07:23,360 --> 01:07:26,760
Speaker 1: started these easier, and they're gonna get harder as we go, Tanya.

1412
01:07:27,280 --> 01:07:30,000
Speaker 1: And of course the extra added difficulties it's me speaking

1413
01:07:30,040 --> 01:07:32,560
Speaker 1: them and not her singing them. Tanya thought I could

1414
01:07:32,640 --> 01:07:37,840
Speaker 1: chase you with a cold evening. That's it, that's all

1415
01:07:37,840 --> 01:07:38,160
Speaker 1: you get.

1416
01:07:39,600 --> 01:07:41,240
Speaker 3: I thought I could chase you with the.

1417
01:07:41,400 --> 01:07:43,840
Speaker 1: Thought I could chase you with a cold evening.

1418
01:07:50,400 --> 01:07:53,680
Speaker 3: Kind of make up the song with those lyrics.

1419
01:07:55,200 --> 01:07:55,800
Speaker 4: Hands myself.

1420
01:07:55,880 --> 01:07:59,000
Speaker 1: Oh that is back to you. I tried to pick

1421
01:07:59,120 --> 01:08:00,840
Speaker 1: the first few of songs you've heard a million times

1422
01:08:00,880 --> 01:08:04,320
Speaker 1: in kiss of Him? All right, Becca, loving him is

1423
01:08:04,360 --> 01:08:06,600
Speaker 1: like driving a new Maserati down a dead end Street.

1424
01:08:07,480 --> 01:08:14,280
Speaker 1: Very good. I'm falling through the door, flying across the floor.

1425
01:08:16,080 --> 01:08:20,640
Speaker 6: Oh that's uh so yesterday.

1426
01:08:21,680 --> 01:08:27,120
Speaker 1: Oh I'm sorry when I touched There are no there

1427
01:08:27,120 --> 01:08:29,040
Speaker 1: are no steals. But Becca, if you want to play it,

1428
01:08:29,080 --> 01:08:29,960
Speaker 1: you can, you can?

1429
01:08:36,560 --> 01:08:40,760
Speaker 6: I wait, why not?

1430
01:08:42,160 --> 01:08:43,240
Speaker 3: Nope?

1431
01:08:44,880 --> 01:08:46,040
Speaker 1: What is anywhere but here?

1432
01:08:48,000 --> 01:08:50,360
Speaker 3: I knew this song. I just kind of get to

1433
01:08:50,400 --> 01:08:50,720
Speaker 3: the core.

1434
01:08:51,080 --> 01:08:54,800
Speaker 1: One round, Becca, one, Tanya zero Eastern zero Tanya. You

1435
01:08:54,880 --> 01:08:57,519
Speaker 1: got me sipping on something I can't compare to nothing

1436
01:08:57,560 --> 01:08:58,240
Speaker 1: I've ever known.

1437
01:09:00,840 --> 01:09:02,559
Speaker 4: Oh do you know this?

1438
01:09:03,320 --> 01:09:03,519
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1439
01:09:03,520 --> 01:09:05,799
Speaker 4: I actually could. I actually can picture it. You got.

1440
01:09:10,120 --> 01:09:11,360
Speaker 3: Oh, I think I know, I think I know.

1441
01:09:11,600 --> 01:09:12,439
Speaker 4: He's sing a little more.

1442
01:09:12,960 --> 01:09:13,120
Speaker 2: I know.

1443
01:09:13,320 --> 01:09:15,000
Speaker 1: That's all I got for you. You got me sipping

1444
01:09:15,080 --> 01:09:17,559
Speaker 1: on something I can't compare to nothing I've ever known.

1445
01:09:18,560 --> 01:09:21,080
Speaker 3: Come on, you know it?

1446
01:09:21,200 --> 01:09:21,720
Speaker 4: Good to you.

1447
01:09:22,080 --> 01:09:24,080
Speaker 1: That's the heart wants what it wants, which I believe

1448
01:09:24,080 --> 01:09:28,120
Speaker 1: you've listened to on repeat about fifty million. It came out.

1449
01:09:28,240 --> 01:09:30,800
Speaker 2: I was actually gonna I was gonna guess. Can't keep

1450
01:09:30,840 --> 01:09:33,400
Speaker 2: my hands on myself, so I would have gotten you.

1451
01:09:33,400 --> 01:09:37,160
Speaker 1: Start warming up your voice. Becca, I'm spilling wine in

1452
01:09:37,240 --> 01:09:40,320
Speaker 1: the bathtob you kissed my face and we're both drunk.

1453
01:09:41,200 --> 01:09:45,680
Speaker 3: Dress oh, I would not guess that nothing about.

1454
01:09:45,400 --> 01:09:49,360
Speaker 1: Us, Easton. Do you see a single tear? It isn't

1455
01:09:49,360 --> 01:09:50,200
Speaker 1: going to happen here.

1456
01:09:55,040 --> 01:09:56,519
Speaker 3: Do you see.

1457
01:09:56,360 --> 01:09:59,160
Speaker 1: A single tear? It isn't gonna happen here.

1458
01:10:01,080 --> 01:10:01,639
Speaker 6: Come clean.

1459
01:10:02,680 --> 01:10:08,800
Speaker 1: So yesterday, yesterday's seeing. I think it's going to be

1460
01:10:08,840 --> 01:10:12,639
Speaker 1: a battle between haves to sing, because they're both doing

1461
01:10:12,840 --> 01:10:17,040
Speaker 1: very poorly. Tanya, in your eyes, there's a heavy blue,

1462
01:10:17,360 --> 01:10:23,120
Speaker 1: one to love and one to lose, a.

1463
01:10:23,200 --> 01:10:37,000
Speaker 4: Heavy and oh and your there's a heavy blue, one

1464
01:10:37,080 --> 01:10:40,519
Speaker 4: too light, and one to you. It's a song she

1465
01:10:40,600 --> 01:10:48,040
Speaker 4: did with come On, I get to you, I get

1466
01:10:48,200 --> 01:10:54,120
Speaker 4: to you. I've been wrong to get to you, to

1467
01:10:54,320 --> 01:10:56,320
Speaker 4: get to you, I want to get to what's that

1468
01:10:56,400 --> 01:11:02,080
Speaker 4: song called? This is embarrassing?

1469
01:11:02,200 --> 01:11:04,639
Speaker 1: So that's so so? Becca said that, right, Kanda doesn't

1470
01:11:04,680 --> 01:11:09,080
Speaker 1: get that. Yeah, Becca, I was riding Shotgun with my

1471
01:11:09,200 --> 01:11:13,599
Speaker 1: hair undone in the front seat of his car. That's right,

1472
01:11:13,800 --> 01:11:15,559
Speaker 1: very good d.

1473
01:11:16,320 --> 01:11:19,920
Speaker 3: I was writing shot Man, this is this quiz was

1474
01:11:20,040 --> 01:11:21,840
Speaker 3: made and swim.

1475
01:11:22,840 --> 01:11:24,560
Speaker 4: I think if we were if we just had the

1476
01:11:24,760 --> 01:11:27,240
Speaker 4: like you played the drop versus exactly.

1477
01:11:27,400 --> 01:11:32,360
Speaker 1: This is difficulty. Becca's having no problem with this game Easton,

1478
01:11:32,439 --> 01:11:38,480
Speaker 1: shedding every color, trying to find a pigment of truth, shedding.

1479
01:11:38,120 --> 01:11:40,320
Speaker 6: Every color, trying to find a pigment of truth.

1480
01:11:42,920 --> 01:11:43,720
Speaker 3: Oh I know this one.

1481
01:11:44,600 --> 01:11:46,960
Speaker 1: Becca knows everyone else's and that.

1482
01:11:53,479 --> 01:11:54,080
Speaker 6: Where did I go?

1483
01:11:54,240 --> 01:12:04,120
Speaker 4: Right? No Becca is coming Jesus, this is actually insane, all.

1484
01:12:04,080 --> 01:12:06,680
Speaker 1: Right, Tanya, tu more. No one love you like I

1485
01:12:06,800 --> 01:12:09,519
Speaker 1: love you. Never cheat, never lie, never put no one

1486
01:12:09,560 --> 01:12:11,400
Speaker 1: above you. I gave you space and time.

1487
01:12:15,120 --> 01:12:19,400
Speaker 4: All right, hold on, save more lyrics.

1488
01:12:19,520 --> 01:12:21,920
Speaker 1: No one love you like I love you, Never cheat,

1489
01:12:22,040 --> 01:12:22,479
Speaker 1: never lies.

1490
01:12:22,600 --> 01:12:24,000
Speaker 4: And no one love you like I love you.

1491
01:12:25,600 --> 01:12:27,880
Speaker 1: Never put no one above you. I gave you space

1492
01:12:27,960 --> 01:12:28,320
Speaker 1: and time.

1493
01:12:29,840 --> 01:12:31,960
Speaker 4: Never put no one above you. I gave you space

1494
01:12:32,080 --> 01:12:32,559
Speaker 4: and time.

1495
01:12:34,720 --> 01:12:39,280
Speaker 1: Oh, No one love you like I love you. Never cheat,

1496
01:12:39,400 --> 01:12:42,439
Speaker 1: never lie, never put no one above you. I gave

1497
01:12:42,479 --> 01:12:50,439
Speaker 1: you space and time. Oh you know feel me, Becca?

1498
01:12:51,720 --> 01:12:53,760
Speaker 1: I want you to get all five of these. New

1499
01:12:53,840 --> 01:12:56,240
Speaker 1: to town with a made up name in the Angel City,

1500
01:12:56,439 --> 01:13:03,640
Speaker 1: chasing fortune and fame, got me new to town with

1501
01:13:03,720 --> 01:13:06,400
Speaker 1: a made up name in the Angel City, chasing fortune

1502
01:13:06,439 --> 01:13:06,760
Speaker 1: and fame.

1503
01:13:10,680 --> 01:13:13,080
Speaker 2: Gosh, I'm so frustrated because there's a song that's on

1504
01:13:13,120 --> 01:13:14,360
Speaker 2: the tip of my tongue and I don't know if

1505
01:13:14,360 --> 01:13:16,080
Speaker 2: it's the right one, But I can't think of any

1506
01:13:16,160 --> 01:13:17,280
Speaker 2: what is it lucky one.

1507
01:13:19,640 --> 01:13:21,800
Speaker 3: At least favored that. I would not have guessed that

1508
01:13:22,160 --> 01:13:23,280
Speaker 3: devastating Easton.

1509
01:13:23,320 --> 01:13:25,120
Speaker 1: Come on, you gotta get one here. Don't have to

1510
01:13:25,200 --> 01:13:27,479
Speaker 1: be a genius to figure out what's between us.

1511
01:13:27,720 --> 01:13:29,800
Speaker 6: Oh my god, that's the math.

1512
01:13:30,960 --> 01:13:36,880
Speaker 1: That is the math. Very good, Tanya, this is your

1513
01:13:36,960 --> 01:13:39,439
Speaker 1: last question. You needed to stay in the game. Take

1514
01:13:39,479 --> 01:13:41,040
Speaker 1: it or leave it, baby, take it or leave it.

1515
01:13:41,240 --> 01:13:42,880
Speaker 1: But I know you won't leave it because I know

1516
01:13:42,960 --> 01:13:46,320
Speaker 1: that you need it, Fetish.

1517
01:13:49,600 --> 01:13:52,519
Speaker 3: I was so confident about that, at least so confident.

1518
01:13:52,640 --> 01:13:55,320
Speaker 1: I mean, the game's over. Becca won, Tanya lost. I

1519
01:13:55,360 --> 01:13:57,840
Speaker 1: think we can all right one more for Becca. Don't

1520
01:13:57,880 --> 01:14:00,639
Speaker 1: know if snow White's house is near or far away?

1521
01:14:05,760 --> 01:14:09,479
Speaker 1: Good and Eastern. Finally, you can get two. You can

1522
01:14:09,560 --> 01:14:10,960
Speaker 1: get on the board here with number two if you

1523
01:14:10,960 --> 01:14:13,560
Speaker 1: can get this one. Blue skies are above me. My

1524
01:14:13,760 --> 01:14:15,280
Speaker 1: blonde hair is everywhere.

1525
01:14:17,080 --> 01:14:25,840
Speaker 6: Blue guys above me. My blonde hair is everywhere. Sweet sixteen.

1526
01:14:26,439 --> 01:14:27,920
Speaker 1: Sweet sixteen is correct.

1527
01:14:28,160 --> 01:14:28,639
Speaker 3: Very good.

1528
01:14:29,280 --> 01:14:34,360
Speaker 1: Final score Becca four Eastern two, Tanya zero.

1529
01:14:35,000 --> 01:14:38,040
Speaker 3: So Tanya really disappointed in myself that I wasn't five.

1530
01:14:38,439 --> 01:14:43,360
Speaker 4: I'm actually really disappointed in myself that, like Atrocy, Selena

1531
01:14:45,520 --> 01:14:47,200
Speaker 4: and I literally I was just telling her how much

1532
01:14:47,200 --> 01:14:49,479
Speaker 4: I love her new song, I love Past Life.

1533
01:14:49,880 --> 01:14:51,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, but a couple of years from I'll give you

1534
01:14:51,280 --> 01:14:53,040
Speaker 1: a lyricrom past Life and your eyes will glaze.

1535
01:14:53,040 --> 01:14:55,000
Speaker 3: It'll just be out out of my brain out all right.

1536
01:14:55,080 --> 01:14:57,160
Speaker 3: So here's lyrics with the melody.

1537
01:14:57,200 --> 01:14:58,800
Speaker 1: What are you going to sing for us? Tanya? What's

1538
01:14:58,840 --> 01:15:01,160
Speaker 1: your what's Selena Gomes? Do you choose the thing for us?

1539
01:15:01,520 --> 01:15:01,640
Speaker 3: Oh?

1540
01:15:01,720 --> 01:15:02,519
Speaker 4: So I pick a S.

1541
01:15:04,200 --> 01:15:07,120
Speaker 1: And then stick your headphones into your phone so only

1542
01:15:07,200 --> 01:15:11,240
Speaker 1: you can hear it, And then you guys have to

1543
01:15:11,320 --> 01:15:12,519
Speaker 1: get No, we're just gonna enjoy it.

1544
01:15:13,720 --> 01:15:16,479
Speaker 4: Oh okay, I'm gonna have to get headphones hand.

1545
01:15:19,800 --> 01:15:21,439
Speaker 6: I feel like this isn't a punishment for her.

1546
01:15:23,120 --> 01:15:27,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is like her dream. That's what she likes

1547
01:15:27,280 --> 01:15:27,479
Speaker 3: to do.

1548
01:15:28,080 --> 01:15:30,599
Speaker 4: Do we have any requests, any Selena requests?

1549
01:15:31,720 --> 01:15:35,479
Speaker 2: Something that really challenges your vocal range? Okay, it's already

1550
01:15:35,600 --> 01:15:36,559
Speaker 2: slightly limited.

1551
01:15:36,960 --> 01:15:38,560
Speaker 4: Okay, excuse me.

1552
01:15:41,600 --> 01:15:43,400
Speaker 1: I think something we know though, would be nice.

1553
01:15:43,560 --> 01:15:44,720
Speaker 4: You know, I can't hear you guys.

1554
01:15:45,040 --> 01:15:46,920
Speaker 1: Something that was a hit on the radio.

1555
01:15:47,880 --> 01:15:50,240
Speaker 4: Okay, something that was a hit Okay, okay, okay, I

1556
01:15:50,320 --> 01:15:50,720
Speaker 4: could do that.

1557
01:15:52,439 --> 01:15:57,479
Speaker 3: She's bobbing her head she's moving to the beat, feeling

1558
01:15:57,560 --> 01:16:01,320
Speaker 3: the melody. Are you gonna have to read the lyrics

1559
01:16:01,400 --> 01:16:03,040
Speaker 3: or do you know? Then? I know this one?

1560
01:16:04,600 --> 01:16:08,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, birst keep making love to each other and I'll try.

1561
01:16:09,160 --> 01:16:12,280
Speaker 4: I'll try and try, I'll try. Can't keep my hands

1562
01:16:12,360 --> 01:16:20,960
Speaker 4: to myself. Ah, my hands to myself, Ah, my hands

1563
01:16:21,040 --> 01:16:25,880
Speaker 4: to myself. Ah here comes my hands to myself. I

1564
01:16:25,960 --> 01:16:28,080
Speaker 4: mean I couldn't know. Why would I want to? Huh

1565
01:16:28,640 --> 01:16:33,759
Speaker 4: ah my hands to myself? I mean, what a bop?

1566
01:16:33,960 --> 01:16:36,240
Speaker 1: That one nice? Very nice. But you know what's funny.

1567
01:16:36,680 --> 01:16:40,040
Speaker 1: It's Tany that has had this conversation recently when we

1568
01:16:40,120 --> 01:16:42,280
Speaker 1: were talking about what draws you to a song, the

1569
01:16:42,360 --> 01:16:45,280
Speaker 1: melody or the lyrics, and I said, I'm a melody guy.

1570
01:16:45,360 --> 01:16:47,160
Speaker 1: I don't know what they're talking about. If they have

1571
01:16:47,240 --> 01:16:49,160
Speaker 1: the right hook and the right melody. I love it

1572
01:16:49,240 --> 01:16:52,040
Speaker 1: when Tony said, no, no, no, me all about the lyrics.

1573
01:16:52,080 --> 01:16:54,679
Speaker 1: All I care about is lyrics. Meanwhile, she knows zero lyrics.

1574
01:16:55,760 --> 01:16:58,960
Speaker 3: Wow, well she learned something about herself right there.

1575
01:16:59,479 --> 01:17:01,799
Speaker 1: She was singing along to that song with proper lyrics.

1576
01:17:03,240 --> 01:17:05,479
Speaker 4: That's true, that's well, that sounds not really what the lyrics.

1577
01:17:05,520 --> 01:17:05,720
Speaker 2: I mean?

1578
01:17:08,120 --> 01:17:09,760
Speaker 4: You love me? I could really get into.

1579
01:17:10,360 --> 01:17:14,880
Speaker 2: Some artists are more specific and are known for their lyrics,

1580
01:17:14,920 --> 01:17:19,280
Speaker 2: such as Taylor Swift correct, whereas certain people are more

1581
01:17:19,320 --> 01:17:21,960
Speaker 2: about like what melody is gonna like draw people to

1582
01:17:22,120 --> 01:17:24,080
Speaker 2: it for a fun time, and they're not so the

1583
01:17:24,200 --> 01:17:27,120
Speaker 2: lyrics or whatever, but they're not the main focus of

1584
01:17:27,200 --> 01:17:29,760
Speaker 2: the song. Whereas Taylor Swift has some lyrics in her

1585
01:17:29,800 --> 01:17:30,479
Speaker 2: songs where.

1586
01:17:30,320 --> 01:17:35,200
Speaker 3: I'm like, wow, that is like how did you know that?

1587
01:17:35,280 --> 01:17:35,800
Speaker 4: In my brain?

1588
01:17:36,000 --> 01:17:36,200
Speaker 1: Yes?

1589
01:17:36,760 --> 01:17:39,160
Speaker 3: Like how she words things?

1590
01:17:39,360 --> 01:17:39,720
Speaker 4: Is she?

1591
01:17:40,320 --> 01:17:40,519
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1592
01:17:41,760 --> 01:17:42,680
Speaker 4: Like new romantics.

1593
01:17:43,600 --> 01:17:46,640
Speaker 2: I mean like Death by a Thousand Cuts. It has

1594
01:17:46,720 --> 01:17:49,519
Speaker 2: a happy melody, but the lyrics are so sad. It's

1595
01:17:49,520 --> 01:17:50,320
Speaker 2: a breakup song.

1596
01:17:51,120 --> 01:17:52,200
Speaker 3: Don't even get me started on this.

1597
01:17:52,479 --> 01:17:55,759
Speaker 1: How about one email before we go? Okay from Jojo

1598
01:17:55,960 --> 01:17:58,320
Speaker 1: because I think this is actually an easy one. My

1599
01:17:58,439 --> 01:18:00,280
Speaker 1: boyfriend and I have been dating promo with two years.

1600
01:18:00,280 --> 01:18:02,519
Speaker 1: I'm twenty sixties thirty one. He has two kids. I

1601
01:18:02,600 --> 01:18:05,280
Speaker 1: have no kids. Recently, he left his phone face up

1602
01:18:05,320 --> 01:18:07,479
Speaker 1: on a text message while he was sleeping. He was

1603
01:18:07,560 --> 01:18:10,360
Speaker 1: being flirty with a girl. My heart shattered. I thought

1604
01:18:10,400 --> 01:18:12,200
Speaker 1: to myself, I'll give him the benefit of the doubt

1605
01:18:12,240 --> 01:18:14,280
Speaker 1: and let him explain himself. So I said, who's Cynthia.

1606
01:18:14,600 --> 01:18:17,120
Speaker 1: He got super defensive and walked out. We broke up.

1607
01:18:17,920 --> 01:18:20,960
Speaker 1: I take that as cheating. A couple weeks later, he apologized.

1608
01:18:21,000 --> 01:18:23,000
Speaker 1: We agreed to work it out. I asked for him

1609
01:18:23,000 --> 01:18:24,800
Speaker 1: to clean out his phone, give me his password, and

1610
01:18:24,840 --> 01:18:27,560
Speaker 1: share his location with me at all times. The controlling

1611
01:18:28,040 --> 01:18:31,120
Speaker 1: overtook me. I was constantly checking his location, questioning him.

1612
01:18:31,240 --> 01:18:33,040
Speaker 1: He told me he couldn't deal with it anymore, and

1613
01:18:33,160 --> 01:18:36,240
Speaker 1: he dumped me on my birthday. Then a couple of

1614
01:18:36,240 --> 01:18:39,160
Speaker 1: weeks later we started texting again. We got back together.

1615
01:18:39,520 --> 01:18:42,320
Speaker 1: The problem is he never apologized for dumping me on

1616
01:18:42,400 --> 01:18:45,320
Speaker 1: my birthday. He never celebrated me. He never got me

1617
01:18:45,400 --> 01:18:48,240
Speaker 1: a gift, he didn't buy me dinner, nothing. I've never

1618
01:18:48,400 --> 01:18:53,360
Speaker 1: received a Christmas, Valentine's Birthday gift or date from him.

1619
01:18:53,800 --> 01:18:55,519
Speaker 1: It makes me feel like he doesn't love me, or

1620
01:18:55,560 --> 01:18:57,599
Speaker 1: I'm just not enough for him. He's brought up being

1621
01:18:57,640 --> 01:18:59,599
Speaker 1: on a tight budget, but then I see him buy things,

1622
01:18:59,640 --> 01:19:01,360
Speaker 1: he goes out with his buddies, so I'm not sure

1623
01:19:01,360 --> 01:19:02,760
Speaker 1: where I stand. Please help?

1624
01:19:02,960 --> 01:19:03,519
Speaker 2: What do I do?

1625
01:19:05,600 --> 01:19:06,040
Speaker 3: Jojo?

1626
01:19:06,280 --> 01:19:06,519
Speaker 4: Come on?

1627
01:19:07,320 --> 01:19:07,960
Speaker 1: You know what to do?

1628
01:19:08,200 --> 01:19:10,920
Speaker 3: You know you know what to do? You know what

1629
01:19:11,120 --> 01:19:11,320
Speaker 3: to do?

1630
01:19:11,840 --> 01:19:14,600
Speaker 2: This is not your dude, you do not want to

1631
01:19:14,640 --> 01:19:16,519
Speaker 2: be in a relationship where you feel like you have

1632
01:19:16,640 --> 01:19:18,719
Speaker 2: to control the whole relation.

1633
01:19:18,800 --> 01:19:21,880
Speaker 3: I mean, that is not a relationship. That's a not

1634
01:19:21,960 --> 01:19:22,519
Speaker 3: a relationship.

1635
01:19:22,600 --> 01:19:24,479
Speaker 1: Yours and hero gifts or dates.

1636
01:19:25,880 --> 01:19:26,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, come on.

1637
01:19:26,720 --> 01:19:31,040
Speaker 2: You deserve to go on a romantic date with intention

1638
01:19:31,400 --> 01:19:34,160
Speaker 2: and plan behind it. You deserve to have someone bring

1639
01:19:34,240 --> 01:19:36,920
Speaker 2: you flowers and get you gifts. Doesn't have to be

1640
01:19:37,040 --> 01:19:38,679
Speaker 2: about money, It's about thought.

1641
01:19:38,640 --> 01:19:42,040
Speaker 4: Right, totally about that. I'm going to suggest something proactive

1642
01:19:42,080 --> 01:19:45,120
Speaker 4: for you, Jojo. I think you should read the book

1643
01:19:45,160 --> 01:19:46,720
Speaker 4: Codependent No More that.

1644
01:19:46,800 --> 01:19:50,120
Speaker 3: You're calling to one and if going for we moved

1645
01:19:50,120 --> 01:19:50,519
Speaker 3: on from.

1646
01:19:50,439 --> 01:19:52,720
Speaker 4: Calling in the one and now we're on Codependent No More,

1647
01:19:52,960 --> 01:19:55,040
Speaker 4: No No No. But like, honestly though, because I think

1648
01:19:55,120 --> 01:19:58,200
Speaker 4: that sometimes you can just attach yourself to this idea

1649
01:19:58,240 --> 01:20:00,240
Speaker 4: and you make excuses for people and things like that,

1650
01:20:01,680 --> 01:20:04,639
Speaker 4: and like, you can't control this Cynthia chick that's texting him.

1651
01:20:04,680 --> 01:20:07,960
Speaker 4: But what you can control is like your willingness.

1652
01:20:07,560 --> 01:20:12,080
Speaker 2: To tolerate that, you know, and like no, agreed, Yeah,

1653
01:20:12,120 --> 01:20:14,479
Speaker 2: And it seems like you can't just get away from him,

1654
01:20:14,560 --> 01:20:16,200
Speaker 2: so it might come to the point of you like

1655
01:20:16,320 --> 01:20:20,800
Speaker 2: blocking his number so that you don't keep restarting this

1656
01:20:21,120 --> 01:20:24,160
Speaker 2: unhealthy pattern of being in a relationship with someone who

1657
01:20:24,240 --> 01:20:26,160
Speaker 2: really does not treat you how you should be treated

1658
01:20:26,240 --> 01:20:29,840
Speaker 2: and normally, Like, if someone really makes an effort to

1659
01:20:29,920 --> 01:20:34,320
Speaker 2: be better and to change and to show up for someone,

1660
01:20:34,400 --> 01:20:38,439
Speaker 2: I always am like, you know, I guess it's under your.

1661
01:20:40,320 --> 01:20:42,560
Speaker 3: Control to give them a chance if you feel that.

1662
01:20:42,760 --> 01:20:44,879
Speaker 3: But if he's not doing.

1663
01:20:44,760 --> 01:20:46,679
Speaker 4: That, Yeah, And also you have to pay attention because

1664
01:20:46,680 --> 01:20:49,280
Speaker 4: I think actions speak louder than words. I think a

1665
01:20:49,320 --> 01:20:52,080
Speaker 4: lot of people can say all the right things, but

1666
01:20:52,200 --> 01:20:54,200
Speaker 4: when it comes to their actions, that's what you really

1667
01:20:54,280 --> 01:20:56,679
Speaker 4: need to hone in on. And like, are they showing

1668
01:20:56,760 --> 01:21:00,960
Speaker 4: you what they feel or just telling you? And I

1669
01:21:01,000 --> 01:21:02,439
Speaker 4: feel like he's showing you he doesn't care.

1670
01:21:02,680 --> 01:21:08,360
Speaker 2: Yea, And you deserve so much more at the very least,

1671
01:21:08,400 --> 01:21:11,960
Speaker 2: you deserve someone who treats you with respect and takes

1672
01:21:12,000 --> 01:21:15,160
Speaker 2: you on a date and multiple dates, but you start

1673
01:21:15,200 --> 01:21:15,760
Speaker 2: with the first one.

1674
01:21:15,880 --> 01:21:17,639
Speaker 4: Yeah, you seem like dates don't have to cost money.

1675
01:21:17,840 --> 01:21:19,920
Speaker 1: No, you seem focused on that getting dumped on your

1676
01:21:19,920 --> 01:21:21,720
Speaker 1: birthday in video's you an apology? And we've used this

1677
01:21:21,800 --> 01:21:23,679
Speaker 1: quote before and it's a great one. But life becomes

1678
01:21:23,720 --> 01:21:26,960
Speaker 1: easier when you learn to accept the apology you never got.

1679
01:21:27,320 --> 01:21:29,320
Speaker 1: But on top of that, so so forget about that,

1680
01:21:29,479 --> 01:21:31,400
Speaker 1: move on from that. There's still a laundry list of

1681
01:21:31,439 --> 01:21:33,400
Speaker 1: problems here that you got to move on from. You

1682
01:21:33,479 --> 01:21:34,040
Speaker 1: deserve better.

1683
01:21:35,680 --> 01:21:39,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm sorry you're in that position. It's hard.

1684
01:21:39,280 --> 01:21:41,560
Speaker 2: It's so easy from the outside to be like, come on,

1685
01:21:41,840 --> 01:21:44,080
Speaker 2: but I know it's hard when you're in it. But

1686
01:21:44,240 --> 01:21:47,920
Speaker 2: you deserve much better than what you're.

1687
01:21:47,840 --> 01:21:50,040
Speaker 1: It's like the emailer last week, Tanya, you weren't here,

1688
01:21:50,080 --> 01:21:53,040
Speaker 1: but the woman who realized this man is not a

1689
01:21:53,160 --> 01:21:57,000
Speaker 1: part of my perfect, beautiful life. And she had that

1690
01:21:57,120 --> 01:22:00,799
Speaker 1: revelation and she knew it, and wait.

1691
01:22:00,800 --> 01:22:03,680
Speaker 4: Tell me about her what happened? She should I go

1692
01:22:03,760 --> 01:22:04,320
Speaker 4: back and listen to.

1693
01:22:04,479 --> 01:22:07,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I don't remember much. Yeah, thanks a lot,

1694
01:22:08,560 --> 01:22:13,040
Speaker 1: and I hard on that show. It was just how

1695
01:22:13,080 --> 01:22:15,160
Speaker 1: do I tell him? Or they had a son together,

1696
01:22:15,680 --> 01:22:17,280
Speaker 1: and they've gone back and forth a few times. She

1697
01:22:17,400 --> 01:22:20,519
Speaker 1: realized it is not for her. This relationship is not happening.

1698
01:22:20,600 --> 01:22:22,280
Speaker 1: She does not want to spend her life with this man.

1699
01:22:22,600 --> 01:22:24,200
Speaker 1: But she also doesn't want to do that to her

1700
01:22:24,280 --> 01:22:27,920
Speaker 1: son to be raised by a single mom. And she

1701
01:22:28,040 --> 01:22:30,599
Speaker 1: doesn't and she doesn't know how to tell him because

1702
01:22:30,600 --> 01:22:32,960
Speaker 1: he cheated before, so we were like, he cheated, tell him,

1703
01:22:33,000 --> 01:22:35,160
Speaker 1: it's fine, he'll get it. It's okay, don't worry about it.

1704
01:22:35,400 --> 01:22:38,280
Speaker 1: The son loves you no matter what. But the way

1705
01:22:38,360 --> 01:22:40,400
Speaker 1: she phrased it was he is not a part of

1706
01:22:40,439 --> 01:22:42,600
Speaker 1: my perfect, beautiful life. And I thought that was fantastic.

1707
01:22:42,680 --> 01:22:44,559
Speaker 1: That is a great revelation to have and it's time

1708
01:22:44,600 --> 01:22:45,360
Speaker 1: for Cynthia to have it.

1709
01:22:46,600 --> 01:22:54,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, she like totally acknowledged. No, that's right, we don't

1710
01:22:54,000 --> 01:22:54,719
Speaker 3: care about Cynthia.

1711
01:22:57,240 --> 01:22:58,640
Speaker 4: It's a great way of putting it.

1712
01:22:59,439 --> 01:22:59,639
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1713
01:22:59,720 --> 01:23:03,000
Speaker 2: She It was cool because she like wrote in asking

1714
01:23:03,080 --> 01:23:04,840
Speaker 2: for help of how to handle it. But she had

1715
01:23:04,880 --> 01:23:07,839
Speaker 2: this like epiphany of like this guy, isn't.

1716
01:23:07,640 --> 01:23:08,639
Speaker 4: It for me? Yeah?

1717
01:23:08,640 --> 01:23:15,160
Speaker 1: You know, epiphanies are the greatest. Oh please great, Like

1718
01:23:15,240 --> 01:23:17,200
Speaker 1: you guys had an epiphany that this show was being

1719
01:23:17,240 --> 01:23:19,880
Speaker 1: a little sonsy lately and now it's back baby.

1720
01:23:21,320 --> 01:23:22,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, baby.

1721
01:23:22,120 --> 01:23:25,200
Speaker 4: Sometimes you need an epiphany to get on the other

1722
01:23:25,320 --> 01:23:26,680
Speaker 4: side of a tiffany.

1723
01:23:30,680 --> 01:23:35,800
Speaker 3: And a piff to fix the tiff and fix the tiff, or.

1724
01:23:35,760 --> 01:23:37,360
Speaker 4: A tiff to have the epiff.

1725
01:23:38,000 --> 01:23:40,040
Speaker 3: Ooh, sometimes you need a tiff to have the epif.

1726
01:23:40,400 --> 01:23:40,599
Speaker 4: Wow.

1727
01:23:41,000 --> 01:23:41,559
Speaker 3: Good stuff.

1728
01:23:42,360 --> 01:23:44,679
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna get anything like that outside of scrubbing

1729
01:23:44,760 --> 01:23:47,439
Speaker 4: in those life lessons.

1730
01:23:47,640 --> 01:23:50,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're only can they only can be found in

1731
01:23:50,439 --> 01:23:51,800
Speaker 2: one place, in one place only.

1732
01:23:52,000 --> 01:23:52,400
Speaker 4: That's right.

1733
01:23:53,760 --> 01:23:57,400
Speaker 2: Well, thank you everyone for listening. I hope that you

1734
01:23:57,600 --> 01:24:01,160
Speaker 2: are all safe and healthy and happy and.

1735
01:24:04,840 --> 01:24:05,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, we love you.

1736
01:24:06,479 --> 01:24:07,760
Speaker 4: Should we do mannel next week?

1737
01:24:08,120 --> 01:24:12,519
Speaker 3: I'm totally down done.

1738
01:24:12,560 --> 01:24:15,800
Speaker 2: But guess next week we do. I don't know, double check,

1739
01:24:15,840 --> 01:24:17,680
Speaker 2: watch double check. But we're gonna do a mantel soon

1740
01:24:17,760 --> 01:24:19,800
Speaker 2: with Market Easton because we're gonna give the people what

1741
01:24:19,840 --> 01:24:21,160
Speaker 2: they want, what the people.

1742
01:24:21,000 --> 01:24:25,880
Speaker 3: Want, all right, See you next week, okayn't wait.

1743
01:24:26,600 --> 01:24:26,880
Speaker 4: Bye,