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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beka Tilly and Tanya Brad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we're scrubbing in. How's everyone doing?

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Speaker 3: Happy post Easter?

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Speaker 2: Happy post Easter Monday? Why is your face like that?

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Speaker 3: Because I just can't believe Easter is over? Yeah, it

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Speaker 3: is just came and went.

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Speaker 2: You can celebrate Easter all year long if you want.

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Speaker 1: Really, I know, I contemplated making baskets for my neighbors

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Speaker 1: because I love a holiday with my neighbors and like

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Speaker 1: making cute little trinkets to like leave at their door.

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Speaker 1: And I was just like, no one's gonna want that

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Speaker 1: right now, you know, Like, no one's gonna want me

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Speaker 1: to leave them anything in front of their door.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no one's gonna want homemade gifts right now that

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Speaker 2: you've touched and breathed on.

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Speaker 1: I just left some toilet paper to the two friends

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Speaker 1: I have in this building. And that's that as crafty

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Speaker 1: as I got this Easter.

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Speaker 2: Well, that's about as I mean, that's about as big

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Speaker 2: of a gift as you can give right now. Honestly, Mark,

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Speaker 2: how was your Easter?

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Speaker 4: It was fine? You know, I don't have the issue

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Speaker 4: that Tanya has to Easter was a kind of a

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Speaker 4: fun Easter basket search. Growing up, it was not a

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Speaker 4: major holiday, so we did a My wife's grandmother, who

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Speaker 4: is ninety one, I think, is having a bit of

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Speaker 4: a hard time and so we facetimed her and we

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Speaker 4: had my daughter's perform for her on piano and violin,

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Speaker 4: and that really seemed to brighten her day. So that

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Speaker 4: was the high point for sure. But we also hit

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Speaker 4: Easter baskets, even though my oldest kind of like, seriously,

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Speaker 4: are we still hitting Easter baskets? So we did some

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Speaker 4: of the traditional stuff, but it was great. It was

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Speaker 4: very nice. Thank you for asking.

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Speaker 2: Oh that makes me emotional thinking about her grandma and

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Speaker 2: them playing for her. That was probably the best moment

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Speaker 2: of her like life.

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Speaker 4: She said, it made her day.

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Speaker 2: She did.

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Speaker 4: Amy has two grandparents grandmothers still alive and one wow. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: Granny Lois is ninety one and she's got a real

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Speaker 4: spark at energy tour. She's a lot of fun, So

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Speaker 4: that was great to kind of bring that to her.

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Speaker 4: Granny Rosie's eighty eight and she's in an assisted living facility.

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Speaker 4: And have a place in your heart for those that

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Speaker 4: are in those facilities right now because they are not

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Speaker 4: allowed to leave their rooms, no one is allowed to

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Speaker 4: visit them. I mean, it's very similar to being in prison.

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Speaker 4: It seems like, so we call Granny Rosie, but her

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Speaker 4: spark seems to have been doused. So I don't know

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Speaker 4: what's going to happen there. But it's sad. It's sad

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Speaker 4: for a lot of people.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really really sad. Yeah. I felt like Easter

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Speaker 2: was you know, it was just like different yesterday. But

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Speaker 2: I'm glad that you had more of a traditional Easter.

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Speaker 2: I think like having kids and having those traditions with

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Speaker 2: the eggs and stuff probably made like so much more normal.

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Speaker 2: And I noticed like a lot on my Instagram feeds

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Speaker 2: that the people that I followed that have families and

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Speaker 2: young kids, they were like, it was such a great

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Speaker 2: Easter because it was kind of what aside from like

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Speaker 2: similar to what they would be doing in a normal,

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Speaker 2: you know situation. You know.

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Speaker 1: I realized that, like I go when I go to church,

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Speaker 1: like my church does like the Easter Bunny and the

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Speaker 1: hunts and like they have like a you know, like

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Speaker 1: a thing to take photos with, and so like for me,

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Speaker 1: since I am son's children and sons like that, that

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Speaker 1: that my church is what provides that for me, do

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean? So it was like really

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Speaker 1: really weird. But my pastor's message was so good because

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Speaker 1: it was literally like exactly what I needed to hear yesterday.

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Speaker 1: So that really turned things around for me.

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Speaker 2: Good. I'm glad because I think that was Friy was

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Speaker 2: that Friday or Saturday? And you were pretty down on Saturday.

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Speaker 3: It's a real up and down these days.

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Speaker 2: It was one of the downs.

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Speaker 1: The roller coaster was high on Friday and then it

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Speaker 1: like I can't quite put my finger on it, you

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Speaker 1: to these days where like I have these like gnarly

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Speaker 1: inhaling the fumes and like I think I'm using cleaning

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe you could like try to not do that.

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Speaker 2: I need to, I think it for some reason, every

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Speaker 2: and it's a weird thing that keeps getting drought consistently.

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Speaker 2: Like I'm like this, it seems like there's correlation in

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Speaker 2: the cleaning and the down days. It seems like they

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Speaker 2: all are tied in together.

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Speaker 3: They tied it together, for sure.

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Speaker 2: So maybe like when you're you get that impulsive need

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Speaker 2: to clean, you could instead maybe go on a walk

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Speaker 2: or you know, just do something not cleaning related. I know,

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Speaker 2: but also you know if that makes I think if

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Speaker 2: it made you feel better, I'd be like, clean away.

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Speaker 2: But for some reason, I think it makes things worse

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Speaker 2: for you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's almost like a distraction, Like it distracts me

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Speaker 1: and then when I'm done cleaning, I'm like, oh no.

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Speaker 2: So it's more like the finish of the clean Yeah. Yeah, man,

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Speaker 2: I thought I.

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Speaker 1: Knew myself, and I don't think I know myself as

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Speaker 1: well as I thought I did.

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Speaker 2: Well, if there was ever a time to get to

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Speaker 2: know yourself, here it is.

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Speaker 3: Do you know what's really sad?

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Speaker 1: I'm getting a lot of messages from girls that are

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Speaker 1: saying that that their boyfriends have been breaking up with

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Speaker 1: them during this quarantine because they are doing like distance

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Speaker 1: and things like that, and like having to go through

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Speaker 1: that too on top of everything else that's going on,

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Speaker 1: and just like, how do you even like, I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I have no I'm like Son's advice

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Speaker 2: I know, it's so rough. It's I recently started doing

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Speaker 2: this five minute journal. Actually, I think a scrubber or

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Speaker 2: someone gave it to me a while ago, and I

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Speaker 2: honestly like, I think I put it in my cabinet

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Speaker 2: because I'm not really necessarily a journaler, but it's you know,

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Speaker 2: But it's really been interesting because it basically makes you

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Speaker 2: pick three great things that happen during the day, and

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Speaker 2: it makes you give affirmations for yourself, and then at

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Speaker 2: of interesting in this time because it's forcing me to

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Speaker 2: find positive things, even though it's kind of like a

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Speaker 2: great during the day. So if you're looking for something

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Speaker 2: and you're looking for positivity. I highly recommend the Five

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Speaker 2: Minutes Journal because it's it's very quick. You don't have

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Speaker 2: to like sit in journal all your thoughts and feelings.

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Speaker 2: It's just like, how are positive thinking.

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Speaker 1: I know I'm choosing instead of instead of choosing anxiety

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Speaker 1: and choosing worships. So whenever I have a minute of

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Speaker 1: like when I'm starting to feel really anxious, I just

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Speaker 1: listened to worship music and that's been helping me a lot.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm. We had an anxious time trying to do

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Speaker 2: the group watch party on Netflix. By the way, speaking

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that looked like it looked complicated.

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Speaker 3: It was complicated.

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Speaker 2: The weird thing is that it wasn't. It really wasn't

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Speaker 2: complicated because once we found the Netflix party that I

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Speaker 2: just like the Scrubbers do on a regular basis, they crashed.

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Speaker 2: I think they crashed the Netflix party. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think we had too many people in the party.

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Speaker 2: And so I was like impressed. But then we were

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Speaker 2: I'm good and it was like, well, we're not. So

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Speaker 2: it was chaos, but weirdly it was really fun. It

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Speaker 2: was like funny and entertaining. And then we did a

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Speaker 2: big zoom with one hundred or ninety eight of our scrubbers.

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Speaker 2: It's Tany and I were a part, and I would

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Speaker 2: love to do that in some capacity where we can

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Speaker 2: maybe have more people. But it was really fun.

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Speaker 1: Once you got it down with the zoom for where

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Speaker 3: It was like chaos for like fifteen minutes.

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Speaker 1: And then beca figured out how to mute everybody, but

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Speaker 1: unmute one person at a time, so then we could

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Speaker 1: go through Mark. I feel like you would appreciate this

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Speaker 1: because each each time we pick somebody, I would say like, okay,

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Speaker 1: and then we would pick one of those people. Raise

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Speaker 1: would pick one of those people. Raise your hand if

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Speaker 1: you're quarantining by yourself. And so we would pick from

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Speaker 3: It was like super cute.

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Speaker 4: That was my thought was, how are they going to

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Speaker 4: deal with ninety eight people at the same time. But

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Speaker 4: that's a really cool way to do it. I'm sorry

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Speaker 4: I missed it. It was a chaotic time trying to

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Speaker 4: get dinner, and we always do a family movie night

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Speaker 4: but we didn't.

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Speaker 3: We could do it during the week.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and we'll we'll like be you know, more prepared.

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Speaker 2: It was like a panicked effort, but it ended up

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Speaker 2: being fun and working out. I just want to do

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Speaker 2: it to where we can include more people.

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Speaker 4: Did you watch the movie?

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Speaker 3: Nope?

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Speaker 2: No, I mean well, well, actually some people from the

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Speaker 2: group chat. I think in the Netflix party. They found

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Speaker 2: each other and they did a Netflix party together, so

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Speaker 2: there were small like Netflix parties happening around us.

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Speaker 4: Nice.

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Speaker 2: I mean, Easton's never been more a part of scrubbing

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Speaker 2: in than he is today. He had a glove and

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Speaker 2: a masculine.

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Speaker 5: Wow, that's right, look at me, I'm the only one.

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Speaker 2: It sounds pretty It sounds pretty clear. With the mask on.

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Speaker 2: I always wonder how they do those scenes when they're

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Speaker 2: in surgery on Grades Anatomy with the mask on, but

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Speaker 2: I guess the sound quality is pretty nice.

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Speaker 5: I always like That's what I like to think is

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Speaker 5: that they have a little like a love of mic

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Speaker 5: like in the mask. But I just project really well too.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, really, honestly, I do want to talk about the

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Speaker 2: Grades Anatomy to me. Three. We have a very special

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Speaker 2: guest coming up, and I just want you y'all to

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Speaker 2: know I have been thinking about what I would say,

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Speaker 2: what I would say to him all all, like ever

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Speaker 2: I literally, here's the thing I know that we you

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Speaker 7: I mean, I'm you know, I'm fully aware of like

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Speaker 2: I was just going to say, like having them as

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Speaker 3: That is hilarious.

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Speaker 7: Mean obviously you know this song talks about all of

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Speaker 7: sunshine making money. It was amazing. And then it was over.

442
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Speaker 6: Before we knew it, but it was. It was a

443
00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:32,440
Speaker 6: wild time.

444
00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:35,480
Speaker 2: I mean that honestly makes me feel better that it

445
00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:38,119
Speaker 2: was more, not that it was. I mean, I don't know.

446
00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:39,600
Speaker 2: It kind of makes me mad that it was a

447
00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:42,119
Speaker 2: political thing. If it was such a huge if you

448
00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:45,480
Speaker 2: had huge ratings from the fans, that's almost more frustrating

449
00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:49,600
Speaker 2: because those shows, like the ones that people like, those

450
00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:52,639
Speaker 2: shows going for so many seasons.

451
00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:55,760
Speaker 7: I know, I know it was. It was definitely a

452
00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:58,439
Speaker 7: bummer for everyone involved. But when you look at when

453
00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:00,000
Speaker 7: you look at the cat like the people that came

454
00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:03,000
Speaker 7: off of that show, when you look at the cast

455
00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:05,960
Speaker 7: that was there and the amount of success everyone from

456
00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:09,400
Speaker 7: that show has garnered because of it, it's pretty It's

457
00:23:09,440 --> 00:23:09,920
Speaker 7: pretty cool.

458
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:11,679
Speaker 6: Ryan Quanton was on that show.

459
00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 7: I mean, obviously Laurie at the time was a big

460
00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 7: you know, star from Full House. Zac Efron was on

461
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:22,800
Speaker 7: the show, came out of there with successful careers afterwards.

462
00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:28,800
Speaker 2: So well, when you we also just I just realized

463
00:23:28,840 --> 00:23:33,439
Speaker 2: that you wrote Bleeding Love. Yeah, and we were sitting

464
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:36,760
Speaker 2: here talking about it before we brought you in, and Easton,

465
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:39,760
Speaker 2: our producer goes, that was a big one to give up.

466
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Speaker 6: Yeah, but I don't look at it as like giving

467
00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:44,920
Speaker 6: it up.

468
00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 7: I mean, Leona sang it, yes, and she's sang with

469
00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:52,760
Speaker 7: a powerhouse vocal that I you know, I would never

470
00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:57,359
Speaker 7: have been able to sing it that way. But it

471
00:23:57,400 --> 00:23:59,760
Speaker 7: wasn't really about giving it up as much as it

472
00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 7: was more about, you know, validating myself as a songwriter.

473
00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:07,359
Speaker 7: I think at that point I realized that like, to

474
00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:11,359
Speaker 7: be taken even more seriously, you have to be you

475
00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 7: have to be recognized for actually creating the music yourself.

476
00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:17,960
Speaker 6: That song single handedly did that for me.

477
00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:20,560
Speaker 7: I think at the time, Leavin was number one on

478
00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:24,000
Speaker 7: the charts, and the song that came passed and took

479
00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:28,280
Speaker 7: the number one record away ironically was Bleeding Love and

480
00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 7: surpassed it and then hung on number one on the

481
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:34,320
Speaker 7: charts for many weeks. But it was it was almost

482
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:38,119
Speaker 7: cooler because it was like, oh wow, he's writing for

483
00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:41,440
Speaker 7: other artists. It one song of the Year at the

484
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:44,240
Speaker 7: ASKAP Awards, which is a big prestigious like writing award,

485
00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:46,880
Speaker 7: and all of a sudden, I was being viewed by

486
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:50,240
Speaker 7: my peers as somebody who could like do other things

487
00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:52,679
Speaker 7: than just sing behind the mic. So it was I

488
00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:55,520
Speaker 7: actually look more of like a like a new chapter

489
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 7: for me rather than giving it away. Although I will

490
00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:01,239
Speaker 7: say the record company he this not like when they

491
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:03,520
Speaker 7: first heard it. My record company was like, you can't

492
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 7: sing this, So they were never on board with the

493
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:10,280
Speaker 7: song to begin with. But ultimately like it would have

494
00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:12,639
Speaker 7: been on the Departure album, which was an album that

495
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:16,680
Speaker 7: was much more sort of urban R and B I SARTI.

496
00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:18,360
Speaker 6: I think it would have gone on that album anyway.

497
00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:20,680
Speaker 7: So it was just it was just really fortunate that

498
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:23,000
Speaker 7: Leona was looking for a song and Simon cow picked

499
00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:25,080
Speaker 7: up the phone and he was like, I heard this song.

500
00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:26,679
Speaker 6: I need her to sing it. So it was it

501
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 6: was a crazy that was a crazy story.

502
00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:30,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a great story.

503
00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:32,720
Speaker 1: I do think it do think it gives you like

504
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:34,919
Speaker 1: a lot of cred, Like when you like it's like

505
00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:36,600
Speaker 1: somebody like Julia Michaels, you know what I mean, Like

506
00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:39,159
Speaker 1: she's an artist herself, but she also creates and she

507
00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:42,280
Speaker 1: still continues to create these like smash after smash after

508
00:25:42,320 --> 00:25:44,600
Speaker 1: smash for all these different artists, you know, So it's

509
00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:47,680
Speaker 1: like she's not only you know, she's not only taken

510
00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 1: seriously as like an artist, but she's also taken super seriously,

511
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 1: like in the like writing community as just like a creator,

512
00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 1: you know.

513
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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean I think that's yeah, that's exactly it

514
00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:01,760
Speaker 7: is that it has as a it just has a

515
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:04,680
Speaker 7: little bit of a there's like a prestige to being

516
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:08,520
Speaker 7: a top songwriter that a lot of people don't have

517
00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:13,000
Speaker 7: the ability to say, particularly in the pop world. Pop

518
00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:15,320
Speaker 7: artists are singing songs, you know, that are written by

519
00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:18,480
Speaker 7: Max Martin or some of the biggest writers. So I

520
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:19,960
Speaker 7: take a lot of pride in the fact that I

521
00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:22,360
Speaker 7: write all of my own material, you know. It's it's

522
00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 7: a point of conversation that I think a lot of

523
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:26,919
Speaker 7: pop artists don't necessarily get to talk about.

524
00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:29,800
Speaker 2: Do you have Do you have a recording of you

525
00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:33,000
Speaker 2: singing Bleeding Love where people can listen anywhere?

526
00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:35,480
Speaker 7: I think there's one online actually, if you go on

527
00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 7: I think there's one floating around on YouTube. I think

528
00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:41,119
Speaker 7: there's like a demo version the original demo that I

529
00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 7: recorded for to pitch as like a pitch, you know,

530
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:50,640
Speaker 7: and it's just a basic, like super basic vocal and track. Yeah,

531
00:26:50,640 --> 00:26:53,200
Speaker 7: it's out there somewhere. I don't think there's a little

532
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 7: bit exists anywhere that I've done that everyone has not.

533
00:26:57,119 --> 00:27:00,359
Speaker 7: Everyone said nothing I've done that people have heard or

534
00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:02,119
Speaker 7: seen at this point, like it's all out there.

535
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:04,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's all the internet worked.

536
00:27:05,280 --> 00:27:07,960
Speaker 1: Are you writing new stuff now, like during this quarantine,

537
00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:09,879
Speaker 1: during this time, are you like creating more music?

538
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 6: Well, I just finished.

539
00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:14,560
Speaker 7: I just finished like a really pretty decent body of

540
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:17,240
Speaker 7: work that I'm hoping to put out later this year. Obviously,

541
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 7: just released a new single last Friday. I can't even

542
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:22,919
Speaker 7: remember what day it is to be.

543
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:26,160
Speaker 3: It's called Yours, so everybody can check it out.

544
00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, so good video.

545
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:31,920
Speaker 7: We just released a video, but it's Yeah, I haven't

546
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:33,920
Speaker 7: done a whole lot of songwriting, to be honest, I've

547
00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 7: been I've been writing most of twenty nineteen.

548
00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:38,520
Speaker 6: I'm kind of out of ideas. I'm kind of done

549
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:39,399
Speaker 6: writing at the moment.

550
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 7: However, my fiance and I we've been doing a lot

551
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 7: of since we've been cooped up in the house. We've

552
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:48,840
Speaker 7: been doing a lot of these quarantined couple videos where

553
00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:51,320
Speaker 7: we sort of it's kind of like sketch comedy, where

554
00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 7: like the two of us are just kind of bored

555
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:57,000
Speaker 7: around the house. And we've done three installments and People

556
00:27:57,040 --> 00:27:59,560
Speaker 7: Magazine picked up the third one because they really liked

557
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:03,160
Speaker 7: it and started playing it on their site. And it's

558
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 7: just like something to kill time, and Katie's a very

559
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 7: funny comedy writer and actor as well, and something for

560
00:28:10,680 --> 00:28:12,639
Speaker 7: us to do to kill time, and also you know,

561
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:15,240
Speaker 7: put more content into the world.

562
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:16,560
Speaker 6: All about that content.

563
00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:20,720
Speaker 2: It's true. In fact, on the post that I do

564
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:24,959
Speaker 2: on Facebook, so many people talked about y'all's videos that

565
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 2: you're doing. They're like loving them and they're wondering, how

566
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:30,760
Speaker 2: do you come up with ideas? Are they coming from

567
00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 2: like actual scenarios that have happened or y'all just making

568
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 2: things up?

569
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 6: Most of them are pretty spot on.

570
00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:39,320
Speaker 7: I Mean, the one thing I think that's great about

571
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:42,920
Speaker 7: it is that it's very relatable. How often have you

572
00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 7: been like at the sink washing dishes and your partner

573
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 7: comes up and just like leaves a dirty dish, I know,

574
00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 7: like the dish is done. We're just like, have you

575
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 7: ever been annoyed by somebody who's just like crunching or

576
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:56,960
Speaker 7: eating something way too loudly while you're trying to do

577
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,920
Speaker 7: something with focus? Like it's those kind of moments that

578
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 7: people never really like talk about, but are just brutally honest.

579
00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:08,200
Speaker 7: And represent what it's like being in a cooped up

580
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 7: house in a relationship.

581
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:10,680
Speaker 4: I know.

582
00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 2: I mean that's really it's really the time when you

583
00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:16,120
Speaker 2: you know as it. Y'all are recently engaged.

584
00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:18,640
Speaker 6: Correct, we got engaged last September.

585
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:22,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so it's been almost like six months or whatever.

586
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:26,920
Speaker 2: But that's this is really a test of what life

587
00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:29,479
Speaker 2: will be like quarantine together forever.

588
00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:33,800
Speaker 6: Well, I mean together almost eight years, so this is it.

589
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:37,280
Speaker 6: Time fly. So but we get it, like, we know

590
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 6: what this is like.

591
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:41,960
Speaker 2: So Quarantine's just a breefe.

592
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's exactly it. So we're going to try and

593
00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 7: come up with some more ideas. Yeah, we started doing

594
00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:52,840
Speaker 7: this game show where we have people like on Instagram Live.

595
00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 7: We asked them to they have thirty seconds to go

596
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 7: find something in their house and we name that item

597
00:29:58,120 --> 00:29:59,640
Speaker 7: and they have thirty seconds to go get it. If

598
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:02,440
Speaker 7: they can show it to us, we hang on chat

599
00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:03,640
Speaker 7: with them on the line and if not.

600
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:04,840
Speaker 3: That fun.

601
00:30:05,320 --> 00:30:11,080
Speaker 2: That is such a great idea. Wow, I want to

602
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 2: be a part of that. I I don't know what

603
00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 2: this is meaning. There's there's a lot of questions about

604
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:17,959
Speaker 2: something about the turtle.

605
00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:25,840
Speaker 1: Everyone thinks that I'm the turtle on the mass.

606
00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 6: On Instagram too, And it's not me. I know it does.

607
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:30,400
Speaker 7: I can hear why people think it's me, but it's not.

608
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 7: And everyone keeps asking me about it. But I've seen

609
00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 7: the show like twice. I saw season one and and

610
00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 7: I forget, I forget who.

611
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:43,480
Speaker 6: I don't even know who won season one, but yeah,

612
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:45,840
Speaker 6: I don't know. Oh was it?

613
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 2: Yeah?

614
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, oh that's right because I've actually done a

615
00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:49,760
Speaker 7: song pain, so I thought. I was like, oh, I'll

616
00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:53,200
Speaker 7: watch this because I love tea Pain and that's my guy.

617
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:57,200
Speaker 2: So but yeah, our producer Easton was.

618
00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:05,080
Speaker 5: Language, oh my god, it's so good A nice. I

619
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:08,800
Speaker 5: dam that one often, like in the car when I'm running,

620
00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:11,240
Speaker 5: if I'm just sitting by myself meditating, I jam that

621
00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 5: song all the time.

622
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:13,640
Speaker 6: It's a good jam man.

623
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:16,360
Speaker 7: That was actually a fun story, like when we were

624
00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 7: in I was in Jacksonville and he brought me into

625
00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 7: a studio because I had done a version of his

626
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 7: buy You a Drink on like forget what. It was

627
00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 7: like an AOL live session or it was like PEPSI live.

628
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:31,320
Speaker 7: It was like a big like online streaming platform, and

629
00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 7: I did with my band and my background singers, like

630
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:34,960
Speaker 7: a very stripped.

631
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 6: Down R and B version of Buy You a Drink?

632
00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:39,040
Speaker 7: And he saw We ran into each other at the

633
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 7: Video Music Awards and he was like, hey man, thanks

634
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:44,720
Speaker 7: for doing that cover my song. It was amazing. And

635
00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:46,800
Speaker 7: then he's like, we should get together. We could do

636
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:49,520
Speaker 7: something together. And so that following month I was in

637
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 7: Florida and he was there and he hit me up.

638
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:54,320
Speaker 7: He's like, I hear you're in town for a show,

639
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:57,640
Speaker 7: Come by my studio. Let's do something. So immediately we

640
00:31:57,680 --> 00:32:01,240
Speaker 7: had the idea that he would do like a versus

641
00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:04,480
Speaker 7: body Language or the bridge of body language, and I

642
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 7: would do a song for He had had an artist

643
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 7: at the time that he was trying to like get

644
00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 7: on the up and up, but he's a good And

645
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:12,280
Speaker 7: then he took me to the strip club.

646
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:25,720
Speaker 2: Let me tell you, yeah, I'm sure that was an experience. Wait,

647
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:28,560
Speaker 2: I have a funny question for you to see if

648
00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 2: you Oh, someone said my mom taught him in kindergarten

649
00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:34,840
Speaker 2: and he broke my brother's nose after going down the

650
00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 2: slide by accident.

651
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:38,120
Speaker 6: Oh my gosh.

652
00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 2: That her last name. Her last name is Brosky. I

653
00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:48,760
Speaker 2: have no idea you don't remember your kindergarten teacher's name.

654
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 6: Kindergarten teacher. Her name was missus Brovsky.

655
00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:53,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what it is.

656
00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:54,880
Speaker 6: Oh that's is that what you just said?

657
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:57,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, I said Brosky, But yeah.

658
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:02,600
Speaker 6: It was missus Rosky. But don't remember her daughter.

659
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:05,240
Speaker 1: That's a good memory, because I do not remember my

660
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 1: kindergarten teacher's name.

661
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Speaker 7: I think I think I can name everyone and every

662
00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 7: one of my teachers. I think Miss Brofsky was my

663
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 7: Miss Marcus, Miss.

664
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Speaker 6: Sheridan, Miss hawk.

665
00:33:18,360 --> 00:33:25,920
Speaker 7: Graves fifth grade, Ms Martinez sixth grade, Mister Callahan seventh grade.

666
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:27,600
Speaker 6: I don't eighth grade's blanket on me.

667
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 3: I'm like very impressed because I've got like ninth grade.

668
00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:34,760
Speaker 7: My ninth grade English teacher taught me her final year

669
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:38,240
Speaker 7: of teaching and taught my father her first year of teaching,

670
00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 7: thirty two years apart.

671
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:40,480
Speaker 6: Is that funny?

672
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 3: That's so cool? How special?

673
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:45,880
Speaker 7: I grew up in a very small town where my family.

674
00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:49,280
Speaker 7: I was the fourth generation to graduate from my school system.

675
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 7: I was the last, Like McCartney was, like, they've never

676
00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:55,280
Speaker 7: had any any like amount of My great grandfather was

677
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:56,920
Speaker 7: in the first graduating class.

678
00:33:57,200 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 6: So at a lot of pride for Ardsley.

679
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:04,719
Speaker 2: Wow, that was an impressive Wait, we have a question

680
00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:06,800
Speaker 2: and then obviously we'll let you go. I know we

681
00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:09,000
Speaker 2: could talk to you for a long time. Would you

682
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 2: and your wife ever come back and do like a

683
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:13,719
Speaker 2: couple segments since y'all have been together for so long.

684
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:15,200
Speaker 2: We have a lot of girls who write in for

685
00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:18,200
Speaker 2: like advice, and you know, they're single, or they're going

686
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:21,680
Speaker 2: through breakups whatever. I feel like it would be great.

687
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:24,799
Speaker 2: Would it would be so fun to have both of

688
00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:28,520
Speaker 2: you and to hear her perspective on everything with a

689
00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 2: pop star, you should.

690
00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:31,839
Speaker 6: Totally do it. We're about to go on a little

691
00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:35,359
Speaker 6: hike right now with the dog, but yeah, we set

692
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:35,799
Speaker 6: that up.

693
00:34:36,719 --> 00:34:38,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, that would be awesome. Well, thank you so much.

694
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:42,360
Speaker 2: We so appreciate you coming on and taking the time anytime.

695
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:45,400
Speaker 6: Thanks Tanya, Thanks Becca, Thank you so much.

696
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 5: My name's Easton.

697
00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:51,800
Speaker 6: Thanks you. I see you're all quarantined with those gloves.

698
00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:55,959
Speaker 5: Yeah that's right, baby, all right, thanks so much.

699
00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 6: Bye, bye, Jesse.

700
00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 2: I'm like so giddy.

701
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:22,400
Speaker 1: Do you know what's funny is Red Star was gonna

702
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:25,640
Speaker 1: come be here while we recorded the podcast today, and

703
00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:29,719
Speaker 1: I'm so glad that he was not here because I

704
00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 1: was like almost drooling.

705
00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:34,320
Speaker 3: And I'm not even like into him anymore, do you

706
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:34,879
Speaker 3: know what I mean?

707
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:38,200
Speaker 1: Like I'm I'm not into Jesse McCartney anymore, But like

708
00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 1: that was a real, like three sixty moment for me.

709
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:45,799
Speaker 2: Literally, I feel like at one point multiple times in

710
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:48,160
Speaker 2: my life during that time where I was in love

711
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:52,120
Speaker 2: with him, I probably literally prayed, like, God, please just

712
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 2: like let me meet him. I really feel like we're

713
00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 2: supposed to be together, and it happened just differently than

714
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 2: I expected.

715
00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:03,000
Speaker 1: Right right, you know sometimes you know what they say,

716
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 1: we make plans and God laughs.

717
00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:06,319
Speaker 2: Oh wow, it good.

718
00:36:06,960 --> 00:36:10,400
Speaker 4: I'm amazed that he is thirty three years old, because,

719
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:12,440
Speaker 4: by the way, we didn't mention his birthday. It was

720
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:18,960
Speaker 4: like last Thursday. But he looks nineteen and he looks

721
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:20,920
Speaker 4: like he's wearing makeup. And I'm not accusing him of

722
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:22,960
Speaker 4: wearing makeup. I'm quite sure he was not wearing makeup,

723
00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:24,640
Speaker 4: but he just looks like he's wearing makeup.

724
00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:26,480
Speaker 1: I made that a note on my day on my

725
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:29,680
Speaker 1: other paper for him, because you're right, he does. I

726
00:36:29,719 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 1: wanted to know his skincare routine because he does look

727
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:33,120
Speaker 1: very youthful.

728
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:36,920
Speaker 2: Yes, that was one of the questions in the Facebook

729
00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:39,400
Speaker 2: group was can he drop his skincare routine because he

730
00:36:39,440 --> 00:36:40,640
Speaker 2: still looks the same age.

731
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:44,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's true. Shoot, gosh, could have would have shud a.

732
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 1: That's what happens when we get like.

733
00:36:46,360 --> 00:36:48,600
Speaker 2: I know, we were both I was looking at hum

734
00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:50,359
Speaker 2: and me the whole time when he was talking. We

735
00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:55,640
Speaker 2: were both like smiling, just like grinning ear to ear like.

736
00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 2: I know. It's so. I literally thought I was going

737
00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:00,319
Speaker 2: to be so much cooler than that when I met him,

738
00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:00,920
Speaker 2: I know.

739
00:37:01,480 --> 00:37:05,800
Speaker 1: But no, that would be that would have been so bad.

740
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:07,560
Speaker 1: That would have been really bad.

741
00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:09,840
Speaker 3: It would have been really.

742
00:37:09,719 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 2: Bad in all seriousness though, stream his song by his song,

743
00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:16,720
Speaker 2: watch the video. It's really cute. This song is really great.

744
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:19,320
Speaker 2: The song is really he's really talented.

745
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,120
Speaker 1: I know, And I thought I thought it was gonna

746
00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:24,279
Speaker 1: be uncomfortable telling him that he was like on my

747
00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:27,400
Speaker 1: board on my wall, but felt nice.

748
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:29,799
Speaker 2: Yeah. You didn't get as creepy as I thought you

749
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:30,840
Speaker 2: were gonna get, though.

750
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 3: So thank you. I really tried to. I really try

751
00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:33,160
Speaker 3: to reel let in.

752
00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:36,400
Speaker 2: Wow, he said he's down to come back. But you

753
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:46,200
Speaker 2: remember also Camilla Luddington said that anatomy No, but I

754
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:48,359
Speaker 2: honestly think it would be cute to have he and

755
00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:51,359
Speaker 2: his fiance because I didn't realize they've been together so long.

756
00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:59,040
Speaker 3: Camilla Luddington is down to come back. Yes she is,

757
00:37:59,239 --> 00:38:01,799
Speaker 3: you guys, I swear she was like, Yeah, that was

758
00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:03,520
Speaker 3: so much fun, let's do it again.

759
00:38:03,960 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 4: But don't you think she would have by now?

760
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:07,319
Speaker 3: No, I don't think we reached out.

761
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 1: I don't think we've reached out. I'll get some confirmation

762
00:38:11,200 --> 00:38:12,560
Speaker 1: on that and let you guys know next week.

763
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, well she's pregnant right now, so I don't know

764
00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:17,560
Speaker 2: she's going to be in the moon to like chit

765
00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 2: chat with the girls again right now, or she might.

766
00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:25,480
Speaker 4: Be well transition into the Grace finale.

767
00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:30,400
Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you so much. Okay, the past I

768
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 2: would say, four episodes of Gray's Anatomy have me hooked

769
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:36,560
Speaker 2: back in it again.

770
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:42,040
Speaker 4: No, Tanya, you don't agree.

771
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 1: No, but this last one I don't. But the last

772
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:51,360
Speaker 1: one really got me good, and I was really like

773
00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:53,319
Speaker 1: on a high. After I watched the finale, I was like,

774
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:55,440
Speaker 1: this is good. This is leaving me feeling all the

775
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 1: fields that it used to. But then on our zoom

776
00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 1: are scrubbing and zoom call on Saturday Night, A scrubber

777
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:03,719
Speaker 1: made me kind of think about it, and I was like,

778
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:07,279
Speaker 1: am I was I so thrilled because it was like

779
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:11,160
Speaker 1: semi decent and they've been so bad lately or was

780
00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:11,959
Speaker 1: it really that good?

781
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:14,359
Speaker 4: You're in a dark place. I thought the last few

782
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:17,200
Speaker 4: episodes we were really strong. I agree with Becca completely.

783
00:39:17,640 --> 00:39:23,560
Speaker 4: I am so invested in Owen, which I've never said before. Yeah,

784
00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:28,359
Speaker 4: Owen Cairasci Teddy Triangle. I'm way into. I was way

785
00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:30,440
Speaker 4: into figuring out what was wrong with Richard. And I

786
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:33,600
Speaker 4: was really impressed that that wasn't the finale that they

787
00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:37,600
Speaker 4: had planned because there was a wedding. I mean not quite,

788
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:39,640
Speaker 4: but there was almost a wedding. There was a baby

789
00:39:39,719 --> 00:39:42,759
Speaker 4: born to Luca got redemption like it was everything you

790
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:44,920
Speaker 4: would want in a season finale. It was amazing.

791
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:49,200
Speaker 2: It was so good and also the only thing that

792
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 2: I feel that was gonna I saw one of the

793
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 2: writers said they were going to write this into the

794
00:39:56,040 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 2: the next few episodes that they had done them, but

795
00:39:58,640 --> 00:40:02,479
Speaker 2: was the storyline of the a girl and the sex

796
00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:05,680
Speaker 2: trafficking story that de Luca like freaked out about they

797
00:40:05,680 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 2: were going to follow up. And so I'm hoping that

798
00:40:11,080 --> 00:40:14,080
Speaker 2: they like continue right where they leave off on this

799
00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 2: one and start the next season like that.

800
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:20,720
Speaker 3: They have to. I'm just gonna like, yeah.

801
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:24,960
Speaker 2: Holy moly, that voicemail from Teddy.

802
00:40:25,400 --> 00:40:32,200
Speaker 1: Oh that was I truly was shook to my core

803
00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:34,840
Speaker 1: and I actually felt bad for Owen, which I thought

804
00:40:34,920 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 1: I would never I thought those words would never come

805
00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:37,839
Speaker 1: out of my mouth.

806
00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:42,239
Speaker 2: Well, it's horrible because like it puts me in the

807
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:44,960
Speaker 2: same I'm trying to think what triangle made me feel

808
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 2: this way?

809
00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:48,040
Speaker 3: Teddy's dead to me? Now Teddy's done, I'm done.

810
00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:53,759
Speaker 2: Okay, No, see I disagree. I'm like Teddy's bringing the

811
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:57,439
Speaker 2: entertainment right now. She's the reason why I'm invested.

812
00:40:57,440 --> 00:41:01,480
Speaker 1: Correct, I like, I'm enjoying her storyline. But for doing that,

813
00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:04,479
Speaker 1: she's She's not She's in my book.

814
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 3: I'm done with her.

815
00:41:05,960 --> 00:41:09,520
Speaker 2: I disagree, Like I want Chorassic So.

816
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:11,880
Speaker 1: You want you want her to go have sex with

817
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:13,879
Speaker 1: somebody before she's going to marry somebody else?

818
00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:18,040
Speaker 2: No, I don't. But I'm saying, I'm is there a reason?

819
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:20,720
Speaker 2: Did I miss something why she's forcing it with Owen

820
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:22,880
Speaker 2: rather than just being with Classic. Is it because they

821
00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 2: have a kid together?

822
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 3: Good point?

823
00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:28,000
Speaker 2: Like what happened that She's like, I have to be

824
00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:31,080
Speaker 2: with Owen, right, Mark, Yeah.

825
00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:31,960
Speaker 4: It's got to be the kid.

826
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 2: I would think so, because I was like, did I

827
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 2: miss this like a scene or something where this is significant?

828
00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:40,400
Speaker 2: Because I can't figure out why she's going to switch

829
00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:44,680
Speaker 2: Great Links to Cheap and also be with Owen.

830
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:47,399
Speaker 4: But I'm I think car Assis for love, she's trying

831
00:41:47,400 --> 00:41:49,440
Speaker 4: to make it work with Owen. I relate to it.

832
00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:51,200
Speaker 4: I've been trying to make work with Owen for ten

833
00:41:51,280 --> 00:41:53,759
Speaker 4: years on this show and it's just not happening. So

834
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:56,719
Speaker 4: I get it, and I'm all team all Thorassic.

835
00:41:57,560 --> 00:42:00,279
Speaker 2: But no, I'm like, it's Owen going to try and

836
00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:02,680
Speaker 2: get back with the Meal, Like, what is he gonna do?

837
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:05,359
Speaker 2: I swear if they try to put him with Joe,

838
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:06,799
Speaker 2: I'm gonna freak out.

839
00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:09,359
Speaker 3: I don't think they're gonna do that. I don't think

840
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:09,920
Speaker 3: they can do.

841
00:42:09,920 --> 00:42:14,480
Speaker 2: That unless they oh, unless they do and unless they

842
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:17,840
Speaker 2: do Link and Joe, because I feel like there's always

843
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:18,919
Speaker 2: something latering there.

844
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:21,479
Speaker 1: I know, I didn't feel like that's gonna that there's

845
00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:22,560
Speaker 1: something there for sure.

846
00:42:23,960 --> 00:42:27,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, my feelings towards Carrassic really change after our set visit.

847
00:42:27,560 --> 00:42:29,440
Speaker 2: Now I'm just like, I'm ruining for him.

848
00:42:29,880 --> 00:42:32,000
Speaker 1: I gotta tell you, I told I said this from

849
00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:34,880
Speaker 1: the beginning with that guy, I've loved him from the beginning,

850
00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:35,840
Speaker 1: and I love him.

851
00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:36,359
Speaker 3: Even more now.

852
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 1: He is really really one of my favorite characters. Like

853
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 1: even when he was like in the beginning and nobody

854
00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:43,640
Speaker 1: liked him, I was still team Caorassic and like I

855
00:42:43,719 --> 00:42:45,360
Speaker 1: knew he had a heart of bold. He just needed

856
00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:47,280
Speaker 1: to just I just need just needed to like peel

857
00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:48,080
Speaker 1: back a little bit.

858
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:51,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, me too.

859
00:42:51,960 --> 00:42:55,440
Speaker 4: I love storyline where somebody just like irredeemable jerk and

860
00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 4: then you realize why and then they kind of come around,

861
00:42:58,160 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 4: And I love that stuff.

862
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:01,880
Speaker 2: Do we think Meredith is going to end up with

863
00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:04,520
Speaker 2: the new doctor she's gonna try and is it gonna

864
00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:05,920
Speaker 2: happen with de Luca?

865
00:43:07,280 --> 00:43:09,799
Speaker 3: That doctor is a me ah?

866
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:16,880
Speaker 2: But the guy that Christina said, yes.

867
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:19,000
Speaker 4: The guy with the teenage sons.

868
00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:23,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, that backstory episode was so sad.

869
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:26,800
Speaker 3: I am in to him.

870
00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:29,799
Speaker 2: I know, I like him and Meredith together. I want

871
00:43:29,840 --> 00:43:31,439
Speaker 2: it to work out, but I just feel like she's

872
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:34,160
Speaker 2: like feels responsible to the Luca or something.

873
00:43:34,440 --> 00:43:36,799
Speaker 4: So that's another interesting conversation, is what do we think

874
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:39,080
Speaker 4: was supposed to happen these final three episodes that we

875
00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 4: never got to see. I think that's what I think,

876
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:44,400
Speaker 4: Meredith and I can't think of his name, but meaw

877
00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:53,400
Speaker 4: doctor uh, doctor Yale Man or doctor Babe Tom. Anyway,

878
00:43:54,200 --> 00:43:56,839
Speaker 4: there something would have happened between those two. I think,

879
00:43:57,160 --> 00:44:00,960
Speaker 4: maybe not major, but something uh this before you go.

880
00:44:01,080 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 1: I do think that there's something with Man and Joe too.

881
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:07,040
Speaker 1: There could be something there really interesting.

882
00:44:07,920 --> 00:44:09,919
Speaker 4: But then the child trappiking thing would have come back.

883
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:12,080
Speaker 4: And I felt I felt like Levi was going in

884
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:14,920
Speaker 4: a certain direction too, because I found him super annoying

885
00:44:14,960 --> 00:44:17,879
Speaker 4: the last couple of weeks too. That usually means they're

886
00:44:17,920 --> 00:44:20,279
Speaker 4: pushing somewhat in a direction, maybe on the way out,

887
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:22,239
Speaker 4: or maybe he was own redemption or whatever, but it

888
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:23,600
Speaker 4: seemed like he was going somewhere.

889
00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:31,040
Speaker 2: Well, what about de Luca and Joe and then the

890
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:32,680
Speaker 2: new doctor and Meridith?

891
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 1: De Luca and Joe? Why am I not into that?

892
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:40,400
Speaker 1: For some reason? I like it, haven't they have they

893
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 1: tried to date or something?

894
00:44:42,200 --> 00:44:45,000
Speaker 2: No, you remember that he was like with her, trying

895
00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 2: to help her or something, and Alex saw him or

896
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:50,359
Speaker 2: he was like trying to help her in the bed

897
00:44:50,400 --> 00:44:52,600
Speaker 2: because she was drunk or something, and and Alex thought

898
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:59,040
Speaker 2: he was like, maybe I don't know, but it was

899
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:02,239
Speaker 2: a great ending. I'm like, I'm in it again. I'm

900
00:45:02,239 --> 00:45:05,359
Speaker 2: excited about it. So brings it back?

901
00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 3: Well, I guess we don't know.

902
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:10,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, everything it's TV, which is sad. I mean this

903
00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:12,200
Speaker 4: is awesome. That's such a great ending. Like we have

904
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:14,319
Speaker 4: no idea when any of these shows are coming back.

905
00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:18,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I will tell you something to watch if

906
00:45:18,920 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 1: you need something.

907
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:21,440
Speaker 3: I just started Little Fires everywhere.

908
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:25,080
Speaker 2: Oh, I want to watch it. Good.

909
00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:28,560
Speaker 1: Yes, Joshua Jackson and Tidy Whitey's is everything I never

910
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:29,680
Speaker 1: knew I needed in my life.

911
00:45:30,520 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 2: I did not know. Joshua Jackson is in it and

912
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 2: I love him.

913
00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:36,240
Speaker 3: And so is Jackson Avery.

914
00:45:37,239 --> 00:45:40,840
Speaker 1: Oh you like he's in it for like maybe ten seconds,

915
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:42,560
Speaker 1: but still ten good seconds.

916
00:45:44,239 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 2: You know. I love a Jackson Avery sighting.

917
00:45:47,120 --> 00:45:49,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I'm only one episode and like half

918
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:52,520
Speaker 1: an episode in, but I'm enjoying it so far.

919
00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:56,520
Speaker 4: That's interesting because it's hard for me to see Gray's

920
00:45:56,640 --> 00:45:58,040
Speaker 4: actors as other people.

921
00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:01,920
Speaker 1: Well, he doesn't really, he hasn't spoken. He's just kind

922
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:04,359
Speaker 1: of like, I don't know, I don't really know. What

923
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:07,919
Speaker 1: his character means. But he's in Carrie Washington's past, I believe,

924
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:09,960
Speaker 1: because she keeps having like these like flashbacks, and he's

925
00:46:09,960 --> 00:46:13,640
Speaker 1: in them. So I see him as doctor Avery in that.

926
00:46:13,719 --> 00:46:15,280
Speaker 1: To be honest, it's funny.

927
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:16,600
Speaker 4: I read the book and I still have no idea

928
00:46:16,600 --> 00:46:18,440
Speaker 4: who that would be. I just don't remember things.

929
00:46:19,480 --> 00:46:21,480
Speaker 2: Oh, I was gonna ask if you liked it, since

930
00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:22,480
Speaker 2: you did read the books.

931
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:24,440
Speaker 4: He loved the book, and my wife and I are

932
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 4: looking forward to starting it soon once we wrap up

933
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:27,319
Speaker 4: the other stuff for washing.

934
00:46:28,560 --> 00:46:33,360
Speaker 2: Oh, you haven't even started it, okay, but soon. Okay.

935
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 2: We have some emails that we're going to get to, Mark,

936
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:36,960
Speaker 2: did you pick the ones you're going to read?

937
00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:39,480
Speaker 1: Can I just tell you something before we start the emails.

938
00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:44,600
Speaker 1: I disinfected my sponge like an hour ago, just because

939
00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:46,960
Speaker 1: it was like looking a little sanzy, and I don't

940
00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 1: have any other ones right now, and so I did it,

941
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:53,600
Speaker 1: and like my hands smell like sponge and it's really

942
00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:56,720
Speaker 1: just not a good situation right now.

943
00:46:56,760 --> 00:46:58,360
Speaker 2: Like dirty dish water.

944
00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 1: I almost want to throw it away, but my boyfriend

945
00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:02,440
Speaker 1: is like a sponge guy. Like I'm like I use

946
00:47:02,520 --> 00:47:04,560
Speaker 1: the thing that like, you know, like with a handle

947
00:47:04,640 --> 00:47:06,600
Speaker 1: that goes in. That's what I use. And he loves

948
00:47:06,600 --> 00:47:07,280
Speaker 1: a sponge.

949
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:09,960
Speaker 2: Maybe order some sponges on Amazon.

950
00:47:10,239 --> 00:47:12,239
Speaker 3: I already did, but it's like backed up. I'm gonna

951
00:47:12,239 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 3: get him eno vapor off.

952
00:47:13,239 --> 00:47:13,399
Speaker 2: Though.

953
00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:18,359
Speaker 4: Cand a sponge person coexist with a person who uses

954
00:47:18,360 --> 00:47:19,799
Speaker 4: a sponge at the end of a stick.

955
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:21,040
Speaker 5: It's like a sex and the city and trimmer.

956
00:47:21,840 --> 00:47:24,480
Speaker 3: I wonder it was really.

957
00:47:24,520 --> 00:47:27,560
Speaker 1: I was just like, do we need do we need

958
00:47:27,600 --> 00:47:30,160
Speaker 1: to use the sponge? And I watched him do the

959
00:47:30,200 --> 00:47:31,640
Speaker 1: dishes with it, and I was like, you know what,

960
00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:35,640
Speaker 1: it does get everywhere more, it does cover more surface

961
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:36,800
Speaker 1: than my other one.

962
00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:43,760
Speaker 4: I believe he should adapt to your ways opinion sanitary.

963
00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:45,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I might just throw it away, but like I

964
00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:47,840
Speaker 1: was sanitizing it and it got a little wonky.

965
00:47:47,920 --> 00:47:49,400
Speaker 3: So it's in the trash now bye.

966
00:47:50,040 --> 00:47:52,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe cut it until I get ripped.

967
00:47:52,640 --> 00:47:54,560
Speaker 4: I have to do his microwave a sponge. That's what

968
00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:54,959
Speaker 4: I heard.

969
00:47:55,280 --> 00:47:56,359
Speaker 3: That's what I did. I did.

970
00:47:56,440 --> 00:47:58,040
Speaker 1: I microwaved it and then I pulled it out with

971
00:47:58,080 --> 00:47:59,200
Speaker 1: tongs and and.

972
00:48:01,560 --> 00:48:04,080
Speaker 2: I know, no, she's gonna her hands are gonna be

973
00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:07,919
Speaker 2: raw trying to wash the smell off again.

974
00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:10,440
Speaker 3: He's gonna uh, he's coming over today.

975
00:48:11,000 --> 00:48:14,200
Speaker 4: Oh nice, And you are like, what the games are

976
00:48:14,200 --> 00:48:15,720
Speaker 4: you getting ready for this weekend?

977
00:48:16,120 --> 00:48:16,279
Speaker 2: Oh?

978
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:18,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I'm gonna share this game when I finish it.

979
00:48:18,480 --> 00:48:21,359
Speaker 1: But so I created like a little getting to know

980
00:48:21,400 --> 00:48:23,839
Speaker 1: you games. So I compile the list of like all

981
00:48:23,840 --> 00:48:27,360
Speaker 1: these fun questions, like twenty one questions, and he said,

982
00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:29,879
Speaker 1: he's gonna think of some two and I'm gonna write

983
00:48:29,880 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 1: them down on a piece of paper and put them

984
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:33,200
Speaker 1: on like a mason jar, and then we're gonna take

985
00:48:33,239 --> 00:48:35,200
Speaker 1: turns pulling them out and answering them. So it's like

986
00:48:35,239 --> 00:48:37,040
Speaker 1: get to know you, but also just like a couple

987
00:48:37,080 --> 00:48:40,000
Speaker 1: of questions that's like, I don't know, cutee.

988
00:48:40,560 --> 00:48:40,880
Speaker 3: Yeah.

989
00:48:41,040 --> 00:48:42,480
Speaker 2: I was trying to think of a way to make

990
00:48:42,520 --> 00:48:45,000
Speaker 2: it like a drinking game, but I don't know how.

991
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:48,160
Speaker 3: I don't think we need games anymore to drink, which

992
00:48:48,200 --> 00:48:48,799
Speaker 3: just like do it?

993
00:48:48,840 --> 00:48:49,040
Speaker 1: You know.

994
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:55,439
Speaker 2: Wow, that's the quarantine quote right there.

995
00:48:55,840 --> 00:48:58,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, all right.

996
00:48:58,120 --> 00:49:00,759
Speaker 4: This is from anonymous. She has a question. She says,

997
00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:03,400
Speaker 4: I'm twenty five years old. My parents' divorce when I

998
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:06,439
Speaker 4: was two. Things happened between my parents, and long story short,

999
00:49:06,480 --> 00:49:09,400
Speaker 4: I haven't seen my dad since the divorce. When I

1000
00:49:09,480 --> 00:49:11,439
Speaker 4: was in high school, I started to wonder about my dad.

1001
00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:13,920
Speaker 4: He reached out to me on numerous social media sites,

1002
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:16,520
Speaker 4: but my mom was not okay with this, so I

1003
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:18,279
Speaker 4: did what any sixteen year old girl would do and

1004
00:49:18,320 --> 00:49:20,239
Speaker 4: talk to him without her knowing. I never got to

1005
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:22,279
Speaker 4: meet him, since he lives in another state, but we

1006
00:49:22,320 --> 00:49:24,520
Speaker 4: had multiple phone calls and my heart was so full.

1007
00:49:25,000 --> 00:49:26,799
Speaker 4: My mom found out I was talking to him and

1008
00:49:26,840 --> 00:49:29,040
Speaker 4: blew up on me. She took away my phone, changed

1009
00:49:29,040 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 4: my number, and grounded me for weeks. We even went

1010
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:33,839
Speaker 4: to counseling for a while to try to start out

1011
00:49:33,880 --> 00:49:37,080
Speaker 4: the issues. Fast forward almost ten years. I recently got

1012
00:49:37,120 --> 00:49:39,200
Speaker 4: married and my dad once again reached out to me.

1013
00:49:39,400 --> 00:49:41,600
Speaker 4: He even sent me money for my honeymoon. I was

1014
00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 4: upfront with my mom and told her that he was

1015
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:45,400
Speaker 4: reaching out to me, and her response was to ignore it.

1016
00:49:45,520 --> 00:49:46,319
Speaker 4: Help What should I do?

1017
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:50,719
Speaker 2: Got a sad no.

1018
00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:53,319
Speaker 3: I'm like confused by it a little bit.

1019
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:57,040
Speaker 2: This is one of those where I always have like

1020
00:49:57,560 --> 00:50:04,399
Speaker 2: questions about the backstory, because here's the thing. It could

1021
00:50:04,400 --> 00:50:07,640
Speaker 2: be that the mom is just you know, bitter, because

1022
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:11,360
Speaker 2: maybe he cheated or did something and she's just holding

1023
00:50:11,400 --> 00:50:14,280
Speaker 2: a grudge and she's passing. You know, she's like putting

1024
00:50:14,320 --> 00:50:18,680
Speaker 2: that on her daughter too, or maybe he's bad news

1025
00:50:18,680 --> 00:50:20,520
Speaker 2: and she doesn't want her daughter to get hurt.

1026
00:50:21,320 --> 00:50:23,040
Speaker 3: But like what bad news.

1027
00:50:23,800 --> 00:50:25,680
Speaker 1: I mean, if she's spent time with him and like

1028
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:28,480
Speaker 1: spoken to him, she obviously like he He's obviously not

1029
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:29,640
Speaker 1: like a murderer.

1030
00:50:30,080 --> 00:50:32,840
Speaker 4: Let's say he's a murderer. He's the worst human on

1031
00:50:32,880 --> 00:50:36,719
Speaker 4: the planet. Wouldn't you tell your daughter, like, look, here's

1032
00:50:36,760 --> 00:50:39,480
Speaker 4: the reason I'm so passionate about this. He did this

1033
00:50:39,560 --> 00:50:42,160
Speaker 4: and this and this. I just it's tough because for

1034
00:50:42,200 --> 00:50:45,759
Speaker 4: her to hold a grudge like this for twenty six years,

1035
00:50:46,080 --> 00:50:48,359
Speaker 4: it has to be something pretty major. I would say

1036
00:50:48,400 --> 00:50:52,200
Speaker 4: more than just he cheated, certainly more than irreconcilable differences.

1037
00:50:53,520 --> 00:50:55,040
Speaker 4: But I think there's so much more to the story.

1038
00:50:55,160 --> 00:50:57,680
Speaker 4: We need to know what this is that mom, she

1039
00:50:57,719 --> 00:51:02,480
Speaker 4: says here, she says, things happen, Yeah, things happen, like okay,

1040
00:51:02,640 --> 00:51:05,080
Speaker 4: but we need more than that to go on, because

1041
00:51:05,120 --> 00:51:06,680
Speaker 4: that's a long time to hold a grudge for a

1042
00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:09,600
Speaker 4: quarter century. And I feel like, you're twenty eight now.

1043
00:51:09,680 --> 00:51:11,440
Speaker 4: If you want to talk to your dad, you should

1044
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:13,160
Speaker 4: be able to talk to your dad. Unless she has

1045
00:51:13,200 --> 00:51:14,880
Speaker 4: a damn good reason why you shouldn't.

1046
00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:19,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, and like as an adult and now she's married,

1047
00:51:19,239 --> 00:51:22,640
Speaker 2: it's like at some point these become your decisions and

1048
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:25,879
Speaker 2: you can agree to disagree with your mom. But yeah,

1049
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:30,600
Speaker 2: I'm curious, I would Well she wait, we think she

1050
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 2: knows what happened with the dad, right Like, surely if

1051
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:35,640
Speaker 2: she's being told like you can't talk to him after

1052
00:51:35,680 --> 00:51:38,720
Speaker 2: this many years, surely she knows.

1053
00:51:39,239 --> 00:51:41,880
Speaker 4: Maybe if But I feel like that would answer her

1054
00:51:41,960 --> 00:51:43,400
Speaker 4: questions in a lot of ways, right.

1055
00:51:43,760 --> 00:51:46,200
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, I don't know, because it's just like at

1056
00:51:46,239 --> 00:51:48,600
Speaker 1: some point, you know, like when I just feel like

1057
00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:54,400
Speaker 1: it's you can't keep your child away from their parent,

1058
00:51:54,640 --> 00:51:56,560
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, like have a mom and

1059
00:51:56,560 --> 00:52:05,160
Speaker 1: a dad and unless there's some extenuating extenuating eating very good.

1060
00:52:05,440 --> 00:52:08,840
Speaker 3: Wow, my vocabulary in this quarantine isn't really kicking up

1061
00:52:08,840 --> 00:52:13,279
Speaker 3: a not. I don't know what.

1062
00:52:14,040 --> 00:52:15,880
Speaker 4: I feel like she would know If she knows what

1063
00:52:15,960 --> 00:52:17,600
Speaker 4: the deal is, then it's up to her she wants

1064
00:52:17,640 --> 00:52:19,080
Speaker 4: to talk to her or not, because it's her decision

1065
00:52:19,120 --> 00:52:20,359
Speaker 4: to make. If she doesn't know what the dealer is,

1066
00:52:20,360 --> 00:52:22,719
Speaker 4: she got to find out from her mom. And I

1067
00:52:22,719 --> 00:52:25,200
Speaker 4: think the other question is is her mom giving her

1068
00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:26,759
Speaker 4: an ultimatum, if you talk to your dad, then you

1069
00:52:26,800 --> 00:52:28,680
Speaker 4: can forget about ever talking to me again, or something

1070
00:52:28,760 --> 00:52:30,160
Speaker 4: like that. Then then you seem real.

1071
00:52:30,400 --> 00:52:31,880
Speaker 3: It seems a little bit selfish.

1072
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:32,520
Speaker 4: It does.

1073
00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:37,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. It's a really that's a really

1074
00:52:37,280 --> 00:52:42,200
Speaker 2: sad and hard situation. I just I don't know. I

1075
00:52:42,200 --> 00:52:45,040
Speaker 2: think if if you find joy and like peace and

1076
00:52:45,080 --> 00:52:48,440
Speaker 2: like you feel like full talking to your dad and

1077
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:52,920
Speaker 2: it's a good relationship, I think, you know, you continue

1078
00:52:52,920 --> 00:52:54,840
Speaker 2: to do that, and then I think you talk to

1079
00:52:54,880 --> 00:52:57,880
Speaker 2: your mom and explain why it's been so beneficial for

1080
00:52:57,920 --> 00:53:01,160
Speaker 2: you to talk. And I'm not saying like if he

1081
00:53:01,239 --> 00:53:05,280
Speaker 2: did something bad, It's been so long that people can change,

1082
00:53:05,480 --> 00:53:08,160
Speaker 2: and if he made mistakes, you know, I'm hoping that

1083
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:11,319
Speaker 2: he has since learn from them and is trying to

1084
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:15,080
Speaker 2: correct them. And I don't think that as humans carrying

1085
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:19,000
Speaker 2: a grudge of unforgiveness. Is it's you know, the quote

1086
00:53:19,120 --> 00:53:21,879
Speaker 2: is like it's like drinking poison and expecting someone else

1087
00:53:21,920 --> 00:53:24,000
Speaker 2: to die. It's like you're just holding on paper.

1088
00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:25,400
Speaker 4: That's good.

1089
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:29,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I don't know. I would say, maybe really

1090
00:53:29,920 --> 00:53:32,399
Speaker 2: have a deep conversation with your mom and figure out

1091
00:53:32,480 --> 00:53:37,160
Speaker 2: what miss you know where the problem comes from with

1092
00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:41,040
Speaker 2: your mom's feeling stored dad, But I'm sorry, that's that's sad.

1093
00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:43,839
Speaker 4: All right. This one's anonymous too. It is a little

1094
00:53:43,920 --> 00:53:46,560
Speaker 4: less serious, but very relatable. I've been with my boyfriend

1095
00:53:46,600 --> 00:53:48,680
Speaker 4: two and a half years. We've lived together for a year.

1096
00:53:49,160 --> 00:53:51,040
Speaker 4: Since my boyfriend and I have lived together, he has

1097
00:53:51,160 --> 00:53:54,279
Speaker 4: loaded or unloaded the dishwasher a total of twice. He

1098
00:53:54,320 --> 00:53:57,800
Speaker 4: has nobody laundry. He has probably cooked maybe five meals.

1099
00:53:57,840 --> 00:54:01,239
Speaker 4: He's become very comfortable doing nothing. I've nicely asked him

1100
00:54:01,280 --> 00:54:03,480
Speaker 4: to pull this weight, to which we decided to assign

1101
00:54:03,560 --> 00:54:06,560
Speaker 4: him the job of taking out the trash. But I

1102
00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:08,480
Speaker 4: still take out the trash most nights, or I have

1103
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:11,000
Speaker 4: to ask him to do it multiple times. I'm a

1104
00:54:11,040 --> 00:54:12,840
Speaker 4: bit of a control freak when it comes to cooking,

1105
00:54:12,880 --> 00:54:14,640
Speaker 4: but I still feel like I really need his help.

1106
00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 4: I've asked him before to help, but he always ends

1107
00:54:16,600 --> 00:54:18,120
Speaker 4: up with an excuse that he won't do it right

1108
00:54:18,200 --> 00:54:20,600
Speaker 4: because I have a certain way of doing things. Is

1109
00:54:20,640 --> 00:54:23,440
Speaker 4: this a meat problem, a hymn problem, or a combination.

1110
00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:28,080
Speaker 1: That's so good because I almost feel like they've lived

1111
00:54:28,120 --> 00:54:30,440
Speaker 1: together for a year now, and I feel like these

1112
00:54:30,480 --> 00:54:32,799
Speaker 1: are These are the circumstances, and these are the things

1113
00:54:32,800 --> 00:54:36,360
Speaker 1: that you need to establish right when things start happening,

1114
00:54:36,400 --> 00:54:38,439
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like when you first start

1115
00:54:38,520 --> 00:54:40,319
Speaker 1: dating or you first move in together, the way that

1116
00:54:40,360 --> 00:54:43,399
Speaker 1: you establish the relationship, it's really hard to break those

1117
00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:45,839
Speaker 1: habits once they're like set in place. So it's just

1118
00:54:45,880 --> 00:54:49,320
Speaker 1: like I almost feel like I don't know what advice

1119
00:54:49,400 --> 00:54:51,759
Speaker 1: to give her because I this might help people who

1120
00:54:52,000 --> 00:54:56,200
Speaker 1: are not in this situation to prevent this situation from happening.

1121
00:54:56,280 --> 00:54:58,160
Speaker 1: Is like, in the beginning stages of getting to know

1122
00:54:58,200 --> 00:55:01,080
Speaker 1: and dating somebody and moving in with somebody, really set

1123
00:55:01,120 --> 00:55:04,000
Speaker 1: those boundaries in those standards, because I feel like once

1124
00:55:04,000 --> 00:55:06,640
Speaker 1: you're in it, it's super hard to like reverse.

1125
00:55:07,160 --> 00:55:10,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I also think that sometimes you realize things

1126
00:55:10,520 --> 00:55:14,240
Speaker 2: about yourself as you're in a relationship. Like I realized

1127
00:55:14,280 --> 00:55:18,080
Speaker 2: that I am more controlling in how I like things done,

1128
00:55:18,920 --> 00:55:21,680
Speaker 2: because like ninety five p will do something and then

1129
00:55:21,760 --> 00:55:24,879
Speaker 2: I'll go behind and correct it if it's not done

1130
00:55:24,880 --> 00:55:28,120
Speaker 2: the right way. And I think that that can be

1131
00:55:28,160 --> 00:55:31,719
Speaker 2: really frustrating for the other person. And so I've had

1132
00:55:31,760 --> 00:55:36,320
Speaker 2: to realize that just because I like things a certain way,

1133
00:55:36,400 --> 00:55:40,000
Speaker 2: if if I'm asking ninety five p to do it.

1134
00:55:40,080 --> 00:55:43,000
Speaker 2: Then I just have to accept that that's how it's

1135
00:55:43,040 --> 00:55:45,080
Speaker 2: going to be done, because at least it's getting done.

1136
00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:46,480
Speaker 2: It's just not how I like it. And if I

1137
00:55:46,560 --> 00:55:48,120
Speaker 2: want it to be done my way, then I need

1138
00:55:48,160 --> 00:55:48,600
Speaker 2: to do it.

1139
00:55:49,360 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 1: That's and there lies the rub with my with my

1140
00:55:55,160 --> 00:55:56,880
Speaker 1: sponge and my cleaning utensil.

1141
00:55:56,920 --> 00:55:57,759
Speaker 3: It's the exact same thing.

1142
00:55:57,760 --> 00:55:59,520
Speaker 1: It's like I should just be happy that he like

1143
00:55:59,600 --> 00:56:02,200
Speaker 1: does the here without me asking him. I don't even

1144
00:56:02,200 --> 00:56:04,279
Speaker 1: ask him to do the dishes. He just literally does them,

1145
00:56:04,280 --> 00:56:06,400
Speaker 1: and that's so nice. Like I don't whatever, use a

1146
00:56:06,400 --> 00:56:09,279
Speaker 1: sponge's your hand, I don't care, you know, like I

1147
00:56:09,400 --> 00:56:12,680
Speaker 1: prefer my cleaning utensils. But if you prefer a sponge,

1148
00:56:12,719 --> 00:56:15,080
Speaker 1: then like, by all means, I mean.

1149
00:56:15,200 --> 00:56:19,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's not that's a minuscule problem if it's

1150
00:56:19,840 --> 00:56:22,200
Speaker 2: all based around the tool that they're using to clean.

1151
00:56:22,280 --> 00:56:26,800
Speaker 2: But I think for her specifically, sometimes if this is

1152
00:56:26,840 --> 00:56:29,359
Speaker 2: a new thing where you've asked him to take out

1153
00:56:29,360 --> 00:56:32,000
Speaker 2: the trash and maybe he's not used to doing it,

1154
00:56:32,400 --> 00:56:35,319
Speaker 2: you having to remind him hopefully will go away and

1155
00:56:35,360 --> 00:56:37,400
Speaker 2: he will just do it, but you have to I

1156
00:56:37,440 --> 00:56:40,000
Speaker 2: hate to say train the but you do, in a

1157
00:56:40,040 --> 00:56:43,160
Speaker 2: sense have to train yourself like he's gonna have to

1158
00:56:43,200 --> 00:56:46,879
Speaker 2: do it repetitively and maybe be asked to do repetitively before.

1159
00:56:46,920 --> 00:56:49,040
Speaker 2: He's just doing it on his own because he's never

1160
00:56:49,120 --> 00:56:50,040
Speaker 2: had to do it before.

1161
00:56:50,600 --> 00:56:53,080
Speaker 1: And I just think being like overly communicative, you know

1162
00:56:53,120 --> 00:56:55,120
Speaker 1: what I mean. I think sometimes like I think a

1163
00:56:55,120 --> 00:56:57,160
Speaker 1: lot of times we can be passive aggressive with things,

1164
00:56:57,200 --> 00:56:58,960
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, just like let the trash

1165
00:56:59,080 --> 00:57:00,799
Speaker 1: build up, or like, do you know what I mean,

1166
00:57:00,840 --> 00:57:02,960
Speaker 1: like let the dishes pile up and see if he

1167
00:57:03,000 --> 00:57:05,279
Speaker 1: lifts a finger. But I think it just being like

1168
00:57:05,320 --> 00:57:09,040
Speaker 1: more more vocal about it is I think that's the move.

1169
00:57:09,080 --> 00:57:12,040
Speaker 2: And not even like in an don't be naggy about it.

1170
00:57:12,080 --> 00:57:14,640
Speaker 2: I would just say, when you're doing the dishes, be like, hey,

1171
00:57:14,640 --> 00:57:16,280
Speaker 2: will you take the trash out? I'm doing the dishes,

1172
00:57:16,320 --> 00:57:17,880
Speaker 2: when we take the trash out, and just be like, hey,

1173
00:57:18,280 --> 00:57:21,160
Speaker 2: I'm doing this, so will you do this instead of

1174
00:57:21,160 --> 00:57:26,920
Speaker 2: it being like the trash is overflowing and you're supposed

1175
00:57:26,920 --> 00:57:29,240
Speaker 2: to do that. You know, there's a way of saying it.

1176
00:57:29,320 --> 00:57:32,520
Speaker 5: Did he say, I don't, like I don't want to

1177
00:57:32,560 --> 00:57:35,320
Speaker 5: take the trash out because you do it a certain way.

1178
00:57:35,640 --> 00:57:36,880
Speaker 3: Was that trash specifically?

1179
00:57:36,960 --> 00:57:37,240
Speaker 4: Okay?

1180
00:57:37,280 --> 00:57:38,560
Speaker 3: Wait, like certain.

1181
00:57:38,240 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 5: Things, I mean I've I've used the excuse before. I

1182
00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:43,240
Speaker 5: don't really buy it one hundred percent of the time.

1183
00:57:43,400 --> 00:57:46,200
Speaker 5: Like I think this dude like got corrected one time

1184
00:57:46,560 --> 00:57:48,560
Speaker 5: and was like I hate this, Like she's got this

1185
00:57:48,640 --> 00:57:52,840
Speaker 5: magic way she does things. I think there's certain chores

1186
00:57:52,880 --> 00:57:55,400
Speaker 5: around the house to just get done, and as long

1187
00:57:55,440 --> 00:57:57,960
Speaker 5: as you have common sense, you can do them. And

1188
00:57:58,000 --> 00:58:00,760
Speaker 5: I think things like things like laundry require a certain

1189
00:58:00,800 --> 00:58:04,480
Speaker 5: amount of finesse and skill, but like taking out the garbage,

1190
00:58:04,480 --> 00:58:09,160
Speaker 5: emptying the dishwasher, take you know, wiping her feet when

1191
00:58:09,160 --> 00:58:11,880
Speaker 5: you enter the house, like things like this just a

1192
00:58:11,960 --> 00:58:15,160
Speaker 5: common sense. And Lord knows, there's a lot of stuff

1193
00:58:15,160 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 5: around my house that I don't help out with that

1194
00:58:16,760 --> 00:58:21,640
Speaker 5: I should be. And what drives me a lot is

1195
00:58:21,640 --> 00:58:26,320
Speaker 5: is shame and uh for real because like from my

1196
00:58:26,360 --> 00:58:31,600
Speaker 5: point of view, Alison, women's minds can multitask just so

1197
00:58:31,680 --> 00:58:33,840
Speaker 5: much better than men can. And that's that's a proven thing.

1198
00:58:34,880 --> 00:58:38,280
Speaker 5: And everything. Allison is so organized with everything she does,

1199
00:58:38,320 --> 00:58:42,000
Speaker 5: and I am like a Tasmanian devil is blown through

1200
00:58:42,000 --> 00:58:45,520
Speaker 5: the house. And when she she'll like ask me to

1201
00:58:45,520 --> 00:58:47,440
Speaker 5: do something, and if I forget to do it, she'd

1202
00:58:47,440 --> 00:58:49,160
Speaker 5: be like, I just need you to do this one thing.

1203
00:58:49,200 --> 00:58:51,640
Speaker 5: Can you please help me? Like in my mind, I'm like,

1204
00:58:51,680 --> 00:58:53,280
Speaker 5: oh my god, I'm I'm just I'm trying to be

1205
00:58:53,360 --> 00:58:55,280
Speaker 5: up to her level and I'm not, you know, And

1206
00:58:55,360 --> 00:58:57,760
Speaker 5: so every day is kind of like what can I

1207
00:58:57,840 --> 00:59:02,440
Speaker 5: do better today? That's that's what drives me. And I

1208
00:59:02,480 --> 00:59:05,000
Speaker 5: don't know if that's that's all guys or not, but.

1209
00:59:07,000 --> 00:59:07,320
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1210
00:59:07,360 --> 00:59:09,440
Speaker 5: I don't know if they But to answer the question,

1211
00:59:09,520 --> 00:59:10,960
Speaker 5: the guy who needs to want to do it, I

1212
00:59:10,960 --> 00:59:12,800
Speaker 5: think that's what we need to get to, I know.

1213
00:59:13,480 --> 00:59:14,920
Speaker 4: And you got to figure this out now because you

1214
00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:16,680
Speaker 4: don't want a lifetime ahead of you if you're doing

1215
00:59:16,680 --> 00:59:18,040
Speaker 4: everything while he sits on the couch.

1216
00:59:18,280 --> 00:59:21,880
Speaker 2: Exactly no, because that means that means if y'all want

1217
00:59:21,920 --> 00:59:25,680
Speaker 2: to have kids together, that he is may decide that

1218
00:59:25,720 --> 00:59:28,400
Speaker 2: he doesn't want to change the diapers too, and it

1219
00:59:28,480 --> 00:59:31,400
Speaker 2: may like, you know, those are things that you have

1220
00:59:31,480 --> 00:59:34,600
Speaker 2: to realize in a relationship on board, which in your head,

1221
00:59:34,960 --> 00:59:37,320
Speaker 2: like saying it out loud, talking about taking the trash

1222
00:59:37,320 --> 00:59:41,560
Speaker 2: out him not doing it sounds so like miniscule in

1223
00:59:41,600 --> 00:59:44,920
Speaker 2: the grand scheme of things, but those habits lead to

1224
00:59:44,960 --> 00:59:45,680
Speaker 2: bigger things.

1225
00:59:46,160 --> 00:59:48,120
Speaker 1: It is, it's all little things, but it's like I

1226
00:59:48,120 --> 00:59:51,040
Speaker 1: do think if it does bother like Red Star leaves

1227
00:59:51,040 --> 00:59:56,040
Speaker 1: the toilet set up classic move totally and like I

1228
00:59:56,080 --> 00:59:58,120
Speaker 1: wasn't gonna say anything because I was just like whatever,

1229
00:59:58,160 --> 00:59:58,800
Speaker 1: I can put it down.

1230
00:59:58,840 --> 00:59:59,800
Speaker 3: It's not that big of a deal.

1231
00:59:59,840 --> 01:00:01,120
Speaker 1: But and I was like, you know what if I

1232
01:00:01,240 --> 01:00:03,120
Speaker 1: still if I'm like if I'm going to be in

1233
01:00:03,120 --> 01:00:05,320
Speaker 1: this relationship with this guy and like someday we move

1234
01:00:05,360 --> 01:00:06,600
Speaker 1: in together, and you know what I mean, It's just

1235
01:00:06,920 --> 01:00:08,960
Speaker 1: it's only gonna it's not going to get better unless

1236
01:00:08,960 --> 01:00:10,680
Speaker 1: I just say something. And so I was just like, hey,

1237
01:00:10,840 --> 01:00:12,640
Speaker 1: I was like I almost fell in the toilet the

1238
01:00:12,640 --> 01:00:15,000
Speaker 1: other day, like do mine whatever, And he like felt

1239
01:00:15,040 --> 01:00:17,000
Speaker 1: really bad and he was just like, oh my gosh,

1240
01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:20,400
Speaker 1: Like he's like I don't even think about it and

1241
01:00:20,680 --> 01:00:22,640
Speaker 1: thank you, Like he just doesn't. And so now it's

1242
01:00:22,680 --> 01:00:24,360
Speaker 1: like kind of a joke, like when he leaves the bathroom,

1243
01:00:24,400 --> 01:00:26,720
Speaker 1: he's like, I put this seat down, and I'm like.

1244
01:00:26,960 --> 01:00:29,200
Speaker 4: All the guys need to be trained. We said in

1245
01:00:29,240 --> 01:00:30,919
Speaker 4: the show, all guys need trained, and that how old

1246
01:00:30,920 --> 01:00:33,040
Speaker 4: they are, how many relationships they've been and all guys

1247
01:00:33,080 --> 01:00:35,040
Speaker 4: need training to make it work for you, and a

1248
01:00:35,080 --> 01:00:36,040
Speaker 4: lot of them are open to it.

1249
01:00:36,240 --> 01:00:38,120
Speaker 3: Guys are the worst.

1250
01:00:38,600 --> 01:00:39,000
Speaker 4: They are.

1251
01:00:39,360 --> 01:00:45,840
Speaker 2: You don't need us like, no, they're not, because there's

1252
01:00:45,920 --> 01:00:49,880
Speaker 2: guys like Mark and Easton and Red Star who respect

1253
01:00:50,080 --> 01:00:56,120
Speaker 2: the thing is there. If a guy is receptive to communication,

1254
01:00:56,520 --> 01:00:59,880
Speaker 2: they're fine, for sure. It's when they're like, E, she

1255
01:01:00,120 --> 01:01:03,760
Speaker 2: is nagging me when you're just trying to communicate. So

1256
01:01:03,960 --> 01:01:07,320
Speaker 2: I don't know what our final advice is except that communicates,

1257
01:01:07,360 --> 01:01:10,880
Speaker 2: sit down, divide what you're gonna do, and be clear

1258
01:01:10,920 --> 01:01:13,400
Speaker 2: about it, and and maybe lead with I don't want

1259
01:01:13,440 --> 01:01:14,080
Speaker 2: to nag you.

1260
01:01:14,720 --> 01:01:16,680
Speaker 3: It's a good leader. It's a good leading statement.

1261
01:01:16,960 --> 01:01:23,760
Speaker 2: Wow, all right, well that will wait. It's pretty I

1262
01:01:23,760 --> 01:01:25,320
Speaker 2: think I can cloudy this week.

1263
01:01:25,600 --> 01:01:27,800
Speaker 3: It's looking real, Zanzie over, it's.

1264
01:01:27,640 --> 01:01:29,720
Speaker 4: Gonna tomorrow is gonna be almost it's gonna be like

1265
01:01:29,760 --> 01:01:31,560
Speaker 4: upper seventy tomorrow. It's gonna be a great week.

1266
01:01:32,000 --> 01:01:35,200
Speaker 2: Oh wow, I have no idea what I'm talking about.

1267
01:01:35,680 --> 01:01:38,080
Speaker 2: Oh well, I.

1268
01:01:38,000 --> 01:01:39,360
Speaker 1: Just want to give a birthday shout out to my

1269
01:01:39,360 --> 01:01:41,200
Speaker 1: neighbor Aaron Lim, Happy birthday, Love you so much.

1270
01:01:41,200 --> 01:01:46,520
Speaker 3: I'm so glad you're my neighbor. Happy birthday later.

1271
01:01:50,160 --> 01:01:54,160
Speaker 2: All right, Well that will do it for today's podcast.

1272
01:01:54,240 --> 01:01:57,440
Speaker 2: Thank you to Jesse McCartney for making our dreams come true.

1273
01:01:58,440 --> 01:02:02,280
Speaker 2: Thank you Mark Easton and Ton for being amazing per usual.

1274
01:02:02,640 --> 01:02:06,200
Speaker 2: And we are going to attempt a somehow like a

1275
01:02:06,240 --> 01:02:09,360
Speaker 2: scrubbing in thing. Just got to figure out. I've been

1276
01:02:09,360 --> 01:02:12,840
Speaker 2: talking to Crystal, who runs our social media account, figuring

1277
01:02:12,880 --> 01:02:17,120
Speaker 2: out how we can do a massive group meeting. Not limited,

1278
01:02:17,200 --> 01:02:19,080
Speaker 2: but we will let you know about that.

1279
01:02:20,160 --> 01:02:22,080
Speaker 1: We love you that some of us are tech savvy,

1280
01:02:22,120 --> 01:02:24,680
Speaker 1: because let me just tell you, don't leave any of

1281
01:02:24,680 --> 01:02:26,800
Speaker 1: that up to me. I'm happy to participate, and I'm

1282
01:02:26,840 --> 01:02:30,840
Speaker 1: happy to be there and and and and do all

1283
01:02:30,880 --> 01:02:34,120
Speaker 1: that I can. But with tech stuff, I just need

1284
01:02:34,120 --> 01:02:36,440
Speaker 1: somebody to text stuff.

1285
01:02:36,560 --> 01:02:38,600
Speaker 2: You're kind of like a man with chores. You just

1286
01:02:38,640 --> 01:02:42,000
Speaker 2: pretend like you can't do it.

1287
01:02:42,120 --> 01:02:43,280
Speaker 3: Not totally true.

1288
01:02:44,160 --> 01:02:47,880
Speaker 2: No, I know. I saw it. I saw it, so

1289
01:02:48,000 --> 01:02:51,439
Speaker 2: she's not lying. All right, We love you and we

1290
01:02:51,480 --> 01:02:53,479
Speaker 2: will see you next week