WEBVTT - You Are a Badass with Jen Sincero 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:08.760 Hi, Catherine. Oh hello, Chelsea, Oh hello. I have an 0:00:08.840 --> 0:00:11.840 update from Chloe, who we talked to on our laure 0:00:11.920 --> 0:00:14.800 Lynn Jackson episode. She was the one who was having 0:00:14.880 --> 0:00:18.000 trouble finding work and she'd kind of like been going 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:21.640 after it for so long and wasn't getting any feedback 0:00:22.000 --> 0:00:26.840 or any responses to her resumes. So Chloe says, Laura 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:30.880 Lyn Jackson is magical. On January third, I started a 0:00:30.920 --> 0:00:33.559 full time job working in media and marketing at a 0:00:33.600 --> 0:00:36.960 local indie book publisher. Can you believe it? Thanks for 0:00:37.040 --> 0:00:39.880 reaching out, and big thanks for blessing me with being 0:00:39.880 --> 0:00:44.360 seen by Laura Lynn Jackson. It's all happening. Ah. Yes, 0:00:45.080 --> 0:00:47.000 it was like she was, like two weeks to the 0:00:47.080 --> 0:00:50.159 day after I shifted my energy, it all started happening. 0:00:50.200 --> 0:00:52.440 I thought that was so great. And then she also 0:00:52.479 --> 0:00:56.720 said one last thing. Knowing what Laurelyn Jackson is about 0:00:56.920 --> 0:01:00.720 signs angels, I can't help but feel like these angels 0:01:00.720 --> 0:01:03.520 helped work some magic for me. My new job is 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:08.520 across the street from a place called Chewies. Oh that's 0:01:08.600 --> 0:01:13.200 so cute. That's so sweet. Yeah, just loved that. I 0:01:13.280 --> 0:01:15.880 just loved that. So, you know what this stuff about 0:01:15.880 --> 0:01:20.000 shifting your energy. It really is true. Works everybody. It works. 0:01:20.000 --> 0:01:22.160 And if people don't know what we're talking about, all 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:24.240 the books we're talking about, we'll teach you the way. 0:01:24.800 --> 0:01:26.920 And if you're listening to us and you're like, oh, 0:01:26.959 --> 0:01:28.800 what does that mean? What does that mean? It's like, 0:01:29.520 --> 0:01:32.119 you want to bring positivity into your life. You want 0:01:32.120 --> 0:01:35.959 to bring inspiration into your life. You want to attract goodness, 0:01:36.120 --> 0:01:38.760 right and high vibes. You don't want to sit around 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:41.000 being negative, like you just have to think all the 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:44.560 negative thoughts pile up, pile up, and then you are 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:47.800 just like a negative trash bin, Like you are just 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:50.720 attracting that and you're stuck. And so when you start 0:01:50.720 --> 0:01:52.600 to flip it and just go, okay, I'm going to 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:54.480 look at this as a positive. Even when things don't 0:01:54.480 --> 0:01:56.280 turn out the way you want go, this is an 0:01:56.280 --> 0:01:58.880 opportunity for growth. This is an opportunity for me not 0:01:58.920 --> 0:02:00.680 to get upset and from me to figure out a 0:02:00.720 --> 0:02:04.480 solution without getting angry, without reacting. You'll be amazed at 0:02:04.480 --> 0:02:07.080 how quickly you can grow and how quickly things start 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:10.160 to be easier. It's like life doesn't have to be hard. 0:02:10.240 --> 0:02:12.720 We make it hard by our reactions to things, so 0:02:12.760 --> 0:02:17.080 you could always choose another way. Well, with that in mind, 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:21.079 we have somebody really exciting joining us today. I have 0:02:21.120 --> 0:02:24.000 recommended her book a bunch of times, even on this podcast. 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:27.160 Oh yeah, yeah. She's celebrating the ten year anniversary of 0:02:27.160 --> 0:02:29.679 her number one New York Times bestseller You Are a Badass, 0:02:29.919 --> 0:02:32.200 How to Stop Doubting your Greatness and Start Living an 0:02:32.200 --> 0:02:35.040 Awesome Life. And she has a few other books too, 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:37.400 but we're celebrating the ten year anniversary of this one, 0:02:37.440 --> 0:02:40.919 so please welcome New York Times bestselling author and celebrated 0:02:41.000 --> 0:02:45.040 voice in the world of self development, Jen Cinchero. Hi, Jen, 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:48.440 thank you so much for having me on. I'm so psyched. 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:52.000 Oh Hi, nice to meet you, Jen, You too, Chelsea. 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:56.760 You are just such a badass. Oh well, yes, well 0:02:56.800 --> 0:02:59.080 you wrote the book on badasses. This is I know 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:02.000 you're coming up on your ten year anniversary, right, yeah, 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:05.040 for your book which was a very big, big hit 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:08.200 and continues to be, which is called You Are a Badass, 0:03:08.200 --> 0:03:10.760 How to Stop Doubting your greatness and Start Living an 0:03:10.760 --> 0:03:14.679 Awesome life. And Catherine is very passionate and it has 0:03:14.720 --> 0:03:19.640 been very passionate about your book, so it's very inspiring. Yeah, 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:22.359 I've mentioned it on this podcast and many times we 0:03:22.440 --> 0:03:24.680 get a lot of people calling in who are like, 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:27.040 I'm just feeling so lost. I don't know what to 0:03:27.080 --> 0:03:29.760 do next. And I know for me, when I was 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:32.359 at a very similar point in my life to that, 0:03:32.960 --> 0:03:35.640 you know, your book was very life changing for me. 0:03:35.880 --> 0:03:38.800 So happy to hear that. But Jen, tell us a 0:03:38.840 --> 0:03:41.280 little bit about what kind of woke you up, because 0:03:41.280 --> 0:03:43.440 I know you were kind of going through a crisis 0:03:43.480 --> 0:03:46.840 of sorts right when you decided to take your life 0:03:46.840 --> 0:03:51.560 by the balls and make something happen with yourself. Yeah, 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:54.120 it was like a forty year crisis basically, just like 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:55.400 you know, I was have been a lot of fun. 0:03:55.560 --> 0:03:57.840 I was traveling, I was playing music, but I was 0:03:57.920 --> 0:04:00.880 just always so broken. I was actually living in a 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:04.760 garage in an alley in Venice Beach, and I was 0:04:04.880 --> 0:04:07.360 like forty years old, and I was just like, seriously, 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:10.800 this is the best you can do. So, you know, 0:04:10.800 --> 0:04:12.800 it wasn't sort of like the lightning bolt, like I 0:04:12.840 --> 0:04:14.560 almost got hit by a bus and then I finally 0:04:14.560 --> 0:04:17.240 got my ship together. But it was more just first 0:04:17.240 --> 0:04:20.360 of all, being broke is bull of ring. And second 0:04:20.400 --> 0:04:23.239 of all, I was like, I just had this feeling 0:04:23.320 --> 0:04:25.000 that there was so much more I could be doing 0:04:25.040 --> 0:04:26.400 with my life and that I wasn't doing it, and 0:04:26.400 --> 0:04:29.560 that was so much more painful than anything, honestly, and 0:04:29.640 --> 0:04:33.000 so I just made the decision. And you know, you 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:35.720 don't have to wait until your life completely bottoms out 0:04:35.760 --> 0:04:38.440 to make a decision to change stuff. So I just 0:04:38.640 --> 0:04:40.839 I made the decision. I started reading all the self 0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:44.120 help books. I went to all the any seminar. I 0:04:44.200 --> 0:04:46.960 was there with like my little name tech high five 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:50.279 in people telling them they're awesome, hugging all these weird strangers, 0:04:50.320 --> 0:04:53.160 Like I didn't care. Whatever I had to do, I 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:56.240 did it. And then in that process, you know, I 0:04:56.240 --> 0:04:58.080 had read every self help book under the sun. I 0:04:58.080 --> 0:05:00.400 was like, yeah, I could write a any one. No 0:05:00.400 --> 0:05:01.920 one's written a funny one. Where's the one with all 0:05:01.920 --> 0:05:04.599 the curses? And like, can write stories making fun of 0:05:04.600 --> 0:05:07.000 my family and stuff like that. So that's that's sort 0:05:07.040 --> 0:05:08.479 of what led to the idea, because I was a 0:05:08.560 --> 0:05:12.320 writer already. I broke right. And then what happened after that? 0:05:12.400 --> 0:05:15.400 You just started writing a book. I hired a coach, 0:05:15.960 --> 0:05:17.800 and I was reading the books, and I started my 0:05:17.800 --> 0:05:22.840 own online life coaching business, started making a lot of 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:26.600 money and really figured that if I could crack the code, 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:29.240 like because really I was so deeply immersed in a 0:05:29.279 --> 0:05:32.720 poverty consciousness and it was such a part of my identity, 0:05:33.040 --> 0:05:35.360 and I was like, if I can get my act together, 0:05:35.920 --> 0:05:39.720 anybody can. Like I was just so white knuckling it, 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:41.839 you know, fighting for like, oh, I can't make money, 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:43.719 you know, I'm living in a garage of my forties. 0:05:43.760 --> 0:05:45.760 Like I was proving it all the time. So I 0:05:45.839 --> 0:05:48.560 was like, Okay, my story was so deep and so 0:05:48.680 --> 0:05:52.080 boring and lasted so long that I knew I could 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:53.440 tell that the people how to do it. So that's 0:05:53.480 --> 0:05:56.000 that's sort of what inspired me writing the book. And 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:59.039 then it just took off. It was sort of a 0:05:59.080 --> 0:06:01.320 slow build. I call it yellow Snowball because it just 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:03.839 kept getting bigger and bigger. And we didn't make it 0:06:03.880 --> 0:06:06.240 onto the New York Times list until three years after 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:08.839 the book was out, and it's stayed off like five years. 0:06:08.960 --> 0:06:13.280 It just keeps growing. It's incredible. Wow, that's incredible. So 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:16.960 you talk a lot about manifestation, but you also talk 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:19.240 about doing all of the work that is needed in 0:06:19.360 --> 0:06:22.800 order to manifest something and which is I think a 0:06:22.839 --> 0:06:25.680 good area to start talking about as well, because I 0:06:25.680 --> 0:06:27.680 think a lot of people think, Okay, if I manifested, 0:06:27.720 --> 0:06:29.400 I think it's going to happen. Like it's not a 0:06:29.440 --> 0:06:32.760 magic trick. You actually have to move towards that goal, right, 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:34.040 and you gotta do a lot of stuff that scares 0:06:34.080 --> 0:06:35.680 the crap out of you. So that really is sort 0:06:35.720 --> 0:06:38.800 of the you know, the teachings, it's all the things. 0:06:38.960 --> 0:06:45.039 It's the meditating and getting quiet and allowing universal intelligence 0:06:45.080 --> 0:06:48.159 to lead the way and follow your intuition instead of 0:06:48.760 --> 0:06:51.880 following your mindset, which is what got you where you 0:06:51.880 --> 0:06:54.520 are right now. So it really is about thinking outside 0:06:54.520 --> 0:06:58.520 the box instead of saying things like I can't afford it, 0:06:58.560 --> 0:07:00.479 I'm too broke, you know, to sort of shift it 0:07:00.520 --> 0:07:03.480 to money flows to me easily and freely, which is 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:05.919 what I kept saying over and over even though I 0:07:06.000 --> 0:07:09.040 was still living in the garage. But it's about opening 0:07:09.120 --> 0:07:12.320 up to the greater possibility instead of staying with your 0:07:12.360 --> 0:07:15.760 blinders on. And then opportunities come your way that have 0:07:15.880 --> 0:07:19.880 been there all along. But then you're like, oh, maybe 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:23.040 I should hire that coach who charges one a third 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:25.800 of my annual income. You know, then when you start 0:07:25.800 --> 0:07:29.480 to shift your mindset the possibilities that arise, you don't 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:31.960 suddenly excuse your way out of them. You start to 0:07:31.960 --> 0:07:33.560 figure out how you're going to figure it out and 0:07:33.600 --> 0:07:38.040 make it happen. And how has your life changed since 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:41.200 you were forty? Oh my god, I now have a 0:07:41.240 --> 0:07:44.120 garage instead of living it. It's been so much fun. 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:47.480 I mean, I've written three more books in the Badass brand. 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:51.160 I've been traveling the world and helping wake people up. 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:54.200 You know, it's so much fun to really be able 0:07:54.240 --> 0:07:57.360 to help people live their one and only life on 0:07:57.400 --> 0:08:01.320 planet Earth and am much more satisfied and fun way. 0:08:01.480 --> 0:08:04.040 So it's just it's been awesome. Yeah, it is a 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:06.440 real gift to be able to like inspire people and 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:09.800 lift them up out of their depression or negative space 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:11.200 that they're in and be like, come on, you can 0:08:11.240 --> 0:08:13.080 get the ball rolling in a different direction. And I 0:08:13.160 --> 0:08:15.920 think it just takes you know, sometimes you can't get 0:08:15.960 --> 0:08:18.080 that from within. Sometimes you do need somebody else to 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:20.040 kick you in the ass before you understand that you 0:08:20.080 --> 0:08:22.880 need to kick yourself in the ass to keep things moving. 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:25.840 Because there's always a choice about how we're going to 0:08:25.880 --> 0:08:28.640 move forward. And if we're going to accept our circumstances 0:08:28.720 --> 0:08:30.680 or we're going to do everything we can to change them, 0:08:30.800 --> 0:08:33.800 right exactly, you have to have ambition about what your 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:36.240 future is going to be. Yeah, And I think what 0:08:36.320 --> 0:08:39.080 you said, like do whatever it takes like that really 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:41.240 is sort of you know, we all get to a 0:08:41.240 --> 0:08:43.400 certain point and then we freak out because it's too 0:08:43.400 --> 0:08:46.439 expensive or we might look stupid. And when you've made 0:08:46.480 --> 0:08:49.640 that decision that you're not screwing around anymore, you run 0:08:49.760 --> 0:08:51.439 straight towards the thing that scares the crap out of 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:53.480 you the most. And I really feel like that makes 0:08:53.520 --> 0:08:56.000 all the difference in the world. And I also think, honestly, 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:58.640 like what you're doing, and you know, doing it with 0:08:58.720 --> 0:09:02.160 some comedy and some levity, I feel like that opens 0:09:02.200 --> 0:09:04.600 it up to a whole new audience who wouldn't touch 0:09:04.640 --> 0:09:06.199 this kind of stuff with a ten foot pole. So 0:09:06.400 --> 0:09:09.520 that was part of my goal too. Yeah, I think 0:09:09.520 --> 0:09:13.480 that's so important for someone who might be just dipping 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:17.160 their toe into this water, like reading books. I know, Jen, 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:19.600 you've talked about like thinking Grow Rich and these other 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:22.840 like kind of more old school self help books, but 0:09:23.360 --> 0:09:26.720 constantly filling your mind with something that is going to 0:09:26.800 --> 0:09:30.960 raise your frequency is so hugely helpful. I know something 0:09:31.000 --> 0:09:34.120 both of you do. Yeah, it's important because it's easy 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:36.520 to sit and watch a dumb show. That's easy. It's 0:09:36.559 --> 0:09:38.360 better to watch something you don't know anything about, like 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:41.240 a documentary or you know, I watched this full Swing 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:43.800 golf documentary. I can't stand golf, but I'm like, well 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:47.160 that's better than watching some fucking stupid drama about you 0:09:47.200 --> 0:09:48.400 know what I mean. At least I'm going to learn 0:09:48.400 --> 0:09:50.480 about golf. Like maybe I'll need to know something about 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:52.520 golf one day. Hopefully I don't ever need to know 0:09:52.600 --> 0:09:55.199 anything about it. But you know, all of those things, 0:09:55.240 --> 0:09:57.240 it's like you make choices about how to like fill 0:09:57.280 --> 0:09:59.719 your cup more right, my cup of knowledge, Like it's 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:01.760 so important for me to always be learning and to 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:04.600 always be leaning something. I read three fiction books when 0:10:04.600 --> 0:10:06.080 I got to Whistler this year, and I was like, 0:10:06.280 --> 0:10:09.360 that's enough, Okay, you had your cake, and now it's 0:10:09.360 --> 0:10:11.360 time to do some real work. Like the next book 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:15.199 has to be, you know, like a serious nonfiction historical 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:17.480 Like I have put so much pressure on myself. But 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:20.200 it's like their argument about not putting too much pressure 0:10:20.200 --> 0:10:22.760 on or not putting enough pressure on yourself, you know, 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:26.040 like we do have to pressure ourselves. Everything comes from us, 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:30.439 Everything comes from within. And when you are not trying 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:35.880 to evolve or learn, then you kind of are stagnant 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:38.720 and you kind of are stuck and you're just doing 0:10:38.720 --> 0:10:40.880 the things that you like to do all the time. 0:10:40.920 --> 0:10:43.200 It's like that should be a huge part of your life, 0:10:43.200 --> 0:10:46.000 doing things you like to do. But it's also so 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:49.680 beneficial to constantly be challenging and learning. Like my niece 0:10:49.720 --> 0:10:51.280 was up here and she was talking about Martin Luther 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:53.800 and Lutheranism and how, you know, the Protestant Church and 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:56.320 how it was created. And I was like, huh, I 0:10:56.360 --> 0:10:59.240 don't remember that name. And I must have missed that 0:10:59.360 --> 0:11:03.280 day or week or month about Lutheranism and Martin Luther. 0:11:03.679 --> 0:11:05.520 And she told me all about it, you know, and 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:07.000 then I got a book. I'm like, all right, my 0:11:07.040 --> 0:11:09.640 eighteen year old niece just schooled me on Martin Luther. 0:11:09.760 --> 0:11:12.360 And I'm like, okay, great motivating, Like she just motivated 0:11:12.440 --> 0:11:14.160 me to go read a book about Martin Luther, so 0:11:14.200 --> 0:11:16.080 now I know what the fuck I'm talking about. And 0:11:16.120 --> 0:11:19.000 that feels so good to like, the knowledge is power 0:11:19.200 --> 0:11:22.120 more knowledge, more power, more growth. Well, and like you said, 0:11:22.160 --> 0:11:25.600 when you fill your cup, it can overflow onto the 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:30.080 people around you with knowledge, with brightness, with lightness, all that. Yeah, 0:11:30.080 --> 0:11:31.760 I call it going to the spiritual gym. Like you 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:34.480 don't get to get in shape and then stay in shape, 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:39.600 like you gotta keep exercising the mindset muscle. So absolutely, absolutely, 0:11:39.600 --> 0:11:42.160 and the exercise of meditation, this comes up all the time, 0:11:42.200 --> 0:11:44.040 how boring it is, or people I don't think they're 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:46.360 doing it well because their thoughts are moving. It's like, 0:11:46.360 --> 0:11:48.880 it's okay if your thoughts are moving. If you can't 0:11:48.880 --> 0:11:51.520 control your thoughts and you can't be completely blank, that's okay. 0:11:51.559 --> 0:11:56.319 It's the act of the meditation cumulatively that adds to you, 0:11:55.880 --> 0:11:58.440 like that brings something. You're setting a certain amount of 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:01.439 time aside every morning to be with yourself. That's something 0:12:01.840 --> 0:12:04.240 that's not nothing, regardless of whether you think you're doing 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:06.880 it well or not, because there isn't really a measure 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:09.440 of that either. And what other little tricks do you 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:11.439 have up your sleeve, things that you do as a 0:12:11.520 --> 0:12:15.080 part of your daily routine. Let's see, I'm big hiker, 0:12:15.240 --> 0:12:18.680 so getting outside and moving is always a great energy 0:12:18.679 --> 0:12:22.240 shifter for me. Music definitely. When I was working on this, 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:24.320 I had to put a moratorium on listening to Neil 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:27.319 Young because a lot of Neil but he's so fucking depressing, 0:12:27.360 --> 0:12:29.800 and it was so depressing. I know. I have a 0:12:29.840 --> 0:12:31.880 Neil Young playlist too, and sometimes I'm like, no, I'm 0:12:31.880 --> 0:12:34.240 going to kill myself. It's like, yeah, I put on 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:36.240 Paul Simon to feel good and then Neil Young pops 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:37.880 up and I'm like, no, no, no no, it's too dark 0:12:38.600 --> 0:12:40.160 to get chick done here. Yeah, so it was no 0:12:40.280 --> 0:12:42.800 Neil Young. But like you know, music that pumps you up, 0:12:42.840 --> 0:12:45.640 hanging out with people who inspire you is great. Listening 0:12:45.640 --> 0:12:48.200 to podcasts like this, you know, just but you gotta 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:50.080 have it down. You gotta have a routine down. You 0:12:50.080 --> 0:12:52.120 can't just sort of wing it every morning. I think 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:55.240 it's really important to know when you're meditating, to know 0:12:55.280 --> 0:12:57.920 where you're meditating, to know, you know, have your playlist, 0:12:57.960 --> 0:12:59.840 have your little routine. If you read a book for 0:12:59.880 --> 0:13:02.160 like five minutes every morning, you got to make it 0:13:02.240 --> 0:13:04.800 like a gym workout, because otherwise you won't do it. 0:13:04.840 --> 0:13:07.560 And then you know, then you wake up at ninety 0:13:07.600 --> 0:13:09.360 with your teeth in a cup and you're like, what 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:10.800 happened to my life? I was going to be so 0:13:10.880 --> 0:13:13.480 oftme so, and what can you think of it? As 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:16.240 far as you're life coaching. Are there any examples of 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:19.720 really inspiring transformations that you were able to see in 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:23.160 another person? Oh? Yeah, so so many. One of the 0:13:23.200 --> 0:13:25.000 things I love that has been coming up a lot 0:13:25.720 --> 0:13:29.360 is people with money. I think. I think money is 0:13:29.440 --> 0:13:32.800 so interesting and because I studied it so in depth 0:13:32.840 --> 0:13:35.400 and because I really had such a massive transformation around 0:13:35.400 --> 0:13:37.960 and I'm a little obsessed by it and that whole 0:13:38.040 --> 0:13:41.559 concept that money is currency and currency is energy. So 0:13:41.679 --> 0:13:44.800 money is just an energetic exchange between people. And when 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:50.280 you work the WICKEDI woo and like meditate and get 0:13:50.280 --> 0:13:54.240 in touch with source and focus on abundance and being 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:57.440 in the flow energetically with money, which really is what 0:13:57.480 --> 0:13:59.199 it's all about. That's what the mantras are about. And 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:01.760 that's why you don't walk around saying I can't afford it, 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:04.240 and you say money flows to me easily and freely. 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:08.959 That's about that frequency. And I can't tell you how 0:14:09.000 --> 0:14:14.280 many clients of mine have had stories about needing an 0:14:14.280 --> 0:14:16.800 exact amount of money this one guy that I just 0:14:16.840 --> 0:14:19.120 talked to you had a business that tanked and he 0:14:19.240 --> 0:14:22.320 needed two hundred and forty nine thousand dollars to sort 0:14:22.360 --> 0:14:25.440 of carry his lifestyle over and to start to launch 0:14:25.520 --> 0:14:28.400 his new business. And that amount of money came in 0:14:28.480 --> 0:14:32.080 out of the clear blue sky, just so unexpected, and 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:34.040 it was from an old business that he forgot that 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:36.080 he was closing down. But it was the exact amount 0:14:36.120 --> 0:14:37.560 of money. And this happens all the time when people 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:40.600 need to pay their rent or you know whatever. It is. 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:42.840 So the energy that you put on money and the 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:45.680 focus of the specifics it comes in all the time, 0:14:45.960 --> 0:14:49.320 which is really exciting. I had a really similar experience 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:52.760 not long ago. I had a job that was supposed 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:55.520 to pay me this like a very weirdly specific amount 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:58.960 of money, and I wound up leaving that job because 0:14:59.240 --> 0:15:01.480 the fit wasn't right, the energy was bad, it was 0:15:01.520 --> 0:15:04.080 a bit toxic, etc. And I felt like it was 0:15:04.120 --> 0:15:06.640 the right thing for me to leave that job. And 0:15:06.880 --> 0:15:10.640 when I went on to the next job, I felt 0:15:10.640 --> 0:15:13.120 this sort of confirmation that there had been the right choice, 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:16.800 because I wound up getting a bonus of exactly that 0:15:16.920 --> 0:15:19.400 same amount of money for the next thing that I 0:15:19.440 --> 0:15:22.320 wound up doing, and it just felt a little bit 0:15:22.400 --> 0:15:24.960 like a nod from the universe of like you did 0:15:24.960 --> 0:15:27.160 the right thing. And what was one of the most 0:15:27.160 --> 0:15:30.000 impactful things for you, Catherine when you read the book Originally, 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:34.000 I think having mantras and having those sorts of things 0:15:34.000 --> 0:15:36.520 were really helpful for me. And there was a time 0:15:36.560 --> 0:15:39.080 in the beginning where it felt like I was faking it, 0:15:39.120 --> 0:15:41.640 Like it felt, you know, I was coming from a 0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:46.360 place where there was some self deprecating humor, this sort 0:15:46.360 --> 0:15:49.640 of self talk stuff, and it wasn't fun for anyone 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:51.920 else to hear it. It also wasn't fun for me. 0:15:52.560 --> 0:15:56.640 And so reading your book talked about like, even if 0:15:56.680 --> 0:16:00.640 it feels like you're totally faking it, changing the language 0:16:00.640 --> 0:16:03.360 around how you talk to yourself. You know, it starts 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:05.560 with you have the thought or you say the thing 0:16:05.640 --> 0:16:09.800 that's derogatory or negative, and then you switch and you 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:12.680 might say this thing that feels so out of character, 0:16:13.240 --> 0:16:16.240 whether it's about beauty, or whether it's about positivity or 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:20.080 how successful you are or money. Saying to yourself something 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:24.400 different it feels very difficult at first, but then after 0:16:24.480 --> 0:16:27.840 a while it becomes such a habit and it raises 0:16:27.880 --> 0:16:30.320 your energy, Like it just makes you feel so much 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:33.520 better to talk about yourself, to talk about the way 0:16:33.560 --> 0:16:36.000 you live your life in a positive way that it 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:39.680 changes everything around you. It changes how people react to you, 0:16:40.200 --> 0:16:42.720 It changes the sort of opportunities that come to you. 0:16:43.360 --> 0:16:46.520 It changes just really how you feel on a really 0:16:46.640 --> 0:16:49.000 deep level. And that was huge. Yeah, And it's like 0:16:49.000 --> 0:16:51.280 a job. It's a full time job to keep yourself 0:16:51.320 --> 0:16:54.520 and your vibration high. Yes, it's active work. It's not 0:16:54.600 --> 0:16:56.560 like you can just fix yourself and like you go 0:16:56.600 --> 0:16:59.200 to therapy and you're done, or you learn how to meditate, 0:16:59.240 --> 0:17:01.640 but you're done with that too, Like yeah, no, you 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:05.159 have to actively constantly bring yourself up right, you know, 0:17:05.280 --> 0:17:08.720 and keep yourself there. Yeah, and you know, and you know, 0:17:08.760 --> 0:17:10.960 the self help role gets a lot of shade for 0:17:11.560 --> 0:17:13.760 being like, yeah, you're gonna be all Pollyanna, like somebody 0:17:14.000 --> 0:17:15.399 runs over your foot and you're supposed to be in 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:16.960 a good mood about it. You know. It's not about 0:17:17.000 --> 0:17:19.560 not being human and not having emotions and not having 0:17:19.880 --> 0:17:22.600 temper tantrums when freaking out and pity parties and all that, 0:17:22.680 --> 0:17:25.600 But it's about not identifying with that and not staying 0:17:25.640 --> 0:17:29.480 there and not feeding the beast and dragging it through 0:17:29.520 --> 0:17:32.520 the mud forever. You know, it's about feeling your feelings 0:17:32.880 --> 0:17:35.240 and then making conscious choices on where you're going to 0:17:35.280 --> 0:17:38.880 place your focus moving forward. Yeah, and also not being 0:17:38.880 --> 0:17:40.800 a victim. You know, I can imagine that you must 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:42.600 have felt like a victim for a long time living 0:17:42.640 --> 0:17:45.720 in a garage, But like, there isn't a victim. We're 0:17:45.760 --> 0:17:48.520 not victims. Like, we have the ability to pull ourselves 0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:51.359 out of anything. So when you're in that victim state 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:55.160 of mind and you're blaming everybody else for everything that's 0:17:55.200 --> 0:17:57.880 going on in your life, like, then you are stuck. 0:17:58.119 --> 0:18:01.400 You have to take yourself out, take responsibility for your 0:18:01.400 --> 0:18:05.960 own actions and behave like a fucking queen. Behave like 0:18:06.080 --> 0:18:08.280 you want to be seen and like you want to 0:18:08.320 --> 0:18:12.119 see yourself, and that means raising it up, like, Okay, 0:18:12.359 --> 0:18:14.360 I only have the power to take care of myself. 0:18:14.400 --> 0:18:16.600 You know, I used to be such a victim mentality. 0:18:16.800 --> 0:18:19.040 I would be broken. I would blame this person and 0:18:19.119 --> 0:18:21.119 that person. It's like you're broke because you're waiting tables 0:18:21.119 --> 0:18:23.080 and you don't save any money. That's why you're broke. 0:18:23.119 --> 0:18:24.679 That's why you have to ask for loans from your 0:18:24.680 --> 0:18:27.040 family every year when I was in my twenties, you know, 0:18:27.440 --> 0:18:30.080 and if they didn't want to give me money, I'd 0:18:30.080 --> 0:18:32.280 be mad at them. I'd be like, oh, how can 0:18:32.320 --> 0:18:34.560 you not help me? It's like what like it was 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:37.879 just such an immature state of mind, you know. So 0:18:38.080 --> 0:18:40.520 every one of us is a queen, okay, And I'm 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:42.359 talking to all the gay men out there too. You 0:18:42.359 --> 0:18:45.359 guys are queens with us, okay. So, Katherine, what do 0:18:45.440 --> 0:18:47.320 we have in store for us today? I think a 0:18:47.320 --> 0:18:49.800 lot of stuff that is right up both of your alleys. 0:18:50.000 --> 0:18:52.359 We have a question about meditation, which I think is 0:18:52.440 --> 0:18:57.160 really good and solid. We have some self love stuff, 0:18:57.440 --> 0:19:00.919 some stuff around how people feel about them, how do 0:19:00.960 --> 0:19:03.560 I change my life? Stuff. But let's take a quick 0:19:03.600 --> 0:19:09.720 break and we'll be right back with Jen and Chelsea. 0:19:10.440 --> 0:19:13.920 And we're back. We're back, So, Jen, we have people 0:19:14.119 --> 0:19:16.639 right in. We also have callers who will be joining 0:19:16.720 --> 0:19:20.359 us as well. But I wanted to start with this question, 0:19:20.640 --> 0:19:23.440 and I thought it was very sweet and very honest, 0:19:24.000 --> 0:19:27.119 Drew says, Dear Chelsea, My question is not related to 0:19:27.160 --> 0:19:30.160