1 00:00:01,280 --> 00:00:04,040 Speaker 1: Right now, it is time for today's Strawberry Letter. If 2 00:00:04,080 --> 00:00:07,160 Speaker 1: you need some advice on relationships, on dating, on work, 3 00:00:07,200 --> 00:00:10,479 Speaker 1: on sex, on parenting, and more, please submit You're a 4 00:00:10,520 --> 00:00:13,960 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and click submit 5 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:16,480 Speaker 1: to Strawberry Letter. Was there anything you wanted to add 6 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:18,599 Speaker 1: to that? If you don't send a letter, as you 7 00:00:18,640 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: will never be famous, we will be a loser. Is 8 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:26,760 Speaker 1: that what you said? This could be your own chance 9 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: at fame? Let that we could be reading your letter 10 00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:35,639 Speaker 1: on the air, just like we're gonna read this one 11 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:38,440 Speaker 1: right now. Buckle up and hold on tight. We gotta 12 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:42,960 Speaker 1: pull you here. It is the straw Mary Letter. Subject 13 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:46,559 Speaker 1: my man's daughter saw it all. Dear Stephen, Shirley might 14 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:49,479 Speaker 1: Beyonce and I have been together for a while, but 15 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:52,680 Speaker 1: we don't live in the same city, so we do 16 00:00:52,760 --> 00:00:56,280 Speaker 1: everything we can to spice keep the spice in our relationship. 17 00:00:56,760 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 1: We spend flirt, We send flirty texas and splicit pictures, 18 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:04,160 Speaker 1: and when we're together it is on and popping. The 19 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:07,840 Speaker 1: texas and pictures we send are so raunchy, risque and 20 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 1: vulgar that a porn star would blush. We can't help it. Well, 21 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:17,039 Speaker 1: now we have a big problem. My man has a 22 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: fifteen year old daughter and I have always had a 23 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:24,199 Speaker 1: great relationship with her until recently when she went through 24 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:27,840 Speaker 1: her daughter's phone, her father's phone and saw it all. 25 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:31,600 Speaker 1: Then then she does not want anything to do with 26 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:34,960 Speaker 1: me or her dad. She has not visited him since 27 00:01:35,000 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 1: this incident. I have reached out to her, but she 28 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 1: will not speak to me. I am so hurt because 29 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:43,279 Speaker 1: she thought of me as her stepmom and I called 30 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 1: her my daughter. My man is crushed and he doesn't 31 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:49,560 Speaker 1: know what to do. By the way, she has been 32 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:53,680 Speaker 1: punished several times for going through other people's things, but 33 00:01:53,800 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 1: this time is different. I do now know how. I 34 00:01:57,240 --> 00:01:59,200 Speaker 1: do not know how to fix this or if it 35 00:01:59,320 --> 00:02:02,320 Speaker 1: can be fixed. I think my man could be doing 36 00:02:02,400 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: more to help. He's got to step up, or his 37 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 1: relationship with his daughter may not ever be the same. 38 00:02:08,040 --> 00:02:10,240 Speaker 1: I need some real advice on how to handle this 39 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 1: and keep my family together. Please help, Wow, dear, please help. Yeah, 40 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:22,400 Speaker 1: this is a mess right here. This is a big problem. 41 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:26,639 Speaker 1: This young lady has been punished already for going through 42 00:02:26,680 --> 00:02:29,360 Speaker 1: people's things, and you know that's the problem. When you 43 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:32,320 Speaker 1: go through people's things, A lot of times you find 44 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 1: what you don't want to find, and you see what 45 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: you don't want to see or what you'd never think 46 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:39,920 Speaker 1: in a million years you would see. This is her dad. 47 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:43,520 Speaker 1: She's traumatized. This is her soon to be step mom 48 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:46,520 Speaker 1: that you know she highly looks up to, and at 49 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:49,160 Speaker 1: a fifteen year old, she as a fifteen year old, 50 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:52,720 Speaker 1: she cannot process this. It's hard for her to process. 51 00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:57,080 Speaker 1: So this is a major problem for everybody all around. 52 00:02:57,240 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 1: And quite frankly, you know, I don't know what to 53 00:03:00,880 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 1: tell you to do. Um. You know, you want to 54 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:05,600 Speaker 1: keep your family together. Maybe you can start with some 55 00:03:05,680 --> 00:03:08,560 Speaker 1: sort of family therapy. You know, you got to try 56 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:11,440 Speaker 1: and talk to this this young girl and see if 57 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:14,080 Speaker 1: you can get through to her on a different level. 58 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:16,360 Speaker 1: I mean, but it's going to be hard because she's 59 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:21,000 Speaker 1: seen you like this. So you know, you got to 60 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:23,520 Speaker 1: talk about the respect level. Now, you got to talk 61 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:27,399 Speaker 1: about the fact that she sees you is probably somebody 62 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:30,919 Speaker 1: nasty and just someone that she doesn't want to deal with. 63 00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 1: You know, she's so disappointed and upset with her dad. 64 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:38,440 Speaker 1: But I think in this instance you and her dad 65 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 1: are going to have to sit her down and talk 66 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:43,160 Speaker 1: to her especially her dad. But give it a little time, 67 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:46,440 Speaker 1: Let some time go by, and then maybe maybe you 68 00:03:46,480 --> 00:03:49,839 Speaker 1: can all come to the table and have a conversation. 69 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 1: You know, tell her it was an accident. You didn't 70 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,960 Speaker 1: mean to for her to see all of this, and 71 00:03:56,400 --> 00:03:59,040 Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. This is a tough one 72 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:03,080 Speaker 1: for me, Steve, not for you. Yeah, there ain't nothing 73 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:10,680 Speaker 1: you can do. That is nothing you can do. Let's 74 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:15,160 Speaker 1: just start with the fact you can't turn it down 75 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:18,560 Speaker 1: just a little bit, because what I'm about to say 76 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:26,279 Speaker 1: I need everybody's undivided. Okay, here's the whole letters in 77 00:04:26,400 --> 00:04:32,240 Speaker 1: this right here were seen flirty texas and explicit pictures 78 00:04:33,040 --> 00:04:35,680 Speaker 1: and when we're together, it's on in Papa. Here is 79 00:04:35,720 --> 00:04:42,920 Speaker 1: the killer. The text and pictures we send are so runchy, 80 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:50,679 Speaker 1: ris skate and vulgar that a pawn star would blush. 81 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:56,160 Speaker 1: I hadn't done it. What she's saying is what Stormy 82 00:04:56,279 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: Daniels did. We're President Trump nothing. Wow, y'all been doing photos, 83 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:14,320 Speaker 1: photo shoots and set ups from Blacktail magazine. Black Tail, Yeah, 84 00:05:14,400 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 1: that's how raunchy yo. Black Tail was a black porno 85 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: magazine with no makeup artist, with no no touch up 86 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:29,919 Speaker 1: some photo. We're taking this picture, we're printing it. We 87 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 1: ain't got money for touch up, stretch marks, bullet wounds, 88 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:45,719 Speaker 1: bruising cuts, very coast veins, all love it? Bite mind? 89 00:05:45,839 --> 00:05:49,719 Speaker 1: Now what my question to you is when you say 90 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:55,479 Speaker 1: raunch you risk skate and volgar that a porn star 91 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:57,919 Speaker 1: war blush. Let me ask you a couple of questions. 92 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:01,240 Speaker 1: You obviously have sent a at you where your right 93 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:05,200 Speaker 1: foot was on the floor? Well, where was your left foot? 94 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:07,920 Speaker 1: Didn't not put that in the letters? I'm just asking 95 00:06:07,920 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: because how raunchy is we talking? Baby? She said it? 96 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:14,680 Speaker 1: If your left foot let me explain something to you, 97 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:18,880 Speaker 1: was higher than your pelvit in that picture right there? 98 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:25,320 Speaker 1: Who that runch Now now that we've COVID, now that's 99 00:06:25,440 --> 00:06:28,920 Speaker 1: risk skate. That's risk skate. Now that you got your 100 00:06:28,960 --> 00:06:32,680 Speaker 1: foot up, hide in your pelvit, what would make it 101 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:38,040 Speaker 1: runch you? What did you do? Well, now you start 102 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:43,279 Speaker 1: that had movement in it. Raunchy is movement? So you 103 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:47,360 Speaker 1: didn't send a video? Okay, we'll have her too. Yeah. 104 00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:50,159 Speaker 1: Steve's response coming up at twenty three after the hours 105 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:57,159 Speaker 1: subject my man's daughter saw it. All you're listening, all right? 106 00:06:57,240 --> 00:07:00,359 Speaker 1: Come on, Steve Let's recap Today's Strawberry Letters sub My 107 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:03,600 Speaker 1: man's daughter saw it all. This fifteen year old girl 108 00:07:03,680 --> 00:07:08,320 Speaker 1: then broke into her daddy's phone, and since they live 109 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:12,040 Speaker 1: a party in relationship, they send each other explicit pictures. 110 00:07:12,360 --> 00:07:15,559 Speaker 1: The text and pictures were seeing a soul, raunch it, risk, skate, 111 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:19,280 Speaker 1: and vulgar, that a pawn star with blush. We can't 112 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:22,200 Speaker 1: help him. Well, the problem is a girl and found 113 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 1: the pictures, and since she then saw it, she don't 114 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 1: want anything to do with me or her daddy. We 115 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 1: didn't punish this girl before for going through other people's things, 116 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:33,840 Speaker 1: but this time is different. I don't know how to 117 00:07:33,880 --> 00:07:36,520 Speaker 1: fix it or can be fixed. This can't be fixed. 118 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 1: But now let reiterate. You sent a picture that was raunchy, risk, skate, 119 00:07:42,880 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 1: and volgar. My breakdown is how the picture was The 120 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:51,040 Speaker 1: three things risk skate picture is your foot is on 121 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 1: the floor, Your right foot is flat on the floor, 122 00:07:56,320 --> 00:08:00,600 Speaker 1: your left foot is somewhere up higher than you pelvit. 123 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:05,360 Speaker 1: That makes for a risque picture. What made the picture runch? You? 124 00:08:05,600 --> 00:08:08,360 Speaker 1: Runch you? Was you put that special effect on it 125 00:08:08,520 --> 00:08:11,240 Speaker 1: for you? Was a humping real fast. You was boomeranging 126 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:14,440 Speaker 1: your picture. Yeah, now you got that in there. Then 127 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:18,280 Speaker 1: what made it vulgar was something was in your hand. 128 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:21,920 Speaker 1: Oh the only other thing you could have been doing. 129 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:26,040 Speaker 1: You nick it and you barefoot, you on your toes 130 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:29,400 Speaker 1: on your right foot, but your left foot is flat 131 00:08:29,440 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 1: up against that wall. I'm talking about, flat up against 132 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:37,439 Speaker 1: that wall. So that's the breakdown between risque, runchy and volte. Yeah. 133 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 1: Now you didn't done all this hill wow, and you 134 00:08:40,200 --> 00:08:45,680 Speaker 1: turning round talking back over your shoulder at the camera, 135 00:08:46,120 --> 00:08:48,679 Speaker 1: and you didn't mention his name. So the little girl 136 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:53,680 Speaker 1: thank us. Hell now all she see and you guys, yeah, 137 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:59,760 Speaker 1: and you got renny what you know to look back 138 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:04,400 Speaker 1: back down? She could damn there see it yours paba. 139 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:06,480 Speaker 1: And when you got your leg up that high, you 140 00:09:06,600 --> 00:09:08,760 Speaker 1: damn nig got you look right over your shoulder and 141 00:09:08,840 --> 00:09:12,960 Speaker 1: right behind your shoulder, flat as daddy. That's why she 142 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:15,080 Speaker 1: don't want to talk to nobody. Now. Now the girl 143 00:09:15,160 --> 00:09:18,280 Speaker 1: don't want to talk to y'all because her damn daddy. 144 00:09:19,400 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 1: It's just this NASTI sh Yeah, I'm gonna tell you 145 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:28,560 Speaker 1: one thing, because my daddy did some pornographic around me 146 00:09:28,720 --> 00:09:32,640 Speaker 1: one time. I would not pornographic to me, just around me, 147 00:09:32,720 --> 00:09:35,760 Speaker 1: which would have been today, would have been pornographic. My 148 00:09:35,880 --> 00:09:38,520 Speaker 1: daddy was woke up neked one night and went in 149 00:09:38,600 --> 00:09:42,079 Speaker 1: the refrigerator and I was coming downstairs to use the bathroom, 150 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:44,839 Speaker 1: and he was standing in the refrigerator drinking out of 151 00:09:44,920 --> 00:09:50,640 Speaker 1: ice water bottle neck and I saw we didn't have 152 00:09:50,720 --> 00:09:53,679 Speaker 1: money for therapy. So I'm just gonna be honest with you. 153 00:09:53,960 --> 00:10:02,360 Speaker 1: I still ain't over. I'm still he Yeah, trauma. He 154 00:10:04,040 --> 00:10:11,160 Speaker 1: wasn't as bright as today's turn around me, but contact 155 00:10:12,559 --> 00:10:15,600 Speaker 1: and then when he saw me, he continued to drink 156 00:10:16,200 --> 00:10:24,600 Speaker 1: and put his damn hand on this hip. You know, man, 157 00:10:24,760 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 1: it was very different from me back then. So I 158 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:31,439 Speaker 1: didn't have to worry about it. And so I was traumatized. 159 00:10:31,480 --> 00:10:35,240 Speaker 1: This girl is traumatized. She not talking to you or 160 00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:38,439 Speaker 1: her daddy. Y'all got to get in therapy, yeah, definitely, 161 00:10:38,520 --> 00:10:40,640 Speaker 1: but she probably ain't gonna want to go. I mean, 162 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:43,120 Speaker 1: I mean, well, even if she goes by, I said, 163 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:45,520 Speaker 1: what she gonna do, what y'all gonna do, y'all gonna 164 00:10:45,520 --> 00:10:48,200 Speaker 1: take the pictures to discuss each one, But you know 165 00:10:48,320 --> 00:10:52,920 Speaker 1: she's gone to her mom. Well maybe not. She might 166 00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:56,520 Speaker 1: not trouble for looking. Yeah, because she didn't got in trouble. 167 00:10:56,720 --> 00:10:58,760 Speaker 1: Ain't gonna need a whipping her punishing her for this. 168 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:01,480 Speaker 1: Because if y'all had been sending all that nasty man 169 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 1: and what code your fiance guy, where fifteen year old 170 00:11:04,920 --> 00:11:07,920 Speaker 1: can get in it? I know, well, you know, why 171 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:11,720 Speaker 1: is it? Fifteen year old with his phone? That's what? Yeah, 172 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:14,320 Speaker 1: thank you, Yeah, I have my own phone. But I 173 00:11:14,360 --> 00:11:17,959 Speaker 1: mean she has a problem obviously with being nosy and 174 00:11:18,040 --> 00:11:21,680 Speaker 1: go through other people's nosy then got you in there. 175 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:25,640 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, now your share off shot. Yeah, she's looking 176 00:11:25,679 --> 00:11:28,280 Speaker 1: for something. But in due time this will heal. It 177 00:11:28,360 --> 00:11:30,960 Speaker 1: will it will heal in time because she gonna go 178 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:35,240 Speaker 1: off to college. Her own activities will begin. And what 179 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 1: y'all doing with pale and compassing and what the kids 180 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 1: out here doing right now? I'm telling y'all right now, 181 00:11:40,559 --> 00:11:43,160 Speaker 1: you think they'll get married? Who the lady who wrote 182 00:11:43,160 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 1: the letter in her fiance? Yeah? They Yeah, man, you 183 00:11:47,559 --> 00:11:50,760 Speaker 1: cost that little girl probably screen shot them pictures and 184 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:54,240 Speaker 1: send them to her phone. Yeah, that little girl right there. Yeah, 185 00:11:54,240 --> 00:11:55,920 Speaker 1: it's probably gonna have to go on and get married 186 00:11:56,080 --> 00:11:59,800 Speaker 1: and all that. So I don't know, we really can't help. 187 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:01,680 Speaker 1: I don't know what to tell you. I don't know 188 00:12:01,720 --> 00:12:07,680 Speaker 1: how how nasty. Hey, so risk a runchy and vulgar. 189 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:11,880 Speaker 1: There's levels, there's level So let me guess what another 190 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:13,720 Speaker 1: picture you was on you was nicking on a bike 191 00:12:16,360 --> 00:12:18,920 Speaker 1: like her stationary bike. Yeah, she was nicking on because 192 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:23,880 Speaker 1: she was exercising and yeah on the tour of the 193 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:29,559 Speaker 1: France bike and you got extra jigu with it. You 194 00:12:29,559 --> 00:12:34,200 Speaker 1: can took the seed off. You sent that patical little 195 00:12:34,200 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 1: girl in all types of I feel sorry for the 196 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:39,040 Speaker 1: little girl. Yeah, she tried to get her mind rapping 197 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:42,280 Speaker 1: on hot nasty you and her damn daddy is and Steve, 198 00:12:42,400 --> 00:12:45,520 Speaker 1: no one wants to see their parents, nobody, No one 199 00:12:45,840 --> 00:12:49,720 Speaker 1: wants like that. Ever, you really don't want to see 200 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:52,120 Speaker 1: your money, You don't want to stand and you definitely 201 00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:53,960 Speaker 1: don't want to hear him. But that's a whole other 202 00:12:53,960 --> 00:12:58,640 Speaker 1: shop email or instagram us your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter. 203 00:12:58,640 --> 00:13:01,880 Speaker 1: At Steve Harvey f M. You're listening to the Extreme 204 00:13:02,040 --> 00:13:03,000 Speaker 1: Harday Morning Show.