WEBVTT - Ep 65 "Baby Mama Culture" 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:05.520 Talk talk talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with 0:00:05.640 --> 0:00:11.800 an opinion to talk back. What's up, y'all? Welcome to 0:00:11.800 --> 0:00:13.960 a new episode and we talk back. It's your girl 0:00:14.040 --> 0:00:17.119 a J. A Hey, y'all is tam Bam. I love 0:00:17.160 --> 0:00:19.840 you guys once again. I love you to a J. 0:00:20.160 --> 0:00:23.840 I love you to my f with the L man. 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:30.080 How's your weekend? That was cool. I attended my one 0:00:30.120 --> 0:00:38.520 of my cousins um surprise birthday party on Saturday. That's 0:00:38.520 --> 0:00:40.800 about it. And crazy when you're all your friends starting 0:00:40.800 --> 0:00:44.640 to turn forty. Girl, you hear me forty years old? 0:00:44.640 --> 0:00:50.080 It's my first cousin. Yeah, it was cool how she looked. 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:54.040 She looked very pretty for her birthday. I have to 0:00:54.040 --> 0:00:57.400 wear the same coloring stuff. Why do you say that? 0:00:57.880 --> 0:01:00.120 You know how people when they have their birthday, if 0:01:00.160 --> 0:01:01.960 they want everybody were black, and they come in with 0:01:02.040 --> 0:01:04.240 like the most bright color or something like that. No, 0:01:04.680 --> 0:01:06.480 but it's weird that you said that because this is 0:01:06.520 --> 0:01:11.200 a cousin that I've been harboring. Look what you mean, 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:15.200 I've been harboring something, not resentment, but like some like 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:17.520 side I should at her for the last ten years 0:01:17.560 --> 0:01:21.600 that she don't know about she's gonna know now, and 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:24.480 it was something simulation like having to address like people. 0:01:24.520 --> 0:01:26.640 It was for her fucking wed and when she got married, 0:01:27.680 --> 0:01:30.520 Oh you told me. Yeah, I like why you said that. 0:01:31.400 --> 0:01:34.800 Let's listen. I can feel the energy comp birl. I 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:38.120 love her now, but you know it's still side I 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:40.800 because now at this point it be it would be 0:01:40.800 --> 0:01:44.119 petty for me to address it. But maybe you should 0:01:44.160 --> 0:01:47.160 because you still feel away. I do because I just 0:01:47.200 --> 0:01:50.320 be feeling like I don't know. I'd be feeling like 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:51.960 people be coming for me and I don't be coming 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:54.160 for them. So you should talk to her about it, 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:59.800 calling tomorrow probably not. Yeah, that's okay, But anyway, that's 0:01:59.840 --> 0:02:02.280 my first cousin who asked me to be an usher 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:06.040 in her wedding some years ago, and the ushers and 0:02:06.080 --> 0:02:09.960 the wedding was serving food to the immediate family. And 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:13.440 this is my first cousin. I would never ask my 0:02:13.520 --> 0:02:17.080 first cousin to be an usher in my fucking wedding 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:20.240 serving food to the rest of the family. Dressed in 0:02:20.320 --> 0:02:26.640 black and white, grown as woman. Two years ago, I 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:30.680 was living no, I was living in Atlanta. I had 0:02:30.880 --> 0:02:35.240 had to drive the Charleston for that wedding. Maybe you, uh, 0:02:35.440 --> 0:02:37.720 that is not a young cousin when the other ushers 0:02:37.720 --> 0:02:42.000 were people from the church. Oh you was the only usher. Yes, 0:02:45.120 --> 0:02:47.280 and look my best friend at the time. She ended 0:02:47.360 --> 0:02:49.480 up being one of the ushers. And she was pissed 0:02:49.480 --> 0:02:52.640 the whole time. She was dating my my cousin, which 0:02:52.639 --> 0:02:55.400 is my my cousin who had a birthday her brother. 0:02:55.760 --> 0:02:58.200 They was eating because she was serving food. She can't relax, 0:02:58.400 --> 0:03:00.720 like I want to go to your wedding and chill. 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:04.120 I don't want to be working at my family member's wedding. 0:03:05.960 --> 0:03:09.200 And this was a big, nice, elaborate wedding where you 0:03:09.240 --> 0:03:13.639 had like staff, like yeah, because maybe she needed somebody 0:03:13.680 --> 0:03:16.440 to do it, like girl, no, listen, this is the 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:19.280 last thing I'm gonna say about this. At her bridle shower, 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:23.959 my voice was completely gone, so I couldn't like, um, yeah, 0:03:24.000 --> 0:03:26.000 I couldn't talk for real like you would have just 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:28.440 sound like nothing. But her maid of honor. She was 0:03:28.480 --> 0:03:31.360 introducing us to her maid of honor. Right, it's the 0:03:31.440 --> 0:03:33.920 interesting she introduced my sister. She was like, yeah, this 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:37.920 is my cousin Sam, and then this is Astley. This 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:39.960 is how she introduced me to her maid of honor right, 0:03:40.280 --> 0:03:42.560 and the girl was like, oh, she's not in the wedding. 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:46.080 She's not a bridesmaid or or um usher or anything. 0:03:47.480 --> 0:03:49.440 And I just had to sit there like I wanted 0:03:49.480 --> 0:03:54.000 to fight them, but I was not a fucking us 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:55.960 because at that point I had told her within the 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:59.000 same day that she'd asked me that I went't wasn't 0:03:59.000 --> 0:04:03.040 comfortable with doing it. Yeah, like when I said yes initially, 0:04:03.600 --> 0:04:04.920 then I was like, I don't want to do that. 0:04:05.080 --> 0:04:06.320 So then I hit her back and I was like, 0:04:06.480 --> 0:04:08.280 I think i'd rather just, you know, just come and 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:12.600 sit and enjoy your wedding. And then no, I didn't 0:04:12.600 --> 0:04:14.440 do it. You didn't do it. This is And then 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:16.640 a couple of months later, here comes to Brattle Shower 0:04:17.400 --> 0:04:20.240 and so your friend is basically the spokesperson for the ship. 0:04:20.320 --> 0:04:25.000 Y'all probably I'm talking about but I renigged within fifteen minutes. 0:04:25.360 --> 0:04:28.279 That was shape like, you're not an ussure anything. And 0:04:28.360 --> 0:04:34.240 that's why I still have yes and maybe a little 0:04:34.240 --> 0:04:43.720 bit just a dad. I was your weekend anyway about 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:48.800 me being fucking petty. Ten years later, Um, I went 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:52.640 to my best friend's wedding this weekend and it was 0:04:52.800 --> 0:04:55.960 so beautiful. I had so much fun. I caught the 0:04:56.000 --> 0:04:59.280 bouquet like, let me tell y'all, I odell Beckham and 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:02.560 bitches like was like I came through like full sprint 0:05:02.600 --> 0:05:08.080 and called that ship and I did a speech and 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:11.240 everybody looked good. Like everybody looked good. It wasn't like 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:15.040 no people looking ratchet at the wead that everything. Everybody 0:05:15.080 --> 0:05:18.159 looked so beautiful and the bride looked so beautiful and 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:20.920 a groomsmen everybody. It was just such a beautiful affair 0:05:20.920 --> 0:05:22.680 and I had so much fun. I'm so happy for 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:26.279 my best friend and her new husband. Y'all. Congratulations to 0:05:26.320 --> 0:05:30.880 the whites. I love you guys. So that was. She 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:34.560 looked beautiful. It was a good time. So that's why. 0:05:34.640 --> 0:05:38.359 And I got really drunk at the way and it 0:05:38.520 --> 0:05:40.600 was like it was like very classy affair, but it 0:05:40.720 --> 0:05:45.000 got ratchet you know at the reception. I've seen something 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:51.280 videos like, yeah, it was not ratchet, like that girl 0:05:51.320 --> 0:05:53.760 stripping remember that. Oh you know, it didn't go there. 0:05:54.279 --> 0:05:59.719 It was sophistic ratchet, you know, combination, not no stripping 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:02.839 and all that stuff. Yeah, So yeah, that was. It 0:06:02.920 --> 0:06:05.920 was a beautiful fair. And now I'm tired, I'm exhausted. 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:08.760 It's over. Yeah, it's over. I wish I could do 0:06:08.800 --> 0:06:10.760 it again this weekend. Know, that's how much fun I had. 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:13.680 And it was like even people there that I didn't like, 0:06:13.839 --> 0:06:15.599 and I just was I loved them that day. It 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:18.200 was just so much love and energy in the air 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:20.280 that I was just like, I love y'all to ship. 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:24.360 No nigger. Cardi B said, if we beat, we're gonna 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:28.360 beat forever. There's so much good vibes. You just forgot 0:06:28.400 --> 0:06:31.800 any beef that you had, that right, So yeah, that 0:06:31.880 --> 0:06:35.679 was my weekend. I like weddings. I did catch the bouquet. 0:06:35.720 --> 0:06:38.680 When I went to d r Um last month, I 0:06:38.720 --> 0:06:43.200 caught the bouquet tool. You know what many times that 0:06:43.279 --> 0:06:45.600 I caught the fucking bouquet at a wedding, that's at 0:06:45.640 --> 0:06:48.360 least the third time. So all you're saying is you're 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:54.320 a linebacker. It means I can catch a bit the 0:06:54.400 --> 0:06:56.960 elbow and bitches. For years trying to catch that bouquet. 0:06:57.600 --> 0:07:00.560 That was my first time really actively pursuing the Okay, 0:07:01.360 --> 0:07:04.039 yeah you usually sit down, No, I stand up, but 0:07:04.080 --> 0:07:07.159 I'd just be like, like if it would have landed 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:09.000 next to my feet, I would like somebody been to 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:12.280 get there kick it. But this time I was like 0:07:12.360 --> 0:07:16.080 give me that ship. Shay. What we got in stupid 0:07:16.120 --> 0:07:21.360 internet news? This week? Ah? This week? Oh what about that? 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:27.880 The girl that killed that? That's not stupid and that's 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:32.000 fucked up internet news. Yeah, you talked about Courtney Taylor. 0:07:32.680 --> 0:07:38.160 The yeah, the girl who murdered her boyfriend, um Christian 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:44.680 Obe Selly. Yeah, a Nigerian American, uh murdered by his 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:55.640 white girlfriend Selly, I'm boon Celly. Okay, Yeah, it's unfortunate, 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:59.080 and you know she still hasn't been charged. And now, okay, 0:07:59.080 --> 0:08:01.680 so he actually got murdered on the third, so last 0:08:01.720 --> 0:08:04.360 week's Sunday, So she did they did put it on 0:08:04.440 --> 0:08:08.080 like a seventy two hour baker's hole because she said 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:10.080 she was going to kill herself. But then the pictures 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:12.720 came out where she's kissing her dogs on the mouth, 0:08:13.360 --> 0:08:18.280 half dressed covered in blood in the fucking condo apartment. 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:22.360 The fun Then I saw that she was like out 0:08:22.400 --> 0:08:25.160 at a bar from where buying liquor. Because now she's 0:08:25.200 --> 0:08:29.040 out and they're saying she's uh, she hasn't been charged. 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:33.880 The family is saying that they're being treated like they're 0:08:33.920 --> 0:08:35.959 harassing the police, like they're getting on their nerves or 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:37.960 something like that, just trying to get answers on you 0:08:38.000 --> 0:08:40.560 know what's going to happen. So there the police department 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:43.520 saying they started doing her investigation. She hasn't been charged. 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:47.359 They're saying it was a domestic dispute where he supposedly 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:49.520 attacked her first. But did you see the video where 0:08:49.520 --> 0:08:52.200 her friends came out, well, their mutual friends came out 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:56.079 and said that she lent yes towards him. So this 0:08:56.120 --> 0:09:00.600 man was in an abusive relationship and he stabbed him 0:09:00.640 --> 0:09:03.600 once in the chest. Originally they said it was like shoulders, 0:09:03.600 --> 0:09:05.320 and now they're staying he got stabbed in the chest 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:08.080 and then passed away at the hospital. Are you for real? 0:09:08.120 --> 0:09:11.199 Took a knife and stared at five o'clock in the morning. 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:13.400 He might have been sleeping. You don't even know, Like 0:09:13.440 --> 0:09:16.199 this bitch is about to get away with murder. Rich 0:09:16.280 --> 0:09:19.600 white girl made her living on only fans. The irony 0:09:19.679 --> 0:09:21.480 of it is the ship that this man talked about 0:09:21.480 --> 0:09:25.280 black women. Now, so this is why black women not 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:28.560 really it's not like we're saying that he deserved to die, 0:09:28.679 --> 0:09:31.120 but black women are not willing to march the streets 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:34.839 on this one. Um, because he he made a lot 0:09:34.880 --> 0:09:37.360 of hate speech against black and even if he was 0:09:37.400 --> 0:09:39.480 a kid at the time, right, because he was, the 0:09:39.960 --> 0:09:45.840 tweets were between like, um, so he would have been younger. 0:09:46.800 --> 0:09:52.920 But the company he keeps suggests he feel the same way. Exactly. Yeah, 0:09:53.840 --> 0:09:55.840 And if you didn't see the tweets, he was saying 0:09:55.880 --> 0:10:01.199 things that were like, basically black people suckl women specifically. 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:04.000 And the weird thing is is that you talked about 0:10:04.000 --> 0:10:07.080 how black women always just tworking. You gotta fucking this 0:10:07.160 --> 0:10:10.040 girl is essentially a porn star. What are we talking about? 0:10:10.760 --> 0:10:13.040 This is the black the white queen you ended up with. 0:10:13.559 --> 0:10:15.679 And once y'all gotta get sworking. Why do y'all be 0:10:15.720 --> 0:10:19.120 so mad at working? And you African like tworking is 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:21.960 just the music make you do it. It's just in 0:10:22.000 --> 0:10:25.280 her blood. That ship that happens when they said nain 0:10:25.640 --> 0:10:28.439 for they for the nine in two thousand, that's stirring 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:32.080 your soul. It's just you can't stop it. Your booty 0:10:32.160 --> 0:10:34.760 just started moving. Like why y'all hating? Why y'all mad 0:10:34.800 --> 0:10:38.360 about it? You don't have to sexualize it, so much. 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:43.480 It's dancing anyway, you know, rest in peace to that. 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:46.360 You know, man, he did not have to die because 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:48.200 of you know, I don't you know. I don't wish 0:10:48.240 --> 0:10:51.760 death on anybody. And I do hope his family gets justice. 0:10:53.640 --> 0:10:57.960 Because she out drinking, she don't seem remorseful, not at all, 0:10:58.320 --> 0:11:02.360 not at all. So it's real unfortun in it. Um. 0:11:02.400 --> 0:11:05.080 I mean, I feel like people are so spreading awareness. 0:11:05.720 --> 0:11:09.080 Um Lee merrit the attorney. Civil attorney picked up their 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:12.800 case to assist the family. He was the only motherfucker 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:15.320 I saw following his nigga's Instagram page. I'm my god, 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:20.360 damn bo. He's not his ambulance chasers. But now he's 0:11:20.400 --> 0:11:23.640 on the case helping the family. I hope they get justice. 0:11:23.800 --> 0:11:26.000 I really do hope they get justice. And I mean, 0:11:26.440 --> 0:11:28.880 we can look at it two different ways, you black women, 0:11:28.920 --> 0:11:31.160 Even if we're not in solidarity with him in this 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:33.640 particular case, it does send a message to that community 0:11:33.679 --> 0:11:35.080 of people that they can do what the funk they 0:11:35.120 --> 0:11:38.600 want to do to us, and nothing's gonna happen to me. So, 0:11:38.679 --> 0:11:42.120 whether he sucked the black people or not, he basically 0:11:42.200 --> 0:11:44.800 divested from the community. So why would he want the 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:48.120 community that he divested from to now support him and 0:11:48.200 --> 0:11:50.840 his death. Well he doesn't, he can he on one ship. 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:54.080 It's his family that his family that wants it. They 0:11:54.160 --> 0:11:57.520 got some donations, like they got about fifty dollars go 0:11:57.679 --> 0:12:00.319 fund me, so somebody's donating to the cause. And then 0:12:00.720 --> 0:12:03.640 you know, the family did say that, you know, we 0:12:03.720 --> 0:12:07.080 don't support the things that he said. Some of those 0:12:07.120 --> 0:12:10.400 things we didn't agree with. But who did you hate? 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:13.600 You hate your mama? That's that's where it starts. I promise, 0:12:15.160 --> 0:12:17.520 or internal like I always see, like these niggas so 0:12:17.600 --> 0:12:20.920 insecure to replicate themselves. Y'all got a ship on black 0:12:21.000 --> 0:12:23.679 women to try and get this offspring and look shit 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:27.040 like you you don't think you have a chance of 0:12:27.120 --> 0:12:29.240 having a nice looking kid by yourself, like with a 0:12:29.280 --> 0:12:33.000 black woman? Is that what it is? Right? I don't 0:12:33.000 --> 0:12:39.000 get it anyway? But less in peace, Christian? What else 0:12:39.080 --> 0:12:45.240 happened this week? Um? They on Black Lives Matter asked, 0:12:45.480 --> 0:12:47.520 you know how I feel about Black Lives Matter? Not 0:12:47.800 --> 0:12:52.120 the Black Lives Matter movement, but the Black Lives Matter 0:12:52.200 --> 0:12:57.160 nonprofit organization has always been some bullshit, you know what 0:12:57.160 --> 0:12:59.360 I'm saying? Like they had they did change their UM 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:04.920 their mission statement on a website sometime the last year, 0:13:04.920 --> 0:13:08.200 the year be full last. Remember, Yeah, they changed it. 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:10.600 They changed it, but it's you know, the Internet is ink, 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:13.240 not pencils, so that should is still in the Internet archives. 0:13:13.360 --> 0:13:14.880 You can still pull it up and see how they 0:13:15.200 --> 0:13:18.840 want to disrupt the Family Nucleus. This whole organization was 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:22.200 built on the backs of dead black men and children 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:26.280 in America. So now y'all are here. Yeah, men and 0:13:26.280 --> 0:13:30.920 women and children, but mostly black men who probably wouldn't 0:13:30.920 --> 0:13:34.480 have a position in this organization if they weren't get 0:13:34.480 --> 0:13:38.080 your trans based on their mission statement that they have 0:13:38.200 --> 0:13:41.520 now removed from their website. But they have gotten like 0:13:41.600 --> 0:13:46.040 a ninety million dollars total in UM donations since they 0:13:46.040 --> 0:13:51.679 started in And they purchased US six point five million 0:13:51.679 --> 0:13:55.080 dollar house in Malibu. You know, I looked up the 0:13:55.280 --> 0:13:58.760 median UM home value and it's like four million in 0:13:58.800 --> 0:14:03.319 that area anyway, so you have to live over there, right, 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:09.560 So what they're seeing this house is for UM, they said, 0:14:09.600 --> 0:14:12.319 the home is for it's a safe house and a 0:14:12.360 --> 0:14:17.600 place to provide recording resources and dedicated space for black 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:22.560 creatives to launch content online and in real life. Focused 0:14:22.720 --> 0:14:28.880 on influencer House basically with no influences but her healing justice, 0:14:29.120 --> 0:14:35.240 urban agriculture, and food justice. I don't know. I don't 0:14:35.280 --> 0:14:38.240 think anybody did. They did one YouTube video in front 0:14:38.280 --> 0:14:42.880 of the house to the three um co founders of BLM. Right, 0:14:44.240 --> 0:14:47.960 that's it. You know, they got called out by Tamar Tamar, 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:53.120 Rice mom Um and Mike Brown's dad called the gass 0:14:53.160 --> 0:14:55.840 out because y'all got all these donations, been called him 0:14:55.840 --> 0:14:58.520 out for the last couple of years. They y'all got 0:14:58.520 --> 0:15:02.840 all these donations, but they ever donated to these people's nonprofit. Right, 0:15:03.440 --> 0:15:06.280 you know what I'm saying. So it's it's real nasty man. 0:15:06.320 --> 0:15:08.240 You gotta be careful. You'll stop giving them people y'a 0:15:08.280 --> 0:15:14.000 damn money. Yeah, and so many other organizations out here. Um, 0:15:14.040 --> 0:15:16.200 I feel like they were funded by the Democratic Party, 0:15:16.240 --> 0:15:21.440 but m and whoever else. But we won't go into 0:15:21.520 --> 0:15:27.280 the conspiracies. That's unfortunate because you know, that movement is 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:30.520 so important, and yeah, the movement is just muddy it 0:15:30.880 --> 0:15:33.920 with all that, And it's so easy to make money 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:37.240 off black shit. It's so easy to get donations off 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:43.640 black ship for real. Yeah, y'all my cash happy when 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:54.240 signed teams I'm black, ship donate the fuck. I don't know. 0:15:54.280 --> 0:15:56.600 They better get this shipped together. The fans probably coming 0:15:56.640 --> 0:15:59.400 for their ass in a minute. Oh yeah. Or they've 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:00.840 made it okay for them to do what they do, 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:02.400 and I mean white people do it all the time. 0:16:02.520 --> 0:16:05.800 Like people create nonprofits. You are supposed to be able 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:08.560 to pay your sal your yourself salary salary out of 0:16:08.560 --> 0:16:11.560 your nonprofit r but and I mean buying property, Like 0:16:11.600 --> 0:16:14.960 what's the Their mission statement says nothing about real estate? 0:16:15.360 --> 0:16:19.120 Like y'all is that what y'all do? What this nonprofit? 0:16:19.200 --> 0:16:23.520 Is it for real estate development for the underprivileged or what? 0:16:24.120 --> 0:16:27.320 So then when you also have a nonprofit, do you say, uh, 0:16:27.360 --> 0:16:30.200 this percentage is what we get or they have to 0:16:30.240 --> 0:16:33.280 break all of that in a set amount, because if 0:16:33.280 --> 0:16:36.520 it's a percentage of ninety millions, six million, don't seem 0:16:36.520 --> 0:16:39.040 like a lot out of it, doesn't It doesn't so 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:43.240 um this says and last year's AP report, the foundation 0:16:43.320 --> 0:16:47.400 said it had committed one point seven million to official 0:16:47.480 --> 0:16:51.840 and unofficial BLM chapters and its expenses were eight point 0:16:51.960 --> 0:16:56.160 four million, leaving around sixty million unexplained. They said their 0:16:56.320 --> 0:17:01.080 average donation was around thirty dollars, but declined to name 0:17:01.240 --> 0:17:04.760 prominent donors. So where the fund is the rest of 0:17:04.760 --> 0:17:09.639 the money coming in? Mm hmm, that's a lot. I 0:17:09.640 --> 0:17:15.520 don't know them to be missing. Yeah. So in happier news, 0:17:16.560 --> 0:17:21.080 Um Tianna and Iman with their babies. They did the 0:17:21.119 --> 0:17:24.040 Ebony magazine cover. I don't know if y'all saw that, 0:17:24.080 --> 0:17:27.800 but they seen it so good. They're such a beautiful 0:17:27.880 --> 0:17:33.399 family and it's extra fine. Rice, what the hell? But 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:35.560 who made him fine? Because was we looking at him 0:17:35.640 --> 0:17:39.040 prior to uh Tiana getting with him? Well, he was 0:17:39.320 --> 0:17:41.639 still very young when they got together. He was just 0:17:41.880 --> 0:17:44.760 he started he looked like a man man. Now before 0:17:44.800 --> 0:17:47.399 he was just looking like a little young Yeah, oh, 0:17:47.520 --> 0:17:50.080 nice looking young fellow. But now he looking like a 0:17:50.080 --> 0:17:53.640 grown as man. And they're such a beautiful family. They 0:17:53.680 --> 0:17:58.639 had the same baby twice, Yes they did. Um and 0:17:58.800 --> 0:18:01.880 the Curls are popularly one of my home girls in Atlanta. 0:18:01.960 --> 0:18:04.760 Tie does their hair and their girls are just popping 0:18:04.800 --> 0:18:10.359 in these uh yes Ebony cover shout out to Tide. Yeah, 0:18:10.440 --> 0:18:12.840 so I just wanted to touch on that, y'all check 0:18:12.920 --> 0:18:16.440 that out Ebony magazine. They talk about family and fame, 0:18:17.240 --> 0:18:23.280 so Yeah, black love, y'all, marriage, family, all of that, 0:18:23.359 --> 0:18:27.800 which leads us to our main topic today. But we'll 0:18:27.800 --> 0:18:35.800 take a break, Y'all'll be right back. So, Tam, you 0:18:35.800 --> 0:18:38.439 know what I want to talk about Baby mama culture. 0:18:39.040 --> 0:18:41.880 Baby mama culture. Is that a thing? It's the thing, 0:18:42.520 --> 0:18:44.080 all right? You know what think? So I want to 0:18:44.119 --> 0:18:46.679 hear what what do you mean? It's the thing, you know. 0:18:46.880 --> 0:18:50.320 I mean, it's in all groups of people, but it's 0:18:50.320 --> 0:18:52.960 a big thing in the black community. It's like normal. 0:18:53.480 --> 0:18:56.639 It is where it shouldn't be. It is because you 0:18:56.680 --> 0:19:02.240 see ads for that include a black mom and a baby, 0:19:02.359 --> 0:19:05.040 but the father is out of it. But that's because 0:19:05.080 --> 0:19:07.480 they're trying. They say they're being inclusive because the large 0:19:07.520 --> 0:19:10.880 percentage of Black women don't have a man in a home, 0:19:11.440 --> 0:19:13.919 so they wanted to create ads that look like the 0:19:13.960 --> 0:19:18.280 people that really exist. And that's the scary part. Yeah, 0:19:18.560 --> 0:19:20.680 But then you know people may look at it another 0:19:20.720 --> 0:19:23.760 way is you know black men who maybe in their 0:19:23.840 --> 0:19:27.240 kids lives, like you might be a mom that single 0:19:27.359 --> 0:19:30.840 as opposed to a single mom, right so there, Well, 0:19:30.880 --> 0:19:33.399 I don't know, so I guess like say, for instance, 0:19:33.400 --> 0:19:35.960 you got you were married and got divorced, you and 0:19:36.040 --> 0:19:39.920 your your kids dad have joined custody. Like y'all both 0:19:39.920 --> 0:19:42.680 taking care of kids. That's a mom, that single that's 0:19:42.720 --> 0:19:47.359 not a single parent. Single parent means you have yes 0:19:47.640 --> 0:19:50.960 for the most part, which a lot of black women do. Um. 0:19:50.960 --> 0:19:52.960 But there are a lot of black men who do 0:19:53.040 --> 0:19:55.040 take care of their kids. May they be with the 0:19:55.160 --> 0:19:58.560 mom and not. Right, So I also know black men 0:19:58.640 --> 0:20:01.440 who are single parents. Me. We had one on last week, 0:20:01.520 --> 0:20:10.560 Chuck Ti. But um. So we watched Cam Newton um 0:20:10.960 --> 0:20:15.240 on a million dollars worth The Game podcast this week, 0:20:16.240 --> 0:20:19.400 and you know, he was talking about his upbringing, how 0:20:19.440 --> 0:20:22.240 he was raised by a three parent household, his mom, 0:20:22.359 --> 0:20:27.320 his dad and his grandma and how um. You know, 0:20:27.400 --> 0:20:32.119 he was essentially talking about bad bitches, right, how um 0:20:33.400 --> 0:20:37.040 the difference between a bad bitch and a woman and 0:20:37.080 --> 0:20:40.119 a wife. Right. So, you know, I don't like sound bites. 0:20:40.520 --> 0:20:42.600 The show was I saw the ship on the shave room, 0:20:42.640 --> 0:20:44.239 so I was like, let me go see exactly what 0:20:44.280 --> 0:20:46.400 this nigga said. It was a small piece of a 0:20:46.440 --> 0:20:49.960 bigger conversation, that little piece, but I'm pretty sure the 0:20:50.040 --> 0:20:55.800 bad bitches got triggered out here. Now I want to 0:20:55.840 --> 0:20:58.880 how do you consider yourself a bad bitch. I don't 0:20:58.880 --> 0:21:01.159 think I've ever really used the term for real, like 0:21:01.520 --> 0:21:07.199 being like, uh, probably just being facetious maybe like, but 0:21:07.240 --> 0:21:09.040 I don't just be like I'm a bad bitch, like 0:21:09.200 --> 0:21:12.199 posting it on my pictures and but just you know, 0:21:12.240 --> 0:21:14.040 playing around with my friends. I might be a you're 0:21:14.080 --> 0:21:16.119 a girl, I'm a bad bitch and whatever else, but 0:21:16.200 --> 0:21:19.280 I don't go around with that self proclaimed label as 0:21:19.280 --> 0:21:23.200 a bad bitch. And what is a bad bitch? Right? 0:21:23.320 --> 0:21:27.640 What well he said, is someone who just looks good 0:21:27.680 --> 0:21:30.520 and has nothing else to offering. They don't have any 0:21:30.560 --> 0:21:34.919 other any of the other criteria that a man. Right. 0:21:36.840 --> 0:21:41.880 The irony of it is, though, your first child's mom. 0:21:41.960 --> 0:21:44.359 And this is not the knock cam Newton, because he 0:21:44.359 --> 0:21:49.000 didn't say nothing that was too crazy, right, right, not 0:21:49.080 --> 0:21:53.440 to knock the mom's either your first baby mama. They 0:21:53.480 --> 0:21:56.919 said she worked in DC as a stripper. She had 0:21:56.920 --> 0:21:58.359 a child when you met her, so she was a 0:21:58.359 --> 0:22:02.400 baby mom already. He then had four children with her, 0:22:03.440 --> 0:22:06.960 but never married her, never married her, and then he 0:22:07.160 --> 0:22:10.000 then their relationship ended in twenty nineteen when he cheated 0:22:10.040 --> 0:22:14.040 on her with another bad bitch from Instagram, who was 0:22:14.080 --> 0:22:17.199 also a single mama, and you had a baby with 0:22:17.280 --> 0:22:21.440 her somebody else. She didn't marry, right, So you're making 0:22:21.480 --> 0:22:24.200 all these single mothers and then you're sitting there talking 0:22:24.200 --> 0:22:26.720 about how your mother and father were together for thirty 0:22:26.760 --> 0:22:29.199 or six years, but you didn't marry nobody exactly, but 0:22:29.240 --> 0:22:32.560 you got with nothing but bad bitches. I'm confused. You 0:22:32.600 --> 0:22:36.200 went to the bad bitch hold decks Instagram and picked 0:22:36.240 --> 0:22:39.280 you another Babbage. I'm confused on what we're talking about. 0:22:39.359 --> 0:22:42.840 And he was basically saying how women, I guess bad 0:22:42.840 --> 0:22:49.359 bitches don't know when to shut up? Okay, um what 0:22:49.440 --> 0:22:52.040 else he was he saying? Oh, he said something along 0:22:52.080 --> 0:22:54.280 the lines and don't know how to cook. Badbages don't 0:22:54.280 --> 0:22:58.160 know how to cook. That's like, I'm so sick trying 0:22:58.200 --> 0:23:02.440 to reduce women to bare feet, be a average, a 0:23:02.680 --> 0:23:06.040 woman whatever they consider it to. Just cooking. That's like 0:23:06.160 --> 0:23:10.919 the smallest, most simplest thing which can be outsourced. I 0:23:10.920 --> 0:23:13.639 can afford to pay you via somebody else cooking. What 0:23:13.680 --> 0:23:15.520 then are we talking about? Can you build a house 0:23:15.560 --> 0:23:18.119 from here? Yes, niggai, the drain is clogged up. Can 0:23:18.160 --> 0:23:20.199 you take that ship out the bathtub? No? You call 0:23:20.320 --> 0:23:22.679 somebody to do it and I and I might call 0:23:22.720 --> 0:23:26.840 somebody to make it some neat. Exactly what are we 0:23:26.920 --> 0:23:29.360 talking about, like they want to reduce this is not 0:23:29.760 --> 0:23:32.239 we ain't your grandmama, and we ain't your mama. So 0:23:32.280 --> 0:23:37.080 stop trying to reduce black women today to those people 0:23:37.160 --> 0:23:42.159 who didn't have the options to do anything else. Right now, 0:23:42.160 --> 0:23:44.199 I'm not saying that it is. I like when I 0:23:44.200 --> 0:23:46.159 have a man, I like cooking for me too, Like 0:23:46.240 --> 0:23:49.440 that's that's but don't make it seem like that's just 0:23:49.600 --> 0:23:52.280 my sole purpose in this relationship is to be able 0:23:52.320 --> 0:23:54.920 to cook your meal every night. Yeah, and what type 0:23:54.920 --> 0:23:56.960 of man are you expecting a woman to cooking meal 0:23:57.000 --> 0:23:59.400 every night that you don't plan on marrying. You ain't 0:23:59.400 --> 0:24:02.320