Speaker 1: Talk talk talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with
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Speaker 1: a new episode and we talk back. It's your girl
Speaker 1: a J. A Hey, y'all is tam Bam. I love
Speaker 1: you guys once again. I love you to a J.
Speaker 1: I love you to my f with the L man.
Speaker 1: How's your weekend? That was cool. I attended my one
Speaker 1: of my cousins um surprise birthday party on Saturday. That's
Speaker 1: about it. And crazy when you're all your friends starting
Speaker 1: to turn forty. Girl, you hear me forty years old?
Speaker 1: It's my first cousin. Yeah, it was cool how she looked.
Speaker 1: She looked very pretty for her birthday. I have to
Speaker 1: wear the same coloring stuff. Why do you say that?
Speaker 1: You know how people when they have their birthday, if
Speaker 1: they want everybody were black, and they come in with
Speaker 1: like the most bright color or something like that. No,
Speaker 1: but it's weird that you said that because this is
Speaker 1: a cousin that I've been harboring. Look what you mean,
Speaker 1: I've been harboring something, not resentment, but like some like
Speaker 1: side I should at her for the last ten years
Speaker 1: that she don't know about she's gonna know now, and
Speaker 1: it was something simulation like having to address like people.
Speaker 1: It was for her fucking wed and when she got married,
Speaker 1: Oh you told me. Yeah, I like why you said that.
Speaker 1: Let's listen. I can feel the energy comp birl. I
Speaker 1: love her now, but you know it's still side I
Speaker 1: because now at this point it be it would be
Speaker 1: petty for me to address it. But maybe you should
Speaker 1: because you still feel away. I do because I just
Speaker 1: be feeling like I don't know. I'd be feeling like
Speaker 1: people be coming for me and I don't be coming
Speaker 1: for them. So you should talk to her about it,
Speaker 1: calling tomorrow probably not. Yeah, that's okay, But anyway, that's
Speaker 1: my first cousin who asked me to be an usher
Speaker 1: in her wedding some years ago, and the ushers and
Speaker 1: the wedding was serving food to the immediate family. And
Speaker 1: this is my first cousin. I would never ask my
Speaker 1: first cousin to be an usher in my fucking wedding
Speaker 1: serving food to the rest of the family. Dressed in
Speaker 1: black and white, grown as woman. Two years ago, I
Speaker 1: was living no, I was living in Atlanta. I had
Speaker 1: had to drive the Charleston for that wedding. Maybe you, uh,
Speaker 1: that is not a young cousin when the other ushers
Speaker 1: were people from the church. Oh you was the only usher. Yes,
Speaker 1: and look my best friend at the time. She ended
Speaker 1: up being one of the ushers. And she was pissed
Speaker 1: the whole time. She was dating my my cousin, which
Speaker 1: is my my cousin who had a birthday her brother.
Speaker 1: They was eating because she was serving food. She can't relax,
Speaker 1: like I want to go to your wedding and chill.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be working at my family member's wedding.
Speaker 1: And this was a big, nice, elaborate wedding where you
Speaker 1: had like staff, like yeah, because maybe she needed somebody
Speaker 1: to do it, like girl, no, listen, this is the
Speaker 1: last thing I'm gonna say about this. At her bridle shower,
Speaker 1: my voice was completely gone, so I couldn't like, um, yeah,
Speaker 1: I couldn't talk for real like you would have just
Speaker 1: sound like nothing. But her maid of honor. She was
Speaker 1: introducing us to her maid of honor. Right, it's the
Speaker 1: interesting she introduced my sister. She was like, yeah, this
Speaker 1: is my cousin Sam, and then this is Astley. This
Speaker 1: is how she introduced me to her maid of honor right,
Speaker 1: and the girl was like, oh, she's not in the wedding.
Speaker 1: She's not a bridesmaid or or um usher or anything.
Speaker 1: And I just had to sit there like I wanted
Speaker 1: to fight them, but I was not a fucking us
Speaker 1: because at that point I had told her within the
Speaker 1: same day that she'd asked me that I went't wasn't
Speaker 1: comfortable with doing it. Yeah, like when I said yes initially,
Speaker 1: then I was like, I don't want to do that.
Speaker 1: So then I hit her back and I was like,
Speaker 1: I think i'd rather just, you know, just come and
Speaker 1: sit and enjoy your wedding. And then no, I didn't
Speaker 1: do it. You didn't do it. This is And then
Speaker 1: a couple of months later, here comes to Brattle Shower
Speaker 1: and so your friend is basically the spokesperson for the ship.
Speaker 1: Y'all probably I'm talking about but I renigged within fifteen minutes.
Speaker 1: That was shape like, you're not an ussure anything. And
Speaker 1: that's why I still have yes and maybe a little
Speaker 1: bit just a dad. I was your weekend anyway about
Speaker 1: me being fucking petty. Ten years later, Um, I went
Speaker 1: to my best friend's wedding this weekend and it was
Speaker 1: so beautiful. I had so much fun. I caught the
Speaker 1: bouquet like, let me tell y'all, I odell Beckham and
Speaker 1: bitches like was like I came through like full sprint
Speaker 1: and called that ship and I did a speech and
Speaker 1: everybody looked good. Like everybody looked good. It wasn't like
Speaker 1: no people looking ratchet at the wead that everything. Everybody
Speaker 1: looked so beautiful and the bride looked so beautiful and
Speaker 1: a groomsmen everybody. It was just such a beautiful affair
Speaker 1: and I had so much fun. I'm so happy for
Speaker 1: my best friend and her new husband. Y'all. Congratulations to
Speaker 1: the whites. I love you guys. So that was. She
Speaker 1: looked beautiful. It was a good time. So that's why.
Speaker 1: And I got really drunk at the way and it
Speaker 1: was like it was like very classy affair, but it
Speaker 1: got ratchet you know at the reception. I've seen something
Speaker 1: videos like, yeah, it was not ratchet, like that girl
Speaker 1: stripping remember that. Oh you know, it didn't go there.
Speaker 1: It was sophistic ratchet, you know, combination, not no stripping
Speaker 1: and all that stuff. Yeah, So yeah, that was. It
Speaker 1: was a beautiful fair. And now I'm tired, I'm exhausted.
Speaker 1: It's over. Yeah, it's over. I wish I could do
Speaker 1: it again this weekend. Know, that's how much fun I had.
Speaker 1: And it was like even people there that I didn't like,
Speaker 1: and I just was I loved them that day. It
Speaker 1: was just so much love and energy in the air
Speaker 1: that I was just like, I love y'all to ship.
Speaker 1: No nigger. Cardi B said, if we beat, we're gonna
Speaker 1: beat forever. There's so much good vibes. You just forgot
Speaker 1: any beef that you had, that right, So yeah, that
Speaker 1: was my weekend. I like weddings. I did catch the bouquet.
Speaker 1: When I went to d r Um last month, I
Speaker 1: caught the bouquet tool. You know what many times that
Speaker 1: I caught the fucking bouquet at a wedding, that's at
Speaker 1: least the third time. So all you're saying is you're
Speaker 1: a linebacker. It means I can catch a bit the
Speaker 1: elbow and bitches. For years trying to catch that bouquet.
Speaker 1: That was my first time really actively pursuing the Okay,
Speaker 1: yeah you usually sit down, No, I stand up, but
Speaker 1: I'd just be like, like if it would have landed
Speaker 1: next to my feet, I would like somebody been to
Speaker 1: get there kick it. But this time I was like
Speaker 1: give me that ship. Shay. What we got in stupid
Speaker 1: internet news? This week? Ah? This week? Oh what about that?
Speaker 1: The girl that killed that? That's not stupid and that's
Speaker 1: fucked up internet news. Yeah, you talked about Courtney Taylor.
Speaker 1: The yeah, the girl who murdered her boyfriend, um Christian
Speaker 1: Obe Selly. Yeah, a Nigerian American, uh murdered by his
Speaker 1: white girlfriend Selly, I'm boon Celly. Okay, Yeah, it's unfortunate,
Speaker 1: and you know she still hasn't been charged. And now, okay,
Speaker 1: so he actually got murdered on the third, so last
Speaker 1: week's Sunday, So she did they did put it on
Speaker 1: like a seventy two hour baker's hole because she said
Speaker 1: she was going to kill herself. But then the pictures
Speaker 1: came out where she's kissing her dogs on the mouth,
Speaker 1: half dressed covered in blood in the fucking condo apartment.
Speaker 1: The fun Then I saw that she was like out
Speaker 1: at a bar from where buying liquor. Because now she's
Speaker 1: out and they're saying she's uh, she hasn't been charged.
Speaker 1: The family is saying that they're being treated like they're
Speaker 1: harassing the police, like they're getting on their nerves or
Speaker 1: something like that, just trying to get answers on you
Speaker 1: know what's going to happen. So there the police department
Speaker 1: saying they started doing her investigation. She hasn't been charged.
Speaker 1: They're saying it was a domestic dispute where he supposedly
Speaker 1: attacked her first. But did you see the video where
Speaker 1: her friends came out, well, their mutual friends came out
Speaker 1: and said that she lent yes towards him. So this
Speaker 1: man was in an abusive relationship and he stabbed him
Speaker 1: once in the chest. Originally they said it was like shoulders,
Speaker 1: and now they're staying he got stabbed in the chest
Speaker 1: and then passed away at the hospital. Are you for real?
Speaker 1: Took a knife and stared at five o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 1: He might have been sleeping. You don't even know, Like
Speaker 1: this bitch is about to get away with murder. Rich
Speaker 1: white girl made her living on only fans. The irony
Speaker 1: of it is the ship that this man talked about
Speaker 1: black women. Now, so this is why black women not
Speaker 1: really it's not like we're saying that he deserved to die,
Speaker 1: but black women are not willing to march the streets
Speaker 1: on this one. Um, because he he made a lot
Speaker 1: of hate speech against black and even if he was
Speaker 1: a kid at the time, right, because he was, the
Speaker 1: tweets were between like, um, so he would have been younger.
Speaker 1: But the company he keeps suggests he feel the same way. Exactly. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And if you didn't see the tweets, he was saying
Speaker 1: things that were like, basically black people suckl women specifically.
Speaker 1: And the weird thing is is that you talked about
Speaker 1: how black women always just tworking. You gotta fucking this
Speaker 1: girl is essentially a porn star. What are we talking about?
Speaker 1: This is the black the white queen you ended up with.
Speaker 1: And once y'all gotta get sworking. Why do y'all be
Speaker 1: so mad at working? And you African like tworking is
Speaker 1: just the music make you do it. It's just in
Speaker 1: her blood. That ship that happens when they said nain
Speaker 1: for they for the nine in two thousand, that's stirring
Speaker 1: your soul. It's just you can't stop it. Your booty
Speaker 1: just started moving. Like why y'all hating? Why y'all mad
Speaker 1: about it? You don't have to sexualize it, so much.
Speaker 1: It's dancing anyway, you know, rest in peace to that.
Speaker 1: You know, man, he did not have to die because
Speaker 1: of you know, I don't you know. I don't wish
Speaker 1: death on anybody. And I do hope his family gets justice.
Speaker 1: Because she out drinking, she don't seem remorseful, not at all,
Speaker 1: not at all. So it's real unfortun in it. Um.
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like people are so spreading awareness.
Speaker 1: Um Lee merrit the attorney. Civil attorney picked up their
Speaker 1: case to assist the family. He was the only motherfucker
Speaker 1: I saw following his nigga's Instagram page. I'm my god,
Speaker 1: damn bo. He's not his ambulance chasers. But now he's
Speaker 1: on the case helping the family. I hope they get justice.
Speaker 1: I really do hope they get justice. And I mean,
Speaker 1: we can look at it two different ways, you black women,
Speaker 1: Even if we're not in solidarity with him in this
Speaker 1: particular case, it does send a message to that community
Speaker 1: of people that they can do what the funk they
Speaker 1: want to do to us, and nothing's gonna happen to me. So,
Speaker 1: whether he sucked the black people or not, he basically
Speaker 1: divested from the community. So why would he want the
Speaker 1: community that he divested from to now support him and
Speaker 1: his death. Well he doesn't, he can he on one ship.
Speaker 1: It's his family that his family that wants it. They
Speaker 1: got some donations, like they got about fifty dollars go
Speaker 1: fund me, so somebody's donating to the cause. And then
Speaker 1: you know, the family did say that, you know, we
Speaker 1: don't support the things that he said. Some of those
Speaker 1: things we didn't agree with. But who did you hate?
Speaker 1: You hate your mama? That's that's where it starts. I promise,
Speaker 1: or internal like I always see, like these niggas so
Speaker 1: insecure to replicate themselves. Y'all got a ship on black
Speaker 1: women to try and get this offspring and look shit
Speaker 1: like you you don't think you have a chance of
Speaker 1: having a nice looking kid by yourself, like with a
Speaker 1: black woman? Is that what it is? Right? I don't
Speaker 1: get it anyway? But less in peace, Christian? What else
Speaker 1: happened this week? Um? They on Black Lives Matter asked,
Speaker 1: you know how I feel about Black Lives Matter? Not
Speaker 1: the Black Lives Matter movement, but the Black Lives Matter
Speaker 1: nonprofit organization has always been some bullshit, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying? Like they had they did change their UM
Speaker 1: their mission statement on a website sometime the last year,
Speaker 1: the year be full last. Remember, Yeah, they changed it.
Speaker 1: They changed it, but it's you know, the Internet is ink,
Speaker 1: not pencils, so that should is still in the Internet archives.
Speaker 1: You can still pull it up and see how they
Speaker 1: want to disrupt the Family Nucleus. This whole organization was
Speaker 1: built on the backs of dead black men and children
Speaker 1: in America. So now y'all are here. Yeah, men and
Speaker 1: women and children, but mostly black men who probably wouldn't
Speaker 1: have a position in this organization if they weren't get
Speaker 1: your trans based on their mission statement that they have
Speaker 1: now removed from their website. But they have gotten like
Speaker 1: a ninety million dollars total in UM donations since they
Speaker 1: started in And they purchased US six point five million
Speaker 1: dollar house in Malibu. You know, I looked up the
Speaker 1: median UM home value and it's like four million in
Speaker 1: that area anyway, so you have to live over there, right,
Speaker 1: So what they're seeing this house is for UM, they said,
Speaker 1: the home is for it's a safe house and a
Speaker 1: place to provide recording resources and dedicated space for black
Speaker 1: creatives to launch content online and in real life. Focused
Speaker 1: on influencer House basically with no influences but her healing justice,
Speaker 1: urban agriculture, and food justice. I don't know. I don't
Speaker 1: think anybody did. They did one YouTube video in front
Speaker 1: of the house to the three um co founders of BLM. Right,
Speaker 1: that's it. You know, they got called out by Tamar Tamar,
Speaker 1: Rice mom Um and Mike Brown's dad called the gass
Speaker 1: out because y'all got all these donations, been called him
Speaker 1: out for the last couple of years. They y'all got
Speaker 1: all these donations, but they ever donated to these people's nonprofit. Right,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So it's it's real nasty man.
Speaker 1: You gotta be careful. You'll stop giving them people y'a
Speaker 1: damn money. Yeah, and so many other organizations out here. Um,
Speaker 1: I feel like they were funded by the Democratic Party,
Speaker 1: but m and whoever else. But we won't go into
Speaker 1: the conspiracies. That's unfortunate because you know, that movement is
Speaker 1: so important, and yeah, the movement is just muddy it
Speaker 1: with all that, And it's so easy to make money
Speaker 1: off black shit. It's so easy to get donations off
Speaker 1: black ship for real. Yeah, y'all my cash happy when
Speaker 1: signed teams I'm black, ship donate the fuck. I don't know.
Speaker 1: They better get this shipped together. The fans probably coming
Speaker 1: for their ass in a minute. Oh yeah. Or they've
Speaker 1: made it okay for them to do what they do,
Speaker 1: and I mean white people do it all the time.
Speaker 1: Like people create nonprofits. You are supposed to be able
Speaker 1: to pay your sal your yourself salary salary out of
Speaker 1: your nonprofit r but and I mean buying property, Like
Speaker 1: what's the Their mission statement says nothing about real estate?
Speaker 1: Like y'all is that what y'all do? What this nonprofit?
Speaker 1: Is it for real estate development for the underprivileged or what?
Speaker 1: So then when you also have a nonprofit, do you say, uh,
Speaker 1: this percentage is what we get or they have to
Speaker 1: break all of that in a set amount, because if
Speaker 1: it's a percentage of ninety millions, six million, don't seem
Speaker 1: like a lot out of it, doesn't It doesn't so
Speaker 1: um this says and last year's AP report, the foundation
Speaker 1: said it had committed one point seven million to official
Speaker 1: and unofficial BLM chapters and its expenses were eight point
Speaker 1: four million, leaving around sixty million unexplained. They said their
Speaker 1: average donation was around thirty dollars, but declined to name
Speaker 1: prominent donors. So where the fund is the rest of
Speaker 1: the money coming in? Mm hmm, that's a lot. I
Speaker 1: don't know them to be missing. Yeah. So in happier news,
Speaker 1: Um Tianna and Iman with their babies. They did the
Speaker 1: Ebony magazine cover. I don't know if y'all saw that,
Speaker 1: but they seen it so good. They're such a beautiful
Speaker 1: family and it's extra fine. Rice, what the hell? But
Speaker 1: who made him fine? Because was we looking at him
Speaker 1: prior to uh Tiana getting with him? Well, he was
Speaker 1: still very young when they got together. He was just
Speaker 1: he started he looked like a man man. Now before
Speaker 1: he was just looking like a little young Yeah, oh,
Speaker 1: nice looking young fellow. But now he looking like a
Speaker 1: grown as man. And they're such a beautiful family. They
Speaker 1: had the same baby twice, Yes they did. Um and
Speaker 1: the Curls are popularly one of my home girls in Atlanta.
Speaker 1: Tie does their hair and their girls are just popping
Speaker 1: in these uh yes Ebony cover shout out to Tide. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I just wanted to touch on that, y'all check
Speaker 1: that out Ebony magazine. They talk about family and fame,
Speaker 1: so Yeah, black love, y'all, marriage, family, all of that,
Speaker 1: which leads us to our main topic today. But we'll
Speaker 1: take a break, Y'all'll be right back. So, Tam, you
Speaker 1: know what I want to talk about Baby mama culture.
Speaker 1: Baby mama culture. Is that a thing? It's the thing,
Speaker 1: all right? You know what think? So I want to
Speaker 1: hear what what do you mean? It's the thing, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's in all groups of people, but it's
Speaker 1: a big thing in the black community. It's like normal.
Speaker 1: It is where it shouldn't be. It is because you
Speaker 1: see ads for that include a black mom and a baby,
Speaker 1: but the father is out of it. But that's because
Speaker 1: they're trying. They say they're being inclusive because the large
Speaker 1: percentage of Black women don't have a man in a home,
Speaker 1: so they wanted to create ads that look like the
Speaker 1: people that really exist. And that's the scary part. Yeah,
Speaker 1: But then you know people may look at it another
Speaker 1: way is you know black men who maybe in their
Speaker 1: kids lives, like you might be a mom that single
Speaker 1: as opposed to a single mom, right so there, Well,
Speaker 1: I don't know, so I guess like say, for instance,
Speaker 1: you got you were married and got divorced, you and
Speaker 1: your your kids dad have joined custody. Like y'all both
Speaker 1: taking care of kids. That's a mom, that single that's
Speaker 1: not a single parent. Single parent means you have yes
Speaker 1: for the most part, which a lot of black women do. Um.
Speaker 1: But there are a lot of black men who do
Speaker 1: take care of their kids. May they be with the
Speaker 1: mom and not. Right, So I also know black men
Speaker 1: who are single parents. Me. We had one on last week,
Speaker 1: Chuck Ti. But um. So we watched Cam Newton um
Speaker 1: on a million dollars worth The Game podcast this week,
Speaker 1: and you know, he was talking about his upbringing, how
Speaker 1: he was raised by a three parent household, his mom,
Speaker 1: his dad and his grandma and how um. You know,
Speaker 1: he was essentially talking about bad bitches, right, how um
Speaker 1: the difference between a bad bitch and a woman and
Speaker 1: a wife. Right. So, you know, I don't like sound bites.
Speaker 1: The show was I saw the ship on the shave room,
Speaker 1: so I was like, let me go see exactly what
Speaker 1: this nigga said. It was a small piece of a
Speaker 1: bigger conversation, that little piece, but I'm pretty sure the
Speaker 1: bad bitches got triggered out here. Now I want to
Speaker 1: how do you consider yourself a bad bitch. I don't
Speaker 1: think I've ever really used the term for real, like
Speaker 1: being like, uh, probably just being facetious maybe like, but
Speaker 1: I don't just be like I'm a bad bitch, like
Speaker 1: posting it on my pictures and but just you know,
Speaker 1: playing around with my friends. I might be a you're
Speaker 1: a girl, I'm a bad bitch and whatever else, but
Speaker 1: I don't go around with that self proclaimed label as
Speaker 1: a bad bitch. And what is a bad bitch? Right?
Speaker 1: What well he said, is someone who just looks good
Speaker 1: and has nothing else to offering. They don't have any
Speaker 1: other any of the other criteria that a man. Right.
Speaker 1: The irony of it is, though, your first child's mom.
Speaker 1: And this is not the knock cam Newton, because he
Speaker 1: didn't say nothing that was too crazy, right, right, not
Speaker 1: to knock the mom's either your first baby mama. They
Speaker 1: said she worked in DC as a stripper. She had
Speaker 1: a child when you met her, so she was a
Speaker 1: baby mom already. He then had four children with her,
Speaker 1: but never married her, never married her, and then he
Speaker 1: then their relationship ended in twenty nineteen when he cheated
Speaker 1: on her with another bad bitch from Instagram, who was
Speaker 1: also a single mama, and you had a baby with
Speaker 1: her somebody else. She didn't marry, right, So you're making
Speaker 1: all these single mothers and then you're sitting there talking
Speaker 1: about how your mother and father were together for thirty
Speaker 1: or six years, but you didn't marry nobody exactly, but
Speaker 1: you got with nothing but bad bitches. I'm confused. You
Speaker 1: went to the bad bitch hold decks Instagram and picked
Speaker 1: you another Babbage. I'm confused on what we're talking about.
Speaker 1: And he was basically saying how women, I guess bad
Speaker 1: bitches don't know when to shut up? Okay, um what
Speaker 1: else he was he saying? Oh, he said something along
Speaker 1: the lines and don't know how to cook. Badbages don't
Speaker 1: know how to cook. That's like, I'm so sick trying
Speaker 1: to reduce women to bare feet, be a average, a
Speaker 1: woman whatever they consider it to. Just cooking. That's like
Speaker 1: the smallest, most simplest thing which can be outsourced. I
Speaker 1: can afford to pay you via somebody else cooking. What
Speaker 1: then are we talking about? Can you build a house
Speaker 1: from here? Yes, niggai, the drain is clogged up. Can
Speaker 1: you take that ship out the bathtub? No? You call
Speaker 1: somebody to do it and I and I might call
Speaker 1: somebody to make it some neat. Exactly what are we
Speaker 1: talking about, like they want to reduce this is not
Speaker 1: we ain't your grandmama, and we ain't your mama. So
Speaker 1: stop trying to reduce black women today to those people
Speaker 1: who didn't have the options to do anything else. Right now,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that it is. I like when I
Speaker 1: have a man, I like cooking for me too, Like
Speaker 1: that's that's but don't make it seem like that's just
Speaker 1: my sole purpose in this relationship is to be able
Speaker 1: to cook your meal every night. Yeah, and what type
Speaker 1: of man are you expecting a woman to cooking meal
Speaker 1: every night that you don't plan on marrying. You ain't
Speaker 1: even bringing a sucking groceries like you just hitting a
Speaker 1: bitch up, like we we what you're cooking. And she
Speaker 1: she just supposed to cater to you, because that's the
Speaker 1: word he used. He said, kid doesn't doesn't know how
Speaker 1: to cater to her man. So I feel like he
Speaker 1: was taking shots at his baby mama's because I would
Speaker 1: consider them bad bitches. So who are you talking about?
Speaker 1: Because you procreated with two bad bitches. And and here's
Speaker 1: the thing I hate. I hate that um that he
Speaker 1: trying to make minimize what a bad bitch can be,
Speaker 1: because is Michelle Obama not a bad bitch? You know?
Speaker 1: Is women have a different definition of is you know,
Speaker 1: like all these women are all these very successful, very smart,
Speaker 1: they're still bad bitches to me, you know, like it
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be something that's do nothing pretty as bitch.
Speaker 1: And then you know, and that's that's what he's talking about.
Speaker 1: So is that what he gets from his kids mom's
Speaker 1: because Yilly even said he was like, you know, real
Speaker 1: bad bitches don't even say ship like that. They just
Speaker 1: do you know what I'm saying, to just be out
Speaker 1: here shaking and moving. They don't. They're not self proclaimed
Speaker 1: bad bitches. But it could be that you his baby
Speaker 1: mom has probably never said they're bad bitches, but as
Speaker 1: on the outside looking in that maybe they may be
Speaker 1: examples of what bad bitches are, right and you chose
Speaker 1: those bad bitches. It just depends on how you view
Speaker 1: a bad bitch, because I don't know, I think you
Speaker 1: can be a a bad bitch based on your looks,
Speaker 1: a bad bitch based on how you treat your community.
Speaker 1: A bad bitch on how educated you are. I know
Speaker 1: some bad bitches in the pool pit. Yeah, we got
Speaker 1: different we got different definitions. Like I just feel like
Speaker 1: anything women like we try to do somehow we get anything,
Speaker 1: like y'all niggas need to manya business. I just need
Speaker 1: niggas in maya business and talk to each other and
Speaker 1: stop talking to us. We're stick of talking to y'all. Actually,
Speaker 1: don't even be talking to your niggas want we need
Speaker 1: to talk more. I think that's the problem. I feel
Speaker 1: like we talk enough to each other. But well, the
Speaker 1: real men, please stand up. We are missing something as
Speaker 1: a community. And that's why so many single mothers, it's
Speaker 1: always so many single fathers, because men are interested in
Speaker 1: Black men as a collective, I believe, are not interested
Speaker 1: in being married. That's that's where that's where the problem is.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, y'all are why not? Why? What? What? Are? What?
Speaker 1: What would marriage benefit them? At this point? They're getting
Speaker 1: the babies, they're getting the pussy they want, apparently, they're
Speaker 1: getting the cooked meals that they want to like, what
Speaker 1: else do they why would they need to be married
Speaker 1: to any of us? And and that's the thing. So
Speaker 1: you remember the movie Shot Town Shira and they stopped.
Speaker 1: They was like the whole movement was women need to
Speaker 1: stop sucking. That could be a real thing. Like if
Speaker 1: they just could get on one of core, we could
Speaker 1: change the whole world. But it's always gonna be a
Speaker 1: bit more than one. It's always gonna be some bitches.
Speaker 1: Excuse me. There's always gonna be some women willing to
Speaker 1: give these guys that fucking discount. And that's the problem. Like,
Speaker 1: stop giving couchie coupons. Stop letting these niggas come through.
Speaker 1: It is not that hard. This is not that hard.
Speaker 1: You don't have to have a baby by every man
Speaker 1: you sleep with. Oh no, I'm not not the baby,
Speaker 1: but the couchie part, Like, can you save us a
Speaker 1: baby daddy? Please? Could I have a baby daddy? No,
Speaker 1: I just I want a husband. I don't even want
Speaker 1: a baby daddy. I want to need the nut at
Speaker 1: this point. Yeah, I want a husband. I just I
Speaker 1: told you that bouquet. I'm playing out here this year.
Speaker 1: I feel like this year over. But no, it's still
Speaker 1: early in the game. It's on the April. We're still
Speaker 1: too Yeah, we just insured in the second quarter of
Speaker 1: the game. But yeah, Cam Newton, I mean he's back
Speaker 1: here in Charlotte. Is he with the second girl? I
Speaker 1: don't think so. Maybe, I don't know. I ain't ate
Speaker 1: that deep. He's an interesting character. These days, you seem
Speaker 1: so much different. I mean he's grown, I will say
Speaker 1: growth seven father seven. He seems like he's a good
Speaker 1: day two of not two of the kids on his
Speaker 1: So he has five kids of his own and then
Speaker 1: two that he took in what was commendable. So these
Speaker 1: are good things. But Cali, y'all ain't cooking for Cam Newton.
Speaker 1: You'll just some bad bitches out here wasted his time apparently.
Speaker 1: So let's talk about the baby mama culture and how
Speaker 1: that affects the community. All right, So what really is
Speaker 1: the baby mama culture? A strong woman who does it
Speaker 1: all by herself? Is that a strong woman? Just because
Speaker 1: you can have children by several men and then struggle
Speaker 1: to take care of them does not make you a
Speaker 1: Not everybody struggling to take care of a lot of them,
Speaker 1: but a lot of them are thriving and doing it well. Though,
Speaker 1: who wants to do that by themselves? I don't think
Speaker 1: nobody intended to do it by themselves? What's so. You know,
Speaker 1: I know a woman she has a she's about forty now,
Speaker 1: but she has like a heart hospital on her own,
Speaker 1: and she went and adopted a baby because she didn't
Speaker 1: have a man and she was tied away, and so
Speaker 1: she wanted to be a mother and she had all
Speaker 1: the tools to be a mother, so she wanted to
Speaker 1: do it by herself. And that's different because you do
Speaker 1: hear about older women, um, you know, even um getting donors,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, to get a baby because
Speaker 1: they've come to the conclusion that they they're not going
Speaker 1: to find a man, but they still want a family,
Speaker 1: They still want something to care for, so they still
Speaker 1: want children. They don't have anybody to really have the
Speaker 1: baby with. Of course that that type of thing does happen,
Speaker 1: but I'm talking about like young black mothers. Uh even ship.
Speaker 1: I had a home girl. I mean she had her
Speaker 1: first child when she was like thirty four. And this
Speaker 1: man like this is a woman who don't have any kids, right.
Speaker 1: I feel like, if you're a man and you don't
Speaker 1: want any more kids, stop fucking with women raw or
Speaker 1: you don't want any kids, like that's just what you
Speaker 1: have to do. Get on this new birth control about
Speaker 1: to come out for years, girl, they really about the
Speaker 1: fun the damn ecosystem up because men only be concerned
Speaker 1: about not getting a bit pregnant. They ain't concerned about
Speaker 1: s c d s like that. So imagine how ratchet
Speaker 1: it's about to get if men knew that they can't
Speaker 1: get somebody pregnant. Everybody getting that raw dick, everybody but
Speaker 1: team me. I like one. I just I'm scared of
Speaker 1: the soul ties, not just the disease of the soul
Speaker 1: times that come with raw penis. Because I like you
Speaker 1: give me some wrong dick. We go together right now, Yes,
Speaker 1: immediately after you're my man? Where are you at? What
Speaker 1: you're doing? You hunger? Where's the dick? Ain't even about you?
Speaker 1: That dick at well, that is a part of him.
Speaker 1: So that dick on the phone. Put the dick on
Speaker 1: the phone. Hey, baby, you get over there. Did he
Speaker 1: feed you? Are you sleep? Are you staying? Was he
Speaker 1: beating you too much? Stop beating my friend? Where's the dick?
Speaker 1: So that's why I don't do that, So I would
Speaker 1: be fine. You got a spiritually cleansed after these niggas
Speaker 1: shot because everybody being them dicks m hm, sadness. But
Speaker 1: in the black community, we need to put more emphasis
Speaker 1: on marriage, family if we want to come up out
Speaker 1: of this thing. When like just having all these kids
Speaker 1: out here. Let's take future for instance. Yes, Future has
Speaker 1: the money to take kit these kids, but can he
Speaker 1: assist the mothers of these children to help raise like
Speaker 1: good human beings. Are you even there? Do you have
Speaker 1: the time? Like that's why the both parents and the
Speaker 1: household is so important, you know what I'm saying, to
Speaker 1: cultivate your child's future, Like, you can't do that if
Speaker 1: you all over the place just dropping your seeds all
Speaker 1: over your seeds. I wish black men would stop saying
Speaker 1: that my seeds. That is so nasty. It's just nasty. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but seeds are like you know, you could buy a
Speaker 1: pack of seeds and misplace them ship and don't give
Speaker 1: a funk about them because they only calls a dollar.
Speaker 1: Like you shouldn't be just dropping seeds anywhere, and you
Speaker 1: want they want to talk about legacy building. Legacy building
Speaker 1: that starts with having a firm, like solid foundation for
Speaker 1: the child, meaning like a two parent home. Hopefully even
Speaker 1: if you're not together, like y'all still real co parent,
Speaker 1: co parents, and yes, real co parent it that's not
Speaker 1: happening in a lot of homes, and that's not just
Speaker 1: Black homes. So I'm not we were listening. Are you
Speaker 1: in other cultures? Are you another communities? Do you give
Speaker 1: a funk about other communities? I give a funk about
Speaker 1: the black community. I give a funk about the economic
Speaker 1: advancement of black people. And if we don't have strong families,
Speaker 1: we're gonna always be at the bottom of the totem pole.
Speaker 1: That's my concern. I don't care what other you know what,
Speaker 1: I agree, that is my main concern. But I'm just
Speaker 1: personal peace for everybody, not just Black people, for everyone
Speaker 1: I am. I'm alright. I mean, I can't do nothing
Speaker 1: but be black first. But and that's what I'm concerned about.
Speaker 1: Because everybody else getting on through, we're behind. So my
Speaker 1: discussion I want to have the day is like how
Speaker 1: do we through family get ahead? Because this is an
Speaker 1: easy thing, like it's it's I feel like it's easy.
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, up until the nineties sixties, black
Speaker 1: people were married more than the white counterparts, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But it went from that to black
Speaker 1: men not even being in the homes. Right, so we
Speaker 1: know all the different things that transpire. So how do
Speaker 1: we how do we grow from that time? How do
Speaker 1: we grow from m. Jim Crow? And how do we
Speaker 1: grow from the civil rights movement and all that ship?
Speaker 1: Because that's those things happen. Warren drugs, those things ripped
Speaker 1: men at homes. But we can say that, But then
Speaker 1: on the other part of it, we're black men leaving
Speaker 1: their homes? Were they leaving women with children even back then?
Speaker 1: Why the government had to step in the first place?
Speaker 1: Perhaps you know what I'm saying, so that we could
Speaker 1: perpetuate old the government. The government is now in the
Speaker 1: baby Daddy and all the ship and where y'all nigga
Speaker 1: is staying Because my grandmother raised eleven children by herself,
Speaker 1: her her my granddaddy left, yes, and this is the
Speaker 1: early nine hundreds talk about my grandma was born. So
Speaker 1: what happened? I don't know, girl, I have no answers
Speaker 1: for this. I don't think nobody really has the answer.
Speaker 1: You know, who has the answer to where sway At?
Speaker 1: Maybe got the motherfucking Kanye he can keep his family
Speaker 1: together either, like it's hard, clearly all right? So they
Speaker 1: say finances is the major reason why families break up.
Speaker 1: But we see that rich families fall apart. Two, But
Speaker 1: the kids are gonna still gonna be provided for and
Speaker 1: just Kim ain't gonna be just struggling and take care
Speaker 1: of Kanye kids by yourself. Yeah, but it's so different, right, right,
Speaker 1: They'll be provided for. But you think that man not
Speaker 1: just about the money. It's also about the rearing of
Speaker 1: the child and creating a productive human being, a good citizen.
Speaker 1: So you think that men want to provide and when
Speaker 1: they can't, it's just easy year to just walk away
Speaker 1: and pretend like that those people don't exist, Yeah, and
Speaker 1: just push the guilt down in the bottom of other
Speaker 1: good and go on with Sometimes those same men didn't
Speaker 1: go make a baby with somebody else, or maybe go
Speaker 1: with a woman who has children and help her. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I know I've seen that where a guy he only
Speaker 1: takes care of the kids of the one he would
Speaker 1: that's most men, yeah, and like the other ones is
Speaker 1: just out decide, out of mind. M I just feel
Speaker 1: like those type of men should be ostracized. Any women
Speaker 1: or men that's not taking care of their kids, like
Speaker 1: y'all should not even have friends, dog, Like, nobody should
Speaker 1: sunk with y'all until y'all get your ship together. If
Speaker 1: you're just out here having kids, you're not taking care
Speaker 1: of you just sound ratchet ass girl. Remember I was
Speaker 1: not raising her kids. I remember I was dating this
Speaker 1: guy and I was liking him and he was cool,
Speaker 1: and he had entered like we were really vironment and
Speaker 1: I met his mother and everything, and she was making
Speaker 1: me like, what's the black rice? That are not uh
Speaker 1: Patians black? That black rice rice? But she was cooking
Speaker 1: for me and everything. And then somebody was like, you know,
Speaker 1: he got his son. It's like what, No, he only
Speaker 1: has a daughter, and now he also has a son
Speaker 1: in Colombia. I'm like what. So like somebody said, you
Speaker 1: got his son in Colombia. He's like, oh about that?
Speaker 1: What I don't get to see him. I was like,
Speaker 1: Columbia is an hour and a half away from Charlotte. Go.
Speaker 1: He was like, man, me and his mama don't vibe
Speaker 1: like that. We don't get along. And she was just
Speaker 1: too hard. When he gets eighteen, if you want to
Speaker 1: meet me, he can come find me and I'll tell
Speaker 1: him what happened. I was like, oh, yeah, that's a
Speaker 1: turn off. And that's just how when I lived him alone, right, yeah,
Speaker 1: because you could be the third next. So I guess
Speaker 1: also women need to make better choices on the people
Speaker 1: when we fun went drive up like the Sahara Desert
Speaker 1: when he said, they like, I ain't gonna be able
Speaker 1: to do that, baby, Yeah, if you ain't, If you're
Speaker 1: not working with your kids, I'm not working with you.
Speaker 1: But get this, his father didn't funk with him either.
Speaker 1: He had a very successful father in New York, like
Speaker 1: an engineer, and they had no relationship, and he had
Speaker 1: resentment for his dad. I'm like, you turned it out
Speaker 1: to be the same, nigga. So was his dad and
Speaker 1: mom together at some point? Yes, they were, but not
Speaker 1: most of his life though, because I think sometimes it
Speaker 1: happened some of these mama's, man, some of these mama's
Speaker 1: been side bitches. When I had stories like that's like,
Speaker 1: was your mama side bit and got pregnant for somebody husband?
Speaker 1: And now he don't sunk with you, like what happened?
Speaker 1: What decisions did did mama making life? And you know,
Speaker 1: I feel like sometimes a lot of the way men
Speaker 1: handle women is stemming from their mama's You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying is like, you've never seen your mama in
Speaker 1: a successful relationship. Your mama was a baby mama. Soe
Speaker 1: you out here just making strong black baby mamas because
Speaker 1: your mama struggled to take care of you. Dog, That's
Speaker 1: not what we're doing. Like, are you waiting for your
Speaker 1: son to then get older to take care of your mama?
Speaker 1: I mean to take care of your baby mama, because
Speaker 1: I feel like all most men, like y'all, their whole
Speaker 1: goal in life is to grow up, get some money,
Speaker 1: body mama house. They never had body mama card, they
Speaker 1: never had can never afford take care of their mama
Speaker 1: because they never saw a man take care of her. Right.
Speaker 1: So if you if you're you have all these aspirations,
Speaker 1: um you know, to be successful so you can take
Speaker 1: care of your mama. But then you're having children that
Speaker 1: you don't take care of. Are you waiting for your
Speaker 1: sons to now get older to take care of your
Speaker 1: baby mama? Is that what we're doing? And that's what
Speaker 1: that's what happens because I think at some point these
Speaker 1: niggas turned into the niggas that they don't that they
Speaker 1: never saw. Basically, so this man didn't raise you, you you
Speaker 1: end up turning into this nig anyway when you should
Speaker 1: take the I mean even if he wasn't around like
Speaker 1: the example would then be should be a positive example
Speaker 1: of what a man should be. Like Your daddy wasn't there, right,
Speaker 1: so now you should make it your fucking business to
Speaker 1: be there. But instead sometimes they still turn up like
Speaker 1: these absent fathers. We gotta put more emphasis on family. Well,
Speaker 1: how what do you do? Turn off the TV, turn
Speaker 1: off their computer, trying to shield them from whatever everything else.
Speaker 1: So this is where I then agree with what Cam
Speaker 1: was saying about the bad bit ship, because you know
Speaker 1: we outside now this is what women be saying, like
Speaker 1: were the savages now? But are we? Do we really
Speaker 1: want to be the savages? Or has uh um? The
Speaker 1: relationships between black men and women now cause us to
Speaker 1: be like be like men, be like men. I don't
Speaker 1: want to be like a grown ass man. I'll be
Speaker 1: saying I'm a grown ass man because I'll handle it
Speaker 1: if I have to, but I do not want me to.
Speaker 1: I would I would love to just exist within my
Speaker 1: feminine energy all day in my life. Yeah, so men,
Speaker 1: they say how black women were so masculine all because
Speaker 1: we especially some of the music. I'll be listening to im,
Speaker 1: like whoa what the black girls? You like? Have you
Speaker 1: ever heard a kid the Man? Yes? I like her though,
Speaker 1: like I'll be listener when I'm working out because it
Speaker 1: does like give me a little like physical motivation in
Speaker 1: the gym. But some of the messages is very strong
Speaker 1: masculine and there what's the other one? Chameleonaire, chameleon? What's
Speaker 1: her name? With a little squeaky voice. I don't know
Speaker 1: who you're talking about. She had a song if I
Speaker 1: was a rich man, you know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: But she basically talked about all the ship niggas be doing,
Speaker 1: Like if I was I would be shipping on these niggas.
Speaker 1: Like if she was a man, like why I can't
Speaker 1: do it? You can't. Women are so delicate, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So we'd be out here trying to
Speaker 1: be like men. You want to break down, bitch, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you people don't. Some people as like whole grown men
Speaker 1: out here and then have lost that and don't care.
Speaker 1: I feel like my mama might be one of them
Speaker 1: for real. M hmm, I don't know. I don't know
Speaker 1: what my mama, her and her friends being there talking
Speaker 1: about all kind of my mom only even got no friends,
Speaker 1: girl barely. Why I don't know my mom and her
Speaker 1: friends in there at like she had like a little
Speaker 1: party a couple of wee kyears ago, Like they were
Speaker 1: just drinking coffee and eat damishes and ship and talking
Speaker 1: about that's like fun and listen old bit ship she had.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I should tell you all this secret.
Speaker 1: I think she bought a vibrator. I thought my mama
Speaker 1: vibrator a couple of Christmases ago, and she gave it
Speaker 1: back to me recently. You know, she not give me
Speaker 1: that ship? Why vibrated cost me like eighty dollars. It
Speaker 1: was a good one, but now it's like she never
Speaker 1: used it now but now like the you know, because
Speaker 1: some of them like real soft, like the rubber, And
Speaker 1: now I was like sticky, having sat in the closet
Speaker 1: for how many years? No, is not about to give
Speaker 1: me a damn use vibrata, but take this back and
Speaker 1: don't work like the new one I got. My mom
Speaker 1: always be like that ship pass sales. So how old
Speaker 1: are you when you start losing sexual urge? Because I
Speaker 1: feel like my mom and her friends are still with
Speaker 1: all the ships and they they and they missed sixties.
Speaker 1: Oh they still want to. Oh yeah, my mom made
Speaker 1: with that ship no more. I don't know. I hope
Speaker 1: I never lose my lab me neither. I'd be wanting
Speaker 1: fu Yeah, okay, let's be clear. Yeah, I hang up
Speaker 1: on y'all, go do it right now. But when I
Speaker 1: don't have nobody to funk, I'm good. But if I
Speaker 1: start sucking, like, I want to have sex as much
Speaker 1: as possible. What you mean, don't have nobody like if
Speaker 1: I'm not like, if I'm celibate, not even celibate. You know,
Speaker 1: sometimes you just go through I don't want to, And
Speaker 1: maybe your mom is going through the rest of her life.
Speaker 1: I don't want to, Pat, but I'm pretty sure she's
Speaker 1: been going through that shift for about twenty years. Oh no,
Speaker 1: and she married. Let me stop talking to my dad,
Speaker 1: mom because she listened to this episode. And let's take
Speaker 1: a breaking guitar, dumb bit story, dumb bitch stories, because
Speaker 1: we've all been a dumb bitch at least once or twice. Okay,
Speaker 1: we got a interesting dumb bit story for you guys today,
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna read this for y'all. Let me try
Speaker 1: to read it better than a juck you. Hey, guys,
Speaker 1: I have a dumb, big bit story for you all. Short, sweet,
Speaker 1: and scary. I have been with my baby daddy since
Speaker 1: two thousand twelve, and our child is now three. We're
Speaker 1: essentially We've essentially been together since high school and through college.
Speaker 1: He's a great provider and I know he loves our family.
Speaker 1: That's good, But I'm now having concerns about his sexuality.
Speaker 1: I know, and I say now loosely because really there's
Speaker 1: always been some concerns. We attended different colleges but in
Speaker 1: the same town, and the rumor was going around that
Speaker 1: he had gotten his dick sucked by a known gay guy.
Speaker 1: I never asked him about it because I know him
Speaker 1: and trusted it was a lie. Fast forward. He has
Speaker 1: a homeboy that has he has been taking a few
Speaker 1: golf trips with over the years, and the last trip
Speaker 1: I asked to come, and we got into a big
Speaker 1: argument because he said it was for the guys only
Speaker 1: his friend. It gives me real feminine energy and I
Speaker 1: don't like it. He's not married and doesn't have any kids.
Speaker 1: How can I approach this conversation with a man that
Speaker 1: I do love and is the father of my child. Girl, Okay,
Speaker 1: here's what I think about rumors when we're talking about
Speaker 1: like supposed heterosexual men and gay men. I just don't
Speaker 1: feel like anybody starts those rumors about real street man
Speaker 1: like anybody I've ever ever heard a rumor about that
Speaker 1: ship was fucking true. No, that's not girl. Yes, girl,
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, anybody you heard what was probably know
Speaker 1: anybody I heard that got they dick sucked by a
Speaker 1: gay guy, got they dick sucked by a gay guy? Yes? Well,
Speaker 1: my um my suggestion for you is to put on
Speaker 1: brokeback mount. Shut up with that damn story. I'm so
Speaker 1: sick of you. This is what I do, girl, No,
Speaker 1: put it on, and when the gay sex can come on,
Speaker 1: grab his dick. If it's hard. You know, I always
Speaker 1: go to therapy. Take his ask the fucking therapy and
Speaker 1: bringing it up if you need a mediator there this
Speaker 1: in case you think it's gonna get crazy because you're
Speaker 1: asking us, Because I'm pretty sure if she asked him
Speaker 1: at home, his first thing is going to be like upset.
Speaker 1: I rate, I'm pretty sure. Is it a deal breaker?
Speaker 1: For you too, like, are you willing to strap him?
Speaker 1: Because I mean, if that's something he like, if you
Speaker 1: I mean with this two people are doing different ships,
Speaker 1: Like are you willing to satisfy that need for him?
Speaker 1: But I don't think the need is that. I don't think, okay,
Speaker 1: when a man does that with another man, I don't
Speaker 1: think it's about the actual sexual thing. A lot of
Speaker 1: times they period, So you can't be that as a woman.
Speaker 1: You can't be a man. So me personally, I just
Speaker 1: want to his men. Now we need to just talk
Speaker 1: about that ship. But no, you're still not a man,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like, so what you say
Speaker 1: she should do? Just go to therapy about it? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think they should. I think they should. She should.
Speaker 1: She should ask them if they can go to therapy.
Speaker 1: Um Um, I'm pretty sure he's gonna be like, why
Speaker 1: what we need therapy for? I don't know. Just tell him, Hey,
Speaker 1: there's something I want to talk to you about. But
Speaker 1: I'm not equipped to talk to you by myself about it.
Speaker 1: So she's gonna have a gay prevention shut up? Make
Speaker 1: me fucking sick to me, No, but I feel like
Speaker 1: that would be the easiest way because I no man
Speaker 1: wants to be called out about anything really, especially his sexuality,
Speaker 1: and then you know, especially if he's not out with it,
Speaker 1: and what if it's not true. What if it's not true?
Speaker 1: You know, then he's really upset like women. Like men
Speaker 1: like to say, women's intuition ain't about ship, but women's
Speaker 1: intuition as a motherfucker. If she feels that way about
Speaker 1: his friend, because you know you haven't been around a
Speaker 1: gay guy, it's like you automatically start calling them girl, hey, girl,
Speaker 1: like that where guys who aren't gay sometimes that they're
Speaker 1: like friend guys and I get really my friend zone,
Speaker 1: I might write, accidentally call them bitch. Yes, let me
Speaker 1: tell you yes, yes, So girl, you call us with
Speaker 1: a heart, You message us with a hard question. I
Speaker 1: don't she say therapy? I say, turn on the TV
Speaker 1: at the house and say some money. I know a
Speaker 1: good therapist who is not that expensive. They also take insurance.
Speaker 1: But you also have to decide what you're prepared to
Speaker 1: do when you get your answer. Yeah, that's gonna be
Speaker 1: hard one because they gotta kids. Sometimes it's easier to
Speaker 1: stay in the dark. It is not in this situation,
Speaker 1: and I'm not trying to perpetuate the thing where you
Speaker 1: know only specific STDs are exclusive to that group of people.
Speaker 1: That's not what I'm saying. But we know it's high.
Speaker 1: So I don't think this is a situation where she
Speaker 1: should not say something. But I'm just saying, you have
Speaker 1: to be prepared for your what you're gonna do when
Speaker 1: you get the truth, right, I don't think she should
Speaker 1: not say nothing about it. I think she should definitely
Speaker 1: ask him about it. I don't think she should say
Speaker 1: something until she has her playing together on what she's
Speaker 1: gonna do with the answer. Yeah, right, that's scary. Yeah,
Speaker 1: moment of silence. I don't know, pulse. Is it different
Speaker 1: if it was a woman he was doing it with? Like? Absolutely?
Speaker 1: If I mean, we're not caught. I've never been in
Speaker 1: a relationship where a nigger didn't get caught cheating. Okay,
Speaker 1: have you girl? I remember I got in the bed.
Speaker 1: It was a condom in the bed. What the fuck
Speaker 1: is that? Is there a slug in the bed with us? Now,
Speaker 1: I haven't got in the bed with some panties some
Speaker 1: other panties underneath the sheets, You nasty motherfucker. Could you
Speaker 1: please uh wash these damn she you's got me laying
Speaker 1: in y'all man just marrinating and somebody else And nigas
Speaker 1: do that all the time. Ladies, y'all don't know how
Speaker 1: many bodily fluids y'all be laying in getting they don't
Speaker 1: be clean like that. Nope, girl, I will come. I
Speaker 1: know a girl. She'd be letting niggas come and her
Speaker 1: in her house. She's like, well, we do by side good,
Speaker 1: that's they side that they lay dirt on the side
Speaker 1: my sisticly ill she nasty, that's day side. I don't know.
Speaker 1: So she only on one side of bed. She bust
Speaker 1: got the king's side. But even with a king, like
Speaker 1: I would be all over that bed like what she
Speaker 1: on the other side, because you sleep on the other side.
Speaker 1: That's terrible. I don't know, baby, I don't think. I
Speaker 1: don't think my last man cheated on me. If he did,
Speaker 1: he did it well and that's how I preferred. Yes,
Speaker 1: me too. Don't let me find out that's not where
Speaker 1: it's respectful, respectful cheating, right, or just tell motherfucker's you
Speaker 1: like variety and you want multiple people because that's these
Speaker 1: these This is one second. I know we don't have
Speaker 1: plenty of conversations on monogamy, pop polygamy, all this ship.
Speaker 1: I doesn't want job niggs and there y'all can't even
Speaker 1: afford one bit? How many Now we don't have multiple
Speaker 1: people on this show talk about what's the average um
Speaker 1: income for black people? Right? These niggas do not have
Speaker 1: enough money for one woman. Yeah. They keep putting these
Speaker 1: videos up of Shihara Ali and you know what she
Speaker 1: says about um this one video that's going around now
Speaker 1: talking about how if you catch your man with another woman,
Speaker 1: like that's a relationship he facilitated on there, who are
Speaker 1: you to disturb that? Or something like that. This is
Speaker 1: a different time. Okay, we cannot apply that type of
Speaker 1: ship to our current lives because again a lot of
Speaker 1: those women didn't have a choice. So my thing is,
Speaker 1: you could just be honest. I should have to find
Speaker 1: out anything. Just be honest when you meet me. The
Speaker 1: thing is is that I feel like men they don't
Speaker 1: like that though, like they feel like they can't be
Speaker 1: honest with women. They don't like the fact that if
Speaker 1: they do be honest with you, that you're gonna then
Speaker 1: do what they do. I believe I got a story there.
Speaker 1: I want to tell you always got a fucking story.
Speaker 1: Bit go ahead. This was like, all right, this was
Speaker 1: a long time ago, and I was hanging out with
Speaker 1: this guy. I was in college or right right outside
Speaker 1: of college, and we got real drunk together, and then
Speaker 1: we went to his house and he was like making
Speaker 1: out and stuff, and then he pulled his past down
Speaker 1: and tucked this dick behind like between his but like
Speaker 1: pulled it backwards and it was like a boy pussy
Speaker 1: and he laid back on the bed with his hands
Speaker 1: like out like, um man, so did he want you
Speaker 1: to lick that itself? I got the out of there
Speaker 1: so fast. Why did he do that in front of you?
Speaker 1: We were so drunk. I just think he was being
Speaker 1: himself and himself had a pussy in his spirit. Motherfuzzicus exists.
Speaker 1: I here, you want to have a pussy. I'm not
Speaker 1: knocking anybody who does, like that's your thing. But it
Speaker 1: scared the funk out of me. I didn't know what
Speaker 1: was going. I was like, how you got out of there?
Speaker 1: Tell me? Tell me? Because I was sound. I grabbed
Speaker 1: my shoes. I don't even think I put my shoes on.
Speaker 1: I just snatched my sandals up my person got off.
Speaker 1: Did you say anything though? I don't. I don't remember
Speaker 1: saying anything. I remember just because he laid back with
Speaker 1: He lived in like one of those kind of lofty styles,
Speaker 1: like there's no there's no doors, so like I just
Speaker 1: kind of got my ship and got out the door.
Speaker 1: And I'll never forget him. What I would do? What
Speaker 1: was I supposed to do? I didn't know what to do.
Speaker 1: I was confused. Did I tell you this before? How
Speaker 1: Jesus Christ? This is my old life, y'all. And I
Speaker 1: never been like on a super duper whole ship. I'm
Speaker 1: like a mild hole. But I let this nigga pay
Speaker 1: me one time in Atlanta to be to beat his dick. Right,
Speaker 1: I was a prostitute? What No? But I did beat
Speaker 1: this dude's dick for paid. Once he text me about it,
Speaker 1: We talked about it. He came over to get his
Speaker 1: dick beat for four hundred dollars. No, hell no, hell
Speaker 1: fucking no, you were like prostitute. But when he came
Speaker 1: over there, the nigga brought bisexual porn. He wanted his
Speaker 1: dick beat too. Was bisexual porn men and women fucking
Speaker 1: like the women trapping on the men like two men
Speaker 1: and a woman, a woman and two men, like everybody
Speaker 1: fucking yeah, the men fucking each other. Yeah, by check
Speaker 1: sexual porn. So I beat his dick to this bisexual porn.
Speaker 1: He's still my friend a little. I'm a shame girl.
Speaker 1: They don't think it to my old life. What the funk?
Speaker 1: It was so nasty. It was nasty. You felt bad
Speaker 1: about yourself. Girl. I was paying like fucking six hundred
Speaker 1: as a month just gas to get to my office
Speaker 1: when I was living in Atlanta. You had to do
Speaker 1: what I do. Not judge you, yah, y'all If y'all
Speaker 1: don't know our voices apart, AJ is the one who
Speaker 1: would beat dick four. That's a good listen. And it
Speaker 1: was right before I went to work too, so that
Speaker 1: was a good day. You know, girls are good. Rate'll
Speaker 1: be just charging to beat. I don't know if they
Speaker 1: book it then, but yas gallon right now. Look, this
Speaker 1: is my gas was at its highest back then. Like, yes,
Speaker 1: I definitely did that ship and I don't feel no
Speaker 1: type of way about it. And don't nobody hurts you
Speaker 1: with your truth, yo. We're about to get the funk
Speaker 1: out of here. Anyway. It is a nightlight conversation. I
Speaker 1: don't know how we can change the black community. I
Speaker 1: feel like it just starts with the man in the mirror.
Speaker 1: Like Michael Jackson said, don't have the baby if you
Speaker 1: can't take care of the baby, Michael Jackson. Michael Jackson
Speaker 1: said that what song was that? Girl? Uh so it
Speaker 1: was on I want to be starting something. He said,
Speaker 1: if you can't feed the baby, don't have the baby.
Speaker 1: I don't trust, I don't know. Shut up, we're not
Speaker 1: about to talk about a legend that month girl, who's
Speaker 1: MHD Fucking people try to tarnish the same way they're
Speaker 1: doing will Smith right now. We didn't even get back
Speaker 1: into that. I don't like how they're doing will Smith.
Speaker 1: That's for another day though, But girl, you first of all,
Speaker 1: Michael Jackson was innocent. I love Michael Jackson, but I
Speaker 1: would not leave my kids with him. Michael Jackson was
Speaker 1: trying to save the kids. He was definitely not a pedophile.
Speaker 1: The colleague Culkin and the other little white dude, they
Speaker 1: came out and said that they basically he saved them
Speaker 1: from child sex traffick him back then, Yes, the fats,
Speaker 1: the fats that have very well maybe true and it
Speaker 1: may be alive, but me personally about him. Y'all, listen,
Speaker 1: if you enjoyed this episode, she's talking about Mike and
Speaker 1: I don't like that. I love Michael Jackson. Two people
Speaker 1: you can't talk about to me. It's Michael Jackson and
Speaker 1: Whitney Houston. Okay, just remember that. I do not like
Speaker 1: the image of Whitney used to be in a crackhead.
Speaker 1: I'm so sad about that. And it's just like almost
Speaker 1: the equivalent of Beyonce right now, I'm becoming a junkie
Speaker 1: like I used to always sing Whitney Houston song I love.
Speaker 1: I just went to a hologram Whitney Houston concert. But
Speaker 1: that doesn't mean she didn't. Don't. I don't. I never
Speaker 1: watched that our reality TV you with her and um
Speaker 1: Mike Bobby but Bobby ever, well, I remember. All right, y'all, man,
Speaker 1: let's get the funk up bout it. Look. So, if
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