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Speaker 1: Talk talk talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with

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Speaker 1: an opinion to talk back. What's up, y'all? Welcome to

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Speaker 1: a new episode and we talk back. It's your girl

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Speaker 1: a J. A Hey, y'all is tam Bam. I love

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Speaker 1: you guys once again. I love you to a J.

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Speaker 1: I love you to my f with the L man.

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Speaker 1: How's your weekend? That was cool. I attended my one

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Speaker 1: of my cousins um surprise birthday party on Saturday. That's

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Speaker 1: about it. And crazy when you're all your friends starting

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Speaker 1: to turn forty. Girl, you hear me forty years old?

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Speaker 1: It's my first cousin. Yeah, it was cool how she looked.

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Speaker 1: She looked very pretty for her birthday. I have to

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Speaker 1: wear the same coloring stuff. Why do you say that?

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Speaker 1: You know how people when they have their birthday, if

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Speaker 1: they want everybody were black, and they come in with

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Speaker 1: like the most bright color or something like that. No,

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Speaker 1: but it's weird that you said that because this is

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Speaker 1: a cousin that I've been harboring. Look what you mean,

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Speaker 1: I've been harboring something, not resentment, but like some like

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Speaker 1: side I should at her for the last ten years

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Speaker 1: that she don't know about she's gonna know now, and

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Speaker 1: it was something simulation like having to address like people.

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Speaker 1: It was for her fucking wed and when she got married,

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Speaker 1: Oh you told me. Yeah, I like why you said that.

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Speaker 1: Let's listen. I can feel the energy comp birl. I

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Speaker 1: love her now, but you know it's still side I

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Speaker 1: because now at this point it be it would be

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Speaker 1: petty for me to address it. But maybe you should

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Speaker 1: because you still feel away. I do because I just

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Speaker 1: be feeling like I don't know. I'd be feeling like

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Speaker 1: people be coming for me and I don't be coming

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Speaker 1: for them. So you should talk to her about it,

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Speaker 1: calling tomorrow probably not. Yeah, that's okay, But anyway, that's

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Speaker 1: my first cousin who asked me to be an usher

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Speaker 1: in her wedding some years ago, and the ushers and

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Speaker 1: the wedding was serving food to the immediate family. And

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Speaker 1: this is my first cousin. I would never ask my

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Speaker 1: first cousin to be an usher in my fucking wedding

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Speaker 1: serving food to the rest of the family. Dressed in

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Speaker 1: was living no, I was living in Atlanta. I had

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Speaker 1: had to drive the Charleston for that wedding. Maybe you, uh,

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Speaker 1: that is not a young cousin when the other ushers

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Speaker 1: were people from the church. Oh you was the only usher. Yes,

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Speaker 1: and look my best friend at the time. She ended

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Speaker 1: up being one of the ushers. And she was pissed

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Speaker 1: the whole time. She was dating my my cousin, which

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Speaker 1: They was eating because she was serving food. She can't relax,

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Speaker 1: like I want to go to your wedding and chill.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be working at my family member's wedding.

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Speaker 1: And this was a big, nice, elaborate wedding where you

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Speaker 1: had like staff, like yeah, because maybe she needed somebody

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Speaker 1: to do it, like girl, no, listen, this is the

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Speaker 1: last thing I'm gonna say about this. At her bridle shower,

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Speaker 1: my voice was completely gone, so I couldn't like, um, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I couldn't talk for real like you would have just

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Speaker 1: sound like nothing. But her maid of honor. She was

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Speaker 1: introducing us to her maid of honor. Right, it's the

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Speaker 1: interesting she introduced my sister. She was like, yeah, this

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Speaker 1: is how she introduced me to her maid of honor right,

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Speaker 1: and the girl was like, oh, she's not in the wedding.

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Speaker 1: She's not a bridesmaid or or um usher or anything.

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Speaker 1: And I just had to sit there like I wanted

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Speaker 1: sit and enjoy your wedding. And then no, I didn't

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Speaker 1: do it. You didn't do it. This is And then

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Speaker 1: a couple of months later, here comes to Brattle Shower

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Speaker 1: and so your friend is basically the spokesperson for the ship.

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Speaker 1: Y'all probably I'm talking about but I renigged within fifteen minutes.

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Speaker 1: That was shape like, you're not an ussure anything. And

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Speaker 1: me being fucking petty. Ten years later, Um, I went

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Speaker 1: And I got really drunk at the way and it

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Speaker 1: It's over. Yeah, it's over. I wish I could do

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Speaker 1: it again this weekend. Know, that's how much fun I had.

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Speaker 1: And it was like even people there that I didn't like,

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Speaker 1: that I was just like, I love y'all to ship.

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Speaker 1: No nigger. Cardi B said, if we beat, we're gonna

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Speaker 1: beat forever. There's so much good vibes. You just forgot

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Speaker 1: any beef that you had, that right, So yeah, that

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Speaker 1: was my weekend. I like weddings. I did catch the bouquet.

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Speaker 1: I caught the fucking bouquet at a wedding, that's at

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Speaker 1: least the third time. So all you're saying is you're

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Speaker 1: That was my first time really actively pursuing the Okay,

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Speaker 1: give me that ship. Shay. What we got in stupid

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Speaker 1: internet news? This week? Ah? This week? Oh what about that?

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Speaker 1: The girl that killed that? That's not stupid and that's

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Speaker 1: white girlfriend Selly, I'm boon Celly. Okay, Yeah, it's unfortunate,

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Speaker 1: and you know she still hasn't been charged. And now, okay,

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Speaker 1: The family is saying that they're being treated like they're

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Speaker 1: saying they started doing her investigation. She hasn't been charged.

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Speaker 1: They're saying it was a domestic dispute where he supposedly

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Speaker 1: Took a knife and stared at five o'clock in the morning.

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Speaker 1: He might have been sleeping. You don't even know, Like

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Speaker 1: this bitch is about to get away with murder. Rich

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Speaker 1: white girl made her living on only fans. The irony

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Speaker 1: of it is the ship that this man talked about

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Speaker 1: black women. Now, so this is why black women not

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Speaker 1: really it's not like we're saying that he deserved to die,

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Speaker 1: but black women are not willing to march the streets

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Speaker 1: But the company he keeps suggests he feel the same way. Exactly. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And if you didn't see the tweets, he was saying

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Speaker 1: And once y'all gotta get sworking. Why do y'all be

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Speaker 1: just the music make you do it. It's just in

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Speaker 1: for they for the nine in two thousand, that's stirring

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Speaker 1: your soul. It's just you can't stop it. Your booty

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Speaker 1: You know, man, he did not have to die because

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Speaker 1: of you know, I don't you know. I don't wish

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Speaker 1: Um Lee merrit the attorney. Civil attorney picked up their

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Speaker 1: I saw following his nigga's Instagram page. I'm my god,

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Speaker 1: damn bo. He's not his ambulance chasers. But now he's

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Speaker 1: I really do hope they get justice. And I mean,

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Speaker 1: we can look at it two different ways, you black women,

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Speaker 1: Even if we're not in solidarity with him in this

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Speaker 1: particular case, it does send a message to that community

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Speaker 1: divested from the community. So why would he want the

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Speaker 1: community that he divested from to now support him and

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Speaker 1: his death. Well he doesn't, he can he on one ship.

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Speaker 1: It's his family that his family that wants it. They

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Speaker 1: fund me, so somebody's donating to the cause. And then

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Speaker 1: you know, the family did say that, you know, we

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Speaker 1: don't support the things that he said. Some of those

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Speaker 1: You hate your mama? That's that's where it starts. I promise,

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Speaker 1: or internal like I always see, like these niggas so

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Speaker 1: mom has probably never said they're bad bitches, but as

424
00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 1: on the outside looking in that maybe they may be

425
00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:16,119
Speaker 1: examples of what bad bitches are, right and you chose

426
00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:18,680
Speaker 1: those bad bitches. It just depends on how you view

427
00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:23,879
Speaker 1: a bad bitch, because I don't know, I think you

428
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,720
Speaker 1: can be a a bad bitch based on your looks,

429
00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:30,200
Speaker 1: a bad bitch based on how you treat your community.

430
00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 1: A bad bitch on how educated you are. I know

431
00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:40,400
Speaker 1: some bad bitches in the pool pit. Yeah, we got

432
00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:43,159
Speaker 1: different we got different definitions. Like I just feel like

433
00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:52,840
Speaker 1: anything women like we try to do somehow we get anything,

434
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:56,760
Speaker 1: like y'all niggas need to manya business. I just need

435
00:25:56,840 --> 00:25:58,840
Speaker 1: niggas in maya business and talk to each other and

436
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 1: stop talking to us. We're stick of talking to y'all. Actually,

437
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:05,200
Speaker 1: don't even be talking to your niggas want we need

438
00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 1: to talk more. I think that's the problem. I feel

439
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 1: like we talk enough to each other. But well, the

440
00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:14,000
Speaker 1: real men, please stand up. We are missing something as

441
00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:18,040
Speaker 1: a community. And that's why so many single mothers, it's

442
00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 1: always so many single fathers, because men are interested in

443
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:25,160
Speaker 1: Black men as a collective, I believe, are not interested

444
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 1: in being married. That's that's where that's where the problem is.

445
00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:34,880
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, y'all are why not? Why? What? What? Are? What?

446
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:38,920
Speaker 1: What would marriage benefit them? At this point? They're getting

447
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 1: the babies, they're getting the pussy they want, apparently, they're

448
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:44,800
Speaker 1: getting the cooked meals that they want to like, what

449
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:46,920
Speaker 1: else do they why would they need to be married

450
00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:49,919
Speaker 1: to any of us? And and that's the thing. So

451
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:54,320
Speaker 1: you remember the movie Shot Town Shira and they stopped.

452
00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:56,119
Speaker 1: They was like the whole movement was women need to

453
00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:59,960
Speaker 1: stop sucking. That could be a real thing. Like if

454
00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:01,640
Speaker 1: they just could get on one of core, we could

455
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 1: change the whole world. But it's always gonna be a

456
00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:08,680
Speaker 1: bit more than one. It's always gonna be some bitches.

457
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:13,359
Speaker 1: Excuse me. There's always gonna be some women willing to

458
00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:18,119
Speaker 1: give these guys that fucking discount. And that's the problem. Like,

459
00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:22,920
Speaker 1: stop giving couchie coupons. Stop letting these niggas come through.

460
00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:26,919
Speaker 1: It is not that hard. This is not that hard.

461
00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 1: You don't have to have a baby by every man

462
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:31,960
Speaker 1: you sleep with. Oh no, I'm not not the baby,

463
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 1: but the couchie part, Like, can you save us a

464
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:40,600
Speaker 1: baby daddy? Please? Could I have a baby daddy? No,

465
00:27:40,760 --> 00:27:42,359
Speaker 1: I just I want a husband. I don't even want

466
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 1: a baby daddy. I want to need the nut at

467
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:47,639
Speaker 1: this point. Yeah, I want a husband. I just I

468
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:51,560
Speaker 1: told you that bouquet. I'm playing out here this year.

469
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 1: I feel like this year over. But no, it's still

470
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:59,120
Speaker 1: early in the game. It's on the April. We're still

471
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:02,439
Speaker 1: too Yeah, we just insured in the second quarter of

472
00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:07,800
Speaker 1: the game. But yeah, Cam Newton, I mean he's back

473
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:11,080
Speaker 1: here in Charlotte. Is he with the second girl? I

474
00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 1: don't think so. Maybe, I don't know. I ain't ate

475
00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:19,920
Speaker 1: that deep. He's an interesting character. These days, you seem

476
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:22,040
Speaker 1: so much different. I mean he's grown, I will say

477
00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:28,640
Speaker 1: growth seven father seven. He seems like he's a good

478
00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:30,399
Speaker 1: day two of not two of the kids on his

479
00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:32,840
Speaker 1: So he has five kids of his own and then

480
00:28:32,840 --> 00:28:36,160
Speaker 1: two that he took in what was commendable. So these

481
00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:40,680
Speaker 1: are good things. But Cali, y'all ain't cooking for Cam Newton.

482
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 1: You'll just some bad bitches out here wasted his time apparently.

483
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 1: So let's talk about the baby mama culture and how

484
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:56,400
Speaker 1: that affects the community. All right, So what really is

485
00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:59,760
Speaker 1: the baby mama culture? A strong woman who does it

486
00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:03,600
Speaker 1: all by herself? Is that a strong woman? Just because

487
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:06,040
Speaker 1: you can have children by several men and then struggle

488
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 1: to take care of them does not make you a

489
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 1: Not everybody struggling to take care of a lot of them,

490
00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:13,160
Speaker 1: but a lot of them are thriving and doing it well. Though,

491
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 1: who wants to do that by themselves? I don't think

492
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:21,080
Speaker 1: nobody intended to do it by themselves? What's so. You know,

493
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:26,960
Speaker 1: I know a woman she has a she's about forty now,

494
00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:30,080
Speaker 1: but she has like a heart hospital on her own,

495
00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 1: and she went and adopted a baby because she didn't

496
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:36,080
Speaker 1: have a man and she was tied away, and so

497
00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:38,239
Speaker 1: she wanted to be a mother and she had all

498
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 1: the tools to be a mother, so she wanted to

499
00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 1: do it by herself. And that's different because you do

500
00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:52,800
Speaker 1: hear about older women, um, you know, even um getting donors,

501
00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, to get a baby because

502
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 1: they've come to the conclusion that they they're not going

503
00:29:57,680 --> 00:29:59,400
Speaker 1: to find a man, but they still want a family,

504
00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:01,800
Speaker 1: They still want something to care for, so they still

505
00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:04,920
Speaker 1: want children. They don't have anybody to really have the

506
00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:07,680
Speaker 1: baby with. Of course that that type of thing does happen,

507
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 1: but I'm talking about like young black mothers. Uh even ship.

508
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 1: I had a home girl. I mean she had her

509
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 1: first child when she was like thirty four. And this

510
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 1: man like this is a woman who don't have any kids, right.

511
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:24,000
Speaker 1: I feel like, if you're a man and you don't

512
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 1: want any more kids, stop fucking with women raw or

513
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 1: you don't want any kids, like that's just what you

514
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 1: have to do. Get on this new birth control about

515
00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:35,520
Speaker 1: to come out for years, girl, they really about the

516
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:38,720
Speaker 1: fun the damn ecosystem up because men only be concerned

517
00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:40,960
Speaker 1: about not getting a bit pregnant. They ain't concerned about

518
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:44,280
Speaker 1: s c d s like that. So imagine how ratchet

519
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:46,560
Speaker 1: it's about to get if men knew that they can't

520
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 1: get somebody pregnant. Everybody getting that raw dick, everybody but

521
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:57,960
Speaker 1: team me. I like one. I just I'm scared of

522
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:00,480
Speaker 1: the soul ties, not just the disease of the soul

523
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:02,880
Speaker 1: times that come with raw penis. Because I like you

524
00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 1: give me some wrong dick. We go together right now, Yes,

525
00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:10,080
Speaker 1: immediately after you're my man? Where are you at? What

526
00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 1: you're doing? You hunger? Where's the dick? Ain't even about you?

527
00:31:14,360 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 1: That dick at well, that is a part of him.

528
00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:20,160
Speaker 1: So that dick on the phone. Put the dick on

529
00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 1: the phone. Hey, baby, you get over there. Did he

530
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:26,200
Speaker 1: feed you? Are you sleep? Are you staying? Was he

531
00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:34,880
Speaker 1: beating you too much? Stop beating my friend? Where's the dick?

532
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 1: So that's why I don't do that, So I would

533
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:41,240
Speaker 1: be fine. You got a spiritually cleansed after these niggas

534
00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 1: shot because everybody being them dicks m hm, sadness. But

535
00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:51,600
Speaker 1: in the black community, we need to put more emphasis

536
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:56,480
Speaker 1: on marriage, family if we want to come up out

537
00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 1: of this thing. When like just having all these kids

538
00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 1: out here. Let's take future for instance. Yes, Future has

539
00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:04,800
Speaker 1: the money to take kit these kids, but can he

540
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 1: assist the mothers of these children to help raise like

541
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:12,120
Speaker 1: good human beings. Are you even there? Do you have

542
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 1: the time? Like that's why the both parents and the

543
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:18,000
Speaker 1: household is so important, you know what I'm saying, to

544
00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:20,520
Speaker 1: cultivate your child's future, Like, you can't do that if

545
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:24,960
Speaker 1: you all over the place just dropping your seeds all

546
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 1: over your seeds. I wish black men would stop saying

547
00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:33,160
Speaker 1: that my seeds. That is so nasty. It's just nasty. Yeah,

548
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:35,720
Speaker 1: but seeds are like you know, you could buy a

549
00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:37,719
Speaker 1: pack of seeds and misplace them ship and don't give

550
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:39,240
Speaker 1: a funk about them because they only calls a dollar.

551
00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:42,960
Speaker 1: Like you shouldn't be just dropping seeds anywhere, and you

552
00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 1: want they want to talk about legacy building. Legacy building

553
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:50,520
Speaker 1: that starts with having a firm, like solid foundation for

554
00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:54,240
Speaker 1: the child, meaning like a two parent home. Hopefully even

555
00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:59,400
Speaker 1: if you're not together, like y'all still real co parent,

556
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:04,120
Speaker 1: co parents, and yes, real co parent it that's not

557
00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:07,240
Speaker 1: happening in a lot of homes, and that's not just

558
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 1: Black homes. So I'm not we were listening. Are you

559
00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:11,959
Speaker 1: in other cultures? Are you another communities? Do you give

560
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:13,720
Speaker 1: a funk about other communities? I give a funk about

561
00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 1: the black community. I give a funk about the economic

562
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 1: advancement of black people. And if we don't have strong families,

563
00:33:19,960 --> 00:33:22,440
Speaker 1: we're gonna always be at the bottom of the totem pole.

564
00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:25,800
Speaker 1: That's my concern. I don't care what other you know what,

565
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:28,520
Speaker 1: I agree, that is my main concern. But I'm just

566
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:33,360
Speaker 1: personal peace for everybody, not just Black people, for everyone

567
00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 1: I am. I'm alright. I mean, I can't do nothing

568
00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:40,800
Speaker 1: but be black first. But and that's what I'm concerned about.

569
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 1: Because everybody else getting on through, we're behind. So my

570
00:33:46,480 --> 00:33:48,240
Speaker 1: discussion I want to have the day is like how

571
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 1: do we through family get ahead? Because this is an

572
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 1: easy thing, like it's it's I feel like it's easy.

573
00:33:56,240 --> 00:34:00,400
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, up until the nineties sixties, black

574
00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 1: people were married more than the white counterparts, you know

575
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But it went from that to black

576
00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:10,520
Speaker 1: men not even being in the homes. Right, so we

577
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 1: know all the different things that transpire. So how do

578
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:15,759
Speaker 1: we how do we grow from that time? How do

579
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:17,960
Speaker 1: we grow from m. Jim Crow? And how do we

580
00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:20,040
Speaker 1: grow from the civil rights movement and all that ship?

581
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:24,480
Speaker 1: Because that's those things happen. Warren drugs, those things ripped

582
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:27,040
Speaker 1: men at homes. But we can say that, But then

583
00:34:27,120 --> 00:34:30,040
Speaker 1: on the other part of it, we're black men leaving

584
00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:34,000
Speaker 1: their homes? Were they leaving women with children even back then?

585
00:34:34,440 --> 00:34:36,440
Speaker 1: Why the government had to step in the first place?

586
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:39,919
Speaker 1: Perhaps you know what I'm saying, so that we could

587
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:43,440
Speaker 1: perpetuate old the government. The government is now in the

588
00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:45,640
Speaker 1: baby Daddy and all the ship and where y'all nigga

589
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 1: is staying Because my grandmother raised eleven children by herself,

590
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:57,880
Speaker 1: her her my granddaddy left, yes, and this is the

591
00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:09,040
Speaker 1: early nine hundreds talk about my grandma was born. So

592
00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:12,720
Speaker 1: what happened? I don't know, girl, I have no answers

593
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:14,840
Speaker 1: for this. I don't think nobody really has the answer.

594
00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:18,040
Speaker 1: You know, who has the answer to where sway At?

595
00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:24,280
Speaker 1: Maybe got the motherfucking Kanye he can keep his family

596
00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:30,120
Speaker 1: together either, like it's hard, clearly all right? So they

597
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 1: say finances is the major reason why families break up.

598
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 1: But we see that rich families fall apart. Two, But

599
00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:37,839
Speaker 1: the kids are gonna still gonna be provided for and

600
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:40,279
Speaker 1: just Kim ain't gonna be just struggling and take care

601
00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:43,239
Speaker 1: of Kanye kids by yourself. Yeah, but it's so different, right, right,

602
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 1: They'll be provided for. But you think that man not

603
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 1: just about the money. It's also about the rearing of

604
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:55,040
Speaker 1: the child and creating a productive human being, a good citizen.

605
00:35:56,520 --> 00:35:58,759
Speaker 1: So you think that men want to provide and when

606
00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:01,000
Speaker 1: they can't, it's just easy year to just walk away

607
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:04,960
Speaker 1: and pretend like that those people don't exist, Yeah, and

608
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:07,480
Speaker 1: just push the guilt down in the bottom of other

609
00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:10,799
Speaker 1: good and go on with Sometimes those same men didn't

610
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 1: go make a baby with somebody else, or maybe go

611
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 1: with a woman who has children and help her. Yeah,

612
00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:19,759
Speaker 1: I know I've seen that where a guy he only

613
00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 1: takes care of the kids of the one he would

614
00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:27,400
Speaker 1: that's most men, yeah, and like the other ones is

615
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:31,640
Speaker 1: just out decide, out of mind. M I just feel

616
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:34,120
Speaker 1: like those type of men should be ostracized. Any women

617
00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 1: or men that's not taking care of their kids, like

618
00:36:36,040 --> 00:36:39,440
Speaker 1: y'all should not even have friends, dog, Like, nobody should

619
00:36:39,480 --> 00:36:42,359
Speaker 1: sunk with y'all until y'all get your ship together. If

620
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:44,480
Speaker 1: you're just out here having kids, you're not taking care

621
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:48,400
Speaker 1: of you just sound ratchet ass girl. Remember I was

622
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:50,200
Speaker 1: not raising her kids. I remember I was dating this

623
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:52,920
Speaker 1: guy and I was liking him and he was cool,

624
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:56,279
Speaker 1: and he had entered like we were really vironment and

625
00:36:56,360 --> 00:36:58,759
Speaker 1: I met his mother and everything, and she was making

626
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 1: me like, what's the black rice? That are not uh

627
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:08,800
Speaker 1: Patians black? That black rice rice? But she was cooking

628
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:11,960
Speaker 1: for me and everything. And then somebody was like, you know,

629
00:37:12,080 --> 00:37:14,719
Speaker 1: he got his son. It's like what, No, he only

630
00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:17,919
Speaker 1: has a daughter, and now he also has a son

631
00:37:18,760 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 1: in Colombia. I'm like what. So like somebody said, you

632
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:25,759
Speaker 1: got his son in Colombia. He's like, oh about that?

633
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:30,160
Speaker 1: What I don't get to see him. I was like,

634
00:37:30,760 --> 00:37:34,400
Speaker 1: Columbia is an hour and a half away from Charlotte. Go.

635
00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:38,320
Speaker 1: He was like, man, me and his mama don't vibe

636
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 1: like that. We don't get along. And she was just

637
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:43,759
Speaker 1: too hard. When he gets eighteen, if you want to

638
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:47,200
Speaker 1: meet me, he can come find me and I'll tell

639
00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:51,880
Speaker 1: him what happened. I was like, oh, yeah, that's a

640
00:37:51,960 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 1: turn off. And that's just how when I lived him alone, right, yeah,

641
00:37:56,200 --> 00:38:00,839
Speaker 1: because you could be the third next. So I guess

642
00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:03,200
Speaker 1: also women need to make better choices on the people

643
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:06,400
Speaker 1: when we fun went drive up like the Sahara Desert

644
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:14,799
Speaker 1: when he said, they like, I ain't gonna be able

645
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:17,440
Speaker 1: to do that, baby, Yeah, if you ain't, If you're

646
00:38:17,440 --> 00:38:19,160
Speaker 1: not working with your kids, I'm not working with you.

647
00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:23,000
Speaker 1: But get this, his father didn't funk with him either.

648
00:38:23,680 --> 00:38:26,600
Speaker 1: He had a very successful father in New York, like

649
00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:30,560
Speaker 1: an engineer, and they had no relationship, and he had

650
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:32,759
Speaker 1: resentment for his dad. I'm like, you turned it out

651
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:34,799
Speaker 1: to be the same, nigga. So was his dad and

652
00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:39,239
Speaker 1: mom together at some point? Yes, they were, but not

653
00:38:39,440 --> 00:38:42,279
Speaker 1: most of his life though, because I think sometimes it

654
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 1: happened some of these mama's, man, some of these mama's

655
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:48,920
Speaker 1: been side bitches. When I had stories like that's like,

656
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:52,760
Speaker 1: was your mama side bit and got pregnant for somebody husband?

657
00:38:53,040 --> 00:38:55,800
Speaker 1: And now he don't sunk with you, like what happened?

658
00:38:55,800 --> 00:38:59,360
Speaker 1: What decisions did did mama making life? And you know,

659
00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:01,839
Speaker 1: I feel like sometimes a lot of the way men

660
00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 1: handle women is stemming from their mama's You know what

661
00:39:05,600 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 1: I'm saying is like, you've never seen your mama in

662
00:39:07,920 --> 00:39:11,239
Speaker 1: a successful relationship. Your mama was a baby mama. Soe

663
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:15,720
Speaker 1: you out here just making strong black baby mamas because

664
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:18,520
Speaker 1: your mama struggled to take care of you. Dog, That's

665
00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:20,719
Speaker 1: not what we're doing. Like, are you waiting for your

666
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:22,760
Speaker 1: son to then get older to take care of your mama?

667
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:25,839
Speaker 1: I mean to take care of your baby mama, because

668
00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:28,239
Speaker 1: I feel like all most men, like y'all, their whole

669
00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:31,400
Speaker 1: goal in life is to grow up, get some money,

670
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 1: body mama house. They never had body mama card, they

671
00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:37,400
Speaker 1: never had can never afford take care of their mama

672
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:41,080
Speaker 1: because they never saw a man take care of her. Right.

673
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 1: So if you if you're you have all these aspirations,

674
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:46,480
Speaker 1: um you know, to be successful so you can take

675
00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:48,680
Speaker 1: care of your mama. But then you're having children that

676
00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 1: you don't take care of. Are you waiting for your

677
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 1: sons to now get older to take care of your

678
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:57,560
Speaker 1: baby mama? Is that what we're doing? And that's what

679
00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:00,600
Speaker 1: that's what happens because I think at some point these

680
00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:04,080
Speaker 1: niggas turned into the niggas that they don't that they

681
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:08,120
Speaker 1: never saw. Basically, so this man didn't raise you, you you

682
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:12,440
Speaker 1: end up turning into this nig anyway when you should

683
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:14,880
Speaker 1: take the I mean even if he wasn't around like

684
00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:18,080
Speaker 1: the example would then be should be a positive example

685
00:40:18,120 --> 00:40:20,520
Speaker 1: of what a man should be. Like Your daddy wasn't there, right,

686
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:23,480
Speaker 1: so now you should make it your fucking business to

687
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:27,759
Speaker 1: be there. But instead sometimes they still turn up like

688
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:35,400
Speaker 1: these absent fathers. We gotta put more emphasis on family. Well,

689
00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:37,839
Speaker 1: how what do you do? Turn off the TV, turn

690
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 1: off their computer, trying to shield them from whatever everything else.

691
00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:45,920
Speaker 1: So this is where I then agree with what Cam

692
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:49,239
Speaker 1: was saying about the bad bit ship, because you know

693
00:40:49,360 --> 00:40:51,759
Speaker 1: we outside now this is what women be saying, like

694
00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:54,520
Speaker 1: were the savages now? But are we? Do we really

695
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:58,920
Speaker 1: want to be the savages? Or has uh um? The

696
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:02,880
Speaker 1: relationships between black men and women now cause us to

697
00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:08,040
Speaker 1: be like be like men, be like men. I don't

698
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 1: want to be like a grown ass man. I'll be

699
00:41:10,040 --> 00:41:12,120
Speaker 1: saying I'm a grown ass man because I'll handle it

700
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 1: if I have to, but I do not want me to.

701
00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:17,040
Speaker 1: I would I would love to just exist within my

702
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:20,359
Speaker 1: feminine energy all day in my life. Yeah, so men,

703
00:41:20,520 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 1: they say how black women were so masculine all because

704
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:26,319
Speaker 1: we especially some of the music. I'll be listening to im,

705
00:41:26,360 --> 00:41:30,799
Speaker 1: like whoa what the black girls? You like? Have you

706
00:41:30,840 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 1: ever heard a kid the Man? Yes? I like her though,

707
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:36,480
Speaker 1: like I'll be listener when I'm working out because it

708
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:39,719
Speaker 1: does like give me a little like physical motivation in

709
00:41:39,760 --> 00:41:43,280
Speaker 1: the gym. But some of the messages is very strong

710
00:41:43,440 --> 00:41:48,479
Speaker 1: masculine and there what's the other one? Chameleonaire, chameleon? What's

711
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:50,719
Speaker 1: her name? With a little squeaky voice. I don't know

712
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:53,040
Speaker 1: who you're talking about. She had a song if I

713
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 1: was a rich man, you know what I'm talking about.

714
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:58,439
Speaker 1: But she basically talked about all the ship niggas be doing,

715
00:41:58,520 --> 00:42:02,160
Speaker 1: Like if I was I would be shipping on these niggas.

716
00:42:02,160 --> 00:42:03,719
Speaker 1: Like if she was a man, like why I can't

717
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:07,239
Speaker 1: do it? You can't. Women are so delicate, you know

718
00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So we'd be out here trying to

719
00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:12,799
Speaker 1: be like men. You want to break down, bitch, Yeah,

720
00:42:13,239 --> 00:42:16,319
Speaker 1: you people don't. Some people as like whole grown men

721
00:42:16,360 --> 00:42:19,200
Speaker 1: out here and then have lost that and don't care.

722
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:22,680
Speaker 1: I feel like my mama might be one of them

723
00:42:22,880 --> 00:42:28,239
Speaker 1: for real. M hmm, I don't know. I don't know

724
00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:30,200
Speaker 1: what my mama, her and her friends being there talking

725
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 1: about all kind of my mom only even got no friends,

726
00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:36,239
Speaker 1: girl barely. Why I don't know my mom and her

727
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:38,399
Speaker 1: friends in there at like she had like a little

728
00:42:38,440 --> 00:42:40,480
Speaker 1: party a couple of wee kyears ago, Like they were

729
00:42:40,520 --> 00:42:43,959
Speaker 1: just drinking coffee and eat damishes and ship and talking

730
00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:48,920
Speaker 1: about that's like fun and listen old bit ship she had.

731
00:42:49,760 --> 00:42:52,000
Speaker 1: I don't know if I should tell you all this secret.

732
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:57,240
Speaker 1: I think she bought a vibrator. I thought my mama

733
00:42:57,360 --> 00:43:01,120
Speaker 1: vibrator a couple of Christmases ago, and she gave it

734
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 1: back to me recently. You know, she not give me

735
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:07,560
Speaker 1: that ship? Why vibrated cost me like eighty dollars. It

736
00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:11,000
Speaker 1: was a good one, but now it's like she never

737
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:13,319
Speaker 1: used it now but now like the you know, because

738
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 1: some of them like real soft, like the rubber, And

739
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:17,360
Speaker 1: now I was like sticky, having sat in the closet

740
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:22,560
Speaker 1: for how many years? No, is not about to give

741
00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:25,120
Speaker 1: me a damn use vibrata, but take this back and

742
00:43:25,200 --> 00:43:30,040
Speaker 1: don't work like the new one I got. My mom

743
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:34,000
Speaker 1: always be like that ship pass sales. So how old

744
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:36,640
Speaker 1: are you when you start losing sexual urge? Because I

745
00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:38,520
Speaker 1: feel like my mom and her friends are still with

746
00:43:38,560 --> 00:43:41,880
Speaker 1: all the ships and they they and they missed sixties.

747
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:45,759
Speaker 1: Oh they still want to. Oh yeah, my mom made

748
00:43:45,760 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 1: with that ship no more. I don't know. I hope

749
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:51,439
Speaker 1: I never lose my lab me neither. I'd be wanting

750
00:43:51,520 --> 00:43:56,279
Speaker 1: fu Yeah, okay, let's be clear. Yeah, I hang up

751
00:43:56,280 --> 00:44:02,440
Speaker 1: on y'all, go do it right now. But when I

752
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:04,680
Speaker 1: don't have nobody to funk, I'm good. But if I

753
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:07,480
Speaker 1: start sucking, like, I want to have sex as much

754
00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:09,880
Speaker 1: as possible. What you mean, don't have nobody like if

755
00:44:09,920 --> 00:44:13,239
Speaker 1: I'm not like, if I'm celibate, not even celibate. You know,

756
00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 1: sometimes you just go through I don't want to, And

757
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:19,920
Speaker 1: maybe your mom is going through the rest of her life.

758
00:44:19,960 --> 00:44:22,279
Speaker 1: I don't want to, Pat, but I'm pretty sure she's

759
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:25,799
Speaker 1: been going through that shift for about twenty years. Oh no,

760
00:44:26,280 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 1: and she married. Let me stop talking to my dad,

761
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:34,000
Speaker 1: mom because she listened to this episode. And let's take

762
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:40,000
Speaker 1: a breaking guitar, dumb bit story, dumb bitch stories, because

763
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:46,160
Speaker 1: we've all been a dumb bitch at least once or twice. Okay,

764
00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:49,440
Speaker 1: we got a interesting dumb bit story for you guys today,

765
00:44:49,600 --> 00:44:52,600
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna read this for y'all. Let me try

766
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 1: to read it better than a juck you. Hey, guys,

767
00:44:57,120 --> 00:45:00,760
Speaker 1: I have a dumb, big bit story for you all. Short, sweet,

768
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:05,160
Speaker 1: and scary. I have been with my baby daddy since

769
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:08,359
Speaker 1: two thousand twelve, and our child is now three. We're

770
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:12,040
Speaker 1: essentially We've essentially been together since high school and through college.

771
00:45:12,440 --> 00:45:15,120
Speaker 1: He's a great provider and I know he loves our family.

772
00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:20,120
Speaker 1: That's good, But I'm now having concerns about his sexuality.

773
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:26,520
Speaker 1: I know, and I say now loosely because really there's

774
00:45:26,560 --> 00:45:31,000
Speaker 1: always been some concerns. We attended different colleges but in

775
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:33,520
Speaker 1: the same town, and the rumor was going around that

776
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:37,399
Speaker 1: he had gotten his dick sucked by a known gay guy.

777
00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:41,799
Speaker 1: I never asked him about it because I know him

778
00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 1: and trusted it was a lie. Fast forward. He has

779
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:49,200
Speaker 1: a homeboy that has he has been taking a few

780
00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 1: golf trips with over the years, and the last trip

781
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:54,840
Speaker 1: I asked to come, and we got into a big

782
00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 1: argument because he said it was for the guys only

783
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:02,279
Speaker 1: his friend. It gives me real feminine energy and I

784
00:46:02,320 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 1: don't like it. He's not married and doesn't have any kids.

785
00:46:06,120 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 1: How can I approach this conversation with a man that

786
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 1: I do love and is the father of my child. Girl, Okay,

787
00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:18,920
Speaker 1: here's what I think about rumors when we're talking about

788
00:46:18,960 --> 00:46:23,560
Speaker 1: like supposed heterosexual men and gay men. I just don't

789
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:28,640
Speaker 1: feel like anybody starts those rumors about real street man

790
00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:32,480
Speaker 1: like anybody I've ever ever heard a rumor about that

791
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:36,720
Speaker 1: ship was fucking true. No, that's not girl. Yes, girl,

792
00:46:36,840 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, anybody you heard what was probably know

793
00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 1: anybody I heard that got they dick sucked by a

794
00:46:43,120 --> 00:46:47,520
Speaker 1: gay guy, got they dick sucked by a gay guy? Yes? Well,

795
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:54,960
Speaker 1: my um my suggestion for you is to put on

796
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:58,120
Speaker 1: brokeback mount. Shut up with that damn story. I'm so

797
00:46:58,200 --> 00:47:01,000
Speaker 1: sick of you. This is what I do, girl, No,

798
00:47:01,440 --> 00:47:03,920
Speaker 1: put it on, and when the gay sex can come on,

799
00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 1: grab his dick. If it's hard. You know, I always

800
00:47:07,160 --> 00:47:10,640
Speaker 1: go to therapy. Take his ask the fucking therapy and

801
00:47:10,640 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 1: bringing it up if you need a mediator there this

802
00:47:13,000 --> 00:47:14,920
Speaker 1: in case you think it's gonna get crazy because you're

803
00:47:14,920 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 1: asking us, Because I'm pretty sure if she asked him

804
00:47:17,760 --> 00:47:20,840
Speaker 1: at home, his first thing is going to be like upset.

805
00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:24,320
Speaker 1: I rate, I'm pretty sure. Is it a deal breaker?

806
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:27,080
Speaker 1: For you too, like, are you willing to strap him?

807
00:47:27,080 --> 00:47:29,279
Speaker 1: Because I mean, if that's something he like, if you

808
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:31,759
Speaker 1: I mean with this two people are doing different ships,

809
00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:33,960
Speaker 1: Like are you willing to satisfy that need for him?

810
00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:37,000
Speaker 1: But I don't think the need is that. I don't think, okay,

811
00:47:37,040 --> 00:47:39,239
Speaker 1: when a man does that with another man, I don't

812
00:47:39,280 --> 00:47:43,400
Speaker 1: think it's about the actual sexual thing. A lot of

813
00:47:43,440 --> 00:47:48,880
Speaker 1: times they period, So you can't be that as a woman.

814
00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:52,879
Speaker 1: You can't be a man. So me personally, I just

815
00:47:52,920 --> 00:47:56,160
Speaker 1: want to his men. Now we need to just talk

816
00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:58,200
Speaker 1: about that ship. But no, you're still not a man,

817
00:47:58,520 --> 00:48:00,920
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like, so what you say

818
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:03,200
Speaker 1: she should do? Just go to therapy about it? Yeah,

819
00:48:03,280 --> 00:48:05,160
Speaker 1: I think they should. I think they should. She should.

820
00:48:05,200 --> 00:48:08,239
Speaker 1: She should ask them if they can go to therapy.

821
00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:12,319
Speaker 1: Um Um, I'm pretty sure he's gonna be like, why

822
00:48:12,360 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 1: what we need therapy for? I don't know. Just tell him, Hey,

823
00:48:16,040 --> 00:48:17,560
Speaker 1: there's something I want to talk to you about. But

824
00:48:17,600 --> 00:48:21,200
Speaker 1: I'm not equipped to talk to you by myself about it.

825
00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 1: So she's gonna have a gay prevention shut up? Make

826
00:48:25,680 --> 00:48:29,680
Speaker 1: me fucking sick to me, No, but I feel like

827
00:48:29,719 --> 00:48:32,640
Speaker 1: that would be the easiest way because I no man

828
00:48:32,760 --> 00:48:37,439
Speaker 1: wants to be called out about anything really, especially his sexuality,

829
00:48:37,680 --> 00:48:40,239
Speaker 1: and then you know, especially if he's not out with it,

830
00:48:40,440 --> 00:48:43,720
Speaker 1: and what if it's not true. What if it's not true?

831
00:48:43,800 --> 00:48:46,719
Speaker 1: You know, then he's really upset like women. Like men

832
00:48:46,840 --> 00:48:49,320
Speaker 1: like to say, women's intuition ain't about ship, but women's

833
00:48:49,360 --> 00:48:53,000
Speaker 1: intuition as a motherfucker. If she feels that way about

834
00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 1: his friend, because you know you haven't been around a

835
00:48:56,080 --> 00:48:59,319
Speaker 1: gay guy, it's like you automatically start calling them girl, hey, girl,

836
00:48:59,480 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 1: like that where guys who aren't gay sometimes that they're

837
00:49:02,120 --> 00:49:04,600
Speaker 1: like friend guys and I get really my friend zone,

838
00:49:04,640 --> 00:49:08,040
Speaker 1: I might write, accidentally call them bitch. Yes, let me

839
00:49:08,080 --> 00:49:13,840
Speaker 1: tell you yes, yes, So girl, you call us with

840
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:15,719
Speaker 1: a heart, You message us with a hard question. I

841
00:49:15,719 --> 00:49:18,760
Speaker 1: don't she say therapy? I say, turn on the TV

842
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 1: at the house and say some money. I know a

843
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:27,120
Speaker 1: good therapist who is not that expensive. They also take insurance.

844
00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:30,120
Speaker 1: But you also have to decide what you're prepared to

845
00:49:30,200 --> 00:49:33,920
Speaker 1: do when you get your answer. Yeah, that's gonna be

846
00:49:34,080 --> 00:49:36,319
Speaker 1: hard one because they gotta kids. Sometimes it's easier to

847
00:49:36,360 --> 00:49:39,840
Speaker 1: stay in the dark. It is not in this situation,

848
00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:42,400
Speaker 1: and I'm not trying to perpetuate the thing where you

849
00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:46,960
Speaker 1: know only specific STDs are exclusive to that group of people.

850
00:49:46,960 --> 00:49:49,200
Speaker 1: That's not what I'm saying. But we know it's high.

851
00:49:49,320 --> 00:49:51,640
Speaker 1: So I don't think this is a situation where she

852
00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 1: should not say something. But I'm just saying, you have

853
00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:58,000
Speaker 1: to be prepared for your what you're gonna do when

854
00:49:58,040 --> 00:50:00,520
Speaker 1: you get the truth, right, I don't think she should

855
00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:02,760
Speaker 1: not say nothing about it. I think she should definitely

856
00:50:02,800 --> 00:50:04,640
Speaker 1: ask him about it. I don't think she should say

857
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:08,680
Speaker 1: something until she has her playing together on what she's

858
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:16,120
Speaker 1: gonna do with the answer. Yeah, right, that's scary. Yeah,

859
00:50:16,200 --> 00:50:20,480
Speaker 1: moment of silence. I don't know, pulse. Is it different

860
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:24,520
Speaker 1: if it was a woman he was doing it with? Like? Absolutely?

861
00:50:25,120 --> 00:50:27,680
Speaker 1: If I mean, we're not caught. I've never been in

862
00:50:27,719 --> 00:50:31,040
Speaker 1: a relationship where a nigger didn't get caught cheating. Okay,

863
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:34,359
Speaker 1: have you girl? I remember I got in the bed.

864
00:50:34,400 --> 00:50:37,160
Speaker 1: It was a condom in the bed. What the fuck

865
00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:42,600
Speaker 1: is that? Is there a slug in the bed with us? Now,

866
00:50:42,640 --> 00:50:44,920
Speaker 1: I haven't got in the bed with some panties some

867
00:50:45,000 --> 00:50:47,960
Speaker 1: other panties underneath the sheets, You nasty motherfucker. Could you

868
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:51,319
Speaker 1: please uh wash these damn she you's got me laying

869
00:50:51,360 --> 00:50:55,440
Speaker 1: in y'all man just marrinating and somebody else And nigas

870
00:50:55,440 --> 00:50:57,200
Speaker 1: do that all the time. Ladies, y'all don't know how

871
00:50:57,200 --> 00:51:01,279
Speaker 1: many bodily fluids y'all be laying in getting they don't

872
00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:04,560
Speaker 1: be clean like that. Nope, girl, I will come. I

873
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:08,279
Speaker 1: know a girl. She'd be letting niggas come and her

874
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 1: in her house. She's like, well, we do by side good,

875
00:51:12,160 --> 00:51:15,360
Speaker 1: that's they side that they lay dirt on the side

876
00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:28,600
Speaker 1: my sisticly ill she nasty, that's day side. I don't know.

877
00:51:28,960 --> 00:51:30,839
Speaker 1: So she only on one side of bed. She bust

878
00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:32,839
Speaker 1: got the king's side. But even with a king, like

879
00:51:32,960 --> 00:51:35,040
Speaker 1: I would be all over that bed like what she

880
00:51:35,440 --> 00:51:40,760
Speaker 1: on the other side, because you sleep on the other side.

881
00:51:40,920 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 1: That's terrible. I don't know, baby, I don't think. I

882
00:51:45,080 --> 00:51:47,160
Speaker 1: don't think my last man cheated on me. If he did,

883
00:51:47,239 --> 00:51:50,000
Speaker 1: he did it well and that's how I preferred. Yes,

884
00:51:50,360 --> 00:51:53,399
Speaker 1: me too. Don't let me find out that's not where

885
00:51:53,440 --> 00:52:00,239
Speaker 1: it's respectful, respectful cheating, right, or just tell motherfucker's you

886
00:52:00,520 --> 00:52:04,879
Speaker 1: like variety and you want multiple people because that's these

887
00:52:04,920 --> 00:52:07,640
Speaker 1: these This is one second. I know we don't have

888
00:52:07,719 --> 00:52:12,359
Speaker 1: plenty of conversations on monogamy, pop polygamy, all this ship.

889
00:52:12,400 --> 00:52:14,000
Speaker 1: I doesn't want job niggs and there y'all can't even

890
00:52:14,000 --> 00:52:19,880
Speaker 1: afford one bit? How many Now we don't have multiple

891
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:22,400
Speaker 1: people on this show talk about what's the average um

892
00:52:22,760 --> 00:52:26,319
Speaker 1: income for black people? Right? These niggas do not have

893
00:52:26,480 --> 00:52:29,919
Speaker 1: enough money for one woman. Yeah. They keep putting these

894
00:52:30,000 --> 00:52:32,160
Speaker 1: videos up of Shihara Ali and you know what she

895
00:52:32,239 --> 00:52:35,160
Speaker 1: says about um this one video that's going around now

896
00:52:35,400 --> 00:52:38,320
Speaker 1: talking about how if you catch your man with another woman,

897
00:52:38,400 --> 00:52:40,719
Speaker 1: like that's a relationship he facilitated on there, who are

898
00:52:40,760 --> 00:52:43,560
Speaker 1: you to disturb that? Or something like that. This is

899
00:52:43,600 --> 00:52:46,800
Speaker 1: a different time. Okay, we cannot apply that type of

900
00:52:46,800 --> 00:52:49,880
Speaker 1: ship to our current lives because again a lot of

901
00:52:49,880 --> 00:52:52,719
Speaker 1: those women didn't have a choice. So my thing is,

902
00:52:52,760 --> 00:52:54,880
Speaker 1: you could just be honest. I should have to find

903
00:52:54,880 --> 00:52:58,200
Speaker 1: out anything. Just be honest when you meet me. The

904
00:52:58,239 --> 00:53:00,359
Speaker 1: thing is is that I feel like men they don't

905
00:53:00,440 --> 00:53:02,400
Speaker 1: like that though, like they feel like they can't be

906
00:53:02,480 --> 00:53:05,600
Speaker 1: honest with women. They don't like the fact that if

907
00:53:05,600 --> 00:53:07,399
Speaker 1: they do be honest with you, that you're gonna then

908
00:53:07,480 --> 00:53:10,040
Speaker 1: do what they do. I believe I got a story there.

909
00:53:10,080 --> 00:53:13,560
Speaker 1: I want to tell you always got a fucking story.

910
00:53:13,600 --> 00:53:16,520
Speaker 1: Bit go ahead. This was like, all right, this was

911
00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:19,520
Speaker 1: a long time ago, and I was hanging out with

912
00:53:19,560 --> 00:53:22,320
Speaker 1: this guy. I was in college or right right outside

913
00:53:22,320 --> 00:53:25,839
Speaker 1: of college, and we got real drunk together, and then

914
00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:28,440
Speaker 1: we went to his house and he was like making

915
00:53:28,480 --> 00:53:31,960
Speaker 1: out and stuff, and then he pulled his past down

916
00:53:32,640 --> 00:53:36,200
Speaker 1: and tucked this dick behind like between his but like

917
00:53:36,400 --> 00:53:40,400
Speaker 1: pulled it backwards and it was like a boy pussy

918
00:53:40,680 --> 00:53:42,680
Speaker 1: and he laid back on the bed with his hands

919
00:53:42,719 --> 00:53:46,320
Speaker 1: like out like, um man, so did he want you

920
00:53:46,360 --> 00:53:49,560
Speaker 1: to lick that itself? I got the out of there

921
00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:52,239
Speaker 1: so fast. Why did he do that in front of you?

922
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:55,120
Speaker 1: We were so drunk. I just think he was being

923
00:53:55,200 --> 00:54:04,880
Speaker 1: himself and himself had a pussy in his spirit. Motherfuzzicus exists.

924
00:54:04,880 --> 00:54:11,360
Speaker 1: I here, you want to have a pussy. I'm not

925
00:54:11,440 --> 00:54:14,200
Speaker 1: knocking anybody who does, like that's your thing. But it

926
00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:17,160
Speaker 1: scared the funk out of me. I didn't know what

927
00:54:17,239 --> 00:54:22,000
Speaker 1: was going. I was like, how you got out of there?

928
00:54:22,160 --> 00:54:30,480
Speaker 1: Tell me? Tell me? Because I was sound. I grabbed

929
00:54:30,520 --> 00:54:32,399
Speaker 1: my shoes. I don't even think I put my shoes on.

930
00:54:32,480 --> 00:54:35,440
Speaker 1: I just snatched my sandals up my person got off.

931
00:54:35,520 --> 00:54:38,640
Speaker 1: Did you say anything though? I don't. I don't remember

932
00:54:38,680 --> 00:54:41,360
Speaker 1: saying anything. I remember just because he laid back with

933
00:54:41,880 --> 00:54:44,000
Speaker 1: He lived in like one of those kind of lofty styles,

934
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:46,880
Speaker 1: like there's no there's no doors, so like I just

935
00:54:46,960 --> 00:54:48,719
Speaker 1: kind of got my ship and got out the door.

936
00:54:49,600 --> 00:54:58,000
Speaker 1: And I'll never forget him. What I would do? What

937
00:54:58,239 --> 00:54:59,960
Speaker 1: was I supposed to do? I didn't know what to do.

938
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:02,359
Speaker 1: I was confused. Did I tell you this before? How

939
00:55:03,520 --> 00:55:06,400
Speaker 1: Jesus Christ? This is my old life, y'all. And I

940
00:55:06,680 --> 00:55:08,719
Speaker 1: never been like on a super duper whole ship. I'm

941
00:55:08,719 --> 00:55:11,799
Speaker 1: like a mild hole. But I let this nigga pay

942
00:55:11,880 --> 00:55:17,200
Speaker 1: me one time in Atlanta to be to beat his dick. Right,

943
00:55:18,000 --> 00:55:23,000
Speaker 1: I was a prostitute? What No? But I did beat

944
00:55:23,040 --> 00:55:26,880
Speaker 1: this dude's dick for paid. Once he text me about it,

945
00:55:26,960 --> 00:55:28,799
Speaker 1: We talked about it. He came over to get his

946
00:55:28,840 --> 00:55:35,359
Speaker 1: dick beat for four hundred dollars. No, hell no, hell

947
00:55:35,520 --> 00:55:39,160
Speaker 1: fucking no, you were like prostitute. But when he came

948
00:55:40,160 --> 00:55:44,680
Speaker 1: over there, the nigga brought bisexual porn. He wanted his

949
00:55:44,719 --> 00:55:49,760
Speaker 1: dick beat too. Was bisexual porn men and women fucking

950
00:55:49,760 --> 00:55:52,319
Speaker 1: like the women trapping on the men like two men

951
00:55:52,360 --> 00:55:54,640
Speaker 1: and a woman, a woman and two men, like everybody

952
00:55:54,719 --> 00:55:58,359
Speaker 1: fucking yeah, the men fucking each other. Yeah, by check

953
00:55:58,480 --> 00:56:02,759
Speaker 1: sexual porn. So I beat his dick to this bisexual porn.

954
00:56:04,680 --> 00:56:13,759
Speaker 1: He's still my friend a little. I'm a shame girl.

955
00:56:13,840 --> 00:56:17,040
Speaker 1: They don't think it to my old life. What the funk?

956
00:56:17,120 --> 00:56:20,680
Speaker 1: It was so nasty. It was nasty. You felt bad

957
00:56:20,719 --> 00:56:24,640
Speaker 1: about yourself. Girl. I was paying like fucking six hundred

958
00:56:24,640 --> 00:56:27,920
Speaker 1: as a month just gas to get to my office

959
00:56:28,000 --> 00:56:30,400
Speaker 1: when I was living in Atlanta. You had to do

960
00:56:30,440 --> 00:56:35,719
Speaker 1: what I do. Not judge you, yah, y'all If y'all

961
00:56:35,719 --> 00:56:38,520
Speaker 1: don't know our voices apart, AJ is the one who

962
00:56:38,520 --> 00:56:42,480
Speaker 1: would beat dick four. That's a good listen. And it

963
00:56:42,560 --> 00:56:44,400
Speaker 1: was right before I went to work too, so that

964
00:56:44,520 --> 00:56:54,000
Speaker 1: was a good day. You know, girls are good. Rate'll

965
00:56:54,040 --> 00:56:59,120
Speaker 1: be just charging to beat. I don't know if they

966
00:56:59,120 --> 00:57:04,719
Speaker 1: book it then, but yas gallon right now. Look, this

967
00:57:04,800 --> 00:57:08,719
Speaker 1: is my gas was at its highest back then. Like, yes,

968
00:57:09,239 --> 00:57:12,239
Speaker 1: I definitely did that ship and I don't feel no

969
00:57:12,320 --> 00:57:16,280
Speaker 1: type of way about it. And don't nobody hurts you

970
00:57:16,320 --> 00:57:21,919
Speaker 1: with your truth, yo. We're about to get the funk

971
00:57:21,920 --> 00:57:24,280
Speaker 1: out of here. Anyway. It is a nightlight conversation. I

972
00:57:24,320 --> 00:57:26,480
Speaker 1: don't know how we can change the black community. I

973
00:57:26,520 --> 00:57:28,600
Speaker 1: feel like it just starts with the man in the mirror.

974
00:57:29,040 --> 00:57:32,440
Speaker 1: Like Michael Jackson said, don't have the baby if you

975
00:57:32,480 --> 00:57:35,400
Speaker 1: can't take care of the baby, Michael Jackson. Michael Jackson

976
00:57:35,400 --> 00:57:39,400
Speaker 1: said that what song was that? Girl? Uh so it

977
00:57:39,520 --> 00:57:42,320
Speaker 1: was on I want to be starting something. He said,

978
00:57:42,360 --> 00:57:45,400
Speaker 1: if you can't feed the baby, don't have the baby.

979
00:57:45,640 --> 00:57:48,400
Speaker 1: I don't trust, I don't know. Shut up, we're not

980
00:57:48,440 --> 00:57:51,720
Speaker 1: about to talk about a legend that month girl, who's

981
00:57:51,880 --> 00:57:55,000
Speaker 1: MHD Fucking people try to tarnish the same way they're

982
00:57:55,040 --> 00:57:56,920
Speaker 1: doing will Smith right now. We didn't even get back

983
00:57:56,920 --> 00:57:59,120
Speaker 1: into that. I don't like how they're doing will Smith.

984
00:57:59,120 --> 00:58:03,480
Speaker 1: That's for another day though, But girl, you first of all,

985
00:58:03,520 --> 00:58:06,400
Speaker 1: Michael Jackson was innocent. I love Michael Jackson, but I

986
00:58:06,400 --> 00:58:08,480
Speaker 1: would not leave my kids with him. Michael Jackson was

987
00:58:08,520 --> 00:58:11,360
Speaker 1: trying to save the kids. He was definitely not a pedophile.

988
00:58:12,200 --> 00:58:14,560
Speaker 1: The colleague Culkin and the other little white dude, they

989
00:58:14,600 --> 00:58:17,280
Speaker 1: came out and said that they basically he saved them

990
00:58:17,320 --> 00:58:22,160
Speaker 1: from child sex traffick him back then, Yes, the fats,

991
00:58:22,400 --> 00:58:24,920
Speaker 1: the fats that have very well maybe true and it

992
00:58:25,080 --> 00:58:31,800
Speaker 1: may be alive, but me personally about him. Y'all, listen,

993
00:58:31,800 --> 00:58:34,240
Speaker 1: if you enjoyed this episode, she's talking about Mike and

994
00:58:34,280 --> 00:58:37,240
Speaker 1: I don't like that. I love Michael Jackson. Two people

995
00:58:37,280 --> 00:58:39,400
Speaker 1: you can't talk about to me. It's Michael Jackson and

996
00:58:39,440 --> 00:58:42,280
Speaker 1: Whitney Houston. Okay, just remember that. I do not like

997
00:58:42,360 --> 00:58:44,480
Speaker 1: the image of Whitney used to be in a crackhead.

998
00:58:45,640 --> 00:58:47,680
Speaker 1: I'm so sad about that. And it's just like almost

999
00:58:47,720 --> 00:58:50,160
Speaker 1: the equivalent of Beyonce right now, I'm becoming a junkie

1000
00:58:50,240 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 1: like I used to always sing Whitney Houston song I love.

1001
00:58:53,600 --> 00:58:55,920
Speaker 1: I just went to a hologram Whitney Houston concert. But

1002
00:58:55,960 --> 00:58:59,280
Speaker 1: that doesn't mean she didn't. Don't. I don't. I never

1003
00:58:59,360 --> 00:59:01,520
Speaker 1: watched that our reality TV you with her and um

1004
00:59:02,200 --> 00:59:09,240
Speaker 1: Mike Bobby but Bobby ever, well, I remember. All right, y'all, man,

1005
00:59:09,280 --> 00:59:11,280
Speaker 1: let's get the funk up bout it. Look. So, if

1006
00:59:11,280 --> 00:59:14,000
Speaker 1: you enjoyed this episode, please tune in every Thursday on

1007
00:59:14,160 --> 00:59:16,440
Speaker 1: the I Heart Radio Apple wherever the fun you get

1008
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Speaker 1: your podcasts at. This is your girl aj Holiday two

1009
00:59:19,720 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 1: point on Instagram. Y'all, we do appreciate all your dumb

1010
00:59:22,520 --> 00:59:24,680
Speaker 1: bit stories. And some series. Continue to send him in.

1011
00:59:24,680 --> 00:59:26,560
Speaker 1: You can hitd us up at We Talk Back, p

1012
00:59:26,760 --> 00:59:31,440
Speaker 1: O d at gmail dot com, or on the grams.

1013
00:59:31,520 --> 00:59:33,080
Speaker 1: It takes a little whilefus to check on the grab

1014
00:59:33,120 --> 00:59:35,080
Speaker 1: because y'all should be going to that little request box

1015
00:59:35,400 --> 00:59:38,600
Speaker 1: and also send your ask a black friend. You know

1016
00:59:38,680 --> 00:59:40,640
Speaker 1: we wanted to talk to y'all. Know y'all might be

1017
00:59:40,680 --> 00:59:43,120
Speaker 1: scared to ask your questions, but continue to send them.

1018
00:59:43,600 --> 00:59:46,160
Speaker 1: We have answers. My mom said that she has a

1019
00:59:46,200 --> 00:59:48,440
Speaker 1: white friend and wants to send him a question, but

1020
00:59:48,520 --> 00:59:50,760
Speaker 1: she's scared. Don't be scared. Girl, sitting in and we're

1021
00:59:50,760 --> 00:59:55,680
Speaker 1: waiting on you. It's official Tambama on Instagram. Y'all follow me.

1022
00:59:55,760 --> 00:59:58,120
Speaker 1: I love y'all again and I will see you next time.

1023
00:59:58,200 --> 01:00:01,040
Speaker 1: God willing, so speak now and never hold your piece.

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Speaker 1: Stoces by