Speaker 1: Jus second day. His name Howard is on the phone
Speaker 1: for a second date up tape today, and he said
Speaker 1: he met the girl he wants to call at a
Speaker 1: baseball game, which is probably a good place to meet
Speaker 1: somebody growing back, a bunch of beers getting a little drunk,
Speaker 1: cursing at the players, and you meet someone else who's
Speaker 1: just yelling at the players too, and you guys, you know, yeah,
Speaker 1: talk about how terrible the team is and all that
Speaker 1: kind of stuff and then just bond. So is that
Speaker 1: what happened, Howard? Is that how you met the girl
Speaker 1: you want to call it? Actually it was at my
Speaker 1: son little league baseball game. Oh okay, I know I
Speaker 1: read your email, so I said, you're probably please tell
Speaker 1: me he or getting wasted. I was cheering them on.
Speaker 1: It's only positive at the little league game. Okay. You
Speaker 1: didn't say you weren't drunk, though, so I'm taking it
Speaker 1: as you were. So, what's her name? Who do you
Speaker 1: want to call today? What's her name? Her name's Abby? Abby?
Speaker 1: All right? And how did you meet her at the game?
Speaker 1: Have you guys known each other for a while or something? Well,
Speaker 1: we actually match at the game. Okay, I'm a single parent.
Speaker 1: And so I have two five year old twin boys,
Speaker 1: and one of which is on this team, and I've
Speaker 1: been divorced for a couple of years and it's just
Speaker 1: been kind of difficult getting back into the dating game. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's hard to find a nice single girl who's available.
Speaker 1: Was Abby a mom of one of the players on
Speaker 1: the team. Yeah, so she was at the game and
Speaker 1: her kid is on the same team, and as I've
Speaker 1: actually heard my kid talking about her kids at school
Speaker 1: and you know their buddies, so you know of her.
Speaker 1: I mean, you've met her before. I had not met
Speaker 1: her before, but I knew about her kid through my kid. Okay,
Speaker 1: were you grilling your son, like, hey, five year old son,
Speaker 1: is she single? Do you know she's still married? He
Speaker 1: had no information whatsoever with me. He's not helpful in that.
Speaker 1: Teach him to be a better wing man, for sure. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I thought I had an inside man, but he wasn't it.
Speaker 1: So she was at the game, and I struck up
Speaker 1: conversation with her because I, you know, I had recognized
Speaker 1: her and she was really nice. So you know, we
Speaker 1: were talking about like, hey, we should get our kids
Speaker 1: together for like a play date or something like that,
Speaker 1: and she's like, oh, yeah, that'd be great. But then,
Speaker 1: you know, after game went on, we were talking more
Speaker 1: and more and I went out on a limb and
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what forget to play date?
Speaker 1: Would you like to go to dinner or something. Let's
Speaker 1: have our own adult play date. Yeah yeah, and she said, yeah,
Speaker 1: of course, that'd be great. Okay, So how was dinner.
Speaker 1: I'm a little rusty. I move dated a little while,
Speaker 1: but I made sure that I paid for dinner, and
Speaker 1: we talked mostly about our kids because that's the only
Speaker 1: thing that connected us in the beginning. But were you
Speaker 1: able to get off that subject at all? I mean,
Speaker 1: at some point you'd be like, okay, we're actually on
Speaker 1: a date. I can stop talking about my child now. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1: The conversation kind of led from that, and then whenever, whenever,
Speaker 1: it kind of doing bled off. Then we came back
Speaker 1: to the kid and then went in another direction. So
Speaker 1: it definitely became the base for conversation. But it was good.
Speaker 1: You know, we didn't stay on that the whole time. Okay,
Speaker 1: So all in all, you think the date was a success.
Speaker 1: I think so I went really well. The only thing
Speaker 1: is when we went to leave. I was walking her
Speaker 1: back to her car, and I just don't know what
Speaker 1: to do in these situations anymore. Do I kiss her?
Speaker 1: You said a third date thing? I don't know, but
Speaker 1: I decided to kind of go for it, and I
Speaker 1: went to kiss her and she turned her head and
Speaker 1: then they're kissing her cheek. All right, that's kind of
Speaker 1: an awkward end of the date. Yeah, do you guys
Speaker 1: think I screwed that up? I mean, should I not
Speaker 1: have tried to kiss her on the first date? I mean,
Speaker 1: should I had just been like, you know, cool, let's
Speaker 1: let's do a second date and call it good. I
Speaker 1: don't know, it depends on the situation, I guess. Yeah,
Speaker 1: ost thing, kisses aren't what they used to be. I
Speaker 1: think it's more common nowadays. And it's so hard for
Speaker 1: us to judge now because we know you got rejected. Yeah, Like,
Speaker 1: if we didn't know what was going to happen, I
Speaker 1: would probably would have said go for it. But now too, Well,
Speaker 1: what do you think I should have done? I mean,
Speaker 1: I think maybe you moved too slow. Both you guys
Speaker 1: have kids. I mean, you guys should just invite her
Speaker 1: back to your place. You guys have been there done
Speaker 1: that before. It's not like, you know, it's not like
Speaker 1: new territory there as far as that's concerned. Oh, you know,
Speaker 1: I didn't even think about that. Maybe I wasn't moving
Speaker 1: fashion enough. Like you say, you're really rusty at dating.
Speaker 1: I mean, is she back into the dating scene recently too?
Speaker 1: Like maybe she's just rusty too, And she didn't know
Speaker 1: it seems like it seemed like she was a little
Speaker 1: bit more experienced in the dating thing, like she had
Speaker 1: some kind of like it seemed like she had done
Speaker 1: this before recently. But again, it was both of our
Speaker 1: first date. So and I didn't know if I had
Speaker 1: overstepped some bounds or anything like that. So did you
Speaker 1: make plans to hang out again or anything? Yeah, So
Speaker 1: before she left, I was just like, dude, you want
Speaker 1: to get together at least you know, we could do
Speaker 1: that play date their kids. And she was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: of course, definitely. And so what's happened since I've reached
Speaker 1: out to her a couple of times and and she
Speaker 1: hasn't really responded even about like a playdate, not even
Speaker 1: our own date. And that's awkward because your kids are
Speaker 1: on the same baseball team. Yeah, I mean I bound
Speaker 1: to see her again. Yeah, so I was hoping you
Speaker 1: guys could help me out with this because I just
Speaker 1: don't know. It's racking my brain and like, how I
Speaker 1: screwed this up somehow? Okay, well we'll play a song
Speaker 1: and then come back and call her and get your
Speaker 1: second date update. All right, all right, thank you, hang
Speaker 1: on brooking Jubile in the morning. Date. Baseball games are
Speaker 1: always a good place to find love, especially a little
Speaker 1: kids baseball game, because let's face it, you're not paying
Speaker 1: attention to what's going on the field, neither other kids.
Speaker 1: They don't even want to be there. Most of them
Speaker 1: are by the outfield fence, like picking dandelions or something,
Speaker 1: so not a lot of action. And that's why Howard
Speaker 1: is on the phone for a second day update. Today
Speaker 1: struck up a conversation with the girl named Abby and
Speaker 1: they ended up going out on a date. But now
Speaker 1: she's not calling him back. And even in little league,
Speaker 1: there's no like winners and losers anymore than even keep score.
Speaker 1: So Howard, I guess on that day, But now now
Speaker 1: he's got a big l because she's not calling him back.
Speaker 1: So how are you went from big winner to big loser?
Speaker 1: How does that feel not great? I mean, I just
Speaker 1: I mean a big state of like, where did I
Speaker 1: go wrong? Here? You can't think of anything you did
Speaker 1: wrong because I feel like because your kids play on
Speaker 1: the same team, even if she didn't want to go
Speaker 1: out with you again, she'd give you a courtesy call
Speaker 1: just to keep things friendly. For her not to call
Speaker 1: you back at all, I think is bad. I mean,
Speaker 1: maybe she wants to confront me at the game about it.
Speaker 1: I don't know. That would be awkward shouting at you
Speaker 1: in the stands. Who knows. All right, Well, I'm on
Speaker 1: the dollar phone number right now, and see why she's
Speaker 1: not calling you back. Okay, okay, all right, here we go. Hello,
Speaker 1: all right, a speak to Abby? Please? Abby? How are you?
Speaker 1: This is jew Bil from the radio show Brook and
Speaker 1: jew Bil in the Morning. What. Yeah, this is so weird?
Speaker 1: Why's calling me? Well? I'm calling you because we got
Speaker 1: an email about you from somebody who listens to the show. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's justin weird. Who emailed you about me? His name
Speaker 1: is Howard. Okay, that's that's excited. Abby. We do this
Speaker 1: thing on our show called the Second Date Update. I
Speaker 1: don't know if you know what that is or not.
Speaker 1: But that's if you go out on a date with
Speaker 1: somebody and then end up not wanting to see them again,
Speaker 1: they can email us to get you on the phone
Speaker 1: and ask what happened. So Howard emailed us and told
Speaker 1: us about your date, and he also can't figure out
Speaker 1: why you're not calling him back. Well, let's just say
Speaker 1: that I won't be interested in getting involved with him
Speaker 1: anytime soon. Yeah. I think he's figured that out. We're
Speaker 1: trying to figure out why. Um okay, I know Howard too,
Speaker 1: literally because my son plays in both Actually our kids
Speaker 1: are friendly to each other, which is nice. But the
Speaker 1: other day at one of the games, we were getting
Speaker 1: along pretty well and he was very futhcoming and he
Speaker 1: asked me to dinner, and I was like, yeah, he
Speaker 1: told us about your date, h and he said that
Speaker 1: everything was great. He said it was great. Yeah, he
Speaker 1: thought it was fantastic. He did say at the end
Speaker 1: of the date, he leaned in to try to kiss you,
Speaker 1: and you kind of turned your cheek. It didn't seem
Speaker 1: like you wanted to have a first date kiss. I
Speaker 1: think that what happened during the dinner is we talked
Speaker 1: at we're both divorced, so naturally that's going to come up. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and he sort of overshared over shared about his divorced Yeah,
Speaker 1: about how the divorce happened pretty much, Okay, I mean
Speaker 1: what would be oversharing. Oversharing would be sharing the fact
Speaker 1: that he hooked up with his kids nanny. Whoa, he
Speaker 1: hooked up with this kid's nanny and that's why he
Speaker 1: got a divorce. I mean it was more than like
Speaker 1: hooked up. I guess they were together for some time.
Speaker 1: Oh so he had he shared with you on your
Speaker 1: first date. Yeah, that the reason he had a divorce
Speaker 1: was because he was having an affair with the nanny. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like a full blown affair with the nanny. Okay, well
Speaker 1: that's that's a bit of a t but a good
Speaker 1: reason for divorce. So at least he has that, I get.
Speaker 1: I mean he was a little bit like sort of
Speaker 1: like remorseful about it. And then this also kind of
Speaker 1: made me mad because he was doing that saying where
Speaker 1: he was like, well, you know, my wife was being
Speaker 1: a little like holding she wasn't hearing any attention Jeeves too,
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh god, yeah it is. It's always
Speaker 1: an excuse about some new shorts and she didn't comment
Speaker 1: on my shorts, you know. So I was like, well,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna start banging the nanny. She likes my shorts. Yeah.
Speaker 1: But here's what's crazy, and that I can't believe that
Speaker 1: he shared with me on a daine he was going
Speaker 1: to take all his kids to Disney right, and then
Speaker 1: I guess the mother found out about the bear, so
Speaker 1: they were like, well, we're not doing a family trip,
Speaker 1: and he said that he still went on the trip
Speaker 1: to Disney with the nanny. Wait, no kids or kids
Speaker 1: do with them? No kids? He took them nanny to
Speaker 1: Disney Lands. Oh okay, that's a lot of information on
Speaker 1: a first date. Yeah, that's a lot. Yeah, especially you
Speaker 1: know when you're just starting to date somebody, you might
Speaker 1: have questions if they got a divorce because they were
Speaker 1: having an affair with the nanny and then had a
Speaker 1: trip scheduled to Disneyland with their kids and everything else,
Speaker 1: but then blew that off to just take the nanny.
Speaker 1: There might raise a flag or two. Yeah, I mean, like,
Speaker 1: it's crazy. I can't believe that he would think that
Speaker 1: any date would be going well. If dad is information
Speaker 1: that I'm getting okay, okay, but so yeah, to look
Speaker 1: at the other side though, like he definitely overshared, but
Speaker 1: it was what was going on with his life, and
Speaker 1: at least he was honest about it. I don't know,
Speaker 1: like I feel like he was trying to make excuses
Speaker 1: for himself like that. He just sleared sort of like
Speaker 1: that into an affair with his children's nanny. Excuse me,
Speaker 1: I have something to say here. Oh, I'm sure you do. Way,
Speaker 1: what is going on right now? Abby? That's Howard. He
Speaker 1: was actually on the other line listing and wants to
Speaker 1: talk to you. What I want to talk to him?
Speaker 1: It's a little too late now, Yeah, I just gotta
Speaker 1: jump in here. Abby. I really wish you would have
Speaker 1: told me that that was an issue. I mean, who
Speaker 1: would that not be an issue for We were talking
Speaker 1: about our divorces. You were open, I was being open
Speaker 1: about it, and I was being truthful and honest and like, yeah,
Speaker 1: it was a mistake, but that was it wasn't enough
Speaker 1: time ago. That wasake. Wait wait, wait, Howard, you told
Speaker 1: me that you guys were involved for six months. That's
Speaker 1: a relationship as far as I'm concerned. I don't think
Speaker 1: you understand though, yes, it was a mistake, but she
Speaker 1: she's really hot. What that's fine? Then, how long you're
Speaker 1: a man who can't control the urges? And I already
Speaker 1: told you that my marriage was not going very well.
Speaker 1: It was already falling apart, and she wasn't. I don't
Speaker 1: need any convincing. I mean, she sounds really hot. She's
Speaker 1: the dude. Oh my god, Howard, I was all for
Speaker 1: like second chances for you, but you don't sound like
Speaker 1: you even understand what you did. Wait wait, wait, guys,
Speaker 1: you're not getting the best part of everything. She still
Speaker 1: works for him. This nanny, what, Howard, the nanny that
Speaker 1: you had an affair with, is Seal your nanny? Yes,
Speaker 1: she is really really great with the kids, and but
Speaker 1: so many people that can be great with kids. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, I have to pick my jaw up off
Speaker 1: the floor. I cannot believe that. Can you please let
Speaker 1: me finish? Please? It is no longer a thing. She
Speaker 1: works for me, and she is in her own thing,
Speaker 1: her own relationship, and I am I am not a
Speaker 1: part of that. Yeah, and I really don't think it's
Speaker 1: gonna happen again. You don't think you don't think it's
Speaker 1: gonna happen again. But she is hot, so I'm pretty
Speaker 1: sure that's why she's still on the payroll. Just think
Speaker 1: she comes around again, right, Oh, oh my god, you
Speaker 1: don't understand how hard it is to find a good
Speaker 1: childcare and and I'm not just gonna fire her because
Speaker 1: you know, I happen to have had a relationship with
Speaker 1: her for six months. Oh my god, I think that
Speaker 1: nanny sleeping with the husband disqualifies her as good childcare.
Speaker 1: Like that is, she's out whatever, I'm not firing her.
Speaker 1: I mean, she's good at her job, she's good with
Speaker 1: the kids. I'm not getting rid of her. And just
Speaker 1: like Abby, I'm only interested in a relationship with the youth.
Speaker 1: That's it. That's romantic. That is romantic. Abbey, would you
Speaker 1: like to go on a second date with Howard will Pay?
Speaker 1: Are you? Are you crazy? Did you just hear that
Speaker 1: romantic commento? Listen, I used to bang my nanny for
Speaker 1: six month, but you're the one I want. Pretty nice.
Speaker 1: Maybe instead of talking to me about a second date,
Speaker 1: you should call it to nanny. Oh I told you
Speaker 1: her and I are over and it was her choice
Speaker 1: and I respect that. Yeah, so you're not even the
Speaker 1: one that ended it. You were dumped by the nanny Abby.
Speaker 1: Are you sure, because I think you're missing out on
Speaker 1: this one man. Yeah, so you don't want to go
Speaker 1: out with Howard again? Hey, Howard, I do not want
Speaker 1: to go out with you again, nor do I want
Speaker 1: to sit with you at any Little League game in
Speaker 1: the future either. Okay, Okay, let's keep our kids out
Speaker 1: of this, all right. Oh yeah, yeah, you are being
Speaker 1: a little unfair. I think you should be able to
Speaker 1: sit next to you. Listen, this whole thing got out
Speaker 1: of hand. I like, I just want you to be
Speaker 1: able to meet this nanny and then you swear that away. Okay,
Speaker 1: So you said you could understand how hot she was. Okay,
Speaker 1: I got it. Yeah, broken jew will in the morning.