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Speaker 1: But subject sexless in the city. Dear Mr Harvey and

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Speaker 1: the wake Up Crew. Every morning I wake up and

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Speaker 1: listen to your morning wake Up Show. I'm a college

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Speaker 1: student attending Spellman and on the drive. All of you

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Speaker 1: make me laugh. However, the question I'm posing to you

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Speaker 1: is more of a serious nature. I'm a twenty year

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Speaker 1: old virgin trying to live a Christian walk. Being a

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Speaker 1: virgin doesn't make me perfect. I know that virtue and

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Speaker 1: virginity are separate entities, but lately, I and many girls

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Speaker 1: in my position, both non virgins and virgins alike, are

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Speaker 1: losing hope and waiting on God. The pool of qualified

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Speaker 1: bachelors who are abstaining for God before they meet you

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Speaker 1: is in short supply, especially in the a u C,

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Speaker 1: the Atlanta University Center UM, and daily it becomes harder

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Speaker 1: and harder to tell fine, educated, articulate and sweet men no,

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Speaker 1: simply because they are not of Kingdom standard. It's not

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Speaker 1: difficult for me to tell pseudo gangsters at Morehouse or

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Speaker 1: Clark No, No, gangsters don't go to college, stop playing.

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Speaker 1: But it's harder. But it's harder to tell men in

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Speaker 1: the church, active in ministry, sometimes in leadership positions, educated, fine,

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Speaker 1: and kind. No men in the church are just as

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Speaker 1: sexually active as men outside the church. If upstaining men

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Speaker 1: are just as hard to find in the church as

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Speaker 1: in the world. Where does a woman go? I have

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Speaker 1: my father in my life and was raised with a

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Speaker 1: save sex mentality and not a safe sex mentality. My

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Speaker 1: father is a good man, loves me and adores me.

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Speaker 1: I love the way he loves me, and that uh

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Speaker 1: created a standard in my life of how other men

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Speaker 1: should love me. I'm worth the weight. But now I'm twenty.

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Speaker 1: I'm a twenty year old, never been kissed version virgin,

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Speaker 1: and I've grown weary in well doing. Am I stupid

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Speaker 1: to believe that if I'm patient, that God will send

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Speaker 1: me a kind of staining kingdom man? As a father,

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Speaker 1: what would you tell your daughter? She's talking to you

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Speaker 1: right there, Steve a sexless spellmanite, and she signed her name.

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Speaker 1: You know what to this? I say, it's a lot

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Speaker 1: in this, dear sexless Spellmanite. I know you know. I

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Speaker 1: can't help but think, and it's it's painful, but you

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Speaker 1: gotta tell the truth. I can't help but think to you,

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Speaker 1: sexless Spellmanite, that you are aware a lot of young

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Speaker 1: ladies are at your tender age. Uh. You know, you're

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Speaker 1: probably thinking you're legal now you're grown. You want to

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Speaker 1: you know, taste, so to speak, all that life has

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Speaker 1: to offer. You've done all the right things so far,

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Speaker 1: You've gone to the right schools, you've had a great upbringing, etcetera.

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Speaker 1: And you're wondering what's up? You know, what do you

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Speaker 1: have to do to get a good man? Um? What's

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Speaker 1: taking so long? Um? I gotta tell you that the

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Speaker 1: walk of a Christian is a hard one because temptation

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Speaker 1: is everywhere, uh, you know, and in this world it

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Speaker 1: encourages just the opposite of what God wants us to do. Okay,

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Speaker 1: like fornication, which is what this letter is about. Um,

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Speaker 1: because you know almost everyone is doing it. So you

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Speaker 1: and your Christian beliefs seem wrong or ridiculous or or

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Speaker 1: too old fashioned to the world, and yes, even to

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Speaker 1: the people in the church. UM. But I just really

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Speaker 1: want to encourage you to stay the course and hang

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Speaker 1: in there to do it God's way. You've heard the saying, Um,

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Speaker 1: you know, don't get ahead of God. Um. He may

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Speaker 1: not come when you want him, but he's always on time.

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Speaker 1: So just keep that in mind, and He will bless

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Speaker 1: you over and above anything you could have ever dreamed of.

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Speaker 1: This letter is a common letter. It was a situation

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Speaker 1: I was faced with in college, and that this young

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Speaker 1: girl is asking me. This as a twenty year old

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Speaker 1: girl who goes to Spellman, who is a virgin, who

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Speaker 1: is a Christian, and he's asking me what she's raised

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Speaker 1: great parents, But he's asking me, what would I say

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Speaker 1: to my daughters. Well, this is a tough position to

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Speaker 1: be in, and it's a tough position to be in,

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Speaker 1: a young lady, because of the whirlwind. It's tough for

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Speaker 1: everybody to do right. It's tough for the twenty year

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Speaker 1: old in college, the thirteen year old in junior high.

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Speaker 1: It's tough for the year old that then graduated from college.

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Speaker 1: It's tough for the thirty to forty to fifty to

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Speaker 1: sixty year old to do right. What you are trying

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Speaker 1: to do is to do right. You are trying to

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Speaker 1: live the perfect Christian life. Now, let me tell you this.

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Speaker 1: The answer Shirley gave you was one correct in everything

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Speaker 1: she says. And I see you trying to live this

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Speaker 1: perfect Christian life. You're uh you're thinking that you're losing

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Speaker 1: hope and waiting on God because the pool of qualified

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Speaker 1: bachelors who are abstaining for God before they meet you

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Speaker 1: is in short supply. That's a true statement. Most dudes

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Speaker 1: ain't abstaining from sex before marriage, even at the church,

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Speaker 1: as you have so found out that the leadership men

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Speaker 1: at the church and the young ministries are having sex too. Um.

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Speaker 1: What I would say to my daughters is this, you

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Speaker 1: try to live the absolute best life you can, and

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Speaker 1: you make decisions based on you and your future first,

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Speaker 1: not a guy's future, and not what he wants first,

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Speaker 1: but what you want. And you try to live a

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Speaker 1: Christian life. But here's the reality of it. No one

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Speaker 1: is perfect. What I want, what I would say to

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Speaker 1: my daughter is get this in your head. Is that

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Speaker 1: if you make a mistake, if you fall off the wagon,

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Speaker 1: get back up and get on it. You know, try

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Speaker 1: not to make your mistakes. Habit for me. But you

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Speaker 1: are going to make mistakes. Um. I would love to

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Speaker 1: tell you to abstain until you're married at all costs.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'd love to tell you. Now. Can you

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Speaker 1: do that? That's entirely up to you, or will you

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Speaker 1: find a mate who can do that. That'll be entirely

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Speaker 1: up to the two of you. But there are young

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Speaker 1: men out there who will at least make an attempt

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Speaker 1: at this with you if they have the right ending

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Speaker 1: in mind. Now, will you all, from time to time

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Speaker 1: make a mistake? Uh? You might, You just made very well.

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Speaker 1: But you just gotta remember that, no matter what happens,

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Speaker 1: no matter what happens, keep your relationship with God intact.

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Speaker 1: You know, don't let the fact that you've made a

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Speaker 1: mistake make you think that you're no longer a Christian,

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Speaker 1: Because guess what, Christians make mistakes, all of them, all

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Speaker 1: of them, all of us make mistakes. If you make

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Speaker 1: a mistake, don't stop being a Christian cause you've made

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Speaker 1: a mistake. Try to better yourself, Try to put yourself

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Speaker 1: in a different position. Try to stay out of the

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Speaker 1: positions that will get you hot and heavy. You just

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Speaker 1: try to stay out as many positions as you can.

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Speaker 1: Now you're gonna get at them. No, I'm gonna be

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Speaker 1: sitting there watching the movie on the couch. Don't get

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Speaker 1: the kissing real hard. I'm talking about your hell I

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Speaker 1: fraction in your tooth cracking flood vessels in your gonna bust,

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Speaker 1: gonna have a little cavallet veins and your jaws, you're

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Speaker 1: gonna have your tongue all back down, flipping that little

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Speaker 1: ding down thing in the back of some boy mouth.

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Speaker 1: He gonna be back down your euvl. You gonna be

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Speaker 1: on here, y'all gonna be euvl in each other to down,

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Speaker 1: gonna talk about baby well, and no, that's coming now,

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Speaker 1: you know, he's come on, Tommy. We're trying to keep

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Speaker 1: your grill on the straight and now let's keep off

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Speaker 1: out there. So why y'all uvl in each other? And

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Speaker 1: you yovul y'vult me too much? You wish you fallowing me?

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Speaker 1: Why are you val in each other? And then he

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Speaker 1: lean on you and you lean on him, and next

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Speaker 1: thing you know, Kelly on in the background. Man, I

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Speaker 1: don't see nothing wrong with a little bumping grind. That's

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Speaker 1: when you got to start pulling up and got to

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Speaker 1: try to get yourself back on track. If you don't,

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Speaker 1: it's gonna go further than that, and you'll be all

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Speaker 1: tracked for the moment. But if you fall off track

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Speaker 1: for the moment, just get back on track. Alright, Steve,

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