WEBVTT - How Do You Raise Your Kids? 0:00:00.680 --> 0:00:08.119 It's topic time called eight hundred and five eight five, 0:00:08.119 --> 0:00:09.960 one oh five. Want to join it to the discussion 0:00:10.000 --> 0:00:15.440 with the Breakfast Club, talk about it every show me 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:17.599 the guy. We are the Breakfast Club. We got our 0:00:17.600 --> 0:00:20.160 guest Hope, Miss pat joining us this morning, and we're 0:00:20.200 --> 0:00:22.520 talking about raising the keys and that this comes from 0:00:22.560 --> 0:00:25.840 Tyler Perry now and say, listen, what are you doing. 0:00:26.079 --> 0:00:27.680 We don't behave this way, you don't do this, this 0:00:27.760 --> 0:00:30.160 is this is unacceptable. You're not gonna disrespect her. You're 0:00:30.200 --> 0:00:32.040 not gonna disrespect your mom. You're gonna do what they 0:00:32.040 --> 0:00:34.680 say to do. And do you understand that he's just crying, Yes, Papa, 0:00:34.760 --> 0:00:37.680 yes papa. But as he's crying and I'm down on 0:00:37.680 --> 0:00:40.920 this level, I'm trying to hold my tears. So I 0:00:41.040 --> 0:00:43.159 get out and I leave out of the room. Galia says, 0:00:43.200 --> 0:00:46.880 you okay, because nobody talked to me as a five 0:00:46.960 --> 0:00:50.159 year old like that. Nobody had a conversation with me, 0:00:50.240 --> 0:00:52.559 nobody talked to me like a person. So here I 0:00:52.600 --> 0:00:55.280 am having an opportunity to heal my little boy self 0:00:56.200 --> 0:00:59.200 by talking to my son like a first beautiful. So 0:00:59.240 --> 0:01:01.880 we're asking eight hundred five eight five, one oh five 0:01:01.960 --> 0:01:03.880 when we're talking about raising your kids, how do you 0:01:04.000 --> 0:01:06.080 raise your kids? We start with you, miss Pat, Miss Pat? 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:08.880 Do you you all pop your kids? Did you? I 0:01:09.000 --> 0:01:10.880 raised my kids according to how they dare to pay 0:01:10.959 --> 0:01:14.679 ch'all support? What that mean? He don't pay you? Get 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:18.600 up a cup. I don't whip them anymore. My husband 0:01:18.680 --> 0:01:20.480 do a lot of talking because you know, we out 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:23.559 of that area era of beating all kids, because that 0:01:23.560 --> 0:01:26.320 that comes from our ancestors and stuff. So I do 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:28.039 a lot of time. I do a lot of cussler 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:31.119 mouth and then every nine ding them wrong word slip 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:33.280 out of my mouth, and my daughter upstairs who never 0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:34.520 come out of the the room and come out and say 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:37.280 that you can't say that. So but yeah, I think 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:39.520 in my family, I think we do good cop bad cops. 0:01:39.520 --> 0:01:41.360 Like I'm using the bad cop. I'm like, you'm gonna 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:42.880 I'm gonna cut you out, I'm gonna yell at you. 0:01:42.880 --> 0:01:44.800 And then my wife is the one that talks to them, 0:01:44.840 --> 0:01:45.920 and then we all come in the room. And then 0:01:46.000 --> 0:01:48.840 Daddy used the apologize for cursing. Now apologize for cursing. 0:01:48.880 --> 0:01:50.880 You gotta apologize here, kids when you do something wrong. 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:53.600 When you rob me, apologized. I say the B word 0:01:53.680 --> 0:01:57.080 by the state. You know, I get a little bit shit. Yeah, yeah, 0:01:57.120 --> 0:01:58.920 I ain't never cursing my kids. I say you god damn. 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:03.080 I thinks of my family, my house, cursing. Bro. We 0:02:03.200 --> 0:02:04.480 there certain words we don't use in the house. Like 0:02:04.480 --> 0:02:05.920 we don't use fat in our house. We don't use 0:02:05.920 --> 0:02:08.480 god damn in our house. You don't even fat because 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:11.200 ain't nobody fat. But I just don't use the word 0:02:11.240 --> 0:02:12.799 fats for me word. We just don't use the word 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:14.919 house not a mean word. Don't you want a fast steak? 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:16.720 Don't you want your wife and have a fat ass? 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:19.680 How's fat? I mean word? I'm sat here, you're gonna 0:02:19.720 --> 0:02:21.919 tell me I'm mean It depends how. It depends on 0:02:22.000 --> 0:02:24.000 what's saying. Like you say, man, shut your fat ass up. 0:02:24.040 --> 0:02:28.920 Well that's sweet, y'all. Don't even fat in your house either, 0:02:29.400 --> 0:02:32.120 Uh depends when we're talking about the defenders. Whenn't the 0:02:32.200 --> 0:02:34.320 fat become a mean word because you don't want to 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:36.519 be like that fat ass kid or a fat kid 0:02:36.600 --> 0:02:38.160 or a fat I wouldn't say that when I was 0:02:38.240 --> 0:02:39.960 me and my husband almost got a divorce one time. 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:41.560 A little you can go ahead and lead, You're gonna 0:02:41.560 --> 0:02:43.239 take your fat ass kid with you because I don't 0:02:43.240 --> 0:02:45.880 get enough food stamp forward. So I already got my 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:48.839 own kids, Nate Thailer, so you take it. The most 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:50.639 defensive thing about that is that you're saying that did 0:02:50.680 --> 0:02:54.040 his kids like they're not yours basketball, not doing a divoice. 0:02:54.200 --> 0:02:56.720 They hed kid I have for him. I had already 0:02:56.720 --> 0:02:58.840 had to buy a dude that one hit non nothing. 0:02:58.919 --> 0:03:00.679 But I do feel Tyler par d Man because I 0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:02.720 always feel bad after I yelled at my kids, Like 0:03:02.760 --> 0:03:04.800 I literally went to bad last night and woke up 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:06.920 this morning feeling like a bad parent because I feel 0:03:06.960 --> 0:03:08.960 like I can be a short tempered with a couple 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:11.359 of my kids too. You know what I'm saying, Like, yeah, four, 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:13.120 I got fourteen year old to seven year old, to 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:15.880 four year old and one year old and the four 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:17.280 year old and the one year old. Fine is that 0:03:17.639 --> 0:03:19.760 the fourteen is a teenager, so that would be difficult, 0:03:19.800 --> 0:03:21.440 and then the seven year olds. He wanted them just 0:03:21.480 --> 0:03:23.239 independent seven year old, you know what I'm saying. So 0:03:23.320 --> 0:03:25.440 raising the kids is difficult, especially when they're not listening 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:27.280 and they talk to me in ways I would never 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:29.840 think to talk to my parents or my grandparents aren't 0:03:29.840 --> 0:03:31.600 to nobody. And I threatened my seven year old that 0:03:31.639 --> 0:03:34.040 after you wouldn't have made it in the nineties, you 0:03:34.040 --> 0:03:37.960 wouldn't have it when she's back, No, damn nineties, you 0:03:38.000 --> 0:03:39.520 know what I mean. I have a ten year old 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:42.360 like that. Yeah, yeah, she'd be talking man crapping. I'm like, 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:45.200 she's like, you guys are my parents? You know? Couple 0:03:45.200 --> 0:03:47.080 of niece ran off and left. She smoked craig and 0:03:47.120 --> 0:03:53.200 I'm gonna show her birth certificates. So bad. And the 0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:55.400 kid when the kids smartest different like I told I 0:03:55.440 --> 0:03:57.720 told my seven year old, like, you ain't going next 0:03:57.720 --> 0:04:00.160 door to the neighborhouse at the same age, in the 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:02.280 same grade and their friend. Right, I'm like, that's that's 0:04:02.320 --> 0:04:04.040 cut out. You're not going there next week. I don't care. 0:04:04.040 --> 0:04:06.840 I'm see her in class anyway. God damn, I ain't 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:08.680 got no respond to what you say. You ain't going 0:04:08.760 --> 0:04:12.040 to school exactly. You know what I'm I'm gonna put 0:04:12.040 --> 0:04:16.040 your eyes out so you can't see it. But but 0:04:16.080 --> 0:04:17.440 I feel them though, and you know, and that's why 0:04:17.480 --> 0:04:19.839 I do like having conversations with my children for the 0:04:19.839 --> 0:04:22.000 exact same reading Tyler Perry said, because you know, when 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:24.120 they get grown, they're gonna remember that, because we all 0:04:24.160 --> 0:04:27.039 remember being young and getting yelled at and getting told 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:30.200 different things by your parents. I'm sure. I'm sure this stuff. 0:04:30.240 --> 0:04:32.440 I'm unpacking the therapy now that my daddy said. My 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:35.760 mom was ugly. Oh the talent man, My mom usa, 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:38.720 get your gland. And my sister was a like cuter 0:04:39.120 --> 0:04:41.360 yeah and nada, And I look at us now, I 0:04:41.440 --> 0:04:43.720 was like, yeah, yo, cute daughter, smoke Craig, but yo, 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:47.960 little uglyone else succeeded, and you dad. My daddy told 0:04:47.960 --> 0:04:50.200 me one time, let's kill them me get the insurance money. 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:52.239 He told Mama, just killing me, get the insurance money. 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:56.160 Damn anyway, you were that bad? Yeah, well you know, 0:04:56.360 --> 0:04:59.400 damn it, man, y'all need therapy. My parents weren't that bad. 0:04:59.400 --> 0:05:01.800 My parents huxtables who have been messed with y'all because 0:05:02.400 --> 0:05:05.640 killing me get the white light skinny white man, I'm 0:05:05.720 --> 0:05:08.440 light skinning, I'm black? Why what am I say? I'm black? Hello? 0:05:08.640 --> 0:05:10.320 Have you ever had a hickey on your neck? That 0:05:10.320 --> 0:05:17.080 probably would kill you? There? Yo? What's up? What's your name? Brochu? 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:20.360 Chu up? Chuck from Connecticut talking about raising our kids. Man, 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:23.480 how you raise your kids? Bro? I'm a big yellow staying. 0:05:23.600 --> 0:05:27.480 I was just meet my wife, two daughters, and yeah, 0:05:28.160 --> 0:05:33.000 sometimes I'm still bad right after that good, I know. Man, 0:05:33.040 --> 0:05:35.160 it's so hard man, especially when you got girls and 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:40.000 old boys. I got good. That's what make you feel 0:05:40.000 --> 0:05:41.600 even worse when you got girls and you got a 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:43.840 yellow at them all. Lord, But it's the two. It's 0:05:43.880 --> 0:05:46.960 the two. It's the two youngest ones, right. They play 0:05:47.080 --> 0:05:48.920 together old day long, and then they fight like a 0:05:49.040 --> 0:05:51.400 married couple. And that's what I'd be screaming at them, 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:53.159 and they'd be mad at each other. And then at 0:05:53.240 --> 0:05:54.680 night they got they got to sleep in the same bed. 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:56.479 They gotta keep the same room. So it'd be pissing 0:05:56.480 --> 0:05:58.320 me off. Like y'all gonna be friends later on anyway, 0:05:58.360 --> 0:06:01.200 so stop it. But they just shout the Jackson and 0:06:01.200 --> 0:06:02.960 book when I'm sure they're in the call listening. Hello, 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:07.440 who's this, hey, breed. We're talking about discipline and raising children. 0:06:07.480 --> 0:06:09.800 What's your approach? How are you giving it? So? First 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:14.640 of all, going and everyone, So I with my discipline 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:17.159 as a child. My mother never thanked me, can never 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:19.120 beat me or anything. But I do notice that with 0:06:19.400 --> 0:06:22.840 my child. He's a little bit more hardheaded than I was, 0:06:23.080 --> 0:06:26.080 so I do have to discipline a little bit more 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:27.960 with him than my mom did with me. But what 0:06:28.080 --> 0:06:30.920 I've noticed is when I have conversations with people who 0:06:31.000 --> 0:06:34.200 works think that as a child has really disciplined, they're 0:06:34.320 --> 0:06:37.280 very disciplined as adults. And I noticed I do like 0:06:37.560 --> 0:06:39.360 a little bit of discipline, and I feel like it's 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:43.040 because I wasn't heavily disciplined when I grew Interesting, that's 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:44.920 an interesting take. Yeah, what do you mean when you 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:51.000 say you like discipline? So aside from my ad it's 0:06:51.040 --> 0:06:52.800 just kind of like, if I don't want to do something, 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:54.800 I'm not going to do it. And when it comes 0:06:54.839 --> 0:06:57.480 to school work, I have to like really force myself 0:06:57.480 --> 0:06:59.039 to do the things I'm justosing to do. When it 0:06:59.040 --> 0:07:00.920 comes to work, I really have to purst myself to 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:02.840 do the thing, but I'm supposed to do it, and 0:07:02.880 --> 0:07:05.760 I just feel like a setting as well, I do 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:08.799 what I want to do that. But that's the scariest 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:10.880 thing though, because a lot of things you probably got 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:12.960 disciplined for when you didn't get discipline when you was young, 0:07:13.000 --> 0:07:14.400 but if you did, it would probably have to do 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:16.440 with the fact you had ADHD. And that's what I 0:07:16.480 --> 0:07:19.160 worry about. You don't know what type of issues your 0:07:19.240 --> 0:07:22.640 child might be dealing with that having showcased a self 0:07:22.720 --> 0:07:24.400 yet you know what I mean that you might be punished, 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:27.960 You know I exactly. And I just found out my 0:07:28.040 --> 0:07:30.600 dog got ADHD and he won't go sleep at night. 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:33.800 Your dog, your dog, Okay, how you know your dog 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:37.920 got ah he'd be up out. We can put him 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:42.000 to sleep. Don't say that. No, I mean, I'm talking 0:07:42.000 --> 0:07:46.960 about what you don't do that. Don't do that. Don't 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:50.640 do that. Eight hundred five and five. We're talking about 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:53.360 how you discipline your kids. Oh my god, this is 0:07:53.400 --> 0:07:56.239 the breakfast Club. Good morning, how do you dj Envy 0:07:56.400 --> 0:07:59.520 Charlemagne the guy We all the breakfast club. Now if 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:02.120 you just join us, we're talking about disciplining our kids. 0:08:02.120 --> 0:08:04.200 Just came from Tyler Perry and this is what he 0:08:04.200 --> 0:08:06.880 said about his son. He was really rude to the nanny. 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:09.040 And it was in the room with bathroom argument and 0:08:09.120 --> 0:08:11.000 Galida calls me and I go in and I said, 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:12.720 I'm saying I get down to his level. I'm talking 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:14.600 to him out and say, listen, what are you doing. 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:16.400 We don't behave this way. You don't do this, this 0:08:16.520 --> 0:08:18.960 is this is unacceptable. You're not gonna disrespect her. You're 0:08:18.960 --> 0:08:20.800 not gonna disrespect your mom. You're gonna do what they 0:08:20.840 --> 0:08:24.040 say to do. And do you understand that he's just crying, yes, Papa, yes, papa. 0:08:24.360 --> 0:08:27.560 But as he's crying and I'm down on his level, 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:29.920 I'm trying to hold my tears. So I get up 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:32.040 and I leave out of the room. Galida says, you okay, 0:08:32.760 --> 0:08:35.439 because nobody talked to me as a five year old 0:08:35.520 --> 0:08:38.679 like that. Nobody had a conversation with me. Nobody talked 0:08:38.720 --> 0:08:40.719 to me like a person. So here I am having 0:08:40.760 --> 0:08:43.880 an opportunity to heal my little boy self. Yeah. By 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:47.440 talking to my son like a person, I feel a man. 0:08:47.559 --> 0:08:49.400 But you know another thing, I was scared of my dad. 0:08:49.400 --> 0:08:51.320 Though my dad is six foot three, six foot four, 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:54.800 retired police officer, ex military, I was always scared of him. 0:08:54.800 --> 0:08:56.440 So I never wanted to do nothing because I never 0:08:56.520 --> 0:08:59.319 wanted to have a problem with it. Ain't none of 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:00.800 my daughters to me, and I don't want them to 0:09:00.840 --> 0:09:02.480 be scared me because I don't want to raise out 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:04.079 of fear. But nobody I mean, I don't want to 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:06.240 raise out of love. That's something you learned in therapy too, 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:07.559 though you learned that. You know a lot of times 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:09.720 our parents raised us out of fear, and their fear 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:11.880 was especially with my dad, he didn't want me to 0:09:11.920 --> 0:09:14.280 turn out the way. He didn't want me to make 0:09:14.320 --> 0:09:15.920 make the same mistakes that he did. You know, you 0:09:15.960 --> 0:09:17.840 know I made it still made him anyway, except for 0:09:17.880 --> 0:09:20.600 like you know, using hard drugs, But he didn't want 0:09:20.640 --> 0:09:21.959 me to make the same mistakes that he made. And 0:09:22.040 --> 0:09:23.800 Mom was the same. My dad was a cop in 0:09:23.840 --> 0:09:25.560 New York City at the time, and he worked in 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:27.560 the Bronx and on the train, so he's seen things 0:09:27.800 --> 0:09:29.360 from a different place that I shot it from and 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:31.400 it was the crack error. So it was he wanted 0:09:31.440 --> 0:09:32.800 me to stay away from that. So he was gonna 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:35.080 do whatever it takes to make sure I wasn't gonna 0:09:35.080 --> 0:09:37.080 go down that left. He parented out of fear. Yeah, 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:39.200 I did too, especially because I had my first child 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:41.400 at fourteen, and I think I parented out of field 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:43.600 with my daughter. I was like, don't you ever touched 0:09:43.640 --> 0:09:46.120 no boy? Don't you ever tide of no boy? Day horrid? 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:48.600 Or did she end up being gay and something somebody like, dude, 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:54.560 I preach my, that's why you said that out of them, 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:56.960 you scared the love for du No, that makes sense. 0:09:57.120 --> 0:09:58.880 I did because it was all about because I was 0:09:58.880 --> 0:10:01.640 saying such a bad lationship with her daddy and she 0:10:01.720 --> 0:10:04.400 saw her daddy beat me. And I'm not saying that, 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:06.240 you know that's why, but I think that has a 0:10:06.280 --> 0:10:09.720 lot to do with it. Beans, And she saw daddy 0:10:09.720 --> 0:10:12.040 shoot me, and she's like, nah, I'm going on here 0:10:12.040 --> 0:10:14.120 with the girls. We just scratch each other, even though 0:10:14.160 --> 0:10:18.199 I do think that you know you are born you know, yeah, 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:20.800 my daughter was born gay or a gay hat on 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:24.080 and a jumpsuit. She hadn't want them little overall suits. Yeah. 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:25.640 She came out to wound with it on with a 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:30.040 painter's bridge sham. She was, what's that little paint of name? 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:38.200 Nia polion? What's a little pain which one? Cosso? Okay, hello, 0:10:38.240 --> 0:10:42.400 who's this? Hi? Everybody? Hey? So I can't be honest 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:46.480 withcause this topic y'all not Yes for me, Yes, we 0:10:46.520 --> 0:10:48.120 know your real name. We got called d but we 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:50.200 ain't gonna say it's the word unless you do something. Wow. 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:55.040 All right, brown, all right, we're gonna use to Misha 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:58.720 Brown all right. So to be totally honest, my mother 0:10:58.800 --> 0:11:01.760 is a single mother with four k and he beats 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:04.280 up the break off of us. I have a son 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:06.280 right down, and I'm not gonna sit up here and 0:11:06.320 --> 0:11:09.400 say I beat him oge I don't. But am I 0:11:09.480 --> 0:11:12.280 gonna light his little old leg up? Yes? Am I 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:15.400 gonna light the topic that's foot up? Yes I am, 0:11:15.600 --> 0:11:19.520 because you're not going to disrespect you today. So essentially, 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:23.320 I don't feel like disciplining your kids, Uh is a 0:11:23.400 --> 0:11:26.920 bad thing. I was raising a discipline. I can say 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:29.640 that I'm a good person. Um, I have a lot 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:34.880 only all for myself. But I believe in discipline popping. 0:11:35.040 --> 0:11:37.200 I do believe in that. What's your weapon of choice 0:11:37.320 --> 0:11:40.439 when you discipline? Right now my hand, I have the 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:43.040 fighter weapons and this is gonna explore. It's going to 0:11:43.120 --> 0:11:44.959 hurt you. Oh yeah, Mama back hands used to be 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:47.760 no joke. She sounded like a fly squad of Mama 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:55.240 the fad with the fly stuck. Only now we have 0:11:55.400 --> 0:11:58.520 Christina on Aline, Christina Gamrni. Hi, how are you now? 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:02.320 You're a school counselor? Correct? Yeah, talk to us about 0:12:02.559 --> 0:12:05.760 traumatizing these kids out here. So earlier, I heard in 0:12:05.840 --> 0:12:09.400 the conversation you guys say, oh, how traumatizing can yelling bee? 0:12:10.080 --> 0:12:12.800 It can be very traumatizing. I can stay with a 0:12:12.880 --> 0:12:16.360 child for their whole lot. And I also heard, I 0:12:16.440 --> 0:12:20.520 think it was Charlomagne's say, there's no guide in raising 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:24.920 these kids. Charlomagne, there are arey literally hundreds of thousands 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:30.319 of books out there raising kids, parenting guys. There's a 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:33.880 great series called How to Talk to Your Kids so 0:12:34.040 --> 0:12:36.679 that they will listen and they will talk, and they 0:12:36.840 --> 0:12:40.400 have it for a little kids, elementary school age and 0:12:40.559 --> 0:12:43.480 high school age, and they have an an audible and 0:12:43.559 --> 0:12:47.600 it's translated in various languages, and it talks about how 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:52.000 to discipline your kids and um, non cooing. I agree 0:12:52.000 --> 0:12:53.520 with you. I know there there's a lot of material 0:12:53.600 --> 0:12:55.520 out there on body, but it don't matter when you're 0:12:55.559 --> 0:12:57.439 in the midst of it. I guess everybody got a 0:12:57.480 --> 0:13:00.920 planet get punched in the face. Yeah, that's true. And 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:04.079 you you have your own path to contend with and 0:13:04.240 --> 0:13:07.880 your own methods of raising your children. But when you 0:13:08.000 --> 0:13:11.840 do have some calm time in downtime, it wouldn't hurt 0:13:11.880 --> 0:13:15.240 to the Google some new methods for next time to 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:18.600 keep things. They escalated, I agree with you and your 0:13:18.679 --> 0:13:21.719 children how to talk to others in the world. I'm 0:13:21.800 --> 0:13:23.720 gonna get that book and give it to my kids. 0:13:23.760 --> 0:13:24.959 I don't want to read them. I was like, this 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:26.720 is right here. Well, I'm gonna need y'all to read 0:13:26.760 --> 0:13:28.400 what I want to do with you now? You know what, 0:13:28.760 --> 0:13:30.240 it's funny that you said that me and my wife 0:13:30.240 --> 0:13:32.280 are writing a book or raising our kids. We have 0:13:32.320 --> 0:13:34.439 six kids. We have a twenty one year old, a 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:38.240 nineteen nine and eight to six, and a one year old, 0:13:38.320 --> 0:13:40.680 and we talk about everything that we go through, everything 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:43.240 from my daughter getting her first period, to us talking 0:13:43.240 --> 0:13:46.839 about sex, to m popping out kids at times, to 0:13:47.080 --> 0:13:49.680 having conversations to you know, I came from a household 0:13:49.720 --> 0:13:52.760 of because I said, so that was my dad, because 0:13:52.760 --> 0:13:55.280 I said that le is a terrible way of pairing. 0:13:55.320 --> 0:13:57.319 But we don't do it like that. We explained to 0:13:57.360 --> 0:13:59.520 the kids why, like if they want to go out, 0:13:59.600 --> 0:14:01.079 and it's the reason why, I know, we explained to 0:14:01.160 --> 0:14:03.600 them why so we talk about all that. And that's 0:14:03.640 --> 0:14:05.400 what Tyler Perry is saying, Like you sit down and 0:14:05.520 --> 0:14:07.839 have a conversation with your sid's that's what I tend 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:09.400 to do. You know what I mean? And and yes, 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:12.240 when I do have a short temper and I do yell, 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:14.839 I always feel bad about it afterwards, and then I 0:14:14.920 --> 0:14:17.439 sit down and I always apologize to I always apologize 0:14:17.440 --> 0:14:19.240 for yelling. That's another thing our parents never did for 0:14:19.320 --> 0:14:21.560 us when we was young. They never apologized us. They 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:23.600 didn't know how. They didn't know how. But I break 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:25.480 that down to when when me and my kids, if 0:14:25.480 --> 0:14:27.680 I do something wrong like yell or scream or whatever 0:14:27.720 --> 0:14:29.320 it may be, we pull them in the room and 0:14:29.360 --> 0:14:31.480 we talked to him, why you know why I did this, 0:14:31.600 --> 0:14:33.760 Why I don't why I screamed, why I raised my voice, 0:14:33.800 --> 0:14:35.120 Why I don't want them to do this? And it 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:37.560 works pretty good in my household. And they so quick 0:14:37.640 --> 0:14:40.080 to go to the school and tell everything. So like 0:14:40.240 --> 0:14:42.280 I had an incident in less than six months ago. 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:44.320 What a teacher called me and I said, oh, I'm 0:14:44.360 --> 0:14:48.040 a head's upside the head. And so next thing I 0:14:48.120 --> 0:14:50.240 know defects that my dough. I said, ma'am, these ain't 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:52.480 my kids. I said, I'm black. That's how I taught. 0:14:52.680 --> 0:14:55.400 So later the teachers like we don't hit upside, hit 0:14:55.600 --> 0:14:57.200 hit on the behind. I said, late, I'm gonna do 0:14:57.200 --> 0:14:59.080 what I do, and you do what you do. Become 0:14:59.160 --> 0:15:01.400 a lease up down. I don't think she's gonna send 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:03.360 defacts to my house. They tried to put them in 0:15:03.400 --> 0:15:06.000 a counseling program. I said, man, I was talking jump. 0:15:06.320 --> 0:15:07.680 I'm gonna be honest with you, miss pat. I think 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:09.760 that program did you? Yeah? I think I kind of 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:12.480 agree with call us. If you need us to bell 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:13.800 you out, you know we got you. You know, just 0:15:13.880 --> 0:15:16.280 a game. I appreciate. I'm glad to know I got 0:15:16.400 --> 0:15:19.720 rich friends. I just want to I just want to 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:22.440 paying out of love and not fear. Absolutely no ring 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:24.400 them every nine. Did I do that? All? I'm gonna 0:15:24.400 --> 0:15:26.840 telling my kids, I love you Ashley and not kill 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:29.120 june Bug. And then the mother foe at the house 0:15:29.360 --> 0:15:32.640 and I'm my oldest ben't gonna hug you. But therapy. 0:15:32.840 --> 0:15:35.360 You know what I'm saying. Everybody going to therapy day? 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:37.680 You know what I mean? The resources that we didn't 0:15:37.680 --> 0:15:39.520 have when we was younger. Why not, Yes, you did. 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:41.640 Your mamma was always on the phone telling her friend 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:43.600 your bees. That's like saying white people going to the 0:15:43.680 --> 0:15:48.720 gym all the time. It's pat to throw that out. 0:15:53.760 --> 0:15:58.720 That's not no, put my mask on and turned into 0:15:58.760 --> 0:16:05.880 wrestling number two. Y'all remember wrestling number two? No, you 0:16:05.920 --> 0:16:08.240 don't remember wrestling number one and two. I just figured 0:16:08.240 --> 0:16:12.800 it was just big wrestless. No, who whoa the white 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:15.360 man with the mask on? I don't remember. You don't 0:16:15.360 --> 0:16:19.800 remembers wrestlers right name? I remember Andre the Giant. No, 0:16:20.000 --> 0:16:23.520 wrestling number one and two? D on the mask? Two 0:16:23.560 --> 0:16:25.800 white men? I will yeah, they were good for the 0:16:25.840 --> 0:16:29.840 ficking fault. When we come back, we got your room report. 0:16:29.920 --> 0:16:33.640 We gotta talk about puff. He's trying to buy maybe 0:16:33.720 --> 0:16:35.360 b et. We'll tell you about it when we come 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:38.880 back for Paul the breakfast Luve, good morning from my 0:16:38.960 --> 0:16:45.840 hat name? Or you gossiping or you chatting? The rumor report? 0:16:45.920 --> 0:16:47.320 I mean, I guess we're on the breakfast club. This 0:16:47.360 --> 0:16:49.720 were the tea spills right right on the breakfast club. 0:16:50.600 --> 0:16:52.960 All right, First, let me say so, pos say to 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:55.680 my brother why Cleff White. Cleff checked himself into a 0:16:55.800 --> 0:16:58.720 hospital yesterday. He says he'll be back soon, So I'm 0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:00.760 hoping everything is okay. We don't know the reason why 0:17:01.360 --> 0:17:10.800 but he did say this, I never stood in the hospital. 0:17:15.160 --> 0:17:17.040 He said, he never stays in the hospital overnight, and 0:17:17.119 --> 0:17:19.280 he posted this on Instagram. He just said, sometimes we 0:17:19.359 --> 0:17:22.560 forget that our body is our temple. Be back soon. 0:17:22.880 --> 0:17:25.000 He'd been in the hospital overnight. He was born in 0:17:25.040 --> 0:17:27.720 the hospital. He had to be there for leat two games. 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:31.640 Is a doult life. I'm just trying to correct them. 0:17:31.760 --> 0:17:33.359 You know, why, Cliff, you've been in the hospital of 0:17:33.400 --> 0:17:35.320 the folk. Your mama just didn't have you on the 0:17:35.400 --> 0:17:38.840 corner baby, And he said, dult life. So hopefully everything 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:41.840 is good with why Cleff also h did he might 0:17:41.880 --> 0:17:45.200 be your bass soon? Who? Boss? Your boss? I heard 0:17:45.640 --> 0:17:48.480 the rumors are did he is exploring opportunity to purchase 0:17:48.600 --> 0:17:51.600 a majority steak in b et think did he gonna 0:17:51.600 --> 0:17:57.680 outbid Tyler Perry? Come on, Tylay Tyler Perry already plug? Well, 0:17:57.720 --> 0:17:59.959 you know, um, what's your calling? Is in it too? 0:18:00.040 --> 0:18:03.879 What's his name? Who the riches are the Tyler Tyler? 0:18:04.080 --> 0:18:06.520 Are all three of them? Tyler Tyler, come home, mister pair, 0:18:06.640 --> 0:18:08.080 I'm ready. But why wouldn't it do it where they 0:18:08.119 --> 0:18:10.480 could possibly all own a percentage? Because they all bring 0:18:10.560 --> 0:18:13.240 so much to the table. Right, Tyler break the table 0:18:13.280 --> 0:18:14.720 with the stuff, and so this did he and sow 0:18:14.760 --> 0:18:17.560 this viron right? All about it? What did it bring? Music? 0:18:18.920 --> 0:18:20.840 I mean, the reality is what did that mean for Revolt? 0:18:21.480 --> 0:18:23.400 It with did he own both? Because in my mind, 0:18:23.440 --> 0:18:25.680 if you got money to buy BT, how about put 0:18:25.760 --> 0:18:27.800 that money in the revolte, put those resources in the 0:18:27.880 --> 0:18:30.000