1 00:00:00,680 --> 00:00:08,119 Speaker 1: It's topic time called eight hundred and five eight five, 2 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:09,960 Speaker 1: one oh five. Want to join it to the discussion 3 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 1: with the Breakfast Club, talk about it every show me 4 00:00:15,600 --> 00:00:17,599 Speaker 1: the guy. We are the Breakfast Club. We got our 5 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:20,160 Speaker 1: guest Hope, Miss pat joining us this morning, and we're 6 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 1: talking about raising the keys and that this comes from 7 00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:25,840 Speaker 1: Tyler Perry now and say, listen, what are you doing. 8 00:00:26,079 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: We don't behave this way, you don't do this, this 9 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:30,160 Speaker 1: is this is unacceptable. You're not gonna disrespect her. You're 10 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:32,040 Speaker 1: not gonna disrespect your mom. You're gonna do what they 11 00:00:32,040 --> 00:00:34,680 Speaker 1: say to do. And do you understand that he's just crying, Yes, Papa, 12 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:37,680 Speaker 1: yes papa. But as he's crying and I'm down on 13 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:40,920 Speaker 1: this level, I'm trying to hold my tears. So I 14 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:43,159 Speaker 1: get out and I leave out of the room. Galia says, 15 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:46,880 Speaker 1: you okay, because nobody talked to me as a five 16 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:50,159 Speaker 1: year old like that. Nobody had a conversation with me, 17 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:52,559 Speaker 1: nobody talked to me like a person. So here I 18 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:55,280 Speaker 1: am having an opportunity to heal my little boy self 19 00:00:56,200 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 1: by talking to my son like a first beautiful. So 20 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:01,880 Speaker 1: we're asking eight hundred five eight five, one oh five 21 00:01:01,960 --> 00:01:03,880 Speaker 1: when we're talking about raising your kids, how do you 22 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:06,080 Speaker 1: raise your kids? We start with you, miss Pat, Miss Pat? 23 00:01:06,160 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 1: Do you you all pop your kids? Did you? I 24 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 1: raised my kids according to how they dare to pay 25 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:14,679 Speaker 1: ch'all support? What that mean? He don't pay you? Get 26 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 1: up a cup. I don't whip them anymore. My husband 27 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:20,480 Speaker 1: do a lot of talking because you know, we out 28 00:01:20,480 --> 00:01:23,559 Speaker 1: of that area era of beating all kids, because that 29 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:26,320 Speaker 1: that comes from our ancestors and stuff. So I do 30 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:28,039 Speaker 1: a lot of time. I do a lot of cussler 31 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:31,119 Speaker 1: mouth and then every nine ding them wrong word slip 32 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 1: out of my mouth, and my daughter upstairs who never 33 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:34,520 Speaker 1: come out of the the room and come out and say 34 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 1: that you can't say that. So but yeah, I think 35 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: in my family, I think we do good cop bad cops. 36 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:41,360 Speaker 1: Like I'm using the bad cop. I'm like, you'm gonna 37 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 1: I'm gonna cut you out, I'm gonna yell at you. 38 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 1: And then my wife is the one that talks to them, 39 00:01:44,840 --> 00:01:45,920 Speaker 1: and then we all come in the room. And then 40 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:48,840 Speaker 1: Daddy used the apologize for cursing. Now apologize for cursing. 41 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 1: You gotta apologize here, kids when you do something wrong. 42 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:53,600 Speaker 1: When you rob me, apologized. I say the B word 43 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:57,080 Speaker 1: by the state. You know, I get a little bit shit. Yeah, yeah, 44 00:01:57,120 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: I ain't never cursing my kids. I say you god damn. 45 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 1: I thinks of my family, my house, cursing. Bro. We 46 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:04,480 Speaker 1: there certain words we don't use in the house. Like 47 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 1: we don't use fat in our house. We don't use 48 00:02:05,920 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 1: god damn in our house. You don't even fat because 49 00:02:08,480 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: ain't nobody fat. But I just don't use the word 50 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:12,799 Speaker 1: fats for me word. We just don't use the word 51 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:14,919 Speaker 1: house not a mean word. Don't you want a fast steak? 52 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 1: Don't you want your wife and have a fat ass? 53 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:19,680 Speaker 1: How's fat? I mean word? I'm sat here, you're gonna 54 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:21,919 Speaker 1: tell me I'm mean It depends how. It depends on 55 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:24,000 Speaker 1: what's saying. Like you say, man, shut your fat ass up. 56 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:28,920 Speaker 1: Well that's sweet, y'all. Don't even fat in your house either, 57 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:32,120 Speaker 1: Uh depends when we're talking about the defenders. Whenn't the 58 00:02:32,200 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 1: fat become a mean word because you don't want to 59 00:02:34,320 --> 00:02:36,519 Speaker 1: be like that fat ass kid or a fat kid 60 00:02:36,600 --> 00:02:38,160 Speaker 1: or a fat I wouldn't say that when I was 61 00:02:38,240 --> 00:02:39,960 Speaker 1: me and my husband almost got a divorce one time. 62 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 1: A little you can go ahead and lead, You're gonna 63 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:43,239 Speaker 1: take your fat ass kid with you because I don't 64 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 1: get enough food stamp forward. So I already got my 65 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:48,839 Speaker 1: own kids, Nate Thailer, so you take it. The most 66 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:50,639 Speaker 1: defensive thing about that is that you're saying that did 67 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 1: his kids like they're not yours basketball, not doing a divoice. 68 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:56,720 Speaker 1: They hed kid I have for him. I had already 69 00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:58,840 Speaker 1: had to buy a dude that one hit non nothing. 70 00:02:58,919 --> 00:03:00,679 Speaker 1: But I do feel Tyler par d Man because I 71 00:03:00,720 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 1: always feel bad after I yelled at my kids, Like 72 00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:04,800 Speaker 1: I literally went to bad last night and woke up 73 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:06,920 Speaker 1: this morning feeling like a bad parent because I feel 74 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:08,960 Speaker 1: like I can be a short tempered with a couple 75 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:11,359 Speaker 1: of my kids too. You know what I'm saying, Like, yeah, four, 76 00:03:11,520 --> 00:03:13,120 Speaker 1: I got fourteen year old to seven year old, to 77 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 1: four year old and one year old and the four 78 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 1: year old and the one year old. Fine is that 79 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 1: the fourteen is a teenager, so that would be difficult, 80 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:21,440 Speaker 1: and then the seven year olds. He wanted them just 81 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:23,239 Speaker 1: independent seven year old, you know what I'm saying. So 82 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: raising the kids is difficult, especially when they're not listening 83 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:27,280 Speaker 1: and they talk to me in ways I would never 84 00:03:27,400 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 1: think to talk to my parents or my grandparents aren't 85 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 1: to nobody. And I threatened my seven year old that 86 00:03:31,639 --> 00:03:34,040 Speaker 1: after you wouldn't have made it in the nineties, you 87 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:37,960 Speaker 1: wouldn't have it when she's back, No, damn nineties, you 88 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 1: know what I mean. I have a ten year old 89 00:03:39,560 --> 00:03:42,360 Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, yeah, she'd be talking man crapping. I'm like, 90 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:45,200 Speaker 1: she's like, you guys are my parents? You know? Couple 91 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:47,080 Speaker 1: of niece ran off and left. She smoked craig and 92 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 1: I'm gonna show her birth certificates. So bad. And the 93 00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 1: kid when the kids smartest different like I told I 94 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:57,720 Speaker 1: told my seven year old, like, you ain't going next 95 00:03:57,720 --> 00:04:00,160 Speaker 1: door to the neighborhouse at the same age, in the 96 00:04:00,200 --> 00:04:02,280 Speaker 1: same grade and their friend. Right, I'm like, that's that's 97 00:04:02,320 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 1: cut out. You're not going there next week. I don't care. 98 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:06,840 Speaker 1: I'm see her in class anyway. God damn, I ain't 99 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 1: got no respond to what you say. You ain't going 100 00:04:08,760 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: to school exactly. You know what I'm I'm gonna put 101 00:04:12,040 --> 00:04:16,040 Speaker 1: your eyes out so you can't see it. But but 102 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:17,440 Speaker 1: I feel them though, and you know, and that's why 103 00:04:17,480 --> 00:04:19,839 Speaker 1: I do like having conversations with my children for the 104 00:04:19,839 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 1: exact same reading Tyler Perry said, because you know, when 105 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:24,120 Speaker 1: they get grown, they're gonna remember that, because we all 106 00:04:24,160 --> 00:04:27,039 Speaker 1: remember being young and getting yelled at and getting told 107 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 1: different things by your parents. I'm sure. I'm sure this stuff. 108 00:04:30,240 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 1: I'm unpacking the therapy now that my daddy said. My 109 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 1: mom was ugly. Oh the talent man, My mom usa, 110 00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:38,720 Speaker 1: get your gland. And my sister was a like cuter 111 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:41,360 Speaker 1: yeah and nada, And I look at us now, I 112 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:43,720 Speaker 1: was like, yeah, yo, cute daughter, smoke Craig, but yo, 113 00:04:44,160 --> 00:04:47,960 Speaker 1: little uglyone else succeeded, and you dad. My daddy told 114 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:50,200 Speaker 1: me one time, let's kill them me get the insurance money. 115 00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:52,239 Speaker 1: He told Mama, just killing me, get the insurance money. 116 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:56,160 Speaker 1: Damn anyway, you were that bad? Yeah, well you know, 117 00:04:56,360 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 1: damn it, man, y'all need therapy. My parents weren't that bad. 118 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 1: My parents huxtables who have been messed with y'all because 119 00:05:02,400 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 1: killing me get the white light skinny white man, I'm 120 00:05:05,720 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 1: light skinning, I'm black? Why what am I say? I'm black? Hello? 121 00:05:08,640 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 1: Have you ever had a hickey on your neck? That 122 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 1: probably would kill you? There? Yo? What's up? What's your name? Brochu? 123 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:20,360 Speaker 1: Chu up? Chuck from Connecticut talking about raising our kids. Man, 124 00:05:20,360 --> 00:05:23,480 Speaker 1: how you raise your kids? Bro? I'm a big yellow staying. 125 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:27,480 Speaker 1: I was just meet my wife, two daughters, and yeah, 126 00:05:28,160 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 1: sometimes I'm still bad right after that good, I know. Man, 127 00:05:33,040 --> 00:05:35,160 Speaker 1: it's so hard man, especially when you got girls and 128 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 1: old boys. I got good. That's what make you feel 129 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:41,600 Speaker 1: even worse when you got girls and you got a 130 00:05:41,680 --> 00:05:43,840 Speaker 1: yellow at them all. Lord, But it's the two. It's 131 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: the two. It's the two youngest ones, right. They play 132 00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:48,920 Speaker 1: together old day long, and then they fight like a 133 00:05:49,040 --> 00:05:51,400 Speaker 1: married couple. And that's what I'd be screaming at them, 134 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:53,159 Speaker 1: and they'd be mad at each other. And then at 135 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:54,680 Speaker 1: night they got they got to sleep in the same bed. 136 00:05:54,680 --> 00:05:56,479 Speaker 1: They gotta keep the same room. So it'd be pissing 137 00:05:56,480 --> 00:05:58,320 Speaker 1: me off. Like y'all gonna be friends later on anyway, 138 00:05:58,360 --> 00:06:01,200 Speaker 1: so stop it. But they just shout the Jackson and 139 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:02,960 Speaker 1: book when I'm sure they're in the call listening. Hello, 140 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:07,440 Speaker 1: who's this, hey, breed. We're talking about discipline and raising children. 141 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 1: What's your approach? How are you giving it? So? First 142 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 1: of all, going and everyone, So I with my discipline 143 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,159 Speaker 1: as a child. My mother never thanked me, can never 144 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:19,120 Speaker 1: beat me or anything. But I do notice that with 145 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:22,840 Speaker 1: my child. He's a little bit more hardheaded than I was, 146 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: so I do have to discipline a little bit more 147 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:27,960 Speaker 1: with him than my mom did with me. But what 148 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:30,920 Speaker 1: I've noticed is when I have conversations with people who 149 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:34,200 Speaker 1: works think that as a child has really disciplined, they're 150 00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:37,280 Speaker 1: very disciplined as adults. And I noticed I do like 151 00:06:37,560 --> 00:06:39,360 Speaker 1: a little bit of discipline, and I feel like it's 152 00:06:39,400 --> 00:06:43,040 Speaker 1: because I wasn't heavily disciplined when I grew Interesting, that's 153 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:44,920 Speaker 1: an interesting take. Yeah, what do you mean when you 154 00:06:44,960 --> 00:06:51,000 Speaker 1: say you like discipline? So aside from my ad it's 155 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:52,800 Speaker 1: just kind of like, if I don't want to do something, 156 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:54,800 Speaker 1: I'm not going to do it. And when it comes 157 00:06:54,839 --> 00:06:57,480 Speaker 1: to school work, I have to like really force myself 158 00:06:57,480 --> 00:06:59,039 Speaker 1: to do the things I'm justosing to do. When it 159 00:06:59,040 --> 00:07:00,920 Speaker 1: comes to work, I really have to purst myself to 160 00:07:01,040 --> 00:07:02,840 Speaker 1: do the thing, but I'm supposed to do it, and 161 00:07:02,880 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 1: I just feel like a setting as well, I do 162 00:07:05,839 --> 00:07:08,799 Speaker 1: what I want to do that. But that's the scariest 163 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:10,880 Speaker 1: thing though, because a lot of things you probably got 164 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 1: disciplined for when you didn't get discipline when you was young, 165 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:14,400 Speaker 1: but if you did, it would probably have to do 166 00:07:14,520 --> 00:07:16,440 Speaker 1: with the fact you had ADHD. And that's what I 167 00:07:16,480 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: worry about. You don't know what type of issues your 168 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 1: child might be dealing with that having showcased a self 169 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 1: yet you know what I mean that you might be punished, 170 00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:27,960 Speaker 1: You know I exactly. And I just found out my 171 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:30,600 Speaker 1: dog got ADHD and he won't go sleep at night. 172 00:07:30,680 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 1: Your dog, your dog, Okay, how you know your dog 173 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:37,920 Speaker 1: got ah he'd be up out. We can put him 174 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:42,000 Speaker 1: to sleep. Don't say that. No, I mean, I'm talking 175 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:46,960 Speaker 1: about what you don't do that. Don't do that. Don't 176 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:50,640 Speaker 1: do that. Eight hundred five and five. We're talking about 177 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 1: how you discipline your kids. Oh my god, this is 178 00:07:53,400 --> 00:07:56,239 Speaker 1: the breakfast Club. Good morning, how do you dj Envy 179 00:07:56,400 --> 00:07:59,520 Speaker 1: Charlemagne the guy We all the breakfast club. Now if 180 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:02,120 Speaker 1: you just join us, we're talking about disciplining our kids. 181 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:04,200 Speaker 1: Just came from Tyler Perry and this is what he 182 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 1: said about his son. He was really rude to the nanny. 183 00:08:06,960 --> 00:08:09,040 Speaker 1: And it was in the room with bathroom argument and 184 00:08:09,120 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 1: Galida calls me and I go in and I said, 185 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:12,720 Speaker 1: I'm saying I get down to his level. I'm talking 186 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:14,600 Speaker 1: to him out and say, listen, what are you doing. 187 00:08:14,880 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 1: We don't behave this way. You don't do this, this 188 00:08:16,520 --> 00:08:18,960 Speaker 1: is this is unacceptable. You're not gonna disrespect her. You're 189 00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:20,800 Speaker 1: not gonna disrespect your mom. You're gonna do what they 190 00:08:20,840 --> 00:08:24,040 Speaker 1: say to do. And do you understand that he's just crying, yes, Papa, yes, papa. 191 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:27,560 Speaker 1: But as he's crying and I'm down on his level, 192 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:29,920 Speaker 1: I'm trying to hold my tears. So I get up 193 00:08:29,960 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 1: and I leave out of the room. Galida says, you okay, 194 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:35,439 Speaker 1: because nobody talked to me as a five year old 195 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:38,679 Speaker 1: like that. Nobody had a conversation with me. Nobody talked 196 00:08:38,720 --> 00:08:40,719 Speaker 1: to me like a person. So here I am having 197 00:08:40,760 --> 00:08:43,880 Speaker 1: an opportunity to heal my little boy self. Yeah. By 198 00:08:43,960 --> 00:08:47,440 Speaker 1: talking to my son like a person, I feel a man. 199 00:08:47,559 --> 00:08:49,400 Speaker 1: But you know another thing, I was scared of my dad. 200 00:08:49,400 --> 00:08:51,320 Speaker 1: Though my dad is six foot three, six foot four, 201 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 1: retired police officer, ex military, I was always scared of him. 202 00:08:54,800 --> 00:08:56,440 Speaker 1: So I never wanted to do nothing because I never 203 00:08:56,520 --> 00:08:59,319 Speaker 1: wanted to have a problem with it. Ain't none of 204 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:00,800 Speaker 1: my daughters to me, and I don't want them to 205 00:09:00,840 --> 00:09:02,480 Speaker 1: be scared me because I don't want to raise out 206 00:09:02,520 --> 00:09:04,079 Speaker 1: of fear. But nobody I mean, I don't want to 207 00:09:04,120 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 1: raise out of love. That's something you learned in therapy too, 208 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:07,559 Speaker 1: though you learned that. You know a lot of times 209 00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:09,720 Speaker 1: our parents raised us out of fear, and their fear 210 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 1: was especially with my dad, he didn't want me to 211 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:14,280 Speaker 1: turn out the way. He didn't want me to make 212 00:09:14,320 --> 00:09:15,920 Speaker 1: make the same mistakes that he did. You know, you 213 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:17,840 Speaker 1: know I made it still made him anyway, except for 214 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:20,600 Speaker 1: like you know, using hard drugs, But he didn't want 215 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:21,959 Speaker 1: me to make the same mistakes that he made. And 216 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:23,800 Speaker 1: Mom was the same. My dad was a cop in 217 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:25,560 Speaker 1: New York City at the time, and he worked in 218 00:09:25,559 --> 00:09:27,560 Speaker 1: the Bronx and on the train, so he's seen things 219 00:09:27,800 --> 00:09:29,360 Speaker 1: from a different place that I shot it from and 220 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 1: it was the crack error. So it was he wanted 221 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 1: me to stay away from that. So he was gonna 222 00:09:32,800 --> 00:09:35,080 Speaker 1: do whatever it takes to make sure I wasn't gonna 223 00:09:35,080 --> 00:09:37,080 Speaker 1: go down that left. He parented out of fear. Yeah, 224 00:09:37,120 --> 00:09:39,200 Speaker 1: I did too, especially because I had my first child 225 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:41,400 Speaker 1: at fourteen, and I think I parented out of field 226 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 1: with my daughter. I was like, don't you ever touched 227 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:46,120 Speaker 1: no boy? Don't you ever tide of no boy? Day horrid? 228 00:09:46,200 --> 00:09:48,600 Speaker 1: Or did she end up being gay and something somebody like, dude, 229 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:54,560 Speaker 1: I preach my, that's why you said that out of them, 230 00:09:54,880 --> 00:09:56,960 Speaker 1: you scared the love for du No, that makes sense. 231 00:09:57,120 --> 00:09:58,880 Speaker 1: I did because it was all about because I was 232 00:09:58,880 --> 00:10:01,640 Speaker 1: saying such a bad lationship with her daddy and she 233 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:04,400 Speaker 1: saw her daddy beat me. And I'm not saying that, 234 00:10:04,520 --> 00:10:06,240 Speaker 1: you know that's why, but I think that has a 235 00:10:06,280 --> 00:10:09,720 Speaker 1: lot to do with it. Beans, And she saw daddy 236 00:10:09,720 --> 00:10:12,040 Speaker 1: shoot me, and she's like, nah, I'm going on here 237 00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 1: with the girls. We just scratch each other, even though 238 00:10:14,160 --> 00:10:18,199 Speaker 1: I do think that you know you are born you know, yeah, 239 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:20,800 Speaker 1: my daughter was born gay or a gay hat on 240 00:10:21,160 --> 00:10:24,080 Speaker 1: and a jumpsuit. She hadn't want them little overall suits. Yeah. 241 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:25,640 Speaker 1: She came out to wound with it on with a 242 00:10:25,679 --> 00:10:30,040 Speaker 1: painter's bridge sham. She was, what's that little paint of name? 243 00:10:30,440 --> 00:10:38,200 Speaker 1: Nia polion? What's a little pain which one? Cosso? Okay, hello, 244 00:10:38,240 --> 00:10:42,400 Speaker 1: who's this? Hi? Everybody? Hey? So I can't be honest 245 00:10:42,400 --> 00:10:46,480 Speaker 1: withcause this topic y'all not Yes for me, Yes, we 246 00:10:46,520 --> 00:10:48,120 Speaker 1: know your real name. We got called d but we 247 00:10:48,160 --> 00:10:50,200 Speaker 1: ain't gonna say it's the word unless you do something. Wow. 248 00:10:50,559 --> 00:10:55,040 Speaker 1: All right, brown, all right, we're gonna use to Misha 249 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:58,720 Speaker 1: Brown all right. So to be totally honest, my mother 250 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 1: is a single mother with four k and he beats 251 00:11:01,880 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 1: up the break off of us. I have a son 252 00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 1: right down, and I'm not gonna sit up here and 253 00:11:06,320 --> 00:11:09,400 Speaker 1: say I beat him oge I don't. But am I 254 00:11:09,480 --> 00:11:12,280 Speaker 1: gonna light his little old leg up? Yes? Am I 255 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:15,400 Speaker 1: gonna light the topic that's foot up? Yes I am, 256 00:11:15,600 --> 00:11:19,520 Speaker 1: because you're not going to disrespect you today. So essentially, 257 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:23,320 Speaker 1: I don't feel like disciplining your kids, Uh is a 258 00:11:23,400 --> 00:11:26,920 Speaker 1: bad thing. I was raising a discipline. I can say 259 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:29,640 Speaker 1: that I'm a good person. Um, I have a lot 260 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:34,880 Speaker 1: only all for myself. But I believe in discipline popping. 261 00:11:35,040 --> 00:11:37,200 Speaker 1: I do believe in that. What's your weapon of choice 262 00:11:37,320 --> 00:11:40,439 Speaker 1: when you discipline? Right now my hand, I have the 263 00:11:40,720 --> 00:11:43,040 Speaker 1: fighter weapons and this is gonna explore. It's going to 264 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:44,959 Speaker 1: hurt you. Oh yeah, Mama back hands used to be 265 00:11:45,120 --> 00:11:47,760 Speaker 1: no joke. She sounded like a fly squad of Mama 266 00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:55,240 Speaker 1: the fad with the fly stuck. Only now we have 267 00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:58,520 Speaker 1: Christina on Aline, Christina Gamrni. Hi, how are you now? 268 00:11:58,559 --> 00:12:02,320 Speaker 1: You're a school counselor? Correct? Yeah, talk to us about 269 00:12:02,559 --> 00:12:05,760 Speaker 1: traumatizing these kids out here. So earlier, I heard in 270 00:12:05,840 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 1: the conversation you guys say, oh, how traumatizing can yelling bee? 271 00:12:10,080 --> 00:12:12,800 Speaker 1: It can be very traumatizing. I can stay with a 272 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:16,360 Speaker 1: child for their whole lot. And I also heard, I 273 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 1: think it was Charlomagne's say, there's no guide in raising 274 00:12:20,600 --> 00:12:24,920 Speaker 1: these kids. Charlomagne, there are arey literally hundreds of thousands 275 00:12:25,040 --> 00:12:30,319 Speaker 1: of books out there raising kids, parenting guys. There's a 276 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:33,880 Speaker 1: great series called How to Talk to Your Kids so 277 00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:36,679 Speaker 1: that they will listen and they will talk, and they 278 00:12:36,840 --> 00:12:40,400 Speaker 1: have it for a little kids, elementary school age and 279 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:43,480 Speaker 1: high school age, and they have an an audible and 280 00:12:43,559 --> 00:12:47,600 Speaker 1: it's translated in various languages, and it talks about how 281 00:12:47,640 --> 00:12:52,000 Speaker 1: to discipline your kids and um, non cooing. I agree 282 00:12:52,000 --> 00:12:53,520 Speaker 1: with you. I know there there's a lot of material 283 00:12:53,600 --> 00:12:55,520 Speaker 1: out there on body, but it don't matter when you're 284 00:12:55,559 --> 00:12:57,439 Speaker 1: in the midst of it. I guess everybody got a 285 00:12:57,480 --> 00:13:00,920 Speaker 1: planet get punched in the face. Yeah, that's true. And 286 00:13:01,320 --> 00:13:04,079 Speaker 1: you you have your own path to contend with and 287 00:13:04,240 --> 00:13:07,880 Speaker 1: your own methods of raising your children. But when you 288 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:11,840 Speaker 1: do have some calm time in downtime, it wouldn't hurt 289 00:13:11,880 --> 00:13:15,240 Speaker 1: to the Google some new methods for next time to 290 00:13:15,360 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 1: keep things. They escalated, I agree with you and your 291 00:13:18,679 --> 00:13:21,719 Speaker 1: children how to talk to others in the world. I'm 292 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:23,720 Speaker 1: gonna get that book and give it to my kids. 293 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:24,959 Speaker 1: I don't want to read them. I was like, this 294 00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:26,720 Speaker 1: is right here. Well, I'm gonna need y'all to read 295 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:28,400 Speaker 1: what I want to do with you now? You know what, 296 00:13:28,760 --> 00:13:30,240 Speaker 1: it's funny that you said that me and my wife 297 00:13:30,240 --> 00:13:32,280 Speaker 1: are writing a book or raising our kids. We have 298 00:13:32,320 --> 00:13:34,439 Speaker 1: six kids. We have a twenty one year old, a 299 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:38,240 Speaker 1: nineteen nine and eight to six, and a one year old, 300 00:13:38,320 --> 00:13:40,680 Speaker 1: and we talk about everything that we go through, everything 301 00:13:40,800 --> 00:13:43,240 Speaker 1: from my daughter getting her first period, to us talking 302 00:13:43,240 --> 00:13:46,839 Speaker 1: about sex, to m popping out kids at times, to 303 00:13:47,080 --> 00:13:49,680 Speaker 1: having conversations to you know, I came from a household 304 00:13:49,720 --> 00:13:52,760 Speaker 1: of because I said, so that was my dad, because 305 00:13:52,760 --> 00:13:55,280 Speaker 1: I said that le is a terrible way of pairing. 306 00:13:55,320 --> 00:13:57,319 Speaker 1: But we don't do it like that. We explained to 307 00:13:57,360 --> 00:13:59,520 Speaker 1: the kids why, like if they want to go out, 308 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:01,079 Speaker 1: and it's the reason why, I know, we explained to 309 00:14:01,160 --> 00:14:03,600 Speaker 1: them why so we talk about all that. And that's 310 00:14:03,640 --> 00:14:05,400 Speaker 1: what Tyler Perry is saying, Like you sit down and 311 00:14:05,520 --> 00:14:07,839 Speaker 1: have a conversation with your sid's that's what I tend 312 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:09,400 Speaker 1: to do. You know what I mean? And and yes, 313 00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: when I do have a short temper and I do yell, 314 00:14:12,320 --> 00:14:14,839 Speaker 1: I always feel bad about it afterwards, and then I 315 00:14:14,920 --> 00:14:17,439 Speaker 1: sit down and I always apologize to I always apologize 316 00:14:17,440 --> 00:14:19,240 Speaker 1: for yelling. That's another thing our parents never did for 317 00:14:19,320 --> 00:14:21,560 Speaker 1: us when we was young. They never apologized us. They 318 00:14:21,600 --> 00:14:23,600 Speaker 1: didn't know how. They didn't know how. But I break 319 00:14:23,680 --> 00:14:25,480 Speaker 1: that down to when when me and my kids, if 320 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:27,680 Speaker 1: I do something wrong like yell or scream or whatever 321 00:14:27,720 --> 00:14:29,320 Speaker 1: it may be, we pull them in the room and 322 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:31,480 Speaker 1: we talked to him, why you know why I did this, 323 00:14:31,600 --> 00:14:33,760 Speaker 1: Why I don't why I screamed, why I raised my voice, 324 00:14:33,800 --> 00:14:35,120 Speaker 1: Why I don't want them to do this? And it 325 00:14:35,160 --> 00:14:37,560 Speaker 1: works pretty good in my household. And they so quick 326 00:14:37,640 --> 00:14:40,080 Speaker 1: to go to the school and tell everything. So like 327 00:14:40,240 --> 00:14:42,280 Speaker 1: I had an incident in less than six months ago. 328 00:14:42,360 --> 00:14:44,320 Speaker 1: What a teacher called me and I said, oh, I'm 329 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:48,040 Speaker 1: a head's upside the head. And so next thing I 330 00:14:48,120 --> 00:14:50,240 Speaker 1: know defects that my dough. I said, ma'am, these ain't 331 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:52,480 Speaker 1: my kids. I said, I'm black. That's how I taught. 332 00:14:52,680 --> 00:14:55,400 Speaker 1: So later the teachers like we don't hit upside, hit 333 00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:57,200 Speaker 1: hit on the behind. I said, late, I'm gonna do 334 00:14:57,200 --> 00:14:59,080 Speaker 1: what I do, and you do what you do. Become 335 00:14:59,160 --> 00:15:01,400 Speaker 1: a lease up down. I don't think she's gonna send 336 00:15:01,480 --> 00:15:03,360 Speaker 1: defacts to my house. They tried to put them in 337 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:06,000 Speaker 1: a counseling program. I said, man, I was talking jump. 338 00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:07,680 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest with you, miss pat. I think 339 00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:09,760 Speaker 1: that program did you? Yeah? I think I kind of 340 00:15:09,800 --> 00:15:12,480 Speaker 1: agree with call us. If you need us to bell 341 00:15:12,520 --> 00:15:13,800 Speaker 1: you out, you know we got you. You know, just 342 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:16,280 Speaker 1: a game. I appreciate. I'm glad to know I got 343 00:15:16,400 --> 00:15:19,720 Speaker 1: rich friends. I just want to I just want to 344 00:15:19,760 --> 00:15:22,440 Speaker 1: paying out of love and not fear. Absolutely no ring 345 00:15:22,520 --> 00:15:24,400 Speaker 1: them every nine. Did I do that? All? I'm gonna 346 00:15:24,400 --> 00:15:26,840 Speaker 1: telling my kids, I love you Ashley and not kill 347 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:29,120 Speaker 1: june Bug. And then the mother foe at the house 348 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:32,640 Speaker 1: and I'm my oldest ben't gonna hug you. But therapy. 349 00:15:32,840 --> 00:15:35,360 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Everybody going to therapy day? 350 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:37,680 Speaker 1: You know what I mean? The resources that we didn't 351 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:39,520 Speaker 1: have when we was younger. Why not, Yes, you did. 352 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:41,640 Speaker 1: Your mamma was always on the phone telling her friend 353 00:15:41,720 --> 00:15:43,600 Speaker 1: your bees. That's like saying white people going to the 354 00:15:43,680 --> 00:15:48,720 Speaker 1: gym all the time. It's pat to throw that out. 355 00:15:53,760 --> 00:15:58,720 Speaker 1: That's not no, put my mask on and turned into 356 00:15:58,760 --> 00:16:05,880 Speaker 1: wrestling number two. Y'all remember wrestling number two? No, you 357 00:16:05,920 --> 00:16:08,240 Speaker 1: don't remember wrestling number one and two. I just figured 358 00:16:08,240 --> 00:16:12,800 Speaker 1: it was just big wrestless. No, who whoa the white 359 00:16:12,840 --> 00:16:15,360 Speaker 1: man with the mask on? I don't remember. You don't 360 00:16:15,360 --> 00:16:19,800 Speaker 1: remembers wrestlers right name? I remember Andre the Giant. No, 361 00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:23,520 Speaker 1: wrestling number one and two? D on the mask? Two 362 00:16:23,560 --> 00:16:25,800 Speaker 1: white men? I will yeah, they were good for the 363 00:16:25,840 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 1: ficking fault. When we come back, we got your room report. 364 00:16:29,920 --> 00:16:33,640 Speaker 1: We gotta talk about puff. He's trying to buy maybe 365 00:16:33,720 --> 00:16:35,360 Speaker 1: b et. We'll tell you about it when we come 366 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:38,880 Speaker 1: back for Paul the breakfast Luve, good morning from my 367 00:16:38,960 --> 00:16:45,840 Speaker 1: hat name? Or you gossiping or you chatting? The rumor report? 368 00:16:45,920 --> 00:16:47,320 Speaker 1: I mean, I guess we're on the breakfast club. This 369 00:16:47,360 --> 00:16:49,720 Speaker 1: were the tea spills right right on the breakfast club. 370 00:16:50,600 --> 00:16:52,960 Speaker 1: All right, First, let me say so, pos say to 371 00:16:53,080 --> 00:16:55,680 Speaker 1: my brother why Cleff White. Cleff checked himself into a 372 00:16:55,800 --> 00:16:58,720 Speaker 1: hospital yesterday. He says he'll be back soon, So I'm 373 00:16:58,720 --> 00:17:00,760 Speaker 1: hoping everything is okay. We don't know the reason why 374 00:17:01,360 --> 00:17:10,800 Speaker 1: but he did say this, I never stood in the hospital. 375 00:17:15,160 --> 00:17:17,040 Speaker 1: He said, he never stays in the hospital overnight, and 376 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:19,280 Speaker 1: he posted this on Instagram. He just said, sometimes we 377 00:17:19,359 --> 00:17:22,560 Speaker 1: forget that our body is our temple. Be back soon. 378 00:17:22,880 --> 00:17:25,000 Speaker 1: He'd been in the hospital overnight. He was born in 379 00:17:25,040 --> 00:17:27,720 Speaker 1: the hospital. He had to be there for leat two games. 380 00:17:28,080 --> 00:17:31,640 Speaker 1: Is a doult life. I'm just trying to correct them. 381 00:17:31,760 --> 00:17:33,359 Speaker 1: You know, why, Cliff, you've been in the hospital of 382 00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:35,320 Speaker 1: the folk. Your mama just didn't have you on the 383 00:17:35,400 --> 00:17:38,840 Speaker 1: corner baby, And he said, dult life. So hopefully everything 384 00:17:38,960 --> 00:17:41,840 Speaker 1: is good with why Cleff also h did he might 385 00:17:41,880 --> 00:17:45,200 Speaker 1: be your bass soon? Who? Boss? Your boss? I heard 386 00:17:45,640 --> 00:17:48,480 Speaker 1: the rumors are did he is exploring opportunity to purchase 387 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:51,600 Speaker 1: a majority steak in b et think did he gonna 388 00:17:51,600 --> 00:17:57,680 Speaker 1: outbid Tyler Perry? Come on, Tylay Tyler Perry already plug? Well, 389 00:17:57,720 --> 00:17:59,959 Speaker 1: you know, um, what's your calling? Is in it too? 390 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:03,879 Speaker 1: What's his name? Who the riches are the Tyler Tyler? 391 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:06,520 Speaker 1: Are all three of them? Tyler Tyler, come home, mister pair, 392 00:18:06,640 --> 00:18:08,080 Speaker 1: I'm ready. But why wouldn't it do it where they 393 00:18:08,119 --> 00:18:10,480 Speaker 1: could possibly all own a percentage? Because they all bring 394 00:18:10,560 --> 00:18:13,240 Speaker 1: so much to the table. Right, Tyler break the table 395 00:18:13,280 --> 00:18:14,720 Speaker 1: with the stuff, and so this did he and sow 396 00:18:14,760 --> 00:18:17,560 Speaker 1: this viron right? All about it? What did it bring? Music? 397 00:18:18,920 --> 00:18:20,840 Speaker 1: I mean, the reality is what did that mean for Revolt? 398 00:18:21,480 --> 00:18:23,400 Speaker 1: It with did he own both? Because in my mind, 399 00:18:23,440 --> 00:18:25,680 Speaker 1: if you got money to buy BT, how about put 400 00:18:25,760 --> 00:18:27,800 Speaker 1: that money in the revolte, put those resources in the 401 00:18:27,880 --> 00:18:30,000 Speaker 1: revote and keep building a revote up. That would making 402 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:31,680 Speaker 1: more sense. But what was the main problem with Revolt 403 00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:35,000 Speaker 1: That it just wasn't in enough households? Right? Revolting still around, right, 404 00:18:35,280 --> 00:18:39,320 Speaker 1: but it's not in enough households. And Tyler paragraph over that, 405 00:18:39,400 --> 00:18:41,040 Speaker 1: why are you gonna share all that land? You don't 406 00:18:41,040 --> 00:18:43,560 Speaker 1: need no help, Tyler, don't need no help. Don't need 407 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:48,439 Speaker 1: no help me. Tyler called me? What did he say? 408 00:18:48,560 --> 00:18:50,760 Speaker 1: I'm now you better not say I'm no mdeal If 409 00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:55,880 Speaker 1: you do, I come on there and jumping that clean nothing, Okay, 410 00:18:55,960 --> 00:18:57,840 Speaker 1: Now I wouldn't mind seeing that. Now that's a battle. 411 00:18:58,000 --> 00:19:01,640 Speaker 1: What boy, you and my deal fighting? I whooped Tyler 412 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:05,239 Speaker 1: pair Dad. That's a good matchup right there. I'd love 413 00:19:05,240 --> 00:19:07,359 Speaker 1: to see him a dam miss Pat go at it? Well, 414 00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:08,800 Speaker 1: he said did he said? He wants to turn b 415 00:19:08,920 --> 00:19:12,200 Speaker 1: ET back into a black owned brand, and he believes 416 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:14,560 Speaker 1: it's better for business, for the culture, and for building 417 00:19:14,640 --> 00:19:16,920 Speaker 1: wealth in the black. What did that mean for Revote? 418 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:19,200 Speaker 1: You sold us on this Revote thing? Did he like? 419 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:22,240 Speaker 1: You know Revote has has? I think Revots built a 420 00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:24,560 Speaker 1: lot of cultural cachet, you know what I mean. People 421 00:19:24,640 --> 00:19:26,960 Speaker 1: know the brand Revote, But the thing that people always 422 00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:29,040 Speaker 1: saying about vote Revote ain't got no money. So if 423 00:19:29,040 --> 00:19:30,720 Speaker 1: you got money to buy DT, how come you just 424 00:19:30,800 --> 00:19:32,359 Speaker 1: don't put that money into Revolt. I just want to 425 00:19:32,440 --> 00:19:36,399 Speaker 1: know about Revote and fell asleep. He gave it to 426 00:19:36,480 --> 00:19:40,199 Speaker 1: your Miami you think, so, yeah, somebody got it. If 427 00:19:40,200 --> 00:19:42,800 Speaker 1: you ain't, if it ain't, if ain't nothing going on now, Yeah, 428 00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:44,680 Speaker 1: I mean, I just would like to hear him. I'd 429 00:19:44,680 --> 00:19:46,480 Speaker 1: like to hear more about the business if I was 430 00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:49,359 Speaker 1: That's how I would like to hear more from praying 431 00:19:49,440 --> 00:19:51,240 Speaker 1: Tyler get it. Don't get him, miss a pair. I'm 432 00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:53,440 Speaker 1: over here waiting on yet. I think Tyler gonna get Yeah, 433 00:19:53,440 --> 00:19:55,280 Speaker 1: I think so waiting on you like a black child 434 00:19:55,359 --> 00:20:02,760 Speaker 1: waiting on his daddy. Shut up, you're having flashbacks, I think. Yeah. 435 00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:06,119 Speaker 1: All right, well that is your rumor report, Now keep it. 436 00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:07,879 Speaker 1: Luck we got the people's choice mixed up next, and 437 00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:09,960 Speaker 1: we got more with Miss Pat She's our guest host today, 438 00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:12,560 Speaker 1: so don't move. It's the Breakfast Club, Come morning, the 439 00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:17,040 Speaker 1: Breakfast Club. Your mornings will never be the same. Did 440 00:20:17,119 --> 00:20:20,680 Speaker 1: you know one word can change everything? 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