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Speaker 1: I caught my husband cheating red handed, so I'm going

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Speaker 1: to let him on one condition. Am I the asshole?

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Speaker 2: You know there's that old saying, if you can't beat him,

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Speaker 2: join them. But what if if you can't beat him,

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Speaker 2: just completely give up, cheat him or cheat them? That

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Speaker 2: works too, you can't beat him, cheat him. I like

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Speaker 2: that better because it rhymes. It just rolls off the

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Speaker 2: to all of our cliches sayings. They have to roll

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Speaker 2: off the tongue otherwise are they going to be useful

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Speaker 2: in life?

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Speaker 1: No, they won't. Only things that roll off the tongue

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Speaker 1: are useful exactly, just like uh Opie's husband. His stuff

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Speaker 1: roll off other people's tongues, herpes? Oh god, can you

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Speaker 1: get tongue herpes? Oh?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, on the face.

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Speaker 1: Why not on the face, but can you get like

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Speaker 1: on the tongue.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you know, it's like it's all the face,

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Speaker 2: whole region, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know he's gone a rhea on your tongue.

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Speaker 1: Not from experience, but I've heard.

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Speaker 3: Really not from experience, how you're.

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Speaker 1: That's got on their dogue? Oh god? I gave him

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Speaker 1: an ultimatum, either an open marriage or divorce. I caught

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Speaker 1: my husband of twelve years cheating on me. I do

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Speaker 1: know the girl because she is a part time cashier

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Speaker 1: at the local grocery store. Yikes, dude, checking out his

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Speaker 1: bagging his groceries and then she bags your husband.

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Speaker 2: Dude, she was just checking out his groceries and then

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Speaker 2: checking out his.

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Speaker 1: Ass and then he's having her bag him. But he's

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Speaker 1: not put in a bag on anything else.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, he's not.

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Speaker 1: No, he's not.

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Speaker 3: Please.

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Speaker 1: You know how they have like you know, it's not

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Speaker 1: plastic straws, they have paper straws now, and it's like

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Speaker 1: for the environment. When are they going to come up

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Speaker 1: with paper condoms?

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Speaker 2: You know?

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Speaker 3: Why do we have to keep for these fish or

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Speaker 3: just getting a straight beanie?

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Speaker 1: Keep snorting all of these condoms?

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Speaker 3: Dude, we put it into this dude.

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Speaker 1: Did you know that the reason one of the main

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Speaker 1: reasons that the plastic straw crusade went so crazy is

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Speaker 1: because of that one video of the turtle that like

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Speaker 1: sucked up that straw in its nose. You saw that

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Speaker 1: vide You know the video I'm talking about. Yeah, it

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Speaker 1: makes sense. It's optics, right, that's what everyone knows that video.

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Speaker 1: Everyone knows that video it's crazy. He has been spending

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Speaker 1: a lot of money on her. I got proof and

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Speaker 1: confronted his ass.

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Speaker 3: Hm.

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Speaker 1: Yikes. He did what most cheaters do, deny and gaslight.

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Speaker 1: When he couldn't make up more lies, he finally caved

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Speaker 1: and started with his big man tears of don't leave me, baby, baby,

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Speaker 1: don't leave big man tears, and the worst kind of tears. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: they'll they'll punch you in the face. Yeah, I swear

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Speaker 1: I'll change. I gave him options. Either we open our

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Speaker 1: marriage and keep our home and keep our children and

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Speaker 1: they will grow up in a house and not shift

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Speaker 1: every weekend. You could keep your side chicks as long

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Speaker 1: will have a set of rules and boundaries. So girls like, hey,

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Speaker 1: keep your cheaper side chick, but I want some of

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Speaker 1: my own side hoes.

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Speaker 3: Mm hmmm some side dick.

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Speaker 1: Side dick, baby, that's kind of dick.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, you don't want straightforward, you know.

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Speaker 1: You know that's that's just sid too regular. No, can't

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Speaker 1: only do missionary now, you gotta you gotta switch it up.

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Speaker 1: Pointing in all directions, pointing in all directions, dude, every erection,

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Speaker 1: pointing in all directions another idiom for you. If it rhymes,

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Speaker 1: it's good. If it rhymes, it's good. Fact I laid

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Speaker 1: out all the boundaries and conditions. One. He cannot spend

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Speaker 1: money from our joint account. He can spend money from

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Speaker 1: his personal expenses. However, in case of emergency, he will

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Speaker 1: put his family above his side. Chicks, Oh man, we're

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Speaker 1: not in a good starting place. If like that needs

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Speaker 2: Turning your relationship into if then statements for not prioritizing

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Speaker 2: side putinani over your own question children.

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Speaker 1: Yes, like better to have it be explicit if you're

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Speaker 1: gonna good to say it, but yeah, good to say it,

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Speaker 1: into our space where we have our kids. Three no

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Speaker 1: family members or friends or always use protection and regular

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Speaker 1: SDD checkups. Five We will tell each other about the

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Speaker 1: going with. We do not have to share pictures of

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Speaker 1: our partners. Six. If he gets a woman pregnant, it's

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Speaker 1: the end. And if I get pregnant by another man,

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Speaker 1: I will either get in a oh my god, I

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Speaker 1: will either get an abortion or put the kid to adoption,

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Speaker 1: or if the father agrees he can keep the baby,

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Speaker 1: and I will sign away my rights. And yes, he

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Speaker 1: is more than welcome to divorce me, and I will

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Speaker 1: not push him for child support for another man's child.

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Speaker 2: Leaning all the way in dang Also family, Like, is

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Speaker 2: this game of thrones?

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Speaker 3: I'm so yeah.

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Speaker 1: I mean this is like, this is some These are

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Speaker 1: Better to have it explicit. Better to have it explicit.

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Speaker 1: You know, we will split everything evenly. The house is

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Speaker 1: will only contact through parenting apps if I guess they

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Speaker 1: get divorced. No bad mouthing to our kids. If our

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Speaker 1: will tell them. We will have a healthy co parenting relationship.

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Speaker 1: He can have as many girlfriends as he wants, but

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Speaker 1: he shouldn't force our children to accept them. It's for

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Speaker 1: our kids to decide. I gave him forty eight hours. Bro,

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Speaker 1: she's just laying down the hammer. Woman's on a mission, dude.

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Speaker 1: That is that is some That's some quick turnaround. She's

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Speaker 1: My decision is divorce. And there's like divorce hella juicy updates.

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Speaker 1: But so far, what's your vibe that you're getting from

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I I'm wondering, like if she because in

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Speaker 2: other scenarios that we've had, like open relationships brought up,

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Speaker 2: see if I can get into the idea of it. Yea.

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Speaker 2: The vibe I'm getting is she's like, I don't like

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Speaker 1: Like how strict she like this feels like a like

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Speaker 1: Hella angry and I don't know if creating these rules

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my question is, uh, what about just leaving because

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Speaker 2: I feel like you're entitled to do.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, she's totally ented, but you know, I guess

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Speaker 1: so she wants to make it work for her kids

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Speaker 1: is high to a degree where it's like, I don't

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Speaker 1: know if you want to be married to this dude. Also,

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Speaker 3: Do you want tongue gone Rhea. No, you're not a.

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Speaker 1: Collo No, tongue GONERIEA is the worst gonohea very much.

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Speaker 1: Don't know from experience. Again, this is Sam's friend goes

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Speaker 1: I've had multiple different kinds of gone rhea, and I

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Speaker 3: I wasn't even thinking that. But great point.

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Speaker 1: I do not have gone Riel. Yeah, ladies, there's my pick.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't have gone Rihea, not even the tongue.

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Speaker 1: All right, so relevant comments. This just sounds like revenge,

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Speaker 1: All right, Yeah, so this is what So the commentary

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Speaker 1: I forgave him. I found sexting, and he blamed it

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Speaker 1: Knowing him, I know he will not decide it. I

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Speaker 3: So real quick.

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Speaker 2: which is very easy for him to break. It sounds

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Speaker 2: like knowing his stupid idiocrisy. Then he breaks it and

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Speaker 1: Yeah right, But is it the gotcha moment? Like I

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Speaker 3: I agree, but it wasn't, Opie says, is.

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Speaker 1: Like, hey, you didn't make me soun Yeah, where is

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Speaker 1: it in the contract?

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Speaker 2: I don't see it anywhere? Love each other forever, babe.

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Speaker 2: I can love so many people. I've got so much

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Speaker 1: Baby, I'm loving you when sick diess in health, and

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Speaker 1: you know what makes me really healthy? Get that libido

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Speaker 1: healthy beings, Suvie. That's right, all right. So someone else

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Speaker 1: said another commentor said, just divorce, don't do this open

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Speaker 1: open marriage I am already checked out. I am. I

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Speaker 1: am just giving him a choice so that later he

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Speaker 1: deprived him of sex. He was literally crying and hyperventilating

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Speaker 1: when I brought up the divorce first. He wanted me

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Speaker 1: to give him another chance. I gave him under my conditions.

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Speaker 1: He said he will do anything I asked for. Okay,

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Speaker 1: and there is a big, fat, juicy update. Bye, it

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Speaker 1: sounds like what it sounds like. It sounds like he

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Speaker 1: Cheating makes the relationship stronger.

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Speaker 2: Maybe maybe an altered version of what that person. I

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Speaker 1: I didn't cheat for me. I cheated for us.

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Speaker 1: Wow, that one guy the Reddit comments said it'll make

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Speaker 3: So I just had to do it for the sake

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Speaker 2: I read this post by a seasoned relationship experts.

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Speaker 1: He belongs song thirty two ninety seven.

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Speaker 3: Look at his post.

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Speaker 2: Baby's just spitting facts left and right, just dropping gems.

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Speaker 1: He's the opera of our generation.

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Speaker 2: Except he just his medium is just Reddit comments, Reddit comments.

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Speaker 1: Babe, babe, babe, baby, you don't understand. He's not just

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Speaker 1: He's one hundred thousand karma bro.

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Speaker 2: I can also see even more now why Op, I mean,

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Speaker 2: But it's like she was giving this guy a chance,

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Speaker 1: because I fucking hope that. Yeah, let us own in

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Speaker 1: I am just rambling. I am a mess right now.

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Speaker 3: Oh man, you're scaring me. I know.

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Speaker 2: I have like a little theory of what's going to happen,

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Speaker 1: What's your theory, what's your theory? Tell it? Tell it?

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Speaker 2: That she tries to get back together with him. Oh God,

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Speaker 2: I don't know why, but every sneaking suspicion. I'm I'm

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Speaker 1: Like maybe that's true. Maybe maybe you know, like.

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Speaker 3: I don't fucking know, but maybe maybe maybe it's.

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Speaker 2: The I don't want to be close minded. Maybe it's

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Speaker 1: Jada Picketts. Oh man, she's doing my boy Will bad.

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Speaker 1: It's a sad dude. I feel I feel so bad.

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Speaker 1: His book makes her look like he's trying to be

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Speaker 1: It's great. It's autobiography. It's great, It's really solid. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so let's get into this update. Okay. I discovered my

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Speaker 1: he did what all cheaters do, deny manipulate in gaslight.

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Speaker 1: He moved out of our house and is living with

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Speaker 1: his parents. He's been calling NonStop. His last message, he

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Speaker 1: told me he broke up with his ap. What is it?

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Speaker 1: His associate poun.

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Speaker 2: Tang associate, pussy associate pussy producer Riley? Can you adulterous

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Speaker 2: poop poop ass partner? I like guessing the more than knowing.

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Speaker 1: The actual thing. Artsy penis acrobatic.

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Speaker 3: Well that doesn't make sense.

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Speaker 1: I feel like it's like adultery partner.

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Speaker 2: Oh that yeah, yeah, that sounds yeah. A fair partner,

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Speaker 2: A fair partner, Okay, cool, a fair partner. But honestly,

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Speaker 2: what is the point now? His mother called and said

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Speaker 2: she was sorry and asked if there is a way

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Speaker 2: I can forgive him and try to work things out.

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Speaker 2: I told her absolutely not. I already gave him a

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Speaker 2: chance and he blew it. She was upset but didn't

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Speaker 2: push the matter. The kids are staying with my mom

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Speaker 2: and stepdad. I've been in contact with my lawyer. I

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Speaker 2: did cry the first day when he moved out, but

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Speaker 2: haven't cried since. I went to the mall, got some

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Speaker 2: quality makeup, went to the gym, went to the library

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Speaker 2: to read in peace.

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Speaker 1: I did make an appointment with my therapist, probably a

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Speaker 1: good idea, but mostly I have been binge watching shows

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Speaker 1: like Criminal Minds, Law and Order. I don't know why

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Speaker 1: I should feel sad, but I don't feel sad at all.

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Speaker 1: Can someone explain this to me? I mean, what it

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Speaker 1: sounds like is like maybe she just finally made the

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Speaker 1: right decision, and like there's a weight, like an emotional

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Speaker 1: weight lifted off of her.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I think that's what she's probably so used to going

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Speaker 2: through the motions of the relationship. She's like, oh, I've

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Speaker 2: been in this thing seven seven years ago, right, so

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Speaker 2: they've been at least yeah, so she was pregnant seven years.

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Speaker 1: Ago, So yeah, pregnant seven years ago.

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Speaker 2: They've been in a relationship for a very long time.

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Speaker 2: And she's probably like, I'm ending this giant chapter. Shouldn't

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Speaker 2: it be bad? But in actuality, it sounds like she's

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Speaker 2: literally starting her new life in a positive way.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think it seems like it's like, it

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Speaker 1: seems like it's the right thing. It seems like it's

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Speaker 1: the right thing. So op, like, I'm happy that it's

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Speaker 1: working out.

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Speaker 3: And I guess the question is what was her ending question?

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Speaker 1: Again?

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Speaker 3: Oh, we kind of answered that.

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Speaker 1: I guess, well, her ending question is can someone explain

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Speaker 1: this to me? Like, well, why she's not feeling sad?

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Speaker 1: I would love to know the comments like why do

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Speaker 1: you think she's not feeling sad? And also how would

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Speaker 1: you feel in this situation where you caught your significant

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Speaker 1: other cheating and then decided to divorce them? And also

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Speaker 1: what have you done if when you caught your partner cheater?

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Speaker 1: I would love to hear in the comments below. I

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Speaker 1: caught my ex girlfriend cheating. I just like broke up

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Speaker 1: with her instantly. I feel like that's just like bam

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Speaker 1: strong move. I didn't know initially though, I was so innocent.

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Speaker 1: She's like I've told this before, but she's like had

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Speaker 1: a bunch of Hickey's on her neck. So my first

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Speaker 1: girlfriend ever, and I'm like, oh, like, what are those

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Speaker 1: you used to?

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 1: Oh, like Spider bites, like really bad spider bites, and

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, okay, yeah, I guess spiders can do that.

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Speaker 1: They have giant mouths the size of quarters. Giant mouths.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, you know they're they're blood sucking, right, so

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Speaker 1: they like suck a lot. Yeah, yeah, I was so innocent.

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Speaker 1: But John, before we wrap up this episode, I have

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Speaker 1: a am I the asshole? Question for you in my

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Speaker 1: own life, John, I have a story from my own

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Speaker 1: life that I need to ask you if am I

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Speaker 1: the asshole? Or should I maybe actually up with the

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Speaker 1: title am I the asshole? For not driving my date

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Speaker 1: home because the time to get back was one minute

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Speaker 1: more than I said I was okay with.

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Speaker 2: We'll get into that brand Afry spank you with this one,

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Speaker 2: all right, let's go