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Speaker 1: or someone could be echo dating you. Gross. Oh what

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Speaker 1: does that mean? Well, I'm about to tell you because

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Speaker 1: summer is over, and that means that people are frantically

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Speaker 2: Are we cuffing?

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Speaker 1: And that's why a list is going viral of the

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Speaker 1: new dating terms for the season. Will go over right now,

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Speaker 1: so you can know exactly what kind of ridiculous behavior

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Speaker 1: What are the new dating terms that are out there?

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Speaker 1: The first one is Shrek. You haven't heard of what

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Speaker 1: that is. That's when you date outside of your type

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Speaker 1: with a Shrek type person, goofy, big hearted, not exactly

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Speaker 2: Oh well, so you're dating for personality not looks. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so they're calling you're dating an ugly person for their personality.

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Speaker 1: Yes, she's hoping that they won't leave you, maybe because

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Speaker 1: they'll have less options. I don't know, but you could

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Speaker 1: be getting shreked. In other words, somebody thinks that you're

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Speaker 2: I guess that's a good thing for some people.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, if you're Shrek, yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 2: For you, you win.

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Speaker 3: But that also means people think that you're like not

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but who cares. If you're the Shrek and you're

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Speaker 1: that are out in case you're in that world. And

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Speaker 1: I don't have to deal with all of this crazy behavior.

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Speaker 1: Bank seeing what is that bankxing? Is when someone vanishes

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Speaker 2: So that's not ghosting.

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Speaker 1: Banksing different than ghosting, I think so, because you're in

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Speaker 1: that abandonment, but it bank seeing because just like art,

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Speaker 3: Oh, that literally is abandonment. You're abandoning solid relationship. Who's

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Speaker 2: Do you know how terrible that is? Like? Who are you?

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Speaker 2: That's just leaving somebody is horrible to do that. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but that it has a term means it's happening often enough.

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Speaker 2: It's crazy out of here.

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Speaker 1: Now you have a good name for it. When you

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Speaker 1: you're just like, well, they're an artist, don't. This is

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Speaker 1: It really is ridiculous to do that to people. I've

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Speaker 2: Oh no, text message no, nothing.

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Speaker 1: No. And as much as when those relationships were ending,

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Speaker 2: Did oh no, Like, hey, man, I'm glad that you

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Speaker 1: Reverse catfishing Okay. That's when people post their least flattering

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Speaker 2: It's this whole concept too, Like you meet somebody when

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Speaker 3: But now you don't pick your worst absolutely ugliest pictures,

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Speaker 3: you do a Victoria, Well, honestly, I was just curious

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Speaker 2: So it didn't help. Now I didn't think it would.

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Speaker 1: NATO dating. Excuse me, NATO dating. It's an acronym for

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Speaker 1: not attached to an outcome oh yikes, an approach to

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Speaker 1: So you're just dating with no promises of anything else happening.

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Speaker 2: While in theory, I think this NATO dating sounds wonderful,

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Speaker 3: Like that is no.

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Speaker 1: Some people go into dating with like a specific goal

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Speaker 3: So you're you're looking for a guy to marry.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just trying to get pregnant by the third date.

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Speaker 2: Listen, I'm not going to be upset. What do we

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Speaker 1: That's actually a good term. Part that probably is what

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Speaker 3: I feel like all of these terms are just they

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Speaker 3: this is just go No. Orbiting is not ghosting. You're

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Speaker 2: Well, who said he ghosted you?

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Speaker 3: At the front of the orbiting that's what they're.

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Speaker 1: Still around, and you can still kind of see that

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 1: People leave little flirty likes on your stories or old

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Speaker 2: How does that boost their ego?

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Speaker 1: I have no idea. Maybe because they stop talking to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, okay, okay, yeah d And you're like, okay,

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Speaker 3: Is it like a little bit like manipulative?

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Speaker 2: No, that's called flirting, But if you want to call

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Speaker 1: Or it is just to know that they're thinking about

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Speaker 1: you now because they saw the like they can't get

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Speaker 1: You keep poking them. Yeah. Ghost Lighting is another new

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Speaker 1: when someone disappears and then reappears later pretending like nothing happened,

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Speaker 1: talking to them. That's real, what are we talking about?

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Speaker 1: I didn't go anywhere. You stop talking to me now.

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure I sent you seventeen messages you didn't reply. Nope,

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Speaker 1: huh uh didn't happen. That's ghost lighting.

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Speaker 2: Oh man, this one would send me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. And then there's echo dating, when somebody mirrors your hobbies,

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Speaker 2: Well. It feels a little crazy actually, But.

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Speaker 1: I mean if you really there are all the people

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Speaker 2: I know suck.

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Speaker 1: I used to know this girl and she was dating

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Speaker 1: And she went from like dark clothes, dark makeup around

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Speaker 1: You know, who are you?

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Speaker 3: Oh no,