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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 2: Hey, everybody, welcome to the Almost Famous Podcast. I'm not Ben,

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Speaker 2: I'm not Ashley. I'm mister Ashley, Eye and Eddie coming

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Speaker 2: to you live from Ashley's glamor room in Ashley's house.

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Speaker 3: And Ashley well, actually you guys. Hey, we're here with

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Speaker 3: not just Ben but his beautiful and very pregnant wife, Jess.

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Speaker 3: You guys. Dawson has started to call it Mama's house.

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Speaker 3: He goes, are we gonna go back home to Mama's house?

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Speaker 3: And then it's m Yum's house, which is why my mom, Well,

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Speaker 3: it's actually Niam Niam Papa's house. I mean, for some reason,

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Speaker 3: he just lets you out of this.

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Speaker 4: He's just a three year old feminist.

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Speaker 2: He cares about, you know, power, empowering the females in

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Speaker 2: his life.

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Speaker 4: That's all. So it's your house, it's grandma's house.

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Speaker 3: That is so funny, so cute.

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Speaker 4: It's a very cute boy guys.

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Speaker 2: You guys, Yeah, Ben, it's gonna take till about Well,

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Speaker 2: it's different because you guys are having as I can't

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Speaker 2: tell because now I can rough house with Dawson, you know,

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Speaker 2: once he turned two, it really changed for me. Of course,

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Speaker 2: I always love Dawson, but now it's a whole different ballgame.

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Speaker 2: I remember one time I was talking to Ari and

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Speaker 2: Ari said that he wished he could fast forward his

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Speaker 2: kids till like two or three, because that's when it

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Speaker 2: really started to he bonded with them in a different way.

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Speaker 4: And then I was like, Oh, that's interesting, And now

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Speaker 4: I think of the same thing.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I've had enough friends have babies that say the

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Speaker 5: same thing. Like, I don't have this wild expectation like

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Speaker 5: I think I'm what I expect out of myself is

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Speaker 5: that I'm going to have like almost like a primal

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Speaker 5: like protection instinct that I'm going to be on edge

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Speaker 5: just because that's who I am. But there'll be a

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Speaker 5: moment at some point where I'm like, oh, she's got me.

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Speaker 5: But like, I don't expect that right away. I'm expecting

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Speaker 5: to just be like a good you know, helper, support system,

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Speaker 5: diaper cleaner, swaddler at first, and then at some point,

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Speaker 5: like if if she's like ten, and I'm like, yeah,

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Speaker 5: I don't I don't have anything any connection.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I like you. Yeah, that's the one thing

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Speaker 3: that we've been so honest about is like, and I

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Speaker 3: don't actually think it's going to apply to you guys,

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Speaker 3: But we just didn't feel like when the baby came

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Speaker 3: out of my body like any sort of like heavenly moment.

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Speaker 3: We like took a while to it. It's not a while,

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Speaker 3: like a day.

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Speaker 4: I think it was just instant.

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Speaker 2: So many people told us like, oh my god, the

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Speaker 2: first time you lay eyes on your child, like your

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Speaker 2: life changes in that moment. And I remember looking at

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Speaker 2: Dawson and it was crazy. But it's just such a

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Speaker 2: crazy moment that you guys are about to experience. But like,

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Speaker 2: you know, the doctors are in the room and you know,

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Speaker 2: we're making sure you're gonna make sure that Jess is

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Speaker 2: okay and the baby's crying, and then they have to

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Speaker 2: take the baby and do all this stuff and it's

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Speaker 2: just like it's kind of chaotic, you know, there's no

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Speaker 2: sense of calmness and really soaking in and then it,

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Speaker 2: you know, in a few minutes, once everybody's settled down

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Speaker 2: and okay, you know you have time to really you know, you.

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Speaker 4: Swaddle the baby and hold them her.

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Speaker 2: And that's really nice, but it's just you know, once

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Speaker 2: like it you know what's gonna hit you.

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Speaker 4: It's the first time the baby smiles at you. That's

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Speaker 4: when it's gonna really hit you.

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Speaker 2: The first time, like, well she looks at you and smiles.

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Speaker 2: It takes a few months, that's what I mean. Though,

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Speaker 2: it takes a few months.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 2: The first few months it's just you're just keeping this

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Speaker 2: thing alive and just so adorable and so wonderful and

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Speaker 2: cuddling great. But it's really like once the baby starts,

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Speaker 2: once she starts looking at you and then she smiles,

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Speaker 2: that's when you're gonna be like, okay, ah.

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Speaker 3: Right, Jessa is gonna feel it instantly, though, like I

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Speaker 3: know this, like she said that sheels it. I never

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Speaker 3: felt connected to it in my body. And she's like

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Speaker 3: telling me, She's like, I don't even think I can

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Speaker 3: wait twenty four hours for like me to be fully dilated.

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Speaker 3: I just need to meet her right now.

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Speaker 6: So SAMs about meeting her.

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Speaker 4: That's why.

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Speaker 6: Is like I've literally had dreams about like giving birth

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Speaker 6: and holding her, and then I wake up and she's

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Speaker 6: I'm so excited to meet her. But I also like

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Speaker 6: now that I know when how soon we are to

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Speaker 6: having her. I have this mental block of like actually imagining.

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Speaker 6: I'm sure most women have this, but like I can't

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Speaker 6: imagine pushing a baby out of my body, like I

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Speaker 6: actually it's like a complete block.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I couldn't conceptualize that. So I was like,

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Speaker 3: can I please have a sea section? I was like,

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Speaker 3: for some reason, I can conceptualize a surgery, but I

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Speaker 3: don't know how this is going to slide out of

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Speaker 3: my body and very glad I didn't have a sea

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Speaker 3: section now, And I was like, I've told you not

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Speaker 3: scared this scept for the second birth. If lucky, it's

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Speaker 3: not scary.

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Speaker 2: You're you.

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Speaker 6: Texting me has made me feel so much better because

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Speaker 6: I'm like, that's so sweety, I can do this. Like

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Speaker 6: it's just I feel like a lot of people don't

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Speaker 6: tell you exactly what happens and like exactly what to expect,

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Speaker 6: and the unknown is what makes it so scary.

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Speaker 3: I think, yes, the first it's so unknown and so scary,

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Speaker 3: but it's like it's really, in today's modern medical age,

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Speaker 3: it doesn't have to be. It's really really doesn't have

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Speaker 3: to be scary. It's crazy, Like I'm telling you I

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Speaker 3: feared it so much my whole life. And then the

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Speaker 3: second time, I acted as if I was going in

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Speaker 3: for like a routine, like what the heck? Like I

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Speaker 3: was like going for like idental cleaning, and Jared, He's like,

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Speaker 3: the second time, I could have done that. It looks

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Speaker 3: so you made that look so easy. I could have

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Speaker 2: Listen, I am a man, and I am the weaker

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Speaker 2: gender here. I have I do not I There's no

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Speaker 2: two ways about that. Like I don't think I could

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Speaker 2: do pregnancy. I mean, of course I could do it,

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Speaker 2: but it looks terrible, no offense. I mean, you guys

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Speaker 2: are always sick. It just takes such a toll on

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Speaker 2: your body. Like I look at my mother and I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 2: thank you for everything you've done for me, even not

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Speaker 2: even just raising me, but carrying me in your womb

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Speaker 3: I mean it changing two ounce body out of.

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Speaker 2: And she had no EPI dural, the poor thing. I

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Speaker 2: can't believe she's alive. But but yeah, the second time,

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Speaker 2: I felt very comfortable telling Ashley this because it was

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Speaker 2: not the dorm arm got so lucky, so lucky, but

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Speaker 2: I mean Ashley got induced.

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Speaker 4: We went in it was like a doctor's appointment.

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Speaker 2: They had her all set up and then they started

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Speaker 2: giving you the potassium potossum.

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Speaker 2: And then they were like, do you want the epidural

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Speaker 2: going in for the epi dural. And then you gave birth.

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Speaker 2: And then it was like two thirty in the afternoon

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Speaker 2: and you were walking around that night, and so of

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Speaker 2: course I went up to as that. I was like, Ashley,

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Speaker 2: what you've done is incredible, wonderful, carrying this child amazing.

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Speaker 2: But at the same time, I'm pretty sure my root

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Speaker 4: Far worse than this.

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Speaker 3: Okay. Also, this was induction, so it was like a

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Speaker 3: It's definitely not the norm, but you what was I

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Speaker 3: with pushing because pushing takes so much energy and I

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Speaker 3: like I was. I got fourteen hours of fasting, which

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Speaker 3: so physical as labor, you're like, oh crap, I need

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I have heard that, like make sure that we

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Speaker 6: have I have like something to eat before I leave

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Speaker 6: the house, and like, I guess they'll give me gatorade

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Speaker 6: and stuff there. One of my girlfriends just gave birth

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Speaker 6: there and at the hospital we're going to and said,

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Speaker 6: they like, will give you popsicles. Yeah, popsicles helps you

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Speaker 6: want so that'll help.

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Speaker 3: Jared's hair part.

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Speaker 2: Ben, Ben will have some of the popsicles, give you

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Speaker 2: so many fantastic.

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Speaker 3: It's going to be the best support system during the labor.

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Speaker 3: Jared was great, he was he you were great.

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Speaker 3: The second time, he just acted as if like nothing

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Speaker 4: Nothing happened.

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Speaker 3: He was like just like whatever.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it was just I was there, I was

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Speaker 6: In the obstacle, I know for fact that that is

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Speaker 3: Well, I thought I thought Jared was going to pass

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Speaker 4: There's that risk, yeah about that, you know.

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Speaker 5: I I have been very calm for nine months with

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Speaker 5: like all the life change. Like I've been kind of

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Speaker 5: told her yesterday, I think as soon as we step

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Speaker 5: back because it just doesn't seem appropriate right now, is

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Speaker 5: pretty on edge. I could see myself passing out, but

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Speaker 3: So you're saying you're not gonna look, and that is

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Speaker 3: exactly what we would advise. Jared had a bird's eye view,

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Speaker 2: It doesn't matter. It's so stupid. They didn't even put

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Speaker 2: a towel on Ashley or any type of blanket until

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Speaker 2: we asked, you'll.

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Speaker 3: I didn't want to. I didn't want to see myself.

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Speaker 2: To be honest, this is not a movie. It's just

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Speaker 2: everything is right there. You're going unless you actively try

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Speaker 2: not to look, you're gonna see everything. Yeah, I mean

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Speaker 2: I just saw it.

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Speaker 5: That's maybe where like I'll start to get we's queasy.

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Speaker 5: But then we both decided I want to cut the

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Speaker 5: umbilical cord. My dad did it for me, and uh,

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Speaker 5: I don't know it just like it is something I

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Speaker 5: remember him telling me, and I'm like, that's pretty cool. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: I don't necessarily want to like there isn't like this like,

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Speaker 5: oh I cannot wait to be the one that cuts that. Like,

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Speaker 2: Mentally, you'll be fine, okay, because the doctors, everybody's just

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Speaker 4: Okay. Done. It's just like, oh wow, that was that

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Speaker 3: This is so much fun. You guys you'll love telling

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Speaker 6: I've kind of been the same way, like you'll be

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: But I'm watching like an online labor and delivery video

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Speaker 3: Jared never saw the placenta, right or did you? And

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Speaker 4: I can't remember.

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Speaker 2: It's all just like a blur, honestly, because it all

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Speaker 3: Or not, Dared, you would have known. It looks like

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Speaker 4: Then probably not.

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Speaker 6: No, he said, I didn't see that.

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Speaker 4: I don't remember it. The Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I mean it's still weird to me, and maybe at

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Speaker 5: Like that's still a weird feeling of like we're days away,

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Speaker 5: my parents have been uh, you know, I think it's

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Speaker 5: the weirdest thing for me right now. I just got

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Speaker 4: Jared. I don't know if you ever experienced this, but

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Speaker 5: You know, our little girl is big, fully developed, moving

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Speaker 4: And I and last night was the.

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Speaker 5: First time where I thought, oh, we're going to the hospital,

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Speaker 5: like this is like Jess was like win seeing, couldn't

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Speaker 5: this is the moment, right She's like no, she was

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Speaker 4: For that, like that's a big deal.

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Speaker 5: But you have a human like using your stomach as

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Speaker 5: a punching bag right now, Like how is that?

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Speaker 4: Just?

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Speaker 4: Like how is that okay?

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Speaker 5: Like you have something inside of you directly making contact

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Speaker 6: Or not going to sleep, No, not going or not

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Speaker 2: I know the human body is weird. I mean, it's

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Speaker 2: I mean, not to be graphic, but like that punching

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Speaker 4: As not a big girl.

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Speaker 3: Well I've thought about that too, because you were telling

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Speaker 6: My doctor was like it could take twenty four to

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Speaker 6: and I'm like, I don't have that kind of time.

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Speaker 6: Like when you're in the hospital, I'm going to be like,

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Speaker 6: let's just do this thing, like I don't really care

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, my biggest advice would be go to

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Speaker 2: I mean, just bring I mean you'll be uncomfortable, but

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Speaker 4: Don't do it.

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Speaker 2: Download efforts on your computer do something.

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Speaker 3: People are like, oh, I want to stay in the

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Speaker 3: like no, because the thing is you can't see or

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Speaker 4: You want to be back home.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: The nice thing is that once the baby's born, the

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Speaker 2: so you can get some sleep because obviously once you're

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Speaker 3: Except for they do like to come in every other hour.

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Speaker 3: Do you need to pee? We're gonna do this. We're

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Speaker 4: You don't really get a do they have medicine for

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Speaker 3: What is crazy is that after birth, like you're only

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Speaker 6: My body is about to like double and triple and

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Speaker 4: What are some things that you're thinking about as we approach.

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Speaker 3: This, Yeah, ask me like the most graphic things that

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Speaker 5: On Actually, since the birth of Dawson has wanted somebody

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Speaker 5: just to ask her publicly, like, hey, did you poop

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Speaker 5: like she's desiring to, Okay, well.

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Speaker 3: Did you No neither, but neither of them did you

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Speaker 3: both times. I did not, and I'm pretty sure Jared

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Speaker 4: No, I mean it would have been fine. You're pushing.

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Speaker 2: I mean in that moment when you're pushing it, poop

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Speaker 3: I remember that I went like within the twelve hours

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Speaker 3: If I had gone like skipped to day like that

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Speaker 6: Stern Law told me to start because they give you

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Speaker 6: like which also makes me a little nervous.

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Speaker 3: It also makes you nervous, and that I could just

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Speaker 3: slide out, Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 4: Another thing.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if this matters to you at all, Jess,

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Speaker 2: you're just gonna lose so much like your stomach's gonna.

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Speaker 3: Jared, you're talking about me personally, You're not.

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Speaker 5: I don't know, No, I want to know this, Like

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Speaker 5: is that a thing we talked about the other day?

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Speaker 4: Heard? I like, is does it like shrink right away?

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Speaker 4: I mean I remember, like it's it's.

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Speaker 3: Going to be, you know, enlarged for a while. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Jared's just making it's Jared just trying to make you

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Speaker 3: it took like three or four months for me to

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Speaker 5: I'm talking about like the stomach, Like, I mean what

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Speaker 5: I imagine that stomach right.

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Speaker 4: Now is hard. It is like big.

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Speaker 5: There's like that, Like the weight is fine, but like

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Speaker 4: That's wow.

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Speaker 3: No, you'll look she'll look a little pregnant. She won't

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Speaker 3: look nine months anymore. I won't look like that, but

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Speaker 3: she might be like, look seven months, six months, the

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Speaker 5: Here's the other thing that I think needs to be

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Speaker 5: said publicly, and I know Jared can back me on

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Speaker 5: this because you, Ashley kind of like hinted at it.

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Speaker 5: I think there's maybe an idea here where the husband

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Speaker 5: Hey there's going to be blood everywhere. Hey, that's going

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Speaker 5: to really row my husband off. That is not a

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Speaker 5: concern for us. Like I want to let you know

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Speaker 5: we're married to the two of you because we love

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Speaker 5: you and we're like thankful for you. You can do

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Speaker 5: whatever you want on that table, and I'm not going

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Speaker 5: to be at home being like, hey, we can't like

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Speaker 5: touch tonight, Like that was really gross, Like that's not

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Speaker 5: a thought. That's not going to be a thing I'm

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Speaker 5: going to if you did all that. I think Jared

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Speaker 5: and I both would say, yeah, it would be more

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Speaker 5: almost like goodness, that's crazy, but like our attractiveness to

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Speaker 5: you does not fade because of that moment.

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Speaker 3: I was petrified of this the first time.

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Speaker 4: I know you were, But it's not a thing.

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Speaker 2: It's not, at least with us like maybe it is

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Speaker 2: with some I'm I'm way more affected by walking into

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Speaker 2: the bathroom.

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Speaker 4: After you after.

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Speaker 2: Than anything I've seen in the delivery rooms.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so that's just like that's like a I think

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Speaker 5: I'm just gonna be amazed and probably like if I

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Speaker 5: It's the fact that I'm like seeing it and being

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Speaker 5: like this is insane, Like I don't know how to

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Speaker 5: anything like this. I've never seen anything open up to

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00:20:17,600 --> 00:20:21,000
Speaker 5: be able to push out a human and like you

441
00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:24,400
Speaker 5: still be alive, Like that's that's crazy.

442
00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:26,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree.

443
00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:28,399
Speaker 6: One of the things that we've been talking about a

444
00:20:28,400 --> 00:20:31,760
Speaker 6: lot recently, like in the past two days, is like

445
00:20:31,800 --> 00:20:34,359
Speaker 6: we've kind of been getting not like sad, but like

446
00:20:34,480 --> 00:20:37,280
Speaker 6: a little sad about our life changing, just like the

447
00:20:37,359 --> 00:20:41,720
Speaker 6: two of us, because we like love our evenings together

448
00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:45,920
Speaker 6: and like, you know, the freedom, and we're very realistic

449
00:20:46,000 --> 00:20:49,040
Speaker 6: that's going to change. But do you guys have any

450
00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:53,359
Speaker 6: like tips for like y'all as a couple.

451
00:20:54,280 --> 00:21:00,359
Speaker 2: So I think what you guys will do with one

452
00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:03,840
Speaker 2: you can you can dictate your schedule. I mean, it's

453
00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:09,399
Speaker 2: just more it's it's weird to your entire life and

454
00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:13,000
Speaker 2: schedule revolves around your kid now. But that's not a

455
00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:16,680
Speaker 2: bad thing, you know, so like if but you can

456
00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:19,880
Speaker 2: also change that schedule. Like you guys love your evenings together, right,

457
00:21:20,480 --> 00:21:23,359
Speaker 2: so I mean obviously not in the first couple of

458
00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:25,800
Speaker 2: months because you're just sleeping when you can, but like

459
00:21:25,840 --> 00:21:28,240
Speaker 2: once you know, she starts getting into a rhythm, like

460
00:21:28,280 --> 00:21:30,600
Speaker 2: you can put her down at seven or eight. If

461
00:21:30,600 --> 00:21:32,680
Speaker 2: you guys like, well, we want to have our night

462
00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:34,800
Speaker 2: time together and then we'll wake up early in the morning.

463
00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:36,120
Speaker 4: We can you know, take care of her.

464
00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:39,120
Speaker 3: Let me interject here. What they have going for them

465
00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:41,920
Speaker 3: that we don't is they're on the same sleep schedule,

466
00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:44,840
Speaker 3: like they like to both wake up at six am.

467
00:21:45,359 --> 00:21:49,040
Speaker 3: And and Jared and I that's our biggest problem is

468
00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:51,480
Speaker 3: that he is a morning person and he even likes

469
00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:53,720
Speaker 3: to have his mornings to himself, Like I would never

470
00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:56,760
Speaker 3: want to have quality time in the morning gross and

471
00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:59,480
Speaker 3: I like to stay like I ideally like to stay

472
00:21:59,520 --> 00:22:03,280
Speaker 3: up to like one am, and he will he's asleep

473
00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:07,160
Speaker 3: by eleven thirty max. But like definitely like out of

474
00:22:07,240 --> 00:22:11,080
Speaker 3: any sort of social range at ten thirty. So, like,

475
00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:13,720
Speaker 3: and our kids go to bed late, so they're more

476
00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:14,640
Speaker 3: on my schedule.

477
00:22:14,720 --> 00:22:16,960
Speaker 2: Dawson doesn't go to Dawson does not go to bed.

478
00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:18,959
Speaker 2: We don't shut the door till probably ten o'clock.

479
00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:22,480
Speaker 3: I know that's crazy. I know that's so crazy. But

480
00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:25,480
Speaker 3: he sleeps till nine thirty, which is ideally when I

481
00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:30,159
Speaker 3: like to sleep till. And then we're having issues because

482
00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:33,600
Speaker 3: Hayden is a wacko and he like will not sleep.

483
00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:36,960
Speaker 3: He like will fall asleep at eleven and then he

484
00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:40,120
Speaker 3: wakes up at seven thirty. So it's just like we're

485
00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:42,679
Speaker 3: just having a really hard time right now. But you

486
00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:45,840
Speaker 3: guys do have the benefit of being on each other's

487
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,639
Speaker 3: sleep cycle and then also getting your kid on that.

488
00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:52,719
Speaker 2: My biggest advice would be just also try to always

489
00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:56,320
Speaker 2: remember this is temporary. It's all temporary, you know, like

490
00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:59,360
Speaker 2: when you get home and and and she's not sleeping,

491
00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:01,440
Speaker 2: I'll never forget the first moment we brought Hayden back

492
00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:04,720
Speaker 2: home and you know, with our second kids, so we're

493
00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:05,840
Speaker 2: diving back into this year.

494
00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:07,159
Speaker 3: It was like put them back in the belly.

495
00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:09,679
Speaker 4: I was like, I did not say that, but it was.

496
00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:13,920
Speaker 2: He was up from eleven o'clock at night till six

497
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:16,679
Speaker 2: in the morning. He was just up and neither one

498
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:18,159
Speaker 2: of us got a wink of sleep, and it was like,

499
00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:21,399
Speaker 2: I cannot believe we're doing this again. And it was

500
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:23,480
Speaker 2: just like that moment, You're like, oh my god, what

501
00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:26,320
Speaker 2: did we do? But then you know, a few days

502
00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:28,000
Speaker 2: go by, and then he starts sleeping two hours and

503
00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:29,639
Speaker 2: so on and so forth, and then now he's not

504
00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:31,600
Speaker 2: sleeping that well, but we still can figure out a

505
00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:33,480
Speaker 2: schedule where we get enough sleep where we can function

506
00:23:33,560 --> 00:23:34,160
Speaker 2: throughout the day.

507
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:36,640
Speaker 3: And then I would look at doss have a time

508
00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:38,200
Speaker 3: for quality time except for baby.

509
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 4: I mean, but that's the biggest you know, but we did.

510
00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:43,360
Speaker 3: We're doing three dates this week, but you guys are

511
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:46,160
Speaker 3: fine with one kid group dates and one one on one.

512
00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:48,480
Speaker 2: I went, I wasn't stressed about that. I would just

513
00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:51,480
Speaker 2: try to always remember, like whatever's happening right now is temporary,

514
00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:54,080
Speaker 2: so yes, like there might be a a for the

515
00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 2: next few months where it's just you guys are adjusting

516
00:23:56,520 --> 00:23:58,640
Speaker 2: to the schedule and trying to figure out, Okay, well

517
00:23:59,119 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 2: you know, if if she's not if she's not sleeping

518
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:03,800
Speaker 2: till like I'll take the first one, you take the

519
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:06,160
Speaker 2: second one. So you guys might like eight o'clock comes

520
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:07,480
Speaker 2: and you want to go to bed, so you don't

521
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:10,520
Speaker 2: have your nights together, but like they'll come back, you know,

522
00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:14,000
Speaker 2: and then hopefully we're all on this earth for a

523
00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:16,600
Speaker 2: very long time and then you guys will have many, many,

524
00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:19,639
Speaker 2: many many more nights together, and then you'll never have

525
00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:22,720
Speaker 2: those nights. Like I look at Dawson at times, and

526
00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:25,080
Speaker 2: especially with Hayden the age he is, and then I'll

527
00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:28,240
Speaker 2: look at pictures of when Dawson was that age, and

528
00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:30,679
Speaker 2: as hard as it was, I would go back to

529
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:34,200
Speaker 2: it in an instant because it's just you know, it's Dawson.

530
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:36,399
Speaker 3: At that age, but you're enjoying him so much more

531
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:36,960
Speaker 3: at this age.

532
00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:42,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, but now, like, well, it's the it's it's the

533
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:43,840
Speaker 2: fear of just the kid getting older.

534
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:45,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's the fear of him getting older.

535
00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:47,119
Speaker 2: I'm like, damn, I wish he was younger, so I

536
00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:51,560
Speaker 2: could experience this again because it sucks.

537
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:53,680
Speaker 5: Well, and I think, I think there's some really good

538
00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 5: because we had this conversation last night. Jess and I

539
00:24:56,760 --> 00:25:01,000
Speaker 5: have such a good time together, Like our evenings when Waylan,

540
00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:02,800
Speaker 5: our dog, tells us, Hey, it's time for bed at

541
00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:05,320
Speaker 5: seven o'clock and we all go upstairs and we shower

542
00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 5: and get ready for bed, and we're all laying there

543
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:11,840
Speaker 5: and cuddling. It's like magical to us. We love those moments,

544
00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:15,879
Speaker 5: and we have loved those moments, and I think the soul,

545
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:18,840
Speaker 5: like the peace in this is two things. One is

546
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 5: taken from what Jared is saying, is like, don't wish

547
00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:23,679
Speaker 5: these times away, because at some point you'll wish you

548
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:26,119
Speaker 5: had them back. And so I think a mentality for

549
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:28,920
Speaker 5: us is like, yes, even if it seems hard, even

550
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:31,359
Speaker 5: if it seems like the worst case scenario, like enjoy

551
00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:35,800
Speaker 5: the moments we have. And the second is I personally

552
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 5: there might be some out there. This is not a

553
00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:41,800
Speaker 5: blanket statement, but when we talked last night, like, I

554
00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:47,480
Speaker 5: don't know any parents of children in our life who's like, goodness, gracious,

555
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:50,000
Speaker 5: life is worse with a kid, like life is worse,

556
00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 5: Like life might be harder, but life is worse. This sucks.

557
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:56,400
Speaker 5: This is the worst thing ever. I wish I never

558
00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:58,240
Speaker 5: would have done it. I don't know parents like that.

559
00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 5: And so there has to be some magic in this

560
00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 5: moment that we're about to enter into that will bring

561
00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:09,640
Speaker 5: a whole new chapter of enjoyment and like peace to us.

562
00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:13,040
Speaker 4: It's just the love, like you'll never love anything, like

563
00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:13,720
Speaker 4: you love your kid.

564
00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 3: Like we don't put Dawson in bed till nine thirty

565
00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:18,560
Speaker 3: because like we're having fun with him. We don't want

566
00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 3: him to go to bed.

567
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:23,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just like you guys, I know you love

568
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:25,879
Speaker 2: your dog, but like I'll give you an instant. So

569
00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:30,639
Speaker 2: yesterday Lois like jumped on Dawson. He was on the couch.

570
00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:33,560
Speaker 4: And I was like humping him. Yeah, she like sometimes

571
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:34,560
Speaker 4: tries to hump them.

572
00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:37,359
Speaker 2: And then so like Dawson kind of got away and

573
00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:40,960
Speaker 2: we were like Lois Lois and then Dawson walked away,

574
00:26:41,119 --> 00:26:43,520
Speaker 2: and then I was like Dawson okay, and he like

575
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:46,720
Speaker 2: he does this thing where he hides it because he's like, yeah,

576
00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:50,680
Speaker 2: I'm okay, but he he's like holding back tears and

577
00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:54,359
Speaker 2: seeing Dawson hold back tears and trying to like fake

578
00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:58,200
Speaker 2: smile to me. In that moment, I could have kicked

579
00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:01,359
Speaker 2: Lows out of the house. I could have I've been like, Lois,

580
00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 2: I never want to see you again. I I because

581
00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 2: it's just like it's not I love Lois, but it's

582
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:09,440
Speaker 2: just the way that I feel towards Dawson. The way

583
00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:13,600
Speaker 2: that you feel towards your daughter is that if anything

584
00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:14,600
Speaker 2: like it's just.

585
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:18,560
Speaker 4: It's just that you're about to cry. No, it's not

586
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 4: even cry.

587
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 2: I'm about to get angry thinking about like anybody trying

588
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:26,359
Speaker 2: to mess with Dawson or like hurt Dawson. I would

589
00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 2: spend the rest of my life in jail and enjoy

590
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:31,320
Speaker 2: every minute of it if I was able to get

591
00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 2: revenge against that person.

592
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:35,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, so he feels this way towards Hayden too, But

593
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:37,679
Speaker 3: it's just like so much different when you know someone

594
00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 3: so they have to develop personality and they speak to

595
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:43,680
Speaker 3: you and they say like I loved you every night

596
00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 3: and they hold your face and tell you sweet things.

597
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:46,200
Speaker 3: That's crazy.

598
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 2: That's why everybody's life gets better because it's just like

599
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 2: you love something so much, you're like, well, I never

600
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:53,760
Speaker 2: not want to feel this.

601
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:57,160
Speaker 4: This is it's just like I love it. I love

602
00:27:57,240 --> 00:27:57,880
Speaker 4: this thing.

603
00:27:58,280 --> 00:27:59,920
Speaker 3: Do you know what he did to me the other day?

604
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:03,919
Speaker 3: Jess would literally die when this day comes. So I'm

605
00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:05,600
Speaker 3: putting him to bed and like I give him like

606
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:08,119
Speaker 3: these affirmations before he goes to sleep, and then he

607
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:11,719
Speaker 3: touches my face with both hands and he goes, thank you, Mama,

608
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 3: and I go thank you for what he goes for

609
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:15,879
Speaker 3: being beautiful.

610
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 7: Oh it's crazy, see, but that it's different when a

611
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:26,880
Speaker 7: boy says yeah, like a little girl, she's gonna say

612
00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:29,400
Speaker 7: something like how handsome her daddy is, and that's what's

613
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:30,200
Speaker 7: gonna crush Ben.

614
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:33,159
Speaker 6: Like she's one day she's going to tell Ben that

615
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:35,240
Speaker 6: he like looks like a prince from a movie, and

616
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 6: like that will crush him.

617
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:40,240
Speaker 3: Arnie says that Jared looks like Prince Eric, so whenever

618
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:42,520
Speaker 3: she sees a Frince Eric, she goes, look uncle Jared.

619
00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 4: Yeah that's why Ben.

620
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:48,400
Speaker 2: I think you're your I mean, you're always going to

621
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:51,000
Speaker 2: be a great father, But I think the love like

622
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:53,160
Speaker 2: I always love Dawson, but I think you'll be obsessed

623
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 2: with your daughter much more quickly than I was obsessed

624
00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 2: with Dawson, even though I always loved him and was

625
00:28:58,040 --> 00:28:59,120
Speaker 2: always obsessed with him.

626
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:03,000
Speaker 4: Just because and and Hayden. Of course, well, we're talking

627
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:04,240
Speaker 4: about there first. That's why I saw.

628
00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 2: I'm just relating it to our first. Once they have

629
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:11,200
Speaker 2: a second, we'll talk about hated. But but yeah, because

630
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 2: it's just your little girl, like it's gonna be, it's different.

631
00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:16,000
Speaker 2: I do feel like there is a difference between having

632
00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 2: a son and a daughter because you're just it's gonna be.

633
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:21,400
Speaker 4: It's gonna be your little girl. That's and there's.

634
00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 2: I remember, Actually, I'll tell you a buddy of mine

635
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:25,959
Speaker 2: who has is a little bit older and he has

636
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 2: two grown kids, and I was like, what's the difference

637
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 2: between having a boy and a girl because he has

638
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:31,840
Speaker 2: one of each? And I said the best way he said,

639
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 2: the best way I can describe it is I always

640
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:38,480
Speaker 2: expect more from my son and my daughter can do

641
00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 2: no wrong.

642
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 4: And I was like, all.

643
00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:43,480
Speaker 2: Right, well that's a nice summarization right there.

644
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:47,680
Speaker 3: And apparently everybody wants a girl because his dad the

645
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 3: other day goes, they should really try for a third,

646
00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:53,360
Speaker 3: they really need a girl. And then he's like, it's

647
00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:55,760
Speaker 3: just different having a girl because he's thinking about how

648
00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:59,200
Speaker 3: he thinks towards Nora, his granddaughter and his daughter Shannon,

649
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:00,840
Speaker 3: who we know is the favorite.

650
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:04,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's fine, it's it's she should be the favorite.

651
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 2: She's it's the girl. I like that as well.

652
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 3: We'll never know this and that's okay.

653
00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 2: I'm my dad's best friend, but that's his little girl.

654
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 2: You know, she always will be.

655
00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 6: I can't wait to see what she looks like.

656
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:15,560
Speaker 3: Either.

657
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 6: That's the other thing that I'm like so pumped. I

658
00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:22,120
Speaker 6: would not wait to see what she looks like. She's

659
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:24,720
Speaker 6: gonna have so much dark black hair.

660
00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:28,719
Speaker 3: She can't go wrong, though, you can make every future.

661
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 4: You're gonna have a beautiful child.

662
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:34,000
Speaker 3: Let's just you know, it can't go wrong.

663
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 4: We can mess this thing.

664
00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:38,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, it would be really bad.

665
00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:40,880
Speaker 2: But also when the kid first comes out, like just

666
00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:44,280
Speaker 2: get ready, like he will his head or her head

667
00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:47,040
Speaker 2: will will be a conehead. Like it's just weird, like,

668
00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:49,479
Speaker 2: oh my god, you look a little bit like an alien.

669
00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 2: But then the head goes down very quickly.

670
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:54,520
Speaker 5: Hey, in closing here, because we do have to go,

671
00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 5: I have this theory that I'll share publicly. I don't

672
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:02,080
Speaker 5: think newborns are that cute, so I don't have this

673
00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:05,040
Speaker 5: hair expectation. In fact, we were at the hospital other

674
00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 5: day and they have a wall of newborns and I said,

675
00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 5: just pick out two that you think are cute on

676
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:11,479
Speaker 5: this wall of two hundred. It was hard. It's very

677
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 5: difficult to do. There are a few that you go, yeah,

678
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 5: I get it. Most Hey, I don't have this expectation

679
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:21,400
Speaker 5: that this little girl's going to come out being beautiful.

680
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 5: I actually expect her to have like a bald head

681
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 5: with like hair growing out the side.

682
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 3: He's going to have hair.

683
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:29,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, well, we kind of know she does alter sounds.

684
00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:30,960
Speaker 5: It showed it and.

685
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:33,320
Speaker 4: She was like, you have heartburn. Huh.

686
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:34,960
Speaker 6: The only thing we don't know is if it's a

687
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 6: full head of hair or a mullet.

688
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:39,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's the question. That's the exciting part for me.

689
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 3: A charge Costanza.

690
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:44,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's my hope.

691
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 4: Guys, it's been great.

692
00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:50,200
Speaker 5: We're forty eight hours away from walking into this, so thanks.

693
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:52,320
Speaker 3: For sending us all the videos and pictures and stuff.

694
00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 3: I just like, love live.

695
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:56,640
Speaker 2: It's gonna be so much fun when your parents meet her, Like,

696
00:31:56,720 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 2: that's such a cool part too, like seeing the site

697
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:02,959
Speaker 2: it that they have and because you love them so much,

698
00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 2: they're your parents and now they're the grandparents. And they're

699
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:08,080
Speaker 2: meeting the kid, and it's like everybody comes over and

700
00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 2: wants to hold the baby.

701
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:10,000
Speaker 4: That's a lot of fun.

702
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:11,560
Speaker 3: Or you could be like your parents, be like my

703
00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:13,880
Speaker 3: dad and my dad doesn't touch the baby until three months.

704
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 3: He's like super scared baby doctor.

705
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:20,800
Speaker 5: Our parents we started this with at the beginning, they

706
00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:22,959
Speaker 5: they're really I mean, they're more than excited. I mean

707
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:26,560
Speaker 5: Jess's dad, within his speech at our wedding said be

708
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:30,320
Speaker 5: fruitful and multiply like this is really like her mom

709
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 5: has been so helpful and supportive of Jess, giving her

710
00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:39,000
Speaker 5: guidance and wisdom through this whole thing. Her dad has

711
00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:41,440
Speaker 5: been emotional when it comes to him thinking about his

712
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 5: baby girl having a child. That's been emotional. And my parents,

713
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 5: which I think the parents of the son or the husband,

714
00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 5: have a really different, like kind of like role because

715
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:58,920
Speaker 5: like they don't have that like emotional tie to see

716
00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:01,040
Speaker 5: just grow up and now to become a mother, but

717
00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 5: they love just so much. But they've always wanted to

718
00:33:03,680 --> 00:33:06,719
Speaker 5: be grandparents. And so my mom has been like really

719
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:09,959
Speaker 5: excited to dive into this and be the best Mimi

720
00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 5: she can be.

721
00:33:11,080 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 4: My dad literally is a.

722
00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:19,160
Speaker 6: Wreck, like like like imagine the been holding a baby doll.

723
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, cries like he he cries when he talks about

724
00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 5: Jessica being pregnant, Like he cries looking at ultrasound pictures.

725
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:31,960
Speaker 5: He cries thinking about like coming to visit. He is

726
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:37,040
Speaker 5: a wreck right now. So well, the cool part is

727
00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:41,360
Speaker 5: we're walking into four parents, all uniquely experiencing something very

728
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:46,200
Speaker 5: different but like thrilled. And I know as soon as

729
00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:48,760
Speaker 5: she's passed off to them in the hospital, as soon

730
00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 5: as she meets them, like it is going to be

731
00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 5: a blubberfest.

732
00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:53,840
Speaker 4: For all of us.

733
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:55,760
Speaker 5: I think we're all just going to be like, this

734
00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 5: is wild and I can't wait for that. Those those

735
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 5: are such special moments that we're blessed to experience, and

736
00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 5: I'm really thankful that that's what we're walking into.

737
00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:18,000
Speaker 3: Ben, do you want to do a few of these?

738
00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:20,520
Speaker 3: Would you rather as like superlatives or do you think

739
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:21,279
Speaker 3: we have tough time?

740
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:24,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, let's do it, Okay, all right?

741
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:28,879
Speaker 3: Our producers gave us a few superlatives, basically to name

742
00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 3: the parent you know, to associate to each parent who

743
00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:36,760
Speaker 3: is most likely to do the wake up at two am,

744
00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:39,120
Speaker 3: and just make just to make sure the baby's breathing.

745
00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:41,440
Speaker 4: Ben, no question.

746
00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 6: He asked to get the little like sock that monitors

747
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:46,240
Speaker 6: her heart rate, so the outlet.

748
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:47,720
Speaker 3: We use it on a nightly basis.

749
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:49,399
Speaker 6: Yeah, okay, yeah, we just ordered one.

750
00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 3: It's great. Alert be prepared, it's a there's a lot

751
00:34:55,440 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 3: of false alarms, so don't freak out. We'll talk about

752
00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:01,120
Speaker 3: it offline. But yeah, we are big. We are big

753
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:05,920
Speaker 3: fans of the outlet. And that's funny because I always

754
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:08,040
Speaker 3: make fun of Jared how he like never gives a

755
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,239
Speaker 3: second thought to the kid breathing, Like he always just

756
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:12,680
Speaker 3: assumes they're breathing, and I am constantly assuming they're not.

757
00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:17,400
Speaker 3: Even Dawson. I watch his breathing on the monitor. He's three.

758
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's me who.

759
00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:23,080
Speaker 3: Is going to insist on baby proofing the entire house

760
00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:25,960
Speaker 3: once she can start like crawling and walking.

761
00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 6: Ben, he already put up baby gates and she's a potatoes.

762
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 4: Yes I did.

763
00:35:33,719 --> 00:35:36,839
Speaker 2: He drilled them into the wall course for you guys

764
00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:38,440
Speaker 2: while you're holding the baby.

765
00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:40,720
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, it's great.

766
00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 2: Who is most likely to stay calm when the baby

767
00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:45,360
Speaker 2: is throwing a tantrum?

768
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:49,040
Speaker 5: It's a good one. I feel like we both, I think,

769
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:51,680
Speaker 5: will stay very calm. I don't think tantrums will like

770
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 5: will frustrate us. I think crying babies right now, I

771
00:35:57,640 --> 00:35:59,560
Speaker 5: mean Whalen will be the one that doesn't like that,

772
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 5: but he's been really good with baby training. We've played

773
00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:03,920
Speaker 5: baby crying and he just kind of like is curious,

774
00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 5: like cox his head, like what in the world. I

775
00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:08,399
Speaker 5: don't love baby crying, so like I'll have to get

776
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 5: used to it, I know, become something I would do,

777
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:14,279
Speaker 5: but like it kind of like like shakes me a

778
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:14,759
Speaker 5: little bit.

779
00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:17,840
Speaker 6: I think Ben will want it to stop a lot faster,

780
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:20,040
Speaker 6: and if we're in a public place, I'll want to

781
00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 6: like remove her from the situation. Yeah, but I don't

782
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:25,719
Speaker 6: think either of us like it's not our personality like

783
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:26,319
Speaker 6: freak out.

784
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:31,359
Speaker 3: Guess who's better with them? Between us, I.

785
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:33,440
Speaker 4: Would say I think Ashley.

786
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 5: When they cry, you don't get as for like flustered

787
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:36,520
Speaker 5: as Jared.

788
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 3: This is true.

789
00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:42,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, Well.

790
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:45,399
Speaker 2: It's because it's just the it's the lack of being

791
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:48,359
Speaker 2: able to solve the issue. So that's what I think

792
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 2: you'll encounter with frustration, Ben, is you know, when she's

793
00:36:52,760 --> 00:36:56,040
Speaker 2: crying and you're holding her and she just doesn't stop crying,

794
00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:58,440
Speaker 2: even she's not taking food or she just you know,

795
00:36:58,560 --> 00:37:02,319
Speaker 2: that's the problem because it's just like it's piercing, you know,

796
00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:05,040
Speaker 2: and it's right there, and I can't I can't figure

797
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:05,960
Speaker 2: out how to solve it.

798
00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:07,040
Speaker 4: Sometimes I think it's the.

799
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:09,640
Speaker 3: Man thing with the solving, and all I keep thinking

800
00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:14,279
Speaker 3: of is this will be over, it will end, yeah.

801
00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:16,000
Speaker 2: Or there are moments off where you're like I just

802
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:17,720
Speaker 2: need to, like I need to breathe.

803
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:21,360
Speaker 5: Luckily, I'm taking like usually I spend most of my

804
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:25,839
Speaker 5: days talking and meetings are like however, and I get

805
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:30,279
Speaker 5: really socially exhausted from like noise by the end of

806
00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:32,799
Speaker 5: the day, Like I really just love to like kind

807
00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:35,560
Speaker 5: of check out, and I'm taking the next like month

808
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:37,560
Speaker 5: and a half kind of off of those meetings, and

809
00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:41,280
Speaker 5: I pull myself away because I do get like noise

810
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 5: exhaustion very easily, and so I need if if if

811
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:48,920
Speaker 5: I plan it right, I'll be able to handle it better.

812
00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:50,200
Speaker 4: That would be my answer.

813
00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:54,880
Speaker 3: With the second child, that's when the over stimulation really hits.

814
00:37:55,400 --> 00:37:58,400
Speaker 3: Like we just sit in the we're like at the

815
00:37:58,440 --> 00:37:59,160
Speaker 3: computer and.

816
00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:03,759
Speaker 2: Really well, Hayden's crying and then Dawson's like, Mama, Mama,

817
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:06,800
Speaker 2: Dad doesn't got to fix Hayden, and then he starts

818
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:08,719
Speaker 2: crying and then he's like dragging our arm like no,

819
00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:11,680
Speaker 2: no, no no. Then he's like why baby crying, and it's

820
00:38:11,719 --> 00:38:14,800
Speaker 2: like I'm just like He's like.

821
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:17,400
Speaker 3: I made you dinner, I mean your dinner like with

822
00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:21,240
Speaker 3: his play food, and I'm like, excuse me, I'm so sweet.

823
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:23,359
Speaker 2: And he's like hitting his toys as he's screaming our

824
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:25,800
Speaker 2: name as Hayden is crying, so like the toys playing,

825
00:38:25,840 --> 00:38:26,920
Speaker 2: and then Dawson.

826
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:29,920
Speaker 3: The TV's in the background. Then Lois is barking at

827
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:36,480
Speaker 3: the ups guy cram Sorry, but really this isn't this

828
00:38:36,520 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 3: is really like a second child?

829
00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:38,759
Speaker 4: Sounds fun?

830
00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 3: Yeah? Okay, my last question is fun one. Who is

831
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:46,480
Speaker 3: the first one that's going to like be on a drive,

832
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:48,600
Speaker 3: even if it's just like an errand quick one to

833
00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:50,839
Speaker 3: the grocery store, but then realize that you don't have

834
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:51,960
Speaker 3: the diaper bag.

835
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:56,239
Speaker 5: You you probably Yeah, I was gonna say me just

836
00:38:56,280 --> 00:39:00,680
Speaker 5: because right now I have very little familiarity with that. However,

837
00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:06,160
Speaker 5: in life, over time, I am more to be over prepared,

838
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 5: and Jess is more of like a let's just swing

839
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:11,600
Speaker 5: it and see how it goes kind of person.

840
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:15,080
Speaker 6: Yeah, like I'll leave Ben will leave the diaper bag

841
00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 6: at home for the grocery store, and I'll leave it

842
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 6: at home for like the four day trip.

843
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:22,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's probably a better way to say it. Yes,

844
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:26,120
Speaker 5: that that would probably be more accurate. I will say, though,

845
00:39:26,160 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 5: I've never seen like just be as like prepared. It's

846
00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 5: not like she's like an unprepared human in life, but

847
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:37,360
Speaker 5: like she's on top of all this. Like if you

848
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 5: look at our house right now, like everything's set up,

849
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 5: everything's clean, everything's like organized, like everything is like ready

850
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:46,520
Speaker 5: to go, and she knows how to use it all.

851
00:39:47,239 --> 00:39:49,440
Speaker 5: And that would probably be the biggest difference. Is I

852
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:51,840
Speaker 5: know she's gonna I know she already loves this girl

853
00:39:52,200 --> 00:39:56,719
Speaker 5: because just knowing how to like use like items is

854
00:39:56,760 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 5: like a rarity.

855
00:39:57,880 --> 00:40:01,959
Speaker 3: I don't know how to use our TV. So I'm

856
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 3: always the one that's like I got this, I got this,

857
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 3: I got this. I know what we need, but I

858
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:09,080
Speaker 3: need you to set it up. You do the version

859
00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:12,080
Speaker 3: of it. Okay, Wait, my last last question, just because

860
00:40:12,120 --> 00:40:15,040
Speaker 3: you brought up these products, is there any product that

861
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:18,160
Speaker 3: you have debated or bought already that you're like not

862
00:40:18,239 --> 00:40:20,480
Speaker 3: sure that it's going to be worth it or you're

863
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:22,440
Speaker 3: not sure if you're actually should buy it.

864
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:24,960
Speaker 6: One of the things that I haven't bought yet that

865
00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:27,160
Speaker 6: I keep thinking I need to is that like half

866
00:40:27,239 --> 00:40:29,960
Speaker 6: moon pillow, like the breastfeeding pillow.

867
00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:31,759
Speaker 3: Oh so I didn't breastfeed, so I don't know.

868
00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 6: Okay, I'm planning on breastfeeding. Is like the goal. I

869
00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:39,320
Speaker 6: have a lactation consultant in everything, So that's one of

870
00:40:39,320 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 6: the things that I don't have that I wonder if.

871
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:41,480
Speaker 3: I'm gonna need.

872
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 6: And then we have the baby Breza, which is one

873
00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 6: of the things that I don't know that we have

874
00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:48,560
Speaker 6: that I don't know if we're gonna need.

875
00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:49,520
Speaker 4: Get two of them.

876
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 3: We switch ours back. Well, we have a first floor bedroom,

877
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Speaker 3: our veterans on the first floor, so like we carry

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Speaker 3: it from the kitchen to the bedroom every night. But

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Speaker 3: you can like get too if you have the two floors.

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Speaker 6: Can you heat up breast milk in it?

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Speaker 3: No, but just our baby they're warmers out there. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 3: I think the Breza has a warmer say they they

883
00:41:17,719 --> 00:41:20,480
Speaker 3: made me redo an ad once because I didn't say properly.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean we formula fed. So that was a

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00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:25,360
Speaker 4: very that was very important.

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Speaker 3: I know it sounds stupid because you're like, oh, it's

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Speaker 3: not hard to make a bottle, and we're like, oh,

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Speaker 3: you know, you just put like three scoops and some

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Speaker 3: water and you shake it up. It's not a big deal.

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Speaker 4: When it's three in the morning, it's hard to make

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Speaker 4: a bottle, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: And Hayden has really preferred warm bottles over cold, and

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Speaker 3: Dawson didn't care about the temperature.

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Speaker 4: Has been amazing there, Gretza.

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Speaker 3: And with that, we wish you all the good luck.

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00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:54,359
Speaker 3: And we're so excited because the next time we're gonna

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Speaker 3: see you, guys, you're gonna be parents. And I think

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Speaker 3: that when you become parents, you really want your friends

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00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:04,760
Speaker 3: to become parents. Yeah, so commiserate, excited to take family

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Speaker 3: trips and such in the future, keep.

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Speaker 4: Those boys away.

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Speaker 3: Who wants Who are we going to set her up with?

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Speaker 4: Well, nobody, not a thing.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. Three years age gap with Dawson is

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00:42:18,239 --> 00:42:21,160
Speaker 3: a perfect their age gap seven years.

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Speaker 5: Like an outlet for this, Like she's it's like not

907
00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:25,280
Speaker 5: a thing.

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00:42:26,719 --> 00:42:30,600
Speaker 3: It's not you're not allowed. No, no, Nobody used to

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Speaker 3: tell me.

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Speaker 6: That I couldn't date till I was married, and I

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Speaker 6: think that's going to be Ben's Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, there's no question in my mind. It's so much.

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Speaker 3: More fun to pair off guys in the situation like

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Speaker 3: we're not going server, like who wants to date our sons?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I agree.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Bachelor Nation has some girls to you know, we

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Speaker 3: could have. He wants Emmy so that like she'd be

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Speaker 3: cougaring Dawson.

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Speaker 2: I think Emmy just because she was like the first

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Speaker 2: one in our circle, you know, Tanner and Jade was

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Speaker 2: the first one, so.

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Speaker 3: They got real flirty too when they're jumping on a

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00:43:12,800 --> 00:43:19,040
Speaker 3: trampoline last year for those trampolines by guys.

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