WEBVTT - Ep. 57 — Guess Who Put a Ring on It 0:00:16.280 --> 0:00:18.439 And we hit it from the back. I don't know 0:00:18.440 --> 0:00:21.680 why that song can't to mine hitting it from the 0:00:21.680 --> 0:00:23.200 back just because I wanted to say we're back. 0:00:23.280 --> 0:00:26.920 But I ran home so fast tonight because I realized 0:00:26.960 --> 0:00:28.200 I really miss you. 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:32.720 I get did it honestly want first of all, your curls. 0:00:32.760 --> 0:00:34.920 I know the kids don't say on bleak anymore since 0:00:34.920 --> 0:00:36.400 you're the millennial. You have to tell you like what 0:00:36.440 --> 0:00:38.600 the new word is. But you had like a side 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:40.920 profile picture with like your curls. I was like, look 0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:43.159 at Mandy mastering the curls. 0:00:43.360 --> 0:00:46.320 Oh yes, so much has happened since we were last 0:00:46.360 --> 0:00:47.839 on air. It's only been a couple of weeks, but 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:52.520 I feel like lives have been changed. Jewelry has been 0:00:52.800 --> 0:00:57.440 adorning fingers in certain places. My hair has been has 0:00:57.480 --> 0:01:00.760 come out of the closet as a curly curl power. 0:01:01.840 --> 0:01:03.600 But forget my hair for a second. I want to 0:01:03.600 --> 0:01:06.880 hear about your news because I don't know if these 0:01:06.920 --> 0:01:10.960 Brown Ambition listeners have been under a rock. But Tivity 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:13.160 has some news for us. 0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:17.400 So Superman has officially asked me to be Superwoman. 0:01:17.959 --> 0:01:21.600 Oh that's okay, Wait a second, No, you definitely need 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:25.520 to have like a cake topper of Superman and Superwoman. 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:28.920 Right now, so I'll tell you how it is so typical, 0:01:29.400 --> 0:01:33.080 tell me the story. So he had the ring, which 0:01:33.080 --> 0:01:34.760 we all kind of know. I don't know if we 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:36.440 kept that part in where I said I kind of 0:01:36.480 --> 0:01:37.840 saw the ring beforehand. No. 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:40.959 No, So people who are listening have no idea of 0:01:41.120 --> 0:01:42.240 these current events. 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:46.399 So it worked out what happened earlier. After I got 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:49.400 back from FINCN, the financial blogger conference that me and 0:01:49.440 --> 0:01:51.760 Maydie always talking about that you don't probably care about. 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:55.600 I came home, he wasn't home, and I saw a 0:01:55.640 --> 0:01:58.640 white box on the dresser, So I was like, what's 0:01:58.640 --> 0:02:00.840 this white box? So I opened the white box and 0:02:00.840 --> 0:02:03.760 inside it was a ring box, and I said shut up, 0:02:04.440 --> 0:02:07.840 and good Tiffany on one shoulder said don't you open it? 0:02:08.320 --> 0:02:11.480 But then real realistic Tiffany was like, giry been opened 0:02:11.480 --> 0:02:13.120 that box? And I did, and I took a quick 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:15.800 peek and I closed it because I was like, wait, 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:17.400 I would be surprised. And then I was like, wait, 0:02:17.440 --> 0:02:18.720 I don't know if I like it, And then me 0:02:18.760 --> 0:02:20.480 and Mandy talked about like it was too late. 0:02:23.280 --> 0:02:26.360 Well wait a second, let's talk about why he left 0:02:26.360 --> 0:02:27.400 it out in the open. 0:02:27.919 --> 0:02:30.839 He totally forgot because I wasn't home, so I don't 0:02:30.880 --> 0:02:33.560 know if he was like showing one of his guy friends. 0:02:33.560 --> 0:02:36.160 So now he's told me since then that he had 0:02:36.160 --> 0:02:38.480 bought it like a month or so prior, so it 0:02:38.520 --> 0:02:40.760 wasn't like he. I thought maybe he bought it when 0:02:40.760 --> 0:02:43.880 I was away at FENCN since NCON was in California 0:02:44.000 --> 0:02:47.240 house for a week and so, but no, he bought 0:02:47.280 --> 0:02:49.600 it a while before, and so I don't know if 0:02:49.639 --> 0:02:51.960 he took it out to look at it or whatever. 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:55.720 But he cleaned up, and you know, I guess he 0:02:55.880 --> 0:02:58.240 just forgot it on the dresser. Meanwhile, we you know, 0:02:58.280 --> 0:02:59.840 we have like our side of the dresser. It was 0:03:00.160 --> 0:03:01.640 my side of the dressing by my jewelry. Bo. 0:03:02.240 --> 0:03:04.520 He got real comfortable while you were gone for some times. 0:03:05.760 --> 0:03:06.600 Isn't that sweet? 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:06.760 Though? 0:03:06.800 --> 0:03:09.520 I feel like part of the romance of the proposal 0:03:09.720 --> 0:03:13.560 isn't like how they ask, but it's knowing that they 0:03:13.680 --> 0:03:15.400 had their ring for a certain amount of time and 0:03:15.440 --> 0:03:17.680 all this time they knew they were gonna. 0:03:17.760 --> 0:03:19.880 That's what's I thought. I was like, Oh, like I said, 0:03:19.880 --> 0:03:21.440 I didn't know all this then, so I was like, oh, 0:03:21.480 --> 0:03:23.080 my god. And then I was like, wait, I wish 0:03:23.200 --> 0:03:25.360 I was. I realized he was going to come home soon, 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:27.360 so I did not dare open the box again. I 0:03:27.360 --> 0:03:29.120 put it back and I left. And when I was 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:31.640 leaving and then coming back in, he was coming back 0:03:31.680 --> 0:03:33.240 in as well. So we kind of entered the house 0:03:33.240 --> 0:03:35.200 together and he thought I was just getting back. So 0:03:35.240 --> 0:03:38.040 we get upstairs and I, you know, pretended to see 0:03:38.040 --> 0:03:39.760 the ring box. Were not the ring box. It was 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:41.520 just a white box for the first time, and I 0:03:41.560 --> 0:03:46.200 was like, what's that and he said oh, and he 0:03:46.280 --> 0:03:49.600 grabbed it and he said, supergirl. I won't say her 0:03:49.600 --> 0:03:52.080 real name, his daughter. She's always leaving stuff in the room. 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:56.320 He pretended like it was a regular box and threw 0:03:56.360 --> 0:03:57.560 it in the garbage and I was like. 0:03:57.560 --> 0:04:02.640 Why that was a little muney doing the most mandy. 0:04:02.840 --> 0:04:03.440 Oh my god. 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:06.240 He's like, well, this is invaluable. I'm throwing it away. 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:09.040 So I go upstairs. I go outstairs to get something 0:04:09.080 --> 0:04:10.400 to drink. I guess I was like, let me give 0:04:10.440 --> 0:04:13.200 him a chance to collect himself come back out. And 0:04:13.240 --> 0:04:15.000 I realized, like, okay, I looked at the white box 0:04:15.080 --> 0:04:16.719 later and it was empty. So he took out the 0:04:16.800 --> 0:04:19.400 ring from the white box and seems, you know, because 0:04:19.440 --> 0:04:21.719 Supergirl is always leaving, like she's always getting like stuff 0:04:21.720 --> 0:04:24.640 from Claire's and stuff, so it wasn't a crazy story. 0:04:25.960 --> 0:04:28.520 And so then I waited and I was like, oh, 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:30.719 my birthday's come in now, y'all. I know, like, if 0:04:30.720 --> 0:04:33.640 you are a BA listener, you know that I've already 0:04:33.640 --> 0:04:36.000 claimed that on my birthday October sixteenth, which is just 0:04:36.000 --> 0:04:37.920 a couple of days ago, that's when my engagement was 0:04:37.920 --> 0:04:44.000 going to happen heapily. So Supergirl's birthday was October first, 0:04:44.279 --> 0:04:48.000 and my friends came and my best friend Drina came, 0:04:48.440 --> 0:04:51.520 and Drina said, let me be cause I was like, Drina, 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:52.960 I'm not sure if I liked the ring. I didn't 0:04:52.960 --> 0:04:54.039 get a good look at it, but I think I 0:04:54.040 --> 0:04:56.120 don't like it. And she was like, girl, it's too late, 0:04:56.440 --> 0:04:59.719 too late. You had all the time to get put 0:04:59.720 --> 0:05:02.240 your order in and you did not. And now I'm like, 0:05:02.279 --> 0:05:04.039 but I'm not sure, and she's like, I'll take a 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:06.279 look out. Let me speak to him, let me see 0:05:06.279 --> 0:05:10.080 like where he's at with this, and so she, I guess, 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:12.640 like you know, pulled him to the side at Supergrowth 0:05:12.640 --> 0:05:14.760 birthday party and they had a chat and she was 0:05:14.839 --> 0:05:17.200 just like, so, when are you gonna make an official 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:18.880 with my bestie? And he was like, oh, I got 0:05:18.880 --> 0:05:20.400 a rent, got the ring? Do you want to see it? 0:05:20.520 --> 0:05:22.719 This is what she's telling me later after the engagement 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:24.760 has already gone through. Do you want to see it? 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:26.839 And she tells him yes, and she said, you know, 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:28.880 he showed her. She loved it. She's very particular. She's like, 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:29.440 she loved it. 0:05:29.480 --> 0:05:31.040 He had it in his pocket at the party. 0:05:31.320 --> 0:05:33.200 Yes, he was going to ask me at her party. 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:36.160 And she was like, if you ask her at Supergrowth birthday. 0:05:35.920 --> 0:05:38.760 Party, now you've done that, I forgive you. She came 0:05:38.800 --> 0:05:41.599 to the rescue on that one. That's that's like she's 0:05:41.640 --> 0:05:44.560 almost as bad as asking at someone else's wedding exactly. 0:05:44.640 --> 0:05:47.279 And so she was like do not. He was like really, 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:49.800 And cause she told him, don't ask on Tippany's birthday 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:52.560 because Nosey Wolsey just knows she's going to get engaged 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:54.919 on her birthday. Don't do it. Do it as a 0:05:54.920 --> 0:05:58.440 complete surprise. You pick whatevery day, not today. And so 0:05:58.560 --> 0:06:00.479 when I asked her later, like so what happened, she 0:06:00.520 --> 0:06:01.880 was like girl, I don't know. I didn't get to 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:04.000 really chance to get a chance to speak with him, 0:06:04.320 --> 0:06:06.279 so she kept it as a surprise for me too, 0:06:06.800 --> 0:06:08.680 and I was like, oh great, So I already had 0:06:08.720 --> 0:06:10.480 in my mind that was gonna happen on my birthday. 0:06:10.760 --> 0:06:15.440 And I was leaving for Paris on the fourth a 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:17.560 few days later, because I always take myself on the 0:06:17.600 --> 0:06:20.039 epic birthday trip and this year, I took it a 0:06:20.080 --> 0:06:22.520 whole week earlier because I'm gonna get asked my birthday. 0:06:22.560 --> 0:06:23.919 You see how I am just concume, just. 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:26.760 Left a window for your birthday. Yes, the day you 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:27.440 were so sure. 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:32.440 Literally planned the whole trip around the fact that I'm getting. 0:06:32.160 --> 0:06:35.000 My ring on my birthday, So you were real sure 0:06:35.000 --> 0:06:36.720 of yourself that day. 0:06:36.920 --> 0:06:39.520 He had such an attitude, like I was packing and I'm like, 0:06:39.560 --> 0:06:42.040 what is his problem? He had such like this weird attitude. 0:06:42.200 --> 0:06:44.040 My best friend Linda came just to like my other 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:46.160 best friend Linda came to see me off, just to 0:06:46.200 --> 0:06:49.280 say bye, and like, I didn't know you just acting weird. 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:52.520 I didn't know that he was waiting for his moment. Yes, 0:06:52.600 --> 0:06:54.040 And I was like, what is his problem? Is it? 0:06:54.080 --> 0:06:56.800 Because I'm leaving I'm always traveling. I'm always leaving a mess. 0:06:56.800 --> 0:06:59.440 Like whenever I travel, I like throw everything out, like 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:01.719 on the couches and everything, and I pick what I 0:07:01.760 --> 0:07:04.240 need and then I leave everything. That's just my way. 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:06.240 I was like, is he mad about the mess? I 0:07:06.240 --> 0:07:09.840 always leave a mess. So he's taking me to my 0:07:09.880 --> 0:07:13.400 friend Madeline's house, who I'm traveling with, and we're waiting 0:07:13.440 --> 0:07:16.480 for the uber to take us to JFK and he's like, 0:07:16.680 --> 0:07:19.560 so you're gonna go to Paris with all the John 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:22.520 Paul's and Pierre's and Jean Luke's And I was just 0:07:22.560 --> 0:07:24.520 like what. By then, I was just annoyed because I'm like, 0:07:24.560 --> 0:07:25.880 you know what, you have an attitude. I don't even 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:28.120 want to deal. And he was just like, are you 0:07:28.160 --> 0:07:30.840 gonna come back? And I said, I'm feel bad about 0:07:30.840 --> 0:07:33.360 it now, I said maybe not not with this attitude 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:38.200 you have. I'm being so fien like, so you're not 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:40.320 gonna come back? I said now? And I said, well, 0:07:40.320 --> 0:07:42.120 of course I'm gonna come back. I live here, you know, 0:07:42.360 --> 0:07:45.320 like no, no, no. By then I was so annoyed 0:07:45.320 --> 0:07:47.760 because I'm like, what is this deal? And then like 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:49.440 I'm about to walk away and he grabbed my hand 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:50.640 and he was like, babe, you know I want you 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:52.840 to come back. I said, well, okay, you know, and 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:55.200 he said no because and then he just starts stuttering, 0:07:55.240 --> 0:07:58.800 which is not like him, because when you come back, 0:07:59.560 --> 0:08:01.000 you know, I want you to be my wife, you know, 0:08:01.160 --> 0:08:03.640 so be cause yeah. I'm like and I'm thinking he's 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:05.920 just saying in general because we always talk about marriage, 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:09.200 and I was like, okay, yeah, and he says no, 0:08:09.320 --> 0:08:11.680 and he reaches into his pocket and like shows the 0:08:11.760 --> 0:08:13.640 ring box, and I thought that he was like saying, 0:08:13.680 --> 0:08:15.200 when you get back, I have a ring for you. 0:08:15.400 --> 0:08:17.239 And I was thinking to myself, this is not romantic. 0:08:17.240 --> 0:08:19.080 This is not how he's doing. And then I went 0:08:19.160 --> 0:08:22.080 to walk away, like really, do that's the ring box? 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:24.280 And then I realized, wait, is it happening? So he 0:08:24.280 --> 0:08:26.120 gets that on one need, I'm like wait, I'm in 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:26.640 my sweat. 0:08:26.880 --> 0:08:31.440 Wait, this is so painful and awesome because you were 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:34.160 still so sure that you were right up until the moment. 0:08:34.440 --> 0:08:36.520 Even when he pulled out the box. You're like, no, 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:39.600 but you're behind. You're like ahead of schedules next week. 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:41.720 I don't like to hear my friend Madeline saying are 0:08:41.760 --> 0:08:46.800 you kidding gays, and she's like with her, with her 0:08:46.960 --> 0:08:49.719 like with her cell phone, try to capture it all. 0:08:49.760 --> 0:08:51.520 And the it was night because our flight was at 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:53.560 eleven thirty at night, trying to capture it all. And 0:08:53.559 --> 0:08:55.840 I was like, wait, wait all all I hear myself 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:59.640 saying is wait wait wait. He's like he doesn't even 0:08:59.640 --> 0:09:02.880 know what this. He's on one knee, like the happiest 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:03.640 man in the world. 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:08.280 That's cool, hard concrete, I know. 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:10.680 I said yes, and then I cried, and then we 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:12.880 kissed and then we hugged, and I was just like 0:09:13.360 --> 0:09:14.720 and then I looked at the ring for the first 0:09:14.720 --> 0:09:17.440 time and I was like, I do really love it. 0:09:17.440 --> 0:09:20.680 It's literally so perfectly me. And I was just like, wow, 0:09:21.360 --> 0:09:24.360 I love it. All that stress, all of that like angst, 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:27.240 and since then it's just been really great. I mean, 0:09:27.240 --> 0:09:29.800 outside of everybody pressuring us about what day, what time, when, 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:30.480 when babies? 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:34.360 You know, oh my god, yeah yeah you're going now, yeah, 0:09:34.440 --> 0:09:35.760 enjoy enjoy. 0:09:36.080 --> 0:09:38.120 I know. I was just like, he's like, he's like, 0:09:38.160 --> 0:09:40.520 I almost regret posting it on social media just to 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:42.240 let people know, he said, because my phone has been 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:46.760 ringing off the hook, and his soul Supergirl was like 0:09:47.360 --> 0:09:49.640 not too happy because she felt like she should have 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:54.960 been there directing, directing the She was like, but I 0:09:55.040 --> 0:09:56.360 was in the car. Why didn't you call me? I 0:09:56.400 --> 0:09:58.720 wanted to see. 0:09:58.080 --> 0:10:01.520 Oh she Oh yeah, I would have been cute. It 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:03.520 sounds like, but in the end it sounds really sweet. 0:10:03.640 --> 0:10:05.520 Yeah, it was really. Honestly, it was perfect and it 0:10:05.559 --> 0:10:07.800 was perfectly us and it was just nice. He's just like, 0:10:07.800 --> 0:10:09.240 you know, you're going to the City of Love and 0:10:09.280 --> 0:10:11.160 I want you to go knowing that someone loves you 0:10:11.440 --> 0:10:14.800 and wants you to be his wife, and I just yeah, 0:10:14.840 --> 0:10:17.360 So it's just been great, honestly, Like he's really like 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:20.520 my match. I mean, if I had to draw out 0:10:20.800 --> 0:10:23.960 on paper personality wise and stuff like you know what 0:10:24.240 --> 0:10:26.559 the type of man that not only do I want, 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:29.360 but do I need? You know, as far as like 0:10:29.400 --> 0:10:30.800 being able to deal with me and all of mine, 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:33.720 like so on my birthday, my ring, like all of that. 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:38.760 It sounds like a saint. You're about to You're about 0:10:38.800 --> 0:10:40.160 to hop in the uber and be like, I don't 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:41.040 want to not with that ads. 0:10:41.640 --> 0:10:41.920 I know. 0:10:42.480 --> 0:10:44.199 Poor guys, like what. 0:10:45.720 --> 0:10:47.160 You know, the Uper drivers are only supposed to wait 0:10:47.160 --> 0:10:49.280 a minute or two so I was like, oh, I'm sorry. 0:10:49.320 --> 0:10:51.040 He's like, yeah, I saw you a little busy because 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:52.480 it was like in the light of the uber car, 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:53.720 the uber. 0:10:53.520 --> 0:10:56.559 Head like mee uber drivers see. It was nice that 0:10:56.600 --> 0:10:57.520 you had witnesses. 0:10:58.400 --> 0:11:01.400 It was so yeah. So that's incing. And the ring. 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:03.720 You didn't see the ring in the context of the 0:11:03.720 --> 0:11:06.360 man you love, you know, holding it in front of you. 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:09.880 Originally it's different. It's just a ring on a countertop. 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:12.120 You know, exactly, versus like, you know, really just being 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:14.520 like because it's very clear just from the ring that 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:18.240 what he picked out, it's just so perfectly me. It's 0:11:18.240 --> 0:11:20.959 just simple. It's just one stone, and because I don't 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:23.880 even really wear jewelry quite honestly, and so it's just 0:11:24.600 --> 0:11:26.280 it's just me when you know, when I see it 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:28.200 time I look at it, I think to myself, it 0:11:28.240 --> 0:11:30.280 was so weird being in France, like with an on, Like, 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:31.680 was it weird when you first put it on that 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:33.680 You're just like, what's this thing on my hand? 0:11:34.240 --> 0:11:36.280 What I can tell you is that today I forgot 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:38.800 it at home because I take it off when I 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:40.959 do my hair because there's so much gook on my hands, 0:11:40.960 --> 0:11:43.040 you know, and I forgot it at home and all 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:45.440 day like a dork, I kept like trying to go 0:11:45.480 --> 0:11:46.960 play with it and it wasn't there, and I had 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:49.960 like this quick like a miniature little panic attack, where's 0:11:49.960 --> 0:11:52.800 the ring? Because the first place, the first time you 0:11:52.840 --> 0:11:54.640 misplace it, you'll like lose your mind and like that 0:11:54.720 --> 0:11:57.440 always that fear is always with me. But it's weird. 0:11:57.440 --> 0:11:58.840 It's gotten to a point where, yeah, it's when I 0:11:58.840 --> 0:12:01.319 don't have it on it, it feels like there should 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:03.240 be something there, which is just bizarre. 0:12:04.559 --> 0:12:07.160 It just feels weird to think like I mean, because 0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:09.440 you know, we lived together, so I didn't think anything 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:11.960 of it because not like life has changed. But then 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:14.800 just like recently, I was thinking, like, yo, Superman is 0:12:14.800 --> 0:12:17.840 gonna be my husband, like my husband, not my boyfriend, 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:21.360 not the boyfriend I lived with, Like I'm gonna have 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:23.920 a husband, Like when did I become an adult? 0:12:24.080 --> 0:12:26.720 You know, wait before I did. If you don't have 0:12:26.760 --> 0:12:29.400 it together, I know, it doesn't hope For me. 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:31.800 It just feels I mean, you know, it feels right, 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:35.880 and it feels good, but it just feels so so 0:12:35.880 --> 0:12:38.000 so adults, Like you know, there are moments in the life. 0:12:38.080 --> 0:12:39.480 I know what you're talking about for sure. 0:12:39.520 --> 0:12:42.040 You know, it's like when you pay taxes for the 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:44.920 first time, or like when you you know, you do 0:12:45.000 --> 0:12:48.440 something like really responsible, like make your first dentists appointment 0:12:48.480 --> 0:12:49.080 without your mom. 0:12:49.440 --> 0:12:51.800 You know, you're like, it kind of feels like when 0:12:51.880 --> 0:12:54.440 you know they did the rug Rats all growed up. Yeah, 0:12:54.559 --> 0:12:56.680 so that's how I felt like I went to this. 0:12:56.760 --> 0:12:59.000 I've been to three weddings this fall, three weddings in 0:12:59.040 --> 0:13:01.760 one month, month and a half. We just went to 0:13:01.760 --> 0:13:05.200 a wedding this weekend. My college friend Julie got married. 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:08.120 And yeah, you're like, you're sitting in the all it 0:13:08.200 --> 0:13:09.959 just feels like we're all playing dress up, like we're 0:13:09.960 --> 0:13:12.240 all adults today. We're all doing our hair and makeup 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:14.280 and we're gonna go watch our friends get married. But 0:13:14.320 --> 0:13:16.800 it's like they're on the playground and it's doesn't it 0:13:16.800 --> 0:13:18.960 doesn't feel real. It feels like we are wearing like 0:13:18.960 --> 0:13:22.240 adult costumes and underneath were just all little babies. 0:13:22.800 --> 0:13:25.440 Yeah. I still feel like that, and because there's still 0:13:25.440 --> 0:13:28.960 adult conversations like like, Prena, do we do that? Do 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:32.400 people do that? Do regular people do that? Just like 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:35.280 even I didn't even you know, we didn't even talk 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:36.920 about wedding dates, and I was just like, well, what 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:39.560 just just recently, like he and I are both so 0:13:39.760 --> 0:13:42.640 like chill when it comes to that part. And I 0:13:42.679 --> 0:13:44.560 was just like, cause, honestly, I don't really want like 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.719 a like a wedding wedding. I mean, truthfully, we could 0:13:47.760 --> 0:13:49.520 go to Justice of the Piece and tonight and be 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:53.600 done with it. But at the same time, I feel 0:13:53.600 --> 0:13:55.840 like he, you know, kind of wants a wedding. So 0:13:55.960 --> 0:14:00.720 I'm definitely open to that's how it's done. I don't 0:14:01.240 --> 0:14:02.040 I don't want You're going. 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:04.120 To be a client feld within two months. I guarantee 0:14:04.960 --> 0:14:08.000 you're going to be saying yes to something that's too yep. 0:14:09.080 --> 0:14:11.560 And I'm just like ah, So it's just like these things. 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:13.360 And then my dad called. I mean, of course I 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:15.280 call all my sisters and my parents and stuff like that, 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:18.480 and so there's like traditional Nigerian things that like my 0:14:18.559 --> 0:14:20.240 dad wants him to do, and I'm. 0:14:20.080 --> 0:14:21.720 Like, well, oh, I've been to a Nigerian wedding. 0:14:22.080 --> 0:14:25.640 Oh boy, yeah, we're we're there. He's going to get 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:27.480 one thing, and so I have to go meet with 0:14:27.520 --> 0:14:30.240 my dad and to have like a pre chat of 0:14:30.400 --> 0:14:33.840 like well, this like, what, tell me the list of 0:14:33.920 --> 0:14:37.000 Nigerian things that are part of part equal culture, and 0:14:37.080 --> 0:14:39.920 we will make a list of the things that I think, 0:14:40.200 --> 0:14:41.640 you know, and bring them. I'll bring it back to 0:14:41.720 --> 0:14:44.200 Jurell because honestly, I don't even want all of everything. 0:14:44.240 --> 0:14:45.760 I mean, I know some people are like, no, it's 0:14:45.800 --> 0:14:48.320 part of your culture. Yeah it is, but I would 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:50.200 like to keep it as simple as possible. So I 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:52.320 want to look at that list of kind of things 0:14:52.360 --> 0:14:55.840 and say yes to these and no to this, and 0:14:55.920 --> 0:14:58.920 so that we we're both really comfortable because you know, 0:14:59.040 --> 0:15:02.760 he's not Nigerian and that's fine, you know. And so yeah, 0:15:02.800 --> 0:15:04.800 so there's just like little things like that that definitely 0:15:04.800 --> 0:15:07.480 were like instant stress, you know. And then people just 0:15:07.520 --> 0:15:09.760 hitting me up on social media saying I'd love to 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:11.440 design your dress, so I'd love to do your hair 0:15:11.440 --> 0:15:14.720 and makeup, and I'd love to you know, it sounds great. 0:15:14.760 --> 0:15:17.000 It is nice that people have offered, but it was 0:15:17.040 --> 0:15:19.000 just so much that it was overwhelming, you know. 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:21.640 Yeah, well you just have to take a step back 0:15:21.640 --> 0:15:26.320 and just enjoy being engaged. And that's what it's just about, 0:15:26.360 --> 0:15:27.960 you two. You know, those people aren't going to be 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:30.200 there when you guys are, you know, on your fifth 0:15:30.240 --> 0:15:32.640 year together and you're fighting over what movie you're going 0:15:32.680 --> 0:15:34.960 to watch, you like hate each other, like they're not 0:15:35.000 --> 0:15:35.920 going to be there, then. 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:37.800 You know, I know, so I just and that's what 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:40.680 I felt like, I'm not gonna lie so like in France, 0:15:40.720 --> 0:15:42.240 in Paris, I got to enjoy that. But when I 0:15:42.240 --> 0:15:45.560 got home, when I actually announced it publicly, like then 0:15:45.640 --> 0:15:48.040 I felt like, oh gosh, so many people. I felt 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:50.680 like it wasn't as enjoyable, not because of him, but 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:53.440 just because it's like outside kind of like influence, and 0:15:53.480 --> 0:15:56.360 I'm like, okay, so but now it's kind of settled 0:15:56.360 --> 0:15:57.920 down a little bit now that I've kind of like 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:01.320 it's kind of out, you know, Okay, that's good somebody actually, 0:16:01.320 --> 0:16:03.920 because we didn't tag each other on purpose on social media, 0:16:04.160 --> 0:16:06.600 just because like I'll give you an example, I posted 0:16:07.360 --> 0:16:09.840 the fact that I was engaged in the DreamCatcher group 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:14.280 and ten thousand likes, and so I didn't want to 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:17.320 tag him because I just didn't want the curious eyes 0:16:17.360 --> 0:16:20.400 all on his page look through his picture, you know, 0:16:20.640 --> 0:16:23.120 And so I told him even when he even when 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:25.480 he you know, put it on his page, I was like, 0:16:25.480 --> 0:16:27.360 you know, you don't have to tag me. I just don't. 0:16:28.720 --> 0:16:31.960 That's an extra added element of stalkerism from like exes 0:16:32.000 --> 0:16:34.680 and all that kind of stuff. And so many people 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:37.080 hit me up and they're like, so I see that 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:42.760 Superman said he's engaged. Did he ask you? So many 0:16:42.760 --> 0:16:45.240 people were like unsure whether or not it was me. 0:16:46.160 --> 0:16:50.520 Was like, yes, yes, yes, it was me, Like ooh girl, 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:52.720 because I was like, wow, that would be awkward. 0:16:52.960 --> 0:16:55.280 Either I'm really excited or I'm really sad for you. 0:16:56.520 --> 0:16:58.440 I know. It was weird for the exes to reach 0:16:58.480 --> 0:17:00.960 out congratulations like I'm my page and on my wall. 0:17:01.000 --> 0:17:03.120 I'm like, oh, okay. 0:17:02.880 --> 0:17:06.520 Speaking of adulthood. Yep, yeah, yeah, yeah. 0:17:06.440 --> 0:17:09.040 That was my But my birthday was good, like we 0:17:09.080 --> 0:17:10.920 went to it was nice, no pressure. We went to 0:17:10.960 --> 0:17:13.440 go see Aladdin, which was awesome. It was a surprise. 0:17:14.960 --> 0:17:18.320 It was so good. Honestly, it was on part with 0:17:18.320 --> 0:17:20.200 with Lion King last year. 0:17:20.720 --> 0:17:22.399 I'm not gonna lie, I might have enjoyed a lotten 0:17:22.400 --> 0:17:23.040 more than Lion King. 0:17:23.320 --> 0:17:23.919 I'm not gonna lie. 0:17:24.119 --> 0:17:26.920 Want to say it was more fun, you know, it's 0:17:27.000 --> 0:17:30.439 just no one's father died in a stampede. It was 0:17:30.560 --> 0:17:33.879