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Speaker 1: I get did it honestly want first of all, your curls.

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Speaker 1: So Superman has officially asked me to be Superwoman.

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Speaker 2: with my little brother before. He's he's something age differences,

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Speaker 2: like four and a half years. So when we were

432
00:19:00,040 --> 00:19:01,720
Speaker 2: when we were kids, it was enough to like make

433
00:19:01,800 --> 00:19:04,960
Speaker 2: us mortal enemies, but at scrown ups, it's just fun.

434
00:19:05,080 --> 00:19:06,639
Speaker 2: Like he's just a cool dude.

435
00:19:06,840 --> 00:19:09,000
Speaker 1: You know, he looks like Drake. That doesn't hurt hurt.

436
00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:09,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, he looks like Drake.

437
00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:10,160
Speaker 1: Yeah.

438
00:19:10,240 --> 00:19:14,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know he doesn't get that at all. Ever,

439
00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:17,439
Speaker 2: yes he does. Even in the UK he got a

440
00:19:17,440 --> 00:19:20,159
Speaker 2: little bit. But uh yeah. The play itself was I mean,

441
00:19:20,160 --> 00:19:22,200
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna boy with with the details. It was

442
00:19:22,240 --> 00:19:25,600
Speaker 2: a five hour play in two parts, so we were

443
00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:29,040
Speaker 2: basically out at the theater from for eight hours in

444
00:19:29,080 --> 00:19:33,000
Speaker 2: total with breaks and stuff. It was it was intense

445
00:19:33,119 --> 00:19:38,200
Speaker 2: and very nerdy, and yeah, that's about it, all all

446
00:19:38,200 --> 00:19:40,399
Speaker 2: boring with un details. But other than that, like, I

447
00:19:40,480 --> 00:19:43,240
Speaker 2: love London. We got we got so lucky. We had

448
00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:46,199
Speaker 2: amazing weather, people were really nice to us. I know

449
00:19:46,280 --> 00:19:49,080
Speaker 2: you didn't like it, but yeah, I just think it

450
00:19:49,119 --> 00:19:51,280
Speaker 2: was the fact that we went there with a specific

451
00:19:51,359 --> 00:19:53,600
Speaker 2: event we were going to, and as long as that

452
00:19:53,680 --> 00:19:55,880
Speaker 2: event went well, then everything else was just icing.

453
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Speaker 1: You know.

454
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Speaker 2: We did like the Harry Potter studio tour, and we

455
00:19:59,040 --> 00:20:01,160
Speaker 2: saw all the side and we just ate really good

456
00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:03,600
Speaker 2: food and I mean, I couldn't have asked for a

457
00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:05,920
Speaker 2: better time. It was like, but yeah, it was trippy

458
00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:10,679
Speaker 2: traveling with my with my baby brother, it was, but

459
00:20:10,720 --> 00:20:12,760
Speaker 2: it was good. It's the kind of thing I hope

460
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Speaker 2: we can do, you know, even when we get older

461
00:20:17,000 --> 00:20:19,399
Speaker 2: and life gets more complicated and everyone's like, what your

462
00:20:19,400 --> 00:20:21,919
Speaker 2: fiancee didn't go And I'm like, no, it's okay. You

463
00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:24,680
Speaker 2: don't have to travel with Bee all the time. They

464
00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:27,399
Speaker 2: can stay home sometimes. Also, Bee is not into Harry Potter,

465
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Speaker 2: so he wouldn't have understand. He would have hated his life.

466
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Speaker 1: I'm actually good on that thing.

467
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Speaker 2: I'm good. Yeah, But what else has been happening in

468
00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:39,080
Speaker 2: the world in the last two weeks. So Solanja's new

469
00:20:39,119 --> 00:20:41,560
Speaker 2: album came out, everyone lost their damn minds.

470
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say that although I.

471
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Speaker 2: Liked it, he weren't gonna like it.

472
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Speaker 1: You knew, said you knew I wasn't gonna like it,

473
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Speaker 1: even though you.

474
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Speaker 2: Just said although I liked it, you didn't like. Tell

475
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Speaker 2: the truth.

476
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Speaker 1: I mean it, I don't. I guess you know what

477
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Speaker 1: it is. I'm sorry because I know all the soul

478
00:21:01,920 --> 00:21:05,199
Speaker 1: systems are like Tiffany, don't do it. Okay, So I

479
00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:07,280
Speaker 1: said I did not hate it. I did not. I

480
00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:10,840
Speaker 1: did like it, but I was expecting to roll my

481
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Speaker 1: body in it, love it, slide against the wall, and

482
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Speaker 1: I didn't get that. And I know I have to

483
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Speaker 1: sit and listen, like really to the lyrics really closely,

484
00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:21,840
Speaker 1: and I'm sure because some albums really grow on me.

485
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Speaker 1: But I listened to it about three times all the

486
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Speaker 1: way through, and I was like, Okay, I like it,

487
00:21:25,960 --> 00:21:29,040
Speaker 1: but you know, because everyone was like, it's everything. It

488
00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:33,119
Speaker 1: is the blood of Jesus's Man of Bread, it is life,

489
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Speaker 1: it is death, it is everything in between. And I

490
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Speaker 1: was just like, I mean, I liked it, but it's

491
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Speaker 1: not like, you know, I don't know. I think.

492
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Speaker 2: I think the album it's one of those albums. It's

493
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Speaker 2: not like Lemonade, Like it's not going to immediately pull

494
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Speaker 2: you in and give you this like visceral you know,

495
00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:52,840
Speaker 2: physical reaction to the music and be instantly catchy and poppy.

496
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Speaker 2: Because although that album was like really intense, I mean,

497
00:21:55,359 --> 00:21:58,159
Speaker 2: it still had really catchy lyrics and catchy R and

498
00:21:58,160 --> 00:22:00,879
Speaker 2: B and pop like hip hop beats and stuff. So

499
00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:04,280
Speaker 2: Long is just like pure R and B soul and

500
00:22:04,440 --> 00:22:07,680
Speaker 2: kind of folky like on a different level. So yeah,

501
00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:08,920
Speaker 2: it is the kind of music where you have to

502
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:11,280
Speaker 2: kind of like sit with it and like really get

503
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Speaker 2: deep in your feelings and take time, which I kind

504
00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:15,960
Speaker 2: of like about it because it's not you know how,

505
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Speaker 2: when's the last time I took time and listened to

506
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Speaker 2: an album when I wasn't doing a million other things

507
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Speaker 2: at the same time.

508
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Speaker 1: No, No, true, And I feel like that that it is.

509
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Speaker 1: That's why I said, I'm like, it reminds me kind

510
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Speaker 1: of like because like, I love Blau He's like one

511
00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:29,840
Speaker 1: of my favorites, but he's not one of those albums

512
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Speaker 1: that you listen to, you like for the most part,

513
00:22:31,440 --> 00:22:34,280
Speaker 1: and you're like, yes, get it. It really is like

514
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Speaker 1: this sit you really listen, listening to the lyrics, feeling it,

515
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Speaker 1: and I feel like I haven't really had a chance

516
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Speaker 1: to sit with it in that kind of way, in

517
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Speaker 1: this kind of meditative state. So som like I said,

518
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Speaker 1: I didn't hate it, but I just it was not like,

519
00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:49,240
Speaker 1: you know, it was not Coco Butter for my ash.

520
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Speaker 2: I think a lot of the messages people were just

521
00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:55,199
Speaker 2: hungry for or they're hungry for an artist. You know,

522
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:57,959
Speaker 2: people give Beyonce a lot of flak for not speaking

523
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Speaker 2: out on Black Lives Matter and all these issues that

524
00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:02,120
Speaker 2: have come out, and Lemonade was sort of a couple

525
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:03,960
Speaker 2: of the songs in Lemonade were sort of an answer

526
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:06,760
Speaker 2: to that. But you know, I feel like Solanges was

527
00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:10,520
Speaker 2: just like purely you know, addressing these issues, talking about

528
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Speaker 2: about brutality, talking about inequality. She had these great you

529
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Speaker 2: know that great was it an intro or an outro

530
00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:22,280
Speaker 2: where her mom is talking about Miss Tina Knowles was

531
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Speaker 2: talking about, you know, loving being a black woman and

532
00:23:25,359 --> 00:23:29,119
Speaker 2: you know, not understanding when people not understanding, when people

533
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Speaker 2: don't want to celebrate or when people misinterpret a celebration

534
00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:37,680
Speaker 2: of blackness as a yeah, anti white sentiment or something

535
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:42,040
Speaker 2: like that. I love and I feel like Cranes. So

536
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Speaker 2: Cranes was a song that everyone just like lost their

537
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Speaker 2: shit over.

538
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Speaker 1: You know.

539
00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 2: Cranes is the song where it's like she tried to

540
00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:51,840
Speaker 2: drink it alway. Sorry, I'm really messing, but she's She's

541
00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 2: talking about trying to drink away her pain, sex away

542
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:57,320
Speaker 2: her pain, spend away her pain. And she actually wrote

543
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Speaker 2: the song eight years ago. I read that she I

544
00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:03,399
Speaker 2: read an article or she posted on a Instagram or something.

545
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 2: She wrote it eight years ago, which predates all this.

546
00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 2: I think black lives black lives matter movement, and it's

547
00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:13,600
Speaker 2: just she pulled it out and made it. It's so

548
00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:16,439
Speaker 2: relevant for I feel like today's issues. But when you

549
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 2: really look at the what the song is, I think

550
00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:20,520
Speaker 2: it could apply to any situation where you're going through

551
00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:22,760
Speaker 2: like an emotional struggle and you do everything in your

552
00:24:22,760 --> 00:24:25,840
Speaker 2: power to try and bury it. You know, you do

553
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:27,760
Speaker 2: try and go to the mall, make yourself feel better,

554
00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:30,520
Speaker 2: have a cocktail, make yourself feel better, you know, find

555
00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:32,679
Speaker 2: yourselves in the arms of someone who's not worth your

556
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 2: time trying to make yourself feel better. I think it's

557
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Speaker 2: just it's kind of like if this album had come

558
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Speaker 2: at any other time, if she had released it eight

559
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:43,040
Speaker 2: years ago, I don't think it would have had agreed

560
00:24:43,280 --> 00:24:45,879
Speaker 2: the impact that it has now but today, and I

561
00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 2: feel like her timing is amazing, you know, number one album, Yeah, and.

562
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Speaker 1: You know it just it's just nice too that Solange,

563
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Speaker 1: because you know, Beyonce is like, you know, the the

564
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Speaker 1: one that people celebrate most when it comes to a

565
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Speaker 1: duo of them. But I just think it's nice that Solange.

566
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Speaker 2: You know, she could have been crazy. Come on, Beyonce's

567
00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 2: little sister had every right to be insane. And she's amazing.

568
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:15,000
Speaker 1: Yeah. So yeah, I mean, I mean, speaking of you know,

569
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Speaker 1: black women being by, I mean, did you check out

570
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:19,520
Speaker 1: our first lady on the cover was a New York Times.

571
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Speaker 2: It just it just came out today, and yeah, that

572
00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 2: was like one of my top things I wanted to

573
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Speaker 2: talk about, Oh Times on the start, what is it

574
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:29,760
Speaker 2: the magazine? It's the magazine, right but you can see

575
00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:30,680
Speaker 2: it online right now.

576
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Speaker 1: I mean honestly it honestly, if you don't think Michelle

577
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:39,480
Speaker 1: Obama is like just so classically beautiful, yeah, she might

578
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Speaker 1: not be like a just I can't even say that.

579
00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:47,160
Speaker 1: She looks so beautiful. I was like, look at miss Ship. Well,

580
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, missus Obama. Let me not be disrespectful because

581
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:56,320
Speaker 1: she is salalaying, I mean ptograss. Yeah, she just took

582
00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:58,439
Speaker 1: everyone's edges and used them to wipe the bottom of

583
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Speaker 1: her shoe and then gave it disrespectfully.

584
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Speaker 2: Well, I think it's a talented for talking. I mean,

585
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 2: those those types of photo shoots. I've been on a

586
00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:09,119
Speaker 2: couple of those. They're very difficult. I mean, and if

587
00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:12,040
Speaker 2: you've ever been like, if you ever even had headshots taken,

588
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:13,120
Speaker 2: it's really awkward.

589
00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:13,679
Speaker 1: You know.

590
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:15,879
Speaker 2: It takes a lot for a photographer to get the

591
00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:18,840
Speaker 2: kind of images that really exposed like the truth of

592
00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:20,919
Speaker 2: what someone is. And you can see these photos of Michelle.

593
00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 2: They're all close up, black and white images. She looks

594
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:32,440
Speaker 2: every every adjective you've ever used to describe Michelle, soft, elegant, powerful, intelligent.

595
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:34,760
Speaker 1: Beautiful, gorge careful, you.

596
00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 2: Just everything of course in the beauty too, but everything

597
00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:39,760
Speaker 2: just sort of came out. It was It's just it

598
00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:43,520
Speaker 2: was almost like a celebration and of the complexity of

599
00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:45,880
Speaker 2: Michelle and the fact that and you know, I've read

600
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Speaker 2: all the essays and what. So basically the cover story

601
00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:52,119
Speaker 2: is a group of four essays written by a couple

602
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:55,600
Speaker 2: of well, four prominent figures in literature. Well I don't

603
00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 2: know if well, okay, so Glorious dynam is one feminist icon.

604
00:26:59,359 --> 00:27:03,600
Speaker 2: Chimamanda Ago, she can I say that wrong? Okay? She

605
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:07,200
Speaker 2: was another, and then Rashida Jones, the actress, and then

606
00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:09,520
Speaker 2: the guy, the last guy, John Meacham, He's a Pulitzer

607
00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 2: Prize winning writer. But they were all sort of essay

608
00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 2: essays reflecting on Michelle and I think they all celebrated

609
00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:18,600
Speaker 2: the complexity of her and like how a lot of

610
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:22,439
Speaker 2: people in America haven't allowed her to be complex, Like

611
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:26,240
Speaker 2: haven't allowed her to be strong but then also soft

612
00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 2: and funny, but then also serious and intelligent, but then

613
00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 2: you know, self deprecating, and she's she's sort of been

614
00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:38,760
Speaker 2: and handled it so well, all this you know, bias

615
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 2: in the media, and like all these stereotypes and some

616
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:46,520
Speaker 2: thinly veiled and some not so thinly veiled criticisms racial

617
00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 2: criticisms against her and the way she handles herself and

618
00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:52,119
Speaker 2: just it was just like, look at this woman and

619
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:57,400
Speaker 2: how She's emerged over the last eight years unscathed.

620
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Speaker 1: Which is so crazy because I mean, honestly, like the

621
00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:04,160
Speaker 1: way the media and just people in general have I mean,

622
00:28:04,240 --> 00:28:06,720
Speaker 1: people who are not Michelle Obama fans have treated her.

623
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 1: It's just it's crazy because when you think about it,

624
00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:13,680
Speaker 1: I mean, you have never seen her slip eight years.

625
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 1: I mean you would have caught like a neck roll

626
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:19,479
Speaker 1: at some point, like you know what, you know, one

627
00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 1: of those like it's funny, how that is never you know,

628
00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 1: that's like, oh, and as much as they have pushed

629
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:28,000
Speaker 1: it to the brain because you know, they act as

630
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 1: if black women, as if black women can't be complex

631
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:33,960
Speaker 1: creatures like that. I can't be ratchet but sophisticated. I

632
00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:37,120
Speaker 1: can't be like if I express that I'm frustrated. Oh

633
00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 1: she's angry, I'm like, no, girl, like you, you were rude.

634
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:43,040
Speaker 1: I'm allowed to feel and say you're rude and still

635
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:48,120
Speaker 1: be smiling and kind and yeah. I just literally unscathed,

636
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 1: which is just remarkable, and it just speaks to her

637
00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 1: character and the way she carries herself. I mean, she

638
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 1: is an amazing example for women across the board of

639
00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 1: just had to cat yourself in.

640
00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 2: All women women don't have to be black to respect Michelle.

641
00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:07,680
Speaker 2: And I think that's you know, it's sad to say,

642
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 2: but that's a huge achievement. I thought Shemamanda's essay was

643
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 2: one of the most striking because she mentions how she's

644
00:29:13,600 --> 00:29:17,960
Speaker 2: holding Chimamanda's kind of writing about herself watching Michelle's first

645
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 2: speech at the Democratic National Convention and then watching the

646
00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 2: last speech Michelle just gave this past summer and like

647
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:28,600
Speaker 2: holding her breath because even though she knows the complexity

648
00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:30,640
Speaker 2: of Michelle and how much she deserves to be respected,

649
00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:34,120
Speaker 2: she knows that if Michelle even slips once, people will

650
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:36,239
Speaker 2: launch on it, and people will be waiting for her

651
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:39,600
Speaker 2: to trip up because they don't want to see an

652
00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:42,360
Speaker 2: African American woman in such a high place of power

653
00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:45,000
Speaker 2: in our country. And I think that's just a good

654
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:48,320
Speaker 2: representation of you know, And that's just a small sliver

655
00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 2: of the pressure that must have been on her shoulders

656
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 2: all this time, and god, I would have missed them

657
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 2: so much. It's not there. This election is a hot

658
00:29:57,440 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 2: damn mess.

659
00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:00,480
Speaker 1: You see a hot damn mess. Honestly, I'm just like,

660
00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 1: did you just just a little aside, did you see

661
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:06,800
Speaker 1: the video clip when Donald Trump leaned in, He leaned

662
00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 1: then hung his daughter Tiffany.

663
00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:11,720
Speaker 2: No, I haven't. I try not to watch too much.

664
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Speaker 1: It is kind of like the teacher in me is

665
00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:18,320
Speaker 1: like wants to pull aside her, like pull her aside

666
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:20,600
Speaker 1: like a little girl and say, is everything okay? Is

667
00:30:20,640 --> 00:30:24,800
Speaker 1: that he touching me? Yes? He leans in to give

668
00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 1: her a hug, and it is so like she just

669
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 1: like you know, jerks back and like, you know, makes

670
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:34,480
Speaker 1: it like it wasn't even like you know, like how

671
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:37,160
Speaker 1: someone kind of like reaches for you and your initial

672
00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 1: reaction is to jerks oh, but then you lean on in. No,

673
00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 1: she jerks back, and she continues to like you know, uh,

674
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:46,680
Speaker 1: matrix her way around and then pats him on the

675
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 1: arm like yeah, And I was like, what is happening?

676
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:50,760
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.

677
00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 2: And then you know, I feel for his daughters. How

678
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:55,480
Speaker 2: can you be a woman and how to support that?

679
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 2: I did love snl this swing and you haven't watched it.

680
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:02,080
Speaker 2: Did a did a spoof of Beyonce's Lemon or Beyonce

681
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:07,000
Speaker 2: song with Milania Trump instead. It's called Malania Aid. No,

682
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 2: Milania Aid. It's freaking hilarious. Yeah, it's cameos by Alma Rosa,

683
00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:16,680
Speaker 2: by his daughter Tiffany, by Ivanka, and by his poor

684
00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:20,479
Speaker 2: campaign spoke woman. Yeah, if we can. If you want

685
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:22,360
Speaker 2: to move into brown breaks and boosts, I actually have

686
00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 2: an election themed.

687
00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 1: Okay, definitely. I well, I have won my I'm gonna

688
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 1: take a brown break from domestic violence. Okay, I did

689
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:36,960
Speaker 1: not watch it. I will not watch Surviving Compton. Have

690
00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 1: you heard of that? Andy?

691
00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:40,360
Speaker 2: I have? But what is it?

692
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 1: So? I actually watched, Uh, what is the what was

693
00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 1: the original movie? Like the Compton maidn't know what is

694
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:51,680
Speaker 1: the movie that straight out of Compton? Straight out of Compton.

695
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:53,719
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm the eighty year old woman brain, so

696
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 1: straight at Compton was this great movie about It was

697
00:31:57,960 --> 00:32:02,000
Speaker 1: really well done about the raw and just fall I

698
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 1: guess of NWA, not really the fall of it, but

699
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 1: kind of like doctor Dre Eze ice Cube, like all

700
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:10,720
Speaker 1: of them, and kind of like West Coast Rat and

701
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 1: kind of like what that story is behind it. It was

702
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:15,680
Speaker 1: really well done and I think, you know, so it

703
00:32:15,720 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 1: was actually a really good movie. I saw it, so

704
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:21,080
Speaker 1: apparently I did not know this. But doctor Dre at

705
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:22,960
Speaker 1: the time, I don't know if he was married to her,

706
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:26,840
Speaker 1: but he had children with her. This she was one

707
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 1: of the early hip hop kind of like she was

708
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:31,000
Speaker 1: like the early Mary J. Blige. Her name is Michelle A.

709
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 1: And she was with doctor Drake kind of during that time.

710
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 1: They were both really young. She was about nineteen and

711
00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:41,040
Speaker 1: he was about twenty five. But the level of abuse

712
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 1: that he leveled against this young woman, from shooting at her,

713
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 1: to beating her in her sleep, to hitting her so

714
00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 1: hard knocking her brain loose, it.

715
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 2: Was freaking her brain.

716
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:57,080
Speaker 1: Yes, hitting her that hard. I mean he of course

717
00:32:57,200 --> 00:33:00,560
Speaker 1: was suing for a lifetime in her for them not

718
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:02,280
Speaker 1: to show the biopics.

719
00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:05,880
Speaker 2: Because it's a lifetime movie Surviving Compton. Oh so it's

720
00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:07,920
Speaker 2: it's the woman, it's his excess story.

721
00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:11,440
Speaker 1: Like she was not in She was not featured in

722
00:33:11,440 --> 00:33:15,080
Speaker 1: in the movie, even though they have children together. He

723
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:16,680
Speaker 1: was with her, so but she was just cut out

724
00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:18,800
Speaker 1: of that history. And so she was like, well, I'm

725
00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:21,960
Speaker 1: going to tell my story with about Dre Shooge Knight.

726
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:25,560
Speaker 2: Good for her? What is that good for her?

727
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 1: Yeah? And it was from like the clips that I've

728
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 1: seen and like just like my friends and stuff posting

729
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 1: about it and reading because a woman named she used

730
00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 1: to call herself a bell in Brooklyn. But Demetria o'doyley, o'doyle,

731
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:42,200
Speaker 1: I think o'doley she she did kind of a recap

732
00:33:42,280 --> 00:33:47,600
Speaker 1: and it's just like just the level. I mean, you know,

733
00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 1: you hear of abuse, and there are levels. And every

734
00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 1: woman who had watched the movie, like Demetria would would

735
00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:57,040
Speaker 1: would check in and say, wait did he just And

736
00:33:57,080 --> 00:34:00,640
Speaker 1: then a woman would say just wait, keep watching, and

737
00:34:00,800 --> 00:34:02,280
Speaker 1: she would come back and be like, wait did he

738
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 1: just Someone would say again, just wait, keep watching. It

739
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:10,880
Speaker 1: it escalated to levels that like are unheard of, and

740
00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:13,640
Speaker 1: I'm like, what kind of people were just like it

741
00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:17,640
Speaker 1: was beyond like you know, people were just like doctor Dre,

742
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 1: you're a monster. It just that's I mean. I went

743
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:21,319
Speaker 1: on Twitter later to kind of see like what people

744
00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:24,759
Speaker 1: were saying, and people were like, wow, sir, if even

745
00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:28,399
Speaker 1: half of this is true, you are literally a sociopath,

746
00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:29,760
Speaker 1: a psychopath, and a monster.

747
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Speaker 2: I remember one I remember when Strada A Compton came out.

748
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:37,600
Speaker 2: People were saying like they were yelling and because it

749
00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:41,480
Speaker 2: overlooked all that you know, abuse and stuff, but I yeah,

750
00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:43,160
Speaker 2: I didn't know how bad it was.

751
00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:45,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, And so I'm just taking a Bronla, you know,

752
00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:47,960
Speaker 1: because it's so crazy because he apologized for the abuse

753
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 1: at one point, but then when the movie was coming out,

754
00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:52,680
Speaker 1: he was like, oh, it's all a lie. And I'm like, sir,

755
00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:55,200
Speaker 1: we have you on tape apologizing for the abuse. Not

756
00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:58,200
Speaker 1: that that erased it, but now that it's just don't

757
00:34:58,200 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 1: want people to realize just how depray indifferent that you

758
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:04,680
Speaker 1: were to the mother of your children, and how at

759
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:09,240
Speaker 1: one point she tried to kill herself but she failed. Yeah,

760
00:35:09,280 --> 00:35:12,040
Speaker 1: it's just you just wonder, like what kind of person.

761
00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:14,040
Speaker 1: And so I just said, I'm, you know, taking a

762
00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:17,319
Speaker 1: brown break from like just if you are, I mean,

763
00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:19,440
Speaker 1: and maybe we can find like a link or something

764
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:20,800
Speaker 1: I was gonna say.

765
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:23,319
Speaker 2: You know with I guess that the one of the

766
00:35:23,360 --> 00:35:26,279
Speaker 2: few silver linings with all this Trump controversy. So the

767
00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 2: last two weeks, of course you all heard about the

768
00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:33,080
Speaker 2: just you know, just heinous comments Trump made about sexually

769
00:35:33,120 --> 00:35:36,800
Speaker 2: assaulting women, bragging about it. I was reading in The Times.

770
00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:39,520
Speaker 2: One of the silver linings is that the number of

771
00:35:39,600 --> 00:35:43,200
Speaker 2: calls to the National Sexual Abuse and Rape Assault Line

772
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:47,400
Speaker 2: hotline HATH increased from like six hundred a month, like

773
00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:51,200
Speaker 2: to eight hundred and more a month now, So it

774
00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 2: seems like people are talking more about sexual assaultments like

775
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:56,880
Speaker 2: empowering more people to come out and talk about it.

776
00:35:56,920 --> 00:35:59,840
Speaker 2: So I mean, I hope. I guess the movie and

777
00:36:00,360 --> 00:36:02,279
Speaker 2: you know, I guess the one silver lining is maybe

778
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:05,960
Speaker 2: it'll encourage more women to get out of those situations.

779
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:09,279
Speaker 1: Because I think that because of the general outrage over

780
00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:12,320
Speaker 1: you know what, what he who shall not be named

781
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 1: said is that it gave women who probably went through it, like,

782
00:36:16,719 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 1: oh so people people think this is bad. Okay, you know.

783
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 2: I'm not alone. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's it's hard, and

784
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:28,879
Speaker 2: you know what, it's it's really hard. You know. One

785
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:30,480
Speaker 2: of the things we talked about before was having an

786
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:33,279
Speaker 2: f you fund. That f you fund is that so

787
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:36,440
Speaker 2: you can remove yourself from whatever situation that is not

788
00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 2: good for you. You know, money is power in a

789
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:42,000
Speaker 2: lot of ways, and it's it's you know, and even

790
00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:43,920
Speaker 2: if you think you have money and your family and

791
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:46,640
Speaker 2: you're doing well, you know, if it look really, who

792
00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:48,920
Speaker 2: has the control of the money? Do you have control

793
00:36:48,960 --> 00:36:50,799
Speaker 2: of the money? Do you is your nay? Your name

794
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:52,960
Speaker 2: on the credit cards? Is it your name on the

795
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:55,880
Speaker 2: bank account? Or you know, it's it's it's really about,

796
00:36:56,000 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 2: you know, giving yourself, you know, financial autonomy and power

797
00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:03,080
Speaker 2: and there's nothing wrong with that and wanting it in

798
00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:06,399
Speaker 2: a relationship and looking for that because it means when

799
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 2: you don't like what's happening, you as you should be

800
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 2: able to can leave. And sadly, a lot of women

801
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:14,680
Speaker 2: you know don't have the means financially to leave, and

802
00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:20,280
Speaker 2: they get stuck. I've seen it time and time again. Yeah,

803
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:20,840
Speaker 2: it's sad.

804
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:24,600
Speaker 1: What about you? Are you breaking or are you boosting?

805
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:28,680
Speaker 2: I'm going to do a boost, Anna Bury, so one

806
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 2: just off the top. My break is going to be

807
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 2: this election. I cannot wait for No. Number eighth. I

808
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:35,520
Speaker 2: just want to cast my ballot and move on with

809
00:37:35,600 --> 00:37:37,879
Speaker 2: my life because I can't take the headlines. I want

810
00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:40,759
Speaker 2: Voldemort to go back into his cave. I want him

811
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:44,319
Speaker 2: to just disappear into the dark hole he was born in.

812
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:47,279
Speaker 2: So I want to break from the election. I'm sure

813
00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:50,400
Speaker 2: all of you guys do too. But my boost I

814
00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:52,840
Speaker 2: want to give a boost to women in this election.

815
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:57,480
Speaker 2: I think, especially in light of these recent comments made

816
00:37:57,480 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 2: by Voldemort he must not be named, all these polls

817
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:03,359
Speaker 2: will come out showing that women are the ones who

818
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:07,920
Speaker 2: are you know, really behind Trumps dropping the polls recently

819
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:11,400
Speaker 2: and how women will be the deciding vote. How polls

820
00:38:11,440 --> 00:38:13,560
Speaker 2: of men have shown that they haven't really changed their

821
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 2: opinion two muth one way or the other of him

822
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 2: in light of these recent comments. But women are the

823
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 2: the is the core group of voters who will be

824
00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:26,680
Speaker 2: one of the biggest deciding factors in this election. And

825
00:38:26,719 --> 00:38:28,760
Speaker 2: I just think that's really powerful and just a reminder

826
00:38:28,840 --> 00:38:32,879
Speaker 2: that women's voices do matter. In fact, there were some

827
00:38:33,239 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 2: there was this terrible hashtag going around from conservative voters.

828
00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 2: I think it was repealed the thirteenth which gave or

829
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 2: repeal whatever if I'm terrible, My US history teacher is

830
00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:47,319
Speaker 2: just rolling over right now. Repeal whatever amendment it was

831
00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:49,239
Speaker 2: they gave women the right to vote. I think it's

832
00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:53,760
Speaker 2: the nineteenth. Oh god, I'm sorry. Yeah, repeal the amendment

833
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 2: that gave women the right to vote. So that yeah,

834
00:38:57,560 --> 00:38:59,520
Speaker 2: so that we would have less of a say in

835
00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:02,799
Speaker 2: the election. So I think that's just, you know, more

836
00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 2: encouragement for women to get out there and vote. Your

837
00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:10,880
Speaker 2: votes do count. And you know, that's all I can

838
00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:13,160
Speaker 2: say about that. Oh and no, that's not all I

839
00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:15,799
Speaker 2: can say, because I forgot to mention Michelle, speaking of

840
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:20,040
Speaker 2: our goddess Floatus gave before this New York Times story

841
00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:22,320
Speaker 2: even came out. That was just good timing. She dropped

842
00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:26,680
Speaker 2: the mic on America again last week with her speech.

843
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 2: I believe it was in New Hampshire, just dragging Lord

844
00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:33,840
Speaker 2: Voldemort down to the ground for those comments he made,

845
00:39:33,920 --> 00:39:38,879
Speaker 2: and really just like reading America for doing anything else

846
00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:42,640
Speaker 2: and completely condemning those words and being terrified, terrified of

847
00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:45,560
Speaker 2: the prospect of a man like that being close to

848
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:49,280
Speaker 2: the presidency. So and I think if there's any president

849
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:52,080
Speaker 2: of women in America, it's going to be Floatus. So

850
00:39:52,600 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 2: she speaks for all of us. And I see you, Hillary,

851
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 2: I see you got your your secret weapon, Miss Michelle,

852
00:39:57,600 --> 00:39:59,320
Speaker 2: and I I can't blame.

853
00:39:59,120 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 1: You for it. You better bring out the big gun.

854
00:40:01,880 --> 00:40:03,239
Speaker 2: It's working. I'm not gonna lie.

855
00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:03,720
Speaker 1: It's working.

856
00:40:04,840 --> 00:40:15,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, So go girl, thrill power. Yeah all right. So,

857
00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:18,680
Speaker 2: like Tiffany said, you can go right to Brinambition podcast

858
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 2: dot com to submit your questions. We've got some really

859
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:23,880
Speaker 2: good questions. We're only gonna get to maybe one or

860
00:40:23,920 --> 00:40:27,799
Speaker 2: two today. This one is a really good question from

861
00:40:27,840 --> 00:40:31,200
Speaker 2: one of our listeners who wants to remain anonymous. She says,

862
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 2: I'm really confused. I heard on a recent episode of

863
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:38,800
Speaker 2: Brown Ambition a story that's triggered a lot of questions

864
00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:41,840
Speaker 2: and doubts for me. My school loans are with an issue.

865
00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:44,360
Speaker 2: We're called fed loan. I have about eighty four thousand

866
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:47,440
Speaker 2: dollars in student loan debt and I'm on an income

867
00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:50,799
Speaker 2: driven repayment plan. But I've been using a company called

868
00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:54,640
Speaker 2: Student Loan Assistance Center. I pay Student Loan Assistant Center

869
00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:58,280
Speaker 2: thirty nine dollars a month for their services. They applied

870
00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:02,799
Speaker 2: on my behalf for or the income based repayment plan.

871
00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:05,600
Speaker 2: They've helped me get a loan consolidation and have also

872
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:08,600
Speaker 2: helped me getting on a twenty five year income driven

873
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:13,360
Speaker 2: repayment plan. I don't even understand everything on the form,

874
00:41:13,440 --> 00:41:16,440
Speaker 2: and I wonder if all I've been paying has been

875
00:41:16,520 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 2: for nothing. During the episode, I heard you say that

876
00:41:19,719 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 2: I don't really need a company to act as an

877
00:41:21,600 --> 00:41:24,840
Speaker 2: intermediary for these services. I wonder if I can drop

878
00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:28,000
Speaker 2: SLAC and continue on the plan by myself.

879
00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:31,920
Speaker 1: I'm sorry to tell you that you could have just

880
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:34,840
Speaker 1: called your federal student loan company and they would have

881
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:36,240
Speaker 1: given you the exact same stuff.

882
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:41,080
Speaker 2: Yes, so I looked up Slack. It's actually a document

883
00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:46,279
Speaker 2: processing company. So Slack is it's legitimate. Okay, there are

884
00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 2: businesses out there that you can pay a fee and

885
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 2: they will do things for you that you can do yourself,

886
00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:53,360
Speaker 2: the same way you could follow your taxes that you

887
00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 2: hire an accountant and they do a service for you

888
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:58,760
Speaker 2: that you could do yourself. So they're call a document

889
00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 2: processing center one of the super uber duber scammy ones

890
00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 2: out there that are like using images of Obama and

891
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:10,759
Speaker 2: promising student loan forgiveness and stuff. However, yes, you can

892
00:42:10,840 --> 00:42:14,239
Speaker 2: absolutely do. You can absolutely just call your service or

893
00:42:14,239 --> 00:42:17,319
Speaker 2: your loan servicer and enroll in those programs on your

894
00:42:17,360 --> 00:42:20,400
Speaker 2: own and save your thirty nine dollars a month. Also,

895
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:23,280
Speaker 2: there's no reason to pay any company a monthly fee

896
00:42:23,280 --> 00:42:24,759
Speaker 2: because it only takes one phone call.

897
00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:27,360
Speaker 1: I was gonna say that, like, so what do they

898
00:42:27,480 --> 00:42:30,680
Speaker 1: charge you once you do the documents at one time?

899
00:42:30,840 --> 00:42:33,239
Speaker 1: You're like you're in, like Flynn, like there's nothing else.

900
00:42:33,520 --> 00:42:36,680
Speaker 1: So when you're paying indefinitely thirty nine dollars a month,

901
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:38,200
Speaker 1: and what are they gonna do? Say, Hey, you're no

902
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:40,360
Speaker 1: longer in the income base for payment program. That's not

903
00:42:40,400 --> 00:42:41,280
Speaker 1: how that works.

904
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:44,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, so that's the short answer to your question. She

905
00:42:44,560 --> 00:42:46,879
Speaker 2: had a second part to her question. She's so she's

906
00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:49,440
Speaker 2: looking at her student loan balances and they're just not

907
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:51,880
Speaker 2: going down. She says, I don't even understand everything on

908
00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:55,080
Speaker 2: my student loan form, and I wonder if all I've

909
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:57,800
Speaker 2: been paying all this time is interest, since the amount

910
00:42:57,840 --> 00:43:00,120
Speaker 2: of the principle doesn't seem to change, although it's it's

911
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:01,839
Speaker 2: been a year now that I've been on the plan

912
00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:05,919
Speaker 2: and I pay regularly. Here's the thing with income based

913
00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:08,279
Speaker 2: repayment plans, and especially if you're on a twenty five

914
00:43:08,360 --> 00:43:12,279
Speaker 2: year plan, your payments are probably super duper low. She

915
00:43:12,360 --> 00:43:14,440
Speaker 2: did send me some of her loan documents and I

916
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:17,480
Speaker 2: looked at them. Her interest rate is five point eight percent.

917
00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:20,800
Speaker 2: Chances are her payment is so low that she really

918
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:24,359
Speaker 2: isn't touching the principle, Like she's just probably not even

919
00:43:24,400 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 2: touching how much interest on it. So that's the that's

920
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:30,400
Speaker 2: like the quid pro quo with those income driven repayment

921
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:33,640
Speaker 2: plans is that what anytime you give yourself longer to

922
00:43:33,680 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 2: pay off a loane, you're paying way more in interest.

923
00:43:36,680 --> 00:43:40,280
Speaker 2: So you're actually going to pay more over time, way more.

924
00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:43,000
Speaker 2: On the other hand, you get the benefit of flexible

925
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:45,840
Speaker 2: repayments and you can, you know, live your life and

926
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:49,200
Speaker 2: pay your bills and you're not stressed out. It's it's

927
00:43:49,239 --> 00:43:51,479
Speaker 2: a give and take, but it's something that you should

928
00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:54,920
Speaker 2: consider because if you're expecting, you know, to pay out

929
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 2: the eighty five I mean it's twenty five years. That's

930
00:43:57,200 --> 00:43:58,759
Speaker 2: how long it's going to take you. That's what the

931
00:43:58,760 --> 00:44:01,920
Speaker 2: plan is set up for. So you know, you could

932
00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:05,319
Speaker 2: you know, there's student loan repayment calculators you can look

933
00:44:05,400 --> 00:44:08,759
Speaker 2: up online. We have when it Magnify Money, and you

934
00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:10,560
Speaker 2: can put on your numbers and put on your how

935
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:12,959
Speaker 2: much you're paying for a month, and it'll tell you, yeah,

936
00:44:12,960 --> 00:44:14,040
Speaker 2: it's going to take you a while.

937
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:17,520
Speaker 1: But the good news is if you canceled that forty

938
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:19,640
Speaker 1: bucks a month basically paying, you could put that towards

939
00:44:19,680 --> 00:44:21,520
Speaker 1: your principle totally. Yeah.

940
00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:24,160
Speaker 2: I would say candle them, yeah for sure.

941
00:44:24,280 --> 00:44:25,719
Speaker 1: And just say, you know what, I'm going to put

942
00:44:25,719 --> 00:44:27,800
Speaker 1: forty bucks a month. Like you can make a second

943
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:30,400
Speaker 1: principal payment of the forty bucks a month and at

944
00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:32,160
Speaker 1: least then you'll know that you're you know you're doing

945
00:44:32,200 --> 00:44:35,840
Speaker 1: a little bit of a shift, but you know it's yeah,

946
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:37,719
Speaker 1: I mean, but I'm glad. That's a really good question

947
00:44:37,760 --> 00:44:41,839
Speaker 1: to ask, because, for example, I paid someone to not

948
00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 1: do income based for payment and stuff like that, but

949
00:44:44,040 --> 00:44:48,480
Speaker 1: I paid her to help me figure out even though

950
00:44:48,480 --> 00:44:49,759
Speaker 1: I know I could do this myself, and I could

951
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:51,719
Speaker 1: have done the research and all kinds the Googles and

952
00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:54,400
Speaker 1: everything else, but it was worth it to me to

953
00:44:54,719 --> 00:44:56,800
Speaker 1: help for her to help me find a program where

954
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 1: I could get rid of my student loans as much

955
00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:02,799
Speaker 1: as possible. And with her help, I've been able to

956
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:07,160
Speaker 1: reduce my student loans by twenty thousand dollars. And now

957
00:45:07,280 --> 00:45:09,520
Speaker 1: it's it was that a program I could have googled, Yes,

958
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:10,800
Speaker 1: but I did my googles and I was like, I

959
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 1: don't know what this says. I'd rather pay someone a

960
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:15,879
Speaker 1: couple hundred bucks to find it for me, and then

961
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:18,239
Speaker 1: I saved twenty thousand, So to me, the return on

962
00:45:18,320 --> 00:45:21,160
Speaker 1: investment was worth it. Like Mandy said, it's like doing

963
00:45:21,239 --> 00:45:23,480
Speaker 1: your laundry. You know how to do laundry. You could

964
00:45:23,480 --> 00:45:25,400
Speaker 1: do it yourself or you could pay for a service,

965
00:45:25,680 --> 00:45:28,120
Speaker 1: So it all kind of depends on you. Know on

966
00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:32,000
Speaker 1: where you are and what you can afford and if

967
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:35,640
Speaker 1: you're willing to do the work yourself. But what you

968
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:38,399
Speaker 1: paid for, honestly was That's a phone call you could

969
00:45:38,400 --> 00:45:40,879
Speaker 1: make just saying hey, I want to apply for income

970
00:45:40,920 --> 00:45:42,600
Speaker 1: Base for payment and they would have walked you through.

971
00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 1: So just making sure that before you pay for anything.

972
00:45:46,600 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 1: This is just for all the BA listeners, before you

973
00:45:48,520 --> 00:45:52,400
Speaker 1: pay for any financial service, you know, do your best

974
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:54,640
Speaker 1: to try it on your own first, and then if

975
00:45:54,680 --> 00:45:58,680
Speaker 1: you don't make any any movement or any progress on

976
00:45:58,719 --> 00:46:01,120
Speaker 1: your own, then yes, you know, paying for professional services

977
00:46:01,200 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 1: is not a terrible thing when you know you know

978
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:03,840
Speaker 1: what I've tried.

979
00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:06,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, and just to a quick Google search, that's what

980
00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:09,200
Speaker 2: I did to find out more about SLAC and see

981
00:46:09,200 --> 00:46:10,799
Speaker 2: what other people have said about it and if they

982
00:46:10,800 --> 00:46:13,759
Speaker 2: had the same experience. The unfortunate thing is that it's

983
00:46:13,760 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 2: a legitimate company. They gave you a service, you paid

984
00:46:16,160 --> 00:46:18,480
Speaker 2: for it. You can't get your money back, you know,

985
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:22,399
Speaker 2: that's the shame. So hopefully you can just cancel it

986
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:27,680
Speaker 2: and move on and start aggressively making payments as much

987
00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:29,640
Speaker 2: as you can on those student loans, and you'll probably

988
00:46:29,680 --> 00:46:32,160
Speaker 2: save more an interest by making bigger payments than what

989
00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:34,880
Speaker 2: you lost this year pay in that company, so you

990
00:46:34,920 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 2: can come back from it for sure.

991
00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:38,719
Speaker 1: Yeah.

992
00:46:38,840 --> 00:46:41,000
Speaker 2: Moved on to our second question. So this is from

993
00:46:41,040 --> 00:46:44,160
Speaker 2: a reader named Dana. She says, I come to you

994
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:46,720
Speaker 2: with a career dilemma. You came to the right place,

995
00:46:47,920 --> 00:46:50,440
Speaker 2: Dana says, I'm two and a half years removed from

996
00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:54,520
Speaker 2: getting my bachelor's in business. Shortly after college, I landed

997
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 2: a standard entry level job with a solid fortune one

998
00:46:57,760 --> 00:47:00,960
Speaker 2: hundred company. As a new college grad. I was ecstatic. However,

999
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:03,080
Speaker 2: my interests started to wane and I was able to

1000
00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 2: pinpoint that my boredom was attached to not feeling as

1001
00:47:06,120 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 2: though my company or my position fed my desire to

1002
00:47:09,600 --> 00:47:13,359
Speaker 2: work in a helping field. I wrestled with a few

1003
00:47:13,400 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 2: options and ended up with teaching. Fast forward and we're

1004
00:47:16,600 --> 00:47:20,080
Speaker 2: now in October. I'm feeling overwhelmed and I'm constantly kicking

1005
00:47:20,080 --> 00:47:23,080
Speaker 2: myself as to why I jumped into this field. I'm

1006
00:47:23,080 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 2: a sixth grade language arts teacher. There is just so

1007
00:47:26,320 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 2: much and it has me questioning everything about myself. According

1008
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:32,839
Speaker 2: to the infamous first year teacher disillusionment chart, I don't

1009
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:35,279
Speaker 2: know what that is, Tiffany, I am in the low

1010
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:38,279
Speaker 2: point of first year teaching. Oh, I guess there's a

1011
00:47:38,360 --> 00:47:42,080
Speaker 2: lull and depression and first year teaching. In the event

1012
00:47:42,120 --> 00:47:44,000
Speaker 2: that it doesn't get better for me, how should I

1013
00:47:44,040 --> 00:47:48,480
Speaker 2: approach yet another career change? Also, when should you sacrifice

1014
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 2: school for work and vice versa. My gut is telling

1015
00:47:51,719 --> 00:47:54,640
Speaker 2: me to go back to school to get an MSW.

1016
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:57,480
Speaker 2: But is it? But it is because my school is

1017
00:47:57,480 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 2: my comfort zone. And I also like to minimize debt

1018
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:01,640
Speaker 2: as I currently am debt free.

1019
00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:05,560
Speaker 1: So let's maybe tackle the first part. So she went

1020
00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:07,360
Speaker 1: to school for business. Did she get her degree?

1021
00:48:07,480 --> 00:48:09,400
Speaker 2: She's two and a half years removed from getting her

1022
00:48:09,400 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 2: bachelor's in business. Okay, After college, she got an entry

1023
00:48:13,120 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 2: level job. Then she decided to switch moves and go

1024
00:48:16,080 --> 00:48:16,720
Speaker 2: into teaching.

1025
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:19,240
Speaker 1: So that's where she and I were on the same page.

1026
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:22,239
Speaker 1: So I got my degree in business as well. Was like,

1027
00:48:23,360 --> 00:48:27,280
Speaker 1: hate these internships, they're soul sucking. Then I became a teacher,

1028
00:48:27,800 --> 00:48:31,000
Speaker 1: and I can tell you that first year I cried

1029
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:32,959
Speaker 1: almost every single day in the car on the way home.

1030
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:35,160
Speaker 1: It's a lot.

1031
00:48:36,000 --> 00:48:37,560
Speaker 2: I cried, definitely in that first year.

1032
00:48:37,640 --> 00:48:40,160
Speaker 1: Low Oh what not only did I cry? First of all,

1033
00:48:40,200 --> 00:48:41,680
Speaker 1: I was exhausted. I couldn't even make it all the

1034
00:48:41,680 --> 00:48:43,960
Speaker 1: way home. I used to pull over halfway home. There

1035
00:48:44,000 --> 00:48:46,799
Speaker 1: was a Walmart that was like the halfway home point,

1036
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:48,640
Speaker 1: and I was so exhausted. I used to pull over

1037
00:48:48,760 --> 00:48:51,399
Speaker 1: and take a thirty minute cat nap in the car

1038
00:48:52,480 --> 00:48:54,319
Speaker 1: every day because I couldn't make it all the way

1039
00:48:54,320 --> 00:48:56,759
Speaker 1: home with my eyes open because I was that exhausted.

1040
00:48:57,480 --> 00:49:00,879
Speaker 1: So just know that, yes, it is very, very hard

1041
00:49:00,880 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 1: in the beginning because no matter what you no matter

1042
00:49:04,880 --> 00:49:09,440
Speaker 1: what you do, it's difficult because teaching is one of

1043
00:49:09,480 --> 00:49:13,840
Speaker 1: those things that you really only get better at or

1044
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:17,839
Speaker 1: do well at, with time. It's not something where it's

1045
00:49:17,880 --> 00:49:20,320
Speaker 1: like baking. Yeah, you know, you make a few cakes,

1046
00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:23,080
Speaker 1: you know well in the beginning, but really the nuances

1047
00:49:23,160 --> 00:49:26,040
Speaker 1: don't reveal themselves to you until after a few years

1048
00:49:26,080 --> 00:49:28,440
Speaker 1: of really getting into it. And so for the first

1049
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:32,520
Speaker 1: year I was exhausted and I was depressed, and I

1050
00:49:32,640 --> 00:49:35,160
Speaker 1: was like, I mean, I love the kids, but everything

1051
00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:40,759
Speaker 1: else sucked. And it got better and I'm obviously you know,

1052
00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:42,560
Speaker 1: I'm not there now, but it got better as far

1053
00:49:42,600 --> 00:49:45,319
Speaker 1: as I got better as a teacher. Because it's like

1054
00:49:45,360 --> 00:49:47,000
Speaker 1: when you first start driving, you know, when you first

1055
00:49:47,040 --> 00:49:49,560
Speaker 1: start driving, and everything is a distraction. You're like, oh

1056
00:49:49,640 --> 00:49:51,479
Speaker 1: my god, the mirror, the lights, the camera, the action.

1057
00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:54,359
Speaker 1: But then after a while you learn how to focus

1058
00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 1: and really not be distracted by all these different things.

1059
00:49:57,600 --> 00:50:00,239
Speaker 1: It's like that when you teach, everything is something thing.

1060
00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:03,240
Speaker 1: But then after a while you'll get into a rhythm

1061
00:50:03,320 --> 00:50:06,240
Speaker 1: where one you learn how to read kids very quickly,

1062
00:50:06,320 --> 00:50:08,319
Speaker 1: and people in your audience when you're speaking to them

1063
00:50:08,400 --> 00:50:11,880
Speaker 1: very quickly. You learn how to manage your classroom, you

1064
00:50:12,000 --> 00:50:15,359
Speaker 1: learn how to quickly like the few situations, you learn

1065
00:50:15,560 --> 00:50:17,480
Speaker 1: like you know, just there are all these things that

1066
00:50:17,520 --> 00:50:19,480
Speaker 1: you you don't even need to You don't even realize

1067
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:21,040
Speaker 1: you need to learn that you will learn if you

1068
00:50:21,080 --> 00:50:24,799
Speaker 1: decide to stick with it. So I can't tell you

1069
00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:26,399
Speaker 1: to stick with it or not stick with it. All

1070
00:50:26,400 --> 00:50:28,760
Speaker 1: I can say is that how you're feeling is completely normal.

1071
00:50:29,840 --> 00:50:32,479
Speaker 1: And then if you decide to make a career shift,

1072
00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:34,880
Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong with that. I don't honestly, I'm not

1073
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:37,440
Speaker 1: under the belief that you have to stay anywhere. I mean,

1074
00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:39,520
Speaker 1: I'm doing the budget EASTA now what I mean catch

1075
00:50:39,560 --> 00:50:41,600
Speaker 1: me in two years. I might be the natural hair guru.

1076
00:50:41,719 --> 00:50:42,000
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1077
00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:44,719
Speaker 2: That's my plan.

1078
00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:49,280
Speaker 1: Honestly, I don't. I'm not married to one way of living.

1079
00:50:49,320 --> 00:50:52,640
Speaker 1: I believe you have this one short life, and there's

1080
00:50:52,680 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 1: parts in life, like half of your life has gone

1081
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 1: to you. Part of your life you're too old to

1082
00:50:57,200 --> 00:50:59,280
Speaker 1: do anything, the other part you're too young to do anything.

1083
00:50:59,400 --> 00:51:02,000
Speaker 1: And then there's a middle piece where you're it's like

1084
00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:04,839
Speaker 1: just right. So Goldilocks, you better live your life because

1085
00:51:04,840 --> 00:51:07,120
Speaker 1: you're you're in your just right. So don't feel like

1086
00:51:07,160 --> 00:51:08,640
Speaker 1: you have to stay a certain place. I don't care

1087
00:51:08,640 --> 00:51:10,799
Speaker 1: if you changed your career every two years. You know,

1088
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:14,560
Speaker 1: live your life and so, but just don't run from

1089
00:51:14,600 --> 00:51:17,520
Speaker 1: teaching if you think just because you think that, I

1090
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:21,640
Speaker 1: shouldn't be feeling overwhelmed and upset that that's kind of normal.

1091
00:51:21,680 --> 00:51:23,840
Speaker 1: Everyone's not going to feel that way, but it's not abnormal.

1092
00:51:23,880 --> 00:51:26,000
Speaker 1: I certainly cried nearly every single day. I was like,

1093
00:51:26,040 --> 00:51:28,600
Speaker 1: I can't, I can do this, I can do this.

1094
00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:31,120
Speaker 2: I was in the I bet that's really comforting for

1095
00:51:31,160 --> 00:51:33,399
Speaker 2: her to hear. I bet that's what she needed. Like, yeah,

1096
00:51:33,880 --> 00:51:36,000
Speaker 2: like seventy five percent of that question. She just needed

1097
00:51:36,000 --> 00:51:37,600
Speaker 2: someone to tell her that she's not crazy.

1098
00:51:37,760 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, she you're not crazy. It's a lot, girl, You're

1099
00:51:40,080 --> 00:51:42,359
Speaker 1: dealing with like how many kids in the classroom, then

1100
00:51:42,400 --> 00:51:44,400
Speaker 1: the administration, and then the fact you actually have to

1101
00:51:44,400 --> 00:51:47,040
Speaker 1: teach them something, and then no one, no one actually

1102
00:51:47,480 --> 00:51:50,319
Speaker 1: was I kept waiting for teacher lessons, girl, they never came.

1103
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:53,160
Speaker 1: No one came and said, hey, Tiffany, this is how

1104
00:51:53,200 --> 00:51:56,760
Speaker 1: you actually teach and manage the classroom. Literally the first day, Mandy,

1105
00:51:56,800 --> 00:51:59,160
Speaker 1: I didn't even know what kids that age knew. I

1106
00:51:59,239 --> 00:52:01,480
Speaker 1: was asking the student teacher like, so, like, what are

1107
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:03,759
Speaker 1: three and four year olds know? Like do they know

1108
00:52:03,800 --> 00:52:06,160
Speaker 1: their name? I had no idea, So I'm like, so, hi, guys,

1109
00:52:06,200 --> 00:52:08,040
Speaker 1: I mean, I didn't even know.

1110
00:52:09,680 --> 00:52:11,960
Speaker 2: I didn't think of a single more terrifying thing than

1111
00:52:12,000 --> 00:52:15,160
Speaker 2: sitting and standing in front of twenty five twelve year

1112
00:52:15,200 --> 00:52:18,120
Speaker 2: olds in English class. Oh my god, you don't.

1113
00:52:17,920 --> 00:52:19,840
Speaker 1: Even know that. You have no unless you have children

1114
00:52:19,920 --> 00:52:22,040
Speaker 1: that age, there's no point of reference for you. So

1115
00:52:22,080 --> 00:52:24,360
Speaker 1: you don't know how hard you go, how soft do

1116
00:52:24,400 --> 00:52:26,839
Speaker 1: you go? How gentle? How mean? How you don't know?

1117
00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:29,640
Speaker 1: And so you don't you don't get your your cadence.

1118
00:52:30,480 --> 00:52:33,080
Speaker 1: It just takes a minute. And kids can smell and

1119
00:52:33,120 --> 00:52:38,440
Speaker 1: taste fear and they eat it. Like like they're like, oh, yes,

1120
00:52:39,080 --> 00:52:46,919
Speaker 1: she's afraid, y'all, here comes this new fresh meat got her.

1121
00:52:46,960 --> 00:52:49,799
Speaker 1: And so that's but I will say this, if you

1122
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:52,719
Speaker 1: stick with it for a little while, you will come

1123
00:52:52,760 --> 00:52:56,400
Speaker 1: out on the other side a freaking superwoman. There is

1124
00:52:56,440 --> 00:53:01,840
Speaker 1: no better, like, cooler, well equipped person that I know

1125
00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:05,680
Speaker 1: than a damn teacher. Because one you learn how to

1126
00:53:05,719 --> 00:53:08,000
Speaker 1: manage folks. You learn public speaking, you learn how to

1127
00:53:08,040 --> 00:53:10,160
Speaker 1: keep people's attention, you learn how to bring people from

1128
00:53:10,200 --> 00:53:12,960
Speaker 1: a place of no knowledge to knowledge. You learn not

1129
00:53:13,040 --> 00:53:15,080
Speaker 1: just that, but it's like running a business because you

1130
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:17,680
Speaker 1: have to manage the administration to parents and the students,

1131
00:53:18,120 --> 00:53:21,120
Speaker 1: and on top of that, teach them something something, make

1132
00:53:21,160 --> 00:53:24,719
Speaker 1: it entertaining. I mean, the reason why I do so

1133
00:53:24,800 --> 00:53:28,440
Speaker 1: well with the budgetiesta, hands down eighty five percent of

1134
00:53:28,520 --> 00:53:32,040
Speaker 1: it comes from my training in that classroom in New York,

1135
00:53:32,080 --> 00:53:34,480
Speaker 1: New Jersey with fifteen, three and four year olds at

1136
00:53:34,520 --> 00:53:37,600
Speaker 1: a time. It taught me everything. And so, you know,

1137
00:53:37,880 --> 00:53:41,160
Speaker 1: if nothing else, stay for a few years or so

1138
00:53:41,719 --> 00:53:44,160
Speaker 1: just to get that lesson, because you can take those

1139
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:47,319
Speaker 1: skills and run the damn world for real.

1140
00:53:48,000 --> 00:53:48,719
Speaker 2: You can do it.

1141
00:53:49,160 --> 00:53:52,040
Speaker 1: You can, and just keep in contact. I would love

1142
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:54,480
Speaker 1: to hear, you know, share your teacher story. That's one

1143
00:53:54,480 --> 00:53:56,799
Speaker 1: thing fun thing about being a teacher is like you

1144
00:53:56,920 --> 00:53:59,479
Speaker 1: become like really like a fun friend because every day

1145
00:53:59,600 --> 00:54:01,960
Speaker 1: I would have like teacher stories for my friends. So

1146
00:54:02,040 --> 00:54:04,959
Speaker 1: even if something is crazy and something terrible happened, share

1147
00:54:04,960 --> 00:54:06,520
Speaker 1: it as a teacher story with your friends, you know,

1148
00:54:06,560 --> 00:54:09,439
Speaker 1: of course leaving your kids' names out, but it becomes fun.

1149
00:54:09,440 --> 00:54:11,359
Speaker 1: Like my friends would ask me like, so what about

1150
00:54:11,360 --> 00:54:13,840
Speaker 1: the kid with the plaid shirt? Wow's he doing? You know?

1151
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:16,439
Speaker 1: And so it just became fun sharing the good, bad

1152
00:54:16,440 --> 00:54:19,640
Speaker 1: and ugly with my friends. And it became very It's

1153
00:54:19,640 --> 00:54:22,640
Speaker 1: almost like therapy for me to share like my teacher stories.

1154
00:54:22,719 --> 00:54:24,600
Speaker 2: You have to talk about your you need friends to

1155
00:54:24,640 --> 00:54:26,840
Speaker 2: talk about your day, and yeah, whatever you do. But

1156
00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:30,000
Speaker 2: one part of her question that struck me was when

1157
00:54:30,040 --> 00:54:32,279
Speaker 2: she said she's thinking about going about going back to

1158
00:54:32,280 --> 00:54:35,640
Speaker 2: school to get her MSW, the master's in social work.

1159
00:54:36,040 --> 00:54:38,600
Speaker 2: And she says that's because school is my comfort zone

1160
00:54:38,600 --> 00:54:41,759
Speaker 2: and I'd like to but I'd also like to minimize debt.

1161
00:54:41,840 --> 00:54:44,000
Speaker 2: So she's as, you're weighing the option to go back

1162
00:54:44,040 --> 00:54:46,120
Speaker 2: to grad school. I mean, what I'll say about grad

1163
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:49,920
Speaker 2: school is, you know, during the recession, tons of people

1164
00:54:50,120 --> 00:54:52,600
Speaker 2: couldn't get jobs, so they ran to school because it

1165
00:54:52,640 --> 00:54:54,279
Speaker 2: was you know, they sheltered in school was like the

1166
00:54:54,880 --> 00:54:57,839
Speaker 2: formal term because there weren't really any job prospects. They

1167
00:54:57,840 --> 00:55:00,239
Speaker 2: weren't getting any professional experience, so of course they into

1168
00:55:00,239 --> 00:55:03,120
Speaker 2: school to get you know, professional degree. But I feel

1169
00:55:03,160 --> 00:55:06,480
Speaker 2: like in social work especially, I mean I'm not an expert,

1170
00:55:06,520 --> 00:55:08,720
Speaker 2: I'm not in social work, but I feel like years

1171
00:55:08,719 --> 00:55:13,080
Speaker 2: of experience as a teacher are very powerful on a resume,

1172
00:55:13,160 --> 00:55:16,800
Speaker 2: Like you're getting real world professional experience. And I would

1173
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:19,000
Speaker 2: take that into consideration too. As you're weighing the option

1174
00:55:19,080 --> 00:55:21,319
Speaker 2: of going back to school, especially if he means taking

1175
00:55:21,320 --> 00:55:22,839
Speaker 2: on a ton of debt, you have to think really hard,

1176
00:55:22,920 --> 00:55:25,440
Speaker 2: is that debt going to be worth the potential future

1177
00:55:25,480 --> 00:55:28,759
Speaker 2: earnings increase you can get with a degree in social work. Again,

1178
00:55:28,800 --> 00:55:31,160
Speaker 2: I don't know, you know what degrees in social work?

1179
00:55:31,320 --> 00:55:34,440
Speaker 2: You know how that can translate in salary, But you know,

1180
00:55:34,680 --> 00:55:36,480
Speaker 2: ask yourself, will you be better off with you know,

1181
00:55:36,600 --> 00:55:40,200
Speaker 2: tons of debt in that masters or tons of professional

1182
00:55:40,239 --> 00:55:44,040
Speaker 2: experience and growing in a in your actual career field

1183
00:55:45,160 --> 00:55:47,560
Speaker 2: later on? I mean, teachers are social workers in their

1184
00:55:47,560 --> 00:55:50,120
Speaker 2: own way, right, so I feel like those are I mean,

1185
00:55:50,200 --> 00:55:52,320
Speaker 2: you're learning a ton of skills that probably social workers

1186
00:55:52,400 --> 00:55:54,279
Speaker 2: learn in their day to day job already, and you're

1187
00:55:54,480 --> 00:55:57,719
Speaker 2: getting paid for it rather than paying, you know, to

1188
00:55:57,840 --> 00:55:59,920
Speaker 2: learn it in a in a classroom environment, which on

1189
00:56:00,400 --> 00:56:01,720
Speaker 2: is not like the real world anyway.

1190
00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:04,200
Speaker 1: And I'll say this that like when it comes to

1191
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:06,960
Speaker 1: you know, stuff like that, you should ask you like,

1192
00:56:07,000 --> 00:56:10,160
Speaker 1: what's your end goal? So my sister taught me this,

1193
00:56:10,280 --> 00:56:13,560
Speaker 1: my older sister. She's always so scary question. It is

1194
00:56:13,600 --> 00:56:16,239
Speaker 1: a scary question, but it helps to order your past. So, like,

1195
00:56:16,920 --> 00:56:19,480
Speaker 1: you know, if you're like, you know ideally where you

1196
00:56:19,480 --> 00:56:22,040
Speaker 1: see you're life headed, making sure that all of the

1197
00:56:22,080 --> 00:56:25,080
Speaker 1: pieces that you're collecting are going to come together to

1198
00:56:25,120 --> 00:56:28,400
Speaker 1: equal that puzzle. So if your end goal is not

1199
00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:31,240
Speaker 1: to stay in the classroom, then why collect a puzzle

1200
00:56:31,280 --> 00:56:34,319
Speaker 1: piece you can't use, you know, So just making sure like, well,

1201
00:56:34,320 --> 00:56:35,799
Speaker 1: what is it that I see for my life? What

1202
00:56:35,880 --> 00:56:37,839
Speaker 1: is it how is it that I like my life

1203
00:56:37,840 --> 00:56:40,960
Speaker 1: to go, and making sure that you know, everything matches

1204
00:56:41,040 --> 00:56:43,879
Speaker 1: up to that, like, okay, I see myself. I knew

1205
00:56:43,920 --> 00:56:47,360
Speaker 1: I remember saying that I wanted to travel you know

1206
00:56:47,600 --> 00:56:50,799
Speaker 1: a lot. And so being a preschool teacher or any

1207
00:56:50,840 --> 00:56:52,239
Speaker 1: teacher helped with that because I was like, oh, I

1208
00:56:52,280 --> 00:56:55,080
Speaker 1: have my summers off, you know, and you know, thinking

1209
00:56:55,120 --> 00:56:56,800
Speaker 1: to yourself, Oh, I want to make a certain amount

1210
00:56:56,800 --> 00:56:58,840
Speaker 1: of money, or I want to live in a certain place,

1211
00:56:58,960 --> 00:57:00,759
Speaker 1: or I want to feel a certa way, or I

1212
00:57:00,840 --> 00:57:03,399
Speaker 1: want to give back whatever that looks like. Making sure

1213
00:57:03,480 --> 00:57:06,040
Speaker 1: that you know, does that degree or is that in

1214
00:57:06,120 --> 00:57:09,120
Speaker 1: alignment with in general, how you'd like your life to

1215
00:57:09,200 --> 00:57:12,440
Speaker 1: kind of play out, and if not, then you know,

1216
00:57:12,960 --> 00:57:15,560
Speaker 1: make a different choice. I mean it's you know, I

1217
00:57:15,600 --> 00:57:17,200
Speaker 1: know it's hard. I'm not saying like what do you

1218
00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:19,080
Speaker 1: want to be when you grow up? Because I believe

1219
00:57:19,120 --> 00:57:21,640
Speaker 1: that we're going to be a number of things. To me,

1220
00:57:21,800 --> 00:57:23,400
Speaker 1: I like to say, how do you want to live?

1221
00:57:23,720 --> 00:57:25,720
Speaker 1: Because how do you want to live doesn't really change

1222
00:57:25,760 --> 00:57:28,360
Speaker 1: that much. You know people who who kind of pick

1223
00:57:28,440 --> 00:57:32,320
Speaker 1: their hand, travel, fun, giving, sharing, caring, those things don't

1224
00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:34,760
Speaker 1: typically change. So figure out how do you want to

1225
00:57:34,800 --> 00:57:37,200
Speaker 1: live and do things in alignment with that.

1226
00:57:39,280 --> 00:57:42,840
Speaker 2: Preach. That was excellent. I can listen to your advice

1227
00:57:42,840 --> 00:57:45,320
Speaker 2: all day. You know, you might have a future and

1228
00:57:45,400 --> 00:57:48,360
Speaker 2: advice giving what.

1229
00:57:48,200 --> 00:57:49,760
Speaker 1: I do my own advice. But I was just this

1230
00:57:49,840 --> 00:57:51,680
Speaker 1: is just like an aside and this is like adventures

1231
00:57:51,680 --> 00:57:55,400
Speaker 1: of Like just I've been very, very very overwhelmed lately,

1232
00:57:55,440 --> 00:57:57,960
Speaker 1: but not even in a bad way. There's just been

1233
00:57:58,000 --> 00:58:00,280
Speaker 1: so much. It's really good stuff, but it's it's just

1234
00:58:00,840 --> 00:58:02,680
Speaker 1: it made me realize that it's time for me to

1235
00:58:02,680 --> 00:58:06,160
Speaker 1: get a personal and in person assistant, like come get

1236
00:58:06,160 --> 00:58:12,040
Speaker 1: my laundry, you know, yes, And so it's just hiring.

1237
00:58:12,600 --> 00:58:15,160
Speaker 1: I know, I am, but I need an in person

1238
00:58:16,640 --> 00:58:20,040
Speaker 1: just like, not an admin, like a personal assistant for real.

1239
00:58:20,160 --> 00:58:22,320
Speaker 1: And it sounds so crazy, like it sounds so oprah

1240
00:58:22,400 --> 00:58:24,280
Speaker 1: esque or so beyond saly, like what do I need

1241
00:58:24,320 --> 00:58:27,480
Speaker 1: a personal assistant for? But I find myself spending hours

1242
00:58:27,520 --> 00:58:31,040
Speaker 1: doing things that I shouldn't be doing, quite honestly. And

1243
00:58:31,320 --> 00:58:34,120
Speaker 1: it's not even because of the business aspect. More and more,

1244
00:58:34,560 --> 00:58:37,760
Speaker 1: I've just been thinking about family and I want to

1245
00:58:37,800 --> 00:58:40,120
Speaker 1: have a kid, and I'm like, well, I'm spending hours

1246
00:58:40,160 --> 00:58:43,120
Speaker 1: doing these like non essential things. That's less time than

1247
00:58:43,120 --> 00:58:45,880
Speaker 1: IM gonna I'm gonna have with my hopefully future baby,

1248
00:58:45,960 --> 00:58:48,320
Speaker 1: and I just I don't want to I don't want

1249
00:58:48,360 --> 00:58:50,240
Speaker 1: that to take up so much time anymore. So I've

1250
00:58:50,280 --> 00:58:52,800
Speaker 1: been trying to strategically and the same thing to like

1251
00:58:52,840 --> 00:58:56,000
Speaker 1: to the young woman that just that wrote that email,

1252
00:58:56,080 --> 00:58:58,520
Speaker 1: that that's what I mean, Like, I'm trying to make

1253
00:58:58,600 --> 00:59:00,360
Speaker 1: choices that add up to the life of how I

1254
00:59:00,360 --> 00:59:02,000
Speaker 1: want to live. And I want to live a life

1255
00:59:02,000 --> 00:59:05,840
Speaker 1: where I have time to like chill up my baby

1256
00:59:05,840 --> 00:59:07,919
Speaker 1: and not worry about my business falling to pieces because

1257
00:59:07,960 --> 00:59:09,880
Speaker 1: there are people in place to make sure things run.

1258
00:59:10,080 --> 00:59:12,400
Speaker 1: So part of that how is planning now to get

1259
00:59:12,440 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 1: a personal assistant and figuring out what does that look like.

1260
00:59:15,440 --> 00:59:17,480
Speaker 1: So as I'm working on you know, I even got

1261
00:59:17,520 --> 00:59:20,240
Speaker 1: like this fertility app on my phone which we could

1262
00:59:20,280 --> 00:59:20,640
Speaker 1: talk about.

1263
00:59:20,680 --> 00:59:23,320
Speaker 2: Like we are.

1264
00:59:24,000 --> 00:59:26,360
Speaker 1: Knee deep in this saying, man, you don't even know

1265
00:59:28,160 --> 00:59:28,800
Speaker 1: like this is.

1266
00:59:29,440 --> 00:59:32,120
Speaker 2: We're gonna do a whole episode. We're gonna planned parenthood.

1267
00:59:32,200 --> 00:59:33,720
Speaker 1: Yes, we all gotta call. We got to talk about

1268
00:59:33,720 --> 00:59:34,360
Speaker 1: that next episode.

1269
00:59:34,360 --> 00:59:38,480
Speaker 2: But yeah, So you guys have parenting questions, ask them now, right?

1270
00:59:38,520 --> 00:59:40,120
Speaker 1: Oh no, don't ask me. I don't have anything.

1271
00:59:40,160 --> 00:59:44,680
Speaker 2: We will send them to experts or family planning questions.

1272
00:59:44,760 --> 00:59:46,920
Speaker 1: Question, Well, how do you make sure that they're not killers?

1273
00:59:48,240 --> 00:59:49,520
Speaker 2: How do you make sure they don't want to do

1274
00:59:49,560 --> 00:59:51,560
Speaker 2: things like drugs like I wanted to do drugs?

1275
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:51,880
Speaker 1: How do.

1276
00:59:51,920 --> 00:59:53,640
Speaker 2: I make sure my kid doesn't want to do that

1277
00:59:53,640 --> 00:59:54,200
Speaker 2: stuff either.

1278
00:59:54,240 --> 00:59:55,680
Speaker 1: And you can't even ask like your mom and stuff

1279
00:59:55,680 --> 00:59:57,120
Speaker 1: anymore because I don't even remember.

1280
00:59:57,080 --> 01:00:00,280
Speaker 2: Remember, Like, I don't know. I just I just wing.

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Speaker 1: I hold my nephew, Like, Mommy, you had five of us.

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Speaker 1: She's like, I know, but you guys are like forty, so.

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Speaker 2: When you were twelve.

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Speaker 1: I know. She doesn't even remember anything. I'm like, that's

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Speaker 1: not how you hold a baby.

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01:00:13,560 --> 01:00:15,680
Speaker 2: My god, I've seen my mother in law hold a baby.

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Speaker 2: It's terrifying.

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Speaker 1: It is. How did they birth children and take care

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Speaker 1: of them?

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Speaker 2: Suck of potatoes? Yeah, because they know how sturty they are,

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Speaker 2: that's the thing. They know. They're not breakable.

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01:00:26,800 --> 01:00:29,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're not. And then you're all like, okay, okay,

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01:00:29,520 --> 01:00:30,960
Speaker 1: don't die, don't die.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god?

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Speaker 1: Yeah all right, so you want to end with some wins.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just gonna I'm.

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Speaker 2: So excited for our planned parented episode. I need everyone

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Speaker 2: to get ready. We're going to do an entire thing

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Speaker 2: about planning for a baby.

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Speaker 1: Yeh. Financially, emotionally, mentally, yeah, definitely. I'm excited about that too.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to show you with you this app that

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Speaker 1: I found that's really awesome. It's free, but I've been

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01:00:52,560 --> 01:00:55,040
Speaker 1: loving it. You guys can so even gear up by

1304
01:00:55,080 --> 01:00:58,560
Speaker 1: sending us like some questions, even some suggestions that we

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01:00:58,600 --> 01:01:00,720
Speaker 1: can share with the rest of the BA audience about

1306
01:01:00,760 --> 01:01:04,360
Speaker 1: like what you use that really helped. I am thirty

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01:01:04,440 --> 01:01:07,960
Speaker 1: seven and so I'm not some spring chicken so pregnancy,

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01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:10,200
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I eat

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01:01:10,240 --> 01:01:12,040
Speaker 1: fairly decent, and I exercise, so.

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Speaker 2: Especially wants some medical advice if we have any guynecologists

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Speaker 2: or fertility doctors on the line. Tiffany's email is.

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm not gonna lie. I'm a little bit

1313
01:01:21,320 --> 01:01:23,560
Speaker 1: nervous about like my ability you could took and see

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01:01:23,680 --> 01:01:27,680
Speaker 1: because of my age, but you know we're gonna have them.

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01:01:28,240 --> 01:01:30,200
Speaker 2: Yeah. I have friends who are going through the same

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01:01:30,240 --> 01:01:32,440
Speaker 2: thing right now, friends who are but not just age,

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01:01:32,480 --> 01:01:36,320
Speaker 2: I mean friends who are my age, younger, older, who've

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01:01:36,360 --> 01:01:43,400
Speaker 2: been dealing with fertility wins and loses, loses, wins and losses. Yeah,

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01:01:43,440 --> 01:01:45,000
Speaker 2: and I think it's just something everyone's going through and

1320
01:01:45,040 --> 01:01:46,440
Speaker 2: we're all just kind of afraid to talk about it

1321
01:01:46,480 --> 01:01:49,200
Speaker 2: because we're like what, we're independent women. We're gonna get

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01:01:49,200 --> 01:01:52,320
Speaker 2: our career first, and like manage our lives and get

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01:01:52,320 --> 01:01:55,160
Speaker 2: the right man. But like family planning is important, and it.

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01:01:55,000 --> 01:01:57,600
Speaker 1: Is and it's planning, That's what I'm realizing, Like because

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01:01:57,640 --> 01:01:59,200
Speaker 1: when you're in your twenties you don't think about it.

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01:01:59,200 --> 01:02:01,760
Speaker 1: But I'm like, wow, this is like a plan and

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01:02:01,800 --> 01:02:03,120
Speaker 1: I have to make a plan that if by a

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01:02:03,160 --> 01:02:05,320
Speaker 1: certain time it doesn't happen, do we do in vitro? Like?

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Speaker 1: What are those things? Does insurance cover it? There are

1330
01:02:08,280 --> 01:02:10,680
Speaker 1: all these things now that I have to like contend

1331
01:02:10,720 --> 01:02:12,640
Speaker 1: with on top of the fact of running a business

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01:02:13,120 --> 01:02:16,240
Speaker 1: that I'm like, wow, but that's what adulting looks like,

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01:02:16,360 --> 01:02:19,200
Speaker 1: you know. So so you want to wrap up with

1334
01:02:19,280 --> 01:02:21,280
Speaker 1: some wins. I mean, my win is easy. My win

1335
01:02:21,400 --> 01:02:22,480
Speaker 1: is I got my.

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01:02:22,360 --> 01:02:27,840
Speaker 2: Rain Ah so many wins. Oh yeah, that was a

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01:02:27,880 --> 01:02:35,160
Speaker 2: huge win, Missus Superman Future Missus Superman. My win is

1338
01:02:35,200 --> 01:02:39,560
Speaker 2: the fact that I did not think of a win before.

1339
01:02:39,640 --> 01:02:43,520
Speaker 2: Obviously I'm unprepared. We talked about a lot of positive

1340
01:02:43,520 --> 01:02:46,520
Speaker 2: things to say, I mean a lot of positive things. Today,

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01:02:47,720 --> 01:02:52,760
Speaker 2: I guess I'll make my win. The fact that although

1342
01:02:53,200 --> 01:02:55,760
Speaker 2: none of us seems to really know for sure what

1343
01:02:55,840 --> 01:03:00,240
Speaker 2: the hell we're doing, whether it's in our career find

1344
01:03:00,320 --> 01:03:04,160
Speaker 2: as relationships, like, we're all figuring it out and we're

1345
01:03:04,200 --> 01:03:06,360
Speaker 2: all gonna be okay. That's all I want to say.

1346
01:03:06,400 --> 01:03:07,880
Speaker 2: We're all gonna We're all gonna be it. We're all

1347
01:03:07,880 --> 01:03:09,840
Speaker 2: grown ups. We have the license to live our lives

1348
01:03:09,880 --> 01:03:12,080
Speaker 2: the way we want to live them, and we're all

1349
01:03:12,200 --> 01:03:13,720
Speaker 2: need to be empowered to live we want to live

1350
01:03:13,760 --> 01:03:18,600
Speaker 2: them and to feel like you know, you deserve everything

1351
01:03:18,640 --> 01:03:22,600
Speaker 2: you have and more. And so if you feel like

1352
01:03:23,320 --> 01:03:26,920
Speaker 2: you are a little bit of imposter syndrome in your adultingness,

1353
01:03:27,480 --> 01:03:30,520
Speaker 2: just learn to embrace it. You should start to figure

1354
01:03:30,560 --> 01:03:32,600
Speaker 2: out what you want. And it's okay to know what

1355
01:03:32,640 --> 01:03:35,640
Speaker 2: you want and what you don't want out of life.

1356
01:03:35,720 --> 01:03:38,680
Speaker 2: And like Tiffany said, start answering the questions of what

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01:03:38,720 --> 01:03:41,400
Speaker 2: you want, I mean, how you want your life to look.

1358
01:03:41,760 --> 01:03:44,040
Speaker 2: And it's okay to ask thos questions. And it's even

1359
01:03:44,080 --> 01:03:46,400
Speaker 2: better when you have some answers for those because that

1360
01:03:46,440 --> 01:03:49,880
Speaker 2: will make everything appear much more clear, all the choices

1361
01:03:49,920 --> 01:03:51,680
Speaker 2: you have to make. As soon as you're looking through

1362
01:03:51,680 --> 01:03:55,280
Speaker 2: them through the lens of how does this help me

1363
01:03:55,320 --> 01:03:58,280
Speaker 2: achieve what I want my life to look like, you'll

1364
01:03:58,320 --> 01:04:00,120
Speaker 2: just see things get more simple. I think that's what

1365
01:04:00,160 --> 01:04:02,439
Speaker 2: everyone says or what everyone means when they talk about

1366
01:04:02,440 --> 01:04:05,240
Speaker 2: how much they love getting older, because everything just sort

1367
01:04:05,240 --> 01:04:08,200
Speaker 2: of becomes more simple because you know what you want

1368
01:04:08,240 --> 01:04:10,880
Speaker 2: and how to get it. So this is my my

1369
01:04:10,960 --> 01:04:14,080
Speaker 2: love letter to adulting. I guess that was a good

1370
01:04:14,280 --> 01:04:15,760
Speaker 2: I kind of need that pep talk, honestly.

1371
01:04:16,680 --> 01:04:20,200
Speaker 1: Don't worry, don't worry. I mean, yes, it all in

1372
01:04:20,200 --> 01:04:21,800
Speaker 1: the end, it all kind of works out. And yes,

1373
01:04:21,960 --> 01:04:23,880
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie, I said, because how old are you?

1374
01:04:24,000 --> 01:04:25,680
Speaker 2: Mandy nine?

1375
01:04:26,040 --> 01:04:28,440
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, So I will say that at thirty seven,

1376
01:04:28,640 --> 01:04:32,600
Speaker 1: I am definitely more clear on my how like how

1377
01:04:32,640 --> 01:04:34,760
Speaker 1: I want to live. So you know, that's the one

1378
01:04:34,760 --> 01:04:36,600
Speaker 1: thing I will say. I mean, I can't speak for

1379
01:04:36,640 --> 01:04:40,880
Speaker 1: every woman obviously, but it does get as far as

1380
01:04:40,920 --> 01:04:44,120
Speaker 1: my journey, it's gotten clearer and easier to identify the

1381
01:04:44,800 --> 01:04:46,360
Speaker 1: uh you know what this is in alignment. This is

1382
01:04:46,400 --> 01:04:48,080
Speaker 1: how I want to live, you know, So I will

1383
01:04:48,080 --> 01:04:50,720
Speaker 1: say that part. It doesn't necessarily get life in general

1384
01:04:50,760 --> 01:04:54,439
Speaker 1: get easier, but you know, I can pretty much when

1385
01:04:54,480 --> 01:04:56,920
Speaker 1: something comes my way, Like I had an opportunity today,

1386
01:04:56,960 --> 01:04:59,200
Speaker 1: great money, and I was like, I instantly was like, nope,

1387
01:04:59,440 --> 01:05:01,600
Speaker 1: my head has said nope. I let them talk, but

1388
01:05:01,640 --> 01:05:03,400
Speaker 1: I said nope, this is not in alignment. This is

1389
01:05:03,440 --> 01:05:05,600
Speaker 1: gonna take time away from my family. I'm in this

1390
01:05:05,680 --> 01:05:07,680
Speaker 1: baby making time. It's this baby's not gonna make itself.

1391
01:05:07,680 --> 01:05:13,000
Speaker 1: I need to be home. So yeah, on that note,

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01:05:13,000 --> 01:05:16,880
Speaker 1: we leave you with some babymaking music. I can't.

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01:05:17,000 --> 01:05:19,000
Speaker 2: I can't do another two weeks without you in my life.

1394
01:05:19,040 --> 01:05:22,880
Speaker 2: I seriously can't. Oh my silly news, right, I need

1395
01:05:22,920 --> 01:05:24,360
Speaker 2: to know that it won't happen again.

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01:05:24,400 --> 01:05:24,960
Speaker 1: No, I'm kidding.

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01:05:25,720 --> 01:05:29,200
Speaker 2: We just had a busy, busy early October, but we'll

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Speaker 2: be back next week with another show. You guys, continue

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01:05:31,920 --> 01:05:35,160
Speaker 2: to send us your questions at briannmission podcast dot com.

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01:05:35,440 --> 01:05:37,320
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1401
01:05:37,400 --> 01:05:39,720
Speaker 2: the show. It helps everyone find us. And thank you

1402
01:05:39,760 --> 01:05:41,480
Speaker 2: again for all your support.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we love you.