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Speaker 1: My manager gave away my private information to my estranged grandfather.

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Speaker 3: What does he want with that?

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Speaker 1: Trigger warning? Stocking and workplace privacy breed yay, I twenty

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Speaker 1: two female have been working at the same retail job

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Speaker 1: for over six years now.

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 1: I will not be naming the company as it is

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Speaker 1: fairly small, but I loved working for this business. By

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Speaker 1: the way, this comes from Electrical Box eighty nine nineteen

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Speaker 1: to the r slash Okay Storytime subpart it. I'm Sophia,

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Speaker 1: I'm Riley, I'm Keon, and we're here to give good

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Speaker 1: advice goofy. But we don't have all the answers. We

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Speaker 1: only know what we'd do, so let us know what

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Speaker 1: you do in the comments and op says I moved

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Speaker 1: to a different store earlier this year due to management issues.

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Speaker 1: I'll try not to get into it, but I had

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Speaker 1: the same manager for the first four years, and I

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Speaker 1: adored her. Unfortunately, she moved to a different store, and

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Speaker 1: the new manager was definitely not.

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Speaker 3: The right fit.

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Speaker 1: We clashed very often, and if I'm being totally honest,

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Speaker 1: we were both fairly toxic. I think she created the

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Speaker 1: toxic environment, but I definitely did not help the situation.

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Speaker 3: I was poisoning at it on top of it. It

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Speaker 1: Little poisoned cherry on top of the poisoned PI. There

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Speaker 1: were about six other people who quit or move to

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Speaker 1: a different store because of her behavior, which I think

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Speaker 1: is very telling, as there were only ten employees when

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Speaker 1: this new manager, I couldn't take the toxicity and work

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Speaker 1: drama anymore, and I decided to move to a different store.

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Speaker 1: Until this week, I had zero contact with my old manager,

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Speaker 1: and I was happy to just let everything go and

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Speaker 1: kind of forgive her in my mind. Okay, now, I

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Speaker 1: don't think I can do that. On Monday, I was

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Speaker 1: rostered on for work, but I ended up calling in safe.

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Speaker 1: I work every single Monday, so I felt really bad. Well,

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Speaker 1: looking back, I'm extremely grateful that I was not.

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Speaker 3: At work okay. Oh.

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Speaker 1: An old man came up to the store and asked

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Speaker 1: my coworker if I was there. She assumed it was

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Speaker 1: a family member, so she called over my brother, as

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Speaker 1: he was the one who covered my shift that day. Sorry, bro,

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Speaker 1: does your brother work there? Sounds like it, that'd be

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Speaker 1: super funny if he didn't work there. And she was

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Speaker 1: just like, I brought my brother. I'm gonna bring my

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Speaker 1: brother and he's gonna fill in my shift. He asked

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Speaker 1: my brother if he knew who he was, and my

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Speaker 1: brother had absolutely no clue. It turns out that he

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Speaker 1: was our grandfather on my dad's side, whom we had

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Speaker 3: Interesting.

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Speaker 1: He continued on and said that he didn't want to

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Speaker 1: talk to my brother. He only wanted to talk to me.

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Speaker 1: Oh lovely, Oh oh no, no, no, no, that's weird,

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Speaker 3: I don't like that. Yeah, I think he has something.

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Speaker 3: He has a will to give you his inheritance, but only, oh, pe,

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Speaker 1: My brother told him that I was not there, and

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Speaker 1: thankfully he just left. When my brother came home and

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Speaker 3: Did he know where I was?

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Speaker 2: It was gonna be my question is.

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Speaker 3: Like, yeah, he know you were, How did he find

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Speaker 1: If it's like this small store and he's been estranged

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Speaker 2: As wait, does he know that that was your brother?

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Speaker 3: Like, so I think he knew that?

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Speaker 1: I don't trust him. This part might sound a bit confusing,

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Speaker 1: My aunt knew where I worked, but she does not

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Speaker 3: Ooh, so there's someone that leaked that part at the

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Speaker 1: Then ah, yeah, because she left that store because of

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Speaker 1: The next day, I went to the old store I

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Speaker 1: told him I had moved stores. Ah, what kind of

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Speaker 3: Oh uh, the toxic one. Yeah, the toxic one. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: She she if she had just if she just said, oh,

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Speaker 1: Are you kidding? In this moment, I saw red. I

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Speaker 1: casually admitted that she told him I always work Mondays

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Speaker 1: and if he went to that store now, he could

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Speaker 1: still catch me. The company has an app where you

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Speaker 1: can see when everyone is rostered on, even people at

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Speaker 1: I went off at her and said something like, are

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Speaker 3: Awesome. Ashley says, that's illegal. Yeah, and if you get

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Speaker 3: a good lawyer, you'll never have to work again.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you cannot just give out that kind of

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Speaker 3: By the way, Sophia works every Tuesday from two to midnights.

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Speaker 3: It's true, and you can find her on Okay, story Time,

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Speaker 3: on YouTube, Facebook, or it's Kiley.

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Speaker 1: You just gave away my private information that nobody knew.

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Speaker 3: Quick Sue him, sued sue me.

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Speaker 1: To summarize the argument, I started yelling at her first.

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Speaker 1: She said that she had done nothing wrong, but I disagreed.

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Speaker 3: Dude.

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Speaker 1: Her excuse was that he told her he was my grandfather.

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Speaker 1: My response was that he could have lied, been a stalker,

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Speaker 1: That might you get you in trouble.

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Speaker 3: The grandpa loophole, she.

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Speaker 1: Was like, he said he was your grandpa. It's like

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Speaker 1: if like a serial unliver is like knocks at your

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Speaker 1: I've never met you before, but you said you're my

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Speaker 3: What huh?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and take people at their words. Thought to double

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Speaker 3: Yup, that's true safety one oh one? Yeah, what was

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Speaker 1: I think she just like doesn't like that girl, I agree,

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Speaker 3: I oh, yeah, because I left.

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Speaker 1: I know it was not the best way to go

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Speaker 1: yelling and swearing at her, But I have never been

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Speaker 1: He also went in two days later, on the Thursday.

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Speaker 1: Thankfully you have not been working when he comes in,

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Speaker 1: The meeting was extremely awkward, and I admitted that my

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Speaker 1: Now yet you said, I apologize for my actions, and

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Speaker 3: Guess it is. I'll done.

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Speaker 1: And you said, how Webburn, I don't apologize for calling

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Speaker 3: They all went for a million dollars.

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Speaker 1: The response to this was not great. They basically said

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Speaker 1: and simply telling my grandfather where I worked did not

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Speaker 1: warrant that response. I explained that he is a stranger

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Speaker 1: They said, we can discuss this at a later date,

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Speaker 1: but this is not really what this meeting was about.

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Speaker 1: But it was about that.

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Speaker 3: It literally was about that here though, Well, okay.

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Speaker 1: So I think OP went around about this wrong.

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Speaker 3: I agree. I don't that initial meeting was not that

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Speaker 3: because you know how like you go to court, yeah,

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Speaker 3: and you have new evidence and you have boom evidence,

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Speaker 3: It's like who whoa, whoa, whoa. We weren't talking about that.

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Speaker 3: We weren't. We were not We're not here there And

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Speaker 3: also like the defenses whoever, everyone has to be aware

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Speaker 3: of the evidence. Yeah, that's what I think needs to

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Speaker 3: happening here exactly. We got to make another meeting to

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Speaker 1: I think that OP should have before her manager, even

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Speaker 1: like her old manager even filed the complaint to HR.

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Speaker 1: She should have gone to her managers and said, hey,

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Speaker 1: this happened. I reacted poorly. Well, she should never actually

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Speaker 1: have gone to confront the manager. She should have confronted

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Speaker 1: HR and said this happened. This is totally unacceptable.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that would.

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Speaker 1: Because I think that you were right to be upset.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, I'm going to quit my job. That's yeah,

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Speaker 3: This is so creepy. Sorry.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, if I was Ope's father personally, I'd probably be

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would be like this, I know, like what

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Speaker 1: It seems like nobody really cares about Op's experience right now.

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Speaker 1: I said that is not happening, and that if he

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Speaker 1: This took place around four PM, and our store closes

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Speaker 3: Pick me up, mall security, pick me up.

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Speaker 1: You had an hour and a half. You call someone.

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Speaker 1: You called all security, called boss. You say there is

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Speaker 3: There's a movie about a guy that could help you.

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Speaker 3: All Blart mall klop.

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Speaker 1: He would have rest, he did, and he would have

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Speaker 1: As I was driving off, I saw him take a

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Speaker 1: If anyone knows what the reason for this is, please

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Speaker 1: adjust my work hours, report him to the police if necessary,

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Speaker 3: At least there's that some movement. Okay.

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Speaker 1: The meeting happened Tuesday, and every day since my original

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Speaker 1: He will usually leave after looking at the comments under

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Speaker 1: it straight to my manager.

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Speaker 3: Oh my guys.

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Speaker 1: The only reason I think i'll bother with the restraining

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Speaker 3: After I quit. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think that he has any other information

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Speaker 1: I am praying that once I find a new job,

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is crazy, really scary, really really scary.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. This doesn't make any sense. The only

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're like, I need to give you money.

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Speaker 3: Please let me talk to you. I have so much

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Speaker 2: Okay. Would you guys actually take money from someone you

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Speaker 3: What strings are attached?

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Speaker 2: We don't know.

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Speaker 3: We don't know the strings.

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Speaker 2: We don't know because we don't know this person. This

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Speaker 2: And I'm your grandfa. I'm your grandfather.

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Speaker 1: I want a contract.

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Speaker 3: I'll take that money.

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Speaker 2: If you take that money, if something I'm ready to do,

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Speaker 3: Next question, are you taking it in cash or check?

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Speaker 3: Riley? Why? Because the check is due you have to

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Speaker 3: tags is risey right. Response, I'm proud of you.

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Speaker 1: I remember it made sense in the context that I

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Speaker 3: You didn't want to carry on all that money.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's gonna be at dangerous. You were picking up

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Speaker 3: Hundre K would be like, you know those thick, thick

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Speaker 3: Ones. Yeah, meaning says random theory. What if Gramps is

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Speaker 1: He's like, I've come back to want you.

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Speaker 3: There's more stockers coming?

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Speaker 1: Well, then why wouldn't you tell her?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, why why can't you tell that, like in

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Speaker 1: I don't trust a person who says I need to get.

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Speaker 3: You alone in the time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, a person I don't know, A random guy I

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Speaker 3: Right here with me and the customers, who cares. If

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Speaker 2: If it's about family, bring your brother, bring your dad,

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Speaker 1: But there's a little bit left to the story. A

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Speaker 1: They basically said that it might technically be possible to

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Speaker 1: I'm from, but it's very difficult and unlikely to be

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Speaker 1: evidence that my old manager's actions directly caused or worsened

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Speaker 1: the stocking. I know this was not the happiest of updates,

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Speaker 1: but once I leave this job, I'll never have to

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Speaker 1: Any other advice would be greatly appreciated. I have no

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a tough situation.

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Speaker 1: You're a young girl.

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Speaker 3: Mm hmm, you're figuring it out. It's scary out there.

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Speaker 1: My advice would be to go to people in power sooner.

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Speaker 1: Go to your manager, Go to HR, go to your parents,

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Speaker 1: Go to people that are able to fix this.

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Speaker 3: You know, Reddit can't help redd it can advise you,

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Speaker 3: but yeah, to point you in the right direction. Go

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Speaker 3: Find your nearest mall cop.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, find the end of that story.

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Speaker 3: What creepy Grandpa's dogger. I know that if he didn't,

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Speaker 3: did he look creepy? That sucks? But was he like?

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Speaker 3: different if he looked mystical. Yeah, it was a wizard.

446
00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:36,280
Speaker 1: He looked like he had he had.

447
00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:41,359
Speaker 3: Please come, I have to talk to you. Please boom

448
00:19:41,520 --> 00:19:44,960
Speaker 3: talk to him side quest. Yeah there, I am did

449
00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:46,600
Speaker 3: not get those vibes you go.

450
00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:47,240
Speaker 2: Yeah.

451
00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:53,520
Speaker 3: I was reported to HR for inappropriate dancing at the

452
00:19:53,560 --> 00:19:54,720
Speaker 3: company holiday party.

453
00:19:54,840 --> 00:19:57,399
Speaker 1: They just can't handle your swagger.

454
00:19:58,000 --> 00:20:01,359
Speaker 3: Every year my company hosts a big formal holiday party

455
00:20:01,560 --> 00:20:04,879
Speaker 3: with best stress competition. This year, I decided to go

456
00:20:04,960 --> 00:20:07,320
Speaker 3: for it. By the way, this comes from chihuaba Is Crossed.

457
00:20:07,480 --> 00:20:09,439
Speaker 3: If you want my own stories, go to the Freaking

458
00:20:09,520 --> 00:20:13,639
Speaker 3: Okay Storytime Subredded. I'm Riley, I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and

459
00:20:13,680 --> 00:20:16,359
Speaker 3: we're here to give good advice. Goofully. We don't have

460
00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:19,320
Speaker 3: all the answers. We only know we would know, and

461
00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:21,520
Speaker 3: if you have anything that you would know, we'd love

462
00:20:21,560 --> 00:20:22,959
Speaker 3: to read it in the comments, so we would love

463
00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:24,480
Speaker 3: to know it. We read them all, don't.

464
00:20:25,080 --> 00:20:26,399
Speaker 1: I read the ones that I'm my naming him.

465
00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:28,720
Speaker 3: I read the ones I have Keon's naming them and

466
00:20:28,760 --> 00:20:31,240
Speaker 3: I don't read them at all. I've been sewing my

467
00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:33,160
Speaker 3: own clothing for a few years now.

468
00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:35,520
Speaker 1: Ay yo, that's who my mommy does.

469
00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:39,359
Speaker 3: And occasionally do costumes for Drag and Berlins's show Sick.

470
00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:43,520
Speaker 3: Just Angie, Just Future Angie, Future Angie. What is she

471
00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:46,399
Speaker 3: doing on the holidays? It's a good dancer, Angie's you

472
00:20:46,440 --> 00:20:49,240
Speaker 3: know this? Yeah, I remember her birthday party. She's a

473
00:20:49,240 --> 00:20:54,280
Speaker 3: good dancer. Geez. Yeah. In working on the costumes, I've

474
00:20:54,359 --> 00:20:58,440
Speaker 3: learned a lot of coture techniques in gown making, lots

475
00:20:58,440 --> 00:21:01,520
Speaker 3: of feathers, beads and spar goal in both communities, but

476
00:21:02,040 --> 00:21:04,840
Speaker 3: I hadn't had the chance to make myself something wearable

477
00:21:05,040 --> 00:21:07,880
Speaker 3: using anything I learned. The holiday party felt like the

478
00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:11,320
Speaker 3: right time to make something myself, something beautiful and to

479
00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:14,439
Speaker 3: show it off. Yeah. I end up making a floor

480
00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:18,320
Speaker 3: length red satin gown with a big bow in the back,

481
00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:22,760
Speaker 3: matching opera gloves and a sparkly white faux first stole.

482
00:21:23,080 --> 00:21:24,679
Speaker 1: I don't know what a stole is, but I'm assuming

483
00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:25,200
Speaker 1: it's like one of.

484
00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:29,359
Speaker 2: Those kind of I was gonna say, like a sash.

485
00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:30,000
Speaker 1: But it's like one of those things that you wear

486
00:21:30,080 --> 00:21:32,360
Speaker 1: like kind of like on your like it goes a star.

487
00:21:32,800 --> 00:21:35,040
Speaker 3: It's not a star, yeah kind of, it's not sash,

488
00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:35,679
Speaker 3: it's got.

489
00:21:37,040 --> 00:21:37,800
Speaker 1: On your arms.

490
00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:43,080
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah. It was significantly less literally than initially planned.

491
00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:46,040
Speaker 3: But once the bass came together, I decided I liked

492
00:21:46,080 --> 00:21:48,919
Speaker 3: the look of the satin undisturbed and left it alone.

493
00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:52,320
Speaker 3: The dress was a big hit. It was glamorous. I

494
00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:55,439
Speaker 3: felt beautiful in it, and people were shocked that I

495
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:59,119
Speaker 3: hadn't made it all myself. I was best dressed.

496
00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:06,760
Speaker 1: Overalls can go yes, Yes, you're too powerful, You're too beautiful. Ah,

497
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:08,320
Speaker 1: you're too beautiful.

498
00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:09,120
Speaker 2: Stop it.

499
00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:12,800
Speaker 3: Every time someone won, they got to go out onto

500
00:22:12,800 --> 00:22:15,280
Speaker 3: the dance floor and do a little fashion walk. It's

501
00:22:15,320 --> 00:22:17,439
Speaker 3: been around, answer a couple of questions, and they go

502
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:19,359
Speaker 3: to sit down. What is my turn to walk? I

503
00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:22,120
Speaker 3: did a few things I've seen that for less shows,

504
00:22:22,840 --> 00:22:29,480
Speaker 3: drag shows, probably a few old Hollywood movies. Oh, I

505
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:34,040
Speaker 3: did the slow side step with wavy arms, shrugged off

506
00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:36,920
Speaker 3: the stone, better to show off the boat and look

507
00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:40,280
Speaker 3: down over my shoulder. I think I did a three

508
00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:44,040
Speaker 3: step turnaround at some point. Nothing racy or inappropriate in

509
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:45,440
Speaker 3: less than a minute long.

510
00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:49,879
Speaker 1: Oh that's it arm that you literally you went you

511
00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:54,439
Speaker 1: went like you went da and then you went like

512
00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 1: you're like, turn here andyone dude, that's it.

513
00:22:57,880 --> 00:23:00,159
Speaker 3: And someone reported that I'm gonna just be real with

514
00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:02,600
Speaker 3: you and I'm sorry, this is gonna come off as

515
00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:06,520
Speaker 3: a little harsh. Some old dude probably got what to do.

516
00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:10,800
Speaker 3: And the side of them, Yeah, our report, it's her fault.

517
00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:13,840
Speaker 3: She's a witch. She's a witch. She did this to me.

518
00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:14,960
Speaker 2: She's a hot witch.

519
00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:19,080
Speaker 1: It's like the plot of freaking one battle after another. Yes, yeah,

520
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:19,920
Speaker 1: you haven't seen.

521
00:23:19,760 --> 00:23:24,160
Speaker 3: Have you seen it? No? Anyway, someone reported it to HR.

522
00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:26,280
Speaker 3: I got caught in a few days after the party

523
00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:30,840
Speaker 3: and was told that my dancing had made people uncomfortable. Hard.

524
00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:34,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, I think that's it, because that's ridiculous.

525
00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:39,080
Speaker 3: That is absolutely ridiculous. I asked if there were multiple reports,

526
00:23:39,119 --> 00:23:40,640
Speaker 3: and they said there was only one.

527
00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:42,640
Speaker 2: Then why did you see people that.

528
00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:46,360
Speaker 1: That's absolutely ridiculous to get one report. If they were

529
00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:48,600
Speaker 1: there at that party and they saw no problem with it,

530
00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 1: then they should not have brought it up at all.

531
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:53,840
Speaker 3: Well, if one person reported it, then multiple people had

532
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:54,440
Speaker 3: problems with it.

533
00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:55,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, everyone was like that.

534
00:23:55,680 --> 00:24:00,720
Speaker 2: It was probably probably someone high up or a partner

535
00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:01,280
Speaker 2: or something like that.

536
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:04,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, like someone HR needs to make happy.

537
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:07,119
Speaker 3: It was hr oh and she's a woman and her

538
00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:09,719
Speaker 3: husband was like, oh my gosh, can't you dance like that?

539
00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:10,879
Speaker 1: And she's like, I hate you.

540
00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:14,639
Speaker 3: They gave me the work parties are still work speech,

541
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:17,120
Speaker 3: and they let me go. They didn't even really give

542
00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:20,160
Speaker 3: me a chance to say anything. I am so frustrated.

543
00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:23,360
Speaker 3: Their dress was work party appropriate, my walk was work

544
00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:26,640
Speaker 3: party appropriate, and no one said a single negative thing

545
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:29,600
Speaker 3: to my face. I'm still proud of myself and the dress,

546
00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:32,879
Speaker 3: but it feels like majorly misplaced effort. What a creuddy

547
00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:35,160
Speaker 3: way to start the break and in the work here,

548
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:37,919
Speaker 3: what do you guys think? Genuinely, I don't think you

549
00:24:37,920 --> 00:24:38,840
Speaker 3: did anything wrong?

550
00:24:39,160 --> 00:24:42,160
Speaker 2: Well, nah, I think you question you say. I think

551
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:42,879
Speaker 2: you ate that up.

552
00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:44,840
Speaker 1: I think you slayed too hard, that's what you did.

553
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:46,240
Speaker 2: They're just jealous that you went off.

554
00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:48,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think there's going on here. What line of

555
00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:50,399
Speaker 3: work are you in? I don't think I.

556
00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:53,200
Speaker 1: Think even if it was like a professional office, I think.

557
00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:54,480
Speaker 3: That they're all accountants.

558
00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:57,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that, Well, clearly some accountant is not

559
00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:00,719
Speaker 1: getting anything and he's like, oh a I'm just so

560
00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 1: worked up seeing you walk down the aisle.

561
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:10,720
Speaker 3: Some of that that is the same voice that my

562
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:13,880
Speaker 3: mom talks about her Irish account. She had to switch

563
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:16,160
Speaker 3: accounts recently, and that guy gives her a hard time

564
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:17,960
Speaker 3: and he's like, I think he likes it. I have

565
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:19,520
Speaker 3: to tell him to his work and he likes it.

566
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:24,040
Speaker 3: Just likes crazy. But I don't think you did anything wrong.

567
00:25:24,160 --> 00:25:27,119
Speaker 1: I think that you based on what you told us,

568
00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 1: unless you did something else that doesn't sound inappropriated.

569
00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 3: This, yeah, I know so many video this I need

570
00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:36,480
Speaker 3: to know exactly.

571
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 2: Needs video evidence and he needs to make Oh my god.

572
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:38,200
Speaker 3: Not like that.

573
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 1: I just need to know, Like, no, I get what

574
00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:40,879
Speaker 1: you're saying.

575
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:44,040
Speaker 3: Just like the context of everything. If everyone looks like

576
00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:46,400
Speaker 3: they work an accounting firm and you're the only one

577
00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:48,359
Speaker 3: that has a spark of life in them, then I

578
00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:49,960
Speaker 3: can see where someone has a problem with it.

579
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:51,840
Speaker 1: It just feels kind of like when like a woman

580
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:55,399
Speaker 1: who wears a very normal like office attire but is

581
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:59,040
Speaker 1: maybe curber, gets in trouble just because she's curvier. And

582
00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:01,240
Speaker 1: in this case it's you literally were wearing a normal

583
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:03,879
Speaker 1: tire walk down the thing, and as maybe someone like

584
00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 1: thought you were is like thought you were attractive or

585
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:09,719
Speaker 1: is jealous for some reason and takes it out on you.

586
00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:12,920
Speaker 1: And then instead of HR being like, well that's unreasonable,

587
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:15,639
Speaker 1: we were there. No one else said any other complaints.

588
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:17,639
Speaker 1: They you know, didn't do that.

589
00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:21,240
Speaker 3: Ali says work parties are a great way to get fired.

590
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:26,879
Speaker 3: I guess so we've read a few indeed. Update, Oh wow.

591
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:29,359
Speaker 3: I did not expect the response this has gotten. I

592
00:26:29,359 --> 00:26:31,520
Speaker 3: think I was still annoyed because I hadn't really got

593
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 3: to talk to anyone about it yet. Thank you for

594
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 3: letting me vent and sharing your perspectives, HR stories and humor.

595
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:39,400
Speaker 3: I feel a lot lighter just reading through the comments.

596
00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:42,680
Speaker 3: I just want to clarify two things, since my mention

597
00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:46,200
Speaker 3: of burlesque has rightfully made it sound like I brought

598
00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:49,920
Speaker 3: my inner jesca rabbit to a stuffy work function. First,

599
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:52,679
Speaker 3: the moves I added to my walk are not specific

600
00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:56,040
Speaker 3: to burlesque and can be found in virtually all forms

601
00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:59,080
Speaker 3: of dance. I only mentioned burlesque and drag because that's

602
00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:01,720
Speaker 3: where I learned about him. I'm not a dancer, it

603
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:05,000
Speaker 3: never have been. The sideways walk is used a lot

604
00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:07,960
Speaker 3: in burlesque and drag because it's a really good way

605
00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:10,600
Speaker 3: to show an audience your outfit with it, not just

606
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:14,560
Speaker 3: doing a regular catwalk around the stage. Moving sideways keeps

607
00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:17,479
Speaker 3: your torso so the front of your outfit is facing

608
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:21,000
Speaker 3: the audience, and arms up and out on the hips

609
00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:24,440
Speaker 3: keeps the outfit in full view. Variations of this can

610
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 3: be seen in musicals, ballroom dances, and the wavy arms

611
00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:32,600
Speaker 3: are inspired by ballet. Depending on how you move, it

612
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:37,720
Speaker 3: can be graceful, sexy, or kind of clamp camp camp. Yeah,

613
00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:39,679
Speaker 3: like drag, why is this an adjective?

614
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:43,320
Speaker 1: Camp is like it's like in a lot of quick

615
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 1: what tense, tense, fire, no, no, no. Camp just means

616
00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 1: like it's like exaggerated. It's showy, like in drag. A

617
00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 1: lot of drag is very campy. It's like you you

618
00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 1: wanna have big makeup and like if you've seen Rocky

619
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:01,520
Speaker 1: Horror picture show, that's that's camp. It's supposed to be

620
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:02,360
Speaker 1: kind of like.

621
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 3: I don't like this word. I don't like the way

622
00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 3: that it's us queer word. So oh yeah, oh okay, okay.

623
00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:13,160
Speaker 3: So every time I think of camp, I'm like, how

624
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:16,000
Speaker 3: does this dance feel like we're in the middle of

625
00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:18,360
Speaker 3: the woods. Yeah, telling a scary story around the fire.

626
00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:21,879
Speaker 1: It's usually used in queer communities to refer to, but

627
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,400
Speaker 1: it's not exclusively. You can you can see how do they.

628
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:26,600
Speaker 3: Come up with camp? Camp is like, I don't know

629
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:28,639
Speaker 3: where that does not That sounds like the opposite camp.

630
00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:31,920
Speaker 3: Let's see. You keep reading in all the very oxy

631
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:32,919
Speaker 3: more on the right word for this.

632
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:33,880
Speaker 2: I don't think so.

633
00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 3: I don't think so. I've been trying to work oxymoron

634
00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 3: into a sentence. It has been difficult. Probably should read

635
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 3: the definition of okay. Variations of this dance can be

636
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:46,239
Speaker 3: seen in musicals, ballroom dances, and the wavy arms are

637
00:28:46,280 --> 00:28:48,720
Speaker 3: inspired by by let. Depending on how you move, it

638
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 3: could be graceful, sexy, or kind of camp. I was

639
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:53,880
Speaker 3: trying to be graceful, show off the dress and make

640
00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:58,120
Speaker 3: the glitter on this stole sparkle. Second, what do you got?

641
00:28:58,520 --> 00:28:58,840
Speaker 2: Uh?

642
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,600
Speaker 1: Well, it just says so far as says an aesthetic

643
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:04,240
Speaker 1: in sensibility to regards something as appealing or amusing because

644
00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 1: of its heightened level of artifice, affection, and exaggeration. I'm

645
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 1: still searching for where the word origins and development. Camp

646
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 1: may have been derived from the gay slang polari, which

647
00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:18,480
Speaker 1: borrowed the term from the Italian camparere or from the

648
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:23,240
Speaker 1: French term say gamper, meaning to pose in an exaggerated fashion.

649
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:25,120
Speaker 3: Okay, it cowers.

650
00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:28,480
Speaker 1: From yeah, it comes from that checks out for the

651
00:29:28,480 --> 00:29:31,800
Speaker 1: modern sense of camp flamboyant, do that, yeah.

652
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:35,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, bench and rich are always doing things outside down.

653
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 1: British cross stresher Frederick Park referred to his campush undertakings

654
00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:39,480
Speaker 1: in eighteen seventy.

655
00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:40,400
Speaker 2: It's over the top.

656
00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:43,720
Speaker 1: Interesting alright, this is new to I didn't know the

657
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 1: origins of the word, so that's interesting.

658
00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:48,920
Speaker 3: Second, almost everyone who walks each year does their best

659
00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 3: impression or a really campy imitation of a fashion model's catwalk.

660
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:57,080
Speaker 3: Some people really swing their hips, and most stop at

661
00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:59,760
Speaker 3: the end of the runway and do the model hip

662
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:03,040
Speaker 3: pop over the shoulder, look at into the camera. Last year,

663
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:05,320
Speaker 3: the guy who won Best Dress showed up in a

664
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Speaker 3: gold sequence suit and did a genuine ballroom Paris is

665
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 3: burning ballroom, not Waltz catwalk. That would have been very

666
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:17,520
Speaker 3: scandalous if a woman had done it. Okay, this just

667
00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:19,680
Speaker 3: makes me think that someone had a crush on you, yeah,

668
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 3: and found a way out.

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Speaker 1: And then it's again, I think that hr instead of

670
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:26,720
Speaker 1: actually looking at the complaint, just wrote it off and

671
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:29,720
Speaker 1: didn't actually care to investigate. Instead took it out on you.

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Speaker 3: Mm hmm, yeah, hey's John og host. We're gonna get

673
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:35,480
Speaker 3: back to the stories, but a quick three minute break

674
00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 3: of ads from our sponsors. There was also a time

675
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 3: for actual dancing towards the end of the night, and

676
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:44,080
Speaker 3: there were definitely people every year who get a little loose.

677
00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:48,280
Speaker 3: Somebody did get called in for wasted twerking last year,

678
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:50,480
Speaker 3: but she was kind of a mess that whole month,

679
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:53,440
Speaker 3: so it might have been something else. I literally thought

680
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:54,520
Speaker 3: she twirked or something. Yeah.

681
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 1: That means like you didn't do any of that. You

682
00:30:57,200 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 1: literally walked sideways, did like a this walk and then

683
00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:03,040
Speaker 1: turn your head over your shoulder.

684
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 3: That's it. Fun please, yeah, lokey, for real.

685
00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:09,560
Speaker 1: You guys are boring people at your job.

686
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:13,120
Speaker 3: I do understand that maybe my attempt of being graceful

687
00:31:13,280 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 3: may have come off as sex yer. Then it's ended,

688
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 3: like when girls are nice to guys. I thought it

689
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 3: was flirting. No, I could see that. I was banking

690
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:24,040
Speaker 3: on the fact that the moves are not burlesque or

691
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 3: drag specific. The gown itself is not form fitting, it's

692
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:31,400
Speaker 3: a full skirt, and felt like the others swaying their

693
00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:35,640
Speaker 3: hips down the runway was less work appropriate than ballerina arms.

694
00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 3: Maybe I was wrong, Maybe I was right. I'll come

695
00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:40,760
Speaker 3: up with something else if I get to walk again

696
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 3: next year. Thanks for the laughs and support. We got

697
00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:45,440
Speaker 3: an update two months later. I think we actually get

698
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:46,120
Speaker 3: a good answer.

699
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 1: I hope. So. I hope it's like we know, I

700
00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 1: now know who called me out, and now they're getting

701
00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 1: fired because they do.

702
00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:55,720
Speaker 3: If this happened to me at work, I would try

703
00:31:55,760 --> 00:31:57,960
Speaker 3: my best to laugh it off, even though it's like

704
00:31:58,000 --> 00:31:59,240
Speaker 3: a serious awkward meeting.

705
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 1: Oh hey, it's really awkward, But it doesn't seem like

706
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:07,440
Speaker 1: it is actually affecting your job. Yeah, I think it

707
00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 1: doesn't seem like you're on probation. Yeah, it doesn't seem

708
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:13,360
Speaker 1: like any of your other coworkers knew or no. So

709
00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:15,640
Speaker 1: I think maybe I don't think it's a huge deal.

710
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 1: It's super annoying and like disrespectful of them, But.

711
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 2: I don't know. Would we go around the office or

712
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 2: wherever you work, wherever op works? You'm like, who thought

713
00:32:23,200 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 2: my dance was scandalous?

714
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 3: Yeah?

715
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:27,000
Speaker 1: You just take a pull what'd you think of my dance?

716
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:27,920
Speaker 2: Like you see?

717
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:30,800
Speaker 3: Who says yes, he's swift, he says, so the hater

718
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:31,640
Speaker 3: is gonna hate.

719
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 1: Hey, I'm gonna just shake it off.

720
00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:37,200
Speaker 3: In December, I posted here about being called into HR

721
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:40,760
Speaker 3: for inappropriate dancing tldr M. I pumply host a holiday

722
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 3: party every year with a best dress competition where winners

723
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:46,200
Speaker 3: get to do a catwalk to show off their outfits.

724
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 3: I made my own dress one best dress overall. It

725
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:52,600
Speaker 3: did a sidestep, wavy arm, and a three point turn,

726
00:32:52,920 --> 00:32:55,760
Speaker 3: and someone reported me jhar I was going to post

727
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 3: any updates because the outcome was pretty bland, but I'll

728
00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 3: be gone yesterday. I was shocked to see how much

729
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:04,880
Speaker 3: more activity on the post had gotten after I initially

730
00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 3: logged out and thought that maybe someone would like to

731
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:10,800
Speaker 3: read about what happened. Long story short, someone in HR

732
00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:14,080
Speaker 3: did not do their due diligence and I was being

733
00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:16,160
Speaker 3: called in by mistake. I knew it.

734
00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 1: I That's what I thought. I feel like HR got

735
00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:22,800
Speaker 1: a complaint and instead of actually investigating it, were just like, whatever,

736
00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:26,560
Speaker 1: we're just gonna callop in ew Yeah.

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00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:30,960
Speaker 3: Half arsed yes, as only came to lie after a

738
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 3: New Year's Eve party not work related, where the same

739
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:38,600
Speaker 3: person complained about my inappropriate dancing. I was out of

740
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:40,600
Speaker 3: town on New Year's.

741
00:33:41,280 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 1: Yep, yep, that guy got a better get, like on

742
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:47,160
Speaker 1: probation or fired or something.

743
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:50,000
Speaker 3: The guy who made the report initially went to HR

744
00:33:50,080 --> 00:33:52,120
Speaker 3: to complain about a woman in a red dress from

745
00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 3: my department trying to dance with him at the holiday party.

746
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:58,080
Speaker 3: Apparently he didn't know her name, and the person he

747
00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:01,680
Speaker 3: talked to did not ask for more identifying information. This

748
00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:04,640
Speaker 3: person decided that I must be the woman in the

749
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:07,880
Speaker 3: red dress, despite the fact that there were multiple women

750
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:11,000
Speaker 3: and red dresses at the holiday party and had arranged

751
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:12,160
Speaker 3: for the initial meeting.

752
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 2: Ah, you were the lady in reddy.

753
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:18,000
Speaker 3: You're the look. You're the only lady that was in

754
00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:18,799
Speaker 3: red that they thought of.

755
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're just so striking in your dress.

756
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, you stood out.

757
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:25,359
Speaker 3: You won two awards that day.

758
00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:25,800
Speaker 1: Yeah.

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00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:28,600
Speaker 3: Once we came back to the office after the holiday break,

760
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:30,839
Speaker 3: I was once again called at the HR. They told

761
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:34,480
Speaker 3: me that they normally didn't talk to employees about personal conflicts,

762
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:37,319
Speaker 3: but since I had repeated a behavior that they had

763
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:39,840
Speaker 3: already warned me about, they felt it was necessary to

764
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:42,360
Speaker 3: meet with me again. This prompted a back and forth.

765
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:45,399
Speaker 3: I apologize for my walk at the holiday party, and

766
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 3: I said I understand that some people may have found

767
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:51,160
Speaker 3: it too risk ay, but that I hadn't done it

768
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:53,839
Speaker 3: again and don't intend to. They said this was about

769
00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:56,120
Speaker 3: the dancing. I told them the only dancing I had

770
00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 3: done at the party was the walk. They said the

771
00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:00,920
Speaker 3: walk was fine, this was about the dancing. This is

772
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:02,040
Speaker 3: so annoying. Oh.

773
00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:04,279
Speaker 1: He's like, yeah, I understand my walk. And they're like,

774
00:35:04,280 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 1: it's not about the walks, about the dancing. And she's like, well,

775
00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 1: I danced at the thing, and they're like, no, it's

776
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:08,600
Speaker 1: not about that.

777
00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:09,400
Speaker 3: It's about the dancing.

778
00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:11,680
Speaker 1: And she's like, what dancing are you talking about.

779
00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:13,279
Speaker 2: We're just going back and forth.

780
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:15,200
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I would be so annoyed in this wedding.

781
00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:18,000
Speaker 3: How do they show you this? They don't do.

782
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 1: Any investigation at this HR fire.

783
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:24,160
Speaker 3: The HR couldn't this gracious. Oh that's kind of scary. Yeah.

784
00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:27,360
Speaker 3: At some point, one of the HR reps outlined the

785
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 3: initial complaint to me.

786
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:30,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm sorry they didn't even tell you what the

787
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:31,480
Speaker 1: complaint is.

788
00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:34,600
Speaker 3: That's what I was saying. Which was dancing with a coworker.

789
00:35:34,760 --> 00:35:37,319
Speaker 3: I told them I don't danced with any coworkers that night,

790
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:39,920
Speaker 3: nor had it even been on the dance floor. Then

791
00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:42,320
Speaker 3: I asked them have been to any New Year's Eve parties?

792
00:35:42,600 --> 00:35:44,560
Speaker 3: And I told them I've been out of town. This

793
00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:47,399
Speaker 3: essentially ended the meeting. I assumed they realized they were

794
00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 3: talking to the wrong person and the issue of privacy

795
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 3: kicked in. I was given an apology by the head

796
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:55,200
Speaker 3: of HR a few days ago. Afterwards, good They told

797
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:57,040
Speaker 3: that this situation was being dealt.

798
00:35:56,800 --> 00:36:00,600
Speaker 1: With finally, all right, Oh yeah, they're like, oh, maybe

799
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 1: we should actually investigate the claims and instead of accusing

800
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 1: a person that just like we have no proof, yeah

801
00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 1: of the maybe we should one ask them if they

802
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 1: did that. Yeah, you start the meeting off of, hey,

803
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:17,680
Speaker 1: this is the complaint, was that you did you do that?

804
00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:19,319
Speaker 3: What do you have to say about that?

805
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:21,800
Speaker 1: Instead of starting with like, you can't do this again,

806
00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:24,120
Speaker 1: because that's a stupid way to start a conversation.

807
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:28,840
Speaker 3: I would really like to read whoever this HR complaint

808
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:29,560
Speaker 3: read story.

809
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:34,080
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, they're like, oh, he keeps dancing, she's dancing,

810
00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 1: she's enticing me without us.

811
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:39,760
Speaker 3: This dude's like getting hit on. I guess his will though. Yeah,

812
00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:40,959
Speaker 3: if that's that's what I.

813
00:36:40,880 --> 00:36:43,160
Speaker 1: Caught that the other person, it doesn't even seem like

814
00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:45,840
Speaker 1: the person who reported it, who was the same person,

815
00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:48,840
Speaker 1: was the person dancing with that red dress lady. Seems

816
00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 1: like he saw someone else dancing with a woman in

817
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:53,080
Speaker 1: the red red dress and then reported that.

818
00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 3: Oh I see, So it seems like he's just freaking jealous.

819
00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:58,359
Speaker 3: Maybe I don't know. I need more I need more

820
00:36:58,400 --> 00:37:02,000
Speaker 3: contact on that. Yeah, one person doesn't work here anymore,

821
00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 3: but I don't know if that was the HR rep

822
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 3: and whether or not if that person was fired.

823
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:08,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think this is all working out.

824
00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:11,600
Speaker 3: I would be like, I don't know. I feel like,

825
00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:13,640
Speaker 3: what what do you What do you need? I need?

826
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:15,800
Speaker 1: I need HR to give me money, apology.

827
00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:17,680
Speaker 3: I need days mix up.

828
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:19,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I need days off.

829
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 2: Like lunch, I need lunch and dinner.

830
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 3: Yeah.

831
00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:25,240
Speaker 1: I'd be like, ah, thank you for apologizing. I'm actually

832
00:37:25,280 --> 00:37:27,120
Speaker 1: incredibly hurt by this accusation.

833
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:28,399
Speaker 2: Stressed me out a lot, and it's.

834
00:37:28,280 --> 00:37:30,080
Speaker 1: Stressed it affected my my work.

835
00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:33,000
Speaker 2: You footloosed me. I thought I couldn't dance anymore.

836
00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:33,400
Speaker 3: I thought I.

837
00:37:33,360 --> 00:37:34,840
Speaker 1: Couldn't dance ever again.

838
00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, and.

839
00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:38,760
Speaker 1: Therefore I want these. These are my demands.

840
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:40,239
Speaker 2: I want to dance, and I want to dance with

841
00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:40,720
Speaker 2: my food.

842
00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:43,279
Speaker 1: I want to dance, pay somebody there we go. I

843
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:44,800
Speaker 1: want to feel the heat with somebody.

844
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:46,600
Speaker 2: I want to dance.

845
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:49,960
Speaker 3: I think I know who the real woman in Red

846
00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:52,480
Speaker 3: was unless she was in Burgundy.

847
00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 2: They mistic Red and Burgundy.

848
00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 1: She's like, I think I know who it was unless

849
00:37:58,719 --> 00:37:59,440
Speaker 1: she was in Burgundy.

850
00:37:59,520 --> 00:38:01,719
Speaker 3: Then I don't know. This was a toss up, but

851
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:04,799
Speaker 3: I have no idea whether she's been spoken to. Well,

852
00:38:04,840 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 3: don't stitch on her. I don't know the guy she

853
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 3: was trying to dance with. Still feel weird about everything

854
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:12,640
Speaker 3: when I think about it, but I think that's because

855
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:15,320
Speaker 3: I don't know what went on with the two people

856
00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:18,760
Speaker 3: who were actually involved. I don't think it was very often,

857
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:21,280
Speaker 3: which is good. Thanks again for all your hr stories

858
00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:24,279
Speaker 3: thoughts in humor. I didn't realize how frustrated I was

859
00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:27,239
Speaker 3: about not being able to talk to anyone about the

860
00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 3: comments really helped.

861
00:38:29,080 --> 00:38:34,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, man, seen the story, dude, I kind of wonder

862
00:38:34,200 --> 00:38:34,879
Speaker 1: what was going on?

863
00:38:35,120 --> 00:38:39,800
Speaker 3: Actually, yeah, what actually was happening with the other two people?

864
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:40,839
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, like.

865
00:38:41,800 --> 00:38:46,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, And I'm wondering, I'm wondering how explicit or

866
00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:50,319
Speaker 1: like risque this woman other woman's dancing actually was. If

867
00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:53,799
Speaker 1: this guy already complained about Ope's dancing, yeah, you know,

868
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:56,280
Speaker 1: like was it just kind of normal dancing?

869
00:38:56,680 --> 00:38:58,200
Speaker 3: And then he was like.

870
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:01,640
Speaker 1: Ah, she did not dance, saying what me? That's what

871
00:39:01,680 --> 00:39:04,320
Speaker 1: I want to know. But also I hope that either

872
00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 1: the HR guy or that guy who keeps reporting people

873
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:08,200
Speaker 1: he's out of here.

874
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:09,400
Speaker 3: Agreed. Agreed.

875
00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 1: I was accused of sleeping with my coworker twice.

876
00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:15,880
Speaker 3: My age ew.

877
00:39:15,480 --> 00:39:18,360
Speaker 1: And this comes directly from the r slash Okay storytime

878
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:22,879
Speaker 1: subpared it. No, I thirties female work in a male

879
00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:25,799
Speaker 1: dominated field. My current job, which I've been at for

880
00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:29,480
Speaker 1: years now, is surprisingly filled with a lot of drama

881
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 1: despite being mainly only men at or only a few

882
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:35,680
Speaker 1: years shy retirement age. Those men are getting nipped to

883
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:37,080
Speaker 1: crete easy things.

884
00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:38,560
Speaker 2: Those men have nothing to lose.

885
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 1: I am so bored. I'm retiring next year. I want

886
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:43,120
Speaker 1: to spice it.

887
00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 3: Up, and they're about to just go to a retirement home.

888
00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:49,920
Speaker 1: Yep, I am the only female that works on the floor.

889
00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:52,799
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from New York two seven

890
00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:54,360
Speaker 1: to two and if you want to spit your own stories,

891
00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 1: go to the r slash Okay storytime subpred it.

892
00:39:56,400 --> 00:39:58,880
Speaker 3: I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, I'm Keon.

893
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:01,120
Speaker 1: And we're here to give good advice. But we don't

894
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:04,359
Speaker 1: have all the answers. Don't you only know what we'd do,

895
00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:06,280
Speaker 1: So let us know what you would do in the comments,

896
00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:10,080
Speaker 1: and Opie says, I safely assumed the typical workplace drama

897
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:12,400
Speaker 1: that comes with a female working in a male workforce

898
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:15,160
Speaker 1: wouldn't be there due to the fact everyone at my

899
00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:19,080
Speaker 1: work has decades on me in age. Ah, but you've

900
00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:22,920
Speaker 1: kind of forgotten that the men not twice your age

901
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:24,560
Speaker 1: and might be kind of creepy.

902
00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:27,879
Speaker 3: Dang, Opie fell for misogyny.

903
00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 1: Dang, She's like, no, there's no misogyny here. Older men

904
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 1: never do misogyny, Opie.

905
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:37,359
Speaker 3: I know you're doing black coffee and spoke cigarettes too.

906
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:40,239
Speaker 3: You're an old man. We know who you are.

907
00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:43,799
Speaker 1: I've had zero trouble with any of these men, even

908
00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:45,920
Speaker 1: though I was hesitant due to being their boss and

909
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:50,440
Speaker 1: younger than most of their children. However, I have one coworker,

910
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:53,760
Speaker 1: seventies male, who I get along with very well because

911
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:56,080
Speaker 1: he reminds me of my dad, who is my best friend.

912
00:40:56,200 --> 00:40:58,879
Speaker 1: I love that while it worked. During downtime, we will

913
00:40:58,880 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 1: shoot the crap about cars, football, and baseball. We text

914
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 1: while it worked to communicate so that I don't have

915
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:06,200
Speaker 1: to go and find him every time I need to

916
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:08,640
Speaker 1: perform some type of task. It's a big building, and

917
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:10,840
Speaker 1: it's easier for me to keep doing what I'm doing

918
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 1: and text him what to do to save time, especially

919
00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 1: in busy season. Now on to the fun part of this.

920
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:20,400
Speaker 1: His wife, seventies female, has never been brought up too

921
00:41:20,480 --> 00:41:22,480
Speaker 1: much at work. The few things he has said to

922
00:41:22,520 --> 00:41:25,440
Speaker 1: me that involved her struck me as odd, but I'm

923
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 1: not one to pry. The one day the first year

924
00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:30,799
Speaker 1: he started working with me, my coworker seemed off and

925
00:41:30,960 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 1: like something was wrong. He had been having some health spats,

926
00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:36,200
Speaker 1: and I asked if he was doing all right. His

927
00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 1: response was just upset because my kids don't want to

928
00:41:39,080 --> 00:41:42,279
Speaker 1: visit us for Easter because of my wife, thinking she

929
00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:45,200
Speaker 1: might not be the biological mother. I just said, oh, stepmom,

930
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:48,719
Speaker 1: problems can be hard. Turns out she is the biological mother.

931
00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:54,920
Speaker 1: You made a wild assumption. I would not have assumed

932
00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:56,960
Speaker 1: that just because he says, they don't want to see

933
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:57,440
Speaker 1: their mom.

934
00:41:57,800 --> 00:42:00,720
Speaker 3: I mean, if you're on step to cellbred for step moms,

935
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:02,399
Speaker 3: I guess, so I guess on that.

936
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:05,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's on that, you know, on that thought process

937
00:42:05,680 --> 00:42:07,879
Speaker 1: right now. But I would not have just said like, oh,

938
00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:10,600
Speaker 1: step moms. I honestly would have done the same thing.

939
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:14,239
Speaker 3: Really, I almost asked a couple at my church when

940
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:16,120
Speaker 3: they said, like, you're having a kid. I was like, oh,

941
00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:18,759
Speaker 3: did you do a paternity test? I almost asked it,

942
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 3: but I had to stop myself.

943
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:24,239
Speaker 1: I'm glad you didn't do that. I didn't ask any

944
00:42:24,280 --> 00:42:27,879
Speaker 1: further questions because there were other coworkers around. Fast forward

945
00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:30,040
Speaker 1: another six months and he asked me if I could

946
00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: possibly just find him when I need to do something

947
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:36,000
Speaker 1: at work. I said sure, without questioning anything. Coworker later

948
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:39,480
Speaker 1: takes me to the side because of the texting thing, yeah,

949
00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:42,319
Speaker 1: and says he needs to warn me about something. Yeah,

950
00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:45,920
Speaker 1: I'm sure some other coworkers saw that she was texting

951
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:47,360
Speaker 1: him and then assumed something.

952
00:42:47,680 --> 00:42:51,799
Speaker 3: I was assuming that winter's coming. He just coming. That's

953
00:42:51,840 --> 00:42:54,360
Speaker 3: the vibe I got that. He just imst wolln you

954
00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:57,360
Speaker 3: should do. Your life will be had.

955
00:42:57,719 --> 00:42:59,800
Speaker 2: Just mix two things right now.

956
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:00,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, she did.

957
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 1: He proceeded what I didn't mix them up.

958
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:04,879
Speaker 3: I got to know into a different thing.

959
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:07,279
Speaker 1: He proceeded to tell me that his wife looked at

960
00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:10,160
Speaker 1: his phone and now thanks for sleeping together at my

961
00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 1: place of work.

962
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:14,040
Speaker 3: But the text messages are, hey, did you plug that

963
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:15,960
Speaker 3: thing into my box at work?

964
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:18,040
Speaker 1: And she said what does this mean? And he said,

965
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:20,000
Speaker 1: I was talking about the computer.

966
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:23,080
Speaker 3: Your combobulator looks larger than it usually does. She's like,

967
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:24,040
Speaker 3: what does that mean?

968
00:43:24,160 --> 00:43:26,280
Speaker 1: He's like, with the combobulator at.

969
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:27,720
Speaker 2: Work, it just combobulated.

970
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:29,920
Speaker 1: What are you talking about?

971
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:31,200
Speaker 2: What to do?

972
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:33,400
Speaker 1: I was regulating the combobulator.

973
00:43:33,600 --> 00:43:35,480
Speaker 3: I'm always asking Kean to plug things in for.

974
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:39,399
Speaker 2: Me, mm hmm, and I do it with consent, usually

975
00:43:39,480 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 2: on his knees.

976
00:43:40,280 --> 00:43:43,080
Speaker 1: First off, my place of work is not somewhere that

977
00:43:43,160 --> 00:43:47,160
Speaker 1: this would be very feasible to do anyway, guys, mingman,

978
00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:50,480
Speaker 1: I wasn't mixing it up. I was adding another reference.

979
00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 3: You were you were.

980
00:43:52,920 --> 00:43:56,000
Speaker 1: I wasn't mixing it up. I was making a Gandolf reference.

981
00:43:56,360 --> 00:43:58,640
Speaker 3: But you also put in a guy reference in there.

982
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:00,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I made two separate reference.

983
00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:02,440
Speaker 3: No, you did that. I did the god and then

984
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:06,040
Speaker 3: you repeated my God, the Lord of the Rings with

985
00:44:06,160 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 3: the winter is coming. Yeah, I was, I was moving on.

986
00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:12,520
Speaker 3: It's okay to remix, were remixing, Yeah, it was remixing.

987
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:13,359
Speaker 3: All right, we'll give you that.

988
00:44:14,200 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 2: It's all fantasy.

989
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:19,160
Speaker 1: But she is I I've never even read William Thrones.

990
00:44:19,239 --> 00:44:20,160
Speaker 1: I don't care.

991
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:20,919
Speaker 3: That's a lot.

992
00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:25,000
Speaker 1: She is absolutely convinced that my text him are codes

993
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:27,920
Speaker 1: for spicy related acts. I think this is exactly what

994
00:44:27,960 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 1: you just said, example a text coworker, can you bring

995
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:34,360
Speaker 1: this to that area please? And she thinks that means

996
00:44:34,440 --> 00:44:35,799
Speaker 1: to meet me in the back of my work to

997
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:36,440
Speaker 1: do things to him.

998
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:39,919
Speaker 3: Come on, make it that was that was nothing going

999
00:44:40,120 --> 00:44:41,719
Speaker 3: on to a good one.

1000
00:44:41,840 --> 00:44:44,560
Speaker 1: Think about this makes my stomach turn because this man

1001
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:45,839
Speaker 1: is in his seventies.

1002
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:48,640
Speaker 3: He reminds me of my dad, and I am.

1003
00:44:48,520 --> 00:44:50,720
Speaker 1: In a long term relationship with a child of my own.

1004
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 1: She's also claiming I want to steal him from her

1005
00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:56,440
Speaker 1: for money, which is a crazy concept because I am

1006
00:44:56,480 --> 00:44:59,879
Speaker 1: his boss and make over double what he does. There

1007
00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:03,319
Speaker 1: are so many more outrageous things she has said, and

1008
00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:06,480
Speaker 1: word got around at work, as it always does, about

1009
00:45:06,520 --> 00:45:08,800
Speaker 1: his wife and how she thought we were sleeping together.

1010
00:45:09,200 --> 00:45:11,160
Speaker 1: It was a joking matter for about a year round

1011
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 1: our workplace, with everyone poking fun at the situation until

1012
00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:18,200
Speaker 1: one night. Oh, this woman decided to show up at

1013
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:21,120
Speaker 1: our work and proceeded to text coworker that.

1014
00:45:21,120 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 3: She wanted to fight me.

1015
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Sorry, a seventy year old woman showed

1016
00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 1: up at your work and was like, I'm gonna fight you.

1017
00:45:28,360 --> 00:45:30,160
Speaker 2: Let's start that ring that bell. I'm ready.

1018
00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 3: I want to see you. That's crazy. That would be

1019
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:34,239
Speaker 3: the highlight of my whole year. That's freaking I'll be

1020
00:45:34,239 --> 00:45:35,120
Speaker 3: ready for it.

1021
00:45:35,840 --> 00:45:38,600
Speaker 1: That's my nana's age. That's if my nana came to

1022
00:45:38,760 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: someone's workplace and I was like, I'm fighting you, I wouldn't.

1023
00:45:41,280 --> 00:45:43,719
Speaker 3: Want to fight my grandpa. He's about seventy. Yeah, he's

1024
00:45:43,719 --> 00:45:45,239
Speaker 3: pretty well, but he works with saw mills.

1025
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:47,000
Speaker 1: But he's not that old. Like, I feel like you're

1026
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:48,280
Speaker 1: still you can still be pretty spry.

1027
00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:49,120
Speaker 3: Yeah you're pretty young.

1028
00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:51,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like my aunt is inner seventies and she's like

1029
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:54,399
Speaker 1: pretty spry. Play with dude and she like she still

1030
00:45:54,400 --> 00:45:56,440
Speaker 1: goes on ikes with me and stuff. Oh wow, Yeah,

1031
00:45:56,560 --> 00:45:58,839
Speaker 1: she's like really great shape. She looks pretty young.

1032
00:45:58,920 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 3: Hey, John Ogi host, we're gonna get back to this episode,

1033
00:46:01,600 --> 00:46:03,320
Speaker 3: but a quick three minute break of ads from a

1034
00:46:03,360 --> 00:46:04,640
Speaker 3: sponsor's keeping the show alive.

1035
00:46:05,280 --> 00:46:07,280
Speaker 1: Man, I can only hope to have this much spark

1036
00:46:07,360 --> 00:46:08,759
Speaker 1: left in me in my seventies.

1037
00:46:08,800 --> 00:46:10,719
Speaker 3: A lot of people do. Somebody's not that old.

1038
00:46:10,840 --> 00:46:13,719
Speaker 1: Our work is guarded and she wasn't able to get in, thankfully,

1039
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:15,440
Speaker 1: but it still threw me for a loop.

1040
00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:18,720
Speaker 3: Fun fact, this is one of our own still right,

1041
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:24,400
Speaker 3: Oh my goodness comments. I want to see your name? Yeah, Lois,

1042
00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:26,920
Speaker 3: is this? I think that you need.

1043
00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:29,760
Speaker 1: To talk to your friend.

1044
00:46:30,760 --> 00:46:32,880
Speaker 3: He fighter, That's what I'm.

1045
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 1: Yes, I don't think you should ever talk to her.

1046
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:38,799
Speaker 1: I don't know if you were planning on it, but

1047
00:46:38,800 --> 00:46:40,319
Speaker 1: I don't think you should ever like go to her

1048
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:44,040
Speaker 1: because it's not your relationship. It's on your you know,

1049
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:47,760
Speaker 1: seven year old friend to manage his own relationship. Okay,

1050
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:49,960
Speaker 1: And it seems like no one at your workplace believes

1051
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:51,439
Speaker 1: this lie, so that's good.

1052
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:52,040
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1053
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:53,839
Speaker 1: I think I think talk to your friend and say

1054
00:46:53,840 --> 00:46:55,440
Speaker 1: he like, she can't be coming you need to have

1055
00:46:55,480 --> 00:46:57,600
Speaker 1: a conversation with her, or we need to talk to

1056
00:46:57,640 --> 00:46:59,399
Speaker 1: our boss because she can't be coming in here.

1057
00:46:59,640 --> 00:47:00,000
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1058
00:47:00,360 --> 00:47:02,520
Speaker 1: When I'm trying to do my job, I'm your boss.

1059
00:47:02,560 --> 00:47:04,600
Speaker 1: Actually she's oh, he's the boss.

1060
00:47:04,800 --> 00:47:07,360
Speaker 3: But also then it gives that it gives that perspective

1061
00:47:07,360 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 3: of like, yeah, a dominating boss over a coworker, and

1062
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 3: the coworker drop it only so little, just like you

1063
00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:18,360
Speaker 3: and Kiel. You're like, I'm like stand there and you're like, Okay.

1064
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:20,360
Speaker 1: I decided to take coworker to the side. I have

1065
00:47:20,400 --> 00:47:22,880
Speaker 1: a serious conversation about it. That's what I just said.

1066
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:23,480
Speaker 3: Nice.

1067
00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:25,880
Speaker 1: And it turns out that for a while now, pretty

1068
00:47:25,920 --> 00:47:28,239
Speaker 1: much since the day she looked at her texts, she's

1069
00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:30,440
Speaker 1: been trying to figure out how to catch us and

1070
00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:32,600
Speaker 1: find a way to tell my man about us. She's

1071
00:47:32,600 --> 00:47:35,439
Speaker 1: been unsuccessful so far because I only have one form

1072
00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:38,080
Speaker 1: of social media and it's brand new and on lockdown

1073
00:47:38,160 --> 00:47:41,239
Speaker 1: since day one. Anyway, just figured i'd share this little

1074
00:47:41,280 --> 00:47:43,640
Speaker 1: funny story of how I'm a gold digger trying to

1075
00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:45,960
Speaker 1: sleep with a man well over twice my age.

1076
00:47:46,120 --> 00:47:48,719
Speaker 3: Whoa. She admitted it at the end she hadn't met

1077
00:47:48,760 --> 00:47:53,040
Speaker 3: it as she's actually doing it. She said it right there, Okay,

1078
00:47:53,360 --> 00:47:56,319
Speaker 3: crazy little okay storytelling. Yeah, my parents started a church

1079
00:47:56,400 --> 00:47:59,440
Speaker 3: with I think this guy's my cousin or something. Anyways,

1080
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:02,759
Speaker 3: started church my parents getting like an altercation with this guy.

1081
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:04,960
Speaker 3: He bans them from the church that they've started. They

1082
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:06,560
Speaker 3: put in a lot of time. They were very upset.

1083
00:48:07,120 --> 00:48:09,319
Speaker 3: But like that guy closed on the church, found out

1084
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:12,279
Speaker 3: he was doing some fraud through the church, and then

1085
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:15,640
Speaker 3: married another woman. He's still with his wife, married with

1086
00:48:15,680 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 3: a woman and stole her four to one k bag man.

1087
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:25,239
Speaker 3: What yeah, that's quick within like three years. Yeah. I

1088
00:48:25,239 --> 00:48:28,879
Speaker 3: always had a bad guy about that guy, right, yeah,

1089
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 3: but you got it. And like the thing that bothered

1090
00:48:32,040 --> 00:48:33,600
Speaker 3: me the most is like, you call my dad and

1091
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:35,839
Speaker 3: said that his dad was a way better man than

1092
00:48:35,840 --> 00:48:37,880
Speaker 3: my dad could ever be. Like my grandpa was a

1093
00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:39,719
Speaker 3: way better. But I'm like, dude, my grandpa had like

1094
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:43,239
Speaker 3: four wives, always was drinking and smoking, died on the

1095
00:48:43,239 --> 00:48:45,280
Speaker 3: golf course because he was like not in good health.

1096
00:48:45,320 --> 00:48:46,920
Speaker 3: He had a heart attack. That's why not golf.

1097
00:48:47,000 --> 00:48:49,000
Speaker 1: What's so weird? Just a weird thing to say this.

1098
00:48:49,120 --> 00:48:49,319
Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 3: I was like, dude, that guy was not it. And

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Speaker 3: my dad's actually like turning his life around, helping He

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Speaker 3: like goes visits like like anyone. Yeah, and like he's

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Speaker 3: visiting kids at what's the what's the juvie prison?

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Speaker 2: Jevy.

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Speaker 3: Oh it it goes to the juvi and like precis kids,

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Speaker 3: like he's actually doing stuff in the community.

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Speaker 1: Then yeah, guy, yeah, sometimes people need to mind their

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Speaker 1: own businesses or do a little bit of investigative work

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Speaker 1: because it's it's clear through these stories that some people

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Speaker 1: just don't not investigate the claims that they have.

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Speaker 3: But we need to give them a walk through and

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Speaker 3: how to.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're like, all right, these are the steps to

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Speaker 1: investigate a crime and or a claim.

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Speaker 3: Yes, or an affair.

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Speaker 1: Misinformation spreads like a wildfire, but you know what else

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Speaker 1: spreads love and we love you, so if you love us,

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