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Speaker 1: all of my guests are Annes, so listen again this

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Speaker 1: week's episode. So I am super excited to have my

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Speaker 1: guests back on the show. She is assault out STD

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Speaker 1: Life coach, and she is doing really great things on

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Speaker 1: educating our community on st d s, especially when it

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Speaker 1: comes to herpes. So to my guests, how are you feeling,

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling amazing. How are you honey? You know cute

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Speaker 1: and Blast can be kicking playing. I see you. You

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Speaker 1: know your homies hanging y'all up, responsibly, responsibly say whatever,

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Speaker 1: live your life right art. So why do you think

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Speaker 1: people think that herpies is a woman's thing? Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: that is a that's such a great question. I think

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Speaker 1: it's a that's really good because so many women, like

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Speaker 1: most of my clients are women, Like literally most of

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Speaker 1: the women you will see a support group, so women,

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Speaker 1: even the people who were disclosed, is going to be women.

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Speaker 1: M I said that just because we're way more responsible,

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Speaker 1: We're just we don't we're just way more responsible. I

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Speaker 1: just wouln't like that. On top of that, we're forced

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Speaker 1: to go to the doctor at least once a year anyway,

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Speaker 1: So regardless of that fact, we're quick to find out

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Speaker 1: our diagnosis quicker than men. Most men don't have symptoms

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Speaker 1: like we do. Like for women, we feel a little

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Speaker 1: tangl like it's something wrong. Dudes feel a little tangle,

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Speaker 1: it gotta fall off, dang there, or something gotta be

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Speaker 1: out the norm. But even the guy's I talk to

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Speaker 1: who do have her fees, it's so mild. They almost

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Speaker 1: brushed over it. It was so mild. They were like,

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Speaker 1: And as you know, many guys don't like going to

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Speaker 1: a doctor. UM, so with that mean and say, it's

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Speaker 1: just like, well, it wasn't too bad, and it kind

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Speaker 1: of went away quick, which is true for some guys.

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Speaker 1: Their semptoms go away so fast it's like day by

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Speaker 1: the time I made a doctor's appointment. It's like, I

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Speaker 1: guess it wasn't that big of a deal. But I

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Speaker 1: think number one is because women, we have symptoms. We

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Speaker 1: see it, we feel it, we know something wrong with

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Speaker 1: like I'm feeling different, and what we're gonna do. We're

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Speaker 1: it's a women's thing. It's just it affects women to

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Speaker 1: a place where we're notice it. Um in work ways,

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Speaker 1: can someone overcome the shame of having her fees? The

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Speaker 1: biggest thing is stop worrying about what people think, like, like,

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Speaker 1: you really have to stop allowing less if you're real,

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Speaker 1: social media to dictate who you are. Like most of

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Speaker 1: what we see on social media ain't real. It is

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Speaker 1: just a facade because if they face it's a totally

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Speaker 1: different story. And we also have to understand when people

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Speaker 1: are talking about herpes, how are they talk about herpes?

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Speaker 1: What's the story behind that person has a herpe is

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Speaker 1: As we talked about before, most of the cases we

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Speaker 1: heard of it was cheating involved. Do anybody like be

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Speaker 1: cheated on? Absolutely sou when that comes to the play,

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Speaker 1: everybody changed people with herpes because they think, well, you

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Speaker 1: That's not everybody's story. Most of my clients we're in

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Speaker 1: that don't mean anything. I have many clients who are

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Speaker 1: still versions to this day. You know, you're like, how

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Speaker 1: should selling virus? You know, oral sex. You know, we

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Speaker 1: But she had penetration and she end up getting the virus,

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Speaker 1: which is really sex. At the end of the day.

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Speaker 1: It's many people who only have sex once. I have

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Speaker 1: many clients I just talked to just in this past month,

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Speaker 1: their first partner. There, their first partner, and they end

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Speaker 1: notion that you have to be with a lot of people.

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Speaker 1: That's not true. Yes, you've been a lot of people

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Speaker 1: can increase your risk. That's anything. They don't matter, that's

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Speaker 1: anything you know, But at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: don't know you and they don't have uh, they really

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Speaker 1: don't have the ability to shame you end up shaming yourself,

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Speaker 1: because if you believe what they say, then okay, the

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Speaker 1: shame is on. But if you don't believe what they say,

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Speaker 1: the shame don't affect you. So how can someone build

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Speaker 1: confidence after that? The biggest thing, The biggest thing is

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Speaker 1: once again, herpes. It's really surround the status are herpes.

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Speaker 1: It's surround on what people say. So I tell everybody

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Speaker 1: you say about yourself? And now you've got to kill

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Speaker 1: all that negativity that comes with it. I'm nassy, I'm disgusting,

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Speaker 1: it's the end of the world. None of that is true.

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Speaker 1: You have to understand who were you before you got

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Speaker 1: a really bad view of themselves prior to this, So

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Speaker 1: this haven't changed me. It hasn't changed my degrees, haven't

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Speaker 1: changed anything. But my sexual status. Really, that's really and

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Speaker 1: I realized, why do we put so much weight on

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Speaker 1: sexual status. Why? Once again, we know why because we're

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Speaker 1: And why have you chose to change how you view

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Speaker 1: yourself because of a sexual status. No, it doesn't change

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Speaker 1: anything about you. Is it gonna be something quote unquote

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Speaker 1: difficult to find somebody else? I don't agree to that,

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Speaker 1: because at the end of the day, if a person

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Speaker 1: they want to use you, they're gonna use you, and

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Speaker 1: they want to manipulate you, they're gonna do it. But

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Speaker 1: for me to find somebody? Baybay. I keep it real.

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Speaker 1: If it was easy for you before, it will be

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Speaker 1: easy for you next time. And if it were hard

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Speaker 1: Nothing really change. So any pros and cons of disclosing

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Speaker 1: your status, Okay, So I'm when we're gonna we're gonna

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Speaker 1: cons are Um. It's difficult to say, but like disclosing

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Speaker 1: that comes with it. Like most of us deal with

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Speaker 1: so much psychological disgress disclosed into somebody new, disclosing to

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Speaker 1: your past. It makes it so hard because number one,

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Speaker 1: don't want to lose them, especially if it's something new.

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Speaker 1: We all like that new filter a relationship. It's like, Oh,

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Speaker 1: I hope this works. Somebody, Oh, it's like, god darn it,

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Speaker 1: then somebody in the past it's like, oh, God, you

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Speaker 1: how you view me. Are you gonna tell people? Because

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Speaker 1: The biggest cons is the psychological distress that comes with it.

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Speaker 1: all crap. Now I messed up for real because I've

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Speaker 1: the one of the biggest cons of dealing with is when, where, how, um,

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Speaker 1: And I'll tell anybody disclosing is not about the status.

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Speaker 1: It's about having a healthy relationship about sex period. What

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Speaker 1: It's about we're communicating, Okay, I have this, you have

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Speaker 1: that when a last time you've been um, um, you

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Speaker 1: have been tested condoms, no condoms, positions, no positions. You know.

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Speaker 1: I feel like, honestly, we don't have a conversation about

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Speaker 1: I hope this works because we didn't really talk about it.

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Speaker 1: Where I feel like since we're older than now, we

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Speaker 1: kind of just gotta stop looking at disclosure, especially if

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Speaker 1: it's about you having a healthy conversation about your sexual

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Speaker 1: history and sexual sexual preference. And I feel like you

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Speaker 1: change your mindset. It's not as scary because now it's

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Speaker 1: a conversation. It's not one sided. Disclosure can sound very

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Speaker 1: information given back to you. When the last time they've

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Speaker 1: anything in their life. It's a healthy conversation to have.

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Speaker 1: clients asked them, I said, this is opened your eyes.

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Speaker 1: my outbreaks, it stayed in one spot for so long

425
00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:35,040
Speaker 1: and then it shifted to a whole another place. I'm like,

426
00:20:35,280 --> 00:20:36,879
Speaker 1: did I give it to myself? And that's the biggest

427
00:20:36,960 --> 00:20:39,359
Speaker 1: question I know that someone did you give it to yourself? No,

428
00:20:39,560 --> 00:20:42,440
Speaker 1: the virus can just move around because like it could

429
00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:44,440
Speaker 1: just it could just shift into the areas because it's

430
00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:46,160
Speaker 1: in your nerve and it's so it could just shift.

431
00:20:46,200 --> 00:20:49,200
Speaker 1: It's not that you, you know, gave it to yourself

432
00:20:49,320 --> 00:20:51,439
Speaker 1: or moved it or anything like that. No, it's just

433
00:20:51,480 --> 00:20:54,520
Speaker 1: had the ability to do that. And that's even if

434
00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:56,840
Speaker 1: you have it orally it can move as well. Whereas

435
00:20:56,880 --> 00:20:59,440
Speaker 1: sometimes it's on the outer or your lips. Some people

436
00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:01,520
Speaker 1: it's in the end side. Some people be on their chin,

437
00:21:01,840 --> 00:21:03,080
Speaker 1: it can be on their cheek, it could be on

438
00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:06,560
Speaker 1: the dose. It can move. That's a question, really good question.

439
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:09,200
Speaker 1: Can you spread S t S and F t S

440
00:21:09,200 --> 00:21:15,520
Speaker 1: while using toys? Girl listen, Yes, listen. Now that's a

441
00:21:15,600 --> 00:21:19,399
Speaker 1: part that people don't talk about. But this is the

442
00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:21,040
Speaker 1: part that don't know what they talk about. And you

443
00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:24,280
Speaker 1: know why, I wonder, I wonder why nobody talks about it.

444
00:21:24,560 --> 00:21:28,760
Speaker 1: But it's very heavy, especially for gonnarea clamedia, tricker mania,

445
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:36,320
Speaker 1: anything that's based off bacterial heck, yes, okay, yeah, So

446
00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:38,840
Speaker 1: with bacteria infection. The biggest thing is we know with

447
00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:43,960
Speaker 1: toys bacterial infection and live on surfaces. So gonnarea clamedia,

448
00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:49,760
Speaker 1: trigger mania, Um what trigger mania? It's another form of

449
00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:53,679
Speaker 1: it's another bacteria. I can't really explain what it is.

450
00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:57,440
Speaker 1: It's like you have just charged, you have itching. It's

451
00:21:57,520 --> 00:22:03,879
Speaker 1: like a it's a infection that you can pass, you know.

452
00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:06,639
Speaker 1: Or for example, for women, it's like back to your

453
00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:10,280
Speaker 1: vaginosies that you can pass because those two are typically

454
00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:13,119
Speaker 1: you do not pass. Those those are something among women.

455
00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:16,760
Speaker 1: But trigger mania is something you get through um sex

456
00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:21,440
Speaker 1: with another partner. So though that one's really common and

457
00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:25,040
Speaker 1: most people don't realize it, but it's very common. Um.

458
00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:29,800
Speaker 1: So trigger manya um, bacteria, trigger manya, gonna, real chlamydia

459
00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:33,680
Speaker 1: um are all bacterial effections. So they can live on

460
00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:37,480
Speaker 1: sexual toys. So those. I tell anybody who use any toys,

461
00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:40,760
Speaker 1: even if you use them alone, it doesn't matter. Make

462
00:22:40,760 --> 00:22:43,440
Speaker 1: sure you're getting the proper cleaner. Soap and water is

463
00:22:43,520 --> 00:22:45,919
Speaker 1: not good enough. You need to get the cleaner from

464
00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:49,080
Speaker 1: the sex store, you know, and also partner to do

465
00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:51,760
Speaker 1: the exact same thing, because people have end up getting

466
00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:53,440
Speaker 1: stuff and they're like, I don't know where I got

467
00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:56,400
Speaker 1: it from. If you use the sex storys and even

468
00:22:56,440 --> 00:22:59,480
Speaker 1: if you're having multiple partners using these sex toys, it's

469
00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:02,960
Speaker 1: probably it's possible. It's not something you see them broadcast.

470
00:23:03,040 --> 00:23:05,760
Speaker 1: Especially if you do your research. It's like the one

471
00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 1: thing they say, yes, possible, but they don't do a

472
00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:10,359
Speaker 1: lot of information into it because they're really doing a

473
00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:13,080
Speaker 1: lot of research into it. But it is possible. It's

474
00:23:13,200 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 1: very much possible. So what is an anti virul medication?

475
00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:20,720
Speaker 1: And can't help with it outbreak? Absolutely? So anti viral

476
00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:25,399
Speaker 1: medication is our quote unquote trying to see if I

477
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:30,920
Speaker 1: can kind of explain it. Anti viral it's a suppressing therapy.

478
00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 1: So in the suppressing things to do is get to

479
00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:36,240
Speaker 1: a place where it goes into your body and cause

480
00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:40,160
Speaker 1: the virus to be suppressed. It calms it down. Comes

481
00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:41,600
Speaker 1: with that. I get to a place where it's kind

482
00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:45,639
Speaker 1: of like in remission quote unquote, like we're kind of

483
00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:48,520
Speaker 1: gonna get it to stop, so it's not doing as much,

484
00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:50,440
Speaker 1: or is getting to a place where it's kind of

485
00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:55,240
Speaker 1: keeping the virus at bay. Um it's different for everybody. Um,

486
00:23:55,280 --> 00:23:57,760
Speaker 1: it's the two that everybody pretty much know about is

487
00:23:57,840 --> 00:24:01,440
Speaker 1: val Tracks and the cycle. Val Tracks is the name

488
00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:05,640
Speaker 1: brand and the Cycloviry is the Ginary brand. Um. So

489
00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:08,760
Speaker 1: you're the peels are white and blue, so you know,

490
00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:10,520
Speaker 1: if you ever see no white and blue pels, you

491
00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:13,960
Speaker 1: gotta have a I deal with people everything so you're

492
00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 1: not kind of looking crazy. But and the pills can

493
00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:19,440
Speaker 1: be fairly large. Um, things will change from the time.

494
00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:21,679
Speaker 1: Those pills can look like big old horse pills just

495
00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:25,080
Speaker 1: let you know. And they're kind of powdery peel. Um,

496
00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:26,400
Speaker 1: so you need to make sure you got some good

497
00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:30,320
Speaker 1: drinking gonna swallowed because it's nasty, it's really nice. I'm

498
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:32,640
Speaker 1: just keeping it real. I'm keeping it really real. So

499
00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:35,439
Speaker 1: that's what to do. It basically, try to get to

500
00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:37,359
Speaker 1: the place where the virus is just kind of just

501
00:24:37,440 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 1: keep it in that bay. For many people when they

502
00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:43,440
Speaker 1: take the virus um the anti virals, especially if you

503
00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:45,240
Speaker 1: have an outbreak, you as soon as you feel you're

504
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:49,320
Speaker 1: tingling it and take it. It doesn't work. It works

505
00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:53,119
Speaker 1: best when you first get symptoms. After you have symptoms,

506
00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:55,560
Speaker 1: it takes a time to kind of kick in. And

507
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:58,680
Speaker 1: I'm people think like, why do it take a minute? Hey,

508
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:01,440
Speaker 1: it just takes time. I guess to have a what

509
00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 1: was it called release release? They got released time on it.

510
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 1: So I tell anybody, as soon as you feel an

511
00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:11,439
Speaker 1: it's a tingle or whatever, go ahead and start taking it,

512
00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:13,600
Speaker 1: because now it will go ahead and kick in, and

513
00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 1: by the time of the virus is trying to ramp up.

514
00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:18,080
Speaker 1: In a kind of comment, back down. So now you

515
00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:21,120
Speaker 1: can cut down your healing time compared to or cut

516
00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:24,879
Speaker 1: your healing time completely, you know, because you started so early.

517
00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:27,520
Speaker 1: For my people who just find out, they end up

518
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,760
Speaker 1: getting it. You are already into an outbreak. You're like,

519
00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:32,359
Speaker 1: the medic not working. You're right, it's really not working.

520
00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:36,959
Speaker 1: I just want to realize it's not it's not doing nothing.

521
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:39,399
Speaker 1: Because now you all the way into this outburk. You

522
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:43,159
Speaker 1: probably typically by time you get to the doctor, you

523
00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 1: five plus days in and now you're in a whole

524
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:48,920
Speaker 1: lot of pain, and it's not everybody. So I don't

525
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:51,480
Speaker 1: want everybody think everybody always pain for everybody. It's not.

526
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 1: It's not paying for everybody. For my individuals who have

527
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:56,440
Speaker 1: been it has been painful. I was one of those

528
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:59,840
Speaker 1: people it was painful for. Then I understand this is bull.

529
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:01,879
Speaker 1: I want to hun the work and it's not working

530
00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:05,879
Speaker 1: the point where if it's not working, you're gonna have

531
00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:07,960
Speaker 1: to start doing some natural remedies. And that's why I

532
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:10,840
Speaker 1: will tell anybody who do anti bowl if you're taking

533
00:26:10,880 --> 00:26:14,040
Speaker 1: it and it don't give you the instant cut off

534
00:26:14,040 --> 00:26:17,000
Speaker 1: your outbreak, then use natural remedies because at the end

535
00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:18,800
Speaker 1: of the day, I don't think it's nothing wrong with it.

536
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:23,439
Speaker 1: It's nothing wrong with trying to, you know, control the

537
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:25,800
Speaker 1: virus in the inside and deal with the symptoms on

538
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:28,840
Speaker 1: the outside. Because I keep it real, the anti bowls

539
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 1: don't deal with them that it's it don't deal with

540
00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:33,239
Speaker 1: a lot of that stuff right off. It don't. So

541
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 1: you're gonna have to do things on the outside, you know,

542
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:38,639
Speaker 1: on the outside or the exterial to really help you

543
00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:41,800
Speaker 1: reduce your symptoms in the process. But I know now

544
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:45,520
Speaker 1: you're selling um natural products now right absolutely, So I

545
00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 1: have a speed up cream, so it's a topical cream

546
00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 1: that you can apply onto the outbreak area. You know,

547
00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:54,320
Speaker 1: some people outbreaks look different, so some people have blisters,

548
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:57,560
Speaker 1: some people have cuts, some people, um have just pimple

549
00:26:57,680 --> 00:26:59,760
Speaker 1: like it looks like a hair bump. So some people

550
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 1: have old are the well you can apply all that here. Um.

551
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 1: I also have an anti expray so you know, some

552
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:09,520
Speaker 1: people have really unbearable itching, so that help you with

553
00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:12,119
Speaker 1: the itching. I also have a wash out soap so

554
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:13,919
Speaker 1: you know, some people like man, I want to use

555
00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:15,720
Speaker 1: a soap, but I don't want nothing that's gonna burn

556
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:18,200
Speaker 1: and anything like that. Especially depending on what you use.

557
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:21,479
Speaker 1: Then this will help you pretty much. Have you a

558
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:24,560
Speaker 1: clean wash on top of giving you something that's gonna

559
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:26,679
Speaker 1: help you heal it because they have essentral ols in it.

560
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:28,960
Speaker 1: And then I also have a relaxed me t so

561
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 1: something to calm your nerves because right now you're just wrecked.

562
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:34,680
Speaker 1: Your body is hurting. Some people their body aching things

563
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:36,399
Speaker 1: like that, so that it's just with you know, just

564
00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:38,480
Speaker 1: the stress it of all. And also help them get

565
00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:42,359
Speaker 1: some sleep because you're need use your products that they

566
00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 1: don't have herpes absolutely, yeah, it's all natural, like I have.

567
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,199
Speaker 1: People like my mom she was having and I know

568
00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 1: you sell to him. I took my own business, but anyway,

569
00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:58,679
Speaker 1: but she was so um. She was shaving. You know,

570
00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:02,240
Speaker 1: anybody who's shaved, you get the irritation UM and that unbearable,

571
00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:04,240
Speaker 1: especially when it comes back. And she used the anti

572
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:09,520
Speaker 1: it's spray and then helps. Yeah, it helped her tremendously.

573
00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 1: Even with anybody who have any type of UM, you know,

574
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:15,960
Speaker 1: like for women we have you know, off and on

575
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,920
Speaker 1: back to your vaginosis, use infectious the wash your soul

576
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 1: would do the job and also with it will also

577
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:24,640
Speaker 1: do the job. The anti is your help as well,

578
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:27,000
Speaker 1: because we're always trying to look for something that kind

579
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 1: of get us through it. And as we know, that

580
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,160
Speaker 1: can come and go, come and go, depending on what's

581
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:32,959
Speaker 1: going on with you at that time or if you're

582
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:37,439
Speaker 1: taking anymore. So, how does lack of rest contribute to

583
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 1: our breaks? I saw this on your page listencause your

584
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 1: body can't fight off, it can't keep the virus at bay.

585
00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 1: M Oh. My whole thing is the herpes is on

586
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 1: your nerve and it so it is affected by your

587
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:56,280
Speaker 1: psychological field. So if you're psychologically not like well, like

588
00:28:56,320 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 1: you're just you're not You're not a hunter. You're not

589
00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 1: firing off like your chip will. Your body is like

590
00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 1: oh she weak. The vidus like, oh she weak. Oh

591
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 1: we got something for her body. Make sure you're getting

592
00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 1: proper rest. And I know that's kind of hard right now,

593
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:12,120
Speaker 1: that's in the midst of the pandemic with all the

594
00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 1: stress stuff that you can't control. We can't control COVID nightcing,

595
00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:18,320
Speaker 1: we can't control all the stuff, racial stuff that's going on.

596
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:20,840
Speaker 1: We can't control you know, jobs and things like that.

597
00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 1: So I tell people make sure at least you can't

598
00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:25,400
Speaker 1: control all your strengths because a lot of stuff is

599
00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 1: being put on us. You have to control how much

600
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,080
Speaker 1: rest you get. So make sure you're getting proper sleep.

601
00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:32,800
Speaker 1: It's hard to do, specially if you're kind of figuring

602
00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:34,720
Speaker 1: out what I'm gonna do my bills. Go to sleep.

603
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:39,800
Speaker 1: When you get some rest. You can think better when

604
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 1: you're getting food, but I'm telling you sleep it's it

605
00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 1: can really make it take a toll. That happened to

606
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 1: me in the beginning of the year. I was like,

607
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:49,880
Speaker 1: why am I having more outbreaks? Than normal. I wasn't sleeping,

608
00:29:49,960 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 1: I was working like I was grinding. I was like, yeah,

609
00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 1: you know, so my body was like, scuse you, ma'am.

610
00:29:56,680 --> 00:30:00,840
Speaker 1: Now look with us, Okay, can you bet you better

611
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:03,400
Speaker 1: stop playing? So I learned I had to get more risks.

612
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:06,959
Speaker 1: So getting more sleep and rest don't mean sleep all

613
00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 1: the time. Sometimes that's just not doing as much as

614
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:11,239
Speaker 1: you're typically doing because a lot of us are kind

615
00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:13,760
Speaker 1: of forcing our bodies to do what it don't really

616
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 1: have the energy to do. Because you're not drinking water,

617
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 1: you're not working out, you're not eating properly, so now

618
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:19,920
Speaker 1: you're putting stress on your body, and a lot of

619
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:22,560
Speaker 1: people are I'm not stressed. Your body is stressed if

620
00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:25,720
Speaker 1: you're not eating right. Your body is stressed. If it's dehydrated,

621
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 1: you know it's stressed. If it hasn't been running off

622
00:30:28,440 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 1: two or three hours the street for the last couple

623
00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:32,720
Speaker 1: of weeks. Your body can't run a hundred us and

624
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 1: if it's not getting everything it needs. And a lot

625
00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 1: of us just believe our body is supposed to do

626
00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:38,920
Speaker 1: what it wants, but it needs what it needs to

627
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 1: really function at a hundred. So I'll tell anybody to

628
00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:45,240
Speaker 1: make sure you get sleep. I know it's hard for something.

629
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 1: That's because we're in school. You know your children, you

630
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:50,160
Speaker 1: have all this stuff. Look, it won't hurt nobody for

631
00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 1: you the second day and just lay down and go

632
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:55,320
Speaker 1: to sleep, or put yourself on the special for a

633
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:57,400
Speaker 1: couple of days, just till you can get a proper rest.

634
00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:03,040
Speaker 1: What about food? Okay, good question, So I'll telling anybody

635
00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:04,160
Speaker 1: I always asked, so I have to get on a

636
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:07,360
Speaker 1: special diet? No, you really don't like it's not required,

637
00:31:07,640 --> 00:31:10,800
Speaker 1: but it makes a huge difference. So for me, at first,

638
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:13,120
Speaker 1: I didn't really have a big issue because I tiplue

639
00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:15,560
Speaker 1: eat vegetables and things like that. Um, But when I

640
00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:17,600
Speaker 1: made a decision about like two or three years ago

641
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:21,479
Speaker 1: to really go more plant base, I've seen a big difference.

642
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 1: I didn't have as many outbreak as I did before. Um,

643
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 1: I felt better, I had more energy, you know, I

644
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 1: just felt so much better. So I'll tell anybody if

645
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:33,520
Speaker 1: you considering, like, oh, should I change my diet? Absolutely

646
00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 1: you should change your daughter. What's the big deal? You

647
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:37,959
Speaker 1: want to live longer? Right, do it? It will be

648
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 1: for your best interests to change your diet because you're

649
00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:43,520
Speaker 1: gonna see a big difference in how your body responds

650
00:31:43,840 --> 00:31:46,240
Speaker 1: to the virus, because if you're eating jumple, your body

651
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:48,480
Speaker 1: is like, oh man, she ain't doing nothing for me,

652
00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 1: like this virus and she ain't eating healthy or he

653
00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:55,200
Speaker 1: not eating healthy. Um, that ain't gonna work. So it's

654
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 1: not like you have to cut out things like I

655
00:31:56,960 --> 00:31:59,000
Speaker 1: still I love I love me some winners. I still

656
00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 1: eat winnies. I still have fast food and things like that.

657
00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 1: But no, it's on a consistent basis. I try to

658
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:06,640
Speaker 1: eat as healthy as I can, making sure I have

659
00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:09,800
Speaker 1: a lot of vegetables and my diet so that's more

660
00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:12,680
Speaker 1: greeny vegetables than anything. A lot of people like I

661
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:14,920
Speaker 1: don't like. No, you need to eat it like it'll

662
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:18,240
Speaker 1: keep you alive. You'll give you the energy that you're lacking.

663
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:20,520
Speaker 1: A lot of people are just tired. You're tired because

664
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:24,240
Speaker 1: you don't have vegetables cool and then, but you need

665
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 1: vegetables to fuel you more than anything. So I will

666
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 1: tell anybody if you just find out this diagnosis, make

667
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 1: sure you add more vegetables until you ain't talking about

668
00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 1: what Mama used to feed us, you know, beans and corn,

669
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 1: and no, I'm talking about lettuce, broccoli. No, And I

670
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 1: have to say that, and that's just not to you know,

671
00:32:43,080 --> 00:32:46,680
Speaker 1: make anybody feel bad. But if you were hey where

672
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 1: your parents only did you know sweet peas and corn

673
00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:52,280
Speaker 1: and things like that, then you don't know. It's more

674
00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:54,880
Speaker 1: vegetables out there. They can give you way more vitamins

675
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:57,640
Speaker 1: than you even know, and you feel so much better.

676
00:32:57,720 --> 00:33:01,080
Speaker 1: Like spinach and charge charge like another form of spinish,

677
00:33:01,200 --> 00:33:07,800
Speaker 1: and um, so much other stuff girl, And that's good

678
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 1: for your nerves to listen. It's so much stuff out here.

679
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 1: So I would tell anybody make sure you just start

680
00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 1: getting to a place where you're comfortable with trying something new,

681
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 1: because I was like it myself too, but my mom

682
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:21,440
Speaker 1: was like, absolutely nice, you're gonna eat plant blazes. You

683
00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:23,520
Speaker 1: know your mama tay you do something, You're doing it anyway.

684
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 1: So but it benefited me tremendously because I felt so

685
00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 1: much better. Even my truldren felt better, you know. So

686
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,640
Speaker 1: I would tell anybody you don't have to cut stuff out,

687
00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:36,440
Speaker 1: but it will help you in a long run to

688
00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:40,040
Speaker 1: eat better, you know, to eat better. Um. For some people,

689
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 1: alcohol can cast them have outbreaks. That's not my thing

690
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,200
Speaker 1: because I don't drink a lot. Um. So if you're

691
00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 1: a big drinking and you realize you're having more outbreaks

692
00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:50,640
Speaker 1: than me, you're gonna have to back up off the drinks.

693
00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:54,560
Speaker 1: And I know it's some people, but honestly, it literally

694
00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 1: you gotta ask yourself, why are you drinking some much?

695
00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:59,560
Speaker 1: You know, tough questions, you know, why do you have

696
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:01,400
Speaker 1: to have that hall every time you go out? Like

697
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 1: tough questions, you know, like we we don't like to

698
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 1: talk about that, but you gotta ask yourself some tough questions.

699
00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:07,480
Speaker 1: And if you do, you want to have outbreaks? Now,

700
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 1: I tell people, if you want to risk it, how fun.

701
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:13,000
Speaker 1: How fun you But if you don't want to keep

702
00:34:13,000 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 1: dealing with that, you're gonna have to back up all

703
00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:17,160
Speaker 1: some things, you know. And that hurts some people because

704
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 1: it's like, man, that's what I do. I said, I

705
00:34:18,719 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 1: understand that for a long time I drinking a lot

706
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:24,239
Speaker 1: ain't healthy for you anyway. Um, some people clip is

707
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:30,359
Speaker 1: a trigger, you know, different people, different situations. Um, some

708
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:33,400
Speaker 1: people it is eating just not eating healthy. But I

709
00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:35,400
Speaker 1: think it's just not that they're not eating healthy, is

710
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 1: because they're immune system shot. It's like now your municism

711
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 1: is low because you're enough food all the time, you're

712
00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 1: not anything about you. Now your body cannot fight because

713
00:34:43,200 --> 00:34:46,560
Speaker 1: you don't have any energy to fight. Um. So I'll

714
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:49,359
Speaker 1: tell anybody make sure you just get changing Your diet

715
00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:52,200
Speaker 1: is not like a I don't like to say diet.

716
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 1: Change your lifestyle, change your eating patterns, and they'll make

717
00:34:55,440 --> 00:34:57,239
Speaker 1: a big difference. If you're just looking at a diet,

718
00:34:57,280 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 1: it's temporary. But if you look at this long time.

719
00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:01,640
Speaker 1: I'm trying to change how I eat. I have my

720
00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:04,279
Speaker 1: good times, but overall I eat fairly healthy and I

721
00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:06,920
Speaker 1: take care of my body, then you'll see a big difference.

722
00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 1: You really will. What is some advice you would give

723
00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:13,439
Speaker 1: to someone on whether they should stay with their gifts? There?

724
00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:17,920
Speaker 1: You do it if you want to. Literally, it's just

725
00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:20,839
Speaker 1: that simple. I think some people feel bad to want

726
00:35:20,840 --> 00:35:22,600
Speaker 1: to stay with that person. But I feel like the

727
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:25,440
Speaker 1: only this is the only way. I the only reason

728
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:29,000
Speaker 1: I tell you leave if they're not owning up to it. Okay,

729
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:30,879
Speaker 1: but one if they're not own up to it. If

730
00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:32,880
Speaker 1: you know for a fact you didn't have this, and

731
00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:35,080
Speaker 1: that means you was tested prior to come in here.

732
00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:36,920
Speaker 1: Oh that's the only person you have with and they

733
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:38,640
Speaker 1: do not want to own up and you know you

734
00:35:38,640 --> 00:35:40,479
Speaker 1: ain't cheated. Now I gotta get in your business because

735
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:42,000
Speaker 1: some people be doing stuff and you don't want to

736
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:44,360
Speaker 1: be real. So I'm talking to you in your prior space, okay,

737
00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:49,319
Speaker 1: and you haven't treated then, and they don't want to

738
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:51,560
Speaker 1: own up to it. You can't stay with that person.

739
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:55,360
Speaker 1: It's because that person don't even want to say, you

740
00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 1: know why I did this? Because and I know some

741
00:35:57,680 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 1: people like that's not good enough. I feel like, honestly

742
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:02,319
Speaker 1: get you and set you free. I feel like, be

743
00:36:02,440 --> 00:36:05,640
Speaker 1: honest with me because I understand, I can truly understand

744
00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:08,279
Speaker 1: why people do not disclose. They don't know how they

745
00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:10,520
Speaker 1: fear they don't want to lose you to some people

746
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:11,880
Speaker 1: just like man, I just hope you don't get it

747
00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:13,440
Speaker 1: and things like that. But I feel like that's the

748
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 1: time where your partner has to be very vulnerable and say,

749
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:17,759
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm new and I'm sorry, you know,

750
00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:19,440
Speaker 1: and if you want to move past it, if you

751
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 1: can forgive me, then cool. I know it's gonna take

752
00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:24,000
Speaker 1: me some time to build your trust back, but we

753
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:26,360
Speaker 1: can move forward. That's what we choose to do. But

754
00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 1: they got to own it, and a lot of people

755
00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:30,719
Speaker 1: don't want to own it. Another reason, if that person

756
00:36:30,760 --> 00:36:33,000
Speaker 1: do not even want to go get tested. Oh we

757
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 1: got it. Uh, we don't have nothing. I need you

758
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 1: to get to that's a red flag. Don't take that.

759
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:41,720
Speaker 1: Oh we gotta know you need to go get tested.

760
00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:44,160
Speaker 1: For that person who keeps saying, oh, he said he's

761
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:46,440
Speaker 1: gonna go, he said he gonna go. He ain't going, baby,

762
00:36:46,800 --> 00:36:51,160
Speaker 1: he ain't going. Leave him alone, block him moving, he's

763
00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:54,040
Speaker 1: not going to the doctor. A man included keep she

764
00:36:54,120 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 1: keeps someone, Oh, I ain't got no money. I give

765
00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:59,960
Speaker 1: you the money. Go no excuses. It's too many freak

766
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:03,920
Speaker 1: lining for you not to go. Go to the er Jesus.

767
00:37:10,080 --> 00:37:12,880
Speaker 1: Because that's like many men just they're not taught that,

768
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:15,920
Speaker 1: and that's something especially in our community, we have to

769
00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:18,200
Speaker 1: kind of give them a lot of grace sometimes because

770
00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:20,360
Speaker 1: they have not taught the importance of taking care of

771
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:23,759
Speaker 1: their body and help normalize it for sure. You know.

772
00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:27,200
Speaker 1: So it's like if he just not trying, you gotta

773
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:29,279
Speaker 1: be out. But if he liked, if he can be

774
00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:32,200
Speaker 1: transparent with you, and he comfortable enough to be like, baby,

775
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:35,759
Speaker 1: I'm scared, I absolute, but I'll go with you. If

776
00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:37,840
Speaker 1: y'all can get past that, I'm trying to be that

777
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:40,239
Speaker 1: his ego and his pride in a way, and he

778
00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:42,960
Speaker 1: can really be vulnerable and just say I'm scared and

779
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:46,440
Speaker 1: you know I'm I'm terrified and I probably did give

780
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:49,200
Speaker 1: it to you. If y'all can get to that point that,

781
00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:51,799
Speaker 1: I feel like y'all can move into a you know,

782
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:53,719
Speaker 1: continue our relationship. But if you can't get to him

783
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:56,280
Speaker 1: to be vulnerable, you can't do nothing with that relationship.

784
00:37:56,320 --> 00:37:58,360
Speaker 1: He don't want to own it. It's gonna make you

785
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:00,399
Speaker 1: feel like you're the person who did that to him,

786
00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:02,520
Speaker 1: and it's gonna make the relationship trained. It's gonna be

787
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:04,799
Speaker 1: a trained relationship. But I'm not a gifted at all.

788
00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 1: I have many lads who don't stay with their gifters

789
00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 1: or guys who have stayed with their gifters as well,

790
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:11,640
Speaker 1: and they were fine. I don't have guys like literally

791
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:14,440
Speaker 1: like lose it with their gifters. Um and I'm like,

792
00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:17,480
Speaker 1: you leave her alone, step away, leave alone. You know

793
00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 1: she's gonna make you say you know type thing. Because

794
00:38:20,040 --> 00:38:22,040
Speaker 1: they were like, because most guys said, I'll stay with

795
00:38:22,080 --> 00:38:24,400
Speaker 1: her because nobody else don't want me. And we we

796
00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:26,680
Speaker 1: really do believe me and don't think like that. They do.

797
00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:31,839
Speaker 1: They listen every insecurities like women too, but we just

798
00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:33,800
Speaker 1: don't hear it because they don't have to say space

799
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:36,279
Speaker 1: to say that. And when they do, what happens they

800
00:38:36,280 --> 00:38:39,280
Speaker 1: get dogged out, which we gotta stop doing as a

801
00:38:39,280 --> 00:38:43,240
Speaker 1: as a human, as humans. Not it's just not the culture,

802
00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:45,480
Speaker 1: but it's humans. We gotta stop dogging me and out

803
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 1: when they want to make, you know, share their emotions

804
00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:53,400
Speaker 1: and say and be vulnerable. Um. But no, last and

805
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:56,919
Speaker 1: at least, how can someone maintain a positive day while

806
00:38:56,920 --> 00:39:01,040
Speaker 1: they have an outbreak? Oh girl, come on, talk about

807
00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 1: it because that's me today. Okay, that's me today. I've

808
00:39:05,560 --> 00:39:13,919
Speaker 1: been having that out great me today. So that's the thing.

809
00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:17,200
Speaker 1: You can't allow it to control you. And this is

810
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:20,320
Speaker 1: that overnight thing like for so long I used to

811
00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:23,920
Speaker 1: get so mad, and that anybody knows. Let's use an example.

812
00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:26,760
Speaker 1: If you hit your hand and your hands start to throb,

813
00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 1: and the more you think about your hand throb and

814
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:31,800
Speaker 1: the more a throb you're like God, thing is you

815
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 1: don't hurt, And the more more you have about that hand,

816
00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:37,560
Speaker 1: the more painful it is. It's the same situation with

817
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:40,439
Speaker 1: the outbreak. The more emotion you give it, the more

818
00:39:40,520 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 1: painful it feel. It feel like the longer it stays,

819
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 1: it's like it's not going away. So I'll tell very

820
00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:51,920
Speaker 1: important to control how you feel at the end of

821
00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 1: the day you have the outbreak, and I feel like

822
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:59,040
Speaker 1: anybody try to find things to reduce the pain, reduce

823
00:39:59,120 --> 00:40:02,400
Speaker 1: the itch, reduce anything, because sometimes that's just the hardest

824
00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:04,920
Speaker 1: part to kind of get through it because you're just

825
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:08,560
Speaker 1: so uncomfortable. Session. Depending on what type of work you do,

826
00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:12,920
Speaker 1: it can be very very uncomfortable. Are you there, Yeah, okay,

827
00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:15,480
Speaker 1: so yeah, it could be uncomfortable. So I will tell

828
00:40:15,560 --> 00:40:18,879
Speaker 1: anybody make sure you have whatever you need to get

829
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 1: through that outbreak. But also remember I have it, but

830
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:23,719
Speaker 1: I don't have to allow to control me. And I

831
00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:25,919
Speaker 1: have to tell myself that some days, because last week

832
00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:33,400
Speaker 1: I was like, I was I'm mad to day because

833
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:37,440
Speaker 1: it's like crazy and it was out the blue, and

834
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:40,080
Speaker 1: my outbreaks tympically don't last is long, so I was like,

835
00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 1: right now. It varies. For some people. It can last

836
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 1: of the two to three days, depending if they're on

837
00:40:47,360 --> 00:40:49,880
Speaker 1: anti virals or different type of treatments they're doing. Or

838
00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:52,719
Speaker 1: you know, and then other people it can last up

839
00:40:52,719 --> 00:40:56,640
Speaker 1: to two weeks, some people longer than it depends because

840
00:40:56,680 --> 00:40:58,640
Speaker 1: mine was going away and it seemed like it came back.

841
00:40:58,680 --> 00:41:02,319
Speaker 1: And I'm like, really, that's what we are? Is that

842
00:41:02,400 --> 00:41:05,839
Speaker 1: what we are? What do you think? What do you think?

843
00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 1: It's the status of that part. Who knows? Like with

844
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:13,239
Speaker 1: COVID Night Team taking over the world and every research lab,

845
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Speaker 1: I have no clue, you know. I think the biggest

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Speaker 1: thing is it's many people who are working on it,

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Speaker 1: but they hit roadblocks. And I feel like the roadblocks

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Speaker 1: is finances, and the roadblocks is our voice is a community.

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Speaker 1: They can't keep fighting and we're not backing with our noise.

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Speaker 1: A lot of people ask me all the time, who

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Speaker 1: A'm gonna get cure? When you start talking, when you

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Speaker 1: start fighting, not when you get out of shame, when

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Speaker 1: you stop thinking that you gotta wait on somebody else

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Speaker 1: to do it, when you start financially backing it. And

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Speaker 1: I tell that everybody, we all have to do that.

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Speaker 1: It's not gonna happen overnight. Anybody looked at HIV history,

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Speaker 1: that was a lot of blood, sweat and tears and money.

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Speaker 1: It didn't come out they stopped the grounds for a

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Speaker 1: long time. Yeah, that's true, and that was just marking.

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Speaker 1: So we have to get out. And they had the

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Speaker 1: same way. They had to get out of the shame

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Speaker 1: of it all and say, you know what, we need help,

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Speaker 1: we want to change your look at it now. They

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Speaker 1: got prepped. Dang, let us get prepped. I'll be so lit.

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Speaker 1: Listen because just for herpes, that will literally the game

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Speaker 1: for us, because all they did was make sure the

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Speaker 1: person who have HIV get undetectable and then give it

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Speaker 1: to their partner to guarantee that they won't get it.

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Speaker 1: But if you know anything about it, I be if

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Speaker 1: a person is undetectable, you won't get it anyway. But

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Speaker 1: I feel like that's go to a place where we

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Speaker 1: can't get to a place an undetectable. It's kind of weird.

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Speaker 1: But if we can give our partner something to prevent

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Speaker 1: it from getting it, it will literally take out all

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Speaker 1: the weight off of us, you know, because it's so

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Speaker 1: much uncertainty behind giving it to a person, because I

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Speaker 1: could say I haven't that I know of gave it

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Speaker 1: to anybody, you know, or at the end of day,

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Speaker 1: that's not the story for every body. That's not everybody

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Speaker 1: or they with their first person after their dignosis and

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Speaker 1: gave it to them. And I tell people that's not

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Speaker 1: because it's your fault. It's just because a lack of

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Speaker 1: understanding for her fees and also the lack of information

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Speaker 1: that can guarantee you that something won't happen, because it's

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Speaker 1: no guarantee, you know. So right now, I'm not sure

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Speaker 1: because I've been getting that question a lot, especially with COVID.

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Speaker 1: I said, I have no clue. I can tell you

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Speaker 1: what's going on COVID. That's so if that's in our

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Speaker 1: face right now. But I do believe it's people in

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Speaker 1: the background. But I feel like it's just very important

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Speaker 1: to understand we have to force it and we gotta

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Speaker 1: push it, because if we don't push it and we're

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Speaker 1: not giving them the finances behind it, it's just gonna stop.

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Speaker 1: It takes a long time to come up with something

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Speaker 1: that just can't cheat. So I just people who are

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Speaker 1: doing this don't even have her fees. They've just seen

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Speaker 1: a cry. So I say, just imagine if it's somebody

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Speaker 1: you know, people who appreciate it and push them, you know,

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Speaker 1: because it has been some things out here. Um but

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Speaker 1: it just never can get past a certain point, you know,

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Speaker 1: and the f D a kind of stick in. You

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Speaker 1: gotta do certain things with the FDA, and if you

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Speaker 1: don't do it the right way, it boot you, you know,

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Speaker 1: so it kind of like holds up the process. I

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Speaker 1: do know some other countries that's working on stuff, but

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Speaker 1: you know, the way they do stuff in their country

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Speaker 1: is not the way we do in our country. Um So,

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Speaker 1: I think I don't think herpes will get a cure,

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Speaker 1: and I know that's hard that anybody want to hear.

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Speaker 1: I think we will get a vaccination. You know, we're

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Speaker 1: real heavy and vaccinations in the United States. That's what

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Speaker 1: we like. But we gotta be comfable with them to

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Speaker 1: even just coming up with something for us. I want something,

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Speaker 1: a vaccination. I'll take that. We can work on something later.

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Speaker 1: But we know we don't care stuff in United States,

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Speaker 1: and that's hard to hear, but it's just our reality.

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Speaker 1: That's that's not how they work here. We don't care stuff.

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Speaker 1: We just make vaccinations for it or or some medication. Well,

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Speaker 1: if y'all have any questions, this is one of my

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Speaker 1: they really guests that you can see she keeps it

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Speaker 1: real or you want to use her products or anything,

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Speaker 1: and just make sure to reach out to me a

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Speaker 1: hello at the PSC podcast dot com. And I have

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Speaker 1: no problem with share her information with you so we

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Speaker 1: can all support our black women they businesses. So and

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Speaker 1: I share your information with it with her because I

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Speaker 1: know a lot of us are ashamed to say certain

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Speaker 1: things and to share certain things. But you ain't gonna grow.

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Speaker 1: You can't hide what you don't reveal. No, you can't

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Speaker 1: help what you don't reveal. Right that we're here to help.

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Speaker 1: Just let us help us, Let us help you because

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Speaker 1: you don't have to sit in it and feel like

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Speaker 1: you can't get help. If you heard if anything, I'll

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Speaker 1: be honest. If you didn't get your questions and to

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Speaker 1: please reach out to name, I would definitely. I have

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Speaker 1: shared a couple of my listeners um questions and also

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Speaker 1: I have gave my guest information. Hey email me and

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Speaker 1: hello at the PSC podcast dot com. And and until

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Speaker 1: next time everyone, To my guests, thank you so much. No,

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Speaker 1: you're welcome. I love talking to you. Until next time. Everyone.

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Speaker 1: Later