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Speaker 2: And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor

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Speaker 2: Mind where speaks we gotta guess Surday.

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Speaker 1: We gotta guess Saurday. So this is a really big deal.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you are our first like out the country guests, Like,

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Speaker 1: Y'all get it up for emails in the building. Hello,

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, we are so excited to have you

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Speaker 1: like you guys, Do I feel like we plan this?

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Speaker 3: We are very coordinated, right, we'd yeah the first time

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Speaker 3: we're in this blazer.

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Speaker 1: So I just feel like it was supposed to be. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it looks really really nice for like rich Anti vibes.

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Speaker 3: It's giving it okay, it's living girl group and.

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Speaker 1: We like him. Then he can see you. I like that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So we're gonna get it started because I have

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Speaker 2: a lot of stuff.

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Speaker 1: To talk about with you. I am a like reality

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Speaker 1: show joky, Okay. I love reality show Like I.

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Speaker 2: Can literally sit in front of TV for hours and

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Speaker 1: I love it. Okay.

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Speaker 4: And I saw a post the other day and you

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like because we're just constantly just on a

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Speaker 4: I just want to feel like I can relate to

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Speaker 1: I don't know about that for me.

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Speaker 4: Also, they like sometimes when your life is also sometimes

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Speaker 4: I'll be like if I feel like my life is

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Speaker 4: You're like, you know, everyone has got shit going on, brilliant, you.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, life ain't that bad?

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying that I always look on

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Speaker 3: I just I don't know what's up with our generation.

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Speaker 3: We definitely post too much online. Like I remember when

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Speaker 4: There's certain things that I will not say out loud,

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Speaker 1: Well it was over.

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Speaker 4: It was on a bush, you know, like in America,

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Speaker 2: Had to ride the bus back two hours back. I

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Speaker 4: It was like, I thought I was showing you that

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Speaker 1: See. I did a papa once to and you know

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Speaker 1: So getting back. So you did reality TV? Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm so interested because I used to want to do

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Speaker 4: So I wanted to see if I was all these

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Speaker 4: So I haven't. I've only watched one episode back. Really yeah,

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Speaker 3: Absolutely you canceled here. But I'll just be saying she.

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Speaker 4: But I think you guys are a little bit more.

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Speaker 1: No, Yeah, I get to be more free.

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Speaker 2: It's like terriboo, Yes that's what I'm saying. Yeah, which

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Speaker 1: Why is it like literally, but why is it like that?

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Speaker 1: This is why you're single.

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Speaker 4: This is why you're not why, this is why you haven't,

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Speaker 4: This is why no one wants you.

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Speaker 1: I don't want any.

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Speaker 4: Girl that's gonna And you know what, back in the day,

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Speaker 4: But I actually, as I've got older, I'm like I

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Speaker 4: don't want my wife to give oral.

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Speaker 1: It's like give it has given the head then may

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Speaker 2: No, that was DJ Cally. Are you sure? But I

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Speaker 1: Don't like his wife to give him He that's crazy

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Speaker 1: to me, that is so crazy. I wouldn't be with

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Speaker 3: No, No, I think he said it was more like

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Speaker 1: Of But see, that's the whole other thing in America

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Speaker 4: So as simple as oral, which I think should be

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Speaker 1: Anyway, Sorry, you can't. How can you say that's degrading?

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Speaker 4: I think that's I honestly feel me personally that we've

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Speaker 4: because my thing is is, how can.

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Speaker 1: You allow somebody inside of you, but.

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Speaker 4: You don't think they're good enough to give oral like

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Speaker 4: So my thing is my rule is if I don't

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Speaker 1: Like that's how I see it, because it should be

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Speaker 1: a part of the whole thing. It should be the whole.

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Speaker 1: It should be like this is you know, it's.

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Speaker 2: I will say, it's a thing in America too, like

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Speaker 2: and I thought this was always so like, oh, I

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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 1: And it's like, but this is what I'm saying, That's

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Speaker 4: It's so backwards because it's like, babe, that is that's

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Speaker 4: the that he was literally, you know, it's just another

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Speaker 2: Like literally, I see I get part of it though,

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Speaker 2: because I used to be like this, Yes, I used

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Speaker 1: For killed girl. But I think that's what I think.

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Speaker 4: It's a certain like we were saying it's like her,

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Speaker 4: You never have my body if you don't deserve me.

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Speaker 3: And I haven't body that way now that I'm older,

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Speaker 3: But when I was younger, I definitely used to feel

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Speaker 1: Guys don't want to and here, like.

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Speaker 4: In America, they actually enjoy it here. The guys there

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Speaker 4: it's still a taboo here. Well okay, it's more like

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Speaker 4: we were saying, the oh if I give her head,

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Speaker 4: she's got something over me. Here the guys still see her.

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Speaker 4: Guys here will still say things like, oh, I only

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh hell know, like you marry me here if

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Speaker 2: Making it's a holy matrimony. But I will say American

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Speaker 1: Because when lou Wayne Drop puts the Master, it's a

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Speaker 4: Do it, but over here we still Now it's like

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Speaker 1: What you like to give it? Well?

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Speaker 2: The god date now he don't let me, don't. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: he's like no, yeah, you know, of course you gotta

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Speaker 2: He's like he doesn't, he doesn't. I'm not a real

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Speaker 4: There as in doing it. Yeah, I haven't done it either,

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Speaker 4: Like yeah, it's been on like something like drunk. Absolutely

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna try. I know, I'm gonna try. I'm gonna

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Speaker 4: You gotta come out of the shower. You have to

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Speaker 4: like be have come out because.

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Speaker 1: You know, men don't know how to wipe that exactly.

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Speaker 1: They gotta be don't.

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Speaker 4: I feel like they wipe one time and you know

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Speaker 4: they really don't. Have you ever seen like like sometimes

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's crazy. How you say too far?

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Speaker 2: Now when you fresh at the shower, I'm off the tequila.

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Speaker 2: I eat a little crumpet, what the cruppets and tea?

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Speaker 2: I'm have a little, you know, lord, the little you know,

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Speaker 1: Baby, I'm confused, Like, you know what that thing?

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Speaker 3: I feel like she means. I don't know when you

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna wait the booty.

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Speaker 2: I didn't want to say, ass okay, so I eat

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Speaker 2: The reaction, you know what, I've never done it. The

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Speaker 1: It was a long time. I'm not gonna lie. I

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Speaker 2: It's just funny to talk about, because I think it's

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Speaker 2: funny that everybody be like, oh my god, walking around

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Speaker 1: That all the time. In America. It's really a thing. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but like in America, it's a really big thing. Men

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Speaker 4: A lot of the Amazon position. What it's like the

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Speaker 4: so you're paging the legs.

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Speaker 1: You're holding the legs.

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Speaker 4: It's not almost like and you're pegging him. No, it's

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Speaker 1: That's a little too flexible for me. If you grab

439
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:22,080
Speaker 1: your ankles. It looks like everyone is having a good time.

440
00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:25,639
Speaker 1: Like I've seen it. It looks like the woman is enjoying.

441
00:22:25,800 --> 00:22:27,879
Speaker 1: It's doing what he needs to do for her, and

442
00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:29,240
Speaker 1: do what he needs to do for the man.

443
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:30,920
Speaker 4: But I think a lot of men won't do it

444
00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 4: because it is a very vulnerable position, their legs up

445
00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:35,000
Speaker 4: in the air.

446
00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:36,640
Speaker 1: I think it's too vulnerable for them.

447
00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:39,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's just and I think for us,

448
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:42,040
Speaker 2: we're like visual people too, so I think it just

449
00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:43,440
Speaker 2: looks kind of crazy.

450
00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:46,160
Speaker 1: I feel like an.

451
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:50,560
Speaker 4: Your ears, like you know, you just grab their ankles,

452
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:51,960
Speaker 4: so you're using it as a thing.

453
00:22:52,119 --> 00:22:54,840
Speaker 1: So it's like her. Yeah, I don't know if I

454
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:55,640
Speaker 1: would like to see.

455
00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:04,359
Speaker 4: Other guys in the American open because I don't think

456
00:23:04,400 --> 00:23:05,879
Speaker 4: I could ever come across the guy in the UK

457
00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:09,000
Speaker 4: that was in London, not the UK London that would

458
00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:09,760
Speaker 4: never let me do that.

459
00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:12,280
Speaker 2: But what I think though about me and a lot

460
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:14,080
Speaker 2: of the time, I think they'd be saying a lot

461
00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:16,639
Speaker 2: of shit yeah, and then I think if you actually

462
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 2: got in the bedroom, it'll be a whole different story.

463
00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:22,080
Speaker 2: I think dudes feel like they have to have a

464
00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:25,400
Speaker 2: certain level of masculinity in front of like their friends,

465
00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:27,720
Speaker 2: in front of their homeboys. But I think it's a

466
00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:30,280
Speaker 2: lot of niggas would be into like some freaky ship

467
00:23:30,760 --> 00:23:32,480
Speaker 2: when you're with them behind closed doors.

468
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:34,359
Speaker 1: They just not gonna openly admit.

469
00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 2: But I think certain people will bring out certain signs

470
00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:41,720
Speaker 2: because I'm telling y'all, I had remember that one time

471
00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:44,800
Speaker 2: the dude I used to day what happened?

472
00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:49,760
Speaker 1: He was like a big strong girl. He was like

473
00:23:49,920 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 1: shaking them what he's like? He was he wasking yes,

474
00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:08,440
Speaker 1: girl for real? And I was like, oh my god,

475
00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:12,000
Speaker 1: And I had word shocked because you called me like Liz.

476
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:14,760
Speaker 1: But then on top of that, I haven't graduated to

477
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:17,640
Speaker 1: that yet. I don't do that. I don't eat crumpies

478
00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:20,240
Speaker 1: you need to try a little crumpy.

479
00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:26,600
Speaker 3: Maybe one day what they said with my husband, maybe

480
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:28,520
Speaker 3: when I get married. But yeah, I don't do that.

481
00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:31,240
Speaker 3: So when he did, and I was just like, excuse me,

482
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:32,760
Speaker 3: how did it make you feel?

483
00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 1: I feel uncomfortable. Tell you that's why they do stuff

484
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:39,040
Speaker 1: around us. I'm not little liveo.

485
00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:42,200
Speaker 2: I like to look at the crumpet too. You look

486
00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:44,360
Speaker 2: at it, what do you mean like if it's smooth?

487
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:46,600
Speaker 2: Because I did the guy that used to get waxed

488
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:50,720
Speaker 2: down there, woul I feel like you need to wax

489
00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:53,359
Speaker 2: it though, Yeah, and he was wax like.

490
00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:56,000
Speaker 1: It was very smooth. It was actually just like lay

491
00:24:56,080 --> 00:24:58,639
Speaker 1: on that straight cat. I was just looking at it, like.

492
00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:01,720
Speaker 3: Wow, this is a beautiful he such a beautiful, beautiful boy.

493
00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:03,320
Speaker 3: He was a beautiful man.

494
00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:06,159
Speaker 1: I sometimes I hate what you mean.

495
00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:07,840
Speaker 4: So you know that when the guy gets out of

496
00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:09,359
Speaker 4: the bed and he walks to the bathroom and he

497
00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:10,960
Speaker 4: just look at the bar and you're like, oh, that's

498
00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:11,560
Speaker 4: a nice one.

499
00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:11,960
Speaker 5: Yeah.

500
00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:15,159
Speaker 2: He was like like like we all me and my

501
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:17,640
Speaker 2: friends will always call him. When my other friends started calling,

502
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:20,200
Speaker 2: she was like, he looks like a Greek god. So

503
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:23,000
Speaker 2: it made sense that he was just so sexual and

504
00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:26,320
Speaker 2: all these. Yeah, so when I seen that crumping and

505
00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 2: it was winking at me, I wasn't.

506
00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:30,520
Speaker 1: Mad at it. But have you ever dated a guy

507
00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:33,000
Speaker 1: who like had like a weird sexual fai?

508
00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:37,080
Speaker 4: Okay, so no, it's not that weird, but I didn't

509
00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:38,720
Speaker 4: like it. I had this guy that used to really

510
00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:40,920
Speaker 4: like me, like licking his nipples.

511
00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:44,600
Speaker 1: Oh, I like, I don't I find it so weird.

512
00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:47,200
Speaker 1: I like it. So I like the pincheon. Oh no,

513
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:50,360
Speaker 1: I just think it's like, what is happening here? Don't

514
00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 1: be milking them count It's just like he would be like, like,

515
00:25:57,440 --> 00:26:04,959
Speaker 1: I mean, if you insist. But I think a lot

516
00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:06,960
Speaker 1: of times we don't realize a lot of things.

517
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 2: We're all humans, right right, so the fact that we

518
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:13,640
Speaker 2: have nerves, they do too.

519
00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:17,680
Speaker 1: But that's why when I never kind of I want

520
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:18,119
Speaker 1: someone to.

521
00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 4: Be free with me, because that's when you're going to

522
00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 4: have the best sectional experience and be open with each other.

523
00:26:23,160 --> 00:26:26,119
Speaker 1: So in my head, I might be like, this is weird,

524
00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:26,720
Speaker 1: but I'll do.

525
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:29,480
Speaker 4: It like within if it doesn't make me feel uncomfortable,

526
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:31,879
Speaker 4: as in actually uncomfortable. You know some things you'll be

527
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:34,840
Speaker 4: like no, no, no, that's totally my not boundaries. No,

528
00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:38,520
Speaker 4: but little that little nipple licks and all those type

529
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 4: of things. To me, I'm a bit like, okay, but

530
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:42,560
Speaker 4: I will do it because I want you to feel

531
00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 4: like you can say.

532
00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:47,480
Speaker 1: You think it's how you do it too, Because like,

533
00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:52,160
Speaker 1: if he's going like this, that's a little bit because

534
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:57,960
Speaker 1: I don't want him just like I want it going on.

535
00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:01,159
Speaker 1: But if you're likely down, you're about to give it.

536
00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:04,560
Speaker 2: Okay, are you taking a little pitstop to the right,

537
00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:06,480
Speaker 2: a pit stop to the left?

538
00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 1: Different? He's smooth and on down. That's probably for me.

539
00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:14,640
Speaker 3: Like the thing that I would say a guy ever

540
00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 3: asked me to do to what I did? Have a

541
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:18,400
Speaker 3: dude asked me to pee on him?

542
00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:23,280
Speaker 1: Oh that's because you you be drinking a lot of tequila.

543
00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:28,040
Speaker 1: I drinking a lot of water peak clear. Okay, did

544
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:33,000
Speaker 1: you say nothing? Yeah? I couldn't do it. Okay, Okay,

545
00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 1: we got to the bed, go ahead, Well you had

546
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:43,320
Speaker 1: hit one man? What man? That that was weird? Hoody tang.

547
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 1: I have to tell you about tank. We got to

548
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:47,920
Speaker 1: the bed too early. We don't we already? Hear though?

549
00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:52,040
Speaker 1: This man Okay, I really liked him too. It was

550
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:55,040
Speaker 1: so upsetting. This was a few This was not a

551
00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:55,800
Speaker 1: few years ago.

552
00:27:56,800 --> 00:27:58,920
Speaker 2: This was before actually before my thirtieth birthday, so this

553
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:00,400
Speaker 2: is about five or sixty years ago.

554
00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 1: Really liked him.

555
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:06,160
Speaker 2: I mean he was a beautiful Nigerian man, tall, handsome,

556
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:10,200
Speaker 2: made money, like all everything checked off right. So we

557
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:12,639
Speaker 2: have been dating for you know, we had went on

558
00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:14,960
Speaker 2: a couple of days, took me on great days. Conversation

559
00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:15,679
Speaker 2: was fire.

560
00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 1: So at this time, like I was like, you know,

561
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:21,679
Speaker 1: I'm a cook for him. Drag came over.

562
00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:23,360
Speaker 2: I acted like I cooked it because she could cook

563
00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:26,399
Speaker 2: this real good crawfish, a two fair. We used to

564
00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:28,119
Speaker 2: do stuff like that all the time. So anyway, she

565
00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:30,679
Speaker 2: cooked the food. I made the sandmon made some veggies.

566
00:28:30,760 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 2: He came over. Mind you, this is a big meal. Afterwards,

567
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:37,960
Speaker 2: Drea had left. We drunk, we drinking, so we go

568
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:40,560
Speaker 2: to the bedroom. You know, it's time to get into me.

569
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:42,680
Speaker 1: You know, you know, I'm.

570
00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 2: Yes's time to get freaky. So we're messing around and

571
00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:50,800
Speaker 2: I turned over and he's like he eating my crumpet,

572
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:55,920
Speaker 2: and he says and the but it was so weird

573
00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:57,880
Speaker 2: because his voice was sexy with it.

574
00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:06,840
Speaker 1: He said, for them, my mouth said zz. I looked

575
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 1: back and I.

576
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:10,320
Speaker 2: Said he ain't say that. I said, that's tequila talking.

577
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 2: So I just kept tuning it up. He said, fork

578
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:17,480
Speaker 2: in my mouth. He said he got aggressive the second time,

579
00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 2: and I was like, oh my god. And I was like, no,

580
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 2: like I just had crawfish a two fade and potato

581
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:26,800
Speaker 2: and potato like it's like a crawfish a two face,

582
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:28,520
Speaker 2: like a stew kind of over rice.

583
00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:35,040
Speaker 1: Wait, yeah, go okay. And he kept asking, and honestly,

584
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 1: I didn't do it. I tried. I was like, you try,

585
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 1: she was. I was like, what not? Because I'm a

586
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 1: freaky frog. I'll try anything once. Why not that? But

587
00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 1: I was like, honestly, I got a big booty. I'm

588
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 1: gonna blow this motherfucker. Like, let me not so. But

589
00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 1: when I sobered up the next morning, I was so horrified.

590
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 1: I was drunk.

591
00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:57,680
Speaker 2: I was so horrified. I called Drea and I was like,

592
00:29:57,760 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 2: I can't believe this is what happened. And Dre's like,

593
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 2: oh my god, like what were we gonna?

594
00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:05,959
Speaker 1: What you did? You did?

595
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 2: You?

596
00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 1: Did you ever bring it up again? I did? She

597
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:12,680
Speaker 1: told him. I said, hey, you know, that made me

598
00:30:12,760 --> 00:30:14,720
Speaker 1: feel really uncomfortable. I don't like that.

599
00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:20,240
Speaker 2: But he was like, oh, I'm sorry, my bad, he

600
00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 2: asked again. He said, of my mouth, I said, I'm

601
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,520
Speaker 2: going on. That's when she stopped talking to him.

602
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 4: After the second time, I completely stopped talking because at

603
00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:31,000
Speaker 4: that point, what else do you like?

604
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:33,480
Speaker 1: Yes, because then the next sex might be like shipp

605
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 1: in my mouth. Yeah, that's what I'm saying, because you

606
00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:39,959
Speaker 1: like something else, something to come out there, because if

607
00:30:40,000 --> 00:30:44,520
Speaker 1: you shot it, he would probably been like, yeah, yeah,

608
00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:49,120
Speaker 1: it was horrifying. After she told him she didn't like it,

609
00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 1: and then he asked again.

610
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:54,760
Speaker 2: But I feel like you would have been cheating on

611
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:58,000
Speaker 2: me with like bussy you know what I'm saying, like

612
00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:01,760
Speaker 2: going around sniffing them, because I wouldn't do like, I

613
00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 2: don't trust you at this point, Like I.

614
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 1: Just it was Wow. I think I see a girl

615
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:15,920
Speaker 1: that foughts in jars and sells them. Oh yeah, insane. Yeah,

616
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 1: I don't know that conceals it and then ships it off.

617
00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 1: Actually I don't get into that that actually yeah, like

618
00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:30,360
Speaker 1: she literally like and then and they go and then

619
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 1: sends it off. They got to order like a sex.

620
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:35,920
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm telling.

621
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 4: You, every day I questioned my morals how much I

622
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 4: care about my morals honestly, because when I think people,

623
00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 4: even if it's just like a quick, quick rich scheme, Yeah,

624
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 4: after a while, people are probably gonna get bored of

625
00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:48,960
Speaker 4: the arts.

626
00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

627
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:54,280
Speaker 1: Imagine like you get a thousand orders.

628
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. And then if you got the

629
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:58,240
Speaker 2: Family Value pack where it's like eighteen.

630
00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:01,320
Speaker 1: And she probably switched it up, like he's probably like broccoli.

631
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that's what I'm saying. That's what And there's

632
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:11,680
Speaker 4: weird people. I'm so like, we've okay, you got everyone's

633
00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:14,440
Speaker 4: got nice feet hair? Have you have you, guys ever

634
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:17,520
Speaker 4: thought about doing foot modeling? I have thought about it

635
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:19,960
Speaker 4: because so many people whenever I put my if I

636
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:23,040
Speaker 4: have open toes. However, guys, oh my gods, eazy please

637
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 4: can I buy your feet pictures?

638
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 1: Yeah? And every day I wonder is that bad? Well,

639
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 1: I'll say this. I think a lot of people we

640
00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 1: talk about this a lot too. With sex work.

641
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:36,880
Speaker 2: It's sex work, right, So if you don't want to

642
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:38,920
Speaker 2: be called a sex worker or you feel some type

643
00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:40,400
Speaker 2: of way because a lot of girls be like, I'm

644
00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 2: not a sex worker.

645
00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:42,840
Speaker 1: I only sell feet picks. What do you think these

646
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 1: men are doing?

647
00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:46,240
Speaker 4: This is what's when I was when I was like,

648
00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:48,360
Speaker 4: I was never really weighing up, but when I was thinking,

649
00:32:48,520 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 4: is this actually? And it is because you know that

650
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 4: the men are buying these things to do whatever, right,

651
00:32:56,320 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 4: do you know what I mean?

652
00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:58,400
Speaker 1: It's a kink, like do you know what I mean?

653
00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:00,959
Speaker 1: So you are in that category, you know what I mean?

654
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 2: So yeah, I mean so when when you start selling

655
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 2: any type of pictures, you have to be ready for

656
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:10,280
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Speaker 3: I really wanted to talk about not being able to

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Speaker 3: take compliments because I feel like that's like a real thing.

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Speaker 3: Like I feel like, you know, if somebody walks up

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Speaker 3: to you and they're like, oh, it's easy, you're so pretty,

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Speaker 3: do you feel like you obligated to be like, oh

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Speaker 3: you Q two or like even you stylish? You're very stylish.

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Speaker 3: I'm sure girls walk up to you all the time

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Speaker 3: and they like, oh, you'll off feed is cute. Do

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Speaker 3: you ever be lying bag no one name put.

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Speaker 1: Oh, sometimes you know what I hear what you mean,

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Speaker 1: because sometimes you want to.

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Speaker 4: Say something nice back because it's nice to get the compliment,

722
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Speaker 4: do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Especially nowadays, people don't me you. Yeah, they don't tell

724
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Speaker 1: you that you look.

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Speaker 4: Nice, especially sometimes women not I don't know what it is.

726
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:24,799
Speaker 4: It's like, you know, we maybe think that the other

727
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Speaker 4: woman's not going to be receptive of it, so then

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Speaker 4: we're a bit offish. But yeah, sometimes i'd be like, oh,

729
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Speaker 4: you look nice too, or sometimes I don't want them

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Speaker 4: to think that I've just said it that they look

731
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Speaker 4: nice because they've told me not like, so I'll just

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Speaker 4: be like thank you, yeah, if that makes sense, because

733
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Speaker 4: I don't't think I'm not being genuine. But then equally,

734
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Speaker 4: if they do actually look really nice.

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Speaker 1: And I'll be like, oh my god, so do you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll be like, oh my gosh, I was looking

737
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Speaker 4: at your dress as well, thinking they're.

738
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Speaker 1: I think for me too, like I'm not gonna lie.

739
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Speaker 2: I used to not accept compliments at all just because

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I didn't have a lot of confidence in

741
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Speaker 2: myself right, So people will be.

742
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Speaker 1: Like you look so pretty. I'll be like I I like,

743
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Speaker 1: it was just I would feel so uncomfortable.

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Speaker 2: Like, for example, d be like, oh, like she look

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Speaker 2: pretty day I'd be like, oh my god, okay, please

746
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Speaker 2: stop looking at me, like stop looking at me. But

747
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:14,719
Speaker 2: you know what's crazy? That helped me with that being

748
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:18,360
Speaker 2: drunk in the club and the girl's bathroom. Oh my gosh,

749
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Speaker 2: that is the sacred place. Signs how sacred that places it.

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Speaker 1: It is a different world.

751
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Speaker 2: Yeah, everybody, everybody telling you, going in that bathroom changed

752
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Speaker 2: my life. Like literally, I was in the club one time,

753
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Speaker 2: I was at work. This is when I worked at

754
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Speaker 2: the club. I will never forget this girl for the

755
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Speaker 2: rest of my life. I'm bad with names faces. I

756
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:43,399
Speaker 2: don't remember her name, but if I saw her, I'll

757
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Speaker 2: be like, you changed my life. Yeah, we went to

758
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Speaker 2: the bathroom, but she was so drunk. She was balling, crying,

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Speaker 2: ball and crying.

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Speaker 1: Well, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: People used to scare me in the bathroom and it

762
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 2: was it was about a man. She was just like,

763
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Speaker 2: she was like, you're just so beautiful if I looked

764
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Speaker 2: like you, I know, my man. And she was just

765
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Speaker 2: like saying, like how beautiful I was, and she looked

766
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Speaker 2: like me she feelt like her man would act right,

767
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Speaker 2: and I was like, girl, I was trying to help

768
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Speaker 2: up and yes, and it was like we had a

769
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Speaker 2: conversation for like five ten minutes and like by the

770
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Speaker 2: end of it, she was just laughing, having a good time.

771
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Speaker 1: And I looked after she left, I looked at them

772
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Speaker 1: and like, maybe I do it.

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Speaker 2: Actually, because through those tears you've seen a bad baby,

774
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Speaker 2: Like you know what I mean, Like I.

775
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Speaker 1: Brought happiness like this everything just brought you happiness. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, I can take a

777
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Speaker 1: compliment and see now. And Drayan too.

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Speaker 2: Drea is the funniest person, low key. Though somebody would

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Speaker 2: walk by Dre and be like, oh my god, you're

780
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Speaker 2: so pretty. She'll be like thank you, and this She'll

781
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Speaker 2: look at me and be like I know.

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Speaker 1: Every time.

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Speaker 2: She'd be like, you know what, thing when when you

784
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Speaker 2: see it and you see them material, I love that. Yeah,

785
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Speaker 2: I feel like this is one thing I've always did.

786
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Speaker 2: And I feel like my mom kind of raised me

787
00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 2: like this too, Like if you don't feel yourself, you

788
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:18,319
Speaker 2: gotta hype.

789
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:22,279
Speaker 3: You gotta be your biggest man, and not in like

790
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Speaker 3: a Khaki way like I think some people are very

791
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Speaker 3: insulferable with their confident.

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Speaker 1: I was, yeah, a lot, I think, but you know what,

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Speaker 1: I think that we have we need to learn a balance.

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Speaker 4: Everyone loves themselves so much, and it's great to love yourself,

795
00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:47,799
Speaker 4: but I think sometimes the concept of self love has

796
00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:52,399
Speaker 4: got so big that it's almost people have become so anal.

797
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Speaker 1: About like you can't tell them nothing, you can't say.

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Speaker 4: It's like, well, you know, I saw this funny video

799
00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:01,400
Speaker 4: on the thing because we're going back to sex now,

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Speaker 4: but somehow I always get back here, back to the

801
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Speaker 4: but it was it was something to what I was

802
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Speaker 4: saying about you can't tell anyone.

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Speaker 1: It was.

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00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:11,799
Speaker 4: So there was this video and socials and this girl

805
00:40:11,920 --> 00:40:13,920
Speaker 4: was like POV when you leave a man's house, and

806
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:16,920
Speaker 4: she was like saging the whole house, like saving the

807
00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:19,800
Speaker 4: ship out of it, like literally the pillows, everything. So

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00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:22,319
Speaker 4: I just and everyone in the comments was like, yes,

809
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:25,840
Speaker 4: sis getting rid of that melt energy, and I just

810
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Speaker 4: couldn't help myself. I just went in the comments and

811
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 4: I was like, saging your apartment, but he's literally been

812
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Speaker 4: inside you.

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Speaker 1: This doesn't make no sense, Yeah I don't. And then

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Speaker 1: there was like loads of.

815
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Speaker 4: Literally especially if you believe in spirit, like the fact

816
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Speaker 4: that you're saving that means you believe in spirits and energy.

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Speaker 1: Hello, sis the guy, any bad energy that you're trying

818
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Speaker 1: to get rid of you And a lot of times

819
00:40:52,320 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 1: y'all be saging and y'all being a bad energy. Right,

820
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Speaker 1: that's what I mean.

821
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Speaker 4: But that's what I mean, the whole delusion of like,

822
00:40:59,320 --> 00:41:02,440
Speaker 4: you know, I and then I said something and this

823
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:04,719
Speaker 4: girl was like, oh, you're just being so horrible, And

824
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:06,960
Speaker 4: I was like, how am I being. I'm just saying

825
00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 4: to point out you got nothing to say, and this

826
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 4: she loves herself, that's how she's I'm like, no, we've

827
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Speaker 4: done too much.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, love it is delusion now, yeah, it's on delusion.

829
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Speaker 2: And I also believe to like I said, I believe

830
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Speaker 2: in like confidence and stuff. But I also like to

831
00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 2: let people talk for me, Like I don't feel the

832
00:41:26,200 --> 00:41:27,920
Speaker 2: need to be online all they and be like, oh

833
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:30,440
Speaker 2: my god, I'm so beautiful, Oh my god, I'm so funny,

834
00:41:30,440 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 2: I'm so amazing, I'm this person. I like for people

835
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Speaker 2: to have a testimony of their experience when they've been

836
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 2: with me or they've been around me. Right, So I

837
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:39,840
Speaker 2: feel like a lot of this stuff too is like

838
00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 2: are you trying to convince yourself or convince us?

839
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Speaker 1: Question?

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Speaker 4: Though, do you feel like you can say that they

841
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:53,359
Speaker 4: that you're beautiful? As in it means like you can

842
00:41:53,480 --> 00:41:57,200
Speaker 4: because you believe it. But I feel like I would

843
00:41:57,239 --> 00:41:59,920
Speaker 4: say you're very pretty? Both you very pretty?

844
00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:00,680
Speaker 1: Thank you?

845
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:04,280
Speaker 4: And do you feel like when you look a certain

846
00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:07,000
Speaker 4: type of way you can say that? Because then or

847
00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:08,880
Speaker 4: people will feel like you're being big headed?

848
00:42:10,200 --> 00:42:12,919
Speaker 1: Do you get what I mean? Not some people when

849
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:15,719
Speaker 1: you get yeah, some people.

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00:42:15,719 --> 00:42:17,920
Speaker 4: I will see some people say they're really and the

851
00:42:17,960 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 4: girls will be like yeah, and then another person.

852
00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:22,760
Speaker 1: Who maybe they think the world adores you, are ready

853
00:42:23,800 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 1: they have to humble you. Yeah, you get what I'm saying.

854
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:30,200
Speaker 2: Yeah. There's this thing too that I don't know if

855
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:31,840
Speaker 2: they do that here but in America, Like if you

856
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:35,719
Speaker 2: post a fire picture, a beautiful girl post and they'll

857
00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 2: be like, oh, that's a nice plant.

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Speaker 1: In the background.

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00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:40,719
Speaker 2: Oh okay, I hate that just to be like oh like, oh,

860
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:42,800
Speaker 2: we're not looking at you, We're not looking at you,

861
00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:43,879
Speaker 2: We're looking at something else.

862
00:42:43,880 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 1: And I just think it's it's very very weird. They're

863
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:49,000
Speaker 1: really like, don't get me wrong, Like of course the

864
00:42:49,080 --> 00:42:50,719
Speaker 1: world loves beautiful women. We know that.

865
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:55,360
Speaker 2: But I spoke about this before. I'm like, all the

866
00:42:55,680 --> 00:43:00,480
Speaker 2: body positivity and being positive towards women, it should be

867
00:43:00,600 --> 00:43:03,400
Speaker 2: for everyone, but like, for some reason, it stops at

868
00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:04,799
Speaker 2: people who have.

869
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:12,760
Speaker 1: Or like because yeah, if you if they think everyone

870
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Speaker 1: tells you that you're beautiful, you know, let me be

871
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Speaker 1: that one that you hate.

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00:43:18,080 --> 00:43:24,640
Speaker 4: A boyfriend, Yeah, he knows everyone thinks you're nice, and

873
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:25,920
Speaker 4: he never tells you that you're.

874
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:31,880
Speaker 2: Jaman Shaumper tweeted that the other day about Tayanna Taylor.

875
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:34,399
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, yeah, he was like, you look good,

876
00:43:34,440 --> 00:43:36,960
Speaker 2: but I'm not gonna tell you that. That's so it

877
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:40,360
Speaker 2: is weird, Jo, You're not that's so weird.

878
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:41,080
Speaker 1: It is weird.

879
00:43:41,200 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 3: And I do think society has like a thing for

880
00:43:45,320 --> 00:43:48,640
Speaker 3: sure when it comes to like overly attractive women, overly

881
00:43:48,719 --> 00:43:51,439
Speaker 3: attractive men. Oh, if you get this all the time,

882
00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:54,239
Speaker 3: let me be that one person that's gonna go and the.

883
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:56,200
Speaker 1: Grain and be like, oh no, I mean you.

884
00:43:58,120 --> 00:43:58,319
Speaker 6: Yah.

885
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 3: And I think it's strange because I feel like a

886
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:03,000
Speaker 3: lot of the time, but I think people have this

887
00:44:03,200 --> 00:44:07,879
Speaker 3: perception where where they automatically assume that really attractive people

888
00:44:07,920 --> 00:44:12,320
Speaker 3: are automatically really cocky. Well, my own personal experience with

889
00:44:12,440 --> 00:44:14,640
Speaker 3: like a lot of people that I've met over the years,

890
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 3: A lot of the time, like really really pretty people

891
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:21,200
Speaker 3: and really attractive guys are like humble to a certain thing.

892
00:44:21,640 --> 00:44:23,680
Speaker 1: I really think, But I don't know that's what I'm saying.

893
00:44:23,680 --> 00:44:26,080
Speaker 4: I don't know if that's because people have humbled them

894
00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:29,359
Speaker 4: so much that they feel that they have to quiet dumb.

895
00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:32,080
Speaker 4: I mean so like kind of when you do tell

896
00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:34,359
Speaker 4: them that they're nice, they do this whole like, oh,

897
00:44:35,080 --> 00:44:36,799
Speaker 4: like they do genuinely don't want to.

898
00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:40,000
Speaker 2: Seem technology yeah, because they don't want to come across

899
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 2: it like yeah, I know already that when you look

900
00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:44,680
Speaker 2: away and say yeah, I know, yeah yeah, but not

901
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:47,320
Speaker 2: because as then you do it quietly.

902
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:47,840
Speaker 1: I do.

903
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:51,880
Speaker 3: I'm going to do that well, because I and I

904
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:54,960
Speaker 3: have this thing where it's like I love people who

905
00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:57,759
Speaker 3: pop they ship Like I have never been a person

906
00:44:57,840 --> 00:45:01,320
Speaker 3: who I don't get offended by people like being like

907
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:04,439
Speaker 3: oh I'm a bitch, Oh I'm their nigga, I'm fine

908
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 3: this fuck whatever, Like that doesn't really annoy me, Like

909
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:07,400
Speaker 3: it's cool with me.

910
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:10,000
Speaker 1: The people who annoy me, though, are the people.

911
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:14,319
Speaker 3: Who do it all the time, blatantly line in real life,

912
00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:16,799
Speaker 3: all they do is talk about themselves, and all they

913
00:45:16,840 --> 00:45:18,560
Speaker 3: do is talk about how great they look.

914
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:21,680
Speaker 1: Like that's kind of annoying because it is kind of like,

915
00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:24,240
Speaker 1: do you believe there's a facade?

916
00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:29,720
Speaker 4: Annoys you because you know because also as a confident person,

917
00:45:29,920 --> 00:45:31,000
Speaker 4: you know that you don't have to.

918
00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:34,439
Speaker 1: Say something out loud all the time.

919
00:45:34,480 --> 00:45:36,400
Speaker 4: So when you find someone that's doing it, you're like,

920
00:45:37,120 --> 00:45:40,360
Speaker 4: this is a facade. This you're not we It's like

921
00:45:40,440 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 4: you're convincing yourself. You're trying to convince us just fine,

922
00:45:44,520 --> 00:45:47,120
Speaker 4: but then just be vulnerable about it. Do you know

923
00:45:47,160 --> 00:45:50,759
Speaker 4: what I mean about? And those people always translate best

924
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:52,840
Speaker 4: you know, are vulnerable and say do.

925
00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 6: You know what?

926
00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:56,200
Speaker 1: Yeah? You know? Do you get what I mean? And

927
00:45:56,280 --> 00:45:59,000
Speaker 1: I feel like when you're really confident, it actually speaks

928
00:45:59,080 --> 00:45:59,680
Speaker 1: for itself.

929
00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:03,200
Speaker 2: It seeks through your people can feel it.

930
00:46:03,480 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't have to say it. And then I

931
00:46:05,600 --> 00:46:07,960
Speaker 3: think the people that do that all the time, to me,

932
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 3: it also gives off like almost like you want to

933
00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:15,280
Speaker 3: make other people in the room or around you feel

934
00:46:15,360 --> 00:46:16,400
Speaker 3: bad about theirselves.

935
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:22,680
Speaker 2: I don't know, it's and then you're gonna come across

936
00:46:22,719 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 2: somebody like me because I'm an open hater. I always

937
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:28,640
Speaker 2: say I'm a license hater. I have my license, so

938
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:31,080
Speaker 2: y'all don't be hating out there like me. I'm licensed

939
00:46:31,120 --> 00:46:34,440
Speaker 2: for this. Okay, you don't come across me and I'm

940
00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:35,279
Speaker 2: a clock your team.

941
00:46:35,719 --> 00:46:39,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, are you what do you do? What is it?

942
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:43,120
Speaker 2: Like, I'm I'm dropping you in the group chat. I'm

943
00:46:43,120 --> 00:46:44,440
Speaker 2: talking about you on close friends.

944
00:46:44,920 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 1: See, I just let people cook.

945
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:48,640
Speaker 4: I just be like, whatever, I don't let people cook

946
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:52,799
Speaker 4: a little. I would be like, I might just put

947
00:46:52,840 --> 00:46:53,799
Speaker 4: it in the group chat.

948
00:46:54,239 --> 00:46:56,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, like you know what I mean. Someone sent me

949
00:46:56,840 --> 00:47:00,160
Speaker 1: a day this morning or something, and then it was

950
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:02,120
Speaker 1: so funny. She said like, who is this? And I

951
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:04,400
Speaker 1: said something cheek you back and she's like.

952
00:47:04,400 --> 00:47:06,520
Speaker 4: I just love you so and I was just like,

953
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:09,040
Speaker 4: because you know, sometimes you just have to call it

954
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:12,000
Speaker 4: how it is to your close circle or whatever.

955
00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:13,879
Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying. I feel like we've all

956
00:47:14,280 --> 00:47:15,920
Speaker 1: lost the art of secret hating.

957
00:47:16,160 --> 00:47:19,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm I gotta be open when it so people

958
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 2: can at least doing it behind clothes nobody know.

959
00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 4: But what I mean is like you kind of still

960
00:47:24,600 --> 00:47:27,920
Speaker 4: are a secret hater because secret hater is still like

961
00:47:28,320 --> 00:47:31,239
Speaker 4: you do it to people that you know chat You'll

962
00:47:31,280 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 4: be like you won't be mean and go in the

963
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:36,360
Speaker 4: comments and be like, girl, why did you?

964
00:47:37,040 --> 00:47:40,560
Speaker 1: This is disgusting And I think socials is so weird. Now. Yeah,

965
00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 1: you see something where we're a bit like why did

966
00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:43,600
Speaker 1: she wear that?

967
00:47:44,560 --> 00:47:48,719
Speaker 4: But you like say yeah, people will literally be in

968
00:47:48,800 --> 00:47:51,480
Speaker 4: the comments being like, well I wouldn't have done that,

969
00:47:51,600 --> 00:47:52,320
Speaker 4: I wouldn't wear this.

970
00:47:52,520 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 1: I would and it's like, whoa, everyone just chill out.

971
00:47:55,640 --> 00:48:01,120
Speaker 1: You don't have to say everything you think right the

972
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:05,160
Speaker 1: group chain, thank you. Now, you can't hate.

973
00:48:05,200 --> 00:48:07,640
Speaker 2: That's why I said I'm licensed. You can't hate publicly

974
00:48:07,719 --> 00:48:10,480
Speaker 2: all the time. It gets a little weird, okay.

975
00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:11,279
Speaker 1: But I do.

976
00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:13,200
Speaker 2: I do agree with that because I think there's a

977
00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:17,880
Speaker 2: a fin line between like being funny and having funny

978
00:48:17,880 --> 00:48:20,880
Speaker 2: banner with your friends versus your being a bully and

979
00:48:20,960 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 2: you're being nasty. Because at the end of the day,

980
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:26,480
Speaker 2: no matter how cocky, delusional conceited somebody is, this is

981
00:48:26,520 --> 00:48:29,760
Speaker 2: still a human and I think for some reason, especially

982
00:48:29,840 --> 00:48:33,600
Speaker 2: with us being active on social media and being like personalities,

983
00:48:33,880 --> 00:48:37,319
Speaker 2: people forget that we're human so they leave comments about us.

984
00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:39,279
Speaker 2: I'm like, why the hell would you say that to me?

985
00:48:40,080 --> 00:48:42,000
Speaker 2: You don't even know, Like I'm in bed and my

986
00:48:42,160 --> 00:48:45,239
Speaker 2: bond and own, like I'm chilling just like you. And

987
00:48:45,360 --> 00:48:47,839
Speaker 2: I bet if somebody put a camera on you right

988
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:51,920
Speaker 2: now or any time of the day, like you wouldn't

989
00:48:52,040 --> 00:48:54,160
Speaker 2: like that if I tell because if I posted you

990
00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:56,200
Speaker 2: on my story because I had a girl one time,

991
00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:59,440
Speaker 2: I had posted a picture and she had reposted, you know,

992
00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:02,680
Speaker 2: on Instagram, when anybody repost your story, you can see it.

993
00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 2: They don't have to tag you, and she had reposed.

994
00:49:05,120 --> 00:49:06,920
Speaker 2: She was like, I can't believe these are the body

995
00:49:06,960 --> 00:49:10,600
Speaker 2: types that y'all like. I said, now, I said her dam,

996
00:49:10,680 --> 00:49:14,319
Speaker 2: I said, now, if I posted Joe body, it's gonna

997
00:49:14,320 --> 00:49:17,680
Speaker 2: be a problem. You're gonna have bullying the bully literally,

998
00:49:17,719 --> 00:49:20,919
Speaker 2: because she didn't know I got my license though, because

999
00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:23,799
Speaker 2: I would have told her up. You know, I'm licensed though,

1000
00:49:23,840 --> 00:49:25,480
Speaker 2: so I was like, I'm gonna let her make it today.

1001
00:49:25,840 --> 00:49:28,000
Speaker 2: But I was like, take this down. This is very

1002
00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:31,120
Speaker 2: weird because if I posted your body and then the

1003
00:49:31,200 --> 00:49:32,359
Speaker 2: girls don't play about us.

1004
00:49:32,719 --> 00:49:36,600
Speaker 3: And I was gonna say too, speaking of licenses, do

1005
00:49:36,800 --> 00:49:39,800
Speaker 3: you I feel like when you're in the public eye,

1006
00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:45,160
Speaker 3: people think that give them a license to bullies, because

1007
00:49:45,160 --> 00:49:46,840
Speaker 3: then if you respond back and I'm like, well, you

1008
00:49:47,040 --> 00:49:50,120
Speaker 3: asked for this, you want to be popular, you want

1009
00:49:50,160 --> 00:49:52,560
Speaker 3: it to be the public figures all.

1010
00:49:52,560 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 1: Recently what people have been doing.

1011
00:49:54,400 --> 00:49:58,160
Speaker 4: It's which I find is so weird that we they'll say, uh,

1012
00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:00,880
Speaker 4: some girls said telling to me once and I responded to.

1013
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:03,880
Speaker 1: Her and she was like not you just responded to anyone.

1014
00:50:04,120 --> 00:50:08,080
Speaker 4: And I was like, wait a minute, so anyone that

1015
00:50:08,560 --> 00:50:12,479
Speaker 4: And I was like, so you're you're lower than me? Yeah,

1016
00:50:12,840 --> 00:50:13,960
Speaker 4: but they can't believe it.

1017
00:50:14,160 --> 00:50:16,239
Speaker 1: That is like, so wait a minute, you're lower than me,

1018
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:18,960
Speaker 1: and I shouldn't be responding to you. Are you a

1019
00:50:19,080 --> 00:50:19,640
Speaker 1: human being?

1020
00:50:20,040 --> 00:50:22,960
Speaker 4: Because now if I said to you you're not, you're

1021
00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:25,279
Speaker 4: I'm better than you, You're going to tell me you're

1022
00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:25,840
Speaker 4: not better than me.

1023
00:50:26,520 --> 00:50:30,840
Speaker 1: So it's like how how Yeah, that's how? Yeah, you respond.

1024
00:50:30,920 --> 00:50:36,239
Speaker 1: They make you feel mad, right, like you're supposed to

1025
00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:39,600
Speaker 1: be above the comments like no, bitch, I'm not, and

1026
00:50:39,760 --> 00:50:43,240
Speaker 1: I'm screenshot it. And I've said so many I've actually

1027
00:50:43,280 --> 00:50:46,560
Speaker 1: typed this about five times and a little bit. The

1028
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:52,160
Speaker 1: first one was like this suck your mama, and then

1029
00:50:52,200 --> 00:50:58,040
Speaker 1: I'm like no, like this happened to me yesterday.

1030
00:50:58,080 --> 00:51:01,200
Speaker 2: We posted a clip and a guy was like, she's

1031
00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:05,400
Speaker 2: going to be single forever, and I said, I'm not single.

1032
00:51:05,760 --> 00:51:07,719
Speaker 1: You know what his response was, he said, oh ship.

1033
00:51:07,719 --> 00:51:11,600
Speaker 1: I didn't think he was gonna respond. I mean, and

1034
00:51:11,680 --> 00:51:13,680
Speaker 1: then it makes me that I'm like, you got your

1035
00:51:13,760 --> 00:51:16,800
Speaker 1: license for real because you tricked me. You made me respond.

1036
00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:19,880
Speaker 1: That's what mean. So when they oh you, oh, I

1037
00:51:19,920 --> 00:51:22,040
Speaker 1: didn't even I was joking. Just what they're supposed to.

1038
00:51:24,000 --> 00:51:28,480
Speaker 2: You were responding to, don't be the professional somebody else

1039
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:29,440
Speaker 2: who got their license.

1040
00:51:29,480 --> 00:51:32,359
Speaker 1: Now I'll be knowing. I'll be knowing every time they

1041
00:51:32,440 --> 00:51:35,400
Speaker 1: tricked me. But one of my friends actually knew someone

1042
00:51:35,520 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 1: that had like a burner account. I hold love Burner right,

1043
00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:46,719
Speaker 1: so she had man, it's okay, Finn, okay. People be

1044
00:51:46,880 --> 00:51:51,760
Speaker 1: accepting him all the time, and sometimes they might slide.

1045
00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:55,799
Speaker 1: I'll be like, what's up you ending up on cat fish?

1046
00:51:57,040 --> 00:51:57,960
Speaker 1: You know me.

1047
00:51:59,600 --> 00:51:59,759
Speaker 3: To it.

1048
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:01,759
Speaker 1: I don't even know how we got it. I was

1049
00:52:01,880 --> 00:52:07,960
Speaker 1: just my man was weird. That's all I was trying

1050
00:52:08,000 --> 00:52:08,160
Speaker 1: to do.

1051
00:52:08,760 --> 00:52:10,800
Speaker 4: But she said she knew this girl at her workplace

1052
00:52:10,840 --> 00:52:13,279
Speaker 4: that had a fake account and she used to be

1053
00:52:13,360 --> 00:52:16,239
Speaker 4: really horrible to people, you know, like just comment on

1054
00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:19,520
Speaker 4: famous people's stuff and be like we were saying almost bullying,

1055
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:22,520
Speaker 4: say horrible things. And my friend was like to her,

1056
00:52:22,600 --> 00:52:26,200
Speaker 4: why do you do it? And she was like, there's

1057
00:52:26,320 --> 00:52:29,880
Speaker 4: there was like a disconnect between them and her. She

1058
00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:32,719
Speaker 4: doesn't see them as real people. She just sees them

1059
00:52:32,840 --> 00:52:37,319
Speaker 4: as this figment. They've they've got their life, their superstars.

1060
00:52:37,360 --> 00:52:40,520
Speaker 4: They're so far removed from her that number one, they're

1061
00:52:40,560 --> 00:52:42,319
Speaker 4: probably never going to see it. She believed that they're

1062
00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:44,120
Speaker 4: never going to see it, like they're not, you know,

1063
00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:47,799
Speaker 4: and number two, well who cares type of thing.

1064
00:52:48,040 --> 00:52:51,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, And then yeah, it's that's how they actually see it.

1065
00:52:51,719 --> 00:52:54,239
Speaker 1: And that's why I realized that I had watched the documentary.

1066
00:52:54,280 --> 00:52:55,000
Speaker 1: It was on HBO.

1067
00:52:55,040 --> 00:52:56,560
Speaker 2: I can't remember what it was, but it was talking

1068
00:52:56,560 --> 00:52:59,719
Speaker 2: about like sensational viral moments that had happened to people

1069
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:03,400
Speaker 2: that they didn't ask for it, and one of the

1070
00:53:03,719 --> 00:53:06,840
Speaker 2: they had like done research and because on my burner account,

1071
00:53:06,960 --> 00:53:09,000
Speaker 2: let me just I don't leave comments now, I just

1072
00:53:09,080 --> 00:53:09,560
Speaker 2: be peeping this.

1073
00:53:10,840 --> 00:53:13,520
Speaker 1: I'll just be the scene. I know what everybody doing.

1074
00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:15,279
Speaker 1: I know what everybody doing.

1075
00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:18,719
Speaker 2: But I will say, like, but he one of the

1076
00:53:19,320 --> 00:53:22,480
Speaker 2: the people that were doing research. He was like, when

1077
00:53:22,520 --> 00:53:25,120
Speaker 2: I asked, people with these burner accounts are people that

1078
00:53:25,160 --> 00:53:27,520
Speaker 2: were bullying? They have found a few people they And

1079
00:53:27,600 --> 00:53:29,399
Speaker 2: it's crazy that you said that, because they all said

1080
00:53:29,440 --> 00:53:32,400
Speaker 2: the same thing. We don't look at them as people anymore.

1081
00:53:32,480 --> 00:53:35,239
Speaker 2: They look at us like entertainers. So you think about

1082
00:53:35,280 --> 00:53:37,880
Speaker 2: like a toy that you play with. So when they

1083
00:53:38,160 --> 00:53:39,640
Speaker 2: open their phones.

1084
00:53:39,600 --> 00:53:40,600
Speaker 1: We are their toys.

1085
00:53:41,040 --> 00:53:43,800
Speaker 2: They watch us and they close their phone out and

1086
00:53:44,320 --> 00:53:46,439
Speaker 2: they don't see us anymore until they're ready to play again.

1087
00:53:46,960 --> 00:53:50,040
Speaker 2: We're not humans to them. So that's why you know

1088
00:53:50,200 --> 00:53:53,399
Speaker 2: they leave the comments. And it's like I'm better now.

1089
00:53:53,640 --> 00:53:55,400
Speaker 2: I don't less up get to me now, you know

1090
00:53:55,400 --> 00:53:57,359
Speaker 2: what I'm saying, because I feel like we have come

1091
00:53:57,480 --> 00:53:59,759
Speaker 2: so far, all of us have, and I feel like

1092
00:54:00,560 --> 00:54:03,719
Speaker 2: I've definitely had to draw the line between these people

1093
00:54:03,760 --> 00:54:05,919
Speaker 2: don't know me and the people in my real life.

1094
00:54:05,960 --> 00:54:09,000
Speaker 1: Like I know, if I'm ever tripping, slipping, doing anything wrong,

1095
00:54:09,640 --> 00:54:13,000
Speaker 1: I have her right here to be like knock that,

1096
00:54:14,120 --> 00:54:17,399
Speaker 1: take it down like you doing so much all the time.

1097
00:54:18,000 --> 00:54:19,759
Speaker 2: And I think that's why it's important to have people

1098
00:54:19,840 --> 00:54:23,040
Speaker 2: in your corner that are like yes men and you know, saying, oh,

1099
00:54:23,120 --> 00:54:24,919
Speaker 2: this is okay, this about dress.

1100
00:54:24,920 --> 00:54:27,840
Speaker 1: You're gonna tell me the minute like lex calm that.

1101
00:54:29,400 --> 00:54:29,799
Speaker 2: You need.

1102
00:54:30,200 --> 00:54:33,520
Speaker 1: Actually, especially when I get a little drunk.

1103
00:54:34,200 --> 00:54:36,080
Speaker 2: We had a moment that hurts and I was cutting

1104
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:39,840
Speaker 2: up so bad on this bus I would We had

1105
00:54:39,880 --> 00:54:42,879
Speaker 2: a little bush, not a bus, it was a came

1106
00:54:43,239 --> 00:54:46,160
Speaker 2: and I got so drunk and like I had gotten

1107
00:54:46,280 --> 00:54:50,080
Speaker 2: mad at somebody at the restaurant. We rad and I

1108
00:54:50,200 --> 00:54:52,040
Speaker 2: got on the and I was popping my ship. I

1109
00:54:52,120 --> 00:54:55,200
Speaker 2: was like, man, fuck, you don't know who the fuck

1110
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:58,759
Speaker 2: I am. Oh I was going off dread was like, hey,

1111
00:54:59,400 --> 00:55:05,680
Speaker 2: take it out. A lot of people don't have people

1112
00:55:05,760 --> 00:55:06,359
Speaker 2: around them.

1113
00:55:08,239 --> 00:55:11,719
Speaker 4: Because either they're on payroll so they can't anywhere and

1114
00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:16,239
Speaker 4: then or everyone again going back to this whole self love,

1115
00:55:16,320 --> 00:55:18,800
Speaker 4: things like this is how I am, except me for

1116
00:55:18,920 --> 00:55:21,839
Speaker 4: how I am and now and it's like, no, you can't.

1117
00:55:22,120 --> 00:55:25,440
Speaker 1: And that was another thing that I did learn when

1118
00:55:25,480 --> 00:55:26,279
Speaker 1: I was in Big Brother.

1119
00:55:26,800 --> 00:55:30,680
Speaker 4: It was like, yeah, you might be that person that

1120
00:55:30,840 --> 00:55:34,040
Speaker 4: still wants to retaliate, but it's about are you going

1121
00:55:34,120 --> 00:55:34,799
Speaker 4: to retaliate?

1122
00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:38,040
Speaker 1: Are you going to like say you can still?

1123
00:55:38,280 --> 00:55:41,200
Speaker 4: I think people think it's always like a process, you

1124
00:55:41,320 --> 00:55:43,800
Speaker 4: know what I mean, It's a learning process. It's like, okay,

1125
00:55:43,920 --> 00:55:47,200
Speaker 4: before I popped off at that thing I didn't like.

1126
00:55:47,320 --> 00:55:49,880
Speaker 4: And again with usked we get to sometimes see the

1127
00:55:49,960 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 4: beauty of our behavior on camera, so you can be like, oh,

1128
00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:56,200
Speaker 4: I didn't like how I sounded when I said that.

1129
00:55:56,520 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 4: Next time I say that, I'm going to say it

1130
00:55:58,200 --> 00:56:03,640
Speaker 4: like this. So you have to know when to be

1131
00:56:03,800 --> 00:56:05,839
Speaker 4: a certain thing and when not to you, and that's

1132
00:56:06,280 --> 00:56:10,120
Speaker 4: being an adult. I think nowadays everyone thinks how I

1133
00:56:10,239 --> 00:56:13,640
Speaker 4: am when I'm on a hundred, that's me all the time.

1134
00:56:13,920 --> 00:56:18,120
Speaker 4: And if you can't take it, then you you're like.

1135
00:56:19,600 --> 00:56:22,160
Speaker 1: And see, no, I don't, I hate it. That's how

1136
00:56:22,280 --> 00:56:27,120
Speaker 1: I am. That's how you are. You have a choice.

1137
00:56:27,920 --> 00:56:30,200
Speaker 3: You could change that if you really wanted to, Like,

1138
00:56:30,280 --> 00:56:32,160
Speaker 3: if it was something that you wanted to work on

1139
00:56:32,840 --> 00:56:35,440
Speaker 3: and you wanted to become different, you could change that,

1140
00:56:35,640 --> 00:56:37,120
Speaker 3: or you could just take Because I feel like my

1141
00:56:37,239 --> 00:56:40,880
Speaker 3: attitude used to be really bad when I was younger, Like,

1142
00:56:41,080 --> 00:56:43,000
Speaker 3: but I mean when I stay younger, I mean like

1143
00:56:43,080 --> 00:56:45,520
Speaker 3: a teenager and stuff like before I even met you.

1144
00:56:46,320 --> 00:56:50,359
Speaker 1: But because when I met you, But I don't feel

1145
00:56:50,360 --> 00:56:50,799
Speaker 1: like I had.

1146
00:56:50,680 --> 00:56:52,880
Speaker 3: A bad attitude with I feel like I've never had

1147
00:56:52,920 --> 00:56:55,120
Speaker 3: a bad attitude with people that I care about, Like

1148
00:56:55,200 --> 00:56:58,600
Speaker 3: when it comes to like my friends, family, I don't

1149
00:56:59,360 --> 00:57:00,640
Speaker 3: I feel like if.

1150
00:57:00,600 --> 00:57:02,480
Speaker 1: I don't know you, you're really gonna get like the

1151
00:57:02,640 --> 00:57:06,279
Speaker 1: till either bit all. But I don't know. It's something

1152
00:57:06,360 --> 00:57:08,200
Speaker 1: that I've worked on, Like I want the therapy.

1153
00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:09,960
Speaker 3: I've need a lot of self work, a lot of

1154
00:57:10,040 --> 00:57:12,400
Speaker 3: inner work, and I think that I'm not like that anymore.

1155
00:57:12,440 --> 00:57:17,200
Speaker 3: Like I'm very I'm not as quickly to get angry. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,

1156
00:57:17,280 --> 00:57:19,440
Speaker 3: But that that just goes to show you. I think

1157
00:57:19,480 --> 00:57:22,720
Speaker 3: a lot of things can be worked on sure as well.

1158
00:57:22,920 --> 00:57:26,120
Speaker 4: But that's what I mean before. That's basically how everyone

1159
00:57:26,200 --> 00:57:29,280
Speaker 4: sees it. As long as my immediate people, my friends

1160
00:57:29,320 --> 00:57:32,520
Speaker 4: and family know that I'm a good person, then everyone

1161
00:57:32,600 --> 00:57:35,280
Speaker 4: else you should care how you Yeah, it's how you.

1162
00:57:35,600 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 4: You don't have to be the best of friends with everyone,

1163
00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:41,000
Speaker 4: but you know, everyone is going through ship. Everyone is

1164
00:57:41,720 --> 00:57:44,880
Speaker 4: doing that having their own you know. Sometimes and yeah,

1165
00:57:44,880 --> 00:57:46,800
Speaker 4: there are times when you will have to speak abruptly

1166
00:57:46,840 --> 00:57:49,320
Speaker 4: to people. Yeah, people know, like don't piss about with me,

1167
00:57:49,400 --> 00:57:50,840
Speaker 4: do you know what I mean? But then there's other

1168
00:57:50,920 --> 00:57:53,200
Speaker 4: times when it's just like I don't need.

1169
00:57:53,600 --> 00:57:57,480
Speaker 2: It, deserves my energy right exactly. If you're a Sugarl

1170
00:57:57,640 --> 00:58:00,760
Speaker 2: XP and it's Sugarl drain the whole. Y'all know, we

1171
00:58:00,880 --> 00:58:03,680
Speaker 2: have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of the Week.

1172
00:58:03,800 --> 00:58:05,440
Speaker 2: But do you have a product or something that you

1173
00:58:05,520 --> 00:58:07,720
Speaker 2: want to promote and you want it featured on Poor Minds.

1174
00:58:08,040 --> 00:58:10,240
Speaker 1: Your opportunity is here period.

1175
00:58:10,720 --> 00:58:12,760
Speaker 2: If you have an item or you have a business

1176
00:58:12,800 --> 00:58:14,680
Speaker 2: and you want to get it promoted, we are now

1177
00:58:14,840 --> 00:58:18,120
Speaker 2: having slots available on the Poor Minds episode. So if

1178
00:58:18,200 --> 00:58:20,520
Speaker 2: you would like to get your product featured for Item

1179
00:58:20,600 --> 00:58:22,840
Speaker 2: of the Week, all you need to do is send

1180
00:58:22,880 --> 00:58:26,080
Speaker 2: an email to Item of the Week PM at gmail

1181
00:58:26,160 --> 00:58:29,920
Speaker 2: dot com. That's I T E M O F T

1182
00:58:30,240 --> 00:58:35,000
Speaker 2: H E W E E K PM at gmail dot com.

1183
00:58:35,480 --> 00:58:37,680
Speaker 2: Send us an email and we'll work it out. We

1184
00:58:37,760 --> 00:58:41,040
Speaker 2: gonna figure it out. Get your product, get your business sponsored,

1185
00:58:41,600 --> 00:58:42,760
Speaker 2: and yeah, make.

1186
00:58:42,640 --> 00:58:45,960
Speaker 1: You some money. We love to more a small business

1187
00:58:46,040 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 1: man and a black business at that. But I mean discramminade.

1188
00:58:52,680 --> 00:58:58,160
Speaker 1: Any businesses welcome, Yeah, I agree. Okay, So we gonna

1189
00:58:58,200 --> 00:59:00,640
Speaker 1: get to the next topic. We've been chatting. This has

1190
00:59:00,680 --> 00:59:01,120
Speaker 1: been good.

1191
00:59:06,240 --> 00:59:09,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we already went to the bed, We already

1192
00:59:09,120 --> 00:59:12,600
Speaker 2: went to jumped straight in. We jumped straight into it.

1193
00:59:12,720 --> 00:59:15,560
Speaker 2: But now we're gonna switch gears and we're gonna get

1194
00:59:15,880 --> 00:59:17,120
Speaker 2: into the bop.

1195
00:59:17,320 --> 00:59:22,760
Speaker 1: A bow Bow Bow.

1196
00:59:23,080 --> 00:59:27,960
Speaker 2: Okay, So the bop of the week is whatever music songs,

1197
00:59:28,320 --> 00:59:31,040
Speaker 2: whatever you've been jamming this week, Like, what's like the

1198
00:59:31,200 --> 00:59:32,960
Speaker 2: song that you've been playing over and over again that

1199
00:59:33,080 --> 00:59:35,360
Speaker 2: you just like cannot stop listening to.

1200
00:59:35,520 --> 00:59:37,600
Speaker 1: So I'll start my song.

1201
00:59:37,680 --> 00:59:41,240
Speaker 2: It's crazy how I found this song because I think

1202
00:59:41,280 --> 00:59:44,640
Speaker 2: we need to get back to doing good artwork. Remember when,

1203
00:59:44,680 --> 00:59:47,640
Speaker 2: like album covers used to be like if you you

1204
00:59:47,840 --> 00:59:51,880
Speaker 2: had to think about what you were shooting and you

1205
00:59:52,040 --> 00:59:54,400
Speaker 2: had to get really creative. It had to mean something

1206
00:59:54,480 --> 00:59:57,720
Speaker 2: that had to do with the album. So I came

1207
00:59:57,800 --> 01:00:00,919
Speaker 2: across I was on Twitter just scrolling, and I came

1208
01:00:01,000 --> 01:00:03,880
Speaker 2: across this beautiful album cover. I'm gonna show y'all and

1209
01:00:04,920 --> 01:00:06,800
Speaker 2: let me see. Okay, so this is her album cover.

1210
01:00:07,720 --> 01:00:09,440
Speaker 2: I'll see if Hobby can put it at the bottom.

1211
01:00:10,480 --> 01:00:13,280
Speaker 2: It was really it and it had to go with

1212
01:00:13,400 --> 01:00:15,520
Speaker 2: like the theme of her album. So the song is

1213
01:00:15,640 --> 01:00:20,440
Speaker 2: called Lucky by an artist called Ravena, and the song

1214
01:00:20,560 --> 01:00:22,919
Speaker 2: is basically just about like, you know, she's her man's

1215
01:00:23,040 --> 01:00:24,000
Speaker 2: escape from the world.

1216
01:00:24,240 --> 01:00:26,680
Speaker 1: How lucky he is to have her, you know, popping

1217
01:00:26,760 --> 01:00:27,120
Speaker 1: up ship.

1218
01:00:27,840 --> 01:00:29,840
Speaker 2: So it was just a good song. But like I said,

1219
01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:32,600
Speaker 2: it caught my eye because of her artwork, and I

1220
01:00:32,680 --> 01:00:34,200
Speaker 2: was like, you know what, we need to get back

1221
01:00:34,280 --> 01:00:36,280
Speaker 2: to that. Like you remember when they used to have

1222
01:00:36,440 --> 01:00:37,120
Speaker 2: like the things that you.

1223
01:00:37,120 --> 01:00:41,240
Speaker 1: Could take out the city, like flick oh you had

1224
01:00:41,320 --> 01:00:46,360
Speaker 1: to open it, yes, the picture. We need to get

1225
01:00:46,480 --> 01:00:49,760
Speaker 1: back to that. It was a good time.

1226
01:00:49,960 --> 01:00:51,480
Speaker 2: And then like at the end they would have their

1227
01:00:51,560 --> 01:00:55,400
Speaker 2: thank you like everybody, they would oh, I used to

1228
01:00:55,480 --> 01:00:56,480
Speaker 2: open up things.

1229
01:00:56,400 --> 01:00:59,600
Speaker 5: Up, yes, and you'd read it and it would be

1230
01:00:59,640 --> 01:01:02,520
Speaker 5: like my mom, god, yes do you know that girl?

1231
01:01:02,720 --> 01:01:05,080
Speaker 2: Let me tell you'all story when Dessie h'all dropped their

1232
01:01:05,120 --> 01:01:07,440
Speaker 2: first album. That's how I first found out who Solange

1233
01:01:07,680 --> 01:01:09,680
Speaker 2: was because Beyonce had like thank her.

1234
01:01:09,680 --> 01:01:10,840
Speaker 1: I'm like, who was Solange?

1235
01:01:11,320 --> 01:01:13,200
Speaker 2: And then it came out that it was her little sister,

1236
01:01:13,760 --> 01:01:16,000
Speaker 2: And I remember my sister. I was like, well, Beyonce

1237
01:01:16,200 --> 01:01:19,640
Speaker 2: loves Solange, you have to love me, you know what

1238
01:01:19,680 --> 01:01:21,680
Speaker 2: I'm saying. But I just think it was I just

1239
01:01:21,800 --> 01:01:23,600
Speaker 2: think we need to get back to that. You know.

1240
01:01:23,880 --> 01:01:27,040
Speaker 2: I don't want to see artists tweet being on Instagram anymore.

1241
01:01:27,280 --> 01:01:28,600
Speaker 2: When I want to get to know what artists, I

1242
01:01:28,640 --> 01:01:29,920
Speaker 2: want to open up that album.

1243
01:01:30,520 --> 01:01:34,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know sometimes like on Apple they I don't know.

1244
01:01:34,800 --> 01:01:38,440
Speaker 4: The last person that I saw did this was a

1245
01:01:38,640 --> 01:01:44,040
Speaker 4: cheering like he wrote like a outlook of every track.

1246
01:01:44,360 --> 01:01:45,560
Speaker 1: Why he wrote the track.

1247
01:01:46,480 --> 01:01:48,160
Speaker 4: I think it was the plus and Divide one that

1248
01:01:48,240 --> 01:01:51,080
Speaker 4: he did, and it was everything as why he wrote it,

1249
01:01:51,200 --> 01:01:53,720
Speaker 4: what it meant, and it was really nice just read

1250
01:01:54,280 --> 01:01:56,480
Speaker 4: like what every track meant him why he wrote it.

1251
01:01:56,640 --> 01:01:59,920
Speaker 4: The backstory is because I feel like that's what you

1252
01:02:00,040 --> 01:02:02,960
Speaker 4: when you'd open that little booklet, it would have the

1253
01:02:03,080 --> 01:02:04,320
Speaker 4: producer the right.

1254
01:02:06,600 --> 01:02:07,439
Speaker 1: Booklet. Yeah.

1255
01:02:07,960 --> 01:02:10,320
Speaker 2: So yeah, And like I said, I'm glad that I

1256
01:02:10,400 --> 01:02:13,360
Speaker 2: actually listened to you know, the project and I found

1257
01:02:13,480 --> 01:02:14,800
Speaker 2: some songs that I like, and I was like.

1258
01:02:14,880 --> 01:02:18,000
Speaker 1: Okay, you did your big ones artists.

1259
01:02:18,240 --> 01:02:20,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, well I don't know if she's new, but

1260
01:02:20,400 --> 01:02:22,880
Speaker 2: this is the first time I've seen her, but yeah,

1261
01:02:22,920 --> 01:02:25,480
Speaker 2: her name is Ravena and the song is called Lucky.

1262
01:02:25,560 --> 01:02:27,880
Speaker 1: It's like an R and B but nice love lover

1263
01:02:28,400 --> 01:02:28,840
Speaker 1: R and B VI.

1264
01:02:30,880 --> 01:02:35,200
Speaker 4: So at the moment, I am really loving Thames, you know,

1265
01:02:35,320 --> 01:02:39,880
Speaker 4: lovely yet that is like my favorite song and any

1266
01:02:39,960 --> 01:02:41,120
Speaker 4: time that song comes on.

1267
01:02:41,200 --> 01:02:43,240
Speaker 1: It just makes me feel so happy.

1268
01:02:44,120 --> 01:02:46,600
Speaker 4: The visuals and you remember, like again we were saying

1269
01:02:46,640 --> 01:02:48,439
Speaker 4: kind of like the visuals, the video is really nice.

1270
01:02:48,440 --> 01:02:50,480
Speaker 4: Remember the videos that just makes you used to make

1271
01:02:50,520 --> 01:02:53,120
Speaker 4: you feel so happy. Yeah, and it gave you like

1272
01:02:53,280 --> 01:02:55,600
Speaker 4: you just watched them and you'd feel a vibe. And

1273
01:02:55,760 --> 01:02:58,200
Speaker 4: summer's here, well London.

1274
01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:03,920
Speaker 1: It's summer in Atlanta. I feel the girl. Why are

1275
01:03:03,960 --> 01:03:08,880
Speaker 1: you saying that raining? It's been raining forever. Be nice.

1276
01:03:09,000 --> 01:03:12,200
Speaker 1: But the first two days we were here it didn't rain,

1277
01:03:12,840 --> 01:03:13,800
Speaker 1: and it was kind of same.

1278
01:03:15,800 --> 01:03:19,680
Speaker 4: I'm really angry. We're all angry. All the the English

1279
01:03:19,720 --> 01:03:21,000
Speaker 4: people were just We're.

1280
01:03:20,880 --> 01:03:21,960
Speaker 1: Like, what's going on.

1281
01:03:23,000 --> 01:03:26,360
Speaker 4: It's the end of me and we have this all

1282
01:03:26,400 --> 01:03:28,400
Speaker 4: the time. But yeah, back to lovely j H. I

1283
01:03:28,520 --> 01:03:30,760
Speaker 4: love it because it's a nice summer vibe. And I

1284
01:03:30,920 --> 01:03:31,520
Speaker 4: just love Thames.

1285
01:03:31,520 --> 01:03:32,240
Speaker 1: I think Thames is.

1286
01:03:36,400 --> 01:03:37,840
Speaker 2: And that's why I said, I'm glad you talked about

1287
01:03:37,840 --> 01:03:40,280
Speaker 2: the visuals because we need to get back to good videos. Yeah.

1288
01:03:40,880 --> 01:03:44,600
Speaker 2: Mary J Blige, everything is probably one of my favorite videos.

1289
01:03:45,200 --> 01:03:48,000
Speaker 1: But is it, Mary J Blie? Just your favorite? Everything?

1290
01:03:48,520 --> 01:03:52,520
Speaker 1: Literally so good. Our new boots of Jose have you seen? Yes?

1291
01:03:52,640 --> 01:03:56,000
Speaker 2: I saw they gold out in like one day, I

1292
01:03:56,320 --> 01:04:01,080
Speaker 2: had Twitter in a frenzy, was arguing nobody. Yes, that

1293
01:04:01,280 --> 01:04:05,760
Speaker 2: was like GIUSEPPI, nobody gonna by if nobody gonna buy

1294
01:04:05,760 --> 01:04:06,160
Speaker 2: the boots.

1295
01:04:06,200 --> 01:04:10,880
Speaker 1: That's not even thought out that Why do we always

1296
01:04:10,920 --> 01:04:13,200
Speaker 1: do that? I mean, they was called they was bringing

1297
01:04:13,240 --> 01:04:16,280
Speaker 1: up people mama, Oh, your mama and daddy got a divorce?

1298
01:04:16,360 --> 01:04:19,320
Speaker 1: You an orphan? Oh? They was calling out over boot.

1299
01:04:19,360 --> 01:04:20,720
Speaker 1: What they gotta do with the boot.

1300
01:04:20,800 --> 01:04:23,200
Speaker 2: Because I'm telling you, if you say something that somebody

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01:04:23,280 --> 01:04:25,800
Speaker 2: doesn't like on Twitter, they're gonna pull up your whole family.

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01:04:27,440 --> 01:04:29,760
Speaker 1: Was it got ugly? I said all this over boots.

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01:04:30,320 --> 01:04:32,440
Speaker 1: That's why I amost saiting nothing on Twitter. Have a

1304
01:04:32,440 --> 01:04:36,600
Speaker 1: good day, y'all. Twitter is, Oh, it's hell on Earth.

1305
01:04:37,000 --> 01:04:40,919
Speaker 2: I said, I don't want took off my I haven't

1306
01:04:40,960 --> 01:04:44,600
Speaker 2: been on that for like maybe two weeks, feeling serve refresh.

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01:04:45,000 --> 01:04:46,560
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I just did that.

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01:04:46,880 --> 01:04:49,720
Speaker 3: Like I literally had deleted because I always kind of

1309
01:04:49,760 --> 01:04:52,640
Speaker 3: take breaks from certain stuff, like so I've taken breaks

1310
01:04:52,680 --> 01:04:55,280
Speaker 3: from Twitter like a few times, and so I.

1311
01:04:55,360 --> 01:04:57,720
Speaker 1: Actually deleted it for like a week before we came

1312
01:04:57,800 --> 01:05:01,600
Speaker 1: out here within our downloaded because we here let me kind.

1313
01:05:01,480 --> 01:05:04,480
Speaker 3: Of post content whatever but I feel you like Twitter.

1314
01:05:04,800 --> 01:05:08,400
Speaker 3: Whenever I'm not on Twitter, my life just feel so blissed.

1315
01:05:08,440 --> 01:05:12,040
Speaker 4: It gives me too much anxiety, and give me anxiety literal.

1316
01:05:12,040 --> 01:05:14,360
Speaker 4: She will tweet something and then somebody like this.

1317
01:05:14,560 --> 01:05:24,080
Speaker 1: You, oh god, your profile anything.

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01:05:24,200 --> 01:05:27,080
Speaker 4: Sometimes I'll go to something like oh women did just that,

1319
01:05:27,360 --> 01:05:31,080
Speaker 4: and then they'll find a tweet from like ten years ago. Yes,

1320
01:05:31,680 --> 01:05:34,360
Speaker 4: when I'm in a big Brother, they found oranges. I

1321
01:05:34,440 --> 01:05:36,280
Speaker 4: said I had an argument about oranges.

1322
01:05:36,640 --> 01:05:38,640
Speaker 1: Big brother. They found a tweet where I said, I

1323
01:05:38,720 --> 01:05:42,000
Speaker 1: hate oranges. Oh my god, you don't even like orange,

1324
01:05:42,600 --> 01:05:46,920
Speaker 1: I remember. Oh god, it's just your elementary school.

1325
01:05:48,320 --> 01:05:50,800
Speaker 2: Yes, you could be like I think braces we should

1326
01:05:50,840 --> 01:05:52,120
Speaker 2: start moving to a viceline.

1327
01:05:53,560 --> 01:05:57,160
Speaker 1: But what about this I've seen you?

1328
01:05:58,800 --> 01:06:01,720
Speaker 5: Do you think you better than because you got money?

1329
01:06:02,000 --> 01:06:04,760
Speaker 5: They like, bring it back to something. It's gonna come

1330
01:06:04,840 --> 01:06:05,840
Speaker 5: back to something that.

1331
01:06:06,760 --> 01:06:09,320
Speaker 2: Ever disliked about you. It will come back into that

1332
01:06:09,720 --> 01:06:11,840
Speaker 2: one to I mean, you can don't. You can't change

1333
01:06:11,840 --> 01:06:17,920
Speaker 2: your opinion about nothing. He all right, what you've been

1334
01:06:17,960 --> 01:06:18,280
Speaker 2: listening to?

1335
01:06:18,520 --> 01:06:20,680
Speaker 1: Okay, So y'all know Sexy Red.

1336
01:06:20,680 --> 01:06:24,720
Speaker 2: It just came out with a new album and she

1337
01:06:24,880 --> 01:06:27,880
Speaker 2: has this song on the album called You My Everything.

1338
01:06:28,160 --> 01:06:31,800
Speaker 1: Featuring Drake. I really like the songs, the one that

1339
01:06:31,920 --> 01:06:33,320
Speaker 1: he just know this is not the one that he did,

1340
01:06:40,680 --> 01:06:44,080
Speaker 1: which was a bob so yeah, so like at the

1341
01:06:44,360 --> 01:06:47,720
Speaker 1: end of the song, that's when it kind of transcends

1342
01:06:47,840 --> 01:06:54,120
Speaker 1: to BBO like this song. But I just love anybody

1343
01:06:54,160 --> 01:06:56,480
Speaker 1: who could laugh at themself because it's like if you

1344
01:06:58,480 --> 01:07:01,080
Speaker 1: I agree, I agree, can kind of kill him in

1345
01:07:01,160 --> 01:07:03,720
Speaker 1: the battle, no, I see, I am.

1346
01:07:04,520 --> 01:07:08,720
Speaker 4: I was standing with Kendrick because they're really not like

1347
01:07:08,840 --> 01:07:11,360
Speaker 4: oh so I felt like they not like Us was

1348
01:07:11,480 --> 01:07:14,400
Speaker 4: such a good that was yeah. And then like even

1349
01:07:14,520 --> 01:07:18,520
Speaker 4: because obviously here I feel like radio as well over

1350
01:07:18,600 --> 01:07:21,600
Speaker 4: there you guys play all the you, but here, when

1351
01:07:21,640 --> 01:07:23,480
Speaker 4: I heard not Like Us on the radio, I was like,

1352
01:07:23,560 --> 01:07:29,320
Speaker 4: oh yeah, oh ship, yeah it's and it really he

1353
01:07:29,480 --> 01:07:32,400
Speaker 4: did that, and it's quite refreshing because I think Drake

1354
01:07:32,560 --> 01:07:36,880
Speaker 4: is always good at making dis tracks bangers. Yeah, we're

1355
01:07:36,960 --> 01:07:39,640
Speaker 4: back to back. Now we're in the club singing a

1356
01:07:40,240 --> 01:07:43,439
Speaker 4: dis track. And I was really happy that Kendrick because

1357
01:07:43,600 --> 01:07:45,800
Speaker 4: also a lot of people thought that Kendrick couldn't do that,

1358
01:07:46,320 --> 01:07:48,920
Speaker 4: and when he released the first one, everyone was like, oh,

1359
01:07:48,960 --> 01:07:53,800
Speaker 4: here we go, here we call deep. Everyone tried to

1360
01:07:53,960 --> 01:07:55,560
Speaker 4: like be, you know, and then when he did not

1361
01:07:55,680 --> 01:07:57,440
Speaker 4: like it was like, no, I could do both yea

1362
01:07:57,920 --> 01:07:59,560
Speaker 4: and were that we in?

1363
01:07:59,760 --> 01:08:03,080
Speaker 1: So we were and I was out there.

1364
01:08:03,720 --> 01:08:08,600
Speaker 2: Then it was crazy because I think Drake's fans actually

1365
01:08:08,680 --> 01:08:10,400
Speaker 2: motivated him to do that because they were like, Okay,

1366
01:08:10,840 --> 01:08:12,840
Speaker 2: you're doing all these dish tracks, but Drake gonna make

1367
01:08:12,880 --> 01:08:15,040
Speaker 2: a club mag shut this ship down.

1368
01:08:15,120 --> 01:08:17,479
Speaker 1: He was like, not if I do it first. Yeah,

1369
01:08:17,680 --> 01:08:19,760
Speaker 1: and he really did and it was good.

1370
01:08:19,880 --> 01:08:23,639
Speaker 3: But yeah, like Bbo Dresey though, I think that that's

1371
01:08:23,720 --> 01:08:26,400
Speaker 3: so funny to me that he started rapping a and

1372
01:08:26,479 --> 01:08:28,679
Speaker 3: then he said, Okay, Bbo Dresey, I'll.

1373
01:08:28,600 --> 01:08:30,479
Speaker 1: Buy him for you, like I'll buy you a b

1374
01:08:30,560 --> 01:08:34,920
Speaker 1: B and I don't mind another one. I love a

1375
01:08:35,000 --> 01:08:37,680
Speaker 1: good BBL. Now, y'all know, I love Drake. I have

1376
01:08:37,760 --> 01:08:39,200
Speaker 1: always been like a Drakes fan.

1377
01:08:40,400 --> 01:08:45,240
Speaker 4: I have, Like I understand what I said, there's there's

1378
01:08:45,320 --> 01:08:48,720
Speaker 4: really good tracks that I like about Drake, but the

1379
01:08:48,880 --> 01:08:50,080
Speaker 4: current Drake I'm.

1380
01:08:49,920 --> 01:08:52,479
Speaker 1: Not necessarily the biggest Fine. I get what you're saying.

1381
01:08:53,120 --> 01:08:56,680
Speaker 1: That got that, and it's annoying. I guess, I know

1382
01:08:57,120 --> 01:08:58,880
Speaker 1: hate this. I love the old version.

1383
01:08:59,120 --> 01:09:01,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, they want to be able to but I just

1384
01:09:01,960 --> 01:09:04,960
Speaker 4: genuinely also think that. But I saw this lady actually

1385
01:09:05,000 --> 01:09:07,080
Speaker 4: on TikTok. She's a really good breakdown and she basically

1386
01:09:07,120 --> 01:09:10,040
Speaker 4: he said, you know, like old school Drake, that was

1387
01:09:10,080 --> 01:09:13,120
Speaker 4: when he still you know, loved love and he was

1388
01:09:13,760 --> 01:09:15,880
Speaker 4: in love with the idea of love. And now what

1389
01:09:16,040 --> 01:09:19,160
Speaker 4: we're seeing is just a man that you know, once

1390
01:09:19,320 --> 01:09:21,040
Speaker 4: was a sweet boy, and he's had his heart broken

1391
01:09:21,120 --> 01:09:23,559
Speaker 4: so many times and now he's got to that stage

1392
01:09:23,560 --> 01:09:28,640
Speaker 4: of like fuck women. That's basically what she's saying, Like,

1393
01:09:28,680 --> 01:09:31,800
Speaker 4: we're actually just seeing somebody that has you know, life

1394
01:09:31,880 --> 01:09:34,120
Speaker 4: has changed them, and we should we should just hope

1395
01:09:34,160 --> 01:09:37,960
Speaker 4: that he gets back back when he gets falls in love,

1396
01:09:38,000 --> 01:09:41,240
Speaker 4: because I do feel like should have the empathy for

1397
01:09:41,479 --> 01:09:44,840
Speaker 4: But yeah, when she broke it down, because I feel

1398
01:09:44,840 --> 01:09:47,280
Speaker 4: like he did used to make music with us in

1399
01:09:47,400 --> 01:09:49,720
Speaker 4: mine than it is now.

1400
01:09:49,800 --> 01:09:51,559
Speaker 1: But you know, that is the life process.

1401
01:09:51,600 --> 01:09:53,919
Speaker 2: And it's just a chapter that we are going through chapters,

1402
01:09:54,439 --> 01:09:56,719
Speaker 2: so we can view it as a chapter. I agree

1403
01:09:57,000 --> 01:10:00,960
Speaker 2: what XP and is your girls drain And y'all do

1404
01:10:01,200 --> 01:10:03,360
Speaker 2: not forget to call our shot line.

1405
01:10:03,400 --> 01:10:05,040
Speaker 1: I know you heard of a hotline, but this is

1406
01:10:05,080 --> 01:10:06,800
Speaker 1: the poor mind's shot line.

1407
01:10:07,120 --> 01:10:09,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, we love to hear from y'all. Y'all need to

1408
01:10:09,080 --> 01:10:12,240
Speaker 2: call in y'all, and this is not necessarily for questions.

1409
01:10:12,320 --> 01:10:13,640
Speaker 2: You know, we just want to hear from y'all if

1410
01:10:13,680 --> 01:10:15,880
Speaker 2: we want to know y'all, feedback, y'all thoughts on the show,

1411
01:10:16,240 --> 01:10:17,880
Speaker 2: or just what's going on in your life. So you

1412
01:10:17,960 --> 01:10:21,240
Speaker 2: can always call six seven eight eight two seven one

1413
01:10:21,479 --> 01:10:23,200
Speaker 2: eight two seed yes.

1414
01:10:23,160 --> 01:10:25,120
Speaker 1: And y'all know, keep it short and cute.

1415
01:10:25,200 --> 01:10:27,800
Speaker 2: Don't be calling and letting us know about your baby daddy,

1416
01:10:27,800 --> 01:10:29,120
Speaker 2: says a brother, cousin boyfriend.

1417
01:10:29,200 --> 01:10:30,680
Speaker 1: Okay, well I want to hear about that.

1418
01:10:30,920 --> 01:10:32,720
Speaker 2: Actually, well you know they can let a little some

1419
01:10:32,880 --> 01:10:34,960
Speaker 2: but you know, we want to keep it cute and short.

1420
01:10:35,120 --> 01:10:37,439
Speaker 1: Like she said, this is not questions, This is not

1421
01:10:37,560 --> 01:10:38,360
Speaker 1: pour your heart out.

1422
01:10:38,600 --> 01:10:40,760
Speaker 2: So just call give us a little feedback, what you

1423
01:10:40,840 --> 01:10:43,200
Speaker 2: want to see on the show, any suggestions, what you

1424
01:10:43,320 --> 01:10:44,920
Speaker 2: think about the show, if you just want to simply

1425
01:10:44,960 --> 01:10:47,360
Speaker 2: give us our flowers, you know, or any It could

1426
01:10:47,400 --> 01:10:49,360
Speaker 2: be anything. What's bothering you this week, what got on

1427
01:10:49,400 --> 01:10:51,200
Speaker 2: your nerves this week, If you just want to vent

1428
01:10:51,240 --> 01:10:54,080
Speaker 2: and get some things off your chest, pull the shot

1429
01:10:54,160 --> 01:10:57,280
Speaker 2: line again. The number is six seven eight eight two

1430
01:10:57,479 --> 01:11:01,920
Speaker 2: seven one eight too sick. All right, we're gonna move on.

1431
01:11:02,280 --> 01:11:05,439
Speaker 2: We're gonna get into our favorite segments of the show.

1432
01:11:05,680 --> 01:11:08,559
Speaker 2: It's called pour your heart out word we give advice?

1433
01:11:08,640 --> 01:11:10,479
Speaker 1: Do you give good advice? I feel like I do.

1434
01:11:10,680 --> 01:11:12,679
Speaker 1: Do I take my own advice? Maybe don't.

1435
01:11:14,640 --> 01:11:16,719
Speaker 2: So if you watch your question answer on the show,

1436
01:11:16,840 --> 01:11:19,799
Speaker 2: make sure you email us at askpoor Minds at gmail

1437
01:11:19,840 --> 01:11:21,840
Speaker 2: dot com. If you're a Patreon member, just put that

1438
01:11:21,880 --> 01:11:23,840
Speaker 2: in the subject line. You get to skip the line.

1439
01:11:24,439 --> 01:11:26,519
Speaker 1: Okay, are you ready for question number one? Yeah?

1440
01:11:26,720 --> 01:11:30,120
Speaker 2: All right, go ahead, Andrea, I don't have mind. Okay,

1441
01:11:30,160 --> 01:11:32,160
Speaker 2: I'll go ahead. I'll start all air, drop it to

1442
01:11:32,240 --> 01:11:33,000
Speaker 2: you while you do that.

1443
01:11:33,640 --> 01:11:33,960
Speaker 1: Okay.

1444
01:11:34,040 --> 01:11:38,240
Speaker 2: So question number one it says, Hey, lex Andrea, I

1445
01:11:38,320 --> 01:11:40,439
Speaker 2: love your show. Love watching it with a glass of

1446
01:11:40,520 --> 01:11:42,760
Speaker 2: wine or when I'm cleaning, but I need y'all's help.

1447
01:11:43,200 --> 01:11:45,840
Speaker 2: So last March, I broke up with my ex girlfriend,

1448
01:11:46,120 --> 01:11:47,880
Speaker 2: and for that whole summer I had to deal with

1449
01:11:47,960 --> 01:11:51,400
Speaker 2: the toxicity of separating yourself to what you're accustomed to

1450
01:11:52,160 --> 01:11:56,479
Speaker 2: while talking and dating. Since last August. Also, I'm twenty

1451
01:11:56,520 --> 01:12:00,639
Speaker 2: two and she is thirty two. Currently, my X wants

1452
01:12:00,680 --> 01:12:03,240
Speaker 2: to try again, but I don't know if I want

1453
01:12:03,320 --> 01:12:05,800
Speaker 2: that in my life. But at the same time, she

1454
01:12:06,000 --> 01:12:09,080
Speaker 2: is what I'm accustomed to. But even though my current

1455
01:12:09,200 --> 01:12:12,200
Speaker 2: partner doesn't give me problems related to cheating or lying,

1456
01:12:12,600 --> 01:12:15,680
Speaker 2: we do struggle with a lot of communication and consideration

1457
01:12:15,840 --> 01:12:18,719
Speaker 2: of feelings. She gave me a ring and she wants

1458
01:12:18,800 --> 01:12:21,080
Speaker 2: me to get her name tattooed. But I think that's

1459
01:12:21,120 --> 01:12:23,680
Speaker 2: a lot. I'm stuck in a hard place right now.

1460
01:12:24,200 --> 01:12:27,160
Speaker 2: Please tell me should I continue with my current partner

1461
01:12:27,600 --> 01:12:29,680
Speaker 2: or should I break it off and double back to

1462
01:12:29,800 --> 01:12:33,519
Speaker 2: my ex ps love y'all, lottie hotties. And this is

1463
01:12:33,560 --> 01:12:36,880
Speaker 2: a woman that wrote the email so fustiful.

1464
01:12:37,920 --> 01:12:41,639
Speaker 4: How have you managed to have two people fighting as you? Meanwhile,

1465
01:12:41,680 --> 01:12:42,439
Speaker 4: I can't even get.

1466
01:12:42,600 --> 01:12:51,519
Speaker 1: Text back, so that wants to get back and teach me?

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01:12:55,400 --> 01:12:56,400
Speaker 1: I mean, But.

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01:12:57,600 --> 01:13:01,800
Speaker 2: Also on this, I just think you Yeah, I think

1469
01:13:01,880 --> 01:13:07,200
Speaker 2: twenty two. It's like, well, I'll say this like the

1470
01:13:07,360 --> 01:13:10,559
Speaker 2: new situation. Want to get your name tattooed in a ring?

1471
01:13:10,680 --> 01:13:12,920
Speaker 2: That's a lot for twenty two. I do agree with

1472
01:13:13,040 --> 01:13:13,799
Speaker 2: that any stage.

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01:13:13,880 --> 01:13:17,599
Speaker 4: Actually considerating it's probably quite early as well, like early

1474
01:13:17,680 --> 01:13:21,000
Speaker 4: stages for one to want that kind of like commitment

1475
01:13:21,120 --> 01:13:22,960
Speaker 4: ownership almost do you know what I mean?

1476
01:13:23,080 --> 01:13:24,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a bit weird.

1477
01:13:24,680 --> 01:13:27,320
Speaker 2: And plus with the age gap too, because she said,

1478
01:13:28,280 --> 01:13:31,080
Speaker 2: I love the tattoo now I got a tattoo now,

1479
01:13:31,240 --> 01:13:35,519
Speaker 2: but I'm getting it removed. So lex P would got

1480
01:13:35,560 --> 01:13:39,840
Speaker 2: to go through that it removed. Yeah, yeah, because mine

1481
01:13:39,920 --> 01:13:43,200
Speaker 2: is almost gone, thank god. But I will say I

1482
01:13:43,400 --> 01:13:45,360
Speaker 2: don't believe you should double back to your ex.

1483
01:13:45,479 --> 01:13:48,200
Speaker 1: Y'all broke up for a reason. I say, we don't

1484
01:13:48,200 --> 01:13:51,640
Speaker 1: go back to X X stage too. Huh the X

1485
01:13:51,840 --> 01:13:52,280
Speaker 1: was no, It.

1486
01:13:52,320 --> 01:13:57,599
Speaker 2: Says that, yeah, yeah, she's twenty two and she started too.

1487
01:13:57,760 --> 01:13:59,559
Speaker 2: So the one that she's with now wants to give

1488
01:13:59,600 --> 01:14:03,320
Speaker 2: her the ring, wants her to get tattooed. Yeah, and

1489
01:14:03,439 --> 01:14:05,600
Speaker 2: then but the ex is kind of like trying to

1490
01:14:05,680 --> 01:14:08,200
Speaker 2: come back around, and she kind of likes the X

1491
01:14:08,240 --> 01:14:11,280
Speaker 2: because that's what she's a custom time. But she says

1492
01:14:11,360 --> 01:14:14,040
Speaker 2: she trusts the new situation more because she doesn't have

1493
01:14:14,080 --> 01:14:16,120
Speaker 2: to deal with cheating or lying. They just kind of

1494
01:14:16,160 --> 01:14:19,080
Speaker 2: have communication issues a little bit. It sounds to me

1495
01:14:19,160 --> 01:14:20,360
Speaker 2: like you need to get rid of them both.

1496
01:14:21,200 --> 01:14:25,520
Speaker 1: The communication issues. She didn't get. Also when it's communication

1497
01:14:25,640 --> 01:14:28,800
Speaker 1: and she's my intens go up about.

1498
01:14:29,479 --> 01:14:32,840
Speaker 2: Right, But she says all the time, right, she says,

1499
01:14:32,880 --> 01:14:35,120
Speaker 2: she doesn't give me problems related to cheating or line,

1500
01:14:35,160 --> 01:14:38,160
Speaker 2: but we do struggle with communication and consideration of feelings.

1501
01:14:39,000 --> 01:14:40,240
Speaker 1: So I take it rid of both them.

1502
01:14:40,640 --> 01:14:42,559
Speaker 2: I agree, I think so I think you should start

1503
01:14:42,560 --> 01:14:45,240
Speaker 2: off on a new slate. Two girls, yea.

1504
01:14:46,360 --> 01:14:49,720
Speaker 1: Sometimes you know this current climate everyone you know, I

1505
01:14:49,800 --> 01:14:50,000
Speaker 1: get it.

1506
01:14:50,040 --> 01:14:54,240
Speaker 4: Everyone's to settle down about growing old, lonely, and the

1507
01:14:54,320 --> 01:14:57,400
Speaker 4: younger generation like gen Z for some reason.

1508
01:14:57,240 --> 01:15:00,559
Speaker 1: They think thirties is old. It's not a all.

1509
01:15:02,640 --> 01:15:05,639
Speaker 4: Aunties now. Apparently, I'm like thirty five. If I even

1510
01:15:05,720 --> 01:15:08,240
Speaker 4: lived till like eighty five, I've got fifty fucking years.

1511
01:15:09,040 --> 01:15:10,680
Speaker 3: That's a lot of time, you know what I mean.

1512
01:15:10,840 --> 01:15:16,280
Speaker 3: It's like me, I'm thirty three, Like you know how

1513
01:15:16,439 --> 01:15:17,280
Speaker 3: old people live.

1514
01:15:17,400 --> 01:15:22,360
Speaker 1: To me, I just starting at halfway mark yet or

1515
01:15:22,439 --> 01:15:27,599
Speaker 1: maybe nearly close, but anyway, but that's what I'm saying.

1516
01:15:27,640 --> 01:15:29,240
Speaker 1: You've got so much time.

1517
01:15:29,720 --> 01:15:32,160
Speaker 4: So I think sometimes what happens also even us in

1518
01:15:32,240 --> 01:15:37,679
Speaker 4: our thirties, sometimes the older ladies sometimes that we settle

1519
01:15:37,720 --> 01:15:40,439
Speaker 4: as well because we're worried about or we put up

1520
01:15:40,479 --> 01:15:43,400
Speaker 4: with bad behavior because we're worried about, oh my god,

1521
01:15:43,439 --> 01:15:45,040
Speaker 4: if I let this person go with someone else is

1522
01:15:45,080 --> 01:15:47,000
Speaker 4: going to come along, but you actually have time on

1523
01:15:47,080 --> 01:15:50,960
Speaker 4: your side, your twenty two babe. Honestly, both of them

1524
01:15:51,040 --> 01:15:54,320
Speaker 4: sound like headache. And if communication is very important to you,

1525
01:15:54,479 --> 01:15:57,360
Speaker 4: like communication is very it should be important to everyone,

1526
01:15:57,479 --> 01:15:59,400
Speaker 4: and my relationship need a.

1527
01:15:59,479 --> 01:16:00,920
Speaker 1: Certain level of communication.

1528
01:16:01,920 --> 01:16:04,680
Speaker 4: Make me feel secure, make me feel like I'm you know,

1529
01:16:04,760 --> 01:16:08,400
Speaker 4: happy in this situation if it's not. But also if

1530
01:16:08,439 --> 01:16:11,680
Speaker 4: you compromise as well, maybe not ditch the new. But

1531
01:16:11,800 --> 01:16:13,880
Speaker 4: also I don't like the age gap. I'm sorry, I

1532
01:16:13,960 --> 01:16:14,639
Speaker 4: don't don't.

1533
01:16:14,680 --> 01:16:16,320
Speaker 1: I don't like the age gap with her trying to

1534
01:16:16,360 --> 01:16:17,840
Speaker 1: give you a ring and get you to.

1535
01:16:20,280 --> 01:16:24,400
Speaker 4: Manipulation because at thirty two, you know, but that's exactly

1536
01:16:24,479 --> 01:16:26,800
Speaker 4: what you know, what you're doing. Yeah, yeah, and that's

1537
01:16:26,880 --> 01:16:30,120
Speaker 4: exactly what it is. You shouldn't be pressuring you to

1538
01:16:30,920 --> 01:16:37,720
Speaker 4: give you engagement. Maybe okay, no, both of them are

1539
01:16:37,720 --> 01:16:38,479
Speaker 4: give it red flags.

1540
01:16:38,600 --> 01:16:40,880
Speaker 3: I agree, And I was joking about that, Like I

1541
01:16:41,000 --> 01:16:44,439
Speaker 3: feel like I definitely have gotten a tattoo before, but

1542
01:16:44,560 --> 01:16:46,360
Speaker 3: I got it because I wanted to get it. But

1543
01:16:46,560 --> 01:16:48,600
Speaker 3: I feel like, if you're going to do something like that,

1544
01:16:48,920 --> 01:16:51,680
Speaker 3: you should get somebody's name tattooed on you because that's

1545
01:16:51,760 --> 01:16:52,439
Speaker 3: what you want to do.

1546
01:16:53,040 --> 01:16:55,720
Speaker 1: Nothing pressury you like, Oh, you need to go get

1547
01:16:55,760 --> 01:16:56,120
Speaker 1: my name.

1548
01:16:57,520 --> 01:17:01,120
Speaker 3: That's a little weird, especially considering that she's significantly older

1549
01:17:01,200 --> 01:17:01,400
Speaker 3: than you.

1550
01:17:01,720 --> 01:17:04,800
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, it's a little strange. Yeah to me, they're

1551
01:17:04,880 --> 01:17:07,960
Speaker 1: both to know. Ye A. Question number two? What you got, Drea?

1552
01:17:08,080 --> 01:17:11,479
Speaker 3: Okay, question number two. I'm gonna try this again because

1553
01:17:11,600 --> 01:17:14,000
Speaker 3: that must have gotten my first question. He wants to

1554
01:17:14,040 --> 01:17:17,439
Speaker 3: thought my first question was wag. I started watching y'all

1555
01:17:17,520 --> 01:17:20,000
Speaker 3: heavy last year after my ex did some shit that

1556
01:17:20,120 --> 01:17:23,080
Speaker 3: pushed me away completely. Y'all really have been a major

1557
01:17:23,160 --> 01:17:24,400
Speaker 3: part of my healing journey.

1558
01:17:24,720 --> 01:17:25,479
Speaker 1: I love y'all.

1559
01:17:25,920 --> 01:17:28,559
Speaker 3: I've been in therapy for a while, which also helps,

1560
01:17:28,640 --> 01:17:30,640
Speaker 3: But recently I've been really struggling.

1561
01:17:31,040 --> 01:17:33,080
Speaker 2: I feel like I've lost the love of my life

1562
01:17:33,120 --> 01:17:35,599
Speaker 2: and my best friend, and I cried all the time.

1563
01:17:36,160 --> 01:17:37,960
Speaker 2: I've tried dating, but nothing less.

1564
01:17:38,080 --> 01:17:40,720
Speaker 3: It's been almost six months since we've talked, and she

1565
01:17:40,920 --> 01:17:44,280
Speaker 3: has another girlfriend, which I know is a rebound. I

1566
01:17:44,400 --> 01:17:46,720
Speaker 3: tell myself, if it's meant to be, it'll be, and

1567
01:17:46,800 --> 01:17:49,040
Speaker 3: I have tried to let it go. I've blocked her

1568
01:17:49,080 --> 01:17:52,439
Speaker 3: on everything, and she continues watching my story from multiple

1569
01:17:52,520 --> 01:17:56,320
Speaker 3: pages even though she's in a relationship. Anyway, This is long,

1570
01:17:56,400 --> 01:17:58,519
Speaker 3: but I'm looking for any advice y'all might have.

1571
01:18:00,000 --> 01:18:01,599
Speaker 2: I think for me when you're trying to get over somebody,

1572
01:18:01,680 --> 01:18:03,479
Speaker 2: cause y'all know me, I fall in love all time.

1573
01:18:03,560 --> 01:18:05,360
Speaker 1: I love love. I'm never gonna give up on love.

1574
01:18:06,000 --> 01:18:08,599
Speaker 2: So I think whenever you're really trying to move on somebody,

1575
01:18:08,920 --> 01:18:10,800
Speaker 2: you have to to me, it's like out of sight,

1576
01:18:10,880 --> 01:18:14,040
Speaker 2: out of mind. You're literally probably checking who's viewing your

1577
01:18:14,120 --> 01:18:17,040
Speaker 2: stories because you're looking for those fake pages, because it's

1578
01:18:17,160 --> 01:18:19,560
Speaker 2: some like glimmer of hope, like you low key be

1579
01:18:19,640 --> 01:18:21,800
Speaker 2: happy when you see a little fake page or whatever

1580
01:18:22,320 --> 01:18:24,600
Speaker 2: page that you see, like because you're looking for the

1581
01:18:24,720 --> 01:18:28,720
Speaker 2: signs that she's still lingering around. You really have to

1582
01:18:28,800 --> 01:18:30,839
Speaker 2: let it go just because you feel like y'all aren't talking,

1583
01:18:31,360 --> 01:18:34,080
Speaker 2: but you're looking for little signs that she's still around.

1584
01:18:34,560 --> 01:18:38,360
Speaker 2: So until you completely let it go mentally, you're not

1585
01:18:38,400 --> 01:18:39,880
Speaker 2: gonna be able to move on. I don't care how

1586
01:18:40,000 --> 01:18:43,160
Speaker 2: much therapy you do, how much you know, crying and

1587
01:18:43,240 --> 01:18:45,840
Speaker 2: healing you do, if you don't completely truly let go,

1588
01:18:46,120 --> 01:18:48,880
Speaker 2: out of sight, out of mind, stop looking for the

1589
01:18:48,920 --> 01:18:50,840
Speaker 2: signs that she's still hanging around.

1590
01:18:50,760 --> 01:18:53,720
Speaker 1: Like you, I'm saying. I always say think that it's

1591
01:18:53,800 --> 01:18:54,280
Speaker 1: key Chase.

1592
01:18:54,320 --> 01:18:57,200
Speaker 4: It sounds it's time, but you have to put the

1593
01:18:58,040 --> 01:19:01,320
Speaker 4: correct measurecy pace, like you're saying, so the time makes sense,

1594
01:19:02,080 --> 01:19:04,680
Speaker 4: if that makes sense, But it was genuinely time, like

1595
01:19:04,760 --> 01:19:08,160
Speaker 4: when I went through my heartbreaks or any little situationship

1596
01:19:08,240 --> 01:19:11,720
Speaker 4: heartbreaks and all those things. It's always time. Like in

1597
01:19:11,800 --> 01:19:13,920
Speaker 4: the beginning you think, oh my god, this is so bad.

1598
01:19:14,240 --> 01:19:15,519
Speaker 4: I can't I'm not going to be able to do

1599
01:19:15,640 --> 01:19:19,519
Speaker 4: this time time you start getting over the person the

1600
01:19:19,600 --> 01:19:21,439
Speaker 4: community unless you communicate with them.

1601
01:19:21,479 --> 01:19:22,680
Speaker 1: You then build a.

1602
01:19:22,800 --> 01:19:26,080
Speaker 4: New routine because old routine do you have to almost

1603
01:19:26,120 --> 01:19:29,000
Speaker 4: like build another routine without them in it.

1604
01:19:29,600 --> 01:19:34,160
Speaker 1: And also like go through the emotions.

1605
01:19:34,200 --> 01:19:37,360
Speaker 4: I think sometimes we want to speed things up and

1606
01:19:37,640 --> 01:19:39,120
Speaker 4: be like, I don't want to cry anymore because you

1607
01:19:39,160 --> 01:19:41,479
Speaker 4: feel like you're being weak or whatever. If you want

1608
01:19:41,479 --> 01:19:43,439
Speaker 4: to cry, cry, if you don't want to cry, if

1609
01:19:43,479 --> 01:19:45,160
Speaker 4: you want to be angry, if you want to feel angry,

1610
01:19:45,240 --> 01:19:47,960
Speaker 4: you know, within reason, don't do anything silly like be angry.

1611
01:19:48,040 --> 01:19:51,400
Speaker 4: Sit Sometimes you have to sit in those emotions just

1612
01:19:51,640 --> 01:19:53,920
Speaker 4: to get out of the other side. But I totally

1613
01:19:54,000 --> 01:19:56,759
Speaker 4: agree you have to do like you have to stop

1614
01:19:56,920 --> 01:19:57,719
Speaker 4: looking for things.

1615
01:19:57,800 --> 01:19:58,679
Speaker 1: Maybe even.

1616
01:20:00,040 --> 01:20:02,000
Speaker 4: I would say, you probably have blocks because you said

1617
01:20:02,000 --> 01:20:05,840
Speaker 4: you got pages, but you do have to just stop

1618
01:20:06,320 --> 01:20:08,920
Speaker 4: looking for the things.

1619
01:20:09,479 --> 01:20:11,280
Speaker 2: I remember, I got to a point one time where

1620
01:20:11,280 --> 01:20:13,080
Speaker 2: I used to post stuff that I didn't even care

1621
01:20:13,120 --> 01:20:14,640
Speaker 2: about posting, just to see if he would y.

1622
01:20:14,800 --> 01:20:14,960
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1623
01:20:15,160 --> 01:20:17,400
Speaker 2: I would be at home not doing ship, like let

1624
01:20:17,439 --> 01:20:20,000
Speaker 2: me post something on my story because I used.

1625
01:20:19,880 --> 01:20:21,240
Speaker 1: To be on the phone with you, like beat you

1626
01:20:21,400 --> 01:20:25,639
Speaker 1: not at dinner. I was sitting at home. I'll say.

1627
01:20:27,560 --> 01:20:29,400
Speaker 2: I had this one little salmon plate dinner that I

1628
01:20:29,400 --> 01:20:31,639
Speaker 2: would always post and make it seem like I was outside.

1629
01:20:31,720 --> 01:20:33,519
Speaker 2: I'm like, damn, they clocking my tee they noticed a

1630
01:20:33,520 --> 01:20:34,639
Speaker 2: little old salmon plate.

1631
01:20:36,280 --> 01:20:36,479
Speaker 1: Zz.

1632
01:20:36,600 --> 01:20:39,080
Speaker 2: It would be the same plate every time I was like,

1633
01:20:39,600 --> 01:20:41,519
Speaker 2: I would text my friends who had dinner, somebody sent

1634
01:20:41,560 --> 01:20:42,280
Speaker 2: me a salmon place.

1635
01:20:44,479 --> 01:20:49,760
Speaker 3: I personally just think too idle time just makes you

1636
01:20:49,840 --> 01:20:53,679
Speaker 3: sit around and think. So to me, a good remedy

1637
01:20:53,800 --> 01:20:57,320
Speaker 3: for a breakup is always trying to stay busy. Like,

1638
01:20:57,439 --> 01:20:59,639
Speaker 3: if you stay busy and you just kind of keep

1639
01:21:00,439 --> 01:21:02,960
Speaker 3: keep things going on in your life, you're not really

1640
01:21:03,000 --> 01:21:05,439
Speaker 3: gonna even have time to think about her because you

1641
01:21:05,560 --> 01:21:07,799
Speaker 3: have so many other things going on and you focusing

1642
01:21:07,880 --> 01:21:10,679
Speaker 3: on yourself. I think breakups are really a great time

1643
01:21:10,800 --> 01:21:15,160
Speaker 3: to heal and focus on yourself and focus on bittering yourself.

1644
01:21:15,200 --> 01:21:16,920
Speaker 3: You'll be surprised what you can get done when you

1645
01:21:17,000 --> 01:21:18,040
Speaker 3: ain't worried about.

1646
01:21:20,200 --> 01:21:21,559
Speaker 1: That is very, very true.

1647
01:21:21,680 --> 01:21:25,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I hope that helps. Hopefully you'll move on.

1648
01:21:25,720 --> 01:21:28,360
Speaker 2: You're gonna find you're gonna fall in love like six times.

1649
01:21:28,160 --> 01:21:31,080
Speaker 4: And remember the bad times. We always remember the good

1650
01:21:31,120 --> 01:21:32,559
Speaker 4: times that you can remember the bae.

1651
01:21:32,800 --> 01:21:34,559
Speaker 1: You gotta remember why y'all broke up.

1652
01:21:34,680 --> 01:21:37,680
Speaker 4: Yea, because when you break up, you be thinking it

1653
01:21:37,800 --> 01:21:40,240
Speaker 4: was so nice. No it was, and it's like no

1654
01:21:40,400 --> 01:21:42,479
Speaker 4: when you actually think about it. My friends always said

1655
01:21:42,479 --> 01:21:44,360
Speaker 4: that to me, that what do you actually like about them?

1656
01:21:44,760 --> 01:21:47,519
Speaker 4: And what you actually think about it? You're thinking there's

1657
01:21:47,600 --> 01:21:48,960
Speaker 4: not actually mutched the eye.

1658
01:21:51,280 --> 01:21:53,080
Speaker 3: And that's some good advice too. Maybe you could do

1659
01:21:53,200 --> 01:21:55,800
Speaker 3: like a pro coast. I feel like a lot of

1660
01:21:55,880 --> 01:21:58,160
Speaker 3: time people don't think to do stuff like that. But

1661
01:21:58,240 --> 01:21:59,920
Speaker 3: if you do, at least, if you sit down, take

1662
01:22:00,040 --> 01:22:03,120
Speaker 3: some time out, pros cons about this person. If it's

1663
01:22:03,160 --> 01:22:08,040
Speaker 3: more cuns, this will be it will be literally will

1664
01:22:08,120 --> 01:22:10,679
Speaker 3: be like literally okay zz.

1665
01:22:10,960 --> 01:22:14,200
Speaker 1: Let everybody know where they can find you all their

1666
01:22:14,280 --> 01:22:16,120
Speaker 1: good stuff. What you got going on? What you got

1667
01:22:16,200 --> 01:22:20,040
Speaker 1: coming up? My name's zz Meils and you can catch

1668
01:22:20,120 --> 01:22:22,760
Speaker 1: me on the socials. It's Z e Z E M

1669
01:22:23,000 --> 01:22:26,360
Speaker 1: I double l Z or you guys say Z, don't you? Yeah?

1670
01:22:26,479 --> 01:22:28,640
Speaker 1: We say Z. Yeah you say Z, so Z e

1671
01:22:29,240 --> 01:22:31,519
Speaker 1: Z E I double l Z.

1672
01:22:32,160 --> 01:22:34,360
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, and what you got coming up? And so

1673
01:22:34,479 --> 01:22:37,120
Speaker 4: I'm on radio. I do Caple Extra, which is like

1674
01:22:37,280 --> 01:22:40,960
Speaker 4: over here. It's a big station. We're for hip hop

1675
01:22:41,000 --> 01:22:43,320
Speaker 4: and R and B. Okay, So I have a show

1676
01:22:43,360 --> 01:22:47,040
Speaker 4: on there on Sunday mornings from nine to one and then.

1677
01:22:47,000 --> 01:22:47,719
Speaker 1: Just my socials.

1678
01:22:47,760 --> 01:22:50,320
Speaker 4: I do my YouTube and my show and I have

1679
01:22:50,560 --> 01:22:52,840
Speaker 4: a plus for four podcasts. So yeah, like you know,

1680
01:22:52,960 --> 01:22:54,040
Speaker 4: in a few bits coming up.

1681
01:22:54,000 --> 01:22:56,760
Speaker 1: You know how it goes? Yeah, well, thank you? This

1682
01:22:57,000 --> 01:22:59,720
Speaker 1: was fine? How fun? I have such a good time.

1683
01:23:00,280 --> 01:23:02,559
Speaker 1: Love girl, talk Now let me ask you a question.

1684
01:23:03,600 --> 01:23:04,879
Speaker 1: Are you gonna ask karaoke?

1685
01:23:05,240 --> 01:23:05,439
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1686
01:23:05,800 --> 01:23:08,320
Speaker 1: Girl? You know I love a good tune. Now, I

1687
01:23:08,400 --> 01:23:12,400
Speaker 1: love car. Now we can't sing, but we're gonna be

1688
01:23:12,960 --> 01:23:14,599
Speaker 1: together as a family. Okay.

1689
01:23:14,960 --> 01:23:16,720
Speaker 2: Now I picked the song today. I hope you know

1690
01:23:16,840 --> 01:23:22,000
Speaker 2: this song, do you? Okay, we're gonna see but if

1691
01:23:22,000 --> 01:23:24,720
Speaker 2: you don't know, we can change it do y'all know

1692
01:23:25,320 --> 01:23:26,439
Speaker 2: how you gonna act like that?

1693
01:23:26,600 --> 01:23:30,240
Speaker 1: By tyree? How you gonna act like.

1694
01:23:33,520 --> 01:23:37,920
Speaker 2: Just the other day when we hooked up, I was driving,

1695
01:23:38,080 --> 01:23:41,439
Speaker 2: you was walking and I swooped you up. From that

1696
01:23:41,680 --> 01:23:45,600
Speaker 2: moment on I knew you were the one I was

1697
01:23:45,720 --> 01:23:50,599
Speaker 2: saying you was lonely, and we were sitting and talk

1698
01:23:50,720 --> 01:23:58,720
Speaker 2: for hours by yeah, all three, hang up, I bought

1699
01:23:58,760 --> 01:23:59,320
Speaker 2: your rent.

1700
01:24:02,160 --> 01:24:05,160
Speaker 1: I look so old right now, the way it's like

1701
01:24:05,280 --> 01:24:07,240
Speaker 1: a mom look at the like of course.

1702
01:24:07,680 --> 01:24:13,639
Speaker 6: How you gonna leave me now? How you gonna agg

1703
01:24:14,439 --> 01:24:19,160
Speaker 6: lie dad? How you gonna change it up? We just

1704
01:24:19,320 --> 01:24:20,519
Speaker 6: finished making up.

1705
01:24:20,960 --> 01:24:26,760
Speaker 5: How you gonna egg like dad? How you gonna act

1706
01:24:27,080 --> 01:24:30,560
Speaker 5: like we don't be making love? You know, we be

1707
01:24:30,760 --> 01:24:34,120
Speaker 5: tearing it up, breaking stuff back yet or love? How

1708
01:24:34,240 --> 01:24:35,360
Speaker 5: you gonna trip?

1709
01:24:36,000 --> 01:24:41,719
Speaker 1: How can you forget? How you gonna egg like? Bad?

1710
01:24:45,640 --> 01:24:48,360
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for now. We got ezmails in

1711
01:24:48,439 --> 01:24:50,120
Speaker 1: the building. Yeah say